762 The Battle between Confidence and Humility with Brad Lomenick

THERE'S A BIGGER STORY. When I started my book tour, people were always asking me, “How are you going to stay humble?” It’s not easy. When you start getting recognition, it can go to your head. But you can’t share your message if you don’t believe in yourself. It’s a balance. You need to be confident but also know that it’s not all about you. You are a part of the story, not the whole thing. For this Five Minute Friday, I revisited a conversation I had with Brad Lomenick where we explore the tension between confidence and humility. Brad Lomenick is a renowned speaker, writer, leadership advisor, and founder of Blinc Consulting. He is the author of the groundbreaking book, The Catalyst Leader: Eight Essentials for Becoming a Change Maker, as well as his most recent leadership book, H3 Leadership: Be Humble, Stay Hungry, Always Hustle. Brad says that the best leaders all have healthy ambition. Learn how to dance the dance of humility and confidence in Episode 762. In This Episode You Will Learn: How to be confident and humble at the same time (00:50) Why being too humble can be a bad thing (1:30) How gratitude can help you stay humble (2:00) The difference between confident humility and arrogant humility (3:00) Follow me on: Instagram: @lewishowes Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is Five Minute Friday.

• 0:11Lewis Howes?

  What's up everyone? Welcome to the School of Greatness Podcast. I am very excited about today's guest. His name is Brad Lomenick. He's a strategic advisor and leadership consultant specializing in influence and innovation. He is the author of The Catalyst Leader: Eight Essentials For Becoming A Change Agent, and also a brand new book that I'm excited to talk about and dive in today, which is called Be Humble, Stay Hungry, and Always Hustle. Three Things That I'm Always Living By: Humility, Hunger, and Hustle.

• 0:47Lewis Howes?

  Can you be confident and humble at the same time?

• 0:50Speaker 01

  Yeah, I think the people who are the best leaders are both confident and humble. And you know, it's the idea of appropriate ambition. You know, it's the idea of healthy ambition. It's that posture that says, I realize that I'm really good at what I do, but I also realize that there's a bigger story going on. And I'm not the center of the of attention. I'm not the I'm not the center, the point of the story happening. And but you never shy away from from that sense that you're walking into something with complete confidence that you're the best at what you do. It's not easy, though. Like, we run into leaders all the time who who

• 1:31Speaker 01

  are incredibly humble, but do nothing. Right. Like, you know, I people are like, Oh, I just want to be humble, Brad. Like, well, that's great. But if you're not doing anything, if you're just if you're just sitting around going, it's not about me, then that's just as bad in many ways as somebody who is the other side of that.

• 1:48Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, it's interesting. It's like a dance because, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm talking about this a lot lately because, you know, I had this book come out and people are asking on my book tour, you know, how are you going to stay humble through all the success you get and for the years coming? How are you going to stay humble? And I said, Listen, For me, it's a dance because I'm, I know that I need to be confident because confidence is what got me here. And I get to continue to be confident in my vision and my dreams and pursue it with an unwavering passion. Otherwise, I'm not going to be able to create something powerful from just an idea without any evidence of it happening. But I was like, in the results you're creating and in the journey along the way,

• 2:27Lewis Howes?

  I practice a ritual of humility and gratitude every morning, every night. I'm constantly asking people, what are they grateful for? It's on my voicemail. You know, I say, if you want to leave me a message, tell me what you're grateful for because I feel like I need to be in that conversation. Otherwise, I could easily get caught up in the success and the results and people, you know, saying great things about me here and there. And be like, yeah, I'm, you know, my stuff doesn't stink or whatever. So I think that's why it's important for us to have like these rituals and habits in place. Wouldn't you agree?

• 2:57Speaker 01

  Yeah. And you know, I mean, it's really easy to be humble when you have nothing to be proud of.

• 3:02Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 3:02Speaker 01

  You know, like when you haven't accomplished anything, man, people are really humble. Uh, it's the hard part is when you start to

• 3:08Lewis Howes?

  Oh, I like that.

• 3:09Speaker 01

  To stack up, you know, lots of accomplishments and accolades and, you know, that's when it's most important to have a, have a system, posture, accountability, self-awareness in place that says, you know what, like I realize that, that I've worked hard, but still at the end of the day, this is, it's not about me. And there is a huge sense among people in the highest levels of, of power and influence and authority. When you're around them, you immediately know whether they are walking in a confident humility or they're walking in an arrogant humility.

• 3:53Lewis Howes?

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