Pod Insights Betrayal Dead Weight | EP 3 | Saskia's Story About this episode Mike’s mask comes off, and Saskia’s friends and family rush to gather evidence before it’s too late.
Content Warning for tech-enabled sexual abuse, nonconsensual intimate image distribution, and rape.
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2:35 Speaker 01 On the night of October 28, 2018, Saskia's eyes fluttered open in the darkness, and they landed on her husband's laptop.
2:46 Speaker 05 The open screen was facing me. I saw what looked like a mostly naked back and butt with some light blue underpants on.
2:58 Speaker 01 Mike was turned away from her. He didn't see that she had woken up. She blinked against the blur of the computer light, trying to get her eyes to focus.
3:08 Speaker 05 I was so out of it. It was like I was in a dream, but I also knew that this was really serious.
3:15 Speaker 01 She fought to keep her eyes open. Her meds were pulling her to sleep. But as her mind shut down, something within her whispered, "Remember this moment. Remember that screen."
3:31 Speaker 05 I don't know how I was able to do this, but I remember looking and I saw the name Chatterbait. And then I remember seeing 1,600 followers. I didn't know what that meant, but I just knew. Just remember these things. These are significant. And I passed back out.
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4:18 Speaker 01 The next time Saskia opened her eyes, it was morning, Sunday morning. The street outside was quiet and daylight streamed through the blinds. But as she lay in bed, she could feel panic rising in her chest.
4:32 Speaker 05 I woke up feeling so scared, like petrified.
4:37 Speaker 01 Her mind was flooded by that underwater feeling, and her body felt heavy as if she were unable to move. But those feelings were interrupted by the image of the person in their underwear, and those words: Chatterbait, 1,600 followers. She remembered. What did it all mean? And what was Mike doing on his laptop?
5:00 Speaker 05 I still didn't know what was happening, and I don't know what he knows.
5:07 Speaker 01 She had no memory of whether Mike had turned around and caught her looking before she blacked out again. But that morning, Mike seemed normal. He came back in the room to get dressed.
5:19 Speaker 05 And he was like, "I'm going to get the kids."
5:23 Speaker 01 At this point, three kids of theirs were staying with them: Saskia's two children and Mike's younger daughter. They'd all spent the night at her sister Marisa's house nearby.
5:35 Speaker 01 For Mike, this was any other Sunday. He had to drop his younger daughter off at his ex-wife's house about an hour away.
5:43 Speaker 05 I figured I would let him do that, and then I would talk to him.
5:49 Speaker 01 Mike left to get the kids from Marisa's house. Before Saskia could even think, her fingers dialed her sister's number. Marisa remembers picking up the phone.
5:59 Speaker 06 When I spoke to her first, she was not really with it yet. She was incoherent, and she was trying to explain what she saw. And she was distraught.
6:10 Speaker 01 Saskia was trying to relay information as quickly as she could, and she was still in the fog of sleep. Marisa could barely understand her.
6:20 Speaker 06 I was like, "What are you talking about?"
6:23 Speaker 06 And she said something about chatterbait. And I remember her saying that for the first time and just not having a clue what she was talking about.
6:32 Speaker 01 She tried to get Saskia to slow down, to walk her through what had happened. But just then, Mike arrived to pick up the kids. They hung up the phone.
6:42 Speaker 06 And she texted me like, call me, call me when you can.
6:46 Speaker 01 Marissa didn't grasp what was going on. Neither did Saskia, really. What she did know was that Mike was doing something behind her back. And it involved something called chatterbait. Whatever that was, her gut told her, this was bad.
7:03 Speaker 06 It was like, right away, she knew the significance. Her life was falling apart.
7:16 Speaker 01 While Mike drove his daughter home, Saskia tried to prepare herself for the confrontation. She had no idea what Mike had been doing online. She couldn't help but go to worst-case scenarios.
7:28 Speaker 05 My mind was just starting to go everywhere. I actually thought that maybe he's not who he says he is. Maybe he's on the run, or maybe he has a family somewhere else.
