186. Raj Sisodia: The Inner Work Behind Better Leadership

A leader's unresolved pain rarely stays contained within that leader. It can show up as control, aggression, emotional distance, relentless pressure, or a workplace where people are treated as resources rather than human beings. The organization may still perform, but the cost is often carried by employees, families, customers, and the leader's own health. In this episode of Extend, I sit down with Raj Sisodia to examine the relationship between personal healing and conscious leadership. We discuss why a company's culture often reflects the inner state of the people guiding it, how purpose changes the way work affects people, and why leadership built around fear, ego, or extraction eventually creates suffering. Raj Sisodia is a co-founder of the Conscious Capitalism movement, a business professor, speaker, and author of numerous books on purpose-driven organizations and leadership. His work has challenged the idea that companies must choose between financial performance and human well-being, while his personal healing journey has led him to explore what leaders must address within themselves before they can create healthier systems around them. What's Discussed: (2:57) Why self-interest and greed are not the same, and what happens when a business is built around extraction. (7:18) The four principles behind companies that create value without treating people as costs to minimize. (13:02) How healthcare loses its purpose when profit is placed above patients and practitioners. (20:18) The first question every leader should ask before trying to change company culture. (35:26) Why leaders cannot create healthy organizations without examining their own unresolved pain. (43:07) How qualities you learned to see as weaknesses may be the strengths you are meant to contribute. (51:06) Why unhealed trauma can keep driving your reactions, relationships, and leadership without your awareness. Listen to this episode of Extend to understand why leadership is not only about what you build, but also about what you bring into the room while building it. Thank You to Our Sponsors Next Health Longevity Summit: Head to next-health.com/summit https://www.next-health.com/summit to secure your spot at the first ever Next Health Longevity Summit in Nashville on 9/12. Pendulum: You can go to pendulumlife.com http://pendulumlife.com and use my code EXTEND for 20% off your first membership order. Learn More About Dr. Darshan Shah Website: drshah.com http://drshah.com Clinic: next-health.com http://next-health.com Instagram: darshanshahmd https://www.instagram.com/darshanshahmd/ Learn More About Raj Sisodia Website: rajsisodia.com/ https://rajsisodia.com/ Facebook: rsisodia https://www.facebook.com/rsisodia Podcast: theconsciouscapitalists.com/podcast https://www.theconsciouscapitalists.com/podcast Instagram: @rajsisodiacc https://www.instagram.com/rajsisodiacc/

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• 0:00Dr. Darshan Shah?

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• 0:39Dr. Darshan Shah?

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• 0:48Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Welcome to Extend with me, Dr. Darshan Shah, a podcast dedicated to cutting-edge science, research, tools, and protocols designed to help you extend your health span. Having become one of the youngest doctors in the country at the age of 21, and trained and board-certified at the Mayo Clinic, I've accumulated three decades of practice as a board-certified surgeon and longevity expert. Over that time, I've discovered that a mere 20% of health knowledge yields 80% of the results when it comes to your health span. We are living in a new era where we are creating a new healthcare system, no longer focused on disease management, but achieving optimal health and vitality. Join me as I interview world-renowned experts, offering you a step-by-step guide to proactively avoid disease, and most importantly, extend your health span.

• 1:34Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Welcome to Extend, the podcast dedicated to helping you live a longer, healthier, and more fulfilling life. Today, I have a true visionary leader joining us, a man who has fundamentally reshaped how we think about the role of business in society. Our guest is Raj Sisodia, a distinguished scholar and co-founder of Conscious Capitalism, Incorporated. Raj is renowned for his pioneering work on conscious capitalism, a movement that champions businesses operating with a higher purpose beyond just profit. His insights have inspired countless organizations to prioritize all stakeholders, from employees to communities, proving that doing good can also lead to exceptional business success. Get ready to

• 2:17Dr. Darshan Shah?

  explore how purpose-driven leadership can not only transform companies, but contribute to a healthier and more conscious world.

• 2:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Raj, really appreciate you coming on the podcast with me. Thank you so much for being here today.

• 2:34Speaker 01

  It's my pleasure. It's great to meet you and great to be on your wonderful podcast.

• 2:38Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, so this is an amazing treat for us, because we don't normally get to speak with massive business leaders like yourself. Usually, it's health and wellness professionals. And I love the pivot, and maybe not a full pivot, but all the things that you've learned in the last few years. You've written so many books, a lot on business, but now more on healing, right? And so, I'm so excited to have this conversation with you about that pivot, about your journey, and your thought processes around Healing Leaders, which is your latest book. And also, I want to talk about conscious capitalism, because I also think that's a big topic that we've never approached on this podcast, but it is part of healing yourself as a leader as well, I feel. So Raj, tell us your story. Tell us about the 16 books and your businesses and everything.

• 3:23Speaker 01

  Well, my story is, I guess, unusual, but all of our stories are different and unique. But I was born in India, lived there until I was seven, and my father went away to Canada to get his PhD when I was two.

• 3:33Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, okay.

• 3:34Speaker 01

  In agriculture science. So he came back when I was seven years old. So I didn't really know my father until I was seven. And then he got a job in Barbados, working on sugarcane research. So we moved to Barbados. So I was literally a kid growing up in a little village in India, without electricity or running water. And suddenly, I'm on an airplane, and we're traveling across the world and into a whole other world.

• 3:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 3:52Speaker 01

  You know, in those, in the 60s, India was very different from the rest of the world. And two years in Barbados, and then two years in California, in Salinas, south of San Francisco, and one year in Canada, and then we went back to India when I was 12. So I had an interesting experience of being sort of an outsider at the age of seven.

• 4:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 4:09Speaker 01

  I say I'm an immigrant three times over, because I was an immigrant first at age seven. Then I was an immigrant back to India at age 12. I kind of had to relearn.

• 4:16Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 4:17Speaker 01

  The culture, the language, the mores and everything. And I observed it with somewhat objective eyes. I had an outsider lens, because now I was looking at it almost like an American kid would look at it. And then I came back to this country at 23, for my PhD at Columbia University in New York. So again, I was an outsider with some grounding here, but still coming out that growing up in India, and seeing again, what was happening here in the world of business, and what I was learning, and how it made sense to me. And I found over time that a lot of it did not make sense to me. That the way, you know, this was the 80s, 1981, was the beginning of what came to be known as the decade of greed. So it's Reagan in the White House, it's Jack Welch, the CEO of General Electric,

• 5:01Speaker 01

  who became the poster child for the new approach to management and leadership, which was all about shareholder value.

• 5:06Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 5:07Speaker 01

  There was that movie Wall Street that came out, which was about greed is good, celebrating the idea of greed as being the foundation of free markets and capitalism. So I found that greed can never be a virtue. You know, self-interest is okay, selfishness is not. And greed, we cannot base a whole system on greed, because we're not appealing to the better angels of our human nature.

• 5:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 5:27Speaker 01

  When we simply make business only about profit maximization, because then it becomes about extraction, it becomes about using people, it becomes about treating people as a cost to be minimized, as customers, as somebody to be exploited, and get as much out of them as you can. Suppliers, you squeeze them as much as you can, and you externalize burdens onto society and the environment, and you made your money, and you maximized your profit. But I said, that's not a real profit, that's a false profit. Doesn't take into account the impact that you had on the health and the health of your employees.

• 6:01Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 6:01Speaker 01

  The statistics are startling, that heart attacks are 20% higher on Monday mornings than the rest of the week. 33% higher in Sweden, 20% here and in the UK. That 120,000 Americans die from stress connected to work every year. That 600,000 Chinese die from too much work.

• 6:17Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Wow.

• 6:18Speaker 01

  They had to invent a new word called kowalazi, in Japanese and Chinese, that means death from overwork. So I found that the human cost of business was simply unacceptable. We should not have to be hurting people to make money. If we are, then that is morally reprehensible and not acceptable. And so, for a long time, I was struggling and frustrated with the story of business that I was being taught in my MBA and in my PhD. So six years of business education, it was all about the head and the wallet.

• 6:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 6:48Speaker 01

  Everything was about the numbers and the theories and the economic foundations of all of this, and everything has to go to the bottom line.

• 6:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 6:54Speaker 01

  And what I realized, looking back, is that it completely bypassed the human in-between, your heart, your soul, your spirit. I was never inspired a single day in those six years of my business education, to see that, wow, business can be beautiful, business can be noble, business can be heroic. I never learned that. It was all, business was a mercenary institution designed to extract as much as we can. And I was never emotionally moved in those six years. Now, all that changed, I started asking the question, is there a better way to think about business? And I was a professor of marketing, and you know, I was a very idealistic person, idealistic kid, and I get planted into one of the most cynical professions there is, you know, marketing. Like, what does that have to do with the

• 7:36Speaker 01

  truth? And so, I almost had a sense of shame. I almost wrote a book called The Shame of Marketing.

• 7:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Wow.

• 7:42Speaker 01

  Because we found, we were spending $1 trillion a year on ads and coupons and junk mail in 2004. That was more than the GDP of India.

• 7:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 7:51Speaker 01

  You know, a billion people were living on less than what we were spending here. And I said, what are customers and companies and society getting for that? That much money? Like, it's more than 88% of the world's population lives on.

• 8:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 8:02Speaker 01

  And we spend it here on ads and coupons and junk mail. And I found that, actually, we're not creating value for customers. Most customers don't trust marketing. If it's marketing, that means it's not true.

• 8:11Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 8:12Speaker 01

  It's just marketing. Society is not benefiting. We're getting obesity crises, and anxiety, and depression, and all kinds of health issues, when 65% of our calories are processed foods, heavily marketed, aggressively marketed foods, when we use women's bodies to sell products, when we get kids addicted to junky cereals, and all kinds of stuff, right? We're just preying on people, it's like to me. So I asked the question, is there a better way? And that's a very important question. You asked that about health, and the answer is always yes. There's always a better way.

