941. Q&AF: Boundaries With Parents, Asking For Help & Exploring Purpose Late In Life

On today's episode, Andy answers live call-in questions on how to set healthy boundaries with parents, how to ask for help without losing the drive of doing it yourself, and how to discover purpose in life even when you feel it's too late.

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:16Andy Frisella?

  What is up guys? It's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and A F. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Now, you can submit your questions to be answered on the show a few different ways. DJ is going to tell you all about it.

• 0:38Speaker 01

  Yeah guys, first way is you can email your questions in to [email protected]. You can also submit your questions in the YouTube comments on the Q and A F episodes. You can also click the link in the description below and submit your questions for a chance of be on the call-in episodes. Yes.

• 0:57Andy Frisella?

  Thank you.

• 0:57Speaker 01

  You're welcome.

• 0:58Andy Frisella?

  So, uh, don't forget to participate in the Q and A F. Free game, free game. Other times throughout the week, we're gonna have C T I. That's what's coming up tomorrow. Cruise the internet. That's where we put topics on the screen. We speculate on what's actually going on and then we make fun of everybody.

• 1:20Andy Frisella?

  And then we talk about how we the people have to be the solution to the problems going on in the world. Then we have real talk. Real talk's just five, 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we have what's called 75 hard verses. 75 hard verses where someone who's completed the 75 hard program comes on the show, talks about how their life was before, how their life is now and how they used the 75 hard program to recalibrate their mindset and develop the mental toughness needed to win. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard, it is the initial phase of the live hard program. The world's most popular mental transformation program ever. Alright, and you get it for free at episode 208. It's

• 2:05Andy Frisella?

  on the audio feed only. It's not on YouTube. We weren't on YouTube. 208 on the audio feed. Uh, and then you could buy the book. The book is called the book on mental toughness. That's it right there.

• 2:20Andy Frisella?

  It's not free, but it does go through the entire live hard program and a whole bunch of other chapters on mental toughness, why it's important, how to develop it, how to use it to become the ultimate version of you. And you can get that at andyfrisella.com. And then we have a fee. Fee is very simple. Help us grow the show by sharing it. All right. So don't be a hoe.

• 2:45Speaker 01

  Share the show.

• 2:46Andy Frisella?

  All right. What's going on, man?

• 2:47Speaker 01

  Nothing, dude.

• 2:48Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. So what do you?

• 2:50Speaker 01

  Oh, you know, just another beautiful day. Getting, uh, getting lots of great, deep sleep.

• 2:57Andy Frisella?

  Are you? You look like you're still asleep.

• 3:00Speaker 01

  I'm fucked right now.

• 3:01Andy Frisella?

  Why? Were you up all night with the kid?

• 3:02Speaker 01

  Bro.

• 3:03Andy Frisella?

  Was she screaming shit?

• 3:04Speaker 01

  Bro, there's just something that happens between like 3am and 7am.

• 3:09Andy Frisella?

  What's that?

• 3:10Speaker 01

  She doesn't fucking sleep. I don't know what it is. She's just fucking.

• 3:13Andy Frisella?

  Were all of them like that?

• 3:14Speaker 01

  Screaming at, uh, Addison was a little bit. It was giving Addison vibes for sure. Like Addison didn't.

• 3:20Andy Frisella?

  She was hard, wasn't she?

• 3:21Speaker 01

  Bro, Addison did not sleep through the night until she was like nine months old.

• 3:25Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, I remember that. Oh, that was hard.

• 3:27Speaker 01

  Yeah. I'm just getting, getting those vibes very early right now.

• 3:31Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 3:32Speaker 01

  Yeah. But, uh, no, man, it's good. It's good. You know, um, we're here.

• 3:36Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 3:36Speaker 01

  I'll make it work.

• 3:37Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 3:37Speaker 01

  Um, let's start off with a call. Let's, uh, let's get Rubio on the phone. Get Rubio.

• 3:52Speaker 02

  Hello?

• 3:53Speaker 01

  Rubio, what's up, man?

• 3:56Speaker 02

  What's going on? Is this, uh, is this DJ?

• 3:58Speaker 01

  This is DJ. No, this is your conscience.

• 4:01Speaker 02

  Oh, okay.

• 4:03Speaker 01

  What's going on, man?

• 4:06Speaker 02

  Uh, nothing much, nothing much. It's, uh, is the big man there too?

• 4:09Speaker 01

  No, it was just me calling you.

• 4:10Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, DJ is calling to just see if you want to get something to eat, bro.

• 4:14Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 4:15Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. What's up, brother? How are you?

• 4:18Speaker 02

  I'm good. How are you gentlemen doing?

• 4:20Andy Frisella?

  We're doing good, man. Just sitting in here, uh, talking about how we're gonna actually help people.

• 4:27Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 4:27Andy Frisella?

  So, uh, what's going on with you? Where are you at?

• 4:31Speaker 02

  Right on. I'm, uh, I'm calling in from, uh, California, unfortunately.

• 4:34Andy Frisella?

  Okay. We're at in California.

• 4:37Speaker 02

  Uh, Fillmore, it's a small town, Ventura County area.

• 4:41Andy Frisella?

  I don't know where that is. Where is that north or like northern Cali?

• 4:45Speaker 02

  It's uh, it's so Cal area.

• 4:47Andy Frisella?

  Oh, okay.

• 4:48Speaker 02

  A little ways from Los Angeles.

• 4:49Andy Frisella?

  There you go. That's good. Good weather.

• 4:53Andy Frisella?

  What can we help you with, brother? What you got going on?

• 4:57Speaker 02

  So I've got a little bit of a dilemma.

• 5:00Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 5:01Speaker 02

  Um, so just to give background to the, to the story, as of right now, I'm calling you, I'm nineteen years of age. Going on a twenty here. And I decided from a young age that I didn't want my life to be ordinary. Started listening to the show probably like seventeen, super, super motivated. All of my buddies on it, some of them kind of listened to it, some of them didn't. Uh, got my father into it. And what ended up happening was I decided up and going, join the military. And I sit now, stand now as a United States Marine, and I decided. Uh, I liked my job at the time. I was working as a shop man. I've always liked dirty work. I always liked it in my hands dirty, just.

• 5:43Speaker 02

  I've always wanted to build myself to uh, be a better man and be an example for when I do eventually have a son. And I was sitting there at work one day and I, I knew that I just, I, I, I had to go find out if I could make it through boot camp. But I knew that financially, I wanted something bigger for myself, so I didn't sign active duty. I went in reserve so I could come back and ultimately make more money here. And that's what I did. And I noticed as the years went on, when I started making more money, that my parents started treating me a little bit differently. So just to give reference, um, beforehand, obviously I wasn't paying rent. I wasn't really doing much because of the young age. And up when I hit eighteen, that's when they kind of started charging me rent.

• 6:27Speaker 02

  Uh, me and my sister both were paying right around two hundred dollars. No, nothing crazy. Hit nineteen and that's where I went at my rent went up. And my sister being that she got herself in debt at a young age. Um, they cut her completely off, stopped her from paying rent. And they charged me more, which I thought was a little strange, but. I kinda said, whatever, do it. And my father. Has always had a. Good, been good with finances, been good at making money. Up until recently, he started focusing more on spending money than keeping it. And he makes good money. The only issue is that he spends more than he makes. And he's got himself into some debt and he's talked about me taking over his payments.

• 7:11Speaker 02

  He got a motorcycle, really likes, I like motorcycles, but. I personally don't buy anything that I can't afford, so I have no debt. And I plan on keeping it that way. The only issue is. When he gets injured. He usually looks at me for money and recently. He borrowed a decent amount of money for me around three thousand dollars, which he ended up paying me back eventually slowly, but. My biggest issue is. Right now, as I said, he's, he's pretty motivated. I think he's. Kinda just on the addiction of motivation rather than action. Cause he's right around three hundred and twenty pounds ish. Five foot seven. Thirty nine years old and. I think he can still get out of his situation.

• 7:57Speaker 02

  The only issue is that he has a hard time listening to people and. I wanna sit down and have a conversation with him appropriately without him getting upset with me or emotional because he seems to get that way.

• 8:08Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm.

• 8:08Speaker 02

  Or without even bring bringing up kicking me out because. I guess that for his age and that weight.

• 8:14Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm.

• 8:14Speaker 02

  I don't imagine he'll make it much longer and he's been super motivated by you, Andy, with your story being your weight.

• 8:19Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm.

• 8:20Speaker 02

  The only issue is, like I said, he doesn't really listen to people. He has a hard time. Understanding things. Not so much because he doesn't understand that it's an issue, but because. He's always been the, it's not that easy kinda person.

• 8:33Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm.

• 8:34Speaker 02

  Which, I mean, I've tried to convince him otherwise, but by, by the looks of it, in the long run, he gets injured. I want to be taking on a lot of his debt, which I don't want to.

• 8:43Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm.

• 8:44Speaker 02

  And it's gonna fall on me. Ultimately, the house, I've recently found out, same thing, my mother has a decent amount of debt and she's kind of turned to me for money, which of course I don't want to say no to her, but I found out she was slowly taking money from me through my bank account, which I had to have a conversation with her about, and she tried kind of hiding it from me. And I just, I want to know how I can approach him with this situation in appropriate manner, because I do care about him. And I want him to be here in the long run for when I build my future.

• 9:16Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm.

• 9:16Speaker 02

  But I also don't want his decisions now to not allow me to start my future because he's gonna take that from me ultimately with his debt and like I said, I just want to make sure he's around and for the, for the rate he's going at now, the doctors are telling him he's not gonna, he's not gonna live much longer.

