#186: Tony Robbins on How to Resolve Internal Conflict

"You can't be grateful and angry simultaneously." - Tony Robbins The last time Tony Robbins (@tonyrobbins https://twitter.com/TONYRobbins) was on the show http://fourhourworkweek.com/2016/08/10/tony-robbins-on-achievement-versus-fulfillment/, so many listeners found this one exercise helpful that they suggested I feature it on its own. This guided meditation is designed to help you overcome stress in a way that's backed with quantifiable neuroscience. If you've been worrying about unfinished business without resolution, this is a powerful tool to help you resolve the situation. This is very short and very powerful. Enjoy! Show notes and links for this episode can be found at www.fourhourworkweek.com/podcast http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/podcast. This episode is brought to you by Exo Protein https://www.exoprotein.com/tim. These guys are making protein bars using cricket protein powder. Before you look disgusted, I bet they taste better than any protein bar you've ever had before! With recipes that were developed by a three-Michelin-star chef, the bars are paleo-friendly, with no gluten, no grains, no soy, no dairy, and they won't spike your glycemic response. In fact, they're less processed than any other protein bars you'll be able to find. Exo Protein https://www.exoprotein.com/tim is offering a deep discount to Tim Ferriss Show listeners — if you go to ExoProtein.com/Tim https://www.exoprotein.com/tim, you can try a sampler pack with all of the most popular flavors for less than $10. This is a startup with limited inventory that sells out all the time,so act fast https://www.exoprotein.com/tim!

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• 0:01Speaker 00

  At this altitude, I can run flat out for a half mile before my hands start shaking.

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  Can I ask you a personal question?

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  Now would be an inappropriate time.

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  I'm a cybernetic organism, living tissue over metal endoskeleton.

• 0:23Tim Ferriss?

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• 1:06Tim Ferriss?

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• 1:52Tim Ferriss?

  Hey guys, this is Tim Ferriss and welcome to another episode of The Tim Ferriss Show. I'll keep this very short as this is actually a subsection, a snippet from the last Tony Robbins episode. Many, many, many of you asked for a standalone podcast episode just for this particular exercise that he walks you through in real time. So, Tony Robbins, of course, you can say hello to him @TonyRobbins on all of the socials and you should definitely check out I Am Not Your Guru, which is a documentary about Tony Robbins now available on Netflix and much, much more. Say hi to him, but I'm going to keep this short and please enjoy and hopefully you will listen to many times this exercise, which so many

• 2:37Tim Ferriss?

  people have found extremely helpful.

• 2:41Tony Robbins?

  There's a scientific set of scientific studies that show that when your mind and your heart, your heart actually has hormones that affect the way your brain functions. It's not just your brain affecting your heart, they interact. When they're in alignment, human beings are able to resolve internal conflicts. Often the conflicts we have are between our conscious and unconscious mind, between our mind and our heart often is an example. And if I were to put electrodes on your brain and on your heart, as you well know, EEG and EKG, we can see that they're both in your normal state, pretty jagged, up and down, and they don't look anything like each other. But if all you do is put your hands on your heart physically, and anyone listening, let's go ahead and do this

• 3:23Tony Robbins?

  right now in a second, but I'll first tell you what we're gonna do. You put both your hands on your heart physically and you feel your heart, you put all your focus in your heart, you breathe into your heart, and you feel gratitude for two minutes where you think of three events in your life you feel grateful for and you step in and feel it. At the end of two minutes, you're in what I call a beautiful state because I can look at your EEG and EKG and it's dramatic. First, they aren't jagged, they're rounded, but what's mind boggling, and I'm sure you probably noticed, Tim, they literally sync up. They become identical. They look like they're tracing each other. And when that happens, it's not just your mind. I always tell people, get in your head, you're dead. Your mind's great for strategy, but it'll never make you enjoy your life. It'll never let you

• 4:07Tony Robbins?

  enjoy the taste of an apple because it'll go, is it organic? Where did it come from? Versus your heart, which can bring the juice of anything back to you. So what, what really I'm trying to do with everyone in this situation is I'm trying to show them how to line these up and it's really easy. So if you want to do it right now and you want to test that it works, let's do this. And Tim, you can do this with me if you'd like to.

• 4:28Tim Ferriss?

  Sure.

• 4:29Tony Robbins?

  Think of a situation, you might not have any in your life, Tim, you're so crazy in this area. And so on top of it, but most of us have situations where there are, for all of you listening, a place where you have some unfinished business.

• 4:41Tim Ferriss?

  That's the story of my life, Tony.

• 4:43Tony Robbins?

  Okay. Well, I have a story of all our lives, right? Let's just be inhuman, right? But it's, it's a place where there's something that you should have handled and you haven't handled with a person or situation. It stresses you out. And so what we tend to do is focus on other stuff because we don't want to have to deal with that because it's stressful because it's, you know, it's painful. And so think of something that on a zero to 10 scale where 10 is totally stressed out and zero is not at all. Pick something that's unfinished business in your business or personal life with something or someone, and it's at least a seven, eight, nine, or a 10, just so you can see that this really works. Now, by the way, there are hundreds of ways to do this. I'm just going to give you this one because we can do it in two minutes. Right? So I'm hoping, Tim, do you have one by chance?

• 5:23Tim Ferriss?

  I do.

• 5:23Tony Robbins?