• 8:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 8:42Speaker 01

  Because there's no perfection, and human beings can always improve things. And so that quest led me ultimately to a journey of exploring, is there an alternative way of thinking about this? Are there companies that people simply love? And they're not trying to buy love by ads and coupons, because you cannot buy love, you have to earn it, right?

• 8:59Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 9:00Speaker 01

  So I wanted to look for companies that don't spend all this money on marketing, and customers love them. And I found Whole Foods, and I found a bunch of other companies. But I found that there was a bigger and deeper story there. Employees love them too.

• 9:11Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 9:11Speaker 01

  They love working there.

• 9:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 9:13Speaker 01

  Suppliers were loyal partners of theirs, were long-term relationships. Communities welcomed and embraced them, and they were good for the environment, right? And all of these kinds of things. So they were embedded in a system of caring for all of their stakeholders, not just thinking about the investors. And what made that happen were the principles that became conscious capitalism, a higher purpose. Like, Next Health has a higher purpose, right? You're trying to improve health span and give people their health and vitality.

• 9:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 9:41Speaker 01

  So there must be a higher purpose to anything that we do, just like we have a purpose in our own personal lives.

• 9:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 9:46Speaker 01

  Everything we create should have its own purpose.

• 9:48Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 9:49Speaker 01

  Profit is essential. We need to make money as a business. That should not be the purpose. It's like saying, I need red blood cells to live. But should I therefore accumulate as many red blood cells as possible? And put them in storage tanks and you know, just have to be the biggest red blood cell person? No, I use that to live my life.

• 10:05Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 10:05Speaker 01

  And do what this life I'm meant to do, you know? We act like money is the only game in town, but there are many games in town.

• 10:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 10:12Speaker 01

  Many things that make life important. So a higher purpose, a stakeholder orientation, conscious leaders who care about the people and the purpose. And a caring culture where people actually, they don't say, oh God, it's Monday and thank God it's Friday. I'm out of here.

• 10:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 10:24Speaker 01

  People love going to work and they love what they do and they have a sense of joy and meaning.

• 10:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 10:29Speaker 01

  In their, in their lives through that and their health actually gets better.

• 10:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 10:32Speaker 01

  Not only the heart attacks not go up on Mondays, but actually they are healthier. Because of that, so that became a turning point in my life. And that book was called Firms of Endearment.

• 10:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm, Firms of Endearment, right.

• 10:42Speaker 01

  Instead of Terms of Endearment.

• 10:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes, I love it.

• 10:44Speaker 01

  I'm very derivative, I just copy things, you know? Change a word here and there. And it came out in two thousand seven, completely changed my life. Because I said, wow, there's another way of being in business. These are businesses built on purpose and love.

• 10:55Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 10:56Speaker 01

  Not pure, purely on self-interest. They're not trying to maximize profit, they're trying to serve their people and serve their purpose.

• 11:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 11:03Speaker 01

  And shockingly, at the end of that research, when we, I'd identified twenty eight companies that fit that profile. And we did the financial analysis at the end and I found that these companies had outperformed the market. The S and P five hundred by nine to one over ten years.

• 11:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Wow.

• 11:16Speaker 01

  I didn't expect that. I said, these companies are paying their people well, like Costco is one of those companies paying their people double of Walmart. They're treating their customers well, paying their suppliers well, investing in the community and the environment. And so I thought maybe there's less left over for investors at the end of the day, but actually you're creating so much more value.

• 11:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  More value, right.

• 11:32Speaker 01

  When you have employees who are passionate, customers who are loyal, you're not wasting money on a bunch of ads. You have very low employee turnover. Costco was seven percent a year.

• 11:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Wow.

• 11:41Speaker 01

  Walmart was seventy percent. So I imagine Walmart had to hire two million people.

• 11:45Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 11:45Speaker 01

  To replace those who left, so. So I came alive in that process for the first time, I felt I was doing something meaningful.

• 11:52Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 11:52Speaker 01

  My heart was opened up, so I was sitting in a writing retreat in the Pokonos. This was June twelfth of two thousand five, I remember that day is a turning point. And I was writing some of the stories of these companies.

• 12:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 12:03Speaker 01

  And I found myself suddenly in tears.

• 12:05Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 12:05Speaker 01

  And I said to my co-author who was with me on that writing, I said, David, I don't know what's happening. I've never, I hadn't cried for twenty years and suddenly I'm crying about some story about what a company did for.

• 12:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 12:15Speaker 01

  You know, some employee, et cetera. And I said, I think I know what I want to do for the rest of my life. I want to tell this story of business. I want to learn about it and deepen it and, and do something, you know, to change the narrative out there. So that was the beginning of my purpose. Before that, I had no purpose. I was just a frustrated, unhappy, uninspired. Marketing professor. Who was ashamed of his own profession. I was not doing something, you know, my father got a PhD in agriculture science. His dream was literally to cure world hunger.

• 12:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 12:43Speaker 01

  Because in the sixties, people in India were dying of starvation, literally there was not enough food. So he had a noble purpose. And I get a PhD in marketing, I'm just out there selling more junk to people who don't need it and can't afford it.

• 12:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 12:55Speaker 01

  And so finally, something awakened and as I said, that was the beginning of the next phase of my life. And that led me to meet the Whole Foods CEO at the time, John Mackey, the founder of Whole Foods. He read the book and loved it and asked me to spend the day with him.

• 13:07Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Mm hmm.

• 13:07Speaker 01

  In Austin. And at the end of that, I shared my vision for what I was calling the Institute for New Capitalism.

• 13:13Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm, mm hmm.

• 13:13Speaker 01

  Or Inc, I make an acronym out of everything.

• 13:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 13:16Speaker 01

  And he looked at it, he said, that's exactly my vision, but I like the phrase conscious capitalism.

• 13:20Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, wow.

• 13:21Speaker 01

  So we decided to start the movement. A few months later, we had a retreat at his ranch.

• 13:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Incredible.

• 13:26Speaker 01

  And yeah, so movement started in two thousand eight.

• 13:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 13:29Speaker 01

  And eighteen years now and we have chapters in many countries and many cities. We have a nice chapter here in L A, for example. And it's become, uh, it's become part of the conversation, the business, anything.

• 13:39Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Massively, yeah.

• 13:40Speaker 01

  Anything in life can be done with different levels of consciousness.

• 13:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 13:43Speaker 01

  So when you do business with a low level, like a surgeon.

• 13:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 13:46Speaker 01

  Uses a scalpel to save a life, somebody else can use a scalpel to end a life. People can use business to create suffering and give people heart attacks and you know, they made a bunch of money for themselves and what, what, what's the point of it?

• 13:56Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 13:57Speaker 01

  And what are you gonna do with that money when you die?

• 13:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right, right.

• 14:00Speaker 01

  You don't take it with you. Or you do it with higher consciousness.

• 14:03Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 14:03Speaker 01

  And then it becomes something beautiful. I had the experience, I teach an MBA class on conscious capitalism and I was teaching a case on, on a bank, a Dutch bank named Triodos. And the subtitle of the case was Conscious Money in, in Action. It's the most conscious bank in the world.

• 14:17Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 14:18Speaker 01

  Deep sense of values and, and, and a clear higher purpose to make society better ultimately. And I had two students in my class, I was, as I'm teaching the case, I see that they have two guys, tears streaming down their face. I said, what happened? They said, we have worked in banking for many years. We didn't know banking could be so beautiful.

• 14:35Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, wow.

• 14:36Speaker 01

  And I said, anything can be beautiful.

• 14:38Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 14:39Speaker 01

  If you do it with consciousness and with love.

• 14:41Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 14:41Speaker 01

  Anything can be beautiful. Any industry, any business, any company can be beautiful. So that's kind of what we are trying to bring about is business, not as a mercenary institution, but as a missionary institution, as a way to elevate life.

• 14:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 14:54Speaker 01

  As a way to promote not only human flourishing, but planetary flourishing and flourishing of all life. That we put life at the center and not profit at the center.

• 15:04Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 15:04Speaker 01

  And profit has to serve life.

• 15:06Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah. You know, what's such a enigma to me is that the entire business of medicine seems to have gone down the path of unconscious capitalism. And profits are being put over the health of patients, the health of the professionals practicing in healthcare institutions like hospitals and clinics. Uh, doctors are forced to see fifty to a hundred patients a day just to pay their bills. Patients can't afford their prescriptions. What's happened there?

• 15:36Speaker 01

  It is a tragic story, really. I mean, this is the most noble of professions.

• 15:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 15:40Speaker 01

  What's, what's more important than maintaining and restoring people to full health and vitality? And yet, like I said, any profession can be beautiful, but likewise, any profession can get corrupted. And once you lose sight of your real higher purpose and the purpose becomes profit.

• 15:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Mm hmm.

• 15:54Speaker 01

  And profit maximization, it all goes downhill from there. So if you look at the pharmaceutical industry, it used to be the number one or two most admired industry in this country.

• 16:03Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 16:04Speaker 01

  Companies like Johnson and Johnson and Merck and many others were held, held up in great esteem. Because they genuinely did put patient welfare at the top.

• 16:14Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 16:14Speaker 01

  And everything else followed. But over time, they became increasingly mercenary. Johnson and Johnson has this beautiful credo literally carved in stone at their headquarters, right? About how they put the patient first and then the doctors and ultimately the shareholders at the end of that. Now they have become even more rapacious in that sense about profit than, than other industries. You know, they, they paid, I think, the biggest fine ever levied by the, by the government on, for unethical marketing of a drug called risperdal.

