The 4-Tier Framework To Effective Goal Setting & Why You’ve Failed In The Past

How many times have you made goals and resolutions and they have just failed every single year? My prayer for each and every single one of you is to have a meaningful, fulfilling, purposeful 2020 so that you can transform your life. This is a completely unique & different goal setting framework that you've never learned. Don't keep applying the same things that failed every year. A new decade needs a new approach and these are the tools needed to win the year! Text Jay Shetty 310-997-4177 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 0:44Jay Shetty?

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• 2:16Jay Shetty?

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• 2:59Jay Shetty?

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• 3:10Jay Shetty?

  Imagine you had a ladder and the only step on the ladder was the step at the top, which got you right to the top of where you wanted to go. But there were no other steps. Well, you might jump up and down a bit. You might try and reach that top step. Once you reach it, then you've got to pull yourself up. And when you pull yourself up, you're going to use all your upper body strength to try and then you probably fall. How many of you have experienced that in your year when you're trying to gain your new resolutions or your big goals? Because you only ever built the top step.

• 3:43Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose 2020. Welcome to a new decade. This feels incredible. It feels surreal. It feels amazing. I am so excited for 2020. I've been waiting for this year for a long time. Just the way you say it, 2020, right? 2020, 2020. You can say it in any accent, in any way. 2020 sounds colossal. It sounds epic. It sounds like there's going to be a lot of shifts, a lot of changes. It sounds powerful. It's got that energy. And I want you to have an incredible year. I want you to have incredible day, week, month.

• 4:28Jay Shetty?

  I want you to just have. The year that you've been wishing, wanting and waiting to have for such a long time. And the best thing is, this year, we get to start it together. Right? We never got to start last year together, or the year before, because remember, last year, we only launched on February 14th. So, we didn't get to start the year together, but 2020, we get to start the year together. And I want you to make this commitment, no matter how busy things get, no matter how hectic things get, no matter how crazy things get, I want you to connect with me here every single week. Because here's the thing, it's the consistency that keeps you going, it's the consistency that builds a momentum,

• 5:10Jay Shetty?

  it's the consistency that breaks down those barriers, that lets you help those breakthroughs. It's the consistency that makes everything else possible. Even the days when you're like, "Oh, I can't today, I can't make time", when you make time on that day, that's when the magic happens. That's when incredible things start to happen in your life. It's when you don't want to and you do, that's when you see shifts and change in your life. But we're literally walking into a new decade. Right? We're walking into a new decade, a new moment in our lives.

• 5:47Jay Shetty?

  The last decade is there, it's gone, you've reflected, you've learned, you've left behind, and now it's time to start anew. Now, when we're writing the story of our lives, imagine we've just finished chapter 19, and you've now started chapter 20. It's very, what's the right word? It's very interesting and intriguing and curious to want to go back to chapter 19, or 18 and 17, and keep rereading it, nostalgia, memories, lessons, mistakes, failures. It's easy to go live in the past because it's already written. But chapter 20, you're writing it right now.

• 6:29Jay Shetty?

  So you haven't started living it yet, so it's somewhat harder to live because you have to write, you have to create again. Now, if you keep rereading the old chapters, you can't consciously write the new ones. You may write it unconsciously or unintentionally. And if you unintentionally or unconsciously write it, you end up living a life that you don't really want to live. So I want you to bring your presence and your awareness and your attention right now to 2020. This is your year. This is our year. This is the year that you make the shifts, the changes, the progress that you've been wanting to make. And to help you do that, I'm going to give you a new type of goal setting.

• 7:14Jay Shetty?

  A completely unique and different type of goal setting that you've never done before. Because a new decade needs new tools, right? A new decade needs a new approach, a new progress. I don't want us to keep applying the same things that fail every single year. How many times have you made goals and resolutions and they have just failed every single year? I want to give you a plan that if you genuinely commit to it, if you genuinely listen and connect with what I'm about to share with you, when you make goals in this way, you're going to find them. Not just, it's not about being easy to reach.

• 7:53Jay Shetty?

