4 Steps to Be More Productive Tomorrow & How to Stop Letting Pressure From Others Control You (With Special Guest Ed Mylett)

Today, I am going to share with you a conversation I had with serial entrepreneur, author, podcast host, and inspirational speaker Ed Mylett. In this interview, I talk about why we should build and practice a morning routine to help incorporate positivity in our day, the two opposite sides of ego that we don’t know about, and how being in service of others is a reflection of inner self. You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 03:18 Jay explains how we can create calm instead of looking for it. 05:10 What am I going to learn from a monk? 09:04 Digest this: Plant trees under whose shade you do not plan to sit. 11:36 How to avoid becoming the person you think other people want you to be. 15:01 The two lies we’ve been told growing up. 20:19 The 3 core aspects to incorporate in your morning routine. 28:09 Jay talks about the two opposite sides of ego. 30:27 What it means to find yourself when you lose yourself in service of others. 34:02 How do you take control of something you can’t control? 37:51 The monk life teaches you how to be child-like. 41:18 Do this if you want to start living a better life. Episode Resources: Ed Mylett | Website Ed Mylett | Instagram Ed Mylett | YouTube Ed Mylett | Books Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 0:43Jay Shetty?

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• 1:26Jay Shetty?

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• 2:01Jay Shetty?

  This episode is brought to you by AG1. Are you feeling September reset too? Shorter days, longer to-do lists, earlier alarms, all those routines you promised to yourself you'd pick back up. It can feel like your whole life is recalibrating. And when everything around you is changing, it helps to have a few things you can rely on. AG1 Next Gen is one of those easy habits to keep. It's the clinically-backed, comprehensive daily health drink that supports your gut health, energy production, and foundational nutrition all in one scoop. AG1's ingredients are sourced from quality partners for absorption, potency, and nutrient density to deliver the foundational nutrition your body needs. And alongside a proper diet,

• 2:45Jay Shetty?

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• 3:20Jay Shetty?

  Even if you look at someone like Jeff Bezos, who's extremely successful, he's successful because he's solved a problem that many people have. Even if you look at monetary success, even if you look at financial success, it comes from service. Any success comes from service.

• 3:35Ed Mylett?

  What advice or counsel, just in general, would you give somebody who wants to live a better life?

• 3:40Jay Shetty?

  The mistake we make is that we either act without thinking or we think without acting. If you're feeling stuck or you're like, "I'm not sure what I'm doing right now", you're either doing too much thinking or you're doing too much acting. All you have to do is ask yourself, "Does this bring me alive? Why does it bring me alive?" Really important to know why it works and do I want to do it again?

• 4:28Ed Mylett?

  Welcome back to Max Out, everybody. I am so excited to have this gentleman to my left here today. I've been chasing him for a long time and he probably doesn't need an introduction if you're watching this on YouTube because I know so many of you know him. But if you don't know who he is, let me just give you some background on this man. Number one, this person's had seven billion views on their YouTube channel. Seven billion views. He's had 34 million people following him on social media, which is just absolutely remarkable. And he had one video on Facebook that had 360 million views. Number one viewed video on all of Facebook in 2018. And I'm so excited to share with you that he's written this new book called, Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day. I read this book in two days.

• 5:11Ed Mylett?

  So of all the accolades that this man has, the most impressive thing isn't even what I just shared with you. It's that my mom has a massive crush on you. No, I'm not kidding. So mom, I've embarrassed you to millions of people, but my mom's crush is here today, Jay Shetty.

• 5:26Jay Shetty?

  Ed, thank you so much, man. I'm so grateful for this, honestly. Like just walking into your home today and experiencing your energy firsthand. Like you feel the power of your energy on social media. I feel it when I'm following you, but I feel the presence right now. So I just want to say thank you, honestly. I just feel like a big hug this morning.

• 5:44Ed Mylett?

  That means the world to me. And I've told you, I was just literally telling you before we went on that there's nobody on social media who grabs me like you do.

• 5:51Jay Shetty?

  Thank you, man. I really appreciate that.

• 5:52Ed Mylett?

  And I told you why, and I should tell them. It's the convergence of, I think, your visual, your auditory, your look and your voice, but mainly just the depth of your message is so special. This is not a person who posts content that you're gonna scroll through. This is somebody, when he posts something, it affects you. His videos move you, and this book moved me.

• 6:11Jay Shetty?

  Thank you, man.

• 6:11Ed Mylett?

  And usually if a guest is on, I'm very excited about their book, but in this case, I'm highlighting everywhere. And I think, let's start somewhere. There's 11 sort of points in the book that you go through. But I think in this time, in this day and age, with all the kind of current events that are happening in the world, one of the things you talked about in there is ways to find calm in the chaos. Could you talk a little bit about that?

• 6:33Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. I think we're just living in uncertain times. We're living in chaos, as you just said it. We're living in times where we're constantly surprised by what's gonna happen next. And it's not a good surprise, like it's not like a birthday surprise. It's it's a negative surprise sometimes. And I think what's happened is that we've started to recognize, and I really trust the people listening and watching right now, we've started to realize that the answer is not gonna come from outside of us. We can't just keep waiting for suddenly the stock market to be perfectly aligned. We can't keep waiting for the political climate or the environment to be perfectly aligned. What we need to do is find and more importantly, not just find, but create that peace and that calm within us. And that's why I talk about thinking like a monk, because

• 7:17Jay Shetty?

  when you look at the brains of monks across the world, they have the calmest, happiest brains on planet Earth. And I want to give people access to how to have that, because when you start getting access to that, now you don't need the weather to be perfect. Now you don't need to wait for everyone to give you love every single day. Now you're not dependent on anything outside of you, but you recognize that you can create calm. You're not going to look for calm. And so that's the perspective that I want people to do. And I am so excited to be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My new book, Eight Rules of Love, is out, and I cannot wait to share it with you. I am so,

• 7:59Jay Shetty?

  so excited for you to read this book, for you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook. If you haven't got it already, make sure you go to eightrulesoflove.com. It's dedicated to anyone who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love. So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up, or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book. And I'd love to invite you to come and see me for my global tour, Love Rules. Go to jayshettytour.com to learn more information about tickets, VIP experiences, and more. I can't wait to see you this year.