• 16:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 16:42Speaker 01

  Right? And the guy who ran that program, they paid a multi-billion dollar fine, later on was promoted to CEO of the company.

• 16:48Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh my gosh.

• 16:48Speaker 01

  Because they made nineteen million dollars, nineteen billion dollars of selling that drug.

• 16:52Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 16:52Speaker 01

  Unethically and many people were hurt as a result of that. So I think when, when, when it becomes only about money, anything, lawyers, the legal profession is a noble profession.

• 17:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 17:03Speaker 01

  Right? It's about justice and fairness, but it becomes only about money. It's about billable hours and it's about extracting unfair advantages. Forget about fairness, it's about, how can I make it unfair in your, on your behalf? So I think that is what has happened and now you look at hospitals and others that are being acquired by private equity. You know, that's kind of the beginning of the end. Because they are, you know, that's, that's, that's an animal designed to be only about.

• 17:26Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Only about profits.

• 17:27Speaker 01

  The profit, right?

• 17:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Let's strip out everything else.

• 17:29Speaker 01

  They have a short term thing, they want to flip it, sell it, exit strategy, what are we gonna do, fix it up, you know? Yeah, and, and now schools, like I was in Mexico, speaking at a private school, the American school there. And all those schools are being bought up by private equity.

• 17:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 17:42Speaker 01

  So all of these noble professions, whether it's about health, whether it's about education, knowledge, wisdom, et cetera, are being corrupted.

• 17:50Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 17:50Speaker 01

  In a way, by the market forces interpreted with the lower consciousness. Now, market forces can do beautiful things. Capitalism has done more for humanity by far than any other idea we've ever had. It's lifted us out of the dirt in the last two centuries, per capita incomes, life expectancy, literacy, longevity. All of these things have dramatically increased because of the fruits of capitalism.

• 18:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 18:12Speaker 01

  Which has unleashed human potential, human creativity, human ingenuity, our ability to cooperate with each other. Through the mechanism of companies and do incredible things. But when you do it with low consciousness, then you get all the so-called side effects. The externalities, economists call them externalities.

• 18:29Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Externalities.

• 18:30Speaker 01

  You don't want to worry about the environment or the community, et cetera. And those come to dominate. What I say to my students and, and executives, there, there's nothing on this planet called a side effect. You do things and there are effects.

• 18:41Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 18:42Speaker 01

  And you're responsible for all of the effects of your actions.

• 18:44Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 18:45Speaker 01

  That's the spiritual principle, really.

• 18:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 18:47Speaker 01

  And can we do business with a spectrum of positive effects?

• 18:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 18:52Speaker 01

  Having positive externalities, you know, on everybody.

• 18:55Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 18:55Speaker 01

  So I think there's a lot of challenges, which is why our movement exists. This is a great and noble institution that really needs to be elevated. And when you apply it with that elevated consciousness, it can, it can do incredible things.

• 19:06Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 19:07Speaker 01

  You know, the unrealized potential of capitalism.

• 19:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 19:10Speaker 01

  When we bring our heart and our soul. Not just our head and our wallet. So my latest acronym is called WISH.

• 19:17Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Tell us about WISH.

• 19:18Speaker 01

  WISH is the wallet. It's the intellect, but then it's the spirit and the heart. As I said, business school is all about the wallet and the head, analytical intelligence, right? And financial intelligence.

• 19:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 19:30Speaker 01

  We need the other two. Anything that human beings do must involve the heart and must involve the spirit. We need to be inspired every day by what we're doing.

• 19:37Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 19:38Speaker 01

  And we need to be emotionally moved by it. Our heart has wisdom that our head doesn't. Our heart knows before our head does what really matters. When I was crying in the Poconos, that was my heart telling me this really matters to you.

• 19:50Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 19:51Speaker 01

  And it probably matters to a lot of people in this world.

• 19:53Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 19:53Speaker 01

  My brain would not have figured that out, right? And, you know, we get educated in our education system. We heavily develop our left brain. Some of us end up becoming engineers, so we become even more analytical and everything is analyzed to the nth degree. But we lose touch with our own spirit, our own soul, our own intuition and our heart, especially men.

• 20:13Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 20:14Speaker 01

  We build a wall around our heart. We don't allow ourselves to express emotion. Little boys, when they show emotion. Now, it turns out, young boys are more sensitive and more emotional than young girls.

• 20:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Really?

• 20:25Speaker 01

  That's what Gabor Maté, the doctor Gabor Maté told us.

• 20:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure, I love Gabor Maté, yeah.

• 20:29Speaker 01

  We were in Costa Rica with him.

• 20:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, wow.

• 20:31Speaker 01

  And then what do we do to young boys when they express emotion?

• 20:33Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Tell them to stop it.

• 20:35Speaker 01

  Yes, stop it. Don't be a girl. Don't, you know, stop crying, you know, be a man, right? And so that's incredibly unhealthy because we're not giving them permission to be human. And emotions, and Neha may have talked about this, are energy in motion. They need to move through you.

• 20:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 20:47Speaker 01

  And if you don't allow that to happen, it gets embedded inside you. You swallow it, it then metastasizes. Shows up as chronic pain in your body.

• 20:56Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 20:56Speaker 01

  All the back pain epidemic we have in this country, eighty, ninety percent of that is psychological, according to Dr. John Sarno and his work on back pain. And so we have to be able to express emotions as human beings, regardless of gender. You know, one of my books is called Shakti Leadership, it's about the integration of the masculine and the feminine. That we all come from a mother and a father, and yet that mother energy is suppressed.

• 21:20Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 21:21Speaker 01

  And we're not, you know, we don't express it in our, especially men, but even women very often suppress the feminine side. Right? And our world is entirely built on masculine energy. Which can be positive strength, courage, focus, resilience, structure. But in the absence of the feminine, it becomes domination, aggression, hyper-competition. Everything becomes a damn war.

• 21:41Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 21:41Speaker 01

  When you only have masculine energy.

• 21:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Absolutely.

• 21:43Speaker 01

  You know, including business becomes war. Sports becomes war. War is war. Everything is.

• 21:48Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Everything becomes war.

• 21:49Speaker 01

  And what do we do in this country? We have a problem, we declare war on it.

• 21:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 21:52Speaker 01

  War on cancer, war on drugs, war on poverty, war on terror, war on whatever, right? It's the American way.

• 21:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 21:58Speaker 01

  It doesn't work.

• 21:59Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 21:59Speaker 01

  That's not how you solve problems, by declaring war on them. You go to root cause.

• 22:03Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 22:03Speaker 01

  Which you're doing.

• 22:04Dr. Darshan Shah?

  I agree.

• 22:04Speaker 01

  Right? And so I think, yeah, we have a lot to learn. We've done a lot, but we have a lot to learn.

• 22:08Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure. So if you're a leader, you're starting a company, you're involved at the high level with the company, and you can, you have the opportunity to make decisions to lean more towards conscious capitalism and making it a company that does contribute to the health of your employees, the health of your clients, the health of the leadership. What are some of the steps that you can take to transform the company culture?

• 22:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, so you have to start really with why. You know, Simon Sinek has a well-known book, I start with why. And so really is the beginning. Why, why am I doing this? Why does the world need another company? Another store, another bank, another, what am I going to do that is actually going to solve problems? So as we say, the purpose of business is not to make a profit. The purpose of business is to find profitable solutions to the problems of people and the planet. Right? And they have to be profitable, otherwise a business cannot do it. It's not viable. But we still need to solve those problems. And that's where governments come in, and that's where nonprofits.

• 23:04Dr. Darshan Shah?

  There's no purpose without profits.

• 23:06Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 23:07Dr. Darshan Shah?

  You need the profits to fuel the purpose.

• 23:08Speaker 01

  And likewise, in the long term, we really don't have sustainable profits without a purpose.

• 23:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 23:12Speaker 01

  Those are, those are false profits. You're extracting, you're not creating value, really. And so those two things go together. So starting that question with the higher purpose, what is it? Why are we here? Don't be mercenary. Have, you know, it's not like a, you know, we go from mercenary, we have businesses that are basically just saying, there's an opportunity here, we need to make some money. That's a mercenary mindset, as opposed to missionary.

• 23:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 23:33Speaker 01

  There's a problem here that needs to be solved. And I think of it beyond that, I said, there's suffering in our world. You know, we, we've made a lot of progress in the last two centuries. We've lifted people up dramatically. And that doesn't mean we have eradicated suffering. There's incredible amount of suffering.

• 23:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 23:48Speaker 01

  There's three billion people living on less than five dollars and fifty cents a day. There are tens of thousands of people in this city living on the streets. There are billion people who don't have access to clean water. There are tens of thousands of children dying every day from preventable causes. There are tens of billions of animals that are suffering in factory farms.

• 24:08Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 24:08Speaker 01

  And they are caged and they are tortured, right? And, and ultimately to feed our appetites. So there's a lot of suffering in the world, and the only human response to suffering is healing. We have to be part of the healing. And we have to consciously be part of the healing. If you're not consciously part of the healing, you are part of the hurting, without even realizing it.

• 24:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 24:29Speaker 01

  You are an instrument of that system that is creating all of that suffering in the world. And so it starts there. You have to try to reduce, so the acronym, I have acronyms as I told you for everything. So for purpose, I say healing is the acronym.

• 24:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 24:43Speaker 01

  Every great purpose needs to be a healing purpose.

