Breakthrough Fear, Access Your Greatness and Change Your Life Today! You’re One Decision Away, With Ed Mylett (RR)

Get ready to overcome fear and tap into your greatness today! “You are 1 decision away from changing your life,” and Ed Mylett, the world’s #1 inspirational speaker, mindset & performance coach, shares how in this powerful, purposeful and deeply inspiring episode. Ed and Jamie explore family patterns, human resilience, overcoming fear, how to find your gifts, and how to link it to LOVE to build the life of your dreams. The tools Ed shares are life-changing and you do not want to miss this deeply impactful episode!! Ed shares personal stories he’s never shared before around fear and self-doubt, how these feelings put a ceiling on your potential, and how overcoming them is the key to reaching your full potential. This episode gives you the tools to rise above challenges, conquer internal struggles around fear and worthiness, and embrace your potential! ____ Are You Ready to believe in YOU?🙌⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠jamiekernlima.com ⁠⁠👈 Sign up for my FREE Inspirational Newsletter and get ready for your self-worth to soar!🩷 Also, please make sure to take 2 seconds and click the “Follow” button right here on this page to follow me and the podcast, I’m so grateful and thank you SO much! ____ And whether you're joining me today for yourself or because someone that you love shared this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast family. And remember this episode is not just for you and me. Please share it with every single person that you know because it can change their life too. It’s such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note: I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Click ⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ to Subscribe to the YouTube Channel Follow me here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Sign up for my inspirational newsletter for YOU at:⁠⁠⁠⁠ jamiekernlima.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! ⁠⁠⁠⁠WORTHY⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Believe IT⁠⁠

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• 0:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  Get ready to overcome fear and tap into your greatness today. You are one decision away from changing your life. And my guest today, Ed Mylett, the world's number one inspirational speaker, mindset and performance coach, shares how. In this powerful, purposeful, deeply inspiring and tool-packed episode, this is one you're going to want to share with everyone you know today.

• 0:26Speaker 01

  Well, we're going there today, aren't we?

• 0:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  This is so, so, so good.

• 0:30Speaker 01

  This is really good.

• 0:30Jamie Kern Lima?

  Whether it's linking it to your good intentions.

• 0:33Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 0:33Jamie Kern Lima?

  Your good intentions.

• 0:35Speaker 01

  That's right. And we keep things so far away. But that's a great lie. The truth is, you're one decision away from changing. Your one new relationship, your one podcast.

• 0:47Jamie Kern Lima?

  I feel like we are unlearning the lies today, like knocking them down.

• 0:52Speaker 01

  Whoa, whoa, whoa. I've never been asked that one. Um, wow, wow, wow. Okay. Love is greater than your fears. It's the one thing in your life that's greater than your fears or your emotions or the setbacks.

• 1:10Jamie Kern Lima?

  Ed Mylett.

• 1:12Speaker 01

  But you're most qualified in your life to help the person you used to be. And so ironically, God uses your mistakes or your averageness, whatever you think it is, to qualify you to help other people that are just like you.

• 1:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  Ever since I heard you say this, I think about this all the time.

• 1:30Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:32Jamie Kern Lima?

  I know you speak in sold-out stadiums around the world, and we are so fancy here.

• 1:37Speaker 01

  That's pretty fancy.

• 1:37Jamie Kern Lima?

  We greet you with the...

• 1:40Speaker 01

  It breaks my heart that most people don't understand, if they were to look back at their life, most of the beautiful experiences of their life came after something painful.

• 1:49Speaker 01

  Thank you, Jamie. That's probably the greatest gift I've ever been given.

• 1:58Speaker 01

  Such promise and potential and you got up that one time. And the next time you got up, but then you didn't. And you quit.

• 2:09Speaker 01

  Your dreams, you quit on your family, you quit on your potential, you quit on your emotions and your

• 2:16Speaker 01

  your memories and so many people unfortunately have quit and my message would be you can still get up. It's not too late.

• 2:25Speaker 01

  How many times have we probably had like a life changing conversation, probably like 10 or 12 times easily as friends?

• 2:30Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 2:31Speaker 01

  In a pretty short window of time.

• 2:34Speaker 01

  I quit getting up because I was scared. I was scared I wasn't enough. I was scared this was too big for me. I was scared of what other people were going to think about me. And I was more afraid than I loved my family. Than I loved the people around me and I gave into my fears rather than embracing the love. And I don't want that to ever happen. I want when my life ends for me to go, I love the people around me enough to keep getting up. That that love was bigger than how afraid I was. And I think what ends up happening if we don't get there someday, we don't have the emotions we we deserve to have, the memories we deserve to have, the life we deserve to have. It will be because we were afraid.

• 3:16Speaker 01

  And in, and more I become familiar with your work, we're afraid we're not worthy enough. We're afraid we're just not worth it. And I don't want that to happen. So I just remind myself that my love for the people around me is greater than how afraid I am.

• 3:31Speaker 01

  Yeah, and they're worth it.

• 3:33Jamie Kern Lima?

  I have like full chills, like full chills.

• 3:40Speaker 01

  Is that when you see a really happy family or even like a rich family. Somewhere back in their lineage. They weren't. They weren't. Until the one shows up. And in every family, there's a one. There's the one. And that one person changes a family lineage forever.

• 4:04Speaker 01

  And in my family, I'm the one. My dad set the table with the change he made by getting sober, but I'm the one who got up early. I'm the one who everyone thought was crazy, that everyone criticized. I'm the one who stopped hiding, to quote you, in plain sight. I get the hits. I'm the one who people rejected. I'm the one who had to carry the emotional burden of changing our family. And it's so worth it because my nieces and nephews, they don't think like I thought when I grew up. They've got dreams and ambitions and they believe in themselves and they're good people and they contribute. I'm proud of the fact. And so if you're listening to this, if it even affects you at all, just a little bit in your body, you get a little butterflies or a little bit of emotion, or even if you think, "It's not me." That means it is you. You're the one. You are the one in your family.

• 4:50Speaker 01

  You vibrate at a very low frequency when you think negatively of yourself and when you don't believe good things about yourself or when you're acting in a way that's not congruent with who you really are.

• 5:01Speaker 01

  And so in a moment, you can decide, "I'm going to operate in truth." And the truth is, you were born to do something great with your life. All of you were. You were born to do something awesome with your life in big ways and small ways. That is the truth. That is the truth. And so now we're operating at a high-frequency level.

• 5:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  This is like breakthrough. Because when you believe that to be true about yourself, your whole vibration

• 5:21Speaker 01

  Changes.

• 5:22Jamie Kern Lima?

  Raises, you're in your power.

• 5:24Speaker 01

  Yes. So I got to tell you, so...

