502 Find Freedom Through Using Your Voice with Bethany Mota

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is episode number 502 with Bethany Mota.

• 0:07Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:33Lewis Howes?

  Thank you so much for joining today. I'm super pumped about our episode. Welcome to today's episode with Bethany Mota, who is a rising star with over 25 million fans across her social media channels. She started out in YouTube back in 2009 as a young teenager, creating various lifestyle type videos and sharing her thoughts on overcoming the different fears she had in her life. She has since then created her own fashion line. She's gone on multiple tours, which she calls her motivators to meet and interact with fans. And she also appeared on season 19 of Dancing with the Stars, made it to the finals with partner Derek Hough, and she's got a new book out right now as well.

• 1:13Lewis Howes?

  And in this episode, we talk about how Beth used YouTube to find her voice after being cyberbullied. Also, how to deal with all the haters, whether it be online or offline. The key to best success over time. What failure teaches us and how to overcome the fear of failing. Plus, why YouTube fans are such a better audience than TV viewers. That and so much more, guys. I was really inspired by who she is, what she's created at such a young age, well, wiser beyond her years. So I think you're going to enjoy this one. And I want to give a quick shout out to our fan and review of the week. Every week we try to find the best reviews and testimonials from people and acknowledge

• 1:57Lewis Howes?

  all the amazing people in this community. And this is from Aldo Savicco, who said, "Every episode is an essential and fundamental insight on the qualities of greatness. A masterclass in personal and leadership." Development. I have been an international conflict resolution for 25 years. I have dealt with very complex and at times dangerous situations. I know the qualities that one needs to thrive in a complex and often complicated world. And Lewis gives you the access to the secret of mastering great leadership. Congratulations. So Aldo, thank you for being the fan and review of the week. And if you guys want to be considered, make sure to go to LewisHowes.com/itunes and leave a review right now.

• 2:40Lewis Howes?

  All right, are you ready? Let's dive into this one with the one, the only Bethany Mota.

• 2:49Lewis Howes?

  Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness Podcast. We have Bethany Mota, who likes to go by Beth. So thank you so much for being here. Very excited.

• 2:57Speaker 01

  Thanks for having me. I'm so excited.

• 2:59Lewis Howes?

  I was just telling you the story about how I first heard about you. It was two years ago at VidCon. We were, I was walking from the hotel to the venue in Anaheim, I think it was in Anaheim. And there was just swarms of like 11 year old girls and guys just like swarming you and you couldn't move. You're just like taking selfies with everyone and trying to move a step and you take 10 more. And that was the first time I'd heard about you. And there was a lot of other big YouTubers there, but no one had that type of influence that I saw that you did. And I started to research a little bit about you and I saw you on Dancing with the Stars. Uh, I think Derek was your partner, right?

• 3:33Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah.

• 3:34Lewis Howes?

  And um, I just saw Derek last week with Julianne on their tour, uh, their dancing tour. So it's cool to finally kind of bring it full circle and meet you. We have a lot of mutual friends and I'm just so inspired by what you've created.

• 3:47Speaker 01

  Thank you so much. I'm inspired by you. I'm so excited and honored to be on the podcast. I'm very excited about this.

• 3:54Lewis Howes?

  Good, good. You're here. You're the greatness headquarters. Uh, you've got a book out called Make Your Mind Up. My guide to finding your own style of life and motivation. Make sure you guys check this out. It's really for uh, the parents that want to get it for their kids, I think, or their teen girls or teenagers, right? It's more for kind of like your fans and for the younger audience, I would say.

• 4:15Speaker 01

  Well, to be honest, I definitely wanted, this is like a gift to my viewers. This is the most vulnerable that I've ever been. In my YouTube videos, I'm very personal and I talk about my life. It's all based on what I enjoy. But with the book, I kinda wanted to dive into that even more and also hopefully this book will apply to all ages and

• 4:36Lewis Howes?

  Oh, cool.

• 4:37Speaker 01

  And and just a wider demographic. That's really what I was going for. So I offer what you would see on my YouTube channel, which is like beauty and fashion and fitness. And then I also talk a lot about self-confidence, self-love, body image, because those are all things that I've dealt with. And I'm twenty-one. I still have a lot to learn. But this is what I've learned so far, and I hope that that can apply to not just my audience, but even people who may have never seen my videos before.

• 5:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, it's crazy how much you've achieved in twenty-one years old. It's amazing.

• 5:06Speaker 01

  I I never expected it. I think that's a big part of why it happened is because I didn't have intention of it happening. I got into YouTube in two thousand nine.

• 5:17Lewis Howes?

  You were thirteen, is that right?

• 5:18Speaker 01

  I was thirteen.

• 5:19Lewis Howes?

  Crazy.

• 5:19Speaker 01

  Yeah, and

• 5:20Lewis Howes?

  Your parents let you go on YouTube?

• 5:22Speaker 01

  I didn't tell my dad at first. I I was like, my dad can't know. My sister can't know. She'll make fun of me. So I only, I asked my mom for permission, and she let me use the family video camera. And I didn't have any other equipment. I just used books as a tripod. I used my windows for lighting. I just worked with what I had. And growing up, I was always really shy. Like, I was labeled as the shy girl. Between my sister and I, she was the outgoing one. I was the shy one that didn't say anything. Exactly. And I was labeled that my entire life. So it it always kinda bothered me and I never liked it, but I think when we're labeled something so much, we feel that we have to stick to it. And if we step outside of that label,

• 6:06Speaker 01

  people will be confused and we ourselves will be confused as well. Like, this isn't me. What am I doing? I'm shy. I can't be outgoing. So I stuck to that label and I was never happy with it.

• 6:16Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 6:17Speaker 01

  And when I was cyberbullied when I was twelve. It had such an impact on me because I'd never been bullied before. And it was all towards my physical appearance. Like I had never thought about my body in that way. I remember. How it happened. Yeah, I logged, I logged online.

• 6:34Lewis Howes?

  And was this on MySpace?

• 6:35Speaker 01

  It was on MySpace.

• 6:36Lewis Howes?

  Friendster or something?

• 6:37Speaker 01

  MySpace, yeah. And someone had created a page that looked just like mine, but it wasn't mine. And all of the photos had captions that were just basically picking on my weight and things that I had never even thought about up until that point. I never questioned if I was fat or needed to lose weight. That never crossed my mind. I was twelve years old.

