Ed Mylett ON: How to Break Down Your Goals Into Achievable Steps & Simple Ways to Create Positive Daily Habits

Today, I sit down with Ed Mylett to talk about the value of forming positive habits. Ed and I discuss how changing our mindset into doing one more thing daily can lead to achieving more goals, finding every opportunity as a growth ladder, and learning how to appreciate the talent you have in you to help improve your life. Ed Mylett is an entrepreneur, speaker, author, and high-performance coach. He is known for his motivational speaking and coaching on leadership, personal development, and peak performance. He has a large following on social media and hosts a podcast called "The Ed Mylett Show," where he interviews successful people and shares insights on how to achieve success and fulfillment in life. His latest book, The Power of One More is an indispensable roadmap to realizing and exceeding your personal and professional goals by tapping into the superpowers and gifts you already have inside you. You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:14 When you’re one step away from changing the trajectory of your life 06:37 The difference of stacking one more day to completely change yourself 10:34 If you can survive the temporary, there’s growth at the end of every phase 12:04 Separate yourself from the outcome and just be present in the moment 16:49 “You only understand the power of one day when you’re threatened with never having another one.” 20:47 What’s your ‘one more’ that you’re working on right now? 23:11 “Just don’t quit for one more day and see how it goes.” 27:05 Why should you start doing one more thing to achieve what you think you truly deserve? 30:54 Make it a habit to always ask yourself, “What matters to me now?” 34:08 Don’t discount your own greatness because we all are born to do something great Episode Resources Ed Mylett | Website Ed Mylett | Instagram Ed Mylett | YouTube Ed Mylett | Twitter Ed Mylett | Facebook Ed Mylett | TikTok Ed Mylett | Books The Ed Mylett Show Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 0:44Jay Shetty?

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• 2:16Jay Shetty?

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• 2:59Jay Shetty?

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• 3:09Ed Mylett?

  You know, I think most people think, Jay, everyone else is gonna die. I'll get around to being happy. I'll get around to my dreams. And then it's another day and another day. And they keep it in the distance. You only understand the power of one day when you're threatened with never having another one.

• 3:24Speaker 02

  The bestselling author and host. The number one health and wellness podcast.

• 3:27Speaker 03

  On Purpose with Jay Shetty.

• 3:31Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to become happier, healthier, and more healed. And actually, I need to start saying every day because I know so many of you listen to episodes every single day. So thank you so much for our daily, weekly, monthly, yearly listeners. And I'm so excited to be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My new book, Eight Rules of Love, is out and I cannot wait to share it with you. I am so, so excited for you to read this book, for you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook. If you haven't got it already, make sure you go to eightrulesoflove.com. It's dedicated to anyone who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love.

• 4:16Jay Shetty?

  So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up, or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book. And I'd love to invite you to come and see me for my global tour, Love Rules. Go to jayshettytour.com to learn more information about tickets, VIP experiences, and more. I can't wait to see you this year. And today, I am so excited for this because last time he was on the show, You guys went nuts, like the response was unbelievable and I had so much phenomenal feedback from this conversation. And today I'm going to be talking to you about his new book, which I want you to go and grab. It's already sold a million copies, so it's tried and tested.

• 4:57Jay Shetty?

  This book is called The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success by the one and only Ed Mylett, the host of Max Out. Make sure you go and read that book as well if you haven't already and listen to the podcast. And before we dive in, I just want to say about Ed that Ed is one of the strongest, toughest and kindest people I know. And I think that balance is just so unique. If you saw him, you'd be like, this guy's gonna like beat me up. But then you get to know his heart and you're just like, wow, I didn't know you could have both. Ed, you have both. Thank you, man. So I'm so, you have a strong heart too. But I appreciate it. I'm so excited to talk about this and I'll tell you why.

• 5:41Jay Shetty?

  Because as I was looking through this, this resonates so deeply with someone who's always had to do the power of one more. And I don't, I don't know many people who know this, so when I first started, I had a video series idea that I was pitching to lots of top execs and top companies. And they all said, no one cares about meditation mindfulness based content. So rejected. Then I ended up pitching to editors in chief and I started mis-meeting all these people and networking at events, trying to get them to notice me and see what I could do. And they all said, you're too old or you're too young.

• 6:24Jay Shetty?

  You're too overqualified or you're too underqualified. There were all of these statements. So then I was out there, that didn't work. I then ended up at an ethnic minority TV training day in the UK and they were training. I walked into this room, there were just six brown and black people and they were teaching us how to be TV presenters. And I went there to just check whether I even had good skills to present because I was starting to doubt myself. Turns out you did. At the end of it, at the end of it, they were like, Jay, you've got some really good skills. I was like, awesome, like give me a job, like give me anything. I'll start like 15,000 pounds a year, like I don't care. They said, Jay, there's no jobs in media. And so I was like, well, what do you want me to do? And they were like, start a YouTube channel. And I was like, well, that works for Justin Bieber. Like, that's like for one in

• 7:09Jay Shetty?

  a billion people. It's not gonna work for me. And it's really interesting. I read a Thomas Edison quote, and this is why this book is just, this book is this quote I'm about to share with you, but with every tactic, with every skill, with every tip. Quotes are beautiful, books are life changing, right? This quote by Thomas Edison said, when you feel you've exhausted all options, remember this, you haven't.