  It's going to be easy to process, easy to focus on and understand what to commit to. Now, this goal setting framework has four key elements to it. And before I dive in, I just want to let you know about some of the stats around New Year's resolutions, right? Because I think it's important to realize how unlikely people are to keep up with their New Year's resolutions. Now, this was something that I read in a Inc. article. And it was talking about how the top 10 New Year's resolutions, according to a survey of 2,000 people,

• 8:36Jay Shetty?

  71% wanted to diet or eat healthier. 65% wanted to exercise more. 54% wanted to lose weight. 32% wanted to save more and spend less. 26% wanted to learn a new skill or hobby, remember that. 21% wanted to quit smoking. 17% wanted to read more. 16% wanted to find another job. Fifteen percent wanted to drink less alcohol and thirteen percent wanted to spend more time with family and friends. Write down right now which ones were ones that you've made before and broken. Number one was diet or health, two was exercise more, three was lose weight, four was save more, spend less, five was learn a new skill or hobby, six

• 9:21Jay Shetty?

  was quit smoking, seven was read more, eight was find another job, nine was drink less alcohol, and ten was spend more time with family and friends. We've all made those, we've all broken those. Now, why is that the case? Why do we break New Year's resolutions? And here's my hypothesis. My opinion hypothesis is because we don't follow this four-step framework. This four-step framework will give you the ability to realize why we make mistakes and why we don't live up to our resolutions and our plans that are so important to us, right? And why researchers say that about sixty percent of us make New Year's

• 10:04Jay Shetty?

  resolutions, but only eight percent are successful in actually following them through. We want to change that. We want to change that. We don't want to bet on being part of that eight percent, right? So here are the four steps. The first step to think about when looking at your goal. So you set a goal, right? Whatever your goal is, one of those goals. Here's the framework to achieving it. The first thing you ask yourself is growth. What do you need to grow to get that? What do you need to learn, grow in? What growth do you need to focus on in your life in order to get that goal? What is the growth behind

• 10:49Jay Shetty?

  the goal? So let's say it's social media. Right, let's say it's social media and you say my goal is to have more followers, right, which I don't think is a great goal. But let's say you have a more meaningful goal. Let's say your goal is to create content that impacts the world, right? Now, you don't need to grow followers, right? That would be the common thing to say, oh, I'm trying to grow my followers. That's the growth I need, Jay. No, no, no. You need to grow content, which means you need to grow storytelling skills. Notice the difference, right? So someone writes down their goals is I want to grow my followers. Someone writes down their goal is I want to grow the amount of subscribers to my podcast. Well, that's a goal, but that's not really the growth you need to make.

• 11:33Jay Shetty?

  Because then all you're trying to do is do things that directly impact that. But that's not the case. What you need to do is grow your content, which means you need to grow your storytelling. Or it means you need to grow your content creation approach. You need to grow in learning how to create more content, right? That's the focus that it has to be. So we don't focus on growth. We focus too much on goals when our focus should be growth.

• 11:58Jay Shetty?

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• 14:14Jay Shetty?

  What do we need to grow in to achieve that goal? Now, I'll give you an example. So this year, my first ever book is coming out in April. It's my first ever book. It's called Think Like a Monk. It's available for preorder right now. And so for me, of course, I want so many of you to be able to change your life and transform your life through my book. But the growth I need to be able to do that is to be able to help you understand why this book is relevant in your life, right? I need to be able to make sure that you all know that it's available, because guess what? The algorithm doesn't make everyone know and let everyone know that my book is available. So I need to make sure that you all know that it exists and that it's available.

• 14:57Jay Shetty?

  So I'm focused on the growth, not just on the goal, because if I'm just focused on the goal, I'm just obsessed with this elusive arbitrary result. So many of our goals are really not goals, they're visions, right? You may have a vision to be one of the best, you know, businesses of all time. You may have a vision to have one of the most beautiful romances of all time, but that's not really a goal. Right? A goal is something that you can grow towards and I want you to focus on what growth you need to make this year. Growth includes things like what skills do you need to learn? What abilities do you need to gather and grow? What qualities do you need to grow and develop in? Maybe that's what it's going to take. So last year, when I was launching

• 15:40Jay Shetty?

  my podcast, my goal was to have a number one podcast, which thanks to all of you happened. But the goal's not enough to get there. What I needed was the growth. So the growth was, I needed to grow to become an interviewer. I needed to grow to have a network where I could invite incredible guests onto the podcast. I needed to grow my understanding of how to develop and produce a podcast, right? Those were the growth elements that were powering the goal. The goal in and of itself meant nothing. So if your goal this year is to, which is usually one of the number one goals, is to diet or eat healthier, it's like, well, what skill do you need to grow? Or maybe you need to grow habit formation skills, right?