• 5:28Jamie Kern Lima?

  Before we jump into this episode, I'd love to invite you to join this community to hear more interviews and one-on-one conversations with me and you to help you truly believe in yourself, trust yourself and know you are enough so that you can become unstoppable in living your best life. All I want you to do is click on the subscribe button. I love your support. It's incredible to see your comments and how many of you are, you know, sharing these episodes with everyone else. And I'm just so grateful to be here for you and I'm so excited to go on this journey with you. So thank you for subscribing. It means so much to me.

• 6:10Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 6:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, some tips, tools, joy, and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You. If you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, Worthy is for you.

• 7:35Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 8:19Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 8:38Speaker 02

  Welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show.

• 8:42Jamie Kern Lima?

  Oprah, how have you defied the odds?

• 8:45Speaker 03

  Her show is unlike any I've ever done. A revelation. When you listen, it feels like a hug, but your brain and your spirit and your heart is like, wow.

• 8:56Jamie Kern Lima?

  Melinda French Gates.

• 8:58Speaker 04

  When I look into Jamie's eyes, I feel like I am on some other cosmic level with her.

• 9:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  I could see the light around her. She's infused with light. Imagine overcoming self doubt, learning to believe in yourself and trust yourself and know you are enough. Welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show.

• 9:20Speaker 03

  Jamie Kern Lima is her name. Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life.

• 9:24Jamie Kern Lima?

  Jamie Kern Lima.

• 9:29Speaker 05

  Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern Lima.

• 9:34Jamie Kern Lima?

  He's been named the top performance and mindset coach in the world by USA Today. He's a renowned global entrepreneur, a bestselling author, host of the Ed Mylett Show, which is now one of the fastest growing and most successful podcasts on the planet. He goes from sharing hardcore winning life and business strategies with his millions of followers online to having full out conversations with his three Pomeranians, Daisy, Lily, and Rose on Instagram. He is one of the very few people on the planet I call when I need to be reminded of the greatness that's in me on the days I am tempted to

• 10:14Jamie Kern Lima?

  forget it. And today he's going to ignite the greatness that is in you. He is one of my dear friends and today he's here to be one of yours. I am so excited for this episode. Ed Mylett, welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show.

• 10:32Speaker 01

  I am honored to be here and I love you. So thank you for having me. I'm glad we're going to record what our normal conversations are today.

• 10:39Jamie Kern Lima?

  I know. We were talking, like we have the most life changing conversations.

• 10:43Speaker 01

  We do.

• 10:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  And now we're just going to invite the one person watching or listening us in.

• 10:49Speaker 01

  I gotta tell you, I just wanna say this to you before we start. You're a blessing in my life. And I'm so grateful that God brought you into my life many years ago. And I don't know where I would be without you. So I just wanna let you know that upfront. I love you.

• 11:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  Are you here on my show to make me cry? To make me cry today? Oh, I love you. Thank you. Well, I am so excited because I just think of the one person watching and listening to today, who I know in every ounce of my being that this episode is gonna be for. That is the thing I'm the most excited about. For the person trying to overcome addiction, or hold their marriage or relationship together, or maintain hope during a season of setback. Ed, can you talk about what you call the power of one more?

• 11:39Speaker 01

  Yeah, well, I learned that from my dad, as you know. But my dad was an alcoholic. And so when I was growing up, till I was 15. And then we were driving to a Little League game. He was taking me to a Little League game one morning. And my life changed my life. My dad was not a crier. He's a man's man type of guy. He didn't think you're supposed to cry, which obviously I violate all the time. And he pulls the car over on the way to the game. And he wouldn't look at me, Jamie, at first. And he started to talk without looking at me. And he just says, Eddie, I'll never forget this. I'm gonna get, I'm gonna try to get sober one more time. That was the first time I ever heard that before. And I remember saying, Daddy, like, would it be any different this time? You've tried before.

• 12:22Speaker 01

  And he said, because this time I'm gonna do it because I love you. And I'd never, it makes me, I don't know why he'd do that to me. I don't remember ever hearing my dad say that prior to that time, ever. And he got emotional and I got emotional. And he said, I'm gonna try one more time. And then when he went away and he came back, I said, Daddy, are you never, are you never gonna drink again? And he said, I can't promise you that, Eddie. What I can promise you is I'm not gonna drink for one more day at a time. And those days stacked up for the remaining thirty-five years of his life, he never had another drink. So what I learned out of that was two things. One was the power of trying something one more time and the value of that.

• 13:03Speaker 01

  The other thing I learned for people that are going through those things is my dad linked that effort to love. Because love is greater than your fears. It's the one thing in your life that's greater than your fears or your emotions or the setbacks. Love is the greatest gift we have in our life and the power of how much he loved me and our family was greater than his addiction. And if you can begin to link these difficult times you have to the love you have for another person. Or even your pet, like your Pomeranians, like me, then you've got a superpower in you. And when we don't have that linkage is when we're weaker. And if you think about a good person, a good person usually won't do a whole lot for yourself.

• 13:42Speaker 01

  But you'll do a whole lot for people that you love. You'll usually, most good people will do more for people that they love and that they care about than they ever would for themselves. And so if you're that type of person, if you're gonna find your way out of whatever situation, you've gotta link it to the people that you love and make your greatest effort on their behalf. And that's what my dad did with One More. Yeah.

• 14:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  And it worked.

• 14:01Speaker 01

  It worked. Yeah. We're here today because of it. The other thing I learned is interesting. I know I've told you this privately, but the other thing we do as human beings is we discount ourselves. You know, we, we think, well, I'm not qualified to help other people because, you know, I've got this mistake I've made, or I've been divorced, or I've always been average and ordinary. Why would I ever do something great with my life, you know? And I think we do that. We use our failures as weapons against ourselves, or even our sins and our mistakes. And I know I've done that before. And so after I wrote The Power of One More, something, it literally changed my existence. I woke up one night, my wife, Christiana, and I was crying. She goes, babe, what's wrong? I said, someone helped Dad. Someone helped Dad. She goes, what?

• 14:43Speaker 01

  My head father already passed away. I'd already written the book. She goes, what? I said, I never, I never thought about this. Someone helped Dad when he was gonna take his own life. Someone helped my dad get sober. My dad's life changed because some precious human being stepped forward and said, I can help you. I can help you. And that person doesn't know it, but they changed my life. The ripple effect of helping one human being, one person in your life, that power of one more person you help is magnificent. And they don't know, whoever they are, that I'm his son. And I've been blessed to reach millions of people. That act of helping this one man, and my dad was gonna take his life. This one man in his time of greatest need changed my life and changed a lot of other

• 15:28Speaker 01

  people's lives. And my sister's like, wow, that's amazing. I said, that's not even the most amazing part. The most amazing part of it is what qualified whoever this person is to help my dad, because I didn't know who they were at the time. She said, I don't know. I said, well, it wasn't that they were perfect, or how smart they were, how amazing they've been in life. What qualified them was at one time, they were an alcoholic. They were a drug addict. They were lying. They were living in the shadows. They were ashamed. And actually, that's what helped them connect with my dad. Because as you know, we have a mutual friend who talks about this all the time, but you're most qualified in your life to help the person you used to be. And so ironically, God uses your mistakes, or your averageness, whatever you think it is, to qualify you to help other people that are just like you.