• 9:34Andy Frisella?

  Well, I mean, he's five, seven, what'd you say, three twenty?

• 9:39Speaker 02

  Yes, sir.

• 9:39Andy Frisella?

  And he's thirty, he's thirty seven?

• 9:41Speaker 01

  Thirty nine.

• 9:42Andy Frisella?

  Thirty nine? You're absolutely correct. Uh, he's not gonna be around very much longer if he doesn't take care of that. That's the truth. You don't see old obese people like that. You don't see that. Um, typically, you know, these people die before they get old. And, um,

• 10:01Andy Frisella?

  yeah, that's, that's just part of the equation. Let me ask you this.

• 10:06Andy Frisella?

  What's your outcome? What's your ideal outcome of that conversation?

• 10:13Speaker 02

  My ideal outcome is that he starts putting in the work with me again. I mean, when he was two seventy, not too long ago, he was going to the gym with me. I would go help him out at work because, I mean, ultimately I wanted to start working with him. So I got all my certifications, I got my class A license, my CDO. And I wanted to work with him. The only issue is nobody wants to hire me because I'm young, but that's not important with the conversation. And we were going to the gym, everything was going good and he was motivated. He's like, you're gonna come work with me, all this stuff. And then he up and got injured and saw that as a as a permanent roadblock and like I said, ended up putting on another fifty pounds.

• 10:54Andy Frisella?

  Okay, and let me ask you this, a couple of things here. What, what kind of work are you guys doing?

• 11:01Speaker 02

  So he's a crane operator.

• 11:03Andy Frisella?

  Okay.

• 11:03Speaker 02

  He kinda just uh sits in the crane, does his thing, but when I go help him, we're we're actually walking around, running around, we're greasing the cranes. I like going to help him grease them, so I get up under there and

• 11:14Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, it's a whole, whole job.

• 11:15Speaker 02

  And we were doing this to about eight different cranes, just

• 11:18Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 11:19Speaker 02

  Just because I want to get into the field of work.

• 11:22Speaker 02

  And then when we're working out, I mean, I take him to the gym with me and I run him through my programs. I tried running through the seventy-five hard, which I mean, he made it like halfway and then saw a cupcake and that was it.

• 11:36Andy Frisella?

  And what do you want to do for yourself long-term?

• 11:41Speaker 02

  For myself, long-term, I ultimately want to build something. I don't really care so much about the financial portion. I only care about money because everything in the world costs money and I understand that you need it to an extent. But I want to be able to build something that I can look at and be proud of and something that overall helps people. I'm not exactly sure what that is yet, being that I am, I am still young.

• 12:02Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, you don't have to have an answer right now. Yeah, I was just curious. I was just curious. Yeah, brother. All right, look, man, here's a, there's a lot here. Um.

• 12:14Andy Frisella?

  Let me start with the conversation that has to happen with your, let me start with this, okay? Your parents shouldn't be taking money from you. They shouldn't be taking money from your account. They shouldn't be making you feel guilty for not wanting to give them money. That, that's not okay. All right. And you have to draw a boundary there. Um. And it has to be real. And sometimes parents don't really understand that. I don't know what that is. I don't know why that is. But sometimes, and I've talked to a lot of people, parents have like this weird entitlement to their children's success. Uh, I was actually talking to a very well-known, everybody knows him,

• 12:59Andy Frisella?

  entrepreneur that I'm friends with, um, about this exact issue yesterday, uh, about how

• 13:12Andy Frisella?

  This person's parents felt entitled to the same thing and no matter what they did, it was never enough. And the answer was always, "Well, you know, that's nothing for you. That's not the fucking point." Okay, like, the point is, I worked my ass off for that. And just because, you know, you think that I've got all this shit coming out of my ears or whatever, it doesn't matter. It's not yours. You didn't fucking earn it. And, um...

• 13:43Speaker 01

  It's a hard convo to have, yeah.

• 13:44Andy Frisella?

  Well, you got to have it?

• 13:45Speaker 01

  Yeah, I had to have it.

• 13:46Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, I mean, listen dude, it's unfortunately, some people only get it when you're a fucking mean as fuck to them about it. And then they'll finally stop. But, uh, yeah dude, it's, it's reality, man. And I don't know why parents feel that way. I don't know. I really don't.

• 14:05Andy Frisella?

  I don't know. But that's neither here nor there. It's just reality. And it seems like you've got a couple of parents that think that way. And, uh, that has to be a real conversation of adults. Hey, I'm an adult. You're charging me rent. I am happily paying it. That's the transaction. You're not entitled. You're not entitled to anything else. You're not entitled to more of that. You can't just take my money. Yes, we're family. And I would gladly help you. But I'm not an endless stream of financial resources. And that boundary needs to be set now, brother, because the older you get, then the more money you make, the worse that will

• 14:46Andy Frisella?

  get. So that's a conversation in itself that needs to be, it's, and I understand dude, like, you love your parents, but that boundary has to be set. And it has to be firm. Um, now let's get on to the conversation with your dad.

• 15:03Andy Frisella?

  That conversation should probably start just like any other meeting that you would have. I would sit down, I would ask him to sit down and meet with you, not just try to catch him in the middle of his day, not just try to talk to him at dinner, but I would ask him, I would say, "Hey Dad, can you meet me here at Starbucks at noon or whatever? I got something I really want to talk to you about." Something that sets the expectation that this is not a normal conversation, alright? The reason that's important is because you want them thinking ahead of time, "Fuck, I

• 15:46Andy Frisella?

  wonder what this is about. This must be serious." And what will probably happen is, they will say, "Well, just tell me now, just tell me now." And you should say, "No, I want to sit down and have a talk about it. It's very important to me." And do not give in when they try to get you to say what it is right now, because you want him to think about it until that time comes. He's probably gonna listen to the show and know this. But at the end of the day dude, you sit down with them and you say, "Hey Dad, look, my outcome for this meeting..." And then you state your outcome. "My outcome is, I'm young, I'm 19 years old. I'm gonna grow up one day, I'm gonna be successful, I'm gonna have a family, and I would like you to be around for that."

• 16:31Andy Frisella?

  And right now, this is the real truth, you're not gonna be. And you know you're not gonna be, I know you're not gonna be, and the data says you're not gonna be. And, I love you man, like you're my whole fucking life, and I can't imagine you not being around when I get married or have kids, because food and drink had some sort of control over you. And it's frustrating for me that you won't take it serious enough to handle your business. That makes me wonder how much you actually care about what I've got going on, even me. And I think that's a real conversation, because dude, I don't

• 17:14Andy Frisella?

  think he's thinking about that. I don't think he's thinking like, because we all, by human nature, think, "Oh, it'll never happen to us, it'll never happen to us, it'll never happen to us," until it does. And I know from being very overweight...

• 17:29Andy Frisella?

  And struggling with that my whole life, that's the story I would tell myself. I would tell myself, it's not as bad as I think it is. Other people are like this, it's normal. Um, you know, it's not that bad. And I would tell myself all this shit and until I found a bigger purpose that was outside of myself, it was very hard for me to take serious. And um, I would sit down, I would have that conversation with him. Very frankly, however it is that you would like to deliver that message. And at the end of the thing, I would say, Dad,

• 18:07Andy Frisella?

  I would really appreciate if you, if you did this for me. And if you can't do it for you, I would like you to do it for me and my future kids. Because I want you around. And um, and, and I would have that conversation, make that known. And then I would also, and this is an important thing, dude.

• 18:26Andy Frisella?

  I would also

• 18:29Andy Frisella?

  be prepared for him to continue down the path that he's going to go down. Because here's the thing.

• 18:37Andy Frisella?

  We can't force people to lose weight. We can't force people to take their shit serious. We can't force people to want to be financially successful. We can't force people to want to be more than they are. But what we can do is point out the reality of what they are. Because most people do not see themselves accurately for what they really are. They look in the mirror. They don't like what they see. They look at their bank account. They don't like what they see. They look at their family. They don't like what they see. And then they tell themselves a shit ton of stories about why it is that way that let them off the hook for having to deal with the actual problem. So

• 19:20Andy Frisella?

  there's a good chance, no matter what you say or what you do, that he will remain the same.

• 19:26Andy Frisella?

  If, if I

• 19:30Andy Frisella?

  I would like to think that if I had a son and he said that to me, that that would that would disturb me enough to fucking take action. Um, but we just don't know. And that's how I would handle it, dude. And the last thing I would say to you is this, um, you gotta run your own fucking race, bro. And we love our parents. You know, uh, I get I get this question a lot. A lot of parents, and I'm not saying this about yours. I'm just saying this for everybody else that's listening. A lot of parents don't support their their their children. A lot of parents get jealous when their children start to become more successful. A lot of parents have to be cut the fuck out of your life when you come from,

• 20:15Andy Frisella?

  you know, very meager means and your ambition is so big. It's it's it's weight that is hard to carry. It's and it's it's not something that you can actually do. Because to get to that point of where you want to go requires all of your effort, all of your energy, all of your focus. And you can't spend it dealing with people who are creating doubt, who are pulling you back, who are asking you for things that aren't theirs, who are like, you just can't make time for wasted energy. And the truth of the matter is people are either contributing or pulling away. And to get where you're wanting to go, you know, to be successful,

• 21:00Andy Frisella?

  sometimes it takes pulling away from every single thing that distracts you and doesn't contribute. And people hate that answer. They're like, oh, well, that's not healthy. Well, fuck, bro. You told me what you wanted. I'm telling you what it takes to get. It's just reality. And if you want to have relationships with negative people, just because you're related to them, then your success will suffer. That's reality.

