How to Get Back the Habits That Made You Feel Like You

Have you ever felt like you’ve lost the thing that used to make you feel like yourself? In today’s episode, Chris and I talk about the things that used to give us energy, creativity, and a mental reset, and how easily they can disappear when life gets busy. We share what happened when we started running again after years away and why getting back to something that once worked can bring back thoughts, ideas, and feelings you forgot you were missing. Tune in for a reminder to look at what used to work for you and consider bringing it back in a way that fits your life today. Check out our Sponsors: Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at http://Shopify.com/happy. Monarch Money - Get your first year of Monarch Core for half off at http://Monarch.com with code EYH. Northwest Registered Agent - Visit http://northwestregisteredagent.com/EarnFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. Indeed - Indeed is giving Earn Your Happy listeners a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to help get your job the premium status it deserves. Just go to http://Indeed.com/podcast right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on Earn Your Happy. Momentous - If you want to try Momentous Signature Spec Creatine, head to http://livemomentous.com and use code EARN for up to 35% off your entire first order. SmileSet - Listeners of our show get an additional 35% discount when they go to http://SMILESET.com/earn. Faire - Sign up today and get 50% off your first wholesale order, up to $100 at https://faire.com/happy50. Terms may apply. Life at the Speed of Play - Go to http://getmarksbook.com/earn to get two copies for the price of one—one for you and one for a friend. HIGHLIGHTS How getting back to running brought back our energy and ideas. The things that used to work for you that may be worth revisiting. A question to help you choose the option with an upside. The habits that can quietly disappear when life gets busy. You may not have lost yourself, you may have just lost a habit. Dusting off an old habit without going back to your old routine. RESOURCES Get on the waitlist for Mentor Collective Mastermind HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow Chris: @chriswharder Follow glōci: @getgloci

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  I literally can sometimes feel like, have I just lost it? Did I just lose the thing that made me me? And maybe you just lost the habit that made you you. Maybe you need to go get a good run on. Maybe you need to go get some good cardio. Maybe you need to go do something that you remember really made you have these incredible thoughts and made you feel really good and just flooded you with dopamine and serotonin. That's what this reminded me of is I was like, maybe I just lost the habit that made me feel like myself.

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  And we're back.

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  With another episode of He Said, She Said.

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  We're back from a run, baby. How good, how good do you feel right now?

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  I feel insanely amazing, like shockingly insanely amazing. And I know that might sound crazy because you're like, you moron, of course you ran and you feel amazing. But it's been years actually since I've run.

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  It's been ages, like okay, legit. How long has it been since you and I went for a run together? You know, we do walks all the time. We do other, but how long has it been since we actually went for a run together? Is it more than a year? Yes.

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  Yes.

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  More than two years?

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  Probably.

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  Yeah. Is it three years?

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  Maybe because I, so I stopped running intentionally because I had a bit of an unhealthy relationship with running. And while I loved it and it was one of the greatest things I've ever done for my idea process, my thought process. Just perfect for me in that time of my life. It also started to be this thing that you can get addicted to because you, I've been a fitness person for majority of my life. And it can get you to this level of leanness that you really like. And the more that you run, the more you have to run to stay lean for, for some people. And for me, that was the case. And so I intentionally stopped running for a lot of different reasons.

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  My knees, the more I ran, the more I would have to run, the more I got addicted to running. The more I was like, I need to stay lean at this level. And so I was like, you know what? I'm going to stop for a little bit.

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  You know, I want to give people a little bit more context because the whole point of the show today is, what is one thing that used to work for you that you could go back to, right? What is one trick, one hack, one habit, one thing that worked for you or your business, your relationships, whatever, that you could dust off the shelf and go back to, but in a different way, right? So this always worked, but for some reason we stopped doing it. And so I want to give people more context on the run because it seems like a very small thing, but it actually has a lot of intention, meaning behind it. So when Lori and I used to travel, we loved seeing cities on foot. We would go for a six, seven, eight mile run even, believe it or not. And then we'd run for a while and stop and run for a while and stop. But we would run to see the whole city and we covered an entire city on foot.

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  And then you turned into someone who just, when we lived in Santa Monica, loved running down to the boardwalk there and running all the way to Venice and back. And that's the part where it became like an everyday thing where it became too much, right? And because running does have, it's a double edged sword. It has all the good things it does for you, the endorphins. It's a great time to think for some reason, like either thinking in the shower or thinking on a run are where all the good ideas come from, right? It's obviously has good health benefits, the whole nine years, but it also has a double edged sword. Meaning the other side of the, of the blade can cut you and it can have a law of domitian returns. It'd be bad for your joints. It'd be bad for everything. I laughed once because you're like, I think that when you run, it can make your face sag a little bit. So I'm going to stop running.

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  A hundred percent. Look, you guys, you may not agree with me, but if you talk to different people who are in that industry and plastic surgeons, they're like runners, all of the impact on your face can make your face sag. So I'm not going to be running all the time, but there you go.

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  Well, okay. So here's, here's what I want to finish framing. The last couple of weeks, I don't know why, well, actually I do know why. My buddy, John Bowles has been running, like he just picked up something new for him. And I'm watching him and like, he's loving it, right? And so I thought, you know what? Seeing him do it for a few weeks and stories, I just got the craving to do it again. So I said, you know, I'm just going to go for a two mile run, nothing big. And I ended up running like 2.4 miles that day and came back and I felt so good that I did it. So then a few days later, I'm like, I'm going to Europe. I want to go for another run. So I went for another run on like a random Saturday or whatever it was. And I came back and I was like, oh, that feels so good. And then I went for one more in there before I went off to Europe as well.

