A Balm for Anxious Times: The Power of Spoken Word | Sarah Kay

Unlock the transformative power of poetry to dissolve your isolation and unveil universal human truths. Sarah Kay, author of A Little Daylight Left: Poems https://amzn.to/3HWIYBH, shares her lifelong journey of using metaphor and imagery to illuminate life's most visceral experiences - from violence and heartbreak to aging and mortality. Discover how poetry can crack you wide open while connecting you to the shared voices of our existence. You can find Sarah at: Website https://kaysarahsera.com/ | Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kaysarahsera/ | Episode Transcript https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/expression-storytelling-creativity-sarah-kay If you LOVED this episode, you’ll also love the conversations we had with Liz Gilbert https://episodes.fm/647826736/episode/NjYyMjkwNzA1NTk0MjAwMDEzNGY5MDAw about writing yourself letters from love. Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel https://jonathanfields.substack.com/aboutVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy https://acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 0:01Jonathan Fields?

  So what if I told you there was a secret language that could dissolve the walls isolating you from your deepest emotions and the shared human experience? A profound yet ancient code for cracking open your soul and just excavating revelations that unite you with all of humanity's beauty and pain and enduring truths? Well, that's exactly what my guest today has tapped into and really mastered through a lifelong journey into the transformative power of poetry and the art of spoken word. Sarah Kay is a writer, performer, educator, whose poetic genius has been leaving audiences spellbound since childhood. With five critically acclaimed books to her name, including her newest collection, A Little Daylight Left: Poems, Sarah's relationship with this ancient art form

• 0:46Jonathan Fields?

  is a tale like no other. From scribbling metaphor-rich verses in journals as a young girl, to finding the courage to share her voice among New York City's gritty spoken word scene, her story will really captivate you at every turn. In our conversation, Sarah pulls back the curtain on how an embracing spoken word community really welcomed her raw, authentic expression from an almost shockingly young age. You'll discover how the perfect words and images can just illuminate life's most visceral moments. From violence to heartbreak, aging, mortality, everything with sacred wisdom. But maybe most engaging is Sarah's contagious passion for creating doorways through which anyone can experience poetry and spoken words medicine, whether written, whether spoken,

• 1:31Jonathan Fields?

  whether animated, or beyond. And we'll have the joy of hearing her actually read one of her deeply moving spoken word pieces. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project.

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• 3:41Jonathan Fields?

  I'm somebody who's been a writer for the last couple of decades of my life. I have, on very rare occasion, dabbled in something remotely smacking of something that might resemble in the slightest bit poetry and felt weird, awkward, strange, but captivated when I read poetry or when I see spoken word that just cracks me open in the best of ways. There's so few other things that do that to me. You have that capacity. And I'm kind of awed by people who have the ability to both craft the words and then share them in a way that moves people deeply.

• 4:22Jonathan Fields?

  You've described your poetry in various terms as a lifeline at a lighthouse. Take me into this.

• 4:30Speaker 04

  Yeah, first of all, thank you. That's very kind words to say. I think that my relationship to poetry has shifted over my life. I started with poetry from a very, very young age. And when I was putting this book together, and I was trying to figure out what is the project of this book specifically, what poems belong in this book, I realized that the moments that I reached for poetry, the reasons that I reached for poetry

• 5:09Speaker 04

  have changed and continue to change. And sometimes those moments are new. But the reaching is not. And the reaching is apparently one of the oldest parts of me. And I guess it's a way that I navigate. It's a way that my brain tries to make sense of things.

• 5:36Speaker 04

  Sometimes I use poem as a verb. So when I'm trying to understand something and I can't figure it out, and I just keep hitting my head against it, sometimes I have to poem my way through it. And when I get to the end of the poem, I go, oh, that's what was going on. Or sometimes I get to the end of the poem, and I still don't really understand what's going on. But at least I have a new poem out of the situation. And so I think it started, poems started as a way to help me make sense of the world, or some kind of sense of the world.

• 6:19Speaker 04

  And sometimes I still use poems for that. And I use poems for other things as well. I don't know why I'm thinking of this very small story, but when I was a baby, my mom kept a journal.

• 6:36Speaker 04

  And it was full of little notes that just for herself, it was her journal, but it was like her baby journal. And so she wrote down like little moments that struck her as notable. And all of the notes in the journal are written by her, except for one entry. And it's in my handwriting. So I clearly was like, hey, I need, this needs to be on record, apparently. And I think I must have been like, I don't know, maybe six or seven. And the entry is a scene, like written almost like a play. And it's

• 7:16Speaker 04

  like, me, mom, me, mom, you know, like talking, I had like, recorded a conversation my mother and I had. And it's like, misspelled, it's, you know, but it was clearly very important to me that I like, put this in the official record of my living that my mother was keeping. And the scene is, I say, something about like, I'm feeling weird.

• 7:41Speaker 04

  And my mother asks, are you anxious? And I said, no. There's a woman weaving on a loom inside me. And sometimes the loom, the strings get tied in knots. And she was like, yeah, that's anxious. But I think, like, it's notable to me that before I was writing poetry, I was reaching for metaphor, not knowing what a metaphor was, right? I was

• 8:22Speaker 04

  like, the effort to try to explain myself by saying, what does this remind me of? Or what is this like? Is in the earliest part of me, before I even was trying to craft.

