Transform Your Life: How One More Can Change Everything

Elevate Your Game with "The Power of One More" with this throwback MASHUP! The Power of One more is that 1 extra step, that 1 extra call, that single moment of pushing beyond your limits that completely alters the trajectory of your life for the better... and it's MUCH CLOSER than you think! I’m breaking down how embracing my concept of "The Power of One More" can shift your mindset, elevate your actions, and ultimately change your entire life. But I’m not doing it alone— I've got some phenomenal guests joining me, each embodying this philosophy in their remarkable journeys. Travis Chappell interviews me about the power of networking and how one more connection can completely transform your career. Plus I'm sharing actionable strategies on how to build meaningful relationships that propel you forward, no matter where you are in your journey. Jamie Kern Lima shares how the power of persistence and embracing her true self allowed her to build IT Cosmetics into a billion-dollar brand. Her story is a masterclass in resilience, showing how one more step, one more pitch, and one more belief in yourself can lead to monumental success. Maria Menounos opens up about her journey of overcoming life’s toughest challenges. Maria reveals how maintaining focus, practicing gratitude, and staying relentless in the pursuit of her goals has allowed her to thrive in both her career and personal life. Her insights will inspire you to push past your own limitations and live a life full of purpose and fulfillment. In this episode, you’ll discover how to push past your current boundaries, overcome your biggest fears, and turn every setback into a setup for an even greater comeback. This isn’t just about motivation; it’s about practical strategies you can start applying right now to get more out of every single day and build a life that exceeds even your wildest dreams. This is your playbook for achieving greatness. Prepare to evolve your life by embracing "The Power of One More!" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  So hey guys, listen, we're all trying to get more productive and the question is, how do you find a way to get an edge? I'm a big believer that if you're getting mentoring or you're in an environment that causes growth, a growth-based environment, that you're much more likely to grow and you're going to grow faster. And that's why I love Growth Day. Growth Day is an app that my friend Brendan Burchard has created that I'm a big fan of. Write this down, growthday.com/ed. So if you want to be more productive, by the way, he's asked me, I post videos in there every single Monday that gets your day off to the right start. He's got about $5,000, $10,000 worth of courses that are in there that come with the app. Also, some of the top influencers in the world are all posting content and they're on a regular basis, like having the Avengers of personal development and business in one app. And I'm honored that he asked me to be a part of it as well and contribute on a weekly basis, and I do.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

  So go over there and get signed up. You're going to get a free, tuition-free voucher to go to an event with Brendan and myself and a bunch of other influencers as well, so you get a free event out of it also. So go to growthday.com/ed. That's growthday.com/ed. I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise.

• 1:27Ed Mylett?

  And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it, waiting weeks on a big bank for capital. Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason. Over 20 years in business, over $12 billion deployed to small business across America. Stop letting bank delays slow down your momentum. Head to cardiff.co/ed. That's cardiff.co/ed. Cardiff.co. Real growth, fast funding. Cardiff, borrow better.

• 2:08Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed Mylett Show.

• 2:13Ed Mylett?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way.

• 2:22Speaker 01

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on the podcast, Figuring It Out, with host Travis Chappell.

• 2:29Speaker 02

  First question I got for you, man. You do so much, I mean, and you have so much. You're already, you know, hundreds of millions of dollars that you've earned in revenue and added to your net worth over time. Your husband, your dad, you do a lot of things with your kids, and you get to be really involved in your family life. Why write a book? Like, you don't have to do it. You could be doing so many other things with your time. Why did you take time to do it? And why now?

• 2:54Ed Mylett?

  Frankly, there are days I wonder. But the truth is, it's my home, brother. I love helping people. And I sort of made this contract with myself that ended up being something I prayed about a lot, that if I could learn all the keys to winning. Because I used to see people win, and they couldn't explain to me what they did. And it bothered me. Like, why can't, no one documents when they win. They just kind of get good at something. So I always kind of committed to myself, if I could figure this stuff out, success and happiness, to some extent, we all have areas to grow, that I would teach it. And then when I started to teach it, I found out I love doing that more than I like golfing. I like doing that more than I like, I'm looking at the Pacific Ocean right now outside my window. I'm not on that beach as much as you would think, because I actually love doing this.

• 3:35Ed Mylett?

  And I think, you know, I'm not good at a lot of things, but one of the things that God gifted me with is the ability to teach these principles, and hopefully to inspire people to do it. And so I feel like I had to. The other piece of it was, my dad died last year. And there's a lot about my dad in the book. And when my dad died, it made me think, I'm gonna die someday. And what do I want my kids and grandkids and great grandchildren to know about life that maybe I didn't tell them, or maybe I won't be here to tell them? I'm gonna put this in a book, so that they know how to be successful and happy based on my point of view and my strategies. And so that's the big overriding reason why I did it.

• 4:12Speaker 02

  It's remarkable, isn't it? How many, how many people are really, really good at something? But when you ask them questions about how they got good at it, or when you try to reverse engineer, how they ended up where they are, they can't quite articulate it.

• 4:26Ed Mylett?

  Doesn't it blow your mind? It's one of the things on my show, when I'll have some of the top athletes on, or people, entertainers sometimes, and I'll be like, they just do things unconsciously, very competently. It's unconscious. I want to be consciously competent too, so that I can transfer the skill, so that I can teach people, so that I can, I don't want to be the king, I want to be the king maker, you know, the queen maker. And so I want to be able to consciously tell you. And like, the other thing in the book is like, my favorite books right here, other than the Bible, the Bible's my favorite book. The second favorite book is Think and Grow Rich. There's this original version, I love the book. And, but the truth is, you don't just think and get rich. They have to think and act. And so there's a lot of books on thinking, there's a lot of books on like actions you should take.

• 5:09Ed Mylett?

  But no one's ever taken the thought you need to have and the action you need to take and do, tell you how to do it simultaneously with congruency. That's what produces the result. So like you, you and I know people who act really well, but can't tell you the thoughts they have. That's what we're talking about. I know a bunch of others who have a bunch of thoughts, but can't do the actions and execute. So in the book, I marry the thought and the action. I don't think that's ever been taught before. And so that's what's sort of unique about my strategies, is there's a thought process and an action you do together that produces the result.

• 5:40Speaker 02

  Yeah, there's probably not many more people that are uniquely qualified to put this kind of a book together as well. And that's what, that's why, that's why I asked the question, because I love seeing people like you who do not need to like make money from a book, or you don't need to use this to sell a coaching program. Like you're already, you're already got everything you need. And so I think a lot of times when people get into that position, they're almost doing the world a disservice by not sharing something, because there's so many other people, especially now, and there's so much noise, maybe you can talk into this, from people who've never done anything, except for try to teach people how to do stuff. You know what I mean? It's a remarkable time to be alive.

• 6:21Ed Mylett?

  It is a remarkable time, and I have to tell you that always tread lightly on that, because I think everyone can help people. Right? Everyone's got something to contribute and give. But man, are we in a world full of people now that are experts on things they are not experts at.

• 6:36Speaker 02

  Right.

• 6:36Ed Mylett?

  And it is very rare that someone who is great at something is willing to teach you and share with you, especially for free or in a large scale. And so it is, it does surprise me even on social or podcasts or coaching programs. I'm like, what made you think that person could tell you how to get wealthy or build a company? They never built one. It's almost like going to the gym. If I'm going to get a trainer at the gym, by and large, I want that person to be fit.

• 7:02Speaker 02

  They're gonna look better than me, that's for sure.

• 7:04Ed Mylett?

  Right, well, I think you look pretty good, brother, but, but you know what I mean? Like, there's four types of people. There's completely unmotivated, that's the majority of people. I talk about this in the book. Then there's motivated people. They're wonderful, we all love motivated people, but they're driven by motives. I'm gonna do this to get this car, I'll do this to get this relationship, do this to get this money. They're moved by their motives, which is a whole lot better than not being moved. The third level, which is very, very, very rare, is inspirational people. The root of inspiration is to be in spirit. They move you emotionally, you feel something when they communicate with you, when they interact with you. There's just a feeling, go, I really like them, all right? They move me, I'm inspired by them. The fourth is the most rare. That's aspirational people.

• 7:48Ed Mylett?

  These are people you actually aspire to be like them, to do what they've done. And so what you're really saying is, there's a lot of motivators out there. Right? There's a few that are inspiring, there's very few that are aspiring, that are aspirational. Meaning if I do what they did, I'll get what they have.

• 8:08Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 8:08Ed Mylett?

  And I kind of, I'd like to think that I'm in the former, the latter category of aspirational, most of the time. Although, I must tell you, I don't have all the answers. And the older I get, I just got asked this the other day by a dear friend, he's like, man, the older you get, you know, don't you realize how, I said, man, what I realize is how little I still know. The older I get, I realize I don't know that much. But, but what I do know, I put in the book, and that's why I did it.

• 8:37Speaker 02

  Can you talk into how to almost maybe ride the line between confidence and arrogance or delusion? And I, because I think the point that I'm getting at here is that I think this is what causes a lot of people that maybe shouldn't be yet selling their advice to start doing that, is that they, they get taught all these things about you should think positively about yourself and you should, you should hold yourself in high regard and you should have all these thoughts about yourself. And then they almost buy into a version of themselves that does not yet exist. And then that's the version that they sell to other people, not having earned the right to be able to do it yet. I don't know if any of that makes

• 9:21Speaker 02

  sense, but, but I obviously confidence is crucial to being able to, to achieve anything. I know you talk a lot about confidence and a lot of things that I've learned about confidence and building it have come directly from you. So I'm curious to hear, how do you build confidence, but not like overstep into this like world that doesn't even exist because you're almost illusionable about, a delusion about how awesome you are?

