6 Ways Successful People Spend Their Time Instead of Wasting It

Successful people have said that there is no secret to success. Partly true. Most successful people invest their time and energy on working hard and taking risks. They dedicate their life to achieving their goals. But hard work isn’t everything. Success also involves learning the skills more successful people have, understanding the path they took to get to where they are, and gaining new knowledge and insights about their reality. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about the mindset successful people have and how differently they approach challenges and hardships. Sama Tea is now available! Go to http://samatea.com/onpurpose to order a box of Sama now and get access to our free live monthly tea parties, be the first to try out new tea flavors and receive a free exclusive download that shows my personal routine and rituals. Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 04:25 We can invest, spend, or waste our time 06:45 Habit #1: Usefulness 11:24 Habit #2: Study versus Envy 15:15 Habit #3: Education versus Entertainment 20:01 Habit #4: Intelligence versus Emotions 22:58 Habit #5: Growth over Goal 25:24 Habit #6: Understand the value of therapy and coaching Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 1:26Jay Shetty?

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• 2:01Jay Shetty?

  This episode is brought to you by AG1. Are you feeling September reset too? Shorter days, longer to-do lists, earlier alarms, all those routines you promised to yourself you'd pick back up. It can feel like your whole life is recalibrating. And when everything around you is changing, it helps to have a few things you can rely on. AG1 Next Gen is one of those easy habits to keep. It's the clinically-backed, comprehensive daily health drink that supports your gut health, energy production, and foundational nutrition all in one scoop. AG1's ingredients are sourced from quality partners for absorption, potency, and nutrient density to deliver the foundational nutrition your body needs. And alongside a proper diet,

• 2:45Jay Shetty?

  AG1 Next Gen meets 94% of nutrient requirements and is clinically shown to enrich the gut microbiome. For a limited time, save 20% on your first subscription order of AG1 Next Gen or AG1 Pro at drinkag1.com/onpurpose. That's drinkag1.com/onpurpose. When you remember that everyone you follow on social media started with one follower, it's crazy to believe. But even some of the biggest, most followed YouTubers and social media accounts in the world started with one follower. And so you want to study that journey, not envy that journey. Envying that journey creates more negativity in your life. It creates more trauma in your life.

• 3:30Jay Shetty?

  It creates more baggage. It creates more feelings of pain and stress and pressure. But study? It's endless joy.

• 3:45Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen, learn, and grow. Now, I just want to say. That whenever I bump into any of you on the street, if you see me, please come and say hello. I just bumped in to a group of On Purpose listeners. The other night, it was after a Halloween party. You just left the Staples Center. I think you just watched the Lakers versus Rockets game. I believe your name was Ramsey. And it was just one of these moments where I was so grateful to run into you. And I know for you, you were just so excited to bump into me and my wife. But for me, I just felt so much gratitude and so much love.

• 4:30Jay Shetty?

  And I just secretly pray and hope and wish for the day that I bump into each and every one of you. Because I can't thank you enough. The support you are showing On Purpose does not go unnoticed. We have just had our two best months in a row, all time, listening. And each and every one of you are making that happen. Now, I want to read some reviews because that's the closest I feel to you. And I hope you value this too. This is from Omar. "Since my father died suddenly in November, I've been listening to your podcast. I've not only listened to your podcast, but also read your book. Every morning, the first thing I do is put on my AirPods and listen to your podcast to get my day started.

• 5:13Jay Shetty?

  You've been a huge help in getting me out of bed on those difficult mornings. I'm absolutely thankful." Omar, congratulations to you to be able to get out of bed in the morning and be able to start each day despite the difficulties that you've been through. I'm sending you a lot of prayers and positive energy. This one is from Dan, who says, "Wow, Jay, each episode hits in a different way, but always exactly what I need. You're an absolute genius." I'm not, but thank you. "I can't express enough how grateful I am for you serving your community with On Purpose. You've opened my eyes to many new concepts and reminded me of things I already knew, but forgot along the way."

• 5:54Jay Shetty?

