Take The Time To Be Grateful

AJ Jacobs is known for his unique style of immersion journalism. He’s lived, literally, according to the Bible. He’s went out and met every obscure relative he could find in his family tree. In his new book, Thanks A Thousand, he went on a quest to personally thank every person who had a hand in making his morning cup of coffee—the farmers, the woman who does pest control for the warehouse where the coffee is stored, the man who designed the lid, the baristas, and on and on. This last journey was the least physically trying but the most transformative. In our interview with AJ for DailyStoic.com, he explained just how wonderful this forced exercise in gratitude has been:One big change was related to the Stoic idea of the self-interested case for virtue. The idea that acting badly makes you feel badly. That whoever does wrong, wrongs himself. But when you act virtuously, you get a little burst of happiness. So during this project, I’d wake up in a grumpy mood, but I’d force myself to call or visit or email folks to thank them for their role in my coffee. Admittedly, some were baffled. They’d say, “Is this a pyramid scheme?” But the majority were really pleased to hear from me. I remember I called the woman who does pest control for the warehouse where my coffee is stored. And I said, “I know this sounds strange, but I want to thank you for keeping the bugs out of my coffee.” And she said, “That does sound strange. But thank YOU. You made my day.”And that, in turn, made my day. By forcing myself to act in a grateful way, I became less grouchy. Ideally, gratitude should be a two-way street. It should give both parties a little dopamine boost. The word Epictetus uses for gratitude—eucharistos—means “seeing” what is actually occurring in each moment. He said, “It is easy to praise providence for anything that may happen if you have two qualities: a complete view of what has actually happened in each instance, and a sense of gratitude.” Part of what made AJ’s journey so meaningful to him and to everyone else involved is that they were really seeing each other for the first time. He was really looking—and when he saw, he said thanks. It’s a good model for us to try in our lives. Take some time today to stop, take a step back, and get a complete view—like that there are over a thousand people involved in making your morning cup of coffee possible. There’s a lot we take for granted. In every moment, there are limitless opportunities to say thanks. Take them! P. S. Check out our full interview with A. J. Jacobs and check out his new book Thanks A Thousand—it's a great reminder of the amazing interconnectedness of our world and teaches us how gratitude can make our lives happier, kinder, and more impactful. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. 📢 Share | ⚙️ Manage Subscription

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• 0:06Ryan Holiday?

  Welcome to The Daily Stoic, where each day we read a short passage designed to help you cultivate the strength, insight, wisdom necessary for living the good life. Each one of these passages is based on the 2,000-year-old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women. For more, you can visit us at dailystoic.com. Destroy the Negative Bias. A.J. Jacobs is known for his unique style of immersion journalism. He's lived, literally, according to the Bible. He went out and met every obscure relative you could find in his family tree. In his new book, Thanks a Thousand, he went on a quest to personally thank every person who had a hand in making his morning cup

• 0:51Ryan Holiday?

  of coffee: the farmers, the woman who does pest control for the warehouse where the coffee is stored, the man who designed the lid, the baristas, and on and on. This last journey was the least physically trying, but the most transformative. In our interview with A.J. for Daily Stoic, he explained just how wonderful this forced exercise in gratitude has been. As he said, "One big change was related to the Stoic idea of the self-interested case for virtue: the idea that acting badly makes you feel badly, that whoever does wrong wrongs himself. But when you act virtuously, you get a little burst of happiness." So during this project, I'd wake up in a grumpy mood, but I'd force myself to call

• 1:35Ryan Holiday?

  or visit or email folks to thank them for their role in my coffee. Admittedly, some were baffled. They'd say, "Is this a pyramid scheme?" But the majority were really pleased to hear from me. I remember I called the woman who does pest control for the warehouse where my coffee is stored, and I said, "I know this sounds strange, but I wanted to thank you for keeping the bugs out of my coffee." And she said, "That does sound strange, but thank you. You made my day." And that, in turn, made my day. By forcing myself to act in a grateful way, I became less grouchy. Ideally, gratitude should be a two-way street. It should give both parties a little dopamine boost. The Greek word "epictetus" uses for gratitude means seeing what is actually

• 2:19Ryan Holiday?

  occurring in each moment. He said, "It is easy to praise providence for anything that may happen if you have two qualities: a complete view of what has actually happened in each instance, and a sense of gratitude." Part of what made AJ's journey so meaningful to him and to everyone else involved is that they were really seeing each other for the first time. He was really looking, and when he saw, he said, "Thanks." It's a good model for us to try in our lives. Take some time today to stop. Take a step back to get a complete view. For instance, that there are just 1,000 people involved in making your cup of morning coffee possible. There's so much we take for granted, and

• 3:03Ryan Holiday?

  every moment, there are limitless opportunities to say thanks. Take them.

• 3:10Ryan Holiday?

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