10 Best Relationship Rules That Are Often Forgotten

No matter how many holidays, dinners or movies you go to, if we don’t work on the core of a relationship, values, trust and communication, very little can be achieved. I want you all to have fulfilling, meaningful purposeful relationships and so I gathered the 10 Best Relationship Rules that are often forgotten as a reminder to myself and others. These are not the ones you’ll find on front covers of magazines but the ones that actually work in a real relationship. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 2:11Jay Shetty?

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• 2:55Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose. My name's Jay Shetty, and whether you're here for the first time, or multiple times, or you're here every single week, I'm genuinely so happy and grateful that you've decided to join. It means so much to me that you're sharing your insights, your takeaways on Instagram, on Twitter, on Facebook. It's amazing to see how much you're learning, how much you're growing, and what's having an impact on you. So make sure you keep doing that. And please, please, please, make sure that you've subscribed, rated, and reviewed the podcast. I'm always looking out for my favorite ones and posting them as well, but I love seeing your feedback and which episodes stand out to you. That's the only way that we can continue to engage and find more ways in which you

• 3:37Jay Shetty?

  can recommend topics, ideas, and share your insights around the podcast as well. Now, as you know, this one's all about the 10 best relationship rules that are often forgotten. And I wanted to dive into this on relationships because, as you know, I've made a ton of videos, ton of podcasts, all about relationships. But these are some of those nuances, some of those subtle points, some of those... You know, just those things that we forget about, right? And there's so many things in our life that we just forget about. We miss out on, we kind of see them fade away into the background. And these are those top 10 rules. Now, some of these, a lot of these, actually, I've used in my own relationships.

• 4:19Jay Shetty?

  And what I'd like you to do, as I walk you through these 10, is I want you to write down which ones you think could transform your relationships. And this applies to both romantic partner relationships and friendships as well, of course. So you can apply it to any of them. And this is what, look, if you're busy right now and you can't write anything down and you can't pick up a pen, make sure you play this again and come back to it, right? Come back to this episode, write it down and focus on which of these 10 could you do more of? And which one could you do deeper? That's how I want you to approach this whole conversation. So there's a lot of relationship advice going around and we hear it in songs, in movies, from our family members.

• 5:01Jay Shetty?

  And I wanted to do a podcast that spotlighted some of the deeper, more subtle pieces of insight that are often missed. Now, nothing external can change or sustain a relationship. No matter how many vacations, holidays, dinners, or movies you go to, if you don't work on the core of a relationship, values, trust, communication, very little can be achieved. Now, I want you all to have fulfilling, meaningful, purposeful relationships. And so I've gathered the best 10 that I wanted to give away to you today. And these are also reminders to myself. Look, when I'm recording this podcast, I'm as much talking to myself. And therefore, when I'm researching for it, to find you the best research. And, you know, I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

• 5:46Jay Shetty?

  A lot of what I'm doing here is I'm learning, I'm reading, and I'm doing it in an accelerated way so that I can bring you all of these insights together in a curated way so that you almost don't have to. And I hope that you are feeling that. I hope you're feeling that it's easy, it's simple, it's accessible, it's relevant. And these are not the ones you're going to find on the front covers of magazines, but the ones that actually work in a relationship. Here's my first one. This one is a hard one for anyone who's ever tried to do it. And it's this, admit when you're wrong or when they're right. Right? Admit when you are wrong or they are right.

• 6:29Jay Shetty?

  We always hear that communication is key in a relationship. And in one study, lack of communication was cited as the most common factor that leads to divorce. And 65% of men said nagging was their biggest issue. And I'll tell you what the women's biggest issue was later. Now, a time when it's extremely key in terms of communication is when you're admitting that you're wrong about something or admitting that someone else is right. And that's when our ego gets in the way. That's when our arrogance, our pride gets stuck in the way. And it stops us from admitting that we're wrong or admitting that they're right, because that takes courage, right? It takes, what does it take?

• 7:13Jay Shetty?

