Kevin Kelly: Excellent Advice for Living

When Kevin Kelly turned 68 years old, he began writing down notes and thoughts about all the lessons he’d learned in his life and the ones he wished he’d learned earlier. While those notes were originally intended for his young adult children, they eventually became the book Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier, which was released in May 2023. On this episode of the Knowledge Project, Kelly goes in-depth on some of the book’s most essential lessons, including learning, setting deadlines, perfection, forgiveness, living a meaningful life, reasoning, and so much more. Kelly is the co-founder of the magazine Wired, which twice won the National Magazine Award for General Excellence while he served as publication’s Executive Editor during the 1990s. He is also the co-chair of The Long Now Foundation, a membership organization that champions long-term thinking, as well as the founder of the popular Cool Tools website, which has been reviewing tools daily for 20 years. He is also an artist as well as the author of 14 books. -- Want even more? Members get early access, hand-edited transcripts, member-only episodes, and so much more. Learn more here: https://fs.blog/membership/ Every Sunday our Brain Food newsletter shares timeless insights and ideas that you can use at work and home. Add it to your inbox: https://fs.blog/newsletter/ Follow Shane on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/ShaneAParrish Our Sponsors: MetaLab: Helping the world’s top companies design, build, and ship amazing products and services. https://www.metalab.com Aeropress: Press your perfect cup, every time. https://aeropress.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  I've had the privilege of knowing a lot of accomplished people, successful people, famous people, super rich people. And man, the outsides not represent their insights. And we tend to want to compare ourselves to their outsides, to their own ideas of what success is. I'm better, and I do better when I am not trying to imitate someone else's success. I mean, in a certain way, what you want to do is you want to kind of grow your own metric for what you, what would be successful for you. You want to have a different metric.

• 0:57Shane Parrish?

  Welcome to The Knowledge Project, a podcast about mastering the best of what other people have already figured out, so you can apply their insights to your life. I'm your host, Shane Parrish. If you're listening to this, you're missing out. If you'd like access to the podcast before public release, special episodes that don't appear anywhere else, hand-edited transcripts, or you just want to support the show that you love, you can join at fs.blog/membership. Check out the show notes for a link. Today, my guest is the legendary Kevin Kelly, who might just be the most interesting man in the world. He co-founded Wired Magazine, which along with 2600 was a regular on my nightstand

• 1:37Shane Parrish?

  growing up. He also co-founded the All Species Foundation, a nonprofit aimed at cataloging every living species on Earth, written a host of books on technology and life, and serves on the board of the Long Now Foundation. This episode covers a lot of ground. We start with a dive into some of Kevin's wisdom from his new book, Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I Had Known Earlier. And this started on his 68th birthday, when Kevin began to write down for all of his young adult children, some of the things he had learned about life and that he wished he had known earlier. He kept adding to this advice over the years, compiling a sort of like a life's wisdom

• 2:18Shane Parrish?

  that I eagerly seek out and read every year when he publishes his bits of advice around his birthday. Kevin's timeless advice covers an astonishing range from right living to setting ambitious goals to optimizing generosity and cultivating compassion. We're going to go deeper on some of my favorite passages from the book on learning, deadlines, perfection, forgiveness, living a meaningful life, reasoning, what to do when you're stuck, and so much more. Of course, I couldn't have him on the show without talking about artificial intelligence. And we sort of explore this through two lenses, what he's excited about and what scares him. It's time to listen and learn.

• 3:08Shane Parrish?

  Where I want to start today is on your 68th birthday, you wrote down 68 bits of advice for your adult children about what you wish you had known. I read all of your advice across 68, 69, 70. I want to dive into some of this advice and go to the stories behind them that created this sort of pithy wisdom that you espouse. And so let's start with learn how to learn from those you disagree with or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.

• 3:42Speaker 00

  So, so just to back up the general, the general thing of what I was doing was in a curious way, I was writing these bits of advice for myself. I found that I could make a habit out of something by reducing the idea of it to a little capsule and give it a handle so I could repeat it to myself. I could remind myself of it. And so I wanted some way to take a lot of big, weighty, large advice and reduce it into a Proverb that I could repeat. So that's sort of the origins. I was kind of doing that in my head. I would hear something and I would repeat it to me to remind myself of it.

• 4:25Speaker 00

  And so these things have their origin in a sense of like, did they work for me? Do they work for me first? And then I can pass and this idea of I should pass it on. So the, the, the second element of this was, I have three kids. They're all kind of adult now. And we were not a family that gave a lot of advice. My wife and I were not preachy. I don't, I very rarely ever would give my kids advice. I was of the old school that said, the kids don't listen to what they, what you say. They just watch what you do. So we tried to model the behavior that we wanted.

• 5:05Speaker 00

  But as I got older, I also realized that some of these little things that I was working on, I wished I had known earlier. I, you know, it took me kind of 70 years to kind of arrive at them. It's like, you know, if I'd had this little thing that I kind of have in my own head now, earlier, it would be so much better. So I decided to try and write them down for that and give them as a present to my kids. And so, so what I'm doing that when I'm trying to write down, I'm, I'm thinking of, of, of a way to kind of encapsulate a lot of information and advice and wisdom into a little tiny device that I can hold on to.

• 5:46Shane Parrish?

  And, and the other thing, just, just to pause here, because I think this is an important distinction that I get a lot of times online. You probably get two. This isn't about precision. This is about utility.

• 5:59Speaker 00

  Right, exactly. This is practicality. So, so I have several filters. I, I, I think through this. One is like, you know, do I really believe this? This is something that I think is really works. And then secondly, is it practical? Does it, is it actionable? Can, would it change how I do my day? And thirdly was, was I'm, I'm trying to, following my own advice, uplift and be positive as much as possible. So yes, so, so. Giving advice is a really tough assignment because it's obvious that it just varies tremendously

• 6:42Speaker 00

  on the context of who it is and what the situation is. And so trying to give a general advice is definitely not about precision. It's about a general, what I call a direction. It's about moving in the right direction. So back to this particular one, trying to learn from others that you disagree with and maybe even find offensive is, I guess I've been surprised in my own life to find that people that I really fundamentally disagree with could say something

• 7:19Speaker 00

  that I found was, well, yeah, that's true. Like, I remember myself coming around to agree with Dick Cheney about something. And what Dick Cheney said was, the climate change and environmental was not about personal virtue that had to be changed at the systems level. I was like, yep, that's right. Here I am, I'm agreeing with Dick Cheney because he had, you know, something to say that was, that was true. And so I've sort of learned to try and to spend some time to listen

• 7:58Speaker 00

  to people and not to cancel them, basically. And that is, it's tough because we have a natural, a natural evolution. And also, there's personality types. I mean, we're not obligated to like everybody. I feel no duty to have to like everybody. But I feel that there is some duty to kind of respect people in a certain sense. And this, this idea of kind of respecting someone that you don't like and disagree with, it's, it's, it's difficult. But for me, it pays off, is I guess what I'm saying. There's a practical benefit for doing so.