• 8:35Speaker 04

  Art out of it, right? But the like, reaching towards metaphor and using metaphor to like, help me make sense of my feelings and myself. And also notable that like, I wanted record of that. Like, I wanted someone, I wanted it to be clear that that's what I was doing. Yeah, which is really wild and probably should be dug into with a therapist. But so that reaching for poetry, reaching for metaphor, my brain always going, what is this like? What does this remind me of? What else is like this? What else feels like this? That is as early as I have memory. And so I guess first and foremost, poetry is what I reached

• 9:17Speaker 04

  for when I was like, trying to make sense of myself and my humanness.

• 9:24Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, I mean, without even knowing at that point, it's poetry. It's just like, there's a way to describe it that's emerging from me that I need to actually put language to. But that impulse that you described also, to not just say, okay, I'm feeling this way, but I'm seeing my mom write these, these things down. And like, this needs to be a part of that public record. The impulse to document and share, you know, because they're two different things. Like, one is let me describe what like, my internal landscape, right? Let me see if I can put language to it. But then the other is the impulse to let me make it known to others. It's a very different impulse.

• 9:59Speaker 04

  Big time.

• 10:00Jonathan Fields?

  And unusual for almost anyone, but especially a kid that age.

• 10:04Speaker 04

  Yeah, I mean, I, there's a big turning point in my life and my relationship to poetry that happened when I was a teenager. And it's sort of like a before and after, I think.

• 10:15Jonathan Fields?

  Take me there.

• 10:16Speaker 04

  Before, when I was a kid, I loved language and I loved wordplay and I loved poems, even when I didn't really know what poems were. When I was in elementary school, my parents, every day would pack me lunch and they would take turns.

• 10:36Speaker 04

  Day one was my mom, day two was my dad, day three was my mom. And each of them, each day, would write a little poem and fold it and put it in my lunchbox. And it's funny now because it's, it sounds like an origin story, but they didn't know that. This wasn't their plan, you know, like jokes on them. They didn't think this would happen. They were just finding opportunities to create little moments of joy and wonder and beauty for their kid, which is what they did across the board throughout my childhood. But they also inadvertently initiated my relationship to what a poem was,

• 11:17Speaker 04

  and specifically like defined a poem as something that was a gift, something that was a surprise, but something that was also as dependable as clockwork, something that I understood to be a gesture of care and love from a person who loved me. Right? So like, that's what a poem was, and it was just for me. Right? I opened my poem in my lunchbox for me. And so it was a solitary experience. It was one that I had internally. And that is what my relationship to poetry was for my childhood, was I wrote my little poems in my journal when I got old enough. I, you know, was not a performer.

• 12:01Speaker 04

  I did not do any acting. I did not do nothing on a stage. And then when I was about 13, 14, I got a letter in the mail that said, congratulations, you have been registered to compete in the New York City Teen Poetry Slam. And I had never heard of a poetry slam. I had never seen a poetry slam. I'm an elder millennial, so we didn't have YouTube back then, so I couldn't look up what that was. All I understood was that this was going to be a gathering of other teenagers who also liked poetry. And I was like, okay, that sounds cool. And I went to this event.

• 12:42Speaker 04

  And it was the first time that I witnessed poetry as a communal art form. And all of a sudden, it was poetry in a room full of people who were excited to hear poetry, see poetry, share poetry with each other. The kids who had written poems were experimenting with a freedom to write about what they wanted to write about in the language that was authentic to how they actually communicate. And they were listening to each other and applauding each other and hyping each other up. And I was on the younger end. It was for all teenagers

• 13:24Speaker 04

  in New York City. So it was from 13 to 19. And I was in the 13, 14 age group. And it just blew my mind. I had never seen anything like it. And that shift from this is an art form that exists alone and only for you by yourself into this is a thing you can do with other people is, I think, what really moved my whole excitement around the art form. And a sort of fun, a fun fact is that the event, the teen event, was in, they had

• 14:03Speaker 04

  rented out this dive bar on the Lower East Side for the event. And on my way out, I saw these like bar flyers that said, you know, Thursday Night Poetry Slam. And I was like, this event changed my life. I mean, I didn't have those words, but I was like, this was the best thing that ever happened. I got to come back. I'm going to come back Thursday. And so I did. But I didn't understand that 364 days a year, it was a dive bar.

• 14:33Speaker 04

  And so now I was a 14 year old in a dive bar being like, hello, I'm here for the poetry. And they were like, uh, okay, sit over there and don't order any drinks. And so I did. And I spent the four years of high school, every week going to this dive bar, sitting, I would sit underneath the bar, literally, because it was the best view up the aisle to the stage. I would sit under the bar and I would just watch poets. And so that era of my life, my poetry education was kind of in the form of unofficial apprenticeship.