7:39 Speaker 01 The man she'd slept next to for seven years suddenly felt like a stranger. The more she thought about it, the more she realized she had no idea what Mike did every night. After she took her sleeping meds, she was always out cold. In those hours, he could be anyone.
8:01 Speaker 01 When Mike walked in the door a couple hours later, she was ready. Not with a thought-through plan of what to do or say. She was ready, in her bones, to confront him.
8:12 Speaker 05 I told him I needed to talk to him. I had his laptop and I put it under my pillow in the bed and I was sitting on it. So that he didn't know where it was and so that he couldn't try to take it. I told him what I had seen the night before. And immediately, the mask came off.
8:41 Speaker 05 His face totally changed.
8:43 Speaker 01 And then, as if he was throwing his hands up.
8:46 Speaker 05 The first thing he said to me, "I know things are over with us, but you can't tell my work and you can't tell my oldest daughter."
8:56 Speaker 01 Tell them what? She didn't recognize this Mike. He was calm as always, but behind his eyes, there was nothing. Suddenly, she was scared, so much so that she thought about calling the cops. But this might be her only chance to get answers from him. So she told him what he needed to hear.
9:19 Speaker 05 I said, "I need you to tell me exactly what you're doing. And I'm not going to tell the police, or your job, or your daughter, if you totally come clean and you tell me what has been going on."
9:37 Speaker 05 So he explained that for many years, he'd been using this website called Chatterbait.
9:43 Speaker 01 Chatterbait, he said, was a popular camming website. It's a place where everyday people perform sexual acts live on camera, and anyone can watch, comment, or pay for private shows. Mike worked at a bank. He often traveled for work. Now, he admitted to Saskia, that for the last seven years, whenever he'd go on these trips...
10:07 Speaker 05 Every time. He would be camming with women.
10:14 Speaker 01 He used the site to watch live streams and video chat with women directly. Was that what Saskia had seen last night? A private show? That woman, who was she?
10:27 Speaker 05 When I immediately said, "How do you know these people? Is it the same people that you do it with?" He said, "Sometimes." Then I said, "Like, are you in love with somebody?" And he was like, "What?"
10:42 Speaker 01 Saskia thought Mike was playing dumb. There must be someone else, a woman he talked to after she went to bed. So she opened up Mike's computer. If he wasn't going to come out with the information, she'd look at the website herself. She found her way to Chatterbait and demanded that Mike log in and walk her through it.
11:02 Speaker 05 The way he was explaining to me was like explaining how to fold a fitted sheet or something. It was so detached from any emotion or any remorse.
11:13 Speaker 01 And what he was describing went far deeper than calls with other women.
11:18 Speaker 05 He explained to me, see all these tokens? People pay me money to look at my stuff. Then I can use those tokens to look at other stuff.
11:30 Speaker 01 Mike wasn't just watching other people cam. He was performing. People were paying him for sexual content.
11:42 Speaker 05 I was in shock. I was in disbelief. I felt like I was on the Twilight Zone. I think that's where he hoped it would end.
11:49 Speaker 01 Instead, Saskia took control of the computer. She started scrolling through the website, trying to make sense of it all.
11:56 Speaker 05 I was still trying to just take information in.
12:01 Speaker 01 That's when she saw it, the image that made her blood run cold.
12:06 Speaker 05 I remember looking and I saw a picture. And I was like, that's my underwear.
12:14 Speaker 01 The image she'd seen the night before on his computer screen was now right in front of her, in focus. And it was posted publicly under Mike's profile.
12:26 Speaker 05 I said, is that me? And he said, yes, that's you.
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15:38 Speaker 01 Saskia was scrolling on Mike's Chatterbait account when she saw a still image of herself. It was a picture of her sleeping in their bed, in her underwear. She stared at her husband, too shocked to speak. The woman she'd seen on his screen, it was her.
15:57 Speaker 05 He explained, "I've been doing Chatterbait for a long time. I didn't start using us until the last year or a couple of years."
16:07 Speaker 01 Using us? She'd never heard of Chatterbait. She never agreed to have her image published on the web. She never even knew this photo was taken. And by Mike, the man she trusted more than anyone.
