Pod Insights The Ed Mylett Show Innovative Strategies To Build Self-Confidence About this episode This week, I'm diving deep into the topic of developing greater SELF-CONFIDENCE—the number one challenge I observe so many people struggling with in their lives and the number 1 requested topic.
In just 20 minutes, I will equip you with powerful strategies to OVERCOME DOUBT and CRUSH those destructive negative voices that hold you back.
During our time together, we cover a lot of ground, including:
The significance of KEEPING PROMISES to yourself
How even the smallest actions can stack up and elevate your self-worth
Shifting your focus towards PROCESSES and STANDARDS for lasting confidence
Celebrating your BEST EFFORTS and INTENTIONS rather than solely focusing on outcomes
The impact of VIBRATIONAL FREQUENCIES and rhythms on your self-confidence
Embracing self-confidence as an EMOTION
I also delve into the profound role that FAITH plays in building self-confidence. Few things are as empowering as knowing that you have God on your side. When you prioritize serving others based on faith-based principles, you'll discover a deep sense of PEACE and self-confidence.
The key to unlocking greater self-confidence lies in transforming your self-perception.
Get ready to unlock a treasure trove of tactical strategies that will help you make those necessary changes and become a more confident individual in all areas of your life!
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1:34 Ed Mylett? Hey, everybody. Welcome back to the show. I'm so excited. This week, we're going to get a chance to talk about something that I know is on the minds of so many of you, which is how to increase your self-confidence. And, you know, there's so many things on social media and in the personal development, self-help space about how to do that. And I really feel like it's become sort of an echo chamber of the same exact things being said over and over again. But for the last 30 years of my life, this has been a core topic for me to create new and innovative content on because I needed it so much myself. And so as we dive into this conversation today, I just realized something. I'm with you on this. I struggled with self-confidence the better part of my entire life until I really started to work on these tools and resources that I'm going to share with you here briefly today.
2:18 Ed Mylett? And so it became out of a necessity for me. And it's changed my life. It's changed the internal part of my life. And obviously, the external things I've achieved in my life are directly correlated. To the confidence level that I believe in myself that I can do it because in our lives, our external results are never going to exceed our internal identity. We're never going to consistently do more than we believe we're worth or that we deserve. And I know you deserve the best in your life. You deserve more. You deserve abundance. You deserve increase. And I think my conversation today with my friend Brendan Burchard, that you'll hear here is going to give you some insights and some ideas and just some tactics that maybe you've not heard phrased the way that we phrase it here today. By the way, if you enjoyed the conversation, he's got an amazing app.
3:03 Ed Mylett? I always promote for him called Growth Day. If you go to growthday.com/ed, you could get more of the types of content like what he and I are talking about here today. But this one today is just for you on the Ed Mylett Show. So I hope you enjoy this conversation on self-confidence. Here we go.
3:19 Speaker 03 Ed, good seeing you, brother.
3:21 Ed Mylett? Love you, brother. Good to be with you, Brendan.
3:24 Speaker 03 Man, I'm so excited to be talking about personal development with you because every time I do, I get fired up. And if I think of something you're known for, especially when we see you on stage or you're on your podcast, you have a certain kind of confidence and energy and presence that I think draws people in, but also builds that kind of trust and assurance that you kind of have it, you know? And I'm going to guide you. I'm going to help you through this.
3:49 Ed Mylett? You have it too. We both reflected a little bit differently. But even when we started today, when you came on the camera, I said, I'm instantly smiling when I'm with you. And that's because you radiate that type of confidence as well. So it's such a great topic because even when I work with athletes, you know, like when we're done today, I'm working with one of my UFC fighters and people say, what do you really work with? Is it their visualizations? Is it? And I do do those things, but if you, even with the top of the top athletes that I work with, the number one thing they struggle with is their confidence level. And it's building, building it back, gaining the momentum of it again, remembering where it came from initially. And I think one of the reasons so many people, and even myself to some extent, the last couple of years, lost a little bit of it is our promises we were capable of keeping to ourselves were taken from us.
