Jocko Underground: Rebuild Your Reputation | Handling Bullies | Her Jealous Ex Causing Problems.

Rebuild Your Reputation Chaos for a civilians in The Ukraine. How to deal with it. Handling Bullies Her Jealous Ex Causing Problems. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/jocko-podcast/exclusive-content

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• 0:00Jocko Willink?

  This is the Jocko Underground's best questions answered. You'll get answers on what to do if your significant other's ex is causing problems for you. Also, how to rebuild your reputation if you managed to ruin it in the past. You'll also get some advice on bullying and some insight on how complex it can be. And some other life tips that'll help you along the way.

• 0:25Speaker 01

  Okay, this next question here is funny because this is one I wanted to ask you. Kind of like, not necessarily for me, it actually is not for me at all, thankfully. But, um, so this is interesting. Side note. Hey, hi Jocko. I just started to go to a new gym a couple of months ago. I was focused on getting in shape and sorting out my life. I've made good progress in the last few weeks. I'm not from here, so I don't know a lot of people in the small town USA. I have one workout partner and we work out almost every day together. Anyway, since starting to work out, I've began to date a girl who works out there too. She approached me and everything is going great and I really like her. She's quite pretty and social and fit. So she gets looks, attention from other guys, looks and attention from other guys.

• 1:09Speaker 01

  However, I'm having a serious, I'm having serious trouble with a jealous ex-boyfriend of hers. Who is bad mouthing me to everyone at the gym and, and to her. Spreading lies and attempting to ruin my reputation. He also bad mouths my workout partner. Neither, this isn't part of the question I wanted to ask you. I'm just, this is a build up. Neither, neither of us know this guy. He takes photos of my car in parking lots with females and randomly walking by and sending them to her and attempting to frame me for having other girls in my car. He's always telling her he's not so, he's got so much shit on me and is attempting to do anything he can to derail what we've got going on. He owes her quite a bit of money and she says this is the only reason she hasn't stopped all contact with him.

• 1:55Speaker 01

  He's always calling her, going to her job and following us around. If we go for walks at the park, etc. How do I deal with, this is a question. How do I deal with a person who is attempting to ruin what I have going on?

• 2:07Jocko Willink?

  So how does your question?

• 2:09Speaker 01

  Well, mine was like, actually, this is way more elaborate than whatever. Mine was just like, how do you deal with like jealous ex-boyfriends kind of a thing? You know, like, because there's kind of two sides to it where you can take, totally take the high road, but like, to what degree, you know, like?

• 2:24Jocko Willink?

  So what do you think I'm gonna say?

• 2:25Speaker 01

  Well, you know, give me a minute. You tell me, I don't know, tell them to wake up at 4:30 in the morning.

• 2:31Jocko Willink?

  Well, in this, well, you just said, you know, you tell them to take the high, of course I'm gonna tell you to take the high road.

• 2:35Speaker 01

  Mr. Jocko, I am 26 years old and I live in Ukraine, where our civil population is always in danger of getting killed by Russian missiles. My question is, how to live through the day, knowing that civilian people die here or there in my country? Given your Iraq experience, perhaps you could advise how to keep common sense, not dwell in a feeling of guilt, and also not be too anxious. Thanks in advance.

• 3:05Jocko Willink?

  So essentially, what this boils down to, my friend, is you can only control what you can control.

• 3:17Speaker 01

  Hello, Jocko and Echo. Recently, I failed to keep my composure. I was at work and I lost my cool. I'm aware I lost a lot of leadership capital because I argued with someone in front of everyone. I got upset and let my ego fly. My question is, how do you get leadership capital back after an event like this? I've owned it and apologized. However, I still got emotional and looked like a clown that not even I would want to work with. Oh, damn. Thanks.

• 3:46Jocko Willink?

  Ouch. Yeah. Well, listen, good job on the owning it and apologizing. That's like what you need to do. And then you gotta recognize that this is gonna be, you have to slowly rebuild this.

• 4:01Speaker 01

  Hi there, Jocko Echo. I'm a mom of three little ones, three years, two years, and three months. I'm trying to elevate my parenting game. There are a lot of ideas about parenting out there. I've been reading Extreme Ownership and have been applying this concept to being a parent. Any advice for a warrior mom who is trying to take ownership of her kids' behavior? Also, I love listening to Jocko Underground on my long runs. I really enjoyed the Way of the Warrior Kid books. Maybe you would consider Way of the Warrior Mom series in the future.

• 4:32Jocko Willink?

  Awesome. Alright, so what is it? We're just looking for advice on trying to take ownership of kids? Okay, I'm gonna say this. Just as a general concept, as much as you can, and don't take this to an extreme, obviously, as much as you can, treat your kids kinda like adults.

• 4:53Speaker 01

  Seven months ago, I defended one of my friends that was getting bullied at school, standing up to him kinda aggressively. After that episode, all the friends of the bully started to pick on me and kind of bully me in group. They turned a lot of people against me and in the last days of school, they have a lot of friends and every time I go out, I meet someone that stares at me. I have a huge amount of people against me and I don't know how to act. Being in a constant state of awareness and trying to spot all the possible threats is really stressful. I'm trying meditation and stoicism, but they don't seem to work that much.

• 5:35Speaker 01

  It's been a long time of bullying and it doesn't seem to stop. What's your advice?

• 5:43Jocko Willink?

  Well, first of all, make sure you're training jiu-jitsu, maybe some boxing, Muay Thai, wrestling. And look, that's not why, why is that? Is that because I want you to go fight everybody? No, but just in case you have to, you wanna be effective. So, train some jiu-jitsu, train some boxing, train some Muay Thai, train some wrestling, make sure you know how to defend yourself. The way you behave when you know how to defend yourself will be deterrent to the bullies. Because bullies, the last thing they want to do is get beat up by someone that they're bullying, and when you know how to fight, people can sense that. And you can fake it, but it's hard to fake.

• 6:22Jocko Willink?

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