  This podcast is an essential part of my growth journey and has become a habit to listen to weekly. I usually go back and listen a second time to some episodes to take notes. I've been on my personal growth journey for a few years now, and you have no idea how much you're opening my mind with these episodes. I truly feel like you're speaking directly to me at times. I have a goal of starting my own podcast in the near future and am inspired by you every time I listen. My favorite episodes are usually the relationship-oriented ones, as I'm trying to be an exceptional partner and lead an exceptional relationship. Thank you so much, Jay, for showing up for us in a way no one has before with this podcast. Dan, thank you so much for that beautiful, beautiful

• 6:37Jay Shetty?

  message, and I love your intention of wanting to be a good partner. We need more good partners in the world, don't we? And now I'm going to read out one more. There are so many beautiful reviews here. I'm genuinely browsing through as I'm doing this. This is from Sasha in Nebraska, USA. "I can't get enough of your podcast, Jay. I'm also currently reading Think Like a Monk, and between the two, I'm getting more insight into who I am and the world around me. I even got my mother to download your book on Audible, and she used the words 'life-changing' to describe it. You're helping me more than you know. Thank you." Well, Sasha, thank you. So, keep those reviews coming. I'm so grateful. I love reading them. They're a way of us staying connected and staying together. And

• 7:18Jay Shetty?

  today's episode's going to be a special one, because it's something that I really deeply believe in, and it's something that's quite underestimated. So today's episode is all about the six ways successful people spend their time instead of wasting it. We have three choices with our time: to invest, to spend, or to waste. Just like with our money, we've all heard the phrase, "Time is money, and money is time."

• 7:49Jay Shetty?

  And the truth is, the reason is, because with money, you can either invest it, spend it, or waste it. And that is exactly the same with time. Let me ask you a question. How many of you feel right now that you waste more time than you like? How many of you feel that you're genuinely trying to spend your time more wisely? And how many of you feel that you're truly rising towards investing your time? Now, if you're someone that wastes your time, I don't want you to judge yourself. Judging yourself is going to create more guilt. And what guilt does is that it acts as a block towards your growth.

• 8:33Jay Shetty?

  Let me repeat that. And I want you to write this down. This is such a huge point for each and every one of us. Guilt blocks growth. When we experience guilt and we judge ourselves and that experience escalates, we then start creating blocks for our growth. Because when we feel guilty, we feel tired. We feel exhausted. We feel lethargic. We feel lazy. We feel bad about ourselves. And what that does, it strips us of our energy. And it overwhelms us instead of empowering us. If you're climbing up a 20,000-foot mountain and you're at 5,000 feet and you think to yourself,

• 9:15Jay Shetty?

  "Oh, gosh, I have 15,000 feet left to go. I'm going so slow." Do you think you're going to get up faster or slower? Do you think you're going to be happier or less happy in the process, in the journey? Now, what if you said to yourself, "Wow, I've climbed 5,000 feet? And now I've learned skills to make sure that the next 5,000 feet are quicker and easier and safer? And I've learned lessons along the way of knowing when to take a break and when to work harder? Okay, let's go for the next 15,000." Which mindset do you think is going to set you up for success? The first habit and the first mindset is usefulness.

• 10:01Jay Shetty?

  Are you able to see everything that happens in your life as useful, of use, and usable? So often in our life today, we think of things as useless. Right? When our phone gets old and the new iPhone 13 Max Pro, whatever it's called, releases, I already have it, I'm guilty of this. If it's already out and you say, okay, well, let me get that and let me get rid of my old phone, it's useless. Oh, that, that broke? Oh, let's throw it away, it's useless. Right? So many things we disregard and discard as useless. When the truth is that everything can still be useful. Everything can still truly be usable.

• 10:46Jay Shetty?

  And the reason why this is such a powerful way of living and the way successful people spend their time is they ask themselves, is this useful? Is what I'm doing with my time useful? Now, useful could be anything. It could be sleeping. It could be taking a nap. It could be taking a break. It could be getting a massage. It could be doing something self-care, but they look at usefulness as opposed to uselessness. Some people say, oh, I'm useless if I take a break right now. But is it useful? Is it useful to your greater goal? Is it useful to where you want to be? Is it useful to what you want to achieve and what you want to do?

• 11:30Jay Shetty?

  Start creating a usefulness mindset. Usfulness means you find the use in anything and everything. And often, even if you're doing something that you feel is a waste of time, if you can find a way to make it feel useful, it will change your life. Some of you may be thinking, oh, well, you know, whenever my friends invite me out, I don't want to go, but I go anyway, but it's a waste of time. And now I feel guilty and now I'm beating myself up when I get home and I'm thinking, oh, gosh, I wasted so much time. How many of you get into that habit where you're actually judging yourself for how you spend your time? So you think it's useless because it's not what you want to be doing or what you think you should be doing. But what if you were able to learn even from that?

