Be Seen, Trust Yourself & Become Who You’re Meant to Be with Natalie Ellis, Jen Gottlieb, Lindsey Marie, and Koya Webb

Do you ever feel like you’re waiting to feel ready before you go after the thing you really want? In this special conversation, I’m joined by Natalie Ellis, Jen Gottlieb, Lindsey Marie, and Koya Webb to talk about visibility, intuition, healing, and becoming the woman who can hold the life you’re asking for. We dive into why consistency can create confidence, finding wisdom in your hardest seasons, why vulnerability creates deeper connection, and how to become the version of yourself who already has the life you want. Get ready to trust your own blueprint instead of following someone else’s. Check out our Sponsors: Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at http://Shopify.com/happy. Monarch Money - Get your first year of Monarch Core for half off at http://Monarch.com with code EYH. Northwest Registered Agent - Visit http://northwestregisteredagent.com/EarnFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. Indeed - Indeed is giving Earn Your Happy listeners a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to help get your job the premium status it deserves. Just go to http://Indeed.com/podcast right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on Earn Your Happy. Momentous - If you want to try Momentous Signature Spec Creatine, head to http://livemomentous.com and use code EARN for up to 35% off your entire first order. SmileSet - Listeners of our show get an additional 35% discount when they go to http://SMILESET.com/earn. Faire - Sign up today and get 50% off your first wholesale order, up to $100 at http://faire.com/Happy50. Terms may apply. Life at the Speed of Play - Go to http://getmarksbook.com/earn to get two copies for the price of one—one for you and one for a friend. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 How can you stay regulated in a dysregulated world? 02:45 How one podcast inspired Jen to become more visible. 06:00 What does it really take to stay consistent when no one is watching? 09:15 The Kumar story and the power of authenticity when growing an audience. 14:00 What happens when you stop following someone else’s blueprint? 23:30 What can your wounds teach you about where you need to grow? 29:15 When external success still doesn’t create the freedom you’re looking for. 33:45 How grief led Koya back to breath healing and her highest self. 37:30 Learning to hold both the beautiful and difficult parts of your life. 44:00 Tips to become more vulnerable and create deeper relationships. 48:30 How to become the woman who already has the life you want. 54:30 What happens when you surrender and trust your inner guidance? 58:30 Advice to women who are afraid to be seen and step into their full potential. RESOURCES Get on the waitlist for Mentor Collective Mastermind HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci Follow Natalie: @iamnatalie Follow Lindsey: @lindseymarieofficial Follow Koya: @koyawebb Follow Jen: @jen_gottlieb

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• 2:44Speaker 01

  How many people agree that the world is drastically dysregulating, right? It's like, how can we be regulated in a dysregulated world? We have to use the one free tool that we have that God gave us when we dropped into this human body, which is the breath. At the end of the day, when you drop into your soul, that's what's going to divinely guide you.

• 3:04Speaker 02

  I feel like it's my responsibility to be seen because every day that goes by that you're not going out there and being seen and being visible, talking about what you talk about and helping the people that need your help is another day that those people are going to go follow someone else. So if you feel the pull to create, to share the message, to do the thing, to wear the outfit, you're wearing the outfit might be someone else's permission to do the same. So stop being so stingy. Okay, I love you, but cut that shit out.

• 3:39Speaker 00

  All right, we're so excited you guys are here. Thank you for coming all like all the way. You guys are coming from all over to support us. And I think that those are the most fun text messages is when you, when you're thinking of people and you send them and you're like, they might say no, I don't know, they could say no. And then you get yeses back. And it's like, absolutely. I can't wait. I can't wait to celebrate you. And it's like, that's literally the best feeling as a friend, as a woman, as being supported in business like this. So I know on behalf, behalf, behalf of both of us, we're really grateful that you guys are here. So I'm going to start with Jen. So Jen, we've been talking about this. You're known for being one of the best public speakers out

• 4:22Speaker 00

  there, along with Erin King. Where is she? What, what? But truly one of the best public speakers. I've seen you so many times and it never gets old. You only get better. I can't wait to watch you again. I get to watch you again really soon. But now you have like out of nowhere been growing your social by 30 to 60,000 people a month. Like you are in a race to a million. You're going to be there tomorrow, basically. And it's been Everyone give her a follow if you're not yet. Yeah. Let's get that needle moving. Exactly. And you know, out of all the, how many of you like have people that you watch for inspiration? But it's kind of like you keep saying to yourself, but I can't do it like them. One of the things that I'm really inspired by with Jen is that she's showing

• 5:06Speaker 00

  people, number one, how you can do it like her. And you've found a way that's really authentic and it's giving me so much hope again. So with that said, I would love to know, like, tell me where your passion for the belief of being seen, having people be seen, and also kind of what reignited that came from.

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  Hi, guys.

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  So the fact that we're here celebrating Earn Your Happy is really monumental for me and that you just asked me about being seen and why it's important to be seen and why this means something to me and why I wrote a book about visibility, really because back in the day about almost, I would say about nine years ago, nine years ago, I was a personal trainer. That was my first company back in Manhattan. And I would spend hours and hours and hours walking up and down the streets of New York, just like going to my clients from five in the morning to nine o'clock at night. And I was listening to podcasts, the podcast, the only podcast that I could find. And the only podcast that I could find was this pretty pink podcast that said Earn Your Happy on it with this beautiful blonde girl. And I'm like, oh my gosh. And I look her up on the internet and she's this like

• 6:14Speaker 02

  fitness girl and she's a personal trainer and she's gorgeous and she has a podcast. And I'm like, this is amazing. I want to be her. And I find this girl Lori Harder and she talks to me all day long as I walk up and down the streets of Manhattan. And I remember visualizing, one day I will meet Lori Harder. One day I will know her. What would I even say to her if I met her? I would, she was like a friend in my head. And I would always say to myself, if Lori can do it, I can do it. She had no idea who the hell I was. I was just this girl out there building a business and I would watch her on social media and I would listen to her podcast. And she empowered me without even realizing that she was empowering me, just like Natalie, what you were talking about earlier. Think about the girl that you're helping. Think about that one girl you're talking to. Lori

• 6:58Speaker 02

  had no idea that she was talking to me. And she was empowering me one day at a time because she had the courage to be seen, because she had the courage to pick up the microphone, even though she had anxiety. I didn't know that. I'm like, she's so confident. I need to be more confident like Lori. So because somebody else had the courage to get on a microphone and to talk about whatever the hell she felt like talking about that day, they all weren't perfect, but I loved every single one of them. I loved the imperfect episodes. I felt like someone was there with me. And because she had the courage to do that, I then took her courage and I went out there and I did this. And so you guys, being visible is not, it's not about you, right? I feel like it's my responsibility

• 7:42Speaker 02

  to be seen. Because every day that goes by that you're not going out there and being seen and being visible, talking about what you talk about and helping the people that need your help is another day that those people are going to go follow someone else. Or they're listening to someone else, they'll buy from someone else. That's maybe not as good as you or doesn't care as much as you, maybe is even AI, it's not even a human. Because you were too nervous or worried about what people would think of you. So to answer your question, Lori, the reason that visibility is so important to me is because I've experienced it firsthand. You being seen, writing your books, doing your podcasts, gave me the courage to do this. And now I can help other people too. And like I secretly manifested my best friend.

