Pod Insights The Psychology of your 20s 278. The psychology of tattoos About this episode It's said that around 1/3 of society has tattoos - that increases to nearly half for people in their 20s. What is it about this permanent form of art that so many of us feel called to get? And what are the psychological underpinnings behind our design choices, why we may find ourselves wanting more and more tattoos, the relationship to childhood experiences and which tattoos we may come to regret... in today's episode, we break it all down including:
The 3 main psychological reasons people get tattoos Tattoos as a form of permanence and belonging Why we see similar designs or 'trending' tattoos Tattoos and why we love the pain Which tattoos we regret How to make smart tattoo decisions + so much more Listen now and drop your tattoo regrets below!
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3:29 Jemma Sbeg? Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, old listeners, wherever you are in the world. It is so lovely, so great to have you here back for another episode as we, of course, break down the psychology of our twenties. This week, when I sat down at my desk and I was deciding what to talk about this week, what did I want to discuss, I made the decision to do something a little bit fun, a little bit different. I wanted to do an episode that you might not think has anything to do with psychology. You know, I feel like we've done quite a few serious, emotional, very in-depth, somewhat
4:09 Jemma Sbeg? scientific episodes as of late, and I wanted to kind of do something a bit more fun. One topic that kept floating to the surface for me was tattoos. Why do we get them, not just in our twenties, but at any stage? How important are they to our identity? Which tattoos do we end up regretting? Which ones do we not end up regretting? Basically, I want to talk about the psychology of tattoos, and that, my friends, is what we are going to do today. I have been endlessly fascinated by this topic for some time as someone with tattoos. I have never actually considered why I got them.
4:48 Jemma Sbeg? Why was I called to literally get something permanently put on my body after when I had just turned eighteen? Why did I decide on specific designs? Why did I decide on what to get? What was the motivation? And in thinking about my own intentions with my tattoos, I uncovered so much research that I did not even know was out there. I also talked to some of my friends. I am so lucky to have some incredible friends in my life who are tattoo artists and who make a living off of permanent art on somebody else's body. Like there is no other type of art like it. And I spoke to them and I was like, can you tell me what you hear from people who are getting tattoos?
5:33 Jemma Sbeg? Are you seeing a specific kind of person get a specific kind of tattoo? Do people ever come back and say they regret it? Like, tell me about the emotional experience you have with a client when you are putting something on their body. And it has just been so fascinating talking to people about what kind of feels like quite an innocuous subject. I also found this interesting piece of research saying that the majority of people who have tattoos got their first one in their twenties. Now you may hear that and think that Gemma, that makes sense, right? Depending on where you live, most people can't get tattoos before they turn eighteen.
6:15 Jemma Sbeg? And even then, you probably don't have the money to get the tattoos that you want until you're in your twenties. So it feels like the time a lot of people are doing it. But it also comes down to the fact that this decade is when we are in peak identity formation season. We've had our teen years to really explore, but it's our twenties where we are really trying to find the shoe or the outfit or the persona that fits. We are trying to find our space. We are really starting to feel grounded in who we are. We're kind of exploring different facets of our identity. And sometimes that calls for expression, it calls for something permanent to represent who we are and what we're going through.
6:59 Jemma Sbeg? That is where tattoos come in. And I think of tattoos kind of as like a testimony to the age you are when you get them. And maybe in ten, twenty years' time, you'll look at it and think, what was I thinking? Like, what does this even mean? But maybe it's also, you know, an important rite of passage to some people. It brings a sense of certainty. All right, I don't want to spoil the entire episode before we even get into it. But really what we are going to do today is just take a big bite into all the fascinating research to do with
7:36 Jemma Sbeg? body modification, tattooing, even things like regret, as well as do a brief kind of dive into some of the history as well. Because this topic has so many dimensions to it. Without further ado, my lovely listeners, let us get into the psychology of tattoos.
