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0:02 Ryan Holiday? Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we read a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you in your everyday life. On Tuesdays, we take a closer look at these Stoic ideas, how we can apply them in our actual lives. Thanks for listening, and I hope you enjoy.
0:28 Ryan Holiday? How to be a king. Most of us don't live underneath a king, and few of us would still ever want to be a king, at least in the sense of ruling a country by hereditary right. Even Marcus Aurelius would have conceded that this is wonderful, for he understood that most kings were bad, and that the job was bad for most of the people who had it. Yet, as we talked about recently, the Stoics were still fond of the metaphor of the sovereign. Musonius Rufus would say that a philosopher was inherently a kingly person, and Seneca would write that to be fit to rule, one had to first rule themselves. So when we look at the lives of the Stoics, that's what we see: men and women who were, to borrow a line from the Bible, diligent in their business, and thus fit to stand before kings;
1:13 Ryan Holiday? Cleante's carrying water to the gardens, as if it was philosophical business; Musonius Rufus teaching his students to have the strictest standards in their rhetoric and writing; Cato insisting on honesty and transparency and accountability in government despite the corruption around him; Antoninus, who was in fact emperor, but so dedicated to the job, as Marcus Aurelius observed, that he scheduled his bathroom breaks. We don't have to hold supreme power to be supremely powerful. We don't have to wear the purple, as they said of the emperor, to stand out. No, we just have to show up. We have to do a great job, hold ourselves to high standards. We don't need to be honored to be honorable. That's not something the position gives. That's something that we give the position,
1:58 Ryan Holiday? through our discipline, our courage, our justice, and our wisdom.
2:10 Ryan Holiday? The Stoics were not perfect. They were flawed people. They made mistakes. And there are flaws in the philosophy itself. I think it's just important that we don't turn Stoicism into a dogma, and we don't hold the Stoics up as being more than what they are, which is just human beings.
2:30 Ryan Holiday? The Stoics are not perfect, and they certainly weren't infallible. They were human beings, like you or I, which means they made mistakes. More importantly, they lived a really long time ago. From Zeno to Marcus Aurelius is hundreds of years. So they were products of their time and place. The Roman Empire, the Greeks, these were some of the greatest societies that ever lived. I mean, we are still being informed by and inspired by them today. But they also believed in appalling things. They did appalling things. It was a brutal, nasty, violent place. The point is, this is not gospel. This is not the word of God. It's their ideas, right? They're the best things that those people thought they knew at the time. And they were things that the people themselves often didn't fully live up to.
3:14 Ryan Holiday? So I'm Ryan Holiday. I've written a number of books about Stoic philosophy. I've spoken about it to everyone from the NBA to the NFL, sitting senators and special forces leaders. In today's episode, I want to talk about what the Stoics got wrong. Because in some cases, we can learn as much from their errors in judgment or their errors in theory as we can from anything else.
3:36 Ryan Holiday? What do I disagree with about Stoicism? I mean, one of the obvious ones is just the context within which all of this is happening. So look, Marcus Aurelius, in the opening paragraphs, he talks about how he's proud of the fact that he never had sex with any of his slaves. So he could sort of vaguely sense that there's something wrong with having sex with a slave. But he was thinking about it as a self-control issue. It didn't occur to him, which is a failure certainly, that like, the act of owning another human being and then having sex with them, that was the problem. Even Epictetus, who is a slave, uses the analogy, the metaphor of slavery. But I don't think there's any passage where he comes out
4:19 Ryan Holiday? and specifically says owning a human being is a crime against humanity. And so... This is the fact that in that time, these were assumptions that sort of went unquestioned, right? Even Epictetus and Seneca both, you know, sort of talk about, you know, not having a womanly soul, right? Or not being like a woman. So they're not even thinking of question. Like, the idea that a woman is, first off, not any different than a man, and that the female sex have their own strengths and virtues. All he's thinking about is this stereotype, which was a fact, you know, in Roman society. So I think we shouldn't be afraid to question these assumptions that some old dead white guys had 2,000 years ago.
5:04 Ryan Holiday? It's just people making the most sense of the society that they lived in. So they're way ahead of the curve on some stuff and they're way fucking behind the curve on other shit.