• 8:34Ed Mylett?

  It's beautiful. I was reading in the book where you're talking about these monks, they actually measure their gamma waves even at sleep. And they are higher than everybody else, right?

• 8:42Jay Shetty?

  Than everybody else.

• 8:43Ed Mylett?

  And so you tapped into this, ironically, you graduate from college, they just need to know the background on this, as I understand it anyway. It kind of in your family, you say, it's sort of like you're a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure.

• 8:55Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, those are my three options, yeah.

• 8:58Ed Mylett?

  And you end up graduating, but before even at graduation, you go away and go live with the monks, right? You literally, how did you make this decision? And what overall would you say was the, the impact that happened to you while you did that?

• 9:10Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. So yeah, a bit of background, I grew up a teacher's pet until the age of 14. So I was an obedient kid, probably like the perfect son, worked really hard at school. And then at 14, I went the opposite way. I started rebelling. I started experimenting with everything under the sun. And at 18, I was at this interesting point, I think everyone is, when, if you think back to being 18 and everyone is listening and watching, think about being 18 years old again and how impressionable you were and what kind of decisions you were making. I used to go and listen to CEOs, entrepreneurs, experts, celebrities speak. And once I was invited to hear a monk speak. And I thought to myself, what am I going to learn from a monk? Like, there's nothing to learn from a monk. Like, what's he going to teach me? How to be silent? Like, who cares?

• 9:52Jay Shetty?

  And I said to my friends, I would only go if we went to a bar afterwards. Like, that was my, like, I was like, I want it in writing.

• 9:59Ed Mylett?

  Okay, that, that describes where you really were.

• 10:01Jay Shetty?

  Literally, that, that describes where I was genuinely at. I'm not making this up. And I end up going, and this is what I love about that moment. The best moments in your life are sometimes the most humbling ones.

• 10:12Ed Mylett?

  True.

• 10:12Jay Shetty?

  I was humbled because I went into that environment expecting to get nothing and having my life transformed. So what ended up happening is, I felt, and you've probably felt this when you, when you meet people. When I was 18, I'd met people who were beautiful, I'd met people who were powerful, I'd met people who were rich. I'd met people who were famous, I'd met people who were successful. But I don't think I'd met anyone who was truly happy. And even now, if I asked you to count on your hand, how many people you know that are truly content, satisfied and happy, I think we'd struggle.

• 10:43Ed Mylett?

  Absolutely.

• 10:43Jay Shetty?

  And I felt that from him at 18. And the great thing is, I know him now, I've known him for the last 14 years. This, this particular monk, his name's Gorangadas, I talk about him in the book. He's still the same. And so he's maintained that. And so I started getting fascinated with him. So I spent every summer vacation with him from age 18 to age 22, every summer vacation, I would spend half of it. Interning at big finance companies, steakhouses, bars, fancy suits, and I'd spend the other half living as a monk in India.

• 11:11Ed Mylett?

  That's remarkable.

• 11:12Jay Shetty?

  Robes, sleeping on the floor and meditating.

• 11:15Ed Mylett?

  My gosh.

• 11:15Jay Shetty?

  And then when I graduated, I decided that the monk path was more fulfilling than the banking path, and so I chose it.

• 11:22Ed Mylett?

  What a remarkable young life.

• 11:23Jay Shetty?

  It was, it was my first like experiment, you know, it's like you're literally testing and, and I never judged myself, and that's what I love about being able to live life in that way. Like, I didn't judge myself when I was at the monastery. I wasn't like, "Oh no, I was just drinking last week. I can't do this." And then when I was out there with the guys, I wasn't like, "Oh no, I should be meditating." I was just like, "Let me really experience each life to its fullest."

• 11:45Ed Mylett?

  Wow.

• 11:45Jay Shetty?

  And then I can decide which one really fills me with joy.

• 11:49Ed Mylett?

  It's amazing what you're talking about, because just this week I was on a show, they said, "What topic would you like to cover above any of them?" They left it open to me, and I said, "I think it should be happiness, because it's so rare for most people in the world." People have asked me on the show, when I started the show, I was fascinated, because your show's had fifty-four million downloads the first year, right? And people said, "What do the people that you interview have in common?" There are some of my best friends, some of your best friends are on your show. And I thought, "Well, I wonder when I do it, is it gonna be their drive, their ingenuity, their charisma, their work ethic, their brilliance?" And many of them have all of those qualities. But I think you would agree with me that even top performers that we work with, some of them have a touch of not-so-happy going on in their life. Even the people that you think have their whole world together,

• 12:34Ed Mylett?

  they too seek happiness, and I'll be honest with you, because I'm such a fan of yours, I thought, well, almost like what you thought, "What do I have to learn from you about happiness from the monk perspective?" I didn't think the same. And as I started to read the book, first, there were many revelations for me. Secondly, there were some things in the book that I think I do practice pretty well, but the way you phrase it and position it is beautiful, as is your norm. So one of the things you say early in the book, you talk about selfless sacrifice. And there's this great quote that I'll mess up in there that one of the monks had shared with you.

• 13:06Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 13:07Ed Mylett?

  About that in the shade that you don't want to sit in, plant the tree, right?

• 13:11Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 13:11Ed Mylett?

  Can you talk about that?

• 13:12Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, the statement, this was the statement that, when I'm sitting in that room as an eighteen-year-old thinking about going to a bar, this was that statement that penetrated my heart, and I was like, "Oh." Because so, he was making the point that if you have any gifts, and if you have any talents in the world, if you're not using them in the service of others... Then worth nothing. And that's a very bold point. And the way he put it, and he was quoting another writer, and he wrote that, "Plant trees under whose shade you do not plan to sit." And what that means is, most of us plant trees, or we do things for people because we're expecting that one day they're gonna reciprocate and do something back for us.

• 13:52Jay Shetty?

