Pod Insights Girls Gotta Eat How to Have the Best Honeymoon (and Poop in Peace) About this episode Ashley’s current husband is stepping in to guest host this week and we’re recapping the honeymoon in Singapore, from the highlights, (the few) lowlights, and even a run-in with the law. Then we answer some burning questions about traveling with a partner including pooping while sharing a hotel room, packing for your partner (cringe or not?), what the man responsibilities on the trip should be, and how the type of trip impacts the amount of sex you have. Lastly we read and break down some hilarious honeymoon stories ranging from butt stuff (not the sexy kind) to losing rings to ferry fails. Enjoy!
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0:00 Speaker 00 All right, fellas, we're all in this together. We're all learning how to do it. I'm not great at it by any means, but you just gotta listen.
0:23 Ashley Hesseltine? This podcast is a Dear Media production.
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0:26 Ashley Hesseltine? Hi, guys.
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0:30 Ashley Hesseltine? You can't do it? You can't do like a long hi?
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0:33 Ashley Hesseltine? Just a little more.
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0:35 Ashley Hesseltine? Little more for the girlies.
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0:41 Ashley Hesseltine? Rayna Greenberg's understudy, everybody.
0:44 Speaker 00 Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat.
0:48 Ashley Hesseltine? Welcome back.
0:49 Speaker 00 Honeymoon edition.
0:50 Ashley Hesseltine? We are here with our special guest host.
0:55 Speaker 00 It's me.
0:55 Ashley Hesseltine? My current husband, founder of the Kitchen Sink app, Azul's dad.
1:01 Speaker 00 Oh, my God.
1:02 Ashley Hesseltine? And the third member of the Girls Gotta Eat throuple, Shashank. Chunky, shonky, chunk, shonk.
1:10 Speaker 00 Thank you so much for having me. That was quite the intro.
1:13 Ashley Hesseltine? How do you feel like you're doing so far?
1:14 Speaker 00 I don't know. I don't have a PhD like everybody else that comes on here, but I had to make an app, so that's pretty good.
1:19 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, you have that going for you. You are a tech founder. So Shashank is filling in today while Rayna is on tour and we're going to talk about our honeymoon and recap a few different things. But I wanted to make an announcement first that the podcast is now on video on Spotify.
1:38 Speaker 00 That's good.
1:39 Ashley Hesseltine? You nailed it. Yeah, so Spotify does video. I don't know if you guys have noticed, but a lot of podcasts have video and then you can watch music videos. What were we watching last week? Smashing Pumpkins?
1:48 Speaker 00 Drake something.
1:50 Ashley Hesseltine? No, Smashing Pumpkins, Tonight Tonight.
1:53 Speaker 00 Oh, right.
1:53 Ashley Hesseltine? I was like, this video is so cool.
1:55 Speaker 00 Man in the Moon, yes.
1:55 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes, yes, yes. So we will have full episodes on there, too. So of course, they will still be on YouTube, but they will also be on Spotify. So if that's how you want to watch the podcast, you can watch it there and leave a rating, of course. A lot of you guys listen on Spotify. We always want to see your comments and have your ratings, of course. And so that is the big update today. You are the first person to be on Spotify video. That's crazy.
2:18 Speaker 00 Not even Rayna Greenberg.
2:19 Ashley Hesseltine? Not even Rayna Greenberg. And why don't you tell us what's going on with you and the app before we get into the honeymoon recap?
2:29 Speaker 00 It's been great. The app is doing numbers, which is pretty sick.
2:33 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
2:34 Speaker 00 It's been a lot of fun seeing what everybody's cooking. You guys are DMing us photos. We love it. Hoping everyone's enjoying their experience.
2:40 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay. Well, tell us a little bit about what it is for people that don't know.
2:43 Speaker 00 Oh, it's recipes based on what you have at home, what's in your pantry, your skill level, how much time you have, even if you're meal planning, you can do dietary restrictions. It really does just about everything for making recipes.
2:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. So when you put in the ingredients you already have at home, or you are prepared to go shopping, it'll create a shopping list for you and you'll get three recipes, basic, classic, and creative.
3:08 Speaker 00 Nice.
3:09 Ashley Hesseltine? And you can choose from them and you can also refresh, which I just learned as of late that you can, if you don't like those recipes, you can refresh and get three more.
3:15 Speaker 00 A hundred times.
3:16 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, you can do it as many times as you want and you can save them and you can share them. And then there is a social import feature that is part of the premium subscription where any recipe from Instagram, Tik Tok, or a recipe website.
3:27 Speaker 00 Yeah, those fucking terrible websites.
3:29 Ashley Hesseltine? I mean, I respect people's craft, of course, but we've all seen the meme that's like, I just want to make a recipe and I have to read someone's whole life story.
3:37 Speaker 00 Correct.
3:37 Ashley Hesseltine? So you can import those in the app and then save them as well. Just make it super easy. And there are all these really cool features in the premium, but you can also use the app for free and make all the recipes as well. So.
3:50 Speaker 00 If you only want quick recipe output, you can do that with the free version. So.
3:54 Ashley Hesseltine? So tell people where we can find the app.
3:56 Speaker 00 Download it in the App Store. It's coming to Google Play Store soon.
4:02 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes.
4:02 Speaker 00 Very soon.
4:03 Ashley Hesseltine? Lots of requests.
4:04 Speaker 00 And if you have Instagram, follow it at kitchensync.app.
4:08 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes, kitchensync.app.
4:09 Speaker 00 App.
4:10 Ashley Hesseltine? What do you say?
4:11 Speaker 00 I don't know. kitchensync.app.
4:13 Ashley Hesseltine? And to tag your photos of any meals that you make and the social team will reshare.
4:21 Speaker 00 Me.
4:22 Ashley Hesseltine? It's just been really wonderful and you guys have been loving it. And I really love hearing from everybody that's using it daily, nightly to make these meals.
4:31 Speaker 00 Yeah.
4:32 Ashley Hesseltine? And just changing, changing their lives. So
4:35 Speaker 00 Thank you.
4:35 Ashley Hesseltine? It's amazing. Lots more features to come, but you guys, check it out. Leave a review in the App Store if you're using it and loving it.
4:41 Speaker 00 Leave a review. That matters.
4:43 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay. Well, just going to thank our partners and then we will get into it. Thank you to NoCD. Go to nocd.com to book a free 15 minute call with the world's leading OCD treatment provider, nocd.com. And Chime, you can bank fee free by signing up at chime.com/girlsgottoeat. And thank you to Article. Go to article.com for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed. And thank you to Revolve. Get 15% off your first order at revolve.com/gge with code GGE. So we are going to recap our honeymoon today, but I wanted to kick it off with a honeymoon misstep.
5:22 Speaker 00 Okay.
5:23 Ashley Hesseltine? And before we do that, I'd love for you to reach behind your cushion, reach behind Raina's cushion.
5:29 Speaker 00 What's going on back here?
5:32 Ashley Hesseltine? You got a car and you got a car.
5:35 Speaker 00 This fucking thing.
5:36 Ashley Hesseltine? There it is.
5:38 Speaker 00 What's in it? Oh, nothing.
5:39 Ashley Hesseltine? Nothing's in it.
5:42 Ashley Hesseltine? So
5:43 Speaker 00 I fucked up and I forgot to bring it. I haven't really thought about it too much since my bachelor party, I think.
5:49 Ashley Hesseltine? And the wedding.
5:50 Speaker 00 Oh, right. And the wedding.
5:51 Ashley Hesseltine? So the egg carton, if you're new around here, it's an inside joke, but actually it's what's a joke in the GG community as well.
5:58 Speaker 00 Now it is.
5:59 Ashley Hesseltine? It's a lot of lore, so you need to go back and listen, but it's been around with us. We hide it for each other, whatever. And I have to admit, I was, we were on the flight and I just popped up out of a dead sleep and I was like, Kevin! I'm kidding. That's a not happen. We didn't realize we forgot it till someone commented on Instagram. Where's the egg carton? And I was like, we saw it at the same time, I feel like. And we were like, oh, fuck. Why? I don't know. I think we're just kind of done with it, maybe, or we're just, maybe.
6:27 Speaker 00 Well, we spent a lot of time at home. So like, it's kind of boring to hide it around the house. It's more fun to find it halfway across the world.
6:33 Ashley Hesseltine? I regret not having it on the honeymoon. It came on the mini moon.
6:36 Speaker 00 That's true.
6:37 Ashley Hesseltine? And that was a funny moment. And so we're sorry.
6:41 Speaker 00 It's here now, so.
6:42 Ashley Hesseltine? We're issuing an official apology.
6:44 Speaker 00 An egg carton apology.
6:46 Ashley Hesseltine? That it wasn't with us on the official honeymoon, but we went to Singapore.
6:51 Speaker 00 Seventeen long hours away, but worth it.
6:54 Ashley Hesseltine? On Singapore Airlines, which is the best airline. People say flying Singapore Airlines in business will ruin you from all other airlines. And I can confirm it was just incredible. The food, the meals that we had.
7:08 Speaker 00 The service.
7:09 Ashley Hesseltine? The service, the flight attendants outfits, the fashion. They were these, what, like floor length skirt?
7:14 Speaker 00 There's a name for them. I can't remember what it is, but they're like these like fitting, like nice fits.
7:21 Ashley Hesseltine? They're the prettiest flight attendants. They really are.
7:23 Speaker 00 They're really beautiful women.
7:24 Ashley Hesseltine? They're like fashion models, walking the literal runway, the aisle.
7:29 Speaker 00 And then they're folding your bed sheets for you and taking away your dirty dishes. It's crazy.
7:34 Ashley Hesseltine? So we flew there and it was really wonderful and can't recommend Singapore Airlines enough. And what did you think about Singapore?
7:41 Speaker 00 I mean, it's incredible. What a, what a place. I would do anything to get back there.
7:46 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
7:46 Speaker 00 Immediately.
7:47 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
7:47 Speaker 00 And get out of the US.
7:49 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes, it was a real crash coming back to the US after being there. It's really such a special place. It's so beautiful. It's like one of the cleanest and safest countries in the world and they really take care of their people. You don't see homeless people in the streets. People are housed, people are working. They have the system where the government gives you money in this app to put back into the economy and support local vendors, like a lot of the local food vendors. A lot of really cool stuff going on in Singapore and it's this futuristic vibe and stuff feels really new and shiny, but also a lot of culture with the little India, which we'll talk about and the Kampang Glam, which is the Malay Muslim area, Chinatown, all these like cultural centers.
8:33 Ashley Hesseltine? And we just really had such a wonderful time there. The people were all really friendly. The people were great. We were treated well. It just felt really welcome everywhere we went. It's a great city to go to as like an entree to Asia even. I mean, everyone speaks English, really, for the most part in Singapore. And we had been wanting to go to Japan and some other places. And a lot of people actually start in Singapore and then they travel around. It's a great place to find into and the city is small. You can city, state, island, country. You can see it all and, you know, less than a week or even a few days, you can really get a lot done and then travel around. We, of course, only went to Singapore and that was my first time in Asia ever. You've, of course, been to India, but nowhere else in
9:16 Ashley Hesseltine? Asia. And we can't wait to go back. I mean, we just had such an amazing experience. And yeah, I've no notes. Singapore is interesting. It's an island, country, city, state.