• 15:17Speaker 04

  I just watched a lot of poets share. And because I was lucky enough to grow up in New York City, a lot of people came through. And so I got to see really phenomenal poets of all different styles and all different ages and all different walks of life. And I learned so much in that space, obviously about poetry, but also about life and community and healing and craft. And, you know, so much more through the little window that I found in this dive bar. But I, I would say the big before and after was poetry,

• 16:02Speaker 04

  which is something I do by myself, to poetry can be something I do with others.

• 16:08Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah. Did you, during that time at all, those, that four year window, did you take the stage at all? Or was it, was this more you sort of like watching and learning?

• 16:16Speaker 04

  Yeah, you know, the night was organized, they would have an open mic and anyone could sign up for the open mic. And then they would have a feature, whoever was in town would do like a little feature. That was usually an out of town poet visiting. And then they would have a poetry slam, which was a competition. And the first several times that I attended, all I did was sit and watch, sit and watch, sit and watch, sit and watch, sit and watch. And then finally, one day, they were like, hey, the open mic's kind of quiet tonight. Like, we don't have that many people signed up. Do you want to be on the open mic? And I was like, oh, what, uh, okay. Yeah, I could that I could do that.

• 17:01Speaker 04

  And so I I did. And it didn't kill me and I loved it. And I also discovered that even in a room full of adults, they would still make room for me and listen to my 14 year old poem and take it as seriously as they took everybody else's. And clap when I was done. And so then I started to get brave enough and I was on the open mic every week. And then one day they were like, hey, we actually need eight people for the slam and we've got seven, so we're going to put you in the slam tonight. And I was like, what do you mean? What, what does that mean? You know, I mean, I guess by that time I knew what it meant. I knew it meant you had to have three poems because there were three rounds.

• 17:45Speaker 04

  So just in case you made it to the final round, you needed three poems. And I think by that time I like had perhaps a grand total of three, three poems that I could do. And so then I started to be included in that. And, and so again, these adult poets just kept making room for me is how I always phrase it and how it felt. And it was a huge gift in my life and also created kind of the work for me of the rest of my life, which is how can I make room for others in poetry, the way people made room for me? And so a huge part of what I think about and what I work on

• 18:29Speaker 04

  and what I dream towards is welcoming people into poetry, especially people who don't realize that they are welcome there or have been made to feel unwelcome there in the past. And also imagining like, what are the very many doors that people can enter into poetry, right? Like, I didn't fall in love with poetry in a book. I fell in love with poetry in a dive bar. So if that's how I met poetry, surely there are other weirder ways of meeting poetry. And so I like trying to think through what are different doors into poetry that people could hypothetically walk through.

• 19:14Jonathan Fields?

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• 21:17Jonathan Fields?

  So powerful, the way that you were just sort of seen at a really young age, welcomed and not judged, because you know, like if one person had listened to you say something who you saw as an authority or you respect and being like, nah, like, sorry, kid, you don't have it, that would have been devastating, you know, and a lot of kids, you know, in their teens would have just said, like slinked away and said, like, not for me, like, but you had this incredible experience of people just opening their arms and saying, no, keep coming, you know, keep doing this thing, and then giving you opportunities, and then when you were doing it, saying more, like, there's something

• 21:56Jonathan Fields?

  here. I saw this documentary at a local film festival a couple of weeks back about a songwriter named Diane Warren, and when she was about 12 years old, similarly, she got the bug in her head that, that people could actually, she was looking at albums and realizing that the people writing the songs weren't always the people performing the songs. She's like, oh, there's this thing called songwriting. And back then, you know, Capitol Records in LA used to have like a weekly thing where young songwriters can come and just offer like their song of the week, and 12 years old, she kind of like takes her old guitar and shows up and like plays her song. And, you know, a couple of weeks in, and they're

• 22:37Jonathan Fields?

  like, no, no, not good, not right, but she keeps going. And a couple of weeks in, I guess it must have been a senior executive, she's telling this story, comes to her and he's like, look, this isn't good, but you are, there's something, keep showing up. You know, and I can't tell you how many people I've spoken to over the years where there's some version of this story where you're young, there's some ember burning inside of you, you don't even know it's burning yet, you're just, there's a curiosity, and somebody or some group of people, some community is like, huh, interesting, keep coming. And I feel like communities like that are getting lost a lot for a lot of people, and they just never existed in the first place.

• 23:17Speaker 04

  Yeah. I mean, I will say one thing that was helpful, probably, without realizing it, is that the expectations around poetry are...

• 23:32Speaker 04

  I don't know if the word is low, but it's definitely not as set in concrete. You know, it's a little more flexible, which is to say, I think when someone is like young and singing, right? There's this societal projection, which is, okay, well, are they good enough to be a professional singer? And have the singing be the thing they are known for, the thing they get paid for, the thing other people want from them, you know, like that's the implied test put upon them, even from a young age, you know? And so when someone's like, no, you can't, or no, you're not good enough, or whatever,

• 24:16Speaker 04

  that's what they're suggesting, right? Is like, it's cute that you like your little singing, but like, you don't have what it takes to make it big, right? But there's not really a make it big in poetry, or at least like, we don't understand there to be that. And so I think it would have been so strange for someone to be like, hey, kid, you expressing how you feel, cut it out. You don't have what it takes to keep doing that for the rest of your life. Like, you know, I think part of the piece that made it so beautiful is like, what were we there to do? We were there to gather. We were there to be together.