  And he was like, "Real service is when you do things for people that can't do anything back for you at that time, and you're not expecting anything." And for me, for my eighteen-year-old mind, I was like, "Oh, I thought my skills were just to impress women and make money and, you know, just do what everyone else does." And when he was talking about selfless sacrifice and service, I was like, "I wanna test that." Because either this man is a genius, or he's completely crazy. But if he's given up, and he went to IIT, so he went to the Indian Institute of Technology, one of the best universities in the world, he was like a number one student, and he gave that all up to be a monk. So I was like, "There's something there," because you don't just give that up. Especially in India, the pressure to perform and to be a top-grade student is so high,

• 14:37Jay Shetty?

  that to walk away from that, like his family and everyone would have just completely, so I was like, "I wanna follow that path."

• 14:43Ed Mylett?

  Wow. Bro, I'm fascinated by you. Because now that I'm in your presence, everyone should know that Jay and I have communicated for a very long time. We have tons of each friends, but we are rare on the show, that I'm in the presence of somebody, and I feel your energy when you speak about this. I think I had this impression that someone who's sort of monk-related is just sort of, just, there's this feeling I get that's just, it's strong peace, but it's strong too, there's an energy about you. And one of the things that I think that you eventually overcame, that you talk about beautifully in the book, and I see every day, people ask me often, there's all these memes out there. We all hear, "Hey, you know, whatever everyone's opinion about you is none of your business." But people really struggle with finding a pathway to happiness because they are

• 15:25Ed Mylett?

  borderline obsessed with the thoughts and opinions of other people. And you discuss that a little bit too. How would you tell someone who's struggling with this, which is ninety-nine percent of the people who are listening to this, how they might deal with that or overcome it?

• 15:38Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I give this analogy in the book about how we're all like method actors. So I'm a big movie fan, like I'm a big movie fan. And so for me, some of my favorite actors are like Heath Ledger, who played the Joker in The Dark Knight. Uh, you've got Daniel Day Lewis, who's an incredible method actor. Now, I talk about in the book how Daniel Day Lewis, at some points, he was wearing the clothes for Gangs of New York in his normal life. To the point that he even got pneumonia in his normal life because he's wearing these old raggedy clothes. And he goes, at one point, he almost went crazy pretending to be someone that he wasn't. Now, when I heard that and I read that, I thought, wow, isn't that all of us? Like you wear a certain role to work, you wear a certain role at home, you wear a certain role with your friends.

• 16:23Jay Shetty?

  And in playing all those roles, you end up method acting and forgetting who you are.

• 16:27Ed Mylett?

  Oh, my goodness. That is beautiful.

• 16:28Jay Shetty?

  And, and for me, that's what I'm just seeing across and in and of myself.

• 16:32Ed Mylett?

  Me too.

• 16:32Jay Shetty?

  And I see myself do that. I become, you become who you think other people want you to be. And so for me, the first step in that is writing down everything you're chasing right now. Like, this is a great strategy and a tool. And if anyone's listening or watching, get a pen and paper. If you're not, take a screenshot of this time code right now and come back to this. Because I want you to sit down and I want you to write down everything you're chasing right now, whatever it is. Make that list. Second question, where did that idea come from? Did that idea come from your mom, your dad, your friend, your brother? Did the idea come from me or Ed? Did the idea come from, I don't know, some book that you read? Like, did the idea come from your heart and your mind? Or was it born because it was influenced by your friend who just got promoted? Your friend who just got proposed to?

• 17:17Jay Shetty?

  Your friend who just sold their company for a hundred million dollars? Like, is that, was that the reason? Because then that may not be your dream. And then the third question you have to ask yourself is, is this my dream? Or, this is the question. Is your dream really your dream? And when you go through that exercise, you wanna keep the stuff that's yours? And you wanna distance yourself from the stuff that's not.

• 17:40Ed Mylett?

  What incredible advice. You know, I'm a little, bro, I gotta tell you, there's such wisdom for such a young man. I'm a little bit further down the road, age-wise.

• 17:48Jay Shetty?

  And wisdom-wise, and wisdom-wise. I'm excited to learn from you a lot, man.

• 17:52Ed Mylett?

  Certainly not, but I appreciate you saying that.

• 17:55Jay Shetty?

  I mean it.

• 17:55Ed Mylett?

  But I can, I can validate what you've just said. I'm, I think dream catching in your life can become something that gains momentum as you vibrate at a little bit higher frequency. You can begin to attract things and I'm a big believer in that. And I have many times achieved a dream or two that when I got there was completely empty. And every time that I got to those dreams and they were empty, they were not my dreams. They were something that I thought someone else wanted me to do or something that I saw someone else have, that I thought I wanted. A place, a destination, a home, something. And you're 100% right, but the times when I've got clear on things that I really wanted, that really mattered to me, and when they were good enough that they materialized in my life, what great joy they've brought me. And they're usually extremely simple things, as you illustrate as well.

• 18:39Jay Shetty?

  I love hearing you say that and it's nice to get validated on that because I think you've achieved so much in your life and it's incredible to see what you've achieved. And I, and I think that's what people forget is that the things that you bring you joy are because you achieved what you wanted to achieve.

• 18:53Ed Mylett?

  Let's talk about that for a minute. You talk about Dharma a little bit. How do you figure that part out in your life?

• 18:58Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, so Dharma is a fascinating concept. I absolutely love it. And the loose language terminology for it is purpose or calling or your mission and vision in life, like what are you meant to do? It's kinda like what you're meant to do. And the thing about Dharma is, Dharma talks about how we think we have to learn lots of stuff, when actually Dharma is unlearning and bringing out what you already have. So, one of the things I mentioned in the book is that you can't be anything. There, there's, there's two lies we've been told growing up. The first lie is you're nothing. You're stupid, you're worthless, you're not gonna make it. And I'm sure many people listening and watching have heard that from teachers, parents, aunts, uncles, whoever it is.

• 19:42Jay Shetty?

  And then the other lie that we're actually told, and I don't think it's a lie. I think it's positive, but sometimes it's misconstrued, is you can be anything.

• 19:51Jay Shetty?

  And, and we all know that's not true too. And, and it's unfair because sometimes people get misled.

• 19:57Ed Mylett?

  You're exactly right.

• 19:58Jay Shetty?

