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3:45 Speaker 00 Don't you see how crazy this is? Sometimes things become so ordinary, such a normal part of life in polite society, that we fail to see how utterly insane they are. History is replete with these examples. Who would propose today that one human being should be allowed to own another? Or that only one specific race or gender be allowed to vote? Just 100 years ago, men wore one-piece bathing suits to the beach while women were forbidden from smoking in public, wearing pants, or owning property. It wasn't so long ago that doctors thought lots of red meat and cigarettes were good for you. There were magazine ads about it. Crazy, all of it, almost unbelievably so.
4:27 Speaker 00 But of course, the most insane yet common practice was not only there in Seneca's time, but continues to this very day. "I am always surprised to see some people demanding the time of others and meeting a most obliging response," Seneca wrote in complete bafflement. "Both sides have in view the reason for which the time is asked, but neither regard the time itself, as if nothing is being asked for and nothing given." It's the craziest thing in the world. In fact, Seneca writes, "If you put the wisest mind in the world together to figure it out, they would come up empty." People take their most precious resource for granted. They guard their property, they're stingy with their money, then they just fritter away the only truly non-renewable resource they have, their time, and they fritter away other people's too.
5:10 Speaker 00 The only explanation is just too close to it. We're born into a world where people act like they'll live forever. We enter a workplace culture where people attended stupid, time-consuming meetings multiple times a day and never gave it a second's thought. We so failed to question it, failed to rebel against it, failed to resist the tyranny and injustice and incomprehensible buffoonery the age we live in. And maybe someday, people will look back on us and judge this moment like they do all the trends and practices of the past. But more likely, they'll be guilty of the same bad bargain themselves.
5:48 Speaker 00 Hey, it's Ryan Holiday. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. By now, you know the Queen is dead. Credible life, almost 100 years. Lives through so many incredible moments in world history. Queen Elizabeth II is someone I have been fascinated with because I've been writing about her for the last year and a half or so. I tried to build each one of my books around like sort of three tent pole characters. Courage is Florence Nightingale, Charles de Gaulle, and King Leonidas of the Spartans. Well, Discipline is Destiny, the new book, which comes out at the end of the month,
6:31 Speaker 00 is about Luc Eric, Marcus Aurelius, and Antoninus Pius. And then there in the middle is Queen Elizabeth II, who I think is actually a profoundly Stoic figure. She and Marcus Aurelius could have related to each other on a few things, namely that incredibly surreal feeling that both of them must have had as they suddenly were thrust into positions of power at young ages. And yet, Marcus's power is profoundly different than Queen Elizabeth's, in that Marcus's is real. Marcus has to do things. Queen Elizabeth's greatness is rooted in the fact that she is so constrained, and she must have so much discipline about her thoughts, about her emotions, about her actions, about her opinions.
7:15 Speaker 00 I find her a uniquely Stoic figure in this regard. You've probably seen wall-to-wall coverage about her. Here is actually an excerpt from the new book, Discipline is Destiny. You're hearing it first before anyone else. You'll notice I record, when I recorded it, she was still alive. So in future editions, I'll have to turn this, some of these sentences into the past tense. But I, I think all in all, I read between 2,000 and 3,000 pages about Queen Elizabeth. I watched The Crown, I read articles, I talked to people. I really, I didn't find one book that I loved about her, so I had to read many, many, many books. But in the end, she kind of emerges to me as someone I was profoundly interested in
7:59 Speaker 00 and someone I am profoundly interested in bringing to you. I'm previewing you this section. If you like it, I hope you preorder the new book, Discipline is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control. You can get a bunch of awesome bonuses if you do that right now at dailystoic.com/preorder. You can get signed copies, you can get signed manuscript pages that I used, that came out of the writing process for the book. You can even have a philosophical dinner with me and some friends. Dailystoic.com/preorder. Discipline is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control. Discipline isn't just physical, there's an emotional, mental, a temperament side of things, and that's what Queen Elizabeth embodied. And this is my, what was originally written as a celebration, now kind of reads as an
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9:25 Speaker 00 Ruling over yourself. You could say it was in her from the beginning. Churchill certainly saw it. Upon meeting the baby who would become the great Queen Elizabeth II, Britain's longest serving monarch and likely the longest serving in all of history, he noted, "She has an air of authority and reflectiveness that's astonishing in an infant." But of course, the throne then lay some two and a half decades in the future, on the other side of a world war and an abdication crisis. What Churchill sensed that day were the beginnings of the temperament that created an incredible
10:05 Speaker 00 life of self-control, service, and perseverance, a mental and emotional discipline that has rarely been seen before or since in the halls of grand palaces, especially in 25-year-olds who have suddenly become empresses or emperors. We want to think of leaders as bold and brash, charismatic and inspiring. We expect them to be ambitious. We even excuse tragic flaws and disturbing vices as long as they're winning or entertaining us. No doubt, this makes them compelling, but is it the right recipe for stable, sustainable stewardship of a nation, a business, a sports franchise?
