Why You “Ruin Your Diet” Every Holiday (PS: It’s Not Willpower) with Jenn Trepeck

Here’s a run down of what we discussed in today’s episode: Introduction Why Willpower Isn’t the Key to Behavior Change Willpower as a Muscle (or Phone Battery) How the Holidays Drain Our Willpower Faster What the Parole Judge Study Teaches Us About Decision Fatigue Why Willpower Works Better Before Temptation Hits Using Upstream Willpower: What It Actually Means Holiday Tactics That Don’t Depend on Willpower Building Systems Now to Avoid December Burnout Setting Up Habits That Make January Easier Ending the Annual “Start Strong, Fall Off” Cycle A Kinder Approach to Holiday Eating Check in with today’s amazing guest: Jenn Trepeck Website: asaladwithasideoffries.com Podcast: A Salad With a Side of Fries Instagram: @jenntrepeck Book: Uncomplicating Wellness Disclaimer: The content in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is never a substitute for medical advice. If you’re struggling with with your mental or physical health, please work one on one with a health care provider. If you have heard yourself in our discussion today, and are looking for support, contact the free NEDIC helpline at 1-866-NEDIC-20 or go to eatingdisorderhope.com. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •✨ Reach Your Weight & Health Goals — Without Dieting! Pre-order The Hunger Crushing Combo Method, Abbey’s revolutionary additive approach to eating well. Learn how to boost satiety, stabilize blood sugars, reduce disease risk, and improve your relationship with food — all while getting the best nutrient bang for your caloric buck. With 400+ research citations, cheat sheets, evidence-based actionable tips, meal plans, and adaptable recipes, The Hunger Crushing Combo Method is the only nutrition bible you’ll ever need. 👉 Pre-order today! 🛒 Where to Purchase: Amazon Barnes & Noble Amazon Kindle Apple Books Google Play Kobo Apple Books (Audiobook) Audible abbeyskitchen.com/hunger-crushing-combo • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •✉️ Subscribe to My Newsletters: Abbey’s Kitchen Newsletter 📘 Check out my FREE E-Books: Hunger Crushing Combo™ E-Book Protein 101 E-Book 👋 Follow me! Instagram: @abbeyskitchen TikTok: @abbeyskitchen YouTube: @AbbeysKitchen Blog: abbeyskitchen.com Book: The Mindful Glow Cookbook • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • 🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen — and leave us a review! It really helps support the show ❤️ 💬 If you liked this podcast, please like, follow, and leave a review — and let me know who you’d love to hear about next! ⭐ ⭐ ⭐⭐ ⭐ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Speaker 00

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• 0:31Speaker 01

  Those who use willpower most effectively, use the willpower to create the habits and the systems and the routines.

• 0:44Abbey Sharp?

  Welcome to another episode of Bite Back with Abbey Sharp, where I dismantle diet culture rules, call out the charlatans spinning the pseudoscience, and help you achieve food freedom for good. Today, we're diving into a topic that hits especially close to home during the holiday season upon us, and that is diet willpower. If you've been trapped in diet culture for most of your adult life, you surely know the binge-restrict cycle of the holiday party circuit. Basically, you starve yourself all day leading up to the festivities, only to dive headfirst into the all-you-can-eat cheese buffet the moment you get a first whiff of the aged parm.

• 1:28Abbey Sharp?

  Feeling defeated, you berate yourself for your lack of willpower, succumb to your negative self-reproach, and say, "Fuck it, I'm gonna go hard on my diet in January." Rinse and repeat. What if we went into this holiday season with a wildly different approach? One without the binge-restrict cycle, the self-loathing, and the dependence on so-called willpower that a starved body and brain realistically can never have? Joining me today to unpack this is the host of the podcast Salad with a Side of Fries and author of the upcoming book, Complicating wellness Jen Trepeck.

• 2:13Abbey Sharp?