• 7:32Ed Mylett?

  I love that.

• 7:34Jay Shetty?

  That's the power of one more.

• 7:35Ed Mylett?

  That is the power of one more.

• 7:36Jay Shetty?

  And so I have lived this book in my life. Like, I have lived this mindset, and it has changed my life, because I've always been just one step away, one habit away, one mindset away, from this amazing life that I'm grateful and blessed to live.

• 7:51Ed Mylett?

  Well, that's the truth, right? You're right. And I think the great lie in life is that, you know, some scriptures say, well, where there's no vision, the people will perish. Whatever your scriptures are. Really? Do you have no vision? If you ask the average person, you want to be happy or sad? What's your vision? They'd say, I want to be happy. You want to be rich or poor? Most people say, I'd like to be rich. Do you want to contribute, or make no difference in the world? I want to contribute. Do you want beautiful memories or no memories? I want memories. So there's a vision. Our issue is depth perception. We think it's further away than it is. And because we think it's so far away, Jay, we create patterns and behaviors in our life that perpetually keep it there.

• 8:26Jay Shetty?

  Ooh.

• 8:27Ed Mylett?

  And that's what we do in our life. But what if that's the great lie of life? And what if the truth is, that you're one relationship away, one meeting away, one conversation, one podcast, one interview, one new thought, one new emotion, one new tactic or strategy, away from completely changing the trajectory of your life?

• 8:47Jay Shetty?

  Ah.

• 8:48Ed Mylett?

  And everyone that you and I know that we both work with, that we're blessed to work with in our lives, the truth is, it was one decision, one meeting, one extra rep, one more phone call, one thing they did that changed their trajectory. Then the question then becomes, how do I do it? And so the strategies are in the book. But conceptually, that's 100% how you change your life.

• 9:08Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and you're so right. I was thinking about this this morning. Last year, I had a double hernia surgery on the front. Like, so I couldn't walk. For about a month, and when I say I couldn't walk, I mean like I literally couldn't move.

• 9:23Ed Mylett?

  Oh my gosh.

• 9:24Jay Shetty?

  It it was like I was like, I felt like I was teaching myself to walk again, like that's how it felt. It's really interesting what you just said about how we perpetually push it far away. I would wake up every morning and my mind or my initial mindset was like, it will be gone today. It must have gone today, like today it will be fully healed, I'll be fine today and I would wake up and I wouldn't be. And I would feel like healing was so far away.

• 9:51Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 9:52Jay Shetty?

  It would be like eighty percent away that I was missing out on the one percent change since yesterday.

• 9:58Ed Mylett?

  You got it.

• 9:59Jay Shetty?

  Since yesterday, I made one percent change. I was, I wasn't feeling the same pain in my nerves. I was able to be flexible by one percent more.

• 10:07Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 10:07Jay Shetty?

  And I was missing out on all of that because I was so obsessed with how far I was.

• 10:12Ed Mylett?

  That's the journey and the thing, and what happens is when you live with an expectation that these one mores exist, the reticular activating system in your mind filters them into your awareness. I call it the matrix in the second chapter of the book. When you wake up believing, hey, I'm one decision away, I'm one meeting away, one relationship away. That's not hokey. Your mind begins to filter the people, places and things into your awareness. You've developed something called sensory acuity. You hear conversations you weren't hearing. We've all had that experience where we're on an airplane, I can't stop hearing these people over here. Or you walk in a loud room, but you can hear your own name auditorily over all the other names in the room. That's because it's important to you and it matters, you see things. And so when something becomes important to you and you believe it to be true,

• 10:57Ed Mylett?

  the R A S goes to proving it for you. And where I learned this ironically, I talk about in the book, is my father was an alcoholic and had tried to get sober many, many times. And I'll never forget it, Jay, we were driving to a baseball game of mine. My dad started crying, I'd never seen my dad cry before. And he pulls the car over and he still isn't looking at me, but he's crying and he says, Eddie, and then he turns to me and he goes, I'm gonna try to get sober. And I'll never forget this brother, he goes, one more time.

• 11:27Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 11:27Ed Mylett?

  And I said, really daddy? He goes, I'm gonna give it one more try. And I said to him, I said, why would this be any different this time? And he said, never said this to me before, he goes, because I, I love you. And you deserve it, father, you can be proud of, and you can't be proud of me right now. And I think every great thing we do in life is one away, but it's also born from love. To talk about your book, when you love people or you love something so deeply, if that love is greater than what the obstacles might be, now you got a shot to do it. Then my dad gets sober, he comes home from rehab. I say, daddy, are you never gonna drink again? And he said, I can't promise you that. I can promise you, I'm not gonna drink for one more day at a time.

• 12:09Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 12:10Ed Mylett?

  And he lasted the rest of his life stacking those one more days up. So I know the power of one more. And Jay, the other thing, I also know humans can change. I watched my hero do it. I watched my dad live my first 15 years. So I'm in a lot of fights.

• 12:25Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 12:26Ed Mylett?

  Lot of lying, lot of difficult times. And then I saw this man transform. And in life, we're most qualified to help the person we used to be. And what we think in life, and I hope everybody gets this, we think the things we're most ashamed of, embarrassed by our divorce, our bankruptcy, or maybe we've just always been average and ordinary. This disqualifies me from being successful and happy. What if, that's not true. What if the hardest things of your life are the very things that qualify you? I'll give you an example. You know, my dad got sober? Somebody helped him. My dad was gonna take his life or lose his family, and I didn't know who it was till months ago. Some precious human being whom I didn't know. In my dad's darkest hour of his life, Jay, said, I'll help you. I'll help you. Little did that person know, I'd be his son.