• 24:56Speaker 04

  We were there to share our unique human foibles and passions and fears and dreams in the form of using the language that we had cobbled together. And that was what we were there to do. And so there wasn't, I mean, yes, there were poetry slams, but poetry slams were very self-aware, at least the ones I were, was part of, were very much like, this is a goofy thing we've, you know, come up with to bring in an audience for poetry. But the competition part is like so goofy that it isn't taken seriously in that regard.

• 25:38Speaker 04

  And so I think that had a lot to do with it, is it's like, the adults who were gathered there were there to do.

• 25:47Speaker 04

  What they saw me there to do. And I do think that an increasingly online world has brought certain lovely opportunities for people to be introduced to poetry in ways they wouldn't have been able to before, for people to share poems with each other in ways that they haven't been able to, for people to, again, find doorways in that weren't there before. And I think an increasingly online world has made it so that the gathering aspect of sharing live art is harder to come by.

• 26:32Speaker 04

  And that is tough, because I do think that it's not replaceable. I do think that there is something that happens inside of us when we gather with intention and when we gather with the desire to be together and share time and art and breath and, you know, all of these things that I got to experience as a young person. And so that's a big part of why I'm still doing it.

• 27:05Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, it's such an interesting observation, too, right? That unlike music, where there is a juggernaut, there is an industry, there are a limited number of spots and millions of people who are vying for those spots and then gatekeepers and organizations and billions and billions of dollars. Like, there is a path. It's brutally hard and very few make it, but there is this thing. So people are like, there are a lot of sharp elbows in that space. And what you're describing is that it's interesting in that the fact that that doesn't really exist.

• 27:35Speaker 04

  Well, I think it does exist. No, it definitely exists. Like, poetry is also, you know, capital P, poetry.

• 27:43Speaker 04

  Has like a lot of sharp corners. There's unfortunately like a big scarcity understanding of poetry. There's not that many jobs in academia. There's not that many publications. There's not a lot of grant money. Like, all of that is true. And certainly deciding to follow poetry as your career or as the thing by which you hope to make money is perhaps not what I would recommend to anyone. But the good news is that writing poems is something you can do without other people's permission. And sharing poems with each other

• 28:26Speaker 04

  is something we can do without a monetary exchange. And I think there is still ways that poetry can, like, there's certainly fear and competition, you know, that exists around everything, unfortunately, anything people are trying to make lives around. But also, there are ways still to make poetry, share poetry, gather for poetry, you know, that is outside of those limitations and that, those sharp edges.

• 29:06Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, and I would imagine the vast majority of people who are in this, they're not in the poetry, quote, industry. They're in, they're in it for the experience of, of the creative experience, like the process of it, the gathering around it, the experiencing of it, you know?

• 29:23Speaker 04

  I hope so. And I also think like, a really amazing thing about poetry, too, maybe because of, because the expectations are different and because the offerings are different and because we aren't sure what it means to, quote unquote, "make it big" in the way that we are when it comes to songwriting or singing, for example. Because of that, there are so many ways to have poetry be part of your life. And those ways are all so valid and important. You know, I think the- One of the greatest gifts of my life has been that I follow poetry. Poetry is my compass.

• 30:06Speaker 04

  And when I follow poetry, I get to meet people through poetry who have poetry in their lives in so many different ways. And I get to see different examples of how people orbit poetry, or how people exchange poetry, or how they cling to it, or how they, you know, share it. And there aren't wrong ways of doing it. There are new ways of doing it and old ways of doing it. And I love getting to witness that and see all of those different ways.

• 30:44Speaker 04

  So by which I mean, one of my favorite poets is someone who, until very recently, had published zero books and was a farmer and would scribble their poems on the backs of scrap paper and envelopes and wrote some of the most important poems to me in the world. And I know so many poets who work a nine to five in a cubicle and also write beautiful poetry. And I know people who, you know, have this invisible thread that runs through our lives

• 31:26Speaker 04

  without it being their job or without it being, without being part of the capital P, poetry, capital I, industry.

• 31:34Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, I mean, it is interesting, right? When I think about, you know, obviously, like, everyone knows a lot of the big name poets, especially around these days. And we've seen pieces pop off, like both visual pieces, spoken word pieces, and also written pieces, you know, like, and in the online world, you know, the potential for poetry to, quote, go viral, you know, is something that didn't exist not too long ago. And

• 32:01Jonathan Fields?

  Sometimes I wonder about the difference between, okay, so Maggie Smith writes Good Bones. That wasn't a spoken word piece, but it goes out into the universe and just boom, explosive response and people are sharing, sharing, sharing, sharing, sharing. So the responding to something in the actual written word itself, right, the cadence, the rhythm, the tone, the story, like the feel, the vibe of it is entirely internal to them. Nobody is actually performing this to them, right? And yet there's something that is still so stunningly powerful about it. And a very different experience from, you know, had Maggie or somebody else penned that and then there'd be a video of a really powerful performance of that same thing. Very different thing.