• 9:41Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. If I had to have you err, I'd rather you err on being more confident than not confident, right? However, my favorite people toe this line. There's a nuance and it's very, very difficult to do. And you have to be on guard about it all the time in your life. And that is I love people that nuance tremendous self-confidence with humility. So I know a bunch of people with a lot of confidence that don't have the humility. They end up burning out. They end up making mistakes. Their ego takes over. They spend the money they make. They think they've made it. They slow down their effort and they're just uncomfortable to be around, right? Then I know a bunch of people with a bunch of humility that have no confidence and you're constantly having to carry them in your life. They're a pain in the neck. They drain you. So the people I try to be around and what I try to be like

• 10:22Ed Mylett?

  is to have that self-confidence with humility, because humility keeps you curious, keeps you humble, wants you to learn, wants you to expand, wants you to explore. You've never really made it yet. It even makes me uncomfortable to some extent, if I'm being candid, as you and I have been talking, as if I have all the answers or I have my act completely together, because I know even yesterday, I had kind of a down day yesterday, right? So I'm a human going through life. But having said that, to your point, most of the best influence in life, most of the lessons that you get are caught, not taught. And so if you're just teaching things all the time and you don't embody it, your level of influence and the change you can make is very small. But if people can watch you and hear you,

• 11:06Ed Mylett?

  Then they're catching things from you. It's caught like with my kids. I could tell them be a good person, read your scripture, you know, but they catch most of it by watching me. Do I do that? Right? It's caught, not taught. So that's why you have to do things in order to be great at teaching them because otherwise you're just teaching and people aren't catching.

• 11:26Speaker 02

  You know, you brought up, you brought up parenting and a lot, and a lot of things have changed since the last time you and I spoke on a podcast. I mean, 2017, 2008.

• 11:35Ed Mylett?

  I know right where I was sitting where you interviewed me because I remember telling you, bro, you're really good at this. Do you remember that?

• 11:41Speaker 02

  I do remember that. Yes.

• 11:42Ed Mylett?

  And you are.

• 11:44Speaker 02

  Well, thank you. I appreciate that. It's been a crazy, crazy journey and a lot's happened since then. And frankly, you should not have said yes to an interview with me at the time, but I was very grateful that you did. And now you fast forward and you know, we, we have a seven figure software startup that we raised capital for, and we have millions of downloads on the show and talked to Shaq and Rob Dierdeck and all these other people on the show and things like that. But the one biggest change has been that I now have two kids and I'm, my son is going to be three years old next month and my daughter is about 18 months. So anytime I'm able to sit down with somebody and ask selfish questions about parenting. So I love to take advantage of that. So if we can just kind of put a pin in the conversation about the book and things like

• 12:26Speaker 02

  that, I'm really curious about like, kind of some of the, the things that you've taken away as a parent. You already just kind of alluded to one, but I would like to start that with a story that I heard you tell on somebody else's show that was about your, your daughter was at school or something when she was younger and somebody said like, oh, you, you're rich or your parents are rich or something. And she, as she came and asked you the question. So I want you to tell that story and then tell us the answer that you gave to her and why that's something that's important to you.

• 12:54Ed Mylett?

  So, and again, I'm not, I've done promoting the book, but I must tell you, I have a lot of parenting stuff in the book. And I hope you be a better mother, a better father. And so there's sports analogies and all this other stuff too, but there's a lot of parenting in there. So my daughter comes home from school, she gets in the car, I'm picking her up for school. And I'm always worried, like when you do, when you do raise your kids, like I can tell when I meet somebody who was raised with money, most of the time, especially men, not all the time, but most of the time. People always ask me, how do you know? There's just a softness. There's a lack of an edge there because they didn't have to scrape and claw and battle for things. And I used to worry that my son or my daughter would possess that and that they'd lose that thing in life you gotta have,

• 13:36Ed Mylett?

  which is this, this mental toughness, fortitude, resiliency, relentlessness to win. So my daughter comes back from, gets out of class and she gets in the car and she looks up at me, precious Bella, and she goes, Daddy, are we rich? I said, what? She goes, everyone at school told me we're rich. And I said, well, I don't know. How much money you got? She goes, I got like $20. I think she said, I got $14. And I go, well, I know for sure you're not rich. That's not rich. I said, I don't know whether Daddy is or not, but I definitely know you're not rich, honey.

• 14:10Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 14:10Ed Mylett?

  And I made that point because I wanted to earn things. And you flash forward, I have a story in the book where I actually talk about my daughter wanted a car. I could buy her any car she wants. She had to buy her own car. So she had to go get a job. She goes to get a job. And one of the principles in the book is one more try. My kids have been raised watching me make one more try, one more rep, one more phone call, one more text, tell her I love her one more time. It's all stuff in the book. So she goes to get this job. I write about it in the book. She goes down to, uh, it's a pizzeria and it's a well-known one. And they're about to hire and they go, you are 18, right? And she says, no, no, no, I'm 17. And she loses the job. So she calls me, Daddy, can you come pick me up? They won't hire me because of alcohol there. And I said, okay. And then about 10 minutes later, she goes, hang on, don't pick me up yet. What she did is she

• 14:54Ed Mylett?

  remembered one more try. She walked across the street to a bakery and went in and said, hi, I'm looking for a job. And she ended up getting hired across the street at the bakery. It was one of the most proud moments of my life because she embodied one more try. Long story short, she ended up buying her own, it's a beat up, used six-year-old Jeep, her own car with that money. And all of that, Travis, goes all the way back to that question she asked me in my car, back in fourth grade, are we rich? No, you're not rich. And then going from there, those are the type of things I try to do with my kids.

• 15:27Speaker 02

  Yeah, and how crucial to draw on that principle that you mentioned just a second ago as well, that you didn't just tell your kids that you should always take one more try, or you should always try one more rep, or to push one more time, or ask once more, like, you didn't just tell them that. They experienced that. They saw you from the position of, you know, when they were first born, which is nowhere near as much wealth as you've built now. And then saw this principle flush itself out, flush itself out over time, and saw what that did to the results that you were able to, to achieve. And I think, I think that's, I think that's one thing that, like, I really try to do as a parent. Obviously, I'm very

• 16:09Speaker 02

  brand new at being a parent, but that's the one thing I really, really, like, think is paramount, especially when it comes to my relationship with my kids, is that I just never want to be the do as I say, not as I do, you know, guy. That's detrimental.

• 16:22Ed Mylett?

  First off, I knew when I met you, I know guys that are gonna be great dads. You are, because there's a gentleness and a kindness to you, particularly with your daughter that will be beautiful. But one of the things that everyone should be cognizant of, and by the way, I make a lot of mistakes as a dad. I could give you a list of times, I'm like, why did I do that? But having said, that's part of being a parent. But I didn't want to rob my kids from the things my parents gave. My parents gave me a bunch of stuff they shouldn't have. But one of the things they did give me was, I had to scrape and claw and fight and work hard and battle and overcome pain. And so, when my kids would have issues at school with grades or teachers, I didn't intervene. I made them work it out. I made them go, I let them have some rejection. I, I'm just a big believer in giving them

• 17:04Ed Mylett?

  the life experience, because when you get back out into the world, the world's tough. There's lots of forms of child abuse, different levels. And you know that my dad was an alcoholic, and I worked in an orphanage where my kids were truly abused, molested by family. So there are degrees of this, and no one's more familiar with that than I am. But all the way down to not loving or hugging your children is a form of, so it's a form of abuse. And there's another one, that most parents are unaware of, and that is, parents who don't chase their own dreams. You are robbing your children from seeing what that looks like. You're robbing your children from seeing you aspire and stretch and grow. It's the most insidious form of child neglect

• 17:46Ed Mylett?

  is a parent who does not chase their own dreams, who plays life small, who installs software programming in their children of small thinking and small life and small expansion, small risk, small growth. That's a form of neglect of your children if you're not doing that. And so hopefully, maybe for the first time as a parent, you now feel obligated, which is okay, to chase your dream, to grow, to expand. Because if you don't, you're neglecting your children because they're watching that software and they're catching it. And their self-esteem is affected by your lack of happiness and your lack of success more than any other thing in their life.

• 18:24Speaker 02

  You can't let your will to win be for sale in that regard.

• 18:27Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 18:27Speaker 02

  As a parent, because then your kid is going to look at that example that you said. And it doesn't matter what you say anymore at that point to me. That's the part that gets me is like, you know, a lot of parents are kind of are doing their best in terms of trying to instill the beliefs and saying like, you can do it, you can do anything and you know, you can accomplish whatever you put your mind to. And it's like, as soon as I had my son, it just made me realize like, I never wanted to get to the point where I was telling my son that and he would look me dead in the eye and go, well, why didn't you?

• 18:57Ed Mylett?

  You got it.

• 18:58Speaker 02

  You know, it was like, ooh.

• 19:00Ed Mylett?

  And he gets to an age, Travis, we all did, where we figure out who our parents actually are, right? When we're little, they're our hero, they're our world. But there becomes an age where you go, that's my dad, that's my mom. And you figure out who they are in the world. I never wanted my kids to figure out their dad was average, their dad was a fraud, their dad was a talker, their dad was just another dude. Because if you think your dad's another dude, or your mom's just another person, you come from that. And so of course it affects your self-esteem, of course it affects your belief. It's why so many people generationally struggle. Because they, I've talked about this often, you know, the whole point of the book, the second chapter in the book is about the matrix, about Neo.

• 19:44Ed Mylett?

  If you've seen the movie The Matrix, and I talk about your reticular activating system and slowing down time and how you can program your mind. I actually get very detailed of how the RAS works in your neocortex. Having said all that, why do I pick Neo in The Matrix? Because if you watch The Matrix, they believe Neo is the one. And you've heard me say this before, but in every family, there's a Neo. And every family, eventually the one shows up. The one who changes that family. You see a happy, rich, successful family at some point, all the way back. They weren't at one point. And then the one shows up and they change the way that family thinks, acts, lives, grows, expands, contributes forever. In my family, I'm the one. And in your family, you're the one.