4:35 Ed Mylett? So I see self-confidence almost like it's a reputation that you have with yourself. And if you have a reputation with yourself where you keep the promises that you make to you, you begin to stack those promises on top of each other. You develop what we call self-confidence. When I have not held self-confidence, if I look back 90 days or 120 days or even a year, at some point I stopped keeping the promises I made to myself and they can be small things like, Yeah. what time I get up in the morning? How much water am I going to drink every day? How many contacts am I going to make in my business? How, how many pages of a book am I going to read? And those things seem very small, even making my bed, they seem very small. But when you start stacking up these little things like, oh, I do the things I tell myself I'm going to do. Yes.
5:20 Ed Mylett? And when, when the stuff happened the last couple of years, our opportunities to deliver on promises we made to ourselves were for the most part taken away from us. The, the normal routines and habits we had about going to a gym, even as simple as things like that, or even contact in business, going to an office every day. And so these things changed. And then we wake up 90 days or a year later and we go, I don't really feel like I've got what I had before. Yeah. So I always go back, even with the athletes I work with or even myself, where can I begin to build baseline self-confidence? Baseline self-confidence is keeping these promises. Superhuman self-confidence, no pun intended, is right behind me if, if they're watching the video. It's keeping the promises you make to yourself and then doing one more.
6:03 Ed Mylett? So if I say I'm going to make 10 contacts in a day, I make my 10, I do it one more. Now I've not just kept the promises, I've elevated the standard because in our life, you know this, I believe we don't get our goals most of the time. We, what delivers on our goals are the standards we set. And so the higher the standard, the, the deeper our self-confidence goes. So one of the keys for me has been rebuilding the structures around which I keep the promises I make to me. And the duration in which I do it is causing the depth of the self-confidence level that I have. So for me, it starts with basic habits and routines and things that like, this may seem really small. My daughter, by the commitments I've made to myself is I will talk to my daughter every day.
6:47 Ed Mylett? She's away at Clemson in college. You think, what does this have to do with business? It has everything to do because I'm a really busy dude. It's easy for me to just text her. I actually call her, hey, Bella Boo, it's daddy. I did it this morning. Except now I do it and I do it one more time a day. Now I'm like a superhuman confident dad. Cause how many dads are doing that, right? And I also, and I'm gonna let you jump in because I'm curious for you. I actually believe there's a part of us that goes, I'm getting what I deserve. I'm getting what I deserve. The external results I'm producing have a lot to do with internally what I believe I'm worth. And what I believe I deserve. And if you're like me, I don't naturally have a proclivity to believe I'm worth a lot. I wasn't raised with a bunch of praise and belief being poured into me.
7:32 Ed Mylett? I'm very self-critical. When I make a mistake, I'm my own worst critic. Even to this day, I have to really battle that. And even when I'm winning sometimes candidly, I'll be vulnerable. Is this a fluke? You know, like, am I fooling everybody right now? And so this stuff we're talking about has been fundamental in my life to changing my life is me believing, man, I'm doing things most people aren't willing to do. I deserve to get stuff most people are gonna end up getting. And so for me, it's the, it's the beginning of keeping those promises you make to yourself. And then I've got some other stuff too, when we come back to it. But do you relate to that? Is that part of your recipe too?
8:10 Speaker 03 Thousand percent, thousand. And I think researchers find that like they might use other language. It might be, hey, that's keeping personal commitment. Same thing. Hey, that's integrity. That's self-trust. And the language I use for that, that's just congruence. I say I'm gonna do it. I do it, I was congruent. If I say I'm gonna do it and I don't do it, I break that congruence. And the more breaks, then the more breaks in my psyche. The more breaks in my identity, the more breaks in my rhythm.
