Pod Insights Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend You Are So President Taft About this episode Conan talks to healer and soccer player Héloïse from Manila about throwing events for the local trans and autistic communities and to get advice on using slang to blend in.
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1:35 Conan O'Brien? Hi, Eloise, and welcome to Conan O'Brien Needs a Fan.
1:38 Speaker 04 Hello, hey, guys.
1:39 Conan O'Brien? Hey, Eloise, how are you?
1:40 Speaker 04 I'm doing okay. Yeah, pretty good.
1:43 Conan O'Brien? Okay. Well, you're talking to myself, Matt, Sona, the gang.
1:49 Speaker 05 Hi.
1:49 Conan O'Brien? And tell me, I don't know much. Tell me, where are you right now? Who are you? Tell us the whole story.
1:56 Speaker 04 Sure. My name is Eloise, her pronouns are she/her. I'm calling from Manila into Philippines. I am kind of like a healer in my community. So I'm a relationship and life coach. And I'm also my country's first openly trained soccer player.
2:13 Conan O'Brien? Wow. That's fantastic. And you say you're a healer as well? So you can help people? Maybe you could help me?
2:22 Speaker 01 Please.
2:23 Speaker 05 I don't know, that's a tall order.
2:25 Conan O'Brien? Because Eloise, people here think I need a lot of help.
2:28 Speaker 01 A lot of help.
2:29 Speaker 04 Okay, who do you need help with?
2:31 Conan O'Brien? Um, I was hoping you would know.
2:35 Speaker 04 I have some guesses.
2:40 Conan O'Brien? Well, uh, you live in Manila and tell me, uh, just a little bit about your life. What do you like to do? How do you have fun?
2:49 Speaker 04 Yeah, so I work most of the time. Um, me and my fiance, we like to throw events for our local, um, trans and autistic community. We throw little parties. We're doing an autistic friendly drag event. Um, and what do I do? I play a lot of soccer and I've been eating a lot of pizza lately.
3:14 Conan O'Brien? Wow, this is, pizza is the great unifier. Yeah. Of everything you just said. So you, uh, are very active in the trans community. You have lots of get togethers. What kinds of things, uh, wha- what kind of things do you like to do with your friends who are, who are trans? What, like what kind of, you know, do you have? Do you have parties? Do you have, what do you do?
3:37 Speaker 04 Yeah, we do like to have parties. We like to watch a lot of movies together and kind of just bond and connect over being weird.
3:47 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, I, uh, I would like to join you because I am told I'm weird, you know? Part of my life story.
3:56 Speaker 04 I think you would be a good addition to the LGBT community. I'm not a, um, certified representative, but I think, um, we could use a little bit of Conan because I think I'm the only one in my community that listens to Conan.
4:13 Conan O'Brien? Okay, well, all right, well, then there's work to be done.
4:18 Speaker 04 That's why I'm here, I think.
4:20 Conan O'Brien? Leave them alone. My mission has always been to expand my presence in the LGBTQ community in the Philippines. Very specifically. Yeah, I said that in 1963, the year I was born.
4:35 Speaker 04 I remember.
4:36 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, you remember. Yeah, wow, you have a time machine, apparently. Yeah. Um, well, would I, would I, would I get along? Would I fit in with everybody? I'm a pretty friendly person. I, would they accept me? I guess that's the big question. Would your friends accept me?
4:50 Speaker 04 Uh, well.
4:54 Conan O'Brien? So this isn't going well, Eloise. Eloise, I'm not getting good signals, Eloise.
5:00 Speaker 04 Well, I think there's a lot. I think there's a lot of work to be done, and I'm not just talking about like therapy, but I think in terms of like the queer community. Like, I will be playing your podcast when I'm doing my makeup in the morning, and my fiance, who's also here, will be listening. You'll be like, what are they talking about?
5:22 Conan O'Brien? Oh, I see, so.
5:24 Speaker 04 What is? Yeah, there's like references.
5:27 Conan O'Brien? Your friends are picking up when I'm laying down, is what you're saying?
5:31 Speaker 04 Yeah, I think like the James Bond references aren't going.
5:34 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, Conan, those are not my fault.
5:37 Speaker 01 Specifically, the James Bond references.
5:39 Conan O'Brien? That's Matt, that's Matt who has the obscure references.
5:43 Speaker 05 Hold on, last time that came up in detail, you brought it up.
