Pretty Little Episode #86

Tig and Fortune muse about a modern-day Lilith Fair music festival and catch up on each other's spring plans on a Pretty Little Episode that will make you feel renewed! Don't forget to get tickets to our May 4 Live Show in LA https://www.ticketmaster.com/netflix-is-a-joke-presents-handsome-los-angeles-california-05-04-2026/event/0900642CE31BB7C3! Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterSubmit your questions to speakpipe.com/handsomepod http://speakpipe.com/handsomepodFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.com http://handsomepod.com/Watch Handsome on YouTube http://youtube.com/@handsomepodThis is a Headgum https://headgum.com/ podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter https://x.com/headgum, Instagram https://www.instagram.com/headgum/, and Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@headgum. Advertise on Handsome https://gumball.fm/shows/handsome via Gumball.fm http://gumball.fm/. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 0:01Fortune Feimster?

  This is a HeadGum Podcast.

• 0:16Tig Notaro?

  Pretty little episode. Welcome to the pretty little episode. It's me, Fortune Feimster.

• 0:24Fortune Feimster?

  And tis I, Tig Notaro, your handsome host today.

• 0:30Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, we're doing a little tiny, mini, uh, pretty little episode.

• 0:34Fortune Feimster?

  Little tiny, mini, pretty little episode.

• 0:38Tig Notaro?

  I love that song, by the way.

• 0:39Fortune Feimster?

  Well, I give you the good stuff, my friend.

• 0:43Tig Notaro?

  You sure do. You sure do.

• 0:46Fortune Feimster?

  I give it right to you in your pooter cooter.

• 0:54Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, good times. Right in your pooter cooter. You know what I'm talking about.

• 1:00Tig Notaro?

  Heard you the first time.

• 1:03Fortune Feimster?

  But you know what I mean.

• 1:04Tig Notaro?

  I don't.

• 1:05Fortune Feimster?

  Pooter cooter.

• 1:06Tig Notaro?

  What do you mean? I know what you mean. What does that mean?

• 1:08Fortune Feimster?

  You know what I mean.

• 1:09Tig Notaro?

  No, I don't.

• 1:10Fortune Feimster?

  You know.

• 1:11Tig Notaro?

  You should not speak to your elder like that.

• 1:14Fortune Feimster?

  You're not that much older than me.

• 1:16Tig Notaro?

  I'm a decade older.

• 1:19Fortune Feimster?

  No, like, I think you're like eight years older.

• 1:22Tig Notaro?

  How old are you?

• 1:23Fortune Feimster?

  Forty-five.

• 1:25Tig Notaro?

  I'm fifty-five.

• 1:27Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, okay. Then, yeah, you're a decade older than me.

• 1:29Tig Notaro?

  Why aren't you listening to me when I say I'm double nickels? I can move into a retirement.

• 1:35Fortune Feimster?

  I forgot. I forgot you reached your free senior drink age.

• 1:39Tig Notaro?

  I was ten. I was already around a decade. And then you were like, meh, I'm born.

• 1:44Fortune Feimster?

  Meh.

• 1:45Tig Notaro?

  It's me, baby Fortune.

• 1:47Fortune Feimster?

  Baby Fortune, I was really cute as a baby, too.

• 1:50Tig Notaro?

  God, let's talk about it.

• 1:51Fortune Feimster?

  That's where I peaked.

• 1:53Tig Notaro?

  You peaked as a newborn.

• 1:54Fortune Feimster?

  I peaked at five. That was my, those were my years.

• 1:59Tig Notaro?

  I beg to differ.

• 2:00Fortune Feimster?

  I don't know.

• 2:01Tig Notaro?

  You get, you get more and more adorable as the days go on, my dear.

• 2:06Fortune Feimster?

  Me?

• 2:07Tig Notaro?

  Yes, little tiny baby Fortune.

• 2:10Fortune Feimster?

  Little tiny baby Fortune.

• 2:14Tig Notaro?

  Does that mean we don't really have much to talk about when you're turning every sentence into a song?

• 2:19Fortune Feimster?