5:18 Speaker 01 I'd love to have a conversation with you about something that I think Stoicism is missed.
5:23 Ryan Holiday? Oh, uh-oh.
5:24 Speaker 01 Dare it.
5:25 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
5:25 Speaker 01 How dare you?
5:28 Speaker 01 Is the way that we work with emotions.
5:30 Ryan Holiday? Okay.
5:30 Speaker 01 There's an ordering in Stoicism about thoughts. Get your thoughts right.
5:35 Ryan Holiday? Sure.
5:35 Speaker 01 You know, work from that place. And I go, yeah, thoughts are upstream. We know from best-in-class modern science that it is bidirectional. Thoughts influence emotions, emotions influence thoughts.
5:46 Ryan Holiday? Sure.
5:46 Speaker 01 And then in between, we've got feelings, which is our subjective interpretation of the raw data of emotions.
5:53 Ryan Holiday? Mm-hmm.
5:54 Speaker 01 So feelings are like private and they're internal, and emotions are public and observable.
5:59 Ryan Holiday? Sure.
6:00 Speaker 01 So heart pounding is an emotion.
6:02 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
6:02 Speaker 01 And then how you label it is your feeling. Okay. So I think we need more compassion. I think we need to work from emotion because we've numbed them for so long and we've been afraid of them for so long. And I do think at the time of Stoicism, it made perfect sense not to be run over by emotions.
6:21 Ryan Holiday? Sure.
6:22 Speaker 01 Now, but if you have a, if you can dance well with emotion and you can dance well with thoughts and you can play there just a little bit more, I think the world is calling for not an uncontrollable emotional human, but a thoughtful, compassionate, dare I say...
6:39 Speaker 01 Person that is working to make something better.
6:42 Ryan Holiday? Well, there's this stereotype of the Stoics being totally emotionless, being robotic, sort of stuffing it all down, suppressing it, or somehow getting to some monk-like transcendent state where you no longer feel emotions or anything at all, which I think totally misses it. So I did this book a few years ago called Lives of the Stoics, where instead of really diving into what the Stoics said, I just tried to write these biographies of who they were. Now, the Stoics got married, the Stoics had kids, the Stoics made works of art, the Stoics played sports, the Stoics fought for political causes. There was this whole generation of Stoics called the Stoic Opposition, which was basically a series of resistance fighters who gave their lives, in many cases, against the tyranny
7:24 Ryan Holiday? of several bad emperors in a row, including Nero. And there's even one Stoic, there's a Stoic named Chrysippus, who died of laughter. He was just laughing so hard, he was old, he probably had a heart attack and died. So I think when we actually look at who they were in practice, it's very different than maybe what comes off in the page. And so my sort of take, and maybe this is a modern interpretation, which I'm also okay with, like, they're dead, they can't get mad at me for changing things. But my interpretation is that the Stoics were not about the suppression of the emotion, but about understanding and processing, and then hopefully making fewer decisions on those emotions. So I like your
8:04 Ryan Holiday? distinction between having the emotion and being angry and punching someone because you're angry are different things, right? So to me, Stoicism is the stopping yourself before you throw the punch, as opposed to stopping yourself before you get upset that someone called you a terrible name.
8:22 Speaker 01 Yeah. And then the thing that I wrestle with, and just like I said early on, like, Stoicism is awesome, and I've been attracted to it. I wouldn't have thought this probably five years ago, that, wait, we need more compassion. And then if you square it with relationship-based, at Finding Mastery, we're using that in our culture to be a relationship-based organization as well. And to be in a relationship-based organization, I need to know not only your thoughts.
8:48 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
8:49 Speaker 01 That's good. I need to know your history.
8:51 Ryan Holiday? Sure.
8:51 Speaker 01 I need to know the way you feel about your future and your history. And it's the feelings that allows for the deeper knowing. I just want to ring the bell a little bit here about compassion is a really good thing in a world that is thrashing.
9:04 Ryan Holiday? Of course.
9:05 Speaker 01 And there's a vulnerability to be compassionate.
9:07 Ryan Holiday? So the cardinal Stoic virtues are courage, which I think people associate with the Stoics. Then there's discipline, which people associate with the Stoics. Then there's wisdom, which people associate with the Stoics. But the fourth one, or which I guess would be the third, is the one I'm writing about now, which I think is less discussed, sort of skipped over, is the virtue of justice, which is where I would put things like compassion and empathy and fairness and kindness and caring about the world and trying to have a positive impact.