  And Dharma point of view is, you can't be anything you want, but you can be everything you are. And what I mean by that is, you have a genius, a potential, a power inside of you, that you don't know yet why, because you're inexperienced. It's not that you're unqualified, it's your inexperience. So people are saying, "I'm stuck, I don't know where my life's going, I don't know my purpose is." So you're perceiving yourself to be unqualified or underqualified. Actually, you're just inexperienced. You just haven't done enough things to let the magnet of your life tell you what it's attracted to. So for me, that's what Dharma is encouraging people to do.

• 20:39Jay Shetty?

  And this beautiful verse from this Vedic text, a monk text, called the Manush Smriti. And it says that when you protect your purpose, your purpose protects you. And what I love about that, and you will appreciate this, because I know you're someone that I feel is living this. A purpose is like a rare gem, and you have to protect it. People will tell you that gem is worthless. They'll tell you that that gem is not gonna make it. They'll tell you that that gem, that jewel, has no value. And that's why you have to protect your own purpose. Because the world is gonna constantly try and pull you away from it. So Dharma is, it's not a belief system, it's a fact that you've got skills, genius, potential, it's sitting inside of you, and you have not seen it yet. And I've seen this across the board.

• 21:23Jay Shetty?

  I literally just got a call from the, I got a call from the CEO of Instagram, probably about three to six months ago, it's been a while now. And she called me up and she said, "Jay, we just had", I don't think I've told this story anyway, so you've sparked it out of me, but, she goes, "We've just had this call", uh, sorry, "we've just had this talk from this speaker that we brought in." And this speaker spent years in a refugee camp. And in this refugee camp, not only did he figure out how to survive, he actually got his mother to save up for a computer, and he coded a game, he taught himself how to code, and he coded a game that helps people understand how not to be violent in a refugee camp.

• 22:08Ed Mylett?

  Gosh.

• 22:08Jay Shetty?

  And then he used Facebook to promote it. And they said, "We were so inspired by him that we brought him in to speak to Instagram and Facebook." And then we asked him the question. We asked him, "What has had the impact on you? Like, what kept you inspired?" And this guy goes, "I used to watch this guy called Jay Shetty on Facebook." And, and, and literally, when she told me that, and she said, literally, the whole audience was in tears at his story. And I said to her, I said, "I need to talk to him right away, because I need to tell him." I'm like, "Dude, you've just inspired me." Like, my, like, I'm like, "Dude, your life is way harder than mine's ever been." And if you can realize that you have the potential, in a refugee camp, to teach yourself how to code, and to help people not be violent.

• 22:51Jay Shetty?

  I mean, you're inspiring more lives. His name is Lou Almayen. I'm like, "Dude, you're inspiring so many more lives than I ever..." Like, it's just beautiful. To me, that story, I'm not sharing it to show my role in his life. I'm sharing it because I'm like, "If he can find a way to find his Dharma, then we haven't got any excuses."

• 23:08Ed Mylett?

  Brother, that's... It's funny, but right before you told the story about him,

• 23:11Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 23:12Ed Mylett?

  I was going to tell you that it's so obvious to me that you're in your home. And that's perfect evidence of it. It's so obvious to me, because I sit next to you. And I, the book, guys, I want you to get this book. It has my full endorsement. And the reason it does, first off, is because this man that you're hearing these incredible words from, wrote it. But it's, it's a unique book, because it talks about these principles that are eternally true. But there's also like, what I would call fundamental strategy. I was gonna say basic, but it's not basic. It's fundamental strategies. I was surprised in a book that talks so much about happiness, that you get as granular as a morning routine.

• 23:50Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 23:50Ed Mylett?

  Right? Which I'm a huge believer of, and I think sometimes, but you do it differently.

• 23:55Jay Shetty?

  Right.

• 23:55Ed Mylett?

  And so I only gonna go through a few things, because we want him to read the book.

• 23:58Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 23:59Ed Mylett?

  Right? But like, just so you know, guys, we're at 1%, less than 1% of the book so far.

• 24:02Jay Shetty?

  You're very good.

• 24:03Ed Mylett?

  But it's true. But so, talk a little bit, just tactically for a second,

• 24:06Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 24:07Ed Mylett?

  about importance of it, and, and the way that you perceive a morning routine.

• 24:10Jay Shetty?

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• 24:55Jay Shetty?

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• 25:37Jay Shetty?

  Beautiful thing about monk life is half the day is self and half the day is service. That's how you're taught to live. So the morning hours are for you to fill yourself. It's almost like putting on mental, emotional and physical armor. Like, that's what a morning routine is. Our days are tiring, our days are busy, our days are draining. Well, guess what? If you didn't put your armor on in the morning and you're going out to battle, how many knives are going to cut you? How many swords are going to pierce you? How many wounds are you going to come home with? How many of you come back home feeling wounded? I come back home feeling wounded sometimes, but guess what? If you put your armor on in the morning, a warrior would never go out onto a battlefield. And life can be a battlefield.

• 26:22Jay Shetty?

  Work can be full of conflict sometimes. Your relationships can be damaging sometimes. Your friendships can be toxic sometimes. So, we are warriors in one sense. And so, without wearing that. So, for me, a morning routine is putting on emotional armor, which is meant to protect you for the rest of the day. And that way, even if you do get pierced, or you do get popped, or you do get cut, you're protected. And I know that when my morning routine is at its best, I feel protected. I know exactly. Whereas when my morning routine is weakened, I feel weak. And so, for me, the morning routine, as I get strategic about it, there's two principles you have to know. Location has energy and time has memory.

• 27:05Jay Shetty?

  If you do something in the same place every day, that place now holds that energy. And this is huge, like it's just so big. And I'm grateful for that reaction because people don't realize how powerful this is. Like, when I meditated in temples that were 5,000 years old in South India, it was easier to meditate. Because people have been meditating there for thousands of years. And so, when you find a space in your home, and even if you've got, like, I lived in a 500-square-foot apartment in New York four years ago. And I just had a tiny corner, which I dedicated to my sacred practices. So, if you, you don't have to have a big home to do this. You don't have to be wealthy to do this. You can find just a corner in your home that you dedicate as your meditation space or your reflection space.

• 27:49Jay Shetty?

