Sarah Silverman asks WHY?!

Handsome celebrates its 100th episode with Sarah Silverman returning to the pod to ask one of the biggest questions of them all... WHY?! Plus, a Handsome 3 way, Thomas saving the day, Mae playing the Handsome theme for their mum, and more! Thanks for keeping it Handsome for 100 episodes! Handsome is hosted by Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune FeimsterFollow us on social media @handsomepodMerch at handsomepod.com http://handsomepod.com/Watch Handsome on YouTube http://youtube.com/@handsomepodThis is a Headgum https://headgum.com/ podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter https://x.com/headgum, Instagram https://www.instagram.com/headgum/, and Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@headgum. Advertise on Handsome https://gumball.fm/shows/handsome via Gumball.fm http://gumball.fm/. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 0:01Speaker 00

  This is a HeadGum Podcast.

• 0:04Mae Martin?

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• 0:18Tig Notaro?

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• 0:35Mae Martin?

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• 1:25Mae Martin?

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• 1:50Tig Notaro?

  Welcome to the Handsome Pod. We're taking fortune.

• 1:55Fortune Feimster?

  And we're joined by?

• 1:56Mae Martin?

  Mae Martin.

• 1:58Tig Notaro?

  Oh, my gosh, Fortune, as I look at your beautiful handsome T-shirt, I realize I left all of my merchandise in Nashville.

• 2:07Fortune Feimster?

  No.

• 2:08Tig Notaro?

  Yes, yeah, yeah, I'm so bummed.

• 2:11Fortune Feimster?

  Where did you leave it?

• 2:13Tig Notaro?

  In a Nashville.

• 2:14Mae Martin?

  In the garbage can.

• 2:15Fortune Feimster?

  In the theater, the hotel?

• 2:17Tig Notaro?

  I guess in the theater, yeah, I think I left it backstage.

• 2:21Mae Martin?

  It looks great on you, Fortune, it looks great.

• 2:23Fortune Feimster?

  Look, I'm wearing us on my shirt.

• 2:27Tig Notaro?

  Thomas, is there a way I can still get merchandise?

• 2:30Speaker 04

  Oh, yeah, we can send you some.

• 2:32Tig Notaro?

  That's what I like to hear.

• 2:33Fortune Feimster?

  Look at that. Well, I'm wearing this, you guys, because today is a very, very special episode in the handsome podcast. Well, my friend, today we are celebrating our 100th episode.

• 2:48Tig Notaro?

  What?

• 2:51Fortune Feimster?

  Can you believe it?

• 2:52Tig Notaro?

  That's insanity.

• 2:54Mae Martin?

  I thought we were gonna make it past that first April, right?

• 2:57Fortune Feimster?

  No, we're at two years in.

• 3:00Tig Notaro?

  We've made it past two Aprils.

• 3:02Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 3:03Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 3:03Mae Martin?

  Congrats, guys.

• 3:04Fortune Feimster?

  And we're on shirts.

• 3:06Mae Martin?

  It's one of my longest, healthiest relationships.

• 3:09Fortune Feimster?

  I know. And I feel like we just keep getting stronger and better and our communications improved and.

• 3:20Tig Notaro?

  Yes. Did we have bad communication?

• 3:23Fortune Feimster?

  Well, we communicate a lot now, more than we did two years ago.

• 3:29Tig Notaro?

  That's true.

• 3:30Mae Martin?

  We would be good candidates now if we wanted to try a triad in our lives, because we're really good now at like a three-way relationship, I think.

• 3:40Fortune Feimster?

  Wait, what is a triad? It's a threesome? A throuple?

• 3:44Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 3:45Tig Notaro?

  That's what a triad is?

• 3:46Mae Martin?

  Yeah, a triad.

• 3:47Tig Notaro?

  What about a triathlon?

• 3:49Mae Martin?

  That's something else.

• 3:51Tig Notaro?

  We could each take on one different part of the athlon.

• 3:56Fortune Feimster?

  That is definitely different than a throuple.

• 3:58Mae Martin?

  In it, what's a triathlon again? Biking, swimming, running?

• 4:02Tig Notaro?

  Yes.

• 4:03Mae Martin?

  Oh, it's all cardio.

• 4:04Fortune Feimster?

  I don't want to do any of them.

• 4:06Mae Martin?

  No, can I lift a little weight instead?

• 4:08Fortune Feimster?

  You won't be in a triathlon, but you sure can.

• 4:11Tig Notaro?

  You can do, yeah, you can stand around and flex.

• 4:13Fortune Feimster?

  I think you would prefer to be in a throuple than a triathlon.

• 4:17Mae Martin?

  Do you guys, are you surprised by how, I mean, I'm surprised by, not that I didn't know it would be great, this podcast, but it's become so big and beautiful.

• 4:30Tig Notaro?

  Yes.

• 4:32Mae Martin?

  What a community.

• 4:33Tig Notaro?

  When, right when I think that it's not as popular or big, then I go somewhere else and then I don't know, I don't, I'm shocked every, I guess that's all I'm saying. I'm shocked. Every time I'm shocked that people listen, who listens and what they get out of it, the different ages, the demographics, all of it. I'm just like, oh my Lord. It's such a fun treat to unwrap each time.

• 5:06Mae Martin?

  And how well everybody knows us now, like we, cause in two years, we've been, all been through life changes and talked about it. And it really is like, I feel like people really know us. It's nice. I feel like I know you guys a lot better.

• 5:21Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, sure. Cause when we started this, all of us were friends, but there were a lot of things we didn't know about each other.

• 5:28Tig Notaro?

  Yes, yes. And we've had some giggly times. We've had hard times. We've had really hard times.

• 5:36Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 5:36Tig Notaro?

  And then we've giggled again.

• 5:39Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, it always comes back to the giggles, which I love.

• 5:42Tig Notaro?

  Yes.

• 5:42Mae Martin?

  And then we giggled again.

• 5:44Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. I, I think that's an interesting opening to what have we learned about each other? That is surprising.

• 5:54Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, good question. Thank you.

• 5:57Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 5:57Tig Notaro?

  Because I would say it's, a lot of it is surprising because the podcast was built on, hey, we're all friends in the comedy world, but we don't know each other deeply well. But we've enjoyed running into each other in the, in the comedy scene. And so we've certainly gotten to know each other's, you know, highs, lows, quirks, and you know, all of those things. So what is surprising?

• 6:27Mae Martin?

  Okay. What jumps out for me is like, well, we all have our, you know, you have your kind of stage persona or whatever. And I guess I always like fortune. I would say you're, you're, you're so bubbly and self-deprecating and stuff, but I, I've, it's been wonderful to also meet this like warrior inside you. Like you, you are also a very confident, very astute, very driven, uh, person. And, and so that's been cool. Like it's, you know what I mean? And then Tig conversely, who, you know, you, you have a, a high status. Yeah, Tig conversely, you're just sitting around.