9:33 Speaker 01 That's interesting, yeah.
9:34 Ryan Holiday? So it's like, it's not like it was this minor afterthought, like a core pillar, like one of the four pillars is this idea of justice. And to me, one of the ways I've thought about this is like, okay, Stoicism in what I control says like, hey, try not to go around being offended all the time, try not to be overwhelmed by your emotions, et cetera. But that doesn't change the fact that other people get offended and other people have emotions. I don't think there's any contradiction about empathy in Stoicism. It's saying, hey, you should probably go around and you, you yourself should probably not be an open wound that's horribly offended by what other people say all the time. That doesn't mean that you get to hold other people to that standard and say, yeah, look, I just call it like I see it. Radical candor here.
10:19 Ryan Holiday? I think we're probably more in alignment here than people might think. And one of the things that actually gets me upset, and I find myself pushing back on it again, to go to our point about not caring what the audience thinks. Like, I know if I talk about courage, the audience, the Stoic audience likes it. If I talk about self-discipline, the audience likes it. If I talk about wisdom and how to learn and get smart, the audience likes it. But if I talk about justice, then people get upset, right? And I can see people unsubscribe, I see them get mad. If I present Stoicism as here's a recipe for being a better, more productive sociopath, that finds a larger audience and is less, is less upsetting than if I go, hey, it's important that you give a shit about. Other people and it's important that you give a shit about the planet and ethics matter.
11:03 Speaker 02 Yeah, right.
11:03 Ryan Holiday? I talk about those things at significant expense to myself because I think they're important. I think it's a really important part of Stoicism. And I think it's, it's why, when you look at the lives of the Stoics, you see that they, they got involved in politics. And they participated and they, they served their country, they served, like, they, they were involved. We have this understanding of philosophy as something that withdraws you from the world, which is what the Epicureans did, right? The Epicureans retreat to this garden and they, they work on sort of perfecting their own development. And Stoicism, I think at its core says, that's not right. Somebody has to be involved because if you seed the field, somebody else takes over.
11:43 Ryan Holiday? And so, long story short, I, I do think there is a place for emotion, particularly compassion in Stoicism. And I think caring and participating is, is not just like a part of it, but like a key obligation of the philosophy.
11:59 Ryan Holiday? What do you think the Stoics got wrong?
12:00 Speaker 02 That's a hard question because not a lot. Early Christianity is hugely Stoic.
12:06 Ryan Holiday? Yes.
12:06 Speaker 02 But it takes one extra twist. It takes one extra turn of the screw where Saint Paul says, he talks about the thorn in his flesh. And he says, when I am weak, then I am strong. He uses his weakness as a form of strength with other people. And in so doing, he gives his heart away to others. I think the Stoics didn't quite get there.
12:28 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
12:28 Speaker 02 I think there's one more pass, which is pure love. I can live a Stoic lifestyle, but if read textually, it's a little desiccated for my taste.
12:39 Ryan Holiday? Interesting.
12:40 Speaker 02 At the end of the day, happiness is love. At the end of the day, that's all you have. Now, I sound like I'm John Lennon or something.
12:47 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
12:48 Speaker 02 But, but that's not what I mean. The habits of the happiest people fall into four categories. Faith, family, friends and work.
12:53 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
12:53 Speaker 02 Right? And when I mean faith, I don't mean religious faith.
12:56 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
12:56 Speaker 02 I don't necessarily mean my faith. I say, I give people four examples when I'm talking to young people. Study the Stoics, walk in nature before dawn, study the fugue of Johann Sebastian Bach, join a meditation group.
13:06 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
13:07 Speaker 02 Or the fifth one is follow the faith. Through your youth, which in my case is Catholicism and it's the center of my life.
13:12 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
13:12 Speaker 02 But the whole point is you need to transcend you. That's what faith actually means. Family, friends, which are relatively self-explanatory, although woefully under-practiced. And work, which is, which is serving other people. The point is love of the divine, love of your family, love of your friends, and love of everybody is expressed through your work. That's the ultimate secret to it. Now, I know, I'm positive that Epictetus got this.