• 8:35Shane Parrish?

  Do you feel a need to be liked by other people?

• 8:38Speaker 00

  I think everybody has some element where they need to be liked. And so, yes, I would like to be liked by everybody. Emotionally, yes. Intellectually, I understand that that's not going to happen. One of the curious things, and this is, I don't think I wrote this down, but this is something I've learned over time, is that with enough numbers, if an audience of enough numbers, no matter what it is you do, somebody will not like it. And vice versa, like this, I have this book of advice, there's 450. When you ask people their favorite ones, the best ones, there's no agreement on the best ones. Everybody's list of the favorite ones is, there's none, there's no overlap. And so I, I, I think part of what I've learned is that

• 9:23Speaker 00

  there's going to be people who, some people who don't like what you do all the time, but they're not going to be the same people. And when I was running a magazine called Coevolution and Whole Earth Review, I was the editor, and we kind of ran a little, maybe provocative kind of articles. And my goal was to piss off one fifth of the audience, but keep rotating, make sure it wasn't the same.

• 9:52Speaker 00

  Just like, everybody gets your turn to be, to be riled. And so, and so that's the kind of idea is, is that I'm not going to be liked by everybody, but I don't want to kind of be a predictable liking.

• 10:08Shane Parrish?

  I like that. It's with your reach, it's like you're the mayor of New York, right? Like, not everybody's going to be happy all the time with what you're doing. I like the idea of rotating the unhappiness, sharing it equally.

• 10:20Speaker 00

  Exactly. Equal opportunity disruptor. So, you know, by the way, this is one of my bits of advice. If your, if your views on other things can be predicted from your views on one thing, you need to be very careful that you're not in the grip of an ideologue. But that's what it is. It means that you, you're Your opinions are too highly correlated with each other. And that's suspicious because most people are much more complicated. If you're really genuine, you're going to be much more complicated than that. And also, by the way, this is a new piece of advice. If you're unpredictable in that way, you're much less likely to be taken over by an AI.

• 11:05Speaker 00

  You want to live your life in a way that the AI cannot predict what you're going to do. They cannot kind of fake you or cannot imitate you.

• 11:14Shane Parrish?

  Go deeper on that a little bit in terms of AI and disruption about how you think.

• 11:19Speaker 00

  Yeah, so, so, so there's a lot of concern about artists and even writers about training in AI to produce work, to generate work, to creative work. And the concern is, is well, you know, my material that I've worked really hard for has been used to train this AI and people can use it to imitate me. And sometimes those imitations are quite amazing. Really, what you want to be able to do is to have a style, so to speak, to have something that's unpredictable, that's unpredictable, that you can't be imitated.

• 12:00Speaker 00

  And this, again, goes back to my other piece of advice about don't aim to be the best, aim to be the only. So if you are in this category that it's hard to imitate you, that's a, that's a really good place to be in the human world and also a really good place to be in the AI world because AIs will have difficulty in imitating you.

• 12:21Shane Parrish?

  I think I'm in trouble. My kids went into chat GG or GPT the other day and they drafted this email and they should get like more video game time, but they did it in the style of Shane Parrish.

• 12:33Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 12:34Shane Parrish?

  So they basically like, it was an email from myself to me. And I was like, this sounds awfully familiar. I was like, what was your, what was your query here? And they were like, Uh, draft an email to dad about, uh, in the style of Shane Parrish. I was like, oh my God, this isn't, I'm in trouble.

• 12:51Speaker 00

  Yes, yes. So, so yeah, so you, you, you, if you were, if that was hard to do, then you have an advantage because your, your job is not going to be taken by an AI. And so the idea is, is to not be so predictable in the sense, particularly again, if you have, if your views on the environment can be deduced from your views on religion or something, that's going to be, that means that you're kind of not really that much of an independent thinker.

• 13:26Shane Parrish?

  And that's going to become more valuable because AI, at least at first, is going to give away, uh, standard thinking for free. So it'll raise the bar for some people, but it'll be so conventional for independent and original thinkers.

• 13:39Speaker 00

  Right, exactly. Right now, the best way to think of these AIs, the, the chat, training, the L, the L L M's is that they're, um, they're the epitome of, um, wisdom of the crowd. Okay. Their wisdom of the crowd thinking this, that's what it is. It's the collective, all the average people in the world and all their average foibles and all the average genius. And it's going to get a very kind of average thing that is often very correct, but oftentimes not because it's the average. And so, um, it's, it's always the, it's the wisdom of the crowd AI, um, which is really good if that's where you want to be. I've been trying to figure out the practical use of these things and how people are actually

• 14:23Speaker 00

  using them. I have a friend who runs a very, very popular blog site and he uses them to help them write headlines, to write a punchline at the end. And he said, it's often very generic and he has to kind of push them. To be snarky, he'll say, no, no, no, make it more snarky or pretend you're a snarky editor or pretend that you're a conspiracy. You'll have to kind of push them to not be that standard average. Deliberately say, no, you can be a little bit on a little fringier. You've got to be a little bit angrier. You've got to be something. And then the role play. If you don't do that, you don't get the kind of, as you said, the standard average.

• 15:06Shane Parrish?

  I want to come back to AI a little later because I think we'll have a broader conversation on it. I want to go to the next piece of advice that sort of stood out as I was reading these, which is always demand a deadline because it weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. A deadline prevents you from trying to make it perfect. So you have to make it different. Different is better.

• 15:26Speaker 00

  It is, right? Different is better. So deadlines, this again, took me a long time to kind of figure out that I needed deadlines and deadlines were the difference between, you know, a dream and a something that you complete. And what happens with deadlines for me anyways, you've got a ship, you're, you're, you have to abandon the project and it's not perfect. Oh my gosh, it's not perfect. But because it's not perfect, you kind of have to be ingenious about making it a little different. And that, and I find that deadlines force me to make decisions that you, you, you don't have enough time, you never have

• 16:10Speaker 00

  enough time. And so you, you, you think of something to, I wouldn't say it's a shortcut, you think of a way to finish it. And that little, those little decisions are what make it a little different. One of the shocks to me about working at Wired on a monthly magazine was every single issue after years and years and years was a miracle that it got done on time. It was like you would think it would come down to some formulating, you just, you'd be done on Friday afternoon. But no, it was, it was this last second getting it out the door every single time. And part of that was because. We kind of kept upping the the goal, the quality.