• 13:11Ed Mylett?

  And I'd help millions of people and I'd be on Jay Shetty Show and we both helped millions of people. And the more ironic thing that this person helped my dad is what qualified them to help my dad? They were a drunk. They were an alcoholic. They at one time were a drug addict. They at one time were lying and stealing and living in the shadows. The very thing that person probably figured that disqualifies me from having a successful life was the one thing that did qualify them to help my dad. So if you're listening to this and you've had something you're ashamed of or a failure or a setback, you're most qualified to help the people you used to be. And that person, that alcoholism, they suffered with their drug addiction, helped my dad live those one more days forever.

• 13:51Jay Shetty?

  Oh, that, that is the best explanation I've heard of how pain turns into purpose. The thing that brought you down, that broke you down, that made you feel like you were losing everything,

• 14:05Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 14:05Jay Shetty?

  gave you back everything when you used that to serve the people that were struggling with it.

• 14:10Ed Mylett?

  And then there's, then there's a purpose. And you know, if you can survive the temporary pain in your life, and all pain is temporary. I watched my father pass away last year. He was in tremendous pain. Even our bodies are terrible, only our souls are permanent. If you can survive the temporary, on the other side of temporary pain, you meet another version of yourself, another insight about yourself. And that's why it's so important to grow as a person, because the more we grow and become a new person, we can help those that used to be like us. And that's why you and I are so addicted to growing and learning and we're curious, because if you used to be a broken person and you no longer are quite as broken, you can help broken people. If you used to be broke financially and you no longer are, you can help people. Whatever you do for a living, at one time you didn't know about it and now you do. You can help those who need to know about it.

• 14:55Ed Mylett?

  And so you're immensely qualified if you understand the power of doing one more.

• 14:59Jay Shetty?

  Oh, I love it. I love it. Tell me about, so let's say, and you probably come up against this all the time. A lot of the people say, okay, I'm going to practice that. I'm with you, Ed. I love you and Jay. I'm, I'm listening and I go, yes, I'm going to practice the power of one more. Now, what I find, and this is why you're so great at teaching this, because you're not teaching it as a gimmick, a glitch, or like a little, a little affirmation. This is like real, it makes sense, like it works. People get so tied to the result that when they try it the next day, and the sales meeting doesn't go their way,

• 15:34Ed Mylett?

  They give up.

• 15:35Jay Shetty?

  Or the pitch doesn't go their way, they go, ah, it doesn't work.

• 15:38Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 15:38Jay Shetty?

  It doesn't work. Why didn't it work? And how should we respond when we fail or get rejected?

• 15:43Ed Mylett?

  Well, it didn't work because you're so attached to the outcome. I coach a lot of athletes, I know you do as well. And one of the things, it's a really nuanced thing in life. It's great to have goals. You should have goals. I want to do this or that. But in the moment of execution, you have to separate from outcome in the moment that you're executing and just be present and exist. I talk about this in the book. Here's what I would say, if you're going to win long term, ninety-five percent of people have an operating system in their mind where they operate out of history and memory.

• 16:11Jay Shetty?

  Hmm, oh, I like that.

• 16:13Ed Mylett?

  And about five percent of humans operate out of vision and imagination. So the reason we're so much happier, I believe, when we're children is we have no history and memory. So we operate out of imagination and dreams and vision. But at some age, some people, it's five years old, some it's eight, some it's eighteen, some it's twenty-eight. They create a history and that history then becomes the operating system. So even if they take on a new behavior or tactic, they're operating out of a pattern of thought and belief that's historic and memory-based. And so the number one thing I would say is, begin to operate out of your imagination again, out of your vision again. Create from that place. If you create from that place, now you're not tied to the result in that moment.

• 16:54Ed Mylett?

  You're giving yourself space to imagine and create something new in your life.

• 17:00Jay Shetty?

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• 17:43Jay Shetty?

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• 18:28Jay Shetty?

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• 19:14Jay Shetty?

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• 19:39Ed Mylett?

  And begin to listen to the people around you. People say, "Hey, you're the product of who you hang around." How do I know if they serve me or not? Here's one way to just deduce this, because they could be beautiful people who care about you, and they might even support you. But when you're with them, what are you, are you ever of those friends you're with them, you're like, you remember when, you remember, you remember, remember that party, remember that thing? And if your friends are constantly bringing you to the filtration system of memory and history all the time, think this through. How often are those friends saying, hey, what are you working on now? Where are you going? What's your vision? What do you want to create? And maybe that sounds hokey, but you and I have some of the, some of our, both our friends have the most amazing histories and you can't get them to talk about them.

• 20:22Jay Shetty?

  No.

• 20:22Ed Mylett?

  You have to work, because what are they still doing? They're talking about now and where they're going. Their viewpoint in their life is being present and having a vision for the future.

• 20:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 20:32Ed Mylett?

  A formula for misery, a formula for lack of creativity, lack of productivity, is constantly being history and memory.

• 20:39Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 20:39Ed Mylett?

