BENNY BLANCO, DAVE BURD & KRISTIN BATALUCCO: Friends Keep Secrets… Or Do They? (Friendship, Weddings, Love)

Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn’t giving him what he thought it would. It’s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together. With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren’t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love How to Stop Playing Dating Games How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection How to Support Your Partner’s Ambition Without Competing How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner The strongest connections aren’t built by people who never argue, they’re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:03 How Their Friendship Began 07:05 Dave and Kristin’s Love Story 11:37 From Dating to Marriage 18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage 20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart 28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other 30:35 Launching a Show Together 35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic 39:07 Working With Family and Friends 42:13 How They Make Big Decisions 45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions 48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology? 51:10 Friends Don’t Keep Secrets 01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship 01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room? 01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out? Episode Resources: Website | https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets X | https://x.com/FKSpodcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 1:29Jay Shetty?

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• 2:13Jay Shetty?

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• 2:18Speaker 01

  Friends on Purpose on three.

• 2:19Jay Shetty?

  One, two, three. Friends on Purpose! I thought you thought that was being loserish.

• 2:24Speaker 01

  I do.

• 2:24Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, right.

• 2:26Speaker 01

  We just are born to be best friends. Me and Benny met at this Mexican restaurant and-

• 2:32Benny Blanco?

  He said, "What can you bring to the table?" And I was like, "What?"

• 2:37Speaker 03

  I thought, "He's so sweet and he's so himself." And he told me a story that lasted 40 minutes.

• 2:42Jay Shetty?

  Benny, Dave, Kristen, welcome to On Purpose.

• 2:44Speaker 01

  Hey, Jay.

• 2:45Benny Blanco?

  Hi.

• 2:47Jay Shetty?

  Benny, come on.

• 2:49Speaker 01

  Come on.

• 2:49Jay Shetty?

  Hey! Did you know what? This is the first time we've had three people on the show together.

• 2:54Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 2:55Jay Shetty?

  First ever time.

• 2:55Speaker 01

  Did you know that?

• 2:56Jay Shetty?

  This is the first time someone has come on their own with their fiance, then wife, and now with their best friends.

• 3:02Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 3:03Jay Shetty?

  So we've never done that before either.

• 3:04Benny Blanco?

  Mm-hmm. So Benny, you're- I'm breaking all sorts of-

• 3:06Jay Shetty?

  You're breaking all sorts of records. You're competing with Michelle Obama, who's been on the show twice. You've been on three times. This is your third time, so... Dave, I'm a huge fan.

• 3:14Speaker 01

  Thank you.

• 3:15Jay Shetty?

  Always have been.

• 3:15Speaker 01

  Right back at you.

• 3:16Jay Shetty?

  Told you that the first time I met you.

• 3:17Speaker 01

  I've known you for maybe under a year, but I love you.

• 3:20Jay Shetty?

  Oh, thank you.

• 3:21Speaker 01

  It's been, ever since I've met you, I've loved you.

• 3:23Jay Shetty?

  Wow, I appreciate it.

• 3:24Benny Blanco?

  Notice how he doesn't say it back.

• 3:26Speaker 01

  I know he loves me, but-

• 3:28Jay Shetty?

  I said it already.

• 3:28Speaker 01

  Yeah, he said, he just said it. He did, he started.

• 3:30Benny Blanco?

  I was caught up in his eyes. It's very hard. Very hard to look.

• 3:33Jay Shetty?

  And Kristen, I've become a huge fan of you. I can't believe that.

• 3:36Speaker 03

  I'm glad. I'm glad.

• 3:38Jay Shetty?

  We're here.

• 3:38Speaker 03

  I'm glad that you still like me.

• 3:41Jay Shetty?

  But honestly, guys, this is awesome. It's so great to have all three of you in the room. I actually want to know how you all three met, because I have no idea. I don't think I've ever asked you that before.

• 3:50Speaker 01

  Well, I guess I'm the glue between the two of the three. You know, I met Benny. He basically, from the day I put any music out, he, actually, the first day I released anything, he tweeted like something positive about me.

• 4:05Jay Shetty?

  Wow.

• 4:06Speaker 01

  Yeah, so he, like, it was, you know, one of the first day to have a guy like him reach out. And then I, yeah, I like said something, we like kind of communicated back and forth a little bit, and then we almost saw each other one of my concerts, and we didn't really hang out. And then, I don't, the first time we met-

• 4:20Benny Blanco?

  No, we don't.

• 4:21Speaker 01

  We don't know for sure when the very fir- we can't place it. My memory of like, the first real memory I have is we met at this Mexican restaurant. And I think he was maybe trying to sign me or maybe just trying to explain the value that he could add to my life and my career. And I really didn't see any value added potential.

• 4:44Benny Blanco?

  That's what he said.

• 4:44Speaker 03

  It was like a date?

• 4:45Speaker 01

  Did he, did he say that?

• 4:47Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, he said, he said, well, what, what can you bring to the table? And I was like, what? That was like his first thing he said to me.

• 4:54Speaker 01

  Now, in hindsight, I was totally wrong.

• 4:56Benny Blanco?

  What can I bring to the table?

• 4:57Speaker 01

  He brings everything.

• 4:58Benny Blanco?

  Best friend, all of your nightlife.

• 5:01Jay Shetty?

  How did you win him over?

• 5:04Speaker 01

  Just proof in the pudding.

• 5:05Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I think it was instant.

• 5:06Speaker 01

  Also, independent of our respective talents merging and being able to add to each other's talent careers. We would be best friends if we were like in Arkansas and we both were plumbers. You know what I mean? Like, we just are born to be best friends. And then I met Kristen years later and then they met because.

• 5:23Jay Shetty?

  Wait, wait, I want to know how you guys met.

• 5:24Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, don't just gloss over it.

• 5:26Speaker 03

  I thought, yeah.

• 5:27Speaker 01

  I wasn't.

• 5:27Speaker 03

  You tell, you tell the story.

• 5:29Speaker 01

  I met Kristen years later.

• 5:32Speaker 01

  Bowling alley, a writer on my TV show, Vanessa, kind of set us up. And Kristen didn't know that I was going to more or less.

• 5:41Speaker 03

  Scout me.

• 5:42Speaker 01

  Scout her.

• 5:42Speaker 03

  I was being scouted that night.

• 5:44Jay Shetty?

  Not, not for the show?

• 5:46Speaker 01

  No.

• 5:46Speaker 03

  No, like as a romantic partner.

• 5:47Jay Shetty?

  Wow.

• 5:48Speaker 01

  I always told Vanessa, because I love this woman Vanessa, who's one of the main writers on my show and she's a great person. I always said, keep it, because I was just a hopeless romantic, single guy for like a decade. And I would say, don't you have any friends? Don't you know anybody? And then she would say, yeah, I'm looking around. And then Kristen had been in a relationship for pretty much her whole life. And then she kind of got single for like a three week period. And then Vanessa was bowling with her and she realized, oh, my God, Dave. And then she texted me while she was at the alley being like, hey, I don't know what you're doing. It was like 10:00 PM. And she was like, I don't know what you're doing, but I'm with someone who might be your wife. And I dropped everything I was doing and immediately went over there late, joined them late. They were already done bowling by the time I got there, so I got to take everyone's turn. And then we just started talking about nachos.

• 6:32Benny Blanco?

  Didn't you bowl a strike?

• 6:33Speaker 01

  I bowled, I bowled a strike. First thing I did, I bowled a strike. Like, that's my first.

• 6:36Jay Shetty?

  How did you pull that out?

• 6:37Speaker 01

  I just am a good athlete.

• 6:38Speaker 03

  I didn't see it though.

• 6:40Jay Shetty?

  Oh, you didn't see it?

• 6:40Speaker 03

  I didn't see it. So I, I think I was doing my own thing, chatting up the group.

• 6:44Speaker 01

  Yeah, she was doing her own thing. Then we started talking about, I remember one of the first things I said to her were like, what are those? And I pointed to a plate of nachos and she said, those are nachos. And I said, I know, I'm just making small talk.

• 6:59Speaker 03

  I liked that. I thought that was such a good like intro.

• 7:02Speaker 01

  Yeah. That was his first intro?

• 7:04Speaker 03

  Like it was, yeah. I mean, he sat down next to me and said, what are those? And I liked that he was like, I'm just making small talk. I feel like it was like the intro into his personality.

• 7:13Speaker 01

  And you were trying, that was. Oh, yeah.

• 7:15Speaker 03

  Were you trying?

• 7:15Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah. Instantly I saw her and I was like, oh my God, Vanessa, good call.

• 7:18Speaker 03

  Well, no, you said you didn't like it because I was wearing glasses.

• 7:20Speaker 01

  I said it wasn't love at first sight. I was gonna ask, was it an instant connection for both of you? Because she was wearing these big glasses. I couldn't think of anything I've ever seen you in glasses. Yeah, she doesn't often wear glasses.

• 7:29Speaker 03

  I was going through a lot and I was wearing the same clothes for like two weeks straight and this is my first venture out.

• 7:35Speaker 01

  Yeah. Not shades, like.

• 7:36Speaker 03

  No, they were like, because it was, I think I drove there. Yeah.

• 7:39Speaker 01

  Yeah, you drove me home.

• 7:40Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 7:41Speaker 01

  Because she was, she never lives in Venice or lived in Venice and I was living in Venice and she happened to be staying in Airbnb for that week in Venice. So it only made sense for her to be like, can I get a ride home? So then I had like an extra 40 minute ride where we just talked.

• 7:54Speaker 03

  No, he, he told me a story that lasted 40 minutes.

• 7:57Speaker 01

  Really? What was the story?

• 7:59Speaker 03

  I thought he's so sweet and he's so himself and I was like, I was really happy to, I felt like you had such an ease to you that was rare. Like you were really willing to be like, um, vulnerable. But I also was like, the story's very long.

• 8:12Speaker 01

  The story was about me pooping my pants.

• 8:14Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 8:14Speaker 01

  And you chose that because? It's my funniest best story.

• 8:17Speaker 03

  But it was like him talking the entire, the entire ride.

• 8:19Speaker 01

  You practiced it before. It's like a 15 minute story. Rehearsed. And I was like, yeah, I've said it so many times. And then ironically, I believe that you guys probably met for the first time at a bowling alley. Because remember right before, remember for my TV show premiere, season one, I had all my friends come in from out of town and we all met at the bowling alley the one time. And Kristen was there and I was like, don't make it that, like, don't say anything that I don't want you to say. Remember that?

• 8:44Benny Blanco?

  Uh, maybe. I remember two. I remember two times specifically. I remember once, like in the very beginning of their relationship. I remember once, after your actual premiere, and we like all walked up to my house. I remember that time. And I remember like in, in that time, being like, this girl's really cool. I was like, like, nothing, not thinking. That was your first impression, when he's like, meet my girlfriend. No, no, no, no. It was not his girlfriend. It was a girl he was like. No, not then.

• 9:13Speaker 03

  In my mind, I was his girlfriend.

• 9:15Benny Blanco?

  In your mind, it was official. And then. Now you're finding, is this the first time you're finding out about it? And then the turning point really, in their relationship, I think, was that night at like our birthday party. That was like, that was, I remember it so clearly. I do, I do. Is that what it was for you, Kristen? You remember it differently?

• 9:36Jay Shetty?

  It's a bad memory.

• 9:37Speaker 03

  It wasn't, it wasn't, it wasn't the best. You weren't the, you weren't like exhibiting the best behavior.

• 9:44Speaker 01

  No, I was flashing out. Do you want to hear what happened, Jay?

• 9:46Benny Blanco?

  Please. I do want to hear what happened. Thank you.

• 9:48Speaker 01

  We, it was, we met in like January 31st. We had our birthday party like six weeks later. We have joint birthday parties every year and look, what I'm about to say is pathetic, but they really were like the Super Bowl of like being a single man. Like, I, I never would even have a birth, I would never would even throw myself a birthday party if it weren't for Benny. So now all of a sudden, every year I'm having like the most upscale birthday parties planned by him completely where all these people and women come.

• 10:20Speaker 03

  Lots of women.

• 10:20Speaker 01

  And they know it's like my party and like, so there's just this built in icebreaker where like people want to come up to me and talk to me. And I just had this feeling that we were gonna start dating. And I, you know, if you know me, you know that I have trouble like wrapping my head around, uh, not necessarily commitment, but just like I'm a turn over every stone kind of guy in everything I do. And it really.

• 10:43Speaker 03

  The stone was here. There was nothing else to turn over.

• 10:45Speaker 01

  Now, as I continue to tell the story, I want you to know that I'm ashamed of my behavior. This is not something that I'm proud of. But I think I just knew that we were going to end up dating. And, but it was too early to be, like, I didn't have to commit yet, to be quite honest, which is a really misogynistic thing to say. And I knew that I didn't have to commit. And I also knew my days were numbered of, of having romantic freedom because I felt like I was about to be totally in a committed relationship. And I think. I don't know, I just kind of like overreacted and but for whatever reason, I went into the night being like, I'm not committed to Kristen tonight. We're not, I'm not necessarily going home with Kristen tonight. I'm gonna do my own thing.

• 11:22Speaker 03

  But can I, cuz I, cuz I didn't do, you're making it seem like I went in there being like, we have to be, we're married.

• 11:27Speaker 01

  No, she didn't do anything.

• 11:27Benny Blanco?

  I'd like to hear Kristen.

• 11:28Speaker 03

  I went in there with like, I think there was like seven of girlfriends of mine and I played it so, like, I don't like to play it cool. It's very hard for me to play it cool. I'm glad that Benny thought I was cool when he first met me, but that's not me. And so I was like, okay, well, this is fun. I like a party. I'm just gonna be like free and not expect anything from him. So I didn't all night. And then as the night came to an end, it was kind of like, well, we all know the expectation that we're gonna like hang out. We haven't hung out yet. And he just had such a like, um, you had such a, I knew exactly what he was doing. Like, I could sense what he was doing. And then I think I was like, well, this is lame. And then it got into a little bit of a like, I would say at the end.

• 12:11Speaker 01

  A flirt battle.

• 12:12Benny Blanco?

  I'd like to interject. I'd like, I'd like, I'd like to interject.

• 12:16Speaker 01

  She started talking to other guys in front of her.

• 12:18Speaker 03

  Because he was talking to other girls.

• 12:18Benny Blanco?

  I'd like to interject at this moment. There was a flirt battle going on back and forth and it was like, so strange. It was like, yeah, it was like so strange and, and childish in the moment.

• 12:31Speaker 01

  It's like a scene out of a movie.

• 12:32Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 12:33Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 12:33Benny Blanco?

  And we were in such a small area cuz now it was like the after-party. It was like such a, like it, it was like fifty people total. And I remember going to the bathroom. There was like a communal bathroom you go into. And I was like with Dave and, and we were drunk. And, and he was just like.