• 24:45Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 24:46Speaker 01

  It needs to reduce suffering and bring joy into the world. And then healing stands for the quality. It should be heroic. It evolves. It aligns all your stakeholders together. It's loving. It's rooted in love. Everything in conscious capitalism comes from love. Every single thing we do in this life should come from love. Every decision we make, every action we take, every statement we utter should be coming from love. Not anger, not greed, not fear, not jealousy, not guilt, not shame. Too often, we're acting out of those places. In business, very often, we are coming from fear and greed. Fear of competition, going out of business and greed for more, more, more. I just need to grow compulsively, not consciously. And so that's purpose. And then you start thinking about, okay, all, who are my stakeholders?

• 25:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 25:30Speaker 01

  And how can I create more value for them and with them, deeper and deeper value? So for employees, for example, it's not just a job, it's a career and a calling. That everybody who comes to this company, who comes to Whole Foods, should be a foodie who cares about health. Right?

• 25:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  I like that.

• 25:46Speaker 01

  Enough food.

• 25:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 25:47Speaker 01

  And if you go to Patagonia.

• 25:49Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 25:49Speaker 01

  You're passionate about the outdoors. Your work becomes an extension of who you are.

• 25:53Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right, right.

• 25:53Speaker 01

  It's not an unnatural act for you to be doing that work. Now, you could take a Patagonia employee and put them at Whole Foods, they probably wouldn't thrive as much.

• 26:01Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 26:01Speaker 01

  They wouldn't love it. And likewise, right? So we have to align the personal motivations and drives of people with the work that they do. So it becomes a calling. The test that I say to my students is that your job should be such that if you win the lottery on Friday, you still come back to work on Monday.

• 26:19Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Beautiful.

• 26:19Speaker 01

  Because the job has meaning beyond the paycheck. You're doing it for something more than the money.

• 26:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 26:25Speaker 01

  You know? So that, that should be true of all work. Unfortunately, I would say ninety percent of people on this planet don't have that kind of work.

• 26:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 26:32Speaker 01

  Work is drudgery, work is suffering, work is, it's almost like a prison. You're stuck here from these hours to these hours. You have no say in anything. You don't get treated with respect and care. Your health deteriorates. You can't wait to get out of there.

• 26:45Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 26:45Speaker 01

  So thank God it's Friday and I, can I get drunk now and forget my horrible week?

• 26:49Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 26:50Speaker 01

  And then again on Saturday, and then you come back Sunday night and Monday morning, here we are again, and the heart attack. Heart rate is elevated, you know?

• 26:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 26:58Speaker 01

  So think about all of your stakeholders, creating value for them and with them, employees, customers, suppliers, et cetera. And then recognize that they're all connected.

• 27:05Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 27:06Speaker 01

  You can't have happy employees or happy customers without happy employees.

• 27:10Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 27:11Speaker 01

  And likewise, so, and when you have happy employees, happy customers, you know, then you're going to have happy investors ultimately.

• 27:17Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 27:17Speaker 01

  So why did you're doing all the other things that a business needs?

• 27:20Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 27:20Speaker 01

  All this processes and so forth. So it's all a virtuous cycle. It works together as a living organism. The organization is a living entity, and all of these are these component parts, you know? But don't treat it like a machine. They all connect to each other, just like the human body.

• 27:34Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 27:35Speaker 01

  Right? We can, and medical education often does kind of break it down into parts and specialties, and you're only focused on this part of the body.

• 27:41Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 27:42Speaker 01

  You don't really understand the whole.

• 27:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 27:44Speaker 01

  Because you're focused on the parts. You have to understand the whole. And then you have to work on yourself as a leader. What does it mean for me to be a leader? It's not knowing everything and giving people orders. It's enabling people to be at their best and to be able to express themselves and create something incredible together, serving the purpose of the organization and the people. So conscious leadership. And my acronym there is selfless. You cannot be a selfish human being and call yourself a leader. Because if you're a selfish human being and you become a leader, you're going to look at all the people you lead and say, wow, I can use all these people to fulfill my own goals.

• 28:19Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 28:20Speaker 01

  Which for a selfish person are about ego and power and money.

• 28:22Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right, right.

• 28:23Speaker 01

  And that's not a leader, that's a tyrant.

• 28:25Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 28:25Speaker 01

  The definition of a tyrant, they use other people and inflict suffering on other people to fill their own ego.

• 28:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 28:31Speaker 01

  Right? A true leader has transcended the narrow self. They are about the collective self. They are about all of us going to a better place. That's, at the end of life, that is what results in a sense of fulfillment and contentment, right? As Neha says, she has sat by the bed sides of thousands of people as they were dying, and they didn't say, oh God, I wish I had made a little more shareholder return.

• 28:55Speaker 01

  It's all about love and it's all about relationships and the impact and the legacy that we're leaving behind here.

• 28:59Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 29:00Speaker 01

  We can become immortal through our work.

• 29:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 29:02Speaker 01

  We create something that lives on after us, right? And that's the opportunity that we have for conscious leaders and then a caring culture. We can build a culture where people really, as I said, look forward to going to work and they thrive and there's respect and there's trust and there's caring.

• 29:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 29:15Speaker 01

  And there's accountability. You can't just have caring but no accountability.

• 29:19Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 29:19Speaker 01

  Just like in a family.

• 29:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 29:21Speaker 01

  You love your children, but that doesn't mean you say yes to everything and you don't hold them to standards, right? You have to do that. So in many ways, you know, it becomes like a family.

• 29:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 29:28Speaker 01

  And so it's not a family business, but it's a business family.

• 29:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 29:31Speaker 01

  Every business should be a business family where we genuinely care about the people. And one of my favorite quotes on leadership is from Senator Raphael Warnock, who is also the, uh, he's the pastor at the Ebenezer Baptist Church in Atlanta where Martin Luther King used to be the pastor. And now he's the senator from Georgia, right? He said, "You cannot lead the people unless you love the people."

• 29:52Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm, I love that quote. That's beautiful.

• 29:54Speaker 01

  And you cannot love the people unless you know the people. And you cannot know the people unless you walk among the people.

• 29:59Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 30:00Speaker 01

  And I think that's, it's a whole philosophy of leadership right there.

• 30:04Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 30:05Speaker 01

  And so, uh, so yeah, I think every leader, what it takes is, I tell leaders, because sometimes they read the books and they read the financial analysis of these companies doing well and so, okay, let's do it. You know?

• 30:17Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 30:17Speaker 01

  And I said, "Well, if you only do it because you anticipate the financial performance, it probably will not work."

• 30:23Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 30:24Speaker 01

  You have to want to do this for the right reasons. It has to come from here, not just from here.

• 30:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 30:29Speaker 01

  You have to believe in these things, that these are not tactics, these are tenets.

• 30:33Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 30:33Speaker 01

  The tenets of conscious capitalism. A tenet is a pillar of fundamental belief, that you believe that purpose matters in a human life. That you believe that the well-being of everybody is inherently important. Not just what can they do for me.

• 30:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 30:46Speaker 01

  Right? For example, some years ago, there was a cover story on Harvard Business Review and they had that, you know, that yellow smiley faces you used to see everywhere? And it said, "The economics of happiness."

• 30:55Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, I remember that. I remember that one exactly.

• 30:57Speaker 01

  Yeah. And it showed that happiness is profitable.

• 31:00Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 31:01Speaker 01

  Happy employees are more productive and you know, all the, you can imagine. So a lot of CEOs suddenly said, "Oh my God, we need happiness around here. What do we need? Do we need beer on Fridays? Do we need pushbowl tables?"

• 31:10Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, exactly.

• 31:12Speaker 01

  So, but it's instrumental. They want people to be happy because it's gonna make them more money. Now, people can tell when you care about them.

• 31:18Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 31:18Speaker 01

  Worse is, you just wanna use them in a more efficient way, right? So the analogy I use is like asking somebody to marry you.

• 31:25Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 31:25Speaker 01

  And she says, "Why do you wanna marry me?" I said, "Well, I read that married men live five years longer." And they make thirty percent more income in their lifetime, so there's a great business case to get married, right?

• 31:35Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's so true.

• 31:36Speaker 01

  Now, we should marry for love and we should do these things from love. So I ask leaders, "Search in your own heart. Are you really ready to do this? Are you gen-"?" Because otherwise, all you're gonna do is create more cynicism in your people. People are already burned and they've been, you know, flavor of the month, you know, all kinds of business, things come and go. If you genuinely believe in this and if you have the courageous patience to stick with it, because it takes time.

• 31:59Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 32:00Speaker 01

  And there's some investment involved upfront, but over time, then you start to see the dramatic impact and it sustains itself. But you have to do the right things for the right reasons. And that's where this wears into spirituality as well. This is really an expression of your spiritual being at work.

• 32:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's true.

• 32:16Speaker 01

  And, and I've recently written a white paper called "The Sacred Roots of Conscious Capitalism." And I looked at all the major religious traditions of the world.

• 32:23Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 32:23Speaker 01

  Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Islam, uh, et cetera, Christianity. And the, in the teachings of all of these wisdom traditions are completely aligned with the principles of conscious capitalism. There, and also indigenous wisdom around the world.

• 32:38Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 32:38Speaker 01

  There's no wisdom tradition in the world that teaches anything remotely like shareholder value. Profit maximization is the purpose of one, of what you, of your work.

• 32:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  No.

• 32:47Speaker 01

  Right? Except there's, there's something called the prosperity gospel in the U.S.

• 32:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 32:51Speaker 01

  You know, if you see all these televangelists on TV, Joel Osteen and others.

• 32:55Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 32:55Speaker 01

  They, they celebrate money and if you're not making money, that means you're not a good Christian.

• 32:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's so interesting, right?

• 32:59Speaker 01

  You know, they've corrupt, this is the ultimate corruption.

• 33:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 33:02Speaker 01

  They've taken something holy and sacred and made it all mercenary. And they said, "Give me more money so I can buy another jet."

• 33:07Dr. Darshan Shah?

  I know.

• 33:08Speaker 01

  You know, that's their lifestyle.