  So, first thing, location has energy. Second thing, time has memory. And this is something that people underestimate. When you do something at the same time every day, you remember it and time remembers it. That's why we struggle to work out at different times every day. It's why we struggle, like, why do we feel hungry at the same time every day? Generally, we feel hungry at the same time. Most people, if you've got a regulated diet, you will feel hungry. You will feel tired at the same time every day. You will look towards that Coke can or that sugar or that chocolate bar at the same time every day. And so when you're meditating at the same time, if you're exercising at the same time. So what I recommend to people is your morning routine needs four aspects.

• 28:33Jay Shetty?

  And it's simple and I call it time. It's about making time in the day. Okay. So time stands for T I M E. T stands for thankfulness. There needs to be, even if it's five minutes, five minutes of thankfulness, of gratitude every single morning. And that has to be gratitude that's specific. It can't be gratitude that's generic. So generic gratitude is something that anyone could be grateful for. Oh, I'm grateful for the sky. I'm grateful for air. I'm grateful for water. That's cool, but it's generic gratitude. Specific gratitude is I'm grateful for the fact that I have someone calling me this morning. I'm grateful for the fact that I can still call my parents.

• 29:15Jay Shetty?

  I'm grateful for the fact that I have this person in my business who is having such an impact. I'm grateful, you know, it's specific. Yeah, so thankfulness. Second one is insight. I think this is one thing that a lot of people are missing, which I recommend people listening to you. It's like podcasts, books, and make it easier for yourself. If you get this book, leave it open on your bedside table. Leave it open on your kitchen table. Leave it open on your dining table. I guarantee you, you will read more and what you read will speak to you. And I think people underestimate that, that literally like when you have it open and you'll just flick to a chapter randomly and you pick up one line, it will impact you and it will speak to you. So insight, you need insight every day.

• 29:58Jay Shetty?

  M is meditation, and I believe meditation is different for different people. As monks, we did walking meditations. We did beach meditations. We did visualizations. We did breath work. Find your meditation practice. I give a ton in the book. And fourth, obviously, exercise, which you can speak to even more than I can. I exercise to keep fit. You look amazing too though. But it's an exercise. Everyone needs to find five minutes a day, fifteen minutes a day of exercise that can just get them moving. And guess what? If you like sport, play sport with a friend. If you wanna shoot hoops, go and shoot hoops. You don't have to sit on a treadmill. No one's telling you to do that. Make it fun and playful.

• 30:33Ed Mylett?

  Brother, I've been in personal development and business entrepreneur space for a long time. Those are two gigantic revelations that I've never heard before. I'm telling you that for me, in the book, right? I'm reading it and I literally stopped the book and I brought both my kids in. And we talked about this idea of that space having an energy to it. And I want to validate it because I just think you're incredible. Everybody is why I want you to get the book and it's why if you're not, you must be following Jay on these different platforms, not just one either. You need to be on his YouTube, you need to be on his Instagram, his Facebook. But I share this with you because I'm sure he's a hero of yours. When I was very young, well, when I was younger, actually about your age, ironically. I'm running on the beach in Hawaii and it's early in the morning.

• 31:18Ed Mylett?

  So I did my morning run, speaking about exercise. And passing me by on the beach was this man, I saw him from a distance. Anyway, he gets by me and he starts to go the other way and it was Wayne Dyer.

• 31:26Jay Shetty?

  Oh, wow.

• 31:28Ed Mylett?

  And a lot of people listening probably don't know.

• 31:30Jay Shetty?

  Oh, Wayne Dyer, you should check, I mean, he's not alive, but you should check out Wayne Dyer's work. His books are unbelievable.

• 31:36Ed Mylett?

  He's one of the godfathers of, I mean, he was somebody that's really made an impact. I end up getting a chance, long story short, sitting on the beach with him for about an hour as the sun comes up, talking about life. You talk about just the two of us, right? However, one of the principles he taught me that day, and you articulate it quite frankly, more beautifully and more specifically than even he did. But I want to validate it again because these are things that you're not getting on any other podcasts, what Jay and I are talking about right now. And he asked me, he said, are you going to write a book and do you prepare speeches? I said, I do. And he says, one of the things I do is I have lots of the greatest books in the world surround me when I write because these books have that time and energy in them. And he believed that it gave him the great wisdom of all of these people when he just surrounded himself in that familiar space.

• 32:18Ed Mylett?

  So for you to now put this in your book about a morning routine is remarkable because I was just a passing thought that's really written nowhere. So thank God for you, bro.

• 32:27Jay Shetty?

  I appreciate that, man. And you just sparked, actually, Phil Knight, Shoe Dog, Nike. It's like, he talks about how... He actually has a room where he keeps his books, like a library. But he takes his shoes off when he enters that room because of the wisdom and the weight and the energy and the gravitas he believes books hold. And so even as monks, we would never wear shoes around books because it was considered shoes are dirty and you wear them outdoors. And books are so pure that you don't want to take dirt into that space. And supposedly Phil Knight, he does the same thing. And I was like, Phil Knight's thinking like a monk.

• 33:02Ed Mylett?

  So he's a monk?

• 33:02Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, he's thinking like a monk. But it's just so interesting what you're saying about like books holding energy. We believe that books are sacred. You don't kick books. You don't keep books on the floor because they have knowledge and they're meant to raise you up.

• 33:14Ed Mylett?

  Wow, wow, wow. There's so much in there. I want to go through a couple more things. I want to have the book, but I'm so fascinated by you. I got a couple of personal things I want to do. But one of the things you say in the book, I've said this before, and again, I just like the way you approach it with more depth than I've covered it before. I just said this this week to somebody that looked at me like I was crazy and I talked about, I said, some of your low self-esteem and your lack of confidence is actually an ego issue that you have. And the person stared back at me like, how in the world is someone with no confidence or low self-esteem struggling from an ego issue? And I don't know that I articulated it well enough, although it's in one of the podcasts that I've released, one of my solo podcasts, but you articulate it right on. So talk about that for a second.