8:01 Jemma Sbeg? Let's talk briefly about the history of tattoos because I feel like the change in attitudes that we've experienced just in the last fifty years is really quite striking and worth investigating. Now, I always get in trouble when I talk about history on this podcast because there are some very smart people out there who know a lot more about very specific topics than me and very graciously correct me when I'm wrong. But I really did a deep dive into this one. I used what I think is like the mother of all guides, the Smithsonian's worldwide history of tattoos to really go in deep. So I hope that you are all prepared for a bit of a factual start to this episode.
8:45 Jemma Sbeg? Some people will incorrectly assume or tell you that tattoos first emerged in the eighteen hundreds. That cannot be further from the truth. Humans have been marking their skin in ritualistic and important ways for literally thousands of years. Around the world, across different cultures, tattoos are really, really significant. I think about, you know, the Greeks, they used to use tattoos to declare love. Indigenous Polynesians used to use tattoos to tell personal stories. We see them in ancient Serbian nomads, in native South Americans.
9:31 Jemma Sbeg? Tattoos have this real core place in the human story. How we express ourselves, how we signify status, religious beliefs, even as just purely a form of decoration. So I think what people generally used to believe is that it was the Egyptians, who were like these so-called inventors of inking skin. And they used to use different kinds of pigments or ground up insects. And they would insert the, you know, wet pigment into the skin using a piece of bronze or like a sharp stick. There's also evidence of a very famous mummy. It's called Otzi the Iceman. If you're a history buff, you'll know this mummy quite well.
10:15 Jemma Sbeg? That individual is almost six thousand years old. And when they found this mummified person, he had tattoos. Six thousand years ago, people were already adorning their skin. Now, that is really the beginning of tattoos as we know it. Let's now go forward about, you know, five thousand seven hundred years, three hundred years ago. During this time, specifically in Western cultures, um, something changed when it came to our attitudes towards tattoos. They used to be very culturally, maybe religiously significant. And then they started being considered a sign of being a criminal or a deviant.
10:57 Jemma Sbeg? They're associated with gangs, with behaviors that society doesn't approve of. And as such, they're banned in some, in some spaces. Actually, I remember visiting Japan last year and not being able to enter the onsen or the hot baths. Because I had tattoos, so it's still relevant in some cultures. But we can link a lot of this stigma back to a specific group of Christian missionaries. Who did a really great job at convincing people back then that tattoos would disfigure. The sacred vessel given to us by God.
11:39 Jemma Sbeg? And consequently, they were banned. They were banned in Christianity. And as Christianity became more widespread, that same belief was impressed upon different cultures. Some of whom did have a historical, I don't know, historical attachment to tattooing. Of course, we know that did not stop people from doing it. But it did bring about a stigma that if you got tattoos. You were obviously not a God fearing individual. And therefore you were probably up to no good. This is how they really became associated with being.
12:21 Jemma Sbeg? You know, a bit of a rebel and they became associated with criminality and counterculture. But around like the nineteen forties, specifically in America, there was a revival. Of tattooing in Western cultures. And slowly, more and more people knew someone with a tattoo. They knew a relative. They knew someone in the army. Then, you know, they kind of thought about getting one of their own. They have kids with tattoos. So nowadays, there's some estimates that between thirty to forty eight percent of people. In the countries surveyed, so countries like Canada, America, Germany and Australia, those were the countries included in these studies. Thirty to forty eight percent of people in those countries have tattoos.
13:06 Jemma Sbeg? Now, if you're in your twenties, the likelihood that you have a tattoo is is increased. It's around thirty eight to fifty two percent. So that's showing that like over time, generationally, we have become a lot more accepting and we are a lot more normal about. This idea. I remember before I got my first tattoo, I was like. Still had this like fear of not being able to find a job specifically like if it was visible, but nowadays like the stigma has definitely lessened. So there's your little history lesson for the day. I know this is a psychology podcast. I will not dwell on it for long, but I do think it's important to cover because that
13:46 Jemma Sbeg? attitudinal change does play into the psychology behind why we may be drawn to get a tattoo. Alright, let's talk about that question now. Why? Why do we feel compelled to put something permanent on our skin? So when it comes down to it, when you're sitting in that tattoo chair, when you're waiting for the needle to go in, you are probably in that position because of one of four reasons. The first is that you're looking to represent something of personal emotional significance on your body. This is a way of telling your personal story and your personal beliefs and maybe reaffirming
14:29 Jemma Sbeg? to yourself what you care about, what's important to you. Is it family? Is it religion? Is it a specific value system? One of the largest studies ever done on the psychology of tattoos was conducted in South Africa with university students between nineteen and thirty five. Now, some of them had tattoos, some of them were considering it, some of them were just like absolutely not at all. And the research has said, explain your reasoning, and then they thematically grouped the responses. Now amongst people who had a tattoo or wanted a tattoo, twenty five percent of them said, the reason I would want to do it is because this thing has a personal meaning.