• 20:28Ed Mylett?

  And the people that are listening to this, you gotta become the one in your family that changes it forever. And that's what I write about in the book is how to become the one. And I actually discuss what that the one looks like with the example of Neo.

• 20:44Speaker 02

  Explain to me your belief about balance. You got so many things going on. You got the family, especially when you were in like knee deep in the, in the weeds of building the business and the kids were young and there's so much stuff going on. What do you believe about balance?

• 21:00Ed Mylett?

  Fallacy. Um, I actually, it's one of the things I don't like that I did in this book is I reread it the other day and it's like, I almost think you would think I think you can have balance if you read my book. And I don't like that because I don't think you can always be in balance. I think it's something to strive for, but not realistic. Remember this. Extremity expands capacity. This is something most people don't understand. The more you do something to the extreme, it expands your capacity to do it again or bigger ironically. So for me, the idea that this notion that, well, if I'm crushing it at work, I'm going to be not as good of a dad. Or if I'm really a great dad, I'm not going to be fit. The truth is that for me, when I'm crushing it at work, I come home, I'm a better dad. I'm more engaged.

• 21:44Ed Mylett?

  I'm more energized. I think this notion that we get tired because of hard work is actually not true. I actually think we're like batteries and we need to be charged all the time. Most people are tired from lack of ambition, lack of work, lack of engagement, lack of chasing something more than they are by chasing something. When I'm super fit and jacked at the gym, I'm a better business person. I'm a business athlete instead of an average, everyday business person. So this notion that if I give a lot to one thing, another one gets less, that's just a flawed premise. It's a flawed belief system. There's no proof that that's true. And I could tell you that it's not true. The more fit I am, I've been better in business. The better I've done in business, the better father I've been. The better father I've been, I'm actually more focused in business. The key is be, be where your feet are.

• 22:30Ed Mylett?

  If I'm at work, I gotta be at work. And when I leave there and I go into my home, I need to be in my home. When I'm at the gym, I don't reply to texts and emails, right? I'm in that world. I'm up, I'm up, I'm gonna dispense some justice for an hour, right? I'm gonna get after it. Then when I leave there, I'll be where my feet are planted then. So this notion of balance is not true. And this notion that because you do a lot of one thing, the other thing suffers is also not true. But because you believe it, it does. Stop believing that.

• 22:58Speaker 02

  So how do you, how do you structure a typical day?

• 23:02Ed Mylett?

  I wish I were better at that now, just because my days are so crazy. So I don't structure the day, but I do structure the first thirty and the last thirty minutes. That's my sense of structure. So

• 23:12Speaker 02

  What does that look like?

• 23:13Ed Mylett?

  First, for me, when I wake up, I immediately say a prayer. And for, if I'm being, you know, super specific, I pray on my knees. So I actually get out of my bed and I get on my knees and I say a prayer. And that could take anywhere from thirty seconds to fifteen minutes, depending on what I got going on. And then I grab this jug of water that you're looking at, which is a gallon, and I drink a half a gallon of water. I really do. I super hydrate right when I get up, which is hard because you're not breathing good. You know that I do that. And, uh, and then typically I will get up and stretch and do some meditation for ten to fifteen minutes. Just empty my mind and get clear. And then from there, I actually go and I get a cup of coffee. I intermittent fast, but coffee is permitted in the middle of my fast.

• 23:58Ed Mylett?

  I do that. Then I go take my meds because I have some medication to take and then I go work out. And then when I'm done working out, I grab some food and check my phone. And that's the first time I've checked my phone is probably about an hour, hour fifteen minutes into my day. Hardest discipline in the world is not to be looking at those messages and text messages. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. Now it's not anymore because I do it every single day. And about three days a week, I do a cold plunge. I don't do it every day anymore. Um, just simply because there, if the routine is too Complicated and not repeated, not able to be replicated and duplicated, you won't continue doing it.

• 24:35Speaker 02

  Right.

• 24:35Ed Mylett?

  So I just can't have 11 things I'm doing.

• 24:37Speaker 02

  Can't have a three hour routine.

• 24:38Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I got 26 checklist and you know, I can't do all that stuff. So I do a cold plunge about three days a week and I don't even know when those three days are going to be, but by the end of the week, I've usually done three days of a cold plunge. And it's not even the discipline of it for me. It's actually that just turns on my nervous system and wakes me up completely. And those are days I'm usually a little bit more tired. Last 30 minutes of my day is mainly review of the day, clear out what comes for the next day. I do something hot. I actually sit in an infrared photomodulation bed before I go to sleep at night that I bought. Those are very expensive. You don't need to do that, but I actually, if you're asking me what I do, I do that. I stretch again. I pull out my clothes for the next day so that they're done. I say another prayer and I'm, uh, I'm off to the, off to sleepy land.

• 25:23Speaker 02

  I love that, man. I appreciate, I appreciate you being candid and telling us exactly what, uh, what it looks like there because it's so funny because I, I remember Naveen Jain, one time he was speaking somewhere.

• 25:36Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I loved him.

• 25:37Speaker 02

  And, and he goes, he said something about morning routines and how a lot of times, for most people it's BS. He was like, you can take a, you can take a cold plunge every day and you're not going to be Tony Robbins. It's more about what you believe rather than what you do. And I thought that was really unique insight and I appreciate, appreciate you being willing to be like, hey, don't, like you can't just keep putting more and more and more and more and more things into this.

• 26:00Ed Mylett?

  The reason I only do anything, the reason I only do anything is this, it's the illusion of control. But I start my day dictating the terms of my day, not having them dictated to me. And I think if I can get some control over the first 30 minutes and the last 30, there's a chance I'll have some control in the middle of it. There's two types of people. There's people who dictate the terms and those people who react and respond.

• 26:20Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 26:21Ed Mylett?

  I want to be, this sounds weird because it'll, it's comes across as the wrong connotation, but I want to be a dictator, not a reactor, not a dictator in the terms of, uh, leading the country dictator, but a dictator of I dictate the terms. That doesn't happen every day. In fact, it didn't happen today. Today's a pretty good example. I did my morning routine. My first meeting, the person who I was meeting with had the time change wrong. And so my day was set the wrong direction. The very second I got out of my routine. But I'm kind of back on track now because I'm going to dictate the day's not going to tell me.

• 26:51Speaker 02

  So I want to ask you this question because I think I'm a big believer in self-awareness and leaning into things that you're really good at and then pressing harder on those things rather than like trying to perfect something that maybe you don't have any sort of natural ability to do. So one of your superpowers that I've observed over the years is you have this just innate and that's why I said you're prodigious people builder at the beginning of this because you have this innate ability to make people feel like important or significant or at least make them feel feel good about themselves. Is that is that something that you consciously worked on? Was that something that was always something that was inside of you that maybe you that you did a little bit better? How did that kind of come into fruition in your day to day life?

• 27:30Ed Mylett?

  You, like I told you the first time, you're really good at this. You've hit on maybe one of the three or four things I'm only good at and that's it. Everything in your life happens for you and not to you. I started saying that I think I was first and then everyone says it now because I said it about 15 years ago, but I'll prove it to you. Napoleon Hill says in the book that anything when you go through any temporary pain in your life and all pain is temporary, that if you can go through pain on the other side of that, if you can get through it is you get introduced to your other self. You get introduced to a talent or a gift or another version of you, but you didn't otherwise know you had. For me, that usually in my childhood meant my dad's drinking, who ended up, by the way, becoming sober. He's the reason that what the power of one more exists because he stays sober one more day at a time and got tried to get sober

• 28:14Ed Mylett?

  one more time and helped one more person. So but when I was a little boy, Travis, my dad, I had I had three little sisters. When my dad would come home, I had to be able to read my dad. I had to be able to read him, be present with him. I'm talking like five years old. Which dad was coming through the front door? If it was drunk dad, I need to get my sisters and probably have them go upstairs and have mom go take a shower. And I'd have to read this man when he would come through. I'd look up at my daddy. Was his tie on the right way? Was his hair disheveled? How did he walk? What was his pace like? What could I smell on him? And I would read my dad. That would be drunk dad. Or is it sober daddy comes through? He looks great. He doesn't have any it's not staggering or struggling or anything like that. There are little subtle things in his eyes I could

• 28:57Ed Mylett?

  see. We'd go in the backyard, play baseball, be a great day. But I started to learn this skill of reading people and being present with them. That was the first thing. My dad's drinking gave me that gift. The second thing was if it was the wrong dad, I had to make him feel good. Hey Daddy, how was work today? Thank you so much, I'm so proud of you. And I would learn to make my dad feel good, so that if it was the drunk dad, I would still get a decent version of him from my sisters and my mom. And so, this adversity is what gave me my two biggest skills. My ability to read people and communicate with people came from the worst thing in my life ever, which was my dad's drinking when I was a young man. And so, for those of you listening to this, on the other side of this temporary horrible thing you may go through or have been through,

• 29:42Ed Mylett?

  is this other self. And eventually, that gift or talent of that other self will be the thing you use to win. Win happiness, win money, win influence, win contribution, win emotions, will be this other thing. So that was maybe the one of the most important questions anyone's ever asked me is what you.

• 30:01Speaker 02

  Yeah, so, I mean, I appreciate again the candid response.

• 30:05Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 30:05Speaker 02

  How, how do you,

• 30:10Speaker 02

  how do you process that? So like, somebody listening right now, they're, they're in the middle of the trauma. They're, they're in, they're in the thick of it.

• 30:19Ed Mylett?

  Bank.

• 30:20Speaker 02

  And it's difficult.

• 30:21Ed Mylett?

  Whatever.