9:27 Speaker 00 Yes.
9:28 Ashley Hesseltine? All four things.
9:29 Speaker 00 A lot of hats. Yeah. A lot of hats.
9:31 Ashley Hesseltine? So there were a lot of hats. So whatever we call it today, it's whatever we, what do you think you're gonna go with? You're gonna go island, country, city, or state?
9:38 Speaker 00 I've always said country.
9:40 Ashley Hesseltine? You said country. I oscillate between country and city.
9:43 Speaker 00 Oscillate?
9:44 Ashley Hesseltine? Oscillate is, people were saying that was Rayna Greenberg's word of the week last week.
9:48 Speaker 00 Okay.
9:49 Ashley Hesseltine? It's a good one.
9:49 Speaker 00 Oscillate between the few.
9:51 Ashley Hesseltine? So we loved it. We felt like we could be out in the middle of the night. No shady characters on the streets and no crime and really like a low risk of anything. It felt really great. No bugs.
10:01 Speaker 00 Yeah. Next to no risk of bugs.
10:04 Ashley Hesseltine? So I, at the end of the trip, I was thinking of how perfect of a place this was and how sad I was to leave. And I was like, wait, I have not seen a bug all week. I haven't felt a mosquito all week and it's so hot and humid. My skin felt amazing. My hair was frizzy, but my skin felt amazing. No mosquitoes in that climate? And then we asked our driver.
10:23 Speaker 00 And fried us.
10:24 Ashley Hesseltine? Mr. Lee. And he was like, there's bugs. Basically like, don't fuck with them. They didn't say this, but in so many words, don't fuck with them. They won't fuck with you. I'm like, that's not how mosquitoes work. They, they're not bees. Like, it's not like, leave the bees alone. Like mosquitoes are, like, I have not seen a mosquito, I haven't seen a bug all week.
10:41 Speaker 00 In Singapore.
10:42 Ashley Hesseltine? In Singapore.
10:42 Speaker 00 Yeah. Of course. We're in LA. There's bugs everywhere.
10:45 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. We killed like five spiders a day in our home.
10:48 Speaker 00 Yeah.
10:48 Ashley Hesseltine? So.
10:49 Speaker 00 There's one right there in the city. Right there.
10:53 Speaker 00 That's huge.
10:54 Ashley Hesseltine? There's a giant spider, literally in this studio. That's one of the biggest spiders I've seen in this studio. Oh my gosh. You can get that on the way out for sure.
11:05 Speaker 00 Killing them?
11:06 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
11:07 Speaker 00 They bring rain.
11:08 Ashley Hesseltine? What?
11:08 Speaker 00 When you kill spiders, they bring rain.
11:10 Ashley Hesseltine? Is that like a cultural thing?
11:12 Speaker 00 No, that's a thing.
11:14 Ashley Hesseltine? Is it?
11:14 Speaker 00 Yeah.
11:15 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay. So we stayed at the Mandarin Oriental, which was just the most incredible hotel, just so stunning, luxurious. We had breakfast every morning in their club lounge on the 21st floor overlooking the city. We were treated so well by them. We did this sidecar experience, which was through them. That was so much fun. But we did a lot of their stuff too. We went out on a boat one day and we explored all these different neighborhoods and ate all this different food and had these incredible dinners. But I want to know what one of your, your favorite, what your highlights were.
11:46 Speaker 00 I mean, sidecar was really sick. If you don't know, F1 has a race in Singapore in the fall and it's a city, city race. So you go through like the actual city and these two guys will take you on the sidecar and they'll take you to like a couple of famous turns on the track. And then you can take some pictures, a little when you're on the, you know, sidecar.
12:06 Ashley Hesseltine? They're driving the Vespa or the scooter and you're in the sidecar. You were really like, I wore a short skirt and a thong. Like those guys saw my whole ass.
12:16 Speaker 00 Whoa.
12:17 Ashley Hesseltine? Whatever.
12:17 Speaker 00 Sick. Good for them.
12:20 Ashley Hesseltine? So yeah, that was a really fun experience.
12:22 Speaker 00 That was great. I mean, all the Hocker centers were really, really special. Tons of great food. Of course you were coordinating with the board to like, get all these reservations and things and STB for short, Singapore Tourism Board.
12:35 Ashley Hesseltine? STB. It's a big deal.
12:36 Speaker 00 And they, you know, they had their recommendations and you knew what you wanted. I knew what I wanted. So we sort of collaborated, you know, we had so much good food. This restaurant burnt ends was probably one of the best meals I've ever had.
12:49 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, it's one of the best restaurants in Singapore. It was a beautiful restaurant, such a vibe.
12:54 Speaker 00 Yeah.
12:54 Ashley Hesseltine? So that was really fun. We went to Gardens by the Bay, saw the Supertrees.
13:00 Speaker 00 Oh my God. Drink every time Ashley says fucking Supertrees.
13:03 Ashley Hesseltine? We saw the Supertrees by day and we went back by night.
13:06 Speaker 00 Yeah, but we missed the light show, but that's okay.
13:08 Ashley Hesseltine? It's okay. We'll go back. We'll go to the light show. We'll go for F1. We'll go to the light show. But really you have to see these. I mean, they're such an attraction, but the Gardens by the Bay, the Cloud Forest and the Flower Dome.
13:17 Speaker 00 Yeah.
13:18 Ashley Hesseltine? Were incredible and we have photos. I posted some on Instagram and we're going to be posting more, but that was like such an attraction too.
13:24 Speaker 00 If you do the super trees like during the day or at night, it doesn't matter. Make sure you do the like, skywalk between the two super trees. It's like, the view is like breathtaking.
13:34 Ashley Hesseltine? The Gardens by the Bay is free all the time, day and night, but the skywalk you do have to pay for, and I think that's only, but you should. It's like really worth it. It's so, so special. And then they have a light show every night at like 7:45 and 8:45 and we can tell you anything you need to know about those super fours.
13:49 Speaker 00 We're the STB now.
13:50 Ashley Hesseltine? We're the STB. We shopped a lot in the Com-Pom-Glam neighborhood.
13:55 Speaker 00 Just say KPG. Let's call it KPG.
13:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Is that really what they call it? Or you're making that up? Shopped on this Arab street. We got a bunch of gifts for people. We were really cleaning these stores out of gifts. We found these chopsticks we wanted to get for people. We bought every pair in the store.
14:08 Speaker 00 All of them. I asked if there was more. She was like, get the fuck out of here, dude.
14:11 Ashley Hesseltine? She was like, bye. So we had fun doing that, but we had a few lowlights too. I don't know.
14:18 Speaker 00 Well, not really. I had one lowlight.
14:21 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay.
14:21 Speaker 00 I threw up on a boat.
14:23 Ashley Hesseltine? Multiple times, right?
14:25 Speaker 00 Once. I dry heaved a bunch.
14:28 Speaker 00 And then it finally all came out and it was a result of needing to drink a beer at 11:00 a.m. and then eat a bunch of sushi on a choppy, choppy ride to Lazarus Island, I think is what it's called.
14:41 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, we left from Sentosa Island and we went to Lazarus Island and we jumped off the boat and swam a little bit and had a really good time. But yeah, then you got sick. I felt so bad.
14:50 Speaker 00 I don't know. I don't know why I thought I needed to do all that, but I did. And then I threw up and then I immediately felt better. It was like a boot and rally, just not at a frat party.
14:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. And, oh, I forgot about that. We got couples massages.
15:00 Speaker 00 Oh, right. That was a highlight. That was great.
15:02 Ashley Hesseltine? We, that's our thing now, babe. That's our third couples massage.
15:06 Speaker 00 Yeah. It all started in Watertown, Mass.
15:10 Ashley Hesseltine? Really wanted to book us couples massages. What year is it? Probably 2024, maybe 2023. I think we were only dating like, I don't know, six to eight months. Yeah.
15:18 Speaker 00 You came to Boston and I was like, I got us massages. Woo. Went to Watertown, Mass.
15:23 Ashley Hesseltine? And we've just only gone up, no offense to Watertown, Massachusetts, but that was our first couples massage. Our second one was on our mini moon in Napa.
15:31 Speaker 00 Oh, yes.
15:31 Ashley Hesseltine? And then this third one was the nicest spot we've been in. So this is our thing now.
15:35 Speaker 00 I mean, they gave us these nice mesh underwears, which were sick.
15:39 Ashley Hesseltine? Cause we're, we're driving there. I'm like, I'm not wearing underwear. They gave it to us. And I don't know. I don't want to like disrespect the spa, but like, I am always trying to be like, do you want to hook up in here? And you're like, no, we can't.
15:48 Speaker 00 Oh, right. I thought you were like with the masseuse. I'm like, what are you talking about?
15:51 Ashley Hesseltine? We're both getting.
15:53 Speaker 00 Insane force of happening in there.
15:55 Ashley Hesseltine? The happy endings.
15:56 Speaker 00 Crazy. No, it's just like too tight and like they're kind of like, they're waiting on you.
16:00 Ashley Hesseltine? They are. They know you want to. They're like, that's not what that room is for.
16:04 Speaker 00 You're not going to do that. And then they have separate showering quarters. You can't even do that.
16:08 Ashley Hesseltine? Right. Like, and I get it. Of course. I don't want a man in the woman's locker room, but like, I want like a couples. I want a couples sauna experience.
16:17 Speaker 00 Right. Yeah.
16:17 Ashley Hesseltine? So I'll look into that for us.
16:19 Speaker 00 We have a sauna in our house.
16:21 Ashley Hesseltine? We have like a dry. We did hook up in that sauna.
16:24 Speaker 00 We did. Yeah. Sick. So we've done it. It's fine.
16:27 Ashley Hesseltine? We have. We have. Well, let us know if you guys have ever hooked up in the couples massage room. Actually like, don't, I don't think we should be doing that. Okay. And then while Shashank was sick on the boat, I was worried about him and I, I'm going to use that as my excuse why I forgot to reapply sunscreen and I got a sunburn and I hate getting sunburned. It's so embarrassing. I should be taking better care of myself like that. And I hate the way it looks. And I was wearing a bathing suit with straps and I wanted to wear a tube dress that night. So I had the lines and it's like bright pink. I hate it. I, I'm like, I get mad. I'm mad at myself. I'm mad at the world and I won't shut the fuck up about it.
17:04 Speaker 00 Yeah.
17:05 Ashley Hesseltine? And you just had to listen to it. You had to get me some aloe. It was a whole thing.
17:09 Speaker 00 Yeah. Singapore has an Uber courier called Grab, which is really great.
17:12 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
17:13 Speaker 00 We had it in 10 minutes and then you were lathered up in aloe.