  Tell me the content. Okay, you know, tell me the content. No one has to tell us the content. All right, everyone, if you would, just for a moment, I don't have any music in the background, which I do to enhance this normally, but let's just do it. Put both your hands on your heart and physically breathe deep into your heart.

• 5:39Tony Robbins?

  And as you're breathing deep in your heart, feel the strength of your heart.

• 5:45Tony Robbins?

  Feel the power of your heart.

• 5:50Tony Robbins?

  Feel the beauty of your heart.

• 5:53Tony Robbins?

  What are you proud or grateful that your heart has guided you to do or to give or to feel or to enjoy?

• 6:07Tony Robbins?

  And feel the strength of your heart, breathe into it, feel the blood flow, the oxygen.

• 6:13Tony Robbins?

  And feel grateful for your heart first. Because think about it, you didn't have to earn this heart. It was given to you. You didn't have to prove your value or your worth. You didn't have to accomplish anything. Something loved you enough to give you the gift of life. As long as its heart is beating, you have that gift and you live. It beats a hundred thousand times a day, pumps blood through sixty thousand miles of blood vessels. We put them end to end, they go around the earth twice at the equator. That's what's inside every one of us. And you don't have to think about it. What a gift. So as you breathe in your heart, feeling your powerful heart.

• 6:52Tony Robbins?

  I want you just for a moment, we're going to think of three, but just think first of one event in your life, one experience, one moment that you could feel so grateful for if you wanted to. A magic moment. A sacred moment, sexy moment, a beautiful moment, a loving moment, any moment really you could feel grateful for if you wanted to right now. And then step into that memory for a minute. Like step in your body as if you were there. See what you would have saw then as if you're there, or hear what you'd hear back then, or breathe the way you were breathing back then.

• 7:28Tony Robbins?

  And if you fill up with that sense of gratitude for that moment. How do you smile when you feel so grateful, so thankful?

• 7:38Tony Robbins?

  What's the look in your eyes? How do you breathe? What's the look in your face when you feel really, really grateful?

• 7:46Tony Robbins?

  And just fill it up, fill up with gratitude. The reason we use gratitude, by the way, is the two emotions that mess us up most is anger and fear.

• 7:56Tony Robbins?

  And you know, you can't be grateful and angry simultaneously. It's the antidote. You can't be fearful and angry simultaneously. So fill up with gratitude. Now think of a second moment you could feel truly grateful for. And again, breathe deep in your heart. Feel that power. Just think of any other moment. It could be from your childhood or adulthood. It could be last week, it could be today, it could be ten years ago. Any moment that you could just truly feel like that was grace, that was magical, that was beautiful, that's magnificent. Something that gives you the feeling of tremendous gratitude if you really focused on it.

• 8:31Tony Robbins?

  Breathe it, feel it. Enjoy it. Fill up with gratitude. And finally, think of a third moment you could feel truly grateful for. Step in it, see it, feel it, be there. Feel the gratitude. What were you so grateful for? What are you grateful for? And then maybe throw one extra one in. Think of a coincidence. You know, we all love when life happens for us, it's not to us. We love coincidences because we didn't do anything, something happened for us. You were going to do one thing and you met somebody that you developed a partnership with, or became a friend, or a lover, or the love of your life, or maybe a business

• 9:15Tony Robbins?

  opportunity came from a coincidence, or an insight came from a coincidence that's been so valuable in your life, something you're grateful for. What's the coincidence that led to something you're so grateful for? And feel the gratitude for that. Was it a coincidence, or were you guided? Hmm. Now, as you breathe in your heart, you've been doing this for about two minutes. Keep breathing, keep feeling it, feeling grateful. Let's use this state to solve the problem state. So the easy way to do that is, is keep breathing in your heart, stay out of your head, in your heart. And think of that situation, that's unfinished business, that stressed you out in the past. But keep breathing in this beautiful state and ask yourself this question.

• 10:00Tony Robbins?

  Ask yourself, all I need to focus on in that situation, all I need to focus on, all I need to remember is what? Your heart knows. All I need to focus on, all I need to remember, all I need to do in that situation is what? Your heart knows the answer. All I need to focus on, all I need to remember, all I need to do is...

• 10:25Tony Robbins?

  And then your heart probably knows the answer. I've done this a million times. Not every one of you, but in a normal room, I'd have some people say, raise your hand if you've got that answer. And 98, 99% of the people usually do, even with this simple technique. And you know what to do, what's next.

• 10:39Tim Ferriss?

  Hey guys, this is Tim again. Just a few more things before you take off. Number one, this is Five Bullet Friday. Do you want to get a short email from me? Would you enjoy getting a short email from me every Friday that provides a little morsel of fun before the weekend? And Five Bullet Friday is a very short email where I share the coolest things I've found or that I've been pondering over the week. That could include favorite new albums that I've discovered. It could include gizmos and gadgets and all sorts of weird shit that I've somehow dug up in the world of the esoteric, as I do. It could include favorite articles that I've read and that I've shared with my close friends, for instance. And it's very short.

• 11:23Tim Ferriss?

  It's just a little tiny bite of goodness before you head off for the weekend. So if you want to receive that, check it out. Just go to fourhourworkweek.com. That's fourhourworkweek.com, all spelled out, and just drop in your email and you will get the very next one. And if you sign up, I hope you enjoy it.