• 6:58Lewis Howes?

  You're probably really skinny.

• 6:59Speaker 01

  And I, and I, but that's the thing is I thought, you know, if these people are saying this about me, it has to be true. Like if multiple people are thinking this, then I have to believe it, right? And that's what I thought. So I believed it and already being introverted, already being shy. It just made me even more isolated and it made me very insecure and it affected me a lot for about a year. And then um, I dealt with anxiety, not wanting to like socialize, make new friends, open up to people. I was very guarded because I was so hurt by that situation. And then I discovered YouTube and I started watching the videos and I just found it so fascinating that

• 7:43Speaker 01

  people of all ages, girls my age, were making these videos and putting them out there. And I thought, how cool would that be to have a voice? Like I, I want a voice again. You know, I want to be able to talk about what I feel and and be confident in that. And so I thought about it for a couple of months, but I was so held back by fear that it took me a while to take the first step. I, I thought about it all the time. I was like, I want to do this. I want to do this. And I would, I started filming like little fake videos on my BlackBerry. And just like see, you know, seeing what it felt like.

• 8:18Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 8:18Speaker 01

  Um.

• 8:19Lewis Howes?

  At thirteen.

• 8:20Speaker 01

  At thirteen and I never posted them. I would like delete them right away. Just like to, you know, try it out.

• 8:25Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 8:25Speaker 01

  And then, uh, one day I just did it. I asked my mom and she gave me permission and it was so out of my comfort zone. It was so completely not Bethany and it felt really uncomfortable. But I didn't realize what I was getting myself into. I didn't realize that it would change my life. And that's why now I know like if I'm in an uncomfortable situation, it's probably leading to something. And I'm probably gonna grow from it and learn from it. And now I'm like, what if I would have stayed safe in that situation? What if I would have, you know, not taken that risk? Because, you know, there's a guarantee that I, that I wouldn't be hurt, that I wouldn't, you know, put myself out there and be rejected.

• 9:09Speaker 01

  But I did it anyway, after I had already dealt with all this rejection from people that I knew in my hometown. I was now putting myself out there for the world to possibly reject me. And I think I was just so fed up with feeling that way and I realized that no one was going to change it for me. Like, yes, I had support of my friends and family, which was amazing and I think that's great and so important. But at the end of the day, the way that that bullying made me feel, it was only going to change if I did something about it, if I decided to take action and, and move forward. Because I was so paralyzed by it for a very long time. And I still have moments like that where, you know, things scare me and I, and I don't move and I tell myself, I'm not afraid. Like, I'm okay, but I'm not moving forward. So maybe I am scared.

• 9:54Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 9:55Speaker 01

  So now looking back on it, I'm so happy that happened because I'm able to use that scenario, that situation in things that still happen to me now.

• 10:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. What gave you the courage to move forward when you knew that you were being bullied? Why did you say, okay, even though I'm gonna get bullied, I'm gonna go put myself out there even more? What gave you that courage?

• 10:14Speaker 01

  I think it was just reaching a point. I reached a point where I accepted my life was going to be like that. I accepted.

• 10:22Lewis Howes?

  No matter what you did, really. People are gonna bully you or they're gonna say things.

• 10:25Speaker 01

  Well, it was more of, I thought, oh, my gosh, I'm going to be like this forever. I'm going to be insecure. I'm gonna be in a dark place. This is my life? Like, am I just that? I'm just one of those people that is just sad and not motivated and not happy about life? I guess that's me. Some people in the world have to be that way. I'm one of them.

• 10:45Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 10:46Speaker 01

  I had that. I started accepting it. And it didn't feel good at all. And then I thought, there has to be something. Like, this can't be it. There has to be something that I can do. And reaching that, I guess you could say, rock bottom is what allowed me to suspend myself up and try something and take a risk. Because at that point, I felt like I have nothing to lose.

• 11:09Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 11:09Speaker 01

  I might as well try this.

• 11:11Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 11:11Speaker 01

  If I'm already feeling this way, what do I have to lose?

• 11:15Lewis Howes?

  What did you start to experience and learn about yourself within the first year of putting yourself out there? Did things shift? Did more people attack you? Did you gain confidence? What happened?

• 11:26Speaker 01

  All of those things.

• 11:27Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 11:27Speaker 01

  All of those things happened. And also getting into YouTube at thirteen, like thirteen to twenty-one, that is such a...

• 11:34Lewis Howes?

  Are you allowed to be on YouTube at thirteen? Isn't there like laws against that or something?

• 11:37Speaker 01

  I mean, maybe.

• 11:38Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 11:39Speaker 01

  Um, but thirteen to twenty-one, it's like, I literally grew up online.

• 11:43Lewis Howes?

  Crazy.

• 11:44Speaker 01

  And you can watch, all my videos are still up. Privated a few.

• 11:47Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 11:47Speaker 01

  But most of them are still there.

• 11:49Lewis Howes?

  That's your most vulnerable years.

• 11:50Speaker 01

  Totally. You're figuring it all out.

• 11:53Lewis Howes?

  I was an idiot when I was thirteen. I mean, I'm still kind of an idiot now, but I was like, then I was like, I had no clue what I was doing in life.

• 11:59Speaker 01

  Yeah, exactly.

• 12:00Lewis Howes?

  So scared all the time.

• 12:02Speaker 01

  So scared.

• 12:02Lewis Howes?

  It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there and constantly document what you're up to.

• 12:06Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 12:06Lewis Howes?

  And bring the world into your life.

• 12:08Speaker 01

  Yeah, and I did it. And you can literally see, if you watch the videos, how my personality develops. I become more comfortable, more confident. That wouldn't have happened. I don't think that would have happened had I not started YouTube or just did something that was scary and something out of my comfort zone. So, yeah, I started gaining more confidence over time. I did get more hate over time. I feel like the cyberbullying experience helped me when the hate comments on YouTube started to come. But it's still, it it hurt.

• 12:40Lewis Howes?

  Teenager, it's hard to.

• 12:41Speaker 01

  I think, well, the first hate comment I ever got, I was kind of happy about it. I was like, I got a hate comment. Um, but you know, then sometimes people will say that one thing, you know, say you wake up thinking about something or like, oh, I I really don't like this today. I don't like how this looks or like this pimple, oh my gosh, whatever. And then that's the one thing that someone points out when you when you log on and you're like, great. I was already feeling that and now you just amplified it. So those moments have happened and sometimes they still do, but through all of the hate, there's also, there's so much neg- there's so much negativity online, but there's also so much positivity. I think it's all about what you focus on. And also understanding that it's never personal.