17:17 Ashley Hesseltine? And another thing that happened, this is just kind of a funny thing, but one night we, this was we went to dinner at Burn End's and then we went around to a couple of bars. And this was like the, we weren't like drunk by any means, but we'd had some drinks. And this was like the latest, we probably stayed out on the trip. It's like one o'clock, one thirty in the morning. And I was like, we should bike home. So we see the bikes in the street, like a city bike style where there's an app or whatever you guys have in your city. And I was like, we should bike home. Let's like download the app and just get on these bikes. I had a dress. I hiked it up. We get on the bikes and we are, we're cruising. You're trying to navigate us. That's your job when we're on these bikes. We're in the street because you ride the bikes in the street.
17:50 Speaker 00 In the street, everywhere. But you know what should have been a giveaway is that there was no bike lane, like no designated bike.
17:56 Ashley Hesseltine? I know, but there just weren't cars in the street. And to me, I'm like, you, that's where you ride.
18:00 Speaker 00 Yeah.
18:01 Ashley Hesseltine? You know, that's my culture where I, where I bike in New York, you know? So we're riding the bikes, we're having a grand old time and we hear sirens behind us.
18:09 Speaker 00 Surely I was like, it's a car, somebody did something, somebody's jaywalking. I don't know what's happening. You can't jaywalk in Singapore.
18:15 Ashley Hesseltine? I knew it was for us. And I think especially as someone who's, you know, had some transgressions in the past, I was like, I've had some alcohol and I'm getting pulled over. Like it was an immediate trigger. And also I'm like, we're foreign visitors.
18:29 Speaker 00 Yeah.
18:29 Ashley Hesseltine? You know, coming from the US, we're also traumatized. I'm like, we are breaking the law in a foreign country. We're going to a detainment center.
18:36 Speaker 00 In the fucking Gulag. We're gonna, we're going to a Gulag.
18:38 Ashley Hesseltine? We're gonna go to the Gulag. And so he pulls us over and he's just like, are you visiting?
18:42 Speaker 00 As kind as could be.
18:43 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, totally.
18:44 Speaker 00 To top it off. I was like, dude, what the fuck?
18:46 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. It does feel like the police there are maybe to protect and serve. So he was like, you guys visiting? We're like, obviously. And he was like, well, you know, you should be wearing helmets for one. And we're like, okay. And yeah, you guys should wear helmets also and be safe, whatever. But it's like, whatever. And he was like, and you aren't supposed to ride in the street. You're supposed to ride on the sidewalk. And we're like, what? And then that was it. Like there was no warning. They're not trying to get our money with a ticket.
19:12 Speaker 00 Genuinely, they just want you to be safe.
19:13 Ashley Hesseltine? Genuinely, they just want you to be safe. We got pulled over on bike by a cop for him to be like, be safe.
19:19 Speaker 00 Yeah.
19:20 Ashley Hesseltine? And then we rode him on the sidewalk, which felt crazy.
19:22 Speaker 00 It was tight. It was where we even in and out of people, other bikes.
19:25 Ashley Hesseltine? Other bikes on the side. There weren't really people on the sidewalk.
19:27 Speaker 00 Constructions. We were like going through scaffolding. Like you see, it was like we were in New York or like Faneuil Hall on the sidewalk. It was.
19:33 Ashley Hesseltine? But like not a lot of people were out and it was totally fine. But yeah, other bikers were on the sidewalk.
19:38 Speaker 00 It was, I mean, it was super fun. Thanks to you, we bike every time we go somewhere now.
19:44 Ashley Hesseltine? You're new to it.
19:45 Speaker 00 That's not my thing. It never has been my thing. It is now. So, thank you for that. That's a different way to see the city. We went up and down the Hudson River in New York and that was incredible.
19:55 Ashley Hesseltine? I said, I want to city bike with you from Meatpacking to up to Central Park and you were like, no chance.
20:01 Speaker 00 And then we did it. We went Central Park to Meatpacking.
20:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Watch us drive.
20:09 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, so that, yeah, I think that was like, that was a trip for the most part. I mean, we just had a great time. We travel really well together. I think we want to do the same things. I mean, a lot of people asked questions about differences and the level of activity and plans and what time you want to wake up. And we'll go over some of it today, but I think I want to do an episode with Rena for Down the Road, another travel episode where we like really answer all your guys' questions. Cause we have a lot and giving dating advice is not your favorite thing.
20:41 Speaker 00 I don't know how.
20:42 Ashley Hesseltine? You really, yeah.
20:43 Speaker 00 I don't know.
20:44 Ashley Hesseltine? But we'll talk about some other stuff today, but some of that stuff, if we don't get to it, just know that I saw all the questions that you guys submit on Instagram and we want to get to them. So we'll do an episode, maybe before like a summer travel episode. But yeah, I mean, we work really well together. I think we want to do similar things. We want to have a similar type of food experiences. We want to have more casual meals and authentic to the city or country, island, country, city, state, whatever.
21:10 Speaker 00 Chicago, we gotta get a hot dog, of course.
21:12 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, exactly.
21:13 Speaker 00 You're on board with that, which is, imagine your, imagine your girl wasn't on board with getting hot dogs? Dump her.
21:19 Ashley Hesseltine? If you're new.
21:20 Speaker 00 Dating advice.
21:21 Ashley Hesseltine? If you're new around here, Chuck loves the hot dog.
21:24 Speaker 00 Best hot dog is in Napa.
21:26 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, yes.
21:26 Speaker 00 Die on that hill.
21:27 Ashley Hesseltine? We had the best hot dog at this gas station. It's very fancy.
21:31 Speaker 00 It's like a nice Michelin, gas station.
21:33 Ashley Hesseltine? It's a Michelin star. Yeah, that was the best one we've had. Someone DM'd you, you have to go get this. We went immediately. I was like, let's go. So, yeah, we always.
21:39 Speaker 00 But to drive it home, we like the same things and that works when we travel.
21:43 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. And then we like to have nice, more upscale experiences too, like the dinner brands, for example. And I think we have a similar level of activity. We like to wake up the same time. You wake up earlier during the week and, but when we travel together, I feel like we usually want to get up around the same time and experience the day.
21:59 Speaker 00 Yeah. You don't want to waste the whole day sleeping. That's crazy.
22:02 Ashley Hesseltine? And I think I want to make more plans than you. But you're pretty easygoing. You're down to do whatever mostly.
22:11 Speaker 00 Yeah, I mean, I get it. I didn't fly across the country to lay around. You know what I mean?
22:15 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
22:16 Speaker 00 And you really, like I said earlier, you kind of ironed it all out like to a T and it was perfect.
22:22 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, it was. Thanks. I mean, I feel like in our relationship, I definitely plan more, but you manage me and my
22:30 Speaker 00 Yes.
22:30 Ashley Hesseltine? stuff and you hold the room key and you get to call the cars. You're in charge of the transportation and just like making my life easier, making our lives like I think we each have our roles when it comes to traveling together. And I really want to take the reins more on like booking a hotel or making plans. And we obviously, if there's specific stuff you want to do, we always do it. Sometimes you want to go to like a streetwear shop, even if it's out of the way, we'll make it work. You want to get a tattoo. You did that in Canada, you did that in Singapore. Like we always do the stuff you want to do for the most part. I'm like, here's what I want to do. Are you down? And I kind of make the itinerary or loose itinerary and make reservations. And then you really keep us tight on the trip.
23:11 Speaker 00 We're both kind of this glue, if you will.
23:15 Ashley Hesseltine? We have a nice balance and we are annoyed by the same stuff.
23:19 Speaker 00 So important.
23:20 Ashley Hesseltine? And we hate the same stuff.
23:21 Speaker 00 Yes.
23:22 Ashley Hesseltine? And you let me be a hater and you indulge me and you don't invalidate me and you're annoyed by the same stuff. Like this really is what bonds people together is hating the same stuff. I mean, the same with Raina, like talking shit. I mean, I couldn't be with somebody who wasn't annoyed the way I am annoyed at people on planes.
23:40 Speaker 00 Yeah.
23:40 Ashley Hesseltine? Talking at a level 12, a man on the flight out to Singapore, two men across the aisle from each other, talking full volume. We heard about his prostate.
23:49 Speaker 00 Crazy.
23:50 Ashley Hesseltine? Like insane. And then on the way back, a guy next to me coughing the entire time, always a man ruining the flight. I'm sorry.
23:54 Speaker 00 It's true.
23:55 Ashley Hesseltine? Trying to be a man.
23:56 Speaker 00 Folks, what is the number one thing you don't do when you're taxiing or waiting to get to your gate? That's right. Stand up. What did this fucking guy need to do? Stand up.
24:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Stand up and talk to the guy in front of him.
24:07 Speaker 00 Buddy, have you ever looked around your seat? Fucking do that. Sit down.
24:11 Ashley Hesseltine? Men need friends so bad. They are having therapy sessions and business meetings on airplanes. You would never.
24:17 Speaker 00 Loser.
24:18 Ashley Hesseltine? Right. So we like to hate on the same stuff.
24:20 Speaker 00 Yeah, fuck that guy.
24:20 Ashley Hesseltine? You and I can hear a noise and we immediately look at each other and we're fucking annoyed.
24:25 Speaker 00 I mean, that started early on. Every time we were outside, there was a fucking jackhammer or a fucking backhoe doing something and we were like, God. Can we do anything in peace and quiet and now?
24:35 Ashley Hesseltine? And you like get annoyed at people on the street, walking slow or driving like we just, again, we are happy people, we're moving through life. We're not just like constantly
24:43 Speaker 00 curmudgeonly.
24:43 Ashley Hesseltine? I guess we kind of are. I mean, my inner monologue is Larry David and same as you. But I really feel like that a couple that were one person is more annoyed and they're like us and they have that hate in their heart. And then the other person's like, come on, just relax. They're not doing anything wrong. It's just like, oh my God, if you can't hate this person ruining our flight, I can't be with you.
25:06 Speaker 00 Go back to the other sheets somewhere else.
25:08 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. Okay. So we are just going to take a quick break and Sean's going to probably watch baseballs or on his iPad.
25:15 Speaker 00 Yeah, the US is out.
25:17 Ashley Hesseltine? Is there baseball on right now?
25:18 Speaker 00 Yeah.
25:18 Ashley Hesseltine? Guys, just this is my life now, now that we're in baseball season.
25:21 Speaker 00 Baseball season.
25:22 Ashley Hesseltine? I realized that you're so excited because of gambling.
25:26 Speaker 00 I love sports, betting.
25:28 Ashley Hesseltine? That was in my vows.
25:29 Speaker 00 Yeah, gambling. I know. Yeah. Go Birds, whatever. No, seriously. Go Birds.
25:33 Ashley Hesseltine? That was also my.
25:33 Speaker 00 Yeah, I do love baseball because I can gamble on it and I've made a good amount of money gambling on baseball. There, I said it. It's out in the open. Everybody knows.
25:41 Ashley Hesseltine? That's where all my jewelry comes from.
25:43 Speaker 00 Yes.
25:43 Ashley Hesseltine? It's just Sean's sports gambling money. That's what you taught me.
25:46 Speaker 00 It's true.
25:48 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay.
25:49 Speaker 00 Thank you, Billy Breen.