• 7:09Mae Martin?

  Insecure, not driven. No, you're, you're, there's like a real softness and sweetness that, I mean, I, I didn't know, I obviously knew that was there, but like, there's a self-deprecating soft sweetness there as well. So I guess it's just the different shades of ourselves that I've, you know, that we're three dimensional people, I guess.

• 7:26Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 7:28Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. And so what did you think, what did you think was the one dimensional part of us?

• 7:33Mae Martin?

  Well, like the, like, I guess, yeah, like fortune, like self-deprecation and, and

• 7:40Fortune Feimster?

  Like a goofball.

• 7:41Mae Martin?

  Yeah. And, and you're a kind of dry, dry wit and

• 7:47Mae Martin?

  Yeah. And, and so it's been nice. Yeah. What'd you guys learn about me?

• 7:52Fortune Feimster?

  Well, you have, I didn't, you, you have such a curiosity about things and you're, you're more, you're harder on yourself than I would have ever guessed. Because, uh, I, you, when I met you, you seemed so confident and you are confident, but, um, as we've gotten to know you more, you like

• 8:14Mae Martin?

  Riddled with insecurities.

• 8:16Fortune Feimster?

  But I do feel like we've, I've seen like a, a more mature side of you in the last two years. It feels like you've sort of, uh, gotten to know yourself better and are more comfortable in your skin.

• 8:32Fortune Feimster?

  And so you're starting to be more confident in as you should. And I've, I've enjoyed seeing a transformation in you where um. Yeah, it did. It just feels like you are coming into your own, which I really like seeing.

• 8:46Mae Martin?

  Oh, I love that.

• 8:47Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 8:48Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, I can, I can, I concur. Um, I also, and I, I, this is not at all me thinking that marriage and kids or any of that kind of way of life is for everybody. But I have found it really interesting to see you, May, who, I mean, let's be honest. We all know that you can triathlon all over the place. If you know what I mean. Um, but it feels like in your curiosity and your different um paths and journeys and dating and all of that, that um, I think you've surprised yourself at what you're actually

• 9:33Tig Notaro?

  interested in. And what, what, what you might want in life. And that, and I think is also still unfolding, which of course it's unfolding for all of us. Um, but it's been, it's been really an interesting thing to watch with you. And, and also Stephanie and I were talking the other day about this side of you. I guess it goes into the curiosity category, but that you really are an artist that is um, creating and, and writing and searching and um, you, you just.

• 10:14Fortune Feimster?

  I'm gonna cry.

• 10:15Tig Notaro?

  But it's, it's.

• 10:15Fortune Feimster?

  That's so nice.

• 10:16Tig Notaro?

  But you know, this is a business where people can just start churning things out just for the sake of churning things out. And um, and of course you're churning things out, but you do seem to be thoughtful and doing it for artistic reasons and that you have so much to say and um, and, and express. And it comes through in, you know, writing TV shows or improv or comedy or music now. And um.

• 10:47Mae Martin?

  That's so nice. That is actually kind of a recent, like, I feel like really in the, in the past year I've been like. Feeling not as constrained by like what medium it takes and being like, yeah, I'll try doing a painting like and finding it really rewarding. Yeah, that's so nice.

• 11:07Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, that's, that's the other thing is that your, your paintings that you've been doing, it's, there's so many different ways that you're expressing yourself. And, um, and I just, yeah, I wouldn't have, I wouldn't have guessed. And then I'm also always intrigued by your, um, how you just blow to shreds what people might expect from somebody who looks like you or presents in whatever way. And you, you just have, um, uh, it is, it's a confidence and a security in, in your body and your feelings and attractions. And, and that's another way of expressing yourself. That's, um,

• 11:53Tig Notaro?

  it's, it's all, it's, it's you and it's, it's, it's really an interesting side of you.

• 12:00Mae Martin?

  This is, we can end the episode here.

• 12:02Tig Notaro?

  Our little cowboys going up.

• 12:05Mae Martin?

  So nice. That is so nice. But well, you can, you can so easily tell yourself stories about who you are, especially if in our jobs, like we're, we're narrativizing our own identity so much. And, and then people are then further boiling it down to write about you and your work and, and putting stuff on you. So, yeah, it's been, it's been nice to, uh, yeah, like I, I always was like, I'm bad at relationships or I'm like, I'm not good at monogamy and things like that. And now I'm like, ah, yeah, it's situational. And, and, and yeah, I can, I can really show up for, for people sometimes.

• 12:44Fortune Feimster?

  You can, you can. I think you, uh, I think you did get in the habit, uh, I saw early on with you of you telling yourself you could or couldn't do things.

• 12:53Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 12:53Fortune Feimster?

  And believing that. And I think you're getting away from that.

• 12:58Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 12:58Fortune Feimster?

  Which you should because, you know, you, I think like Tig said, you are surprising yourself.

• 13:03Mae Martin?

  Ah, love it.

• 13:05Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. I mean, it's, it's really, really cool. I had a friend, I mean, I guess I still consider her a friend. Uh, I just haven't seen her probably in decades, but she was very similar in that like, man, she could write. Any type, she, she, I remember she put out an album of instrumental surf punk Sade covers.

• 13:34Mae Martin?

  What?

• 13:35Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, like she was just, she was so, and she would write plays and musicals. She's in like a, a heavy metal goth band now. She, she's just, she, she has so much to express and it's just pouring out of her. And I wonder if you should meet her, but anyway.

• 13:54Mae Martin?

  But also trying not to get hung up on like, what will sell or what do people want from me next? But like, what, what do I actually feel called to write or, yeah, that's so cool. Yeah.

• 14:03Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 14:04Mae Martin?

  And you, but you knew Fortune better than you knew me before, probably. So what surprised you about, about old Fortune Marie?

• 14:11Tig Notaro?

  I mean, I guess I did, but I mean,

• 14:14Mae Martin?

  You know.

• 14:14Tig Notaro?

  I feel like we were in each other's orbits very loosely for a decade or more, 15, 10, 15 years, something, but it was really, I mean, I could say, I actually feel like I maybe knew you better because you were, um, working with Stephanie, you know, doing those shows at the, you know, doing improv together. And so there were, I feel like it was almost an even amount of knowledge of each other. And, um, but yeah, I think with Fortune, what, um, has really surprised me is the, um, gosh, hair, this.

• 14:55Mae Martin?

  Are you gonna cry?

• 14:56Tig Notaro?

  No, I'm not gonna cry. I'm not gonna cry. It's, it's not that kind of thing at all. It's more like,

• 15:03Mae Martin?

