I Reached Financial Independence Before 40 (Everything You Know is Wrong)

I reached financial independence before 40. I set out to do the impossible, and achieved it. I bought rental properties, worked hard at my job, saved and invested most of my money, and got to my goal. Then I realized something I wish someone had told me—everything I thought I knew about financial independence was wrong. If you are on this journey to free yourself from your job, retire early, or reach the magic “FI number” that will give you lasting security, I urge you—listen to this episode. While most financially independent influencers constantly stress saving all your money, effort-maxing to extremes, delaying vacations, trips, luxury purchases, or even your wedding, I did the opposite. I spent a lot on my wedding. I spent a lot on nice vacations. I eat out regularly. And sometimes…I just didn’t want to buy another rental. But at 39, financially free, I enjoyed my journey to the “goal.” Because the truth is, there isn’t a financial freedom number; there’s a financial freedom process, and if you don’t get it right, it won’t be worth any of the effort. In This Episode We Cover Why (almost) everything you’ve been told about “financial independence” isn’t true The “FI number” trap that so many real estate investors are falling into Are you wasting your life saving all of your money (why Dave says you shouldn’t) How to get more financially independent every day, even during bumpy times The “arrival” fallacy that makes so many retirees actually go back to work And So Much More! Check out more resources from this show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BiggerPockets.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠h⁠⁠t⁠t⁠ps://www⁠.biggerpockets.com/blog/real-estate-1305. Interested in learning more about today’s sponsors or becoming a BiggerPockets partner yourself? Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Dave Meyer?

  Everything you've been taught about financial independence is wrong. I started pursuing financial independence two decades ago, but I didn't follow the usual path of effort-maxing and extreme delayed gratification. But I hit every number I set out to achieve. So from the other side, I can tell you, there is a better way. There are entire books and communities based on the idea that you have a magical net worth number. And if you reach it, you'll be set free from having to work. You'll have no problems and you can retire early. But I think that entire concept is misguided. So today, you are getting a rant. This is my approach to financial independence.

• 0:43Dave Meyer?

  How I bought the stuff I wanted, prioritized happiness and unique life experiences, and still achieved financial freedom faster than I ever expected. This is how you get the financial future you want while enjoying the life you have right now.

• 1:03Dave Meyer?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome to the BiggerPockets Podcast. I'm Dave Meyer. Today on the show, we're going to talk about, and frankly, I'm going to challenge, one of the core beliefs of the real estate investing and financial independence communities. I have a bone to pick with the way financial independence is talked about and pursued. And I want to share it with you. Don't get me wrong, I am all about financial independence. I've been pursuing it for a long time. But having pursued it for so long and having accomplished a lot, I see the faults in the approach that is taught. And frankly, I think I have a better framework to help you achieve the financial stability you want

• 1:47Dave Meyer?

  while still enjoying your life right now. Financial independence has been a really big part of my life for a long time. And if you're not familiar with this term, financial independence just means having the money to comfortably and confidently live life on your own terms. Basically, you have a little bit more of control and more say over how you spend your time and your money. And although I'm going to challenge some foundational assumptions about the financial independence movement today, I love the idea of financial independence. Because who doesn't want to live life on their own terms? I think everyone does.

• 2:27Dave Meyer?

  And my belief in the need for and the importance of financial independence has not changed. I just think the way people pursue it should change. I started my financial freedom, I'd say at least 16 years ago, when I bought my first rental property. But really, I probably started more like 25 or so years ago, when I was pretty young. Because my dad, who's a smart, hardworking guy, he lost his job in the dot com bust, and that came pretty quickly after my parents got divorced. And it just put our family in a tough financial spot. And that experience gave me a drive for most of my life to have more control over my financial

• 3:11Dave Meyer?

  wellbeing than my parents did, who relied solely on W2 income. Right after college, I was already looking for ways to invest. I found real estate, and I did what everyone pursuing financial independence does. I came up with a FI number, a financial independence number, FI. A FI number is this concept in financial independence that is basically having enough money where you don't have to work, or where you have complete control over your time. Some people would call this FU money, whatever you want to call it. Most people in the financial independence community call it your FI number. But it's an idea that you reach a certain net worth, and then you are magically financially free. It makes sense in many ways, right?

• 3:56Dave Meyer?