25:49 Ashley Hesseltine? I hope you, I hope you keep winning. Okay. So I am going to tell you guys about no CD. So of course, everyone has doubts or anxieties about their relationship from time to time, but for some people, those doubts and insecurities feel all consuming and impossible to move on from. So sometimes the need to feel certain about your relationship is so strong that you might do things like the following OCD symptoms. Create mental lists of your partner's pros and cons while panicking about whether you made the wrong choice. Constantly research signs you're with the right person online. Have a random dream about spending your life with another person and then feel guilty and terrified about what that might mean. Ask your partner over and over if they're really happy with you, even though they already said yes many times. So these are just some symptoms that could signal that you have real OCD
26:33 Ashley Hesseltine? and OCD really is a serious condition where distressing unwanted thoughts called intrusive thoughts get stuck on repeat and you feel driven to do certain mental or physical behaviors called compulsions. To try to make the anxiety stop. So with relationship OCD, compulsions might look like constantly seeking reassurance, replaying memories over and over again to see if you feel a spark or comparing your partner to others nonstop. But there is hope and treatability. OCD is one of the most treatable mental health conditions when you get the right kind of specialized therapy, which is ERP therapy, exposure and response prevention, which is proven to be the most effective treatment. Regular talk therapy isn't recommended and can actually make OCD worse. So that is why we are telling you guys about NOCD. NOCD is the world's leading OCD treatment provider and all of their licensed therapists specialize in ERP.
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27:41 Speaker 00 Pillows and ottoman outside.
27:43 Ashley Hesseltine? A lot of outdoor furniture. They have the best outdoor furniture, lamps. They have the best, the everything truly, like the headboards, the bedroom furniture, couches they have. I mean, we just love their style. They make it effortless to create a stylish, long lasting home at an unbeatable price. Really what you get for the price, it's just the highest quality. They have the best customer service. I've dealt with furniture companies, not naming names, that are the worst customer service, the worst shipping, packaging, all the things. Article is the top. They have a curated range of mid-century modern coastal and Scandi-inspired pieces that all pairs seamlessly with nearly any other Article product. So what I recommend is going on their site and just honestly looking at the photos and how they pair stuff and designing your dream home,
28:27 Ashley Hesseltine? literally based on photos alone, you can be your own interior designer. If you just get on their site and check out the photos and also they link to their Instagram, you can see how other people have styled the Article items. They have incredible curated collections, meticulous packaging. It comes mostly assembled, fast, affordable shipping and assembly across the US and Canada and support when you need it. 30 day satisfaction guarantee. And when you shop Article, you can immediately tell the difference in quality when you receive an Article piece. And just some of the colors, I mean, I'd love like their greens and their deep, bold jewel tones. And of course you have your like all white and neutral furniture too, whatever you guys are looking for. We really love their patio furniture. We're getting into that spring, summer patio season. So. Check them out. If you're in the market for a beautiful new sofa, dining table,
29:12 Ashley Hesseltine? or bed, head over to article.com. Okay, so we are back into it and we had, like I mentioned before, our listeners submit questions on Instagram about what they wanted to know about traveling with a partner, honeymoons, vacations, whatever you have, and a lot of common themes. The number one being
29:36 Speaker 00 Pooping.
29:37 Ashley Hesseltine? Or the number two, I guess.
29:38 Speaker 00 The number, yes, number two was actually the number one.
29:42 Ashley Hesseltine? The number two was the number one.
29:43 Speaker 00 Yeah.
29:43 Ashley Hesseltine? So many questions about pooping and not wanting your partner to hear you poop, or know you're pooping, or hotel bathrooms with no door, no doors are kind of crazy, but sliding door, barn door, how to handle those situations. So let's talk about it.
30:00 Speaker 00 Easy. Scope it out when you get to the hotel. That's it. Right when you walk in, find the lobby bathroom. If there isn't one, get a different hotel.
30:09 Ashley Hesseltine? Can you imagine a hotel without a lobby bathroom?
30:14 Speaker 00 Yeah.
30:15 Ashley Hesseltine? There was always a lobby bathroom, even when we stayed.
30:17 Speaker 00 The Bay Resort in Dewey.
30:18 Ashley Hesseltine? Bay Resort in Dewey, there still was.
30:20 Speaker 00 There was one, which I didn't know.
30:22 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
30:23 Speaker 00 Which is why I had to pee in a bush.
30:24 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, okay.
30:25 Speaker 00 Sorry.
30:26 Ashley Hesseltine? But you wouldn't shit in a bush. You might have.
30:30 Speaker 00 You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes.
30:31 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, so say, I want you to say your rule with your whole chest, which is men poop in the lobby.
30:39 Speaker 00 Men always poop in the lobby. Do not blow out the bedroom that you're all sleeping in.
30:46 Ashley Hesseltine? You can, but like, that's when you need to go, do your thing.
30:51 Speaker 00 Well, when we were in Catalina, we were checking out and I was like, just go to the lobby for a minute and I'll be down. And then you can do it then.
30:59 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes.
31:00 Speaker 00 If you have a minute alone.
31:02 Ashley Hesseltine? Unless we have like a two-bedroom suite, which we did have in Singapore at the Mandarin, but that's pretty rare. You and I are usually usually in a standard hotel room.
31:10 Speaker 00 Well, my hotel room at the standard is just the lobby bathroom.
31:13 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay. Speaking of the standard, actually, different bathroom setups. I mean, these barn doors, these sliding doors are an abomination.
31:21 Speaker 00 That's crazy.
31:21 Ashley Hesseltine? What are we doing? And with the standard, which is where the hotel we probably stayed in the most, we, and we obviously, if you guys are new around here, we did long distance for a year and a half, and we spent a lot of time in New York, and we stayed at the standard in the East Village, and mostly in me packing. But the whole room is set to be very sexy, and you can see the shower from the bedroom and all this stuff. And there's really a lack of privacy. That's how they designed it. But the bathroom, they have like a poop closet, basically, and it is the toilet and like a real heavy door.
31:49 Speaker 00 Yeah.
31:50 Ashley Hesseltine? Like a not a sliding door, a traditional door.
31:53 Speaker 00 Yeah.
31:53 Ashley Hesseltine? So it's, it works. And if you turn the faucet on, that water pressure, I mean, you really can drown it out.
31:59 Speaker 00 Yeah. But then, say I came out, and then you had to like brush your teeth. How are you gonna do that?
32:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Just give it time.
32:06 Speaker 00 It's kind of a nightmare. And like, they don't have a fan in that little Harry Potter bedroom.
32:10 Ashley Hesseltine? That's a Harry Potter bedroom. Yeah. I mean, this is where you just have to like feel it out. Like if you know someone just was in there for a while, just give it a minute before you go in and brush your teeth.
32:19 Speaker 00 You know, if you did damage.
32:20 Ashley Hesseltine? You go to the lobby, and that's kind of how we roll.
32:23 Speaker 00 Yeah.
32:24 Ashley Hesseltine? But if you don't want to do that, run the shower, run the faucet, put a podcast on, put on Girls Gotta Eat. We would love for you guys to be playing Girls Gotta Eat when you're trying to drown off the sounds of your poop. Yes, exactly. So I think now you and I, I never want you to hear me pooping. That's crazy.
32:46 Speaker 00 No, no.
32:46 Ashley Hesseltine? You only just heard me fart once, and that will be the one and only time.
32:50 Speaker 00 Incredible. It's on my calendar.
32:51 Ashley Hesseltine? You guys know about it. We cut a reel about it. So you can commemorate it every year.
32:57 Speaker 00 Every year.
32:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Celebrate the anniversary. So you and I at about three years in are really open about going to the bathroom. We'll talk about if we like are constipated, like we know what we're doing, you know, we'll be like, oh, I feel so much lighter when you come out of the bathroom. Like, we're not gross, but we'll talk about it. But I still never want you to hear me. And early days, six months, even three months, six months, a year in, I wasn't talking about it with you like this. And I was thinking more about what to do when we were traveling. So I want to validate that this is a real thing that's on people's minds, especially if it's about to be your first trip with someone. You're like, when am I gonna poop and where?
33:32 Speaker 00 Yeah, of course. I mean, that was, I went through many a stomach ache because I didn't know how to handle it either. And then I was finally like, okay, the lobby is my safe space. And that was, that started at the Seaport Hotel in Boston, which is not a close lobby bathroom. That hotel is fucking huge.
33:49 Ashley Hesseltine? You were gone for hours.
33:50 Speaker 00 Literally 30 minutes to get there, 30 minutes.
33:53 Ashley Hesseltine? I'm checking your location.
33:54 Speaker 00 Truly. I'm in Somerville.
33:57 Ashley Hesseltine? I'm in Watertown.
34:01 Ashley Hesseltine? I just felt really comfortable.
34:02 Speaker 00 But that's where it started, you know, you'll suffer a little bit at the beginning.
34:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Suffer, do it, why?
34:06 Speaker 00 With stomachaches.
34:07 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, yeah.
34:08 Speaker 00 And then like, I'm not gonna fart in front of you either. That's crazy. That makes your stomach hurt. You can't hold a fart for that long.
34:14 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
34:15 Speaker 00 But it's important to, to scope that out. Once you start going to hotels.
34:19 Ashley Hesseltine? Totally.
34:19 Speaker 00 And traveling together.
34:21 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes. And now, I mean, if we are in a hotel room and I have to poop, I go into the bathroom and I poop. I run the water. I make it loud as hell in there. But if I felt like it was going to be explosive for some reason, I wouldn't, I would probably, I don't want you to hear that. I never want you to hear that. You'll never look at me the same. So I would go lobby or I'd be like, babe, can you go lobby? Can you go get me a coffee? Or like, I'd go, there's a gym bathroom. I mean, there's so many options in a hotel. I think if you're in like a one bedroom Airbnb, I don't know, again, just like make it loud, try to get your space, do it when they're away. But sometimes when you gotta go, you gotta go. And then, I don't know, again, bring in the podcast and poop with girls gotta eat, girls gotta poop.
35:03 Speaker 00 GGP.
35:04 Ashley Hesseltine? GGP.
35:05 Speaker 00 GGP. The other move could be if you're like going somewhere, you know what I mean? If you're like going out to dinner or something, you can just like wait until you get there or you're going out to breakfast or lunch or something.
35:15 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, it's just like, you never know. Like some people want to stay on the toilet a long time.
35:20 Speaker 00 What? Till your legs fall asleep?
35:22 Ashley Hesseltine? No, or just like, you don't know how quick it's gonna be.
35:24 Speaker 00 That's true. Oh, you know what I wanted to ask you? What was the situation at the Hawker Center bathroom?
35:31 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh my gosh. So like we said before, everywhere in Singapore is so clean. I think there is like a fine for not flushing a public toilet.
35:40 Speaker 00 Yes.
35:40 Ashley Hesseltine? But the thing in Singapore that we found to be so interesting, I'm glad you brought this up, is there are no like napkin dispensers.
35:47 Speaker 00 Yeah.
35:47 Ashley Hesseltine? I'm getting to answer your question, like on the tables in the Hawker Centers where you're eating all this saucy, messy food that you need to kind of bring your own napkins. This is something, this is one of the biggest cultural things I learned. In the restaurants, of course, they're giving you napkins, whatever. But at the Hawker Centers, we had a tour guide one day and she brought her own.