• 16:21Jay Shetty?

  Maybe you need to grow resilience. Maybe you need to grow mental strength. Maybe that's what you need to grow. That's what's stopping you. Because, hey, guess what? Just telling yourself, I'm not going to eat carbs or fats, right? If that was your diet plan, that's not good enough. Because it's the growth that gets you to the goal, not the goal in and of itself. Does that make sense? Right? Does that really resonate? Do you connect with that? If your goal this year is to exercise more, you have to ask yourself, well, what do I need to grow in to be able to exercise more? Okay, so I need to grow in my discipline. Okay, I need to be more disciplined. Okay, I need to grow in my accountability to someone,

• 17:02Jay Shetty?

  right? It's not just about exercising more. It's not just forcing yourself, pushing yourself to the gym, you know, just, you know, pushing yourself there with all the energy you have, dragging yourself there, right? That's not good enough. We have to think about what skill we want to learn. And that's why I said only 26% of people. Have the resolution of learning a new skill. Only 26 people. So if only 26% of people have the resolution to learn a new skill or hobby, that's what we're missing out, that's the growth, right? That's where we're missing the trick. Because it's actually the learning of a new skill, the growing in a new ability or quality that gets you to the goal. Not just thinking about and having a goal in and of itself.

• 17:47Jay Shetty?

  And so often, that's all we have. The reason why we don't get to our goals is all we have is goals, not a growth plan. Right? And I really want you to think about growth this year. Do you need to learn a new language? Do you need to learn how to code? Do you need to learn how to edit? Do you need to learn how to master habits? Do you need to learn how to focus on purpose and passion and peace and meaning? So much of it is in that. So much of changing our life is in learning how to change our habits, observing ourself. Because once you know how to change your habits, you can then apply that to any habit. But if you've never been taught or trained how to change your habits, then you can't change any habit. And that's the challenge we end up in.

• 18:29Jay Shetty?

  The second focus in goal setting is I want you to observe your opportunities, right? I want you to know the opportunities that you're going to say yes to this year, and the opportunities you're going to say no to this year, and the opportunities that you're going to see maybe to this year. So I want you to be clear on the criteria of opportunities you say yes to, opportunities you say no to, and opportunities you say maybe to. I'll tell you why. One of the biggest reasons why we don't achieve our goals is because of this.

• 19:13Jay Shetty?

  We say yes to too many things that are not what our priority is. We say no to too many things that are our priority. And maybe it's just for those of you who are saying, "I'm still undecided on a few things." But really, you want to know and clarify for yourself the criteria of why you say yes to an opportunity and why you say no to an opportunity. Let's say your priority this year is to exercise more. Right, if your priority is to exercise more, and that's a priority in your life, then you may say that opportunities that come up during my exercise time are always a no. So if I'm exercising at 8:00 a.m. every day, if it is this type of opportunity, I will not do it.

• 19:58Jay Shetty?

  So I'll give you a personal example of mine, just to make it really, really simple. I exercise every morning from 8:15 a.m. to 9:00 a.m., about four to five days a week. That's my workout time. And I have a very clear criteria that the only reason I will miss that time is if I have a press interview. So this year, when I've been on the Today Show, or I was on Access Hollywood, or any of those examples that I've had to go on a press piece, which isn't all the time, it's an exception, it's not like I'm on press every single week, when I've had to do that, that is the only criteria by which I say no to my workout and yes to the opportunity. Apart from that, and of course, family emergencies or personal issues, apart from that, I do not compromise.

• 20:43Jay Shetty?