5:46 Speaker 04 Who brings up Calvin Coolidge? Because I don't think that.
5:49 Speaker 05 Thank you.
5:49 Conan O'Brien? I always thought that Calvin Coolidge was huge in the trans community in the Philippines.
5:55 Speaker 01 Yeah.
5:55 Conan O'Brien? That was my understanding. Not so much President Taft, I get it. But, but Coolidge, yeah.
6:02 Speaker 04 Lyndon Johnson, I think, is, if you, if you reference Johnson more, it would, might be a little bit better.
6:08 Conan O'Brien? Okay, I'll, I'll double down on Johnson, okay?
6:13 Conan O'Brien? Well, okay, so, um, you, you say that, uh, let's say I came to Manila, and let's say that you and I were to meet, and you were going to take me out for a night with, uh, your friends in the trans community, what would we be doing?
6:30 Speaker 04 Okay, I was thinking about this, and the first thing we would go to is, there's this event called Girl Nation. It's a lesbian event, and it's mostly all lesbian women and some trans men, and then like one or two chill guys, so you have to pass that test of being chill and also an ally. Once you do that, yeah, I think that's why I'm here to help, is maybe I can teach you some slang or some things that will help you blend in and not stand out.
6:59 Conan O'Brien? Yes, I want to blend in very much, I want to be considered a chill guy when I go out on the town with you and your friends in the trans community, so tell me, what are the things I should know?
7:10 Speaker 04 Things, I think through some using gay lingo like offhandedly, being very used to it. You don't have to use it all the time, but if you use it like once a day in a podcast, then yeah, you'll be fine.
7:23 Conan O'Brien? Give me an example.
7:24 Speaker 04 So I think you could say it's giving dot, dot, dot, and then you make a reference at the end of that.
7:31 Speaker 01 Hmm.
7:32 Speaker 04 And you can use that to like, when you're like giving someone a compliment, or if you want to be passive aggressive, you can use it to give someone an insult, but you use a very specific and obscure reference at the end of it. So you can say like, oh, it's giving like season one Love is Blind, episode two. And someone would just go, oh my god.
7:50 Conan O'Brien? Could I do like, it's giving uh, view to a kill, scarping.
7:54 Speaker 01 Of course, oh, to James Bond. It all goes back to James Bond.
7:58 Conan O'Brien? I see what you're saying, though. It probably has to be a reality TV show, right? Uh, that's better.
8:03 Speaker 04 It could be a reality, but I think.
8:05 Conan O'Brien? Like now, Eloise, you're totally giving me, you know, season six Love Island, episode three, uh, cheetah. I just made all that all up.
8:17 Speaker 01 Cheetah?
8:18 Conan O'Brien? Cheetah.
8:19 Speaker 01 Okay.
8:20 Conan O'Brien? Does that work?
8:22 Speaker 04 I think the delivery has to maybe improve.
8:25 Conan O'Brien? You know what? Yeah, cuz I was too deliberate about it.
8:28 Speaker 01 Yes.
8:28 Conan O'Brien? You gotta just toss it off.
8:29 Speaker 04 You don't have to be like analyzing. You can just be like throwing it away. Like, oh yeah, you're totally, you can even reference like, you know, presidential terms. As long as you're specific and you're like throwing it away in a gay way, it's like.
8:41 Conan O'Brien? Okay, you are just right now, you know what? I don't need this from you. You are so president taft in selling the OC.
8:47 Speaker 01 Oh.
8:47 Conan O'Brien? I don't need this right now. Do you know what I mean?
8:50 Speaker 04 And I would be like, oh my gosh, slay, okay.
8:53 Conan O'Brien? Yeah.
8:53 Speaker 04 I don't know what that means.
8:54 Conan O'Brien? And then I say slay right back to you. Slay.
8:57 Speaker 04 Okay.
8:58 Conan O'Brien? See, I think already I'm doing pretty well.
9:00 Speaker 04 You're, you're, no one would know. You're basically a woman right now.
9:06 Conan O'Brien? There's, I've, I've heard that before.
9:12 Conan O'Brien? Eloise, this is a big help. You're helping me. This is good. I think you are here. I think I have to learn more about reality shows.
9:19 Speaker 01 Yes.
9:20 Conan O'Brien? What are the popular reality shows so I can just toss them off?
9:23 Speaker 04 Oh, Love is Blind.
9:25 Conan O'Brien? Love is Blind.