  Today Jen and I will discuss why lack of willpower isn't a moral failure, how the holidays dry up our willpower bucket remarkably quickly, how to set ourselves up for success without a reliance on willpower, and how to reframe failures when we do inevitably overeat. Also, a quick reminder that my book, The Hunger Crushing Combo Method, which echoes a lot of the themes that we're going to discuss today, is now available for preorder in the link below. Honestly, folks, preorders are super, super important to us authors. They play a huge role in the success of a book. So I would love if you would check out the descriptions to learn more. And right now, you'll get a free Hunger Crushing Combo Holiday Survival ebook

• 2:57Abbey Sharp?

  if you preorder today. So definitely check out the description to learn how you can redeem. All right, friends, let's get into it.

• 3:10Abbey Sharp?

  All right. Hi Jen, thank you so much. It's so exciting to chat with you. I feel like this is such a critical conversation all year round, but especially as we head into the holidays. So thank you for joining me.

• 3:20Speaker 01

  Well, thank you for having me. I'm super excited to be here.

• 3:23Abbey Sharp?

  Now, I kind of wanted to start with some basics here because you know, so often we, you know, when people kind of quote, quote cheat or quote, quote mess up on their diet or even just have a hard time getting started making healthier habits, we tend to blame our lack of discipline. We tend to think, oh, if I just had more willpower, then I'd be able to lose weight. If only I had more willpower, I'd be able to stop after eating one cookie instead of eating the whole sleeve. Why is this not a helpful way to frame behavior change?

• 3:56Speaker 01

  Okay, so, so many ways to go with this, but fundamentally, one piece is that we misunderstand what willpower actually is. The other side of that is even our behavior is biochemical. Even willpower is biochemical. And we take this on as some sort of moral failing. And it's just simply not. But in In order for us to really understand and sorry for the pun, but digest that it's not a moral failure. We have to understand all of those other pieces of the biochemistry because you're not failing. You know, even when we have those moments, like so much of this behavior is a direct reflection

• 4:40Speaker 01

  of other choices. I also, I used to describe it as feeling like I was climbing Mount Everest naked and barefoot, white knuckling it. And everyone around me is like, climb, climb. What's wrong with you? Why aren't you climbing? And you're like, are you kidding? You know, it's so frustrating when we feel that way. And when I learned some of this, it was like, oh, like a weight was lifted. I'm not broken. In fact, my body is doing exactly what we would expect it to do if we truly understand. So oftentimes that feeling of going off the rails or eating the whole sleeve of cookies

• 5:22Speaker 01

  is not even willpower, but a direct connection to restriction, to under eating typically earlier in the day, you know, but really living in this place of extremes, expecting perfection and then having those moments where there's that temptation and feeling like we can't hold a candle to that temptation.

• 5:46Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah. And, and, and I'm going to talk more about the under eating piece in a moment. But yeah, I love in, in your book, you, you, you describe willpower as being like a muscle or like a phone battery. Can you kind of explain what, what you mean by that?

• 5:59Speaker 01

  Absolutely. So just like our phone battery, it depletes and needs to be recharged. Just like a muscle, it can fatigue and we need to strengthen and build that muscle. Or sometimes I even use the analogy of like a refillable cup of water. There are sort of ideas of understanding what drains from that cup, what drains the battery, what recharges it. And even are there things that we could do like a muscle that? Increase the size of the muscle, or increase the size of the cup, or the overall battery life in our daily lives. And so, well, I guess before we get to what replenishes it, let's talk about what depletes it. Because most of the time,

• 6:44Speaker 01

  we misunderstand, like I said before, what willpower actually is. So willpower is simply self-discipline. So anytime we are using discipline, it's drinking from that willpower cup. Anytime we are making any kind of decision, it's drinking from that willpower cup. So if we think about what happens in a normal day, we wake up in the morning, we're making a decision about, am I getting out of bed or am I snoozing? We're making a decision of what am I wearing that day? Maybe that takes 20 decisions to get to what am I wearing that day? Then what am I eating for breakfast? Am I eating breakfast? If I have to commute somewhere, which direction am I going? And then there are even the choices that we don't realize we're making.

• 7:28Speaker 01

  Like if you drive past a Starbucks or a Dunkin' Donuts and you don't stop, it is still your brain clocking that that's there and you're not stopping. So most of the time, then we get to even things in our day that have real consequences to the choices, right? Things that really matter in life.

• 7:49Abbey Sharp?

  Right.