13:34 Ryan Holiday? How could you not? As a...
13:35 Speaker 02 Well, I don't know.
13:36 Ryan Holiday? Do you know what I mean?
13:37 Speaker 02 Yeah, yeah. And, and, and...
13:39 Ryan Holiday? The visibility part of it.
13:40 Speaker 02 I'm sure Seneca did. I'm 100% sure Cicero did. I mean, he was writing this stuff for his son.
13:44 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
13:45 Speaker 02 For his peace sake, whom he loved, right?
13:46 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
13:47 Speaker 02 Here's how I'm thinking about it. Life has two parts to be successful. To have a successful life, which means a happy life and a complete life. There's preparation, there's performance.
13:54 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
13:55 Speaker 02 Life is preparation and performance. Sports is preparation and performance. Music is preparation and performance. You can't stop with preparation. You gotta go on to the performance. You gotta get on the stage. You gotta get on the field. And that means improvising, and that means loving, and that means... And a lot of the way that people read the Stoics today, and a lot of the ways that it's interpreted and understood, is all preparation. And it, and so it's all wind sprints. It's scales and arpeggios.
14:19 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
14:19 Speaker 02 And a lot of that. And the whole point is the practice of that is the practice of, of giving your heart away. So I don't think the Stoics got it wrong.
14:26 Ryan Holiday? You think about Meditations, it's just what he happened to write, not everything he thought, but it can, it can feel like an omission.
14:33 Speaker 02 Maybe he had a second diary full of sentimentality.
14:36 Ryan Holiday? Yeah, right. No, no, that's a great point.
14:37 Speaker 02 But the Meditations is not a sentimental book.
14:39 Ryan Holiday? No.
14:40 Speaker 02 It's an empowering book because it's not a sentimental book. Look, the problem in our society today, it's all feelings. And the, the reason that people read Meditations and it changes their life is because it's like, huh.
14:49 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
14:49 Speaker 02 I don't have to be shackled to those feelings. I get it. I completely get it. But the truth is that if you stop with just what Marcus says in the Meditations, it's not enough.
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16:08 Ryan Holiday? But when I think of Broissism, when I'm steel manning the argument against Broissism, the idea that here's this philosophy that tells you to stuff down your emotions, here's this philosophy that's about your personal development, that's turning away from your obligations to other people. There is this version of Stoicism that I think has become popular online that's like, here's the recipe for being a better sociopath, right? And that I am disturbed by. And there's also a version of the Stoicism I think has become kind of seized by a kind of a movement you might call kind of a modern-day know-nothing-ism. There's misogyny there, there's racism there, there's sort of political callousness there. That version of
16:53 Ryan Holiday? Stoicism, to me, is a profound perversion, especially of what Marcus Verliss is talking about. Stoicism is not supposed to turn your heart to stone. It's supposed to mean you're not overwhelmed by your emotions, you're not this walking open wound. But I mean, when I think of the circles of Hyrcles, I think about someone who's actually working quite hard to Care about as many people as possible.
17:13 Speaker 03 Yeah.
17:13 Ryan Holiday? At the beginning of Meditations, Marcus Aurelius talks about one of his teachers taught him to be free of passion.
17:17 Speaker 03 Yeah.
17:18 Ryan Holiday? But full of love. And I think that's lovely.
17:21 Speaker 03 Yeah, Philostorgia, which is like family love, paternal love. There is toxic, a bad Stoicism out there. Andrew Tate did a video where he talks about Marcus Aurelius. Some of these guys are definitely associating with capital S Stoicism.
17:37 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
17:37 Speaker 03 But what they're talking about is lowercase Stoicism, which, you know, is a like a hot potato or whatever in the field of therapy. Because, I mean, very simply, I've said this a million times, but I guess one of the main things that I'd say from my perspective as a former psychotherapist is that there's a significant body of research that shows that lowercase Stoicism, we measure it using several tools. One is the Liverpool Stoicism Scale, from different research teams around the world that show that it's unhealthy and it has multiple problems. I, let me do a very quick deep dive, right? Because I think people should need to understand some of this stuff, right? And it's not complicated. People who view anxiety or fear or sadness is bad
18:23 Speaker 03 and that they have to repress them or suppress them or conceal them from other people tend to. Number one, there's a well-known phenomenon called the rebound effect or the paradox of thought suppression. So if people try to suppress a thought or a feeling that's automatic, it usually recurs more frequently and more vividly in the future. So there's a number of experiments that show that happening. Not consistently, but it happens enough times that it's a. We also know that people who judge the belief that anxiety is bad, for example, people who reach strong agreement with that statement show poorer outcomes long term in terms of their mental health. Your brain is designed by evolution to allocate attention automatically to threats.