  And I actually did it. I personally have always thought about it more in terms of income than net worth. But I still had a number in my head that I wanted to get to. I wanted $10,000 per month in passive cash flow, and I set my sights on that from the beginning of my working life. And it worked for a while until it didn't really work anymore. Eventually, I realized this idea of a phi number or a magical net worth number is wrong. It's actually just kind of a myth. This idea that you hit some number, become free, your problems dissolve. It's not real.

• 4:37Dave Meyer?

  It wasn't real for me and it hasn't been real for pretty much any other investor I know. And I talked to a lot of investors and no one has had that experience. And here's why. Financial independence is actually a moving target. The number that you need to get to, your sense of security, what you want out of life, it changes and that's okay. I think there's an orthodoxy in the financial independence movement that you need to get to some number and have the discipline to stick to that number. I don't think that is true because it has to change for a couple of reasons. First and foremost, as we've all seen over the last couple of years, inflation raises

• 5:22Dave Meyer?

  the bar every year. Your spending power goes down. So having a fixed number for your phi target doesn't really make sense because I imagine a lot of people, in fact, I know a lot of people who retired early in the 2010s or the early 2020s, probably need to change their phi number right now because everything has gotten more expensive. The second reason your phi number is going to change, and I think should change, is because of lifestyle creep. Now, I know I'm going to get a lot of comments about this and this is one of the things that I want to challenge about the financial independence movement is that lifestyle creep, which if you haven't heard that term, it basically just means as you make more money, your lifestyle becomes more expensive.

• 6:07Dave Meyer?

  You want a nicer car, you want nicer things. And in the conventional thinking about financial independence, people say you can't have lifestyle creep because that goes against the idea of having this fixed number. But I am going to defend the idea of lifestyle creep. I know no personal finance person would say this, but I think some amount of reasonable lifestyle creep is okay. And I would actually argue that some amount of lifestyle creep is kind of the point. A reasonable amount of upgrading your life as you grow is not a failure of discipline. It's the reward for working hard. Just think about it. When I started

• 6:52Dave Meyer?

  investing, I was living with roommates. I lived in my friend's grandma's basement for three years. I drove a dangerously beat up car that had a bent frame and I was one accident away from a catastrophe and I was living paycheck to paycheck. The number I thought at that point in my life that would equal what I wanted and the lifestyle I wanted was just straight up wrong. And it's not because I live some lavish lifestyle now. I don't. It's just that my standards went up in what I believe is an appropriate way. I wanted a nice house for my wife and my family. I still do drive an old beat up car,

• 7:34Dave Meyer?

  but we have a nice one for my wife. We take expensive vacations. I'll be honest about that. I take very expensive vacations very frequently because travel is my passion and that's what I want to do with my money. So yeah, my number went up and that may have delayed the amount of time it took me to get to that magical number I set out at the beginning, but I have really gotten to enjoy my life. And we'll get back to that in just a minute, but I just want to give you the third reason why I think financial independence is not a fixed number, but a moving target is because even if you do no lifestyle creep, you set a number, you go out and hit it. I'm going to tell you something that most

• 8:19Dave Meyer?

  people won't like. Hitting that number is not going to fulfill you. It is not going to make your problems go away. You're not all of a sudden going to feel some sense of purpose and satisfaction and contentment. Retiring or not working rarely is fulfilling to people. And I know this is hard for people to believe and people are going to argue with me, but look around you. People who become financially free, they often go back to work. The people on social media who claim they are financially free are working. All of them, right? Look at every real estate influencer who says they're financially free. They're all working in some way. Look at seniors, right? They lack meaning. I see

• 9:00Dave Meyer?

  this with people in my community. Once they stop working, they lack some purpose. And it's because hitting a goal sometimes has the opposite effect people think it will. And this isn't just my experience. This is real. It's actually been studied. There's something you can look it up. It's called the arrival fallacy. It was coined by a psychologist called Tal Ben-Shahar. And basically, it's the false belief that achieving a specific goal is going to bring some lasting satisfaction. And while reaching goals does provide a temporary sense of accomplishment, the anticipated happiness, it fades quickly, leaving people discouraged

• 9:41Dave Meyer?

  and frustrated. And that's the third reason, along with inflation and lifestyle creep, that I think the idea in general of having a quote unquote phi number is wrong. And I'll just tell you from my personal experience. I have been very fortunate in my career and in my investing, and have reached a level of wealth that I honestly did not ever think I would get to. My net worth is well above what I ever expected to be, but I still think about money. Like, I don't feel entirely free. I continue to work. I continue to challenge myself and to work on things, not because I want to be some tycoon, but because that's