• 33:56Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, so it's an interesting concept and it's talked about in the Bhagavad Gita, another monk text. And in the book, it talks about how like ego is demonstrated in two ways. So ego is either I am the best in the world and I think I'm better than everyone. Or ego says, you're the worst in the world. You're the worst than everyone. You're much worse than everyone. Or you say, my life is the best and the greatest. My life is the worst, right? My life is far worse than anyone else. So the ego likes to push you to the extreme. It doesn't like to give you balance and honesty and reality. It likes to, it wants to make you feel like

• 34:37Jay Shetty?

  you've got the worst life in the world and no one else understands it. No one gets that. Only you get it and you get the worst. Or you're the best and no one else gets you. You're untouchable. And people miss that. They're like, how does that make sense? Exactly like you said. But it does make sense because the ego wants to be the top. Or the bottom, but the top of the bottom.

• 34:55Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 34:55Jay Shetty?

  It doesn't just wanna be at the bottom.

• 34:56Ed Mylett?

  It's gotta be the bottom of the bottom.

• 34:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's gotta be the bottom of the bottom of the bottom, but the top of the bottom, right?

• 35:00Ed Mylett?

  Very well said.

• 35:01Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and so we get lost in that and we don't think of it as ego.

• 35:04Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 35:04Jay Shetty?

  And that's why the only antidote to either ego is self-honesty.

• 35:09Ed Mylett?

  Hmm.

• 35:10Jay Shetty?

  Is being honest and honesty is, I'm good at these things.

• 35:14Ed Mylett?

  Hmm.

• 35:14Jay Shetty?

  I'm great at these things and I suck at these things, right? That's honesty, like, and we could all sit down, me and you, could sit down with a list of our skills and map out what we were great at, what we were average at, and what we knew we were terrible at.

• 35:27Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 35:27Jay Shetty?

  And that's honesty, that keeps you so away from either ego.

• 35:32Ed Mylett?

  Do you think part of it too is that when you're suffering from my life is the worst, that you're focusing on you and you're centering on you and there's an ego connection to that too? And that this pathway you talked about earlier about getting into the service of other people.

• 35:45Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 35:45Ed Mylett?

  Removes you from you, which begins to remove the ego.

• 35:48Jay Shetty?

  Absolutely, I mean, that's a huge point you just made right there, like you just dropped some serious, like, it's like a, you know, please don't underestimate that point, everyone is listening, like. The, the challenge with all self-centeredness is that all you then indulge yourself in is your own pain.

• 36:03Ed Mylett?

  Whoa, very good.

• 36:03Jay Shetty?

  Right, you just indulge, you just submerge and like immerse yourself in pain because it's all about you.

• 36:09Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 36:09Jay Shetty?

  And, you know, I think Gandhi said it best is that you find yourself when you lose yourself in the service of others. And what I love about that statement is that, what he means by that is, and, and empaths get this mixed up sometimes, so I wanna clarify, because a lot of people who are empaths who are listening are like, Jay, I'm always trying to help people, but then I get screwed over. So here's, here's the answer. You're not helping people so that they can thank you. You're not helping people so that they can be grateful to you. You're helping people because you know it's the right thing to do, but more importantly, you're helping people because you get to understand and experiment and experience different parts of yourself. When I helped kids growing up in India that were, that didn't have food and we were giving them free food,

• 36:53Jay Shetty?

  I learned so much about myself. When I was able to go and give talks that helped people, or now I make videos or podcasts, you learn more about yourself when you help people. You don't learn anything about yourself when you're just sitting there filling out a quiz, going, "Who am I? What am I?" Like, you don't figure it, but you learn about yourself when you help people. And, and this is what we don't realize. I can't remember who said it recently. It was someone saying about Jeff Bezos, but they were saying that, you know, the, the scale at which you succeed is the depth of the problem you solve. And so even if you look at someone like Jeff Bezos, who's extremely successful, he's successful because he's solved a problem that many people have.

• 37:34Jay Shetty?

  Bill Gates is successful because he solved a problem. So even if you look at monetary success, even if you look at financial success, it comes from service. Any success comes from service. A musician is famous because they're serving. They're serving you by understanding your feelings, making music. You now feel comforted, so you follow them. They have served you. So don't think of service as just charity and giving money, which are beautiful things which we all should do. But don't just limit your life to thinking, "I serve on the weekends," or "I serve once a year." You can serve every moment. This podcast is a service.

• 38:08Ed Mylett?

  No question right now.

• 38:09Jay Shetty?

  It's your service because you're serving people by giving them an alternative to just watching some trash show. But they're actually here learning from you and learning from the people that you bring on the show.

• 38:19Ed Mylett?

  I've watched you to that point, this is a personal thing, because I'm, I'm such a believer that you're, you move the needle in the world, that you can help change consciousness. I'm in my little way, people say, "Why do you?" In my small way, I would love to think I'm like in that ocean that you see out there, like a drop of water and altering the consciousness of the world. Just, just a skosh, not me, but who I can share with people and my own messages. And I believe you're one of those people. And so I will tell you, as I've watched this meteoric rise of yours, I've actually privately, a few times, not every day, but a few times, I've actually prayed for you, that you, that, that you would keep this level of humility. And so this is an interesting thing I wanted to ask you, but it'll serve everybody else.

• 39:03Ed Mylett?

  There is this balance, isn't there, of wanting this book to do well. Right? You don't want it to sell two copies. You want it to do very well. When you put a video out, There's probably a this, there's gotta be a little part of you that's like, how well did it do? And I think that line right there, I'm not even sure if you or I know the answer entirely. But do you struggle with that balance of, I'm doing this in the service of people, yet I'm sensitive to the response of what I'm doing? Because I think someone listening to this right now who's gonna have a sales presentation tomorrow, they wanna be in the service of that person, but there's this part of them that is in that balance we've talked about earlier about what's the response going to be? How am I going to be received? I want people to like me. I want their... How do you navigate that?

• 39:48Jay Shetty?

  That's a great question, man. That's huge. And the answer, let's take that salesperson. The more time that person spends in empathy, their customer's pain, and what the customer's really looking for, the better they're gonna be received. So that service mindset always helps because if you're thinking about, and this is what it comes, and I said this to my team when we were writing the book and everything that I was working on, I said, if I sit here right now and all I'm thinking about while I'm writing the book is being a bestselling book, then guess what? I'm now not writing the book. I'm now living in the future and I'm not living in the present.

• 40:30Jay Shetty?