• 13:23Speaker 01

  Because one time I actually reached out to someone who was leaving hate comments on all of my videos, literally every video I would post. She would find something to point out. And I remember like, I started thinking before I would upload a video, she's not gonna be able to find anything wrong with this. Like this is good. She's not gonna find anything. She always did.

• 13:42Lewis Howes?

  Perfect here.

• 13:43Speaker 01

  She always found something because she had already decided that she wanted to find something negative. So I reached out to her one day and I just sent her a positive message. She responded apologizing, saying that she was going through something in her life and she was taking it out on random people on the internet. And I thought, whoa, I I was, it it changed my perspective because here I was victimizing myself, feeling bad, questioning why this person was wanting to break me down when in reality, she was feeling broken down. Because if you think about it, when you're so happy and you're so fulfilled in life, the last thing that you want to do is make someone feel bad. You just don't care. You're not gonna put your energy into that.

• 14:28Speaker 01

  So if anyone is using their energy to make you feel insecure.

• 14:35Speaker 01

  There has to be something going on.

• 14:37Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 14:37Speaker 01

  And and then it's almost an opportunity of maybe I can talk to this person, maybe I can figure out what that is. You know, so when I started thinking of it that way, it shifted everything for me and now, like I said, sometimes a hate comment will still get to me, but I I just, you know, I become aware of that, I shift my focus, I I remind myself it's not personal and then I become empathetic.

• 14:59Lewis Howes?

  Mm hmm. Yeah, and you focus on the 10,000 comments of all positivity.

• 15:03Speaker 01

  Right.

• 15:04Lewis Howes?

  You look at like everything else, like, oh, 10,000 other comments that are all good.

• 15:07Speaker 01

  Exactly, exactly.

• 15:08Lewis Howes?

  Look the impact I'm making, look at the change, yeah. You know, I look at it as creators, you know, other authors, if you write a book, you're never gonna leave a negative review on someone else's book because you know how hard it is to create something.

• 15:20Speaker 01

  Right.

• 15:20Lewis Howes?

  So creators never hate. It's the people who aren't creating their life that are frustrated that start leaving comments or negativity or judging other people.

• 15:28Speaker 01

  Right.

• 15:29Lewis Howes?

  But that's why I say focus on creating and you'll you'll never want to hate anything.

• 15:33Speaker 01

  That's so true.

• 15:34Lewis Howes?

  Just commit to creating. Um, I love this. You're much more, uh, you're so much more wiser than I thought you'd be, which is really inspiring to to see. You just have so much insight and you've been through a lot. Who was the most influential person in your life growing up?

• 15:49Speaker 01

  Most influential? Wow. Uh, I don't think there was a specific person. I mean, obviously my parents, growing up, your parents are the most influential people in your life because they are your world and, uh, they they inspired me very much. And like I said, just their support with my mom in the very beginning, it was so unlike my mom to be okay with something like that, like, yeah, mom, I'm 13. I'm gonna go post these videos on the internet.

• 16:17Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 16:17Speaker 01

  Um, but she was so supportive and I think it was also because she saw what I was going through and and she saw that this was one thing in life that really made me excited.

• 16:25Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 16:26Speaker 01

  And she knew that I should hold on to that. And then when my dad found out, super supportive, my sister so supportive, my entire family. So I think having that support system.

• 16:36Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 16:37Speaker 01

  Is what has really encouraged me to continue going and.

• 16:40Lewis Howes?

  That's cool.

• 16:40Speaker 01

  It's it's just nice to have that. So I feel like just everybody around me, you know, I think the people that you surround yourself with, it's so important because that's the energy that you feed off of constantly. So if it's bad energy, that's going to show in your life, in your work and everything that you do.

• 16:55Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, absolutely. What would you say is the biggest lesson your dad taught you and then and your mom?

• 17:00Speaker 01

  Hmm. My dad is an incredibly hard worker. And it's so funny because my dad is also my manager. And he's been there with me through the very beginning, like when I was trying to figure out this social media thing. That's how I feel like a lot of YouTubers are. There's no blueprint on how to go about it. We're all just figuring it out. I feel like now you can kind of look at what other people have done. It's a little bit easier to navigate the platform.

• 17:26Lewis Howes?

  See different models and implement something and try it out. Yeah.

• 17:29Speaker 01

  But eight years ago, thirteen.

• 17:32Lewis Howes?

  Nothing.

• 17:33Speaker 01

  Just figured out how to work my computer. How am I supposed to understand? I I don't get it, you know? And my dad was there the entire time and being a being a YouTube creator, it's it's difficult. There are lots of moments of self doubt because you're so emotionally invested in the work. You know, it's creative, so you have to be emotionally invested. If you're not, it shows through. You're not passionate. People aren't going to be interested. So because you're emotionally invested, if something goes wrong, you can easily take it personally when you shouldn't. So he has been there with me through all those moments of self doubt where I'm like, this video, oh, my gosh, what am I doing? Why am I even a YouTuber? It's been so long since I posted, like, what am I doing? I need to be better, more creative.

• 18:15Lewis Howes?

  Or I didn't get as many views on this video as the last video.

• 18:17Speaker 01

  Yeah, we've all we've all gone through that and and my dad has always reminded me to kind of go back to why I did it in the beginning. And why I did it in the beginning was because it was an outlet for me to express myself. And it made me feel good. It made me excited. I wasn't so focused on numbers. Yeah, it's great to know that people enjoy what I'm putting out. But that wasn't my intention in the beginning. And when I can go back to that little thirteen year old girl, I'm able to go back to a place where I'm doing it out of love again.

• 18:52Lewis Howes?

  Powerful. So that's where your dad taught you?

• 18:55Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 18:56Lewis Howes?

  And your mom?

• 18:56Speaker 01

  My mom, she's taught me a lot. I think just her overall support and she's just a very loving person. She's just so sweet and that's always inspired me to just, you know, be kind to everyone and be empathetic and try to be more understanding of where people are coming from, trying to understand people's emotions, you know, why we do the things that we do. She's just, she's like my best friend and she always has been. And even growing up, because I was so shy, I was like always attached to my mom. Like I never left her side. And growing up, that was actually really hard for me because I was so attached to her that when I had to kind of be my own person and become my own woman and be independent, it was a little scary.