  I do not negotiate with that time. So you need to realize, what are your non-negotiables? What are the things that you will not negotiate on? What are the opportunities that you will say yes to and no to? I'll give you another example. Let's say that your priority this year is waking up early. You might have to say no to late-night parties and late-night networking events. Now, if that is your priority, you have to be clear, what is the criteria with which I would say yes to a late-night event? It may be that I'm gonna get to meet the biggest idol of my teens, right? It may be because I'm getting to interview someone I've been wanting to interview for a long time, right? It may be because you're getting to spend time with someone you love and family that's in town, but there has to be an exception.

• 21:27Jay Shetty?

  So when it comes to opportunities, because guess what? We all have endless opportunities in our life, in different areas of our life. We have to make a clearer criteria of what do I say yes to and what do I say no to? When do I say yes and when do I say no? Why do I say yes and why do I say no? Because we don't create these agreements and these contracts and these...

• 21:51Jay Shetty?

  To be honest, because we just don't clarify this criteria with ourselves, we're confused. When you don't clearly clarify your criteria, it leads to confusion about your choices. And when you get confused by your choices, you end up lost and then you generally don't achieve anything. And so I don't want you to be in that position. I don't want you to be confused. I don't want you to be lost. I don't want you to lack clarity. I want you to have clear criteria for your opportunities that you're going to say yes to and no to based on your goals. So let's take another goal, just to give you a fresh example. Let's say your goal is to save more and spend less.

• 22:36Jay Shetty?

  When are you going to say yes to that? And when are you going to say no to that? Know your criteria. You may say that, "I'm going to say no to that for one vacation this year where we're going to treat ourselves more." Right? "We're going to treat ourselves more. We've got a big anniversary coming up. But apart from that, I'm going to honor that rule." Right? We have to set rules with ourselves. We don't set these rules consciously. So when it comes to them, what happens? Your default mind wins. That's what's happening every time. When you don't set these rules, when you don't set this criteria, when it comes to crunch time, your default mind, your monkey mind, wins. Because that's the mind and the habit and the pattern that's already been built. That's what you've already given into. So when you're saying, "I'm not going to eat sugar anymore,"

• 23:19Jay Shetty?

  but you've built up no rules of yes and no's, right? Then when it gets to eating sugar, you give in because that's what you love. That's what you've built the habit and pattern of. So one of the biggest reasons why we don't achieve our goals and our resolutions is because we don't create clarity around our opportunities. So I want you to say, "Yes, this is what I'm going to say yes to based on these criteria. This is what I'm going to say no to." Right? And I want you to find so much understanding around that. Point number three of this four-step framework.

• 23:55Jay Shetty?

  The action plan. We have these goals. We write them down. You may even make them the screensaver of your laptop at work and your phone. But there is zero action plan. There is zero activities planned as to how you're going to achieve this goal. When I say an action plan, I mean a minute by minute, right? Quality by quality. I mean, a minute by minute, hour by hour, plan of when this is being worked on. Too many of us set these lofty goals and never break them down into the building blocks to actually get us there. For me, I see this like a ladder. If you have a ladder and your goal is at the top of the ladder,

• 24:38Jay Shetty?

  your action plan is creating every step of the ladder so you can go up there. Imagine you had a ladder and the only step on the ladder was the step at the top, which got you right to the top of where you wanted to go. But there were no other steps. Are you going to achieve that goal? Well, you might jump up and down a bit. You might try and reach that top step. Once you reach it, then you're going to pull yourself up. And when you pull yourself up, you're going to use all your upper body strength to try and and then you probably fall.

• 25:06Jay Shetty?

  How many of you have experienced that in your year? When you're trying to gain your newest resolutions or your big goals? Because you only ever built the top step. You didn't build the one, two, three, four, five, six, seven steps before the top step. I'm actually staring at the ladder right now in my office, which is a false ladder. It's a bit small, but for my bookshelf. But it's like, if there were seven steps missing, how would you get to that top step?

• 25:38Jay Shetty?

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• 27:10Jay Shetty?