• 7:50Speaker 01

  What's happening with our kids? Making sure they're safe? What are we doing all day? Is everybody covered? Our work decisions. Then we get to the end of the day. It's no wonder that it feels like there is a magnet between you and that Dunkin' Donuts on your way home.

• 8:06Abbey Sharp?

  Totally.

• 8:07Speaker 01

  You know, so it stands to reason that of course, things are easier earlier in the day than later, after that cup is depleted, after that battery is drained.

• 8:17Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah, yeah. And you know, I think it's very important to make clear that like, we do need some quote-unquote willpower. It's not like we're doing away with all willpower because willpower can act as this like really important spark to take that first uncomfortable step towards something that you want. And you know, it's critical for handling emergencies, for example, for building self-efficacy. If we had no willpower to like respond. In an emergency, we wouldn't be here or our children wouldn't be safe, you know?

• 8:44Speaker 01

  A thousand percent.

• 8:45Abbey Sharp?

  But of course, like you said, it fuels, it becomes problematic when it fuels that shame or it's relied on for every decision or it's used to mask bigger issues. And you know, we're, we're, we're coming to the holidays here when there's so many of these external factors that you're kind of speaking to that can lead to this willpower cup getting depleted more quickly between the family time with a lot of people and the shopping and the cooking and the travel and the financial strain, then the decision fatigue, you know, even thinking about what you're going to wear to each party can feel overwhelming. And then of course, after all that, you've got these endless trays of treats and booze

• 9:27Abbey Sharp?

  and the poor sleep. And you know, this is just not a supportive environment for us to be able to use willpower in, in a non-problematic way. And I now I want to kind of speak to some of those things because if we're thinking about a supportive environment or not so supportive environment, as you said earlier, under eating, always going to be a setup for willpower depletion.

• 9:50Speaker 01

  And the reason is, I just want to expand on that a second.

• 9:53Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 9:54Speaker 01

  Our willpower is tied to our blood sugar.

• 9:56Abbey Sharp?

  Hmm.

• 9:57Speaker 01

  So if we do not have glucose or blood sugar, we will not have willpower. Now here's the irony. So my specialty area is weight management and the irony of it all is that old adage of eat less, move more. Well, eating less drops our blood sugar, drops our willpower, then we feel like something's wrong with us when the tray of charcuterie and cheese and crackers and cookies and all the things is it like has a voice and it's screaming at us. Of course, to quiet that voice, we have to raise our blood sugar. We have to eat.

• 10:36Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah, yeah. And, and we see this so often, you know, during the holidays where folks try to kind of quote, quote, save up their calories.

• 10:43Speaker 01

  Oh, yes.

• 10:44Abbey Sharp?

  You know, knowing they're going to probably have a few glasses of wine. So they're not going to like, you know, they're going to skip lunch and they arrive at this party ravenous. And obviously we, like you said, you can't make the best decision when your brain is deprived of fuel.

• 10:57Speaker 01

  Totally.

• 10:58Abbey Sharp?

  And in the book, you make this really cool, interesting parallel to the judge's study on parole. Can you talk about that, that study? Because it's so fascinating to me, and I think it really does help us visualize this in, in a different way.

• 11:13Speaker 01

  Absolutely. So it's the importance, it's a study that was really on understanding how important blood sugar is in our decision making. So the idea fundamentally is that if we are in a place of low blood sugar, our body experiences that as danger. In moments of danger, in an effort to find safety, the body says, what feels safe? What feels like my normal? What can maintain status quo? Maintaining status quo is not taking risks. Maintaining status quo is not doing something differently, likely reverting back to old behaviors and old habits.

• 11:57Speaker 01

  So in the study, they looked at, it was prisoners who were up for parole. And essentially, based on the time of day, played a major impact on whether or not they were granted parole. So those who were granted parole most were those who appeared in the morning and right after lunch, when our blood sugar wasn't, when the judge's blood sugar wasn't depleted.

• 12:24Abbey Sharp?

  Right.