  Probably.

• 2:20Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 2:20Fortune Feimster?

  No, we have plenty to talk about.

• 2:22Tig Notaro?

  You go first, girl.

• 2:23Fortune Feimster?

  For example.

• 2:26Fortune Feimster?

  Do you know how life has been?

• 2:30Tig Notaro?

  Yes, life has been, um, just to recap, I lost the Oscar. Star Trek was canceled and I turned 55.

• 2:40Fortune Feimster?

  Wow.

• 2:41Tig Notaro?

  That was in a week.

• 2:42Fortune Feimster?

  What a week. I was about to say a month, but I didn't know it was all in one week.

• 2:46Tig Notaro?

  It was a week. Um, but that's not to say that, and that those are bad things.

• 2:51Fortune Feimster?

  No, I will say it was really cool to see your big gaggle of lesbians together at the Oscars.

• 3:00Tig Notaro?

  Lesbian Avengers is what we call ourselves.

• 3:03Fortune Feimster?

  That even though I, I was also there as part of a different thing.

• 3:07Tig Notaro?

  Different gaggle.

• 3:07Fortune Feimster?

  A different gaggle. It felt like, um, cool to see so many, yeah, I don't know how else to say it. Just lesbians at the Oscars.

• 3:17Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, it was, it was, it was a good, good time. Um, and, uh, you know, as, as Glennon said, would she'd much rather lose with all of us than win with anyone else. So I think that was the general feeling.

• 3:35Fortune Feimster?

  Really though, you know, she could win an Oscar.

• 3:39Tig Notaro?

  No, she chose to lose with us.

• 3:41Fortune Feimster?

  It would not, it would be with a different group of people. She's, she don't want that.

• 3:46Tig Notaro?

  That's right. None of us do.

• 3:50Fortune Feimster?

  We're doing this together. We're not doing it at all.

• 3:53Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. Um, no, it was, it was, it was, it was fun.

• 3:57Fortune Feimster?

  It's gotta be kind of, um, I don't know what the word even is for Meg have, having like had this whirlwind. I mean, basically since Andrea died, this has all been a busy time, right? Like.

• 4:12Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, very busy.

• 4:13Fortune Feimster?

  And went straight into like promoting the movie and, and like flying and then all the, the award season. And that would be kind of jarring to then suddenly just be done, right?

• 4:25Tig Notaro?

  Well, we're done with that, but we have a couple of other things that we're, um, working on.

• 4:31Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, nice.

• 4:32Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 4:34Fortune Feimster?

  Well, that's good.

• 4:35Tig Notaro?

  Yes, it's, um, some exciting, fun things that, um, the documentary has taken us in these directions that.

• 4:44Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 4:45Tig Notaro?

  I can't, I can't talk about yet, uh, but will be announced soon. Um, but uh, I, I think it's gonna keep Meg busy and, and creative and um, and being able to still celebrate Andrea.

• 5:06Fortune Feimster?

  That's great.

• 5:06Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 5:08Fortune Feimster?

  I love that.

• 5:09Tig Notaro?

  And like I said, the, my week of um, turning 55 and not winning an Oscar and having the Starfleet Academy canceled, there is positivity to all of it.

• 5:22Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 5:22Tig Notaro?

  You know, like um, turning 55 and feeling um, healthy and lucky that I am alive and thriving and hanging up my space suit and opening the door to other possibilities is exciting.

• 5:38Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 5:38Tig Notaro?

  I've been in the Star Trek universe for almost a decade.

• 5:42Fortune Feimster?

  I was gonna say, yeah, that's, I think it'll be goo- I think, you know, as much as it's always a bummer to have something in, I think for you personally, it's good to be moving into something else.

• 5:54Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, and um, and look, losing an Oscar is, it, it's, it goes back to, it's an honor to be nominated and what a fun ride that was. So I just present it like I had a, a massive downfall in a week, but it was actually, um, it's all completely fine.

• 6:16Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 6:16Tig Notaro?

  And um, I'm excited about what is coming in life, you know?

• 6:22Fortune Feimster?