• 33:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right on stage, yeah.

• 33:11Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, so it's, it's a little nuts.

• 33:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  It's nuts, yeah. You know, um, wha- what are some of the companies that are doing it right, right now, that you see out there? That are practicing conscious capitalism?

• 33:20Speaker 01

  Whole Foods has been a good example of it.

• 33:22Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure, that's a great one, yeah.

• 33:23Speaker 01

  It did get acquired by Amazon for other reasons. That's a structural issue in our financial markets with activist investors, but they really were the poster child in many ways. Southwest Airlines for a very long time was that. I think under the current leader. What happens with conscious companies just like with conscious, with human beings, it's one thing to awaken, it's another thing to stay awake.

• 33:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 33:43Speaker 01

  Right? Because you can slide back into the old patterns.

• 33:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Very true.

• 33:46Speaker 01

  Or as a company, you get another CEO and suddenly they are beholden to Wall Street.

• 33:50Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 33:50Speaker 01

  Or they were educated at Chicago and they, all they care about is, is the bottom line, shareholder value, et cetera. So the wrong kind of leader who doesn't have the moral courage or the personal power to stick with the principles that define this company and make it unique and give it a soul, you know, you can very, very quickly, uh, slide back. Costco is a very good company of, example of a company that has sustained it so far.

• 34:13Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 34:14Speaker 01

  Right? They have very, very strong principles about what they do for their employees, for their customers, for their suppliers, et cetera. And everybody loves them.

• 34:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 34:22Speaker 01

  Trader Joe is another company that everybody loves, from here actually, right? Originated around here.

• 34:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 34:27Speaker 01

  Patagonia in San Diego is an incredible company. We're starting to see some of the newer companies like, uh, I think Anthropic.

• 34:33Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 34:34Speaker 01

  Among the AI companies, uh, with the brother sister founders of the company. I think they have values, they have principles, they have a moral compass about what they're doing, a sense of purpose. I think in many ways, Nvidia and Jensen Huang.

• 34:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 34:46Speaker 01

  Very mission-driven company and mission is the boss, as he says. Canva is another company I think that is pretty conscious. Now, I'm talking about some of the newer companies.

• 34:57Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 34:57Speaker 01

  Microsoft is an interesting example of a company that was

• 35:00Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 35:00Speaker 01

  very ruthless, very aggressive, almost a monopolist. And trying to be even more of a monopolist under Gates and then Bomer.

• 35:08Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 35:08Speaker 01

  And a very aggressive culture and, uh, you know, people yelling at each other and screaming at each other and zero emotional intelligence to be found. And then Satya Nadella comes along and becomes CEO and he's completely a different kind of a leader.

• 35:19Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 35:20Speaker 01

  And, and he brought his own being into, into this leadership and created this, the culture of empathy.

• 35:26Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 35:27Speaker 01

  You know, he had a special needs son, like I do, and that taught him a lot of empathy.

• 35:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Wow.

• 35:31Speaker 01

  And started to, you know, be able, and bring that into the culture of the organization, have empathy with our, with each other and with our customers. How are we gonna solve people's problems if you don't actually feel them?

• 35:41Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 35:41Speaker 01

  Right? And so a, a growth mindset, a culture of empathy, a culture of caring, a new purpose. Bill Gates had that vision for a computer on every desk, but that got realized.

• 35:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 35:52Speaker 01

  In the early two thousands. So what do you do now, you know? They say, "What will the preacher do when the devil is converted?"

• 35:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That is so true.

• 36:00Speaker 01

  You're out of a job.

• 36:01Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Exactly, I love it.

• 36:03Speaker 01

  So they had to, uh, but Bomer for fourteen years was CEO after Gates and he never thought of it. He's a NP, Stanford MBA guy, right? All he cared about was bottom line, profit. And the culture really, I mean, the, the company really deteriorated in those years. And Satya brought in a fresh sense of purpose.

• 36:18Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 36:18Speaker 01

  And that company just took off. I mean, everybody thought Microsoft was yesterday's news.

• 36:22Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 36:23Speaker 01

  And they dramatically went from three hundred billion to three trillion in market value.

• 36:26Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 36:27Speaker 01

  In a decade. You know, so, so leadership matters and consciousness matters. And you unlock value. Where does value come from? It comes from inside human beings, what they do.

• 36:37Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 36:37Speaker 01

  You know, it's like when we first figured out how to unlock the, the energy inside an atom, it literally blew us away.

• 36:44Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 36:45Speaker 01

  When we unlock the energy inside human beings, it, it, it's manifesting to the world in dramatic ways, not just in market capitalization, but all other ways as well.

• 36:56Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 36:56Speaker 01

  The well-being of people and the flourishing of life.

• 36:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, beautifully said, beautifully said.

• 37:04Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Dr. Shah here, and I wanna take a quick moment to talk to you about metabolism. So, you've probably already heard, unfortunately, eighty-eight percent of Americans are metabolically unhealthy. And it's not because of what they're eating. It's actually a lot about what's living in your gut. I'm talking about your microbiome. This is the community of bacteria that controls everything, from how you process sugar, to your energy levels, to your mood. There's actually one specific strain in your microbiome called Akkermansia mucinophilia that's absolutely critical for metabolic health. This is a bacteria that strengthens your gut lining. It helps you metabolize carbs more efficiently and it increases GLP-1 production naturally.

• 37:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  The problem is, almost everybody is completely deficient in it. And until recently, there was no way to get this. But that's why I'm really excited about joining Pendulum. They're the first company in the U.S. to bring live Akkermansia to the market. The company was founded by PhD scientists and doctors with the Mayo Clinic as their first investor. The metabolic daily formula that I take every single day doesn't just contain Akkermansia, it's formulated with multiple next-generation strains. And these all work together to optimize your metabolism from the inside and out. So you can track every macro and calorie if you want, but if your gut microbiome is out of balance, you're gonna be fighting an uphill battle. Pendulum is gonna give you the tools that you need to fix your gut at its source.

• 38:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Try Pendulum today. Head to my link below and use the discount code. You're gonna feel the difference a healthy gut microbiome can make.

• 38:45Dr. Darshan Shah?

  You know, I love the movement that you are instrumental in starting conscious capitalism. And now you're speaking a lot about leaders and how to heal yourself as a leader, right? And so we have your next book here about the recovery of self. And you have a seven step program here. What are leaders healing from?

• 39:05Speaker 01

  Yeah, there's many ways in which we need healing. We are kind of fragmented beings. We're not connected to all of our inner energies, you know, the masculine feminine side, as I mentioned earlier. There are many other things. So this book really came out of my realization in 2018. So I was writing a book called Healing Organization.

• 39:23Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, okay.

• 39:24Speaker 01

  That was around the idea that I mentioned earlier, that business, as we normally do it, creates suffering. And most people, you know, they say that you will believe it when you see it. Most people don't realize that our people are burned out, that, you know, people are disengaged, that people are getting heart attacks, that all these things are happening. We are affecting not only them, but their children and the future. So that book was about the idea that business does not have to hurt people or the planet to make money. In fact, the opposite must be and can be true, that you can actually create more successful businesses while creating flourishing for people, for your employees, for your customers, for communities and on the world at large. So there was 20 stories of companies in there that are doing just that.

• 40:06Speaker 01

  And then I had these four women friends, Lynn Twist was one of them and three others who I had interviewed for that book. And they called me and they said, are you writing a book about healing? What about your own healing? Are you working on your own healing? And I said, well, I don't have time for that. I have a book deadline. I said, no, you have to make time for that. I said, well, I think I'm okay. I don't think I need healing. They said, no, you need healing. Everybody needs healing. And so I delayed that book by five months and I went on all these healing experiences.

• 40:34Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Did they sense that you needed healing?

• 40:36Speaker 01

  Yeah, because they know me at a very deep level. We have deep conversations. We're part of the conscious capitalism world, you know? And they knew I was getting burned out in many ways. I had purpose, but I didn't have inner peace. And I had all this trauma I was carrying around. I had tremendous trauma in my own life, in my family, my parents had trauma, my lineage, we have trauma, et cetera. And so I took five months, literally. I'd never done that before, you know? I took time, I went to the Himalayas. We had a journey, the Shakti Spiritual Tours, my co-author Nilimar organizes. We went to the high Himalayas on the border of India and Tibet, where there's all of this deep Buddhist wisdom, right? All these monasteries, that's where I had my 60th birthday.

• 41:17Speaker 01

  I went to a silent retreat in upstate New York and four days of silence, I received incredible downloads from the universe or, you know, some higher power. I had 45 pages of notes, including the outline of this book, came to me in those four days. I worked with a coach for the first time who had really reframed my whole journey for me as to what it was really about. I was 60 that year. She said, you realize you spent 45 years trying to impress your father?

• 41:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, gosh, it's true for many people, I think.

• 41:46Speaker 01

  And now you spend the last 15 honoring your mother with your work. And everything you've done in this world of conscious capitalism and forms of endearment and everybody matters and all of these things are a reflection of her energy, mother energy, which is missing. We have too much father energy out there. It becomes unhealthy. We need that mother caring, compassion, empathy, nurturing, inclusion. Those are the more human aspects of what it means to be a human being. And then I went to the Amazon rainforest with a group called the Pachamama Alliance, Lynn Twist. And, you know, she told me, you're going to learn more in 10 days in the Amazon than you will learn in five years of research about healing from the shamans, you know, from being in nature, being in the rainforest, being with the Achuar and the Zapara indigenous

• 42:31Speaker 01

  people and actually having an ayahuasca experience as part of that as well. I got incredible insights from all of that. So that was my journey of healing, working on my own healing or starting that journey. And as I said, these steps came to me at that time that if you have, in order to have a healing organization, you have to start with the leaders. Because you cannot have a healing organization from a leader who is actually hasn't worked on their own being.

