To Have A More Peaceful Home, Have Fewer Of These

This is an excerpt from Ryan Holiday’s latest book The Daily Dad (which you can preorder signed copies of now!). To Have A More Peaceful Home, Have Fewer Of These“These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.”-Marcus AureliusAt the core of most of the conflict between parents and children—and so often spouses—is one thing: judgment. We have opinions and they have opinions, and these opinions are the source of disagreement. If we, as parents, would like to have a better relationship with our children, there is one simple thing we can do: we can have fewer opinions.✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. 📢 Share | ⚙️ Manage Subscription

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• 0:03Ryan Holiday?

  Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we bring you a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you find strength, insight, and wisdom in everyday life. Each one of these passages is based on the 2,000-year-old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women. For more, you can visit us, dailystoic.com.

• 0:29Ryan Holiday?

  "To have a more peaceful home, have fewer of these." "These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone." Marcus Aurelius. At the core of most of the conflict between parents and children, and so often spouses, is one thing: judgment. We have opinions, and they have opinions, and those opinions are the source of disagreement. If we, as parents, would like to have a better relationship with our children, there's one simple thing we can do: we can have fewer opinions. Do you really need to have an opinion on what kind of food is served at your daughter's wedding, even if you are paying for it? Do you need to have an opinion on the way they do their hair? Their friends are their friends.

• 1:14Ryan Holiday?

  What does it matter what you think of them or their parents? So what if they like music that sounds weird to you? So what if they want to raise their kids a different way? Few things in life are better off with your judgment hovering over them, your family most of all.