10:49 Speaker 00 More important, is it the only way? Plato had a different ideal in mind, asking for a monarch who was young and possessed by nature of a good memory, quick intelligence, courage, and nobility of manner, and let that quality, temperance, as the necessary accompaniment of all the parts of virtue, attend now also on our monarch's soul if the rest of his qualities are to be of any value. Born in 1926, Elizabeth had royal blood but no clear path or even expectation to power. Certainly, few pegged her to fulfill that ancient philosopher's ideal.
11:31 Speaker 00 She was the daughter of the second son of King George V. It was only after the rash decision of her Uncle Edward VIII to walk away from the crown to marry a twice-divorced Nazi sympathizer, and then the early death of her father, that Elizabeth's destiny was set. Whatever Churchill had seen in her as a child, whatever Plato hoped for, she would have to cultivate, making, willing herself into "the" Queen Elizabeth, one of the most admired and enduring figures on the planet. From the day of her coronation, Elizabeth would reign, but not rule, as the expression goes, "holding with perfect grace a unique and terrible job."
12:15 Speaker 00 What does the modern British sovereign do? It's hard to say. It's easier to list all the things they can't do. She can't pass laws. She can't choose who leads the government. She can't start wars. She's not even supposed to speak about matters of policy. And yet, the irony of this powerlessness is all the power required to wield it. The Queen has been duly informed of every action and problem inside the United Kingdom for 69 years, in the form of daily dispatches and weekly conferences with the Prime Minister. At the same time, she is not allowed to overtly act on any of this information.
12:58 Speaker 00 She cannot in any way whatsoever involve herself in the matters of state, all of which is done literally in her name. This is precisely what Elizabeth has managed to do with near superhuman dignity through 12 prime ministers, 14 US presidents, and seven popes. On her 21st birthday in 1947, the future Queen would detail her commitment to this idea in a now-famous radio address, telling the people of what was then called the British Empire that, "I declare before you all that my whole life, whether it be long or short, shall be devoted to your service and the service of our great imperial family, to which we all belong."
13:43 Speaker 00 A few years later, she would express her sense of duty and place more explicitly. "I cannot lead you into battle. I do not give you laws or administer justice, but I can do something else. I can give you my heart and my devotion to these old islands and to all the peoples of our brotherhood of nations." Could she have had any idea how long this service would last, what it would take out of her, what it would demand of her, how much heart and smarts would be required? Lou Gehrig is a hero for his streak of 2,130 games played for the Yankees. Queen Elizabeth has worked every day for nearly seven decades.
14:25 Speaker 00 For her, every day has been game day, some 25,000 in a row. She's visited more than 126 nations. In 1953, on a single royal tour, she traveled 40,000 miles, many of which were by boat. She shook 13,000 hands and received tens of thousands of bows and courtesies. She gave and listened to over 400 speeches, and this was just one of more than 100 of these royal tours during her reign. In all, she's traveled more than 1 million nautical miles by sea, and many times that by air.