• 21:27Andy Frisella?

  So that's what I got for you, man. I know it's a difficult situation. But you're a grown man. Um, I think you need to present yourself as a grown man to him. It sounds like you do most of the time anyway. And have him offsite and have a meeting and say, hey, this is, this matters to me, man. And, uh, you know, if, if you don't do that, that's, that's your choice, but I'm just letting you know, like,

• 21:56Andy Frisella?

  I'm gonna go do these things. You know what I mean? And, um, yeah, I mean, fuck, it's a hard situation. What do you think, dude?

• 22:03Speaker 01

  No, no, I mean, 100%. I think the most important piece on that is just being prepared if he doesn't choose to do anything about it. You know, like, like, dude, I look back on my life, I had my first apartment at 17. I had no choice.

• 22:14Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 22:14Speaker 01

  Cause I went through the whole thing like, oh, I'm, you know, stay home with mom. Well, you gotta pay rent. Well, I'm not here trying to build a life. Like, and I gotta get, you know what I'm saying? Well, I might as well just get my own shit then.

• 22:22Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 22:22Speaker 01

  You know what I'm saying? I had to, I had to prepare myself for that. And it is a tough thing, man. But like you said, Andy, bro, like, Rubio, you got, you have a life. You gotta start running and, and ultimately nobody else is responsible for that but you.

• 22:35Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 22:35Speaker 01

  You know, so it's tough for those, as tough as those decisions might be or conversations might be to have, like, somebody's gotta have them.

• 22:42Andy Frisella?

  You know, I think a lot of people have frustrations that other people, like, it's, it's a very weird dynamic when you're trying to like develop your own path in life. You know,

• 22:55Andy Frisella?

  if you're ambitious and you want to create something and you want to build something and become something, that's rare. Most people don't. Most people, I would say 97% of humanity just wants to breathe air and exist and have the least amount of discomfort possible. They don't care if they get anything else. And the 3% that do, and I'm making these numbers up, but that's just my estimation, those people.

• 23:25Andy Frisella?

  You know, they're never gonna fit in, man. They're never gonna fit in with people who, who, who don't have that drive. Those people are never gonna understand you. They're never gonna relate to you. They're never gonna, they're never gonna support you the way that you want because they don't fucking get it. And we have all these young people who try to curtail their existence to get the approval of these other people that aren't on the same path, not realizing that if you are that close to them, where they understand you, then you are that much further from where you actually wanna be. So, they shouldn't understand you. They shouldn't get you. They shouldn't be able to fucking comprehend what it is you're trying to do. And if they can,

• 24:09Andy Frisella?

  then that either means they came with you, or you've put enough distance between you, yourself and their ability to comprehend that you were on the right path. You know, and um, it's a different language, it's a different life, it's a different fucking species. And when we try to

• 24:28Andy Frisella?

  mold ourselves into people that will be understood by people who have no ambition, no drive, no future, we're just taking away from our own success and our own dreams and our own reality. And we do that a lot because we think like, "Well fuck, I'm related to them," or "They're my mom," or "They're my dad," or "They're my cousin," or "They're my this or that or this." But dude, at the end of the day, it's not like they couldn't go with you if they wanted to. You can't fucking force them. They have to want it. And a lot of people will get judged. They'll say, "Oh, you forgot where you came from," or, you know, "You, you, uh, you're not humble anymore," or, you know, "You need to, you need to remember, you know, who you are," and all this shit. And they'll say all this shit and like you can look at them and be like, "Well fuck dude,

• 25:11Andy Frisella?

  uh, I didn't remember not inviting you to come with me. You chose to stay there." You know, so, that's the reality, man. And um, the good news is, is if you do have to make those set, those, those severances in your life, they will be replaced later on by people who support what you're trying to do. And I could tell you this, the, the more successful you get, the better your circle gets.

• 25:39Andy Frisella?

  People think that's rude. It's, it's reality, dude. Successful people aren't doing fucked up shit usually, okay? They're not out getting fucked up till four in the morning, driving their car 7,000 miles an hour. They're, they're not going to the bars all the time. They're not doing destructive things. And reality is, is most of the bad things that happen in people's lives come from hanging out with people who do those things. So,

• 26:06Andy Frisella?

  you know, you, you start surrounding yourself with people who have goals, ambitions, dreams, desires, um, the hunger to build.

• 26:15Andy Frisella?

  These people contribute, man. They help you. Every phone call you take is encouraging. Every, every conversation you have is about building. And when you get to that point, man, it's, it's like, it's like hard not to win. Cause everybody expects you to win and then they're also pushing you to win. And they're also competing with you to win. So you don't want to lose to them. You know, it's just a different dynamic, dude.

• 26:38Speaker 01

  And you're talking about all the other bullshit.

• 26:39Andy Frisella?

  Nah, bro. Listen dude, Andrew Tate said this thing, and I know people have mixed opinions of, but I saw this clip of him. And he fucking said, and it was fucking dead, dead on true. He said, "Every single time I've ever fucking gotten in trouble, it was because I was hanging around poor people." And it was fucking true. It's fucking true. The shit that they fuck with is not the same shit that ambitious, driven, hungry people fuck with. It's truth.

• 27:06Speaker 01

  Completely different risk.

• 27:07Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 27:07Speaker 01

  Yeah. That's real, bro.

• 27:09Andy Frisella?

  So.

• 27:09Speaker 01

  That's real.

• 27:10Andy Frisella?

  Anyway, um, what do you think, dude?

• 27:16Speaker 02

  I appreciate the words. I appreciate the, the advice. I'll definitely take it and try to sit down and have that conversation with him. But I've been, I've tried to accept, like you said, the things that you told me that are, might happen, might not happen. I've tried to always keep myself in that mindset, trying to just, uh, not expecting a whole lot.

• 27:33Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 27:34Speaker 02

  And just, uh, trying to put in more work than, than I'm getting out, but I'm just, I mean, I'm a strong believer in, you know, you, you, you get what you put in, so.

• 27:42Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 27:43Speaker 02

  I mean, at the end of the day, I've kind of understood that. I mean, he didn't, he didn't just wake up and become 320 pounds.

• 27:48Andy Frisella?

  Right.

• 27:50Andy Frisella?

  Well, I mean, there's lots of reasons why he could be like that. I mean, look, dude. We could all find reasons as to why our life is the way it is, but at the end of the day, here's the reason. He didn't move enough, he ate the wrong shit, he drank the wrong shit. And that, you know, that's it. It's very simple. So, um. You know, that's his decision, man. And a lot of people, you know, like you say, he's inspired by me. Well, fuck, I might not, I must not be doing a very good job. But no, I'm being serious. You know what I'm saying? Like. You, you shouldn't be able to justify five, seven, three hundred and twenty pounds. Like you shouldn't be, that's not acceptable. So, I, I, I empathize with Rubio here, but. You know. You gotta be prepared.

• 28:36Speaker 01

  It's real, man. That's real. Rubio, we appreciate the time, bro.

• 28:42Speaker 02

  I appreciate yours as well.

• 28:43Speaker 01

  Alright, man.

• 28:44Andy Frisella?

  Alright, take care, bro.

• 28:46Speaker 02

  Thank you, guys.

• 28:48Speaker 01

  Yeah, that, that, that's a tough, that's a tough spot to be in, bro.

• 28:52Andy Frisella?

  There's a lot there.

• 28:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, there's a lot. There's a lot. But I think the, the other good part is though, just as, as, as easy as I guess it was to get in that position. You can also get out of it by moving, putting the right shit in. You know what I'm saying? Like.

• 29:06Andy Frisella?

  I, you know, look, man.

• 29:10Andy Frisella?

  The family thing is hard, okay? Because it's all you ever know. And then you decide what it is you want. It's so weird. Cause you get encouraged when you're a kid. Hey, you know, you could be anything you want.

• 29:25Speaker 01

  By those same people.

• 29:26Andy Frisella?

  By the same people, dude. And then you, you go through school and as you get older, the conversation switches from you could be anything to. You know, okay, now we gotta get realistic about what you wanna be. And it's like, it's like, it's like, bro, were you bullshitting me back then? Are you bullshitting me now? You know, what is it? And then the conversation changes if you continue on that path that you always believed that you wanted to be more. The conversation from the same exact people that were telling you you could be anything is. That you can't be that. You know, and it's like, it's this hard thing to deal with when it comes from people that you've always looked at.

• 30:08Andy Frisella?

  To be your source of guidance and unfortunately, you know, people have a really hard time with their own egos. When their children's goals are bigger than theirs. And the truth of the matter is that's the point. Like if, if you're a parent out there and you're like somewhat jealous of what your kid's doing versus what you did, um, you need to check your fucking self, bro, because that's the point. The point is they're supposed to do better. The point is you're supposed to put them in a position to do better. And just because they start doing better, doesn't mean that they owe you fucking money. That's what you're supposed to do as a parent. It's no different than

• 30:49Andy Frisella?

  someone who comes into my office and I show up on time. Yeah, no shit. I work hard. Yeah, no shit. So, you know, it's a, it's a frustrating thing. And a lot of people struggle with it mentally, bro, because the emotional bonds that have been created over that time, right?

