1061 Rich Roll: Use Your Flaws for Good, Gain Confidence & Achieve Your Goals

“You feel most alive when you have the courage to step outside of your comfort zone.”Today's guest is Rich Roll. At age 40, after years of struggling with drugs, alcohol, and unhealthy living, he dedicated his diet to plants and his body to purposeful action. Today, he is a vegan ultra-endurance athlete and full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living. Lewis and Rich sit down for a wide-ranging conversation about setting goals, healthy relationships, and so much more! For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1061Read Rich’s new book: https://www.richroll.com/vc/ Check out his website: https://www.richroll.com/ Check out Greatness Coaching: www.lewishowes.com/mycoachThe Wim Hof Experience: Mindset Training, Power Breathing, and Brotherhood: https://link.chtbl.com/910-podA Scientific Guide to Living Longer, Feeling Happier & Eating Healthier with Dr. Rhonda Patrick: https://link.chtbl.com/967-podThe Science of Sleep for Ultimate Success with Shawn Stevenson: https://link.chtbl.com/896-pod Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is episode number 1,061 with bestselling author Rich Roll.

• 0:06Rich Roll?

  It's not about quitting your job. You don't even have to take a risk. Like if you have this dream that you've been harboring for a decade, but you haven't done anything about it. What's the least risky thing that you could do to actually breathe a little bit of life into it?

• 0:20Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:43Lewis Howes?

  Aristotle said, "We are what we repeatedly do." Excellence then is not an act, but a habit. And Andrew Carnegie said, "If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes." I'm excited because my guest today is my good friend, Rich Roll, who I've known for many years. And at age 40, after years of struggling with drugs, alcohol, and unhealthy living, Rich dedicated his diet to plants and his body to purposeful action. Today, he is a vegan ultra endurance athlete and a full-time wellness and plant-based nutrition advocate.

• 1:23Lewis Howes?

  Husband, father of four, and an inspiration to people worldwide as a transformational example of courage and healthy living. He's got some amazing programs, books, and everything else over at his site. But in this episode, we discuss how to set goals and consistently live them out. The truth about Rich's personal growth journey. How to use an addictive personality for positive rewards. What it takes to have a healthy relationship. How to be more mindful about the information we take in. The four things we can do to gain more confidence today and so much more. And if you are looking to get clear on your goals and you want to accomplish them this year,

• 2:05Lewis Howes?

  then make sure to also check out our new program, The Greatness Coaching Mastermind. Experience. It's your high performance system for 2021 and beyond. It includes coaching, accountability, community, and my new greatness playbook where you get to reflect, plan, and create goals around your dreams and passions for life. If you're interested, make sure to go to lewishouse.com/ mycoach to learn more and apply today. And while you're listening to this episode, if something sparks your interest, if it inspires you in any way, then make sure to share it with someone you think in your life should hear this and would be inspired by this as well. LewisHowes.com/1061. You can send out that link, or you can copy and paste the link wherever you're listening to this. And if this is your first time here,

• 2:50Lewis Howes?

  or you haven't yet subscribed yet, make sure to go to Apple Podcast and click on that subscribe button right now, as well as leave us a rating and review, because every time we get someone new to subscribe or leave a review, it helps us spread the message of greatness to more people. So by doing that, you'll be helping more people today to improve their life. Okay, in just a moment, the one and only Rich Roll.

• 3:20Lewis Howes?

  Welcome back. And one of the School of Greatness Podcast, I got my man Rich Roll in the house. Good to see you, brother.

• 3:24Rich Roll?

  Good to see you. Thanks for having me.

• 3:26Lewis Howes?

  It's been a while.

• 3:27Rich Roll?

  Once again.

• 3:27Lewis Howes?

  I know. It's been a while since I've seen you, probably a year and a half maybe, or?

• 3:30Rich Roll?

  Uh, probably something like that. Yeah, it has been a while.

• 3:33Lewis Howes?

  It's been a while. I don't feel like I've seen really anyone in the last year.

• 3:36Rich Roll?

  This is my social outlet, either hosting podcasts. This is the first time I've been a guest in person on a podcast in a long time. I mean, I'm doing my show, like yourself, a lot of it is on Zoom, but I have been able to do some in person. And that's really like the only social connection that I get outside of my family. And you know, interacting with the cashier at the grocery store, basically.

• 4:03Lewis Howes?

  It's crazy. I feel like the world needs more human connection to make us happier. I just feel like it's, it's a challenge if we can't cultivate that more. So hopefully we can figure something out, whether we're in this pandemic longer or we're not. Hopefully we can figure out a way to be connected and more than just over the computer.

• 4:21Rich Roll?

  Well, human connection is fundamental to being happy. And I think in general, pre-pandemic, we're suffering in epidemic of lack of connection. And now we're in a moment where we're told that human connection is unhealthy and frightening.

• 4:39Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 4:39Rich Roll?

  So it's only exacerbating a precondition that was already bad. And, you know, as dangerous and as deadly and toxic as the coronavirus is, you know, I think underappreciated is the toll that all of this isolation is taking on millions of human beings all across the world.

• 5:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and I feel for parents with younger kids. I mean, you've got kids and they're teens. But I feel for parents with kids under 12, like in elementary school, middle school. Those are very developmental years of connection and human interaction with peers that I feel like that's got to be very challenging for parents.

• 5:22Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 5:23Lewis Howes?

  I mean, for all parents, but a parent of that age's kids has got to be tough.

• 5:27Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I mean, certainly developmentally, it's so important as a young child. And like you said, I have two teenage daughters and I have two older boys in their 20s. And, you know, the teenage girls, it's been really difficult.

• 5:44Rich Roll?

  The older one is very social. And being unable to connect with her friends and be integrated with her social circle has been very deleterious to her health. Now, luckily, there are technological tools. They're in touch with each other all day long. We gotta, you know, use what we can, I suppose. So thank God there are things like Zoom and FaceTime and Skype and the telephone to keep us connected. Can you imagine enduring this, you know, without those tools? And how much more difficult that might be.

• 6:20Lewis Howes?

  Do you think it'd be scarier or more fear without technology or less fearful? If we were just reading newspapers and seeing what was on TV, but didn't have access to the other technology?

• 6:30Rich Roll?

  I mean, that's a great question. You know, certainly, social media foments people's fears and I think has ratcheted up.

• 6:39Rich Roll?

  Just how emotionally triggered we all are irrespective of whatever tribe we subscribe to. We can go down the whole rabbit hole on social media's impact on the current cultural and political divide. But it's deeply concerning to me to kind of canvas how we're navigating

• 7:08Rich Roll?

  really important issues and the inability for us to communicate effectively and in a healthy way, I think, is very damaging to the fabric of our United States. And it's going to be interesting how this plays out in the future, but I'm concerned about it.

• 7:29Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. I'm curious, a lot of people know your story about how you became overweight. You couldn't walk up the stairs without having to catch your breath. You were eating junk food all the time and you made a decision to change your life and really go down this path of veganism, eating more mindfully, training like a machine for ultra marathons, things like that. We've interviewed a lot of the same people or people in the same space. I'm curious, what do you think is the reason why most people give up on their goals or will never achieve their goals? Because you were at a point where things got bad and you made a decision to shift and create goals and then stuck to them over decades.

• 8:11Lewis Howes?

  Why do you think most people create a goal and then they can't achieve them?

• 8:19Rich Roll?

  I think the answer to that is complicated.

• 8:23Rich Roll?

  I can say, just based on my own experience, that achieving a goal is a lot easier when you're in a lot of pain.

• 8:35Rich Roll?

  And the pain that you're in exceeds the fear of the unknown. You know what I mean? Like, you're in so much pain that you're willing to almost do anything to get out of it.

• 8:46Lewis Howes?

  And that's where you were at?

• 8:47Rich Roll?

  That's when, you know, you're in a great place to change. So I always say to people that are going through a hard time, like, try to view it as an opportunity. Like, what is the lesson that you're here, that you're meant to be learning right now? And try to leverage the potential energy that's packed into that pain to, you know, transform yourself.

• 9:06Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:07Rich Roll?

  Ironically, you know, change is always available to all of us in every moment, right? We don't have to be in pain in order to change. It's just that it's difficult. It's a lot harder to do it that way. In terms of people setting goals and being unable to achieve them, you know, I think that's a function of a couple of things. I mean, first of all, have you set the right goal for yourself? Like, if that goal isn't getting you excited, then perhaps it's not as aligned with your innate values as you might have suspected that it was. So I think a lot of people set goals without having done enough interior work to really understand themselves, to, you know, appreciate what might be the right goal for them to set.

• 9:50Rich Roll?

  So I think that's one thing.

• 9:53Lewis Howes?

  So if it's not the right goal, it's probably going to be impossible to achieve it because your life is not designed to achieve that. That's not what you're meant for.

• 10:00Rich Roll?

  It's not what you're meant for, and perhaps it's just not, you know, there's something inside of you that maybe you're not even aware of that is misaligned with that. Like, if somebody comes to me and says, "I want to do an Ironman," or "I want to run a marathon," like, we were talking before the podcast, "You want to run a marathon." Usually, my first question to people like that is, "Why?" Like, what is it, what is it that you're trying to learn? How is that process going to lead to your growth? Like, if they can answer that question and there's clarity around why this is important and what this will ultimately, you know, do in terms of, you know, moving their life path forward, then that's great. But if they're like, "It sounds cool," or like, "I just woke up one day and decided,"

• 10:42Rich Roll?

  then, you know, is that really a goal that's going to have staying power? Because that morning's going to arrive when it's cold and rainy out.