• 8:24Speaker 00

  Thank God. Thank God. If someone is out there waiting for you to be their best friend. So go be seen, would you? But the second part of that question I'd really like to know is also, and thank you so much for that. And it's filmed, everybody. So I get to watch it back again and again and again. The second part is what ignited this like second portion of what's happening right now? Cause it's been, I mean, you've been at this for a while, but there was a shift. So tell me a little bit about the shift, why you fell back in love with social and what's happening.

• 8:55Speaker 02

  I did not, I mean, I've been doing this for a really long time, you guys. I've been going live on Instagram every single day for five, four and a half years, every day, putting my makeup on live. Like I have been, and I want to make sure I say this part because it kind of looks like I like overnight popped. And there was this moment and now all of a sudden, I have been doing this for a long time. And there were years where I was posting every single day, going live every single day and nothing was happening. Crickets, no one, no movement, no nothing. And I was pushing and I was like, is anybody ever going to see this? Is this ever going to matter? And so I kept going. I think the key is like Lori, what you were saying also about your podcast is you kept going and you kept going and you kept sticking with commitments that you made with yourself and

• 9:37Speaker 02

  you build confidence along the way. So it was like, social media kind of became like brushing my teeth for me. I didn't go a day without doing it, even if it didn't work. So a reel could shit the bed, an entire day of content could shit the bed. It didn't matter. The next day I was still going to get up and I was going to do it because it was a non-negotiable habit. If you keep doing something again and again and again and again, and it is a non-negotiable habit, you don't make a decision if you're going to do it or not, you just do it, you are eventually going to start winning. You're going to eventually going to start figuring it out. You're going to get a win. And when you start to get wins, you all know how this feels. When you get the dopamine of it working, then you get addicted to doing it. But you gotta stay in it long enough to get the dopamine of

• 10:21Speaker 02

  doing it. So I stayed in it long enough and eventually I got one that that hit, right? We got one viral reel. Holy crap. Okay. I got a viral reel. What did I do? So what I do is I study, why did this reel go viral? What did I do here? And then I just do it again. And I do it again until it hits again. So what we're doing is we're compounding when it hits and when it wins. And we're also compounding the dopamine to inspire us and motivate us because motivation does not come from a motivation fairy that taps you on the head and is like, okay, you're going to love social media now. No, I started to love social media because I played the game long enough to figure out how to win. And every time you get a little win, like, oh, I did that, I did the damn thing, it worked. Oh, now I like this.

• 11:05Speaker 02

  And then I started getting a little bit more creative with it and having fun. And it's almost like the stock market, right? Like compounding interest. When you've put enough in, all of a sudden, it goes like this. And that's what happened. It was a long time in the making, but I've been doing it long enough. So my message to you guys would be, if you're sitting here thinking, why isn't this working? Natalie was right, we've never been in a better time. We have never, this is the moment, you guys. I'm like, this is the, anyone see Jaclyn Hyde musical, any Broadway kids? This is the moment? No? Okay. No.

• 11:37Speaker 00

  I'll take your word for it.

• 11:38Speaker 02

  Wrong room. Okay. We have never, if you guys can pop, I just saw, there's this, has anyone seen Kumar? Has anyone watched that reel, Kumar? Okay, y'all, no, I have to tell you about this really quick, this is important. There is a retired accountant that just decided to hop onto Instagram last week. He has three videos on Instagram, three. He already has over, I think he's at 800,000 followers now.

• 12:02Speaker 03

  What?

• 12:03Speaker 02

  Three videos. He is, he is a retired accountant, an old guy. And he just declared, he made these amazingly, these beautiful reels, I'll tell you why they work, if you give me more time, but I could go on about this forever.

• 12:14Speaker 03

  You have as much time as you want, tell us what's going on.

• 12:16Speaker 02

  Okay. So you can, it's the Kumar method or something? He makes these videos that are, they're funny, they're beautifully edited, and they're like satire, so he's joking, and he comes on, and he's like, all of the finance bros, I'm Kumar, and I have come to take your job. But the best part of the whole video, this is what I want you guys to lean into, because authenticity is key no matter what. And yes, these videos are professionally edited, they were, a lot of work and thought went into them, but the second half of the video, if you watch it long enough, it's like this, like really fancy video of this guy, like, you know, with all these, like, this photo shoot situation, watch it, you'll see. But the second half, it's him and his wife, sitting at their desk with like regular lighting, it like looks like crap, and the wife comes in and she's like, please help my husband

• 13:01Speaker 02

  get famous. Please, follow him. So it was like half professionally well-done, and half authentic, real, normal. And I think that is what did it. And so now, everybody's watching, everyone's following Kumar. To, to close the loop here, he started that page last week. Anybody can do this. If you walk out of here with anything, I want you to walk out of here with two things, and then I will shut up and I will stop talking. Number one, it is your responsibility to be visible. Think about me and Lori, think about anyone that's ever helped you, the reason that you're in this room right now. You're gonna meet a new friend today, you're gonna get inspired to go out there into the world and do something cool, because you heard about this event, because someone had

• 13:46Speaker 02

  the courage to be out on the internet, talking about the fact that this event existed. So be that for somebody else. And then the second thing is that, this is the moment. Post the video. Post whatever the hell it is. It could be ugly, it could be bad, it could be gross, it doesn't matter, the only bad content is the content that stays in your drafts and doesn't get posted. Because the, the video that you post, that you think is the worst video in the world that's not gonna do anything, has the power to completely change your life. Kumar's life has changed, watch. Forever. Forever. So that's it.

• 14:19Speaker 00

  Oh, I love that. So good. All right, I'm gonna pull some things out of my drafts you're gonna see real soon here.

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  May we all be like Kumar.

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  Natalie, I can't wait for you to see him. I'm so excited.

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  So excited. That's the first thing I'm doing when I get off stage.

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  Steven's gonna be coming in the background of Make My Wife Famous now.

• 14:42Speaker 03

  Did you see his Times Square thing? When he wore this? So just side tangent, this is so hilarious, so I was like, ready to tap out on book launch day, I didn't wanna make a big fuss of that day, I really wanted to enjoy it on my own. And my husband was like, I'll do the promo for you, you take the day, I'll do the promo for you. So he put this cardboard cutout saying, my wife wrote a book, and I thought he was gonna go stand in Times Square and take a picture, he spent the entire day walking around New York convincing people to buy my book. He went into WeWork, he's crying, he's doing Google Translate to the people that don't understand what he's saying. Hilarious. Please share that video, cuz he will, he will love that. I mean.

• 15:24Speaker 00

  Our husbands need to take notes, just saying, Chris Harder. Okay. All right, Lindsay, you are also celebrating this year, 10 years of powerhouse women, which is absolutely incredible. You guys, this event, who's, who's been to her event before, raise your hand. How amazing is it? It's one of my favorite events of the entire year. I mean, 800 women from all over the world, and I have had events, I know what it takes to get 800 people in a room, that's mind-blowing, first of all. Second, you truly are somebody who, as I've watched you go through all of the things that you have been through, just this massive evolution since I have met you when we were little babies.