• 16:13Speaker 01

  And so that's the, that's the extension of the power of one more. That man, I found out who he is now, changed my entire life, and he didn't know it just because he stepped forward and was qualified to help my dad. And that qualification was his mistakes, not his perfection.

• 16:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  Woo.

• 16:27Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 16:28Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah. Yeah. So many of us, we think we need to hide our past mistakes, we should be shameful of them. And, and, and so many people are searching for their purpose, and they think maybe it's gonna come through their job, or through some great act of, you know, that the world celebrates. But you talk about that God can use your pain, right? For good.

• 16:50Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 16:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  And, and can you talk about that? Because a lot of people are searching for their purpose, and you think about how this one person helped your dad, who then, you know.

• 16:58Speaker 01

  I think probably, I've thought a lot about this for me too, and, and you, because you and I talk about this a lot. If you can survive pain, temporary pain in your life, and all pain is temporary, everything's temporary except our souls. You know, if you can survive temporary pain, on the other side of that pain, you meet another version of you. There's some characteristics, some learning, some lessons, some emotions, some understanding that God gives you for your pain, if you survive it. So I've actually looked at, I think people that are happy and successful, to some extent, they develop a different relationship with pain than people who just only suffer through it. And so, you know, I'm going through something even right now, as you know today, that's pretty uncomfortable and painful.

• 17:42Speaker 01

  But what I keep reminding myself is, the cool part about it is, once this is over, I get another version of me out of it. And that lesson that I'll learn, God's gonna use for me to qualify with somebody else who's gonna go through some form of pain. So, I really look at pain much differently in life, as it can, I don't want it in my life, I would prefer to not have any. But I'm also a realist after 52 years, like, I look at a pattern in my life, I go through painful things, and so do most people. And I think your relationship with it, or your belief about what it means, can change everything and give you the, give you the faith, give you the confidence, give you the strength to persevere through pain. And I, I, it breaks my heart that most people don't understand, if they were to look back at their life, most of the beautiful experiences of their life came after something painful.

• 18:28Speaker 01

  And so, I would just recommend anybody, if you're going through it right now, my prayer for you is that you have the wisdom to know, it's temporary. This soon will pass, this too will pass. But on the other side of it, there's a gift waiting for you, if you look for it.

• 18:40Jamie Kern Lima?

  What you just said is so powerful. And the, and, and the fact that in the midst of your pain, on the other side of it is a new version

• 18:51Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 18:52Jamie Kern Lima?

  of you.

• 18:53Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 18:53Jamie Kern Lima?

  And, for everybody listening right now, can, I wasn't even planning to ask you this, but it reminded me of something that you have shared. I've seen you share this in stadiums where everyone just starts sobbing, because this is such a powerful concept. But when we think about the things that we go through, and that other version of us waiting on the other side, can you talk about? How you envision meeting the version of you one day that you were born to be? This is a story for everyone listening right now. Because ever since I heard you say this, I think about this all the time. I think about this all the time. Can you share this? Because listen up, everybody.

• 19:35Speaker 01

  Well, I do too. I think about it all the time. So maybe I'm weird in the sense that I like to think about the end of my life. It's okay with me to think about that. And because it gives me perspective on what matters now. And so to me, when you pass away, I mean, in my faith as a Christian, all I really want is the Lord to go, hey, well done, good and faithful servant. Get your butt in here. You know, that's, that's what I want. But having said that, whatever your faith is,

• 20:02Speaker 01

  I think that you meet who you could have been. I think you get introduced to the ultimate version of you. And so.

• 20:09Jamie Kern Lima?

  Like when you pass, you get, you get to heaven, whatever you believe.

• 20:12Speaker 01

  I think when you, yeah, I do. I think when you get to heaven, this is my hallucination that the Lord's gonna go, this is who I made you to be. Meet it, meet her, meet him. And in my opinion, you know, when I get there, I, I want to be identical twins. I want to get everything out of my life. I say, max out your life. I want to become that person. And to me, heaven, a form of heaven for me would be that when I get there, we're identical twins. I say, man, I've been chasing you all my life. All my life I've been chasing you. And for the ultimate me to look back and go, man, I was watching you. And you know what? You fell down that one time. I didn't know if you were gonna get up. And man, you blew it in that chapter. You completely screwed that one up. But you know what? You kept getting up. You kept getting up. You kept getting up and learning that lesson and improving and growing.

• 20:56Speaker 01

  And then you'd have another setback. And then you thought you had it figured out and then you don't. And you know what? You got here. You did it. You did it. You maxed out your life. You had all the emotions you were supposed to experience. You made all the memories. You made the difference in the world. You felt and lived life the way you were supposed to, the way you were born, born to have it. And for me, that's heaven. Hell would be the reverse, which is I get there and we're total strangers. That at some point, he goes, I saw you and you had such promise and potential and you got up that one time and the next time you got up, but then you didn't. And you quit on your dreams, you quit on your family, you quit on your potential, you quit on your emotions and your your memories and so many people unfortunately

• 21:38Speaker 01

  have quit and my message would be you could still get up, it's not too late, right? It's not too late because to me it would be hell to go, we're total strangers. And when I look at that version of me where I don't get there, I pictured the ultimate me saying to me, I've never said this to you before, but lately I've been picturing the ultimate me going, Ed, what happened? What happened? And I know what the answer would be if I don't become me. I know what would have held me back. And what I would have said was, and this is why your work with Worthy is so profound, by the way. What I would have said is, I quit getting up because I was scared. I was scared I wasn't enough. I was scared this was too big for me. I was scared about what other people were gonna think about me.

• 22:23Speaker 01

  And I was more afraid than I loved my family, than I loved the people around me. And I gave into my fears rather than embracing the love. And I don't want that to ever happen. I want when my life ends for me to go, I love the people around me enough to keep getting up. That that love was bigger than how afraid I was. And I think what ends up happening if we don't get there someday, we don't have the emotions we we deserve to have, the memories we deserve to have, the life we deserve to have. It will be because we were afraid. And in, and more I become familiar with your work, we're afraid we're not worthy enough. We're afraid we're just not worth it. And I don't want that to happen. So I just remind myself that my love for the people around me is greater than how afraid I am.