• 12:25Speaker 01

  Those who appeared just before lunch or later in the day, received parole way less of the time, regardless of what the crime was. So if we think of, and, and the reason being there, right, is that naturally, we're not willing to take the risk of someone being back out into society, potentially doing whatever it was again. We're looking for safety, maintaining status quo. And in those scenarios, maintaining status quo is that prisoner behind bars.

• 12:56Abbey Sharp?

  Staying.

• 12:56Speaker 01

  Yeah, exactly.

• 12:57Abbey Sharp?

  Oh, it's so interesting.

• 12:59Speaker 01

  So we take that to ourselves. Of course, when our blood sugar is low, the cookies, chips, baked goods, pasta, all the things that are those comfort foods. are infinitely more appealing and infinitely more difficult to turn down or have a new experience at this holiday party compared to what we've ever done before. Because our body is literally fighting for that old scenario.

• 13:24Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah, I always think of that Snickers commercial, like, you're not you when you're hungry. You know, like, right, like, my husband can obviously attest to that about me. But of course, like, when we're running on fumes, low blood, blood sugar, stress, which means increased cortisol, exhaustion, hangry, we're just too under-resourced to make more mindful decisions.

• 13:43Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 13:44Abbey Sharp?

  And one of my favorite reframes that you offer in the book is that willpower is best used upstream, not in the moment of temptation or when you're already super depleted. And this makes total sense to me. Can you explain what you mean by that?

• 13:59Speaker 01

  Yes. So what we see in all the research is that those who use willpower most effectively use the willpower to create the habits and the systems and the routines. So it does require a little bit of work upfront, right? Going upstream for a period of time, using that willpower to create the habits, such that over time, those habits become much more automatic and therefore don't require any willpower or any decision making. And then we get to the party and we still have a cup of willpower that we can use.

• 14:39Speaker 01

  The other thing is using that willpower upstream to put in place in our daily lives, throughout the day, small things that recharge that battery, that refill that cup. So that again, when we enter that situation later in the day, where we're looking to have that extra support, it's there.

• 15:02Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 15:02Speaker 01

  Rather than us sort of dumping this cup over and being like, there's nothing there.

• 15:06Abbey Sharp?

  Nothing left. Yeah.

• 15:21Abbey Sharp?

  Give us some practical examples during the holidays. Like, what are some tactics to employ willpower upstream as we're getting into this, you know, festive holiday party season?

• 15:30Speaker 01

  Yeah, so one of the things, even what you talked about before of how we had this idea of saving up our calories for the party, let's not.

• 15:37Abbey Sharp?

  Do not, don't do that. Never works.

• 15:40Speaker 01

  Right. Let's make sure, exactly, let's make sure that we're fueling well throughout the day. Let's put that morning on autopilot. So what can you do now to put those mornings on autopilot? Maybe it's deciding what we're wearing the night before, or planning it all out on a Sunday or something so that during the week, it doesn't require that brain power. One of my other favorite things is making sure that we have movement in every day. Movement and exercise actually increases our willpower for a variety of reasons. So building that into our day, even just recognizing that we want to eat and not show up to that

• 16:20Speaker 01

  party ravenous influences it. Accountability improves our willpower, refills that cup. So what does the accountability look like for you? By the way, accountability is not the food police.

• 16:34Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 16:34Speaker 01

  I know so often that's what we have in our heads because, you know, we've got a long history.

• 16:40Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah, that's what all the diets have taught us to. You got like, show up to Weight Watchers for accountability reasons, right? Like weighing in together.

• 16:47Speaker 01

  Right. So accountability might look like saying to a friend, remind me to drink water after each drink. I'm giving you permission to say that to me. It might look like checking in with a friend who's not at the party to text them about how it's going. I had a client recently, um, at a holiday event where we had a whole plan. You know, he had done, I do this paper plate exercise with my clients. Um, I actually have it as a bonus episode on my podcast, Salad with a Side of Fries, a nutrition nugget, paper plate exercise that you can do before any holiday. I think I typically do it before Thanksgiving. But so, we did this for this holiday. He had a plan.