• 32:45Speaker 04

  Totally.

• 32:46Jonathan Fields?

  And I would imagine two different people. One would respond really powerfully just to the written word, watch the video and be like, huh. And the other would watch the video and be bowled over by it. But if all they saw was text, they'd be, well, cool. It's so interesting how as individuals, the exact same words, depending on how they're shared, can land so profoundly differently.

• 33:10Speaker 04

  Well, that's what I mean when I talk about doors into poetry. So I'm always thinking like, okay, are you the kind of person who would pick up a book with a beautiful cover? If so, great news, I've got one for you. And are you the type of person who would never pick up a poetry book, but you might listen to an audiobook? I've got one of those too. If you are like, no audiobook, but I would watch a three-minute YouTube video of a live performance, got plenty of those. If you're like, I'm not interested in a live performance. I would rather read the text, but I am nervous about the quote unquote, "right way to read poetry",

• 33:55Speaker 04

  and I've never done that before, and I need someone to show me how to do it. I got a chance to help curate this series where we asked poets and people who love poetry to read a poem they love. And the visual is the text on the page and the audio is this person reading the poem. So you get a chance to see how someone would read it. And it kind of shows you, it guides you through that, but the visual is the text, right? And if that sounds not for you, maybe you'd be interested in a short animation. I've curated videos where it's a collaboration between an animator and a poet. And if you're not into animation, maybe you'd be into, you know, so I'm always thinking

• 34:38Speaker 04

  about the person who doesn't realize that there is a place for them in the house of poetry. And there's no wrong door to enter through.

• 34:51Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah. And if there's a place for poetry in the house of them.

• 34:54Speaker 04

  Yeah. Yeah. Beautiful. Yeah, exactly. And so I, I, I agree, like, there's people for whom they would be deeply moved by a poem in a certain form. And in a different form, it wouldn't be for them. And that just means, you know, they need to meet the poem that is right for them in the moment that is right for them. But we can certainly try to help by offering a lot of options.

• 35:21Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah. No, that makes total sense. I mean, you, you, example of you, you know, standing before Ted, sharing a, a long form poem, you know, and this is an unusual audience, I would say. For, for, you know, so you get there and this is not your typical audience. These are the people who've raised their hand and saying, I'm showing up here exclusively to hear a poet stand before me and actually do a spoken word piece. These are people there, these are movers and shakers from around the world. It's a large audience and they gather to hear a lot of intellectual talks and big ideas and this and this. When you step up on a stage like that and do a deeply personal piece, what's that like for you?

• 36:04Speaker 04

  Well, I have spent most of my life stepping into different kinds of rooms to share poems. Those rooms include dive bars. They also include middle school, gymnasiums.

• 36:27Jonathan Fields?

  Maybe the toughest audience.

• 36:28Speaker 04

  Less so.

• 36:31Speaker 04

  They include weird conference ballroom, business multimedia room at the Hilton. They include, you know, someone's living room, a backyard. I've been in so many different spaces because I really believe that poetry can exist in all those spaces. And I really do believe that sometimes people don't know that poetry is available to them.

• 37:12Speaker 04

  And I like being part of the journey and sometimes being people's gateway drug to more poetry. So in some ways, stepping onto a stage like TED is the same puzzle that it always is, which is, who is here? What are they expecting? And what am I here to communicate to them? And that is what my brain is doing any time I'm on stage, whether it's a room full of middle schoolers or otherwise. And sometimes, you're right. Sometimes I'm stepping in front of an audience

• 37:55Speaker 04

  of people who came here to hear poetry. And they, you know, bought a ticket to see a show of me doing poems. And that is a very different set of expectations and context as opposed to people who don't even know that poetry is about to happen. And so sometimes I have to walk people, or I don't have to, but I like to, walk people in to the poem in a way that allows them to feel comfortable before they realize that a poem is happening. Sometimes I like to start and go.

• 38:38Speaker 04

  You know, energetically, like, okay, here comes a poem. Ready? Poem. But actually, more often than not, I don't do that. More often than not, we're just talking. Here I am, I'm Sarah, we're having a conversation. I'm telling you about some things. I'm telling you, I'm starting to tell you a little story. And then I'm already halfway into a poem. When people are like, now, hold on a second. Is a poem happening right now? Yeah, exactly. And I think that is an effort to sort of

• 39:10Speaker 04

  demystify poetry sometimes, or just to, when people have their guard up around poetry, to not give them a chance to like, raise that guard before they get an opportunity to maybe just feel and be. But all of that, all of those little sort of choices and strategies are all kind of part of the same series of questions, which is, you know, who's here? Where are they at? And how do I reach them?

• 39:45Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah. I feel like in a certain way, spoken word poetry can be pretty subversive, especially depending on the room that you're in and the expectations, you know? But not subversive in a bad way, but subversive in that it's almost like there's, like in a Trojan horse way, in that, you know, you can embed some really powerful, some really hard, some really tough, some vulnerable issues and thoughts and stories and feelings in a poem. And if you just came out on stage and you said, okay, so we're going to talk about this. You know, here's my presentation, here are my slides, and like, here's the data.