  It takes vulnerability and it takes openness to do this. Now, when you do this, there's two ways that this kind of goes. This is the way that it works. When you do this off your own accord, it builds trust in your partner. When you say it without any hints, without any tips, without any nudges, that's when it feels real. But if you wait for them to explain everything and then you do it, right? We all know how that feels. It lacks value, right? Like, how many times have you had to prove a point to someone and then they responded? And even if they responded with an apology, you still feel like you're the one who brought it out of them. And that's why this has to be a self-motivated, a proactive effort in any relationship.

• 7:57Jay Shetty?

  Now, having the ability to observe and be honest off your own accord through your own reflection is a really powerful tool in a relationship. And similarly, it's so vital to tell them when they're right. It allows them to do the same with you. And when you tell someone that they're right about something, guess what? They start to repeat that habit. When you observe when someone's doing something in a competent way, when someone's getting something right and you recognize it and spot it and make them aware, they're now going to repeat it and do it more often. So you actually get to experience it more as well. Now, here's the truth of the matter. It shows you're self-reflective and wanting to find what is right for both of you.

• 8:40Jay Shetty?

  Usually, we fight when we're right and go quiet when we're wrong. How many times have you ever experienced that, right? When you're right, you fight it out. And when you're wrong, you quieten down. How many times have you ever experienced that? And when we create a cultural relationship like that, it means we don't really want to win together. It means we don't really understand what's right for both of us. So when we are right and we fight, and when we're wrong and we're quiet, it creates a defensive environment as opposed to a collaborative one. And eventually, you start realizing the true relationship math is winning together, right? I've said this before, but I have to say it again. If you win and they lose, you both lose.

• 9:25Jay Shetty?

  If you lose and they win, you both lose. If you lose and they lose, you both lose. The only way you win is if you win together. So that's principle number one. The second one that I wanted to share with you is kind of like a paradox or a polarity. And I love embracing opposites in life because I think we look at life as binary, right? We look at life as black or white. We look at life as yes or no. But actually, life is a lot more grays. And you almost have to accept both at many times. Like if I say to you, should you be assertive or should you be kind? It's like, well, be assertively kind or be kindly assertive, right? And that's what I love about life is that life is so much more in the middle than it is either or. And that's why I talk about

• 10:10Jay Shetty?

  relationships needing shared hobbies and solo pursuits, right? We need shared hobbies and solo pursuits. And I know this is something that has really impacted my wife and I's relationship, is that we have shared hobbies, but we definitely have solo pursuits. We travel independently when we both have different work plans. We live in different places, even when we're in the same country. For example, when we visit our family and parents in London, because my wife has certain solo pursuits and so do I. At the same time, we have shared hobbies that we come to do together. Now, when you first meet someone, it's normal to look for similarities, similar interests, similar interests in food, activities, holidays, experiences. But as we get older, here's the thing, as we get more mature and gain self-awareness,

• 10:55Jay Shetty?

  it's very normal for people to change. And hence, what they like changes too. And the biggest mistake we can make in a relationship is expect people to stay the same or to always like the same thing. So sometimes we look at people that we know for a long time and we say, you've changed. And really, the answer we should want back from that is, yeah, it's a good thing, right? Like, if you didn't change, how weird would that be? So, but we almost judge people for changing or growing or maturing or having new likes and dislikes. A healthy relationship is where you have a few shared hobbies and you have your solo pursuits as well. The solo pursuits allow you to bring value to the relationship and the shared hobbies

• 11:40Jay Shetty?

  strengthen your bond. That's the difference, right? The solo pursuits allow you to bring value to the relationship and the shared hobbies strengthen your bond. Now, the mistake we make is thinking we have to love everything our partners love. This is a mistake, right? It's almost like when you meet someone and you're like, oh my God, he's so into video games, or oh my God, she's so into sports, or oh my God, he's so into whatever it is. And you think, okay, now I have to fall in love with it to show them I care. And actually, that's not true and we shouldn't expect that or think that. It should be based on getting to know that. Like, your partner may genuinely want you to love what they love, or they may just want the ability to make it a solo pursuit. We shouldn't feel the pressure to fall in love with what they love and we shouldn't

• 12:24Jay Shetty?

  be putting people under pressure to love what we love. Right? Let me just say that again. We don't need to put pressure on other people to love what we love and we should never be pressured into loving what someone else loves. Right? Does that make sense? And so whether it's video games, sports, baking, whatever it may be, travel, and this is what makes the difference. The false expectation we have is that our partner should love everything we love. Let your partner be themselves and you be yourself. See where the natural overlap is and where solo pursuits grow. And giving that person time and space for their solo pursuits and making time for your shared hobbies is where a relationship really comes alive.