  Mm-hmm.

• 6:23Tig Notaro?

  How are you feeling about life and?

• 6:26Fortune Feimster?

  I'm feeling good. You know, I was so focused on work for six months.

• 6:31Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 6:31Fortune Feimster?

  Where I was filming constantly. So it actually came at like the perfect time because it provided a really nice distraction from my own personal situation.

• 6:44Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 6:45Fortune Feimster?

  Which, you know, I, I had had the time where I- Dealt with things and not to say you you you deal with and it's done.

• 6:55Tig Notaro?

  Mm hmm.

• 6:55Fortune Feimster?

  But I had had many, many months of sitting in my own stuff.

• 7:00Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 7:01Fortune Feimster?

  That I was ready to pivot into something else.

• 7:06Tig Notaro?

  For sure.

• 7:07Fortune Feimster?

  And I was really grateful that it just became a world. I mean, I I had no time for anything.

• 7:15Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 7:16Fortune Feimster?

  Um, beyond what I was doing and um, I'm coming out of that now, just kind of feeling renewed. Like, I I definitely feel like um, I'm heading into a new chapter of my life. And uh, some of those old doors are are closing.

• 7:37Tig Notaro?

  Mm hmm.

• 7:38Fortune Feimster?

  Soon. And um, yeah, I'm just sort of focused on just sort of being, you know? Trying to enjoy life and find balance and and I feel good.

• 7:51Tig Notaro?

  That's great.

• 7:52Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 7:52Tig Notaro?

  I'm getting started on spring break right now. We got two weeks with our Cubs and.

• 7:58Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 7:58Tig Notaro?

  I'm just thrilled that um, I'm able to be home for it and and we're not traveling, you know? Just so we can be with fluff. And so we've planned, we all hung out and organized day trips and activities in Los Angeles. And so we're gonna, we're gonna take LA like we're um, you know, the rest of the world that comes out here to visit and vacation.

• 8:24Fortune Feimster?

  Awesome.

• 8:25Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, it's uh, Max and Finn are always kind of up for whatever it is.

• 8:31Fortune Feimster?

  That's great.

• 8:32Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. Uh, so I'm just thrilled that I'm home for this.

• 8:36Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 8:37Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, it's been really nice.

• 8:39Fortune Feimster?

  After spring break is done, you'll have to give us the update of how it went. We want all the hot goss, all the deets.

• 8:46Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, all the details of our museums and um, vegan outings, we're trying different restaurants and.

• 8:54Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 8:55Tig Notaro?

  But I'm excited for your new chapter because uh, it feels similar to what I, I mean, different, of course, but similar in that like, what's coming?

• 9:06Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 9:06Tig Notaro?

  What what is it? Let's let's see it.

• 9:08Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 9:09Tig Notaro?

  Let's see what life is gonna reveal.

• 9:11Fortune Feimster?

  That's right. Yeah, I'm excited to just. Get, get on this new path.

• 9:17Tig Notaro?

  Mm hmm. The fun of not knowing, like, what is it? Cause you can turn a corner today or a year from now and, uh, and a whole different world opens up.

• 9:30Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 9:31Tig Notaro?

  So I bet a lot of people listening can relate to that as well.

• 9:34Fortune Feimster?

  Mm hmm.

• 9:35Tig Notaro?

  But because we're here together, should we get into some questions and see, uh, maybe these questions will open some doors or close some doors for us.

• 9:44Fortune Feimster?

  Good, yeah.

• 9:46Speaker 02

  Hi, this is Katie Walker from Milwaukee, Wisconsin. And I was watching the documentary Lilith Fair on Netflix and just like, seething with jealousy because it looks like such a cool fricking thing to be able to experience at that time. So it got me thinking, if you were to make your own Lilith Fair festival today, what artists would you choose and why?

• 10:13Tig Notaro?

  Love that question. And I really want to see that documentary.

• 10:17Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 10:18Tig Notaro?

  In fact, I wanted to make that documentary and said that to Stephanie and she said, it was just made.

• 10:29Fortune Feimster?

  So close.