• 10:49Lewis Howes?

  And you're not going to want to go.

• 10:50Rich Roll?

  And, you know, the calendar says, "You got to do this today," and you're not going to want to do it. And that's where goals, you know, the rubber meets the road in terms of whether you're actually going to follow through on this commitment that you made to yourself, or you're going to, you know, flake and look for... The escape hatch.

• 11:06Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, the out. I'll just sleep in this morning. I'll do it tomorrow. I'll do it later, whatever it may be. Okay, so that's the first thing you said, the first part, why people don't achieve goals. Was there another part, another reason?

• 11:19Lewis Howes?

  They don't have the right goal in mind aligned with their values?

• 11:22Rich Roll?

  Yeah. I think that, uh, that, um, achieving goals is hard.

• 11:30Lewis Howes?

  Just in general.

• 11:31Rich Roll?

  The truth is, like, a lot of people don't appreciate the fact that doing anything exceptional requires a lot of work, right? And it requires that anonymous work that you do when no one's looking, that doesn't, you know, trend on Instagram or Twitter. And, and, you know, when the going gets tough and you're conflicted over what it is that you're gonna do on that day, it's easy to cave in. And so there's a level of like conviction and commitment to self that's required that I think you develop over time with some level of resilience and, you know, the persistence that comes with that. But

• 12:12Rich Roll?

  if you don't appreciate that doing something hard is going to test you and is going to compel you to get out of your comfort zone, then you're gonna struggle.

• 12:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. I really believe that people who are living a good life have the biggest challenge. Because things are already going good enough. Like, everything's okay, it's good. You're not required to make enough effort to get to the next level.

• 12:37Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 12:38Lewis Howes?

  And it's almost like we need something horrible to be happening or something really struggling. We might be doing well on our finances, but 300 pounds overweight and sick and feeling bad in order for us to finally say, wait a minute, I need to change this one thing. I talk about this a lot on the show that I feel like I wish we could learn a way to improve our life when things are okay. Or when things are a little less than okay. But most of the time, it takes something drastic, a near death experience for ourself, an injury, a sickness, someone dying close to us, a bankruptcy, a divorce, a heartache and a breakup. Why do you think it's so hard for us to change and improve our life when things are good or a little less than good?

• 13:21Rich Roll?

  Well, I think that, that... We dilute ourselves into thinking, when things are good, we dilute ourselves into thinking they're always gonna be good. And we also dilute ourselves into believing that our lives are static in that regard. And the truth is, is that everything is always in flux. That flux may be imperceptible in the moment, but in truth, and I say this all the time, every thought that you entertain, every word that comes out of your mouth, every interaction that you have with another human being, every reaction that you have to whatever stimulus is coming your way, is either moving you forward in your life towards your aspirations, or some level of self-actualization,

• 14:02Rich Roll?

  or you're regressing back to some former, less-evolved version of yourself. And the more you can kind of be present with that and appreciate that truth, then you realize that, that as good as your life may be, there's always growth to be had. And all of us, no matter who you are, have blind spots. You may think you're doing great in all these areas, but you need people in your life who are giving you feedback saying, "Yeah, I know you think that you're rocking it out over here, but you know, you're kind of off-base on this other thing." Like, I think we all need, you know, a council of elders or a board of advisors who are willing to be honest with us, to say, "Look, you're not seeing this over here, you need to redirect."

• 14:46Rich Roll?

  And then, you're able to make those adjustments without having to reap the consequences of some crisis. Because you're kind of, you know, jagging, jigging and jagging, you know, along the way, and, of course, correcting as you go, as opposed to hitting a wall and then going, "Holy [bleep], like, I thought I was good, and now, only now do I realize that, you know, I've been doing all these things all along that led to this point." We're our own worst enemies when it comes to objectively assessing where we're at.

• 15:18Lewis Howes?

  Ourselves.

• 15:19Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 15:20Lewis Howes?

  We're horrible at it. We should be asking our friends and family and peers all the time, "Hey, where do you think I can improve? What am I doing really well that I could do better at? What are the things I'm not doing well that I should be doing better at?" But a lot of us don't want to ask those questions. We don't want the truth.

• 15:33Rich Roll?

  Who is it, Richard Feynman, I think it was? It said something like, "Our job is to..."

• 15:40Rich Roll?

  Something like, I'm gonna completely butcher this, but it's something like our job is to be honest with ourselves, but we're the ones that are most easily deluded by ourselves. You know what I mean? Like, that's why you need those outside sources to provide you with that feedback. And that's why, when you look at somebody we've both interviewed, that we're friends with, Jesse Itzler, that's why I have so much respect for somebody like that, whose life was going really well. And he's like, "It's too good. You know, like, I need to bring David Goggins into my life to mix things up. Or I need to go, you know, to this monastery and sit with these monks for a while." Because he realized that his life was just cruising along and that unless he created interruptions for himself,

• 16:25Rich Roll?

  that he would just live that way in ease and comfort, you know, for as long as the universe would allow him to.

• 16:30Lewis Howes?

  Very few people do that.

• 16:32Rich Roll?

  Right. I mean, it takes an extraordinary person to do that.

• 16:34Lewis Howes?

  When you're making all the money in the world, when everything you touch turns to gold, when you've got the family, the kids, the relationship. It's like, I've got good friends. It's hard to say, "I'm going to push myself harder. I'm going to step up and try to transform myself even more." Because some people might say, "Why work that hard to do that for yourself? Just enjoy your life, relax. Like, you don't need to do all these crazy things to transform."

• 17:01Rich Roll?

  The truth is, and anybody who's, you know, done hard things in their life knows this, that you feel most alive when you have the courage to step outside of your comfort zone and test yourself and put yourself in an uncomfortable situation where you're gonna have to rise to the occasion. Those heightened moments are when you feel most fulfilled, most purposeful, and most, you know, kind of connected to yourself. And I think Jesse understood that. As somebody who had, you know, done ultra-marathons before, he knew how he felt when he was, you know, endeavoring to do something that perhaps he thought not possible. And I think, you know, when you live this...

• 17:46Rich Roll?

  Our culture is set up with this programming that we're all meant to aspire to that level of ease and comfort and luxury. But what's missing is the fact that what actually provides the sense of satisfaction and fulfillment is getting outside of that and testing yourself. And I think for a lot of people, they don't understand that until they get a taste of what Jesse experienced, which is, look, I got all this stuff, but I'm not content or as fulfilled as I would like to be, and I need to step outside of that in order to reconnect with that thing that fundamentally is part of being a human.

• 18:31Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and I think you could have all of the outer fulfillment in the world, but you're still aligned to yourself until you create inner fulfillment. And that usually comes through mastery of some type of practice or overcoming something challenging on a consistent basis where you say, okay, I'm building confidence because I did something that's hard. It was hard for me to learn, hard for me to overcome. And I think the more things we learn how to overcome on a consistent basis, the happier we become.

• 18:56Rich Roll?

  Yeah, to be sure. I mean, and to kind of underscore your point, it's not about external validation. It's about your relationship to yourself.

• 19:04Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 19:05Rich Roll?

  And you know when your head hits the pillow at night and when you wake up in the morning, what that relationship looks like. And if that's missing something, then perhaps that's a little nudge or a call to action that you need to change things up a little bit.

• 19:18Lewis Howes?

  So when did this moment, this is about 20 years ago, when you started to transform your food, your nutrition, your training?

• 19:25Rich Roll?

  14 years ago.

• 19:25Lewis Howes?

  14 years ago. How does someone, because a lot of people go through these, especially this year, losing a job, a breakup, a relationship, a health scare, whatever it may be, losing a friend or a parent is happening a lot right now, unfortunately for people. And then people decide to take action and say, okay, I'm going to change my life and I'm going to take action, I'm going to commit to this and have these new goals, I'm going to go after it. I'm going to let go of sugar and be vegan, whatever it is. How does someone sustain it for 14 years and beyond? Because sometimes they'll do that for two years and then fall back into the old patterns. How do we stay consistent in growing the way you did? Because you used to drink a lot of alcohol, you used to eat horrible, not train, all

• 20:08Lewis Howes?

  these things, and you've been consistent 14 years.

• 20:12Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I think the key...

• 20:15Rich Roll?

  Is that as important as it is to set big goals that scare you and hold this lofty aspiration for a better version of who you are, those are like North Stars to help guide your, you know, your direction. But, once you kind of set those, at least what I've done, is I just lodge them in the back of my mind. And then, it's really just about what's happening in the moment. Again, it goes back to the present. When I got sober, the idea that I was never going to drink alcohol again, are you kidding me? Like, I have to go to a bachelor party in six months, and then I've got this thing in Vegas, and then I have to go to, you know, it's like, how am I going to get through those things

• 20:57Rich Roll?

  without drinking, right? It's completely overwhelming. And I think when people set a goal, they start future tripping on that kind of stuff. And then it seems overwhelming, and ultimately, that leads to abandoning it. So what you have to do is you have to chunk it, you have to break it down into bite-sized chunks and say, I know I'm going to that bachelor party in six months, but I just, today, I just have to not drink. That's all I have to worry about. Or, today, I just need to, you know, make sure that I don't, you know, end up face planting in Haagen-Dazs before I go to bed. That's me. That's the only thing that, that's your job, like- This moment. Yeah, it's like, what are you doing right now? What's the next right choice that

• 21:39Rich Roll?

  you're making? And when you break it down into its smallest components, then it becomes digestible. So it's about putting distance between yourself and whatever that imagined future might be, because it hasn't happened yet, and shouldn't take up any mental energy, and just focusing on what you're doing right now. We were talking about, back to the marathon, we were, before the podcast, we were talking about how you, you want to do this marathon. And it's how overwhelming, because it's, it's longer than you've ever run before. And I'm like, just worry, you can do it, it's just about- One day at a time. The preparation, one day at a time. Today, I'm running eight miles. That's all I gotta worry about. You know what I mean? And I think, when you begin to master these small tasks, and you're just eating away very, very gradually at these goals, you

• 22:24Rich Roll?

  know, over time, they become-

• 22:28Rich Roll?