• 16:55Speaker 00

  You know, we're we're trying to make it better than last time. And so you come down to the same thing where you are being driven by the deadline to try to excel, but not making it perfect by by by doing something a little differently than you did before.

• 17:12Shane Parrish?

  Because without a deadline, you can convince yourself that you can always make it a little bit better. But then you never ship.

• 17:19Speaker 00

  Right.

• 17:19Shane Parrish?

  How do you find that balance between in a world of leverage, right? Like where an internet article can go viral and reach 100 million people or it can reach 10 people. How do you find that point at which I've done enough? I'm comfortable with this versus the trade off of do I raise the bar? Do I make this better? What is the advantage to doing that?

• 17:43Speaker 00

  So there's a couple of things, a couple of bits of advice buried in a book about that. One is this rule, which was actually based on some research in various different fields of life, that when you're trying to optimize something versus trying to explore, where you you have something that works and you just want to make it kind of better and go, you know, and optimize it versus doing the inefficient thing of going out to try and try something new. And it comes down to something like when you go out to eat at a restaurant, do you get your favorite thing that you know works? Or do you try something that is a new dish that may not work?

• 18:26Speaker 00

  And so the ratio is actually one to three, two to three, one to three. So you you actually want to spend two thirds of your time trying to optimize things that you want to go deeper and better. And then a third trying trying new things. And that's been shown in many, many ways to be roughly true. So that's one answer is yes, lots of times you're going to just try and make it really, really better or not think, but a third of the time you want to be taking a chance. The second thing is this idea that.

• 19:01Speaker 00

  I learned from doing art. There was actually a book called Writer's Time about how to write a book. And it said that basically, look, the amount of work to write a book is infinite. It just could go on and on. And that's true of almost any project in terms of perfecting. It's bottomless. So really, the only thing you control is your time. You say, I have this much time to give to it. I'm gonna do the very, very best in this amount of time. And that's sort of what a deadline is about. It's saying like, yeah, I mean, it could go on forever, but, but I have a deadline, so I'm gonna do the best. I'm gonna write the best book I can in a year, or a year and a half, whatever it is, or I'm gonna do the best podcast I can make in a week.

• 19:44Speaker 00

  And so that is a deadline. And what it's doing is it's giving you some way to control, because you can't control the amount of work. Which is infinite, because you're always confined some way to perfect it. So, so this is the idea that you control things by controlling the time.

• 20:01Shane Parrish?

  I wonder if part of us is hiding behind fear too. We don't want the deadline. Because we actually don't want to put the work out there. We can convince ourself that hiding, you know, making it better, hiding behind this perfection is in and of itself work. And that we're accomplishing something. We don't have to put it out in the world and get feedback and.

• 20:23Speaker 00

  Right, right, right, right, right. Yeah, yeah, that's, that's true, because it's not good enough yet. One of the things I have become a really big proponent of, which is, you know, doing things on a regular basis. So the advantage of someone like you doing a podcast on a regular basis, like if this one's a complete flop, that's okay. Tomorrow you have another one. We'll try again. And you just do it over and over again, and you put out whatever it is that you do. You know, you're trying your very best, but you know that, that, that there's more from where that's come from. And that gives you some kind of freedom. To fail in a certain sense because I'm gonna do it again.

• 20:59Shane Parrish?

  Yeah.

• 20:59Speaker 00

  And that's true of making art, which I do every day. I make a piece of art every, every day. So I'm gonna put it out no matter what. And if it isn't up to the best standards, that's okay, because tomorrow I'm gonna do it again. And that's true about writing or anything else is this, this idea that you wanna do things on a regular basis because that is the source of great stuff, but also gives you that confidence and liberty to put out something that's not quite the best and not get really hung up on it because we're gonna do it again.

• 21:34Shane Parrish?

  You get another at bat, you get another crack at it.

• 21:37Speaker 00

  Right.

• 21:38Shane Parrish?

  The next piece of advice I want to talk about is when you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others, it's a gift to ourselves. That one's profound. Talk to me about that.

• 21:52Speaker 00

  It's just something I've seen in my life and, and I've found that the easier I was to forgive, the better I felt. You know, a lot of the golden rules are this weird, weird thing that don't make any logical sense at all. But happens, the universe somehow seems to be constructed this way. The, the most selfish thing you can do is to forgive other people. The most selfish thing you can do is to give money away. The most selfish thing you can do is to help other people and you'll be, you know, you'll get, it's like, that's weird, but that seems to be how the universe is set up. There's this kind of paradox at, at its core.

• 22:34Speaker 00

  And that's, all of these principles are, are somewhat based on the same weird logic of the universe, which is yes, the most selfish thing you could do is to be selfless. This is kind of weird.

• 22:48Shane Parrish?

  It goes almost to to our biological instinct towards group survival, if you will, right? Where you're supposed to sacrifice for the good of your species.

• 23:00Speaker 00

  Yes, I think, I mean, I think there are probably evolutionary reasons why that works. But it's so reliable that I I'm just guessing that there's some other larger reason. Because you can count on it.

• 23:18Shane Parrish?

  Are there times when you've learned not to forgive and it's best to move on without forgiveness?

• 23:26Speaker 00

  I haven't seen that forgiveness is sort of a way of, there's another piece of advice of kind of accepting the apology you're never going to get, right? You're not going to get the apology. You just sort of, in your mind, you accept it. And it's like, I think there has to be some, some kind of closure.

• 23:42Shane Parrish?

  Because often we're waiting, we're waiting for that, right? We're waiting for the apology. We're waiting for the other person to go first. We're waiting for the world to give us sort of what we want. And yet we're incapable of going first.

• 23:54Speaker 00

  Right. So, so that's what forgiveness is, is you accept the apology you're not going to get.

• 23:59Shane Parrish?

  The, the next bit of advice that I love, which is don't measure your life with someone else's ruler.

• 24:06Shane Parrish?

  Tell me the backstory to this one.

• 24:08Speaker 00

  I've had the privilege of knowing

• 24:12Speaker 00

  a lot of maybe I would say accomplished people, successful people, famous people, super rich people. And man, the outsides not represent their insights. And we tend to want to compare ourselves to their outsides, to their own ideas of what success is. This goes back to don't aim to be the best, don't aim to be the only, I, I think we're, I, I'm better and I do better when I am not trying to imitate someone else's success state. And how they define success. I mean, in a certain way, what you want to do is you want to kind

• 24:54Speaker 00

  of grow your own metric for what you, what would be successful for you. And that is hard to do because we're kind of bombarded with images and.

• 25:09Speaker 00

  Suggestions about what would make a successful person. But if you talk to people who seem to have success, you realize that you want to have a different metric. I spent some time with the Amish, a lot of time with the Amish. It was really interesting because they had a very different measure of success. For the Amish, what they're trying to use, one of the reasons, one of the ways that they decide which technology they're going to use or not use is they have a very clear idea of success. And so their goal, their goal is to have a lot of kids and to have every meal with their kids until they leave home.