  This is not that deep.

• 15:04Tig Notaro?

  No, no, it's more on the heels of like, yeah, like when you were describing yourself as a goofball, you have said, you are a very business minded person. And, and this might just be the person in me that's not very educated, but I'm always like, gosh, Fortune, Fortune went to school, Fortune knows stuff. Wow. Like, and not that I, not that I thought that you were like some dumb ass.

• 15:32Mae Martin?

  Right.

• 15:34Tig Notaro?

  But you can bring things to a very serious, grounded conversation, whether it's, um, I mean, it's not like we sit around and we talk seriously about history, but I feel like you have. That wealth of knowledge as much as you, but also an understanding I have of you, of your upbringing and how you, you know, the instability in your family that you wanted to write for yourself. And I think that's what's so, just so fascinating about getting

• 16:13Tig Notaro?

  to know people and like how, what just, when you understand people better and you're like, oh, they're not actually who I thought they were. And then also seeing you right now, I did not, and I hope it's not offensive, but I did not see you rising up from the ashes in the way that you have. And it's really remarkable. And it does give me chills right now because you have been dealt a heavy load and a hard load. And, and I just, I'm like,

• 16:56Tig Notaro?

  I'm pretty floored. I'm pretty floored. And excited. Oh, thanks.

• 17:06Tig Notaro?

  I'm floored and I'm excited because, you know, there's so many, are you familiar with, aside from like the obvious, like Stoicism, you know, like that idea of that theory of Stoicism, like it's something that I try to follow. And, and it's not to be misunderstood as to be you're just stoic and that you don't have feelings, but it's like you have control over how you're going to handle what's handed to you. You can make a decision how this is going to go. And I feel like you have really shown that.

• 17:49Tig Notaro?

  Oh, thank you.

• 17:50Mae Martin?

  The rivers run deep with all of us. And you're right, like you, you meet someone and you meet them where they're at in the moment. And then you really can only know someone when you understand where they came from and their childhood and their teens and it's rare to have two years of talking about that stuff with, you know, in concentrated amounts of time.

• 18:11Tig Notaro?

  And you're talking about it on a podcast, but then you're also having a side conversation or, you know, and, and it's like, hey, this is happening or hey, um, you know, here's what's up and how's this, how are we going to deal with this and how are we going to handle this? And, and, um, and you know, if I can just loop Thomas into this as well, I've known Thomas for a decade and man, have I seen this guy grow and change. And I stand by the fact that he is by far the best, best option as a husband or father.

• 18:53Tig Notaro?

  But I, and not that he has kids, but I just, you know.

• 18:56Mae Martin?

  And producer and just keeping it together and like championing us and yeah, yeah.

• 19:01Tig Notaro?

  One of my, and I, I've told this many times and maybe I've told it on this podcast or I don't know, but one of my favorite Thomas moments was, um, when I, and I'm sure Thomas is tired of me telling this story, but it really does make him look so cool because he is, but I was being interviewed by a, a TV show on a stage after a show. They, they came in town, set up a lighting situation, cameras, everything, legit, legit interview. And they started asking me questions about something that was not at all what I signed up for in this interview.

• 19:46Tig Notaro?

  And, and I said, oh, I, I'm not wanting to talk about this or that person or whatever. And I just kind of moved on and they were like, well, but why don't you, why? And it was like a real gotcha kind of moment where they weren't letting me out. And Thomas was my assistant at the time and he.

• 20:05Tig Notaro?

  He walked in front of the camera and he went, this interview is over.

• 20:10Mae Martin?

  What?

• 20:12Tig Notaro?

  I did not ask him to do it. He took total, like, he, he took charge and pulled the microphone off and he was like, we're leaving.

• 20:22Mae Martin?

  We're done here.

• 20:23Tig Notaro?

  And I just looked back at him. I was like, nicely done.

• 20:29Mae Martin?

  That's incredible.

• 20:31Tig Notaro?

  I was so blown away. And that's this weird curveball in Thomas where it's like, he's absolutely a decent, solid dude, but he, here is the boundary.

• 20:42Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 20:42Tig Notaro?

  You know?

• 20:42Mae Martin?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 20:43Tig Notaro?

  And that, that was fun to find out.

• 20:45Mae Martin?

  And the protectiveness there. That's so nice.

• 20:49Speaker 04

  Thank you.

• 20:50Mae Martin?

  Would you do that, would you do that for me a fortune?

• 20:54Speaker 04

  Absolutely. Anytime this podcast gets out of hand, I'll step in and stop it.

• 20:58Mae Martin?

  Yeah, this podcast is over.

• 21:01Fortune Feimster?

  We, we can't not mention you Tig, obviously. There's so many wonderful qualities. I, not, not that this surprised me, but I so have appreciated the wisdom that you impart. And not only on the podcast, but in real life. I think especially in this last year, you know, going through the different things that I've gone through personally, I've had some really great private conversations with you on the phone or on text where you are just a great friend and really show up and, and you don't stop it

• 21:40Fortune Feimster?

  just like, you know, it'll be okay. You like give really amazing advice and check out this book. I learned this in my experience. I did, you know, it's just like really thoughtful, meaningful.

• 21:56Fortune Feimster?

  Conversations with you that I've come to really appreciate and that has helped me a lot. So yeah, you just really show up for people. And, um, and on the podcast, you, you impart some really great wisdom. And I know a lot of that comes from a lot of the hard things that you've gone through and coming out the other end of that and, and seeing you appreciate life. I'm not seeing anyone have such genuine appreciation for what you have.

• 22:31Mae Martin?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 22:32Tig Notaro?

  Thank you.

• 22:33Mae Martin?

  I really, there are so many things about your life that I want to emulate or find myself unconsciously like putting on my vision board and, uh, yeah, both of you, like me, your heroes. You're both the best. I'm crying, I can't help it.

• 22:49Tig Notaro?

  You guys. It's so, it's all so nice to hear, but it's also equally as nice to say. And, um, I do appreciate my life and you can kind of, it's, I think it's human nature to think that you appreciate it and you've got a handle on, oh man, did I learn my lesson? And then life gets going and you completely forget that lesson. And, and I do that time and time again, but I'm very thankful that I have a well to go back to and straighten myself out and be like, I remember what it was like begging, begging to live through a moment or begging, please, I just want to have a kid, you know?

• 23:34Tig Notaro?

  And, um, and, um, or, or even just to find a partner. And, you know, in those moments, I always say to Stephanie, I'm like, I am crazy about you 99% of the time, but 1% of the time I cannot stand you. And she's like, same. But, um, but I'm, uh, I do, I appreciate my life and I, um, but I actually am also in a point in my life where I feel like I need more guidance to be even more appreciative because there are things that I cannot believe get on my nerves or that I dread doing.