• 31:07Speaker 01

  Well, I think what it is, bro, is the parents realizing that they didn't like

• 31:11Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, they fucked up.

• 31:11Speaker 01

  It's them coming to the reality, like I, I did not prepare them to be that fucking president or a future doctor. I didn't, I fell short. So now I gotta try to reel them back in and fuck up their confidence before I send them out into this real world that I didn't prepare them for.

• 31:24Andy Frisella?

  You think that's what it is? I don't, I think a lot of parents don't care. I think a lot of parents are jealous.

• 31:30Andy Frisella?

  I think a lot of parents are fucking jealous. They state, they think the, they think that success

• 31:38Andy Frisella?

  is what they've done. You know what I'm saying? And they can't fathom a success for their own child that is outside the realm of that. They have a very hard time with it.

• 31:49Speaker 01

  That's some fucked up shit, man.

• 31:50Andy Frisella?

  It's the truth.

• 31:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 31:51Andy Frisella?

  It's the truth. Think of it. You live your whole life, you become a mechanic, which is a great thing, by the way. Okay. Let's just say you become a mechanic. But then your kid grows up and not only do they become a mechanic, they end up creating their own car and starting their own car company and making a trillion dollars doing it. Now all of a sudden, that person who was just a mechanic starts feeling like, well, this isn't good enough for you. My life's not good enough for you. It's like an ego thing, you know? And so when kids start to outperform their parents, not good parents, but shitty parents, start to try to fucking hold them back. And that's why I tell all these youngers, these youngsters, I'm like, bro, Sometimes you gotta cut these motherfuckers out.

• 32:36Andy Frisella?

  You gotta ask yourself, what do you want? Do you want, do you want a relationship with a toxic parent? Or a toxic family? Or do you want to fucking win?

• 32:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 32:47Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 32:47Speaker 01

  It's a very simple choice to have, man. I love it, man.

• 32:50Andy Frisella?

  Well, let's keep it. I think the mistake, bro, that a lot of people make is underestimating what it takes to win. They don't understand. They don't understand that it fucking, at least for an amount of time, it takes everything. You know what I'm saying? Like, everything. You cannot afford to have negativity. You cannot afford to have people in your life, no matter who they are, no matter what their last name is, telling you that you can't, or you shouldn't, or you won't. They got, it's people gotta be behind you, or you gotta be alone. And that's it. It's too hard, bro. It's too hard. Winning is not normal. It's not this normal thing. It's extraordinary. It's out of the ordinary. It is, it's exceptional.

• 33:33Andy Frisella?

  And there's been this, like, watering down of what it actually takes to win by culture and society, and, you know, with this balanced shit and all this. You could do, you can't fucking do it all, man. You can't do it all. If you're gonna have this overly balanced day-to-day life, you're, the amount of money you earn is probably gonna be a lot less. And that's okay. But you need to understand that.

• 33:55Speaker 01

  You gotta be okay with it.

• 33:56Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 33:57Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah.

• 33:58Andy Frisella?

  It's just, it's just a balance, bro. And, you know, people will judge you for it. You know, they'll, they'll, they'll, if you don't make enough money, they'll say you're a broke loser. If you make too much money, they'll say all you care about is money. You know what I'm saying? Like, they're gonna fucking.

• 34:11Speaker 01

  You're bad parents, you're bad spouse, or.

• 34:13Andy Frisella?

  Or, bro, they'll say to, you know, cuz I don't have kids. Well, he doesn't have any kids, so he's totally unhappy. Like, you don't fucking know what I like.

• 34:21Speaker 01

  Right.

• 34:21Andy Frisella?

  You don't know that I, you know what I'm saying? Like, everybody's poking a hole into everything that everybody else has or does. And you've gotta have earmuffs in, and, and just not care.

• 34:30Speaker 01

  They're gonna poke holes regardless. They're gonna poke holes regardless.

• 34:33Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Fuck dude, no matter what.

• 34:35Speaker 01

  No matter.

• 34:36Andy Frisella?

  You know?

• 34:37Speaker 01

  I love it.

• 34:37Andy Frisella?

  You could be, you could, you could walk on fucking water, bro, and you could cure cancer, you could do all this shit. There's still gonna be motherfuckers that don't like you. They're gonna say, oh, yeah, well, he walked on water, but he didn't fly.

• 34:49Speaker 01

  Yeah, right, right.

• 34:52Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, he cured cancer, but fuck, it took long enough.

• 34:54Speaker 01

  Yeah, right, right.

• 34:55Andy Frisella?

  You know? It's just like, it's just loser shit, bro. Most peo-, here's the truth, most people are losers. I don't know what to tell you.

• 35:02Speaker 01

  Yeah, I love it, man. I love it. Let's get another, uh, let's get another question rolling, man. Um, we got, uh,

• 35:12Speaker 01

  let's get Chadrick. Let's give him a call, shall we? Chadrick.

• 35:22Speaker 03

  Hello?

• 35:23Speaker 01

  Hello, is this Chadrick?

• 35:25Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 35:26Speaker 01

  What's going on, man?

• 35:28Speaker 03

  What up, Andy?

• 35:28Speaker 01

  Oh.

• 35:31Speaker 03

  My fault.

• 35:32Speaker 01

  Wrong black guy. Yeah, no, it was DJ.

• 35:36Speaker 03

  My fault, guys. My fault.

• 35:38Speaker 01

  What's up, brother? How are you?

• 35:41Speaker 03

  Hey, Andy, I'm doing good, man. How about you?

• 35:43Speaker 01

  Good. Where you calling from?

• 35:45Speaker 03

  I'm calling from Chevyville, Tennessee.

• 35:48Speaker 01

  Chevyville? Chevyville. Alright. Where's that? I've never heard of that. That's one of the places I haven't heard of. Yeah, where's Chevyville?

• 35:53Speaker 03

  Hey, hey, I'm, I'm not gonna lie to you. We have like a population of like, I, I don't even know, but we're like a small town. We're, uh, down south of Nashville. We're like an hour and maybe thirty minutes away from him.

• 36:07Speaker 01

  Alright, alright.

• 36:09Speaker 03

  Yeah, it's called Bedford County.

• 36:11Speaker 01

  Bedford County, okay.

• 36:12Speaker 03

  Uh, we actually have one of the largest bars in the whole world, Uncle Nearest.

• 36:18Speaker 01

  What's it called?

• 36:20Speaker 03

  Uncle Nearest.

• 36:21Speaker 01

  Oh, like the whiskey?

• 36:23Speaker 03

  Yeah, we have, it's, it's in my town. Uh, it's on the outskirts of it. Yeah, it's like really closer to, it's like in between Murfreesboro and Chevyville, but it's like one of the biggest bars in the whole world.

• 36:34Speaker 01

  Hmm. Uncle what? Uncle Nearest, yeah, it's a, it's a whiskey. Uh, yeah.

• 36:39Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 36:39Speaker 01

  Huh, that's, that's sick.

• 36:41Speaker 03

  It's pretty cool.

• 36:42Speaker 01

  Alright, well.

• 36:43Speaker 03

  Guys, I'm really excited. I'm really excited. I'm really nervous at the same time, so.

• 36:47Speaker 01

  Ah, brother, we're, hey, we're just some normal fucking dudes, bro. You don't have to be nervous. We're here to help.

• 36:52Speaker 03

  I know, I know that.

• 36:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, so what's up? What you got going on?

• 36:56Speaker 03

  Alright, man. I'll give you a little history of my life. So, um,

• 37:02Speaker 03

  Whenever, I'll take it way back so you can understand my perspective and what I'm trying to do. So whenever I was 12 to 13, my dad passed away. Um, I thought football, I thought sports, I thought all of that was gonna get me somewhere. Um, it didn't because my coach took all the film whenever he moved from one high school to the other. And he was just worried about, you know, doing whatever he was doing. So, um, set off into the world and, uh, you know, did everything I needed to do. Right now in this situation, in this current, you know, my current life right now, I am 29 years old. Um, about two years ago, I lost my mom to cancer, my brother to a wreck.

• 37:44Speaker 03

  Now, in my whole life, all I have is my sister. That's it, just my sister. So, uh, I was, I was thinking to myself, you know, I don't have too many people now. Cause you know, my life has been like, it has. And, uh, and I was, you know, I'm, I'm making a brand and a product for myself as well right now. And, uh, you know, it's a, it's like a hydration pouch.

• 38:10Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 38:11Speaker 03

  So I am trying to not act like, I, I don't wanna ask for somebody's help because I've always been the person to do it myself and to pursue something myself. Cause I don't, I don't know, asking for help kinda makes me feel like I'm kind of like, you know, making myself weaker and the grind is not as hard as, you know, what I'm trying to search for, if that makes sense. So, I mean, it's just, it's just,

• 38:45Speaker 03

  it's, it's kinda hard, especially whenever you don't, you know, I'm, I'm doing it myself. So I just, I'm, I'm trying to get somebody else's perspective of, they've already been there. Cause I don't have people like that in my town that will tell me what I need to hear and how it needs to be.

• 39:02Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm. Okay.

• 39:05Speaker 03

  That's.

• 39:06Andy Frisella?

  Go ahead.

• 39:08Speaker 03

  That's why I'm, I'm reaching out because like I said, I, I've contacted multiple, multiple people, multiple. And I don't hear nothing back and I'm just like, okay, so should I, I, I don't know where else to go. So I did submit my question and I just wanted to, do you wanna, I'll, I'll give you the question if you want me to.

• 39:30Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. That's what I'm here for, brother.