15:13 Jemma Sbeg? It marks a significant experience or struggle for me. So some of the reasons given were, I got a tattoo to honor my mother, to honor my siblings, because it represents my life philosophy, because this really presents what I was going through at a certain time in my life and I want to remember it. This idea is one I actually really wanna grab on to for a second. And it's the idea that tattoos can bring about a sense of permanence. They can really anchor us to a specific time. And our identity and our feelings and what we were going through in that moment. It's kind of like if I put this on my body, this experience will always be part of me.
15:57 Jemma Sbeg? I won't forget. I won't forget that loved one. I won't forget my, how capable I was and how courageous I was to get through an experience. I'll never forget that this is how I see life. This is how I choose to live it. So if our body is just a vessel for our soul, you know, why not decorate it in the, in the manner of what is important to you? I find this reason, this reasoning, almost using your body like a journal in some ways, quite compelling. I have tattoos from specific periods in my life.
16:36 Jemma Sbeg? And when I think about them, I can exactly remember what I was going through that made me believe that this thing was important to get. One in particular, and I have admitted this to very, very few people, is a breakup tattoo. I went through this like breakup when I was eighteen and it was really awful and. I don't know, it was just, it was shrouded in a lot of, uh, I don't know, it was complex. I'll just say it was complex. And being my first like big heartbreak, it taught me a lot. And I remember having this resounding sense of like independence, like no matter what, you need to be independent.
17:20 Jemma Sbeg? You need to be able to rely on yourself. You cannot get attached to any one person. And so I got this like tattoo that represented that. And now I have a more balanced perspective, but when I look at that tattoo in the mirror sometimes, I can exactly remember. Where I was when I got it. And I don't just mean physically where I was, but emotionally and mentally as well. Same for like my twenty-two tattoo. You know, I turned twenty-two on the twenty-second of the second, two thousand and twenty-two. That felt very significant to me. It felt very aligned. It felt like it was something that needed to be. Held on to um and you know, actually, quite frankly, like my twenty second year was an amazing
18:05 Jemma Sbeg? year of my life. Like I quit my job, I met my boyfriend, I finally felt happy in the city I was in, I had all these opportunities. But you know, I do still sometimes look at it and be like, why did you have to get that? Why, why did you have to get that? Because you're not twenty two anymore. But I think we'll talk about regret a little bit later. The biggest reason for me in that moment was the emotional significance of where I was. And for other people, that's really important as well. It really comes down to self-identity and our desire to hold on to the feelings and encounters that have shaped us. Perhaps even using our body as like a way to communicate who we are and what we've experienced.
18:50 Jemma Sbeg? I think about Harry Potter tattoos as a perfect example of this, or any kind of fandom or religious tattoo. These are called group identification tattoos. You know, you put something on your body so that if someone else saw it, they would know maybe implicitly what kind of person you are. Or if they were someone who was interested in the same things, they could be like, oh, friend, you know, I know who you are. We have this thing in common. Even though we've never met, it's like this form of communication or recognition. Belonging, it's a form of belonging. Obviously, that can also take a terrible turn if people are using
19:34 Jemma Sbeg? hate symbols as a way to identify a group to which they belong. Like that's this, that's this philosophy taken to a very negative, dark extreme. But it is still part of some people's motivations for getting tattoos. The final value-based reason for getting a tattoo can be for cultural reasons. As we've already explained, there are so many cultures with an amazing history of tattooing. I think about our New Zealand and Maori neighbours here in Australia who get, I'm gonna try and pronounce this right, Tamoko, which is traditional Maori
20:15 Jemma Sbeg? tattoos that really symbolize cultural pride, history, story. They can mark like a significant occasion, like a marriage or a graduation.