  They become less intimidating and much more doable. And I think along the way, as you master these tasks, they become rote. So then they don't expend a lot of mental energy. You're like, oh, this is just what I do. So your actions start to align with a value system. And I think when your actions align with your values, then it's less about achieving a goal and more about just acclimating your lifestyle around these various actions and principles. They just become who you are. And the goal is achieved not because you're working hard towards it, but because it just becomes the person that you are.

• 23:07Lewis Howes?

  It's part of your identity.

• 23:08Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 23:09Lewis Howes?

  Like this, I am this thing. I am a sober individual.

• 23:12Rich Roll?

  I'm somebody who runs. I'm somebody who doesn't eat animal products. I'm somebody who doesn't drink.

• 23:18Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. There's no exceptions. You just are that.

• 23:21Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 23:22Lewis Howes?

  And I think a lot of people don't decide to create new identities. Is it important that we should be thinking of a new identity all the time? Or just getting clear on the values we want to live by and then become that identity?

• 23:34Rich Roll?

  Yeah, the latter. I mean, I don't think about like, oh, this is, these are my, you know, these, I don't think about, I'm trying to become this other person. I just spend time thinking about what's important to me and how can I align my actions with that set of principles, right? That's all that it requires. And I think in furtherance of that point, people tend to wildly overestimate what they can achieve in a year and wildly underestimate what they can achieve in a decade. You know, I'm much older than you. I'm 54. I've been, you know, trying to iterate on myself for many, many years. And, you know, if you Google me, there's a narrative that makes it look like I snap my fingers

• 24:18Rich Roll?

  and all these things happened overnight. But in truth, like, you know, my personal growth trajectory started when I was 31 and I found myself in a treatment center as a hopeless alcoholic. And then it was another 10 years before I figured out I had all these blind spots around other habits that were leading me astray and had to address those. And it's just been one step at a time of, you know, moving forward. I mean, I remember as I was driving over here. I have this vivid memory of coming to your apartment the first time I met you and I was gonna be on your podcast and you were gonna be on mine.

• 24:55Lewis Howes?

  It's like what, five years ago maybe?

• 24:57Rich Roll?

  No, it had to be like seven years ago.

• 25:00Lewis Howes?

  Seven years ago when we first launched.

• 25:01Rich Roll?

  Cause we started right around the same time.

• 25:02Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you started a few months before me.

• 25:04Rich Roll?

  Um, yeah. And you had like no furniture in your apartment.

• 25:07Lewis Howes?

  And nothing.

• 25:08Rich Roll?

  And you had this [BLEEP] mic and I was like, you need a better mic and like we both were trying to figure out this podcast thing.

• 25:14Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, how do we get people to figure out what the download button is?

• 25:17Rich Roll?

  Right, and if I was to tell you then, you were gonna have these millions of people that care deeply about what you do and that you were gonna be in this beautiful studio doing this thing. Like you would have been like, there's no way. And how did you achieve that? Just like you just another episode, like one more guest, like who am I interviewing today? You know, you just stay in the process. The more that you can divorce your emotional attachment to outcomes and future, you know, destinations and just concentrate on doing the best job with what you've got right in front of you and fall in love with the process.

• 25:55Rich Roll?

  And that process being an expression of that value system and what you care about, that's where you're in a position to actually succeed. Then you wake up 10 years later and you're like, holy, I'm in this fancy studio. How did that happen?

• 26:10Lewis Howes?

  Right, and the outcomes don't matter as much anymore. You have the goal, but you're so, you're enjoying the process so much.

• 26:17Rich Roll?

  It's not about that.

• 26:18Lewis Howes?

  The little wins are so exciting, you just love your life. And when you love your life and you're happier and you're more appreciative and grateful, you're gonna start attracting more of those good things in your life.

• 26:27Rich Roll?

  Right, right. The opportunities, you know, come to you.

• 26:31Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, they start chasing you, you don't chase them.

• 26:33Rich Roll?

  Exactly, because suddenly you're carrying a resonance that's attractive and people wanna be around that. And so you're acting more like a tractor beam rather than running around expending your energy trying to get people interested in what you're doing. Because you're focused on doing something exceptional that is, that's an authentic expression of who you are. And ultimately that becomes attractive to the world around you.

• 27:00Lewis Howes?

  You mentioned in the last time we had you on that one of the biggest challenges you have is you have too many opportunities now and you're recovering people pleaser and you say yes to a lot of things that then pull you away from your current projects and mission that you have. How have you been in the last year and a half? Since then?

• 27:18Rich Roll?

  I mean, I still, I still struggle with that. You know, I'm still a hopeless people pleaser. Do you like me, Louis?

• 27:24Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah. Was this okay? Yeah.

• 27:26Rich Roll?

  Right. You know, it's funny, when the, when the pandemic started, I thought, I'm also like naturally introverted. So I thought, this will be awesome.

• 27:35Lewis Howes?

  This is my world.

• 27:36Rich Roll?

  I have an excuse to like not, you know, follow through on any of these, all these commitments that I made to other people to get involved in their stuff. Because I can't travel and I can't do it. So now I can just do my thing, you know, and, and I don't have to, you know, say yes to it. I can say no to a bunch of stuff. Over time, I figured out that I was much more of a social creature than I suspected because like everybody, I need that human connection as well. I would say that I've gotten a lot better, but out of necessity, just because, you know, when you're focused on your thing, there just isn't as much room as you would like to get involved in other people's stuff.

• 28:14Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:14Rich Roll?

  But it's still difficult for me. Like I, you know, somebody will call me and be like, I'm doing this thing and I, and my instinct is always like, yeah, let me help you. I want to do this. I want to do that. And it becomes hard. So you have to be, it's back to your values. Like what is, what's your core, what is your core? I hate the word mission, but like, you know, what is it that you're actually doing? What's a distraction and what's a value add? And, you know, sometimes it's easy to distinguish those things and, but sometimes it's not.

• 28:45Lewis Howes?

  Would you say you have a very addictive personality?

• 28:48Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I'm like recovering, I spent a hundred days in a treatment center for addiction. So yes, I'm a highly, highly addictive personality.

• 28:57Lewis Howes?

  How does someone use their addictive personality in their favor? For good? Because you've changed it to be more in your favor for good, but still have, you know, this, I know it's not consuming you, but it's like this people pleasing mentality, same as me, which is kind of addictive thing to want to break. How do people break that for all the bad things in their life and use it for all good things?

• 29:26Rich Roll?

  Well, first, let me say on the subject of addiction. Like, I'm a recovering alcoholic. I've been, you know, in recovery for a very long time.

• 29:38Rich Roll?

  12 steps saved my life. Like, the most important thing to me is like staying sober, helping another alcoholic achieve sobriety. That being said, I think addiction lives on a spectrum. Like, I'm perhaps at one more extreme end of that. But, you know, for every, you know, junkie that can't pull the needle out of their arm, there's millions of people that can't put the phone down or find themselves repeatedly in unhealthy relationships or unable to stay out of the casino or whatever it is. Like, maybe they just can't stop eating chocolate. Like, I think we all have a variety of addictive tendencies, no matter who you are, even if you're grounded and healthy.

• 30:24Rich Roll?

  That being said, figuring out how to, first of all, like figuring out how to quell the negative impacts of that is important. And, you know, I've learned many tools over the years from surrender to service. And at the same time, being gentle with yourself and saying, "Okay, this is my disposition." Like, I can't always be fighting it, but how can I channel it into something productive for myself? So whether, you know, I'm working on a book or I'm building my podcast or whatever other creative pursuit it is, I've been successful because I know how to like focus on something

• 31:08Rich Roll?

  and blot out the world and like go all in on it. Perhaps that is at times unhealthy, but...

• 31:17Rich Roll?

  I think it's okay as long as you acknowledge that and understand that that pendulum has to swing back to center, right? Like, if you look at the buckets of your life, like, what's most important? Like, I have, I have my recovery, I have my family, I have my career, I have my friends, whatever those buckets may be in your life. I think it's okay to be, to be, you know, really focused on one at a time. The idea that you're gonna give all those buckets the equal amount of attention on a daily basis is unrealistic.

• 31:52Lewis Howes?

  It's really hard, yeah.

• 31:52Rich Roll?

  Which is why I have, like, strong opinions about this idea of balance. But you have to make sure that you don't become so immersed, or obsessive, or compulsive about this one thing, that you can pull yourself out of it and have the conscious awareness to say, "Okay, it's time for me to now reinvest that energy in one of these other buckets." Or, "How can I apportion my energy and my time so that I'm making sure that the things that are important in my life are being tended to and attended to?"

• 32:25Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. What's the biggest addiction that's holding you back still? Biggest challenge?

• 32:36Rich Roll?

  You know, people pleasing is a big one. Perfectionism is a big one. You know, I end up being a bottleneck in a lot of stuff. This is a conversation we've had a million times. So, like, day one, I still fight this battle. I'm better, though.