• 12:13Jay Shetty?

  What if you were more of a better listener around your friends and they shared something important? What if you use that as a way of understanding human behavior and decision-making? What if you took a question and used it as research? I often, when I'm speaking to people, that's when my best content ideas come to me. That's when my best inspirational ideas come to me. I'll give an example. I got a message from someone that I share some mutual friends with, and she said she wanted to connect, and we had a Zoom call. And we're in the same industry, same business space. So I always allow some randomness and some openness, because I find it to be useful. So people would say, "Well, if that's got nothing to do with my goal, if that call has nothing to do with my goal,

• 12:58Jay Shetty?

  then what's the point of me doing it?" Well, I find randomness useful, so I make space for randomness. So I jump on this call. I have no agenda. I don't want anything from it. I have nothing to win, nothing to achieve, nothing to close. There's no direct benefit from this phone call. And I'm getting to know this individual, and then she starts telling me her story. And she tells me her story about how she started doing something at 12 years old, and at 16, she was consulting in that industry, and then at 25, she's built her own company. And now I'm telling you that story because I was inspired by her journey. And I love that because it was useful. It was useful because I got inspired by it.

• 13:41Jay Shetty?

  I get to share that inspiration with you. And it becomes something that feels like a good use of my time, when a few years ago, I would have thought, "Well, that's a waste of my time, because it doesn't have anything to do with my goal." So one of the ways one of my mentors trained me was to become more open, random, and supportive. Thomas Power, my mentor in London, started working with him about eight years ago. Now he's a dear friend. And he told me to be open, random, and supportive, or O R S, as he called it. And he was saying that as you become more successful, as you build more, you'll become more closed, selective, and controlling. And that closed, selective, and controlling, you think it's making you better, but actually, it's making you worse,

• 14:25Jay Shetty?

  because you're now losing the ability to make something useful and learn from it. So that's the first habit that I want to talk to you about. The second habit successful people do to spend their time is that they study versus envy. Think about that. When you look at people in your industry or people that you wish you were like, or people that you want to follow in their footsteps, how many of us waste energy on jealousy and envy? When you see that someone just sold their business for a billion dollars, do you feel jealousy and envy? When you see that someone just sold their podcast for a hundred million dollars,

• 15:09Jay Shetty?

  do you feel jealousy and envy? Or maybe you feel a sense of like, I wish that was me, I deserved that. Or how many of you, when you see that someone's video just got a million views, or their subscriber count just went to a million subscribers, how many of you look at that with envy, jealousy, comparison, self judgment, self worth issues? Instead of jealousy, instead of envy, the solution is study. When I see people achieving incredible things that I value, that inspire me, that motivate me, I choose to study. Study their lives, study their journey, study their first video, study their first start.

• 15:54Jay Shetty?

  Because the problem is, we're looking at people at the stage they're at right now. We're not looking at the phase they started in. When you see those pictures of Ed Sheeran when he was just busking on the side of a street, who's a street performer, it makes you realize that that stage that he fills, that audience that he fills today, wasn't what he always had. It reminds you of where he started and where you may need to start. When you remember that everyone you follow on social media started with one follower, it's crazy to believe, but even some of the biggest, most followed YouTubers and social media accounts in the world started with one follower. Everyone started at one. Actually, everyone started at zero. And so you want to study that journey, not envy that journey.

• 16:38Jay Shetty?

  Envying that journey creates more negativity in your life. It creates more trauma in your life. It creates more baggage. It creates more feelings of pain and stress and pressure. But study, it's endless joy. Because the more you deeply study someone's journey, the more you deeply understand the process and the systems and the steps someone took to get to where they are. You feel a sense of empowerment. Instead of feeling overwhelmed that you're not there, you feel empowered to know you can get there in your own way.

• 17:13Jay Shetty?

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• 17:56Jay Shetty?

  That's indeed.com/podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? This is a job for Indeed sponsored jobs. This episode is brought to you by Wayfair. Home should be a place that feels like a sanctuary, a space that truly reflects who you are, but it can be challenging to balance style, budget and endless options. I was looking to create a dedicated calm space for my morning meditation and reading, but I was struggling to find pieces that felt grounding but could also stand up to daily use. I went on Wayfair and found a beautiful, solid wood accent chair and a bookshelf. Now that corner is my favorite place to anchor my day. The quality is incredible, it's built to last, and it completely shifted the energy of the room.

