Dr. John Demartini: "You Will Not Achieve the Greatness You're Born For Worrying About Rejection."

Dr. John Demartini shares a powerful lesson on rejection, criticism, and the wild idea that pissing people off might be the truest measure of your impact. In this provocative talk, he explains why every put-down comes paired with a hidden praise, what kids labeled with ADHD actually reveal about the school system, and why the dream you've been hiding is the exact thing the world is waiting for. This episode will challenge you to stop chasing approval and start chasing authenticity. Source: UnknownHosted by Sean CroxtonFollow me on InstagramSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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  The real test of your success and your achievement is how many people you can piss off on the planet. Since you always have this half and this half, you never have a reprimand side without a praise side. If you're going to reach 7 billion people, you're going to have to have 3.5 billion people pissed. So my job is to see how big I can piss people off.

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  Welcome back to the Quote of the Day Show. I am your host, Shawn Croxton, at seancroxton.com. We've got Dr. John Demartini back on the show today. Our QOD is this: "You will not achieve the greatness you're born for worrying about rejection." This one reminds me of another Demartini quote that I love. It goes like this: "There is no such thing as a one-sided magnet. A magnet always has negative and positive. You cannot get one side without the other." So if you want nothing but support, nothing but praise, nothing but applause, that's just not how life works. That's a fantasy.

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  And it's this fantasy of expecting everybody to be on board with what you're doing, to always applaud you. It's that fantasy that keeps a lot of people from moving forward. So if you're committed to playing a bigger game, like we talked about yesterday with Lisa Nichols, understand that the criticism is baked in. The haters are baked in. The outside sabotage, it's baked in, just like the praise is baked in. You don't get to pick one side. Dr. Demartini is coming up.

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  The next thing that obstacleizes, if that's a word I made up, and that is the fear of rejection.

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  Do you know that acceptance and rejection is conserved through time and space? Within you and around you. You will build yourself up and put yourself down. Would you agree that there's nobody out here that ever receives put downs more than they put down themselves?

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  You have a built-in Giger counter. The second you get cocky with yourself, you have a built-in mechanism to automatically beat yourself up to try to get you back in equilibrium, your authentic self. You're not here to exaggerate or minimize yourself. You're here to be authentic. When you do, you get to grow. And every time you get cocky, you attract criticism. Every time you get humbled, you attract praise. And so the world around you is counterbalancing the world inside you to make sure that you stay centered. And if you're addicted to one side only support and never embracing the challenge, you won't grow. So if you get nothing but support, you'll stay juvenile all your life.

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  You have to have somebody pissed off if you want to grow. That's why I have a thing called the law of lesser pissers. When I have a choice of pissing others off for myself, I always choose to piss people off.

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  What a wise person does when somebody gets ridiculed, and when they get ridiculed, you immediately go, okay, who's ridiculing, who's praising me? If you look carefully, simultaneously, there's a synchronicity of opposites. All complementary opposites come together. Your human mind and brain will never perceive something without its complementary opposite.

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  In the breakthrough experience, I have people go through and ask a simple question. At the exact moment when somebody criticizes you, who is praising you? One or many, male or female, close or distant, who is praising you? And the second you see who is praising you at the same moment, then both are diffused. Because praise can keep you juvenile and make you stuck. And criticism can make you actually stimulated. You need both. You need both. If you took out every criticism out of your life, you wouldn't be where you are anywhere.

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  You know when you dump a girlfriend or a boyfriend, and you reject somebody, somebody else wants them, and somebody else then wants you. That's how life is. A tree that grows to the sun has to shed many branches along the journey. And you're going to be rejected, and you're going to reject all through your life.

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  And to go through life with false expectations, you're supposed to be liked all the time, will keep you sucking your thumb with a digital cranial erectileitis syndrome.

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  You will not achieve the greatness that you're born for worrying about rejection. And you know what's interesting? When you're 10 years old, just like the money I mentioned I was talking about, you have a few friends and a few enemies. When you're 20, you have more friends and more enemies. When you're 30, more friends, more enemies. I have friends and enemies now globally.