• 42:56Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right, absolutely.

• 42:57Speaker 01

  Because the macrocosm is a reflection of the microcosm. It's an amplification of what's in here gets manifested out there. So a leader who hasn't worked on themselves will inflict suffering in the world, on themselves and others. And so these steps that came to me in the silent retreat were know yourself. You have to know who you are, not only the surface level identity that you have taken on, right? We can all say, well, I'm Indian and I'm an engineer and I'm a professor and I'm liberal or I'm conservative or a man or woman. You know, we have all of those demographic descriptors. That's not you. Those are identities that you have. I'm Hindu versus Christian, whatever it is, right? Who's the real you? What's your essence? As we say in India, what's your nature, your swabhav, right? What were you? Who were you before you were born?

• 43:42Speaker 01

  As Father Richard Rohr says, like, because this being came in here with a unique set of qualities and way of being, different from every other. You know, eight billion of us alive today, 109 billion have died already, human beings. No two are alike. So you have to know who you are at a deep level, right? Your essence, your nature, your what really matters to you. Get past always like the layers of an onion, you have to keep going deeper and deeper. So know yourself deeply. And that's a quest you will continue your whole life. You will keep uncovering new layers of yourself as you encounter different things in life. Love yourself is the next step. It is not automatic that people who know themselves love themselves. A lot of people, the more they know themselves, the more they hate themselves.

• 44:25Speaker 01

  It happened to some degree for me because until I was seven, I had no awareness of who I am and what I'm like. But then my father comes into my life, having not known me. And my father, we come from the warrior caste in India and we come from a very feudal version of that called the Rajputs, right? And my grandfather was the overlord of the village and where, you know, it's like a very sort of dictatorial kind of an environment with the people who work there and within the family, very abusive environment as well, hyper patriarchal, misogynistic almost. And my father very much was of that. He was had that energy. And I was much more like my mother. So my father sees me as this very trusting, idealistic, peace-loving kid kind of in his head. And he said, you can't trust anybody. You should, you know, don't trust anybody.

• 45:10Speaker 01

  You can't be idealist, you need to be pragmatic. You're too peace-loving, you need to be rough and tough. And you're in your head and you're smart at school, but that doesn't matter, you need to be street smart. So I came to believe that everything about me was a weakness, was a flaw, that I was defective and that it's, and you know, your father is a larger than life figure and especially him, coming back from Canada, he was welcomed with like a 50 mile parade of cars and banners everywhere and bands playing and I'll come back, Dr. Sissari, I was like a giant in my eyes and for many people. And so for me, it's like, oh my God, my father is saying it, that's the voice of God. And so for a long time in my life, I was denying my own true nature and trying to fit in and be somebody else, be what my father wanted me to be. It's called people pleasing, but to the nth degree, right?

• 45:54Speaker 01

  Become the son that he wished he had instead of what he got. And so it took me decades to really recognize that what I have are not weaknesses, those are my strengths, that my trusting nature, my idealism, without idealism, there would be no conscious capitalism. And all of those qualities are actually part of what I'm meant to bring to this collective puzzle that we're all part of, right? That, you know, there's a parable that somebody prays to God and said, God, please make me like Abraham. And God says, I already have Abraham. What I need is you to be you. So all of us need to be, but we need to be the most healed version of ourselves, right? But first we have to start, once you love yourself, then you can start to evolve yourself.

• 46:38Speaker 01

  So love yourself. If you don't love yourself, then you won't take care of yourself. Why do people eat what they know is bad for them? And we do all kinds of sabotage our own.

• 46:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Self-destructive activities.

• 46:47Speaker 01

  If you don't love yourself, then you do that. In a way, you're trying to destroy yourself. And 80 to 90% of people don't love themselves, according to Bruce Lipton.

• 46:55Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's true.

• 46:55Speaker 01

  And also, when you don't love yourself, you can't receive the love of somebody else.

• 46:58Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Eighty, 90%.

• 46:59Speaker 01

  That's what Bruce Lipton says. He's a doctor. And when you don't love yourself, you cannot receive the love of another because you don't feel worthy of love. So if you're not worthy of your own love and somebody else says, I love you, sir, you don't actually know me. Once you know me, all that, you'll get rid of all that, right? So love yourself is, and that's practicing self-compassion. We forgive others, we don't forgive ourselves for things, right? So much there.

• 47:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes, having a, you know, time for self-care. Even if you don't make time for yourself and treat your body well, you're never going to be successful in life. And a lot of people don't make any time for that.

• 47:36Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah, that's the lowest priority. You are your most important stakeholder. You're responsible for yourself. It's not your children, it's not your spouse, it's you, you're responsible, right? And then, of course, the other part of that, not loving yourself, as Francis Meehan said, men are at war with each other because every man is at war with himself. So when you have that inner conflict and that lack of, if you look at all of the tyrants and dictators and people who inflict violence and suffering in the world, this comes from a deep lack of self-love and that may have come from their parents or whatever it is, right? Wherever it comes from. So love yourself. Third is be yourself. Once you know who you are and you love yourself, now you have full permission, your job is not to act, to take off all those masks, because all of us are trying to be, pretending to be somebody, right? We are different with our parents and different with our children and different at work and

• 48:20Speaker 01

  different at home and different with our friends, et cetera. No, just be the same person at all times. I think Gandhi was the ultimate of this, you know? He is the same person, whether he's with King George or whether he's with an untouchable person that he used to go and stay with, you know? He is the same person with everybody, right? And he's just being who he is, who he's cultivated himself to be. So be yourself. And the fourth one is choose yourself, which is basically choosing your past, your present and your future. Now, what does it mean to choose your past? You cannot change your past. You cannot change your parents. You can't change all the stuff that happened. It's all in the past, but... You can choose it. You can say, you know what, if I could, I would choose it again.

• 49:01Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 49:01Speaker 01

  I would choose to have my special needs son. I would choose to be born into that warrior family. I would choose to have that distant and dominating father.

• 49:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 49:09Speaker 01

  Because that were, those were lessons I needed to learn. Like if I did not grow up in that kind of an environment where the women were subdued, uh, suppressed and abused. Would I have written a book about the feminine fifty years later?

• 49:22Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 49:23Speaker 01

  Probably not. Why would I as a man write a book about the feminine unless I had experienced something?

• 49:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 49:29Speaker 01

  Is what Viktor Frankl calls finding meaning in your suffering.

• 49:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 49:32Speaker 01

  And turning that into something, right? And so choosing your past releases you from victimhood. I would, I would say, why is my father, I never, my father never picked me up, never said I love you, never hugged me, right? I don't remember that ever as a child or even. So I would say my, my friends' fathers are so kind and loving and I, I used to be in that mode of woe is me, right? Uh, and that doesn't serve us to go through life as a victim. So when you choose, uh, the metaphor is that silent retreat when it was time to eat and, you know, because nobody could communicate. They just gave you a bunch of food.

• 50:04Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 50:05Speaker 01

  You know, you could say, I like this, I don't, don't give me more. No, here's this, this is your. Right? It looks bitter, it tastes bitter, it looks unappetizing. This is your curriculum. You need all of this. You can't choose.

• 50:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 50:15Speaker 01

  Life doesn't give you a menu or a buffet. I, I want this kind of mother, this kind of father, this religion, this country, this time in history, this socioeconomic status. No, you, you're given a tray full of stuff and this is what you.

• 50:26Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 50:26Speaker 01

  Are supposed to go through in order to become and evolve into the being you're meant to be and do the work you're supposed to do here. So treat it all as a gift.

• 50:34Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 50:35Speaker 01

  Everybody here is a teacher, everybody in your past, friend of, there's no friend, there's no foe. They're all your teachers and every experience is there to teach you something if you choose to. And so choose your past, choose your present is living with gratitude and choosing your future is saying yes to the journey of life, to the adventure of life, to the hero's journey.

• 50:51Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 50:52Speaker 01

  You know, Joseph Campbell has a classic framework called the hero's journey.

• 50:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 50:55Speaker 01

  And all the big movies like Harry Potter and Star Wars and Hunger Games and Lord of the Rings are all based upon that same trajectory. We are the heroes of our own life if we say yes to that call to adventure. Or we can stay in our little cocoon and just live our life without actually ever venturing out and, uh, and risking anything.

• 51:14Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 51:15Speaker 01

  We have to choose growth over safety.

• 51:16Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 51:17Speaker 01

  You know, if you always choose safety, you will never grow. You might as well be dying, right? So going on that hero's journey and that takes you to the next step of express yourself. What is your purpose? Why are you here? They say the two most important days of your life, the day you're born and the day you finally figure out why you were born.

• 51:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 51:33Speaker 01

  Why are you here? And so what is that purpose? That will give meaning and fulfillment and joy as Viktor Frankl is the great teacher on that man's search for meaning.

• 51:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 51:42Speaker 01

  Right?

• 51:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  It's a great book.

• 51:44Speaker 01

  The most important book I've ever read, uh, the most impactful for me and, uh, and so finding that purpose and living is very important. So that's expressing yourself and then completing yourself, which is, don't be a fractional human being. We all come from a mother and a father. We have mother energy and father energy.

• 52:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 52:02Speaker 01

  Just because you were born a boy or a girl doesn't mean you limit yourself and say, I'm a boy, therefore I can never be loving or emotional. I'm a girl, therefore I cannot be strong, right? As Martin Luther King said, we must be tough minded and tender hearted. And we have that, the yin yang symbol, you see the masculine has feminine inside it and. Carl Jung said, every man has an inner woman, every woman has an inner man. And so we need to become whole persons.