• 40:28Jonathan Fields?

  You know, people would immediately recoil and not be open to it. But if you actually do it in a really artful way in spoken word, you know, all those people that would have been like leaning back or heading towards the door, you find them leaning in and feeling and their minds opening to it. And it's like, they may not even realize what's just happened until it's already happened. I've had that happen to me and I've seen that happen in rooms where everyone's like, whoa, did not see that coming. Might not have been up for it had I known, but now that I've experienced it. Just wow.

• 41:09Speaker 04

  Yeah, I mean, I think a lot about just

• 41:12Speaker 04

  how many different vessels and different shaped vessels there are for wisdom and truth and beauty. And there are certain vessels that we societally, let's say, are more familiar with, or that we consider more authoritative for different purposes, and some we should. But I think a lot of times, the vessel, the form of poem, is not, is just one that people aren't as familiar with largely. And, but it is a meaningful

• 41:55Speaker 04

  vessel, and an ancient vessel. And we have, humans have passed wisdom and beauty and truth and humanity to each other in the vessels of poetry, and continue to. And so I think people, having their eyes opened to that vessel as a possible vessel in their lives, helps tremendously, even just knowing that that's possible.

• 42:34Jonathan Fields?

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• 45:15Jonathan Fields?

  You mentioned earlier that from the earliest days, you know, like you've been, even before you knew what a metaphor was, you've been looking for metaphor to try and describe your inner world. How can metaphors, which are such an essential part of poetry, help us when we're experiencing moments of shattering, of awe, of like decompensation, whatever words you want to use? You know, so often we're said, we're told to just go directly into it. Metaphors is a really interesting tool for those same experiences. And take me into your thoughts on this.

• 45:58Speaker 04

  Oh, man, we could talk for a whole hour just on metaphors. I mean, everything runs on metaphor. The metaphors we use to describe the world to each other and to ourselves define how we interact with the world and ourselves, right? The poet Ocean Vuong.

• 46:21Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, we've had him on the podcast.

• 46:23Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 46:23Jonathan Fields?

  Stunning.

• 46:24Speaker 04

  And speaks a lot about the ways in which, for example, success is often framed with language of war and violence, right? Oh, you killed that. Oh, you slayed, you know, like that, you know, we're gonna nail them, we're gonna, we're gonna destroy them, right? And that's not without impact to have the metaphor of war and dominance be what we reach for when we mean triumph. Even people who think they don't want anything to do with poetry,

• 47:09Speaker 04

  that poetry isn't for them, they don't get it, they don't like it, even those people.

• 47:17Speaker 04

  Still rely on metaphors to make sense of themselves and each other. So much of my experience of therapy is searching for the right metaphors and analogies. You know, I gave the example of there's a woman weaving inside me and she just made a knot. That was me trying at age seven, but I'm still doing that. I'm still trying to find metaphors to understand how I interact with, you know, others. And I think other people do too.

• 47:57Speaker 04

  And even people who think they don't like poetry, don't want poetry, still often reach out to me, for example, or others in very specific moments when they need a poem. Moments like my sister's getting married and I want to read a poem at the wedding. My father died and I want to read a poem at the funeral. I have fallen in love and my whole world has been turned upside down and I can't make sense of it and I don't know what to do.

• 48:35Speaker 04

  And there's a reason why poetry is reached for in those moments. And that's because a lot of times poetry offers language for what we previously thought was unlanguageable. And I think when people have the instinct to say, I am feeling something good or bad or complicated or wrought and I feel alone in it.

• 49:14Speaker 04

  Surely nobody has ever felt as good or bad or wrought as I feel in this moment. Discovering that not only have other people felt this way, but they have also.

• 49:28Speaker 04

  Done the work of searching for language to help share it and share what it feels like. To me, there's almost no greater feeling than stumbling upon a poem in the exact moment you need it and going, oh, my God, they found language for the thing that I didn't even know I needed language for until I read their poem. And because that's such a powerful moment that I have had, I also love trying to make that moment happen for other people. You know, when people say like, oh, my sister's getting married and I need a poem. Do you have any recommendations?

• 50:12Speaker 04

  You better believe I'm, my sleeves are rolled up like I'm ready. That's, that's, but I like it even, I like in even less obvious, you know, wedding time feels like that's when everyone reaches for a poem. But there was a very brief period of time where I got to do this, this really sweet project for the Paris Review online where myself and Kava Akbar and Claire Schwartz, two other wonderful poets and friends, we co-authored this sort of faux advice column. We called it Poetry RX and people could write in with their very specific heartache and we would prescribe a poem for their troubles.

• 50:55Speaker 04

  And, you know, tongue in cheek, obviously, but, uh, but the most delightful was the most specific of request, right? Like I submitted for a job that I'm not going to get and I already know, but I have to send the application anyway. Do you have a poem for this? And being able to go, yes, I, I do.

• 51:19Jonathan Fields?

  Which, which one?