• 32:50Lewis Howes?

  That's good. What do you think it is? Why do you think people live in perfectionism? Why is that a thing for so many people?

• 32:56Rich Roll?

  It's a control, it's a control mechanism. And I think it's also about external validation. Like, "This has to be perfect, or I won't be loved." Or, "If this isn't perfect, then people are gonna think differently of me than I want them to think." So, I think a lot of it is based on, on trying to control external perceptions of you, and that's rooted in, in self-esteem, right? Like, if your, if your, if your self-esteem is fragile, then you're gonna wanna make sure that every step that you make is absolutely perfect, so you're not giving anyone an excuse to not accept you.

• 33:35Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 33:37Lewis Howes?

  How do we overcome that, you think? Because there's so many people that'll say that they have this, they don't create, you know, there's a lot, I mean, a lot of people don't put out their dreams. I asked someone on a, on a training that I did a month ago, I asked my group, and I said, "How many of you had a goal or a dream for the last year and you haven't taken action on it?" A lot of people virtually raised their hand. I said, "How many of you have had that same dream for five years?" A lot of people kept their hand up. "How many of you had this dream for 10 years and you haven't done it, but it keeps ruminating in your mind that you want to do it?" And a lot of people still keep their hand up for 10 years plus, and I go,

• 34:16Lewis Howes?

  "That's like, the need for it to be perfect is what I'm hearing from a lot of people is what holds them back from putting it out there." Or the fear of judgment, the fear of failure, the opinions of other people, but why are we so afraid?

• 34:31Rich Roll?

  Well, I think it's, that's going to vary depending upon the individual. I mean, there's a, that, what you're alluding to, that sense of perfectionism leads to analysis paralysis, right? Like, you're just not going to put anything out into the world unless it's perfect, so of course you never end up doing anything, right?

• 34:50Lewis Howes?

  Nothing!

• 34:51Rich Roll?

  Because you're never going to live up to your own imagined, you know, standard that you've set for yourself. And that fear, I think, is what holds a huge amount of people back. But it's more complicated than that at the same time. I think there are a lot of people who, for whatever psychological, emotional reasons, are just terrified of stepping out of, you know, whatever routine they've created for themselves. And maybe that's a result of the way that they were parented, or some trauma that they experienced. You know, if you're somebody who grew up poor, and now you're in a job that pays the bills,

• 35:30Rich Roll?

  and you have this dream, but that dream involves, you know, taking risk, including financial risk, then that person's going to have a little bit more trepidation than maybe somebody else. And I think, it's that not knowing that creates an additional paralysis on top of that.

• 35:54Lewis Howes?

  But if we knew what would happen, it wouldn't be as fun. You know what I mean? If we knew what the end result would be.

• 36:00Rich Roll?

  But everybody has their, has a different relationship with risk. You know? Like, you're somebody who has a healthy relationship with risk. I think what happens is you take a risk and if it succeeds, then you, you, that reframes your relationship with risk and you're willing to take another one and maybe that next step is going to be a little bit broader and a little bit riskier than the one that came before it. But if you've lived your life in a certain way, in accordance with some set of parameters, like this is what I do and, you know, I go to school and I get this job and, you know, I'm going to get my pension. And they've never stepped outside of that and challenged themselves in any fundamental real way, then you telling them like, you gotta do, you gotta try these other things is going to be scary and intimidating.

• 36:44Rich Roll?

  So what I always say to those people is, it's not about quitting your job. You don't even have to take a risk. Like, if you have this dream that you've been harboring for a decade, but you haven't done anything about it, what's the least risky thing that you could do to actually breathe a little bit of life into it? Like, maybe you want to play the clarinet or whatever it is. You want to be a standup comedian. Like, write a joke. And just, that's it. That's all you have to do. Just today, write a joke. I'm not asking you to go on stage. I'm not asking you to quit your job. Just do that one thing. And I think when you take, it's back to the whole, like, micro step, what are you doing in this moment?

• 37:21Rich Roll?

  You know, concept. And I think when you, when you take those little steps that have very little risk, you know, attached to them, over time, you create a little bit of momentum and a little bit of, of emotional attachment to that. And then suddenly, the next step is slightly less scary than the one that came before it. And so you can kind of iterate on that over time, until suddenly you wake up and you're like, oh, I got, I got like 15 minutes of jokes here. And then you have to take the big risk and get up on stage. Or maybe you just call your friend and you, you tell your friend these jokes. That's less risky, right? But what is it that you can do that's just enough outside of your comfort zone, but not so outside of your comfort zone that it's going to paralyze you?

• 38:06Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. What do you think of the three things, the three biggest things we could do to increase our confidence?

• 38:14Lewis Howes?

  And belief in ourself.

• 38:15Rich Roll?

  Speaking of somebody who lacked confidence as a young person. I mean, I think the most powerful thing to, two, two things. I don't know if I can think of three, but two that come to mind are, one, if you, if you accomplish something that's hard, particularly something that maybe you thought you weren't capable of, that's immediately going to boost your esteem.

• 38:42Lewis Howes?

  That's it.

• 38:43Rich Roll?

  Has nothing to do with external validation. Again, it's about your relationship with yourself. The second thing is that self-esteem comes from performing esteemable acts. Those esteemable acts can be on behalf of yourself, like what I just talked about, but they also come from performing selfless acts for others. So, being of service to somebody else is like a superhighway to self-esteem. So, if you're not feeling great about yourself, you're basically miring in your own self-pity. And that does no good for anybody. So, the best thing you can do is avail yourself to help another human being.

• 39:27Rich Roll?

  And that can be as simple as calling up a friend who you know is having a hard time and just listening to them. You don't have to solve their problem, but just give them your time. It's the most valuable thing that you have. It doesn't have to be going to a soup kitchen and feeding, you know, those less fortunate. It can be that. It can be anything. But what I've found and what I've learned over many years of practicing this is that you basically get outside of yourself and you realize that you're living in your head and you're running, you're looping this, you know, story that you're telling yourself about who you are and what your limits are. And the minute that you, that you make yourself available to help somebody else, it quiets all of that.

• 40:12Rich Roll?

  All of that goes away. And when you make that a practice,

• 40:17Rich Roll?

  I can almost guarantee, I can guarantee that you're gonna feel better about yourself because you're making a difference for other people.

• 40:23Lewis Howes?

  You always boost confidence when you do that. I had two other things that came to my mind. One is being your word to yourself. Being your word to other people, being your word to other people and showing up the way you say you're gonna be on time, or I'm gonna help you with this thing and you actually follow through. That builds confidence with yourself where you say, "I'm gonna walk three miles today." Doing it and completing it, as opposed to, "I'm gonna walk three miles today," and then you don't do it, you lose confidence with yourself because you aren't able to follow through on your word.

• 40:52Rich Roll?

  That's an esteemable act on behalf of yourself.

• 40:55Lewis Howes?

  Exactly.

• 40:55Rich Roll?

  Right? And I think, you know, a close cousin to that is, um, is being gentle with yourself, right? And understanding that we're all flawed human beings and we mess up and we're not perfect. So when you find yourself, uh, in the wake of such a misstep, to be like, "It's okay."

• 41:14Lewis Howes?

  Don't beat yourself up all day.

• 41:15Rich Roll?

  Yeah, like, how can you practice self-love and, and forgiveness of yourself?

• 41:21Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, it's powerful. I think also, something else that came up for me was using some of your time to follow the things that you feel like you're meant to follow. Like following your dreams, your goals, a hobby, a passion, whatever it may be. Using at least some of your time dedicated towards what's in your heart telling you you should be doing.

• 41:44Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I mean, I think in a macro sense, what you're saying is to live your life more intentionally and less reactively. And that's become more difficult in our technology-infused era where, uh, you know, it's so easy to just look at our phone and, and take ourselves out of the moment

• 42:06Rich Roll?

  that we have to be, uh, more rigorous with how we use our time and create boundaries around that quiet time, that creative space, even if it's just a few minutes in the morning, before you start just responding and reacting to everything that's around you.

• 42:22Lewis Howes?

  What's been the hardest thing for you to overcome in terms of using technology? Is it the phone first thing in the morning? Is it on the phone too much? Is it watching Netflix too long? What's the, what's the thing for you you've had to overcome in the last year?

• 42:36Rich Roll?

  I mean, it's a struggle with the phone, you know what I mean?

• 42:39Lewis Howes?

  It's for everything.

• 42:41Rich Roll?

  And, you know, for people like us, it's part of what we do, right?

• 42:46Lewis Howes?

  It's our business.

• 42:47Rich Roll?

  It's not like, I'm not going on, you know, it's not like my relationship with the phone is to see what my friends are doing on Facebook. It's like, I need to be posting these things.

• 42:55Lewis Howes?

  Marketing and promoting, yeah.

• 42:57Rich Roll?

  And I think, you know, what, what I've had to do is just understand that I'm, you know, I'm, I'm there to broadcast. And so, you know, I don't get involved in Twitter spats and all that kind of stuff. Like every once in a while, I mean, I think like, you know, Twitter for me, it's like, that's the, you know.

• 43:15Lewis Howes?

  You can go down a rabbit hole there?

• 43:16Rich Roll?

  Well, I mean, I, I just, I'm scrolling, like, I don't get involved in stuff. Like, I post the podcast and I share, you know, interesting things from time to time, or an article that I think is worthy, or a film that I think would be interesting for people to watch. Like, I'm, but, but I don't, I don't get involved in a lot of back and forth, but.