• 24:20Tig Notaro?

  And I'm like, what are you talking about? You are the luckiest person alive and you need to get it together. You know what I mean? Like that's just human nature. I know it is, but like, I really want to focus more energy on, um, I guess gratitude. Because I am grateful, but I would like a heavier dose. Yeah. Heavier dose.

• 24:46Mae Martin?

  You're right. It's so nice to say this stuff and what in, in your regular friendships, it's so rare that you like, are like, these are all the things I love about you and are, and I'm grateful for it. I want to, I want to do this with all my friends. They'll be like, ugh.

• 25:00Tig Notaro?

  I'm not stopping you.

• 25:02Mae Martin?

  Yeah, I'm gonna do it.

• 25:03Tig Notaro?

  I remember when, um, my stepfather, who I think I've talked about how, talk about stoic in the way of being, you know, just like a robot. But when my mother passed away, I remember him making a toast. We had like all of her old friends and our old neighbors and my brother and I had our childhood friends over and our families and stuff. And, and my stepfather was like,

• 25:30Tig Notaro?

  this is what she would have wanted when she was alive. And I never did that for her. And I regret it. And, and it was such a moment where I thought, yeah, like you should write that letter. You should tell your friend that thing. You should, you should have a surprise party for somebody for no reason. You know what I mean? Like, and just feel like, God, I love you. You know? Yeah, for sure. And those are fun little things to, um, to remind yourself to do. Yeah. And, and I really felt it when my stepfather was making a toast to my mother, you know?

• 26:13Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 26:13Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 26:14Mae Martin?

  I'm feeling very grateful at the moment because I, I don't know if you were wondering where I am, but I'm in my ex fiance's apartment in Toronto. I had nowhere to record. I can't, I'm at my parents' house and I can't like try to be funny audibly in the room with that. They'd be like listening and being like.

• 26:35Mae Martin?

  And so I reached out and she's, she's out of town and she told me where the key was. And it's just, I'm so grateful for it. Like, and it's so nice to be around objects I remember from when we were together. I love an object and like photographs and uh, yeah, so I'm grateful for that relationship and uh, with Lindsay and yeah, I'm, I'm not snooping. I'm not gonna snoop.

• 26:57Tig Notaro?

  All right. Are you typically a snooper?

• 27:00Mae Martin?

  Well, you know, I think that's a yes.

• 27:04Tig Notaro?

  I mean, it goes back to your curiosity.

• 27:06Mae Martin?

  It's my, it's my innate curiosity.

• 27:08Tig Notaro?

  Your innate curiosity. You have, do a little peek-a-boo in her, um, in her drawers, so to speak.

• 27:16Mae Martin?

  Yes. See what's going on with her, with her current relationship.

• 27:20Tig Notaro?

  Is she, is she home right now?

• 27:21Mae Martin?

  No, she's up, uh, in Prince Edward County. Like they, they, her and her partner live most of the time up in the countryside, but.

• 27:29Tig Notaro?

  Do you like her partner?

• 27:29Mae Martin?

  Place here. Oh my God. Yeah. The best. Yeah.

• 27:32Tig Notaro?

  And this person was at our Toronto show, right?

• 27:34Mae Martin?

  Yes. And, and yeah, Lindsay's part, they both were and Lindsay's partner asked a question at the live show. Yeah. And they're just gems, both of them. Yeah.

• 27:45Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, that's nice. It's, it's good to be our friends.

• 27:48Mae Martin?

  Oh my God. Yeah.

• 27:50Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, look at us. What a moment of sharing. Sharing is caring.

• 27:54Tig Notaro?

  Yes. A hundred episodes in. I guess we have done a hundred and one. If somebody's gonna start crunching numbers, cause Thomas did put together one episode that was all of our, what was it? The greatest hits?

• 28:06Mae Martin?

  Yeah. And then also we did one where, when we didn't know the format of the podcast yet, we did one with a guest.

• 28:14Tig Notaro?

  We did, yeah, we did, we did a couple.

• 28:17Mae Martin?

  One with Brett Goldstein as a guest.

• 28:19Fortune Feimster?

  And Otsco.

• 28:20Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, one with Otsco.

• 28:21Mae Martin?

  Where they were there for the whole time.

• 28:22Tig Notaro?

  Do we still have those recorded?

• 28:23Speaker 04

  Yeah, they're somewhere.

• 28:25Tig Notaro?

  Oh, maybe those will get released one day.

• 28:28Fortune Feimster?

  Then we were like, oh my God, it's a nightmare just to schedule us. If we then add another busy person to this, we will not get anything done.

• 28:36Tig Notaro?

  That's correct.

• 28:37Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah. Yeah. Thank God we pivoted.

• 28:41Mae Martin?

  Hog more of the airtime.

• 28:43Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, we don't want no guests. Get out of here. We got feelings to share.

• 28:48Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. I feel like it, it, it works nicely. Our, our, our show.

• 28:54Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah. I love all the sharing of, I'm, I just turned 45. I know it's hard to believe because I wear a lot of creams.

• 29:03Mae Martin?

  And you'd use your depuffer?

• 29:04Fortune Feimster?

  I use my depuffer, but it did, it was a time and probably because of what's going on in my life, where it just made me very introspective and just thinking about a lot. But I'm on, I am of the opinion of like, you think nice things about people or you appreciate something about someone, like definitely tell them. Uh, and with my mom being sick, that definitely hits home even more. Like you're saying Tig about your stepdad having regrets. That's the last thing I want is to be like, I wish I had said something to somebody or did something differently. I just wanna, I, I wanna move forward deliberately and not, not so out to lunch.

• 29:46Fortune Feimster?

  You know, there's been times where I've just worked so much where I've just been a little out to lunch and I don't want that. I wanna be very present and tell people in my life, things that, you know, are important and meaningful and not just, and not shy away from stuff.

• 30:04Mae Martin?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do you, you in the past have had a tendency to like, just keep that stuff private? And?

• 30:11Fortune Feimster?

  And I just went through a period of time where I was just working so much. I just wasn't just this like, I don't know why, I just was like, threw myself into that. And this was kinda coasting a bit where I wasn't, I wasn't, you know, connecting with friends like I should and um, just wasn't taking the time to, to appreciate some of the smaller things in life and um.

• 30:35Tig Notaro?

  Like sitting on a bench.

• 30:37Fortune Feimster?

  Like sitting on a bench. I wasn't sitting on benches. And I just wanna be more cognizant of uh, I, I don't wanna be, I don't wanna be a robot. I don't wanna be just like, uh, next show, next show. I gotta write this, I gotta do this. I don't, I, I don't want that.