• 17:33Speaker 01

  And he got there and the way the food was set up, it was a buffet instead of things being on the table and like passing it around. And he turned to his wife and started to say something and she said, "How about I make your plate?" And she went up to the buffet for him and put the plate together and brought it back to him. So using those external resources dramatically increased his willpower. Yeah. One of my favorites that increases willpower is generosity. And this one's really interesting. So it kind of goes back to that same thing with the judges and parole. So if we are in danger and our body is looking to maintain status quo

• 18:14Speaker 01

  and, you know, fighting fear, that is all very me focused, right? We are the center of that. Inherently in generosity is making somebody else the focus. And if when we are able to make somebody else the focus, it is sending signals to the body of safety. If we are able to focus on someone or something else. So could you, during the holiday season, be sure that you're holding the door for the person behind you? Maybe buy somebody else's coffee that day or just before you head to that party. Could we make the focus of that party experiencing all the people over the food? Right. And making sure just little things to up the ante

• 18:59Speaker 01

  so that you have the willpower for that moment. And by the way, I also think part of that is the plan. And the plan that is for reality, not the plan that is for some textbook perfect moment that doesn't even actually ever exist. Totally. So include the treats that define the holiday for you. Yeah. If it's that gingerbread cookie, include the gingerbread cookie in the plan.

• 19:28Abbey Sharp?

  Hundred percent because the more you say, okay, I'm never, I'm not having any treats at the holidays. That's just not realistic. And that's, you know, on my platforms, we talk a lot about my, my framework, the hunger crushing combo. And that is this idea that we're going to dress up those naked carbs by combining and enjoying those foods.

• 19:47Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 19:48Abbey Sharp?

  Not cutting out. We have to have this additive mindset so that we're not getting to the scarcity mentality that of course is going to dry up that willpower cup. You know, it's like you, you just can't put yourself into a, into a mindset of deprivation and denial and not expect that your body is not going to rebel.

• 20:09Speaker 01

  A thousand percent.

• 20:10Abbey Sharp?

  I don't know. I don't know. But I'm thinking about my own kind of upstream willpower tactics here. And for me, it's just like, how about learning to say no sometimes? Like just, you don't need to go to every party if that is going to drain your cup. And I've like, for me, I kind of know what my capacity is for, for socializing and my capacity is for like not getting perfect sleeps. And so just be mindful about that ahead of time and just being like, you know what, I'm just going to decline this offer. And because I know it's in my best interest and just for, you know, my own self-care. And that is okay. And being okay with that, you know, I'm done being a people pleaser.

• 20:50Speaker 01

  I know. I think that comes. So same. And I, I always say I'm a recovering people pleaser.

• 20:55Abbey Sharp?

  Yes.

• 20:56Speaker 01

  It is a constant practice.

• 20:58Abbey Sharp?

  Constant.

• 20:59Speaker 01

  And the other piece is like, also saying yes to going to something also doesn't mean that we have to be there the whole time.

• 21:07Abbey Sharp?

  Correct.

• 21:08Speaker 01

  Or that we have to show up right when it starts.

• 21:10Abbey Sharp?

  Or go right to the end, like, you know?

• 21:12Speaker 01

  And so if you're one of those people where like, that idea is mind boggling to you because I get it. Or even like I'm the one we're cancelling last minute is mind boggling for me.

• 21:24Abbey Sharp?

  Mm hmm, mm hmm.

• 21:26Speaker 01

  You know, reminding yourself that when someone else does that, we're okay with it for the most part.

• 21:31Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 21:31Speaker 01

  Right? It's more about managing that expectation. So if we message the host and say, can't wait for tonight, probably gonna arrive around whatever time, they know what to expect.

• 21:42Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah, or can't stay long.

• 21:43Speaker 01

  And vice versa, can't wait, probably gonna have to leave at whatever time.

• 21:48Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 21:48Speaker 01

  It's fine.

• 21:49Abbey Sharp?

  It's fine. And I'm all for an Irish goodbye, honestly, just I think that's the way to do it at these things. So much less pressure. You don't feel like you have to, you're feeling anxious about the leave. Just like, just go, just go.

• 22:03Speaker 01

  Yes, exactly. And then, and I'd be remiss if I didn't mention just distraction.

• 22:08Abbey Sharp?

  Hmm.

• 22:09Speaker 01

  So we talked about making the party about the socializing and the people versus the food.