19:05 Speaker 03 If you think that your own tears are a threat.
19:09 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
19:10 Speaker 03 Like if you think that your hands shaking is a threat, if you think that blushing is a threat, if you think the emotions or certain thoughts are a threat, your brain will allocate attention. To them automatically, it will narrow its scope of attention down. Yeah. It'll give attention to them highly selectively. You'll get tunnel vision for them. And that will magnify them and exacerbate the effect that they have on your behaviour. In addition to those problems, if you're focusing too much attention on coping with certain feelings, rather than just accepting them and riding them out, increases cognitive load. So for instance, somebody has social anxiety. If they think, oh my god, having social anxiety means I'm weak. It means I'm not a real man. It means like I have to keep a poker face.
19:54 Speaker 03 I have to prevent other people from realising that I'm scared inside because it's not manly enough or it's not tough enough or whatever. Yeah. We've got to stop people from seeing it. In addition to actually just magnifying it, in addition to making it more likely to recur in the future, it's confusing because it means you're using a lot of your brain power now. You're trying to walk and chew gum at the same time. Yeah, yeah. To try have a conversation with somebody or give a wedding speech or something, while also simultaneously worrying about and attempting to suppress and conceal. Yeah. Your anxiety, like rubbing your tummy and patting your head or something like. The internet's awash with bad self-help advice that clashes with stuff that we know from, you know, research and psychopathology and psychotherapy. Jordan Peterson is another guy that gives what I consider to be quite bad psychological advice at times. I think he needs some psychological advice.
20:39 Speaker 03 I think over time, Jordan Peterson's kind of dug himself a hole. I'll try, it's, it's hard not to make fun of some of these guys, right? He recommends that people should stand up tall and look people in the eye when they're talking to them. Now, the reason he's saying that weirdly, he doesn't mention this ever, but he's talking about something called the James Lyon theory of emotion, which is a 19th century famous psychological theory that says, that speculates that if people adopt certain physical posture and body language, it can affect how they feel emotionally. And there's some truth in that. Yeah, fake it till you make it, like, there's some truth in that. The problem is often we find in psychology, there are things that there's some truth in that don't, what the gold standard, this is my bias, in CBT, we love randomised controlled trials.
21:24 Speaker 03 Because psychology is full of things that look like they should work but don't. Yeah. So the James Lyon theory kind of looks like it should work. It sort of makes sense. There's some validity to it. It's not entirely true. However, it doesn't necessarily pan out like that in clinical trials when you get people to do it in practice. Why not? Because there's competing factors at play. And one of them is that if you try and stand up straight all the time and make eye contact with people, you increase self-focused attention.
21:50 Ryan Holiday? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
21:50 Speaker 03 And we know that that's one of the main things that exacerbates social anxiety.
21:54 Ryan Holiday? Interesting.
21:55 Speaker 03 Andrew Tate's another one, you know, he'll tell people to do things to cope with their emotions, but he doesn't know anything about psychology. There are loads of other guys that are giving similar advice.
22:05 Ryan Holiday? Yeah.
22:05 Speaker 03 And appeal to the same audience.
22:06 Ryan Holiday? Totally.
22:06 Speaker 03 Right? They're the kind of watered-down version of it. There are 101 Andrew Tate lights. And it's easier to pick him because he's already, to a large extent, debunked his own reputation because of the criminal allegations.
22:19 Ryan Holiday? Well, what I see is that audience exists, right? And you want to talk about the temptations of Seneca or any of these people. It's the same, it's the same fundamental thing, which is those people exist and there's something that they would like to be told, that they will compensate you for telling them. What you have to decide as a writer, as a creative, as a personality is you go, am I going to pander to that audience?