9:27 Speaker 04 Sona maybe knows more.
9:28 Speaker 01 I would say the entire Real Housewives franchise. I mean, if you, if you know.
9:33 Speaker 04 Oh, yeah, if you can reference that.
9:34 Speaker 01 Yeah.
9:35 Conan O'Brien? But is there a city that, because is there a Real Housewives?
9:40 Speaker 01 I mean, you know.
9:41 Conan O'Brien? Cincinnati? Or Salt Lake City?
9:43 Speaker 01 There's Salt Lake City, there's Atlanta, there's Orange County was the original.
9:48 Conan O'Brien? I call, I'm gonna go with Atlanta and I'm gonna call it Hotlanta.
9:51 Speaker 01 Okay.
9:52 Conan O'Brien? I'm not gonna do that.
9:55 Speaker 01 Not good.
9:55 Conan O'Brien? Okay.
9:56 Speaker 01 That's not good.
9:56 Conan O'Brien? All right.
9:57 Speaker 01 But yeah, you know, the, what else? I mean, I, I think, when I think of, you know, popular shows, I think of Real Housewives, but that's all I can think of off the top of my head.
10:06 Conan O'Brien? Eloise, you're totally giving me.
10:11 Speaker 05 It's going well. It's going well, buddy. Keep it up. You got it.
10:14 Speaker 01 Don't make these flashcards. Like Teresa from New Jersey. She's a classic.
10:19 Conan O'Brien? Oh, yeah. A little, a little Teresa. Season four, Real Housewives of New Jersey. Much, Eloise? Does that work?
10:28 Speaker 04 Yeah.
10:28 Conan O'Brien? Slay?
10:29 Speaker 04 It sounds a little like an insult, but I'll take it.
10:32 Speaker 01 Vanderpump Rules?
10:34 Conan O'Brien? Oh, yeah. Vanderpump Rules.
10:35 Speaker 01 Yeah. Do, do you know, you're, you're very van, I don't know a lot of the characters.
10:39 Speaker 05 Scandival.
10:40 Speaker 01 Scandival.
10:41 Conan O'Brien? Oh, that's too obvious. You gotta pick up someone obscure.
10:44 Speaker 01 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
10:45 Conan O'Brien? Svensson. What? He's the accountant on the show.
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11:00 Speaker 01 Yeah.
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16:45 Speaker 06 Oh, I didn't really ask.
16:46 Conan O'Brien? I just want you to know.
16:47 Speaker 06 It's the best way to support the show.
16:57 Conan O'Brien? I'm gonna do the best I can, though, to learn more about reality TV. I'm gonna say slay a lot. What else would we do?
17:04 Speaker 04 Giving. Oh, you can join a women's soccer training. I coached when I was younger. Yeah, you could become an elite athlete, and I can help you.
17:16 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, I got news for you.
17:17 Speaker 04 I think you'd make a really good.
17:18 Conan O'Brien? I got news for you. I think I have a much better chance in the trans community. I really do. I think I have a better chance than becoming an elite athlete. I just, I don't know. I just.
17:31 Speaker 04 You don't think you have it in you? You have the dog in you?
17:34 Conan O'Brien? I'm an old, old fellow. And the other day, I got out of bed quickly, and my left leg fell off.
17:43 Conan O'Brien? And I used electrical tape to put it back on. And so that's what I'm concerned about is pieces of my body coming off in the Philippines, you know?
17:52 Speaker 05 You're so Kyle versus Kim Richards in season one of Desperate Housewives.
17:58 Speaker 04 Exactly. That's so true.
18:00 Conan O'Brien? Thank you.
18:01 Speaker 04 You're really giving that Kyle from whatever math fact.
18:05 Speaker 05 The reason I know this is because Kyle Richards, who's one of the housewives, played Lindsay as the young girl in Halloween.
18:13 Conan O'Brien? There you go.
18:13 Speaker 05 That's why I know that.
18:14 Conan O'Brien? See?
18:14 Speaker 04 What?
18:14 Conan O'Brien? It doesn't matter where you get the knowledge, as long as you have the knowledge.
18:17 Speaker 05 I just shouldn't reveal that, right?
18:19 Conan O'Brien? Right now, you're being so Winston Bufferman on American Roadshow with his collection of pneumatic tubes that he sold.
18:30 Speaker 05 You are such a Jamie Heidemann from Mythbusters right now.
18:34 Conan O'Brien? Jesus.