  Even if it's good, it doesn't serve us. And for most of us, it's not good and we keep living from it or trying to move away from it. Create a new future, don't move away from the past. Create a brilliant, imaginative, curious, vibrant vision for your life.

• 20:55Jay Shetty?

  Oh, I love that. Yeah, we're always trying to create the same past.

• 20:59Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 21:00Jay Shetty?

  As opposed to a new future.

• 21:01Ed Mylett?

  A new future.

• 21:02Jay Shetty?

  And I find that what's really interesting about that, all the studies show that nostalgia makes us believe that the past was more phenomenal than it actually was. If you remember that party you went to at college, it's better in your memory than it actually was. If you actually could have gone back and remembered how you felt hungover and what you broke a bone or whatever happened, but now in your memory, it's beautiful.

• 21:25Ed Mylett?

  Beautiful.

• 21:26Jay Shetty?

  Right? So our memory also is slightly warped of the past.

• 21:29Ed Mylett?

  No question.

• 21:29Jay Shetty?

  It can make things feel much better or much worse sometimes.

• 21:32Ed Mylett?

  No question.

• 21:33Jay Shetty?

  But what's, what's really coming out for me right now is this idea that it's, it's something you said a couple of moments ago and, and it sparked a thought for me. I remember the story that Vanessa Bryant told about Kobe Bryant after he passed away. I was fortunate enough to interview him around three months before it, before his tragic passing. And she told this story and she said that Kobe would play through every injury. He would play through every pain. He would play through everything, even when the doctors and his coaches would say, "Stop playing." And she asked him, she said once, "Why he still plays?" Right? Again, going back to our curiosity, not assuming you know your partner.

• 22:14Jay Shetty?

  She asked him, "Why do you still play?" And this is just her and him. There's no cameras, there's no... She's telling this story, but at the time, it was just them two. He said, "It's because there's someone who's paid for a ticket today. They saved up, and this is the only time they're ever gonna be able to come. Maybe a son's... Maybe a dad's brought his kid. Maybe someone's come to the game. They're a lifelong fan. And they came today, and today's the only day they're gonna get to see me. And if I say I'm injured, they won't get to see me. So I'm gonna play so that that person

• 22:48Ed Mylett?

  That one person.

• 22:49Jay Shetty?

  gets to see me play. And then he goes and wins.

• 22:52Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 22:52Jay Shetty?

  And it's like, that's love.

• 22:54Ed Mylett?

  That's love.

• 22:54Jay Shetty?

  That's what you were saying.

• 22:55Ed Mylett?

  Love for something is in the present moment also, right? Love is not just for the past. And it's funny how important one day is, man. When my dad got sick, my dad got cancer. When he first got sick, he goes, "Hey," my dad was a dude. He goes, "Look, I'll fight this one time. Okay? I'll do your little chemo and your surgery, but I'm not gonna pour poison into my body. I'm not gonna lose my hair. I'm not gonna deteriorate. I'll give this thing a shot once. If it doesn't work, I'm out." That led to eight years of him fighting it.

• 23:23Jay Shetty?

  Wow.

• 23:24Ed Mylett?

  Chemo, radiation, proton therapy, surgery, surgery, chemo, experimental chemo. And he did lose his hair and he was in pain. And I'd say to my dad, I'd say, "Dad, you're suffering so much. You said you wouldn't suffer." He said, "No, Eddie, I'm in pain, but I'm not suffering. I choose not to suffer. And I'm not suffering because I get to see my grandkids again." And I said, "Dad, why are you doing this?" And he said, "You only understand the power of one day when you're threatened with never having another one." I'll do anything for one more day. Get to be with you one more time. Give your mom a kiss one more time. Maybe I'll see one of my granddaughters get married. And he goes, I'll do anything for one more day. The beautiful thing is, I was actually with Kobe

• 24:08Ed Mylett?

  a week before he passed away. We were in the same gym. Our daughters played volleyball. And ironically, that day, I watched Kobe walk out of the gym. There was only a couple dads left. It was late at night. He stayed and I stayed. And he had his youngest daughter in his arm and he was rubbing his other daughter's back. And I remember taking note of it because I was with Bella at the other end of the gym. And I remember thinking, I don't hug Bella enough. I need to hug, no joke, bro. It's in the book. I went, I gotta hug Bella one more time every day. Not just once a day. Plus one more time every day. My daughter's gonna get extra hugs because Kobe does that. What if I could have said to Kobe when he got in his car, Kobe,

• 24:51Ed Mylett?

  you have one more week, brother. Tell those that you love, you love them. Get it right. Whoever matters to you, make it right. Call your dad. Make it right. Call your mom. Call your family. What if the day before you could have said, Kobe, you have one day left? And my dad, same thing. I was with my dad when he had one day left. I was with my dad when he had one hour left. I was with my dad when he had one breath left. And when we begin to think of our life that way, the power of right now and having one more moment and one more minute is so beautiful. It's so blessed. It's so big. It's so amazing. Why would we spend that minute in history? Why would we spend that minute in the past

• 25:34Ed Mylett?

  when we could be fully present in creating the future? And so, you know, I think most people think, Jay, everyone else is gonna die. And they just, I'm never, I'm not gonna die. Or they go, I'll get around to being happy. I'll get around to making my masterpiece of my life. I'll get around to my dreams. I'm gonna get around to fixing this relationship that's broken. I'm gonna get around to feeling those emotions. And then it's another day and another day. And they keep it in the distance until there are no more days. And I don't care if you're 18 years old listening to this, 28 or 48. We don't know if we have one more day. Or a hundred more days or a thousand more days. But we know this, there'll eventually be a time where we don't have any more days.