20:27 Jemma Sbeg? Side note, I need you to look up how people get these tattoos because when I first saw that process, I genuinely was like, wow. These are the toughest people on the planet. But yes, that is a really big part of what calls people to have something permanent on their skin. Let's talk about the second reason we get tattoos, and that is because it's just an appealing form of art. It's an extension of our identity through decoration. Now, the first reason was very deep, it's very identity based. This one is less deep. Tattoos are pretty. We are just a canvas. Our body is made to be adorned. Simple as that. Your tattoos don't need a specific meaning.
21:11 Jemma Sbeg? In a recent episode, actually, a guest was telling me about a friend of hers who gets random tattoos whenever she feels like it. You know, she's, I think in her fifties and she'll go into a tattoo parlor on a Saturday and just say, go for it, decorate me. You know, if she sees a cool cartoon, a word she loves, an image, a pattern, she just does it. I think that is a beautiful way to think about our body and to think about, you know, its permanence or lack of permanence in this world. Something I do always struggle with when it comes to this though, or I I debate with myself, uh, when it comes to, should I get a specific tattoo? Should I get a specific design is,
21:55 Jemma Sbeg? do I just think this is cute because it's a trending design? Is this just the same as a viral sweater or a viral lip balm, but it is going to be on my body forever? That's something I consider a lot. If tattoos are self-expression, why is it that a lot of us end up getting similar tattoos? Like, some examples I can think of, um, the love heart tattoos. Everyone was getting on their fingers like back in like two thousand and fifteen, two thousand and sixteen. Infinity tattoos. Now it's like, um, micro tattoos, cowboy tattoos, which I think are really, really cute. That lion tattoo that
22:37 Jemma Sbeg? Everyone used to get on their finger. None of these are inherently bad tattoos. But it's interesting that a lot of us got them at the same time. And I think what it reflects is like a shared aesthetic appreciation, shared cultural trends, community identity, of course. And you know, the internet is obviously, some parts of the internet are a community. So we all kind of feel excited by the same things. We end up finding beauty in the same things. I think just like art in general has different seasons and movements, like abstract art, the Renaissance, contemporary art, tattoos go through these kind of seasons as well. And it means that a lot of people will jump on the bandwagon.
23:23 Jemma Sbeg? Now, I don't think this is a bad thing, quite honestly, like I think just because you find something beautiful and someone else also finds that beautiful, does it mean you are not unique? I actually think that when I see someone with these tattoos, I'm like, wow, you are kind of a tapestry for the culture and age that we're living in. You know, this is, you're a part of history. Like this is actually quite cool that you have this thing on your body that I know this is quite morbid, but say someone was to dig you up in three thousand years, like that mummy we talked about. And they found like a tattoo of a heart on your finger. They could say, oh, wow,
24:04 Jemma Sbeg? that must have been important at the time. That must have been something that was aesthetic to people at the time. And I find that very, very interesting. Okay, we are going to take a quick break because I'm fully about to shift gears here, but when I return, let's talk about the role of tattooing in coping, healing from trauma, and whether this practice can actually become addictive. All of that and so much more after this short break.
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29:15 Jemma Sbeg? For others, the way they process trauma, psychological pain, heartache, anything that the human soul has kind of gone through is through tattoos. Why is this the case? Well, firstly, I think it's because tattoos give us a sense of control. We may be lacking in our ordinary life. In this way, you know, you have this immense power to do to your body what you wish to do with it, and it can really help you reclaim your identity by making it your own through an outward depiction of what matters to you. Or what you find interesting, or what you find beautiful. You're saying, I have complete ownership over my body.