8:41 Ed Mylett? And I a billion percent agree with you on that. There is a rhythm. You know, some might call it a vibrational frequency or a rhythm to success. There's a rhythm to confidence. And when you're in that rhythm, the words flow a little bit different.
8:54 Speaker 03 Yes.
8:54 Ed Mylett? Places and things flow to you a little bit differently and you have a rapport with yourself. And with other people, when you're in that rhythm, it's funny that you say it because my son had to take a bunch of time off from golf. He had a knee injury and he lost that confidence in that rhythm. And even myself, when I've lost it, it's almost like, and you can be so close to the way you were before, but it's just not what it was. It's almost like. You ever be at a wedding and you watch that dude and he's got the moves, right? But he's dancing to the lyrics, not the beat of the music. So it's.
9:26 Speaker 03 Oh, that's me?
9:27 Ed Mylett? Yeah, well, that's just what I've heard. Okay. But, but it's that lack, and that's why you could say, man, I'm saying the same things I was saying six months ago, but I'm not producing the same result. It's that rhythm is off your, you're dancing to the lyric, not the beat of the music. And there's a beat to it. And I think you're a million percent right about that, Brennan. And I think once you find that groove, it's like. You know, momentum is a magnifier. Momentum is a rhythm. Momentum can take a person who's pretty average and ordinary like me. And you start getting enough momentum on enough rhythm, you're like, whoa. You have these superhuman things you begin to achieve. What's important about what you're also saying is that here's what's really important.
10:11 Ed Mylett? Both of us are saying this is an internal game. It's not contingent on the external praise. Or even producing the result to generate confidence. In other words, the game I've set up is an outcome driven, it's process driven.
10:26 Speaker 03 Yeah. Did you engage the process today is a win?
10:29 Ed Mylett? Yes, that's the, for me, it's like all I can control. I can control my attitude, my activity. Everybody knows that. But I'm linking that to my confidence, not the production of the result. If your confidence is constantly contingent on the result, you'll be chasing your tail most of the time. You'll be chasing your tail. So it's an internal game. It's also not, I don't need the affirmation of another person to get self-confidence. Self-confidence means it has to do with one's self. I'll give you another big key for me. And this really flipped things. I've talked to you about these conversations I had with Wayne Dyer. And a lot of times my confidence is not even predicated on my ability. Because there may be somebody smarter than me or better than me, a better speaker, a better marketer, a better whatever.
11:15 Ed Mylett? So when I walk into even today, I'm confident today. Let me tell you why. I give myself credit for my intentions. So my confidence, I've linked to my intent to serve, my intent to do good and not necessarily my ability to. So even when I speak, I mean, I pretty good speaker, right? But it's I'm not out there going, I'm the world's greatest speaker. My confidence comes from, I prepared, I've kept the promises I made to myself and my intentions.
11:41 Speaker 03 Yes.
11:42 Ed Mylett? Not enough precious human beings say, I'm a good woman. I'm a good man. I deserve to be successful. I'm, I'm walking into this business meeting and I intend to do good. I intend to help these people. I should be confident.
11:58 Speaker 03 Yes.
11:58 Ed Mylett? They think they've conflated, go, no, no, but I'm not as good as I need to be. That's not where your confidence should be linked to, or even the outcome. Link it to your intentions, because that's something you know to be true about you. I could always go back, Brendan, no matter where I am in the world, no matter what I'm doing. The one thing I do believe about me is I'm a good man. I intend to serve. I intend to contribute.
12:21 Speaker 03 Yes.
12:22 Ed Mylett? I generate a tremendous amount of confidence in my intentions, not necessarily my ability or the result. And I think this is something that's never taught in a self-confidence world.
12:32 Speaker 03 Yep.
12:33 Ed Mylett? That, listen, your intent matters. You should generate tremendous strength from your intentions. Yet most good people just sort of, they, they slough it off. They don't give themselves any credit for their intent. In other words, this doesn't, they think, oh, everybody intends to serve. Everybody's good. Nah.