• 19:41Speaker 01

  Because my mom was like always here. But she's still, you know, she's still there for me when I need her. And she's just always inspired me to just, you know, be positive and, you know, radiate positive energy.

• 19:52Lewis Howes?

  Amazing. To hear you say that you're independent at 21 is like shocking to me because I was 25, I was sleeping on my sister's couch, like needing support from my family. So it's amazing again what you've created.

• 20:03Speaker 01

  Thanks.

• 20:04Lewis Howes?

  What's your vision moving forward? You've got, I think like 10 million subscribers on YouTube. I think 25 million fans across all channels, which is probably more now updated from these online stats. What's your vision? You're only 21. Created so much, overcome a lot. Where are you going?

• 20:22Speaker 01

  I didn't know five years ago that I would have this book. I also didn't know that I would have designed a clothing line. I didn't know that I would be on Dancing with the Stars. I didn't know that my YouTube channel would be where it is now. Those things just happened and I believe they happened because I've stayed focused. And I've had failure and I, yes, have felt defeated, but I've decided to get back up after that.

• 20:54Speaker 01

  And because of that, I feel like because I've been persistent and consistent. I have been led to things that are really dream come true. And I, I think it's just focusing on that, maintaining, you know, my work and not thinking so much about. This is where I want to be, you know, I, I want this many subscribers next year. I want this many views next year. You know what I mean? Cause that can also be, that can be exhausting. Cause what if that doesn't happen? I think as long as I'm progressing, as long as I'm growing and learning, that's all I really want to do. Because then when I create, I feel like what I create is even better if I'm constantly growing and learning as a person.

• 21:35Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 21:36Speaker 01

  So, uh, yeah.

• 21:37Lewis Howes?

  What are the dreams? Do you have dreams?

• 21:39Speaker 01

  As far as like, like specific projects?

• 21:42Lewis Howes?

  What you wanna, wanna, you know, was a book ever a dream of yours or did it just happen? You know, do you wanna have?

• 21:48Speaker 01

  What I really love is connecting with people. And that can be in any form. That's what I do on YouTube. That's what I was able to do with this book. And that's why I say that this is for my viewers, but I also hope that people who don't even know who I am can connect to it. One of the things, or I feel like my biggest goal in life is just to create real bonds with people. To really connect with people, to really try to understand them because everyone around you knows something that you don't. I think that's fascinating. I think that's so cool. And so if I can just connect with as many people as possible, that's what I really want to do. That's why having meet and greets, like doing this book tour.

• 22:33Speaker 01

  It's every time someone new comes up to me, I can be there for like two hours, meeting hundreds of people. And it doesn't get exhausting. Like, yeah, my cheeks hurt by the end of it.

• 22:43Lewis Howes?

  You're smiling so much.

• 22:44Speaker 01

  But I'm so emotionally, I'm so present and I'm so in it. Because every time someone comes up to me, I'm like, how great is this? My, my YouTube channel, these videos that I make are allowing me to just meet three hundred people in the world right now.

• 22:58Lewis Howes?

  Crazy.

• 22:58Speaker 01

  That's incredible. And as long as I can continue doing that, that's what I want to do. And like I said, that can come in so many forms. I'm so grateful that I got to do it in the form of a book. And I hope that I can do it in lots of other forms in the future.

• 23:12Lewis Howes?

  What would you say is the biggest fear for you then? Like you've gone through a lot of the bullying, the cyberbullying, you've had other people criticize you for things you've done. You've had failures, like you said, but what's the big fear for you moving forward?

• 23:25Speaker 01

  Biggest fear? Uh, I think it's funny because my fears have changed. I, my biggest fear used to be failing. And I failed, we've all failed. Uh, but I used to be very affected by failure. I used to take it so personally. I let it stop me for months.

• 23:46Lewis Howes?

  And what did failure look like for you? Was it just not achieving something that you set out to achieve? Or what was the failure?

• 23:51Speaker 01

  I think it's when you have expectation. When you expect something to happen and then you feel entitled. You allow yourself to feel entitled to that happening because, oh, I put the work in. Why didn't I get the result? And then you start, you know, it affects your ego.

• 24:07Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 24:07Speaker 01

  And I, I think I used to let my ego have too much control. And because I simply, I just wasn't aware of it. I wasn't aware of the ego and when my ego was in control. And when my ego was in control, that's when I would focus on numbers. And, oh, it didn't get this many views. Oh, my gosh, what am I doing? Take it really personally. And I wasn't happy because I wasn't focusing again on the passion, on just loving it and doing it out of love. Because when you do things out of love, there is no ego there. You don't take it personally if you don't get the views that you wanted. You just love the fact that you're able to create something. And so failure was my biggest fear.

• 24:50Speaker 01

  And now I embrace failure because anytime, I don't even consider it. That's cheesy, but like, I really don't consider it failure anymore. Anytime I've experienced failure or pain, somehow something beautiful always comes out of it. It's really strange, but cyberbullying, when I went through that experience, I started YouTube. If that didn't happen, if I wasn't cyberbullied, 100% would not have started YouTube.

• 25:15Lewis Howes?

  Where would you be now?

• 25:16Speaker 01

  And there's so many other experiences like that in my life that have happened. Even, you know, maybe yesterday, like little things where it's like, if I didn't go through that challenge, I wouldn't have known that I was this strong. I'm excited, like what's the next challenge going to be? Because I know that I'm going to learn from it. That's amazing because the stronger that I can get, the more wise I can become. What I'm working on, what I'm creating, hopefully can be more helpful to the people around me. And if I can be more helpful to the world, then I have purpose. So now I I no longer fear failure. I think I fear losing passion.

• 25:57Speaker 01

  And as I, as long as I'm aware of, I think awareness is so powerful. I believe that as long as I stay aware of why I'm feeling things, because obviously I'm still going to feel insecure. I'm still going to feel doubtful at times. But if I can be aware of the fact that this is just a reaction, it it's possibly just an illusion.

• 26:16Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 26:16Speaker 01

  It might not even be real. Then I can keep the passion alive.

• 26:21Lewis Howes?

  Hmm hmm, I'm into that. I always talk about for me, failure is feedback. It's information that's telling me what's working and what's not working.

• 26:30Speaker 01

  Right.