• 10:30Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 10:36Tig Notaro?

  Do you have any, uh, I, I feel like I know a few who would be on your list.

• 10:40Fortune Feimster?

  Um, well, you know, I'm, Natalie Main is one of my dear friends, but she was, she did a little, they did Lilith Fair.

• 10:48Tig Notaro?

  I saw them there.

• 10:49Fortune Feimster?

  So, um, I, we talk about that sometimes about the modern version of that.

• 10:57Tig Notaro?

  You and Natalie do?

• 10:58Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah. I mean, they would definitely be in there, I think.

• 11:04Tig Notaro?

  Got to.

• 11:05Fortune Feimster?

  With, along with Brandy Carlisle would seem to be like the person that would be, or if anyone's going to organize something like this, it felt, it feels like a Brandy.

• 11:14Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 11:15Fortune Feimster?

  Alanis, you know, my gal, Alanis.

• 11:19Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, your dear friend.

• 11:21Fortune Feimster?

  She'll probably want me to come up on stage and sing with her.

• 11:23Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, she'll probably want me to not.

• 11:27Fortune Feimster?

  That will always be part of handsome lore.

• 11:35Fortune Feimster?

  And then, let's see, Kelly Clarkson obviously has to be a part of it.

• 11:42Tig Notaro?

  Avi, Avi.

• 11:43Fortune Feimster?

  Um, I mean, I would say Beyonce, but she's not, she's doing her own thing. She's not going to do that.

• 11:52Tig Notaro?

  She doesn't have time for us.

• 11:53Fortune Feimster?

  She doesn't have time for that. She's amazing.

• 11:55Tig Notaro?

  That's Lilith Unfair.

• 11:59Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, Janelle Monae. I love her. I feel like she'd be really fun in a Lilith Fair. She has all those fun outfits, too. She's, she's such a good entertainer. I mean, if Dolly could show up and, you know, she's also not gonna show up for the whole thing, but, you know, a few select cities. We'd really love Dolly.

• 12:21Tig Notaro?

  In a few select cities.

• 12:22Fortune Feimster?

  In a few select cities, yeah. Um, who else am I forgetting? Who else, who else, T?

• 12:28Tig Notaro?

  Well, this is your dream setup.

• 12:30Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, yeah. Yeah, I don't, I can't.

• 12:32Tig Notaro?

  We'll hear about your dream setup in a minute.

• 12:35Fortune Feimster?

  I mean, Celine again, too busy, but.

• 12:38Tig Notaro?

  Celine Dion at Lilith Fair.

• 12:40Fortune Feimster?

  You know I love Celine.

• 12:42Tig Notaro?

  We, I mean, have a Lilith Fair with Celine and Babs.

• 12:48Tig Notaro?

  And Cher.

• 12:49Fortune Feimster?

  A diva's version of Lilith Fair.

• 12:52Tig Notaro?

  Oh, my God.

• 12:53Fortune Feimster?

  Celine's not gonna do that. Um, this is more like folk music, right? This is like, this is more like.

• 13:00Tig Notaro?

  This is your Lilith Fair. You do what you want, girl.

• 13:02Fortune Feimster?

  I never got to go to Lilith Fair. I wish I had.

• 13:04Tig Notaro?

  You were too little?

• 13:05Fortune Feimster?

  I, yeah, I was, it just was like, I don't even think it was on my radar to look for tickets. I didn't really look for, like, when I was in high school, we didn't really go to concerts very much.

• 13:19Tig Notaro?

  I lived at them.

• 13:20Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah. I don't know. That feels like a good start. That feels like a lot. What about you?

• 13:26Tig Notaro?

  And you've, you're locked, okay?

• 13:28Fortune Feimster?

  I mean, you might say something that might, might make me remember somebody else.

• 13:35Tig Notaro?

  Yours is locked. Of course, the Indigo Girls.

• 13:39Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 13:40Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. No, no, no. You missed it. You missed it. No, no, you can't have them. You're locked. Uh, the Indigo Girls.

• 13:46Fortune Feimster?

  Tracy Chapman.