• 12:53Speaker 03

  What'd he say?

• 12:54Benny Blanco?

  He was talking about how this was like one of the best nights of his life and he was like, no.

• 12:58Speaker 01

  Is this the first time you're hearing this story?

• 13:00Speaker 03

  Well, I, sometimes I forget the details. It was, it was a sad time.

• 13:04Benny Blanco?

  Basically.

• 13:04Speaker 03

  But not really.

• 13:05Benny Blanco?

  He was.

• 13:06Speaker 01

  It wasn't a happy ending.

• 13:08Benny Blanco?

  In the moment, she was talking about like leaving and like before we went into the bathroom and she was like visibly upset at this.

• 13:15Speaker 01

  She was about to leave. She might have even have just just walked out.

• 13:18Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, she did. And there was like, there was like, maybe, I don't remember.

• 13:23Speaker 01

  I didn't run after her.

• 13:23Benny Blanco?

  I don't remember if there was tears or anything.

• 13:25Speaker 03

  There were tears, but no one saw them. So that's the tidbit that I'm providing.

• 13:29Benny Blanco?

  So she walks out and I remember talking to Dave and I was like, Dave, I was like, what are you doing? I was like, she's so cool. She's beautiful. And I was, and, and yeah, it was like, his sentiment was kind of like the, what he was saying where he's like, what if there's more? Like, I'm so like, he was like, I'm about to.

• 13:47Speaker 01

  This is all.

• 13:49Speaker 03

  What if there's more?

• 13:50Benny Blanco?

  No, no.

• 13:50Speaker 01

  That was, everything he just said was the subtext, but really all you said, I remember specifically, you were like, I don't know. You were like, I kind of like Batalucco.

• 13:58Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, that's, and then, and then.

• 14:01Jay Shetty?

  That's Kristen's last name again.

• 14:02Benny Blanco?

  Yeah. And then at the end, I was like, I was like, I don't, I was like, I was like, I don't know, Chuck. Like, I really, I like Batalucco. And then.

• 14:11Speaker 01

  And then I called her.

• 14:12Benny Blanco?

  And then he called her.

• 14:12Speaker 01

  She was like one foot in the car.

• 14:14Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 14:14Speaker 01

  And then she turned around.

• 14:15Benny Blanco?

  It was like out of a movie.

• 14:15Speaker 01

  And then we, and then we never split up first.

• 14:18Jay Shetty?

  What, what was it for you that went, this is it? No more stones to be turned over?

• 14:25Speaker 01

  Like, I'm not the kind of guy that did what I said I just did at the thing. So I just felt a little bit bad about, I'm just not that guy. And I don't, it's like, what, what am I looking for someone else when I have such a great person who wants to hang out with me? Now, at that point, I don't think either one of us necessarily knew we were going to get married. I don't think you knew we were going to get married six weeks in.

• 14:43Speaker 03

  Remember, I think the first thing I said, like on our second date, I was like, is this a dead end?

• 14:47Speaker 01

  Well, yeah, so.

• 14:48Speaker 03

  I was, I was angling for marriage.

• 14:50Speaker 01

  So our second date, she said, is this, she said, is this a dead end?

• 14:53Benny Blanco?

  It's a second date. If us not getting married.

• 14:57Speaker 01

  Is a dead end. It's totally possible that this is a dead end. But if you're saying it's a dead end, if we aren't actually married, I can't answer that question.

• 15:04Jay Shetty?

  Because it's a second date.

• 15:05Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 15:05Jay Shetty?

  But Kristin, from your side, like you're angling for marriage on the second date. Like, you're really clear about what you want.

• 15:10Speaker 03

  Yeah, yeah.

• 15:10Jay Shetty?

  A, what's making it clear that this is the guy you want to be with? And B, what's making you confident to be so clear about what you want? Because I think so many people who listen to the show, I know they actually feel quite scared.

• 15:21Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 15:22Jay Shetty?

  On their second date to actually be honest about what they're looking for.

• 15:25Speaker 03

  Well, I went into it being like, I was 30 and I'd come out of a long relationship. And I felt like, like I had this whole narrative in my head, which I think the narrative is true, that it's like, why should women have to kind of play like this game of let them chase you? Or like, I feel like so often, even with my friends, like even with Dave, they'd be like, don't be too aggressive. Like, don't, because I very much always just said what I wanted, which was like, I like taking out with you. Let's hang out again. And I felt like I didn't want to waste time, like letting him drive the relationship. So I just thought, it's better off that I figure out if we're a bad fit than like, let it go too long. Also, I'm only getting older and.

• 16:07Speaker 01

  It is remarkable how infrequent, I went on a lot of dates. I dated a lot of people over a tenure, not really any seriously, but I went on a lot of dates. And it's very rare that I was held accountable and like, you know, where I feel like oftentimes there are games that are played that, that are totally predisposed to advantage the man. And I was very much down to lean into that because it advantaged me.

• 16:34Speaker 03

  I was ready to debate. Like I was, I was like waiting for him to be like.

• 16:38Jay Shetty?

  You were up for the challenge.

• 16:38Speaker 03

  Yeah, like here are all the reasons why, like why I'm not ready or whatever. And then I kind of always came into the situation, like we were always able to talk about it. Like you would be overwhelmed with like your work and you thought that because if you're dating somebody, that means that you can't work and have like a career.

• 16:54Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 16:54Speaker 03

  So I was always up for the debate.

• 16:56Jay Shetty?

  Do you want to chime in, Benny?

• 16:57Benny Blanco?

  I just think, I think, no, I was thinking about it because it's like, I think we're actually in. A time where like, I think it's sexy when a woman does that. Like when like, when Selena was doing that to me, like she was just like her, like very much.

• 17:13Speaker 03

  But we would talk about it, Selena and I. We would, I'd be like, you have to go for these, you have to go after them.

• 17:17Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, and, and it made me like, it made me be like, whoa, like it was like, cool. It's like, cool. I was like, oh my God, yeah, I want like, cause you know, Dave is saying like, uh, you know, you know, sometimes when you're dating someone, they might not want to say something to rock the boat. And like, I love when Selena would turn over, it'd be three in the morning and we were dating for like three weeks. And she'd be like, well, what are we? And I was like, what? And then she was like, well, when I go to New York this weekend, what am I going to tell people we are? And I was like, it like, she like caught me so off guard. It's cool to have that dynamic where like both person, both people are like on that same level. And I think, I, I do see it like, I feel like I do, cause a lot of my friends are like that.

• 18:00Benny Blanco?

  Where I see women starting to do that a lot more now. And I think it's, I think it's cool. Like, I think it shows like such a confidence. Like, you know, some people look at it like, some of my friends look at it like, oh, like that's so needy or that's so, I'm like, that's a person telling you exactly what they want. Like, I don't want to play these games like, and when you're.

• 18:18Speaker 03

  And it's okay to be needy. Like, I think it's okay to just exist exactly how you are.

• 18:22Benny Blanco?

  Selena will say that in the morning, she'll say like, she'll be like, today's a needy day. And she'll be, and, and it, when you are with someone who can, because it's so hard when you're trying to play a guessing game. Like when you're trying to talk with your partner who doesn't express themselves, it's so difficult to meet them in the right place. And then they're like harboring all this resentment. But yeah, like Selena will wake up in the morning and she'll say, okay, today's like a needy day. I need you to be like extra nice to me, extra gentle. And then you are set up for success, cause you know what to do.

• 18:54Speaker 03

  I should say on behalf of Dave, like I did trust my instincts, which was that I could tell that Dave. Like, I knew who he was as a person. I knew it was just his anxieties that were kind of like overriding this entire situation. It wasn't like I was like totally shooting in the dark.

• 19:10Speaker 01

  Totally. When I look back on it, like, it is crazy to me that now that I know her and everything, that I wasn't after the first day, week, whatever, being like, oh my God, that's the person I'm gonna... Like, to me, it's so obvious, like, that she is my soulmate.

• 19:23Speaker 03

  But it was good that you were that way.

• 19:25Speaker 01

  But truly, the only reason I didn't see it was because of my own anxieties wouldn't even allow me to see it. Because as soon as we started spending more time together, I was like, she's the funniest, most beautiful, perfect... I couldn't even believe that I was... It was a debate.

• 19:36Speaker 03

  And what I said to myself, I said, I always, I feel like I was in a lot of relationships where I didn't always feel like I was the one that like chased, or I had like all of the agency. And I would, after my last relationship before Dave, I was like, I want to chase the person I marry, and I want to be the one that's like choosing. Because so often, you kind of, I don't know, I felt like so, so many of my past relationships were more like, you know, like you're...

• 20:00Speaker 01

  Yeah, you're being pursued.

• 20:02Speaker 03

  Yeah, or some, or like, it's just easier to stay, whatever, than go... So with Dave, well, before Dave, I was like, I want to like chase my husband. Like, I want to be like, I really know that I want this, not like this is easy.

• 20:14Benny Blanco?

  But I feel like it set them up for such success, because when I look at them, there couldn't be more even in a rela... And like, I feel like that's when a relationship wins. Like, no person has the upper hand in their relationship. There's no like, bad, like, there's like funny, like, banter back and forth, and I love that. But it's like, they truly, like, watching both of them, they truly want each other to win. And, and then that's when, I feel like that's when the relationship works. I've been in relationships where the person is secretly like...

• 20:46Speaker 01

  Competitive.

• 20:46Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, they're like competitive. Or I've been in relationships where something good happens to me, and I'm keeping it from the person because I'm scared. They're, or like, I, I had a time where like, I like won some big award, and I went into a closet to answer the call and be excited because I was too scared.

• 21:03Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 21:04Benny Blanco?

  And like, that's like the worst type of relationship to be in. Like, I want to be in a relationship where like my partner is like... Cares more about like they they like feel like they care more about you than their own thing. And you feel that way too. And you guys are just like the ultimate cheerleader for each other.

• 21:18Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. Well, you guys, I mean, what's amazing, though, is that you guys are living the dream because you guys are best friends. And then your wife and your best friend are really great friends.

• 21:28Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 21:28Jay Shetty?

  And that's so special. And the fact that you guys used to do your birthdays together.

• 21:32Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 21:32Jay Shetty?

  The fact that you also got married in the same year.

• 21:35Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, same month apart. And she's so close to Selena, too.

• 21:39Speaker 03

  Yeah, it's been, it's perfect.

• 21:40Benny Blanco?

  I'm so happy it worked. Like, you know, when you know, when one of your friends dates someone that you're like, ah. And like, and you never, no, it's crazy.

• 21:49Jay Shetty?

  What would you have done? What would you have done?

• 21:50Benny Blanco?

  Oh, my God, I've been that guy. I've dated someone where my friend, I've dated multiple people where, I mean, one time I I broke up with a person I was with. And my friends wanted to throw me a party like, and I said, I said, well, why didn't anyone tell me when I was in it? And they said, what are we supposed to tell you? They said, we made, we made gestures and and and.

• 22:13Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 22:14Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 22:14Jay Shetty?

  Dave, have you ever made gestures to Benny in that way?

• 22:16Speaker 01

  No, I wouldn't.

• 22:17Benny Blanco?

  He has slightly in his own way, not as blunt as some of them.

• 22:20Speaker 01

  I keep it real. If anyone's, I don't care who you are, if anyone's behave, I just like to speak about the facts at hand. So I always.

• 22:26Benny Blanco?

  It's a fact, basically.

• 22:27Speaker 01

  I'm a helping hand with anyone who wants to analyze the facts at hand. But, you know, love is a particular thing that sometimes transcends fact.

• 22:34Benny Blanco?

  Hmm.

• 22:35Speaker 01

  So, pretty good, right, Jay?

• 22:36Jay Shetty?

  That's beautiful.

• 22:37Speaker 03

  Yeah, that's beautiful.

• 22:38Jay Shetty?

  That's like, you've like found something there. You're like, I was like, wow. That is beautiful. I get what you're saying. It's like when you, when you know someone, you have a friend and they're like really into this person.

• 22:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 22:47Jay Shetty?

  You're kind of like, well, maybe there's a part of that I don't want to mess up because they see something I don't see.

• 22:52Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's not your place necessarily to be like, you know, you, I know you love this person, but just so you know.

• 22:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 22:58Speaker 01

  You shouldn't. Yeah, I don't know.

• 23:00Jay Shetty?

  What was it like, though, going from those parties to actually getting married a month apart, like to be at each other's weddings?

• 23:06Benny Blanco?

  High level partying, high level parties.

• 23:08Speaker 03

  No, stressful. We were so tired. I feel like we were all really tired. I was really tired.

• 23:12Speaker 01

  I liked it. I mean, I really enjoyed it. To me, I was like. Our wedding was the best night of our lives and it was so great. And I just remember being so happy that I had his wedding.

• 23:22Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 23:23Speaker 01

  I was like, and the fun isn't done. And I remember telling, I said to her, I said, we should really try to have as much fun as possible because nights don't always have this upside potential of how fun a night can be the way. And like, we just had the most like, very rarely do you go into a night where it has the potential to be the most fun night of your life. And our wedding, of course, had that potential. It felt so good, but it actually was like, you know, I would have called a fact a fact if it was in any way shorter than I would have wanted, especially because we're paying all this goddamn money. But it really was.

• 23:52Speaker 03

  Yeah, it was the best night.

• 23:53Speaker 01

  It was so perfect. And then I just remember being so excited for his and his was perfect and.

• 23:57Speaker 03

  And we had the bachelorette in between.

• 23:59Speaker 01

  Oh, go ahead. Sorry, Chris.

• 24:00Speaker 03

  No, we had like, we had, it was like, we kept saying that we're like kicking off, like it was our wedding and then we had, in between our wedding and their wedding, we each separately went on like, you know, I went to like Selena's and Dave went to Benny's. And then we had, then we had the wedding. So it was like a fun two months.

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• 26:43Jay Shetty?

  Kristen, what was your favorite thing about Benny and Selena's wedding?

• 26:47Speaker 03

  Probably the vows. It's so like watching your close friends get married and like hearing that, what?

• 26:53Speaker 01

  No, no, I was thinking. Remembering how his face moved when he would cry.

• 26:57Speaker 03

  I mean, I couldn't see anything because I was behind a pool, but I heard the vows.

• 27:00Jay Shetty?

  You didn't get like preferred seating or anything?

• 27:02Speaker 03

  I did get the front row seat, but I didn't know if people were gonna sit between me and Benny's family, so I like sat all the way to the side.

• 27:10Speaker 01

  She just had, she had, she had an architectural issue blocking her.

• 27:14Speaker 03

  But that was the best part.

• 27:15Jay Shetty?

  Tell us about the vows.