• 26:31Lewis Howes?

  And when I figure out, okay, this isn't working, it's not allowing me to achieve or create what I want to create. So it's feedback, what's the information I need to learn to help me get there? And so I think, again, you're doing a great job of saying it's just something that's going to challenge me, that's going to bring something beautiful to life. And um, it's going to make me stronger.

• 26:48Speaker 01

  Right.

• 26:49Lewis Howes?

  So I think if we, if we reframe failure or fear or any of these things, there's really opportunities to grow. That's pretty powerful.

• 26:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 26:56Lewis Howes?

  That's really cool. Um.

• 27:00Lewis Howes?

  Who would you say inspires you the most today?

• 27:03Speaker 01

  Hmm. Ooh.

• 27:06Lewis Howes?

  You've met, I mean, you interviewed Obama, you've met so many incredible people. You're a part of this big YouTube community, there's a lot of inspiring YouTube creators.

• 27:17Speaker 01

  That's a hard question. Uh, no one specific comes to mind. I've, I don't know why, because I've been asked this question a lot, and there's not one specific person that I think of when I'm asked that question.

• 27:31Speaker 01

  I allow myself to be inspired by everybody. I have amazing friends that are also on YouTube and it's great to have them because I feel like being a YouTuber is a very unique situation and it's great to have people who understand it. I have so much respect for other creators because

• 27:47Lewis Howes?

  It's really hard.

• 27:48Speaker 01

  It's really intense. I've had a lot of sleepless nights editing and all of that stuff and and they get it. So I have so much respect. I'm inspired by the community around me. I'm also very inspired by my audience. They are so much more than viewers. It it's really become a a community. It's become kind of a family. And I never expected that because the thing is with with YouTubers and YouTube in general is they don't just watch it and then turn it off, you know, like television. You just watch something, turn off the television. With YouTube, there's a forum at the bottom of every video where you can say what you feel. You can talk to other people.

• 28:28Speaker 01

  It's a completely different experience and it gives you the opportunity to meet people who have a similar interest. So I've seen viewers of mine that have actually become real life friends.

• 28:41Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 28:42Speaker 01

  They've met up in person and like they'll come to meet and greets of mine and meet with each other, even like if I'm not involved, they they'll like send me photos.

• 28:49Lewis Howes?

  Friends with each other or friends with you?

• 28:51Speaker 01

  Friends with each other.

• 28:52Lewis Howes?

  Oh, wow. And posting photos of each other.

• 28:54Speaker 01

  Yeah, they've they've met up in person.

• 28:56Lewis Howes?

  That's cool.

• 28:56Speaker 01

  And they're actual friends. I think that is so beautiful and that inspires me just like also traveling. I I haven't been traveling as much the past year, but I was going to Asia quite a bit. I went to uh Tokyo four years ago, four or five years ago. I sent out a tweet and I didn't think anyone would show up because, you know, it was four or five years ago. I'm in Tokyo. Who watches my videos over here? Not sure. So I tweeted I was going to be at this random park. I didn't really set it up.

• 29:31Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 29:31Speaker 01

  Didn't have security or anything. My dad was there.

• 29:34Lewis Howes?

  That's good. Punching kids away.

• 29:37Speaker 01

  And and hundreds of girls showed up to this park. And some of them didn't even speak English, but there was this connection there. And I just think that's so fascinating. It it's truly inspiring to me, the fact that whoa, I have this outlet. I can connect with so many people. I can make a difference. I can have an impact on their lives. And that's why whenever I feel self doubt, whenever I'm feeling like, what am I doing? Who do I think I am? I re- I remind myself that it's not so much about me because I have this power. I've been given this opportunity to give something to these people. So what do I want to give them?

• 30:18Lewis Howes?

  I love that. What about the advice you would give to parents who have thirteen year old girls or boys that are going through their own insecurities and maybe they want to share or create something online, but the parents are worried about them getting on there and getting hurt. What feedback would you give for parents in terms of sharing their message or evolving during these confusing teen years of how to grow through it?

• 30:46Speaker 01

  I mean, you're going to get hurt regardless, whether it's social media or not. It's definitely easier.

• 30:52Lewis Howes?

  Or school, right?

• 30:53Speaker 01

  Exactly. Also bullying, I feel like a lot of people put it in the category of it happens when you're younger. But I think bullying can happen at any age in any scenario. It can happen in the workplace. Some people might not even realize that they're being a bully or that they're having a negative impact on someone. So it's going to happen regardless. I think we need to go through that. We need to experience those things because that's what helps us and gets us ready for harder experiences. If I wasn't cyber bullied, I don't believe that I would be as strong as I am now. And insecurity is, you know, I still have it to this day. But I think in the past, I struggled with it more.

• 31:36Speaker 01

  For example, eh body image, I used to constantly compare myself to other people. And that's also really easy to do on the internet. You know, on Instagram, whatever, you know, sometimes our minds just, they just go there. And I used to always compare myself to other people. And then I would look at what society would show me and say, you know, this is what's beautiful. There there were like body trends of like thigh gaps and all of these things, which if you have that, that's great. But I allowed myself to be so controlled by these demands, just so I can feel validated.

• 32:13Speaker 01

  That I wasn't happy, like I I would work out and I would eat healthy, but I wasn't happy about it. Even if I saw results. I wasn't complete because I wasn't doing it for the right reasons. It was exhausting, emotionally exhausting. Because you do all this work and you know, maybe you buy a new outfit or you do this to get this validation. And then it's not finished yet because you have to get the validation. If you don't get that, then you're disappointed. Then you're upset, then you're resentful, because how could this person not show you the love that you wanted when you did all of this? And I did that for a few years and I realized.

• 32:54Lewis Howes?

  Exhausting, right?

• 32:54Speaker 01

  It's so exhausting. And the thing is, sometimes you will get that validation. Sometimes people will give you the compliments. They will give you the love that you are striving for from them. But it's not reliable because you might not get it tomorrow. But what is reliable is self-acceptance. And not needing any, any source outside of yourself to give you that. And that that can be a person that maybe you're trying to impress. It can also be numbers. It can also be X amount of likes on Instagram that makes me feel good, that, oh, I'm important now. It's such a roller coaster for your emotions. It's so up and down. And you cannot, it's not sustainable over time. And I didn't realize that at first.