• 30:22Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's, it's, it's difficult to see, you know, well, in the future, this is going to benefit me. You know, and, and a lot of times, you don't even want to admit it, because it feels so bad. And it feels like this shouldn't be happening to me. Life isn't fair. I didn't ask for this. Like, I, I don't even want to see good in it, because I want to be upset about it and I want to feel justified in my bitterness toward this event. How do you, how do you get out of that? How do you start changing the way that you're perceiving that?

• 30:49Ed Mylett?

  The way, uh, such great questions, bro. So I, again, I have a chapter in the book called "One More Meaning and One More Emotion." They're two different chapters. And here's the situation. It's not our life that, uh, it's not the events of our life that dictate where we're going to go or how happy we are. It's the meaning we attach to the event. It's the meaning. So you and I could be at a car accident, brother, and watch a child die in front of us. Our meaning, we're going to attach, if we went up on that accident scene would be, this is tragic and one of the worst moments of our life and obviously for the people that are there. Mother Teresa's at the same event, bro. Same exact event. The meaning she would take, believe it or not, would be, this is the honor of my life that God let me be with this person as they went to heaven. Same event, completely different meaning, different emotion.

• 31:33Ed Mylett?

  So what you have to ask yourself when you're going through it is, what does this mean to me? What would I need it? What would I need to believe about this event that serves me? Start with a different question. Different question, different answer, different emotion. So, and so it's not just, but you could actually say to yourself, this sucks. Okay, fine. What would I need to believe about this so that would actually serve me? My dad dying of cancer. That's a hard one to come up with a good thing for. And I would ask myself, what would I need to believe about this so that it's a good thing? Or, you know, there was good in it. And I did, I, I found that because of my dad's illness, I valued my dad more. I valued humans more. I valued my own health more. Before, when my dad would call Travis, if I was in a meeting, I'd put him to voicemail.

• 32:18Ed Mylett?

  You know what started to happen after that? I'd say, hang on a minute. It's my dad. Yeah. And that let them and me know, this man right here is more important than whatever we're talking about right now. So those events changed me. And I needed to believe that so that I could get a positive result from it. I didn't really believe it in the beginning. I had to say, what would I need to believe? And then, once I adopted that question, my RAS in my brain, start to go find the people, places, things and references to prove me right. And all of a sudden, I'm like, this is God at work here. My dad was going to die anyway, not at 73 years old, it should have been 93. But my dad, that event was eventually going to happen. At some point, we all die. But the question was,

• 33:02Ed Mylett?

  what is, what would I need to believe about this? What I needed to believe was that this was conspiring for me. Because I was going down a path where I didn't appreciate my family enough. I didn't appreciate small things enough. I was constantly doing bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger things. Seeing all of the small, beautiful things, thinking I would get to them once I had all the big things done. We think about that with our faith, don't we? Yeah, I got my faith. I got it. It's there. And I'm really gonna get into it. Once I don't need to worry about money anymore. I'm really gonna dive back in. Once the kids are a little bit older. And you start just you these big things that we think are small things, we keep putting away. And so what my dad's cancer did is it moved the important things way up on the

• 33:46Ed Mylett?

  priority list for me. And because I'm a man who influences millions of people, perhaps that was God's way of going, I am going to alter you because you're reaching way too many other people not to understand these things. And I'm gonna use this thing that was gonna happen with your dad in 20 years now. And that's what I needed to believe about it.

• 34:04Speaker 02

  Talk a lot about meaning in that answer. I'm curious, what do you view as life's meaning? And why are we here? And what should we be striving for?

• 34:15Ed Mylett?

  I believe life is about loving people, caring about people, believing in people. And if you can, show them how to do a little bit better. When I walked into the orphanage that I ended up starting my business career in, all those little boys, they were all molested by their parents or their parents were incarcerated or dead. These little precious eight year old boys. And when I walked in, I wasn't a psychologist. I wasn't a dad. I wasn't qualified to be there. Right? It's amazing. God doesn't call qualified people. He qualifies called people. And all these little boys wanted for me, bro. They look at me with these eyes. Please love me. Please care about me.

• 34:55Ed Mylett?

  Here's a big one. Most people don't get. Please believe in me. Very few people believe in other people. Right? And show me how to live better. And what I found out, those little eight year old boys are no different than the most famous athlete, politician, entertainer, Travis or Ed, everywhere. We want people to love us, care about us, believe in us, and in our way and what we bring to the table, show me how to live or do better. With your gift, you show me how to do better. With my gift, I show you how to do better. And no one's gift is more important than any other persons. And the more you just go, gosh, that is really why we're here. Wasn't if you're a Christian like I am, and I know you are, but even if you're not. Wouldn't you assume that's what God would want us to be doing?

• 35:40Ed Mylett?

  Serving one another, serving his kingdom, loving one another, caring, truly believing in each other? Why do I believe, why do you believe in human beings so much? Because I actually know their DNA. They were born to do something great with their life in their way because the same God that made me in his image and likeness, his blood's running through them. So I'm no better or worse than them. I know who they are. They're my brother or sister. So you bet your I love them. I care about them. I believe in them. Even when they are doing things they shouldn't be doing, even when they're falling down, even when they're failing, even when they're sinning, because there's this thing called grace. My dad Travis lived 35 years as an alcoholic, probably not a great husband, probably not a great dad.

• 36:22Ed Mylett?

  And in one decision completely changed his life and became my hero and lived a better life than any man I have ever known on earth personally. The next 35 years. So I'm in the business of helping people change their lives because I watched my hero do it.

• 36:37Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 36:37Ed Mylett?

  With 35 years the wrong way and then went 35 years nearly perfect. So I know people can change.

• 36:45Speaker 02

  With, with your dad, with your dad being gone now, is there anybody that, that you're looking up to? Anybody that you're kind of following and, and looking to for advice or wisdom?

• 36:55Ed Mylett?

  It's a tough one because my dad gets me emotional. My dad was definitely that person for me. Anything good that happened, I'd call my dad. I do have, I surround myself, man. I want to name all of them by name, but I do, I have a group of people I surround myself that, you know, in the book, you know, I've talked about this a lot. You have a thermostat setting of your life. It's your identity. So if you have a money identity set at 75 degrees and you start making a hundred degrees worth of money, you'll find a way to turn the air conditioner back down to get what you believe you deserve. So in different areas of my life that I want to grow in, I surround myself that live with people that live at higher temperatures than me. So in my faith life, if there's three, four, five guys, Erwin McManus has become a good friend of mine. Joel Osteen's come into my life a little bit. Steven Furtick's come into my life a little bit.

• 37:40Ed Mylett?

  Guys you wouldn't not know by name that are just wonderful guys of faith. I want to be around them, right? Because they can heat me up a little bit. My financial life, you know who some of my neighbors are. So, you know, there's some really wealthy billionaire guys that are neighbors of mine. They they heat me up that way. Um, but to be honest with you, man, and I don't mean to be overly preachy about faith today because I don't, I don't. It it sounds a little bit crass when I say it because I'm not even qualified to talk about this stuff, but I really, man, when I lost my father on earth, I got a lot closer to my heavenly father. And so I was already pretty close, but I lost my father on earth. I don't have another one of those.

• 38:19Ed Mylett?

  But I can, this other one in heaven's with me every single day. And so I do bring him into my podcasts. I bring him into meetings like this. I pray about it before I go on a sales call. I I feel his presence. It gives me peace, gives me comfort. I'm hoping he'll give me the words and the wisdom and the direction. And so that's really who I rely on the most.

• 38:40Speaker 02

  So you you brought up the podcast. I would be remiss. I'm I'm a big, obviously, podcasting fan. I love helping people with podcasts. We did a lot of coaching and and consulting around helping entrepreneurs podcasts because I just love the medium and I think it's awesome. And it's done wonders for my network, uh, which has also affected my net worth, coincidentally, right? Um, what what do you get out of the podcast? Why do the podcast?

• 39:04Ed Mylett?

  Feel like I get, uh, well, for me, selfishly, I now use my podcast almost as a weapon to meet the people that I want to know, uh, that I don't know.

• 39:12Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 39:12Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I do that. And I also, I do a lot of that. And I also highlight friends that I think are special. So for me, it's this vessel to express myself. This week, for example, I did one with just me. So sometimes I'll do that. For me, it's a form of expression. Um, it's a form of, uh, being able to reach people. I find on my podcast, man, it's one of the few things I do regularly that I always look forward to doing. That's not like, oh, I got this on my calendar. And to me, that's an indicator that it's a calling, right? Like, I get to do this today. And I love sharing people, sharing with people. People laugh at me all the time. They're like, man, you are really enthusiastic when you have a guest on. I really do love people. I really am interested in them. I really do believe in them.

• 39:54Ed Mylett?

  And I wouldn't put you on my show if I didn't think you could help people do better. So it's probably like the ultimate form of doing what I think we should do as humans with my ...技能集是我做的，我呃，我感到如此荣幸，人们听到了它。 我得告诉你，它如此，这不是奇怪吗？ 有时候我像，我不能相信那么多的人听到了这个东西，你知道吗？ 它不可思议有多少人可以达到， 我和Serious和Stitcher和Rogan和我只做一周节目， 他每天做一天节目，这让我很奇怪。 但是，嗯，对，兄弟，我只是，呃，我感到如此荣幸，我能做我的节目。

• 40:31Speaker 02

  你没有，你没有，呃，零个机会在这个时候， 我们刚刚在讨论，我们甚至没有按录制按钮， 你知道，你，你正在，你正在做，像100个节目或者什么， 为了书，但是同时， 有很可能有几百或 thousands 的请求， 你不得不拒绝。 什么让你说不或者说是， 一个机会， 你怎么说不？

• 40:53Ed Mylett?

  难，这是我在最糟糕的地方。 这是我在最糟糕的地方，就是说不， 我必须学习更好的做它。 嗯，但为什么我说是， 对某件事，因为有时候我会甚至做一些， 就像我第一次做你的节目时，

• 41:06Ed Mylett?