• 52:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 52:27Speaker 01

  So that we integrate both of those sides of our being.

• 52:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 52:30Speaker 01

  Regardless of what gender we were born into.

• 52:33Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 52:34Speaker 01

  And then we go beyond masculine feminine to also two other energies that we have, which is the elder and the child.

• 52:39Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 52:39Speaker 01

  We have access to our higher self, to our divine self, to our wise elder in a way that has access to wisdom and meaning and purpose and transcendence. All of those come from the elder energy. And then we have an inner child, which is the source of joy, laughter, play, fun, creativity, innovation. All come from child energy, curiosity. And most of us lose connection with that child or we have a wounded inner child. And we never healed those childhood wounds. And so if we integrate all four of those, we become what we call the wise fool of tough love.

• 53:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  The wise fool of tough love.

• 53:13Speaker 01

  You have the wisdom of the elder.

• 53:14Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 53:15Speaker 01

  You have the foolishness, playfulness, innocence of a child. You have the toughness of the masculine and you have the unconditional love of the feminine.

• 53:23Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's beautiful.

• 53:24Speaker 01

  And each of us, regardless of gender, can be our own unique versions of a wise fool of tough love. Gandhi was that.

• 53:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 53:31Speaker 01

  The Dalai Lama is that.

• 53:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 53:33Speaker 01

  Herb Kelly, who ran Southwest Airlines for many years, very much that.

• 53:36Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 53:37Speaker 01

  The, all the greatest human beings that I've ever met have all four of those qualities.

• 53:41Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Qualities.

• 53:42Speaker 01

  They have the wisdom, but they don't take themselves so seriously. They're able to laugh. The Dalai Lama will give you a beautiful answer to a deep question. And then he giggles and says, otherwise I don't know.

• 53:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 53:55Speaker 01

  So I think cultivating, how can you become your own version of a wise fool of tough love? And then the last step is heal yourself, which is heal your psychological wounds and traumas. You know, about thirteen million Americans have been diagnosed with PTSD.

• 54:07Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 54:07Speaker 01

  But I believe every single human has PTSD, post traumatic stress injury. Life is hard. Traumas happen to all of us. Every child goes through some version of the trauma where they get pushed out of the sandbox or the playground and the, the trauma is, I don't belong.

• 54:22Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 54:23Speaker 01

  Right? Or you hear your parents express disappointment in you in some fashion, right? Oh, I wish.

• 54:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 54:31Speaker 01

  This kid was whatever. Then the imprint is I'm not enough, which is why I wear this bracelet here from Blake Mikowski. It's called enough.

• 54:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Ah.

• 54:41Speaker 01

  He started a whole movement around the idea that too many, even people who are incredibly successful in life, they go through feeling I'm not enough.

• 54:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 54:47Speaker 01

  Because somewhere they got that programming at an early age.

• 54:50Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 54:51Speaker 01

  You know, I think Neha says this, that be careful what you say to your children.

• 54:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 54:55Speaker 01

  As a parent, because your outer voice to them becomes their inner voice the rest of their life.

• 55:00Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Your outer voice becomes their inner voice. That's so true.

• 55:02Speaker 01

  To them becomes their inner voice. Now, can you make it a positive inner voice? What a gift to give your children to have a positive inner voice, right? And so we all have trauma. Now, what do we do? What do we do? We said, oh, listen, I did not go to Afghanistan. I didn't go to Iraq. I was not a first responder. So yeah, I had, you know, life is hard. Other people had much, they had real trauma.

• 55:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 55:22Speaker 01

  Just because somebody else had a more severe form of trauma, doesn't mean that your trauma is irrelevant.

• 55:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 55:28Speaker 01

  The fact is that it is driving you. As Carl Jung said, until you make the unconscious conscious, it will run your life and you will call it fate.

• 55:36Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Uh huh.

• 55:36Speaker 01

  You have no idea why do you react to things, overreact when somebody calls you something or some situation happens. You get triggered, you get amygdala hijacks. Where are those triggers? Where, when, when were those minds planted through life experiences? And if you don't understand that and start to heal it, you're going to go through life in a reactive state. You will inflict suffering on yourself and everybody that you touch. You have a duty. As we say, your trauma is not your fault, but healing it is your responsibility.

• 56:06Dr. Darshan Shah?

  It's so true.

• 56:07Speaker 01

  Otherwise you create suffering in the world.

• 56:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 56:10Speaker 01

  You cannot be the source of suffering in this world.

• 56:11Dr. Darshan Shah?

  I think people live with their traumas and suppress them.

• 56:14Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:14Dr. Darshan Shah?

  For their entire life and don't make any effort towards healing them.

• 56:19Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:20Dr. Darshan Shah?

  And, um, they do, they, they, the trauma translates into other people's suffering due to their traumas.

• 56:25Speaker 01

  Right. And they say, you know, it's kind of a victim mentality, right? This happened to me, therefore this is the rest of my life. I'm going to be like this.

• 56:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Exactly.

• 56:33Speaker 01

  Right? And I think that's a real, you know, we have the ability as human beings to grow and evolve and change and learn, right? And so we have to acknowledge first of all trauma. So what do most people do with trauma? As you said, they deny it.

• 56:45Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 56:46Speaker 01

  Right? Or they minimize it.

• 56:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 56:48Speaker 01

  But then they have to live with themselves, so they numb it. And our society is designed for numbing mechanisms.

• 56:54Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 56:54Speaker 01

  You can walk down the street and have twenty different numbing experiences, right? From donuts to marijuana to alcohol to, uh, right?

• 57:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Every store is, uh, every other store is a numbing experience.

• 57:05Speaker 01

  Our whole society is based upon helping us numb and, and kind of, you know, deal with our stress. So, but then you, so yeah, you have a few hours of, you know, feeling better.

• 57:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 57:16Speaker 01

  Well, this was my father every day of his life. I mean, he had to have four or five drinks.

• 57:19Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 57:19Speaker 01

  Before he would lighten up a little bit. You would see him smile and, you know.

• 57:23Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 57:24Speaker 01

  And but then that would wear off, you know, every drink wears off in fifteen minutes, right?

• 57:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 57:28Speaker 01

  You need another one. And then you would need a sleeping pill to go to sleep.

• 57:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 57:31Speaker 01

  Cause he had incredible un, unacknowledged trauma.

• 57:34Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 57:35Speaker 01

  In his life.

• 57:36Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, especially living in that environment.

• 57:37Speaker 01

  Oh yeah. And there were some horrible things that happened in that village.

• 57:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 57:40Speaker 01

  An honor killing that happened within our family.

• 57:42Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh wow.

• 57:43Speaker 01

  None of his sisters was killed, you know, because she got pregnant or was raped actually.

• 57:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, it's terrible.

• 57:49Speaker 01

  And so, so that's kind of the destructive way to deal with trauma.

• 57:52Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 57:53Speaker 01

  But the, the healthier constructive way, Neha uses the phrase reveal it and feel it in order to heal it. Talk about it.

• 58:00Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 58:00Speaker 01

  Nothing ever heals in silence.

• 58:03Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 58:03Speaker 01

  No trauma will ever heal if you don't talk about it to anybody.

• 58:05Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Hmm.

• 58:06Speaker 01

  To a therapist, to a friend, to family members, or you can write a book about it like I did, you know? But it has to be brought out. Sun, sunlight is what you need in order to heal things, right? So reveal it and allow yourself to feel it. That's what most people are afraid. I don't want to revisit that episode, that chapter in my life. I don't want to go back there. And nowadays I think we have modalities, you know, psychedelics being one of them.

• 58:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 58:28Speaker 01

  That are MDMA, for example, which are helping people to surface those traumas and actually be present with them and process them and go through them and, and, and, and in a way, release them.

• 58:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 58:40Speaker 01

  But if you're never willing to go there, it's just locked up, then it's never, as I said, the body keeps the score. It'll hold on to that thing, right?

• 58:46Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 58:47Speaker 01

  So reveal it and feel it and, and order to allow yourself to ultimately heal it. And we have many modalities, as you well know.

• 58:52Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 58:53Speaker 01

  We are living in a golden age of trauma therapy and.

• 58:55Dr. Darshan Shah?

  We are finally.

• 58:57Speaker 01

  Yeah, Gabor Maté's work is incredible in this.

• 58:59Dr. Darshan Shah?

  I love Gabor Maté's work, yeah.

• 59:01Speaker 01

  And so, so that's the, that's the process. And then there's a beautiful gift waiting on the other side, which is called post traumatic growth.

• 59:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Talk about that.

• 59:09Speaker 01

  You are stronger because you had a trauma and healed it.

• 59:12Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 59:12Speaker 01

  Than somebody who never had a trauma in the first place.

• 59:15Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 59:15Speaker 01

  So the people who go through life and they sail through life and nothing bad ever happens and they never get challenged and stressed and but they're not the strongest people.

• 59:22Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 59:22Speaker 01

  They haven't learned.

• 59:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 59:24Speaker 01

  The hard lessons. So the Japanese have a beautiful metaphor. I'm sure you've seen kintsugi.

• 59:28Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Kintsugi.

• 59:29Speaker 01

  The art of precious car. So when a piece of pottery breaks, you don't throw it away. You put it back together and you use gold dust and glue to put it back together. And now it's a work of art, but now if you drop it, it won't break because you have strengthened it precisely where it was most vulnerable.

• 59:43Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Wow.

• 59:44Speaker 01

  Right? You've created those. Just like when you have bones breaking, very often they heal back stronger than they were before the fracture happened, right? So that's what can happen to us. When we heal our traumas, we become that source of strength. We become that wounded healer, previously wounded healer for others.