12:51 Speaker 03 Right.
12:51 Ed Mylett? Not so fast.
12:52 Speaker 03 And worse, you lose it. You lose it sometimes, meaning people lose the, the, the time or the practice of setting the intention. So even if they are good, they don't even set the intention. So they can't give themselves credit for it. So you'll love this little psychological trick. We call it a doorway trigger. Doorway trigger is anytime you enter a doorway, you say something to yourself. So mine is when I walk through a door, I always say, I enter this room, a happy man, ready to serve.
13:23 Ed Mylett? By the way, the trigger thing is huge. We should talk a little bit more about that too, but because you can make deposits when you are confident that you can make withdrawals from later. So let's talk about that in a second, but like, for example, this fighter that I'm going to work with later today. She has a very major fight coming up. And one of the things I just wondered of a simple self-talk that gives her confidence. And actually, we've been working on it now for three months leading up to this fight. And here's what it is. I find a way to win. I find a way to win. I find a way to win. And I make her repeat it to me with different emphasis. So she'll say things like, I find a way to win. I find a way to win. She'll say, I find a way to win. Then other times I'll have her say, I find a way to win.
14:06 Ed Mylett? And we emphasize this over and over and over. It becomes like an embedded command. If anybody knows any NLP stuff, right?
14:12 Speaker 03 Yeah.
14:13 Ed Mylett? But it's just self-talk that's repeated over and over again. And it's funny how the mind works. We're going to repeat this over and over again. It becomes a believable belief and our mind moves towards what we're most familiar with. So if we're familiar with that thought, I tell you right now, in this fight, when it gets down to crunch time and she's in that, what I, they call it deep water. When she's taken out to the deep water, she might be getting submitted and she's tired and she's going to come back to this. I find. I find a way to win. And I believe what we believe to be most true, we end up producing long-term in our life. I just hope it shows up in the fight.
14:49 Speaker 03 Right.
14:49 Ed Mylett? But you're exactly right with the self-talk. I'm curious, do you do anything? Cause I do. When you, to anchor a state when you have confidence so that you can make the withdrawal later? Do you do that? Like when you're really feeling it, do you do anything to create that trigger, that anchor?
15:05 Speaker 03 Yeah, um, mine's dorky and self-reflective. Like when I capture, I go, oh, I got it. And I'd write it down and I'd tell myself, write it down and go, cause I know I'll forget that state or that moment. Or even if I do myself physically anchoring, you know, 10 minutes later, the emotion's gone. So I want to know, what was the aha? What was the breakthrough? Oh, I got it. And I write it down. So it's almost like a reward or a celebration or refraction. And to me, I have to write it down, partially because I had a brain injury way back in the day. So my memory and my cues aren't as easy to reflect like consciously. I remember it, I have to write it down. Um, the other thing I just want to say and reflect that coaching you're giving her is so great.
15:47 Speaker 03 Because I've always defined confidence as the belief in one's ability.
15:53 Speaker 03 To figure things out. My confidence is, I believe I can figure this out, which is another way of saying, I will find a way. It's the same, it's literally the same thing, right? I will find a way to win is I believe I can figure this out. It's, I like yours better because of deeper level of commitment and adding the win to it. I think that's so important, but you mentioned you have something that you do.
16:15 Ed Mylett? When I really feel, when I really feel something, this is maybe a little bit technical, but I think it's worth sharing for those that want to experience it. What I'm feeling, I, I think we, I think confidence is an emotion also.
16:29 Speaker 03 Right.
16:30 Ed Mylett? It's not only a thought, it's only a state of being, but it's an emotion. And there is a neurochemistry to all of our emotions. And so when I am feeling particularly confident, this is just what most people don't ever do in their life. They don't take advantage of states they find themselves in. So they can go back to them later, to your point about the trigger and the anchor. So when I am in a state of achievement, let's just say, or confidence, I like to just do something very simple physically that anchors that state in my body. It's not really dramatic either. It's kind of naughty and nerdy and dorky also. But for example, if I'm on the stage and I'm just, it's, it's being crushed or I'm just feeling the flow in a podcast. Or I'm in a beautiful moment with my daughter, where I'm feeling particularly confident as a father.