  有时候我只是祈祷， 然后上帝说，这是你需要做的。 大部分时间我会，我会做， 如果A，A，我相信我可以贡献， 以改变，或者B，我认为我支持的人， 在做它的时候， 应该被提升， 这听起来奇怪，但是像我的 品牌和 presence 与他们，如果我可以把他们举起， 所以那是我说是的， 但是几乎总是基于贡献。 20年前，如果你想要让我做某件事， 你最好能给我关注和钱。 现在，我有很多这些东西， 所以那些不是我， 像他们以前一样， 每个人都想要关注， 每个人想要更多钱， 每个人想要， 但是这不是我的主要动力。 我的主要动力现在是成长和贡献。 如果我认为我可以帮助人们成长， 或我自我成长， 或我可以贡献在那里的， 那就是上帝让我在那一天坐在那里。

• 41:51Ed Mylett?

  我真的相信这一点， 而且那是我感觉家里的， 那是我感觉这是， 有一个振动频率和能量， 我觉得，是的，这是对的。 而且这就是我通常做决定的方式。 但以谦虚， 你知道，你不能从一个人身上学到所有东西， 你不能从我身上学到一件事， 是说不， 因为我讨厌伤害人们的心情， 而且我有绝对糟糕的时候， 对人们说不， 而且这会吓到人们， 因为我是超级紧张的人， 而且我可以很坦诚， 但是关于说不， 伙计，我在这方面糟糕。

• 42:24Speaker 02

  Well, I appreciate, I appreciate you saying yes to this one.

• 42:28Ed Mylett?

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• 44:32Ed Mylett?

  Very short intermission here folks, I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes, you'll never miss an episode that way. I'm fired up about today's show because we're getting right into what it takes to win. And that is this, write this down, one more, one more. See, I accepted a long time ago, I wasn't the smartest, the best looking, the fast enough, with the best background, the most connections, I didn't have any of those things. What I could control was my work ethic. You've heard me speak many times about outworking everybody, but I think that just feels good when we hear it. But most people don't take it seriously. If you think that I have a little bit of success in my life, I can tell you what I attribute it to.

• 45:14Ed Mylett?

  Yes, self-confidence, yes, mindset, visualization, goals, all the things I talk about all the time. Listening skills, influence, energy transfer, how to be happier, all of that stuff applies. When you get to winning, for me, it's come down to maxing out. And what maxing out means is, you do one more at least than you think you're capable of. So when you're done, whatever you're doing, whether it's at the gym, or phone calls, or meetings, or in sports, one more shot, one more throw, one more swing of the golf club or the baseball bat. The separator is, for the winners, they do one more. I'm addicted to one more. And so I want your mantra going forward to be, one more. What does that look like if we're working out? That means when we're in the gym, and we say, "I'm gonna do five sets of 10," I'm crazy.

• 45:59Ed Mylett?

  Like, I'm a psycho, cuz I wanna win, I wanna be somebody, I wanna separate. I wanna compete. And the way I do that, isn't with my giftedness. Cuz I wasn't born with a bunch of gifts, and I think gifts are crap. I think for the most part, gifted people struggle in life because things come easy to them. I like that things haven't come easy for me in my life. I like they don't have natural talents in every area. And maybe you like that about you too, maybe you've looked at yourself all your life and thought, "Man, I don't have that natural beauty, or that natural talent, or this gift for creativity, or intellect, or humor." I don't have any of those things. But what I got, is I will outwork you. And so at the gym, one of the things I focus on, they say it's five sets of 10.

• 46:41Ed Mylett?

  When I'm at 10, I go one more, bam, 11. If I'm running on the treadmill and it's a 45 minute run, I never finish at 45. I always go one more minute, 46. If I'm at the office and I'm supposed to make 25 phone calls that day, when I'm at the end of the day, I always do one more. If I've got meetings, I always do one more. My mantra for three decades in business has been one more. Why? Because we get out of life what we think we deserve. And I'm the kind of guy that I know when you do 45 minutes on the treadmill and I do 46, I deserve to be fitter. I know that when I'm lifting weights and I watch you do five sets of 10, and every single time I do one more. When it's a set of five, I do six. When it's a set of eight, I do nine.

• 47:26Ed Mylett?

  When it's 45 on the treadmill, I do 46. When it's supposed to be 20 phone calls, I make 21. When it's supposed to be an eight hour workday, I work nine. Whatever it is, I always do one more. And what that does is it makes me eventually think I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do. So I should get things other people aren't going to get. And if you go to the root of the things I believe philosophically about winning, the people that win, the great athletes that I coach, when I watch the really gifted golfer and the one who actually wins, the gifted golfer, they do what they're supposed to do. You never know they weren't working hard. It's not like people don't work hard. Everybody works hard. That's a given now. But what's the separator to where you become the maxed out version of you?

• 48:10Ed Mylett?

  See, the gifted golfer, they hit their 100 balls because they're supposed to. But the not so gifted one that ends up winning, they hit 101 or 110 or 120. I watch them on the driving range and I can hear them say, one more, one more. What's the difference between Kobe Bryant and other gifted NBA players when he played? Or Michael Jordan? When they played, or right now Kevin Durant, people tell me, or Steph Curry, they're constantly, when everyone else is done shooting in the gym, they say one more. Larry Bird was legendary for one more, one more. The people that would throw the passes to him, the ball guys in practice, he always wants more, he always wants more. The great hitters that I know, the Mike Trout's in MLB, they're gifted, but they just take a little more.

• 48:54Ed Mylett?

  They take that extra batting practice, that extra session. They're always doing extra. That's the separator. Like you can learn all this stuff, you can digest all the tactics and information that I give out, but if you're not willing to do one more, eventually there's a part of you that says, maybe, maybe I don't deserve it. I'm just doing what everybody else is doing, and that's not good enough. It's not even good enough to do more than everybody else. It's your maxed out level, it's one more of everything. And so whether that's a phone call, an email, a text, an appointment, one more time you tell your spouse you love them, one more time you go in and kiss your children goodnight, one more hug of somebody, one more phone call, one more everything. I want your theme to be one more. Have I said that enough times for you today?

• 49:39Ed Mylett?

  So what's that really look like in application? Well, the second thing it does for you is you actually do more reps of whatever it is you're doing. And when we do more repetitions, we get better. And when we do more repetitions, we're more productive. So number one is the psychology part. If you're someone who's always doing things other people aren't willing to do, you always max out, you always go to the next level. You convince yourself you deserve to win. You can take low self-esteem, low identity, low confidence, and change it over time by building this habitual addiction to doing one more, this obsession of one more. All the greats do one more and all the average don't. It's not that the average don't work hard. It's not that the average at your company, they don't, it's not that they don't work hard, they probably work pretty hard. But do they always do extra?

• 50:24Ed Mylett?

  Do they always do one more? Do they always do 10 more if they need to? Do they always get after it? The other part of it, number two, is you just get better because of the reps. You're just doing more of something, you get better. You get, you get stronger. You, you become a better phone caller when you make one more phone call every day. You become a better communicator when you do one more meeting every single day. You get better at coordination in your sport or at the gym by just doing more reps. Yes, you get better, so that's the second layer. But the third one is... You stack the odds in your favor. See, for me, I want the odds that I'm going to win to increase. The larger numbers we play in life, in every area, more is always better. People tell you, more isn't always better.

• 51:07Ed Mylett?

  And almost everything, more is better, just so you know. And almost everything. People who tell you more isn't better in most things are lazy. And they try to justify their own weakness. Don't let people who are justifying their own weakness convince you that you working hard, you doing more, isn't the pathway to your success. People say, "Well, you gotta work smarter, not harder." That's a lie, because everybody who wins works smarter. The separator is who works harder. And by the way, we become smarter through working harder. All the new revelations, all the breakthroughs, all the new discoveries, always come when you're doing one more. Always come through more repetitions. You find new ways, new strategies, new words, new keys, by higher repetitions. So even if you believe working smarter is more important,

• 51:52Ed Mylett?

  you will become smarter by doing more. So if you work 300 days a year, let's just say, 300 days a year, that's 300 more phone calls every single year. Over five years, that's 1,500 more contacts. 1,500 more contacts. Just think about that, just for a second. Over 30 years, that's 9,000 more contacts. What are the odds the person who makes 9,000 more contacts, or even 300 more a year, are gonna win? You give me two average people that walk in a room, same ability, same skills, same backgrounds, same product. One of them makes 300 more contacts a year than the other one. Who's gonna win? We know. How about over five years? One of them makes 1,500 more contacts over five years. Who's gonna win?

• 52:35Ed Mylett?

  Over a lifetime, 30 years of work, one makes 9,000 more contacts. Who's gonna win? You stack the odds in your favor. Never mind, the person who'd made the 9,000 more contacts is better. They've got more reps, they've got more confidence, they believe they deserve to win. They just have 9,000 more opportunities. How about a golfer? One of them makes 300 more swings a year. A year, and that's just one more swing a day, right? And over a year, over five years, 1,500 more. 9,000 over a lifetime. Who's more likely to win? So you pick anything you want, you begin to stack the odds in your favor. How about at the gym? If every day you went one more minute in your cardio. So it's supposed to be 45, you do 46. Do you know what that starts to do to you? You start knowing you're different. You start knowing you obliterate standards.

• 53:20Ed Mylett?