• 23:09Speaker 01

  Yeah, and they're worth it.

• 23:11Jamie Kern Lima?

  They're worth it. I have like full chills, like full chills. And the person listening right now

• 23:18Jamie Kern Lima?

  dimming their light, doubting themselves out of their own destiny. What you just said? I want the love for my family for to be more than my fears. And and you arriving to heaven, not becoming the person that you were born to be or created to be is you saying, I let my fears be greater than my love for my family.

• 23:44Speaker 01

  I was literally driving here today, Jamie, and Christiana is in our garage doing some cleaning because I have her do all the manual labor in our house. And um,

• 23:52Jamie Kern Lima?

  I know that to be true.

• 23:53Speaker 01

  It actually is true. She's told you that. And um, but to along your point, because it's emotional for me. She sent me some pictures of my grandparents. And this was just driving up here today. And maybe she sent them to me because I'm having a rough day, you know, but one of them was of my Papa. And who I'm named after, I'm Edward Michael Joseph Mylett the third. And um, when I was a little boy, Papa was the person that made me feel special. And what I would say to people listening or watching is when you were a little boy or a little girl, hopefully, there was like that one person. That when they would look at you, and if you if you did have that person picture their face right now, just when they when you were with them, they made you feel special.

• 24:35Speaker 01

  Like you were born to do something great with your life. You just felt something about you when you were around them. And for me, it was my my Papa, he would, he wasn't my dad at that time. It was his dad. I remember my grandfather Papa would pick me up on Sundays. We'd go get donuts for all my cousins before we'd go to church. And he had this blue van. And he would pick me up and he was this big man to me, you know, and I would look at him as a little boy sitting in the seat. Finally, he let me sit in this passenger seat next to him. He was funny. He'd drive by people and honk and just wave at total strangers. And I thought Papa knew everybody. But but he would look at me and he'd go, Eddie,

• 25:10Speaker 01

  you were born to do something great with your life. You're the special one. You're awesome. I go, I am big, Papa. He goes, you are. You're my favorite. And he would always tell me he was I was his favorite. He had all these grandkids. I was the oldest one. And every time another grandkid was born, you'll get a kick out of this. I remember vividly, he called me one time. He goes, I was eight. He goes, he goes, Eddie, your cousin Peter was born today. He's amazing. He's got our blue eyes. I said, he does, Papa? He goes, he's incredible. Six pounds, seven ounces. He goes, he's awesome. I go, that's great. He goes, but. You're my favorite. And he made me feel special. For most of us, maybe it was a coach, or a teacher, or an auntie, or a grandparent, or our mom, or our dad.

• 25:52Speaker 01

  What I would just say to you about if they made you feel that way, you probably even get emotional when you think about them. If they're gone especially. What I would just tell you is.

• 26:03Speaker 01

  They were right.

• 26:05Speaker 01

  They were right. If you had that person, they were right about you. And maybe the rest of the world hasn't recognized it yet and treated you that way, but they knew. They knew. And if you have that person in your life, honor them with who you become. If they're here, do it so they can be proud of you. And if they're gone, honor them with the man or woman you're changing into. Cause in my case, I'll remind myself Papa was right. Papa was right. And even looking at that picture of him just. An hour ago. As I was coming up here. Just it made me feel something. And so, by the way, the cool thing about life is you could be that person in other people's lives if you wanted to be, you could be their Papa. By giving them the gift of your belief in them.

• 26:43Speaker 01

  And then they, then, then you're contributing to people's worthiness by being that person. That's sort of what you and I kind of in a microcosm try to do with our own lives. It's not that complicated to be me or you. I just love and believe in people. And I try to find things in them that they know to be true about them and to let them know that's why they're worthy. That's why they're amazing. It's not that complicated to be that person.

• 27:06Jamie Kern Lima?

  And talk about finding your purpose. Don't you find that when you know you've been that person, even if it's someone at Starbucks that you don't even know, or someone at the gas station, you don't even know, whatever it is that you just, it's that soul filling thing and all you did was.

• 27:20Speaker 01

  For me, it's like almost a selfish act to believe in people. Because it makes me feel good about me. It makes me feel good, almost like I'm doing. You know, cause I'm such an average person and a flawed person. But I do remind myself, it's that averageness and those flaws that qualify me. And. I don't know, when I'm in that way, I feel like I'm the best version of me. Like I'm doing some form of God's work. Like I'm whispering God's words into them, not my own. And I, I'd selfish because I feel good about me when I believe in other people and when I'm kind to people. And extend belief in people. It's kind of makes me feel like that's my purpose. And you said something really important earlier that you and I talk about privately all the time. If you're looking for your purpose, you said it earlier.

• 28:04Speaker 01

  It's probably somewhere buried in some pain you've been through. Right, like in your case, the way you inspire people about their their worthiness comes because there was so much of your life where you didn't feel that. There's so many experiences you've had overcoming really difficult times, even if you had progress, like when you were building your cosmetics company. And people connect and relate to you because not just because you're this amazing soul, but because you found your purpose in all that pain you went through. It's a cool part of life once you discover that.

• 28:35Jamie Kern Lima?

  I know, you know, you talked about about your dad, your grandpa, your whole journey. And and you talk about this idea of being the one in your family. Right. And I I know for so many people, and really just that one person listening right now, the one person listening right now, who, you know, maybe doesn't have people around them that think the way they do or dream the way they do. Or or or they're just on this road where they're like, you know, can I be the one to break a generational cycle, you know? But the majority don't.

• 29:17Jamie Kern Lima?

  The majority stay with what's comfortable, repeat cycles, want to feel love and belonging and almost feel like if they are a little bit different or dream a little bit bigger, that something's wrong with them.

• 29:31Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 29:31Jamie Kern Lima?

  Or that they don't fit in, when in fact, they might be the one.

• 29:36Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 29:37Jamie Kern Lima?

  In their family, can you share this idea? Because I know it is going to speak to someone's soul today. There is so much more coming up in this episode. You are not going to want to miss it. But first, I wanted to share this with you. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy, How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You. If you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, Worthy is for you. In Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps

• 30:22Jamie Kern Lima?

  that bring life-changing results, like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back.

• 30:30Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 31:12Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 31:54Jamie Kern Lima?

  to make sure you're on the list, and you'll get your One-on-One with Jamie weekly newsletter, and get ready to believe in you. If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, some tips, tools, joy, and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes. And now, more of this incredible conversation together.