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  And I was like, I forgot how much I like this. I come up with good ideas and blah, blah, blah. But I don't want it to be like this staple again, right? And so today I was like, when the pack game was over, I'm like, all right, I feel a little bit like garbage. Ate a cheeseburger during pack game, been sitting around for three hours. I'm going to go for a run. It's always a good reset. And I invited you, I'm like, you want to come along? You're like, eh, I don't know. And I'm like, come on, just come for the run. And somewhere in there, you change your mind and you went for mine. And we were even halfway through, you're like cheering and jumping and like we're high fiving. And we only went like 2.5 miles, nothing special, but we came back and the endorphins have been and are still flowing. But it's not about the endorphins. By going back to something that used to work, right?

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  So now I've run what, four times in the last couple of weeks or whatever. By going back to something that used to work, in my case, it was always a reset, right? I could literally change my state when I was done. And it was always a time to get new ideas. For some reason, it was a time to generate business ideas or break tos. If I want this in life or I don't want this in life, or dang it, I'm just going to decide to kick this habit, whatever it might be. So running has always played a very important role for me and I hadn't done it for years. Like we said, maybe it's been three years or whatever. And now I'm getting back to just a couple of times a week. And that's where I'm going to cap it, you know, maybe two runs a week. But I'll tell you what, it's going to make a difference mentally. It's going to make a difference physically and it's going to make a difference in the number of ideas I'm getting business wise.

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  So that's an example of taking something that used to work for you, dusting it off and saying, I'm going to try testing this out again. And for me, I've been loving it.

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  So the thought process for why I said yes, after three years, I was so tired today. There were some people in town that we really wanted to spend some time with. And we ended up going out two nights in a row and staying out really late to really long dinners and great conversations. But I am not used to that and had cocktails both nights. And so I woke up today and I was exhausted. And so it was probably, when did we go? Around one? And you would ask me if I, I wanted to go and I was like, no, I am so tired. I can hardly move. And then I sat there and I'm like, nothing, like I know if I stay here, I'm going to remain extremely tired and I'm going to start feeling bad.

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  Like if I sit around all day, sometimes I just start to feel like eh, why am I still sitting around? And so I had this moment of, okay, or I could go try the run. If I don't want it, what did I say to you? I'm like, hey, I'm going to go with you, but if I only end up running for like five minutes and walking, like just go run, like just leave me. But what if I keep running and there's an upside? What if I actually feel way more energized and feel amazing after the run? So I was like, what if you made the choice with the upside instead of the choice that you already know is going to just, you know, keep you here, make you feel tired and make you maybe have a meh day because you're like, why, I just laid around. I didn't feel great. And I thought, you know what? I'm going to go with the choice that has a possible upside.

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  And I went for this run and I am not kidding. I feel so amazing. I had so many thoughts and ideas that I haven't had in a really long time. Because I will tell you, I've been lifting and I love it. I've been doing Pilates and I love it. But I haven't gotten like a crazy true cardio pump for 30 minutes straight since I can actually remember. Like I don't do cardio anymore. I do a lot of weights and like I said, Pilates. But I just had this crazy remembrance while I was on the run of like, oh my God, this is where all of my great ideas came from is when I push myself to almost this state of like,

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  it's for me, it's always been like this rhythmic thing with running or cycling and I haven't done either. And it's this rhythmic thing for my brain where I kind of push myself. You must get to this place where you must like oxygenate yourself so much that it just gets different parts of you thinking and moving. So.

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  I mean, all I can say is, we wanted to do this podcast to tell you, maybe you need to go get a good run on. Maybe you need to go get some good cardio. Maybe you need to go get, do something that you remember really made you have these incredible, you know, thoughts and made you feel really good and just flooded you with dopamine and serotonin. And one thing I'll say is, this didn't make me want to go back and run six miles. It makes me want to run a mile or two, two to three times a week.

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  Yep. It's, so as a memory jogger, maybe for some people is meditation. Maybe you used to meditate and it really worked well for you. And just somewhere along the way, it fell off and that's okay. You don't have to beat yourself up. But what happens if you got back to a short meditation again? For others, maybe it's reading. Maybe you read several pages every single morning or something. And for some reason, again, it fell off. No big deal. Don't beat yourself up over it. But what would happen if you got back to reading? For others, it might be date night. Maybe you guys always did a date night. And then you've somewhere along the way, you got busy and it fell off. No big deal. You don't beat yourself up over it. But what would happen if you said, hey, I want to start doing a date night? Or for others, it might be going to the gym. For others, it might be going for a walk. For others, it might be taking like little mini

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  road trips. Like this doesn't have to be the equivalent of running, guys. There are things that used to work for you that somewhere along the way in life, because life just gets busy. You know what life is really good at? Life is really good at derailing you from things that were good for some reason. And it sneaks up on you. You don't even realize it. And so use some of those things as a memory jogger. We'd love to hear from you. What is something that used to work for you that you're committed to dusting off the shelf and getting back to?

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  Mm hmm. So you guys, I would love, we would love to hear DM us, let us know. Share this with a friend. Share this with somebody who's maybe forgotten, you know, who they used to be. Like that feeling of, I don't know about you, Chris, but I literally can sometimes feel like, have I just lost it? Did I just lose the thing that made me me? And maybe you just lost the habit that made you you. And so that's what this reminded me of is I was like, maybe I just lost the habit that made me feel like myself. So you guys, and sometimes habits change. So go try something new, if not, or go back to something. But we're so grateful for you and we will talk to you next week.

• 17:49Speaker 01

  Thanks for listening. Love and appreciate you.