• 39:32Speaker 03

  Alright, it says, "I've always had, I've always prided myself on figuring things out on my own. But I know there's value in learning from people who've already done what I'm working towards. The challenge for me is this. How do you ask for help without feeling like you're giving up the edge that comes from grinding it out yourself? Part of me feels like asking makes me weaker, but another part of me knows it could make me sharper. I'd really appreciate your perspective on that.

• 40:06Andy Frisella?

  Okay. First of all, man, um, I'm sorry to hear about your family. That is, that's very tough. Um, very, very tough.

• 40:19Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 40:20Andy Frisella?

  Here, here's, here's what I want you to hear. Alright? You do not need anybody else's validation or permission to start this business and go do what it is that you see in your mind. Okay? If you have a vision for what you're trying to accomplish, it is very important that you dedicate yourself to that vision. Now, when we are just starting out, and it doesn't matter if you're 18, or 30, or 50, we have this thing as humans because we don't know what we don't know.

• 41:01Andy Frisella?

  And when we've never been successful at anything, we imagine that there's boundaries that exist that do not exist. For me, when I was young, I used to think like this. My internal dialogue would be,

• 41:20Andy Frisella?

  "Man, I hope one day I'm one of these people that gets chosen to be successful. I hope one day I'm one of these people that gets lucky enough to be successful. I hope one day," and I would see it as like this thing that I called the success fairy. And when I visualized it in my head, it was like, there's, imagine a group of people and then like this fucking fairy flies down and taps certain people on the head, and those people somehow get the path to success and end up making it.

• 41:53Andy Frisella?

  And it's not true. It's complete bullshit. And we believe that because we have never been successful and we've never been in the proximity of people who are very successful. The best gift that any of you who are listening to the show can give yourself is to be in the proximity of someone who has built something massive. So you can see how normal and how much in common you actually have with those people. Because we, at the beginning, sort of idolize these people or build them up or imagine that they have these superpowers and dude, they don't. Okay?

• 42:37Andy Frisella?

  And I know it feels that way when you're just starting. So you need to clear out this belief system that you have, that there's some sort of gatekeeping or, you know, there's some sort of rule or club or code or committee that is going to invite you to be successful. They're not going to. No one's coming to Chevyville, Tennessee to find you and say, guess what? You get to be successful. You have to fucking understand this dude. Because this idea that's based in our identity that we grew up around

• 43:20Andy Frisella?

  has to be broken before we can actually be successful. We have to break out of that thinking. When you've grown up a certain way and a certain style and a certain household with a certain income, with a certain mentality, that means that's going to be your identity, bro. And as you grow, that identity is going to have to give way to a new identity that is in line with who you're trying to become before you actually become it. So I challenge you, brother, to start thinking of yourself already as a successful man, as a strong man, as someone who can create anything and make anything happen because you can.

• 44:04Andy Frisella?

  I'm just telling you, bro, you can. There's nothing out here above you that's ever gonna stop you from doing that outside of the actions that you take. Even if you start to build this hydration pouch and you get up against Andy Frisella who owns First Form and they've got unlimited access to marketing funds and this and that and this. And I say, fuck it, I'm gonna fucking hammer this guy with like dude, there's still a way to fucking get around that and beat those people. So, yeah, bro, there's no limits, dude. And I my thing here and you talk is what I could tell is that you're still stuck in that identity of how you where you came from. And you need to

• 44:49Andy Frisella?

  break into this new identity, brother. And that new identity is gonna be you being the best version of yourself. The fit, the most fit that you can, the smartest that you can be, the most effective that you can be, the kindest that you can be, the most savage that you can be. All right. And you have to become the product before the product can help you build a life. And you have it, dude. You have it. You've just gotta, you know, you've got to understand. It makes sense for you not to understand what it's like because you've never lived it. It makes sense for you to not understand that you can do these things because how many fucking people

• 45:31Andy Frisella?

  have you met in real life that are just like you that have done these things? It's not very common. And that's the gift of the internet. We were talked in the beginning of the show about how the internet can be damaging to people because it makes them feel demoralized. You know, we see these 25 year old kids scamming people and driving Lamborghinis and shit.

• 45:51Speaker 03

  All the time.

• 45:52Andy Frisella?

  But also, bro, if you pick the right people to look at, you can learn tremendous amounts of information. You keep your head down, you build shit, and eventually, all the things you want will come your way. And the internet provides a tremendous value to young men like you because you can find those people dude. Yes, you're gonna have to filter through the fucking idiots. Yes, you're gonna have to recognize that there's a lot of bullshit out there. But there are people who have built real products, real businesses, who do real things that can help keep you on track. And obviously you listen to the show and I'm one of them.

• 46:31Speaker 03

  Um, yes.

• 46:33Andy Frisella?

  So.

• 46:33Speaker 03

  You're like my top one.

• 46:35Andy Frisella?

  Well, brother, I appreciate that, but I just try to keep it real with you guys because, you know, for me, man, you know, this is more than just about me. This is about our next generation of entrepreneurs, understanding that they have to not only be successful, but they, you, when you are successful, have to take on my role with your team. You have to become their coach. You have to become their brother. You have to become their dad. You have to become their advisor. You have to help them personally develop. And to your point about.

• 47:06Speaker 03

  Thing you're doing.

• 47:07Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, bro, you have to. You have to do it for your fucking company. And, and to your point about the pridefulness that you have about asking for help. Let me under, make you understand something. I had a lot of motherfucking people that helped me, bro. Okay. When you hear that my story and you hear all these fucking people's story, and they say, oh, I grounded it out by myself and nobody ever fucking bullshit. Okay. One of the reasons that I give back so much is because I was fortunate enough to have people in my life that took an interest in my development and helped me. They told me the things that I needed to hear. They told me the truth.

• 47:51Andy Frisella?

  In fact, if you listen to the last CTI, my uncle John, who just passed away, was one of my biggest mentors in that, in that realm of existence. If I did something stupid, he said I was fucking stupid. If I was giving up on myself, he said, dude, what are you doing? You could do this and this and this.

• 48:11Andy Frisella?

  I want you to understand dude, there is, the weakness is you refusing to ask for help. That's the weakness. That's your ego. That's your hubris. That's your pride. These are things that will kill you in success. Success is a team effort, bro. You cannot do it on your own. Nobody that you've seen build anything that you, look, I've got my brother, who's fucking genius. I've got Jason, fucking genius. I've got Chris, fucking genius. I've got a team out here that is all made up of young, smart, hungry people that give a fuck. Bro, I'm surrounded by greatness. Okay, it's not just me. Alright?

• 48:57Andy Frisella?

  And you have to understand, like if I had gone through life thinking, fuck dude, I don't need their help. I don't need this. I can't ask for this or I'm a pussy. Bro, I wouldn't have that. I wouldn't have any of that. And, you know, my friends that I hang around, bro, these are successful people. The people I spend my time with on the phone, they're successful entrepreneurs. We collaborate, we work together, we, we don't gatekeep. We, we realize, because this is what true champions realize. True champions want their competitors to be better, because they understand that if that competitor gets better, that they will rise to the occasion and become better themselves. And surrounding yourself with the best fucking people possible, whether they work for you,

• 49:42Andy Frisella?

  whether they're an acquaintance or a friend, or even in the beginning, sometimes you gotta, you know, pay for access to people like that. With the right people, not the fucking wrong ones. And once you start to develop that dude, you start to realize and the picture becomes very clear that you're not the only one, bro. You know, I'm sure you feel that way because you're in a small town in the middle of Tennessee and people are kinda going about their way of life, which is great dude. There's lots of times where I'm like, fuck, I wish I just lived in a small town and fucking sat on my porch and smoked fucking cones all day. Like, that's, that'd be great. But, you know, I would be bored with that in about fucking five seconds. So, um, listen, brother.

• 50:27Speaker 03

  I do have something to say though.

• 50:29Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 50:30Speaker 03

  Can I?

• 50:30Andy Frisella?

  Yes, sir.

• 50:31Speaker 03

  So, I have been grinding, I wouldn't say busy, but productive.

• 50:37Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 50:37Speaker 03

  I like productive over busy any day.

• 50:41Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 50:41Speaker 03

  So, I have actually continued with this product. And now, I'm at, the reason why I'm asking, or why I asked that question is because now I'm at the final stages of it.

• 50:55Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 50:56Speaker 03

  I'm at the final stages of putting it out there. Get like, like having it in my hand, my logo, my can, everything.

• 51:06Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 51:06Speaker 03

  I've already got my samples, I paid for that, I've already, I've already did everything, everything I need to do.

• 51:12Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 51:13Speaker 03

  With this, with this hydration pouch.

• 51:15Andy Frisella?

  Mm-hmm.

• 51:16Speaker 03

  And I don't mean no pouches that you put in your water, I'm talking like a dip pouch.

• 51:21Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, like a, like a zen, like a, like a fucking, uh, yeah, I get it.

• 51:24Speaker 03

  A zen.

• 51:25Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 51:26Speaker 03

  A zen, like a zen.

• 51:27Andy Frisella?

  Like, what are they called, what are those pouches that you, you do?

• 51:29Speaker 01

  I usually call them tampons. Oh, I don't do those.

• 51:35Andy Frisella?

  You fu-

• 51:35Speaker 03

  Of course.

• 51:36Andy Frisella?

  The dip pouches.

• 51:37Speaker 01

  Yeah, the dip pouches.

• 51:38Andy Frisella?

  What are they called?