• 43:32Lewis Howes?

  But you do watch it.

• 43:33Rich Roll?

  But I'll watch it, you know what I mean? I'll be like, this drama's unfolding and I have to see what's, you know, how this is gonna play out. And it's not good. So, you know, I go through periods where I take those apps off my phone. You know, if I have to use them, I'll make sure that it's on a browser on my computer, which makes it just a little bit more difficult.

• 43:52Lewis Howes?

  You listen, you listen to a lot of Cal Newport for that, the deep work.

• 43:55Rich Roll?

  Well, Cal is like, you know.

• 43:57Lewis Howes?

  He has no social media.

• 43:58Rich Roll?

  I know, it's like, you know, you, you, good luck getting in touch with that guy, you know what I mean?

• 44:02Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 44:02Rich Roll?

  He's on email, but, you know, it's like, you know, there could be all kinds of stuff going on, on the, on social networks about his books and he would have no idea.

• 44:10Lewis Howes?

  No idea, no idea.

• 44:12Rich Roll?

  And you know what?

• 44:13Lewis Howes?

  He's probably free.

• 44:13Rich Roll?

  Happier, happier, more productive, certainly freer.

• 44:17Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, more connected to his family and friends, probably, and freer. That's interesting. So the phone has been a challenge for you?

• 44:24Rich Roll?

  Yeah, of course, especially in a pandemic when we're stuck at home, you know? It just gets ratcheted up. I mean, how does that look for you?

• 44:33Lewis Howes?

  Some days I'm really good, other days I'm like nine hours on my phone, geez, what was I doing? You know, it's like, a lot of it is work related and connecting with my team on FaceTime or talking to my girlfriend or whatever it may be, but just screen time, nine hours. I saw one day, I was like, usually it's like six or seven, but I saw nine hours, like, man, what was I doing all day? And so it's just being very deliberate with our time on the phone. And I use my phone a lot more than my computer also. So it's like, okay, if I was on my computer for five hours a day, creating or something, it'd be similar, but it's challenging.

• 45:06Rich Roll?

  The more important metric, it's less about time and it's more about how much of that is is is being used for consumption and how much of it is being used for creation. You know, if you're using it to create, that's a different relationship than it is to just mindlessly scroll and consume what other people are creating.

• 45:29Lewis Howes?

  One of the reasons I love the podcast is because it's like an hour or two of no phone. And just connecting with someone and just learning, creating, being. It's one of the things I love about it. It's like you have to put that aside. You can't have a computer or phone.

• 45:43Rich Roll?

  You got an iPad in front of you though.

• 45:44Lewis Howes?

  Well, I'm taking, I've got notes here. It's got my questions here, but I'm not using it for something. One of the things I did, I bought this last night. I was like, you know what? I always tell myself that I'm not gonna have my phone in my room or I'm not gonna check it in the first 10 or 20 minutes or something. And I do it for a couple of days and I always fall back in that pattern. For whatever reason, like I get lazy, I just plug it in and then I'm like, oh, something's happening in the morning. And I never feel good when I do that. And so last night I actually went on Amazon and I was like, I need to find the most simplest alarm clock. And also when I was interviewing Jay Shetty, he was like, it's never good to wake up to an alarm. You don't wanna be alarmed when you wake up. You're automatically in fear reaction.

• 46:26Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 46:26Lewis Howes?

  I was like, I've been doing that my whole life. And I was like, how can I get an alarm clock that just has like nature sounds? It just has like birds, you know, water and wake me up more relaxed.

• 46:37Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 46:38Lewis Howes?

  And I'm excited to try it. And I'm like, okay, if I can have an alarm that's not alarming, but wakes me up peacefully.

• 46:46Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 46:46Lewis Howes?

  My phone is in another room. Then I feel like I could really start to create different habits for myself. So I'm excited about that.

• 46:53Rich Roll?

  It's good. I mean, I have pretty hard and fast rules about the morning time. You know, the morning for me is my most creative part of the day. And I try to really honor that by not getting on the phone and doing meditation and journaling.

• 47:12Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 47:12Rich Roll?

  And creative work. I don't schedule any phone calls or meetings before 12. You know, that's when I, after I do that, I train and like, that's really, you know, I'm fortunate in that I'm self-employed and I have control over my schedule. And I fully understand that, you know, that's a luxury and a lot of people don't have that. But I think, I think really being mindful and intentional about that first hour after you wake up in the morning is super important because you're setting the tone for how the whole day is going to go. And if you wake up alarmed and then immediately go to your phone and you're just reacting, then you're not in control of your life. Your life is being dictated and controlled by external forces.

• 47:56Rich Roll?

  Now, you know, we all have, you know, we all, you know, we all have to respond to the world, right? But if you can just delay that a little bit and use that morning time to connect with yourself, to remind yourself about, you know, why it is that you're doing whatever it is you're going to do on that day. I think you're in a better position to just be more present and responsive rather than reactive when the stresses of the day start getting hurled at you.

• 48:26Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. Being more, being more in reflection mode than reaction mode, I think is key. What do you think is the thing that's going to help take you to the next level over the next decade? 54 right now?

• 48:39Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I'm 54.

• 48:41Lewis Howes?

  What do you think over the next six years?

• 48:44Rich Roll?

  What's the next level?

• 48:45Lewis Howes?

  What is the next level for you?

• 48:46Rich Roll?

  I mean, I don't, you know, to be honest, I don't really think of my life in those terms. Like I don't, it's not like, oh, I'm doing this, but I really want to be here.

• 48:57Lewis Howes?

  Maybe it's not creating more, it's just being something greater. Whether that's being more intentional in my marriage or relationships or being more intentional here. What's gonna make you a better version of you? Whether it's serving more people or doing or pulling less on projects, you know?

• 49:15Rich Roll?

  It's hard, cuz like, I'm really happy right now and I'm really happy with my life and I feel so grateful that I get to do what I do. And if this was it, like, I'm good. Like, it doesn't have to be. I'm not doing it to get to some other place. And I think that, that the thing that I wanna be able to master that I've struggled with is just being able to live more in joy and appreciation of that. Like, intellectually, I understand it. I can connect with that gratitude when I focus on it. But it doesn't come easy to me. Like, I'm still a grinder and, and, and, you know, this,

• 50:00Rich Roll?

  this vocation that I've built for myself, I'm very proud of. But when it began, there was a level of like, financial desperation that I was in and, and uncertainty. And those, I leveraged those as motivation. And I was able to kind of climb out of that and create something that now is very stable and successful. But I still operate with a little PTSD from that.

• 50:26Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 50:26Rich Roll?

  And feel like I have to keep, you know, I have to like, it's gotta be like this. Like, I hold on to it very tightly. And I think the opportunity for me is to mature out of that trauma and just

• 50:42Lewis Howes?

  From fourteen years ago.

• 50:43Rich Roll?

  More in joy and appreciation.

• 50:45Lewis Howes?

  The trauma from fourteen years ago.

• 50:46Rich Roll?

  So that I can have more fun throughout the day. And I think also with that focus and that addictive tendency, I tend to, you know, live my life like this. Which cuts me off more than I would like from friends and intimacy with people that I care about.

• 51:08Rich Roll?

  If I'm being really honest.

• 51:09Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 51:10Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 51:10Lewis Howes?

  That's interesting.

• 51:12Rich Roll?

  So I've, you know, I have great relationships with my kids and my marriage is great and all of that, but, but I could do better with my friendships for sure. And I think the pandemic has brought that into focus in a way that maybe I wouldn't have appreciated. So, you know, I always look at situations like this, like, oh, rather than, you know, the pandemic happening to us, how can we look at it as happening for us? Like, where is the growth opportunity here? And that's kind of what's been coming up for me.

• 51:46Lewis Howes?

  Where do you think you're lacking intimacy the most?

• 51:51Rich Roll?

  I think just in, in, in being more available to my friends. You know what I mean? Like, I'm busy, I got this going on, you know? Like, we just get caught up in our lives, you know? And, and, and then our lives move quickly. You know, I can tell you as somebody who's older than you, it's like, wow, like, where, you know, it's, I'm 54, really? Cause I feel like I'm 30, but then I'm like, my beard's white, dude.

• 52:14Rich Roll?

  You know? And I wanna be, yeah, so I wanna be, I wanna be a better friend, I think.

• 52:22Lewis Howes?

  So I'm 37. Where were you at 37?

• 52:26Rich Roll?

  I was seven years sober and very intent on becoming a successful lawyer in Los Angeles.

• 52:35Lewis Howes?

  You're still a lawyer then?

• 52:36Rich Roll?

  Oh, yeah. I was a lawyer until I was 40. So I practiced law for, I don't know, 15 years or something. Yeah, I was working across the street here.

• 52:47Rich Roll?

  As a lawyer.

• 52:50Rich Roll?

  Jamming, you know, the square peg into a round hole, determined to make it work and blindly unaware that I was chasing the wrong goal. You know, I've chased the wrong goal and out of sheer determination and perseverance, you know, and holding on tightly to it, refusing to see what was obvious to a lot of people, which was that like, I don't think this is the right career for you.

• 53:14Lewis Howes?

  But you were holding on to it to achieve it and you achieved a certain level of success?

• 53:18Rich Roll?

  I was living my life in accordance with a set of rules that I don't wanna say the wrong thing, like.

• 53:25Lewis Howes?

  They weren't yours?

• 53:26Rich Roll?