• 27:16Speaker 03

  The vows were so good and I think, well, and Dave officiated, which I also obviously enjoyed. I just loved hearing, it's like, it was nice to kind of hear them be serious. Like you're not, it's so rare that you're gonna like hear your friends. You know, say their love is like what they're doing in your vows, you know.

• 27:37Speaker 01

  Especially, okay, so my perspective, by the way, couldn't have a better view like they're like, I'm like right there and they're right here.

• 27:42Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 27:43Speaker 01

  And so. Cause you're fishing. Yeah. So. Have you done one before? No. Wow. I've actually never even given a best man's speech. So like the whole thing. And then it's also such a tricky cause like on the, I'm almost giving a best man's speech, but it's also right there at the altar. So you can't even. It's a lot of pressure those things. There was a lot of pressure, but I really felt born for that moment. And it was really, look, Selena, like when the curtain went away and it was her and she started, she like literally, I'm loathe to say that she looked like a princess, but she just looked like a fairy tale, like.

• 28:18Speaker 03

  The sun, it was like the most amazing, the sun like was setting, setting behind her and they had like these beautiful tents. So when she, this is what I did see a little bit of when she was like walking, it was like, it was like majestic.

• 28:30Speaker 01

  Yeah. And like, you know, she pulls out this like, I don't even this.

• 28:34Speaker 03

  Handwritten.

• 28:34Speaker 01

  This hand, this book of scriptures or that is like her vows that were like written by hand and she like lost five days earlier that Benny had, she like wrote her vows for like a year and then she lost them like right before the wedding. No. And then Benny found, she's like pulled it.

• 28:48Benny Blanco?

  Double point.

• 28:49Speaker 01

  Yeah. You found it on the day and she told.

• 28:51Benny Blanco?

  No, I found it a few days before.

• 28:52Speaker 01

  But like her vows are just like, you know, and, and then Benny, like, you know, uh, uh, obviously Benny has a high level of emotional capacity and sensitivity, but he's definitely a joker. And to see him just break like and become just a shell of a man. Wow. Like his face was like, is I never, like when Selena, when the curtain got revealed and she, his face was like.

• 29:21Benny Blanco?

  Cause I was trying not to, okay. So when we did the first look, I was like, oh, oh, that, that, this is easy. I'm not even crying. But when she came out to the music, my face, I was like, I'm not ready to cry this early. So I was like, I was like. Like, I can't even do it. I was like, I recently watched the video back and it's insane.

• 29:43Speaker 01

  It's weird to see someone's face so often and then realize you've never seen their face do a certain thing is a weird feeling to feel. That's amazing. That's amazing.

• 29:52Benny Blanco?

  I'm never nervous and I was before it happened, I all of a sudden got so nervous and like 10 times I was like, should I have them print mine out bigger? Should I do it small? And like I asked them all these questions and then.

• 30:05Speaker 01

  He made me walk out to like, everyone's seated, thinking the thing's about to start and he made me walk out alone, like down the aisle essentially and like double check and he had multiple printouts of the thing already sitting up there.

• 30:18Benny Blanco?

  I remember being so nervous and then for some reason, the second I turned into the room, everything melted away and it was like, I wasn't nervous at all anymore and it was, it was so cool to see. Theirs was like training.

• 30:35Speaker 01

  I was gonna ask.

• 30:36Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, theirs was like training and theirs was, I really can't stress this, it was the best wedding I'd ever been to in my life. I think also it's because it's like the people like I care about, I've never, like I cried so much at their wedding during their vows. I was bawling and you think about your friends, but then like to see them do this thing that's so like final, it was so beautiful and they're both so well spoken and funny, but also serious and like, yeah, I don't usually see Dave serious. I never see Kristen serious. Like we're all those people who kind of like make, like I'll probably be laughing at like my friend's funeral, like, cause I like can't,

• 31:17Benny Blanco?

  like it's, it's, it's, it's like a coping mechanism and to watch them do that was so fun and everything was perfect and I, their week, their wedding was one of the best weekends of my life. And then I was like, oh my God, I have my own to look forward to. And I had that feeling where I was so scared that mine wasn't going to live up to what it was in my head and it was so far beyond what like, the only thing I didn't like is um, cocktail hour. Cause I kept having to say hi to everyone. I said, am I going to be doing this the whole night?

• 31:50Speaker 01

  I tried to get you to do the thing. You didn't want to do it.

• 31:53Speaker 03

  No, we did do it. They did it.

• 31:55Benny Blanco?

  We did do it.

• 31:56Speaker 03

  We did this. We took, we should have, we basically went, Dave and I like had to go to the bathroom. So we, before Benny and Selena had seen.

• 32:04Speaker 01

  Well, first it was our wedding was why I even knew about this.

• 32:06Speaker 03

  Did you do this? Like were they? They take you into the reception before the guests come.

• 32:11Speaker 01

  They pluck you from cocktail hour, five minutes early. Take you to where the band is and where dinner is and they like, let you see it all.

• 32:19Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 32:19Speaker 01

  And the band's playing just for you. And it was like our favorite part of our wedding.

• 32:23Speaker 03

  And then we had to go to the bathroom. So we went into Benny and Selena's before they had seen it. And we were like, oh my God, this is incredible. They have to see it. So we were like, should we pull them away? And pulling them away was like.

• 32:35Benny Blanco?

  It was so hard.

• 32:36Speaker 01

  It was so hard. Like, I thought, you know what? I felt like they were being bombarded. They were, and I was just like, they're missed. They're only gonna, the tenting, that their thing, it was the most beautiful tent.

• 32:44Jay Shetty?

  Oh, and you never got to see it empty?

• 32:46Speaker 01

  No, they're not just seeing, not, not empty, but they, but I, but I made them do it.

• 32:49Speaker 03

  They dragged them.

• 32:50Speaker 01

  I was just like, I just had this instinct that I knew better and that they didn't know.

• 32:54Benny Blanco?

  What was your wedding like?

• 32:55Jay Shetty?

  Gosh.

• 32:55Benny Blanco?

  I think, do I remember this correctly? Was yours like some sort of thing like outside near like a Brit, like?

• 33:01Jay Shetty?

  No, no, no, that was just our photo shoot. That was just our photo shoot afterwards. This year's our 10 year wedding anniversary.

• 33:07Speaker 03

  I was gonna say, when did you get married? Wow. Congrats.

• 33:09Benny Blanco?

  Oh, actually, I don't care about your wedding. I want to know, I want to know this. This is my real question.

• 33:14Jay Shetty?

  This is not your podcast.

• 33:16Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I have a question for you. I have a question.

• 33:19Jay Shetty?

  I have many more questions. Go on.

• 33:20Benny Blanco?

  I got one question.

• 33:21Jay Shetty?

  I'll let you ask one question.

• 33:22Benny Blanco?

  I have one question.

• 33:22Jay Shetty?

  You have one question.

• 33:25Speaker 03

  He's got to think of the question first.

• 33:26Benny Blanco?

  No, no, no, no, no, no. It's such a good question. I just want to word it the right way.

• 33:32Benny Blanco?

  Okay, you're 10 years in.

• 33:35Speaker 01

  Junie, bye Jay.

• 33:37Jay Shetty?

  And my wife.

• 33:38Benny Blanco?

  You're 10 years in. What have you learned in this time that you, that you thought you knew when it was 10 years before? And what do you want like the next 10 years to be like? Yeah.

• 33:51Speaker 01

  Two questions.

• 33:51Jay Shetty?

  Good question. Good question.

• 33:52Benny Blanco?

  Only answer one.

• 33:53Jay Shetty?

  It's similar to the way you're even talking about each other. I feel like you think you love your partner the most you could love them on your wedding day. And then you realize you had no idea how much you could love them. Like 10 years on, it's just like. I thought I loved my wife like the most I could ever love her. And then you actually go through life, you go through challenges, you go through ups and downs. We, we got married, changed jobs, moved country and moved home all in the same year. Wow. And so like we went through so much and I feel like that could either break you or make you closer. And for us, it just brought us closer than the pandemic. We were stuck together every day and it brought us closer and I think that could have been a. So I feel like when you've been through so much life together, you just have so much proof that Yeah.

• 34:36Jay Shetty?

  you love each other through so many different versions of each other. And I think that's the other thing that I feel like I've been in love with a different person in ten years because my wife has been so many different versions of herself. She'll probably say I've been pretty much the same, but I feel, I feel like, I feel like she has changed so many times in beautiful ways. Yeah. And so you're learning to fall in love again. So this idea of, oh, I know your every move and I know everything about you. It's like, I actually don't. Yeah. And I feel like I'm constantly on my toes and because we end up spending a bit of time away from each other every year because of work. I feel like we're still dating, which is really fun, actually. I, I love the fact that we don't see each other all the time. That's important. Then there's a sense of like, I can't wait to get back to you. So. We see each other.

• 35:21Jay Shetty?

  Too much now. All day, every day. Not too much for me, Jay. Never too much for me. I, I, yeah, I was like, I was trying to convince my wife to do a reality show with me because I was like, I just want to be with you all day long. Like that would be my dream. She's like, we're never doing a reality TV show. I'm like, all right, then. Yeah, yeah, thank you. I, I'd watch it. I don't know who else would because there wouldn't be much drama. A lot of people. We'd have to create some drama, like you'd have to find ways, I'd have to in invite drama. We can give you some ideas. Yeah. But did you guys ever think like, we're here to talk about Friends Keep Secrets. The show, not a podcast, not a live stream. Did you ever believe that you guys would be doing a show together?

• 35:59Speaker 03

  I think it makes sense.

• 36:00Speaker 01

  Ever, yes, because we, I don't think we saw, I didn't necessarily see it coming, but it really kind of was this perfect storm of things happening at the right time. And like Kristen was very, she was always, even as I was making Dave, in my, always on TikTok and always being like, there's something that's so rewarding about real human behavior. And she was always kind of on the forefront of knowing that consumption patterns are really changing. And that was something that I really respect her opinion about a lot of things. And that was something that was in my head. And separately, me and Benny had kind of just flirted with the idea of a podcast for years, but I never really saw it as a thing that I wanted to do. And More changed.

• 36:44Speaker 03

  I think one day I was like, but what if like we like rigged our house? And what if you take the same like creativity that the two of you have and you try to change what this is versus trying to like fit the mold of what everything else is? And I feel like that's when you were, and I think Benny like separately had the same idea because we all got on the phone and he was like, yeah, we can literally, like he was like, I was, so I just think it was a perfect storm for you to be like, oh, this is exciting.

• 37:10Speaker 01

  Once I started thinking about the potential to reinvent things and make things different, then I got really excited about it. And then only when we started doing it, did I, did I really like fall in love with everything because I say this to them all the time. My, me even going for it as a comedic presence only happened because I was trying to entertain my friends and be like the funny guy to my friends. And that is my, when I am the happiest, when I'm around my best friends and I'm like seeking the joke and trying to make them laugh. And then I went for it. I try, you know, I became a comedian, made my show Dave and like a show like Dave, it requires so much like hard work. I believe it. It's a great show. And like everything that seems like it's all so fun and light and like the amount

• 37:55Speaker 01

  of brain power that goes into executing it is so next level that actually making the show Dave. Can be torturous. Whereas as soon as we started doing this, I've never had more. It's just like I was the inner child and it was like now having fun with my best friends again. And then even seeing the footage of it and understanding how it all was working. To me, I think back to Kristen's original thesis, there's nothing more compelling. I think COVID actually caused this because the shows stopped being made. And people were just at home and then TikTok was blowing up and we were just seeing over and over again, human beings being themselves and being really entertaining and fun to watch. And so I think at the end of the day, things are only as good as the characters that are there.

• 38:40Speaker 01

  And we're just being ourselves. And there really is nothing pure than like having a great time with your best friends. And it's all, everything that's happening is so real and organic. And like they're like, the amount of hard laughs that are happening with all three of us as we're filming it is, I've been talking for a long time. I'm realizing. It was making a lot of, it was resonating. I realize how long I've been talking. No, I like.

• 39:02Jay Shetty?

  I allow for that space on the show.

• 39:04Speaker 01

  Yeah, he allows. Okay.

• 39:06Jay Shetty?

  I still remember the first call when you called me up and I was like,

• 39:08Speaker 01

  I do too.

• 39:08Jay Shetty?

  I think me and, you know, me and Dave and Kristen want to start this show. And in my head, I was like, oh, great. You know, we'll put some microphones down. We're going to sit down. It'll be another interview show. You guys will have great guests. And then as these things evolved, I was just like, your guys' creative vision, the way you're shifting up the industry, the way this show is gonna change the way people think about what a podcast is, what an interview is, it's amazing. And, and honestly, it's been such a joy, like seeing you guys put in the work, put in the hustle. But also the most important thing is I feel like whenever I've seen you, I, I, I got to walk into one of your episodes when I was coming to do a photo shoot.

• 39:44Speaker 01

  I love that.

• 39:45Jay Shetty?

  But then I just got to walk in to an episode, which is insane.

• 39:48Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 39:49Jay Shetty?

  And, and I'm like, I couldn't believe just how crazy, real, authentic. And, and you know, people throw those words around.

• 39:55Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 39:55Jay Shetty?

  So I don't even like using those words because nowadays everyone's like, oh, it's so authentic. It's so this. It's not even that. It's just is what it is. Like, it is just three friends.

• 40:04Speaker 01

  We don't even know what's coming.

• 40:05Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 40:05Speaker 01

  We're getting these random conversations and arguments that are become so passionate that I feel like anyone watching a group or anyone in their own group of friends is able to relate to. Like, it's really just us kind of living and existing, and it's a fly on the wall observation of that.

• 40:20Jay Shetty?

  I think what's fascinating about it on a more thoughtful level is one of the things I'm trying to do with the work I'm that we're putting out in the world is trying to make people feel less alone. And and I feel like this show makes people feel less alone.

• 40:31Speaker 01

  She always says there's a loneliness epidemic.

• 40:35Speaker 03

  Well, because there is. But I felt like I realized I do think after COVID, like, all of our social lives have slowed down. Or if they haven't, there was like, there was definitely like a period where socializing beyond the anxiety of like COVID kind of create that there was like a learning curve to kind of get back into it and putting yourself out there. And I really resonate with like TikTok. And it's not like I love watching people in like Michigan or like random state, you know, like home videos essentially of like people hanging out. And I feel like one cool thing about us is, I mean, especially Benny, not Dave is cool, but like, I feel like when we met Benny, you are such a good host. You always like have us over and like we have so much fun and we meet new people.

• 41:16Speaker 03

  And I think we now have the opportunity to like bring people into that experience, which is what I like on TikTok.

• 41:24Benny Blanco?