17:16 Ed Mylett? Whatever it is, my daughter this morning, when I called, she called me back, Brendan. She's like, she had a major test today. Her and roommate called, said, Dad, they're going to the test. Dad, we need words of wisdom. We need some motivation. My daughter, and by the way, it's bizarre to me at this stage in my life, bro, that my daughter now seeks this from me because I got eye rolls her entire teenage years when I'm giving her these same talks, right?
17:36 Speaker 03 Circle of life right there. Absolutely.
17:38 Ed Mylett? So, so I started out and what I, she caught me off guard. So the first thing I said was like, okay, Dad, thanks. You know, it was like, but then I kind of crushed a couple of other recommendations that I gave her, right? And I, when we were done, I'm like, that was a good dad moment right there. I crushed that as a dad. And so when I'm feeling a particular level of confidence, I'll anchor it with just some type of physical move. So like, it might be, for me, it's a lot, it's like a finger snap. I'm on the stage, I'm crushing, boom. And what I'm doing is I'm depositing that confidence state into my neurochemistry. Yes.
18:08 Ed Mylett? I'm making a deposit. And so when I'm feeling it, I deposit it with my athletes. You just hit a home run, you better, when you're running around those bases, give me the finger snap, or slap your chest, or pull on your ear, or tug on the helmet. You better anchor this amazing state. Now it's anchored. And the more we repeatedly do the same physical, simple move in a particular state, those are deposits. Then when I need to make a withdrawal, and I'm feeling a bit insecure when I'm about to walk out on stage, bam, finger snap, puts my neurochemistry back in that state again. Yes. You can even tell as I'm saying this to you now, my energy levels change.
18:42 Ed Mylett? Right. You're opening. Yeah. I'm opening. And so this, for some people, that's too much. But for a lot of people, it's like, that's it? When I'm feeling good, do something and do the same thing repeatedly, whatever it might be. That's why you'll watch a lot, you can learn so much from an athlete. You watch an athlete get out of the batter's box and adjust their batting gloves, or they tap home plate the same two times, right? Or the golfer does the same two practice. The pattern of a rhythm. Yeah. Right. Or Tom Brady, let's go. Or Peyton Manning, Omaha. You know, whatever it might be. These are verbal or physical triggers that are from previous self-confident peak performance states that they're now calling on now when they need the most. Right. And so that's the sort of the, that's the science part of self-confidence. The other stuff is sort of the art form of it.
19:27 Ed Mylett? One of the things that, that I'm still sort of surprised by when I work with people or they come to events is lack of clarity. And, and if I would add on top of that is a lack of specificity. So, you know, you say, well, I want to lose weight. That you're not going to get a lot of self-confidence coming from that statement. Specifically, what does that mean? Is it about, is it pounds? Is it body fat? Is it a percentage? Clarity is specificity. And so I want to, you know, I want to have a good year in business. I want to have my best month. What exactly specifically does that mean? So that when you look at that board, it's there's specificity all over it.