29:59 Jemma Sbeg? So this is what I'm gonna do with it. I wanna talk about one piece of research that really speaks to this reclaiming and this powerful healing of tattoos in particular. This piece of research actually looked at the association between childhood abuse and neglect with our likelihood of getting tattoos and piercings. It was conducted in Germany with over a thousand participants, and they did find tattoos and piercings more common amongst individuals who reported childhood abuse and neglect. So they're linking this very deep emotional suffering with a way of adorning and treating our bodies.
30:44 Jemma Sbeg? Now, what they also concluded is that body modification in this sense was actually a very empowering experience for these people. Because although they had suffered this like great adversity, they were now taking back the control. And there was also this weird sense relating to pain. And letting that pain be self inflicted was actually quite empowering compared to times when pain had been used against them. It's deeply psychological. And to me, this explanation makes a lot of sense. And these findings have been corroborated. In another piece of research that was published just a little bit later on,
31:29 Jemma Sbeg? these researchers talk about how our desire to get specific tattoos or even to get tattoos at all actually gives us a real peek, a real vision into someone's psyche. Right? What they choose to get on their body is actually a really, I don't know, I don't want to say interesting again, but it's a very secretive, almost in-depth way of understanding what they've been through and how they see the world. So this paper, this was published in two thousand and seventeen. It actually talks about how therapists can prompt an open discussion with someone using their tattoos, asking them about their tattoos,
32:13 Jemma Sbeg? asking them about their meaning, their motivations for getting them as a way to kind of have a breakthrough with a client. Basically, if someone has a specific piece of art, it's obviously important enough for them to have put it on their body. So there must have been some motivation that has caused them to think that this is a good idea and that this is what they want. What is that motivation linked to? What can that tell you about who they are as a person? Not only that, not only is it linked to control, not only is it linked to personality, tattoos have also been shown to change how we think about our bodies.
32:55 Jemma Sbeg? Having that control and being able to make ourselves into a form of art is so mentally powerful. If you are someone who struggles with things like body dysmorphia or just general unhappiness towards your appearance. There have been some studies, including a specific one I'm thinking about from two thousand and eleven that showed that right after getting a tattoo, individuals reportedly feel better about their bodies. They experience less appearance-based anxiety. They also express less fear of being perceived. In that kind of way, tattoos are like a psychological armour. And for that reason, they also influence our emotional state.
33:39 Jemma Sbeg? So our emotional state influences whether we get them. And then, once we do get them, that has a further impact. It's like a cycle. That is why tattoos can become addictive. Because the process of getting them makes us feel some sort of way. Anything that changes our mood, such that we associate an activity with immediately feeling better, has the capacity to become addictive. You know, alcohol, for example, makes us feel less anxious and more lively. That emotional association makes it addictive. Amphetamines give us that huge rush, make us feel joyous. Gambling makes us feel fulfilled by possibility.
34:22 Jemma Sbeg? Tattoos bring us a sense of control. And according to that same study, they also make us feel better about how we look. They make us feel more at peace with our past and they can make our lives feel more purposeful and significant. That is a very addictive feeling. I think a lot of us would do a lot of things to feel happy in who we are, to feel at peace with our past, to feel meaningful in our life. That's pretty addictive. Therefore, getting tattoos is also addictive. It's a common experience I've heard from tattoo artists, that they will get a client who has never had a tattoo before. They will give them their first tattoo.
35:05 Jemma Sbeg? And then, a month later, this person will come back and have like dozens. Because the process for them is so emotionally satisfying. Some of that comes down to our experiences with pain. Yes, we mostly want to avoid it, that's how we're hardwired. But there are some people who actually find it quite pleasurable and quite, that brings about quite a sense of relief. Some people find catharsis in the process of getting a tattoo. You know, that, there's like this painful experience that then provides a really. Amazing result, it lets out pain that they may be feeling internally. All of this actually creates a lot of enjoyment that we associate with the process.