• 13:08Jay Shetty?

  And that's a dynamic balance, right? It's not easy. It's not something that's... Just gonna weigh up all the time and you're gonna perfect or anyone has it ideal. It's never gonna be like that, but it's definitely something that you want to work towards and aspire for. Now, number three, I hope you're loving the episode so far and learning a lot of new insights or going deeper into the ones that you've heard before or learned before.

• 13:32Jay Shetty?

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• 14:15Jay Shetty?

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• 14:57Jay Shetty?

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• 15:41Jay Shetty?

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• 16:24Jay Shetty?

  What worked for you when you were 18 or 25 will be different about what works for you at 30 or 35 or 40. Right? Dinner and a movie may not be right anymore. Going to a bar may not feel meaningful anymore. It's important to evolve and realize what's changed. So for me and my wife, this was something I posted on Instagram and a lot of you really resonated with it. It's something that we set as our personal shared hobbies and goals for 2019. And it's made a huge difference in our relationship. Like, I really believe, and I mean this, I'm genuinely saying this, if you were to commit to do this with your partner or one of your closest friends, it would transform your relationship. And the best thing about this is there is no one who's too busy to make this a possibility, right? So there are very few excuses to be able to doing what I'm about to tell you. So this is it.

• 17:06Jay Shetty?

  For me and my wife, we find taking a three-day break every 30 days, somewhere within three hours from our home, makes all the difference, right? So it's a three-day break together, every 30 days, somewhere within three hours from our home in Hollywood. Now, 3-3-3-3-3 is all, I love numerology, it's fun, it makes it more interesting, it's got a ring to it, right? But also it makes sense, like 30 days in a month. We can take a two and a half, three day break. We can go somewhere within three hours. It's very low cost. It's something that anyone and everyone can do. And that commitment of going somewhere for three days, locking your phones in the safe or leaving them away,

• 17:48Jay Shetty?

  and then exploring a new town, a new city, a new space together, is probably one of my favorite things. And we've done that in 2019. And of course, we live in LA now, so we've been traveling in and around LA. So we've been to Palm Springs. We've been to Laguna Beach, Newport Beach. We've been to Malibu. We've been to San Diego just this weekend. And I know what you're all thinking. Yes, we've not been to Santa Barbara, Big Bear, but they're all on the list. And that's what I love. And it gives us an opportunity every 30 days to go on a date that works for us. Like, that date works so much more for us. So we still enjoy watching movies, but we realized taking breaks, being close together was more important than anything. And my podcast on couples' activities is a great one to apply here.

• 18:32Jay Shetty?

  So go back and listen to that one if you've not heard that. I talk about the seven couples' activities that actually bring you closer. And that's a good one to listen to after this one, if that's something that's resonated with you. So, number four. This is something I like to call mirror communication. This does not mean standing in front of your mirror at home and talking to yourself, right? I'm not crazy, I'm not recommending that. But this is how a conversation in a partnership or a friendship usually goes. I think this and feel this. And then the other person says what they think and feel. And you never truly felt seen, recognized, or heard or understood. And while the other person's talking, you're thinking about what you're going to say. And then when you're speaking, the other person's wondering about what they're going to say.

• 19:15Jay Shetty?

  So no one ever feels heard, recognized, seen, or understood. It's one of the biggest challenges. Now, I told you earlier what men had as their biggest issue with women, which was nagging. For women, their top complaint was that their spouse didn't validate their opinions or feelings enough, right? Or their partner didn't validate their opinions or feelings enough. Now, I genuinely think this is across gender the same thing. I don't think it's a one-way thing. It's something that we all deal with of not feeling seen, recognized, heard. So, one of the ways I want you to think about this, when you're having an important conversation with your partner, after they shared their point, don't interrupt them, but explain back to them what you've understood.