• 25:54Speaker 00

  They want to have breakfast, lunch and dinner with them every day. And if they can arrange their lives to do that, there's a couple of other things, but if they can arrange their lives to do that, that's, that is success. And so they spend a lot of time and a lot of routines and rigmarole and crazy stuff with their, their hacking to try and do that. But that's for them, it's like, oh, that's interesting. That's for them, that's a successful person is they were able to do that and everybody in the community really kind of honors that. Wow, that's really good. So it was like, all right, that's interesting. That's, that's a different measure.

• 26:37Shane Parrish?

  We all have sort of like our own measure of what success is and what we think it is. And in a world of Instagram, what we're seeing is the best successes from everybody else. And then we're feeling less about our own self, in part because maybe that ruler that we're using is sort of malleable in a way. It's like, well, I want, I want Kevin Kelly's brain and I want this person's body and I want this person's vacations and I want this person's cars. But this is what you're exposed to every day. You're exposed to the best of everybody else in a way that you never were before.

• 27:15Speaker 00

  Yeah, it was actually, that's an interesting statement because there's, because I think it goes even further. And, and, and I think we have really absorbed this and here's the furtherness and it kind of is beyond TikTok into YouTube. We see the superlative of everything. We see the best human achievement of like, you know, the people who can use count cups or the Rubik cube speed servers or people jumping off of snowboard down houses. It's just the weirdest stuff of human achievement. We're seeing it. And so we have, we're being exposed to the superlative world. We're seeing

• 27:56Speaker 00

  lightning strikes, striking people. It's like things that we would never see. It's not ordinary, but we're seeing this extreme superlative version of the world, which does several things. One is it kind of can inspire us to say, well, that's, I didn't know that was possible for humans to do. I want to do something that level. That's great. But of course, at the same time, there's this other thing of like, well, my life is nothing like that. I must not be worth very much. So there's two sides to it. But I think there is a positive side to that, which is to, to, to, to see and appreciate kind of the full range of human potential for the first time. And, and, and that can be inspiring as well.

• 28:41Shane Parrish?

  The extraordinary has become ordinary in some ways.

• 28:43Speaker 00

  Yeah, exactly. Right. And, and it's like, we're seeing it all day long. We're seeing the extraordinary all day long. It's like, that must affect us in some way that we don't really appreciate where I can see the best that's ever happened again and again and again. And, and the weirdness is, and you know, it's kind of like, I mean, actually, I actually subscribe to a channel that just shows these weird accidents, coincidences, just strange stuff every day that people get on their, on their phones and security cameras. And like, you kind of realize, you know, there's, I don't know, there's like 100,000 airplane

• 29:24Speaker 00

  flights every day and almost every day there's some airline mishap that we would normally even think about. But if you see that, you think, oh, this is actually not that rare. I mean, it's rare, but, but you, this idea of the extraordinary becoming the ordinary is I think a very profound thing that we haven't really absorbed yet.

• 29:46Shane Parrish?

  So with, with your thinking of success, I have to ask, what is success for you?

• 29:52Speaker 00

  Hmm.

• 29:53Shane Parrish?

  Individually?

• 29:55Speaker 00

  Great question. Um, I would say, um, I, I, I ask that in a slightly different way in my own vocabulary, which I ask other people is what am I trying to optimize? And what I'm trying to optimize is, um,

• 30:13Speaker 00

  learning for myself and increasing other people learning and the collective learning of the world. And I'm also, to my own advice, I, I, I'm aiming so that on the day before I die, I can say I have fully become myself.

• 30:34Speaker 00

  And I want to help that for everybody else is that I want as many people in the world to be able to say, on the day before they die, I have fully become myself. And in my mind, that requires tools and stuff around us to allow. So, so the story that I like to tell is just to do the thought experiment of imagining Mozart being born 2,000 years before he was born, before they had invented pianos or symphonies, and the way that his genius would have been lost. We would not have, he would, you know, maybe he could play some drums or whatever was around, but it would not have,

• 31:17Speaker 00

  we would not have had his genius

• 31:22Speaker 00

  exposed that way and illuminated and fulfilled. So we needed to invent those technologies of pianos and stuff. And so Van Gogh, before there was oil paint, what a loss that would have been, or George Lucas, before we invented cinematography, what a loss that would have been. So that means that there is a Shakespeare today alive in the world, and she's waiting for us to invent the tools that she needs to best express her genius. And so I think we have a moral obligation to kind of make stuff so that everybody born and unborn would be able to express their genius. And that stuff includes things like

• 32:07Speaker 00

  clean water and education and stuff. It's not just technologies, it's cultural stuff. But we, we have it and that we want, I want to unleash that in myself.

• 32:19Speaker 00

  And others, and that's sort of what I'm trying to optimize.

• 32:22Shane Parrish?

  I love that. It's beautiful. I love the word unleash too. There's unleashing human potential by creating equal opportunity and creating better tools so that people's potential can shine through.

• 32:34Speaker 00

  Yeah, yeah, we're all a different mix. Each one of us has a different face. We have a different personality face. We have a different talent face. And we each have our own genius. I truly believe that. And so what we want to do is arrange things so that you can arrive somewhere where you can actually express it. And I have to say that this is a very, very difficult thing. It's taken me most of my life to kind of figure out what I'm really good at. And I think most people, it just takes almost their entire life to kind of figure out where their genius is. There are some occasionally prodigies, people who have a very clear idea when they're very

• 33:17Speaker 00

  young, exactly what it is. But for most people, we need our lives to kind of figure out what our lives are really about. And the other important part of that is we absolutely need everybody around us. We need parents, we need friends, we need colleagues, we need customers, we need clients to help us see who we're becoming, who we should be, because it is really, really almost impossible to do that introspectively by ourselves.

• 33:45Shane Parrish?

  Yeah, it's hard to understand a system that you're a part of. You need those outside people pointing out your blind spots in a way. You need to listen to them when they're right and ignore them when they're wrong, which is.

• 33:58Speaker 00

  That's another piece of advice is that, yeah, you want to be able to

• 34:04Speaker 00

  never quit and then.

• 34:05Shane Parrish?

  Quit when it's right.

• 34:07Speaker 00

  Right, right. But quit when it's necessary and you need your friends and family and everyone else to help you decide between those two. That's why we've been put here with other people around us is that we really do need others to help, help us become who we should be.

• 34:23Shane Parrish?

  I love that beautiful. Again, it's about the group. I like that. There's a common theme here. Well, one of your other pieces of advice was you can't reason someone out of a notion that they didn't reason themselves into.