• 33:38Speaker 01

  So I just went through this period of time where I was just constantly trying to impress other people and and trying to get that acceptance. And then I realized, you know what, it's it has to come from me. And now, you know, I work out, I eat healthy and I do it. Obviously, you know, I I care about what I look like to some extent. We all do.

• 33:55Lewis Howes?

  Of course.

• 33:56Speaker 01

  But it's for a completely different reason now. I've learned to be grateful for what I have and I don't compare myself to people. Sometimes, like I said,

• 34:06Lewis Howes?

  We're not perfect.

• 34:07Speaker 01

  You do it? And then you have to switch back and be like, okay. But I've learned to be grateful for, first of all, you know, I have a body. You know, I have legs, I'm able to walk, I'm able to see,

• 34:19Lewis Howes?

  You're healthy.

• 34:20Speaker 01

  Experience so many things through this body that I was given. I'm not entitled to this, this was given to me. How dare I disrespect it by saying it's not as good as that one? This is what I was given, so I should work with what I have and want to nurture this. Because I can't change the fact that this is what I was given and I shouldn't want to.

• 34:41Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 34:42Speaker 01

  And when I started thinking about it that way, I I s- I see my body differently. I appreciate the little things about my body, the things that society may not say are perfect. I love those things. And then that also starts to work outside of you where you start looking at other people and seeing the things that they may not be so confident about and you you start to love those things and you call them out on those things, say, I love this about you. That's amazing, that thing that you don't like, I genuinely love that. And then that can also make them realize, wait, I should love that too. It's just a whole domino effect and it's such a great, it's so refreshing to think about it that way because you realize, how can I be so disrespectful to my own body comparing

• 35:27Speaker 01

  it to someone else when this is a gift that I was given?

• 35:30Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, amen to that, I like that. What about the insecurities now, what's your biggest insecurity?

• 35:35Speaker 01

  My biggest insecurity? Uh, physically?

• 35:38Lewis Howes?

  Anything.

• 35:40Speaker 01

  Um, I mean, it can, physically it can change. Like, the other day I had ice cream and then I woke up with a zit and I was like, ah! You know, I had a moment and then I got over it. Uh, so yeah, physically, you know, I have those moments where I look in the mirror and I'm like, oh my gosh. And then I kind of just have to go back to that, being grateful and understanding, you know. I I I have to be thankful for what I have and I and I I shouldn't be picking myself apart. Cause also it's a with insecurities. They can become habits. That's what I that's what I did with uh my body image in the past. I used to weigh I don't own a scale anymore, but I used to weigh myself.

• 36:25Speaker 01

  Five times a day.

• 36:26Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 36:26Speaker 01

  Um.

• 36:27Lewis Howes?

  To fluctuate that much in a day.

• 36:30Speaker 01

  It did. It would go up and down and uh.

• 36:32Lewis Howes?

  And if it wasn't going down, you probably had this like negative feeling, right?

• 36:36Speaker 01

  Totally.

• 36:36Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 36:37Speaker 01

  I was obsessed with it.

• 36:38Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 36:39Speaker 01

  And it became a habit. It became something that I then didn't even think about. I just would do it without, you know, without even thinking about it and I was so comfortable. I was so it was so certain, like I always just went to the scale, focused on the weight. And then I realized that can be anything. It's what you choose to to make that thing be. Because we get into habits naturally. You do something enough and then it's like autopilot. And that's what I was doing with my weight. Just obsessing over it so much and and now I realize like that number like it doesn't doesn't matter. Like I work out now and I might gain weight. That's fine. I feel stronger. I'm I'm focused now on

• 37:19Speaker 01

  being stronger, not being thinner. Uh and so, yeah, I used to um obsess over that a lot. And then I realized, what if I can focus on the things that I that I like, the the things that I think are beautiful about myself, the positive things and make that a habit? I was like, I'm gonna give it a try. So I started doing that.

• 37:39Lewis Howes?

  What did that look like? Was that affirmations in the morning? Was that self-talk?

• 37:43Speaker 01

  It's it's yeah, it's affirmations in the morning. It's like looking in the mirror, just being grateful for little things, being grateful even for things that are not physical, thankful for, oh, my family, my friends, the people in my life. I met so many people this year that I didn't know a year ago. I also I just have my like morning. I like Blair music every morning and like dance around in my mirror. It's like, it's a good time.

• 38:05Lewis Howes?

  That's great.

• 38:06Speaker 01

  Um.

• 38:06Lewis Howes?

  Might as well celebrate life.

• 38:08Speaker 01

  Absolutely. And so that became a habit. Now I do that every morning. It's fascinating.

• 38:14Lewis Howes?

  As opposed to look in the mirror and judge yourself and step on the scale and say, I'm too heavy today. And this is gonna be a bad day and constantly going in a downward spiral, right?

• 38:23Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's all what you get comfortable doing. And then I realized, you know, maybe those things I was thinking about myself weren't even true. Maybe that was just an illusion. It was just, I was telling myself that so much. And I was feeding myself those negative thoughts so much or focusing on those negative thoughts so much, giving them so much power. That I just started to believe them to be true and I still have negative thoughts, but that's going to happen. I think it's under, it's, it's being able to kind of step back and almost observe your thoughts and understand that what you're thinking isn't always true. Like what do you want to believe? What do you, what do you know is true? What do you want to think about yourself? If you wanna have a positive life, then you should focus on positive things.

• 39:08Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely. I love that. What would you say is the skill? Or the information that you need to learn or master in order to evolve into the woman you wanna be?

• 39:22Speaker 01

  Hmm. Wow. These questions. I love it. Skill, ah.

• 39:29Lewis Howes?

  Skill or information or lesson or something that you need to, to master or own or step into to become the woman you wanna become.

• 39:40Lewis Howes?

  Not that you're not already great right now, but if you're evolving yourself.

• 39:44Speaker 01

  Hmm. I feel like there's so many things.

• 39:46Lewis Howes?

  Let's show them.

• 39:47Speaker 01

  I, I mean, fear is a big one. Doing things that scare you, which I heard all the time and I just never really. I never really applied it and I, I didn't think that I was afraid. I, I was like, ah, I don't, I'm not afraid of anything. I'm good, but I was hiding my fears for myself. I was denying the fact that things scared me and things intimidated me. And now I, I like to look for things that scare me, unless they're like, you know, crazy, dangerous, but you know what I mean? So, uh, I think embracing fear and understanding that.