• 51:39Speaker 01

  Yeah, like zen, zen is it.

• 51:43Speaker 03

  Yeah, I made up my own formula, I made up my own logo, I made up my own name. And, you know, I, I based it off you, man. Your, your perspective of everything, I, I come from you. Um, you motivated me. Now, it's just stuck because I'm in a place to where, well, they need this much, but I have all these stores that want it.

• 52:10Andy Frisella?

  Alright, bro.

• 52:10Speaker 03

  What they want for it is what's gotten me stuck.

• 52:14Andy Frisella?

  What's that?

• 52:15Speaker 03

  If that makes sense.

• 52:16Andy Frisella?

  What, they, they, they want it cheap?

• 52:19Speaker 03

  Not, no, not cheap, but to get the product with my logo and my everything on it, the way I want it, with everything to be my, in my perspective, they want so much for it and that will, they will give me so many cans for it.

• 52:36Andy Frisella?

  Oh, you're lacking seed capital is what you're saying?

• 52:40Speaker 03

  Exactly, because I don't have, like I said, I don't really have people to ask, because, I mean, I've done everything my, my own, uh, I've already, like I said, I already have samples, I already tried flavors, um, I paid for that myself, um, I mean, I work a full-time job at O'Reilly's, which is not good because I know I can be better than that.

• 53:04Andy Frisella?

  Brother, brother.

• 53:06Speaker 03

  And I work at a liquor store too, so, and I've been there for five years.

• 53:10Andy Frisella?

  Just so you know, just so you know, I worked fucking multiple jobs the first eight years that I.

• 53:16Speaker 03

  Is that you?

• 53:17Andy Frisella?

  Yes.

• 53:17Speaker 03

  You inspired me to do that?

• 53:19Andy Frisella?

  Yes.

• 53:20Speaker 03

  Like, and, uh, I just didn't know, well, I don't know, it was just, I, I just knew you did that because I hear, I hear it, you know, every day.

• 53:31Andy Frisella?

  Well, here's your options. Let me give you the options. One, you go out and find an investor, and you sell him part of the, you get him to become a partner, he has to put cash in, you run the business, okay? Two, um, you can actually go to, uh, take one of these stores, get a small amount of product made, and start one at a time, bro, keeping your books completely clean, that's what we did, all right? And yes, it took us a little bit longer, but now we own everything, you know, so we, we've got a debt-free company that, you know, makes it extremely, extremely valuable, um, you can, you could find that same investor and give him, get him to give you a loan, um,

• 54:17Andy Frisella?

  but at the end of the day, bro, let's say you don't get any fucking help at all, you know, you're gonna have to gener-, let's just say hardest possible route. Hardest possible route is gonna be you.

• 54:29Andy Frisella?

  Working your jobs, saving your money to the point where you can order the product in enough quantity to sell it at one store. Okay, and then you're just gonna have to roll that out and roll that out and roll that out and be very disciplined. That's how we built our business. That's how everything that you see, that I've done, that we've done, that we did it that way. Uh, it just takes longer. But with social media, with everything that's going on, it can go a lot faster for you than it could for us. Um, the next, the next best way, and by the way, the hardest way, is usually the best way.

• 55:14Andy Frisella?

  The reason that that's the best way is because once you go out and make this start to happen, you're gonna own the entire company. Now, with that being said, the next best way would be for you to get someone to loan you the money that you pay back. But I would caution against that for where you're at right now because your concept, as much as you believe in it, has yet to be proven. And here's the problem with taking money too fast. If you take money too fast, you end up losing it, you end up in a debt that you have no way to get out of. And that becomes a major problem. We see this a lot with small businesses because a lot of these knuckleheads on the internet

• 55:57Andy Frisella?

  tell people to go get fucking debt right away, go get a loan right away, get an investor right away, when they don't understand the fundamentals of actually running the business. And what these people typically do, almost every single time, is they think they can hit a home run. And we see this mentality even as high as Super Bowl commercials. Every year, we see Super Bowl commercials for companies that spend $8 million for a 30-second fucking spot, and then we never hear from them again. And the reason that happens is because people think that they can capture customers in these gigantic groups without brand recognition, which you cannot do.

• 56:41Andy Frisella?

  Because all that ad spend that you spend on that Super Bowl, that's only one impression to people. So if they're unfamiliar with your brand, it's not enough for them to make a purchase. So I need you to remember you are a small business with limited resources, which means you are going to have to obey the rule of one customer at a time. And one customer at a time is the only way that I know how to grow a business. It's the truth.

• 57:17Andy Frisella?

  What happens when these small guys get money is they will say, okay, let's say they got, let's just say for simplicity, you get a hundred thousand dollar loan. They'll take eighty thousand dollars of the loan and they'll put it towards marketing. But yet they don't know how to service the customer. They don't have the systems in place for fulfillment. They don't have the systems in place for reordering and they, here's what happens. Customers order the product.

• 57:45Andy Frisella?

  They don't get the right service. It takes a long time. There's, you know, there's things that happen along the experience that make the person say to everybody else, hey, I tried that product and it, the fucking company sucks. Everybody makes this fucking mistake. I would say 97% of small entrepreneurs make this mistake.

• 58:05Speaker 02

  Yes, sir.

• 58:05Andy Frisella?

  You have to be ready to do the proper ad spend, which means, and I want you to think about it like this, okay? Think about a bucket. Visualize yourself having a bucket and in the bucket, the bottom of the bucket, there's a whole bunch of holes. Okay. And the bucket represents your company. You go out and you spend money to acquire a bunch of customers. Those customers come, they look at your brand and they go in your bucket. They buy the product, but then they fall out the bottom. Okay. And the reason they fall out the bottom was because of what I just said. They got bad service, bad fulfillment. They didn't get an answer back. It took too long, a million other things. Okay.

• 58:50Andy Frisella?

  And the experience wasn't good. And it takes time for an entrepreneur to make that experience where it needs to be so that the holes in the bucket get stopped. And that way, when you have the customers going in, then you have repeat customers over and over and over again. And now you have customers advocating for you, telling people how awesome your brand is. And that's where the scaling can start to happen. So until you're to that point where you can accumulate customers without them falling out of the bucket, if you go spend money, all you're doing is paying for people to notice how shitty your business is, and then going and telling everybody about

• 59:34Andy Frisella?

  it. So it's the exact opposite of what you're trying to create. And fucking everybody does it, bro. Because they want to hit that home run. They want to hit that grand slam. They want to be the 25 year old with the Lamborghini. Like, it just doesn't work that way, bro. So my advice to you would be to start small, to be smart, to work and use your own capital to get a small amount of product that you then test your, your ads and your marketing. And by the way, you need to be on the fucking street in front, you know, in front of a table saying, hey, nice to meet you. This is what this does. Like, you're gonna have to become

• 1:00:18Andy Frisella?

  the best salesman that you can. And the best salesman is really comes down to you having the right intent. I want to help you with this problem. Let me solve this problem for you. Here's how we solve this problem. Then you educate them on it. They go out and verify that what you told them was the truth. They have it in experience that aligns with the message that you gave them. They validate that you're telling them the truth, and then they start to trust you. And as you build that trust with customers over the course of time, they actually become loyal. And that's where you start to scale out your company organically. And when you get to that point, when you throw paid behind it, now you have something that's really gonna go. Does that make sense?

• 1:01:00Speaker 02

  Yes, sir.

• 1:01:01Andy Frisella?

  Okay, so.

• 1:01:04Andy Frisella?

  You know, I, listen, man, I know, like, I spent a lot of time being very upset about not having a lot of capital when I started. But where I'm at now, if I had a lot of capital when I started, I wouldn't be who I am now. That's, that's the facts. So, uh, and remember, dude, at 29 years old, I had to move in, I, I had to move back in with my dad at 27. So like, I was broke as fuck. I didn't, First Form didn't even fucking exist. So you're not in a bad spot, brother, at all.

• 1:01:40Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 1:01:42Andy Frisella?

  Love it.

• 1:01:42Speaker 03

  See, at the, at the, in, at the end, um, my, where the liquor store or whatever, he told me I can set up a venue type deal with a table, and if I have samples, I can go in there and I can sample it out to the customers that come in as well. So,

• 1:02:01Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 1:02:02Speaker 03

  he's giving me the opportunity to advertise it in any way, shape or form, and he even wants to sell it in the store as well. And, um, I've actually went out, like I, like I said, while I was working at O'Reilly's, which I still am, but I delivery drive. I would go, if I went to a store, I would talk to them about it, and they would be like, hey, I, I want to help you as much as possible. Like, I want to, you know, whenever you get it, you come to me and I will, I will do everything I need to do. So I've, I've, I've used to, I, I'm pretty, I can say I'm pretty well with talking to people.

• 1:02:42Andy Frisella?

  Good.

• 1:02:43Speaker 03

  Because I have been in the customer service all my life.

• 1:02:46Andy Frisella?

  Good. Tremendous skill to have, brother, especially when you're going to be an entrepreneur.

• 1:02:51Speaker 03

  Yes, I, I, just like you say, I try to talk to five random people every day, every day, random. Just to, just to talk to them, just to see what they got to say.

• 1:02:59Andy Frisella?

  And what's it do for your skill set, brother?

• 1:03:02Speaker 03

  Man, it makes me have more of a clearer version of who I am as a person. Cause that person could be going through something and then you know what to say.

• 1:03:16Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 1:03:18Speaker 03

  And then you help them in their life as well as, oh, well, I didn't see in that perspective. It was that time and it was that moment. I just helped somebody else out with their life.