• 13:48Tig Notaro?

  I'm doing mine. Tracy was on my list.

• 13:52Tig Notaro?

  Tracy was on my list.

• 13:53Fortune Feimster?

  Good. She's on my list, too.

• 13:55Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, well, you're already locked. Um, The Pretenders.

• 13:59Fortune Feimster?

  Hmm.

• 13:59Tig Notaro?

  Uh, hmm. Okay. You gotta have Edie Raquel. Got to. Absolutely got to. Dolly, she's gonna, she said she'd do the whole run with me.

• 14:11Fortune Feimster?

  She's gonna do the whole thing. Amazing.

• 14:13Tig Notaro?

  For me. Yeah.

• 14:15Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 14:15Tig Notaro?

  Nice. Yeah, Brandy Carlisle said she's gonna be there and Sarah Bareilles, which is really.

• 14:21Fortune Feimster?

  I love her, too.

• 14:22Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, well, you missed it.

• 14:23Fortune Feimster?

  Well, I love her.

• 14:24Tig Notaro?

  You missed it.

• 14:25Fortune Feimster?

  I love her as well.

• 14:26Tig Notaro?

  I love you, too. That's, that's my Lilith Fair.

• 14:29Fortune Feimster?

  I love this.

• 14:30Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. Katie, who's on yours?

• 14:33Speaker 02

  And my answer is I would choose Miley Cyrus, Olivia Rodrigo, Joan Jett, Britney Spears, and the Spice Girls. I know there were more people in the Lilith Fair Festival, but those were just my top ones. Thank you so much for all the laughs. Absolutely love the pod. I've seen all three of you live and I can't wait to see you again. Thanks for everything. Love you. Bye.

• 14:58Tig Notaro?

  Thank you, Katie. And I'm gonna unlock mine, throw Olivia Rodrigo in there. She is so good.

• 15:04Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, I also would throw in, for nostalgia sake, Salt and Pepper.

• 15:09Tig Notaro?

  Hmm, yeah. Salt and Pepper.

• 15:12Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 15:13Tig Notaro?

  Who else did she say that I was like, oh, yeah, Joan Jett? I mean, that's who I named my character on Star Trek after. Commander Jett Reno.

• 15:21Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 15:22Tig Notaro?

  Well, anyway, that was fun.

• 15:24Fortune Feimster?

  That was fun. I loved that.

• 15:26Tig Notaro?

  I love you, too. All right, um, should we get another question?

• 15:29Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, we should.

• 15:31Speaker 03

  Hello, Fortune, May, and Tig. This is Mercy from Richmond, Virginia. And I have a question for you that sort of comes from a philosophical, um, standpoint. So I'm curious if you could know.

• 15:48Speaker 03

  Exactly how many times you've done any one activity? Like for instance, how many times you have smoked a cigarette? Or eaten a grape or anything, literally anything? If you could know exactly how many times you've done any one thing over the course of your entire life? What would you want to know?

• 16:06Tig Notaro?

  Hmm, I know exactly what I'd wanna know.

• 16:09Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, I love that you know.

• 16:11Tig Notaro?

  I would want to, I think about this often. As a vegan person, I'm very curious how many times I have accidentally eaten? An animal product.

• 16:23Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, interesting.

• 16:24Tig Notaro?

  And because I feel like, I mean, it's hard to not accidentally? Eat something and then you go, oh, something ta- something tastes weird in here.

• 16:36Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 16:36Tig Notaro?

  Or you look at the wrapper and you're like, oh, I thought for sure this was.

• 16:41Fortune Feimster?

  Right.

• 16:42Tig Notaro?

  And so I don't think it's a lot for me. But I'm very curious how many times? That has slipped on by?

• 16:52Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, cuz like you're obviously not doing it on purpose, but I'm sure it slips on by.

• 16:59Tig Notaro?

  It does. I did confirm that. It does slip on by. It's rare.

• 17:04Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 17:05Tig Notaro?

  As far as I know.

• 17:06Fortune Feimster?

  But you probably have a taste like now that I I mostly drink oat milk.