  Yeah, they weren't, they weren't mine. Like, and I didn't have the conscious awareness to understand that I was living my life in accordance with somebody else's rulebook and not my own. And I wasn't self-integrated enough to realize that. And it took another crisis for me to say, I've never really asked myself what it is that I wanted. Like, I just was the guy who, you know, got, tried to get the good grades and get into the best school that I could and, and, you know, go to grad school and get the best job. And then, you know, to wake up at 40 and think, I don't think that I'm climbing the right ladder here.

• 54:03Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. It wasn't until you were 40 when you realized that?

• 54:05Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I mean, that was when I had, that's when I was like, you know, 50 pounds overweight and had the staircase thing.

• 54:10Lewis Howes?

  You couldn't climb anyways.

• 54:12Rich Roll?

  I needed, yeah, yeah, I needed, I needed, you know, I needed a, a different kind of intervention in my life and a redirect. So it took a little bit of a mini-crisis for me to realize that. And I never felt entitled to even ponder what it was that I wanted out of life or, or what it might be that would get me excited to get out of bed in the morning. I was like, I'm a, I'm a person of a certain education and there are expectations that are built into that and this is what I need to do. And I had to like, you know, drive that into a brick wall in order to, you know, reexamine it and ultimately deconstruct it.

• 54:53Lewis Howes?

  So if you're 37, looking back, what are three things you would have let go of or eliminated in your life that weren't working for you?

• 55:00Rich Roll?

  Um, I would have, I would have told myself to just stop already, like quit, like what are you doing? Like, you're not on the right path for yourself. It's okay, it's not about failure, it's about honoring yourself. Um, you know, I was living for...

• 55:21Rich Roll?

  I was living for social and parental approval at that time. And I think that's the case with a lot of people.

• 55:32Lewis Howes?

  Were you living more for parent or social approval?

• 55:36Rich Roll?

  It was a little, it was a little bit of both. I mean, I, you know, I love my parents, but I grew up in a household where, you know, you were expected to perform at a certain level and I got self-esteem from trying to live up to those expectations. Even though I could never quite, you know, get to that point. I would chase that for a very long time and ultimately couldn't find myself until I had exasperated that.

• 56:05Lewis Howes?

  Okay, so let go of that, quit. What else would you have done?

• 56:10Rich Roll?

  Well, I would have said stop drinking, but I'd already stopped drinking by that point. I think the other thing

• 56:18Rich Roll?

  that I was doing at that time, because I was so caught up in external validation, it was like, I need to get the better car or like, let me move into this apartment and I was living outside of my means. So, the biggest piece of advice that I always give to young people and certainly would have given to myself would be to live as leanly as possible. To, you know, let go of all of that stuff. Because it just buys you options and opportunities. You have choices. But if you, you know, incur debt and live outside of those means, then you become enslaved to whatever,

• 56:55Rich Roll?

  you know, salary you're earning, that paycheck then becomes your master and you're unable to pivot and make choices. Even if you wanna, you know, chase that dream or do that thing, you don't feel capable of doing it because you're servicing a lifestyle.

• 57:14Lewis Howes?

  You think a lot of people are still in that space today in their late 30s that they're, they're, they're over expending their, their finances, they're in debt.

• 57:25Lewis Howes?

  They're doing stuff they don't want to do for others' approvals? And they're addicted to something that's holding them back?

• 57:32Rich Roll?

  I think there's two camps. You know, I think there is a generation of young people who are very influenced by, you know, Instagram culture and they see guys with Lambos and yachts and all that kind of stuff. And it's just like, that's what I gotta have.

• 57:46Lewis Howes?

  And they're not successful unless they get it.

• 57:48Rich Roll?

  Yeah, you're not successful unless you're standing in front of a private jet or something like that. And so that motivates young people to live outside their means to try to front that they're, you know, that they're, you know, living in a certain way that is in accordance with that like set of parameters, right? And I'm sure that there's a lot of young people who are in debt or living way outside of their means in order to like, you know, look good on Instagram or TikTok or whatever it is. At the same time, there's a whole new generation of young people who, who are more on the, you know, Joshua Fields Milburn tip of like living minimally.

• 58:33Rich Roll?

  You know, people, you get to my age and it's like, oh, those young people, you know? But I look at, I look at Gen Z and I'm very encouraged because this is a generation of people who actually care about things that matter. They're making life decisions and career decisions based upon social responsibility and, and personal fulfillment. And they're not about the bling. They're about like finding meaning in their career choices and their lifestyle choices. And so I'm very, you know, when I see, you know, their, that message out there, that message of minimalism and like trying to identify what your values are and, and organizing your life in accordance with that

• 59:16Rich Roll?

  as opposed to, you know, what comes on the other side of that, which is what we just talked about. I, I, I get a lot of like hope and enthusiasm for that, you know, ethos.

• 59:31Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 59:32Rich Roll?

  And that was not something, when I was growing up, there was, nobody was talking about minimalism, you know, when I was in my twenties.

• 59:37Lewis Howes?

  It was about more, more, more, keeping up with everyone, right?

• 59:39Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I grew up in the eighties, you know, and it was Wall Street and greed is good. There was nobody pushing back on that at that time.

• 59:47Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, it was being celebrated.

• 59:49Rich Roll?

  And it still is now.

• 59:51Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 59:51Rich Roll?

  We're in it, we're in it, we're having a, you know, the moment that we're in right now is very similar to the 80s in certain regards.

• 59:58Lewis Howes?

  The social media culture.

• 1:00:00Rich Roll?

  There is this other, you know, kind of very cool sensibility among young people where they're not buying into that. And they do care about things like the environment and sustainability and conscious capitalism. And like, how am I going to stake my claim but actually do good for others? And I think that's very cool.

• 1:00:19Lewis Howes?

  I have a theory that the next year, the media is going to continue with the hype of fear. Because they're making so much money right now by getting everyone's attention with just spreading fear, fear. Obviously, a lot of stuff is happening and real and things are happening. But it's sensationalizing it so much to gain our attention so they can make money as well. It's not, here's the facts and what to do about it. It's blowing everything out of proportion in certain areas so they can get more viewers, more listeners and more dollars. With, whether that theory is accurate or not, if that does happen next year where news continues to sensationalize things, how can we manage that emotionally?

• 1:01:02Lewis Howes?

  So we don't fall into the trap and lose ourselves more as a society in the next year?

• 1:01:08Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I mean, I would, I would completely agree that, you know, we're in a media environment that thrives on dividing people and fomenting fear. I think that that culture is going to meet its moment when Trump leaves office and they have to find a different way of maintaining eyeballs and ears. So that's going to be interesting to see how that unfolds. But I think the, the message, and to answer your question, is that we have to be more conscious and mindful about our information diet. And it goes back to being proactive and in control of how you're living your life or reactive.

• 1:01:49Rich Roll?

  Right? We can all scroll through these platforms and let our dopamine get spiked by whatever outrageous headline or story that we see. But we have to remind ourselves and remember that we have a choice about whether we need to consume that or not. And I think that's why I feel so strongly about podcasting, because I feel like in many ways, it's an antidote to that culture. Because we're having long-form conversations, they're, by their very nature, going to be laced with nuance and a good-faith attempt at understanding. Whether, you know, two people sitting across from each other agree on everything or not,

• 1:02:32Rich Roll?

  at least there's an effort to have a mature, thoughtful exchange. And that's anathema to the clickbait, fear-based media climate that basically monopolizes most of our attention. But I think there's no, it's no mistake that podcasting has become, like, look, we were talking about when we started, like, could you have imagined that podcasting would have matured to the kind of attention that it's getting right now? It's crazy, right? Who would have thought that people have time to spend, you know, an hour, two hours, in some cases, three hours, to listen to a conversation? People would have said, "You're crazy."

• 1:03:17Rich Roll?

  But I think it's hardwired into us. It's like that campfire that we're missing, especially in a pandemic, when we can't connect with people in the manner that we would like. And I really see that this medium is, in many ways, a response and an answer to that fear-based culture, to say, "We're not going to stand for that. We're better than that." And the fact that people are cottoning on to podcasting and enjoying it, and this medium continues to grow at the rate that it's growing, speaks to that.

• 1:03:56Rich Roll?

  Human quality and that's something that I find, I find hopeful.

• 1:04:00Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, it's inspiring. You've been in a, what looks like on Instagram, a healthy relationship for a long time. Been married for how long?

• 1:04:09Rich Roll?

  Been together twenty, we've been married for fifteen, sixteen, no, yeah, sixteen, that's years.

• 1:04:16Lewis Howes?

  She's gonna, she'll get you for that one.

• 1:04:17Rich Roll?

  No, no, she'll be, if I asked her, she'd be like, oh, yeah, right.

• 1:04:21Lewis Howes?

  What would you say are the, the three things that have allowed you to thrive through all the ups and downs? Pandemic, children, hormones, projects, success, you know, challenges, addiction? What's allowed you to continue to thrive? Obviously, nothing ever being perfect, but grow and improve.

• 1:04:39Rich Roll?

  In, in my relationship with Julie?

• 1:04:41Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:04:41Rich Roll?

  I think the first thing is that, uh, is that we're, we're both very independent people. And we're not looking to the other person to solve our problems for ourselves. So there's a mutual respect. Julie doesn't, Julie doesn't need me to complete her. I don't need her to complete me. That's on us and our relationship with ourselves and our spiritual lives and our emotional lives.

• 1:05:12Lewis Howes?

  It's hard to find someone like that who understands it's their responsibility to, to complete themselves.