• 1:03:28Andy Frisella?

  That's right, dude. And honestly, that's the most important fucking thing. We've talked about the entire time. So.

• 1:03:34Speaker 03

  Yo.

• 1:03:35Andy Frisella?

  You got it, dude.

• 1:03:36Speaker 03

  So that's.

• 1:03:37Andy Frisella?

  Hey, you know, uh, you know, you've heard of Bass Pro Shops, right?

• 1:03:43Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 1:03:44Andy Frisella?

  You, do you know where they started?

• 1:03:47Speaker 03

  I do not.

• 1:03:48Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, they started in the back of a liquor store.

• 1:03:51Speaker 03

  Really?

• 1:03:52Andy Frisella?

  Mm hmm. One of the greatest companies that exists in the United States of America was started in the back of a liquor store. Selling fucking fly fishing lures that he made by hand. Johnny Morris. Damn. It's one of the greatest fucking entrepreneur stories that's ever existed in this country. And I would encourage you, I would encourage you to go learn everything you can about that man and every other man that's done something like that. Sam Walton, all of these people, bro, they started with nothing. Okay? And, and those are much more valuable people to learn from than the fucking idiot on the internet who's driving around in a fucking Huracan, talking about buying their fucking chat GPT prompts.

• 1:04:35Speaker 03

  Yeah. Yeah.

• 1:04:36Andy Frisella?

  You notice how these fuckers are now selling their prompts?

• 1:04:39Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:04:39Andy Frisella?

  They're like, oh, here's, here's my prompt to do this. It's like, they're not even selling knowledge anymore.

• 1:04:45Speaker 01

  That's stupid.

• 1:04:46Andy Frisella?

  Fucking same dudes that sold NFT and.

• 1:04:48Speaker 01

  Yeah, right.

• 1:04:49Andy Frisella?

  Fucking crypto rug pulls and now it's.

• 1:04:53Speaker 03

  It's, it's bad.

• 1:04:53Andy Frisella?

  Buy my chat GPT, comment chat and I'll send you my chat GPT. How about you just fucking ask the chat GPT?

• 1:05:02Speaker 01

  That's stupid.

• 1:05:02Andy Frisella?

  Hey, chat, what would the proper prompt be for this? It'll fucking give it to you. Anyway, he's getting pissed off now, but it's neither here nor there. All right? Um, go study Johnny Morris, bro. It'll inspire you.

• 1:05:18Speaker 03

  Yes, sir. Hey, I'm not gonna lie. I know this myself. Hey, I would love to keep in touch with you.

• 1:05:24Andy Frisella?

  Oh, yeah?

• 1:05:25Speaker 03

  Honestly, for like a mentorship.

• 1:05:27Andy Frisella?

  What do you look like?

• 1:05:28Speaker 03

  You know.

• 1:05:29Andy Frisella?

  Are you cute?

• 1:05:31Speaker 03

  I mean.

• 1:05:37Andy Frisella?

  Brother, I don't do, I don't do direct mentorship. I honestly can't afford to do it.

• 1:05:44Andy Frisella?

  I do the Arte Syndicate, which is a few hundred bucks a month. But the truth of the matter is, bro, all the basics that you need, I've covered already. So, if you haven't gone back and listened to the original MFCEO project, I would go listen to that. Because that will help you get the basics down and really the non-basics as well. About how to build a company. So if you haven't gone back and started at episode one. I mean, they're rough, dude, because like I was, you know, like anybody, when, just like I said, when you start your business, you're not going to be great at it. I wasn't, I wasn't great at it, but the points, the points are made well. So.

• 1:06:21Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 1:06:22Andy Frisella?

  I would start there. You know, I could easily tell you, you know, hey, give me fucking 300 bucks a month. You could. No, dude, you don't need to do that yet. You don't need to do it yet. So. I'm happy to mentor you from afar. I will keep you in my mind. When I talk about things and make content, you're the exact person that I care about succeeding and. You know, that's, that's where I'm at right now, brother.

• 1:06:49Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 1:06:50Andy Frisella?

  So. I'll keep an eye on you.

• 1:06:53Speaker 03

  I appreciate all y'all.

• 1:06:54Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, DJ, give me your Instagram, bro. I'll give you a follow and we'll, I'll keep an eye on you.

• 1:07:02Speaker 03

  Just let me know DJ and I'll send you my Instagram over.

• 1:07:06Andy Frisella?

  I already got it.

• 1:07:11Andy Frisella?

  I got you, dog. I got you. All right, brother. Well, listen, go do it, man. Don't sit there and think about it. Go fucking do it.

• 1:07:20Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 1:07:21Andy Frisella?

  I want, I want, I want you to be a problem for me one day.

• 1:07:26Speaker 03

  Yeah. Supplement, so be ready.

• 1:07:29Andy Frisella?

  That's what I'm saying. I'm good with that. I'm good with that. I'm good with that. Just makes me better.

• 1:07:35Speaker 03

  Hey, let's, hey, whenever I get there, hey, let's talk to, hey, I don't mind getting the first form line out.

• 1:07:42Andy Frisella?

  All right, all right.

• 1:07:44Speaker 03

  Let's go.

• 1:07:44Andy Frisella?

  Deal, bro.

• 1:07:47Andy Frisella?

  All right, Jeff, bro. We appreciate you, man.

• 1:07:49Speaker 03

  Yes, sir. Thank y'all. Appreciate y'all. Y'all have a good rest of the day.

• 1:07:52Andy Frisella?

  Thank you too, brother.

• 1:07:56Andy Frisella?

  That's cool.

• 1:07:56Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's cool.

• 1:07:57Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, I love that.

• 1:07:58Speaker 01

  Cool dude, bro.

• 1:07:58Andy Frisella?

  Bro, I love people that...

• 1:08:03Andy Frisella?

  I just love people that think bigger, man, and they're like, "Fuck, I'm gonna do this."

• 1:08:07Speaker 01

  They want bigger.

• 1:08:07Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Like, here's this guy from the middle of Tennessee who's like, "Dude, I wanna do this, cuz you inspired me."

• 1:08:12Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:08:13Andy Frisella?

  You know, and he's gonna go out and fucking build some... I guarantee you, he does it.

• 1:08:16Speaker 01

  I can't wait to see it.

• 1:08:18Andy Frisella?

  He just, you know, it's cool, man.

• 1:08:20Speaker 01

  Yeah, it is, man. Alright guys, we got one final one for you. Let's, uh, this is a write-in.

• 1:08:29Speaker 01

  Hello, Andy.

• 1:08:30Andy Frisella?

  Hello.

• 1:08:31Speaker 01

  Hello. Andy, I respect your opinion. So I'm going to ask this question in the hopes that you answer it in some way that makes sense to me.

• 1:08:42Andy Frisella?

  It's a lot of pressure. No, I was wondering if you were gonna ask me a question or answer it.

• 1:08:47Speaker 01

  Damn it. I told myself I was gonna change it for Inquire now on.

• 1:08:51Andy Frisella?

  Okay.

• 1:08:51Speaker 01

  Messed up.

• 1:08:53Andy Frisella?

  Let's hear it.

• 1:08:54Speaker 01

  Andy, I'm probably not your typical person. Uh, I'm a 56-year-old fitness guy that sold a business, but not looking to get back into business, but do something different to help the younger generation. I can't think this is the end. I need more legacy. My goal was to work up, uh, was to work for the up-and-coming clubs to help their younger people better. Crunch, fitness-ish. Um, however, when I apply, they basically say, "You're not the right fit."

• 1:09:25Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 1:09:25Speaker 01

  "I've been successful pretty much my entire career. Uh, I feel like I've missed something recently. Please tell me what my gut is already telling me."

• 1:09:34Andy Frisella?

  You're, you need purpose. That's what you need, okay? We, we have to have, as men especially, and women, by the way, but men especially being the traditional provider, which I believe they should be.

• 1:09:46Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:09:48Andy Frisella?

  We have to understand that we have to have three elements in our life to have what we would consider a good life, a happy life, a life that allows us to some semblance of internal peace. We require three things. The first thing is discipline. If you're not in control of what it is that you could control, you can't do shit, you're not gonna be shit, you're gonna feel like shit, you're gonna have anxiety, you're gonna be frustrated, you're gonna be angry, you're gonna go through life feeling powerless, you're gonna have low confidence, you're gonna have low self-esteem,

• 1:10:29Andy Frisella?

  and to be completely honest, it's gonna ruin your fucking life. Okay, so if you don't have discipline and you haven't cultivated it in your life, expect a long or maybe shorter life of fucking misery. That's the truth. Cultivating discipline inside yourself and becoming somebody who understands how to create momentum, how to make the decisions that you need to make, not the ones you want to make, and being able to control the things that we are control of is the foundation of everything. Here's what we could control. We could control

• 1:11:10Andy Frisella?

  what we eat, we could control what we drink, we could control how we move, we can control the information we put in our head, we could control the things that we deem worthy to go after, we could control our network, our community, our circle of people that we surround ourselves with. Outside of that, there's not a whole lot that we can control. But the good news is, is that that's most of the shit that will actually dictate the outcome of our lives. So we gotta have that, discipline. The next thing we gotta have is purpose. We have to have a purpose that's bigger than ourselves. It can't just be, I wanna be jacked, ripped,

• 1:11:52Andy Frisella?

  and rich, and uh, you know, I wanna fucking uh, you know, spend money. That's not a purpose, bro. That's not a purpose that will never, ever, ever, and never has fulfilled anybody. Okay, so the purpose has to be bigger. What is it that you love to do? And I already know because I come from the same industry. You love to see people change their motherfucking lives. You love to see someone who's 100 pounds overweight, lose all the weight, become a completely different person, take control of their lives and go on to live an entirely different life because of the things that you either taught them or helped them realize. Okay. Your purpose right now.