• 26:17Ed Mylett?

  And so why would we spend the ones that are coming, looking at the past? And so my dad really taught me those lessons in watching him pass away. And that's why I have so, I have a whole thing in there of how to get 21 days a week. Run mini days. I get 21 days a week. We still measure time, bro, like it's 1900. Think about 1900. If I wanted to get you a note, I'd have to write a letter out, stick it on the back of a horse's butt in 1850. 30 days later, you get it. That was a 24 hour day. Now I can text you in two seconds. We measure time the same way. So I teach you how to change your time so that you can make that day its maximum bliss. It's maximum productivity.

• 26:54Jay Shetty?

  What's, what's one more that you're working on right now?

• 26:58Ed Mylett?

  Right now, I'm actually, it's an interesting season of my life. I have a TV show that you know that I did with NBC that's called Change that I think is, you know, has a chance of getting picked up. But my one more that I'm working on right now for me and my life is my peace. And so there's this guy Jay Shetty, that's a friend of mine that introduced me and my family to meditation. And I'm giving myself the gift, I don't just do it in the morning now. I've given myself the gift of one more time every single day of just emptying my mind and trying to be fully present. And it's been work for me. I've got that busy type of a mind. But I have found that my peace in my life. Most of us Jay have all these goals of things we want to do and they're wonderful.

• 27:43Ed Mylett?

  And I believe in doing that. I think standards are more important than goals because, and I teach you in this book, how to set the standards that'll get those goals. But we really don't, but we really don't want the jet. We don't want the hit song. We don't want the amazing relationship. We don't want the million dollars. We don't want the, we want how we think it'll make us feel. And what if we began to become more intentional and outcome oriented about the things we feel in our life? And it took me a while, but now that I'm older, when I feel strong, when I feel blissful, when I feel peaceful, is when I produce the physical things that I want, not the other way around. And so my one more's are more emotional focus. Most of us, and I'll come up for air here, have an emotional home. There's three or four or five emotions we experience on a regular basis. I write about it in the book.

• 28:28Ed Mylett?

  And no matter what happens, we find a way, even if they don't serve us, to get those emotions. If your emotional home is fear, anxiety, worry, depression, anger, you find a way every week to get that emotion. But what if that emotional home could become bliss and peace and joy and creativity and ecstasy? And so I'm working on one more beautiful emotion for my emotional home, and for me it's peace.

• 28:52Jay Shetty?

  I love that. I love that answer, man. It's, it's good to hear about what you've been saying, like, we're not living in the past and you're like in the present, but to have you answer that question, that peace is your presence, like, that's what you're looking for. That's, that's the present. And it shows that you're using this, like, it works, you're doing it time and time again. And I love what you said, it moves from the physical things into the subtle, into the emotional, into the, the deeper, right? I think that's so profound. What was that one more that if you didn't do it, you wouldn't be here today? What was, what was one of those ones that like, ah, like, that was the one that convinced me, apart from obviously your father, that you were like, ah, if I didn't do that, I wouldn't be in my life today, I wouldn't be maxed out life.

• 29:33Ed Mylett?

  The first, the first business I built was a financial business and I had had some success, Jay, like a lot of people do in life. And then it went backwards. And sometimes when you get up the flagpole just a little bit and you come back down, that's an emotional difficulty. Could be a relationship that was good, that's gone, or maybe it saved some money, it's gone, maybe you lost a bunch of weight and got fit and you gained it back. For me, it was my business. And I called my dad, who's a pretty wise guy now that he was sober. And, uh, cause I could tell you, man, I'd do one more rep in the gym. I haven't done 10 reps on a bench press in 30 years. I've done 10 plus one more a lot, though. I haven't done 45 minutes on a treadmill, but I've done 45 plus one more minute. 10 contacts a day? Never. 10 plus one more. But the biggest one more was actually something else. I called my dad and I said, hey, dad, uh, it's not going.

• 30:18Ed Mylett?

  It, the, it's, the business is crashing and I'm, I'm running out of money. Our power was turned off, our water was turned off, Jay. I had to take my wife every morning. We'd lost our house. We're living in an apartment now. Then the water got turned off. You can't cook. You can't bathe. There was a apartment building. We had an outdoor shower at the swimming pool. And I'd have to, we were newlyweds and I'd have to get up every morning, walk down there and I'd hold a towel up while my wife took her shower every day outdoors and brush her teeth. And then she'd switch and hold the towel up for me. And I'd walk back up to the apartment and I was so emasculated, so ashamed, so embarrassed.

• 30:58Ed Mylett?

  And I was living a nightmare, selling a dream to everybody every day. We can do this. A lot of entrepreneurs or people can relate in their life and. And anyway, I called my dad that night and I said, I, I think I need to pack it in. I need to go get a job and just, I'm, this success thing is not, it's not for people like us. And my dad goes, Eddie, you don't have to decide you're never gonna quit. He goes, just don't quit for one more day. See how you feel tomorrow. I go, Dad. He goes, just, just don't do it for one more day. And I got the next day and I still wanted to quit, but not quite as much. And then I went one more day and one more day and I found myself about thirty days later. I didn't wanna quit anymore.