• 32:24Speaker 01

  Well, like you're the one, you are, and so have I become the one. See, here's the interesting, when you see like a really happy, I remember when I was a little boy, because of what was going on in my house, if we would go out, or other families on our street, there would be these happy families. And I go, I wonder what it's like to be in a happy family. Not that my family didn't have joy, I don't want to overcook that, but there was stress, there was angst. If you grew up in a house where there was just that... I don't know, anxiety, right? And I remember like even in our neighborhood, the other kids were kind of afraid of my dad. They could hear my dad yelling, you know? And I remember seeing the other houses where the dad just seemed chill and calm and, you know? I don't know.

• 33:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  Did your neighbors know your dad was alcoholic?

• 33:08Speaker 01

  I don't know if they knew he was an alcoholic, but I think they knew he was loose. I guess is the way I would say it. He could snap, right? I don't think they probably connected it to alcohol. But they definitely knew the Mylett house, there's some noise going on over there, to put it mildly. Um, yeah, you could see my dad other days and he was the coolest dad in the world. But there were just those days where you're, I don't know if any of you had that. There's a sense of shame that comes with being a part of a dysfunctional family. Shame and worry. And, you know, I know what that's like. And to almost wish I was in another family. And I remember as a little boy, I had these, I had a couple of dreams, I was adopted. Which ironically, you were, right?

• 33:50Speaker 01

  But I would have these dreams like I was adopted, but my real family's somewhere else and they're happy. And so I always wanted to see these families. And what I found out in my life as I got older is that when you see a really happy family, or even like a rich family, somewhere back in their lineage, they weren't. They weren't. Until the one shows up. And in every family, there's a one. There's the one. And that one person changes a family lineage forever. It brings joy and bliss and peace and faith to a family when it lacked it before. Or it brings affluence and wealth and influence to a family when it lacked it before. And in every family, there's the one. And in my family, I'm the one.

• 34:35Speaker 01

  My dad set the table, but the change he made by getting sober, but I'm the one who got up early. I'm the one who everyone thought was crazy, that everyone criticized. I'm the one who stopped hiding, to quote you, in plain sight. I hid in plain sight. I know exactly what that means when it's in your work. It's one of the most profound things you speak about. I know what it's like to finally go, I'm not gonna hide anymore. And I'm not gonna believe that I'm crazy. And by the way, I think crazy people rule the world. I think crazy, unusual, weird people are the one. And so I'm the one who got up late. I'm the one who took the hits. I'm the one who people rejected. I'm the one who had to carry the emotional burden of changing our family. And it's so worth it because my nieces and nephews, they don't think like I thought when I grew up. They've got dreams and ambitions and they believe in themselves and they're good people and they contribute.

• 35:19Speaker 01

  And I'm proud of the fact. And so if you're listening to this, if it even affects you at all, just a little bit in your body, you get a little butterflies or a little bit of emotion, or even if you think it's not me, that means it is you. You're the one. You are the one in your family. And there's this great author named Broderick, and she calls the one, she calls it a generational character, someone, a transitional character. They transition a family from a family that maybe didn't have faith or bliss and joy and love and laughter, into one who does, a family with, you know, the world doesn't have their thumb on the Mylett family anymore. We're calling the shots now, right? We're gonna get a decent education in our family. We're gonna give to the world. We're gonna contribute a little bit. The Mylett's are gonna do something awesome, right?

• 36:03Speaker 01

  And so if you're listening to this, you can be the one in your family. And all it really is, is seriously, it's just a shift. You have to jump up and down about it. It's just a decision. You're one decision away. You talk about the power of one more. You truly are in your life. You are one decision away from completely transforming and changing your life. That's the benchmark. Now, it may not happen that day, but you're one decision away. And usually those decisions aren't made real loudly. It's just a, like for me, it's like a shift. It's like, you know what? I'm gonna start walking a little different. I'm gonna start talking a little bit different. I'm gonna bow my shoulders back a little bit. You know what? I'm gonna be the one. I don't know when it's gonna happen, but it's gonna happen.

• 36:47Speaker 01

  And I'm very proud of the fact. I mean, there's not a lot of things I'm proud of in my life, but I'm proud of the fact that our family is different now. And if you're listening to this, you're the one. It's not by coincidence we're talking about this today. It's not by coincidence you listen to Jamie. Anyone who's listening to you and is a part of this amazing show you have now, there's something about their soul that's stirred. That they're like, I think it could be me. I hope it's me. Please let it be me. And if you have any of that in you, you're special. Not everybody goes through life like that. Not everybody cares. Not everybody wants to make a difference. And so if you have that, it's you. It's you. You just need someone to tell you. So we're telling you, you're the one. So let's do it.

• 37:31Speaker 01

  So yeah, that's, that's the power of one more. It's the power of being the one.

• 37:36Jamie Kern Lima?

  Will you share, I know this is a real personal thing, but growing up and hearing the keys

• 37:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  in the door lock.

• 37:46Speaker 01

  Wow.

• 37:47Jamie Kern Lima?

  And going from that moment

• 37:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  to deciding you're the one.

• 37:54Speaker 01

  You're trying to make me cry.

• 38:05Speaker 01

  I don't know why that makes me emotional, because I talk about this, but

• 38:11Speaker 01

  maybe because it's you, because I know the pain you had as a child too.

• 38:16Speaker 01

  I only really have two talents. Truthfully, and but they're they're good talents. And so one of them is I love people and I connect with people really well. And the other one, I'm a pretty good communicator. Beyond that, I'll bring a whole lot to the table. And but they they were born out of pain.

• 38:38Speaker 01

  And the main one is the pain of when my dad would come home after drinking. And I would, you know, make sure that my mom and my sisters were going to be safe. And so I would literally, I would sit by the front door. And when my dad would come home, I could tell by the sound of the key made in the lock, whether he was drinking or not. I got to that point where if it went in really smooth, I have thought, OK, we're OK tonight. And if it kind of rattled a little bit, dad was probably going to be in a foul mood. And so I would wait for him to come through the door. And I could hear the sound that key made, and I knew to this day, when I hear a key hit a lock, there's a trigger in me. To this day. My hotel I'm staying at right now, I didn't hear the

• 39:23Speaker 01

  housekeeper come, and she was putting the key in the door by the time I heard it. And that even kind of triggers me. And so what would happen is my dad would walk through that front door, and I would just start immediately reading him. What's his tie tied like? What's his body language? Can I smell any alcohol on him? How's he walking? Is his tie tied straight? And I began to read with him. I'd be fully present with my dad. And that was the beginning of me being fully present with people. I didn't know that God was using that pain for those years of reading my dad to give me the skill to be somebody who's good in business at connecting or having a podcast and connecting because I'm so connected to people and I loved my dad so much. I wanted him to be okay.