• 22:16Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 22:16Speaker 01

  This is also based in science and research. So you know, the old study, it was like the little kids with the marshmallows?

• 22:23Abbey Sharp?

  Yes.

• 22:24Speaker 01

  And it was like, if you don't eat the marshmallow for 10 minutes, we'll give you two marshmallows.

• 22:29Abbey Sharp?

  Right.

• 22:30Speaker 01

  But if you eat the marshmallow now, you're not going to get another one.

• 22:32Abbey Sharp?

  Right.

• 22:33Speaker 01

  The kids who were able to wait out the time period are the ones who distracted themselves.

• 22:39Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 22:39Speaker 01

  They played with their shoelaces, they counted ceiling tiles, they distracted themselves and paid attention to other things. We can do that too. And it might mean thinking about that and planning it a little bit and having, you know, an idea of what we're gonna do. You know, maybe it's easier to have something in your hand.

• 22:59Abbey Sharp?

  Totally.

• 23:00Speaker 01

  You know, well, have a water, a club soda, seltzer, whatever in your hand. Have, you know, physically stand further away. Be sure that you're talking to people, whatever it is. You can add those distractions for yourself.

• 23:15Speaker 01

  If we just sort of recognize it as a tool in our tool belt to increase that willpower.

• 23:22Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah.

• 23:23Speaker 01

  To help us stick to the plan that we create.

• 23:25Abbey Sharp?

  Yeah. And for my friends who perhaps are not the most socially inclined, like plan some conversations ahead of time, you know, like, you know, if you're worried about being awkward or, or, you know, not knowing what to do other than just like beelining it to the buffet, like have a few key topics that you feel like, okay, I'm going to talk to this person about this and this person about this. And I feel like that will kind of set you up for success in kind of keeping your night a little bit busy. And not, like you said, like a little bit of distraction from, from the buffet. If, especially if you've already actually eaten and your body is well fueled and you're kind of not actually physically in need of that sustenance.

• 24:09Speaker 01

  Exactly. I, great topics for this time of year. First of all, I think travel is a hundred percent, you know, going anywhere for the holidays, who are you celebrating with is an easy one. Or even, are you doing a ton of shopping? You know, do you have a long list of gifts to buy?

• 24:28Abbey Sharp?

  Yep.

• 24:29Speaker 01

  Things that are relevant to most people this time of year.

• 24:34Abbey Sharp?

  Great little talking points.

• 24:35Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 24:49Abbey Sharp?

  Okay. I want to close up here because obviously, you know, diet culture is always trying to convince us that we need more willpower. When ideally, we, we really should be setting up an environment to simply kind of need to rely on it less, like we've been talking about. And, you know, not relying on it for all the decisions because as we've established, we are going to be in situations sometimes where our willpower cups are just already drained, like the holidays.

• 25:15Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 25:16Abbey Sharp?

  How can people start building systems or habits right now? So that we're not white knuckling it through December, only to just like go hard in January and then fall off the wagon in February, rinse and repeat.

• 25:28Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 25:30Speaker 01

  There are so many things. So I'm gonna list a couple and I'm gonna say, pick one. Pick one. Cause I even think that's part of the all or nothing history that many of us have. We try to do all of the things, which feels like overwhelming, another job, complicated, stressful, and then we throw the whole thing out the window. And that's where we're in this on off, good, bad, black, white, yo-yo over and over. So pick one thing, play with it, pick the next thing. So sleep is an unbelievable tool for replenishing willpower. This time

• 26:12Speaker 01

  of year, that's harder. So maybe we're not picking that. Yeah. Right? Yeah. One of my favorites is how we start the day. So is it possible, even though we're having some later nights this time of year, to wake up at the same time every day, to get first morning light to our eyes and eat a nutrient dense meal within an hour to 90 minutes of waking up? We're deliberately adding these tools in to replenish that willpower throughout the day. And then you're gonna have it. So it might mean putting this in your calendar as a reminder, because again, I hear it all the time. People will say, well,

• 26:52Speaker 01

  I just need to. Well, I just need to do it. No. How can we make it easy to do it so that doing it doesn't require more of that willpower? So that doing it doesn't require extra steps or brain capacity? So is it a reminder in the calendar? Is it an alarm on your phone? Is it a post-it on your refrigerator or a post-it on your front door or on your nightstand? How can you make it easy to do the thing that you wanna do? That, by the way,

• 27:27Speaker 01

  Is part of the magic in behavior change that we don't actually rely on ourselves to make it happen. We include the environment and make it easy, dare I say effortless, to remember to do the thing. Have other things remind you so that it's not one more thing on your to do list.