• 19:59Jay Shetty?

  So I don't want you to explain back the same words. I don't want you to say the exact same repetition. This is not a memory game, right? It's not a memory test. It's not about how many of you can remember the exact sixteen words that that person said. The actual question is, are you aware of how they feel? Can you understand what they were trying to say? It's not a memory test, it's a sensitivity test, right? We think that communication is a memory game. Can I remember what someone said? Can I remember what someone did? No, it's not about memory, it's about sensitivity. So are you aligned with your partner's emotions? Now the other partner can't judge if someone gets it wrong. If they think you got it wrong, they give you a chance to explain it again. So this is what happens.

• 20:44Jay Shetty?

  So when you explain how you feel, if the other person listens and says, hey, so let's, let's take my, my wife's example. So my wife says to me, Jay, this is how you make me feel. Now it's my opportunity to say, Rade, this is what I'm getting. This is how I think you feel. And if I get it wrong, she doesn't judge me, she just goes, can you explain that again? I don't think you quite understood it. Or let her explain it again so that I can understand it more deeply. Now, this method called mirror communication will transform the way you change. Because this is what happens, right? There are two challenges at play here, articulation and assimilation. We expect our partners to understand us even though we explain things badly, right?

• 21:29Jay Shetty?

  We explain to read between the lines, we explain, we expect them, sorry, to read between the lines. We expect them to understand things immediately. We also expect to be understood without taking time to understand. Hence the biggest challenge being articulation and assimilation. Mirror communication is where you mirror back what you believe the other person is feeling and thinking and going through by understanding what they're saying. If you're patient and focused, this can be huge. The accuracy, quality and productivity of this conversation increases every time you do this. Now, the fifth one I wanted to share with you. It's something I like to call the five-minute rule.

• 22:12Jay Shetty?

  This is a tough one, but works great if you both respect it. So often, the person you love or your partner is calling you and is asking for your attention. And this could be when you're in between things or you're doing something. But let's say it's something really genuine and they really need your attention. If they're asking for something important, then use the five-minute rule. You take a break from whatever you're doing for five minutes to let them share and explain. Now, the rule can't be abused or misused either because you can't just use it whenever you want. So you realize that when you're going to use this to get your partner's attention, that they're going to be really putting aside time for something important. So it can't be something like, hey, can you help me select an Instagram filter? Or can you make me a sandwich right now?

• 22:57Jay Shetty?

  But it has to be a meaningful feeling or emotion. And after five minutes, both of you get to decide the best time to have a longer discussion about it without the pressure of doing it now. And it takes a bit of discipline because when you ask someone, hey, I really need five minutes of your time right now. If you're using that and abusing that a lot, then people start to say, well, let's talk about this weekend or let's talk about it later on in the day. But if you use it when you really have something emotional, something important to talk about, then you give the other person an opportunity to put aside what they're doing, but then also come back to it at a later stage. The five-minute rule, remember, that's one that people abuse, but if used wisely, it can make a huge difference. Now, point number six. This is hard to say.

• 23:40Jay Shetty?

  I actually said this when I was interviewed by Jada Pinkett Smith and Willow and Adrian at the Red Table Talk, which was such an awesome experience that I had. And we were talking about relationships. And this was one that I said then, I feel like it was definitely highlighted, but it's also one of those points that needs a bit of explanation. So I wanted to dive into it now. And this is it. When someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them. We receive 11 million bits of information every second.

• 24:10Jay Shetty?

  We can only consciously process forty bits out of eleven million. And so more than ninety-nine point ninety-nine percent of information is processed at the unconscious level. Now, this is more commonly spoken about in recruiting. But in my opinion, it massively affects our relationships as well. The halo effect. This is an unconscious bias when one positive trait can affect our overall views on an individual. Like, one thing can affect how we feel about that person. It can be their education, it can be their looks, it can be their wealth. One positive memory where they did something amazing. In the workplace, it can mean recruiting the wrong person.