18:35 Speaker 04 My god.
18:36 Conan O'Brien? Yeah.
18:37 Speaker 04 You guys are slaying each other.
18:39 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, she's incredible, right?
18:40 Speaker 05 Yeah.
18:41 Conan O'Brien? You are such a Walt Kellerman from American Pickers, season four.
18:44 Speaker 01 Oh, my god.
18:44 Speaker 05 Spoken like a Darwin Hamelsmith from the TV sci-fi makeup show Face Off.
18:49 Conan O'Brien? Okay.
18:50 Speaker 01 Yeah, yeah. You guys are like a couple detectives on the first forty-eight.
18:55 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, what?
18:58 Speaker 05 That's a docu-series, not a reality show.
19:00 Speaker 01 What is the difference? They're reality. There's a different kind of reality.
19:04 Speaker 05 No.
19:04 Speaker 01 Okay, all right, all right. Why can't we do docu-series?
19:08 Speaker 05 Oh, you can't slay with docu-series.
19:10 Speaker 01 You can't slay with a docu-series?
19:13 Conan O'Brien? Eloise, can you slay with docu-series?
19:16 Speaker 04 Um, I'm gonna have to call RuPaul and ask, but I think.
19:20 Conan O'Brien? RuPaul with definite no.
19:21 Speaker 01 Okay.
19:22 Conan O'Brien? Hold on, I got RuPaul on the line now. What's that? Oh, quick no.
19:25 Speaker 01 Okay.
19:25 Conan O'Brien? Invisible phone, everybody, and I hang that up.
19:27 Speaker 01 She wouldn't take your phone call.
19:28 Speaker 04 I'm sorry, Sona.
19:29 Speaker 01 Yeah.
19:30 Speaker 04 I don't, I don't know any of the references you just made.
19:35 Speaker 04 I think I'm becoming straight.
19:45 Speaker 04 No, I, I think I'm in trouble, because if I bring Conan and you guys make these references.
19:50 Conan O'Brien? I know.
19:51 Speaker 04 Me as a healer, and they'd be like.
19:53 Conan O'Brien? Eloise, after what you've heard today, do you want me to come visit you? And you're allowed to say no, you've changed your mind.
20:05 Speaker 01 That's such a long pause.
20:06 Conan O'Brien? That's a long pause, Eloise.
20:08 Speaker 01 She's a fan of yours.
20:09 Conan O'Brien? You just answered my question.
20:11 Speaker 04 I am a big fan, but I am also, you know, I have a reputation to uphold as one of the heroes in my day to day. And I don't mean that in a rude way. Maybe I can do your makeup and we will style you.
20:26 Speaker 01 The American Pickers reference.
20:28 Conan O'Brien? I think that's what did it.
20:30 Speaker 04 I think that might scare people.
20:32 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, I probably, yeah. Well, I admire your honesty. I really do. And, uh...
20:38 Speaker 04 I try.
20:39 Conan O'Brien? I appreciate that. Can I ask you a question? You've mentioned autism also during this interview. Uh, do you, are, are you autistic?
20:49 Speaker 04 Yeah, I am autistic.
20:51 Conan O'Brien? When did you find that out?
20:53 Speaker 04 When I met my partner, who is autistic, and I realized, oh, we are the same. I have what you have. But for my, most of my life, I didn't know that I had that. So, yeah. And I think like with autistic people, Conan is, can be a big hit or sometimes a miss because we have maybe issues of taking people very literally.
21:18 Conan O'Brien? Yeah.
21:18 Speaker 04 And so, for example, my whole family, we love watching Conan. And we've been watching it since I was 18. And we'd be around the TV with my mom, my sister and my brother. And we'd be all enjoying it. And like one day, my dad came in the room to kind of see what's going on. And my dad kind of takes the people very literally. I don't think he has a good, you know, understanding of that context. And we watched the whole episode of your show and we all loved it. And I look at my dad to see what does he think? And he just goes, "He's rude. He's really rude."
21:55 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, I can see that.
21:58 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, what if he sees the real me? What if, you know, what if he's right?
22:07 Speaker 04 I think.
22:08 Conan O'Brien? I can see, yeah, it's different, you know, it's, it's not, I'm not for everyone. And that's always the way it's been, you know?
22:15 Speaker 01 Who are you? You would be like, I'm on the next flight out to the Philippines to meet your dad and make him love me.