• 51:22Speaker 04

  But I think that, that is talking or like that's touching on to be human is to experience so much and to have the sinking suspicion that you're the only one that's ever felt it. And if we're lucky to also find art or conversation that.

• 51:47Speaker 04

  Shows us we are not the only ones. And we share this, actually. And it is communal. And look at the way someone else has found language to help them navigate it.

• 52:00Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah. I mean, it's like, you know, the way you're describing it. Poems don't resolve anything. They don't provide answers to burning questions or solutions to complex problems. What they do is just dissolve the illusion of separateness, you know, which is maybe the greatest pain we suffer. So in doing so, like, maybe that's enough.

• 52:22Speaker 04

  I have seen people

• 52:25Speaker 04

  use poems and need poems for so many different things.

• 52:33Speaker 04

  And certainly companionship or

• 52:41Speaker 04

  feeling part of something, feeling connected to something is a particularly powerful aspect of

• 52:56Speaker 04

  poetry, for me at least.

• 52:58Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, and I think it's something so many people don't feel these days increasingly. I do want to talk a bit about the new collection, A Little Daylight Left. If I have this right, is this the first collection you've released in about a decade now?

• 53:16Speaker 04

  That is correct, yes.

• 53:17Jonathan Fields?

  So, and I would imagine that during that entire decade, you're still writing. Right? So I can't even imagine the task of then looking back over a decade and saying, okay, what goes into like this book? Because the volume of stuff that must have been left out of it has got to be exponentially larger. How do you even wrap your head around saying, okay, 10 years worth of work, I need to actually, I'm putting together one book, one collection. How do you wrap your head around what actually goes into crafting that?

• 53:52Speaker 04

  I do think that Because I love poetry in so many forms, I also don't create a hierarchy in my head for the form, which is to say, sometimes I write a poem, and the purpose of writing that poem was for me to write it. And I put it in a drawer, and that's all that that poem needed to do. And sometimes I write a poem and I share it with a roomful of people, and that feels great, and that is what that poem was for. Sometimes I let someone or ask someone to put a video of it out there, and then people have access to the video.

• 54:34Speaker 04

  Sometimes I see if I can get the text published online. And so I didn't feel, for example, that the poems that ended up in the book were somehow, like that the book itself made the poems more important, or more special, or more real than the other poems. And that freed me to say, okay, so I'm gonna make a book, and what is the most exciting version of a book to me? And to me, my most excitement around any piece of art

• 55:19Speaker 04

  is when there is something about the form that is justified in the art. So for example, the worst feeling is when I'm reading a book, and I'm like, oh, this book is so fun, but it's gonna make a better movie, and I can tell they're gonna make it into a movie, you know? A great feeling is when I'm reading a book, and I'm like, oh, this had to be a book. This isn't gonna work in any other form than the one I'm encountering. And one of the things I do when I'm performing poetry is I try to make choices in performance that allow the people in the room to have the feeling somewhere

• 56:04Speaker 04

  inside of them, or the the small experience of, ooh, I really had to be here. I wouldn't have been able to see that wink, or that gesture, or hear her tone of voice when she said that one line, even if they're not thinking those thoughts consciously, that there's something about the performance that feels like this is the form that I that I needed to see this poem in. So to make a book, I thought, I want someone reading the book to go, ooh, I really had to read this book. This book needed to be in this

• 56:47Speaker 04

  form, in this order. I wanted to think about the way your eye moves on the page, and how to pace both a poem and also an arc inside a book. And so I really thought about the experience of this one book, and what poems would allow me to create the best version of this form, which I know sounds like maybe so granular, but that's what I was doing. And so I realized pretty early with my amazing editor, Maya Millet, that

• 57:27Speaker 04

  I have so many poems that kind of chart the evolution of my reaching for poetry, which is a little meta, but is the case. So I have poems that show me using poetry to help me process.

• 57:50Speaker 04

  Growing out of childhood. And in my case, also that coinciding with violence entering my life and consciousness, interpersonal violence, gendered violence. And so the first section of the book is showing how this character reaches for poems to help her process childhood, leaving childhood and violence. The second section of this book shows how I reached for poetry to process falling in love and being in love and spoiler alert, heartbreak.

• 58:34Speaker 04

  And the third section shows how I continue to use poetry, to reach for poetry, to help me process aging and mortality and the questions I'm asking now. And so, once I saw that potential pattern and that there were poems that showed that, it showed a life of grappling with what poems can and can't do and what poems are for or aren't for, when poetry is helpful,

• 59:17Speaker 04

  when poetry is not helpful to me, when it feels like a gift, when it feels like a burden, when it feels like a friend, when it feels like a compass. And so, the book ended up being more memoiristic than I intended or imagined it when I started. But I think I really wanted there to be a reward for a person who reads the book from beginning to end. I wanted there to be an arc. I wanted there to be a story. I wanted us to explore something together. And that's what sort of earned each poem its place in this book.

• 59:56Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm. No, and the arc is definitely apparent, you know, as you move through it. It does feel, it's interesting you use the word memoir because it's kind of like, as I was, it's like, oh, this actually feels like there is that, there's this narrative that sort of like moves through, we use through all the different poems and different seasons of life and experience.