• 30:55Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 30:55Tig Notaro?

  That's like, that, I, I think I told you and I've probably mentioned it on the podcast. Um, but um.

• 31:03Tig Notaro?

  I just realized I was gone filming. I was touring. And I was just like, yeah, I'm working, making money, sending it home. But it's like, I want to be home with, with my family, doing the activities that they're doing. I want to be, I want to go play tennis. Yeah, I want to go, yeah, I want to go, I want to be there at the baseball game. I want to be everywhere with them. And, and I came up with like a, a schedule of all, you know, podcasting, Star Trek and touring that is really scaled down.

• 31:46Tig Notaro?

  That keeps me working, but keeps me mostly in my life.

• 31:51Mae Martin?

  Yeah, that's awesome.

• 31:53Tig Notaro?

  And it's, it's, I'm so proud of it. I can't even tell you, I'm so proud to have those things in motion. And, but not ruling my life, you know?

• 32:05Mae Martin?

  I feel like I'm still in my like hustler era. Like I still have this scarcity mentality of saying yes to things, but I'm getting better at it. And, and I'm also, I'm like I, in my last relationship, I was like, immediately was like, oh no, I'm happy to just cancel everything and sit in this house. So I know that I have that in me too. So.

• 32:26Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 32:26Mae Martin?

  Yeah, but yeah.

• 32:28Tig Notaro?

  People used to ask like, oh, what's your, you know, work, life balance? How do you do that? I'd be like, you know, I'm trying to do this, I'm trying to, and then I realized like, I am lying.

• 32:39Mae Martin?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 32:40Tig Notaro?

  I'm not, it wasn't that I was like purposefully lying. It was that I was lying to myself. It was, I had made no conscious decisions to shift my life in any way. And it wasn't like I was never home because I would certainly have the ability to stay home for weeks or months at a time. But I wasn't, I just wasn't really, really making the decisions that would.

• 33:08Tig Notaro?

  That would get the work-life balance in order. And I'm, anyway, I'm just like, I'm just so excited.

• 33:17Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 33:18Tig Notaro?

  That's awesome. Yeah, I'm really, really happy about it.

• 33:22Mae Martin?

  Imagine if this was the first episode of the pod someone listened to. Be like, okay.

• 33:28Fortune Feimster?

  They really emote.

• 33:29Mae Martin?

  They really feel deep. Yeah.

• 33:33Mae Martin?

  Okay, they like each other.

• 33:39Tig Notaro?

  We do have a question this week.

• 33:41Mae Martin?

  Yes, we do.

• 33:42Tig Notaro?

  Yes, and, you know, I'll give credit to Thomas. He was like, we had Sarah the first go-round. Should we, should we bring her back on on the 100th episode? Because she really kicked us off in a solid direction.

• 33:57Mae Martin?

  A huge way.

• 33:58Tig Notaro?

  I mean, that episode is so ridiculous.

• 34:02Fortune Feimster?

  It's insane.

• 34:04Tig Notaro?

  It's so great, and it's just so perfect.

• 34:07Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 34:07Tig Notaro?

  Because we do love getting ridiculous questions and earnest ones. But, and Sarah, man, she can, she walks that line really well.

• 34:17Mae Martin?

  Yes, she does. Have you seen, her new special is amazing.

• 34:20Fortune Feimster?

  Oh, it's so good.

• 34:21Tig Notaro?

  Yes, yeah, she's, she is nothing but silly and nothing but like, she's so smart. She's just.

• 34:29Fortune Feimster?

  I like seeing her out and about in the comedy world, too. It's like you see her and you're just like, start smiling.

• 34:35Mae Martin?

  Always the best, yeah.

• 34:37Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 34:37Tig Notaro?

  Well, let's hear Sarah Silverman once again asking today's question for the 100th episode.

• 34:46Speaker 00

  Hey, handsome, it's me. It's Sarah Silverman. I just wanted to say congratulations on your first 100 eps. That's short for episodes. I'm cool. Also, I have another question. And my question is, why?

• 35:09Speaker 00

  Why?

• 35:14Fortune Feimster?

  Wow.

• 35:17Tig Notaro?

  There's a lot.

• 35:18Fortune Feimster?

  That could apply to so many things.

• 35:20Mae Martin?

  But I really relate to that feeling that like,

• 35:24Tig Notaro?

  What comes to you?

• 35:26Mae Martin?

  Oh, why are we here? Why? Why are we? What is this? What's happening?

• 35:31Tig Notaro?

  Stephanie told me that the other day Finn goes,

• 35:35Tig Notaro?

  I'm so sick of not knowing things. And he was like, what do you mean? He was like, why are we here? Why is there a sun?

• 35:45Mae Martin?

  Oh, my God.

• 35:46Tig Notaro?

  Why is there? I just wanna know.

• 35:49Mae Martin?

  Oh, my God. I felt that panic my whole childhood and teens and like, I really, I mean, was it? Was it Finn who wrote that song?

• 35:59Tig Notaro?

  No, that was Max.

• 36:00Mae Martin?

  There was no one knows, we don't know why the world was born.

• 36:04Tig Notaro?

  Oh, no.

• 36:04Mae Martin?

  We don't know why we were born.

• 36:06Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. How? How does the world work? We don't know how the world works.

• 36:12Mae Martin?

  It was the sun rises west, the sun goes down east.

• 36:15Tig Notaro?

  Down east.

• 36:16Mae Martin?

  Which is profound. And then we don't know how the world works. Yeah, we, oh, man. But no, I really relate to that. I mean, I, I mean, I know it's bad because it uses water, but I talk to ChatGPT quite a bit and I often ask it like, what the hell's going on? And like, is, are we in a simulation? Are we? What's going on? Do you want to hear what chat? Well, I just Googled, why is the world the way it is? You want to hear what it says?

• 36:44Tig Notaro?

  Well, yeah, but you're destroying the world a little bit by asking, but go on.

• 36:48Mae Martin?

  I know. Well, that's part of this duality we live in. Like,

• 36:53Tig Notaro?

  Yes.

• 36:54Mae Martin?

  Like, how do we live in the world and participate in it when it's such a mess and all the systems are so damaging? Okay, so it says, the world is the way it is due to a combination of natural processes, human actions, and the inherent nature of reality. From the formation of the earth and the laws of physics to the development of cultures and individual choices, a complex interplay of factors shapes our world. That's, I mean,

• 37:20Tig Notaro?

  Did that satiate your question?

• 37:22Mae Martin?

  No.

• 37:24Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 37:24Mae Martin?

  No.

• 37:25Fortune Feimster?

  Not a lot of this nonsense.

• 37:27Tig Notaro?

  It sounds like a robot answered you, to be honest.

• 37:30Mae Martin?