16:22 Speaker 05 I said, "How could you do this to me? How could you show people my body?" And he said, "Well, I guess I thought it was sexy." I said, "Did you ever love me?" And he just stayed silent. It was just no answer. He said, "I guess we're both a little bit crazy." I said, "No, no, no. I have mental health issues. You're a predator, and you're a monster."
16:52 Speaker 05 We need to talk about what's going to happen. And when I said that, he started walking frenzied around the house.
17:02 Speaker 01 He was beginning to panic. Saskia had the laptop. She knew Mike wouldn't leave without it. She needed to hold on to it. She also knew it wasn't safe to continue confronting Mike alone. Her mind went to Marisa, but her sister was busy with her kids. So Saskia called her brother-in-law Ronnie.
17:21 Speaker 05 And I said, I really need you to come over, please.
17:24 Speaker 01 Ronnie couldn't be interviewed for this story. He passed away in 2022. Saskia remembers it was a relief to have Ronnie there. He was twice Mike's size. Mike wouldn't do anything with him around. Immediately, Ronnie tried to defuse the situation.
17:41 Speaker 05 He came over and he was like, what's going on, guys?
17:45 Speaker 01 But before Saskia could share what she'd just seen, Mike took control. He pulled Ronnie aside. He tried to explain.
17:52 Speaker 05 You know, guys look at porn, right?
17:57 Speaker 01 It seemed like Ronnie was buying Mike's story, that this was no big deal. Saskia had to get him to understand the gravity of the situation. This wasn't about Mike looking at porn or even talking to other women.
18:11 Speaker 05 He was using me, and I knew nothing about that.
18:16 Speaker 01 Mike posted a naked photo of her online, a photo from when she wasn't awake. As she spoke, she watched Ronnie realize this wasn't right. He understood. He was on her side. And he made it clear, Mike needed to leave the house right away.
18:34 Speaker 05 Mike looked terrified. I said, what are you so upset about? What are you so scared of? Like, you did this. And he said, I'm afraid of losing all this, like his stuff in his house.
18:48 Speaker 01 It was so strange and so unbelievable. Mike was already worrying about dividing up their things. He seemed sure their life together was over, all because of one photo. Saskia just needed Mike out, and eventually, he agreed. Ronnie stayed by her side as Mike began packing a bag.
19:09 Speaker 05 He said he would leave and go to a hotel. I said, "You're not coming back here until I say it's okay. And if you do everything that I ask you to do, I won't call the police." He acted like he was leaving, but then he came back up the stairs and told me he needed the laptop, twice. So, the second time he did that, I actually did start to call the police. And he ran out.
19:38 Speaker 01 Finally, Mike was gone, and as soon as he drove away, Saskia and Ronnie went back to the laptop. They had to know what else Mike was trying to hide on this website, and if he'd posted any other photos of Saskia.
19:52 Speaker 05 We sat at my little kitchen island. Ronnie did a search, and he said, "You're not going to be happy."
20:01 Speaker 05 And that's when I saw a ton of images.
20:06 Speaker 01 What she saw on Chatterbait, it wasn't just the one photo. It wasn't even 10 or 20 photos. There were dozens.
20:16 Speaker 05 They were all of me naked, without clothing.
20:21 Speaker 01 When she'd first seen the website that morning, she'd been groggy. Her sleeping meds were still wearing off, but it was the afternoon now. She was more alert, and now she realized that the photos Mike had taken of her weren't really photos at all. They were thumbnails of videos, videos that had been livestreamed on Mike's page. The image she'd seen earlier, it was just a preview, a thumbnail showing one of Mike's past livestreams.
20:54 Speaker 01 The word "1,600 followers" now made sense. Mike had been videotaping her while she was completely undressed, broadcasting it to thousands of strangers on the internet. And seeing these thumbnails on Mike's profile, she could tell. He'd done this many, many times.
21:18 Speaker 05 You don't see my face in most of them, but you see his face and just the look on that face was just so painful for me to see who he really was.