35:51 Jemma Sbeg? We can also get quote unquote addicted to tattooing because of the role of two chemicals in our body. Adrenaline and endorphins. Endorphins, I'm just using as a general way of saying pleasant chemical messages. So the anticipation of and the pain that we experience from tattooing, that can lead to an adrenaline rush. This will naturally create a feeling of almost euphoria. Now, the adrenaline that is released in response to pain is meant to lessen the painful experience. But it actually means that we begin to associate the act of getting tattooed with. You know, a lot of warm and fuzzy feelings.
36:36 Jemma Sbeg? Given, you know, the level of anticipation with any first experience. That adrenaline rush is going to be heightened. So the first time you get a tattoo, you are going to experience the largest. Adrenaline rush from the specific um activity that you will ever experience. But people will continue to seek that rush. And that is why we can perhaps explain people who come back and come back and come back. It looks like an addiction, but it's more them chasing a specific feeling. Now, after getting a tattoo, our body will also naturally release endorphins to soothe our pain. To target inflammation, that also feels amazing.
37:21 Jemma Sbeg? Some of the endorphins that we'll be experiencing are natural opioids, natural pain relievers. That we know are extremely addictive. So that combination of the rush of adrenaline and then the emotional and physical comfort of endorphins. May encourage us to keep going back. Now, this can be a dangerous process. And something that always comes up in discussions about tattoos is regret. If you're getting a tattoo after tattoo after tattoo, are you making the best decisions? Are you being wise about what you want on your body permanently? Now, this is always going to come into this discussion.
38:01 Jemma Sbeg? And you'll frequently hear it from like older generations or people who feel uncertain about tattoos. They'll ask you like, are you sure you want this on your body forever? Like you know that this is forever, right? Are you sure that thirty year old you or fifty year old you or eighty year old you? Is that version of yourself going to love it as much as you do now? Like, how do you know this is a smart decision? I'm going to answer that question for you right here, right now. You don't. You don't. And there is potential regret in absolutely everything. So chances are, you might look at that tattoo at some point and say, eh, that wasn't the best decision.
38:44 Jemma Sbeg? But I don't think we need to fear regret all that much. I don't think it's actually the worst thing that you can ever experience. I even think about the tattoos that I don't like now. I still enjoy them for what they meant to me back then. They're kind of like scars in a way. You know, they make a good story. They tell something about my experience. And they bring me a very strange but very valued connection with my past self. Like I can tap into exactly what she was thinking at that time, which I find quite special. And you know, tattoos are gonna change as you get older. They aren't gonna look the same.
39:25 Jemma Sbeg? They're going to be shaped by age and that is something that you can, that you should be remembering. But also these days, like, they're not permanent. I saw that image of Pete Davidson recently when I was in L A. Like I saw the billboard that he did for uh, Reformation, like all of his tattoos gone. Like, it's possible. It's it's expensive, but it's possible. Probably not what you should be considering though. Like, if you're getting a tattoo and you're thinking, oh, whatever, I can remove it someday. Not the mindset you should go in with because it is still a painful process. And it still will leave a mark. And like this is, you should be thinking of it as permanent.
40:07 Jemma Sbeg? If you wanna get like a semi-permanent tattoo, like, go and get those ones that you. You can like put on with a wet cloth. Like if you're going and thinking, I can get this removed one day. You know, the easiest way for that to happen is to just not get it right now. So I wanna briefly talk about some tips for making the right decision about a tattoo. Because it's important. You know, if you wanna get one, I think that's amazing. I really like mine. I find them like very decorative, very fun, good conversation starters. But you wanna make smart decisions. Like you don't want your first tattoo to be like an all out like snake down your entire body. Or maybe you do, but this is what you should be thinking about.
40:48 Jemma Sbeg? The most common reasons people regret their tattoos, according to a recent piece of research, is that it was impulsive. So around thirty five percent of people say I regret it because it was impulsive. Um, it didn't have a significant meaning. Or they thought it would make them look cool and it doesn't. What we do find is the more thoughtful and careful you are about a tattoo, the less likely you are to regret it. So if you are thinking about getting something on your skin, before you do, print off that tattoo, the tattoo design that you have. Put it somewhere that you'd see it every single day to make sure you don't get sick of it. And I think it's like recommended to do this for like three to six months.