  You start knowing you can break through. When you break through an artificial barrier like 45 minutes, you do one more. It sets a catalyst for your entire day. It sets a syntax. It sets a mindset for the rest of your life. Never mind the fact that if you do 300 more minutes, which is 9,000 more over your lifetime, who's gonna be more fit? So you begin to stack these things and your entire life changes. This is what I like to call compound pounding. Most people underestimate what time can do when backed up with massive activity. Right as I'm speaking to you, I'm looking out at the ocean right now. And there's a massive rock formation and you can see the rivets in the rocks. And what caused those rivets in the rocks

• 54:02Ed Mylett?

  was compound pounding of the ocean hitting that rock over and over and over again. Over and over, compound pounding against that rock. And over time, that ocean breaks the rock down. Over time, where you can see the breakdown in a rock that water does hitting it. Think about that over time. Not one time when the water hits it, not two times, not five times. When you add up years and years and years of that water hitting the rocket breaks it down. And that's like getting through to your dream. You have to be like that water hitting the rock I'm staring at right now. That over time, that compound pounding breaks down the barriers, breaks down the obstacles, breaks down anything in your way of getting to your dream.

• 54:45Ed Mylett?

  So I'm sold out on all the strategies and tactics that I teach you. But what I believe in completely is the power of compound pounding. And here's the crazy thing about most people. They will give up on their dream before the compounding has been allowed to kick in. So they'll work at it and they'll work at it and they'll work at it and they don't see the breakthrough. But what they don't understand is that rock was getting ready to break if you just keep pounding against it. But because most people don't see the evidence. See, if you watch that water hit that rock over one day, you're gonna see no difference. Two days, no difference. Five days, no difference. Maybe even a year, there's no difference. Maybe even five years. But you have the compound pounding of every wave hitting that rock.

• 55:28Ed Mylett?

  Over and over again, there's an inevitability to the breakdown of the rock. That's true of your goals and dreams as well. There's an inevitability to success. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when, when we adopt one more, when we adopt compound pounding. Do you know the kind of confidence you begin to have when you just accept in your life? That I am going to be relentless, I'm always gonna do extra. And you accept the fact that all things break down over time. All the barriers will go away, all the obstacles will go away. Everything in your way will go away if you keep after it over an extended period of time. Most people overestimate what they can do in a year. They do. They set up goals for a year and they overestimate where they're gonna get to.

• 56:13Ed Mylett?

  And they dramatically underestimate what they can do in a decade. And the reason for that is most people don't understand the power of compound pounding. So I want you to accept today that you're gonna be relentless, that you're gonna keep coming, that you're like a dripping faucet, you're like those waves hitting the rock. Other people are gonna get slowed down, other people are gonna take a break, other people are gonna flinch, other people are gonna cool it, other people are gonna believe they've made it, or maybe some people are gonna believe they can't make it. But you're gonna be relentless, you're gonna be repetitious. You may not be the fastest, you may not be the smartest, you may not be the strongest, you may not be the most beautiful, you may not have the most articulate thoughts and ideas in the world, but what you got is compound pounding. What you got is one more. And when they get weak, you just keep coming. When they flinch, you blow their doors off.

• 56:57Ed Mylett?

  That's how you win in life, is you keep getting after it and keep getting it after it until the job gets done. So a lot of people can be excited for a day, they can be excited for a month, some people can be excited for a year or two or three years. But the winners, they stay excited as long as it takes to get the job done. They keep after it until the job gets done. They never stop, they're always after it. And that's where their strength comes from, that's where their confidence comes from, is knowing their capacity to keep coming at you. And that all your competition's gonna get weak, they're gonna get tired, they're gonna surrender, they're gonna give in, they're gonna think they made it, they're gonna take a break, they're gonna cool it, and you just keep coming. It's just nature, just like the nature of the ocean against that rock. It's just nature that you run down your dream, that you knock down your dream.

• 57:42Ed Mylett?

  I want you to implement all the things that I teach on max out. All the tactics, all the strategies, but more than anything, I want you to buy into the fact of an inevitability of you winning, that it's inevitable, that it might not be a year, or two years, or three years, but you're gonna stay excited, and you're gonna keep doing one more until the job gets done. Today's message is very simple. You can win, you should win, and you will win. I want you to feel this, you will win if you just keep coming, you keep getting after it, you keep doing one more. You can control this. You can't control all the exterior things in your life, people's attitudes, how they treat you, who cancels on you, who changes their mind, who hates on you, who lets you down. But you can control this.

• 58:25Ed Mylett?

  You can always go 46 instead of 45. You can always go 11 instead of 10. You can always make the next phone call, always do one more meeting, always do one more, always, always, always. And I promise you, you will knock down that rock that's in between you and your dream, and make them come true. Today's really simple. You're gonna knock down whatever that rock is that's in between you and your dream. You're gonna keep after it, you're gonna be relentless, you're not gonna give in. You're gonna be the person who stays excited until the entire job gets done, until that dream is real, and you know, long-term, all these other people, they're gonna flinch, they're gonna get weak, and you won't. You've adopted a max out mindset, and I want to remind you today to stay connected with me. I want you to win. Hope you can feel it today.

• 59:08Ed Mylett?

  I want to break it down to its most simple form, which is that you use nature to your advantage. You use the force of you, the force of effort, the force of sustained effort over an extended period of time, to wear out the obstacles in front of you and your dream. I want you to feel the confidence that comes with it. I'm telling you, look at me, listen to me, you're gonna do this. You're gonna win if, and it's a big if, if you'll just adopt it. It ought to be written everywhere, one more, one more, max out, everywhere you can put it. It's inevitable. It's not if anymore, it's just when. Plot twist, we're turning the tables on me. And I'm being interviewed by my dear friend, Jamie Kern Lima, about my new book, The Power of One More.

• 59:52Ed Mylett?

  So, enjoy. God bless you.

• 59:55Jamie Kern Lima?

  First off, I just want to say I have had the gift of reading, the first draft, the manuscript of The Power of One More. Congratulations.

• 1:00:05Ed Mylett?

  Thank you.

• 1:00:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  It is such a good book. And I feel like, you know, when I was reading it, I laughed, I cried, I bawled my eyes out. I sat there and read things and I thought to myself, they do not teach you this in school. Like, there's so much in there that they just don't teach you in school, whether you're a business leader, or leading a team, or trying to learn how to be persuasive, or just trying to live your best life.

• 1:00:28Ed Mylett?

  Thank you.

• 1:00:28Jamie Kern Lima?

  So, just right off the bat, I want to hear in your words, what is The Power of One More? Why did you write this book? Who's it for?

• 1:00:37Ed Mylett?

  Well, the first person I sent it to was you, of anybody in the world, so that should say something. The fact that you like it means a lot to me. So, I wrote it after my dad died. So, my dad passed away, and I realized a couple of things. One, I learned a lot of lessons from my dad, most of which were what I wanted to do in my life. And I wanted to write them to honor my dad, because most of them I took from him. The second part of it was, it occurred to me that, you know, when you watch someone you love pass away, especially a parent, you know, it sort of dawns on you that you ultimately are next. And, you know, that it made me really think about the end of my life. And, you know, what do I want my life to be like? What do I want to have accomplished? Where do I want to have gone? What difference do I want to make?

• 1:01:21Ed Mylett?

  What emotions do I want to have? And then also, like, what do I know about life so far? Because the older I get, the more I realize I don't know as much as I used to think I know. But there are certain things I've definitely discovered in my life that have helped me become more successful and happier. And I wanted to document them, you know, before I forgot them. And so, I decided to go about writing a real manuscript, a thorough manuscript. I call it, you know, the ultimate guide to being either successful or happy. And those two things are sort of interchangeable, but it was emotional writing it. And I learned some things about myself and my dad as I wrote it. Some things dawned on me as I was writing it. Nope, that was from dad too. That was from dad as well. And so, I'm proud of it. I'm proud of the book. There's obviously things you always wish you could do better or differently, but as I've told you,

• 1:02:06Ed Mylett?

  but I do believe this book will help people become happier and more successful, for sure.

• 1:02:10Jamie Kern Lima?

  You know, I was gonna ask you, hearing that, you know, writing a book is such a journey, right? I bet you a lot of people listening to us right now or watching have started the first page of their book, or maybe they haven't yet, or they want to, and, you know, on your journey, I was gonna ask you that right off the bat, is what have you learned about yourself in this process? Because this book is deep. I mean, it's like, great business and leadership lessons, but the personal stuff and the layers are really deep, so.

• 1:02:39Ed Mylett?

  I think that, that's a great question, and you and I discussed this a little bit last night, just as we were talking about this, but I think it's dawning on me more and more the impact that my dad's drinking had on me in my life, even to this day, as I was writing the book, you know, just, when you grow up with any dysfunction in your family, by the way, I grew up in a very loving family, a tremendous family, I'm very proud of my family, but that doesn't mean it didn't come without, you know, some dysfunction, and a lot of people come from dysfunction. It could be alcohol or drug abuse, it could be divorce, it could be bankruptcy, it could be they didn't tell you they loved you enough. One huge form of child neglect that I realized in writing the book, is a parent who doesn't pursue their dreams. You're neglecting your children when you do that.

• 1:03:24Ed Mylett?

  You're neglecting your children when you don't pursue your potential and your dreams, you're installing in them that it's okay not to become the best version of you. And they, a lot of things in life are caught, not taught, and what I realized when I was writing the book, is I caught a lot of things from my dad that he didn't necessarily intentionally teach me. But I do think, as I read it, it dawned on me more and more that these things that happen when we're children, good, bad, or indifferent, do impact us as we get older, even when the world thinks we've got it all together, even when the world thinks, you know, man, that guy's got everything, or she's got everything, people think that sometimes of you, or myself, and I realized that, no, there are, there are, there's impact and effect and ramifications

• 1:04:08Ed Mylett?

  from things that happen when we're young and when we're children, that we carry with us even into adulthood, and it certainly uncovered some of those things about myself in the book, writing it.

• 1:04:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  What you just said is huge. I have never heard anyone say that before. And I just, would you mind saying that again? Because usually, and I, my own experience and so many other people were like, oh, do I, you know, am I too ambitious? Am I, you know, do I put everything on hold for my kids? A lot of times, people think as parents, you know, are we going after things too much? Right? And, and we dial it back.