  So the action plan should be, let's say my goal is to find another job. That's the top step. So then I want you to ask the question, how am I going to find another job? Okay, I'm going to research about other jobs. Okay, how am I going to research about other jobs? Okay, notice how this is building the steps downwards. Okay, then, okay, research other jobs. How am I going to research other jobs? I'm going to speak to people that I know in careers. Okay, how am I going to speak to them? I'm going to ask my friend for their number or their email. Okay, how am I going to do that for my friend or my email? I'm going to text them right now. Notice how I have built the step ladder to right now.

• 27:54Jay Shetty?

  If your action plan doesn't build a step ladder to a step you can do right now in this very moment, that is not an action plan. So now my action is I'm going to text my friend to say, can you please introduce me via email or message to your friend that is a graphic designer, that is a digital marketer, that is an accountant, that is a lawyer, whatever it is, because I need to talk to them. If you have not built your action plan to an activity you can take right now. If your action plan is, I need to research new jobs. No, that's not right now. You can say, I need to research new jobs on LinkedIn and I'm going to go to LinkedIn right now. That is an action plan with a step that you can take today. If your action plan doesn't have a step you can do right now, it is not a complete action plan.

• 28:38Jay Shetty?

  An action plan isn't just, I will go to the gym three times a week. No, an action plan is, what can I do right now? I will go to the gym to do these exact workouts at these exact times and not compromise on them. Part of the reason we struggle with our goals is we don't ever create the plan. We end up at the gym to do the workout, but then we're like, okay, well, what workout should I do? Right? Like, what workout should I do today? The action plan includes the plan of what workouts you're going to do. The action plan includes the meal plans of what you're going to eat. The action plan includes all of that detail.

• 29:18Jay Shetty?

  If you don't have an action plan, you won't achieve your goals this year. And the action plan has the details of what we're going to do, when we're going to do it, how we're going to do it, who's going to do it and why I'm going to do it. This is a full action plan. So this part of the framework, this pillar can be broken down into this. When am I going to do it? What am I going to do? How am I going to do it? Who am I going to do it with? And why am I doing it? So when you write down what you're going to do, that makes it very simple. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to do a circuit with these three exercises. For example, for the one going to the gym. When am I going to? I'm doing it at eight fifteen AM every morning.

• 30:03Jay Shetty?

  How am I going to do it? I'm going to do it by using the gym in my building, right? Or I'm going to do it by signing up for a membership here. Or I'm going to do it by going with my friend, whatever it may be. How? Who am I going to do with? Am I going to do it on my own with a trainer or with a friend? And why am I going to do it? The action plan has a why. I'm going to do it because I want to be healthier for my kids. I'm going to do it why? Because I want to be more able to work harder and push myself more. I want to do it because I want to take care of my health. That is a complete action plan. Do this with me right now. Don't just let this be something that you're hearing theoretically with me. I want you to build your goals in this way because this is the thing, right?

• 30:47Jay Shetty?

  Like, otherwise, you're going to be in the same place next year. We're going to be talking at the same time next year and you're going to be like, Jay, I didn't achieve my goals. But this framework works. This framework is, it works. It's what's between you and achieving your goals. So just take this moment to be focused and be effective about it, right? Take this moment to give yourself that opportunity. So the third thing is having an action plan and that's how you build a full action plan. And the fourth is this. Now, this one's slightly more advanced and slightly more progressive for those of you that really want to push forward this year and make an impact this year. A lot of people ask me, Jay, it seems like, you know, something's always interesting is happening in your life.

• 31:30Jay Shetty?

  Something always is, you know, exciting that's happening in your life. And for me, it all comes down to the fact that I make years about something. So it's like the year of, so you know, in the, you know, in the Chinese calendar, which you may have known about when you grew up, they have the year of the whatever. And there's different, you know, animals, et cetera. So it's like year of the, you know, year of the ox, year of the hare, year of the rabbit, year of the dragon, right? Year of the pig. So you have all these years. So when I come up with a year plan for me, my action plan revolves around year of what?

• 32:13Jay Shetty?