  A hundred percent. Yeah. Yeah. And then it. I don't know, you can put on different lenses and see the world in different ways. And at the moment, it really feels overwhelmingly negative, like world wise.

• 37:43Tig Notaro?

  We don't know how the world works. We don't know why we were born.

• 37:54Mae Martin?

  You know what my, my mom said?

• 37:55Tig Notaro?

  We don't know if we were born.

• 37:59Mae Martin?

  That was my favorite line. We don't know if we were born.

• 38:02Tig Notaro?

  Yes.

• 38:03Mae Martin?

  Cause yeah, we don't really have any evidence outside of our own minds that any, like when you close your eyes, everything could not be there. We don't. But my mom one time, cause I was like, God, it's just, there's so much suffering. You're just born, you're immediately suffering. And, and my mom was like, but we don't know what the alternative is like. Being is better than not being as far as we know. And I was like, that's true. I guess I'd rather be than not be.

• 38:29Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, that's a good point.

• 38:31Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 38:32Tig Notaro?

  I don't dig too deep into all these kind of questions.

• 38:35Mae Martin?

  You don't?

• 38:36Tig Notaro?

  No.

• 38:37Mae Martin?

  Why? Cause you know, it would drive you nuts?

• 38:39Tig Notaro?

  I just that some things you can't be answered. So I don't drive myself crazy trying to figure it out.

• 38:47Mae Martin?

  Right.

• 38:47Tig Notaro?

  And maybe that's a little, you know, uh, turning a blind, not, not to big important things, but just these like more philosophical questions.

• 38:58Mae Martin?

  Right.

• 38:59Tig Notaro?

  I don't dig too deep into that.

• 39:01Mae Martin?

  Right. Yeah. You kind of like let those questions sit loosely on your shoulders. Cause, cause really you gotta get up and have breakfast and have a shower and live your life.

• 39:12Tig Notaro?

  When I was a kid and I've probably mentioned this before, but like I used to really, really think that if I grabbed a pack of smokes, headed off into the woods and sat on like a little rock, like a, you know, boulder, I could really figure out the answer to.

• 39:32Mae Martin?

  Yeah. Like Siddhartha, like the Buddhist, he sat under the lotus tree and yeah.

• 39:38Tig Notaro?

  I really thought I was going to come up with like the answer to how the world works and why we're here and what this is all about, but I never did, unfortunately. But I have to say, one of my big whys that's going on for me right now is.

• 39:58Tig Notaro?

  And I guess, I guess the answer to my big why would be going directly to specific people and sitting down and asking them why. But I've had a handful of friends that have really veered off from what I thought was similar thinking socially, politically, and they've really veered off. And I think part of my why is also, why didn't you just share that you were heading off in a different direction? Like, why? Because everybody is

• 40:42Tig Notaro?

  kind of left wondering, why? What happened? Like, what? Why? It goes back to the why? And it could be a different feeling if somebody was like, hey, this is kind of weird, but I didn't feel this way before. And here's what's, something in me has really shifted. And not that I'd be all for that, but it would be more understandable.

• 41:09Mae Martin?

  Yeah, because you would think that they, if their convictions had really changed, and you're their friend, you'd think that they would come to you.

• 41:17Tig Notaro?

  That they'd want to share that.

• 41:18Mae Martin?

  And they'd say, hey, I think you got it wrong, and come with me. Like, but they don't ever do that.

• 41:21Fortune Feimster?

  Do you think, do you think they're aware that they've shifted so much?

• 41:25Tig Notaro?

  Yes, I do.

• 41:26Fortune Feimster?

  Okay.

• 41:27Tig Notaro?

  Yes, I do.

• 41:30Mae Martin?

  I was, I was in, in Nantucket, I was having my brunch, like, at the hotel restaurant or whatever, and it was just one other table next to me. And I didn't have my phone with me or anything, so I was just listening to their conversations. And it was like a cartoon of, like, they went through everything from, like, trans people are bad, like, you know, women are dumb, like, immigration, like, they went through everything. They were just, they were getting revved up. It was this, like, three couples, sort of older couples, and they were, but I was like, what's going on here? Because they were really enjoying. They were fueling each other and they were, but they were really connecting over it and being like, God, it's hard. It's so hard. They were like,

• 42:16Mae Martin?

  they them, like, it doesn't make sense. Like, God, it's just, it's hard. It's just hard. And they were like, and I was like, where is this coming from? Because I could feel their like, panic or fear. Yeah, it's wild because it's on like, in what way does that affect them at all? Completely, yeah. And they always, and you can always hear them be like, oh, yeah, it doesn't make sense. You know, if someone called me a day, I'd tell them where they could stick it. And it's like, you just did it. You just said that. But they, uh, then, yeah, I felt like that they were finding community over it too. And so I guess it is just like, these things come in waves and cycles and like, the sense, maybe it's the same existential fear that we're all feeling and that there's people's solution is just to

• 43:01Mae Martin?

  build up their walls and grab what's theirs and, you know what I mean?

• 43:05Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. I mean, because it is true. It's like if I had a major shift in, in the way I was going about my life. And of course, people have shifts and you change the way you're thinking and you change. I mean, even down to comedy, like, look at Sarah Silverman. I mean, she, the, her material has shifted so much over the years, you know, where she's even had moments of saying like, oh, hey, this didn't age well. And, um, but she's keeping you in conversation like, oh, I've learned this. I've changed. I've gone in this direction or, oh, I said this the wrong way, or I apologize, or I'd do it better now, or I'm, you know, like she, she really keeps you in conversation.

• 43:50Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 43:51Tig Notaro?

  And, and then there are, like I said, if, if I made a massive shift and did not fill in anybody on where this came from, and I just went with it so far away from where

• 44:10Tig Notaro?

  I was planted with the people I was growing with, you know, and, and again, it's like, it's, it's, it's okay to change and it's okay to, to say that you have different ideas or that, you know, but just like, why, where, what, like, give us some more information, stay in conversation.

• 44:34Mae Martin?

  I know, because it, the fact that it, like Sarah's series, I Love You America, was, she was really talking to people and I, I, it's like, I, I know it's, the work shouldn't fall on, on us to always build bridges and, but, um, often when you, when you do engage in conversations with people who, yeah, whose thoughts on human rights and things like, are so different from your own, they do come around, they, they haven't.

• 45:03Tig Notaro?

  But then there are, like I'm saying, people that

• 45:06Mae Martin?

  Oh, yeah.

• 45:06Tig Notaro?

  you thought were on that side of things and then they, that you see them drifting away and with no, they, they're not staying in conversation. I would, I would want to explain myself. If I was seeing the light, I thought.

• 45:21Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 45:22Tig Notaro?

  That was so different from the world I was in.