• 18:38Jay Shetty?

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• 19:22Jay Shetty?

  and they know how sweet it is to feel good about your decisions. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with a personal price plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Prices are based on rating plans that vary by state. Coverage options are selected by the customer. Availability, amount of discounts and savings and eligibility vary by state. I spent my teens not knowing that I was doing this, but I remember reading Martin Luther King's biography. I remember reading the biography of Malcolm X. I remember reading the biography of David Beckham, of Dwayne The Rock Johnson. These books transformed my life because they helped me study greatness.

• 20:06Jay Shetty?

  They helped me study the lives of people who found a purpose, lost it, failed and found it again. Please take time when you look at someone's feed and you feel envy, study. Scroll all the way back down to their first ever post. Scroll all the way back, do a Google search to figure out where they started, what they did, what they studied at school, how they pivoted, they shifted. Go listen to a podcast on their journey. I mean, that's why we have on purpose, because you get to hear about the journey that no one else sees. You get to hear about the parts of people that no one knows. Choose to study people's lives, not envy, please. And if you make this slight switch in your mind, I promise you, you're going to save yourself a lot of headaches as well, the more you study.

• 20:52Jay Shetty?

  Remove envy, replace it with study.

• 20:56Jay Shetty?

  The third habit that I wanted to talk to you about today is education versus entertainment. And here are a few incredible stats that I thought would really, really help you. So this is using data that I found on Apprion Advisors website. And it said that 88% of wealthy people read 30 minutes or more every day. And I've found that sometimes, you know, reading for 30 minutes a day may sound hard, but I promise you that limiting your social media time itself can change that. 63% of wealthy people listen to audiobooks instead of music in the car. Notice how it's all about replacement and substituting. It's not about eliminating.

• 21:41Jay Shetty?

  Only 11% of wealthy people read purely for entertainment purposes. And only one in 50 of those struggling financially engage in learning every day. Now, I know what you're thinking. You go, "Well, of course, the wealthy, successful people are learning because they have time." The truth is that they didn't have time before either. And they don't have time now, but they've always made time for learning. Why? Because those new ideas, those new thoughts, and you're doing that right now. I just want you to know, you, by being here every week, listening to On Purpose, are building this habit. You're actually doing it even if you don't know, and I want to give you a moment to pat yourself on the back to honor that. Now, listen to this. 66% of wealthy people watch less than an hour of entertainment-based TV.

• 22:26Jay Shetty?

  This is a big one. 63% of wealthy people spend less than an hour a day using the internet for entertainment. I highly recommend that you switch on a parameters and boundaries on social media onto your phone. I also recommend that if you're not using social media as a creator or a consumer of positive information, unfollow, block, move on. 77% of those struggling financially spend more than an hour on both of these things daily, not for growth, not for education, but for entertainment. So I wanted to share those habits with you, not to scare you or alarm you, but so that you start recognizing where you can improve.

• 23:09Jay Shetty?

  And in the beginning, it takes what's known as purification. So when you're forcing yourself based on willpower, that gets tiring. Purification is actually the changing of your taste. I'll give you an example. When I married Radhi and Radhi wanted me to reduce my sugar intake, and she was showing me all these studies where sugar is linked to cancer, sugar's related to gut issues, sugar's related to a lot of our health issues. And I started to become more conscious through her research and reading. And I started to realize that I needed a substitute, and I substituted it for monk fruit. I substituted it for dates and dried fruits that were more natural sugars. She didn't want me to have refined sugars.

• 23:54Jay Shetty?

  Now, in the beginning, when I made that switch, I didn't like the taste. I missed the taste of real chocolate. I missed the taste of... When I say real sugar, what I'm really talking about is refined sugar, but it had become real sugar to me by that time. And the amazing thing is that as time has gone on, as I've stuck to that habit, my tastes have actually been purified, where I actually preferred the taste of the monk fruit that I have. And I've tried this recently, where I've tried to have chocolate again with refined sugar, and it doesn't work for me. Now, your habit can swing either way. And another example of this, again, is the idea of... Anything I'm talking about right now, like watching TV, reading a book, in the beginning, it's gonna be hard.

• 24:37Jay Shetty?