• 34:35Speaker 00

  Yeah, trying to argue. I mean, this is something I have learned to not do is argue with people. Even though I like to argue, you have to, you know, you have to find someone who's arguably authentically you're wanting to learn just. And for lots of people, that's not really the case. And so often we have things that we believe that we inherit or that we don't know why we believe, or we certainly haven't arrived through logic. And so therefore logic is not going to work. Another piece of advice I have about changing people's minds is I have found by far the best way to have any hope of changing someone's mind is to try and listen and understand,

• 35:21Speaker 00

  truly understand why they think what they're thinking, how they got there. And that conversation

• 35:30Speaker 00

  will often give you the position to say something honest that might help them move. Otherwise, it's not going to to work. Because you were kind of operating at that point and more emotionally at the emotional level of having a conversation rather than an intellectual reasoning option.

• 35:56Shane Parrish?

  Nobody's irrational from the way that they see the world.

• 35:59Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 35:59Shane Parrish?

  It's all about how do they see the world? What would the world have to look like for me to exhibit that behavior or that belief? And that goes a long way to helping you understand how other people see it because nobody's intentionally acting irrationally.

• 36:13Speaker 00

  Right. And everybody believes, and also, by the way, they also believe that they're good and doing good things. And that's another piece of advice is that in my

• 36:26Speaker 00

  in my view, and this again, took me a long time to kind of realize this, but in my view, the worst crimes against humanity have all been done in trying to eliminate evil.

• 36:39Speaker 00

  And so the lesson to me is like, if you are in a business of trying to eliminate evil, you gotta be really careful. Because that's where, that's where most of the harm happens, where people are trying to eliminate evil.

• 36:54Shane Parrish?

  Politics is full of that.

• 36:56Speaker 00

  Yeah, exactly right. So, so I'm really wary of anybody, left or right, who's trying to eliminate evil in the world, or the bad things, or whatever. So, because most of the really bad things are done in that name.

• 37:09Shane Parrish?

  The next piece of advice I want to talk about is a great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others.

• 37:18Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 37:18Shane Parrish?

  What's the story behind that one?

• 37:20Speaker 00

  I think we're kind of, we're really sensitized. It's kind of like a self criticism. We're really sensitized to the things. I'm not sure what the mechanism is. I don't have a deep understanding of that, but it's just my observation is that there's something fundamental about things that really tick us off. And it's because, it's like the resonant frequency. It's because we're sort of operating on a very similar frequency. And so we become sensitized to that and we find it annoying, but it's actually because it's something that we are revolving around in some ways. I'm not saying that, you know, if you find

• 38:04Speaker 00

  someone lying, it means that you're a liar. It just means that there's some fundamental thing about telling the truth, or whatever, that is really core to you and you need to look at it to be sure about your own behavior in that department.

• 38:23Shane Parrish?

  Yeah, I, I, I think that there's a lot of, there's a signal in our body when other people are doing something that irritates us, that's a part of ourself that we don't

• 38:36Shane Parrish?

  We don't like, and that's where we're getting that signal from. The next, I only want to do a couple more of these and then we'll switch to sort of broader topics. But the next one is whenever you have a choice between being right or being kind, be kind with no exceptions and don't confuse kindness with weakness.

• 38:55Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 38:56Shane Parrish?

  There's got to be a story behind this one.

• 38:59Speaker 00

  Oh, yeah. And by the way, you know, the sub theme of the book throughout the whole book is about kindness, compassion, gratitude, these kind of elemental timeless ancient virtues.

• 39:12Speaker 00

  So kindness is a kind of compassion.

• 39:18Speaker 00

  And it goes back to, again, this for me, and this kind of the weird paradox of the universe that

• 39:27Speaker 00

  kindness is not weakness because in fact it's a strength, it's power, it's weak people, small people are unkind. You can be generous when you are confident and true and honest. And so cultivating kindness is cultivating a superpower. And so it's this kind of, again, this really weird thing that reaching out, helping others is the most selfish thing you can do in the long term. So it's a little bit of long-termism and that's another thing that goes through is this idea that, yeah, for immediate payback, you know, be angry, be snarky, whatever it is, but if you are patient,

• 40:09Speaker 00

  if you take the long view of your own life and what we're doing, it's very clear that you'll gain more in that way. So you can afford to be kind,

• 40:24Speaker 00

  give away something, give away your time, be humble, give away your own status, whatever it is. Because what I've seen

• 40:35Speaker 00

  Among myself and other people is that you'll be rewarded more. So it's kind of like, there's a, there's a reason to do it just on the base of it of, of being human, but I'm saying, no, no, it's the most practical selfish thing you could possibly do.

• 40:50Shane Parrish?

  Totally. I love the idea of the long view because it, it's a frame that changes everything. Right? So if you take a long view to life, you eliminate a lot of negative behavior. But if you even remind yourself before you talk to somebody at work or colleague, and you just think, I'm going to have a relationship with this person for 20 years. It changes the conversation you're about to have with them, especially if you're upset with them. Because now you're like, oh, I'm going to approach this almost like I would my partner instead of a colleague that is disposable or transactional. Or I'm going to approach this as we're going to be working together for a long time. Here's this thing that's bothering me. How do we get this out of the way so we can keep going forward?

• 41:30Shane Parrish?

  Versus like, stop doing this. This is, you know, it just changes the notion of the conversation. And that allows for compounding. So if we look at sort of like one of the major, major forces in the world that people don't take advantage of, it's compounding. But what, how does a relationship compound? Well, it compounds over time, but you need to stay on the timeline. So anything that you do that negates being in a long-term relationship takes you off compounding to begin with. So if you think long-term and you know from compounding that all the advantages come at the end, not at the beginning, they're very slow to accrue, but then they're too large to ignore.

• 42:08Speaker 00

  Right, right.

• 42:09Shane Parrish?

  It's like, how do I, how do I be in a relationship with this person for 20 years?

• 42:13Speaker 00

  And that compounding gives you again, the freedom, it unleashes you because it will overcome all kinds of temporary setbacks, right? I mean, the thing we know about investing is yeah, if you're there for a long time, then things can go up, there could be recessions coming and going, and you're not bothered by them because you're, you're taking the longer view. So because those gains in the end will overwhelm. Even fairly large setbacks. And so if you say, okay, this, yeah, we have a set, you know, we're, we're, we have an argument or whatever it is, but in the long view, it's okay because the gains from that are going to overwhelm whatever losses we had along the way and or mistakes too. I mean, you can make, that's the other thing is you can make mistakes,

• 42:58Speaker 00

  even fairly large mistakes. But if you have a long view, the total gains outweigh them. So, so it's, it's, um, and that's, and we're, we're talking about personal relationships, but it's also true about civilizations and societies. And, um, this is of course my involvement with the Long Now Foundation, trying to promote this idea of doing generational things. Um, because one, we have ourselves benefited from what previous generations have made, but it also allows us to, um, to do things that are maybe even riskier. Um, now because we are, we will, we will make mistakes, but the long-term gains of taking a longer view and arising our, our horizon, um, will give us greater gains if we, if we do that.