• 27:51Abbey Sharp?

  I am so amazed by all this. I feel like this is going to be so, so helpful for so many folks listening right now, especially as we head into the holidays, but really all year round. Like, these are skills that if we start to develop them right now, they are going to kind of be able to get us through all of these different seasons of life. As, you know, like you said, there will be times when the willpower cup is a little bit lower than than others. So, super helpful. I'm going to be leaving links to your podcast, Sell With A Side Of Fries, in the show notes, and also your new book, Uncomplicating Wellness. So, thank you so much again for joining me, John.

• 28:32Speaker 01

  Thank you for having me. It's such a pleasure. We could talk forever. So, loved it.

• 28:35Abbey Sharp?

  This was such an important conversation for this time of year, as I feel like a lot of us may be feeling the constant ups and downs of indulging and punishing, rinse, repeat. But I wanted to leave you with some actionable strategies that you can employ following a more indulgent holiday meal to help you stop this cycle in its tracks. First of all, pause and refrain. Instead of spiraling into guilt or like a last supper mentality where you think, oh, my God, I blew my diet, I might as well go hog wild, I want you to pause and refrain the experience as this. I had a meal, those cookies were

• 29:18Abbey Sharp?

  pretty tasty, and now I'm in control to choose what happens next. Tomorrow is not a time to pay for my sins. It is another delicious day to make choices that fuel my body, mind, and soul. Making a vow to yourself not to restrict or punish yourself helps prevent two cookies from becoming the whole tin.

• 29:42Abbey Sharp?

  Number two, drink lots and lots of water. Alcohol, sweets, and fried foods often leave you feeling dehydrated, bloated, and constipated. So make sure you're upping your hydration the next morning to stop feeling like you're being punished and get yourself into a better baseline groove. Number three, eat breakfast. Yes, even if you're feeling physically a little icky or emotionally ashamed from how much you ate the day before. Start with a refreshing breakfast that combines protein, fiber-rich produce, and healthy whole-food fats, not as a punishment, but as an act of self-care to help to stabilize

• 30:26Abbey Sharp?

  blood sugars, reclaim your natural hunger and satiety cues, and help you start your day with a nourishing mindset. Number four, skip the militant boot camp trying to work off your "indiscretions" and focus on adding some joyful movement into your day. Movement can help support digestion if you're feeling a little sluggish down there. It can boost your mood during a post-meal crash, and it helps to stabilize blood sugars and energy levels. And finally, the next time another holiday event is on the calendar, tune into your body's needs with curiosity instead of judgment. If you feel yourself dipping into that all-or-nothing kind of thinking about what and

• 31:11Abbey Sharp?

  how much you're gonna eat, pause and ask yourself what you really need. Did I restrict too much today and now my appetite is out of control? Am I tired, stressed, and overstimulated and looking for an emotional pick-me-up? Sometimes what feels like another craving is really your body asking for calm, connection, or more calories, and just a little nonjudgmental check-in can help you get the answers that you need. Remember, friends, the holidays are all about connection and joy, not food perfection. And overeating once in a while is a normal human experience, not a crisis.

• 31:54Abbey Sharp?

  The most powerful strategy that you have is to normalize it. Acknowledge it happened, care for yourself with kindness, and move forward. Every choice is another chance to align with how you want to feel. No waiting until January required. And again, on that note, thank you again to Jen Trepeck for helping me fight back against diet culture. And I'll be leaving links below to her new book, Uncomplicating Wellness, and of course, to my upcoming title, The Hunger Crushing Combo Method, which is now on pre-sale. Thank you again so much for your support thus far. It really does mean so, so much. Signing off with Science and SaaS, I'm Abbey Sharp. Thanks for listening.

• 32:50Speaker 00

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