• 10:23Dave Meyer?

  just the reality of life. You don't escape your problems by hitting some magical number. And the lesson for me, because I've thought about this quite a lot, being in this industry and having gone through this process, is that if your outcome, your phi number, or whatever it is, if the outcome is the source of your meaning, and that is the only thing that you are pursuing, the meaning evaporates the moment you arrive, right? You hit that number, and all of a sudden, you're sort of left with this void. And instead, what I have tried to do, and what I encourage you all to do on this Journey because remember I'm not knocking financial independence. I think it is so important.

• 11:06Dave Meyer?

  What I am encouraging you to do is not always focus on this end goal. You can have a goal, but you need to learn to love the process. Becoming someone who enjoys investing, becoming the type of person who likes thinking about finance, who takes pride in making good financial decisions, that will give you more meaning than accomplishing some magical number that is probably going to change. All right, everyone, we do have to take a quick break, but I'll be back with more of my rant right after this. Most investors only think about insurance when something goes wrong. A tenant injury, storm damage, loss of rent.

• 11:47Dave Meyer?

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• 12:15Henry Washington?

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• 12:57Henry Washington?

  And because you're the sole manager, there's no hourly minimum to me. That lets you use a cost segregation study to accelerate the depreciation and potentially write off over $100,000 against your

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• 13:54Henry Washington?

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• 14:39Henry Washington?

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• 15:15Dave Meyer?

  Welcome back to the BiggerPockets Podcast. Today, we're talking about financial independence and how to think about it in a more productive way than is conventionally taught. Let's get back into it. To underscore this story, I actually want to tell you all a story. It has nothing to do with investing and financing. Never really talked about this publicly, but it's something that's shaped my opinion on financial dependence and goal-setting in general. About 20 years ago, I found myself pretty out of shape and I was not happy about it. I always like sports, but for reasons I won't bore you with, I saw my weight get to a number I was not happy with at all, and I sincerely wanted something different.

• 15:57Dave Meyer?

  So I spent years, many, many, many years, working to bring down my weight and be in shape. And I had set my goal, I set a goal for myself at the beginning of that process. I wanted to lose 50 pounds. And I did, by eating really healthfully. And yeah, I know, you probably hear me talk about eating a lot of sandwiches and going out to eat. I still love to eat, but the majority of the time, I am very disciplined about it and I exercise pretty much every day. And eventually, by following that process of being disciplined and thinking and enjoying eating healthfully and enjoying exercise, I reached my goal and then some. I actually lost over 60 pounds. And you know what I did when I hit my goal?

• 16:41Dave Meyer?

  I kept eating a healthy diet. I kept exercising every day. And I still do, because I learned to love the process. The results still do matter to me. I still want to have a certain weight. But hitting my number for my weight was not some big event in my life, to be honest, because I wasn't on a diet. I just became the kind of person who wants to be healthy and active. The process is what gives me joy and a sense of accomplishment, not some number on a scale. And the same thing is true with your finances and financial independence. I didn't stop investing or thinking about money.

• 17:21Dave Meyer?

  Once I hit my number, I continue to practice the habits that got me there because the practice and the process is the thing that I actually enjoy. So what I'm encouraging you all to do is to learn to love the process. Don't invest in real estate with one foot out the door wanting to quit. There are a million ways to succeed in this business. Find one that you enjoy. And not only will that make the process more enjoyable, but I promise you it will give you the longevity and the perseverance and the staying power to actually hit your goal. So that's the big picture lesson I want to impart today, but here are just a couple

• 18:03Dave Meyer?

  of other thoughts on how you can actually go about doing this because it is tempting to just set a goal and pursue it. It's easy, right? It is super easy to say, I want to make $5 million and just go after that. But I encourage you not to just think about the destination and instead to treat financial independence as a journey. And instead of marking every single success against this far off goal that may be five or 10 or 20 years down the line, just focus on getting better every day. Financial independence is a spectrum, right? Because if the goal is going to change, the only thing you can do is become more financially independent, right?

• 18:46Dave Meyer?