• 31:41Ed Mylett?

  And thank God, the one more I did was, I went one more day without quitting. And I'm so grateful I didn't quit on my dream.

• 31:47Jay Shetty?

  Oh, Ed, wow, that is like, oh my gosh, man, like. You just, everything you're just dropping right now, I'm just like, I hope everyone is taking notes. If you haven't been taking notes, I want you to take a screenshot right now of where we're at right now, cuz that's what you're gonna have to listen to again. So take a screenshot, share it, tell everyone to go to this segment, listen to that over again because. I think what I'm hearing, you know, is that this is, this is a lifestyle, like this is a mindset, it's a lifestyle, it's an everyday, every moment way to live. This isn't just. In the big business you're building. This is me telling my wife I love her one more time. This is me making sure I message my mom one more time. It's me making sure that.

• 32:28Jay Shetty?

  When I'm sitting here with you, I'm always gonna have to ask you one more question because you keep giving so much. No, but you keep giving so, well, that's what you just said. It will never end. I think that people feel like they tried a lot and then they start building up resentment and like pain and bitterness towards that path. And a lot of people also that I know, they just think that there are some people are meant to be.

• 32:54Ed Mylett?

  I agree with this.

• 32:55Jay Shetty?

  And then there are some people that are not meant to be.

• 32:59Ed Mylett?

  That's correct.

• 32:59Jay Shetty?

  And they carry that with them and it comes from this like, oh yeah, you were meant to be this. So that person was meant to have it, but for me, this is where, and I heard that kind of come up in what you were saying to your dad, like, it doesn't happen to people like us. How does this rule, how does this principle apply to someone who's in that space?

• 33:16Ed Mylett?

  Brother, best question ever, because I grew up with no, you have alcoholic dad or a drug addict, or maybe you come from divorce, or maybe your parents just didn't love you enough, whatever it was, didn't tell you they loved you enough. It's hard to have self-confidence. And I was a little guy, I got bullied in school and I just, and even at this age now, bro, I, I, if I'm being completely honest, self-confidence, we all teach that it's, you know, part of keeping the promises you make to yourself. But what if you raise the standard a little higher? You keep the promises you make to yourself, plus one more. Because for me, self-confidence didn't come easy. I think in life, ultimately you're gonna get what you believe you deserve.

• 33:55Ed Mylett?

  And if you're wound up, wired like me, I didn't think I deserved a lot. I didn't even have a dad who could stop drinking, right? I wasn't six foot four. I don't have an incredibly high IQ. There's nothing really that impressive about me, nor were people very impressed with me most of my life. So that was my pattern. That was my history. That was my memory. And so the only, I could wait around until I developed tremendous self-confidence, or I could begin to do things every day that were small, they're not major. And over time, when I did those one more calls, that one more meeting, that one more book I read, that one more podcast, not only am I doing more reps, so the likelihood of me being successful is bigger,

• 34:38Ed Mylett?

  but I started to convince myself, I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do. Maybe I deserve things other people aren't gonna get. And slowly but surely, I started to convince myself, I did deserve it based on what I was doing, not necessarily the caliber of my talent.

• 34:55Jay Shetty?

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• 35:31Speaker 02

  Mr. President, my company for me of the explosion on our rig on October 2nd. Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami. They all heap the blame on me. Tom Cruise is.

• 35:42Speaker 04

  Digger got us into this mess. And Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and the Revenant.

• 35:48Speaker 03

  What would happen if I stopped growing? You start, you freeze to death, that's what.

• 35:52Speaker 04

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 35:55Speaker 03

  I'm not the first then.

• 35:56Speaker 04

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17. Not a minute without parents.

• 36:01Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, you, you just, there's a thought I've been having recently, and it's that comfort creates self-care. But discomfort creates self-respect.

• 36:11Ed Mylett?

  Oh, boy, I love that.

• 36:13Jay Shetty?

  Right? Like, it's what you're saying.

• 36:14Ed Mylett?

  I love that.

• 36:14Jay Shetty?

  That the one more discomfort every day, that's where self-respect comes from.

• 36:20Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 36:20Jay Shetty?

  You don't.

• 36:21Ed Mylett?

  Great term.

• 36:21Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, you don't, you don't start to trust yourself or build self-esteem or believe in yourself because you just say it to yourself. It's coming, what you just said, you go out there and take one more meeting and see what you learn, you go out there and take one more risk, one more discomfort.

• 36:36Ed Mylett?

  And I guarantee you, if you have a successful or happy friend, whichever, how you determine that, and you ask them this, they'd tell you that we're right.

• 36:43Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 36:43Ed Mylett?

  They would tell you, gosh, that's right. It's right. And the difference between winning and losing, happiness and sadness, is so small, it's almost, it's almost scary to talk about. But the good news is, I think I kind of know what it is, and it's this one more.

• 36:56Jay Shetty?

  Absolutely. The people that I know that are the most successful and happy have more uncomfortable conversations.

• 37:03Ed Mylett?

  Agreed.

• 37:03Jay Shetty?

  They have more uncomfortable days. They have more discomfort in their lives.

• 37:07Ed Mylett?

  Yes, totally agree with that.

• 37:08Jay Shetty?