• 16:07Speaker 00

  You know, you have become a friend who's been able to just literally extract the wisdom out of some of the most painful experiences in life. Like, our friends really look at you like you are their personal Yoda that they go to, truly. And sit across booths and say, even last night, say, how can I, how can I hire you? How can I get you in my life to do whatever it is that you're doing for me right now? I wanna know, you know, for you, you talk a lot about how it's been less of a strategy for you to get to this very embodied version of you, and it's been more of a being-ness. Can you kind of speak into that?

• 16:46Speaker 04

  I think as I went along over the last decade, scaling, especially the event, because I realize it's not normal to be able to easily fill an event with hundreds of women. And we do it all organically, it's no ads, it's just been actually easy for me to do that, because I've always deeply followed my own intuition. I have not done it the way that most people told me to do it. And there's other areas of my life, I'm not that willing to listen that deeply to my intuition, no matter what everyone else says. But I've always had this example in my life, that there is a way I could operate that

• 17:29Speaker 04

  has ease, it feels fun, it feels like it's truly aligned with what I'm here on this earth to do. And every time I would get the question, more of a strategy-based question, okay, how did you do it? How did you build the community around it? Because it is very community-driven. I don't personally drive the results of all of those women being in the room. Even I met Constance earlier, and she said, yeah, we're coming this year, and we've just been telling our girlfriends, yeah, you gotta come. That's my marketing plan. But it wasn't intentional, it was a response to who I was being. And if I could give you anything, I think it's to realize that, absolutely, always ask the strategy questions, ask how someone did it, but also make sure that you're asking

• 18:13Speaker 04

  someone you admire, someone you look up to, now tell me who you had to become. Because every single time my business had a very public up-level, what most people didn't realize is it was preceded by a season that felt like a massive, personal unraveling. Has anyone else experienced that? And so I just started to get really curious about that process. I'm deeply curious about personal transformation and growth. I have a lot of Scorpio in my chart, if anyone's an astrology girlie, so it's, now it all makes so much sense. But I've just always been so enamored with, how do I hack the game? How do I hack the system? I don't think it has to be hard, I, I've had experiences in my life where something

• 18:57Speaker 04

  felt easy, and I've had experiences where I really was more in that hustle energy. And that's why I've been loving your book, because I feel like you're speaking exactly to what I've experienced. And what I've found is that, we can do it one of two ways. And this is really what the book is gonna also give you a game plan for, is we can do it the way where we find the best strategy, we hire all the best mentors, I've worked with some of the most brilliant mentors on the planet. We hustle, we follow and study what someone else is doing, we repeat that, and it feels a little bit like we have to force it. We have to force ourselves to do things that aren't naturally our gifting, we have to force ourselves to post consistently on social media where maybe our audience is somewhere

• 19:42Speaker 04

  else. We're trying to follow someone else's blueprint, instead of learning how to tune into our own, which, I'm so excited to hear more from you, because a lot of mine has been through working with my body, understanding how breath work can help me bring, help bring me back to my own intuition. But it's also been from realizing that every single time, every time, and if you study your own life, I bet this might also be true, every single time I ask to be expanded, if I really study what's happening in that moment, I'm also asking to be shown where I'm limited.

• 20:25Speaker 04

  I can say I want a freedom-based business. In that moment, what I don't also realize, the sole contract that's happening, is I'm saying, show me where I'm not free. But then when those things show up in our life, when we start to feel that tension and feel that pressure, we think we're doing something wrong, or we think, oh gosh, this means I'm not meant for a freedom-based business, it means people hate me, I may have gone to the depths of what it all means. And I started, just in the last two years, having some really big opportunities, to be with some very big unraveling. And I just started to ask a better question. Okay, I've been asking for expansion.

• 21:06Speaker 04

  How is this showing me everywhere that I'm not yet ready to hold everything I'm asking for? And when I flipped it like that and said, well, maybe this doesn't mean I'm doing something wrong. Maybe this means I absolutely can have, I am destined for the things that I desire. I'm just not ready for them yet. And if I look at everything that's challenging me as a moment where I get to choose my higher self, I get to choose to be that version of me who has the thing and stop thinking I'm fucking up somehow because everything is unraveling, literally everything, then maybe, just maybe, it's a little bit easier to find myself to the other side.

• 21:47Speaker 04

  So the result of all of it has been the most delicious emotional freedom I've ever experienced. I thought I was after financial freedom and all the other freedoms. I am, time freedom, but the emotional freedom has been the one that has been the unlock for all of the others. So I sit here today and I, I still don't have the physical end results that I've been calling in. I'm still going through a lot of learning, all the places in myself where I'm still not free. I'm still not able to hold the freedom that I'm calling in, but I'm getting really close and I can tell because like weird shit is starting to happen. It's like where it gets fun because you're starting to get the dopamine hit to say, okay, I knew it. I knew it could feel easier.

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• 26:58Speaker 03

  That just resonated so much because it really is so true. You can have all the external freedom in the world and if you don't feel that inner freedom, you've built a really beautiful cage and it doesn't feel freeing at all. And Koya, this is such a big reason that I was so excited that you're joining us. You are such an expert in nervous system regulation and you have built an incredible business showing people how to do that. And one of the things we were talking about backstage was very similar to what you were saying, Lindsay. A lot of the biggest unlocks for you when it comes to inner freedom have been on the other side of some really dark moments in your life.

• 27:40Speaker 03

  And we were talking about why are we both writing the, the books that we're writing at the exact same time? And part of it is because we don't want everyone to have to go through that dark night of the soul to get the lesson, even though if that's their, their journey, that's their journey. What is it that you are teaching that can help in that regulation and that inner freedom without necessarily having to go through that dark night of the soul?

• 28:04Speaker 01

  That's such a good question. And the first thing I want to speak to though, is the wounds that we all feel when we lose a parent, when we lose a job, when we go through a break, breakup, like all these things are inevitably going to happen to each and every one of us. And what I want everyone to know is there's so much wisdom in your wounds. If you're willing to lean in to ask yourself the question, just like we look at our stats and we look at our numbers and we look at what's gonna give me the dopamine hit. We get to do these same things emotionally, mentally, spiritually, to make sure that we're aligned with our highest potential.

• 28:48Speaker 01

  And so I like to invite people as you're going through life, we're in this human body, our soul is, from my belief, our soul is whole and complete. And as we go through this human experience, we experience things that affect us in different ways. A lot of those things can cause constriction in the body, like when we, you know, lose something that we really loved or someone hurt us or someone said something negative and that puts us in survival mode. When we're in survival mode, we're functioning out of, I just gotta stay alive. I just, I need to get this thing, I need to do this thing. And that's not our highest self. It's not our highest calling. So we're not experiencing the life that we desire and the life we know is destined for

• 29:30Speaker 01

  us because we're just trying to survive. And the wisdom in the wound means if you look at a wound or when you're wounded and how you break open and where you break, are you breaking physically? Are you drinking? Are you smoking? Are you going through negative self-talk? Are you ruminating in the mind? Those are your keys to where you need to heal the most. And if you're willing, not to just look at one area, not to just look at your numbers, not to just look at one area, but in my book, I talk about seven areas of wellbeing. Spiritual, mental, emotional, nutritional, physical, social and financial. Each one of these are different from all of us, but if we're looking at them and saying, where is my weakest area?