15:07 Speaker 00 She's met more than 4 million people, personally had more than 2 million over for tea, and given more than 100,000 awards. Perhaps most impressive out of hundreds of thousands of engagements, events, appearances, and meals, which were often preceded by long-distance travel and time zone changes, she has fallen asleep in public only a single time, at a lecture about the use of magnets in biology and medicine in 2004, the year she turned 78. It goes without saying that the Queen's regular duties take immense physical discipline. "Are you tired, General?" she once asked a notably drooping officer accompanying her
15:51 Speaker 00 on an official visit. "No, ma'am," he replied. "Then take your hands out of your pockets and stand up straight," she told him from her perch of 5'4". Aides have noted that the Queen is as strong as a yak and can endure long periods of standing, even into old age. Harold Macmillan, her third prime minister, once exclaimed that the Queen had "the heart and stomach of a man," which is preposterous because not even Lou Gehrig could have put up with her travel schedule. But this marveling belies what is beneath those physical feats, the mental and emotional discipline that she quietly draws upon. For instance, it's been said that the Queen has literally never been seen to sweat, but
16:35 Speaker 00 this only makes her marathon appearances more impressive. Her body doesn't cool itself off well, but her poise and equanimity keeps this fact from us. How does she do it? On a visit to the United States during the first Bush administration, an American official would accidentally chance upon the Queen in a moment of quiet preparation for what was to be a very long day. "She was standing stock still," he noticed. "It was as if she was looking inward, getting set. This was how she wound up her batteries. There was no chit-chat, but standing absolutely still and waiting, resting in herself."
17:16 Speaker 00 She has also, through the years, innovated in ways that make the long obligations more palatable, because why white-knuckle things if you don't have to? She spends an average of four seconds meeting each person. She's removed needless courses from dinners. She makes sure that speeches come after the meal instead of before, so she can wrap up and sneak out. To palace media officials, she's known as "One Take Windsor," because while she never rushes, she thinks through what she wants to do, and then she gets it right the first time. Discipline isn't just endurance and strength. It's also finding the best, most economical way of doing something.
17:57 Speaker 00 It's the commitment to evolving and improving so that the tasks get more efficient as you go. A true master isn't just dominating their profession, they're also doing it with ease, while everyone else is still huffing and puffing. After one tricky social encounter, the Queen was commended for being very professional. "I should be," she said, not impressed by the compliment, "given how long I've been doing it." Don't worry about the Queen, an aide once reassured a diplomat about a long event. She's trained for eight hours. Actually, she's a tough enough professional to endure it for 80 years.
18:39 Speaker 00 The Briton with the stiff upper lip, the one who can so naturally keep calm and carry on, this has become something of a cliche with the passage of time. And while it's always tricky to apply a stereotype to a diverse population, there's no question that the Queen has personified this ideal, keeping an even keel no matter the circumstances. In 1964, she serenely and calmly endured a violent anti-monarchy riot in Quebec. In 1981, she was riding on horseback when a gunman rushed her and fired six shots, eliciting barely a flinch from the Queen in response.
19:21 Speaker 00 In 1966, a heavy block of cement slammed into the roof of the royal car. "It's a strong car," she said as she shrugged it off. In 1982, a deranged intruder entered the Queen's bedroom, bleeding from breaking a window. Woken from a dead sleep, she could have screamed, she could have run. Instead, she politely entertained the man until she could make an attempt to summon security. But the greatness of the queen is more than stoic endurance. The queen is a lively, savvy woman who has managed to thrive in a position that typically brings out the worst of the people who hold it. While few would refer to her as an intellectual, indeed, many sneeringly referred to her as
20:04 Speaker 00 a countryside woman with limited intelligence. In fact, her quiet brilliance is itself an illustration of her self-discipline. Starting at an early age, her father brought her into the business of state, treating her as an equal. From her teens, she was advised by Churchill and tutored twice per week for six years in law by one of England's greatest constitutional experts. The queen, you can be sure, always knows more than she says. In almost every case, she is more experienced and understands the history of an issue better than the prime minister explaining it during their weekly audience.
20:45 Speaker 00 Yet it is they who inevitably do most of the talking and she the listening. Unlike her son, who not only thinks he's smarter than everyone else, but often alienates them by insisting on it, she's fine being underestimated. She's patient enough to know that she will eventually be vindicated. Smart? Discipline is a far rarer commodity at the top than brilliance. Temperance may be less charismatic, but it survives. It stabilizes. Still, she famously reads every dispatch in the queen's red box, in which the most important ministerial documents are delivered to her. Many are boring, many are mind-numbingly complex.
21:29 Speaker 00 She reads six newspapers each morning. She does this even though no one forces her to. No one would ever quiz her on the contents. She could instead ask for brief summaries, she could skim. But she doesn't. Even though her opportunities to use this knowledge are constitutionally limited, she does it. Why? Because it's the surest way for her to discharge her duty. There is really only one avenue to effect change available to the queen, and in her judicious, restrained way, she uses it. By asking questions. If she's concerned about something or objects to it, she requests more information above and beyond what she finds in the red box or the press.