  I'll tell you something. I was I was with my friend the other day. And we were hanging out and he was he like just went through a breakup. You know, I don't ever watch myself back. I'm not like a guy that does that. I don't like once it's there, it's there. I like I'll ask my manager. I'll say, hey, did I say something stupid? And I'll be like, ah, this was stupid. And I'll say, OK, take it out. Like, I'm not like a I don't want to. I can't do that in any like, I don't want to look at a magazine. I don't want to do any of that. But my friend wasn't feeling great. And I said, let me put on an episode of of our new show. And I put it on. And at first, he's like staring at it and he's.

• 42:07Benny Blanco?

  Laughing uncontrollably and he's like, just like following along to everything. And it got to the point where we started having our normal conversation and it's just playing in the background. And it's just like, it just, we were like in it, but then we'd go do our own thing and then we'd come back to it. And we were like, it was so cool to have, it's like a constant friend in the corner. And it was like, whenever there was like a lull in the conversation, we would just start watching.

• 42:36Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that's the thing.

• 42:37Benny Blanco?

  Again, and it was, and it, and we were laughing and we would like pause it and then talk about like our own stories. We were like, oh my God, that reminds me of, and to me, I feel like we live in a world where there's constantly so much static and noise of like not great things. And I feel like there's a way to put something good into the earth without like pushing like, pushing it down people's throats, like trying to do like some educational, like it's, it's like when we did earth. Like we made earth and it had a really good sentiment behind it, but it was talking about like your penis and a baboon's butt. Like it's like, like I think there's a way

• 43:21Benny Blanco?

  to do something good for the world and not take yourself so seriously. And we talk about real life shit on this podcast. It's not a podcast, but.

• 43:30Jay Shetty?

  I was waiting for that, Dave.

• 43:31Benny Blanco?

  He's thinking.

• 43:32Jay Shetty?

  You missed your cue.

• 43:33Speaker 01

  It's not only.

• 43:35Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, it's multimedia.

• 43:37Speaker 03

  Yeah, he wants to change the name to multimedia.

• 43:39Jay Shetty?

  Multimedia.

• 43:40Speaker 01

  No one liked it but me.

• 43:41Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, right.

• 43:42Jay Shetty?

  It seems a bit like nineties.

• 43:44Speaker 01

  It's cool. It's classic, vintage.

• 43:46Jay Shetty?

  Vintage.

• 43:46Speaker 01

  No one wants it though, so it's still friends keep secrets.

• 43:49Jay Shetty?

  Oh, you wanted to change the name to multimedia?

• 43:52Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 43:52Speaker 03

  He like sent a serious text the other day.

• 43:54Jay Shetty?

  That's amazing. I never got that text.

• 43:55Benny Blanco?

  I just.

• 43:57Speaker 03

  It hadn't made it to you. Yeah. It got shot down.

• 44:00Speaker 01

  It's not the right idea.

• 44:01Speaker 03

  I don't even think Benny replied.

• 44:02Jay Shetty?

  No, but that's what I love about what you guys can do. Like you guys are doing something that not a lot of people can do. You guys can have fun, be ridiculous, talk about crazy stuff and have a moral message to wrap it up with, which is insane. Or not. And I think that's the beautiful thing that you're making people feel close. But for you, Dave, like you're working with your wife and your best friend.

• 44:21Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 44:21Jay Shetty?

  In the same space.

• 44:22Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 44:23Jay Shetty?

  I feel like you have the hardest job. Because that sounds.

• 44:26Speaker 01

  I've been hearing you say that, Jay.

• 44:27Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I just wanted to empathize. I was like, take a moment to acknowledge that. You're, you're in the middle. Like how, how does? Working with friends, loved ones is hard anyway.

• 44:36Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, Chuck.

• 44:37Jay Shetty?

  How were you?

• 44:38Speaker 03

  Yeah, Chuck.

• 44:39Benny Blanco?

  How are you managing it?

• 44:40Speaker 01

  Look, I really had no fear going into it because I just know both of them so well. And I've, I just feel like I, I wouldn't become this close with anyone if they, if the person couldn't analyze whatever facts at hand that are and talk about them fairly, logically, whatever. So I'm, we getting little spats and arguments all the time.

• 45:03Jay Shetty?

  What's the roles usually? Who starts the fight? Who continues it?

• 45:06Speaker 01

  All three of us are equally annoying to all three, like.

• 45:09Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 45:10Speaker 01

  It really varies and all of us do different things.

• 45:11Benny Blanco?

  I love, but I love all of them. They're so fun.

• 45:14Speaker 01

  But I just, I just, sorry.

• 45:15Speaker 03

  No, go on.

• 45:17Speaker 01

  I just, I just know that there's really no argument or moment that could ever be the type of thing that we couldn't logically talk about it and arrive at the facts at hand. So ultimately I have no fear. I also have a pretty high tolerance for like understanding him, understanding her, understanding when to leave things be. And I think all of us kind of do them. We're all so close that, I don't know, for me, it's literally like I work so hard that nothing makes me happier than getting to work so hard and hang out with my best friend and wife while doing it.

• 45:46Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 45:46Speaker 03

  And I think we all communicate the same way. Like we can kind of get like revved up and get like, not aggressive, but passionate.

• 45:55Benny Blanco?

  We're all aggressive.

• 45:56Speaker 03

  But we don't take it like, I feel like we'll do it. And then like two seconds later, we'll be like, we'll be fine. And I think that's like, it's unique to kind of find people that communicate the same way that you do in these moments. I mean, we can definitely get on each other's nerves, but it's never like, like it's never like taken personal.

• 46:11Benny Blanco?

  Really? I'm never mad at any guy.

• 46:12Speaker 03

  That's what I'm saying.

• 46:13Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 46:14Speaker 01

  No, you are annoyed. You get annoyed.

• 46:16Benny Blanco?

  No, but I'm never, it's like what she's saying. It's like, it's like the second, the conversation.

• 46:20Speaker 01

  No one's ever mad at anyone.

• 46:21Speaker 03

  We get revved up together.

• 46:23Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 46:23Benny Blanco?

  Like, I don't think I could ever like, be like, actually really angry at you guys. Like, I don't think that could ever be a thing. Well, also, none of us are that type of person.

• 46:33Speaker 01

  Yeah, I agree.

• 46:34Benny Blanco?

  He's only been angry at me one time in his entire life. And the reason was, we were coming home from Coachella and he was really tired and he hadn't slept in the type of like situation. He hadn't had a full night's sleep in a few days and he needs a full night's sleep. And he's getting his stuff out of the car and I'm getting my stuff out of the car. And I kind of like, like kicked his knee or something and, and.

• 46:58Speaker 01

  Intentionally.

• 46:59Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I can't even remember.

• 47:00Speaker 01

  I think you like.

• 47:01Benny Blanco?

  I like was like, yeah.

• 47:02Speaker 01

  Like he like pushed me from behind playfully.

• 47:04Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I was like pushing him like as a joke and he was like.

• 47:07Speaker 01

  No, no, no. No, he pushed me playfully.

• 47:10Benny Blanco?

  Oh, yeah, you hit your shin.

• 47:11Speaker 01

  And my shin hit like the car and hurt so much. My shin.

• 47:17Benny Blanco?

  And he goes, get off of me. And he was mad and then I laughed at him. It was he was angry for about 15 seconds.

• 47:24Speaker 01

  So how do you guys make decisions then?

• 47:27Speaker 01

  Group conversation.

• 47:28Speaker 03

  Group conversation. It can get, it got.

• 47:29Speaker 01

  There's a vote?

• 47:30Speaker 03

  No, it gets revved up. It got revved up the other day.

• 47:33Benny Blanco?

  I like to bring the vote in, but she she'll never insert her opinion.

• 47:36Speaker 03

  I don't want the vote. I want us to talk it out, talk it through.

• 47:38Benny Blanco?

  He likes the we we.

• 47:41Speaker 01

  So it's a two out of three like the vote.

• 47:42Speaker 03

  I definitely think what what I I've noticed that I do sometimes feel this isn't like a bad thing. I can tell that I'm like a little bit more sensitive than the two of them. Like I think it's like a guy girl thing. Maybe not. I don't want to make such an assumption, but I I would say that like. I would say that I am the more sensitive one of the three of us. Would you guys not?

• 48:02Benny Blanco?

  Well, I'm not sensitive. I'm not sensitive about that type of stuff. Like I'm that sensitive, like I'm crying in a movie, a song. Like, yeah, I'm not sensitive and I don't think Dave is either. Like if someone is just like, like I want someone to tell me also in the studio all like. I don't like the sugar coating. Like just be if someone's just like, oh, like that that didn't work. Let's do this. I'm like, oh, great. Like, let's try it again.

• 48:23Speaker 03

  I like that, too. I'm chill.

• 48:26Benny Blanco?

  No, you're sensitive. Well, you're sensitive in a diff. She's sensitive in a different way that I get.

• 48:31Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 48:31Benny Blanco?

  Like me and Dave have been doing this. We've been in the foreground, putting ourselves out there for many, many years. This is Kristen's like first thing. This is like everyone's first impression on her is like. It's not like she's like back in the day where like it would be like Michael Jackson would perform once. And you'd be like, man, I wonder what he's like as a guy. There was like no other media. We're seeing like every like nook and cranny like she like she like.

• 48:58Speaker 03

  I'm sweating.

• 48:58Benny Blanco?

  She'll burp or be like sweat. Yeah, and she's so. Honest and it's so rare that you see. It's funny. I I like her and Selena. I see why they're such good friends because it's like there's so many similarities where like. I feel like sometimes, like you and Selena have this thing where you're both like so brutally honest about how you're feeling. And it's like, it's so comedic, too. It's like funny. It's like hard. I like can't explain it. Yeah, like you just saying like you're sweating. Like, I feel like most like, especially because you guys are like so well put together.

• 49:34Speaker 03

  I'm nothing like.

• 49:35Benny Blanco?

  No, no, but like Selena will say the same thing. She'll be like, I'm sweating and I'm having like an anxiety attack right now. Like, and I love that about you guys. And I do feel like there's also a lot of yous out there. And I think like, you're gonna inspire people so much because.

• 49:53Speaker 03

  I wouldn't go that far.

• 49:54Benny Blanco?

  No, but you wear your insecurities on your sleeve in a cool way. And I like it. I love it. I love it.

• 50:00Speaker 03

  I like that it's cool.

• 50:09Jay Shetty?

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• 52:04Jay Shetty?

  How does it feel for you, Kristin? Like, obviously, this is a big deal. It is the first time you're gonna be...

• 52:08Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 52:09Jay Shetty?

  This is the first interview you're doing, right?

• 52:11Speaker 03

  I almost didn't come. I was gonna say that I had the stomach flu.

• 52:13Jay Shetty?

  No!

• 52:14Speaker 03

  I was like thinking of all... I would have taken that so fast. And you would have known. Well, I wouldn't have... Well, you shouldn't have.

• 52:20Benny Blanco?

  We would have had more room.

• 52:22Speaker 03

  No, but I knew that... No, I actually like this interview. I'm doing fine.

• 52:26Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 52:27Speaker 03

  There is like a spit bubble that keeps coming through my teeth.

• 52:29Benny Blanco?

  Let me see, smile?

• 52:30Speaker 03

  That's a little bit hard. No one else is seeing it.

• 52:32Jay Shetty?

  Can't see anything.

• 52:32Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah.

• 52:34Benny Blanco?

  Right before we did this, she had a full thing of lip sick across her whole mouth, and I told her right before.

• 52:40Speaker 03

  Yeah, I got it off.

• 52:41Jay Shetty?

  Has an argument ever lasted longer than the recording of one of the episodes?

• 52:44Speaker 03

  No.

• 52:44Benny Blanco?

  No. Is anyone's butt asleep?

• 52:47Jay Shetty?

  No.

• 52:47Speaker 03

  No, you gotta reposition yourself.

• 52:48Jay Shetty?

  Do you wanna have a little walk around?

• 52:49Benny Blanco?

  No, no.

• 52:50Jay Shetty?

  You can if you want.

• 52:50Benny Blanco?

  No, I don't wanna be...

• 52:51Jay Shetty?

  I can chat to these two.

• 52:52Benny Blanco?

  No, I can't be the first man to ever...

• 52:54Speaker 03

  Just reposition your butt.

• 52:55Benny Blanco?

  Jay said that nobody has ever used the bathroom during an interview ever, except him, once.

• 53:04Jay Shetty?

  With Kevin Hart, I felt so embarrassed.

• 53:06Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I can't...

• 53:07Jay Shetty?

  Kevin, do you mind if I use the bathroom?

• 53:08Speaker 03

  And then did you use this one?

• 53:09Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, the one back there.

• 53:11Benny Blanco?

  You know, I always ask people, like, I always wonder, like.

• 53:14Speaker 03

  Do they use the bathroom?

• 53:15Benny Blanco?

  No, like, when, like, Adele is performing, like, is she ever just like, oh, my gosh, I ate something cra- like, like, does, like, like, does anyone have to poop ever?

• 53:26Jay Shetty?

  Well, doing the best, like, find a routine for moments in their life, right? Like, that's how athletes play.

• 53:30Benny Blanco?

  My stuff is always right before.

• 53:32Speaker 03

  I have to go to the bath- like, I pee when I'm nervous, which is so nice for our podcast, because I get up and go to the bathroom, like, I would say, like, four times an episode.

• 53:40Jay Shetty?

  You also hydrate well, though.

• 53:41Speaker 03

  Not really. Honestly, yeah, I had to as soon as I sat down, but I've already gone. It's just nerves. Like, it's like, to me, it's a nerve-based thing. It's not actually, I don't know.

• 53:50Speaker 01

  Chuck, do you think your pee's nerve-based? It's not pee, but I I'm surprised at how often I'll have to poop, like, thirty minutes before a concert.

• 53:57Jay Shetty?

  Oh, yeah, yeah, that makes sense. I can relate to that. I can relate to that.

• 54:00Speaker 03

  What is that, nerves? That's all your nerves?

• 54:01Benny Blanco?

  A hundred percent, a hundred percent. Evacuate before. And when I used to, like.

• 54:05Jay Shetty?

  I do it before, five minutes before going on stage.

• 54:07Speaker 03

  Really?

• 54:07Benny Blanco?

  When I was, when I was younger, when I, like, first, like, really in New York, like, first got on the dating scene, I used to, anytime I was gonna have a date with a girl, and she was about to come over and we were gonna leave, I would, like, I'd have to poop, like, two minutes before. It would happen every time, until, like, I got really comfortable with it. And I would, and I would be, I would be honest. Like, I used to use that as one of my, like, icebreakers, or like, my other.

• 54:37Speaker 03

  You think you had to poop?

• 54:38Benny Blanco?

  No, I would just, like, be, like, my other icebreaker, I would say, is I would say, I don't usually do this, these, but what's the worst thing you've ever done in your entire life? And then we'd both say the worst thing we ever did in our whole life, and I'd be like, okay, now I feel like I know you, and I also have blackmail on you in case, like, this doesn't go well.