• 30:14Speaker 01

  And when I get wounded, which one goes off, right? Do I go and eat all the things? Do I stop working out? Do I abandon my faith? Do I emotionally explode on the people that I love? Do I have a lot of negative self-talk? Do I retreat to myself and decide I don't want to be around people because I can't trust people anymore? And does my bank account tank because now I feel like I'm an imposter and I don't want to do my work? So each time we go through something challenging, if we look at what area of our life takes the biggest hit, that's where the wisdom is. That will take you to your next level of growth, that will take you to your next level of expansion.

• 30:57Speaker 01

  And it's not about, to me, I've realized that it's not about being like anybody else. It's not about the number in the bank account, it's how connected do I feel with myself? How happy do I feel with myself? Because four years ago, I had a team of 21 people. I was making way more money than I thought I could ever make one year. I said, I want to make six figures. The next year I was paying my team six figures. So I had no idea that I was growing so fast and I had no idea what I was doing. I was just doing everything that brought me joy. I was going to the beach, I was talking to my friends, I was working with brands. And then I, one day I woke up and I was like, yoga leggings can't pay my bills. Y'all give me some money, you know?

• 31:40Speaker 01

  And then I started with my first post, $50 and then some of my biggest posts have been 50K, you know? And so I scaled because I was doing what I loved. But then one day I woke up and I was like,

• 31:58Speaker 01

  I'm with brands that I don't even like. People are asking me to do things I don't want to do. How did I get here? You know, because sometimes you're moving so fast that you don't realize you're out of alignment. You're out of alignment with your soul. You're out of alignment with your authentic self. You've been watching everybody on social media and you're just trying to follow the trends. And next thing you know, you're in a ditch. Like, how did I get here? Or maybe you built a big community, but you're like, I don't be, I don't want to work 12 hours a day. Right? And so what I learned is I had to take a step back because after I did my most successful virtual retreat, we had 8,000 opt-ins on Zoom.

• 32:41Speaker 01

  I had people from around the world in spirituality, wellness, and entrepreneurs that agreed to come and bring their communities and trusted me. And it was incredibly successful. And that night, I sat in my bathtub and I cried. I just cried. You know why? Because I was lonely. I built all this big community and big team and I didn't even have anyone to celebrate with. I had been through a lot of toxic relationships and didn't trust men anymore. I had people that I knew, but I hadn't created depth in my sisterhoods and my friendships. I would do for you, you would do for me, and then everybody go about their merry way. Right?

• 33:25Speaker 01

  But I wasn't having deep conversations. So I cry and I realize like, what am I doing this for? So I achieved my purpose, but I hadn't really got clear on what I needed to be well. And so when I look at my breakdown in that moment, I realize that there lied my answer. I needed to heal my relationship with men and my father, and I needed to create deeper sisterhood. That was the wisdom that came with that wound that I felt when everyone else thought I should be happy. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks. At the end of the day, it only matters if you're happy. It doesn't matter how many numbers you have on Instagram.

• 34:09Speaker 01

  It doesn't matter how many books you sell. If you're not happy in your soul, that's who you got to sit with at the end of the day. So I chose to move from LA to Atlanta. I went to this book called Sacred Woman by Queen of Four. I call her my spiritual mother. I took Epsom thoughts. I bathed myself. I got my morning sun and I did all these rituals, which is why my book is named Wellbeing Rituals now, until I could come home to my soul. During Clubhouse days, y'all, oh, we were staying up to 3:00 AM, right? I was in the room waiting to get to the top and pitch my business, the, the event, the Get Loved Up Retreat that I was doing online. And I did it, but guess what? I was worn out. I was slipping vodka in my green juice.

• 34:54Speaker 01

  And I don't even drink vodka. Someone left it over my house and I just need to take the edge off. So, you know, I was doing so many things out of alignment. And then I was like, no, I'm gonna stop drinking. I'm gonna go back, green juice only. And I just, I just really start to look internal and say, what's really hurting you? And at the time I was making the transition, three women called me and they're like, okay, we want to do this big thing on Clubhouse and you're gonna be grateful and want you to do it and this. And normally I would say yes, because I love these women. I love what they do. I love their businesses. But I was like, I just want to have dinner. I just need, I need something deeper. I'm feeling unfulfilled. And we had dinner every Tuesday.

• 35:36Speaker 01

  And we built a deep relationship and those women were my bride angels at my wedding six months later. Right? Because I chose to not just let it stay on a surface level. I chose to go deep and I chose also not to judge and shame myself. I built a big community. I'm happy. I'm reigniting now, but I want to invite you, if you're in a season of healing and readjusting, like if you're seeing your life is not fully aligned with where you want it to be, be okay with taking a pause, with going deeper, with not being there yet and just saying, I'm not there where I want to be. But right now I'm figuring out what I really want. Not what media tells me I should want.

• 36:19Speaker 01

  Not what my friend has, but what I really want. And that is your wisdom and your wounds will show you every time because those places you should be happy, the job you should be happy in, but you're not, be honest with yourself. If you're not, you're not. And you could have the same job as someone else and you're like, no, it is not doing it for me. And the more you're honest with yourself, the more you can let your breakdowns be your breakthroughs. And just recently, when I was going through that, it was during the pandemic. I was led to breath healing. And in breath healing, I was able to come back to myself and to release the frustration and the pain from abuse, the frustration and the pain from betrayal. And I started to use that to heal.

• 37:02Speaker 01

  But I wanted a man and I wanted these deep friendships. So I was very clear on what I was going for. And six months after I moved to Atlanta, I found my husband and we got married. I found my dream house. But there was one little thing that was my next step that I forgot about. And it didn't come back to me until this last year. February last year, my mother unexpectedly transitioned. And this was the deepest grief I ever felt in my life. I was angry. I had sacred rage and I didn't know if I wanted to be here. I blamed myself for not knowing, knowing for anyone that knows me. I do energy work. I help people heal.

• 37:46Speaker 01

  I've brought people back from like cancer and all these different things with energy and well-being. And I couldn't save my mom. And it crushed me like the deepest thing I've ever felt in my life. And so in my darkest moment, I was like, God, I need help. Like, I need help. Like, the rituals ain't working. I still don't feel okay. And my mother came to me and she was like, just breathe. Just breathe. So I started to breathe. I went back to my certification with breath work and I went deeper. I was doing an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. I was going deep and I was yelling and screaming and crying and snouting.

• 38:28Speaker 01

  And you would have thought I was a crazy woman, but I was getting it all out, all the frustration, all the pain. And as I did it, I was like, wait a second. I started getting all these divine downloads about my business, about my marriage even, about everything. I started to tap into my highest self that I had abandoned so long ago, doing what I thought I should, even chasing the dream I wanted of the dream man and the dream house. I was brought back to breath healing. And that was the wisdom that I felt when I lost my mother. It brought me back to the breath that I had left so many years ago.

• 39:11Speaker 01

  And now that's what I'm focused on teaching through breath healing. I'm teaching nervous system regulation. So each one of you can come back to your highest self and your highest potential.

• 39:27Speaker 03

  Thank you for sharing that. And you've got your beautiful book here, which I hope everyone is gonna order. I know you've got some, a limited amount here that you can sign. So if you want to grab that right after, run to Koya. But I would love if you're open to tell the story of, there's a symbol inside of your book of why that's woven throughout your book.