• 43:44Shane Parrish?

  Okay. Last piece of advice before we move on, which is before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear and listen. Nobody talks about the departed's achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving.

• 44:00Speaker 00

  So that came from my attending funerals. It was just a hundred percent direct observation of the data where I was going to, um, funerals and I was noticing this weird thing. And, you know, then you kind of play forward. It's like, what are people going to say at my funeral? It was really sobering, um, to, to reflect on that. And there was, you know, a couple of people who were prominent and I was just. Kind of maybe shocked or amazed that that's what people wanted to talk about was what they

• 44:45Speaker 00

  were like and what they did and their sense of humor and all these other things. And it wasn't about the trophies that they had at all, or what they had even accomplished. And so that was for me like a wake up call. I said, okay, I understand that it's going to be about the quality of my character. So, um, so that means that I should focus a little bit more on my character development, growth of my character, rather than, you know, another certificate and another thing to brag about.

• 45:25Shane Parrish?

  I think that's so important. If you, if you sort of close your eyes and do a thought experiment and imagine yourself at, you know, a hundred, lying in a hospital bed with a few hours to live, and you look back on your life, you're not going to think about, you know, how many Twitter followers you had, how much money is in your bank account. You're going to think about, was I there for the people I cared for? How was I as a person? Right? All the moments where you, where you chose to be unkind and you could have been kind. Those are the things you're going to think about. Was I there for my kids? Did I skip the meals? Did I work extra to get that promotion that I now realize suddenly doesn't matter?

• 46:08Shane Parrish?

  Right? What matters is time with my kids and my family and yeah.

• 46:13Speaker 00

  Yeah, yeah. So they're all, they're all, all these advices are all kind of woven together. I know you said that this was the last one, but you know, one of my pieces of advice is, you know, spend half as much money on your kids as you think you need to and twice as much time because that's what they're gonna, they're gonna value. And again, that's another technique people call self distancing. That's really good about this, which is imagining yourself, a future self, looking back or imagining yourself old and looking back and seeing what you would do now to, to change things. And I think,

• 46:49Speaker 00

  You might rearrange your priorities, which is sort of I did over time. Again, I wish I had known this earlier, so I'm putting it all together in this little book. Hope you enjoy it.

• 46:59Shane Parrish?

  I love that. I think like you're just trying to get a different perspective on your own life. You don't have to like, we look back at like, I look back anyway, what I did when I was 16. I was like, oh, that was profoundly stupid. My 16 year old self did not think that was stupid. But we can use this sort of time shifting to give ourselves a different perspective into our own lives.

• 47:20Speaker 00

  Exactly. Right. Yeah. So, yeah, this kind of zooming around with time is a very important tool that, again, I use and I would encourage others to play with.

• 47:31Shane Parrish?

  I want to come back to something we started talking about a little bit earlier, which is artificial intelligence. Why are you so excited about AI? And what do you fear about AI?

• 47:42Speaker 00

  I'm very excited by AI, incredibly excited. There are books to be written about what's happening right now. And I really, in some ways, I think we have, we're still underhyping it for the long term, that the consequences are so profound. This is by far our biggest invention after the scientific method. And we humans are incredibly opaque to ourselves. We don't know how we work. We don't know how our brains work. We don't know what consciousness is. We don't know what intelligence is. We don't know what humans are. And the major, the way that we're

• 48:23Speaker 00

  going to find out about who we are is through AI robots, as we tend to try to make them like us and not like us. And how do we have other kinds of thinking? And all these things are going to come back. And then, in addition to that, making other and trying to replicate ourselves is that we're also going to use them to become better humans. So it's like, one of the things going on right now is you have these language models and chat bots that are trained on all human writing and behavior.

• 49:02Speaker 00

  And we're kind of, we're shocked that they're racist and ageist and sexist. When that's kind of like the average human. But here's the thing is, we don't accept that. We're saying, no. They need to be better than us. This thing, this thing that we're making cannot be racist, cannot be sexist. It has to be better than we are. Which we can code in because that's just code, ethics and morale is code. We can put it in. But the problem is, is that we don't have any idea. Or consensus on what it means to be better than us. We don't know what a better human looks like. We don't, we don't have that in our head.

• 49:40Speaker 00

  We don't know, we don't know what a, an ethic, our own ethics as humans are very shallow and inconsistent and terribly vague. But we want robots to be better than us, but we don't have a picture. In our head of how to do that. So we are now going to be using these AIs and robots to. Imagine articulate and help us become better humans. So that's why I'm excited is, is, is that it's going to help us become better humans. What does that mean? We don't know. That's, that's the conversation we're having right now. Every day we're, we're coming up with these things with. How, what, what does better than us look like?

• 50:23Speaker 00

  That is incredibly profound question. How does our own brains work? We don't know, but we're going to be finding out because we're trying to make them think and be conscious. So this is a huge. Centuries long identity crisis, centuries long. A journey for us. Of understanding us and then trying to change ourselves. And that's, that's why it's so exciting. So we can talk more about that and then to your question, but what am I afraid of? Well, the more powerful the technology, the more powerfully it can be abused. This is the most powerful technology we've ever made.

• 51:07Speaker 00

  It will be abused. I'm sorry to say it will probably be used, will be weaponized. And those are always something to worry about. So.

• 51:19Speaker 00

  I'm not worried about the kind of commercialization and stuff. I go along with Ted Chang's idea that most of our worries about technology are really worries about capitalism. I am worried about weaponization of these things. And I have a second worry, which is a little harder to explain, which is I'm worried about whether we will take on the the relationship with some of these of master-slave, treat them like slaves. If we treat them like slaves, that's incredibly corrosive to our own humanity. Okay, just that stance, just the stance of these are

• 52:04Speaker 00

  these are going to do our bidding, they're just machines, they

• 52:10Shane Parrish?

  Help me understand that because that's a different relationship than I feel like we have with computers right now.

• 52:15Speaker 00

  Well, it is. And one of the things that we're trying to figure out is what is that relationship? And so one of the things I will say about the chats is that they are the universal intern. That's what we're making. We're making these universal interns that do all the work of interns. You have to check their work, but they're kind of like doing first drafts and they're helping the research. And so that's a relationship that we can understand and that's a, you know, it's, there's still a power thing, but it's okay. It's a, it's not degenerative like I think a master-slave relationship would be. So we, I don't, I don't see any evidence that we're going down that way, but that's a worry that we would and that and to some people

• 53:01Speaker 00

  they're just machines. And I'm saying, no, no, just that the stance itself, it doesn't matter that they're machines. If we have that kind of, you're just, you'll do my bidding no matter what. I don't, I'm not going to, you're not human, so therefore

• 53:16Speaker 00

  I can

• 53:18Speaker 00

  have you do whatever I wanted to do. So, um, so that's a worry that we would

• 53:24Speaker 00

  do that, although I don't see any evidence that we're doing that so far.