36:05 Speaker 00 Wet naps.
36:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Wet naps for us. And so I say that just to be like, that's something to remember. If you go and you go to these Hawker Centers, bring wet naps and regular napkins too. And when we were in the Chinatown complex, this is just a really big, very casual Hawker.
36:23 Speaker 00 Clean enough, not like dirty by any means.
36:26 Ashley Hesseltine? But I don't know, on the lower scale end of the Hawker Centers, I don't know. And it was amazing. We had these dumplings. They're like out of this world. But we went to the bathroom and she handed me tissue. It was like, you're gonna need this. And so there weren't like toilet paper, paper towels in that specific bathroom. There were toilet paper in other bathrooms. It's not like a toilet paper desert. But for that specific scenario in like a mall food court, essentially, that was the vibe she handed me. And I just had to pee.
36:52 Speaker 00 Oh, okay.
36:53 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, did you think I like?
36:54 Speaker 00 I thought you might have blown it out like the starboard.
36:56 Ashley Hesseltine? Terrible with those square of toilet paper she would give me in the starboard.
37:00 Speaker 00 I will tell you really quickly, the scariest place I have pooped is on a train in India. Because it's just a hole and you can see the tracks. It's pretty terrifying and you just have to squat.
37:16 Ashley Hesseltine? You did not poop on train tracks?
37:20 Speaker 00 Yeah, but also in India, people are like outside the train shitting on the tracks.
37:24 Ashley Hesseltine? I know.
37:25 Speaker 00 We've all seen something like in the air and the namesake, it's all.
37:27 Ashley Hesseltine? But you like could look through.
37:30 Speaker 00 Correct. If you looked down, you were squatted. Above like a hole. I think, what's a commode? A commode is like the word, right?
37:38 Ashley Hesseltine? It's a word for a toilet.
37:39 Speaker 00 Oh, I thought it was like specific to hole in the ground or something. But anyway, that's the scariest place to poop.
37:45 Ashley Hesseltine? I can't believe you did that. You must had to really go.
37:48 Speaker 00 Yeah.
37:48 Ashley Hesseltine? Cause you get a little.
37:49 Speaker 00 I was like nine. I get a little tight.
37:50 Ashley Hesseltine? You were a kid? Oh, my God. This is so traumatizing.
37:54 Speaker 00 Terrifying. You can ask Hazel about it. I was like, Mom, what do I do? She was like, what do you mean? What do you fucking do?
38:00 Ashley Hesseltine? Text your mom right now. Tell me about the time she shot on the train tracks when I was nine. Would she like recall?
38:05 Speaker 00 Don't say it like that. I was, we were like traveling somewhere and the train was moving.
38:09 Ashley Hesseltine? What should I ask her?
38:10 Speaker 00 Just don't text my mom.
38:14 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, so I think we covered pooping, snoring. Someone wrote, he snores and it's extra loud on vacation, I swear, and it keeps me up. How do I deal?
38:22 Speaker 00 This is about the guy on the flight.
38:23 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. Oh, yeah. The coffee guy also snored.
38:27 Speaker 00 Brutal.
38:27 Ashley Hesseltine? You just gotta bring earplugs. Like I understand the loud being louder on vacation. You snore more when you drink. So.
38:33 Speaker 00 That has yet to be proven.
38:35 Ashley Hesseltine? I was like, what else do you need? I've showed you videos. Okay, so I do bring earplugs for these moments. I mean, I had earplugs on on the plane. The even the loud sound of the plane couldn't drown out that guy's coughs and his snores. So I just think the simplest thing is just always bring them. I never travel without them. The standard earplugs are like the best ones. So I order these ones like from Amazon or whatever that are fine, but the standard ones are better. So I take them when I like, I always take the room set when I go and hold on to them. And I can use them a couple of different times. Okay, is helping your man pack slash pick out outfits cringe?
39:12 Speaker 00 I don't need your help packing, but I do value your input for outfits.
39:16 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay.
39:17 Speaker 00 And that's all I gotta say about that.
39:19 Ashley Hesseltine? I think that's the gold standard in relationships is guys asking their girls, what am I wearing?
39:26 Speaker 00 I mean, most guys don't know how to dress.
39:29 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
39:29 Speaker 00 I sometimes feel like that.
39:31 Ashley Hesseltine? You have great style, but you also let me give input.
39:35 Speaker 00 Yeah.
39:36 Ashley Hesseltine? I think I've introduced you to some things you weren't wearing before, like a cardigan. We do this little cashmere short sleeve sweater that you have.
39:41 Speaker 00 Raina Palooza, you were like, these polos. And I was like, fuck yeah, these are sick.
39:45 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, yeah, the Abercrombie.
39:46 Speaker 00 Yeah. And I look great.
39:47 Ashley Hesseltine? I think there's like a spectrum. There's like the, the worst guy that's like, you can't tell me what to wear. And I'm going to wear my Hawaiian shirt and khaki shorts and flip flops.
39:54 Speaker 00 Incel.
39:55 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. Which is fine. You want to wear a Hawaiian shirt, that's your business. But like, but they won't listen to your input. And you're like, hey, we're going to like a nice dinner. And they're like, I don't, you can't tell me what to wear.
40:02 Speaker 00 I'm wearing this Marvel tee.
40:04 Ashley Hesseltine? Right.
40:04 Speaker 00 Dude.
40:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Raina's ex, wearing a Marvel tee to meet her dad.
40:07 Speaker 00 Sorry, man.
40:07 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. So you don't want that. And I guess the other end of the spectrum is the guy that's like high fashion.
40:13 Speaker 00 Yeah.
40:14 Ashley Hesseltine? Like a Kanye vibe, you know, where he's like, I'm the fashion one in the relationship and you can't tell them nothing, can't tell me nothing. See what I did there?
40:24 Ashley Hesseltine? But you're the perfect partner in that you're like, hey, I want to know what we're doing and what the dress code is. I want to look nice. And I'm the same way. I'm like, what kind of outfits do you like me? And I'm not going to wear anything that I don't like, but I want to look nice for you and you want to look nice for me. And so I think we've gone on trips where I've told you everything to bring, like where I know your whole wardrobe. And I'm like this, this and this for these days and this, this and this for these nights. And I love to do it and you listen and then you pack your own bag. I don't think you want to be packing your man's bag like you're his mom.
40:54 Speaker 00 No, no, no, no. But I mean, I think it's important to take the input because what's worse than being underdressed or dressed incorrectly?
41:03 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
41:03 Speaker 00 You know what I mean? If I didn't have those polos for Raina Palooza, what was he going to wear? Like one of 40 Kith t-shirts I have, that would have been terrible, but they're great. I have a lot of t-shirts, but you got those polos. I looked great. Everyone said I looked great. Fellas, just listen. They know what they're doing.
41:23 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay. And so speaking of bags, if he doesn't carry my bags, is this a red flag?
41:29 Speaker 00 Dump his ass.
41:31 Ashley Hesseltine? Like literally like.
41:32 Speaker 00 Literally get that guy out of here.
41:33 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes. So I can't imagine it.
41:36 Speaker 00 You shouldn't have to.
41:37 Ashley Hesseltine? All my bags. I mean, if, if it's too much, I do help. But you.
41:42 Speaker 00 You do? I'm just kidding.
41:43 Ashley Hesseltine? You tend to grab everything. Like you don't want me to carry bags. I am rolling free.
41:49 Speaker 00 Laissez faire.
41:50 Ashley Hesseltine? Through the airport with a cross body purse on.
41:52 Speaker 00 Incredible. Drinking a hot coffee.
41:54 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, my hands are full, but you naturally do that. And I was talking with a friend recently. They were traveling with two girls and a guy. Nobody was dating. It was friends, but she was like, he never once even like offered to get our bags or anything.
42:07 Speaker 00 Fucking dork.
42:08 Ashley Hesseltine? I'm like, Shashank is out here. We recently were traveling. Raina was driving me and our friend Leah Lamar to the San Diego show. And Leah pulled up in front of Raina's house and you went and got her bags. You had just met her like a minute before that. And you naturally were like, I'm going to go help her with her bags. It's just a gentlemanly shovel risk thing to do. That's how you are. And yeah, like that's a perk of traveling with a dude, traveling with your male partner is he carries most of the stuff. He literally lightens the load.
42:34 Speaker 00 Yeah, as you should.
42:35 Ashley Hesseltine? So he has a red flag.
42:37 Speaker 00 I would be concerned if my man was not carrying my shit. Like. Or putting it in the overhead bin or getting it from the overhead bin.
42:44 Ashley Hesseltine? It also depends. Like, okay, let's say we both have a carry on roller. You're not carrying, like I'm, I'm dragging my roller. You're not going to have two hands with both of our rollers.
42:56 Speaker 00 I mean, I have done that.
42:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Well, because I had a coffee.
42:58 Speaker 00 Two coffees.
43:00 Ashley Hesseltine? No, but you know what I'm saying? Like, I don't expect it to be ridiculous.
43:04 Speaker 00 Right.
43:04 Ashley Hesseltine? But that if it's like, you can carry my stuff and I don't have to, like you do.
43:08 Speaker 00 Sure.
43:09 Ashley Hesseltine? Naturally do that.
43:10 Speaker 00 Yeah, as you should.
43:11 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, that's our answer. This is just a statement, but I just really appreciate it. And I feel like this is how you and I operate. I want my man responsible for the car and the hotel keys. That's boy stuff. I cannot keep track of on a holiday. And this is what we do. I really, well, we, we'll talk about this at a later date. And we've talked about on previous episodes too, by the way, we have a travel episode from 2022 and from 2018. We do one every four years. So we're due for our travel episode in 2026. But if you want to go back and just search travel, wherever you're listening to your podcast, those two should have come up. So we addressed some of this, like who does what kind of thing. And even when it comes to expenses and. Cars is just your world. I mean, you're also a car guy, but like, I don't want to deal with the Ubers. Like, that's just the something that you do. I deal with a lot of other stuff. I plan a lot of
43:56 Ashley Hesseltine? other stuff. I'll pay for other stuff, but like, that's the thing that you tend to handle and it's like, really appreciated and you always have the hotel key. Like, babe, okay, you forgot it one time.
44:05 Speaker 00 Where were we?
44:06 Ashley Hesseltine? In Singapore. You've
44:07 Speaker 00 Oh.
44:08 Ashley Hesseltine? No, but here's, you, you forgot it walking out and you realized it immediately. And then you saw the housekeeper and you went, were able to get it in, so you didn't have to go to the front desk. It's just, just make sure you have the room key. Like whichever partner in the relationship, just be like, you're the room key person.
44:25 Speaker 00 This is your thing.
44:25 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
44:26 Speaker 00 Yeah.
44:26 Ashley Hesseltine? This is your thing. So, anyway, I just agree with that. Okay. This question, is it weird if we're not having sex the whole time?