• 1:05:18Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:05:19Lewis Howes?

  It's hard, how do, how do you find someone or how do you encourage someone to live by that idea? When they've been told a story pretty much their whole life.

• 1:05:30Rich Roll?

  That, you know, the princess needs the prince to come and rescue them.

• 1:05:34Lewis Howes?

  How does someone embrace it and realize that that's a better lifestyle?

• 1:05:40Rich Roll?

  Well, you come into the world alone and you die alone, my friend, you know? And, and you've got to be on this journey of, of, of growth for yourself. It can't be contingent on, on another person. And I think a lot of people who are in pain or are looking, you know, for some, some sort of, um,

• 1:06:05Rich Roll?

  you know, grounding, often look to that other person. If I can just, you know, if I date that person, then I'm gonna be okay. And.

• 1:06:15Rich Roll?

  It's never the case. Like, you've got to be okay with yourself in order to attract that person into your life to begin with. Water rises to its own level. And, you know, I've had to learn this the hard way over many years. I don't know how you can compel that in somebody. They've got to figure that out for themselves. But I think when you're in a relationship, you, and you're projecting onto that other person, some A, some idealized version of who they are, and an expectation that they need to fulfill some need that you have, you're in for, you know, a ride, right?

• 1:06:56Lewis Howes?

  A challenge.

• 1:06:57Rich Roll?

  So you've got to figure out how to have those needs met yourself outside of that relationship, so that when you come together, you're both complete individuals who can share and meet each other where you're at. And that's hard, you know, it's really hard.

• 1:07:14Lewis Howes?

  What's been the biggest challenge you guys have had to overcome together?

• 1:07:17Rich Roll?

  You know, I think that the biggest challenge that we've had was navigating, you know, really difficult financial times where we almost lost our house. And I think we've talked about this before. Like, we went through an extended number of years, as a matter of fact, where it was really difficult for us to figure out how to make ends meet. And I was very close to going back to being a lawyer.

• 1:07:45Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:07:45Rich Roll?

  Had I not had Julie's support, I very well would have done that. It was only because she was able to have faith in what we were trying to accomplish when my faith faltered, that I was able to stay in it. And that's very, very rare. I mean, I think most partners would have said,

• 1:08:01Lewis Howes?

  Go get a job.

• 1:08:02Rich Roll?

  Go get a job. Like, we're, you know, and as a... As, as you know, a man who had children, it was emasculating and very difficult. And that's not, that, that was a situation that I think probably would have broken most marriages. And we were able to leverage that to grow closer and become completely aligned in our vision and what we wanted to achieve and accomplish. And that's not to say it was easy because it was, it was the most difficult thing that we've ever done. But, but it, but it really did bring us closer and it bonded us in a way, you know, that, that I just, you know, I don't know, it was, it's really special. That's pretty cool.

• 1:08:46Rich Roll?

  I think the lesson is like, when you're in a crisis, understand that it can fracture you or just as, just as likely bring you together if you can like, get really grounded in what's occurring and, and open up the channel of communication, allow yourself to be vulnerable and use it as an opportunity to, to, you know, find a way to come closer together. Yeah, it's pretty cool. So this was, I mean, this was, the hardest part of it was like after Finding Ultra came out. Really? Yeah. After the book came out? Yeah. Cause I, cause that's when I finally walked away from being a lawyer and I was like, I'm gonna step into, you know, this other thing, but that thing was very ill-defined at that time.

• 1:09:31Rich Roll?

  And I had trust and faith that the universe would show up, you know, because I'd, I'd written this book and I had, I was starting to get a little bit of interest in the things that I cared about talking about, but the phone didn't ring for a long time. And even when things seemingly were happening on the outside, like financially, it was very difficult to like make it work. So it took a long time. When did the book come out? 2012. Yeah. Wow. So between 2012 and like 2015, it was, it was pretty tough. Really? Yeah. Yeah, and I did the podcast for a long time before monetizing it in any way.

• 1:10:10Lewis Howes?

  The podcast.

• 1:10:11Rich Roll?

  I never, I don't know if I ever thought that it like, when we started it, like, I didn't even know that it could be a thing.

• 1:10:17Lewis Howes?

  You started yours at the end of 2012?

• 1:10:18Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:10:19Lewis Howes?

  I started mine at the beginning, January 2013.

• 1:10:23Rich Roll?

  Yeah, we were like two months apart.

• 1:10:25Lewis Howes?

  Two months.

• 1:10:25Rich Roll?

  I started at the very end of 2012.

• 1:10:27Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I remember. Remember, people didn't even know how to find the podcast app on their phone then.

• 1:10:32Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:10:32Lewis Howes?

  It was like, how do I listen to this? Where do I go?

• 1:10:34Rich Roll?

  I still get that.

• 1:10:35Lewis Howes?

  I know, but it's more accessible now. So that was the hardest time, 2012 to 2015.

• 1:10:41Rich Roll?

  I mean, I've had plenty of hard times, but I think as, as.

• 1:10:44Lewis Howes?

  Financially.

• 1:10:44Rich Roll?

  As a, as a married couple, like trying to traverse that together with children was, was difficult.

• 1:10:51Lewis Howes?

  Cause they've got needs and expenses and school and college.

• 1:10:54Rich Roll?

  And also, other people saying, what are you doing? Like, you're, like, he's out, like, going running and like.

• 1:11:01Lewis Howes?

  For two hours?

• 1:11:02Rich Roll?

  Like, you guys can't.

• 1:11:03Lewis Howes?

  Go work.

• 1:11:04Rich Roll?

  He's like, you ride his bike for eight hours today and you guys can't put like food on the table? You know, it was, it was rough. Like, having to, having to wherewithal to like mute out all the, the noise and say, we're on this path. We believe in this path and it might take longer than we wish or that we thought. But to maintain, you know, adherence to that and have the conviction was very difficult. But I, I look back on it now like all hard things with great gratitude because I think that we had to burn, you know, in that fire in order to, you know,

• 1:11:41Rich Roll?

  carry the resonance that we're able to carry today. You know, like that hardship crafted us, it, it, it, it hardened us and wizened us so that we could be better servants ultimately.

• 1:11:58Lewis Howes?

  Do you think if we don't go through hard things growing up in the first 20, 30 years of our life where everything just seems to, we have great parents, you know, we stay healthy, we work hard and we get the job right away, do you feel like we're not going to be as fully fulfilled unless we go through hardships? Or is it possible to be happy and fulfilled when everything works out easier?

• 1:12:18Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. I mean, you know, listen, I don't have to tell you, I'm sure the most interesting people that you've had on the podcast are all people that went through really hard stuff, right? It forces you to meet your maker, you get clear on who you want to be, you develop the skills that you need to tackle obstacles and get through hardships. And it turns you into, it forces you to become, it's either going to destroy you or it's gonna, it's gonna expedite that process of self-actualization. And you ultimately have stories to tell and you become an interesting person, right? That's not to say that you have to have that in order to be happy and fulfilled and purposeful and all of those things. Like everything else, it is available to us.

• 1:13:03Rich Roll?

  I just think it's harder when the universe doesn't foist it upon you. But that being said, nobody gets out of life alive, right? And I think even if you had great parents, nobody gets through, you know, the first 20 years of their life without some kind of trauma that's formative, even if they're not consciously aware of it. So, you know, everybody has their stuff. And, you know, the people that I find to be, the people that I want to spend time with are the people that face those hard things and have the courage to not only work through them, but share their vulnerabilities, you know, because that creates the intimacy and the bond.

• 1:13:47Lewis Howes?

  Of course.

• 1:13:48Rich Roll?

  And I think that that's freely available to everybody.

• 1:13:51Lewis Howes?

  That's cool. Why did you decide to write a book again? And use, in a beautiful book, I mean, it's amazing, it's like a piece of art.

• 1:14:00Rich Roll?

  Yeah, thank you.

• 1:14:01Lewis Howes?

  But this is, there's a lot of people have done books around their podcasts or their blogs. You've done it in a unique, different way. Why did you decide to create this?

• 1:14:12Rich Roll?

  Well, first of all, you said, part of it is what you just said, which is that you talk to people and they're like, "How do I, how do I hear this podcast?"

• 1:14:20Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:14:21Rich Roll?

  So, I wanted to, I wanted to create a love letter to my guests and also to the audience. Not everybody listens to every episode. Even if you have listened to, you know, a large portion of the catalog, it's easy to forget because you're commuting, or you're at the gym, or you're in the car. And I wanted to basically create a series, this is the first volume and what I hope will be an annual thing, of putting down on paper some of the lessons and the wisdom that the guests have imparted over the years on the podcast. So, yeah, the book's called Voicing Change.

• 1:15:03Rich Roll?

  I mean, it's basically, I took 50 guests that I've had over the years, we transcribed the podcast, excerpted out some of the nuggets. I have essays contributed by some people and I write thoughtful introductions for each of them. And it's all packaged in this coffee table type book with beautiful photographs so that anyone would feel great about leaving it out on their coffee table for people to peruse. And we decided to do it as a self-published thing.

• 1:15:34Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 1:15:35Rich Roll?

  Which is kind of a cool experience.

• 1:15:36Lewis Howes?

  See that here, Ritual Enterprises? What was that like?

• 1:15:39Rich Roll?

  It's been cool. The other books, we did, we've done, Julie and I together have done four books, all with publishers, so I'm well-versed in how all of that works. And we've had great experiences with all of those. This book was a little bit different. It's, you know, a heavy, expensive book because it's a, you know, it's like a cookbook. It's full of photographs and stuff like that. Given that it's expensive to produce...