• 45:28Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 45:29Tig Notaro?

  I guess I can compare it to veganism, if, if you want like a, a comparison. It's like, I, I saw the light. You can think I'm weird. You cannot follow what I'm doing, but I'm going to talk you through how I got here. And I know it's very different, but I'm just, I'm saying that people make massive shifts and, and just, but just explain what, what happened. Like what?

• 45:52Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 45:52Tig Notaro?

  Where is this coming from? And, and what sent you in that direction?

• 45:57Mae Martin?

  Yeah, because the fact that they are, that people are reluctant to do that makes it seem like there is some awareness somewhere or shame about it.

• 46:07Tig Notaro?

  Shame, yes.

• 46:09Mae Martin?

  That they are aware that, that they are punching down or, or, you know.

• 46:15Tig Notaro?

  Yes, if you slither away quietly.

• 46:21Tig Notaro?

  There is shame.

• 46:22Fortune Feimster?

  There is shame.

• 46:23Tig Notaro?

  There is shame. There is shame. If you are slithering away, there is shame.

• 46:28Mae Martin?

  Well, it's the same like when people break up and they can't talk to you about it. Or like they, or if you've ever been ghosted or broken up with where it's just like, this isn't working. Often they, they can't talk about it because they know.

• 46:42Fortune Feimster?

  Face it.

• 46:43Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 46:44Tig Notaro?

  Well, yeah, I had an experience with somebody recently where there was some weirdness in the air. And I was like, I'm going to go up and just say, hey, there's some stuff going on, obviously. Would love to talk to you about it. And she was kind of defensive and weird. And, um, and we were in this like group situation. And she avoided me the rest of the time. And I thought, if somebody came up to me and said, I'd like to talk to you, I would follow back up with that.

• 47:16Fortune Feimster?

  Hash it out, yeah.

• 47:17Tig Notaro?

  I would be like, hey, so what is it that's going on? You know? What was that? I would not slither away.

• 47:24Fortune Feimster?

  I think not everybody's capable of

• 47:27Tig Notaro?

  For sure.

• 47:28Fortune Feimster?

  emotional level of, you know, communication.

• 47:32Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, I just, I walked away from that going, man, like, why, why on earth would you slither away and avoid me? If there wasn't any shame in there?

• 47:44Mae Martin?

  And I guess part of it, like, I, I think I take responsibility too for sometimes the,

• 47:53Mae Martin?

  you have to make an, uh, which I think you do take, but in general, like, we have to make it an environment where it's safe to ask questions and safe for people to express themselves, you know, and not feel like they're going to immediately get called, you know, a bigot because they don't understand they, them, you know, like, we gotta.

• 48:12Tig Notaro?

  Well, yeah, in this particular.

• 48:13Fortune Feimster?

  Giving people grace?

• 48:15Mae Martin?

  Yeah, totally. Oh, my God. Yeah, like.

• 48:17Tig Notaro?

  In this particular conversation, I truly went up, we were like, kind of giving each other awkward smiles, like, hi, because there was obviously something to discuss. And then that's when I was like, hey, so I'd love to talk to you about the, you know.

• 48:34Mae Martin?

  Elephant in the room.

• 48:35Tig Notaro?

  Yeah. And, um, slither, slither, slither.

• 48:41Tig Notaro?

  So anyway, that all goes back to why?

• 48:45Fortune Feimster?

  Why?

• 48:46Tig Notaro?

  Why? Stop slithering.

• 48:50Fortune Feimster?

  There's been a lot of whys, I think, since COVID, COVID times. So much. I was thinking about that today, just like this pre and post COVID world, things just so significantly shifted.

• 49:02Mae Martin?

  They really did, and it would have been nice if it was a moment where that would have unified us as human beings. And it does feel like people just went to their little caves and went online and got radicalized a little bit sometimes.

• 49:16Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, got into podcasts.

• 49:17Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 49:18Tig Notaro?

  Just started taking in podcasts and stopped talking to people. But keep on doing that, keep supporting the show.

• 49:27Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 49:28Tig Notaro?

  Glad you listen. And Sarah does not have a follow up answer when I asked her.

• 49:34Mae Martin?

  No, I was hoping she'd solve this for us.

• 49:37Fortune Feimster?

  She doesn't have any answers for us?

• 49:38Tig Notaro?

  She said that it's just, it's like, it's an open ended why? It's for everything and anything, which I think is, is perfect. That works.

• 49:48Mae Martin?

  Very timely. And I will say, I really admire that about Sarah, her fluidity in terms of her, yeah, and transparency about her journey as a person. I hope I do that. I hope, yeah, I just think we should all aspire to just, as we get older, because no doubt, younger generations, there are going to be things that I do not understand or that I immediately feel defensive about. There's, there's all kinds of things probably now. And, uh, yeah, it's, we gotta keep talking to young people and keep learning and talking to people. And, yeah.

• 50:22Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah. And we gotta keep being silly at times, too.

• 50:26Mae Martin?

  Oh, for fuck's sake, that's all we have.

• 50:28Fortune Feimster?

  And have some levity.

• 50:29Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 50:30Fortune Feimster?

  We're gonna have a lot of whys and a lot of, ugh. And a lot of frustrations and uh keeping it, you know, obviously uh these things are important and you gotta take them seriously, but also taking time to to let the air out of the tires for a minute and

• 50:48Tig Notaro?

  Oh my gosh, one million percent.

• 50:50Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 50:50Tig Notaro?

  People are, I I hear from people all the time how thankful they are for just like a break from the insanity of life and the silliness and the singing and the Fortune Marie and the Mayfax and all of it. It's like, you know, there's obviously plenty of news stations you can go and drain your energy into. But like, we'll touch on things from time to time, but in general, you know, this is, this is a nice place for us to go.

• 51:20Fortune Feimster?

  This is where you hear about me, a pineapple apart.

• 51:23Tig Notaro?

  That's right.

• 51:24Mae Martin?

  I really, for my own brain, really appreciate it. Yeah.

• 51:28Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, ghosts.

• 51:30Tig Notaro?

  Yeah, ghosts.

• 51:31Fortune Feimster?

  Ponties galore, checking out those gams.

• 51:36Mae Martin?

  Motor boating.

• 51:37Fortune Feimster?

  Motor boating, my friends.

• 51:39Mae Martin?

  Cooters.

• 51:40Fortune Feimster?

  Cooters galore.

• 51:42Tig Notaro?

  Cooters and hooters.

• 51:44Fortune Feimster?

  Cooters and hooters and pooters.

• 51:46Tig Notaro?

  You need to start your own, or maybe we could, uh, as a trio, is start Cooters and Hooters.

• 51:53Fortune Feimster?

  Cooters and hooters.