22:20 Conan O'Brien? I'm gonna win him over. I was pretending to be okay with your dad not liking me. But this is on.
22:30 Conan O'Brien? I'm obsessed now. What would I do? Well.
22:34 Speaker 04 Yeah, if he thinks you're rude, how would you, what kind of comedy would you go?
22:37 Conan O'Brien? Well, first of all, I'd be very respectful and kind to him. So respectful and kind that he would see that I'm not rude. Then, um, I.
22:46 Speaker 04 He's so hilarious.
22:47 Conan O'Brien? Yeah, and then, uh, I would probably bring him some gifts and, um.
22:53 Speaker 05 What would you bring him?
22:54 Conan O'Brien? Oh, um, well, what is your, what is your dad like?
22:57 Speaker 04 Um, pork.
23:00 Conan O'Brien? Yes. That'll fly well.
23:04 Conan O'Brien? Goes right in the overhead compartment. So I would wrap some pork in newspaper. Just a full pig. Put it in the overhead compartment.
23:13 Conan O'Brien? And fly, I think it's probably a pretty quick flight from LA to Manila. And then get in a cab in the hot sun and take this rotten, fetid pork to your father and say, "Hey, you're the guy that thought I was rude. Have this rotting pork." And then I think we'd be best buddies, don't you think?
23:33 Speaker 04 I think he would think you were courting him. But yeah, you know, give it a try.
23:38 Conan O'Brien? You are so season three American botulism.
23:43 Conan O'Brien? So.
23:44 Speaker 05 I can't believe that got three seasons.
23:49 Conan O'Brien? I almost didn't finish one.
23:51 Speaker 04 If you can win my father's approval, then you can do something I haven't, so that'd be really cool.
23:59 Speaker 04 Maybe we can work together.
24:01 Conan O'Brien? I have my ways. I tend to win people over. Sony, you've seen me in action.
24:04 Speaker 01 I have, I have. Yeah, even, even the biggest naysayers, you get them on your side.
24:09 Conan O'Brien? I don't think there are that many, but yeah.
24:10 Speaker 01 Yeah, I've seen it happen. So, big naysayers.
24:13 Conan O'Brien? Not so, not so big. Just people that had slight hesitation and they overcame it.
24:17 Speaker 01 Quite a few people.
24:18 Conan O'Brien? Not a lot.
24:19 Speaker 01 Lot, lot of people.
24:20 Conan O'Brien? Not big naysayers.
24:23 Conan O'Brien? Eloise, are there any events that we would go to together? Are there any events in the trans community that I could participate in?
24:29 Speaker 04 Yeah, we are doing some event for trans women and trans men. We're doing one for men, where we talk about healthy masculinity. What does it take to be a good man? And we also give people, or hope we're planning this, hoping to give people haircuts while we're talking about that in a barber shop. And then we have one for trans men, where we talk about what it means to be a good woman, in a more progressive way.
24:53 Conan O'Brien? Cool.
24:54 Speaker 04 Healthy. Are you, are you interested in either of those?
24:58 Conan O'Brien? Sure. I was just hoping at one point, there's alcohol involved. You know, going to a, a club or something. But I, yes, I like those. I think what you're doing sounds very cool and very healthy. But at some point, I wanna, I wanna hit the dance floor. Do you understand? You've got to see my moves to believe them, Eloise. You've got to see them.
25:16 Speaker 04 Why does this sound like a threat?
25:18 Conan O'Brien? Yes, yes. That's not necessarily a brag. Unless my demands are met, Eloise. Unless there's a suitcase full of cash in this podcast office tomorrow, you will see me dance.
25:32 Speaker 04 Oh my gosh.
25:33 Conan O'Brien? Yeah. You have 24 hours. The clock is ticking. Well, Eloise, it was
25:38 Speaker 04 I think it's a good way.
25:38 Conan O'Brien? Eloise, it was very nice talking to you, and you are very funny. You seem very funny and very cool. And I do believe you're a healer, because I've had fun talking to you. And you have healed me. So what do you think of that?
25:52 Speaker 04 That's great.
25:53 Conan O'Brien? Yeah.
25:53 Speaker 04 I think that'll be $250.
25:59 Conan O'Brien? All right. I'll get it to you. Thank you, Eloise. Nice talking to you.
26:03 Speaker 04 Bye.
26:03 Conan O'Brien? Bye-bye.
26:04 Speaker 04 Bye. Bye. Thanks, guys.
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