• 54:58Jay Shetty?

  How did you come up with that? Did it work?

• 55:00Speaker 03

  No.

• 55:01Jay Shetty?

  Did it break the ice?

• 55:01Benny Blanco?

  I didn't do it with, I didn't do it with Selena.

• 55:03Jay Shetty?

  There you go.

• 55:04Benny Blanco?

  I feel like you always think, like, I, like, through dating, I was like, oh, like, I met my soulmate, or like, oh, I met the person I could spend the rest of my life with, but it's so different when you actually meet the person that you are gonna spend the rest of your life with. It was such a different feeling. And all, and I, like, went back, and I was like, whoa, those feelings when I was younger, like, it was so different, because it just clicks. You know what I'm saying? It clicks in a different way.

• 55:29Jay Shetty?

  What's Selena's reaction when she sees you cry at the altar, like, on the wedding day? Like, what's her reaction to that? Trying to compare it to Rudi's reaction of me crying.

• 55:39Benny Blanco?

  I think she cried and then while it was all going on, we were laughing and just like talking to each other. Like while everything was happening, I've cried, I've cried in front of her plenty of times. Not, I, I cry, I cry.

• 55:55Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I'm a cry.

• 55:56Benny Blanco?

  I'm a Pisces, I'm a little fish.

• 55:58Jay Shetty?

  Oh, you're a Pisces?

• 55:59Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 56:00Jay Shetty?

  Dude, that, that makes sense now.

• 56:01Benny Blanco?

  Why are you a Pisces?

• 56:02Jay Shetty?

  No, all my, all my closest male friends are Pisces.

• 56:05Benny Blanco?

  Really? What are you?

• 56:06Jay Shetty?

  I'm a, I'm a Virgo.

• 56:07Benny Blanco?

  Oh, that's my mom is Virgo.

• 56:09Speaker 03

  I'm a Virgo, but I don't really identify. I'm on the cusp.

• 56:12Jay Shetty?

  I'm pretty cool, I'm pretty cool.

• 56:14Benny Blanco?

  You're like my mom, you do have similar.

• 56:16Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I'm very Virgo.

• 56:16Speaker 03

  When's your birthday?

• 56:18Jay Shetty?

  Six September.

• 56:18Speaker 01

  Have you ever had like a person on here that's an expert at all that type of stuff?

• 56:22Jay Shetty?

  Yes, I had an astrology expert, Charlie Necco's a couple of weeks ago.

• 56:25Speaker 01

  And did that, did that person make you feel like it's actual kind of scientific fact? Cause I'm, you know, whenever anyone brings up sign or anything, I want to be like, what the are we talking? Like that stuff's so unconsensual, but then there are so many times where it seems spot on. Did that expert say that it's real?

• 56:44Jay Shetty?

  You should have them on.

• 56:44Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, we should.

• 56:45Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that would be really cool.

• 56:46Speaker 03

  Yeah, I would like that.

• 56:47Jay Shetty?

  I think you'd ask different questions, right?

• 56:48Benny Blanco?

  Well, give us a, give us a Cliff Notes.

• 56:49Speaker 03

  You know what, well, you go.

• 56:51Jay Shetty?

  The Cliff Notes is, I'm, I'm kind of like you, so I, I have an understanding of like Eastern astrology, which is very deeply scientific. The number of astrologers that are available are non-existent now, like it's hard, but it does exist. And I've heard people tell me crazy things like predict, they predicted like how many kids they would have and the first name of their partner and all that kind of stuff. And then you have what we have today where you have horoscopes, which of course the daily horoscope you read is like kind of made up.

• 57:18Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 57:18Jay Shetty?

  And so it's kind of finding that balance. Her take was there's lots of truth to it. It's all based on the planets and how they align. There's lots of ways of checking the system and making sure that it's valuable insight. But the amount of people that are actually doing that today are very little. So it's almost like there's a lot of mics, not enough real MCs, maybe?

• 57:37Speaker 01

  I feel like when I moved to LA, the amount of people that. Seem to operate off of that having so much consequence. Bloom like I I feel like I'm on an island is the only guy who's like this isn't real.

• 57:49Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I've just bought a weird pattern that all my best male friends are born in March.

• 57:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 57:54Jay Shetty?

  Like it's just a strange.

• 57:55Benny Blanco?

  I was also born in March, Jay.

• 57:56Jay Shetty?

  We haven't had enough time yet, but I'm looking forward to it. But seriously, my my best one growing up was fourteenth of March. My best friend who's my best man at the wedding, sixteenth of March.

• 58:04Speaker 01

  I'm fifteen.

• 58:05Jay Shetty?

  My closest friend in L A is eighteenth of March.

• 58:07Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 58:07Jay Shetty?

  Like it's just, it's crazy.

• 58:09Benny Blanco?

  And I'm eighth of March.

• 58:10Jay Shetty?

  Same as my sister, I'm really good friends with.

• 58:12Benny Blanco?

  Eighth of March?

• 58:13Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 58:14Speaker 03

  Do Pisces and Virgos click?

• 58:16Jay Shetty?

  Well, I assume so, so many.

• 58:17Benny Blanco?

  I know Pisces and Cancer is really that's Selena's cancer.

• 58:21Jay Shetty?

  Thanks.

• 58:22Speaker 01

  We gotta talk to that person.

• 58:23Jay Shetty?

  Well, yeah, well, maybe you should have them on the show.

• 58:24Speaker 01

  We should.

• 58:25Jay Shetty?

  All right. What I wanted to do is I wanted to play a game that we created for you. So your show is called Friends Keep Secrets.

• 58:30Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 58:31Jay Shetty?

  We came up with Friends Don't Keep Secrets, really creative. It was like, you know, but we played a couples game with Benny. So we thought we'd play a throuples game with with you guys.

• 58:40Speaker 03

  Fun. I love games.

• 58:41Jay Shetty?

  I'm gonna give you one of these.

• 58:43Benny Blanco?

  I love this.

• 58:44Jay Shetty?

  We did this. From Benny and Selena, there we go. This is all about Kristen first.

• 58:49Speaker 03

  Oh, cool.

• 58:50Jay Shetty?

  So the way this work is the players will write down their partners' potential answers to questions before comparing answers. So this is all about Kristen. We're both gonna guess, we're all gonna guess what hopefully Kristen writes down.

• 59:01Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 59:01Jay Shetty?

  And then we're gonna see.

• 59:02Speaker 03

  And I.

• 59:03Jay Shetty?

  And then we're gonna do each of you. And you write down your answer.

• 59:05Speaker 01

  So we're writing down what we think Kristen is writing.

• 59:06Jay Shetty?

  Correct, correct. If Kristen could change one thing about Dave, what would it be?

• 59:11Speaker 01

  I always had a fear of playing this type of.

• 59:13Benny Blanco?

  Hold on, hold on, hold on.

• 59:14Jay Shetty?

  Why?

• 59:14Speaker 01

  Hold on. Cause I just would feel bad about like, do I not know anything about the people that I'm so close with?

• 59:19Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 59:20Speaker 01

  But I am confident.

• 59:22Speaker 03

  In your answer? I feel like you know this answer.

• 59:23Jay Shetty?

  It's also fun. Like it's not like a.

• 59:25Benny Blanco?

  Okay.

• 59:26Speaker 03

  I literally say it out loud all the time.

• 59:28Benny Blanco?

  So. Mine's two.

• 59:29Jay Shetty?

  So the question is, if Kristen could change one thing about Dave, what would it be? Kristen, please reveal your answer. Read it to us.

• 59:34Speaker 03

  That he likes wine.

• 59:36Speaker 01

  What? I don't like wine. No.

• 59:38Speaker 03

  The one thing I would change would be that you like to drink wine. You don't like wine.

• 59:42Benny Blanco?

  Change it. I don't think you understand.

• 59:44Speaker 01

  Hold on. Shouldn't she be?

• 59:46Jay Shetty?

  No, if Kristen could change one thing about Dave, what would it be? She would change that you would like wine.

• 59:50Speaker 03

  That you would enjoy drinking wine.

• 59:51Speaker 01

  That I don't like wine.

• 59:52Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 59:53Speaker 01

  Correct.

• 59:53Speaker 03

  Correct.

• 59:54Jay Shetty?

  So what did you write?

• 59:55Speaker 01

  I thought this was definitely the answer. How I chew and smack my lips when I eat.

• 59:59Speaker 03

  Oh.

• 59:59Benny Blanco?

  Mine was going on dates or being more fun.

• 1:00:04Speaker 01

  What?

• 1:00:05Jay Shetty?

  This is amazing.

• 1:00:06Speaker 03

  Well, I think that they're all.

• 1:00:08Speaker 01

  I was certain she was gonna put that.

• 1:00:09Benny Blanco?

  I thought you, I was a hundred percent sure you were gonna say that.

• 1:00:12Speaker 03

  I mean, I literally say this all the time. I say, I wish you drank wine.

• 1:00:15Speaker 01

  I mean, wine is kind of in, in the same world as that.

• 1:00:18Benny Blanco?

  Being fine. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 1:00:19Speaker 03

  The reason I didn't, I don't write this is.

• 1:00:21Speaker 01

  Did you think about that?

• 1:00:22Speaker 03

  No, but you're also really good about not getting annoyed when I get annoyed with you about that.

• 1:00:26Benny Blanco?

  But were you thinking about mine a little too? Well, I guess you were.

• 1:00:28Speaker 03

  I figured, I figured yours would be that.

• 1:00:30Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:00:31Speaker 03

  I knew what he was gonna write.

• 1:00:32Speaker 01

  Right. My mom has been complaining about the way that I smack my lips my whole life.

• 1:00:36Speaker 03

  Well, you have a little bit of a problem.

• 1:00:38Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:00:39Benny Blanco?

  Okay, what's our next?

• 1:00:39Jay Shetty?

  All right, okay. So the next one is, what's something Benny and Kristen always side with each other on that drives Dave crazy?

• 1:00:47Speaker 03

  Actually, I'll just keep mine. There's two. There's two that I actually know.

• 1:00:51Benny Blanco?

  Okay, who, she's going for?

• 1:00:52Jay Shetty?

  So the question was, what's something Benny and Kristen always side with each other on that drives Dave crazy? Kristen, please reveal your answer.

• 1:00:58Speaker 03

  Okay, I have two. The second, the second one that I'm about to say I know he'll get mad about.

• 1:01:03Jay Shetty?

  So you don't have to say it, Dave?

• 1:01:04Speaker 03

  Okay. Well, I like to stir the pot.

• 1:01:06Benny Blanco?

  You can say both of them.

• 1:01:07Speaker 03

  Okay, one, working less.

• 1:01:09Benny Blanco?

  Oh, that was.

• 1:01:09Speaker 03

  Two, his, I would say, putting music on?

• 1:01:14Benny Blanco?

  No.

• 1:01:14Speaker 01

  Oh. No, Benny's on my side.

• 1:01:16Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I'm on Dave's side. Well, I'm some more.

• 1:01:19Speaker 01

  No, you're on my side.

• 1:01:20Benny Blanco?

  Coming off nicer while texting.

• 1:01:22Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 1:01:22Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 1:01:23Benny Blanco?

  That's what I thought it was gonna be.

• 1:01:24Speaker 03

  I forgot about that.

• 1:01:26Speaker 01

  I wrote that I can be too hands-on, right?

• 1:01:29Benny Blanco?

  No, I love that you're.

• 1:01:30Speaker 03

  We're not. We don't care about that.

• 1:01:31Speaker 01

  Wait, look, this is nice. This is good feedback.

• 1:01:33Speaker 03

  We love your hands-on.

• 1:01:34Speaker 01

  No.

• 1:01:35Benny Blanco?

  I thought you were gonna, I thought one of you guys was gonna say mine.

• 1:01:37Speaker 03

  Are we bad at this game?

• 1:01:38Jay Shetty?

  No, you're good. No, this is good. It's a hard game. It's meant to be hard. It's meant to be challenging.

• 1:01:42Speaker 01

  Yeah, it should be hard.

• 1:01:43Speaker 03

  We're learning new things about our, about each other that we didn't know.

• 1:01:45Speaker 01

  The texting was a good guess.

• 1:01:47Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:01:47Jay Shetty?

  And the things is you're, you're, the things that you think you're, that people don't like you, actually, they love it.

• 1:01:51Speaker 01

  Yeah, that is nice, Jay.

• 1:01:52Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:01:53Speaker 03

  We love you, Mochi.

• 1:01:54Speaker 01

  I love you guys.

• 1:01:54Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. All right. When was the last time Kristen admitted that she was wrong?

• 1:02:00Speaker 03

  What makes you think I'm ever wrong?

• 1:02:04Benny Blanco?

  There's too much wavering to know because she'll go up and down about the right and wrong.

• 1:02:10Speaker 03

  Depends on what mood I'm in. I would say.

• 1:02:14Speaker 03

  I would say, I think.

• 1:02:15Benny Blanco?

  I can't remember.

• 1:02:17Speaker 03

  I'm just gonna have a little.

• 1:02:19Speaker 01

  Do you know something?

• 1:02:21Jay Shetty?

  You can give a timeframe.

• 1:02:22Speaker 03

  Yeah, I'm doing that.

• 1:02:23Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, good. Yeah, like last month, 10 years ago.

• 1:02:25Speaker 03

  They're gonna.

• 1:02:26Jay Shetty?

  12 years ago, 12 months ago.

• 1:02:29Speaker 03

  I mean, I don't even know if I'm actually wrong.

• 1:02:32Jay Shetty?

  You could write that down if you want.

• 1:02:33Speaker 03

  I'm trying to think. I mean, I'm so infrequently wrong.

• 1:02:40Jay Shetty?

  I love it.

• 1:02:41Speaker 03

  I really, it's hard to catch me.

• 1:02:44Jay Shetty?

  I like the thinking going on. This is good.

• 1:02:46Benny Blanco?

  She's wrong.

• 1:02:47Jay Shetty?

  When was the last time she goes, Benny, you know what? I'm wrong. I admit it.

• 1:02:50Speaker 03

  Well, we filmed, there was a time that we filmed something.

• 1:02:54Benny Blanco?

  Only if she's caught in the act on the like.

• 1:03:00Speaker 03

  Only if I see the footage.

• 1:03:01Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:02Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah, that is, that is, I know. Yeah. It's just a specific argument.

• 1:03:06Speaker 03

  What's the argument?

• 1:03:07Benny Blanco?

  There's a bunch. Yeah, there's a few. Yeah.

• 1:03:10Speaker 03

  What was I, oh, I don't know if I'm wrong. I have to see the footage.

• 1:03:12Benny Blanco?

  We saw the footage.

• 1:03:14Speaker 01

  Basically.