• 51:54Mae Martin?

  Put it on the list.

• 51:56Tig Notaro?

  Well, yeah, put that on the list.

• 51:57Fortune Feimster?

  That list that we haven't whittled down.

• 52:00Tig Notaro?

  We will get to it. We will get to it in our retirement.

• 52:02Mae Martin?

  You know what? I was watching a documentary about the Beach Boys with my mom last night and my mom goes, God, their harmonies are amazing. And then out of nowhere, she doesn't listen to the pod, out of nowhere, she goes, you know, you and Tig and Fortune should do um harmonies. Like do a, do like a barber shop quartet. And I went, have you heard our theme song? And she was like, no. So I went on YouTube and I played the theme song and she was like, oh, wow. So that's one thing we've checked off the list.

• 52:27Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah, well, we could be a, what's, what's a three person?

• 52:33Mae Martin?

  Triad.

• 52:34Fortune Feimster?

  A triad? All right.

• 52:35Tig Notaro?

  Triathlon.

• 52:36Mae Martin?

  A triathlon.

• 52:37Tig Notaro?

  That's a long term throuple, is a triathlon.

• 52:42Mae Martin?

  A triathlon. Yeah, yeah. That's like if you're really on your deathbed, you're holding hands with two people. You did a triathlon.

• 52:48Tig Notaro?

  Yeah.

• 52:49Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 52:49Tig Notaro?

  All right. Well, that was a really. Special episode.

• 52:54Mae Martin?

  It was.

• 52:55Fortune Feimster?

  So, uh, full of emotion, so introspective, lots of philosophical wanderings.

• 53:01Tig Notaro?

  And a lot of, why?

• 53:03Mae Martin?

  Why?

• 53:04Tig Notaro?

  Why this day in conversation?

• 53:07Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah. So is our 100 episodes. Congratulations, you guys.

• 53:11Mae Martin?

  Yeah, congrats.

• 53:12Tig Notaro?

  And thank you, Mr. Thomas, for, uh, steering the ship.

• 53:16Fortune Feimster?

  Yeah.

• 53:17Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 53:17Fortune Feimster?

  And thank you for everyone that's listening to this.

• 53:20Mae Martin?

  Thank you.

• 53:21Fortune Feimster?

  Awesome podcast. We get, uh, as much joy doing it as you guys have told us you get from listening to it.

• 53:28Tig Notaro?

  Mm-hmm.

• 53:29Mae Martin?

  We really do.

• 53:30Speaker 04

  And thank you, guys, for me. It's a privilege to produce this show. And I feel like this, uh, you know, the podcast spreads so much joy and to participate in that is really meaningful for me. So, thank you all.

• 53:44Fortune Feimster?

  So why do we do this podcast?

• 53:46Mae Martin?

  Oh.

• 53:47Fortune Feimster?

  To spread joy.

• 53:49Mae Martin?

  Yeah.

• 53:49Tig Notaro?

  Handsome joy.

• 53:50Mae Martin?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 53:52Tig Notaro?

  Well, um, speaking of hands- spreading handsome joy, I'm gonna tell you where I'm spreading my handsome joy, if you don't mind.

• 53:59Mae Martin?

  Please.

• 54:00Tig Notaro?

  West Hampton Beach Performing Arts Center in West Hampton Beach, New York, August 17th. Province Town Town Hall in P-Town, Massachusetts. August 23rd, Beau Rivage Resort and Casino, Biloxi, Mississippi, September 27th. Also, go to tignotaro.com to see when I'm working out my new material at Largo Dynasty Typewriter and Comedy Bar, bouncing back and forth between Toronto and Los Angeles. Um, what do you have going on, my friends?

• 54:35Mae Martin?

  Uh, I got nothing live for a little while. So, yeah, you can listen to my music, or I'm gearing up to launch something very cool. I'll probably talk about it a bunch more, but I'm, I'm gonna launch like, uh... I do these animal paintings. I'm launching an online store, selling the animal paintings, and 100% of the proceeds go to charity, and I'm excited about that. That'll be launching in the next week or two, I think, so stay tuned.

• 54:59Tig Notaro?

  That's because you can't stop expressing yourself.

• 55:02Mae Martin?

  I can't stop.

• 55:03Tig Notaro?

  Can't stop, won't stop, don't stop. Can stop, won't stop.

• 55:06Mae Martin?

  Can stop, won't stop, yeah. What about you, Fortune?

• 55:10Fortune Feimster?

  I'm going to Iceland soon, August 8th, in Reykjavik. I'm doing a show there for their Pride. So if you live in Iceland, check that out. And then San Antonio, and Houston, Norfolk, and Richmond, and DC, Burlington, Vermont, Atlanta, Cincinnati, Chicago, Salt Lake City. Fortuneandtheme.com for those tickets.

• 55:35Tig Notaro?

  Well, there you have it. Please, should we say, share this episode?

• 55:41Mae Martin?

  Maybe not this one, as the first episode that you share.

• 55:47Tig Notaro?

  Share your favorite.

• 55:48Fortune Feimster?

  Start with Sarah Silverman's first episode with us.

• 55:51Tig Notaro?

  Yes, yes.

• 55:51Fortune Feimster?

  Where she asks about cleaning undercarriages.

• 55:54Tig Notaro?

  Yes, that's right. Solid episode. There's so many great ones. Share one with a friend or family member and bring them on into the Handsome Fold.

• 56:03Mae Martin?

  And keep chatting to each other on the Facebook page, the Reddit page. Keep sending us questions for the pretty little episodes, and we love to hear from you.

• 56:12Fortune Feimster?

  And get your merch. Look at this fun handsome shirt right here.

• 56:14Tig Notaro?

  Look at that. You can see that on YouTube.

• 56:17Fortune Feimster?

  Merch in the biz.

• 56:19Tig Notaro?

  Head on over to YouTube and see Handsome Fortune Face in a handsome t-shirt.

• 56:24Fortune Feimster?

  Well, you guys are awesome. What a, what a joy and treat to do this with you.

• 56:29Mae Martin?

  Ditto.

• 56:29Tig Notaro?

  Yes, it is.

• 56:30Fortune Feimster?

  Kisses?

• 56:31Tig Notaro?

  Mmm. Happy 100th. You both look under 50.

• 56:37Mae Martin?

  Happy 100.

• 56:38Tig Notaro?

  Alrighty. Until the next time.

• 56:42Mae Martin?

  Keep it handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Mae Martin, Tig Notaro, and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Willett. Email us at [email protected], and please follow us on social media, @handsomepod.

• 57:08Speaker 00

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• 57:12Speaker 06

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• 57:13Speaker 05

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• 57:35Speaker 06

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• 57:47Speaker 05

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