• 24:51Jay Shetty?

  In life and relationships, it means allowing someone into your life and emotions. When someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them. People are showing you how they truly feel all the time through their actions and their words. But we have another version of them in our minds that we're holding on to and we're projecting onto them. So when you're seeing someone, you're not really seeing them. You're seeing your projection of who you want them to be and who you think they are. And it's so important to wipe away that mirage and that, you know, that mirage, that illusion of who you think they are that you're projecting and accept them for who they truly are.

• 25:33Jay Shetty?

  So we have almost like this aspirational version of who we think someone is or who we want them to be, rolling on a projector screen while they're being themselves. So we don't want to pretend that they are or try to make them something that is a projection of us. So the way to avoid this is to write down what you really need on a daily basis at an emotional level and see if a person genuinely fulfills at least seventy percent of it. No one, and I mean no one, will fulfill one hundred percent. But if someone is authentically, willingly, genuinely trying and hitting seventy percent, you're one of the luckiest people in the world, right? We have to recognize this.

• 26:14Jay Shetty?

  You're never gonna find someone who's completely emotionally perfect, like it doesn't exist. That's a really important lesson. Go back and listen to that one as well and write that down for sure. Because you wanna spot yourself projecting onto someone while they're sharing who they are. Now here's number seven. This one is something that I've done regularly in my relationship. It's one of my favorite, favorite tools. It's called Talk About Your Relationship and the Relationship You Want to Create. It sounds strange, but it's super necessary. If we don't focus on growth, nothing will grow. When you commit or invest an hour on an ongoing basis to work on talking about your relationship,

• 26:57Jay Shetty?

  it's actually a really powerful way of being, this is what I'm struggling with. This is what's working, this is what's not. And again, you get an opportunity to reaffirm what's working and redirect what's not working. So we get an opportunity to reaffirm what's working and redirect what's not working. So setting aside an hour every month, right? Setting aside that weekend every 30 days where you just talk about your relationship. Nothing grows if you don't grow, right? It just doesn't work. And this is a great way of making it happen. Number eight, leaving the past in the past. I remember I shared this in one of my earlier podcasts. I've dated people where my past felt like my present because my ex couldn't get over my past

• 27:40Jay Shetty?

  that she was not a part of. And so often we make the past still feel like it's relevant and completely reality in the present moment. And if you've decided to forgive someone and move someone on from a mistake they've made, then you've got to be able to let go of the past, right? You're with someone's present and building a future, so you can't remind them of their past. And if you've decided to be with someone who you're not comfortable with their past, whether it was to do with you or not to do with you, you've got to move on from that if you've allowed them. Otherwise, you've got to move on from the relationship. But you either move on from their past or move on from their present, right? Those are the two choices.

• 28:24Jay Shetty?

  You either move on from their past or you move on from their present. And if you can't move on from someone's past, then there's only one choice because no one wants to be reminded of their past. It will be continuously draining to someone. And so we have to leave the past in the past as definitely one of the best ways to move forward. Now, number nine. This is probably one of my favorite ones too. I've got, I'm saying that for everyone, aren't I? But I mean it, like, I'm genuinely in love with a lot of these principles. And that's why I said they're the ones that are forgotten. Number nine, find something daily that makes someone feel loved. Like, what can you do every day? Is it, is it cooking? Is it writing a note? Is it something small? Is that message while that person's at work?

• 29:09Jay Shetty?

  Is it sending them a picture of both of you? Is it, what can you do on a daily basis? Or in every other day, or whatever, whatever it is? How can you show love regularly? How can you show it? Not just saying it, but showing it, noticing, recognizing? What can you do to do that on a daily basis? Because those tiny things add up in a massive way. You know, any big challenge in a relationship comes from the addition of lots of little ones. It never comes from a big place, right? It's lots of little movements that create a big eruption in a relationship. And so being really, really careful about what can you do on a daily basis? What can that person do for you on a daily basis? And refining that, surprising, being spontaneous?

• 29:54Jay Shetty?