21:33 Speaker 01 After he went to sleep, he turned their bedroom into a set. She recognized her walls, her sheets. But looking at the body in those images, it was like seeing someone else. It was her underwear, her tattoos. And yet, she had no memory of any of these videos being taken. All those nights she'd been knocked out. All those nights she thought she'd been sleeping soundly next to the man she loved. Her body was there, in bed, living a nightmare.
22:10 Speaker 05 I was terrified because I knew my life would never be the same. I knew I would never be the same. I knew my family would never be the same. I was just terrified, like, what am I gonna find out?
22:26 Speaker 01 There was a video behind each of these images, but the videos had only been live. They weren't accessible anymore on the site. She wanted a fuller picture of what Mike was doing to her while he was streaming. Just as her brother-in-law was about to dig deeper to see if there was any way to access past dreams.
22:47 Speaker 05 Ronnie couldn't get access anymore. He was like, oh, this stuff's not there.
22:52 Speaker 01 Suddenly, the thumbnails of Saskia, the only proof they had of what Mike had done, began disappearing from Chatterbait right before their eyes. Mike was deleting the evidence.
23:07 Speaker 05 And that's when I started freaking out. Because I knew then he was gonna try to get away with this.
23:14 Speaker 01 Within a matter of minutes, there was only one thumbnail remaining. But that wasn't going to stop her. Uploading nude videos of her had to be a crime. And Mike needed to be held accountable.
23:28 Speaker 05 So I did call the police. And two officers came. And I showed them one of the pictures that was still there. One police officer said, "Well, how do we know that these are his pictures?" And made me feel like I was in the wrong.
23:48 Speaker 01 Saskia didn't feel like the cops took her seriously. To them, this was a routine domestic issue. And the one picture wasn't enough to convince them otherwise. She pleaded with them, but...
24:03 Speaker 05 They basically told me to file for a protective order and then to get the locks changed.
24:09 Speaker 01 So the police left, and Saskia was at a loss. Then she felt her phone buzz. She looked at the screen and her stomach dropped. It was Mike. He texted her from his hotel.
24:23 Speaker 10 Let me just tell you more about the site. I have had access for years, but did not do anything with us until more recent.
24:30 Speaker 01 Us. Him and Saskia, together. But so far as Saskia was concerned, he'd taken every one of those videos without her consent, without her being conscious. To her, this text was an admission of guilt. And that's when Saskia knew. She didn't just want him out of her life. She wanted him behind bars.
24:51 Speaker 05 I wanted justice, and I promised myself that I was gonna do anything possible, anything necessary to try to get it.
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27:43 Speaker 01 The day after discovering what Mike had been hiding, Saskia started calling her friends. Anyone who might be able to come and be with her actually navigated next steps. Her friend Heather was at work when she got the call.
27:57 Speaker 12 I answered the phone, and it was the most horrible... Sorry.
28:07 Speaker 12 The most horrible scream and cry I've ever heard out of another person. And she could barely get the words out. I was just like, what's wrong? What's going on? She didn't even know how to put together what she had seen and what she had experienced.
28:28 Speaker 01 Saskia was still putting the pieces together about what Mike had done to her. It was difficult to process, let alone communicate to another person. But Saskia recounted the story as best she could of seeing these thumbnails on Mike's computer.
28:44 Speaker 12 As soon as she said "the computer," my mind flashed back to what she had told me about the night before the wedding.
28:49 Speaker 01 Two years before, Saskia had told Heather about waking up to Mike on his laptop and seeing people on screen. But at the time, Heather and Saskia wrote it off. Now, it was clear.
29:04 Speaker 12 He was testing the waters that night before the wedding, if that was a testing of the waters and had not been something that he had done before.
29:11 Speaker 01 This was serious. She knew if Mike had been using these kinds of sites since before the wedding, the thumbnails Saskia had seen were just a sample of what was to come.
29:26 Speaker 01 The day Saskia called her with this, Heather was dealing with an emergency at work. She couldn't leave.
29:33 Speaker 12 So I called Megan and I was like, Megan, you have to go see what's going on with Sask.
29:39 Speaker 01 Megan is another friend of Saskia's. At the time, Saskia and Megan were sisters-in-law. At the Halloween party the night before, Saskia had been drinking. And once again, she suddenly lost control. For Megan, it was a breaking point. She'd seen Saskia get like this one too many times.