• 1:00:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:00:02Speaker 01

  Because we understand what they're going through and we know how to navigate through it. So that's really the process of those seven steps. And I think all human beings need to do that. The book is called Healing Leaders, but it really could have been called

• 1:00:14Dr. Darshan Shah?

  For anybody, right?

• 1:00:15Speaker 01

  Healing Humans, right? But the publisher wanted the word leaders in there for marketing reasons.

• 1:00:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  You're marketing again. You know, I was listening to you this whole time and I didn't want to interrupt you because I feel that the way you explain the introduction to every step in the process, it's so beautiful. And I feel like every step relates back to the previous step and is done in such a way that it's a structure almost. And I think going through this book gives people that structure to heal themselves, right? And so I didn't want to interrupt you because I wanted everyone on this podcast that's listening to have that and to hear that from you and to, even if they can't get the book, to have that structure because it's incredibly powerful, incredibly powerful that what you've put together there. So thank you for giving us that.

• 1:01:00Speaker 01

  Well, thank you. And you know, as I said, I don't claim pride of authorship because it came through me, not from me.

• 1:01:06Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 1:01:06Speaker 01

  And I think there's some deeper power that when things come through you, as I said in the silent retreat, these were downloads that I received.

• 1:01:13Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:01:14Speaker 01

  And I just wrote them down. And so there was power there. And I think all of us are instruments of that which seeks to immerse into the world.

• 1:01:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah, absolutely.

• 1:01:22Speaker 01

  Through our being. Okay, there are ideas and things floating around and they land on you for whatever reason. You're meant to bring them into the world.

• 1:01:29Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 1:01:29Speaker 01

  So it's just a gift, I think, that came through me. Another one which I'd love to share is the Amazon rainforest experience in the ayahuasca.

• 1:01:36Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 1:01:37Speaker 01

  Another gift that came through me. So I went there to learn about healing.

• 1:01:40Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:01:41Speaker 01

  Because I was writing that book about healing. And so what do I need to know? I learn about, of course, we are part of nature and we've forgotten that in the Western world. We think we come into this planet, we come out of this planet, we are literally made of soil.

• 1:01:52Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:01:52Speaker 01

  Right? Without soil, we're not sitting here, right? And yet we've separated ourselves and therefore we are in the process of killing our own mother.

• 1:02:00Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 1:02:00Speaker 01

  Right? This planet.

• 1:02:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  The earth, right.

• 1:02:02Speaker 01

  Recognize you are as much a part of nature as a tree or a bee.

• 1:02:06Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Absolutely.

• 1:02:08Speaker 01

  But the other main vision that I got that night with ayahuasca, I was, I was lying there. It was a lunar eclipse night on the edge, banks of an enormous river with a shaman in the headgear and all of that. Very, very sort of a sacred experience.

• 1:02:24Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:02:25Speaker 01

  And I got this vision and as I mentioned, I make acronyms for things, right? So I got this voice saying to me, here's what the world needs in order to heal. And it came as a word called the list. Here's the list.

• 1:02:36Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Okay.

• 1:02:36Speaker 01

  Here's the list, right? And this is what individuals and countries and companies need in order to heal.

• 1:02:44Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Give us the list.

• 1:02:45Speaker 01

  And the list, L for love. Everything we do in life should come from love. There are many ways we can hurt each other. There's only one way to heal and that is through love. So make sure that every single decision you make, just keep reminding yourself, I'm coming from love right now. Every time you find yourself getting a little agitated or upset, whatever it is, it's a great reminder. I do that constantly. You have to nudge yourself back into that.

• 1:03:09Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:03:10Speaker 01

  That.

• 1:03:10Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That state of mind.

• 1:03:11Speaker 01

  Yeah. I for innocence. We are all born innocent and pristine into this life. And then we get corrupted by the ways of the world, often by our own families. My family in India corrupted me deeply in many ways by the example that's in the way they treated people and the way they lived, right? Everything is a means to an end. You can lie and cheat and say whatever. We had all these privileges, you know, and we could just bribe the police and you know, whatever, whatever needs to be, do what. We lose our innocence. We get corrupted. Media, everything, you know? We use our intelligence to climb over each other, compete with each other.

• 1:03:47Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 1:03:48Speaker 01

  Come first in class, right? Lie and cheat to get what you want. Now, you don't have a choice as a child. You're born innocent and you get corrupted. You're kind of receiving all of that. But as an adult, you do have a choice. Therefore, you must choose.

• 1:04:01Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:04:02Speaker 01

  Are you going to remain in that corrupted state for the rest of your life? Or are you going to return to innocence? What does it mean to return to innocence? It means committing to live in a way that you will not knowingly be the cause of unnecessary harm or suffering.

• 1:04:16Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 1:04:16Speaker 01

  On this planet. Okay?

• 1:04:18Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's a beautiful definition.

• 1:04:19Speaker 01

  And my mother embodied that. Her thing always was, don't cause pain in anybody else's heart. And she lived for 82 years as an innocent soul, never once raised her voice to any of her children or even to the people who worked in the house, anybody.

• 1:04:33Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 1:04:34Speaker 01

  All she did was love and serve. Incredible example of innocence, you know? And you know, as the I Ching says, at the very core of our being, there dwells a divine spirit. And you can never go wrong if you're always guided by that. That's the true you. It's not the you that got created by this father and that grandfather and this media and all of that, right? You got, you got, Frankenstein was created.

• 1:04:56Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:04:56Speaker 01

  Or, you know, was, was this monster was created. So you have to go back to innocence. S for simplicity. Life, we make it too complicated. We have these incredible brains. We are capable of manufacturing so much complexity and we get mired in that complexity, but we forget that the essential things in life are simple.

• 1:05:11Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 1:05:12Speaker 01

  The classic book that everything I needed to know, I learned in kindergarten. So remember what is, what really matters in life. Get to the simplicity on the other side of complexity. Don't be stuck in the mud of complexity. And then the T is for truth. What is our commitment to the truth? Gandhi's autobiography was My Experiments with Truth. And as he said, truth is even more fundamental than peace because without truth, there can be no peace. In South Africa, there was the truth and reconciliation process at the end of apartheid. Without that, they would have had a revenge fueled decades of violence because all the black people who had been oppressed.

• 1:05:45Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 1:05:45Speaker 01

  And, and terribly treated, they would have sought their revenge.

• 1:05:49Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:05:50Speaker 01

  But Nelson Mandela and, and Desmond Tutu had the wisdom to say, we need to create this process where the people who were the oppressors can actively acknowledge the truth of what their actions resulted in, can actually ask for forgiveness and atone and receive that forgiveness and then we can move forward.

• 1:06:07Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 1:06:08Speaker 01

  Truth and reconciliation. Without truth, there's no reconciliation, which is why this country struggles. You know, I'm a citizen of this country. I've been here 45 years, but I see that one of our weaknesses, our blind spots, the inability to apologize for things.

• 1:06:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yeah.

• 1:06:21Speaker 01

  Therefore, our past is always with us.

• 1:06:23Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:06:24Speaker 01

  And we haven't really atoned for slavery or even acknowledged. We said, oh, we fought a civil war. What else do you want?

• 1:06:30Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 1:06:31Speaker 01

  Right? Have you ever acknowledged the pain? Have you ever acknowledged, you know, what, what life was like and is like still? What the indigenous population, the Japanese during World War II, the Mexicans, I mean, what? There's a lot.

• 1:06:44Dr. Darshan Shah?

  There's a lot.

• 1:06:45Speaker 01

  You know, I say that being American means never saying you're sorry, you know, to anybody in the world.

• 1:06:50Dr. Darshan Shah?

  No.

• 1:06:51Speaker 01

  And I think that's, that's a real problem because you cannot heal the past unless you acknowledge it. But the beauty is in this moment, in this moment, you can heal the present and you can heal the past.

• 1:07:02Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Right.

• 1:07:03Speaker 01

  You can put the past to bed and to rest.

• 1:07:05Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Sure.

• 1:07:05Speaker 01

  By acknowledging it, honoring it, right? And then atoning for it, et cetera. So we have to have a deep commitment to the truth. And I think we've lost all connection to truth in our politics.

• 1:07:16Dr. Darshan Shah?

  It seems that way right now.

• 1:07:17Speaker 01

  In politics and business. I mean, what is true? I mean, we talk about facts and alternative facts and you know? So yeah, that's, that's, this is all, I think, a return. So that message again came through me. I believe it's a gift. It says, how can we live with the list?

• 1:07:32Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Yes.

• 1:07:32Speaker 01

  Just keep that, you know, in our minds. I think that would, that would guide us very well.

• 1:07:36Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Another beautiful framework. Thank you so much for those. I'm so glad things are coming, all this incredible advice is coming through you and it's coming through you in the form of acronyms too. Makes it a lot easier.

• 1:07:46Speaker 01

  Oh, I got many more.

• 1:07:49Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's fantastic. Well, Raj, this has been an incredible conversation. I've learned so much today and thank you for speaking from the heart about everything, about conscious capitalism, healing yourself. Definitely, the book is more than just healing leaders. It is about, it's for everybody. And so I really encourage people to pick up this book and read it. Seven Steps to the Recovery of Self. How can people learn more from you?

• 1:08:10Speaker 01

  rajsisodia.com is my website where you get more than you ever needed to know about me and all my books and my work. Yeah, that's primarily it. We do have a podcast of our own called The Conscious Capitalism.

• 1:08:21Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Oh, great. Okay.

• 1:08:22Speaker 01

  And for those who really want to delve into the business side of things, that's a good resource.

• 1:08:27Dr. Darshan Shah?

  That's, that's beautiful. Thank you so much for joining me today.

• 1:08:30Speaker 01

  Thank you for having me.

• 1:08:31Dr. Darshan Shah?

  Thank you.

• 1:08:34Dr. Darshan Shah?

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