22:38 Speaker 03 It's pandering.
22:39 Ryan Holiday? Or am I going to say what I think is true and what's important? Am I going to do what's right?
22:47 Ryan Holiday? I heard about this case, I think it was in the UK. This guy gets fired from his job. He didn't shower, he was rude to his fellow employees. And then when he gets fired, he goes, you're persecuting me for my religion. And he says, I'm a stoic, which I think is, of course, a complete and profound misreading of stoicism. But I do think there is a certain strain of thinking that says, hey, once you get to the truth, once you understand the really important things, then you don't care about all these silly things that the rest of society cares about. You're saying, actually, no, these things are very important.
23:16 Speaker 04 The truth is somewhere in the middle. We shouldn't be slaves to the opinions of others, but we are an inherently social species. Like, we become fully human in relationship. True freedom is found in restraints, right? And other people are restraints and self-imposed restraints. And that's where we become truly free and we become fully human and humane. This is like the idea of the humanities, like this mode of education that cultivates our humanity. But also, it's the liberating arts, the arts that liberate us from our baser desires, from being enslaved to just our passions.
23:50 Ryan Holiday? You shouldn't accept anything uncritically or unquestioningly, and we should look for the flaws in not just Stoicism, but we should look for what's good in other schools of philosophy to add or to supplement Stoicism. So first off, I love The Impulse. And I would say that you're also right. Most of the critics of Stoicism tend to be these sort of straw man critiques. I'd prefer a steel man where someone's going, okay, here's what's good about Stoicism, here's where they're coming from, but here are the following weak points in the arguments. We could sort of put these into two categories. So one would just be like, what are the assumptions of the time that are incorporated into Stoicism that are flawed?
24:32 Ryan Holiday? Slavery being one. There's a sort of a casual misogyny in the Stoics. You know, Marcus Aurelius is saying, what kind of soul do you have? Do you have a woman's soul? You know, he doesn't mean that in a complimentary way, right? So there's a kind of a casual racism misogyny. You know, the Romans saw anyone who didn't speak Latin as being a barbarian. Baked into Stoicism is just the assumptions of the world 20 centuries ago that is not always correct, and in often cases is not correct. And then there's maybe a second category, actually, I maybe say there's three. A second category would be the mistakes that the Stoics made. So Marcus Aurelius deciding to elevate his son Commodus to succeed him
25:17 Ryan Holiday? is obviously a catastrophic error. Cato's high-mindedness alienates Pompey and drives him into the arms of Julius Caesar. This is a major strategic error. There's a Stoic named Rutilius Rufus, who's brought up on these, he's a contemporary of Julius Caesar. I talk, Caesar and Cicero, I talk about him in Lives of the Stoics. He is brought up on these fake corruption charges for which he's not guilty. And he believes that his duty as a Stoic is to not even defend himself. He just sort of quietly is martyred. He doesn't utter a sentence in his defense. This is probably a strategic error. Seneca working for Nero, this is another mistake that a Stoic So we have the mistakes of the Romans at their time,
26:02 Ryan Holiday? which is incorporated into Stoicism. And then we have the mistakes of the Stoics themselves, which are many. And then I would argue we also have just some philosophical problems. I think the Stoics don't really talk anything about the idea of collective action. So they talk about whether something is in your control and what's not in your control. But if everyone only focused on the things that were in their control, we would never be able to pool our limited amounts of control, right, and change the world. So there is, and I think this leads back to those first two things. There is a certain amount of resignation to the Stoics in the face of injustices or flawed systems or inequality.
26:45 Ryan Holiday? Even you could say like the plague or any type of problem. I don't see in Stoicism much in the way of a robust toolkit for solving the problems of society or moving the ball forward or creating progress. So I think that's one. You know, I think the Stoics flirt very close to the idea of free destination or a sort of a determinism that I don't exactly buy either. So I think there's a number of flaws with the philosophy itself. But I guess we could talk about this for hours. The Stoics were not perfect. They were flawed people. They made mistakes. And there are flaws in the philosophy itself. What those are going to jump out differently to different people. I think it's just important that we don't turn Stoicism into a dogma
27:29 Ryan Holiday? and we don't hold the Stoics up as being more than what they are, which is just human beings.
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