• 39:47Speaker 01

  So if you open the cover of the book, you will see, I'll let you do it. You will see a butterfly. I was in my backyard, talking to some friends after I was going through the things. And a butterfly, and I'd never seen a black butterfly in my life, landed on my shoulder. And I was like, oh my God, did y'all see that? Did y'all see that? And then it landed again. And it landed a third time. And I was like, mom. It was my mother letting me know she's always with me. And so I put it on the cover of this book to remind you as you're going through your own chrysalis, when you don't know what's next, you don't know why or how or bad things keep happening.

• 40:32Speaker 01

  Or hell, you're going through perimenopause and you're like, what is my mind right now? Remember that inside you're a butterfly. And even though it might seem like it or feel like it at the moment, you're going through your own chrysalis and you will emerge on the other side if you lean into the wisdom in your wounds and allow them to guide you back to your highest self and embody your highest self. Thank you, Natalie.

• 40:58Speaker 03

  I love that.

• 40:59Speaker 01

  And it's at the opening of every single chapter to remind you.

• 41:02Speaker 03

  It's absolutely beautiful. And I love that you're sharing breath work as one of the biggest, let's call it a needle mover in your business because it brought you back to you. And I'm curious, Jen and Lindsay, we'll go to Jen first. What's one thing in your personal growth journey that you think's actually been one of the biggest needle movers in your business? That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. I just met her.

• 41:28Speaker 02

  Isn't she amazing? I've had many, many needle movers in my business. I think that the past, I would say, three years of my life, I call them the year of "and." I call them that because they were simultaneously the worst years of my life, where some of the worst possible things that could ever, that have ever happened in my life were happening over the past three years, while simultaneously the best things were happening as well. A lot of the times, people say, "Well, you know, it looked like everything was going perfectly on paper, and if you looked at it from the outside, everything looked great, but behind the scenes, everything was terrible." I would say both were true. Because everything was awesome that was happening. I was launching a book, I got married, I was connecting with incredible women,

• 42:12Speaker 02

  I was succeeding in business. But also, behind the scenes, it was "and." My husband was struggling with mental health and addiction, and there were a lot of things going on in our business and our personal life that were making me feel like I was holding my entire life together with duct tape. You know that feeling? But I, I really dial into that it can be "and." Because it can. You can simultaneously hold, "Holy crap, this is amazing." I'm in a moment where I'm speaking on a stage, my dream, in front of thousands of people. This is true, this is amazing. I'm feeling so connected. I am doing the thing I am born to do. While also, I can also hold the fact that I'm struggling very, very, very, very much.

• 42:56Speaker 02

  And that taught me, going through that time, where it was teetering between both, it really expanded my capacity to be able to receive both at the same time. It does not have to be "or." I'm going through the worst possible time. This is the worst day ever. This is a shitstorm. Maybe it is, but it also can be, this is a shitstorm, and then I get home at night, and, "Oh, my God, my dogs, my kid, my husband. My life is beautiful, my life is amazing, and it can be both." So, I've never even said this before. This is just coming out of my mouth right now, probably because I'm sitting with you guys. These two women just open up the vortex. But I really, I really feel like, if you live a public life of visibility, right?

• 43:41Speaker 02

  This is what we're talking about here. Every single woman in here, can, can I just get a raise of hands? If someone, if you feel a calling to be seen, doing the thing that you're doing to inspire and help other people? Yeah, this is the room that we're in. So if you are, if you have that calling, you're stepping into a life where you are going to be seen as your regular, day-to-day adventure. Your journey in life is, "I am, I am living in front of people. I'm building in public. This is what we're committing to." It's, it's a crazy life. It's not for everybody. Definitely not. And everybody does not have to do this. But if you're sitting in this room and you raised your hand, you're feeling called to do this. And that means, that's a really important thing. That means that you, you have women, hu- humans that are out there that are going to be greatly impacted by the work that you do,

• 44:25Speaker 02

  but it means that you also have this responsibility to show the world who you are, where you're at, and what you're doing. And there's going to be times in your life where shit's hitting the fan, where it is not going the way that you want it to go. That doesn't mean you have to show everybody everything that's going on, because I didn't. But I did show up anyway. And the reason that I, and I'll just loop into the, the Instagram Live thing. I think that this was one of the greatest lessons in my life and in my business, was the Instagram Live that we talked about. So, back in the day, in like, six, when I first met Lori and I was walking around the city, you know, listening to Lori Harder all day long, I was absolutely terrified to, to be visible as myself. I was an actress, so I was used to playing characters and putting on a whole bunch of makeup, having platinum blonde hair, and pretending to be somebody that I wasn't.

• 45:10Speaker 02

  So, live streaming, or speaking in front of people as me and telling my story was unbelievably terrifying. So doing something like going live was not something that I would ever do in my life. About four years ago, I decided to dare myself to start putting my makeup on in the morning while I went live, every single day, no matter what. And this was essentially to get better at public speaking. That was why. I wanted to be one of the greatest speakers in the world. And I knew that if I wanted to become a great speaker, I had to practice speaking. And I don't have a stage all the time that I can stand on and speak, but we all have this beautiful stage in our pocket, right? So I'm like, "I gotta practice. I gotta practice being vulnerable. I gotta practice answering questions. I've gotta practice telling my stories in front of an actual live audience." And I'm gonna practice, you better believe,

• 45:54Speaker 02

  I'm gonna practice having no makeup on and being seen as I am, because that is the most terrifying thing for me. So I committed to it, and I did it every day, no matter what. But that means, over the past three years, doing that every day, no matter what, I was showing up and being seen on camera, when behind the scenes, everything was falling apart. I was trying to keep my husband alive. I mean, and that goes with a lot of other things that we won't talk about here on this stage, because everything doesn't have to be talked about. But when you're living in a visible life and you were doing the two things simultaneously, yes, "Oh, my God, people are showing up. I'm winning on social media. My business is crushing. A lot of things that are really beautiful are happening." Yes, that is true, and also something else is true. You have to learn how to be okay with both.

• 46:39Speaker 02

  And so what I did was I learned that I can show up and I can be seen, and I can share with people, "Hey, I'm not feeling amazing today." I go live sometimes, and there are tears coming down. "Hey, guys, I'm feeling anxious today. There's something going on." Sometimes I would share it, and sometimes I, I wasn't. But learning how to be visible, be authentic, and be truthful, and truly allow yourself to connect with your audience while good things are happening and bad things are happening, was by far the greatest lesson that I think I've ever learned in stepping into what I think my purpose is, which is continuing to be seen and continuing to be on stages. Guys, it's not always gonna be beautiful and pretty and shiny. It's not always gonna be bad and shitty and awful. It's gonna be both of those things, all at once. And being authentic, and being truthful, and connecting, and being seen, and doing the thing that we've all raised our hand

• 47:23Speaker 02

  and said that we're being here, we're sent here to do, is going to involve showing up anyway and bringing people along the journey. And so, that's the answer. I don't know if I answered it in full, but...

• 47:34Speaker 01

  You did.

• 47:41Speaker 04

  Needle movers, right? I got a little hungry there, so I was making sure I remembered the question. You know, when you're like, your blood sugar dips, and you're like, "What are words?"

• 47:51Speaker 00

  Somebody get this woman a bagel.