• 1:03:15Benny Blanco?

  No, you don't even need to. It doesn't matter.

• 1:03:16Speaker 03

  I'm free.

• 1:03:18Speaker 01

  I won't get into details.

• 1:03:19Benny Blanco?

  Too much nuance.

• 1:03:20Speaker 01

  Basically, they got in an argument that Kristen was claiming that Benny kind of.

• 1:03:27Benny Blanco?

  Said something.

• 1:03:28Speaker 01

  Brought something up to get under her skin.

• 1:03:31Jay Shetty?

  Right.

• 1:03:32Speaker 01

  And Benny was like, you're the one who brought this thing up in the first place.

• 1:03:35Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah, yeah.

• 1:03:35Speaker 01

  And she was like, no, I wasn't. And then we went into the control room and we said, play us back the, or how we even got here. And then we watched the footage as we're filming the thing. And Kristen did actually bring it up. She brought it up.

• 1:03:47Benny Blanco?

  You'll see what we're talking about.

• 1:03:50Speaker 01

  Yeah, he was so happy.

• 1:03:51Speaker 03

  I brought it up, but I, but, but, you know.

• 1:03:54Benny Blanco?

  No, but I get it. I get her. I get her side as well. I get her side as well. Okay, next one.

• 1:03:58Jay Shetty?

  We did good. All right, all right. We're gonna switch to Dave now. So it's all about Dave.

• 1:04:01Benny Blanco?

  Bread and butter.

• 1:04:02Jay Shetty?

  Who does Dave trust most for honest feedback? Not just in the group, in the world.

• 1:04:09Speaker 01

  I know exactly what you're doing.

• 1:04:11Benny Blanco?

  What?

• 1:04:11Speaker 01

  Well, I think I know what you're, what is going through your brain.

• 1:04:15Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah.

• 1:04:16Speaker 01

  But to me, the answer is actually pretty simple.

• 1:04:18Speaker 03

  The answer is.

• 1:04:21Speaker 03

  Answers.

• 1:04:22Jay Shetty?

  All right. So the question was, who does Dave trust most for honest feedback? Dave, please reveal.

• 1:04:27Speaker 01

  Benny and Kristen is the answer to that question. Now, I know they both probably think Jack and Henry.

• 1:04:32Speaker 03

  No.

• 1:04:32Benny Blanco?

  What?

• 1:04:32Speaker 01

  Oh.

• 1:04:33Benny Blanco?

  I said.

• 1:04:34Jay Shetty?

  What did you write?

• 1:04:35Benny Blanco?

  I said me and Kristen, and then I said friends from home, but I was thinking of the joiner situation. But it wasn't, it was just that he was right. So, yeah.

• 1:04:45Speaker 01

  Both of them, like, look, Benny from music, I, I no song would ever come out without having him hear it and analyze it, critique it, say it's worthy, point out whatever flaws could exist. Kristen's the, the exact same thing for like TV and film, like any script or thing, like I, I really trust both of their instincts.

• 1:05:05Benny Blanco?

  What did you write?

• 1:05:06Speaker 03

  I wrote his mom, or me, or Jeff Schaefer, or Benny.

• 1:05:11Speaker 01

  My mom told me not to be a rapper. She said, so.

• 1:05:14Speaker 03

  Okay, so, but I think, yeah.

• 1:05:16Jay Shetty?

  You're on the list.

• 1:05:17Speaker 01

  It's those two, no question.

• 1:05:19Jay Shetty?

  I love that.

• 1:05:20Benny Blanco?

  For sure.

• 1:05:20Speaker 03

  So we got some of it, right?

• 1:05:21Jay Shetty?

  And both of you are not narcissists. You didn't write yourselves, right?

• 1:05:24Benny Blanco?

  No, I didn't.

• 1:05:24Speaker 03

  No, I wrote myself.

• 1:05:24Jay Shetty?

  Oh, you did? Oh, yeah.

• 1:05:25Benny Blanco?

  Yes, that is shit.

• 1:05:27Jay Shetty?

  Okay, there you go.

• 1:05:27Benny Blanco?

  Yes, that is shit.

• 1:05:28Jay Shetty?

  Okay, that's great.

• 1:05:28Benny Blanco?

  I knew the answer. It's not being a narcissist, I just knew the answer.

• 1:05:30Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 1:05:31Benny Blanco?

  Okay, what's our next?

• 1:05:32Jay Shetty?

  All right, so if you called Dave because you ran someone over, would he help you bury the body? Would he call the cops? Or would he tell you to call the cops?

• 1:05:44Speaker 01

  Those are my only three options? Bury the body, call the cops?

• 1:05:46Benny Blanco?

  Whose fault is it?

• 1:05:47Jay Shetty?

  It's Dave's fault.

• 1:05:48Speaker 03

  Wait, no, you're saying.

• 1:05:49Speaker 01

  Oh, I call, I ran someone over.

• 1:05:51Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, you ran someone over.

• 1:05:52Speaker 01

  Wait, yeah?

• 1:05:53Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and then you call these guys, and I'm saying, would you tell them to, wait, wait, wait, I confused myself. I confused myself.

• 1:06:03Speaker 01

  As if one of them did it.

• 1:06:04Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah, sorry, sorry, sorry. If you called it, sorry. If, yes, my bad. Thank you so much for correcting me. I was wrong. Let this be in my statement. I admit I was wrong. If you ran someone over and you called Dave.

• 1:06:16Speaker 01

  What's he gonna do?

• 1:06:17Jay Shetty?

  To tell them what happened, would he help you bury the body? Would he call the cops himself? Or would he tell you to disappear?

• 1:06:25Benny Blanco?

  Disappear is a new, new one.

• 1:06:26Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I'm adding it there. I'm changing.

• 1:06:27Benny Blanco?

  What if?

• 1:06:28Jay Shetty?

  I had the opportunity to change it.

• 1:06:29Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:06:30Benny Blanco?

  But is it our fault, though, or was it an accident?

• 1:06:33Jay Shetty?

  It's an accident. Obviously, you didn't do it on purpose. What would Dave tell you to do? This is, this is a test of Dave's character.

• 1:06:39Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:06:39Benny Blanco?

  I don't know.

• 1:06:40Speaker 03

  I like framing it that way.

• 1:06:41Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:06:45Speaker 03

  I feel like I know.

• 1:06:48Speaker 03

  I feel like I have the black marker all over because I've been doodling.

• 1:06:52Jay Shetty?

  All right, Dave, what would you do?

• 1:06:54Speaker 03

  I can see yours, Dave, but I don't look.

• 1:06:55Jay Shetty?

  Dave would disappear. They would tell you, you tell them to disappear. I never want to see you again.

• 1:07:00Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 1:07:01Speaker 01

  I was kidding about the second sentence, but disappear, disappear. Get out of here. Go good.

• 1:07:06Benny Blanco?

  I said he would analyze all the facts at hand.

• 1:07:08Speaker 01

  That's what I would do.

• 1:07:10Jay Shetty?

  That's a great answer based on our conversation. Kristen, what did you write?

• 1:07:12Speaker 03

  I said he would tell, he would tell us to call the cops. I think at the end of the day.

• 1:07:15Benny Blanco?

  I think he would have to analyze all the facts at hand.

• 1:07:18Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, let's talk about this. This is the first question we've really had.

• 1:07:21Benny Blanco?

  Don't you agree?

• 1:07:22Speaker 01

  I definitely wouldn't bury the body. Like, I think I would talk, I can't get, I can't get wrapped up in criminal activity like that. But nor would I call the cops like behind their back ever. I think I would try to convince that person why the thing to do is just call the cops.

• 1:07:38Benny Blanco?

  I think you'd have to analyze all the facts.

• 1:07:40Speaker 01

  Or disappear. Yeah, disappear.

• 1:07:41Speaker 03

  You would do the right thing ultimately.

• 1:07:43Speaker 01

  Yes, but here's what, I'm not willing to bury a body for you or anyone. I am willing to perhaps hear of something and just pretend that I never heard of it. Yeah, let's change the subject.

• 1:07:58Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, we change the subject, we change the subject.

• 1:08:01Speaker 03

  He does, you do have a lot of OCD around that subject.

• 1:08:03Jay Shetty?

  All right, all right, okay. We'll do Benny, we'll do Benny. Couple of questions on Benny. Good stuff for Dave. What's something Benny pretends doesn't bother him but actually does?

• 1:08:12Speaker 03

  He doesn't really ever pretend.

• 1:08:14Speaker 01

  Yes, he does.

• 1:08:15Benny Blanco?

  I do? Okay. Let me try to think.

• 1:08:19Speaker 01

  I'm gonna try two. Can I do two options?

• 1:08:20Benny Blanco?

  You can have two. Kristen could get this right. What is, or do I do mine first?

• 1:08:26Jay Shetty?

  Yes, Benny reveal.

• 1:08:27Benny Blanco?

  Putting things in my fridge incorrectly.

• 1:08:29Speaker 03

  I was gonna say that.

• 1:08:30Jay Shetty?

  That's a good answer.

• 1:08:31Speaker 03

  I was gonna say that.

• 1:08:32Speaker 01

  I don't think you pretend that that doesn't bother you.

• 1:08:33Benny Blanco?

  I do for anyone else except Kristen.

• 1:08:35Speaker 03

  I was gonna, I was gonna say it, but I'm like, you're so overtly.

• 1:08:38Jay Shetty?

  That's why you didn't let me put your stuff in the fridge today.

• 1:08:40Benny Blanco?

  No, no, no. I didn't put it in the fridge. I just wanted it to be taken out a little bit.

• 1:08:46Speaker 01

  If he puts out something musically that has the potential to go number one and it doesn't go number one.

• 1:08:56Speaker 01

  He'll say to to everyone else, I'm not bothered by not going number one, but I think it bothers him to not go number one, go number two. If number one is achieved, you know, certain songs, they have no chance, certain albums have a chance. So not going number one.

• 1:09:12Benny Blanco?

  You're saying if it's achievable. You're saying if it's achieved, if like, if I'm gonna go, like, if I'm gonna go sixty, doesn't matter, but if I'm gonna go number two, one.

• 1:09:22Speaker 01

  If you have the expectation that a number one is within reach and you go three or two or ten.

• 1:09:27Benny Blanco?

  I can relate.

• 1:09:28Speaker 01

  You're annoyed, which I would do.

• 1:09:29Benny Blanco?

  I'll tell you, I'm gonna tell you my answer after.

• 1:09:32Speaker 01

  And then my other thing is Benny's favorite line as of this year is, I don't care about anything. I've never heard Benny say anything more than, I don't care about you about anything. And I think oftentimes that he'll say that when we're talking about something that we both care about. And if it seems like I want something that he doesn't want. He will say, I don't care about anything, but I know he cares. He just wants to stop talking about it.

• 1:10:02Benny Blanco?

  Okay, and then I'll answer them all after. Yeah, go on, Krista.

• 1:10:05Speaker 03

  Mine is not sticking with the plan, like with a plan or the plan, which is kind of in relation to like. I think I don't care about anything. If you, I think if you, if you start to feel the loss of control, instead Benny will just be like, I don't care about anything, doesn't matter.

• 1:10:20Benny Blanco?

  Go on Benny, get to defend yourself. This thing I don't feel, I don't even understand it really, but I don't.

• 1:10:30Speaker 03

  What do you mean, it's not sticking with the plan? What more do you need to understand?

• 1:10:34Benny Blanco?

  I don't understand the context. The I don't care about anything is like this to me. When I'm having a conversation with someone, I'll just use Dave as the example.

• 1:10:48Benny Blanco?

  When I'm talking to someone and like usually pretty quickly into a conversation, I can figure out whether this person is going to be like even receptive to like the information that I'm saying, or whether I think that there they have like something made up in their mind. And like, there's such a minute chance of me changing it. And then I say, in my head, I say, well, is this ever going to change? Is it that important if it doesn't? And then just to nip it in the butt, I'll be like, I don't really care about anything. And then that's my thing with the number one thing. It used to be very true to me. That used to be so true to me.

• 1:11:32Benny Blanco?

  I was fixated on getting the number one at any cost. Like even if it was number 40, like I was like, I like had to, I used to be, when I was younger, I used to really, really care. So much that I felt like I wasn't even enjoying the things in front of me. Because I was like so, like I'd get the number one, like in something, I'd be the best at it. Like I'd have like a number one billboard record and then I'd be not even like celebrating. I'd be like, yeah, that's cool. And then like move on to the next thing and I wouldn't even think about it. And I feel like, I feel like that was so true to me for so many years of my life. And honestly, until pretty recently, until probably like four years ago.

• 1:12:16Benny Blanco?

  And then it was really solidified, honestly with, with Selena, because I felt like I won. I won it and I already did. I already know that like I solidified what I wanted to do. And it was like the first time in my life where I didn't care. That doesn't mean that if it is in sight, I'm going to do everything in my physical power to try to do the best thing I can. Because that's just the type of person I am. I love the competition. I love striving for the greatness, but it doesn't have the same importance that it did have on me for so long. It used to have me in like a chokehold. And then like, I felt like I was finally freed of that, like in the last like four or five years. And it was like so freeing, but I understand both. I completely do.

• 1:12:59Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I can relate to it, yeah.

• 1:13:01Benny Blanco?

  I understand, like, I used to be the guy looking every week at the chart, seeing if we were getting close, and I was so, I put so much importance on it. And I don't even know why I did, because I didn't even care when I got it. Like, but I think I did care, but I was so fixated on getting the net.

• 1:13:16Speaker 01

  You're probably just relieved when you got it.

• 1:13:18Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, yeah, I think I was probably just relieved. And it was like such a rat race. And I'm so happy to be free of it. But I do also understand that side of me when I was so into it. Because I'm like, yeah, that's cool to do that. But it is also cool to be like, totally free of it. And I think the healthy medium is probably somewhere in the middle.

• 1:13:37Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. Thank you, guys. Thank you for playing. That started off some really I like this game. intense conversations. We can do a few more, or I can take you to our ending three questions?

• 1:13:46Benny Blanco?

  I'd like to do a few more.

• 1:13:48Jay Shetty?

  Okay, let's do a few more. You guys should cancel all your plans afterwards. I'm staying. All right, okay. These are more fun ones.

• 1:14:01Jay Shetty?

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• 1:16:19Jay Shetty?

  Who is most likely to survive a zombie apocalypse? Now you get to free for all. Write down anyone.

• 1:16:25Speaker 03

  It has to be out of the three of us?

• 1:16:26Jay Shetty?

  Yes.

• 1:16:28Jay Shetty?

  Three, two, one, reveal.

• 1:16:31Jay Shetty?

  Oh, why Benny? Everyone tells the same password, why Benny?

• 1:16:34Benny Blanco?

  I just have more skill, like...