  And so the only way to make this a bestselling book is to do the process properly. And I don't think, and this is what I do, and this is the only thing that's helping me, and again, I go through it all the time. After my first video went viral three, four years ago, I stopped creating because of the pressure that I wouldn't be able to live up to it. So I actually got scared because I was like, oh well, what if the next video doesn't do as well? Everyone's gonna think I'm tanking. Like, you get into that self doubt and that self, and I got into that space where I was just like...

• 40:59Ed Mylett?

  Thank you for being honest about that.

• 41:00Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, no, really. Like, genuinely, I didn't wanna make a video again. Because I was like, this video just got 40 million views. Like, how am I ever gonna beat that, right? And you get scared. I was like, I'm not putting anything out. I'm just gonna stop. And then I started to realize, it's like, well, now I'm not living in service anymore. I'm living out of ego and I'm living for feeling a certain way. And guess what? I'm not feeling better by not putting anything out. And actually, if I just serve more, I learn more. So the way I've made sense of it, and there's a verse in the Gita that explains it too, is that you have full control over the preparation, the process.

• 41:33Jay Shetty?

  And the practice, but you have no control over the potential result. But all of those three things are the result in and of themselves.

• 41:43Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 41:44Jay Shetty?

  And so if you get addicted to the process of writing, the practice of connecting with the right people who can help share your work. And yet, like you said, I am focused on the process of making sure that the most people in the world have the opportunity to buy this book. But then if they choose not to buy it, I can't control that. But I can control making sure that it's in front of everyone and that I believe in the content. And that to me is not attachment, that to me is not ego. That to me is trying to live your best life. I mean, like, you know, if you didn't just try, if you're like, I wrote this book, but who cares?

• 42:18Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 42:18Jay Shetty?

  I mean, that's not service either. Because the way I explain it, and I'm not claiming that this is it, and I'm not trying to say I'm it, I'm trying to say that I think we all feel this way. If you or me see an amazing movie, we want to tell everyone about it. If you read an amazing book, you want to tell everyone about it. If you found the cure to cancer, you tell everyone about it. For me, I got to live an incredible life thanks to these amazing teachers I met. I just want to tell everyone about it, like, that's all I'm doing.

• 42:47Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 42:47Jay Shetty?

  But I want to tell everyone because of how powerful it was.

• 42:50Ed Mylett?

  Brother, that's the best description I've ever heard of. There's this line I've always tried to teach of, you want to have outcomes, but yet you need to separate from them.

• 42:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 42:58Ed Mylett?

  And that's a difficult thing when people are trying to achieve different things. That was perfectly stated, absolutely being addicted to the process of it, but actually separating from what you can't control. I absolutely, absolutely love it. I'm just curious, I got a couple more questions.

• 43:12Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 43:12Ed Mylett?

  Tell us something about being a monk and living with them that would surprise us.

• 43:15Jay Shetty?

  Okay, good.

• 43:16Ed Mylett?

  What's something about that?

• 43:17Jay Shetty?

  So, so we had, we had, that's a good question. So we had snoring and non-snoring room.

• 43:24Jay Shetty?

  So they try and be compassionate, right? So we would, so I'm a non-snorer. I don't snore when I sleep and my wife agrees now to.

• 43:32Ed Mylett?

  She validates that.

• 43:33Jay Shetty?

  Yes, I'm in the non-snorer room. But the snoring room, we would always joke around with the snorers because we'd always joke about how they all sound like different motorcycles. So we'd be like, oh, that guy's like a Harley Davidson at night.

• 43:44Ed Mylett?

  Monks say this?

• 43:45Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, monks say this. Because you're human and we're playful and you know, it's almost like monk life kind of makes you more childlike, not childish, but childlike. Because you start seeing things for what they truly are and you don't get caught up in stuff. So you can laugh at each other, you can mess around. Another thing is we had these sacred sweets or sacred items that are prepared and offered. And everyone gets to share them and you don't eat a lot of sugar as monks and you don't eat sweet stuff. But these, these kind of natural sweetened items came out like once a week. And, and some monks would wrestle over them, like, you know, like physically like grapple over who's gonna get those. So these are the behind the scenes.

• 44:24Ed Mylett?

  I love that. It humanizes the entire concept.

• 44:28Jay Shetty?

  Monks are normal people and let's be honest, like most people haven't been monks their whole lives. So it's not like.

• 44:32Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, great point.

• 44:33Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's like I became a monk when I was 22 and I'm not now. My friends, some of them became monks at 22, some of them became monks at 30, like. It's not like, there are monks that become monks at five, that does exist. But the majority of people now are not doing that.

• 44:46Ed Mylett?

  They may even have more time in their life not one than they were one.

• 44:49Jay Shetty?

  Exactly, exactly. And so for me, yeah, I'm glad you asked me that question because yeah, like monks are humorous. They're funny. They're like, my teachers are hilarious. If I'm with them, I'll just laugh the whole time.

• 44:59Ed Mylett?

  Really?

• 45:00Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, because they just see that. And I'd love to introduce you to one of my teachers who travels here a lot.

• 45:04Ed Mylett?

  I would love that.

• 45:05Jay Shetty?

  I'd love to introduce you to him, actually. He's around 70 years old now. He's been a monk for 40 years. And, and he grew up in Chicago. So he's an American man, but he lives in India. He's been a monk for 40 years. Unbelievable, but he is hilarious.

• 45:17Ed Mylett?

  Oh, my goodness.

• 45:18Jay Shetty?

  And anytime I'm with him, I don't stop laughing, so.

• 45:20Ed Mylett?

  Well, present people are more joyous in and of itself, right?

• 45:22Jay Shetty?

  Hundred percent. Yeah, exactly.

• 45:24Ed Mylett?

  You are.

• 45:25Jay Shetty?

  You're not dealing, yeah, and you're not dealing with that, you're not dealing with the baggage of the past.

• 45:29Ed Mylett?

  Right.

• 45:29Jay Shetty?

  Or the anxiety of the future. So when you are present, you can just laugh, you can. Be joyous and be entertained and yeah.

• 45:35Ed Mylett?

  Enjoy the bliss of the moment.

• 45:36Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 45:37Ed Mylett?

  Dude, I wanna keep going, so I just wanna, one more thing, let's give him one more gift, cuz you're a treasure, bro.