• 47:52Speaker 04

  If anyone has a little snack for me? No, um, there's so many things. And as Jen was sharing, and Koya, something that you said, I think the two things that are on my heart to share with you, one is a little bit more personal. Because I think, yes, it's about building the business, but at the end of the day, why do we even want the business? It's because of the life we think it'll give us. And over the last two years, if anyone else has experienced anything like this too, just raise your hand, so we know we're not alone. I, I've just gone through a very unraveling of everything that I knew to be safe, everything that I knew to be secure. Has anyone just kind of been rocked over the last couple of years? And what I didn't realize, until about a year ago, so I'm two years removed from this season,

• 48:35Speaker 04

  is I started to have people in my life say to me, like, "I thought you were fine." Like, I really, we were kind of worried. You like, looked okay when you were going through it. Or a really super honest friend said to me, she was like, "Lindsay, you called me in the day that you told me about what all was going on. You said it as though you were reading the dinner menu." Because that was my way of coping. And it wasn't really until I started to notice this pattern in my life that truthfully wasn't allowing me to have the intimacy that I wanted. Not that I didn't feel supported. I knew I had support, but I still wasn't feeling as seen and as known in the relationships that I deeply desired that, as I could be.

• 49:19Speaker 04

  And then, I was with my mom, you know? Your family of origin often, kind of like, just, "Right, we'll show you exactly where your stuff is." And someone was, you know, acknowledging. They're like, "Wow, you know, Lindsay has built this incredible thing, and you must be so proud. What was she like growing up?" And she said something that I've heard her say over and over. And it hit me different this time. She said, "She's always been so easy." How many of you are the easy one? You're the one that you don't want to be a burden? You don't want to be weak? And I think specifically for those of us that are very powerful women, like those of us in the room,

• 50:01Speaker 04

  most of what we want is probably gonna be unlocked by leaning into more vulnerability than we feel is safe. And starting to open up, and even, I remember this really pivotal conversation with Lori. We were talking about, I don't remember exactly even what it was, and we went into the mode that we typically do for each other, where we want to solve it right away. And it was the first time, because now I'm practicing this muscle that feels very new for me, of noticing when I'm just feeling like, "Ha, I, I think I need something else right now." And then saying it, horrifying, if you're not used to speaking your needs. And I said, "Actually, you know, thank you so much. I, I know exactly what you're trying to do right now. You know what I need? I need you to just, in this moment, say, 'That sucks, and I'm really sorry you went through that.'"

• 50:47Speaker 04

  And then she cried and then I cried because she's like, "Thank God, I've been trying to support you this whole time and I don't know what you need." And I'm like, "I didn't know what I needed because my entire life was built on this story that I'm valuable if I'm easy. I'm valuable if my emotions aren't too much and they don't make anyone else uncomfortable." So vulnerability for me has been this new place of allowing myself to lean into within myself. First, I have to get honest and truthful with myself about how I'm feeling and what I need and tools like breathwork and just different spiritual practices have been a big part of that. But then on the other side, you know, when I look back, the most consistent through line of a needle mover for me, and I guess this

• 51:31Speaker 04

  kind of fits into it because now when I think about the version of myself I want to be and how she shows up, there's a vulnerability component that I didn't, I didn't know was so important to me. I want deep intimacy. I want to feel deeply connected with the people that I serve, with the, with the people that I'm around, with my future partner who I have yet to meet. I, I know that I want that, so I get to practice it now. And that has been the consistent theme that I have really leaned into in my business is casting a vision for what I want, going back to what I was saying earlier. I see the outcome, but then I ask myself, "Okay, who's the woman who has that? How does she show up?

• 52:13Speaker 04

  How does she express herself?" And the funniest and most tangible example I can give is, you know, so many of you today came up to me and they're like, "I love your outfit. God, your outfits are always so great." Or now the Powerhouse Women event has literally become this place. If you've been, you, you kind of know. It's just the ultimate permission to wear the thing that you wouldn't normally wear elsewhere. You get to try on a different version of you that you aren't regularly expressing. And what a lot of people don't know is, it was around the time that I self-published my, my book, which led to the Powerhouse Women event. So the start of this season that people know me for today called Powerhouse Women, I had this story about myself I used to say out loud. And I, I just thought it was kind of, I wasn't actually trying to put myself down, but one day I said it. Do

• 52:58Speaker 04

  you ever hear the labels you assign yourself and all of a sudden that label just doesn't fit anymore? So I have this really cool and fashionable younger sister. She is just one of my favorite people on the planet. She's amazing. She can walk into a Goodwill and walk out looking like she's ready for Paris Fashion Week. She's just so cool. But I would look at that and what I'm seeing, right? Because when we see something we admire in another woman, we're seeing it and we're noticing it because that exists within us. And I would see this thing about her that I loved. And what it was awakening in me is I want to express myself more through fashion. But what I would call myself, I

• 53:41Speaker 04

  would literally say, "I'm the Vanilla Sister." Because I had like the same top in black, white, and gray. You find like the one that fits you just right and you buy it in all the basic neutral colors. Anyone do that? And you know, for some of us, like that is how we express ourselves. But there was a part of me that wanted to feel an energy I wasn't currently feeling. So I decided, there was one day where I said it out loud and I heard it and I was like, "Why am I saying that? That's not who I want to be." And I literally decided, starts with a decision, to learn to become fashionable. And I didn't tell anybody. I didn't say, "Okay, everybody, so now I'm fashionable." All of a sudden,

• 54:23Speaker 04

  I noticed, it was around, it was about two years later, I kid you not. It was about two years later and people started to be like, "I'm so excited for your event. The thing I'm most excited for is to see your outfit." And I was like, "That's weird." No one's ever said that to me before. And it just makes me giggle every time. I love sharing the story because I'm like, "No, I decided to become that." And then I'm like, "Where else am, am I right now telling an outdated story, using an outdated label that I've just outgrown?" It's great. I used to be the Vanilla Sister. Now I'm, I guess I'm like rainbow sherbet flavored. I had my colors done. I'm a bright spring. So that's what I am. That's my color palette. Yeah.

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• 59:16Speaker 03

  I just first want to say the biggest thank you to all three of you for bringing your hearts up on the stage. I've been just sitting tearing up as every single one of you have been speaking. So interesting, I did an event a week ago with a friend of mine and he said, "Natalie, this book's great. It's a great business book, but what you're really missing is you should be describing..." What they'll get at the end is "freedom of time and mind" because it's really a mindset book. You know, you talk about the business-y things, but it's all, all you. It's all us. It's all heart underneath all of it. And we didn't plan for this conversation to happen. And the way that it's unfolded is every single one of you have brought the real heart to all of this. And I just hope for every woman in the room, you really leave feeling different to how you come in. Because

• 1:00:01Speaker 03

  we can go through the tactics, we can go through the strategies, all of that stuff. But it's when we go beneath, you know, the neck down and we actually tap into ourselves that everything starts to change. And so this is the last stop on the book tour and I'm just, I couldn't imagine a better way to do it. And, and it's the way that you've all shown up so real on stage. And I just want to say thank you so much. Thank you.

• 1:00:27Speaker 04

  We love you.

• 1:00:28Speaker 03

  Thank you.

• 1:00:36Speaker 00

  Koya, ¿cómo te va con esa pregunta? La mayor cambiante.