41:34 Jemma Sbeg? You know, if this is a tattoo you genuinely want and that you're going to love, you're still going to want it in six months. You're still going to want it in a year. And this is a great insurance for you to say, okay, if I had to look at this every single day, would I still want it? Secondly, when you start, start small. Start with somewhere not visible. Also, just important to see how your body reacts to it. Whether like you actually like the process and you're not halfway through a tattoo in so much pain, regretting it and it's somewhere really, really visible. I think that's just wise. Um, don't get tattoos when you're drunk. Oh my lord, I have friends who have done this.
42:18 Jemma Sbeg? Not only did they end up looking really bad because their blood was really thin, so it leaked, but. It really comes down to the impulsive nature of this. This might be a controversial one and it might sound hypocritical considering I got like my first tattoo when I was eighteen. But if I had to go back, I would say, don't get a tattoo before you turn twenty. Please, like, I don't know why that feels like a good distinction, but the longer you can wait, the better, I think. Getting a tattoo young, and I still think like eighteen, nineteen, twenty is quite young. Um, I'm not saying it's gonna increase your chances of regretting it. I'm just saying that
43:03 Jemma Sbeg? getting a tattoo a little bit older might reduce your chances of regretting it. And finally, be safe. And if it costs more, that's not a bad thing. This is like a permanent accessory for you. Think about how much you would spend on a really nice pair of jeans, really nice pair of shoes, on a handbag, like this, think about cost per wear here. You're going to be wearing this every single day of your life. So it is an investment. Go to a good tattoo artist. I have seen so many terrible tattoos in my day and on Reddit and on Pinterest and on Instagram.
43:48 Jemma Sbeg? You don't wanna be that just because you want the tattoo really badly right now. You will still want it in three months when you have a little bit more money. Trust me, it really makes all the difference. I am so lucky that one of my best friends is a tattoo artist and I trust her more than anyone and you can really tell the difference between someone who is really passionate about their craft and does everything right and someone who is doing tattoos for five dollars at like somewhere on a strip mall. So those would be my most significant, important tips. Also, maybe some advice to younger Gemma, to baby Gemma around what she should have done differently.
44:31 Jemma Sbeg? You know what, though? I wanna finish out this episode by saying. It is your body. It is your body to have regrets about. It is your body to modify. It is your body to express and to demonstrate with and to decorate. So, yes, make smart decisions, but don't consider disappointing people as part of it. Don't consider what other people are going to think. Too much so in this consideration of getting a tattoo. If it's something that's important to you, if it's something that you think will ground you, if it's something that you think will help with healing and will, you know, perhaps psychologically shift to how you see yourself.
45:14 Jemma Sbeg? That is always going to be worth it in my mind. And if you just like it and you want a tattoo, do it. Like, you're young, if you're worried about other people's opinions, get it somewhere no one can see, make it quite an intimate part of you. I actually think it's quite a beautiful rite of passage. It's something that was on my bucket list when I'm a kid. I'm glad that I've done it. And for all the thoughts about it, again, it just comes down to personal preference. And what's gonna make you feel good and what's going to make you feel happy in the form and the vessel that you're in. So, I hope you enjoyed this episode. Now, the people who make it this far know that they will always get a little emoji.
45:57 Jemma Sbeg? So, for your emoji, choose the emoji that you would most want tattooed on your body. Let's confuse the people who don't listen to the end, but then pretend they do because they see the emoji. What are you most likely to wanna get from the little emoji list? And if you have a tattoo, let me know. Do you regret any of your tattoos? And why? Let's kind of share the word, share the knowledge, so someone else might not make the same mistake. I've already told you mine. I regret two of mine, my twenty-two and my one post-breakup, but I still love them, so I hope you still love yours as well, but please, share below.
46:39 Jemma Sbeg? Make sure that you are following and you leave a five-star review. Also, if you have further questions, stories, I don't know, comments about this episode, you can always message me at thatpsychologypodcast on Instagram. I'd love to hear from you. Until next time, though, stay safe, please be kind, be gentle to yourself.
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