  But selected discomfort. But. One of the other things that I'm asking from now, I'm like going into like the people that I know that I'm thinking about and can see their faces and I want them to know that I'm asking for them. A lot of the time, one more in the wrong direction

• 37:25Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 37:25Jay Shetty?

  can also be really misguided. Sometimes, people, and I know you're a person of faith too, and so we can touch on this. Sometimes we're climbing the mountain and we keep doing one more. But we're actually going further away from who we are, who we want to be. Our faith, our partners, right? We know people who've built multi-billion dollar companies but lost their kids.

• 37:54Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 37:55Jay Shetty?

  Or they've become famous and rich, but their partner cheated on them. You know, like really painful stuff. And you know, people who didn't do all of that, that's happened too. Like it's both ways. How does one use one more and make sure it's in the right direction?

• 38:10Ed Mylett?

  Such a great question. I'm doing this now regularly because I've made some of those mistakes of just... And what I do is I check in with myself one more time. Meaning, it's important to ask yourself, what matters to me now? See, if we had this conversation 20 years ago, the things that mattered to me then are so different than what matter to me now. But a lot of us keep operating out of what used to... Maybe you've achieved or are pursuing a dream and it's really, truly no longer your dream. It's no longer your dream. It's... When I was young, listen, we were going to do a podcast, you say, "Hey, I need you on the show." People are going to love you, you're going to get recognition, you're going to get all this acknowledgement. And that would have been my hot button, my need, you know, I believe in the six human needs.

• 38:54Ed Mylett?

  My need was significance and recognition. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's wonderful. And so that's the button to get me to move would be significance, recognition. Well, I've been blessed the last 30 years or so of my life to have a beautiful abundance of significance and recognition. It's no longer what fills me. Now you get me to do an interview, you go, hey, I really think we could help some people. My big button in my life now is contribution. There was another stage in my life, it's still there, but hey, if you go there, you'll grow. I still wanna grow, but I know me now. Right now, I'm in a season of my life that's contribution. It's giving, it's what fills my heart. And I think it's checking in with yourself one more time. What matters to me now? What do I want now?

• 39:39Ed Mylett?

  What's important to me now? What season? Maybe you're in a season where you need to rest. Maybe your spirit and everything about you is telling you, hey, it's time to feed you again. It's time to recharge. If that's the season, then answer that call. Don't play out of a past playbook. And so for me, that's the season I'm in now. And I'm sure that in five or eight more years, you know, there'll be something else. But I regularly, on a monthly basis, you recommend it in your book so beautifully about your relationship. Checking in, you have these strategies you teach about weekly and monthly and quarterly and yearly with your partner of checking in with them. I also recommend you check in with yourself, what matters to you now? And so for me, it's a matter of checking in now so that I don't lose my family in the pursuit of my business. Or lose me.

• 40:23Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 40:24Ed Mylett?

  Lose me, who am I anymore? And I've had times where I'm like, this doesn't feel like me anymore.

• 40:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 40:31Ed Mylett?

  And I had at least the ability to at least acknowledge that and make a change.

• 40:36Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and I love that you brought up seasons because I feel like no one, and on planet earth, we don't have the power to change the season. But you have the power to live the season well.

• 40:47Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 40:48Jay Shetty?

  You can either be in the, right now, it's been raining, right, wherever we are. It's been pouring down with rain, there's all this effort. You could carry an umbrella. Well, you can tell how I'm dressed, I'm definitely not dressed in my usual gear.

• 40:59Ed Mylett?

  Right.

• 40:59Jay Shetty?

  Because I'm dressed for the rain, I'm prepared.

• 41:01Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 41:02Jay Shetty?

  Because that's all I can do. I can't make the rain switch off. I can't stop it, right? Like, I can't do that. And so I love hearing that you're just learning how to thrive in the season. And so if your season's telling you to rest, you can't force the season. And you have to live it through, you have to experience.

• 41:19Ed Mylett?

  You know, I think you have to remember one thing, man. I think it's as easy as a person to forget this. And I just would love to say this because you have such an amazing reach. Each of you, you and I included, we were born to do something great with our life. We were born to do something great with our life. And it's important to check in from time to time of what that current great thing is. And sometimes we think it's the big things. It's the people that are on both our shows. They've made this big movie. They've got this big song. They're this big thing. What, you know, who's greater? The man who helped my dad get sober? Or the fact that maybe I've helped some people because my dad got sober? That one act was greatness in his life. That kind moment with another person that says, I can help you. Let me connect with you.

• 42:02Ed Mylett?

  And so, don't discount your own greatness, your own call to do something great. And it doesn't have to be a script, or a play, or a book, or a speech, or on social media. It's just doing something great and you matter. I don't, I don't mean this hokey. I'm telling you the truth about you. You matter. You were born to do something awesome with your life. Your family's supposed to do something great as a family. And maybe it's just checking in and reminding yourself of that. And then asking yourself, what is that thing right now in my life? And so, I just think that reminder is so important that, you know, it's great to voyeuristically look in on successful people, or what we think are successful people.

• 42:45Ed Mylett?

  It's also important that the camera turn back on you and go, you matter. You matter.

• 42:50Jay Shetty?

  I just got a chug.

• 42:51Ed Mylett?

  And that's probably the most important thing we'd say today.

• 42:54Jay Shetty?

  Oh, gosh, man. Yeah, and you know, one thing you just clarified beautifully is that great doesn't have to be big.