30:00 Speaker 13 I was like, I'm never speaking to her again. Tonight is the end of our friendship. We're done. I'm not going to make it awkward for our family, but I am not going to be her friend anymore.
30:10 Speaker 01 But when Megan got the call about what Mike had been doing, she drove straight to Saskia's house.
30:16 Speaker 13 I forgot about everything in those moments because it didn't matter anymore. When someone needs help, I will jump right in and help.
30:25 Speaker 01 Meanwhile, Saskia was spreading the word about what Mike had done. She posted on Facebook, and many people saw it, including her work friend, Colleen.
30:35 Speaker 14 I was at work and I saw on Facebook she posted something like, I need help. Mike turned off all of his social media profiles. This isn't a joke. And I was like, oh, my God.
30:51 Speaker 01 Colleen couldn't understand how this could be. Maybe Saskia had been hacked. Just to be sure, Colleen checked Mike's page.
30:59 Speaker 14 And his profile was gone on Facebook. And I was like, oh, God, that's true. This is true.
31:08 Speaker 01 As a social worker at Child Protective Services, Colleen had experience responding to crisis situations. She headed right to Saskia. When she arrived, Megan was there too. Finally, Saskia had people around to help her.
31:24 Speaker 13 I felt so grateful to them.
31:28 Speaker 01 Here's Colleen again.
31:29 Speaker 14 We went to the apartment and she came out and was crying and kind of screaming and bit by bit, things came out.
31:39 Speaker 01 She told Megan and Colleen the full story, as much as she knew of it anyway. Megan could hear the weight of Mike's actions and Saskia's voice.
31:48 Speaker 13 She just found out she was being violated by her husband. She was just beside herself. And I don't blame her. She was just a mess.
32:00 Speaker 01 Saskia couldn't think, so Megan got to work in planning the best next step.
32:05 Speaker 13 We needed to protect her from this man who is now a monster. I was like, we need to go to the courthouse right now and get a protective order.
32:14 Speaker 01 Before they could think about any kind of criminal investigation, they had to make sure Saskia was safe. Colleen agreed. They should go get a protective order right away.
32:24 Speaker 14 People who've been found out or who are about to lose control are really dangerous. That's when you see people getting desperate and doing things, killing themselves, killing other people. That's the highest risk time period. So the first thing was to have immediate safety.
32:41 Speaker 01 So Megan, Colleen, and Saskia drove to the Montgomery County Family Justice Center. It's a one-stop shop for victims of intimate partner violence.
32:50 Speaker 14 The Family Justice Center in our jurisdiction does a really good job of being co-located with sheriffs, with state's attorneys, connecting people with social workers and victim advocates in one location.
33:01 Speaker 01 The day is a blur for Saskia, but she remembers going with Megan and Colleen to meet with a social worker about getting the protective order. They all waited together in a small room.
33:12 Speaker 05 I had the laptop with me. And someone came in and I started to tell them about what happened. And the lady said, there's probably nothing that we can do.
33:25 Speaker 01 Remember, Saskia only had the one thumbnail that was left on Chatterbait. All the others on Mike's page had been deleted. And the videos themselves were only shown live. They weren't accessible on Chatterbait after they aired. With only that one thumbnail, Saskia might be able to get a temporary protective order for a few days. But there wasn't enough evidence to secure a longer-term protective order. Saskia thought, Mike recorded the videos on this computer. Surely, there would be copies of the videos stored somewhere on the laptop. Megan recalls Saskia pleading with the authorities.
34:05 Speaker 13 She was like, "His computer has all the videos on it." And they were like, "We can't do the computer without a search warrant. We can't get a search warrant without video evidence. We need video evidence. You have to produce videos."
34:20 Speaker 01 It was a catch 22. They were stuck.
34:23 Speaker 05 Of course, I was devastated and I completely lost it. And started running around.
34:31 Speaker 01 Colleen went after her.