• 40:23Speaker 01

  There doesn't have to be an absence of fear. I used to feel like I needed to be fearless and and not have fear. Instead of using that fear as energy and embracing the fact that I was afraid of something. Because if something scares me, something makes me nervous. It's because it means something. I care about it. I don't want to do anything that I don't care about. That's what we should be. We should only be doing things that actually mean something to us. And sometimes those things that actually mean something to us. Freak us out a little bit because they're uncomfortable. They're out of our comfort zone. And this was out of my comfort zone. Most vulnerable I've been. Youtube, out of my comfort zone. I think constantly looking for those things.

• 41:06Speaker 01

  That make you feel a little uncomfortable and understanding that. If you move forward with it, you're gonna feel even more uncomfortable. You're not gonna like it. You're not gonna like it at first.

• 41:17Lewis Howes?

  What's that next thing for you?

• 41:19Speaker 01

  Uh, well, for me, most recently. I think the the vulnerability thing was really hard. That's what I I spoke about a lot of things in the book that I had never really. Talked about before and that was scary. Because, which is weird to say vulnerability scares me when I post videos of myself on the internet. But it's different because, you know, I I choose what I want to talk about and and sometimes I don't really go into depth about. Things that make me emotional and writing this book, talking about specific experiences like the bullying. Um, I had to kind of feel it again. I had to experience. I had to go back to that place.

• 41:58Lewis Howes?

  It's not fun.

• 41:59Speaker 01

  And I started feeling the emotions as if it was happening. And I I wanted to, I wanted to pull back. I didn't want to do that anymore. And I thought, well, if this is making me feel something. It's probably going to make the readers feel something. So that's a sign. That I should continue doing this. So, yeah, I think I think for me, it's just like doing things that. Scare me and and make me, you know, feel something.

• 42:27Lewis Howes?

  I'll cut you off. You were gonna say something else about what you need to step into. I thought you were saying something.

• 42:32Speaker 01

  Um.

• 42:33Lewis Howes?

  Embracing fears.

• 42:34Speaker 01

  Embracing fears.

• 42:35Lewis Howes?

  And something else.

• 42:36Speaker 01

  Oh, uh, what was I gonna say?

• 42:41Speaker 01

  I mean, there are so many, I think, I think challenging yourself, taking risks, and just constantly looking for opportunities to grow and learn. That's why, that's why I love like self-improvement and self-help books so much. Like if you saw my apartment, they're like everywhere. I just, I'm like, what else can I learn? Because I see it as, if I can be more wise, if I can be smarter, if I can know more things about the world and about people and about the way that we work, I can be more helpful. And I think contributing to our community, to the people around us, that gives you that, you know, that purpose.

• 43:21Speaker 01

  That's what we all want. We all want that happiness, that purpose. And that's why I just like to make myself more useful. And that's what I'm able to do through my videos is, how can I improve myself? How can I improve my work? So that it can possibly improve other people's lives.

• 43:36Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. You shared a ton in your videos, your book. I'm not sure if there's anything you haven't shared with the world. But if there is anything, maybe small, that people don't know about, that you're really proud of. Or maybe something that you've done that's big, that you're really proud of, but people don't know about. Is there anything that maybe some people don't, aren't aware of?

• 43:59Speaker 01

  Uh, like a big thing? Or what are we talking about?

• 44:01Lewis Howes?

  Something small. Maybe just something you do that people don't even know you do it. Maybe it's like every morning you buy coffee for someone at Starbucks and you've never shared that with anyone. But something you're proud of that you do.

• 44:14Speaker 01

  Oh, wow. Wow. I feel like I should be buying people Starbucks now.

• 44:20Lewis Howes?

  I'm just throwing it out there. You know, is there something that you do again, that maybe you don't talk about a lot, but you're really proud of? Maybe you call your mom every day and you tell her how much you love her. I don't know. And hopefully, hopefully you do.

• 44:32Speaker 01

  No, that is, that is a really, that is a really great example.

• 44:35Lewis Howes?

  Maybe you're not talking about it on YouTube. Like, hey, guys, I call my mom every day, or I call, I talk to my sister, whatever it is.

• 44:41Speaker 01

  That is a good example. That is actually one that is true. I, I'm really happy that even though I don't.

• 44:46Lewis Howes?

  I'm glad it's true because I would have just put you on blast.

• 44:48Speaker 01

  I never talk to my mom anymore. Peace out, mom. Uh, no, I, I'm, I'm really thankful for my family and I still, even though I don't see them. And much anymore, uh, I FaceTime them all the time and I'm really thankful for that bond. My sister just had her second baby and so I'm very excited to be an aunt again.

• 45:06Lewis Howes?

  That's cool.

• 45:06Speaker 01

  It's a good time. Um, so yeah, I think maintaining that relationship with your family is very important. Also, when I reach a certain age, it was interesting, you realize like, whoa, my, my family members, they're like real people.

• 45:17Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 45:19Speaker 01

  It's like my parents, like they're real people, just like me and, and you gain this respect for your family members, I feel like, when you reach a certain level of maturity where you, which maybe you, you realize that earlier on, for me, I, I realized it a few years ago and, uh, I just thought, whoa, you know, my parents, like they have struggles, they have their own insecurities, they are real people. My sister, she can be my best friend, my mom can be my best friend. It's just, it was this crazy realization that I had, I don't know if other people experienced that. Because I think, you know, growing up with your family, you just see them differently, you see them as different or like your world separate from the rest of the world.

• 46:04Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely, yeah.

• 46:07Lewis Howes?

  If, how many times a day would you say you look in the mirror?

• 46:13Lewis Howes?

  Couple times?

• 46:14Speaker 01

  Couple times.

• 46:15Lewis Howes?

  Couple times a day, okay. Uh, if you had to, uh, get a tattoo on your forehead of a word, one word that was in reverse, that you could see when you were looking in the mirror, because it'd be reversed. And every time you looked in the mirror, you'd have this reminder of this word for the rest of your life. You had to have it, couldn't cover it up with makeup, you just had to have the word. What would that word be for you?

• 46:45Speaker 01

  The word would be.

• 46:49Speaker 01

  Wow, um, it would be wow.

• 46:53Lewis Howes?

  You wouldn't have to look in the mirror to read that.