  So 2018 for me was year of social media video, year of uplifting content, year of conscious content. And 2019 for me was the year of the podcast, year of on purpose. 2020 for me is year of Think Like A Monk, year of the book, right? This is my focus, this is my priority. And so when you make it that simple for yourself, that ultimately, everything I'm doing is around this. And for you, it may not be something you're creating, it could be year of my family. It could be year of my passion and purpose, it could be year of creating my entrepreneurial business. It could be year of whatever it could be, right? It doesn't, it, it just has to be simple as an overarching plan.

• 32:57Jay Shetty?

  And then, there are the three elves, elves, not elves, we're past Christmas, not three elves, but the three elves of what you want to be doing every year. You want to be learning one thing, you want to be launching one thing, and you want to be loving one thing. And I explain what I mean by these in depth. Every year, you want to be launching something. When I say launching, I mean focusing on something. So for me, I'm launching my book, but it could be that you're, you're launching your career, you're launching a relationship, right? When I say launch, I mean like, that's what it's all about, that's what you're excited about, that's what you're passionate about, that, that's what you're launching. It's what you're giving your main focus to that year.

• 33:40Jay Shetty?

  What you also want to do every year is you want to be learning something. This could be something that you'll launch next year, this could be something you're focused on next year. So for example, let's say you're expecting, you and your partner are expecting, and you know you're going to have a child next year. And let's, I'm, I'm not putting it in business terminology at all, but just for the point of this, you'll be launching a child next year. This year, you may focus on learning how to parent, you may focus on learning about conscious parenting. So that next year, when you have your child, you can focus on that, right? So you're learning about the thing that's happening next year. When you live in with this intentionality, with this consciousness, you're so much more prepared, you're so much more happier, you're so much more excited because there's something to look forward to.

• 34:25Jay Shetty?

  So you always want something that you're learning every year, right? You always want something that you're learning every year.

• 34:33Jay Shetty?

  So always be launching, be learning. And then the third thing, which is very important, is always be loving something. So this year, I'm going to be loving the podcast. I'm going to be loving my Genius Community. I'm going to be loving my videos that I've been creating. These are things that I'm loving, that I've been doing for a few years now, and I'm loving them. I love them. I have a rhythm. I have a pattern. I have a workflow. I know how it works. So I love the process. But at the same time, as loving something, I'm learning something else, and I'm launching something else. The launch is where I'm having my mistakes, where I'm growing new skills, where it's exciting. The love provides the consistency and the stability that I need in life.

• 35:18Jay Shetty?

  And the learning provides the exploration, the curiosity, the intrigue. Notice how they're all fulfilling different parts of me. If I was only learning stuff, then I may not feel focused, I may not feel excited. But if I'm only launching something, then I may feel like I need more stability in my life. And if I'm only loving something, then I may feel bored, because I may feel like, well, I want to do more with it. So notice how learning, launching, and loving gives you a different energy. Now, why is this the four-step framework as a whole? It spells out the word goal.

• 35:54Jay Shetty?

  Growth, opportunities, action, learning, launching, loving. Right? Growth, the first thing that I told you was, don't focus on the goal, focus on the growth. The second thing was, clarify the criteria of opportunities you say yes to and no to, to know your priorities. The third is, build that ideal action plan. And the fourth is, learn, launch, and love. If you follow this framework, and I recommend coming back to this episode and building your goals around this framework, it will set you up for success.

• 36:35Jay Shetty?

  All I want for you is for you to have the most fulfilling, meaningful, and purposeful 2020. My only wish...

• 36:45Jay Shetty?

  My meditation, my focus, my prayer for each and every single one of you is to have a meaningful, fulfilling, purposeful 2020. So that you can transform your lives and be of service to others. Sending you all my positive vibes and my meditations. And I want you to take this very strategic and thoughtful plan, whether it's your business goals, your personal goals, or your relationship goals. And I can't wait to be on this journey together this year. We're starting 2020 together. And you're listening to every episode until then. And we're together, you're going to say, Jay, I made progress.

• 37:29Jay Shetty?

  You're going to say, Jay, I grew. I chose the right opportunities. I built my action plan and I learned, I launched and I loved. That's enough. Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode of On Purpose. If you're new, hello. If you've been here for a while, thank you and welcome to all of you. So grateful. Make sure you subscribe, make sure you review and make sure you come back next week. Thank you so much.