20:08 Ed Mylett? Almost thinks sometimes that building the muscle of setting specific outcomes and specific visual things is something people need to work on. For whatever reason, of all the things I'm not good at, that has never been a struggle of mine. I've never been vague. I've always really been very specific because I want to know whether I hit it or not, but that's what creates clarity. It's like if I'm looking at a golf hole, like we're talking about golf earlier, you and I off camera. If I, you know, I'm my average player. So what I'm really trying to do, which I was just talking about this this weekend in a golf tournament. I'm trying to hit it on the green, which is a big old 60 foot green, right? Yeah. And that's why I'm an amateur and that's why I lack confidence. Yes. The truth is a professional player is trying to hit it to a spot on the green
20:53 Ed Mylett? that's about six inches wide. Right. Right? And that specificity creates clarity for them in the shot. It's a target. And so they're far better than me because the target is so specific. Yes. And even if they were to miss, they're going to be much closer than me because they were so much more specific in their focus than I was with my wide focus. Yes. Or lack of focus. Some people that are worse than me at golf aren't even trying to hit the green. They're just trying to hit the ball. Right. And that's some, and that's a metaphor for life. And so. Yeah. You're a hundred percent. And one other thing that also creates clarity is this notion that I've been here before, meaning you were like, take a speech. You're exactly right.
21:38 Ed Mylett? And I know you're one of the greats of all time. You've walked out there in your mind before you've gone there. You walked out for this podcast before you've gone there. We, you, you, you project yourself into that space and see it happening to the point even when I was in, when I'm selling, I even picture them hugging me at the end and thanking me. It's that level of specificity. It's that level of, so that when I get there and that, that rhythm starts to happen, it's familiar. See, I don't want to end up in, if I can help it, I want to minimize the unfamiliar. And so if I projected, I prepared, I projected, a lot of my self-confidence comes from the fact that I prepared and I've been there.
22:19 Ed Mylett? In my mind, I've been there before. So you're, that helps create clarity for me. And I'll give you one more thing to kick around. You know, it's, it's surprising to me, no matter what your faith is. So if you're a Christian or a Muslim or Jew or Hindu, or you practice Buddhism, or maybe you believe like I do, and I'm a Christian, but also I believe in energy, I believe in the quantum, right?
22:44 Speaker 03 Yeah.
22:44 Ed Mylett? And people say to me, I believe there's an all powerful source, or I'm a follower of Jesus. And it's interesting to me, whatever their belief system is, that they don't derive any self-confidence personally from it.
22:56 Speaker 03 Interesting.
22:56 Ed Mylett? Why would you not link your faith, whatever faith it is you practice, to your confidence? Like as a Christian, if you're a Christian, like I'm the son of the King of Kings. His DNA is running through my veins. Why in the world would that not give me some dad gum confidence?
23:12 Speaker 03 Right.
23:13 Ed Mylett? The quantum and you can plug into an all-knowing knowledge field. Shouldn't you get a little confidence from that? So it's interesting to me how people go, well, I have a lot of faith. I'm in the synagogue or the mosque or I'm at church on Sunday, but somehow Monday morning when business starts, I'm alone now.
23:29 Speaker 03 Right.
23:29 Ed Mylett? Alone now? You're not alone now. Your faith tells you and informs you otherwise. And so you start having the combination of anchors and triggers, keeping the promises you make to yourself, your intentions, your clarity. All these things we're talking about, and then you stack on top of that. I have a faith in something bigger than me that's with me all the time. I ought to have some boldness and confidence solely stemming from that. So, so many of you that have faith, why are you checking that at the door when it comes to your relationships, your body, your business, your money? That should be centerpiece of your self-confidence, should be the most important piece of your self-confidence. And I know what is for you.
24:07 Speaker 03 I love it. My favorite words in my faith, in terms of Christianity is, he precedes me.
24:15 Speaker 03 It's like he perceives me like this, every, this is already worked out.
24:19 Ed Mylett? Yes.
24:20 Speaker 03 Somebody already worked it out. Now I need to find my way through. I need to figure out a way to win. I need to, you know, hopefully figure it out.
24:27 Ed Mylett? Yep.
24:27 Speaker 03 But where it's gonna go?
24:31 Speaker 03 I have trust.