34:33 Speaker 14 She let out this blood-curdling scream and ran down the hall. And the family justice center is co-located with the sheriffs just because of the high risk of domestic violence. And the sheriffs came sprinting. They didn't know what had happened. They just heard this scream and came sprinting down after her. She was just in shock, like, "What is going on?" I think the magnitude hit her at that moment.
34:58 Speaker 05 I just flipped out because of how wrong I knew it was and how traumatized I felt.
35:07 Speaker 01 While Colleen tried to calm Saskia down in the hall, Megan remained in the room with the social worker. She was determined to find evidence against Mike. Even though Chatterbait doesn't save the live videos, and Mike had deleted most of the evidence of prior streams, there had to be videos out there.
35:26 Speaker 13 Nothing goes away on the internet. Once it's there, it's there. So I just searched my phone. Because luckily, thank God, that idiot gave her his username.
35:39 Speaker 01 Saskia saw Mike's username earlier that morning. So Megan searched and searched. She found Mike's username listed on other porn sites. But she kept running into the same issue.
35:52 Speaker 13 All I could get were pictures. So I saw that these videos did exist somewhere on the internet, but the only things that I was getting were thumbnail pictures.
36:03 Speaker 01 Megan showed these additional images to the social worker, hoping that more photos would be enough to move ahead with the case.
36:11 Speaker 13 She's like, "That's not good enough. We need video." So I'm just like, "Okay, there's gotta be video on here, like, somewhere."
36:18 Speaker 01 So Megan continued to dig. And she found even more photos of Saskia.
36:23 Speaker 13 They were all over the internet.
36:27 Speaker 01 On the one hand, finding this content was a good thing. With every image, she became more sure that they could prove this. On the other, these were photos that anyone could find. Her friend's image was blasted without her consent across pornography websites.
36:47 Speaker 13 The amount of stuff I found online with her in it, it was tragic.
36:55 Speaker 01 In our interview, Megan went on to share what she saw. And I'll just say this, these images exposed the most intimate parts of Saskia's body.
37:05 Speaker 13 It was deep, dark searching, like I searched for a long time. Luckily, there's a website that rips footage from live streams and from cams.
37:18 Speaker 01 Bots sometimes entered the streams and record them for exploitation on other sites.
37:24 Speaker 13 And they'll give you 10-second grabs of the videos so that you can pay for the full video. So I found those.
37:37 Speaker 01 She located four of these video previews. Megan's known Saskia since she was five years old. She's seen Saskia asleep, drunk, even blackout drunk. This was different.
37:51 Speaker 13 She was just dead, dead weight.
37:55 Speaker 01 And the footage revealed something else. In these videos...
38:01 Speaker 13 She was being raped by her husband.
38:06 Speaker 01 Mike hadn't just been taking intimate photos and videos of Saskia. He'd been using the moments when she was knocked out to assault her. As Megan watched, she thought back to all those times Saskia was too tired to go to an event, why it was so hard for her to get out of bed.
38:26 Speaker 13 After seeing that, it made sense why she wasn't functioning. She wasn't getting good nights of sleep. She was being tortured.
38:36 Speaker 01 The videos were deeply disturbing.
38:39 Speaker 13 And I did not want her to see them.
38:41 Speaker 01 But they were also proof of what Mike had done. So often, victims of intimate partner violence only have their own word. With these videos, Megan thought there was clear documentation of Mike's crimes. These were just 10-second clips, but she hoped they could get Saskia the protective order she needed to keep Mike away from her and for investigators to get a warrant for the computer. So Megan played one of the clips for the social worker. And that was enough.
39:19 Speaker 01 Mike would later claim that Saskia willingly participated in chatterbait on many occasions, that she was not a victim, but an active participant in his online fantasy life.
39:31 Speaker 15 We know that's going to be their defense. This isn't a case of, did the sex happen? That's not an issue. This is a question of, did she agree to it or not? And that's always a hard question in any sex assault case where consent is the defense.
39:49 Speaker 01 On the next episode of Betrayal.
39:52 Speaker 13 People were paying to see this go down. People in the chat, is she alive? Is she OK? People thought she was dead, and they were watching it and paying for it.
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