• 40:04Speaker 01

  And so that part of it has stayed with me forever and it developed me the main talent that I have in my life is the connection with people. And then once if I figured out he was drinking, I'd have to talk to change his state. Hey dad, how was your day? It was okay. I'd say, well, man, my day was great daddy. It was? What did you do? I got a 93 on my spelling test. I hit a home run in baseball. Where'd you hit it? And I would change my dad's state by my talking and my communicating. And my goal was to get him away from the liquor cabinet and over to the couch because if he was going to the liquor cabinet, my dad's drink was beef eaters gin. And I remember just if I could get him away from there, everything was okay. And what I didn't know as a little boy, as God was using this pain for this little boy that I was going through

• 40:47Speaker 01

  to develop in me the two traits that I would use to help other people the rest of my life. My connecting with people, my ability to communicate. And so that's that, that's the perfect example of the temporary pain leading to you being the one. And then I think what happened was I just loved my family so much. I had Burt Kreischer on my show recently, Jamie. And this is why it's so important. We're always overcoming our wiring as a kid. We still are to this day. And I told Burt, we're talking about drinking and, and I said, what kind of a dad are you? And he, you know, he's a humble guy. He says, I'm a six out of 10 or whatever. And we were talking about his drinking. He's known for, you know, that.

• 41:27Speaker 01

  And I said, you know, Burt, the number one thing that my dad's drinking did to me wasn't that I was afraid or that, you know, I, I, or we were going to be hurt or anything like that. What it did to me as a little boy is it caused me to worry.

• 41:43Speaker 01

  I would worry about my dad. I would worry he wasn't gonna make it home. I was worried he was gonna get in a car accident. Someone was gonna hurt him. I would worry. And that created this pattern of me, of a worrier. And as I got older and older and older, no matter what happened in my life, I would go back to that pattern of worry and fear over and over again. And so it's a matter of, for me, is like, for me to be the one, I had to escape this worry and fear that I had in my life. And once I identified what it was, it allowed me to be the person that changed our family forever, so.

• 42:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  I know you used to try to protect your mom and your sisters if he was coming in drunk. And for so many people, and maybe for the person right now, who was raised around hard things and is in a spot where they've been repeating them.

• 42:34Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 42:35Jamie Kern Lima?

  How, right now, if they are 20, or 30, or 60, or 70, how, right now, can they make the decision to be the one?

• 42:51Speaker 01

  I can tell you for sure, I know. The way that you change where you are in your life is, these things that you believe about yourself that are negatives, aren't true. They're not true. And remember this. If you start telling yourself the truth about who you are, to quote your work and your worthiness, you can change this. And so, these things that you think about yourself are not true. And truth vibrates at the highest frequency. So what's happening is, you vibrate at a very low frequency when you think negatively of yourself, and when you don't believe good things about yourself, or when you're acting in a way that's not congruent with who you really are. And so in a moment, you can decide, I'm gonna operate in truth. And the truth is, you were born to do something great with your life. All of you were. You were born to do something awesome with your life, in big ways and small ways.

• 43:35Speaker 01

  That is the truth. That is the truth. And so, now we're operating at a high-frequency level. When you operate at a high-frequency level, it's from that position that you can make changes and adjustments in your life. So for me, when I need to make a change, I operate in truth about me. So if I'm going through a difficult time, I'll tell myself the truth. Built for this. I was built for this. I have a powerful God who believes in me. His DNA runs through me. I am built for this. And when I begin to tell myself any truth about me, man, I vibrated a very high frequency. When I'm telling myself lies about me, that I'm weak and inferior and small and not very smart and all these things that I learned as a little boy. Now I'm operating in lies. And that's a very low vibrational frequency and I'm weak. I feel like Superman.

• 44:20Speaker 01

  When I'm telling myself the truth about me. And you will feel like superwoman or Superman when you begin to tell yourself the truth about who you really are. And when you tell yourself the truth about how you really are, you feel it. There's something about you that goes. And here's for me, the truth. The truth isn't that I'm super talented. The truth isn't that I have a super high IQ. But I can tell you this, there's a power to intention. As you know that I talk about this a lot. I don't link my confidence to my abilities because Wayne Dyer taught me this when I was a young man. Cause you know what? My abilities may let me down. My results may let me down. But one thing I know about me, my intentions are good. I have good intentions. Today, before I came over here, you and I both, we prayed, I guarantee you, before I got here, you said a prayer. I know you.

• 45:03Speaker 01

  I said a prayer as well. My prayer isn't that I'm amazing. My prayer is that I connect to my intention. My intention is to help people, to, to serve, to contribute. Of all of my weaknesses and frailties and mistakes. I intuitively believe about me that I'm a good person. I've been with me all my life. I know me. I, I, you couldn't probably convince me I'm super smart or unbelievably talented or any of that. But you could convince me I'm a good human. And for most people listening to this, you know that about yourself too. You just don't give yourself any credit for it. There's a power to intention. Listen to me. There's a power to intention.

• 45:44Speaker 01

  And when you connect your confidence or even your worthiness, and you've taught me the difference between confidence and worthiness, to your intent. You become pretty unstoppable because that's a truth about you. So the truth about me. As I care, the truth is, I wanna do good. I don't always do good, but my intentions are good. And so, that's such a truth about me, then I'm superhuman cuz I'm vibrating at a high frequency cuz I'm telling myself the truth about me. So the truth doesn't have to be, I'm amazing, I'm super talented, I'm beautiful, I'm this. Maybe you don't believe those things about yourself yet. That doesn't matter. Are you a good person? Are your intentions pure? Now, when you connect to intent, that's a truth, right? And that's why eventually, I believe good people win.

• 46:29Speaker 01

  I just think good people eventually win because they're connected to truth and their intentions. So for me, it's always comes back to my intentions. Right before we did this today, in the green room, before you came over and we took our walk together, I just said a quick prayer to myself, reminded myself, I intend to serve. I intend to serve. Everything will be okay from there.

• 46:47Jamie Kern Lima?

  This is so, so, so, so, so good.

• 46:49Speaker 01

  It is good.

• 46:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  This is like breakthrough. So many people are in this cycle of self-doubt.

• 46:56Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 46:57Jamie Kern Lima?

  And they go, I wanna believe I'm enough. I wanna believe I'm worthy. And I don't know how to.

• 47:02Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 47:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  I don't know how to do it. This strategy?

• 47:06Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 47:06Jamie Kern Lima?

  This strategy?

• 47:07Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 47:08Jamie Kern Lima?

  Link your worth to your intentions, right? Cuz when you believe that to be true about yourself, your whole vibration

• 47:16Speaker 01

  Changes.

• 47:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  raises, you're in your power.