• 1:16:37Speaker 01

  I'm the last, no question. Between those two, I just think men physically are stronger than women.

• 1:16:41Benny Blanco?

  What?

• 1:16:42Speaker 01

  Physically.

• 1:16:43Benny Blanco?

  Right. But why would that have to come into it?

• 1:16:46Speaker 01

  It's just me too.

• 1:16:47Benny Blanco?

  I'm gone. I thought it was like going by like resourcefulness.

• 1:16:51Speaker 03

  Well, then I definitely would win. Because I feel like I can strategically...

• 1:16:56Speaker 01

  Kristen's pretty athletic, too.

• 1:16:57Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:16:57Speaker 03

  No, I just mean, well, yeah.

• 1:17:00Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:00Speaker 03

  I don't know, my instinct was to say Benny.

• 1:17:02Speaker 01

  All I know is it's not me. I'm the last.

• 1:17:04Jay Shetty?

  Well, everyone rated each other on different scorecards.

• 1:17:06Benny Blanco?

  Okay, what's the next?

• 1:17:06Jay Shetty?

  All right, the next question is, who takes the longest to reply to texts?

• 1:17:12Jay Shetty?

  You're pretty responsive with me.

• 1:17:13Speaker 01

  She responds to every. Oh, Kristen.

• 1:17:15Benny Blanco?

  No, Kristen's so good.

• 1:17:17Speaker 01

  No, she, Kristen's terrible. I don't even.

• 1:17:19Speaker 03

  I thought you always made fun of me because I never respond.

• 1:17:22Speaker 01

  I actually think, I actually think Kristen's worse than you.

• 1:17:25Speaker 03

  I just don't respond.

• 1:17:26Speaker 01

  Because both of them.

• 1:17:27Benny Blanco?

  Does she respond to you?

• 1:17:28Jay Shetty?

  Kristen has never texted me since we met, so that, that, that says a lot.

• 1:17:31Speaker 01

  Kristen will respond to only me, and she responds to me relatively timely. Benny will respond to, and she doesn't respond to anyone else ever.

• 1:17:38Speaker 03

  No, that's not true. Let me say this. I mean, I do, I did, I do have a little bit of anxiety with texting.

• 1:17:43Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:44Speaker 03

  So I, and I don't like to ever feel like I have to do, like, I don't wake up in the morning and read my texts. Like, I think that's where I am going wrong. And now I have, like, I think sixteen hundred unread text messages.

• 1:17:57Jay Shetty?

  It's gonna be, it's gonna be a lot more, DMs and.

• 1:17:59Speaker 03

  Well, I don't look at my DMs. I've never looked at DMs.

• 1:18:02Benny Blanco?

  She's not public.

• 1:18:03Jay Shetty?

  No, but now.

• 1:18:03Speaker 03

  But I don't even look at my friends. Dave, Dave has.

• 1:18:05Jay Shetty?

  You're still not gonna be public?

• 1:18:07Benny Blanco?

  No.

• 1:18:07Speaker 03

  Ah, we'll see.

• 1:18:08Benny Blanco?

  I don't think you should. I like.

• 1:18:09Speaker 01

  Benny, Benny responds to every text, like, no matter what.

• 1:18:13Jay Shetty?

  Yes, agreed, yeah.

• 1:18:14Speaker 01

  It's just, there's like a seventy-two hour backup.

• 1:18:16Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:18:17Jay Shetty?

  Oh, so you're pretty.

• 1:18:18Speaker 03

  And he does it, you know, he's doing it in the morning, and it will, like, sometimes he'll respond to, like, a text that doesn't even make sense anymore, and you'll just get, like, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.

• 1:18:25Speaker 01

  Yeah, he'll respond to, like, a group chat, like, two days later, and, and it's so not relevant anymore.

• 1:18:33Jay Shetty?

  But everyone's moved on.

• 1:18:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, but he's, but he's still.

• 1:18:35Benny Blanco?

  But I'm catching up.

• 1:18:36Speaker 01

  Yeah, he's catching up.

• 1:18:37Speaker 03

  I text in spurts, like, you'll, you'll, if, if I'm, like, paying attention to my phone, I'll have a, I'll be there.

• 1:18:42Speaker 01

  Kristen, like, you know, her parents would be like, hey, do you think you could tell Kristen to respond to?

• 1:18:47Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:18:48Speaker 03

  I got a text on the way here from my mom that was saying, hey, could you read the family text and please respond?

• 1:18:54Jay Shetty?

  No way.

• 1:18:54Speaker 03

  And I thought, I am in the car.

• 1:18:56Speaker 01

  She's the worst at texts. She really is.

• 1:18:58Jay Shetty?

  Ravi's the same.

• 1:18:59Speaker 03

  It's hard.

• 1:19:00Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, Ravi's the same.

• 1:19:01Speaker 03

  My phone's a beeper. It's just for emergencies.

• 1:19:03Speaker 01

  I'll respond instantly with way too much, with too much.

• 1:19:07Jay Shetty?

  I appreciate that, though, because then I feel like there's texture to the text, and like, we can actually get someone.

• 1:19:11Speaker 01

  Yes, I have.

• 1:19:11Speaker 03

  Jay, I'll text you, just so you know that I'm capable.

• 1:19:13Jay Shetty?

  I'm, I'm waiting for that text. I've been texting with these guys for, like, a year and a half now.

• 1:19:17Speaker 03

  Yeah, well, okay.

• 1:19:18Jay Shetty?

  Okay, next one. Who would accidentally start a cult?

• 1:19:22Speaker 01

  Go for it. Reveal.

• 1:19:26Jay Shetty?

  Oh, me? You put me in it? I'm not one of the people.

• 1:19:30Speaker 01

  I'm not a cult.

• 1:19:32Benny Blanco?

  No, I was trying to think. We wouldn't be, you're, you're, you're, you have more of like the soothing thing. Like your, your, your message could like, like being like tranquil, like no one wants to join our cult.

• 1:19:43Speaker 01

  The reason I said Kristen, I only said Kristen because.

• 1:19:48Speaker 03

  I, I could definitely be like a cult.

• 1:19:50Speaker 01

  Kristen, everyone likes Kristen and Kristen loves everyone she meets and thinks she's gonna be the best friend.

• 1:19:56Benny Blanco?

  That is true.

• 1:19:57Speaker 01

  So it's like so many people that she runs into, she, she could end up thinking that they're gonna be close. And then all of a sudden there's like, you know, a cult somehow. I don't know.

• 1:20:04Benny Blanco?

  Okay. Do you style your hair to be like us today?

• 1:20:07Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I was like, it's very styled. My hair's always like this.

• 1:20:11Speaker 03

  You guys all have like a similar look.

• 1:20:12Benny Blanco?

  It's different.

• 1:20:13Jay Shetty?

  This is the first time we've had three people with curly hair on the show at the same time.

• 1:20:15Benny Blanco?

  You got lots of staff. Did they give you all these?

• 1:20:18Jay Shetty?

  No, no, no. I'm making them up. I'm making them up.

• 1:20:21Benny Blanco?

  First time we've had three.

• 1:20:23Jay Shetty?

  Three people with curly hair.

• 1:20:24Speaker 03

  You guys do have the same hairstyle.

• 1:20:26Jay Shetty?

  We do. See, we have like variations of.

• 1:20:29Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:29Speaker 01

  If you have yours longer, would it like throw out?

• 1:20:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's like my hair's like, my hair's like this naturally.

• 1:20:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 1:20:35Jay Shetty?

  But it's like, I feel like it's, it's like evolution of hair. It's like me to Dave to Ben.

• 1:20:39Speaker 03

  Yeah, yeah.

• 1:20:39Jay Shetty?

  It's like that. It's like.

• 1:20:40Benny Blanco?

  Evolution.

• 1:20:41Jay Shetty?

  It is evolution. What do you guys say?

• 1:20:43Speaker 03

  Evolution?

• 1:20:43Jay Shetty?

  Evolution.

• 1:20:44Speaker 03

  But we, I like evolution.

• 1:20:45Benny Blanco?

  Aluminium.

• 1:20:47Jay Shetty?

  Aluminium, yeah.

• 1:20:47Benny Blanco?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:48Jay Shetty?

  Aluminum is what you guys.

• 1:20:49Benny Blanco?

  Aluminium.

• 1:20:49Speaker 03

  Oh, you call it aluminium?

• 1:20:51Jay Shetty?

  Aluminium. Aluminium.

• 1:20:53Speaker 01

  There's another I in it. There are a few words. One word that you, I can't think of it now and it's unfortunate.

• 1:20:57Speaker 03

  The food, the food. What do you call?

• 1:20:58Benny Blanco?

  Corgette, rogette.

• 1:20:59Speaker 01

  No, there's one word you always say. I can't remember it, but you say it different. No, it's like.

• 1:21:04Benny Blanco?

  Also, people say, they say, so in America, you would say like, his name is Dave. But like if we were British, we would say he's called Dave.

• 1:21:13Speaker 01

  How do you say innovative?

• 1:21:14Jay Shetty?

  Innovative.

• 1:21:15Speaker 01

  That's what it is.

• 1:21:16Jay Shetty?

  Innovative.

• 1:21:17Speaker 01

  That's what you say.

• 1:21:17Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, innovative. I had to think about it now because I hear it.

• 1:21:19Benny Blanco?

  In nonchalant, you said funny too.

• 1:21:21Speaker 03

  I don't think you say shalant.

• 1:21:23Speaker 01

  No, he says shalant, normal.

• 1:21:24Benny Blanco?

  Oh, no, you said it, said something different.

• 1:21:26Jay Shetty?

  I said, I said, do you want me to be less shalant?

• 1:21:28Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, shalant.

• 1:21:29Speaker 03

  Wow, I like, I like shalant.

• 1:21:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, shalant.

• 1:21:32Speaker 03

  Maybe I should change my.

• 1:21:33Jay Shetty?

  All right, these are the last three because these are, you don't have to write for these anymore. These were questions given by, so before the show, you can keep those whiteboards. They're yours. I'll sign them later.

• 1:21:41Benny Blanco?

  No, no, we won't keep them. We gotta.

• 1:21:44Jay Shetty?

  I. Asked you each for a question you'd like me to ask the other two people in the room.

• 1:21:50Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah. This is hard.

• 1:21:51Jay Shetty?

  So these are the questions you gave. We'll start with Benny. So Benny's question to both of you, and the answer has to be in one sentence. I'll maybe let you expand. The question from Benny is, how do you separate work from your relationship? If you're disagreeing in work, does it spill over into personal and vice versa?

• 1:22:13Speaker 03

  I would say that we, well, I think you've been a part of it. Dave and I are really, this is like the one thing that's great about our relationship. And now I feel similarly with Benny is that we can, we can like have arguments and we can get upset with each other. And then like instantly kind of, once we feel like we've turned over the stones in the argument or like gotten to a place, it's never carried over. Like we've never been, have we ever been mad more than a day? Even if a day, I don't even think we've ever been mad for a full day.

• 1:22:44Benny Blanco?

  I've never been mad. Oh, you guys.

• 1:22:46Speaker 03

  Yeah. Are you asking about us two?

• 1:22:48Benny Blanco?

  Yeah. Yeah, I was. And then you said something about me.

• 1:22:50Speaker 03

  Yeah, sorry.

• 1:22:51Jay Shetty?

  Go on, Dave. Take it away.

• 1:22:54Speaker 01

  Uh, I think he asked the question because we work so, like beyond even just, our multimedia creation.

• 1:23:05Speaker 01

  You know, any script she writes, I'm, I'm a part of that with her. Any script I write, she's a part of that with me. So it's really, I mean, she's not a part of my musical process. So that's my, I get separation there. Because she likes more poppy stuff that I don't just like.

• 1:23:17Speaker 03

  No, that's not true.

• 1:23:18Speaker 01

  No, she doesn't like.

• 1:23:18Benny Blanco?

  No, she's the opposite. She likes less poppy.

• 1:23:21Speaker 03

  One time I gave you a bunch of thoughts.

• 1:23:23Speaker 01

  She doesn't, you know.

• 1:23:24Speaker 03

  He doesn't like to show me his music.

• 1:23:25Speaker 01

  I hate showing her my music. She doesn't listen to lyrics.

• 1:23:28Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:23:29Speaker 01

  So I could show her a recording of me where the verses are, and she would like that just as much as me like doing really clever lyrics.

• 1:23:37Benny Blanco?

  Wow.

• 1:23:38Speaker 03

  No, but he also, we, we, we tried, he tried to show me his music once, but it was so, I had to, he literally like pulled up the chair directly in front of the computer. It was blasting, the, the speakers were blasting and I wasn't allowed to move. And I just, it had to be under his circumstances.

• 1:23:56Benny Blanco?

  The experience.

• 1:23:56Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:23:57Benny Blanco?

  Because you have to sit there. I tell him, I'm not sitting there. Don't show me the music.

• 1:24:00Speaker 03

  I wanted to sit there. Yeah. So then I feel like it was a bad experience.

• 1:24:03Jay Shetty?

  We don't like my David. That was not the question that Benny asked.

• 1:24:07Speaker 01

  To answer Benny's original question, how do we separate? I mean, we.

• 1:24:13Speaker 01

  We I I selfishly don't always feel the need to because I when we're talking about work or whatever we're working on, I I find it so inspiring and fun. And like, I'm just like, to me, there's like, nothing more fun to talk about now. So I look at it as like, this is great. I get to have fun with my best friend and we're being productive at the same time now. You know, sometimes I feel like, you know, I remember when I originally started dating Kristen and I learned that she kind of has the same exact interests and passions professionally as I do. I did have the thought, oh, man, like, would I is it would I be better off marrying someone who was like an English teacher? And there was like, complete separation of church

• 1:24:53Speaker 01

  and state. But now seeing the opposite, I'm so happy that we get to connect over the thing. Because like, you know, I think there's just such a joy to me when I get to talk about the things I care the most about in life, which unfortunately is work. Now, I'm not working like some corporate drudgery job. I'm working on like, the self-expression of my soul. So

• 1:25:14Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:25:15Speaker 01

  It's it's different to be like, oh, there's no separate. I'm not like, working at an accounting firm. Like, I'm talking about, you know, how to tell these stories that I feel born to tell. And she's, it's fun. Like, we're talking about funny creative shit, but

• 1:25:27Speaker 03

  You've helped me become, I would say, the like, you've you've given me more confidence professionally. The good thing about us working together is you've given like, I feel like, over the few years that we've kind of like, really co-mashed our professional lives, I kind of come from come from a place of like, more self doubt and like insecurity. And he's really helped me get like, the kind of confidence to even be doing this and writing and stuff. I feel like it's been really, I'm so thankful that I you're like, a good mentor and a husband.

• 1:25:57Speaker 01

  Great answers, guys. Beautiful. Really nice. That felt good. But we should, we should, we should go on more dates without talking about potassium.