• 1:12:37Andy Frisella?

  And by the way, a lot of entrepreneurs deal with this. Your purpose right now has been suspended because you sold your business and you got out of business. And that for the last probably, you know, however many years was your purpose. And your ultimate purpose in business was to make people better. So. And the third thing you need is gratitude. You have to be able to look at where you are, even if you're on day one, even if you're fucking miserable. You have to be able to back it out and say, actually, I'm very grateful for who I am, where I'm at. I'm healthy enough. I'm intelligent enough.

• 1:13:22Andy Frisella?

  I have the ability to work enough. God has put me in a tremendous place to build an incredible story.

• 1:13:29Andy Frisella?

  And you have to be grateful for where you at. Even when I was totally broke and didn't have anything going for me and everybody was laughing at me.

• 1:13:40Andy Frisella?

  I still felt grateful, dude. I was still, at the end of the day, when I prayed, I was like, man, thank you. I wouldn't trade places with anybody. And that was part of my, that was part, it's still part of my prayer, dude. Like I, and I know this sounds crazy and probably egotistical. I don't know, but I wouldn't trade with anybody. I wouldn't trade my life for anybody else's life. It doesn't matter who they are. And I felt that way when I was fucking broke. I felt that way when I was fat. I felt that way when I didn't quote unquote, have shit going for me. It was just something that I was able to do. And, and back then I was grateful for the opportunity, even if I wasn't capitalizing on it. I was grateful for, you know, the people around me.

• 1:14:23Andy Frisella?

  I was grateful for my friends, my family, my dogs, whatever I could fucking find to be grateful for, because it puts you in the right vibrational energy state.

• 1:14:35Andy Frisella?

  So it sounds like you have the discipline and I'm sure you have the gratitude, but what you're lacking right now is purpose and you've got to figure out what that is. And I think you already know what that is. You love helping people get better. So how are you going to do that now versus how you did it before? And that doesn't necessarily look like something that you have to go get hired at a gym for. You know, there's lots of ways to do this, man. You can volunteer. You, you could start your own bootcamp for free. Like there's all kinds of shit you could do, brother, that helps people. I mean, you can help people one-on-one, man. You know, there's lots of different ways. Um, and you're going to have to figure out that way that fulfills you. And, and if it's not that, then you're going to have to fill

• 1:15:21Andy Frisella?

  your life with a different purpose. You know, um, one of my really good friends sold his business. And after he sold his business, his purpose became he wanted to take care of wildlife. So he opened up a wildlife reserve and that's what he does and that's his purpose. And while it's not the same thing as he did before, it's something that fulfills him. So he still practices discipline. He's still very grateful. He's not in business, but he's fulfilled by this other purpose. And I would caution any entrepreneur that is exiting their business to never exit your business without an understanding of what you're going to do next. Because I have seen so many people

• 1:16:05Andy Frisella?

  work their whole lives, sell their business for so much fucking money, and then be completely miserable. In fact, I've known a couple that have killed themselves because they've been so depressed and they don't realize that it's not about the money, bro. It's about seeing the project through. It's about being grateful for where you are and it's about fulfilling your purpose on a daily basis. And yes, when you don't have any money, it's about money. But if it always stays about money, you're always going to be fucking broke emotionally. So. And fulfillment wise. So, so I would say, man, like, look, you gotta do some, some deep digging here about what's going to fulfill you for the next part of your life. You know, 57 years

• 1:16:50Andy Frisella?

  old is not that old anymore. There's all kinds of technology. There's all kinds of things coming out. You know, one of my buddies, uh, he said to me recently, he's, he's battling, uh, uh, cancer. He's doing really good and I think he's gonna make it. I fucking thought he was gonna die for sure. But he pulled through and, and, uh, he said to me, he goes, bro, I, I'm like, man, you're doing good. He's like, yeah. He's like, I fucking watch what Elon's doing. He's like, I know I gotta only make it like five more years. I could live forever.

• 1:17:18Speaker 01

  He's right.

• 1:17:19Andy Frisella?

  So, you know,

• 1:17:20Speaker 01

  We'll see the first person to live to 150 on a lifetime.

• 1:17:23Andy Frisella?

  I mean, maybe the second or third considering some of these ghouls that are running the world.

• 1:17:27Speaker 01

  That's real.

• 1:17:27Andy Frisella?

  Uh, you know, at the end of the day, man, we have to understand that purpose is what drives fulfillment. And without it, no matter how much, no matter how much money you make, you're not gonna feel good. And I would argue on top of that, that people that make the most money have the strongest purpose that just aligns with something that can make money. You know, like, people, when you ask people and you say, hey, what's the purpose of, of starting a business? Every fucking single one of them will say, to make money. You, the purpose of a business is not to make money. The purpose of a business is to solve a fucking problem at scale, which then people trade money for. It's a fucking different perspective. And when you look at it like you're

• 1:18:08Andy Frisella?

  trying to solve the problem the best that you can, people recognize that and trade you their money for it. And the richest motherfuckers in the world understand that. They make the best products they can. And they understand that people will give them their money for it. And that's what they do. So the product has to benefit people. It has to be real. It can't be a fucking pie in the sky, you know, bullshit. You know what I mean? It's, it's the people who are the best make the most money. And the reason is, is because the whole entire reason that business exists is to solve problems for the customers. So when you adjust your mindset around that, the money comes. But neither here nor there, uh, you gotta have a purpose no matter what, or you're gonna be fucking miserable. So.

• 1:18:52Andy Frisella?

  You know, when I think of my life, you know, my purpose is as big as it could fucking possibly be, bro. I want to save the motherfucking world. I want to change culture in a way to where these criminal tyrants can't ever fuck with people ever again, because everybody's fit, independently wealthy, strong, mentally stable, not easily manipulated. You know, when we have personal excellence at scale, it creates a population that cannot be controlled. And that's what I want to do at scale. That's a big fucking mission. It's going to take my whole life and I'll probably still lose. Okay? But the bigger the mission, the bigger the purpose, the bigger the actions, the bigger the results, the bigger the payoff,

• 1:19:33Andy Frisella?

  the bigger the fulfillment, like, it's gotta be big, bro. At least for me. So, yeah, man. I think everybody should have a purpose in their life that cannot, that is not passive. Meaning, people will say, you know,

• 1:19:56Andy Frisella?

  I'm just gonna say this, people are gonna get upset about it, but it's the truth. We have this new revival of Christianity, okay, which I love. I'm happy for. I think it's great. But then we also have these people who are, you know, quitting their jobs, quitting their, and they're saying, I live for the, for the church, or I live for the Bible or scripture. And it's like, bro, that's, you're missing the point. You're given gifts. You were given talents. The Bible talks about it. And when you don't use them, it's a slap in the face to your Savior. So, sitting and hiding behind God, or Christianity, or prayer, or scripture, and doing nothing with your life is cowardly and not respected by God. And it talks about that in the Bible.

• 1:20:37Andy Frisella?

  So, you know, we have to have a big vision. We have to take big action. We have to be big purpose. And the purpose needs to be active, something that we create, something that we do, something that we contribute to other people. And I don't know what that is for you, brother, but you gotta figure it out. And if you don't figure it out, you're gonna be miserable.

• 1:20:55Speaker 01

  Love it, dude.

• 1:20:56Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:56Speaker 01

  I love it, man.

• 1:20:58Andy Frisella?

  Guys, that makes sense.

• 1:20:59Speaker 01

  Absolutely, bro. Absolutely. I was gonna, I mean, you kinda covered it. I was gonna ask though, like, you know, what, what's the dangers? What's the risk of not having that purpose there? Like, you, you could be as disciplined as you want and, and practice your gratitude.

• 1:21:11Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. But if you don't have a purpose bigger than yourself, what's the fucking, what's the point?

• 1:21:15Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:21:16Andy Frisella?

  What's the point?

• 1:21:17Speaker 01

  Drive yourself crazy.

• 1:21:18Andy Frisella?

  What's the point? Bro, I've been ripped. I've been rich. You know what I'm saying?

• 1:21:23Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:21:23Andy Frisella?

  You think I fucking really give a shit? I've been, I've lived that way for so long, I don't fucking care. You know what I care about? My purpose. You know what I care about? Helping people get better. You know what I care about? Making people personally excellent so that these fucking tyrants can't keep fucking with everybody. That's what I care about. And that's an impossible mission to achieve. But the ideas and the business that will result from this, which you guys haven't even fucking heard about yet. There's a reason I wasn't fucking doing anything on the internet for five years, by the way. What I've created will solve that fucking problem. And I believe it'll be the biggest product in the fucking history of mankind. That's the truth.

• 1:22:04Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:22:05Andy Frisella?

  But it comes out of passion and service. You see what I'm saying?

• 1:22:08Speaker 01

  Absolutely.

• 1:22:08Andy Frisella?

  So.

• 1:22:09Speaker 01

  Absolutely, man. I love it. I love it, man. Well, guys, Andy, that was three.

• 1:22:13Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. All right, guys, well, let's get after it this week and we'll see you tomorrow on CTI. Don't be a hoe. Chao, chao.