• 1:00:18Jonathan Fields?

  Could I invite you to potentially read something for us? I'm thinking about something from that part three, actually.

• 1:00:25Speaker 04

  Sure.

• 1:00:26Jonathan Fields?

  I have, I literally have digitally dogged here like literally almost every poem in this podcast.

• 1:00:30Speaker 04

  It's like, this is, I'll ask her to read this, or this, this.

• 1:00:33Jonathan Fields?

  I'm like, okay, that's all of them. We can't do that. So maybe my curiosity is what feels most alive in you right now that you'd be interested in reading?

• 1:00:42Speaker 04

  Well, we've been talking so much about the right way to meet poetry and how there's so many doors that you can enter through and how excited I am for people to enter through any door.

• 1:01:00Speaker 04

  And so there's a poem pretty late in this book, very close to the end, which is me really thinking about the person holding this book and my desire to directly address them. And there's a common, you know, literary trope of like, dear reader. And so I thought I'd write a poem in that spirit, which is called Reader Dear.

• 1:01:41Speaker 04

  Maybe where you are, it is nighttime.

• 1:01:45Speaker 04

  Or maybe it is day. Maybe someone is reading this to you, the way any dear one of mine would warn you that going into a bookstore with me entails being read to like the poetry section is the dressing room I've parked myself outside of, where I keep making you try on poems until we find one that's a good fit. Or maybe you're reading to yourself unaccompanied, maybe out loud or maybe in silence, maybe in a special accent you have for poetry that nobody else can hear. Maybe you haven't committed yet. Maybe you are skimming through pages and trying to decide whether you can justify another book, especially one without a twist ending.

• 1:02:29Speaker 04

  Maybe you are looking for a gift for someone and you heard somewhere a book of poems is a good offering. One time, someone broke into my rental car and opened a box of my books and took the books out but left them all behind. And sometimes, I imagine they stopped mid burglary and flipped through a couple poems before deciding, hmm, not for me. So maybe that's what's going on right now. Maybe you have broken into my rental car and are standing there thinking, not again. Maybe you're heartbroken and you're looking for someone else to find language for what doesn't feel languageable. Baby, I've been there. Maybe you've borrowed this. Maybe somebody lent it to you. Maybe the library or a friend. Maybe you stole it, maybe on purpose.

• 1:03:14Speaker 04

  Or maybe the way I borrowed Jeff McDaniel's poetry book from the Urban World Library once when I was 14 and just forgot and never gave it back because sometimes, that is also how burglary works. So slow and ordinary and unnoticed by even you who are doing the stealing and then boom, years have gone by and you're holding something that isn't yours and somewhere there's a hole that you caused in the fabric of everything. Maybe you're sorry. Maybe you're guilty. Maybe you're as disenchanted as I am by the kingdom of ownership and are ready to disavow it entirely, to embark somewhere the entire premise is absurd. The only rule my parents had when I was growing up was we share in this family, which they

• 1:03:59Speaker 04

  used to scold me if I was withholding something my brother wanted. But somewhere along the way, it morphed into a guideline. If I have something, then I have something to share. And that's it, I guess. Half my sandwich and also my couch, also my afternoon, also what happened, what I've learned, what makes me laugh, what made me think of you, what I think the poem means, the metaphors I'm using to explain things to myself, what I can't figure out, what I don't want people to know about me and what I don't want to know about me. And it isn't a superpower. It isn't a curse. It isn't a legacy. It isn't a trap.

• 1:04:44Speaker 04

  It is what it is and it is what I've got. And you can't steal it because right about now is when it becomes yours, too.

• 1:04:55Jonathan Fields?

  Beautiful. Thank you.

• 1:04:59Speaker 04

  Thanks.

• 1:04:59Jonathan Fields?

  It feels like a good place for us to come full circle in our conversation as well, so in this container of Good Life Project. If I offer up the phrase to live a good life, what comes up?

• 1:05:09Speaker 04

  To live a good life.

• 1:05:12Speaker 04

  Make room for yourself and make room for each other.

• 1:05:17Jonathan Fields?

  Thank you. Hey, before you leave, if you love this episode, say, but you'll also love the conversation we had with Liz Gilbert about writing yourself letters of love. You'll find a link to Liz's episode in the show notes. This episode of Good Life Project was produced by executive producers Lindsay Fox and me, Jonathan Fields. Editing help by Alejandro Ramirez and Troy Young. Christopher Carter crafted our theme music. And of course, if you haven't already done so, please go ahead and follow Good Life Project in your favorite listening app or on YouTube, too. If you found this conversation interesting or valuable and inspiring, chances are you did, because you're still listening here, do me a personal favor, a seven second favor, share it with just one person.

• 1:06:00Jonathan Fields?

  And if you want to share it with more, that's awesome, too, but just one person even, then invite them to talk with you about what you've both discovered, to reconnect and explore ideas that really matter, because that's how we all come alive together. Until next time, I'm Jonathan Fields, signing off for Good Life Project.

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