24:31 Ed Mylett? Since we're being completely real, you know, Mike, people that see me speaks backstage like, so I saw you do your mood where you're snapping your fingers. But what's the last thing you'll see me do? I actually get on my knees and I pray very quickly because that's where my real confidence comes from. It's the, it's, um, you know, here's what it's done for me. I've never said this to somebody and maybe you and I can kick this around the last few minutes. I think also we put a pressure on ourselves like. Am I going to make the right decision or the wrong one? Am I going to say the right thing or the wrong thing? And I have found in my life, and I have this rooted in my belief system that when I've come to a place where I have to yield or make a decision.
25:10 Ed Mylett? I don't necessarily think most of the time, now there is right and wrong in life. We all know that. I'm not talking about ethics or morals. I'm not referring to that. I'm talking about if something goes one way or the other. I've really built this belief system that I'll make either one work. So if I, if I decide this way. And I might be wrong, I'll find a way to make that work. And if I go that way and I was going to be right. I'll make that one work. There's this notion that's sort of put into us when we're children like. Good or bad, right or wrong? And we start feeling this pressure like, what if I don't say the right thing? What if I don't do the right thing? The truth is in life, most of the time that path, that journey, both can lead to bliss. Both can lead to success. It might be a different path.
25:55 Ed Mylett? It might not be to your point on your schedule. It might be on God's schedule. And if you have a God that's a pro that created the entire. Universe, you're probably going to be okay no matter which turn you take. And that gives you a confidence to go, I'm going to call the shot with the most information with the, with the best of my ability. But I'm going to make either one of these work. That's real confidence.
26:17 Speaker 03 Oh, I love it. I'm going to make either one of these works because the truth is. Whichever one you take, path A or B, turns out good or bad. Most people go, well, one's gonna be good and one's gonna be catastrophic and it's gonna be terrible.
26:30 Ed Mylett? Right.
26:30 Speaker 03 And I go, well, the truth is, right or wrong, the next step actually is exactly the same. If you fail, the next step demands that you summon the best of who you are to handle it. If you win, guess what? The next step is gonna demand that you summon the best of who you are, no matter what. So I always tell people, you want confidence? It's easy, know your job. You have one job. Every day, summon the best of who you are to really work life and at the same time, trust life or God. I think is one of the ultimate secrets of the most successful people I've ever met.
27:05 Ed Mylett? I a million percent agree, and I think actually today's conversation is sort of evidence of everything we've said. We both set out with an intention to serve today. There's been this incredible rhythm between the different things that we've, you know, said here together. And if I'd add one last thing to it, it's also that you could take on an identity of yourself too, which is that I'm kind of a learner. Like I'm curious, I was curious where this was gonna go today and I learned. And when I come to these decisions or these experiences I'm gonna have, you know, at a minimum, I'm gonna learn something about myself, about how to do it better. You know, even with an athlete, I keep going back to these examples, but like, I'll tell them that at bat, yeah, you grounded out, but you learned this guy's curve ball does this.
27:49 Ed Mylett? You look, so the next at bat, you're more prepared for what he's gonna bring to you.
27:54 Speaker 03 Yes.
27:54 Ed Mylett? This notion of I'm learning, um, I don't know, for me, it reduces the pressure. It increases the curiosity and it also, I'm almost always winning if I'm learning.
28:07 Speaker 03 Yes.
28:08 Ed Mylett? I'm almost always winning if I'm learning. And so I've sort of adopted in my life, this notion that I'm curious and I'm gonna learn, it's gonna be an experience, I'm gonna learn. I've found that I actually produce the outcome that I actually had on my board, to your point for clarity, far more regularly. When I'm not so addicted to the outcome and everything I want to do, because addiction to outcome can rob you of confidence. But when I am committed to the process that you've described earlier, and also this notion that I'm going to gather a better me at the other side of this, because I will have learned something about me, the circumstances, the environment, how to do it better the next time, whatever that might be. Get a lot of confidence when I approach things that way.
28:50 Speaker 03 Ed, it's been a pleasure, and I hope that you'll find confidence in your growth today. Thank you, Ed.
28:56 Ed Mylett? Thank you. I want to hear it back, too. Let's go.
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