• 17:11Tig Notaro?

  Mm hmm.

• 17:12Fortune Feimster?

  Um, I have not drank like regular milk in many probably? Six years now.

• 17:20Tig Notaro?

  Wow.

• 17:21Fortune Feimster?

  In my coffee. So when someone puts regular milk in my coffee, I can taste it immediately.

• 17:28Tig Notaro?

  Does it taste gross or are you just?

• 17:30Fortune Feimster?

  It has a weird taste to me. I don't enjoy.

• 17:33Tig Notaro?

  I'm on your side with that.

• 17:35Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, like and I don't and I don't overdo the oat milk either cuz I know that has sugar in it, but um? I just do a little bit, but I the regular milk in coffee does not taste good to me now.

• 17:48Tig Notaro?

  I'll tell you what, speaking of sugar, I used to have these um vegan bars that I would eat.

• 17:55Fortune Feimster?

  Uh huh.

• 17:56Tig Notaro?

  And then I really kind of paid attention to like, oh, there's a lot of sugar in this.

• 18:01Fortune Feimster?

  Mm hmm.

• 18:02Tig Notaro?

  And then I started eating these other bars. They're called Well Bean, and this is not a commercial, but do you ever love something so much like your coffee or your little morning nibbles that you can't wait to wake up in the morning and have it?

• 18:19Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, yeah, I feel that way about coffee.

• 18:21Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, I'm like this, this new bar, like it's like the chocolate. It's but it's only whole food, plant based. There's no sugar added. And it's so delicious.

• 18:35Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, that's good.

• 18:36Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, I'm like, I cannot wait to get to tomorrow.

• 18:39Fortune Feimster?

  I'm excited.

• 18:41Tig Notaro?

  I am excited by tomorrow. Anyway.

• 18:44Fortune Feimster?

  I'm trying to think of what I would want to know. Oh, I was gonna say, I would want to know how many times I've called my mom, but then it might make me think I need to call my mom more.

• 18:56Tig Notaro?

  How many times a week do you do it? If the week?

• 18:59Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, yeah, we talk like four times a week.

• 19:02Tig Notaro?

  Oh, that's a good amount.

• 19:04Fortune Feimster?

  Um.

• 19:05Tig Notaro?

  Roughly every other day?

• 19:06Fortune Feimster?

  Every other day. Yeah, it's about every other day.

• 19:09Tig Notaro?

  That's good.

• 19:10Fortune Feimster?

  Two in a row, definitely more now that she's, you know, older. I try to be more diligent about that.

• 19:16Tig Notaro?

  Mm hmm.

• 19:17Fortune Feimster?

  I would, I definitely don't want to know how much cake I've eaten. Please don't anyone tell me, no one track that and tell me. I think you tell by my belly, um, how much cake I've eaten, but maybe, maybe how much I'm on my phone. Cause then that would make me horrified and maybe want to use it less.

• 19:40Tig Notaro?

  Okay.

• 19:41Fortune Feimster?

  Not the calling my mom part. I mean, like the scrolling.

• 19:45Tig Notaro?

  Do you have the notification that's like, oh, you've been on your phone two hours or three hours or nothing like that?

• 19:52Fortune Feimster?

  No, but I've definitely been trying to, I would say in the last year since, uh, My life changed significantly.

• 20:02Tig Notaro?

  Mm hmm.

• 20:03Fortune Feimster?

  I have posted a lot less of like, just whatever. I've been more, it's been more like deliberate what I post. But less like, I'm just walking down the street. You know, that kind of thing.

• 20:21Tig Notaro?

  And why do you think that is? That's so interesting.

• 20:24Fortune Feimster?

  I really don't know. I don't know what shifted. Cause now I'm, you know, by myself.

• 20:31Fortune Feimster?

  Here, like I'm here in my house by myself and I could just like whip out my phone and be like, what's up, everybody?

• 20:39Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 20:40Fortune Feimster?

  Um, but I've not been doing that very much in, in my days as an unmarried woman. I, I don't know, I don't know what the shift there is.

• 20:52Tig Notaro?