• 46:55Speaker 01

  I think the word would be light because that's what I want to be for the people in my life, the people that I'm close to, the people that watch me on the internet that maybe I haven't met before, that live on the other side of the world. I just want to be a positive light and positive energy for these people. And I, and I feel like I've had experiences in my life where I have not let my light shine and I've not embraced my, my light, uh, because of insecurities, because of challenges. And I don't want to do that anymore. I want to embrace, you know,

• 47:37Speaker 01

  life and I want to just radiate positive energy so that that can inspire people. Cause when you're around someone that's enlightened and happy and passionate and letting their light shine, that's infectious. You want to, you want to do that as well with your light. So that would, that's probably what I would do.

• 47:57Lewis Howes?

  Good word.

• 47:57Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 47:58Lewis Howes?

  I haven't heard that one yet. That's a good word. Okay. Couple of final questions for you, Beth.

• 48:02Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 48:04Lewis Howes?

  And you've been, uh, thank you so much for sharing so openly today. It's been amazing. This is called the, um, three truths question. Okay. So imagine that this microphone is connected to the seven plus billion people and they all have headphones on right now. All the people in the world have headphones on. This mic is connected to all those headphones. And so we've turned on a switch. Your mic is live to the world. Everyone can understand you in English. No matter what their language is, they can understand you. And you get to share your three truths to the world. You've done hundreds of videos. You've been, you've done music. You've written books now. You've

• 48:48Lewis Howes?

  been on Dancing with the Stars. You've done a lot of cool things. You've interviewed the president, done all these things. And let's say that for whatever reason, those things are erased. Everything is gone and they wouldn't have anything else to watch or listen to you, except for this one message with three lessons you've learned or three truths that you would share with the world. Three things you know to be true. What would you say with everyone listening right now are your three truths?

• 49:18Speaker 01

  Number one would be

• 49:23Speaker 01

  you can never put your happiness in someone else's hands. It's it's an insane amount of responsibility to ask from someone and that's something that you are responsible for and you will always be responsible for. Uh, becoming your best friend is so important, being able to be alone with yourself and be alone with your thoughts. So that you can be honest with yourself and who you are. That is key. That's what has helped me so much when I'm going through a challenge or if I'm in a situation where I may feel insecurity, whatever it may be, having a very strong sense of self is important. And it can be scary to be alone with yourself in that way, but I believe that it's so important. I would also say

• 50:08Speaker 01

  you already have everything that you need.

• 50:13Speaker 01

  I, I, I truly, this is what I try to get back to whenever I'm feeling doubtful is that there is nothing outside of myself that will make me complete. I'm already there. So if I can realize that I am complete the way that I am, then everything else is just fun. And I can do everything else around me, my work, my, my relationships, my friendships with people, it's just out of love. Because I'm not asking anyone for anything. I'm not expecting anything. I just want to have fun because I'm already complete. And that doesn't mean you don't work hard. You know, you work hard because you're passionate and you, and you want to grow and learn.

• 50:53Speaker 01

  But you don't take it personally and you don't have expectations to take things personally if, if that expectation is not met because you are, are already complete.

• 51:02Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. Those are great truths.

• 51:04Speaker 01

  Thank you.

• 51:05Lewis Howes?

  Powerful.

• 51:05Speaker 01

  Thanks.

• 51:06Lewis Howes?

  You've been inspiring, uh, and I want to acknowledge you for a moment, Beth, for being the light for so many people. You know, 25 million people subscribe to you online. You're constantly reminding them of how beautiful they are and how they already have everything they need inside of them. So I want to acknowledge you for showing up when you were 13 and doing something that scared the crap out of you and constantly being committed to show up every single day to give back to anyone who wants to watch or listen to you. You have been You're beautiful in every sense of the word. So I'm so inspired by you. I'm excited about this book. So excited about everything that's coming for you. And I wanted to acknowledge you for that.

• 51:48Speaker 01

  Thank you so much.

• 51:49Lewis Howes?

  Make sure you guys, there's one more question I have for you, but make sure you guys go get this book. Go check it out. It's on our YouTube channel. It's on Amazon, Barnes and Noble. You can get it anywhere books are sold. Make Your Mind Up by Bethany Mota. Very exciting. A lot of cool stuff in there. Where should we connect with you the most online? Where do you like to hang out the most? Obviously YouTube channel, but are you on Instagram most?

• 52:12Speaker 01

  I'm on Instagram.

• 52:13Lewis Howes?

  Twitter, Facebook?

• 52:14Speaker 01

  I'm on Twitter. Haven't been using Snapchat as much recently.

• 52:17Lewis Howes?

  I don't use Snapchat at all anymore.

• 52:19Speaker 01

  I'm really into the Instagram stories right now.

• 52:21Lewis Howes?

  Instagram's just amazing. It's so good. But I hate doing both. It's like, why do both?

• 52:26Speaker 01

  It's a lot. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you can just type in my name, Bethany Mota, and I'll show up on pretty much everything. I mean, I feel like I'm on every social media platform at this point.

• 52:36Lewis Howes?

  Sure, sure. Very cool. Well, it's been great having you on. I really appreciate you. I know you've been busy this week with the tour, so thank you for making time.

• 52:44Speaker 01

  Yeah, of course.

• 52:45Lewis Howes?

  The final question for you is what's your definition of greatness?

• 52:49Speaker 01

  My definition of greatness is

• 52:54Speaker 01

  having personal freedom, like allowing yourself to go after what you want without apologizing for it and without needing the approval of other people to tell you that it's good or that it's right, but knowing yourself that it's good and it's right because it feels right. That's, I believe, the only way that you can, you know, step into who you truly are is by trusting yourself in that way. And it's great to have support of other people. People, the people around you are going to inspire you and encourage you to push yourself further. But I don't think that you should rely on anyone to tell you that what you're doing is right or not, because only you really know that, and you only know that by giving yourself personal freedom.

• 53:38Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. Bethany, thank you so much. Appreciate it. Appreciate it.

• 53:45Lewis Howes?

  There you have it, greats. I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you enjoyed it as much as I did, then make sure to share this online with your friends. Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, tag me @lewishouse and tag Bethany as well, as I'm sure she'll appreciate seeing all of you that are listening and watching this right now. All the show notes are back at lewishouse.com/502. We can check out all the resources we talked about from today's interview, watch the full video interview as well, and check out all the great quotes that Bethany shared on this interview back at lewishouse.com/502. I love you guys. I hope you enjoyed this one, and you know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.