• 53:28Shane Parrish?

  What would be the signs that AI has been being weaponized? How would we know?

• 53:35Speaker 00

  Oh, oh, oh, well, there's all different levels of it. There's, in a curious way, because this may seem contradictory. In a curious way, um, you know, there's this idea that take humans out of the kill decision. So you have, uh, robots, soldiers and drones that make, that autonomously decide whether to fire the, the gun or not. I actually am okay with that. In a weird way, because one is, I think we, I think it's possible that we could make them better than us. And so they don't do war crimes. So they're actually, we have the rules of war, which is a weird concept, but it's better than not having rules of war.

• 54:21Speaker 00

  And that we kind of say, okay, these are going to follow it. And so they do follow it. My hope is that that process of doing that, we realize how absurd it is to have war. Cause right now we're saying, no, no, we don't want robots killing people. We only want humans to kill other people. It's like, that's not, no, no, we don't want humans to kill people either. And so I think, I think by having to write the laws of war for the robot soldiers, it will illuminate how screwed up the idea of, of, of accepting war as, as a legitimate, um, process. So, so, so that's, so that's, that's part of it.

• 55:01Shane Parrish?

  I, I want to explore that a little more because in my mind, where I go with this is like,

• 55:07Shane Parrish?

  not every country would agree to encode that into all of their devices. The country that defects would gain an advantage, but the AIs would also learn that not everybody's following the rules of war. And then it would autonomously adapt to not following them because. Like, am I thinking of it as wrong?

• 55:28Speaker 00

  Well, the one thing I feel is I have a huge disagreement with the single arrogance, because I don't believe AI is ever going to be out of our control in the sense of, yes, I mean, there may be occasions when it does something, but we're going to be quick to to correct it and say, no, no. So if there's if there's people or countries that don't that are having soldiers that fight the other way, it'd be like having war crimes. It was like, yeah, do does the rest of the world accept that? Are we going to are they going to be punished? So so the thing about the world that we're headed into is is that for better or worse,

• 56:09Speaker 00

  we're heading into a global world and this idea that we're going to stop globalism or stop the globalists, it's it's it's like, we're not going to become Amish. We're not going backwards. We are making an integrated world. And the more the complex technology we make, like the internet and what's ever coming next, is very, very complex, requires thousands and thousands of people to cooperate, to make it work. And even the AI running, it's not, it's very, the fantasy, the Hollywood fantasy of the lone villain on the mountaintop who has all this technology that works, and there's no

• 56:52Speaker 00

  there's no IT support, it just works the first time, and they can gain control of these very complex, that's just, that's just, that's just, it's like dragons. It's it's it's just a fantasy. There's the only the technologies that we're making today, the more powerful ones, just require so many people to buy into the vision to make it work and keep it going, that there's a there's there's a natural resistance now that's going to come. So to to get something accepted, you'd have to have millions of people. Millions of people buy into the vision. So there, you know, and, and there are things we bought into without knowing it.

• 57:36Speaker 00

  You know, we, there's all kinds of things that we have, that we're collectively supporting without having articulated them. But the important thing is, is that it takes huge buy-in to make things happen today. And that's a conservative force in the classical sense of it.

• 57:57Speaker 00

  And so that's one of the reasons why I don't worry too much about these rogue ideas of things. Yes, there may be occasional thing, but there, it's not really a, a force at work in the world.

• 58:11Shane Parrish?

  Do, do you think we're at the hockey stick inflection point of AI finally? I mean, we've been talking about AI for 20 years.

• 58:21Speaker 00

  No, I don't. I, I, I think we're still at day one. And so here's the thing about AI, artificial intelligence is, is that most people think of intelligence, including a lot of AI researchers, as a single dimension, like a decibels IQ.

• 58:42Speaker 00

  It's multi-dimensional. There's multi-vecords. It's all gradient. None of it's binary. There's, there's, there's probably hundreds of different dimensions and different types of cognition in our own minds. And so far, we've synthesized basically two varieties. A pattern recognition and a little bit of kind of generative ability.

• 59:07Speaker 00

  There's this logical deduction, you know, symbolic reasoning. None of these things have we come close to synthesizing. What's shocking to us is how far we can go with just these two things. We've, and then, and they're very flattened kind of bottom up into this connectionist idea, which is like, yeah. And what I've learned from that is that that bottom up.

• 59:36Speaker 00

  We'll take you much further than you thought you could go, but we'll never take you all the way to where you want to go. So Wikipedia, this classic bottom up thing. Over time, there's a more and more top down editorial control. And eventually, over time, there'll be even more to get where we want, to get that kind of encyclopedia that's totally reliable. It does what you want to do. There's going to be some more top down control given to that bottom up power. But you can't get all the way just from the bottom up. And that's sort of what the neural nets are. They're, they're, they're very flat bottom up. But they're going to take us much further than we ever thought.

• 1:00:20Speaker 00

  But they're nowhere, not going to take us to where we want to get to.

• 1:00:24Shane Parrish?

  One of my fears, I think, with AI that we'll have to deal with at some point is that the news isn't the news anymore. The news is tailored to me. And by tailored to me, I mean you and I can look at the same article, which is generated in real time based on our political preference, based on how much coffee we had in the morning.

• 1:00:46Speaker 00

  Right, right, right.

• 1:00:47Shane Parrish?

  It's going to have enough information to tailor the article towards us in a way that can manipulate or mislead or engage or drive clicks or do whatever. And we'll have no way of telling what the actual news is because we'll all have an individual view into the news.

• 1:01:08Speaker 00

  Yeah, so, so I think this epistemological front that we've entered into is a very significant and very potent frontier, which is how do we know things? What do we need to be convinced something is true? Again, we have kind of like in our own past sort of waved our hands and thought, oh, I know, I know. But what this is coming up to illuminate is in fact, we don't know. We, we, we don't really have a very scientific measurement for that or process. And so what this is illuminating is like, okay,

• 1:01:52Speaker 00

  ChatGPT is making things up. Well, what would we, what would we need? To believe that. Is it Right. The source? Well, can we believe the source? How how many levels do we need to go on? Three levels of footnotes? Or does it need seven levels? Or do they have to be verified by something, some other AI? So so this this issue, I think, is a really fundamental thing. It's not a trivial thing of like disinformation for the election. No, no, it goes way beyond that. This is this is a really core thing at the level of what is truth? How do we it's a consensus of some sort? Well, how do we come to that consensus?