• 1:00:40Speaker 01

  La mayor cambiante para mí es la rendición. Rendirme a la voz... Soy una persona muy espiritual. Rendirme a la voz de Dios. Incluso cuando estaba escribiendo mi libro, tenía esta cosa llamada método CHBT. Y al principio, el "C" no estaba ahí. Y los siete áreas de bienestar, espiritual, mental y emocional... No tenía... Tenía el espiritual, pero era parte del "Heal". Pero el CHBT es "Conectar, Renalizar, Construir y prosperar". Y lo que... Lo que descargué, lo que canalizaba, es que no necesitas sanar tu alma. Tu alma está ya completa y completa.

• 1:01:23Speaker 01

  Así que me di cuenta, está bien, necesito sanar, necesito... Mis emociones son mis mejores amigos, mi mente, puedo, ya sabes, cambiar mi mentalidad. Pero mi alma, eso tiene que estar conectada, tapada. Y eso es lo que el Espíritu me trajo. Y es por eso que me quedo con el sanador de respiración, porque ayuda a procesar la conmoción que ocurre cuando tengo charlas de auto en mí misma, cuando mis emociones se están tomando, y me pone directamente en mi alma. Directo a la alineación con Dios, directo a mi Ser Superior. Así que no tengo más derritada y distraída por todo lo que está pasando en el mundo. Porque, ¿cuántas personas están de acuerdo que el mundo está desregulando drásticamente? ¿Verdad? Es como, ¿cómo podemos ser regulados en un mundo desregulado?

• 1:02:08Speaker 01

  Tenemos que usar la única herramienta gratuita que tenemos, que Dios nos dio cuando nos quedamos en este cuerpo humano, que es la respiración. No cuesta nada, no necesitas yogas, no necesitas un mat, no necesitas ropa, aunque las ropa son lindas. Nos gustan las ropa. Pero al final del día, cuando te quedas en tu alma, eso es lo que te guiará divino. Y así es lo que pasó. Y eso es la cambiante. Me rendir una y otra vez, rendirme a lo que creo, sé, como intelectual, estoy mirando los números. Y como Natalie, tuve un evento esta noche, y el universo, se terminó descargando, dejé de hacerlo. Me rendí. Me rendí. Y sabía que los amigos que tenía venían a juzgarme, porque he construido estas relaciones profundas durante los últimos años.

• 1:02:53Speaker 01

  Van a ser como, está bien, estaremos aquí para la próxima. Y así, ¿cuánto puedo rendir? Así que mi mayor cambiante es rendirme a los desafíos divinos que vienen a través de Dios. Y eso es lo que hace para mí.

• 1:03:04Speaker 00

  Muy bien.

• 1:03:07Speaker 00

  Está bien, estamos terminando. No tenemos mucho tiempo en esta pregunta, pero quiero asegurarme de que la hacemos. Así que como una minuta de cada uno, una minuta, dos minutos? ¿Porción? Siempre tienes que dejar a la gente saber en un panel, porque es como, ¿cuánto puedo dejar que esta historia vaya? ¿Qué consejo le darías a todas las mujeres que literalmente levantaron la mano, que dijeron, "quiero verse, quiero hacer esto, realmente lo siento, como que realmente lo siento", y hay algo que me está manteniendo o no siento merecedor, no siento lista, no siento que pueda ser amigos con estas personas? ¿Cuáles son algunas de las cosas que quieres dejarlas con?

• 1:03:46Speaker 04

  El mayor es que sepan, y quiero que piensen esta pensión cada vez que escuchen la voz de miedo venir, porque la voz de miedo es fuerte, es la que está tratando de protegerte. Y nos encanta eso, eso tiene valor. Pero para darse cuenta de que si te sientes obligada a compartir algo, a crear algo, estás simplemente respondiendo a un deseo que no sientes que alguien más está haciendo ahora mismo, en este momento. Puede ser una silbada tranquila en su corazón, y literalmente necesitan escucharlo de ti. Es muy fácil, ya sabes, sé que todos nosotros estamos seis pies, seis pulgadas de la tierra más alto que tú. Y tenemos un micrófono en nuestras manos, así que podrías pensar que tenemos algo decidido que no tienes.

• 1:04:29Speaker 04

  Pero la verdad es que creo que nos ponemos a la mente a la gente en pedestales para liberarnos de la responsabilidad de subirnos a nuestra propia grandeza.

• 1:04:37Speaker 00

  ¡Uf!

• 1:04:41Speaker 04

  Así que si sientes el pulla de crear, compartir el mensaje, hacer la cosa, llevar la ropa, llevar la ropa puede ser la permiso de alguien más hacer lo mismo. Así que deja de ser tan estrecha, ¿sí? Te amo, pero deja de hacer eso.

• 1:04:59Speaker 00

  Muy bien.

• 1:05:06Speaker 02

  El primer tatuaje que recibí, tengo un tatuaje en mi rodilla. Y no lo conseguí porque quería un tatuaje, lo conseguí porque quería este recordatorio. Este recordatorio me ha llevado a cada momento difícil. Me ha forzado a empezar antes de que esté lista cuando no quería hacerlo, lo que sea. En mi rodilla dice, "El tiempo nunca se detiene". Y es mi recordatorio de que no importa lo que suceda, este día va a terminar. No importa, todos vamos a dejar aquí, vas a ir a tu cama, vas a ir bajo tus cubiertos, tu cabeza va a tocar el sillón, vas a mirar hacia arriba, y vas a estar pensando en mí.

• 1:05:41Speaker 00

  Sí.

• 1:05:42Speaker 02

  Lo haces. No, vas a estar pensando en este concepto. Porque cada momento difícil de desacuerdo es temporal, no importa. Pasan. Cada momento que es genial también pasa. Así que cuando entras a tu cama al final de la noche, ahí es donde creas confianza. Es donde creas tu autoconfianza, cuando puedes mirar hacia arriba y puedes decir, "Lo hice". "Me quedé con los compromisos que hice con mí mismo hoy, hice la cosa difícil, aunque fue difícil, empujé a través de ese desacuerdo porque ahí es donde se construye la confianza". Así que todo lo que quiero que vayan con es que esto también pasará. El tiempo nunca se detiene. Sentir la cringe cuando estás creando un video, termina.

• 1:06:24Speaker 02

  Y luego estás feliz de haberlo hecho del otro lado, o tal vez no lo hagas, pero no importa, nadie se importa, ni siquiera te acordarás el siguiente día, ya está.

• 1:06:32Speaker 02

  El tiempo nunca se detiene. Eso es.

• 1:06:38Speaker 01

  Esto también pasará. El tiempo nunca se detiene. Pero déjame decirte algo. Tu cuerpo está manteniendo la pista. Tu cuerpo está manteniendo la pista. Así que la única cosa que me invitaría a hacer es comenzar una práctica de sanación de respiración. Y llamo a la sanación de respiración, no solo la dolorosa, porque esto no es Wim Hof. Esto no es lo que aprendí en yoga. Quiero decir, cambié mi escuela de la escuela de yoga "Get Loved Up" a la escuela de "Get Loved Up: Embody Leadership Academy". Como que nadie puede ser certificado conmigo en yoga o coaching de vida, y si pasan por "Embody Breath" primero y entienden la sanación de la respiración y el sistema nervioso. Y la razón es porque es lo que enfrentamos hoy. Y si estamos moviendo de nuestro miedo y nuestros heridos en el estado de supervivencia y no nuestro Ser Superior,

• 1:07:21Speaker 01

  incluso los mejores de nosotros no estarán viviendo nuestro potencial más alto que necesitamos en orden de mover este mundo en una dirección positiva. Así que diría que desarrolla una práctica de sanación de respiración para cualquier cuerpo. Pero para mí, cada persona que ordena este libro hoy va a obtener una práctica de sanación de respiración de siete días que yo he creado para ayudar a la gente a inclinarse a la práctica. Así que eso es lo que recomendaría a ustedes. Comienza una práctica de sanación de respiración, empieza a inclinarte a tu potencial más alto y permite que la guía divina tome control de tu vida. Rendirte a tu vida a la guía divina.