• 1:04:38Ed Mylett?

  Dial it back.

• 1:04:38Jamie Kern Lima?

  And you're saying, you're saying not going after your dreams.

• 1:04:41Ed Mylett?

  I think absolutely, that's a fact. I think it's the most insidious form of neglect of a child.

• 1:04:46Jamie Kern Lima?

  Woo!

• 1:04:46Ed Mylett?

  Is the, uh, it's an, and it's-

• 1:04:48Jamie Kern Lima?

  Coming in hot! Coming in hot, admire that.

• 1:04:50Ed Mylett?

  And I, I've, I've, I really, I strongly, I really believe that strongly now too, because there's something that happens to our spirit when we know we're not becoming who we're supposed to be. And that's, that, that thing that's happening to our spirit, that in and of itself robs us of our ability to even love people to the extent that we can, to express ourselves, to give them the energy that we're capable of giving. And so, yeah, I think that a lot of people think that, well, I know, I came from a great and loving family. That's wonderful. That's terrific. But was there anything in there where, you know, you look now at their lives? And even as my dad got older, I'm so proud of my dad and the different things he accomplished. But there were even times later in life, he goes, you know, this little spot there, I wish I'd have taken a bigger risk. I wish I'd have gone for it. I wished I'd have just tried a couple of different things. And he would impart those lessons on to me.

• 1:05:35Ed Mylett?

  Now, he was such a humble person that, as you know, we'll talk about later, when he passed away, I found out the just massive difference my dad was making every day in people's lives, that I had no idea that he had done. But I think anybody listening to this or watching it ought to really think through. You love your family. It's really easy to say, hey sweetheart, you can be anything you want to be. But there's a point in most children's lives where they wonder, well, why aren't you? And at some point, all of us, true, like, I figured out who my dad is in writing this book, right? I figured, you know, I, at some point in my adulthood, I figured out who he was, who my mother was, how my mother's just, my mother's the lost person. She's this beautiful person who literally held our family together when it wasn't, you know, almost capable of being held together.

• 1:06:20Ed Mylett?

  But I have to tell you, all children eventually figure out who their parents are in the world. You're gonna love your parents, but they're- There's an age where you figure out, who are they? What difference have they made? What have they achieved? What have they given? You know, what's their role in the world? And so, all of your children are gonna eventually figure that out anyway. So you might as well go for your dreams now. And there's, there's another notion, I'll just say lastly, this, this notion that, well, if I'm really crushing it at work, I'm gonna be neglecting my family. Or if I'm really, if I'm at the gym, that's gonna take from work. The truth is, I talk about this in the book, about, you know, extremity expands capacity. And the truth is that nothing's further, that's absolutely not true. For me, when I'm crushing it at work, I'm a better dad.

• 1:07:01Ed Mylett?

  When I'm a great father, I bring more love and compassion and joy and energy to work. When I'm fit and training and eating great, that magnifies positively all the other areas. There's this fallacy that if you have a lot of one, you must have less of the other. And that's just not true.

• 1:07:17Jamie Kern Lima?

  You know, I, I'm preparing for today. I am not taking a second of everyone listening and their precious time for granted. And I have, you don't know this, but I've reached out to a number of your close friends, asking them, what would you ask Ed?

• 1:07:31Ed Mylett?

  Oh, no.

• 1:07:32Jamie Kern Lima?

  I have reached out and a lot of people on Instagram DMing me questions for you. And, you know, this was gonna come later, but I just wanna throw this out there 'cause it's something that you just shared. And so, a lot of your community sending me questions, right? So, @eclipseholstersasked, and I wanna share this 'cause it piggybacks on something you just shared. How do you handle your family that doesn't necessarily want you to succeed? 'Cause they're more comfortable if you stay stuck and poor, like them. How do you walk in your success and enjoy it? And so, I think that's interesting, 'cause you're saying your kids will figure out who you are and really, really go for it. And a lot of people are struggling, 'cause maybe their parents, their loved ones,

• 1:08:14Jamie Kern Lima?

  their friends and family actually kinda prefer if they just stay stuck.

• 1:08:18Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, mine did. Mine did. And, you know, I could tell you on the other side of it, they loved me. They were, most of the time, they truly love you. They're very concerned about you. And let's be honest, if you're an entrepreneur, there's a lot of struggle. And most parents don't wanna see their children hurt. They don't wanna see you go through difficult times. Then there's the other part of it with like, oh, you're... You know, you're all after the money thing, or you know, what's important is family. And what they fail to understand because of their own limiting beliefs. Here's what's gonna happen in your life. People with limiting beliefs are gonna be projecting onto you their belief systems over and over and over and again. And as long as you are aware that that's what's happening, that it's not probably... Look, there's probably some folks in your family that are antagonistic against you, but the vast majority love you. They love you.

• 1:09:02Ed Mylett?

  They're projecting onto you their limiting belief systems. Here's what I can tell you, that I know for a fact. That when you win... And you know, I talk a lot about this in the book, the second chapters, about the matrix, and I talk about Neo. And Neo in the matrix is the one. And you know that I'm well-known for saying that, you know, that you can become the one in your family that changes the happiness and success of... Because in every family that you see that's wealthy or just happy, at some point in their lineage, way, way back, they weren't. And then the one shows up, the Neo. The Jamie in that family shows up. And here's what I can tell you, having been a person who sort of has been the one, is that you actually change the way they think eventually. And that my family now embraces bigger thinking.

• 1:09:47Ed Mylett?

  My family now embraces chasing dreams and maximizing your potential. It took a while, took a couple decades, but that type of talk will not happen in my family again. And so the fact that that's happening to you in your family makes it even more requisite upon you to go do something great, so that that legacy of limiting thinking, and small thinking, and playing life small, and settling for... Listen, it's not just good enough to be a good person in life. You're supposed to contribute. You're supposed to make a difference. You were born to make a difference in your life. And so, yeah, a ticket into the game is being a good human. A ticket into the game is being kind and caring, which is pretty rare nowadays.

• 1:10:31Ed Mylett?

  So that's a ticket into the stadium. But then you gotta get on the field and play. And to play the game is what life's all about. We were put here to play the game. And I can tell you that on the other side of it, here's the great news. Your family won't think that anymore, that way anymore when you're done. My family doesn't think like that anymore. My nephews, my nieces, my sisters, my mom, my family, they don't think like that anymore. They get it. And so I not only changed the financial dynamic of my family, I changed our emotions. I changed the way we think. And by the way, I would say that had my dad not made the decisions he made, I would have never been in a position. The sacrifices he made allowed me to be the one. And so the other thing, last thing I'd say is a lot of you have beautiful souls in your family

• 1:11:16Ed Mylett?

  who've sacrificed so much for you. It's incumbent upon you now to rise up and to become that one that finishes the game, finishes the job. Some of you come from families with legacies of real tragedy in your family. Or maybe you're born into a dynamic where your entire race has been victimized, most of the generations of your existence, and you have ancestors that have sacrificed for you. I don't have that history, but many of you do. Man, you gotta do something great and honor them and take it to the next level and honor those sacrifices they made. And so it'll change the way they think eventually.

• 1:11:49Jamie Kern Lima?

  What you just shared is gonna change someone's life today.

• 1:11:52Ed Mylett?

  Good.

• 1:11:52Jamie Kern Lima?

  Like hearing that, it's huge. And you talk about the one in your family. And you know, two things to let everyone in on behind the scenes a little bit is, you know, right before we started filming, we were sitting down just now and realized for the first time, we both have bagged groceries at Safeway, pushed carts in the parking lot.

• 1:12:10Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, you were better at it than me though.

• 1:12:11Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, you were saying that.

• 1:12:12Ed Mylett?

  I was very good at it.

• 1:12:13Jamie Kern Lima?

  You put the bread on the bottom and the eggs.

• 1:12:15Ed Mylett?

  Don't put the eggs and the bread and the cakes on the bottom of the canned food.

• 1:12:18Jamie Kern Lima?

  No.

• 1:12:18Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:12:19Jamie Kern Lima?

  But we were both, you know, the one in our family, right? And I think that concept that you talk about is so powerful. Because there's so many people out there that have that narrative of like, "Oh, where I come from, maybe limits where I can go." It's like, no, no, no, you can be the one in your family.

• 1:12:37Ed Mylett?

  Well, you're a much better example than most people that know your story. You're a tremendous example of that being the case.

• 1:12:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  Well, thank you. And I knew you were gonna try to make it about me today. I'm like, uh-uh, we're going right back to you, Ed Mylett. You're in the hot seat. This is about you. This is about you. Thank you, though.

• 1:12:53Ed Mylett?

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• 1:13:37Ed Mylett?

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• 1:14:20Ed Mylett?

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• 1:14:57Ed Mylett?

  That was a great conversation, and if you want to hear the full interview, be sure to follow The Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. The premise of the book is, I believe human beings can change. And the reason I believe human beings can change is because I watched my hero do it. My dad was an alcoholic and used drugs first 15 years of my life. Didn't live the perfect life. And then I watched somebody make one decision, give it one more try, and completely changed his life and lived the most magnificent life of any man that I've ever known. And so I know human beings can change because I watched this stuff happen up close. And the theory in my book is really simple. You were born to do something great with your life. My dad, until he got sober, did not know he was born to do something great. He walked around with a lot of shame.

• 1:15:42Ed Mylett?

  He felt invisible. He didn't think he was qualified to help people, just like thousands of people watching this and the millions who will ultimately watch the replay of it. They think they're disqualified because of a mistake they've made, or they've been average and ordinary all their life, or something they're ashamed of, or their weakness is something they're embarrassed by. They think I'm disqualified. That was my dad. And then my dad made one decision, and here's the truth. You were born to do something great with your life, right? You were. If you're out there in New Guinea, who I just talked to online, you were born to do something great, and it's high time the world started to speak this way to each other, that we loved each other, that we supported each other, and that human beings know they were born for a reason, which is to do something awesome in little ways and big ways with their life, right or wrong?