22:13 Speaker 00 Sometimes over and over again, until eventually the potential issue becomes clear to the relevant policymakers. She doesn't blurt out what she thinks ought to be done, and yet in time, it becomes clear enough. Where she has been brilliant is in her quietness, one press secretary would observe. In a very noisy world where people constantly want to express themselves or overreact, what the queen has done has been the opposite. She's not empowered to have political opinions, yet she is strong enough to do something most world leaders, as well as most ordinary people, are powerless to do. Refrain from expressing opinions about things we don't control.
22:57 Speaker 00 Elizabeth is, you might say, a lifelong student of human behavior. Instead of being frustrated by the limitations and obligations of her profession, the queen has found freedom in it, channeling that energy to productive ends. Aides will find some event excruciatingly boring. The queen, on the other hand, will have found something interesting. "Didn't you realize that chap's father was the son of my father's valet?" She'll be found saying with enthusiasm after a long dinner. "Did you see the man's red socks?" She'll ask after a public event. "Why was there an extra director of music in the gallery?" She'll say after a concert, noticing something that even her security team missed. "What happened to the soldier?"
23:42 Speaker 00 She'll ask of a young man who cut his hand on a bayonet. And his commanding officer, who thought himself too important to be concerned with such things, will have no answer. A weak mind must be constantly entertained and stimulated. A strong mind can occupy itself and, more important, be still and vigilant in the moments that demand it. Of all that the queen has endured, one might think that, as a traditionalist in the most traditional of professions, she was at least protected from change. In fact, change has been the largest and most continual challenge of her life. For starters, most nations on earth today did not exist when she was born.
24:24 Speaker 00 The world has quite literally remade itself during her reign. Her job has been to both preserve her institution while simultaneously adapting to a rapidly changing future. She is the last bastion of standards, it has been said, and yet almost every one of those standards has been reevaluated, adjusted, and reimagined over the years, in some cases, many times. Change has become a constant, she said. Managing it has become an expanding discipline. Perhaps that is why, as part of this discipline, the royal household has adopted a kind of motto.
25:05 Speaker 00 "If things are going to stay the same," they like to say, "then things are going to have to change." We have to understand, self-discipline is not keeping things exactly as they are with an iron grip. It's not resistance to any and everything. Nor would much discipline be required in a world that always stayed the same. Temperance is also the ability to adjust, to make good of any situation, to find the opportunity to grow and improve in any situation. And to be able to do this with equanimity and poise, even initiative and joy, because what other choice do we have? Perhaps the most interesting and symbolic changes of Elizabeth's reign was her decision
25:50 Speaker 00 in 1993 to tax herself. Now, we can, of course, stipulate that, given the colonial origins of her vast fortune, this tax and her considerable charitable giving are the least the royal family could do. But if discipline is about holding yourself accountable, then there is perhaps no better example than the decision of a monarch to propose that her own government tax her estate and income over the objection of the prime minister himself. But that doesn't mean that everything is up in the air. "Better not" is a popular phrase inside the palace, as in, "Let's not overstep," as
26:31 Speaker 00 in, "Let's not rush into this," as in, "Let's not fix what isn't broken, let's take all things, including change, slowly." This extends to her considerable wealth and fame. Elizabeth is not an ascetic. She lives in a castle, after all. Fate gave her one, so why not enjoy it? Within bounds, this is perfectly possible for a disciplined person. While easier than grinding poverty, navigating abundance is its own challenge. To manage it, the queen has to live by a code, a sense of duty. "I, like Queen Victoria," she has said, "have always been a believer in that old maxim, 'moderation in all things.'"
27:13 Speaker 00 Younger members of her family have struggled with this kind of self-control, rebelled against it. In some disturbing cases, abdicated even their most basic duties as human beings. The idea that you don't get to do everything you want, that some things are non-negotiable, that the flip side of privilege is duty, and that power must be complemented by restraint, not everyone gets that. And their shameful behavior reminds us of the consequences. It's easy to be excited, it's easy to express a preference, it's easy to be a mess, too. To give yourself over to whim, or to emotions, or even to ambition, to keep yourself in check, to hold yourself to standards, especially when you could get away with less.