  So a way to think about it, or the way I try to think about it is, does this deal, does this real estate deal make me more financially independent? If I'm weighing two deals against each other, does one make me more financially independent than the other? Then that's the one I'm going to hit. I am not focused on some magical number in the future anymore. I am just trying to get better every day because financial independence is a spectrum.

• 19:12Dave Meyer?

  Now, I am saying try and get better every day, but you also, you kind of have to hold both of these ideas in your head at the same time. You also need to recognize that it is a journey and it is not a linear one. It is a bumpy, curvy road, and that's okay, right? That is just how goals work. Sometimes you're going to be becoming more financially independent rapidly. Other times, it's going to stall out. Sometimes you might take a couple of steps back and that's fine because it is a journey, right? The goal is to try to keep moving forward and to keep getting better. And honestly, I actually think this is one of the most freeing ideas in financial independence. Well, it's not really in the mainstream financial independence thought,

• 19:57Dave Meyer?

  but for me, it has been one of the most freeing ideas in my own pursuit of financial independence. Because financial independence is not the sum of my life. It is not everything that I am trying to do. There are other things that I care about. And I have to not just be a steward of my own finances, but I have to be a good steward of my own satisfaction. And if you just start pursuing financial dependence in the way a lot of people propose, which is, you know, extreme effort maxing and spending all of your time working and real significant budget cuts and not spending your money on anything.

• 20:41Dave Meyer?

  If you do that for a long period of time, aren't you missing the entire point? Like, the point is to enjoy and gain control of your life. And if you just become beholden to your F I. number, doesn't that miss the mark? No, I'm not saying you should go out and spend recklessly. There have absolutely been times in my life where I have buckled down. I told you, I lived in my friend's grandma's basement for three years to save money. I have buckled down, I have scrimped and saved and invested my money at times. But there are also times when I thought, now's not the time for that. I'm going to enjoy myself a little bit. For a lot of my financial independence... Independence journey, I was in my twenties and my early thirties.

• 21:25Dave Meyer?

  That's some prime living right there and I didn't want to miss it, right? There are times where I've deliberately taken my foot off the gas and they were pretty much always been worth it. Probably more worth it than most of the real estate deals that I've done. Just as examples, right? I decided instead of investing in a new property around 2015 to go back to grad school. And I used my money that I had saved up to pay for my tuition. And that was well worth it. I really enjoyed it. It raised my salary and it helped me a lot down the road. I spent a good deal of money on a wedding with my wife because we were wanted to prioritize that. And although I think everyone who has planned a wedding knows that bill gets really big, really quick.

• 22:10Dave Meyer?

  I have not regretted spending that money for one minute in my life. It was absolutely worth it. Could I bought a duplex with that money? Sure. But I had a wonderful wedding and it was one of the best days of my entire life. And I think about it all the time and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I like to travel. I told you I go on expensive vacations. Sometimes that delays my next property, but I'm not going to just keep acquiring properties and missing the things that I want to do with my money. Sometimes if you have the money to go do the thing you're hoping to do in the distance sometime in the future, just go do it right now. Right? It is okay to sometimes take your foot off the gas as long as you are being deliberate about it. Don't go out and spend money on nonsense.

• 22:55Dave Meyer?

  But if this is something you care about and you prioritize in your life, it is okay for your financial independence journey to not be linear. And for it to plateau sometimes and even go backwards a little bit. That's okay. Right? Go back to my fitness example. Do I ever go off track? Yeah, all the time. Absolutely. Ask Henry how much I eat when I let loose, but I do it when it's my choice, when it's something that I prioritize. Because I'm in it for the long run. I'm not sprinting to this and I need to make it sustainable. And I don't think that you should see this as. A failure. I think that's what gets me so riled up about this. When people say, oh, you, you know, instead of buying a car or vacation or whatever is important

• 23:40Dave Meyer?

  to you, that you are somehow lacking discipline. But I think that by becoming more financially independent, by doing those times when you scrimp and save and work really hard, you are earning those experiences, right? Optimizing purely for your F I number means missing the life that number you designed to fund in the first place, right? So you don't have to sacrifice your entire twenties or thirties or any decade on the altar of some number. Sometimes you go hard, you save and invest aggressively, and sometimes you ease off and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Both are correct at different times. It is not black and white.

• 24:25Dave Meyer?