• 1:08:00Speaker 00

  Sabes, algo que siempre está en mi corazón en salas como esta, he estado en salas como esta tantas veces, pero normalmente fui la persona en la fila trasera durante muchos años. Y en el día de ayer, mi esposo y yo, al principio cuando nos casamos, y yo no estaba haciendo lo que quería hacer en absoluto todavía. Estaba trabajando, ustedes, estaba trabajando en una tienda de café, genial, lo amaba, pero no era mi llamada más alta todavía. Trabajé en una almacén, como literalmente restockear las cuchillas, era una salida de secundaria. Así que llamamos a esta lucha, la lucha del gran pollo de pollo. De, creo, como, no sé, 2008, creo que fue 2008, la lucha del gran pollo de pollo de 2008. Y en ese momento, porque no estaba haciendo lo que quería hacer,

• 1:08:41Speaker 00

  ¿cuántos de ustedes, cuando no estás haciendo lo que quieres hacer, te culpas a tus hijos o a tu esposo o a tus amigos? Bueno, mi esposo fue justo el objetivo exacto de todo esto en ese momento. Así que para mí, ya sabes, estuvimos, él estaba trabajando toda la semana y yo estaba trabajando en mi, ya sabes, cualquier trabajo que estaba haciendo en ese momento. Y estaba teniendo esta cosa que me atuena todos los días, me despertando a la noche. Estás supuesto a hacer algo, estás supuesto a hablar en escenas, estás supuesto a ser una personalidad de fitness. Y no estaba haciendo eso, pero yo profundamente quería estar en las cubiertas de fitness de fitness e inspirar a las mujeres de la forma en que me inspiraron. Así que rápido, nos encanta ir a la cena, también nos encanta ir a beber el viernes y sábado a ese edad, porque hemos estado juntos 20 años, así que estoy en mis 20s en este momento.

• 1:09:22Speaker 00

  Y vamos a la casa, tenemos un montón de cervezas, pasamos por la tienda, vamos a McDonald's, y obtengo un almuerzo de 20 piezas, nos llevamos a casa. Y de repente, después de beber toda la noche y todo el día, tengo una ruptura, una ruptura completa de, "No puedo vivir así más", "Me odio a mí mismo, me odio a ti, no entiendes que no puedo hacer esto porque tengo ansiedad, no entiendes lo malo que es para mí, no he graduado, no voy a poder hacer esto, no soy como los otros, no soy educada en la universidad, nunca voy a ser esa persona". Y empiezo a agarrar los pollos en el barbecue y agarrarlos a él y a la casa, y están por todos los muros y hay salsa de barbecue.

• 1:10:04Speaker 00

  Y estoy teniendo una experiencia completa de fuera del cuerpo viendo a mí misma disiparse, diciendo, "Oh, te va a dejar, oh, esto es realmente malo". Así que algo, ya sabes, me quedé de vuelta en mi cuerpo y tengo este momento, estoy como, ¡oh, mierda! Como que, ¿has tenido una lucha donde te estabas poniendo por el borde? Está bien, así que Richard Rohr, ese fue mi momento, ese fue mi momento. Richard Rohr tiene una frase hermosa que dice, "Si no aprendes a transformar tu dolor, lo transferirás

• 1:10:35Speaker 00

  y sabotarás todas las relaciones en tu vida, y nunca tendrás las relaciones que quieres. Y siempre, siempre no vas a ser como tú si no aprendes a transformar lo que es ese propósito en tu corazón, lo que es, ya sabes, lo que es ese dolor que tienes es destinado a enseñar a las personas". Y así, realmente creo que si sabes en tu corazón que estás supuesto a hacer algo, tienes que hacerlo y es un obligatorio para las personas que te rodean, porque eso va a ser lo que solo hace que todas esas personas ayuden a todas las personas en tu vida también.

• 1:11:08Speaker 03

  Muy bien.

• 1:11:14Speaker 03

  Creo que para mí, lo que añadiría solo sobre todo esto, para cualquiera en la sala que no se siente listo todavía, nunca te sentirás listo, verdaderamente. Y, ya sabes, solo con este evento, le dije a Laurie que sería muy divertido hacer esto, y decidimos una fecha y juntamos una página de lanzamiento, y noté en voz, justo antes de poner la página de lanzamiento, dije, "Laurie, solo una pregunta, si nadie viene, ¿crees que simplemente no decimos nada?

• 1:11:42Speaker 03

  Y solo sacan la página".

• 1:11:44Speaker 00

  Sí, lo hicimos, y estaba como...

• 1:11:46Speaker 03

  Y luego la puse ahí fuera y empezamos a vender algunos tickets. Cuando te digo que alcancé un punto que nunca alcancé antes, solo mi perro y bebé lo escuchaban, noté en voz, "Laurie, vendimos algunos tickets".

• 1:11:59Speaker 00

  Estaba como, "Vamos a vender tickets, vamos a estar bien".

• 1:12:03Speaker 03

  Y digo eso para decir, nunca te sentirás listo para hacer algo que te siente desagradable. Estoy tan tímida y extrovertida cuando no estoy en Instagram, ¿verdad? Como, esa es mi personalidad, estoy más feliz con un libro y una taza de té. Y así, para mí, cualquier cosa que esté fuera en el mundo es simplemente una gran redonda para mí. Nunca, nunca, nunca me siento lista para ello. Sabes, en la escena, estamos ambos hablando, oh, Dios mío, sí, este sentimiento en mi estómago es la emoción, sí. Como, simplemente nunca me siento lista, pero vuelve a lo que hablamos en el inicio muy, muy, muy de esto, de tener la autoconfianza. Sé que me mostraré por mí misma, porque lo he hecho una y otra vez. Cada vez que no me sentía lista. No me sentía lista para lanzar un libro, empecé el lanzamiento cuando tenía seis meses después de la parada, no me sentía lista.

• 1:12:47Speaker 03

  Y sabía que si lo puse a otra vez, todavía me sentiría tan des lista como lo hago ahora mismo. Y está ahí. Y así, digo eso para decir, la única vez que vas a sentirte lista es cuando miras hacia atrás, "Oh, hice la cosa". Solo entonces vas a sentirlo, y así, por favor, no esperes ese momento, por favor, solo haz la cosa. Y si funciona, genial, y si no funciona, solo sacan la página y nadie sabrá que no funcionó, ¿sí? Nadie lo sabrá.

• 1:13:17Speaker 00

  Ustedes...

• 1:13:20Speaker 00

  Muy, muy agradecidas. Podemos, vamos a darles un poco de un descuento justo después de esto, pero ¿podemos dar el mayor aplauso a estas increíbles mujeres?