• 47:18Speaker 01

  Yes. So, I gotta tell you, so, we have a friend, John Gordon, talks about his different D's, right? He's got these different D's he talks about. I really have three D's. That I, so, let's reverse it. If I wanted you to fail, if I was, if you believe in the adversary, let's say, right? Or just, forget you even believe in the adversary, the devil, you just believe in adversity. If I wanted to get you to fail, what would I try to get you to feel? I'd get you to feel three things. If I want you to fail, if I want you to quit on your dreams,

• 47:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 47:44Speaker 01

  Okay? Quit on your business, quit on your family, quit believing in you. What would I need to get you to feel? One of three, or all three D's. The first thing I'd try to get you to be is totally discouraged. Cuz if I can get you discouraged, discouragement is a weapon of the adversary. So if I can just get you a little failure, a little setback, a little discouraged, I can get you to quit. If that doesn't work, here's what I'm gonna give you. I'm gonna give you a dose of doubt. Let me just dose you with some doubt. Doubt about your abilities, doubt you're worthy of it, doubt your, your intentions are good, doubt your confidence level, doubt. If I can get you doubting. I got you. Or if that doesn't work, I'll hit you with delusion.

• 48:25Speaker 01

  Delusion is I get you to believe things that aren't true. I get you delusional. Or I get you to believe your problem is way bigger than it is. A lot of people, when they have a problem in their life, they start thought stacking it, repeating it over and over and making it bigger. It becomes a delusion. Or some little mistake they've made, they repeat it over and over again. It becomes this delusional huge thing. So if those are the three things that can take me off of my game, or off of my dream, or off of my heavenly pursuit to become the man or woman I was born to be, I rid them out of my life when I see them. I go, I know what this is. This is that whole discouragement thing. They're trying to discourage me. They're trying to get me to doubt. They're trying to get me to be delusional. And so I look for those things and I identify them when they're there.

• 49:09Speaker 01

  And then I always go back to truth. The truth is, God would never want you doubting. God would never want you totally discouraged. And God certainly doesn't want you delusional. So that's a lie. That's a low vibrational frequency. The truth, which operates at the highest frequency, like we've talked about, is that you were born to do something great with your life. And if you connect it to your intentions, you're unstoppable.

• 49:33Speaker 01

  Wow, we're going there today, aren't we?

• 49:34Jamie Kern Lima?

  This is so, so, so good.

• 49:36Speaker 01

  This is really good.

• 49:37Jamie Kern Lima?

  Because a lot of people sit around and think, and they're not realizing they're giving themselves the three Ds. We get the three Ds from all around us all day long. And so often, we're giving ourselves the three Ds. Discouragement, doubt, delusion, right? And then we're like taking ourselves out to the point where it's easy for someone to believe that's the truth, but it's not the truth. You feel it in your spirit. And if you're like, okay, but I keep failing, okay, but everyone's telling me I don't have what it takes. And you're saying, A, that's a lie. And B, when you operate in your truth, whether it is what does God say about you? Whether it's the things you know to be true? Or whether it's linking it to your good intentions?

• 50:17Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 50:17Jamie Kern Lima?

  Your good intentions.

• 50:19Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 50:21Speaker 01

  It's totally true. And the other thing, delusion also can be a vision issue. I know you've heard me talk about this, but like, here's another thing, here's part of what what delusion looks like. Delusion is, so the Bible talks about where there's, you know, where there is no vision, the people will perish. So I've really thought a lot about that. For most people I meet, they have some kind of vision. Like, if you ask the average person, or ask anybody, listen to this, average person like me, will you want to be happy or sad? What's your vision? They'd say, happy. You want to be wealthy or in poverty? They probably say, I'd like to be wealthy. You want to be able to contribute and make a difference in your life or not? They probably say, I want to contribute. Do you want great memories in your life, or you don't want any memories? Most people would say, I would love some memories in my life. What the adversary gets you to do, or our vision gets murky, is we believe it's further away than it is.

• 51:07Speaker 01

  We believe it's like 15, 20 years from now. Because we believe it's so far away, we create patterns and behaviors and belief systems that perpetually keep it there. And we keep things so far away, but that's a great lie. The truth is, you're one decision away from changing your life, your one new relationship, your one podcast interview, your one new thought, right into one new emotion, one connection away from totally changing your life. But if you believe it's so far away, you may miss the very people around you, the very thoughts around you that could have delivered it for you sooner. And so that's another power of one more is that it's this close. It may take a while to get there, but if you always believe it's that far away, that's delusional. It's a delusion. And that delusion will get you to miss everything around you. There's this part of your brain

• 51:51Speaker 01

  called the reticular activating system that, you know, I talk about a lot. And what it does is it's a prover. It proves you're right. It gives you things. It makes you notice, hear, see, feel things in your life that validate your beliefs. So, or are important to you. So that's why, like, I bought a Tesla a while ago. All of a sudden, after I bought this Tesla, I saw Teslas all over the road. It drove Christiana crazy. I'd be like, three lanes over, babe, red Tesla. She's like, what is wrong with you? Right Tesla? Those Teslas were always there. Why all of a sudden am I seeing them? Everyone's had that experience. I'm seeing them because they're important to me now. Right? Here's the hook. What if your dreams and your ambitions and your, your emotions that you want are that become the Teslas?

• 52:33Speaker 01

  And you believe there could be one away. Now you see things that were always there that you were oblivious to before. And that's the power of having a truth in your life and not being delusional.

• 52:45Jamie Kern Lima?

  The D, third D, delusional. I feel like we are unlearning the lies.

• 52:49Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 52:49Jamie Kern Lima?

  Today.

• 52:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 52:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  Like knocking them down one after another.

• 52:53Speaker 01

  Good.

• 52:53Jamie Kern Lima?

  That lead to self doubt. If you're getting value out of this conversation with Ed Mylett, oh my goodness, you are not gonna wanna miss what's coming up. In fact, it is so good, we had to do a part two. Here is a sneak peek of what's coming up in episode two with Ed Mylett.

• 53:17Speaker 01

  I wanna express this so profoundly. I love that you just, it's my favorite topic ever on any show I've ever done. And no one's ever talked to me about this before.

• 53:26Speaker 01

  I've conflated in my life too many times, the difference between significance and love.

• 53:34Speaker 01

  And so, when I was a little boy, actually, when I was a big boy, even now,

• 53:41Speaker 01

  I felt loved if I did something significant. So if I brought home straight A's. Eddie, we're so proud of you. Or if I hit a home run, or I got big muscles, or I made hundreds of millions of dollars, or I had an island, or I got a jet, or whatever it was, that recognition felt like love.

• 54:04Speaker 01

  But it's a reduced version of it. So all my life, I've been trying to earn it.