44:39 Speaker 00 I don't really know. I think there's like circumstances, if you guys are like running around all day and you know what I mean? You're all exhausted. You don't have to just, you don't have to have sex. You can just be like, I'm exhausted. That was a long day. Chances are your partner's gonna be like, yeah, me too. And then you can just fucking go to sleep. And it's totally fine.
44:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Guys, how sexy is this?
44:59 Speaker 00 My
45:00 Ashley Hesseltine? I was actually going to echo that same sentiment. I think there are vacations for sex and vacations for more sightseeing, exploring. Obviously, you do both.
45:09 Speaker 00 Right. I mean, Cabo was crazy for your birthday. You couldn't pry me off of you.
45:15 Ashley Hesseltine? We were in New couple, we had sex three times a day, morning, noon and night. Rayna would say my face was red the whole trip. And like, Canada, I think we had sex most days.
45:25 Speaker 00 Yeah.
45:26 Ashley Hesseltine? Maybe we were maybe twice a day, one, one time, like, but Singapore is really hot and we walked a ton and we were really exhausted.
45:36 Speaker 00 The heat makes you tired and you're sweating a ton.
45:37 Ashley Hesseltine? End of the day.
45:38 Speaker 00 Yeah. And we were eating so, so much.
45:40 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. And so, we have had to kind of figure out our sex schedule because Shoshanka is like a nighttime, like after we get home, back from dinner, drinks, hotel.
45:50 Speaker 00 Yeah.
45:51 Ashley Hesseltine? And I'm an afternoon girly, but so like, one night you were like trying to get in. I was like, babe, I just can't, I just ate too much.
45:57 Speaker 00 Right.
45:58 Ashley Hesseltine? And I was like, you better put it down tomorrow afternoon.
46:01 Speaker 00 And then I did. And that kid was like, what grade are you in?
46:08 Ashley Hesseltine? That vibes only bond band.
46:10 Speaker 00 Buy that.
46:10 Ashley Hesseltine? We do not take a vacation without the vibes only bond band.
46:14 Speaker 00 Should be legal.
46:15 Ashley Hesseltine? So in terms of sex, don't feel this pressure of like, oh my gosh, like we're on a vacation, especially, I mean, I feel for people who have kids and they're like, we gotta get away. This is our only chance, or especially on a honeymoon, you might have these preconceived notions in your head, like we're supposed to be fucking the whole time.
46:30 Speaker 00 Right.
46:30 Ashley Hesseltine? Don't get caught up in that. I think that you can have sex anytime. Most, I mean, I guess if you have a bunch of kids, but like you can't do the other stuff anytime. So if you really want to maximize your whole day and you get home and you just fall into bed and you couldn't possibly get it up, don't worry about it. We did a sex episode recently about how often couples are really having sex. And so that's a good one to listen to. And I think it just made a lot of people feel better and validated about their own relationship and how much are people actually having sex and are people out here lying? And
46:58 Speaker 00 Hundred percent.
46:59 Ashley Hesseltine? I think that just don't feel that pressure. If you skip a day or a couple of days or whatever you have going on, I think it depends on the nature of the vacation.
47:07 Speaker 00 Exactly. Yeah.
47:08 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. Okay. And lastly, how do I get him to take good pics of me?
47:13 Speaker 00 All right, fellas, we're all in this together. We're all learning how to do it. I'm not great at it by any means, but you just gotta listen. Frame it this way, higher, lower, wider, never this, never the long way, always the tall way.
47:26 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, by request, if you want to like landscape.
47:29 Speaker 00 Fucking weirdo.
47:30 Ashley Hesseltine? But we're doing this for Instagram.
47:32 Speaker 00 It's always the long way.
47:33 Ashley Hesseltine? You're a photographer. You have a camera. You are a great photographer.
47:36 Speaker 00 I'm not a photographer. It's a hobby.
47:38 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, you're, okay, you have a hobby, if you have a photography hobby.
47:41 Speaker 00 Yes. And I do think I take good pics.
47:44 Ashley Hesseltine? You take great pics. I feel really lucky, but sometimes I just do want it framed differently.
47:49 Speaker 00 Sure.
47:49 Ashley Hesseltine? And I come over and literally show you in the phone or viewfinder or whatever, like, can you please just frame it like this? Like, hold it exactly and let me go get into position? And I think just showing somebody. One or two times, like this is the type of framing I like. This is a style I like. I want you to be lower. I want you to be higher and they'll pick up on it. And I think it's worth saying to your partner, I mean, if we're speaking to the women here, like, hey, I'm just, I want to get some photos on this vacation, especially if it's for any sort of work that you do, any sort of influencer thing, or just regardless, you want these photos. Being like, if you don't mind, like, I know it's kind of annoying, but like, would you mind helping me out here and there? And I think it's just a matter of also setting a time limit, setting a boundary, making sure you're not treating your partner like your personal photographer.
48:32 Ashley Hesseltine? And they feel like they're on set, you know, Serena Kerrigan talks about how when she travels with her boyfriend, they set aside, I don't know what it is, five or 10 minutes when they go to the photo location to get the shot and if they, hopefully they get it. And if not, they move on with their trip. Like you just, no one wants to feel like they're following their partner around, taking photos, and they never know when they're gonna have to.
48:50 Speaker 00 Drop everything and take a photo.
48:51 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. So I think figuring out what works best for you and they should be open to it. And if you have someone that always makes you feel silly and really just doesn't want to help you out in any way. I mean, I don't know if that's the right type of partner, especially if you're someone that needs those photos for what you do. I think there's like a healthy balance, but.
49:10 Speaker 00 It's important. You never want to look back at your trip photos or, you know, travel photos and they're like bogus photos. You know what I mean? You want like a nice, like, look how good this was. You know what I mean? And I'm happy to do that.
49:20 Ashley Hesseltine? Like you never, I take photos of you, obviously. I have great photos of you.
49:25 Speaker 00 You do?
49:27 Ashley Hesseltine? But you have never asked me.
49:29 Speaker 00 Yeah, that's a crazy thing. Babe, can you take a photo of me?
49:33 Ashley Hesseltine? There are guys that like do those influencer pics.
49:37 Speaker 00 No, no, no, no, no.
49:37 Ashley Hesseltine? You would never do it, Shashank. Like you.
49:40 Speaker 00 No.
49:40 Ashley Hesseltine? There's no like post solo photos.
49:43 Speaker 00 But I guess that's, that's because of like who you are. Like you're always trying to take photos. You're always doing a good job. Like, nobody loves a memory or like scrolling in bed, looking at old photos more than you. Truly.
49:53 Ashley Hesseltine? No, we get home from every day and we have to lay in bed and talk about our day.
49:56 Speaker 00 It's great.
49:58 Ashley Hesseltine? What's your feature? What's your pit? Do you want to look at photos?
50:01 Speaker 00 Rosenthal.
50:02 Ashley Hesseltine? What's Rosenthal?
50:02 Speaker 00 Rosenthal.
50:03 Ashley Hesseltine? What's your Rosenthal? So yeah, I think giving them some instruction and oh, praise when they do a good job.
50:10 Speaker 00 What are we, dogs?
50:12 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes.
50:12 Speaker 00 Okay.
50:14 Ashley Hesseltine? Positive reinforcement. I should.
50:15 Speaker 00 Yeah, no, it's true. When you like do something good and some, it doesn't matter if it's your partner or not. Someone's like, you did a really good job. You're like, fuck yeah, I did.
50:22 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes. Say anything. Like, that's the way to really show someone, A, you appreciate them, but get them to do it more.
50:29 Speaker 00 Yeah.
50:29 Ashley Hesseltine? And get them to take pride in it. Like, what you don't want to do is just have your partner taking photos and you're like, ugh, ugh, I hate this. So those are some answers to your questions. I'm just gonna talk about our remaining partners and then we are gonna wrap this up with some honeymoon stories, some honeymoon fails, some really hilarious stuff from you guys. So I'm telling you about Revolve. Whole outfit is Revolve today. So these pants are LPA. Babe, can you tell me this? What does that say?
50:58 Speaker 00 Small.
51:01 Speaker 00 LNA clothing.
51:03 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, LNA? Whatever this tank is, is LNA is also Revolve, size small, if you guys were curious. And everything I wore on the honeymoon was Revolve. I think with the exception of the one red dress, which I got at a local boutique here in LA, but every other thing was Revolve.
51:20 Speaker 00 That green thing? The like, the top and the skirt?
51:23 Ashley Hesseltine? Every single thing.
51:24 Speaker 00 Guys, you saw those photos. Make some noise for those photos. That outfit was.
51:27 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, thanks, babe. The green set, the brown set from Little India Day. The dress was Alice and Olivia. I don't think it's on Revolve any longer. It's a little older. The set I wore in the boat was L Space. I love their beach stuff. I don't know, I'm telling you this.
51:42 Speaker 00 L Space.
51:43 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, and the, my favorite outfit was the like silky tube top with the skirt and I wore.
51:49 Speaker 00 When we were recycling.
51:49 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, we were recycling. We went to Burnt Ends. This is on my Instagram too. So literally my whole trip, I was like all Revolve, everything. It is really the answer for anything you guys have. Nights out, events, travel, weddings, bridal, last minute plans. They have that two day shipping.
52:04 Speaker 00 And guy stuff.
52:05 Ashley Hesseltine? They do have guy stuff too. You have some great shackets from Revolve, but we're mostly talking for the girls today. So there, where you go, when you don't want to overthink your outfit, they have all these collections you can shop by your vacation, again, like your nights out, or if you have spring plans, summer plans, work, whatever you guys need. And everything is styled in a way that actually makes sense. You can see how they style it. And then my favorite thing is really when you find a piece, you get shown all these similar options. So this is especially great if you find something that maybe is out of stock or they don't have your size. All the similar pieces is where I find a lot of stuff too. And there, everything is just really curated for you, but it doesn't feel chaotic at all. It just feels very curated. Even they have tons and tons of brands. It just feels really intentional when you are shopping. And they also just launched
52:50 Ashley Hesseltine? their own label called Revolve LA, and it is so chic. The silhouettes are strong and modern, very polished, very confident. It's the kind of stuff you put on when you want to look expensive, especially for a dinner or event where you know photos are happening. So check out Revolve LA. That is their new launch. And we have a deal for you guys. They don't do this a lot. We are so honored to partner with them and be able to give you guys this discount on your first order, whether it's a big night out, a wedding, a trip, or you just need something last minute that actually works. Revolve always has it. Go to revolve.com/gge to shop our faves and use code GGE for 15% off your first order. And definitely check out the new Revolve LA label while you're there. Fast shipping, easy returns, the easiest returns. It just makes everything easier. That's
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55:27 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, so honeymoon stories coming in hot. You guys did not disappoint. I mean, every single one of these were, I was laughing out loud, I was gasping. I was just like, oh my God, I can't believe this. And thank you guys for sharing, as always.
55:41 Speaker 00 Yep.
55:42 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, I am gonna kick it off with a honeymoon fail, short and sweet. My husband farted at dinner and literally pooped. He had to throw those undies out lol. Nothing says romance like a shark.
55:53 Speaker 00 Brother.
55:56 Ashley Hesseltine? Shitting your pants at dinner.
56:00 Speaker 00 I mean.