  But your taste buds will be purified to seek what is known as the higher taste. So we're not trying to do this through willpower or force or pushing ourselves or stressing ourselves. We're doing it through building a healthy habit and watching our tastes naturally be purified. You will seek the higher taste the more you practice it. But if you're always engaged in the lower taste, it's very hard. So if you read a book one day a week and watch TV six days, you're not going to be purified. But if you start with one day and then you go to two, and then you go to three, and then you go to four, and then you go to five, that's how you do it. Because that one day where you break the pattern and you read a book instead of watching that TV show, you go, oh, that was a great day. I learned a lot. Then what you need to do is journal about it.

• 25:22Jay Shetty?

  So every time you have a breakthrough in your mindset, journal about it, write down how positive it was. This is what I learned from reading the book. This is how I felt. This is how many conversations I used it in. This is how many times I told that story. This is what I learned from that podcast. The more you share on Instagram, the more you share with others, you are reminding yourself to do that habit again and again. Now, this habit, the fourth one, is often underrated and it's intelligence versus emotions. Now, this research from the same article said ninety-four percent of wealthy people filter their emotions. Seventy-nine percent of those struggling do not filter their emotions. What does it mean to filter your emotions?

• 26:06Jay Shetty?

  So, an emotional response is a signal. It's almost like receiving an email. So, your emotions are like email. You receive an email that says, I don't like this. I don't like what that person said. I don't like what that person's doing. I don't like what that person did. And then, all of a sudden, your emotions are not being filtered. So, when I think about filters, I look at like gates that people has to walk through. If you've ever been to a home that has high security, you have to walk through multiple gates. So you have the first gate that you get buzzed in through. Then you meet someone who's gonna check whether you're allowed to get in. Maybe they're gonna check your ID. Maybe they're gonna check your name. They're gonna make a phone call. Then you get to the final gate. So the first filter with your emotions is, is this true?

• 26:55Jay Shetty?

  Is the feeling I'm having true? And often you'll find it won't be true. It's what you've heard. It's what someone assumed. And so I'll say, okay, it's not true. So let me ask for the real information. The second gate that you want people to walk through, or you want your emotion to be filtered through, is, is this useful? Is this information useful? Is this making me a better person? Is this getting me closer to my goal? Chances are it isn't. Chances are it's actually doing the opposite. And third, is this emotion actionable? What is the action based on this emotion? Let me turn this, what is the action that solves this emotion? When you start asking yourself those three filters or three gates, you're going to see remarkable things happen in your life.

• 27:40Jay Shetty?

  Successful people only work based on the truth and the fact, because the truth and the fact is worth acting upon. Anything that's false news, is it worth acting upon? No. It's like someone calling you up and saying, oh, your tire is punctured. And you get all emotional, you get confused, you start making phone calls and then you realize they weren't telling the truth. Has that helped? Has it helped having that emotional trauma? And now you're saying, well, Jay, what if it is real? Well, has the emotional trauma been useful? No. The emotional part's not useful. The truth is useful. Is it useful based on how it's making you behave? And then is it actionable? The action is the most important part. So, successful people try and filter their emotions into actions

• 28:25Jay Shetty?

  that can change their emotions. Right? Actions that change your emotions are what should follow an emotional response that you're not appreciating or isn't working for you at this stage. The fifth habit is growth over goals. Seventy percent of wealthy people constantly pursue at least one major goal. Only three percent of people who are struggling financially do this. This is from the same article at Aperium Advisors. And what I loved about this, and the more research I've done, is that smart people set goals, successful people set growth towards their goals. So let's say you have a goal that you want your business to have a certain amount of revenue.

• 29:09Jay Shetty?

  You say, we want to make five million, 10 million, 50 million. Sure, that's a great goal. It's good to have a goal. You need to have a goal to know where you're going. We may say, oh, one of our goals is to win a Webby like we did last year, thanks to all of you. To win a Streamy like we did last year, thanks to all of you. But setting a goal is good because you know what your target is, you know what direction you're going in. It's like saying, yeah, I want to drive from LA to Arizona. That's a goal. But the more important part is the growth. What vehicle are we taking? Is it fueled up or have we charged it if it's an electric car? What route are we taking? What are the pit stops or the milestones along the way to know we're going in the right direction? Is there somewhere where we need to take a break halfway to re-energize?

• 29:54Jay Shetty?