• 54:11Speaker 01

  And earn it. And the truth is, I'm just realizing now.

• 54:17Speaker 01

  I don't have to earn it. It's my birthright. God gave it to me.

• 54:22Jamie Kern Lima?

  I wanna talk to you, I wanna ask you something I've never asked you before.

• 54:25Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 54:26Jamie Kern Lima?

  Not even in our regular conversations. I've never asked you about this before.

• 54:31Speaker 01

  Oh, whoa. Whoa, whoa, I've never been asked that one. Um, wow, wow, wow. Okay. You're amazing. Now you're gonna make me really emotional, but.

• 54:44Speaker 01

  To just melt back down and cool back down to what I was worth. And I'll never forget the day because I literally watched my dreams walk out the door. But the moment was bigger than my worthiness in that moment. And wow, look at you.

• 55:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  Literally athletes, the best athletes in the world. I know that you coach presidents and world leaders. You coach so many different people. And to overcome their limiting beliefs.

• 55:13Speaker 01

  Believe it or not, it's their confidence or their worthiness level.

• 55:17Jamie Kern Lima?

  And I remember asking you, what is it? And you said that you can see God.

• 55:25Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 55:25Jamie Kern Lima?

  In that person.

• 55:27Speaker 01

  That's correct.

• 55:28Jamie Kern Lima?

  Every single person.

• 55:29Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 55:32Jamie Kern Lima?

  And that shifted me.

• 55:35Speaker 01

  See, people think, oh, a gift is I look like Beyonce or I sing like Beyonce. Or I'm strong like The Rock, Dwayne Johnson. Those are gifts because they're very visible gifts. But most human beings' gifts are subtle and quiet and beautiful. It's their nurturing ability. It's their kindness. It's their intention. It's their humor. It's their intellect. It's their problem solving ability, right? It's their resiliency. It's their toughness. It's their faith. It's their strength.

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  It is impossible to see God in them and judge them.

• 56:10Speaker 01

  Amen.

• 56:11Jamie Kern Lima?

  At the same time.

• 56:12Speaker 01

  Oh, I love you.

• 56:13Jamie Kern Lima?

  Right?

• 56:13Speaker 01

  That's exactly right.

• 56:14Jamie Kern Lima?

  Right?

• 56:15Speaker 01

  But.

• 56:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  And I'm watching them all of a sudden not feel judged by you. So now they feel safe. All right, this is going to get controversial. This is going to get controversial.

• 56:24Speaker 01

  Uh oh.

• 56:24Jamie Kern Lima?

  You have said, one of the most insidious forms of child neglect is a parent that does not go after their dreams.

• 56:34Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:37Speaker 01

  I think you're neglecting your children when you don't pursue your dreams and your potential.

• 56:41Jamie Kern Lima?

  That's big what you just said because a lot of people say, well, I'm really good at loving my kids. That's enough. You're saying, oh, but it's actually caught.

• 56:51Speaker 01

  It's caught.

• 56:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  Not taught. And if they don't see you loving you.

• 56:56Speaker 01

  Say this because I've never said this on any show before, but it's you, so I'll say it. I can't believe I'm saying this with you now.

• 57:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  For everyone listening, just holding out for hope or for love in their life.

• 57:12Jamie Kern Lima?

  Would you mind just taking a moment and just speaking into them?

• 57:15Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm. And in your life, you're qualified to help anybody that you used to be. And so if you've been in pain and you're in a little bit less pain, you can help people in pain. If you've not believed in yourself for a little while, maybe you believe just a little bit more today, you can help people who need that belief.

• 57:33Speaker 01

  I've done that good. I've done that really good with my kids. I've done that really good with them. And I would just recommend to everybody, if you have a chance to tell another human being about them, tell them. God chose you to change the world. That's what kept my head when we were talking today. That's what I was thinking. It's gonna use you a lot of different ways. It's not just the speaking. It's this too. Like, you're doing something here. Like, I've never cried like that. And the only other time I ever cried in an interview is when you interviewed me. Only two times ever. You, you, this is, you need to be doing this.

• 58:06Speaker 01

  Look, everyone's crying in here, buddy.

• 58:08Jamie Kern Lima?

  I have one more thing to share with you, but before I do, if you got value out of this episode, my only ask is that you please share it. Share it with another person in your life who could benefit from it. Post it and share it with others online or in your community who just might need the words and tools and lessons in this episode today. You never know whose life you're meant to change today by sharing this episode. And thank you so much for joining me today. And before you go, I want to share some words with you that couldn't be more true. You, right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy.

• 58:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  You're worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams, and all the unconditional love in the world. And it is an honor to welcome you to each episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Here, I hope you'll come as you are, heal where you need. Blossom what you choose, journey toward your calling, and stay as long as you'd like, because you belong here. You are worthy, you are loved, you are love, and I love you. And I cannot wait to join you on the next episode. This is the Jamie Kern Lima Show. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams, you stay stuck at the level

• 59:33Jamie Kern Lima?

  of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You. If you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, Worthy is for you. In Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps that bring life-changing results, like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back, build unshakable self-love, unlearn the lies that lead to self-doubt, and embrace the truths that wake up worthiness,

• 1:00:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  overcome limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome, achieve your hopes and dreams by believing you are worthy of them, and so much more. Are you ready to unleash your greatness and step into the person you were born to be? Imagine a life with zero self-doubt and unshakable self-worth. Get your copy of Worthy, plus some amazing thank you bonus gifts for you at worthybook.com or the link in the show notes below. Imagine what you'd do if you fully believed in you. It's time to find out with Worthy. Do you struggle with negative self-talk?

• 1:01:01Jamie Kern Lima?

  Living with a constant mental narrative that you're not good enough is exhausting. I know because I spent most of my life in that habit. The words you say to yourself about yourself are so powerful. And when you learn to take control over your self-talk, it's life-changing. And I wanted to give you a free resource that I created for you if this is something that could benefit your life. It's called "Five Ways to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Love." And it's a free how-to guide to overcome that negative self-talk to build confidence

• 1:01:40Jamie Kern Lima?

  and develop unshakable self-love so that you can dream big and keep going in the pursuit of your goals. Don't let self-sabotaging thoughts hinder your progress any longer. It's time to rewrite the script of your life, one filled with self-love, resilience, and unwavering belief. If you're ready to take charge of your narrative, build unwavering confidence, and empower yourself to persevere on the path to your dreams, you can grab your free guide to Stop Overthinking and Learn to Trust Yourself at jamiekernlima.com/resources or click the link in the show notes below. It's such an honor to share this podcast together with you.

• 1:02:25Jamie Kern Lima?

  And please note, I'm not a licensed therapist and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.