56:01 Ashley Hesseltine? Babe, what would you do?
56:02 Speaker 00 I wouldn't shit my pants at dinner, I can tell you that.
56:05 Ashley Hesseltine? You don't know?
56:06 Speaker 00 I do know.
56:07 Ashley Hesseltine? You have tummy troubles sometimes.
56:09 Speaker 00 Okay. Well, one, yes. Two, don't say tummy. Yeah, get a little gurgly here and there.
56:16 Ashley Hesseltine? I've never said tummy in my life. No, I've said that. Okay.
56:20 Speaker 00 I do get a little gurgly here and there, but I certainly would not trust a fart.
56:27 Speaker 00 You never know.
56:28 Ashley Hesseltine? I just can't believe this happened. Like, I'm trying to picture the scene. Like, for whatever reason, when I picture people on a honeymoon dinner, I picture a White Lotus Resort. I don't know what it is. Like, that's what I'm picturing. And I'm picturing like a tropical vibe and a nicer dining experience. And this man shits himself at dinner and has to like go throw out his underwear.
56:46 Speaker 00 Ruined it for everybody. Imagine you're at the table behind and you get a whiff. You're like, somebody shit their pants. Oh, it's the fucking tourist. Classic.
56:53 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, my God. Right? Like, people are eating.
56:55 Speaker 00 Yeah.
56:56 Ashley Hesseltine? And the smell starts to come up.
56:58 Speaker 00 Terrible.
56:58 Ashley Hesseltine? No.
56:59 Speaker 00 Oh, no. God.
57:01 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, you got the next one?
57:03 Speaker 00 All right. The next one is called embarrassing honeymoon asshole. And I just want to remind you guys, I don't know any of these. So here we go. Hello. Love you too and the podcast. I'll keep my embarrassing honeymoon story short and sweet. I had my first ever hemorrhoid experience leading up to the wedding slash honeymoon. Oh, my fucking God. Every day I had my husband looking back at my asshole to make sure that thing didn't pop out to say hello. So embarrassing, but he loves me so much. Hopefully Ashley's asshole was okay in Singapore.
57:40 Ashley Hesseltine? She knows I've been having butt problems.
57:43 Speaker 00 Listener, it was okay. I did check, but not for that reason.
57:49 Speaker 00 What the fuck?
57:50 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay.
57:51 Speaker 00 Married that man. Oh, you are married. Nice.
57:53 Ashley Hesseltine? I may or may not have had one hemorrhoid experience one time. You can feel it on your own. Sorry, babe. Like, I don't understand why he had to look into her brown eye to find this hemorrhoid. I mean, good for them. I love this comfort level.
58:07 Speaker 00 Sick. He was spreading them for the wrong reason.
58:09 Ashley Hesseltine? I really, I really feel for her. But it's just like, why? I need more information of why he had to look back there. Can't you feel it? At least in my experience, I thought you could.
58:21 Speaker 00 I've never had one. I don't know shit about hemorrhoids.
58:25 Ashley Hesseltine? Well, you get them when you strain too much.
58:27 Speaker 00 I don't have any problem with that.
58:28 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay.
58:29 Speaker 00 But if you ask me to look, I guess I would.
58:31 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. I mean, sometimes it'd just be like that. Like you're like, I need your help with this thing with my body and a good partner will help you. Okay. The next one is titled Unexpected Snorkeling. My husband and I got married in November of 2024 and went to Hawaii for a honeymoon. On day two of our trip, we were in the water and my husband says to me, oh my God, my ring just fell off. And of course I thought he was kidding, but low and behold, he was not. I broke into tears. Thoroughly convinced that this is a bad sign from the universe and we had to fix it immediately. We cut our beach day short and made a quick trip to Walmart and got him a new silicone ring to wear. In the meantime, a newlywed has to wear a ring on the honeymoon, right? Yes.
59:08 Speaker 00 Yes.
59:08 Ashley Hesseltine? Well, we thought you forgot yours for a minute. I was like, we would have to go to get you a new one. Or we were joking about it, whatever, like you not have.
59:16 Speaker 00 Oh, yeah.
59:17 Ashley Hesseltine? We would have to go buy you a new one. So they go to the new one at Walmart as well as two sets of snorkeling gear. Because my delusional ass was convinced we were going to find this damn ring. We spent the rest of our day snorkeling in shallow water like idiots trying to find the ring, but it was long gone. Looking back, I can only laugh at how silly we probably looked. And luckily it was just a ring from Macy's, not a family heirloom. I'm such a big fan of the podcast and just wanted to say that without you ladies, I wouldn't have had the courage to leave my crappy past relationship, which led me to meeting my husband. You're truly one of the best parts of my week. Love you. I love that.
59:47 Speaker 00 Nice.
59:48 Ashley Hesseltine? Babe, you know, I would be getting that snorkeling gear.
59:52 Speaker 00 I mean, look, I'll do it. But I'm not going to be happy about it for two reasons. We're not going to find it. Two, not a strong swimmer. Me personally.
1:00:05 Ashley Hesseltine? You have strong swimmers. I will say that.
1:00:07 Speaker 00 Oh, my fucking God. Yes.
1:00:10 Ashley Hesseltine? You left yourself wide open for that.
1:00:11 Speaker 00 I did. Yeah. Lay up.
1:00:12 Ashley Hesseltine? Left myself wide open for them.
1:00:15 Speaker 00 Oh, my God. Our families listen to this? This is crazy.
1:00:18 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, okay. No, they don't know what we're saying.
1:00:20 Speaker 00 Okay. Yeah.
1:00:21 Ashley Hesseltine? It's all like silly puns. Like how when Raina said cuck at the wedding, they were like, what is that?
1:00:26 Speaker 00 My aunts were like, what is a cuck?
1:00:28 Ashley Hesseltine? So I'm glad that this happened, but that's, we got a few more. One email was the guy lost his ring in the sand and they were able to find it. I think they had like a metal detector.
1:00:36 Speaker 00 Surely somebody was out there fucking beeping, ruining somebody else's time.
1:00:40 Ashley Hesseltine? But this is a nightmare and I just think it's so funny that they were like, let's get snorkeling gear. I mean, that's a funny couple that's and creative that they're like, let's try to find this. And of course, you know, you're never going to. Okay, babe, you got the next one.
1:00:53 Speaker 00 Fairy scaries.
1:00:55 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay. So I changed the subject lines on some of these.
1:00:57 Speaker 00 Okay.
1:00:57 Ashley Hesseltine? So do you think I came up with that one or you think that was?
1:01:00 Speaker 00 You probably came up with that.
1:01:01 Ashley Hesseltine? I did.
1:01:02 Speaker 00 You did.
1:01:02 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
1:01:05 Speaker 00 All right, let's see, here we go. My husband and I got married in June. We fly out the next day for Greece where we're spending our honeymoon for two weeks. We were flying from Atlanta to Athens, then flying to Melos, then taking a ferry to Seifnos. Fake places. After the longest journey, our ferry pulled up to our island. Being stupid Americans, we thought they would announce we were here and to come down. They didn't. We couldn't figure out why we were just sitting there. I asked my husband to go check and he did the most half ass check job. Next thing we know, the ferry is pulling away and we were leaving. I'm normally a pretty quiet and calm person, but I think everyone on that ferry saw the worst side of me. I was yelling and crying and couldn't figure out what happened. I think my husband thought I was going to divorce him right there.
1:01:46 Speaker 00 Mind you, this is after 24 hours of travel and after I pulled my back out on my wedding day. I had a lot of drugs in me and I wanted to get to our resort. Needless to say, we ended up in Peros for our first night and got to our resort the next day after a three hour ferry where I yakced from motion sickness.
1:02:03 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh my God.
1:02:04 Speaker 00 Greece is beautiful, just to be sure to get off the ferries.
1:02:08 Ashley Hesseltine? To not get off the ferry, to miss your ferry.
1:02:11 Speaker 00 And then have to stay on it?
1:02:13 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes, like either way, to miss it and see it just floating off, driving off, sailing off.
1:02:18 Speaker 00 Sailing away.
1:02:19 Ashley Hesseltine? Sailing away or to be on it and you've missed your stop. And you're like, how many more hours? I'm going, you're going to another island now, by the way. Like this changed their whole itinerary and it sounds like they made the best of it. This, I can't.
1:02:32 Speaker 00 Insane start.
1:02:33 Ashley Hesseltine? And she told him to go check.
1:02:35 Speaker 00 I would have been so mean to that man for the rest of the trip.
1:02:37 Ashley Hesseltine? I have a sort of relatable story. I was leaving New York. I was about to move to New York. I'd already left Atlanta and I was apartment hunting in New York. This is like early 2017 and I. Had been there all week. I'd been just trudging around in the snow, trying to find an apartment and I thought I pretty much found one and Rob was like, you need to stay and like, sign the lease. I was like, I have to go. I think it's locked in and I'm just gonna go and I want to watch the Clemson championship football game with my family and I'm gonna go back to Delaware. I'm gonna get on Amtrak and the game was that night and we had plans to get grotto pizza and do all this stuff and I was on Amtrak and I don't know, I wasn't paying attention. I was reading my book. Maybe I had my AirPods in and I missed the stop to get off of Wilmington, Delaware. It's a quicker stop. It's not like Philly. Like, I don't, I don't know. I think
1:03:19 Ashley Hesseltine? that it's just quicker and I just missed it. I did see people get up and get off the train. I wasn't paying attention and I stayed on that train and I was like, oh my God. And I looked at my watch. I'm like, wait, we're not just late. I've missed the stop. I was like, wait, did people get off at Wilmington? They were like, yeah. And I just, people were starting to pick up around me, like this girl missed her stop and I was like, I don't know what to do. And then they were like, the next stop for you to get off is like, gonna be kinda scary. I don't know where it was. It was like somewhere close to Baltimore. I can't remember exactly, but people were like, if you get off of the next stop alone, you need to go find a place to like, sit in, like find a McDonald's or call an Uber, like something, whatever. My dad was coming to pick me up at the Wilmington Joe Biden Amtrak station and he had to drive another 45 minutes to wherever the fuck to pick me up. He
1:04:01 Ashley Hesseltine? was so pissed when he got there. The pizza was cold, you know, like it was a whole to do.
1:04:05 Speaker 00 Ruined it. Did Clemson win?
1:04:06 Ashley Hesseltine? Yes, Clemson won. Yeah, Clemson beat Bama. But I, that feeling is so terrible and all it was, I had to get off the next stop. They had to go to another island and you're just so mad. Like, I hate that feeling of being trapped.
1:04:19 Speaker 00 Yeah.
1:04:20 Ashley Hesseltine? Where you're like, oh my God, we're trapped in this fucking boat.
1:04:21 Speaker 00 Right. Yeah. You literally can't go anywhere.
1:04:24 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
1:04:24 Speaker 00 You can't even get out and walk.
1:04:26 Ashley Hesseltine? Like, literally, I hate that feeling. I got like a panic attack thinking about it and she's so mad at her man who she told to go check.
1:04:32 Speaker 00 Earned it.