  Which part do you think is more important? Successful people don't just point to the map. They come up with the journey to follow on the map. I want you to set a goal and then I want you to set the growth plan. The growth plan includes everything from what skills do you need to develop? What coaching do you need to get? What do you need to learn? What do you need to build in order to get there? I could say I want to build one of the biggest companies in the world. The biggest gap between building one of the biggest companies in the world, you think is revenue, but it's actually people and leadership. It's management. It's understanding people's emotions. It's consumer behavior. The goal is financial, but the growth is emotional.

• 30:39Jay Shetty?

  The growth is mental. Notice the difference there. So ask yourself, with the goals that you're setting for the end of the year and the goals you're setting for 2022, have you focused on the growth plan? You may have a goal plan, but do you have a growth plan? What do you need to learn? What do you need to develop? How are you going to know you're in the right direction? What are the pivots in the strategy you're going to make? What are the shifts?

• 31:05Jay Shetty?

  And the sixth way successful people spend their time instead of wasting it is that they understand the value of both therapy and coaching in their life. We're living in a world where therapy is booming and I love to see it. I think therapy is such an incredible practice, such a need in today's society and in today's world and forever. Whether you're a beginner, whether you're a leader, whether you're an artist, a musician, whatever it may be, we all have trauma we need to unpack. And I share a lot of clients with therapists because I find that therapy helps people make sense of their past and coaching helps people work towards their future.

• 31:48Jay Shetty?

  And together, this is an incredible combination. So while most of us are talking to our friends and family and hopefully finding moments of vulnerability, finding moments of connection and depth there. When we're ready, it's amazing to take it to the next level of therapy and coaching. Working with a professional in each of these areas can make a huge difference in our life. And I've found that everyone at all stages of their life needs a coach to help plan and get curious about the next five to 10 years of their life. So I hope that today's session has helped you in understanding where some of your time is leaking. And that's really what's happening with most of us. It's not that we're wasting time, it's not that you're sitting there doing nothing.

• 32:33Jay Shetty?

  It's that time leaks away and we can't control time. Trying to control time is a battle that we're always going to lose. There's never going to feel like there's enough time. We're always going to want more time, so we can't get more time. We can't control time. What we can do is make sure that we're investing and spending it wisely. So stop putting pressure on yourself, saying, "I keep wasting time, I keep doing the wrong things, I'm not doing the right things." That guilt will actually block your growth. I was speaking to a friend about this the other day and we were talking about how beating yourself up doesn't make you work harder, right? Critiquing yourself doesn't actually push you with joy.

• 33:17Jay Shetty?

  So when my ego says arrogant things or when the voice in my head says negative things, what do I do? I laugh at them both. I choose to laugh over critique.

• 33:31Jay Shetty?

  When I hear my ego say things that makes me feel despicable or wrong, or just sometimes it can say ridiculous things, I just laugh at it. I think, wow, the ego is so funny that it can come up with these things. And when I'm critiquing myself, I laugh at the critiquing voice too, because I think, wow, it's hilarious that I'm able to talk to myself like this when I wouldn't talk to anyone else like this. So being able to laugh, and this is why in the Vedic tradition and in the monk tradition, the mind is compared to a monkey. Because when monkeys do something, you just laugh. They are being funny, they're being silly, they are just... You don't want the monkey to be anything else. You're able to appreciate, it's just a monkey, it's fine, it's gonna be funny, it's gonna be silly, it's gonna trade a credit card for a banana and then want it back. It's gonna go and run around.

• 34:16Jay Shetty?

  And so when we see the mind and ego behave like a monkey, just laugh. Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of On Purpose. I am so excited and so grateful for this to be out in the world. I hope you tag me and share your best insights. When I see you post, I'm always looking through them, so you might see you on my feed. I'll see you next time. Thanks, everyone.

• 34:44Speaker 01

  Mr. President, my company informed me of the explosion on our rig on October 2nd. Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami.

• 34:52Jay Shetty?

  They all heap the blame on me. Tom Cruise is.

• 34:55Speaker 01

  Digger got us into this mess, and Digger's gonna dig us out. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 35:01Jay Shetty?

  What would happen if I stopped doing it? You stall, you freeze to death, that's what...

• 35:05Speaker 01

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 35:08Jay Shetty?

  I'm not the first daddy.

• 35:10Speaker 01

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17. Not a middle without parent.