• 1:02:34Speaker 00

  And what do we what's what are the different categories? Maybe there's different categories of things. And, you know, there's maybe levels or varieties. I don't know. And and that's very exciting because we're going to have to head into that to kind of decide. And it's not a matter of something Facebook is going to figure out. This is a big, big challenge is how do we know things? Which was begun by the scientific method. The scientific method began to change how we decided we knew things. But that's so I did a study of the scientific method. I did the first study of the scientific method.

• 1:03:17Speaker 00

  And then what I realized is a lot of the things that we consider essential to the scientific method were very recent. The double-blind study was like in the 1950s. Placebos were not invented until within my lifetime. And so the scientific method itself is changing very, very rapidly. And so I'm trying to imagine what's the scientific method going to look like in another 50 years? And I think part of what's happening is that's going to have an AI component and all these other things. But how we know things has been changing. And we're in this process right now of kind of being now illuminated the fact that we're in this thing. We're we're changing how we decide we know things. And that's very, very exciting and scary.

• 1:04:00Shane Parrish?

  Yeah, I mean, it's going to be fascinating to watch all those play out. I want to switch gears just a little bit because I wanted to hit on this before we end. We talked a little bit earlier about religion. I'm curious what role you see religion playing in society today and how that might evolve in the future.

• 1:04:20Speaker 00

  That's a really good question. I am myself, I have a religious belief.

• 1:04:29Speaker 00

  I think that if we look at the evidence right now, it's pretty clear that organized religions are on the wing. They're disappearing around the world. The US is almost exceptional in the sense of it's a very modern,

• 1:04:49Speaker 00

  has a high living standard and a high religiosity, which is very, very unique. One of the things I can say about Christianity is all the countries that have gone atheist were Christians first. So Christianity is the closest thing to atheism.

• 1:05:08Speaker 00

  It's really strange. So I think, so I would say, standing back, there are several things you can say about religion. One is there's going to be less of the current organized versions of them. And secondly, the other pattern we see is the schism where even the organized ones become more finely divided in different little local niches. So it's kind of like mass identification that we see in other parts of the culture. I am going to, I would not be surprised to see some new religions based on AI come up. Religions have always been about, throughout history,

• 1:05:52Speaker 00

  people have converted and gravitated to religions that they felt made them more powerful or more successful. I mean, look at Korea. Korea went from a kind of a semi Buddhist to a Christian state because it was being driven by the people that they saw who were Christian, who were successful. And I want to be like them. Or your gods are more powerful than my gods. That was a very common thing in the ancient world was whose god was more powerful? And people who were successful. Believing these gods, it's like, yeah, I want that. So I'm going to worship that god because I want to be like them.

• 1:06:36Speaker 00

  And that's, that's been one of the major causes is not, not just, I mean, we think there's some intellectual thing, all the theology sounds better, but generally has not operated that way. It's been much more, I want to be like that person. What do they believe?

• 1:06:52Shane Parrish?

  There's, there's a lot of encoded ancient wisdom in religion though, that is beneficial to create success.

• 1:06:59Speaker 00

  Exactly. Right. Right. So in a modern world, yeah, if, if, if you don't drink and don't womanize around and stuff and you are a family man, you're probably going to be more successful than somebody else. And so, yeah, I want to be that. I'll be that, you know, I want to be the Islamic guy because they were, they were more successful because, because of their beliefs. You know, again, if you're, some of the things in my book about, you know, kindness and compassion and gratitude are ancient, ancient wisdom of the religions. And in my observation, people who believe that do better.

• 1:07:37Speaker 00

  So yes, so there is a lot of encoded wisdom in the religions. But the other stuff about them is not working as well. And I think there could be a new, some new powers from people who kind of dive into AI. Maybe AI helps them understand who they are better. Maybe they can become more themselves by using AI. And that therefore there could be something, not Scientology, but that's one hint at that kind of a thing. Imagine if Scientology really worked, right? I mean, you know, the, the gizmo stuff. Well, that would be, you know, a lot of people could move into that.

• 1:08:21Speaker 00

  And so I think, um, so, so it would not surprise me to, to, to see some new religions based around AI emerging in the kind of vacuum of the waning of the established religions. And, and let me say one last thing, and I would expect to see these first in China and maybe Russia because they have a total vacuum of this. So, so here's the thing about China, which I spent a lot of time in, there's nothing to believe in.

• 1:08:54Speaker 00

  They don't have a religion to believe in. They don't have a scripture. They don't have a constitution that they believe in. There's only about making money and that's not enough. And so they, there is this hunger for something to believe in. And if there was something like an AI religion that could sweep the country because of the vacuum of, you know, something greater than themselves to believe in.

• 1:09:24Shane Parrish?

  I think we miss the fact that as humans, we have this instinct to be a part of something larger than ourselves. And when that instinct is not fulfilled, it leads to all sorts of unpredictable behavior.

• 1:09:42Speaker 00

  Right, right, right. Exactly. So in the absence of that, so nationalism is something bigger than yourself to believe in. And so that's why there's going to be a rise in China of nationalism. That's sort of almost inevitable. Because that's bigger than yourself and you can believe in that. It's your team, China. So, um, but there could be even bigger, bigger things and that's, yeah, you want to believe in. Your, your, your purpose in life should suit you, but your meaning in life, your passion should suit you, but your purpose and meaning should exceed you, should be bigger than you. And, um,

• 1:10:22Speaker 00

  uh, we, we crave that individually. And so therefore, um, you know, we, we want to sign up. We want to be part of a big story, an arc going through it. For me, that big story is technology and, and life. I see technology as a extension of the same process of, of life in the mind. And so for me, the big arc is this sort of what I call exotropic growth of.

• 1:10:51Speaker 00

  Planets forming and life forming and then minds forming and then technology forming. It's all one long arc through the universe. And so that's what I'm aligned, or that's what I'm trying to align myself with. It's a bigger story of bringing choices and possibilities to everybody so that everybody has a chance to fulfill their, be the most full of themselves as possible.

• 1:11:30Shane Parrish?

  That's a beautiful place to end this conversation. Thank you so much, Kevin.

• 1:11:35Speaker 00

  It was my pleasure. Thanks for the great questions and for your insight. I really appreciate it. I'm a fan and, you know, I really did enjoy this. I had a lot of fun. Thank you.

• 1:11:55Shane Parrish?

  Thanks for listening and learning with us. For a complete list of episodes, show notes, transcripts and more, go to fs.blog/podcast or just Google The Knowledge Project.

• 1:12:10Shane Parrish?

  Until next time.