1:04:32 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah. The next one is titled Trash Bags. This is not my fiance, nor was it a honeymoon, but it was the first time traveling with my long-term boyfriend. We were going on a trip to Houston with a group of friends. He picks me up so we can leave and as I put my stuff in the hatchback, there's this massive trash bag. I said, what's that? He goes, my stuff.
1:04:50 Speaker 00 It's not trash.
1:04:51 Ashley Hesseltine? Is it going to Goodwill? Your stuff for the trip?
1:04:54 Speaker 00 I thought it was literal trash.
1:04:55 Ashley Hesseltine? Right. He said, my stuff, like nothing was wrong. I didn't get a picture of the massive trash bag, but I included one of what he unpacked when we got to the hotel. It was a bunch of smaller plastic bags with labels of the day he could wear the outfit that was inside the bag, along with an amenities, plastic bag for shaving, shampoo, toothbrush, etc.
1:05:14 Ashley Hesseltine? How is this man organizing outfits by day and doesn't have a suitcase? Or a bag to put his bags at like, I know people that pack like this with packing cubes. I don't even do, I don't even do that level of organization.
1:05:27 Speaker 00 No, no, no. But this is pretty, pretty elite.
1:05:30 Ashley Hesseltine? So at some point on the trip, the weather got hot and he was like, man, I wish I would have packed my shorts for Saturday instead of Sunday. And I asked, why couldn't he just open Sunday's bag? And he goes, oh yeah, you're right. He's like rigid too. Okay. He still does this. Oh, they're still together. Oh my God. I would assume this was like, heard like X with the trash bags. Okay. He still does this when we do road trips, but without the labels so that he's not tied down to an outfit. He doesn't want to wear. But he did finally buy a duffel bag for flights. Love your podcast. Thanks for reading. I hope I'm not alone in this.
1:06:01 Speaker 00 No, you might be alone.
1:06:03 Ashley Hesseltine? She's not, I've heard of this, but I've, I hear of it more in college, like young, like how having all your stuff in a, in a trash bag. Also, I mean, he might not have money. He might have like not grown up with luggage. I don't know. I don't want to like speculate about his life, but she needs to get this man a roller.
1:06:18 Speaker 00 Truly.
1:06:19 Ashley Hesseltine? Cause it sounds like he doesn't even have a suitcase now. He only has a duffel bag, like a roller bag. Get him a base. I got you a base.
1:06:25 Speaker 00 Yeah. With the backpack that goes on top of it, this guy will be cruising.
1:06:28 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
1:06:29 Speaker 00 Cruising.
1:06:30 Ashley Hesseltine? I mean, he's already doing so much right with his packing.
1:06:34 Speaker 00 Yeah. And organize by day. That's crazy. I would never think of that.
1:06:37 Ashley Hesseltine? I can't believe he was organizing his outfits by day and throwing them in a hefty.
1:06:41 Speaker 00 Fucking hefty bag. Yeah. Imagine it was a scented hefty bag and all his clothes come out smelling like lavender.
1:06:47 Ashley Hesseltine? That's not a bad idea.
1:06:48 Speaker 00 That's not a bad idea. Yeah. I mean, at least you're bought, you're like underwear one, you're.
1:06:53 Ashley Hesseltine? Underwear bag?
1:06:53 Speaker 00 Yeah.
1:06:54 Ashley Hesseltine? Should be a scented trash bag. I love that. That's a life hack, babe. Okay. The last one is titled, I titled this one myself, Drag King. Hi ladies, big fan. My husband and I went to Philippines for a honeymoon. Number one, this is a two parter. We went on an ATV off-roading tour. They took us through the farmland and rice fields. The first day, my husband really wanted to do this. I hate getting dirty and wet. We drove full till in a puddle of cow shit. I died a little, but the view I guess was worth it. Number two, because we did what he wanted to do with the ATVs, he came with me to a drag show. This is great, by the way, also.
1:07:27 Speaker 00 That's how you do it.
1:07:28 Ashley Hesseltine? It sounds like they want to do different things, but they compromise and he'll do her stuff and she'll do his stuff. He got pulled up on stage and got grinded on by one of the queens and a whole table of gay men proceeded to hit on him afterwards.
1:07:40 Speaker 00 No, my personal hell. I would leave.
1:07:44 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, she writes, this reminds me of you. She writes, he is not by any means homophobic, but to be hit on so aggressively afterwards did make him feel a little uncomfortable, but also thought it was hilarious. When they found out he was straight, they said, what a waste. We need more men like you. And we ended up hanging out with these amazing men for the night. Ha ha. Babe, this would be you.
1:08:02 Speaker 00 Yeah, no, no, I'm being dramatic. I don't think I'd like stomp my feet and get out, but I'd be like, oh, God.
1:08:06 Ashley Hesseltine? Cause you love the queens.
1:08:08 Speaker 00 Yeah, they're fun. They like to have a good time.
1:08:10 Ashley Hesseltine? And they, you're so like straight faced and you don't give people a lot. So I feel like that would make them.
1:08:16 Speaker 00 They always want like to get the laugh. They want to be like, I made that fucking straight face curmudgeon laugh.
1:08:22 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, exactly.
1:08:23 Speaker 00 You're actually funny.
1:08:24 Ashley Hesseltine? Or I made him hard. I don't know.
1:08:26 Speaker 00 What? No, it could happen. Some of them, some of them, those are pretty men.
1:08:30 Ashley Hesseltine? I have a little bit of an attraction to drag queens. Did you know this? I've said it before on the podcast.
1:08:35 Speaker 00 What?
1:08:35 Ashley Hesseltine? I don't know. I just, cause it's like the masculine with the feminine. I don't know what it is.
1:08:40 Speaker 00 Okay.
1:08:40 Ashley Hesseltine? I was, I'm not like seeking them out. Well, I'm also married to you, but I was never like seeking them out. Okay. Name one of your, name one of your kinks.
1:08:52 Speaker 00 The. Dua Lipa.
1:08:56 Speaker 00 Kinks?
1:08:57 Ashley Hesseltine? Says Dua Lipa?
1:08:59 Speaker 00 Dua Lipa.
1:09:00 Ashley Hesseltine? Isn't that Dua Lipa?
1:09:01 Speaker 00 Dua Lipa, Dua Lipa, Dua Lipa, whatever.
1:09:03 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, is she really your hall pass? Okay. All right. Well, thank you guys for your stories and for your questions. And like I said before, we do have travel episodes out there that we answered a lot of the stuff that you guys wanted to know, but Rain and I are also going to do a 2026 summer travel episode.
1:09:17 Speaker 00 I do just want to say, you guys really be going through it with some of the shit guys put you through. This trash bag shit. This fucking guy who can't check properly for the ferry time.
1:09:30 Ashley Hesseltine? I know.
1:09:31 Speaker 00 Fellas.
1:09:32 Ashley Hesseltine? Get your shit together.
1:09:34 Speaker 00 Try even a little harder.
1:09:36 Ashley Hesseltine? Right.
1:09:36 Speaker 00 Crazy.
1:09:37 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
1:09:37 Speaker 00 Crazy.
1:09:37 Ashley Hesseltine? Get your TSA pre-check.
1:09:39 Speaker 00 Honestly.
1:09:40 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, I mean, the second we started dating, you got that TSA pre-check.
1:09:43 Speaker 00 Yeah.
1:09:43 Ashley Hesseltine? You were like, this bitch.
1:09:45 Speaker 00 I'm not gonna be fucking.
1:09:46 Ashley Hesseltine? She's gonna leave my ass.
1:09:47 Speaker 00 Correct.
1:09:48 Ashley Hesseltine? And just get it together and I don't know. I mean, you really always have it together. And I feel like that comes naturally to you. I'm sure you have to make an effort and think about this stuff consciously sometimes.
1:10:00 Speaker 00 Yeah, of course. I mean, like the heavy stuff like passports and, you know.
1:10:03 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah, you have to make a checklist, mental checklist.
1:10:05 Speaker 00 Yeah, of course.
1:10:05 Ashley Hesseltine? You love a spreadsheet.
1:10:06 Speaker 00 I do love a spreadsheet.
1:10:07 Ashley Hesseltine? So whatever you have to do, you know, a lot of stuff came up like my man can't, can't track of his shit and he doesn't plan anything and stuff. And it's just like, these are not skills we're born with. You can acquire them. You can always get better at this stuff. So don't fall for the weaponized incompetence.
1:10:22 Speaker 00 Weaponized incompetence?
1:10:25 Ashley Hesseltine? We did a whole episode on that, too. I thought you were a listener. Anyway, guys, kitchen sink app.
1:10:31 Speaker 00 We're back here.
1:10:32 Ashley Hesseltine? On the app. Yeah. Anything else? Did you want to, final thoughts on just in general, our honeymoon, our relationship?
1:10:37 Speaker 00 Yeah, I do have some final thoughts. Firstly, thank you for planning that and really going to bat for me. It's hard to get time off and you really went to bat with the STB so it would line up with PTO that I had available. And then you really.
1:10:52 Ashley Hesseltine? The STB and the PTO.
1:10:53 Speaker 00 We love TLAs. That's three letter acronyms. And you really, you really did it. You really made it all happen. You kind of took the reins and then I did what I needed to do to make sure it all went seamlessly. And we had a great honeymoon.
1:11:05 Ashley Hesseltine? Yeah.
1:11:06 Speaker 00 And I wouldn't trade it for the world.
1:11:08 Ashley Hesseltine? Oh, yeah, it was, it was such a perfect trip and.
1:11:10 Speaker 00 Again, shout out women. Just make it easier for them.
1:11:13 Ashley Hesseltine? That's.
1:11:14 Speaker 00 The moral of the story.
1:11:15 Ashley Hesseltine? No notes on the final thoughts. Okay, well, that is it. Shashank is gonna kill this spider and then we are gonna have sex in the studio.
1:11:23 Speaker 00 Oh.
1:11:24 Ashley Hesseltine? No, sorry. Kidding right now. We're not doing it. That's a rule and girls gotta eat no sex in the studio.
1:11:29 Speaker 00 Oh. Okay, that's fine.
1:11:31 Ashley Hesseltine? What are you looking for?
1:11:32 Speaker 00 Yeah, like she would like she'll know.
1:11:35 Speaker 00 Whatever, man.
1:11:35 Ashley Hesseltine? Okay, well, Kitchen Sync app. Get it on the App Store, Kitchen Sync Recipe Builder, if you need to find it, and kitchen sync app on Instagram. And then girls gotta eat dot com. Of course, we have a show here in LA for the Netflix is a Joke Festival on May 7th. We absolutely cannot wait. It's gonna be wild. You're gonna be there, obviously. And just a bunch of fun, special guests, entertainment. It's gonna be really great. So get tickets at girls gotta eat dot com and girls got a podcast on Instagram and TikTok. I am Ash Hess on Instagram and TikTok. You can find Reina at Reina dot Greenberg. Subscribe on YouTube. You can now watch video on Spotify. Share this episode with a friend if you enjoyed it and we will see you Thursday.
1:12:17 Speaker 00 Have a good week, guys.
1:12:18 Ashley Hesseltine? Bye. Nailed it.
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