27:57 Speaker 00 As Musonius Rufus would say back in ancient Rome, "Is it not much better to be self-controlled and temperate in all one's actions than to be able to say what one ought to do?" As an advisor to kings and elites, he understood plenty of people are masters of their universe while lacking the most important power there is. Power over their minds, power over their actions and choices. Still, it's a hard life. Imagine being so exacting, as the queen must be, that when a speechwriter hands you a draft of an address that begins with, "I am very glad to be back in Birmingham," you take the time to cross out the word "very," because it's not quite true, nor would it
28:38 Speaker 00 be sincere or fair to all the other places she has to or never will visit. An ordinary person can get away with a little rhetorical flourish, but you aren't the queen if you're ordinary. The difficulty of that balance, you are unlike anyone, but you have to be relatable to everyone, you have to be approachable at the same time as being above reproach. Head of state and head of church, modern and timeless, with everyone watching, ready for the slightest mistake. Does that mean she allows herself no emotion, that self-discipline means a robotic suppression of feeling? Absolutely not.
29:20 Speaker 00 Although the queen holds herself to high standards, she is remarkably tolerant of breaches of protocol. The fan who reaches out and grabs her, the diplomat who forgets to bow. She is said to be surprisingly easy to talk to, very quick to put others at ease, because this, too, is part of the job. It's hard to be her, but she doesn't make that hard for you. She has endured her fair share of criticisms too, as all public figures must expect to endure. Did she run from this, complain about it? Quite the opposite. In 1992, a painful and difficult year that included the divorces of three of her children, a tell-all memoir published by one of the divorcees, and a fire at Windsor Castle,
30:04 Speaker 00 her so-called Annis Herribulus. The Queen, still smelling of smoke from the fire, took time to specifically point out that accountability from the press was part of her job. "There can be no doubt," she said, "that criticism is good for people and institutions that are part of public life. No institution, city, monarchy, whatever, should expect to be free from the scrutiny of those who give it their loyalty and support, not to mention those who don't." And yet, she has also reminded the British press that there is a difference between accountability and cruelty. "Scrutiny can be just as effective," she said, "if it is made with a touch of gentleness, good humor, and understanding."
30:46 Speaker 00 She has tried to respond with such courtesy even when it was not extended in her direction. In 1957, when the Queen was the subject of a controversial editorial that criticized her for being out of step with The Times, for her stilted manner of speaking and dependence on advisers, the Queen did not take offense. In fact, she took no public notice of the criticisms at all, even when the controversy grew so great that its author was assaulted in the streets of London. But she did privately and subtly address the legitimate feedback. Some note that even her accent has slowly shifted, becoming less pronounced and aristocratic over time, a rather impressive, if mostly uncredited feat.
31:30 Speaker 00 "No one lasts very long if they are afraid of change, and few are able to change if they are afraid of feedback or making mistakes." And so here she is at the time of this writing, 95 years old and still going. She has effectively and tirelessly served as head of state for roughly one-sixth of the Earth's surface. She has done so without personal corruption scandals, without affairs, without major missteps. If there was anyone who deserves retirement, it's her. But she keeps going, getting better at the most difficult job in the world as she goes. In 2013, the monarchs of the Netherlands, Belgium, and Qatar would abdicate.
32:14 Speaker 00 A pope would follow suit. For the Queen, this was unthinkable. "Oh, that's something I can't do," she said. "I'm going to carry on to the end." And so she has. What about you? Where is your discipline, your poise and grace under pressure? You're tired? You're in an impossible situation? Get out of here. There have been plenty of leaders with more power than Queen Elizabeth. Few, however, have had more restraint. There have been plenty of gluttons, but few as quietly glorious. It was this self-command, this self-abnegation, that has made her a ruler that people can be proud of.
32:56 Speaker 00 It saved her from herself, from the temptations of power, sure. It also helped her outlast not just many tyrants, but whole forms of tyranny itself. We have to understand greatness is not just what one does, but also what one refuses to do. It's how one bears the constraints of their world or their profession. It's what we're able to do within limitations, creatively, consciously, calmly. "Most people have a job and they go home," the Queen once reflected. "And in this existence, the job and the life go on together, because you can't really divide them up." There is no better definition of the path of temperance.
33:41 Speaker 00 It's an all-consuming, full-time thing. It's the journey of a lifetime, one that gets more impressive and rewarding the longer you stay at it.
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