  Those things really add up and make a difference. And number 10. This is another one that I hope really, really stands out. And it's eating one meal together and, you know, sleeping at the same time. I think these two things are huge. When you eat a meal together, whether it's breakfast, lunch, or dinner, whatever's most practical. For those of you in long-distance relationships, eating on FaceTime together counts too, right? I'm not leaving you out. But when you eat a meal together, it strengthens a bond. And when you sleep together at the same time, it strengthens a bond. It encourages you to be together more, encourages you to be physically present and therefore mentally present.

• 30:37Jay Shetty?

  So finding times in the day when you can do activities together on a regular basis. I remember when we first moved to New York and then moved to LA, I promised that I would have dinner with my wife four out of seven days a week, right? And I made a priority for it. I had to miss networking events, I had to miss parties, I had to miss meeting people, whatever it took. Because I knew that that was an important investment in our relationship. And it still stands today as an important investment in our relationship. So how can you sleep and eat together as a priority, as a commitment? Because a simple act of having one meal together, sleeping at the same time, builds that physical proximity, which leads to mental emotional proximity as well. So those are the 10 best relationship rules that are often forgotten.

• 31:21Jay Shetty?

  Number one, admit when you're wrong or they're right. Number two, share hobbies and solo pursuits, right? Shared hobbies and solo pursuits. Number three, never stop dating, but date differently. Number four, mirror communication. Number five, the five-minute rule. Number six, when someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them. Number seven, talk about your relationship and the relationship you want to create. Number eight, leave the past in the past. Number nine, find something daily that makes someone feel loved. And number 10, one meal together, sleep together, right? Like go to sleep at the same time. So those are the 10 best relationship rules that are often forgotten.

• 32:04Jay Shetty?

  Pick your favorite ones that you're going to practice right now. Post them across Instagram and Twitter and Facebook and start doing them as well in your life. And see how your life changes, right? These are simple, practical steps that you can start doing right now. You don't need to buy anything, you don't need to invest in anything, you don't need to read anything. These are just simple things that you can start doing today to transform your relationship, recreate that spark, bring back that energy that's always been there. You know, renew that enthusiasm and drive. These are the top 10 ways of getting that spark back in your life. I can't wait for you to test them out. I can't wait for you to experiment with them, to implement them in your life and your daily routine. Thank you so much again for being here. I can't thank you enough.

• 32:49Jay Shetty?

  I hope you've taken notes and I'm serious, I hope you've taken notes. And I hope you're going to implement them starting today. Make sure you share this with anyone in your network that you think it's going to help. I promise you that there are so many people out there. We're all in the same boat, we're all learning, we're all figuring things out. This is going to make a difference in someone's life. Pass it on. Thank you so much for listening. Really happy to have you here. Thank you.

• 33:17Jay Shetty?

  Thank you so much for listening through to the end of that episode. I hope you're gonna share this all across social media. Let people know that you're subscribed to On Purpose. Let me know, post it, tell me what a difference it's making in your life. I would love to see your thoughts. I can't wait for this incredibly conscious community we're creating of purposeful people. You're now a part of the tribe, a part of the squad. Thank you for being here. I can't wait to share the next episode with you.

• 34:03Speaker 01

  Now, more than ever, we need someone on our side. But Rob Whitman? Whitman's votes drove up costs, cut Medicaid, and risked 350,000 Virginians' health care to pay for tax breaks for himself and his donors. He's not on our side. Shannon Taylor will fight corruption, cut taxes, and bring down costs. This November, vote for Shannon Taylor. She's for us. Paid for by HMP, the HouseMajorityPac.com. Not authorized by any candidate or candidate's committee.

• 34:32Speaker 02

  Mr. President, my company tore me of the explosion on our rig on October 2nd, causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami.

• 34:39Jay Shetty?

  They all keep the blame on me.

• 34:41Speaker 02

  Tom Cruise is. Digger got us into this mess, and Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 34:49Speaker 03

  What would happen if I stopped drilling? You stop, you freeze to death, that's what.

• 34:53Speaker 02

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 34:56Speaker 03

  I'm not the first nanny.

• 34:57Speaker 02

  Digger, see the trailer online, only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R, under 17, not admitted without parent.