  That's really interesting.

• 20:53Fortune Feimster?

  Mm hmm.

• 20:54Tig Notaro?

  I've noticed that since the documentary and award season and all that kind of wound down. I just don't, I don't have anything to say.

• 21:07Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 21:07Tig Notaro?

  You know, like I was, it was so around that. Like I feel like I was on social media way more than I was comfortable with. Cause I was having to always promote the pot, the, um, not the podcast, but the documentary, which was, of course I was happy to do, but it's definitely wound down.

• 21:28Fortune Feimster?

  Right.

• 21:29Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, maybe it'll jack back up at some point.

• 21:33Fortune Feimster?

  Jack it back up.

• 21:35Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. But sometimes I do feel like, who am I posting this or talking to? What am I doing? Like, it's just like into the abyss of like, hey, guys. It's like, who are the guys? Who, who am I talking to? But, um, anyway.

• 21:51Fortune Feimster?

  I think also my priorities shifted a bit. Too.

• 21:58Tig Notaro?

  In what way?

• 21:58Fortune Feimster?

  Um, like I just want to work and.

• 22:03Fortune Feimster?

  Like have enjoyable work experiences, but I'm not as like into like, I don't really care about the Hollywood parties.

• 22:13Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 22:14Fortune Feimster?

  Anymore, or the networky stuff.

• 22:17Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 22:18Fortune Feimster?

  I just am like, does that, any of that really matter? I mean, I'll go to think, you know, like you went to the Oscars and Gold Glove, stuff like that. It's part of work.

• 22:27Tig Notaro?

  But yeah.

• 22:28Fortune Feimster?

  I'm just like, there were a lot of parties I didn't go to this year.

• 22:32Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 22:33Fortune Feimster?

  Um, that I just was like, I don't know if I'm in that space anymore.

• 22:38Tig Notaro?

  Right.

• 22:39Fortune Feimster?

  And maybe that will shift again as well. I don't know.

• 22:42Tig Notaro?

  Sure. Good.

• 22:43Fortune Feimster?

  I'm just kind of living my life.

• 22:45Tig Notaro?

  You're not just itching to be at every red carpet in town?

• 22:48Fortune Feimster?

  No, no.

• 22:51Tig Notaro?

  Samezies. Should we hear from Mercy?

• 22:55Fortune Feimster?

  Let's do it.

• 22:57Speaker 03

  For me, I really want to go basic and just know how many times I've blinked ever.

• 23:02Fortune Feimster?

  Hmm. That'd be a lot.

• 23:05Tig Notaro?

  That is so basic.

• 23:07Fortune Feimster?

  I blink when I don't even realize I'm blinking.

• 23:09Tig Notaro?

  What if, what if Mercy blinked 182 times?

• 23:14Fortune Feimster?

  Be a lot more than that.

• 23:16Tig Notaro?

  But do you get it?

• 23:19Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, blink 182.

• 23:20Tig Notaro?

  That's right.

• 23:24Tig Notaro?

  Well, um, Fortune, I'm just going to go ahead and tell our listeners to please submit your questions and advice requests to speakpipe.com/hansampod. We love getting your questions. They're always so interesting. Like, oh my gosh, what the heck made you think of that?

• 23:45Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, I love it.

• 23:47Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, I love you too. And, um,

• 23:49Fortune Feimster?

  We also have our handsome live show at the Wiltern in Los Angeles, May 4th. So if you are itching for something fun to do on a Monday night, we'll be talking to Malin Ackerman and Brittany Snow from The Honey Wives. So gear tickets for that. Don't wait.

• 24:05Tig Notaro?

  Stop waiting. All right. Well, until next time.

• 24:09Fortune Feimster?

  Keep it pretty handsome.

• 24:13Tig Notaro?

  Handsome is hosted by me, Tig Notaro, Mae Martin and Fortune Theemster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willett. Email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media at handsomepod.

• 24:31Tig Notaro?

  What a podcast!

• 24:32Speaker 04

  What a podcast!

• 24:37Speaker 02

  That was a HeadGum Podcast.