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  The real test of your success and your achievement is how many people you can piss off on the planet. Since you always have this half and this half, you never have a reprimand side without a praise side. If you're gonna reach 7 billion people, you're gonna have to have 3.5 billion people pissed. So my job is to see how big I can piss people off.

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  Why? Because if you're unique, you're gonna start innovating something new that's never been done before.

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  And anytime you do something that's new, people are gonna ridicule you, they're gonna violently oppose you, you're gonna challenge paradigms and existing conventions and traditions, and you're gonna be criticized, until eventually you stand strong with an immortal vision bigger than those obstacles, and then you stand up and then you set the new tradition.

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  Well, I fully intend to set a new tradition. There's a hell of a lot of things on the planet that people are stuck in, their belief systems that aren't true.

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  Let me give you an example.

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  Would you agree that there's a movement right now where there are hundreds and thousands of kids that are put on a medication, a Ritalin medication, for the label of ADHD? And yet that same kid can be going there and sit for hours, six, eight hours straight in front of a video game with a photographic and photographic and audiographic mind with everything known, and sit there with total presence on a video game? Now how come in that scenario, they don't have ADHD? They don't because, really simple, that's their highest value. And they, if you ask them, "How is taking these classes gonna help you fulfill the video game?" They go, "Hell, I don't know." They don't see the relationship. But if there was a university where those kids could excel in video games, they'd be the top in the class.

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  Así que lo que tenemos es que tenemos maestros y madres y consultores y sociólogos y psicólogos y todas estas personas que no conocen el comportamiento humano que están proyectando autoritativamente sobre el niño sus propios sistemas de valores y expectativas por convicciones y tradiciones y idealismos sobre el niño sin tomar la cuidad de esos sistemas de valores del niño y honrar el niño para poder comunicar sus valores y sacar el genio. Entonces proyectan una etiqueta sobre ellos, lo que significa una proyección de un sistema de valores sobre ellos, los evalúan, ponen un diagnóstico sobre ellos, les ponen una medicación y estoy absolutamente seguro de que esa no es la forma más efectiva y eficiente de despertar genios en niños en todo el mundo. Pero ese es un negocio multimillonario hoy.

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  ¿Tiene algún sentido? Así que lo que estoy tratando de decir es que solo porque algo así no significa que es verdad. Solo porque hay una convicción y tradición no significa que es la forma grande de la vida. Y es por eso que alguien que tiene algo que es auténtico, algo que es genuino, algo que está inspirado, algo que está listo para el mundo y tiene una idea de que su tiempo ha llegado, debe estar en su visión estable y dejar que ellos vayan a través, podrías decir, la broma, la oposición violenta hasta que sean auto-evidentes y comiencen una nueva tradición. Esta es la única cosa que hizo que la evolución y el crecimiento en la sociedad... y esa persona es tú. Esa persona es tú.

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  Porque dime si esto no es verdad, dime si hay dentro de ti un deseo de hacer algo extraordinario. Dime la verdad. ¿Cuántos de ustedes sienten y se adentran y piensan y imaginan hacer algo increíble? Puede que sea mientras duermes, puede que sea mientras sois soñando al día y puede que tengas las ansiedades y los temores y la subordinación que te detienen, pero el sueño está dentro de ti.

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  That was Dr. John Demartini. His website is DrDemartini.com. I hope you enjoyed today's clip. Follow me on the Gram @SeanCroxton. I'm going to be posting like regular reels and content starting next month. And so, and that's going to go along with a new website and a new freebie and a new quiz. And Money Mind Academy 2.0 was coming back. It's, we've got a lot of stuff like ready for you. That was the plan. The plan was first two quarters, like hang behind the scenes, get all the stuff ready. And then second, third quarter, just, just go nuts with content and teaching classes. And so, it's going to be a lot of fun. So, follow me @SeanCroxton.

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  We've got YouTube content coming up, may have another podcast coming up as well. And so, stay tuned for a lot of fun stuff coming your way. And I'm sure some of it is going to piss a lot of people off. And I can't wait to do it because you can't have one side without the other. Don't forget that. Dan Milburn's on the show tomorrow. See you then. Peace.