  And although I am passionate about this, I will say that it is a skill. You have to sort of work on this, this ongoing calibration, this balancing act between building wealth and living well. But I encourage you all, if you have bought a couple deals and you have gotten more financially independent, if you want to take some time off, if you want to celebrate, if you want to enjoy your life, go do it. You got one of them. Okay, so we got to take one more quick break, but I'll be back in just a minute and share with you some thoughts on how you can reframe your own thinking of financial independence. Stick with us. For my wife's birthday, I wanted to make her a new website for her landscape design business.

• 25:08Dave Meyer?

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• 25:53Dave Meyer?

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• 26:04Henry Washington?

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• 26:47Henry Washington?

  for quality and reliability. So when it's time for your next Toyota, you could trade in for more from a great deal today to a great value tomorrow. A Toyota is right for you. Shop toyota.com for deals and details or stop by your local Toyota dealer today. Toyota, let's go places.

• 27:04Dave Meyer?

  I just booked a ski trip to Park City and I've already got the whole thing planned out. Five days, first tracks every morning before the crowds show up, my knees reminding me I'm not 25 anymore by the second run, and an embarrassing number of overpriced burritos at the lodge. I don't even care. This is the trip I look forward to all year. But here's the part I actually appreciate. The practical side of my brain kicking in is that my place doesn't have to just sit there empty the whole time I'm away. I can list my space on Airbnb and bring in a little extra income while I'm out getting humbled on a mountain. And with the co-host network, I'm not the one handling all of it. You can partner with a vetted local co-host who can

• 27:48Dave Meyer?

  create your listing, manage reservations, Message guests and even handle the styling. So I get to fully focus on my trip and my place is still working for me the whole time. Find a co-host at airbnb.com/host. Investing in real estate has always been smart, but it hasn't always been simple. Now it's both, thanks to the Fundrise Flagship Fund. The Fundrise Flagship Fund launched more than five years ago with a mission of delivering low-fee access to blue-chip private market real estate. Today, the Fundrise Flagship Fund has grown to manage more than $1 billion of real estate on behalf of hundreds of thousands of investors, making it one of the largest funds of its kind.

• 28:31Dave Meyer?

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• 29:11Speaker 02

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• 29:45Dave Meyer?

  Welcome back to the BiggerPockets Podcast. Let's get back into our conversation about financial independence being a process and not an event. So, remember, financial independence is a spectrum. And the question you should be asking yourself is how financially independent I am? It is a relative assessment. It is not, "This number is going to make me financially independent." How financially independent are you should be the question. And please, celebrate your wins, right? I think that's the last thing that drives me nuts is that if you are planning 10, 15 years into the future, and that's the only thing you're looking for, you miss all the amazing stuff that you're doing right now.

• 30:30Dave Meyer?

  Celebrate every damn win that you get along this process. It is hard. Entrepreneurship is lonely. You should be celebrating every time you become more financially independent. If you buy a deal that makes you more financially independent, that's a win. If you decide you can take your foot off the gas and go on a trip because you have two duplexes that are bringing you cash flow and have set you up long-term, that is a win. If you decide to just pause because you're busy and you don't want to think about it right now, that is also a win. Stamina, endurance, perseverance, celebrating the wins. This is how it's done.

• 31:13Dave Meyer?

  Think about why you're doing this in the first place. And never let some number or some door count, I won't even get started on that rant, but don't let some number or door count stop you from celebrating the wins you've earned and the progress that you're making. So, that is my rant. I am hoping that it frees you up to see that anything you're doing to make yourself more financially independent is success and a win. And it is a lifelong journey to become more financially independent. Financial independence is a process. It is not an event that happens to you one day. Truly, if you think about it hard, is your goal really a number?

• 31:56Dave Meyer?

  Or is it a good life where you have a sense of control? Focus on that. That is the thing that every real estate investor, anyone who's interested in personal finance, should really be thinking about as they make decisions about their portfolio, about their spending and about their lives. And with that, my rant is over. Thank you for listening to this. As you can tell, this is something I've thought a lot about and is something I'm very passionate about because I believe in all of you. I am proud of everyone in the BiggerPockets community and what they are accomplishing. And I don't want you all to see some distant life as the goal when everything you're doing right now is already success and is already progress.

• 32:42Dave Meyer?

  Thank you so much for listening to this episode of the BiggerPockets Podcast. I'm Dave Meyer. I'll see you next time.

• 33:09Speaker 03

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