• 45:41Jay Shetty?

  No, you're good, good.

• 45:42Ed Mylett?

  I wanna, I, I want you to know that I, I want you and I to spend some more time together.

• 45:47Jay Shetty?

  I would love, I, after meeting you today, I knew already, but after meeting you today,

• 45:52Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 45:52Jay Shetty?

  you have, your energy in person surpasses all expectations.

• 45:57Ed Mylett?

  Thank you, brother.

• 45:57Jay Shetty?

  Which is very like, I mean that, like I.

• 45:59Ed Mylett?

  People listening to this going, boy, can these guys compliment each other anymore?

• 46:02Jay Shetty?

  I know, stop the bromance, yes, right. I just saw his wife popped out earlier, you know, so no, I'm married to.

• 46:07Ed Mylett?

  He's married to.

• 46:08Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 46:08Ed Mylett?

  He's married to, so, okay, so, someone would pay a lot of money to do this, but I'm gonna let him do it for free for a second.

• 46:13Jay Shetty?

  Sure.

• 46:14Ed Mylett?

  Someone says, I'm watching this and I, I really have this energy about me after listening to this or watching this, and I wanna change my life. And maybe I don't have super high self-esteem right now, and potentially I lack a little bit of direction. Or maybe I know what I wanna do, but I don't know that I have the confidence to get there. If you just, I wanna turn my life around. I wanna have some of these emotions that it seems as if you experience on a pretty regular basis. What advice or counsel, just in general, would you give somebody who wants to live a better life?

• 46:44Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, so, one of my biggest things, first of all, would be that we, we do this wrong because we do either or, or we do them in the wrong order, so in life, there are two aspects that impact everything, our thinking and our actions. And I read a quote the other day that was saying that the mistake we make is that we either act without thinking, or we think without acting. And I think that's where most people are. If you're feeling stuck, or you're like, I'm not sure what I'm doing right now, you're either doing too much thinking, or you're doing too much acting. So you're just doing a lot of stuff, but you don't know why you're doing it, or you're just sitting there procrastinating every day and you're doing it. So I'd say it's, it's both. So the first thing I would say to you. Is take a moment and speak to three different people.

• 47:28Jay Shetty?

  Speak to a family member, a friend and a colleague. And ask them this one question. What strengths do I have? What do you think is my superpower? What skills do you think I bring? Emotional, strong, soft, hard, whatever it is. Do that first. Get that sense check. Second thing, for the next month, take off every weekend, eight days. Cause there's eight Saturdays and Sundays all together in a month. And book a different course, workshop, seminar, online, offline. Go to an event, shadow a friend. Go and spend time with an aunt, uncle who's doing the career you want. Go and have eight new experiences. And after each of them, sit with yourself and ask yourself. Did I like that? Yes or no?

• 48:13Jay Shetty?

  Whether you liked it or not, ask yourself, why did I like it? Or why did I not like it? And then ask yourself, would I like to do it again? And if the answer is yes, yes, yes, guess what? Go do it again. And if the answer is no, no, no, don't do it again, leave it out. But if you've had eight, and this is the problem, we do that over a year. We do that over eight years. And that's why life feels slow and boring and lethargic and stuck. But it just, in the next eight days in a weekend, just test eight new things. And you'll have just a great experiment. And the worst thing that will happen is you'll find eight things that you don't like. But I guarantee you that even if you have a sense of that reflection in the beginning. And, and what I don't get, why we don't do this enough is, we do it with food and movies all the time.

• 48:58Jay Shetty?

  Like you just, Ed is such a kind man, like I got here slightly late because of traffic. And then he let me eat my lunch because I wanted to be full of energy. I, I need to find out where that place is because it's local to here. My, my team got it ordered for me. It was amazing.

• 49:12Ed Mylett?

  Good.

• 49:12Jay Shetty?

  And, and it's like, you know, when you eat something, whether you like it or not. You know, when you watch a movie, whether you like it or not. You know, when you read a book, whether you like it or not. But why don't we ask ourselves after meeting people, completing projects or going to places? Most of us keep meeting people that take our energy. Most of us keep going to places that drain us of our energy. And most of us keep working on projects that just disturb our energy. All you have to do is ask yourself, does this bring me alive? Why does it bring me alive? Really important to know why it works, and do I want to do it again?

• 49:46Ed Mylett?

  Deep insight there. Brother, what he described right there, everyone, is like the ultimate pattern interrupt. What he's saying is you're gonna do this over eight years or 10 years. If you can just do this in the next eight weekends or the next four weekends, eight days, what a massive pattern interrupt. Okay, listen. Every single person who's watching this or listening to this wants more of you. If they aren't already, where do they find you, number one?

• 50:09Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. Come and find me on Instagram, at Jay Shetty. Come and find me on the podcast, On Purpose. But if you've heard my videos, if you've listened to my podcasts and they've had any impact at all, like genuinely, I mean, if it's even had like a tiny bit of impact on you, my genuine proposal is, read the book because it's the next level. I get to break it down and I get to go into the stories, the studies and the strategies that really make all of this livable and practical.

• 50:35Ed Mylett?

  And they can get it everywhere?

• 50:36Jay Shetty?

  And you can get it everywhere, all across the world. We've got 36 languages coming out this year.

• 50:42Ed Mylett?

  I'm so proud of you and so grateful for you and so happy for you.

• 50:45Jay Shetty?

  Thank you, man. I'm genuinely, this is so much fun. I can't wait for lots more offline conversations.

• 50:51Ed Mylett?

  It flew by, didn't it?

• 50:52Jay Shetty?

  I mean, like, I don't even know how long we've been talking for.

• 50:55Ed Mylett?

  I wish we could go another hour, but bro.

• 50:57Jay Shetty?

  But I want to thank you, Ed. Thank you so much, man.

• 50:59Ed Mylett?

  I'm grateful.

• 51:00Jay Shetty?

  No, I'm very grateful to have you.

• 51:02Ed Mylett?

  Okay, everybody. I told you it'd be great. Y'all told me it would be and it exceeded my expectations. So please go get the book and follow Jay on his social media, YouTube, everywhere, and keep doing it with me as well.