• 1:16:05Lewis Howes?

  The margins would be so low if you're working with publishers.

• 1:16:08Rich Roll?

  Yeah, the margins are crazy low and I would never be able to get the advance that would make sense for me. So, I also wanted to be able to do a new one every year. And I just thought, this is the, and this is a book that...

• 1:16:24Rich Roll?

  I'm not trying to get on the New York Times bestseller list with this book. This book is for the fans and it's for people that love podcasts and the people who are my inspiration. So it's not about it being at the airport bookstore or being on some list. It's just, it's just something that I wanted to offer.

• 1:16:39Lewis Howes?

  It's for your life.

• 1:16:40Rich Roll?

  I wanted to own it and control it and I'm in a position where, you know, I've got a team of really talented, amazing artists that I could work with on this. So we've had to create like infrastructure and a whole business around it because we're handling, not only do we handle design.

• 1:16:54Lewis Howes?

  Printing.

• 1:16:54Rich Roll?

  Production, printing.

• 1:16:55Lewis Howes?

  Shipping.

• 1:16:56Rich Roll?

  Everything and we're doing, yeah, we're handling all the shipping and the fulfillment and the customer service and all of that.

• 1:17:00Lewis Howes?

  Wow. It's not on Amazon?

• 1:17:02Rich Roll?

  No, it's not even on Amazon. Like we're not putting it on Amazon.

• 1:17:05Lewis Howes?

  Through your website, you have to buy it shipped out from your place.

• 1:17:07Rich Roll?

  We'll ship it globally, you know, but it's gonna, the shipping's expensive. Like everybody's so used to free shipping now.

• 1:17:13Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:14Rich Roll?

  So they're like, oh my God, it's like $25. And it's like, but that's what it is. Like I'm not making any money. That's what shipping actually costs, you know? So that's been interesting navigating all of that. But it's, it's a different relationship to the book because we're self-publishing it. I feel more emotionally connected to it.

• 1:17:32Lewis Howes?

  It's really cool. Yeah. You're inspiring me. I feel like I need to do something like this now.

• 1:17:35Rich Roll?

  It's been.

• 1:17:36Lewis Howes?

  It's really beautiful.

• 1:17:37Rich Roll?

  It's been really cool and the response has been great and it's just, you know, it's gratifying.

• 1:17:41Lewis Howes?

  Who's the one person that you wish you could have had more time with in a conversation?

• 1:17:48Rich Roll?

  Oh, I mean, you know, I, I love to spend all day with everybody that, that comes on the show. I mean, you know, there's, you can't ask me to choose among my baby, you know, the babies.

• 1:17:58Lewis Howes?

  I would say, I'd say Kobe Bryant for me.

• 1:18:00Rich Roll?

  Oh, yeah. Well, I guess, right.

• 1:18:02Lewis Howes?

  If you had to pick one person that was, you're like, oh man, I wish I had another hour with that person.

• 1:18:07Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 1:18:08Lewis Howes?

  That maybe you weren't as accessible to.

• 1:18:09Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:18:10Lewis Howes?

  But I know it's hard, it's hard to choose.

• 1:18:12Rich Roll?

  I know, I know.

• 1:18:14Lewis Howes?

  Even if it's an unknown person and just someone you had a great conversation with.

• 1:18:17Rich Roll?

  Well, I would suspect.

• 1:18:20Rich Roll?

  That you share this, which is that you do these podcast interviews, you create this connection with the people that you talk about. And then a lot of these people end up your friends and they're part of your life, right? So even if I wish a conversation had gone on longer than it had, those people that I have that feeling towards, I end up having conversations with them later anyway, because they are a part of my, they are a part of my life. And that's really, you know, that's the great, beautiful, amazing thing about hosting a podcast is you get this excuse to talk to amazing people and then you're connected to them.

• 1:18:58Lewis Howes?

  It's amazing. I love it. Where can we get the book then? Richroll.com?

• 1:19:02Rich Roll?

  Yes, it's on my website.

• 1:19:04Lewis Howes?

  There you go, richroll.com. Shipping not included, but it's worth it.

• 1:19:09Rich Roll?

  Don't at me about the shipping.

• 1:19:11Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, but it's a beautiful experience to check out for sure. Great wisdom.

• 1:19:14Rich Roll?

  I'm really proud of it.

• 1:19:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you should be. This is really nice. Great photography. Really cool. So, congrats on this. Richroll.com, check it out. Check out Rich on YouTube. Powerful YouTube channel as well, youtube/richroll. And Rich Roll Podcast, make sure you check this out. Powerful stuff that you've always got. And you already interview a lot of people in the ultra, you know, endurance and health and wellness space, the biohacking space as well. You do a lot of that, more so than me, right? You do a lot of like these extreme athletes or people that have gone above and beyond physically, mentally. Don't you do a lot of that?

• 1:19:54Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I mean, I, you know, my rule with the podcast is I follow my curiosity. And obviously you're going to have people on that, that, you know, are doing the things that you're interested in. And I'm part of that world and I'm interested in that world. So yeah, I've had a lot of those kind of people on.

• 1:20:08Lewis Howes?

  That's cool, man. That's great. I'm curious what, last time you shared your three truths. I'm curious what they are now. I won't tell you what you said last time.

• 1:20:16Rich Roll?

  I could never, I could, there's no way I'd be able to tell you what I said last time. My three truths? What is the context of these truths?

• 1:20:23Lewis Howes?

  The three truths question is if it's your last day and you've accomplished everything in your life, but everything you've ever created like this book or the podcast or videos, they all have to go with you, that content, to the next place, wherever this is.

• 1:20:37Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 1:20:37Lewis Howes?

  You get to live as long as you want, but eventually you gotta take it all with you and go somewhere and turn the lights off. But you get to leave behind a piece of paper and write down three lessons from your life that you would share with the world or three things you know to be true. And this would be all we have to remember you by, these three truths.

• 1:20:55Rich Roll?

  Okay.

• 1:20:56Lewis Howes?

  What would you say to us?

• 1:20:58Rich Roll?

  The first truth is, approach your life from a perspective of service, like live your life in service. Like give more than you seek to get, I think is important. That's one truth. Another truth would be, and this is a mantra that I always repeat to myself, mood follows action. And that speaks to what we were talking about earlier, about people who struggle to achieve their goals and succumb to analysis paralysis. Like put the action before the emotional shift that you seek. Tends to shock people out of their status quo. Third thing, third truth,

• 1:21:43Rich Roll?

  truth that I've learned behind, like learned as a result of my life.

• 1:21:47Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, that you would share to the world, a lesson.

• 1:21:50Rich Roll?

  There is no destination. So you've gotta fall in love with the process of where it is that you're aiming to go. And that journey cannot be about material accumulation or status. It has to be one that has, one that's girded with internal meaning and purpose and value for yourself.

• 1:22:25Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, that's beautiful.

• 1:22:29Lewis Howes?

  It's powerful.

• 1:22:29Rich Roll?

  I don't know if I said that as concisely as I

• 1:22:31Lewis Howes?

  It's powerful to me, man. I love that. Well, make sure you guys check out the book, podcast, the YouTube. And Rich, you're a guy that does things with an artist. You're like a, you're like a beautiful artist in your attention to detail. Like every piece of work you put out there.

• 1:22:51Rich Roll?

  This is the control freak bottleneck thing.

• 1:22:52Lewis Howes?

  I know, but it's, it's like every book you've ever written is like beautifully done. You bring a level of artistry to it. You make it rich and meaningful, just like consuming your information. So I really appreciate that about you and your dedication to being the healthiest, happiest version of yourself, no matter what is going on. I think it's really hard for people to overcome addiction, any type of addiction, bad food, alcohol, sex, whatever it may be. It's really hard to overcome it and then sustain it for as long as you have. So I acknowledge you for that and living in that space consistently, man. And can't wait to have you back on in the future, man. Appreciate you.

• 1:23:31Rich Roll?

  Appreciate it. Thank you, man. Mad love and respect for everything that you've created and built here, man.

• 1:23:36Lewis Howes?

  Appreciate it.

• 1:23:37Rich Roll?

  Appreciate you too. Much love.

• 1:23:39Lewis Howes?

  Thank you so much for listening today. I'm so grateful that you're here and I hope you enjoyed it. If you did, please share it out with a friend right now. You can text a few friends, you can post it on social media. You can tag myself, Lewis Howes and Rich Roll over on Instagram stories. Wherever you think your audience would love to hear it, make sure to share it out with them. And if this is your first time here, click on that subscribe button right now over on Apple Podcast. Every time we get new people to subscribe, it actually sends a message to reach more people on that platform and helps us really impact more lives to discover our content. So subscribe, leave a rating and review and let us know what you enjoyed most about this episode.

• 1:24:20Lewis Howes?

  And if you want weekly inspiration, messages to support you in your life and keep you accountable and keep you motivated, then text me the word podcast right now to 614-350-3960. Cause every week I'm sending out positive messages and inspiration right to your phone. And I want to leave you with a quote from Karen Lamb, who said, "A year from now, you may wish you had started today." Oh my goodness, that one is big. Every year, there's always something I wish I would have started a year prior. And that's why I constantly try to say, you know what? This is meaningful. This is something I want to do, so I'm going to take action today. And just do a little bit every single day. I want to remind you, if no one's told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy,

• 1:25:03Lewis Howes?

  and you matter, and don't you ever, ever forget that. I'm so grateful for you, and you know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.