• 43:02Ed Mylett?

  No.

• 43:02Jay Shetty?

  And big doesn't mean great, right? And I think we're so obsessed today.

• 43:06Ed Mylett?

  We are.

• 43:07Jay Shetty?

  In that to do something great, it has to be big. It has to be bold. You know, when I think about myself, honestly, Ed, and I can say this to you because I think, I think in these sessions and when we spent time together, you've heard my heart. I was one of those people who actually never believed I could do any of the stuff I've done. I never set out when I started and I was like, oh, one day I'm gonna be. I, I didn't have any of that. That's not how I'm wired. I was wired in like, I wanna serve. I wanna serve whoever comes. Whether it's five people, 10 people, I'm happy. I'll serve them. And as I started to do that, I got more confidence. Okay, now I wanna serve larger groups. Okay, let me serve them.

• 43:50Jay Shetty?

  And then it was like, and I never believed at any point that there were these arbitrary, abstract goals of like, number one, this. Like, those weren't how I set out. And so, when I'm listening to you speak. I hope someone's out there thinking, Jay, I'm like, Jay and Ed, I'm like you guys where it's like, I don't vibe with all that like, like motivation, it's like, I just vibe with the fact that I wanna have a great impact, like the person that helped your father.

• 44:17Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, and you know what we've both found in our life too, just to give you insight from, um, someone called me seasoned today. You know this, is that, um, you know, the universe or God really prepares you to step into the next room when you step in with some faith. And so, maybe it does start with five or six people, and maybe that's enough, but perhaps in that space you're in, there'll be a little door open. And if you step into that one, you'll, you'll find, I think we think, I have to have it all figured out. Wozniak's a good buddy of mine who started Apple. They didn't, they were a board company. They didn't only be doing this someday. They stepped into the next space. And one thing I think we also want is an immediate result. And I talk about this in the book, maybe it'll be the last little thing I'll share with you, but I went to a birthday party as I was writing the book, and it was for a young boy.

• 45:03Ed Mylett?

  And, um, they had a pinata. We've all been to, especially living in California. You have the pinata, and so what they did is they took each of these little guys, they blindfolded them and spun them around, and they're all dizzy and they're swinging, and they're not even near the pinata. That's life. A lot of times you feel like, man, I'm blind, I don't even know where I'm swinging right now, but I'm swinging. And so each kid hit the pinata, and the candy didn't come out. And so they take the blindfold off, that kid got tired, the next little boy came up, spun him around. So like seven of them hit this pinata. No candy came out. The last boy, the smallest boy, the youngest boy there, they fill the blindfold on him, they spin him around, he's swinging too. That's life. You're just sort of swinging, right? They finally point him at the pinata, he hits the pinata just once.

• 45:45Ed Mylett?

  Bam, all the candy comes out, and all the kids jump on and celebrate. And I'm watching that, and I'm going. Now who broke the pinata? Was it the last shot? Or was it the cumulative blows of each of the shots on the pinata? Well, we all know the answer. It was the cumulative shots. Life's a lot like that, man. That we're taking shots, but we don't see any physical progress. But every one more we're doing is compound pounding progress. And in life, you have to be willing to buy into what is invisible progress. Most people quit on their dream, quit on their vision before the candy comes out. And what you and I didn't do was quit. We just kept swinging.

• 46:29Ed Mylett?

  And eventually the candy comes out. The candy could be your bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety, your contribution. But most people are hitting the pinata of their life and there's no evidence it's working. But the truth is, there's a compound pounding effect in life that if you keep hitting your life's pinata, if you'll stick around, there'll be some candy come out.

• 46:51Jay Shetty?

  The power of one more, everyone. Ed Mylett. Go and grab this book if you haven't already. It's gonna be a life changer. I mean, I mean, you can just feel the energy coming off this human being, honestly. I want you to go read this book. I want you to go listen to the podcast if you don't already. The first book was called Max Out Your Life as well, the Max Out Podcast. Ed, you are just, I mean, your energy is infectious. I don't know how anyone can't listen to you, read from you, hear from you and not feel like they need to change their life. Like you've just given me a list of number ones that I'm gonna do, one more. I hope that you keep coming back on the show. I hope that we keep getting to connect offline. I, I hope that we get to, you know, keep spending one more day, one more phone call, one more time together because...

• 47:35Ed Mylett?

  So grateful for you, bro. I love you.

• 47:37Jay Shetty?

  Really grateful, man. Thank you so much.

• 47:38Ed Mylett?

  I love you.

• 47:39Jay Shetty?

  Thank you. Everyone grab the copy of the book. I'll put it in the link. I'll put it in the comment section in the caption. The Power of One More. This is the book. Love it, brother. Thanks, brother. That was... That's good. That was good. That was good. If you loved this episode, you will love my interview with Kobe Bryant on how to be strategic and obsessive to find your purpose.

• 48:01Speaker 02

  Mr. President, my company tore me of the explosion on our rig on October 2nd, causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami. They all heap the blame on me. Tom Cruise is.

• 48:11Speaker 04

  Digger got us into this mess, and Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 48:17Speaker 03

  What would happen if I stopped drilling? You stop, you freeze to death, that's what...

• 48:22Speaker 04

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 48:25Speaker 03

  I'm not the first then.

• 48:26Speaker 04

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17. Not admitted without parent.