• 1:16:28Ed Mylett?

  And the theory is this. You're much closer to your dreams and your visions than you think you are. And it's because you think it's so far away, or because you think you're disqualified, or not ready for it, that you perpetually act in accordance with that, and you keep this dream, you keep these visions that far away because you believe it. And it's a lie. It's the adversary getting you to believe it's far away, so you'll never get there. And the truth is, your dream, your life, the things you want, you're one decision away. One relationship, one meeting, one event like this, one thought, one emotion, from completely changing your life. I've watched my dad do it. I've watched me do it. I've watched a lot of my friends in this room do it. There's a bunch of people online that do it.

• 1:17:13Ed Mylett?

  And those decisions can do something great or something catastrophic. You're one decision away from messing up your life also, and ruining other people's lives. And that's what I want to start out with today. This week's been hard for me because I wanted to promote this event because I know we can change the world. The same time, all of us are aware of what happened in Texas this week. And it's made me emotional all week. I've been torn. Do I continue? And I just know the world needs us right now. If you're online right now, share this. Share this with people. Tell them, get online, hear this right now. The world needs some inspiration, it needs some love. It needs to know humanity's still good. It needs to know we can collectively do something awesome in our businesses, our families, our faith, in our communities, in our churches.

• 1:17:58Ed Mylett?

  And this clown, this 18-year-old in Texas this week, made one decision that ruined, destroyed so many families' lives. Not just the lives of the children that had their lives taken and their parents, but imagine all these precious children that were so scared in that school. The law enforcement officers who had to respond, the community. Any child in the world, any parent in the world right now, we've been affected. He's hurt us. And I want to hurt, I want to, I want to fix it with one decision. And so I've decided, I hope you're with me on this. I'm going to take all of the proceeds of the book today. And we're going to give it to the victims, the families' victims in Texas. Right?

• 1:18:37Ed Mylett?

  And so, any of you, any of you that get a book or want to go get another one, you probably want to hand a few out, every single dollar of that is going directly to the families. Directly through an organization called victimsfirst.org. That money goes right to them. And also, I'm going to take all the money from the book and give it to them. The other thing we're going to do, and I hope you'll support this by getting extra books, going on Amazon, buy one more, buy five more. And also, I'm going to then match what we raise and double it. Myself. So I'll give that away.

• 1:19:14Ed Mylett?

  And my dear friend Jamie Kern Lima, who many of you saw interview me on my show this week, she heard that I was doing this and she said, "I'll match what you give." So now Jamie's matching what I give. So, so we're gonna do something pretty awesome for these families. We're just gonna prove there's a force for good in the world, which is all of us. I am really excited to have this lady on my show today because she's special. Not only she is a special human being, but she's had a very special life and a very, very interesting last three or four years of her life as well. I think she's gonna share with you some insights and perspective that she's uniquely qualified to deliver to you. So, Maria Menounos, thank you for being here today.

• 1:19:56Maria Menounos?

  Thank you. I'm so honored to be on your show.

• 1:20:00Ed Mylett?

  You and I are both big believers that everything you need is within you now. And you started out, you started early in the interview by saying something amongst so many brilliant things, which is that if you'll get quiet and listen, you have the answer. And I think that was so beautiful, but I don't want to cheat the audience out of letting you answer, because I asked you two questions back to back there. This taught me, what about life would you say?

• 1:20:22Maria Menounos?

  Um, it taught me so much. I think it taught me that your life, it really is about your choices, that we have more power than we know and more choices and that it really is, it really is about your health and your fulfillment and your happiness and the love you have with your people, you know, whoever your people are. That's the only thing that matters in that last moment, right? So I kinda had that moment, right? Where you're like, ooh, what's gonna happen? Am I gonna be okay? Am I not gonna be okay? Well, guess the only thing that mattered is the fact that I had Kevin and that he loved me and

• 1:21:07Maria Menounos?

  that I loved him and my parents and my dogs and, and all of that, you know? I've, I've had some friends who were having some rocky times in their relationships and, you know, it's so easy to be tempted and say, "Oh, I'm just gonna go have fun with all these new people and yeah, we're gonna get divorced and that's it." I'm like, "Okay, but guess what?"

• 1:21:28Maria Menounos?

  When you're sick, she's your ride or die. She's gonna take care of you. This other person, yeah, you can go have fun. That's gonna be it. And so I've actually mended a few relationships because of this knowledge. And it's true, like, that's all you have in the end.

• 1:21:44Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:21:44Maria Menounos?

  Is your relationships and your health and your love and yeah.

• 1:21:50Ed Mylett?

  I've had friends, I've had friends, I want to ask you this, because it seems like it didn't happen with you. And I know we're going deep, guys. I know today's been heavy, but I want to give you the gift of this woman. You know, um, I feel like for some reason, your story's more relevant right now, Maria, than it's ever been with all of, I think a lot of people think they're going through a crisis in their life right now. And perhaps it's, there's some perspective given here as well, also tools. But I've had friends, we've all had this, everybody. We've had an experience, we've watched a movie. And it makes us think something different about the way we're gonna be around our children or our parents. And it lasts for three days and then we're back who we were before.

• 1:22:32Ed Mylett?

  Or we've had a, a business setback or a relationship breakup and we promise ourselves, if I have another chance at a relationship, I'm gonna do it this way next time. And then we don't and we go back into our old patterns. Patterns are incredibly powerful things in our life, as you and I both know an awful lot about. But it's been, it's been a few years now for you. It seems to me that this had a real impact on you. Is it because you regularly remind yourself of the incident? Is it, because I want people to create lasting change in their lives. And even today, listening to you, a lot of people right now are reflecting on their perspectives, on their coping skills, on what really matters, on reducing their stress levels, on their nutrition,

• 1:23:17Ed Mylett?

  on the people they love, on all of these things, on laughing more and smiling through the shop, right? And all of those things. But this change seems to have been.

• 1:23:28Ed Mylett?

  I don't want to call it permanent, but it's been long lasting for you and I hope it to be permanent. How have you done that? Was it just a massive pattern interrupt this one incident? Or is there something else you've done that you just don't allow yourself to lose that moment?

• 1:23:41Maria Menounos?

  Yeah, I think I was going against my grain for a really long time unknowingly. And once you're in that kind of rat race, right, you just, you're in it. And so for me, when I got out of it, I was like, okay, this is a rebirth. I am making major changes to my life. And I want them to stick. And so I almost like, you know, when like yogis have to practice, like they have to give up their material possessions. I wanted to give everything up. I was trying to sell everything. I was trying to go real extreme. And my husband was like, no. But I knew that to hold on to it, I was gonna have to really protect it carefully. And whenever I would go out and do any public speaking, people would come

• 1:24:25Maria Menounos?

  up to me and say, like, I had this too. And then I went back to my old ways. And anytime someone said that to me, that was just another reminder. And so I also have the gift of still having a brain tumor. And that is my constant reminder of leading a calm life, choosing the people I want to work with, choosing the people I want to be around. And all of the weekly lessons on my show, keep me grounded in that space too. And so I, I really held on to it because I needed it. I was, I was suffering so much before, and

• 1:25:07Maria Menounos?

  didn't know how to get out of it. This was my get out of jail free card. I, I was, I was stuck in a dream that wasn't my dream anymore. So, you know, a lot of us start off in life and we have a dream and then we accomplish it and then we kind of get stuck there. Because then we're accomplishing and it's easy and it's easy and it's easy and it's easy. But then you're just doing what's easy and no challenge, no growth comes, right? And then imagine if you're in toxic situations where people don't want you to grow on top of it. And they're holding you down or whatever. And so for me, I was stuck in a dream that wasn't my dream anymore. And I needed to reinvent and I needed to change my whole life. And for me,

• 1:25:50Maria Menounos?

  This, this new chapter has been about all of that kind of spiritual and emotional growth. And I will say, and I say all the time, if I hadn't been doing the work with Tony and those seminars, I wouldn't have been prepared for this moment because I had those tools in my belt. I had the, life is happening for me, not to me. I was able to eventually apply it to my mom too, and then realize that the gifts from my mom are what I'm learning that I can impart on people. So she's like, almost like my, my guinea pig, right? Like I'm experimenting on her and being like, wow, that works. We can apply this over here to all these people. When I look back at when I was little, I

• 1:26:30Maria Menounos?

  always wanted to help people. I love solutions. And, um, and, and, and I, I look at my books, everything I've written, everything I've done is always about helping people. My network, Afterbest TV, it's about helping people. And so I love helping people. So I'm able to apply those things from my mom over to everybody else. And, um, and it fills me. And so I, I knew that I had to hold on to it really tightly. And do I falter sometimes now? Like, you know, I'm going through a challenging time and I have to keep relying on my tools. And I have to keep remembering, you can't allow these situations that aren't real to take your health. And it can be challenging in moments, but I, I bounce back really

• 1:27:15Maria Menounos?

  fast because of all of it now.

• 1:27:17Ed Mylett?

  I gotta tell you, I told you that today was gonna be for me. You said when you were a little girl, you wanted to help people. I tell you, helped me today. And, and, uh, I know you've helped this, this, I hope everyone stayed to the end here. Cause that idea of being stuck in a dream that's no longer your dream. Oh man, are there millions of people, including me and some of the things I do every single day still that, those are old dusty dreams, frankly, that I'm just in because I'm good at them.

• 1:27:46Maria Menounos?

  Yeah.

• 1:27:47Ed Mylett?

  Easy for me. And I get significance and recognition for staying in that dream. And I might lose some if I didn't stay in it. And I, I think that was another one of your gems.