• 1:26:05Speaker 03

  That's the newest thing that I had to say. I I think sometimes I'll be like, especially with the anxiety that I've had, which I'm on a new path forward and I'm a new person and I no longer create the self inflicted torture of like, anxiety about the podcast in particular. But there was a period where I was like, we have to stop talking about work all the time because I can't like mentally break away from it. And it was, I just, I I wasn't, but now I'm, now you can sign me up for it.

• 1:26:33Speaker 01

  What was the time where I was like, I don't want to talk about this right now? And you kept talking, or you were home? Doesn't matter. Who cares? Because I was about to like do something with music where I just had to be in like the state of mind that and I was in such a good mood. I had no anxiety about anything with like the podcast or whatever you want to call it. And she, I said, I don't want to talk about it right now. And she just wanted to talk about it.

• 1:26:57Speaker 03

  Well, this is interesting. I did start going to therapy because I was like, it's important that he can't always be the like, I have such a tendency when I have anxiety to like, for me to get over my anxiety, I have to say every thought that I have, which it used to be okay. I mean, I'm sure it's exhausting for him, but it used to not be so related to what he was doing. So therapy has been helpful because instead of like taking him on, which he's still very supportive, but like I don't have to, like I felt like I was like bringing him down. So the therapy now is a lot easier for me to like, just mentally spiral and then I'm not putting it on you. So we've learned a little, we've, we've kind of like started to create some boundaries.

• 1:27:36Speaker 01

  And I learned no now not to get her worked up when she's in bed. And I know not to like, if I sometimes I'm, I come in and I come up with an idea of like, we should do this, that, and then she, and she's,

• 1:27:46Speaker 03

  I'm very easily.

• 1:27:47Speaker 01

  Yeah, she needs to sleep.

• 1:27:48Speaker 03

  Yeah. Well, no, I just would get like revved up and excited.

• 1:27:51Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. Me and my wife are like, so like, I'm the one who comes to bed and wants to chat and talk and like, and she does not want to.

• 1:27:57Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:27:57Jay Shetty?

  And she's like first thing in the morning wants to chat and talk. And I'm like, I need to like gear up slowly. So I get that.

• 1:28:03Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:28:03Jay Shetty?

  That's beautiful. Thank you.

• 1:28:04Speaker 03

  We need to thaw out. I have to thaw out in the morning now.

• 1:28:06Jay Shetty?

  So this was Kristen's question for Benny and Dave. Do you guys talk about me when I leave the room?

• 1:28:15Speaker 03

  You have to answer honestly.

• 1:28:18Speaker 01

  Not, not really. No.

• 1:28:19Benny Blanco?

  Cool. Not really.

• 1:28:21Speaker 03

  This was a hard thing to, hard question. I couldn't really think of it.

• 1:28:24Speaker 01

  It's a good question. I like.

• 1:28:25Benny Blanco?

  The only time I remember that is at New Year's when I was like, what are you guys talking about? And then you, Dave said, I'm not at liberty to tell you. And then he said, he said, and he was just, and then I was like, all right. And then we just started talking about something else. And then when you came over, you were like, are you talking about me? And we weren't talking about you at that time.

• 1:28:47Speaker 03

  It's a question I ask a lot. This paranoia that as soon as I leave the room, but I know that it's mostly more of a joke. I know you guys aren't.

• 1:28:54Speaker 01

  No, we never really talk trash about her.

• 1:28:56Benny Blanco?

  No.

• 1:28:56Speaker 01

  Or, or positive.

• 1:28:58Speaker 03

  Oh, do you guys say positive things behind my back?

• 1:28:59Speaker 01

  She's pretty impactful to both of us.

• 1:29:01Speaker 03

  Do you say positive things behind my back?

• 1:29:03Jay Shetty?

  No, he just said no.

• 1:29:05Speaker 01

  No.

• 1:29:06Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I've said like, I've said like, I was so blown away by how well Kristen's done. Like, I remember we talked about that before.

• 1:29:15Speaker 03

  So you guys see me in the room?

• 1:29:16Speaker 01

  We talk about you the way guys talk about their wives. Or it's not like, we're not like talking about you professionally that often.

• 1:29:23Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, there's never, and there's never.

• 1:29:25Speaker 03

  Do you guys not have this, do you not have this fear?

• 1:29:27Benny Blanco?

  Dave's never come. No, I don't think.

• 1:29:28Speaker 03

  I live in, I always am like, as soon as I leave, are they all talking about me?

• 1:29:33Benny Blanco?

  Talking about me? No. And if, and if you guys are talking about me, they're like, oh, that either there's a reason or like they're upset with something or I don't care.

• 1:29:40Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:29:41Speaker 03

  Yeah, I think I care, I care too much what people think. So I'm always like, even though it's like kind of half joking, I will, I thought everybody felt this way, be like.

• 1:29:49Speaker 01

  A lot of people do feel this way.

• 1:29:51Speaker 03

  Yeah, like be like, as soon as I leave, I'll be like, I wonder, even if it's not bad, I just wonder if they're being like, yeah, she was talked a lot that time. Or she said that really bad question.

• 1:30:02Speaker 01

  She has so much self doubt and like circular thoughts of negativity that are the, our brains are like on hum positive.

• 1:30:09Jay Shetty?

  I think so much of that is women's conditioning in society, treatment of women in, in society. Like, that's my take on it.

• 1:30:15Speaker 01

  I was gonna say that, I was gonna say that.

• 1:30:16Speaker 03

  And A D D.

• 1:30:18Jay Shetty?

  No, I mean seriously, I mean deadly seriously. And like when I talk to all my male friends, they all feel the same way. And then I talk to my female friends, they all feel that way. So I'm like, wait, what, that's, that's, you know, you can't then just ignore it.

• 1:30:30Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:30:30Speaker 03

  And I think it's been a little bit more, um, it's been more exaggerated just because of the, like, the uncertainty about all of this being public. I feel like I live.

• 1:30:41Speaker 01

  Your hair's in your mouth. I'm sorry.

• 1:30:43Jay Shetty?

  I can't see it from here at all.

• 1:30:45Benny Blanco?

  I didn't see it either.

• 1:30:46Speaker 01

  It just was, it was, guys.

• 1:30:47Speaker 03

  I appreciate it. I told you to do it.

• 1:30:48Speaker 01

  It was in her mouth.

• 1:30:48Speaker 03

  I tell him to do this thing. Thank you.

• 1:30:50Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's beautiful.

• 1:30:52Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's been exacerbated because you're dealing, me and Benny are also, even though yes, we're men, we're like.

• 1:30:57Jay Shetty?

  You've been public for so long.

• 1:30:58Speaker 01

  Yeah, we're like the two, no one believes in themselves more than me and Benny. Like, we don't think we're just like, so it's like that compared to self doubt, it makes it feel even more of a.

• 1:31:09Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 1:31:09Speaker 03

  But I'm doing a lot better because I realized that, I realized that so much of my self doubt is like my default narrator, like in my head. And I feel like this podcast will help me. I don't know. I could just crumble.

• 1:31:24Jay Shetty?

  No.

• 1:31:24Speaker 03

  You guys, you might never see me again. Not in a bad way.

• 1:31:27Jay Shetty?

  You're so aware. I think, you know, I think part of it is just as hard as you are in yourself. You don't give yourself enough credit as well, but like you're so aware of what's going on in your mind. I think, I think if you're not aware, that's when it's really, really hard.

• 1:31:39Benny Blanco?

  I agree. She's very, you're right.

• 1:31:40Speaker 03

  I like to hear that. Yeah.

• 1:31:42Jay Shetty?

  You're very self-aware. Yeah. All right. Final question. This was Dave's question. I saved what I believed to be the best for last.

• 1:31:50Benny Blanco?

  Thank you, Jay.

• 1:31:51Jay Shetty?

  This is Dave's question. So Dave's question to Kristen and Benny is, if I died, how often would you guys hang out or see each other?

• 1:32:01Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 1:32:04Speaker 03

  I feel like if you die, that'd be so heartbreaking and we'd be sharing, we'd be like experiencing similar pain. Well, me more, but I can't speak on half of it. Benny, maybe it would be, I don't know. Frequently? I don't know. Like as much as we could, but.

• 1:32:19Benny Blanco?

  Chuck, first, I'd, obviously, I would edit all the things to I know how you would like them. And I'd find a way.

• 1:32:28Speaker 01

  You'd get the right features?

• 1:32:29Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I'd find, first I was talking about the show. Then for, then I'd edit, I'd, yeah, I'd make sure to get the right features. We've spoken enough about, I'd, I'd be able to at least, there's like 15 songs I could cobble together to something great. And I would, and I would do that. And I would make sure not.

• 1:32:47Speaker 03

  But would you hang out with me?

• 1:32:48Speaker 01

  15 songs I could cobble together?

• 1:32:50Benny Blanco?

  No, no, no, no. To make something like truly like.

• 1:32:53Speaker 03

  But would you do it hanging out with me? Isn't that the question?

• 1:32:55Benny Blanco?

  No, no, no. This was a side.

• 1:32:57Speaker 01

  Would she, would she be, would she be involved?

• 1:32:59Benny Blanco?

  This is a side.

• 1:33:00Speaker 01

  Would you involve her in the album?

• 1:33:01Speaker 03

  No, clearly he's not.

• 1:33:03Benny Blanco?

  No, no, no, no. But I would involve her in.

• 1:33:05Speaker 01

  Like the rollout.

• 1:33:06Benny Blanco?

  No, no, I didn't involve her.

• 1:33:08Speaker 03

  Would I still be invited to like the dinner parties?

• 1:33:10Benny Blanco?

  Yeah, I think I would hang out with you. I think you would, well, I'd like you to feel like my, my Dave role. Like I feel like you'd, I feel like I'd be calling you like every day and.

• 1:33:22Speaker 03

  It would be so, you can't, you have to, we have to protect you at all costs.

• 1:33:25Speaker 01

  Or would you guys be so reminded of me when you saw each other that you'd actually have to never see each other ever again?

• 1:33:31Benny Blanco?

  No, no, no. We'd see each other all the time.

• 1:33:33Speaker 03

  If I died, would you guys just replace me?

• 1:33:36Speaker 01

  No, what?

• 1:33:39Speaker 03

  In the show.

• 1:33:41Speaker 01

  No, it would just be a two person show.

• 1:33:43Benny Blanco?

  What? No, it'd be done.

• 1:33:45Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:33:45Benny Blanco?

  Or would we keep?

• 1:33:46Speaker 01

  No, I wouldn't be, I wouldn't be that interested anymore.

• 1:33:49Speaker 03

  I'm glad you got all the footage, though.

• 1:33:51Jay Shetty?

  No one's dying. I hate talking about this, even though I, I know. We've got footage again, and everyone needs facts and.

• 1:33:57Speaker 03

  You brought it up.

• 1:33:59Jay Shetty?

  I am so, I mean, just spending time with you makes me just love the show even more. But I want to say to all of you, like, truly, you guys trusting me, giving me this opportunity to do this with you has been a highlight of my professional career, like, to work with all three of you, because it's very rare that when you're like, you know, when I started my podcast seven years ago, I never thought I'd be helping create something amazing with the vision of all three of you. And I feel so lucky and fortunate. So thank you for the gift. Thank you for the blessing and.

• 1:34:28Speaker 03

  Thank you for all your help.

• 1:34:30Benny Blanco?

  Just the same way.

• 1:34:30Speaker 03

  We love you, Jay.

• 1:34:31Benny Blanco?

  You're our mentor. You're our guru.

• 1:34:34Jay Shetty?

  I definitely, no, don't, don't stop making me this cult leader, though.

• 1:34:37Speaker 01

  No, no, I wasn't.

• 1:34:39Benny Blanco?

  No, you're, you're, you're, you're like the, you're, you're so good to balance all this stuff. I feel like you've already laid, you know, laid the ground. We're just trying to.

• 1:34:51Jay Shetty?

  I don't think it's that. You guys had a vision. You know what you're building. I think it's been, it's, it's been fun getting the opportunity to be a part of it. That's how I feel about it. So thank you for letting me be a part of your crazy, creative vision.

• 1:35:02Speaker 01

  Thank you for hearing our, our desires and not scoffing at them and doing your best to make it all happen.

• 1:35:09Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. Friends keep secrets. Excited.

• 1:35:11Speaker 03

  On three.

• 1:35:12Benny Blanco?

  What happens now?

• 1:35:13Jay Shetty?

  Friends on three.

• 1:35:14Benny Blanco?

  On purpose on three?

• 1:35:15Speaker 03

  Yeah, on, on, Friends on Purpose.

• 1:35:17Jay Shetty?

  Friends on Purpose on three.

• 1:35:18Benny Blanco?

  One, two, three.

• 1:35:19Jay Shetty?

  Friends on Purpose. If you love this episode, you'll really enjoy my episode with Selena Gomez on befriending your inner critic and how to speak to yourself with more compassion.

• 1:35:32Speaker 06

  There's blessing in the breaking. And every moment that you encounter in your life, even if it's just road rage.

• 1:35:43Speaker 07

  Whenever fall comes back around, it always feels like a fresh start. This year, I've been layering in some styles from the new Lululemon Fall Drop, because the weather is shifting and I find I have to be ready for the entire day and not just one part of it. Lululemon's fall line has some really versatile transitional pieces, so I can just wake up, throw on a matching set, add a jacket or a fleece, and head out, knowing that I'll feel comfortable enough to go wherever the day takes me. Check out the new fall arrivals in store and online now at lululemon.com.

• 1:36:12Speaker 08

  Mr. President, my company informed me of the explosion on our rig. On October 2nd.

• 1:36:17Jay Shetty?

  Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami.

• 1:36:19Speaker 08

  They all heap the blame on me. Tom Cruise is. Digger got us into this mess, and Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 1:36:29Jay Shetty?

  What would happen if I stopped drilling? You stop, you freeze to death, that's what.

• 1:36:33Speaker 08

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 1:36:36Speaker 09

  I'm not the first then.

• 1:36:37Speaker 08

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17. Not a minute without parent.

• 1:36:42Speaker 09

  Ugh, I hate Mondays.

• 1:36:44Speaker 08

  King's Hawaiian Cinnamon Swirl Bite?

• 1:36:45Speaker 09

  Uh, Taylor Hansen? Sure, I'll try one. Mmm.

• 1:36:51Speaker 08

  Hey, let's get back to work, please.

• 1:36:53Speaker 09

  But Taylor Hansen's making my day way better with these new soft and swirly King's Hawaiian Cinnamon Bites.

• 1:36:57Speaker 08

  Taylor Hansen? Nice. Try one. Mmm.

• 1:37:04Speaker 04

  King's Hawaiian Cinnamon Bites. There's nothing like it.