Ask Jay: How Do You Take Care of Yourself Through Life’s Hardest Seasons?

Jay answers listeners' stories about what happens when health struggles make life feel completely out of your control. Through conversations about postpartum trauma, an unexpected brain tumor diagnosis, the emotional toll of caring for a parent with dementia, and the desire to help others while still healing yourself, Jay explores how to live with uncertainty when you can’t simply fix what you’re going through. He shares grounded, research-backed ways to find moments of relief, redefine what’s enough, and keep moving forward without waiting for everything to be resolved. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 When Your Health Is Out of Your Control 00:47 Navigating Ongoing Postpartum Trauma 01:29 The Insider's Burden 03:24 The Importance of Leaning on Your Support Systems 05:43 Finding Connection Through Shared Experience 07:40 Stepping Away From the Grind 08:49 Facing Mortality & Steve Jobs' Speech 10:05 Practical Strategies For Taking a Break 11:50 Alignment And Presence Over "Balance" 14:45 Living In Seasons Of Life 15:42 The Emotional Toll Of Caregiving 16:49 When Caregiving Forces Impossible Choices 18:53 Caregivers As "The Invisible Second Patients" 21:50 Transforming Active Grief Into Healing 22:56 Finding Strength When You Can’t Fix the Situation 24:48 Helping Others While Still In The Healing Journey 25:54 Three Steps Ahead Vs. Three Decades Ahead Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

  This episode is brought to you by State Farm. We talk a lot about intentional decision making, and that extends to the practical stuff too, like making sure your coverage actually works for your life. State Farm is there to meet you where you are, and they know how sweet it is to feel good about your decisions. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with a personal price plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Prices are based on rating plans that vary by state. Coverage options are selected by the customer. Availability, amount of discounts and savings, and eligibility vary by state. This episode is brought to you by Mazda. Confidence isn't something Mazda finds, it's something they practise. That's the thinking behind every Mazda,

• 0:43Jay Shetty?

  with proactive safety features designed to help keep you more aware, more connected and more engaged with the road ahead. It's why Mazda has been named Consumer Reports' safest new car brand and has won more 2026 IIHS Top Safety Pick Plus awards than any other car brand as of July 2026. Visit www.iihs.org to learn more. A lot can happen when an accident doesn't. Visit MazdaUSA.com to learn more. Consumer Reports does not endorse products or services.

• 1:16Jay Shetty?

  Hey, it's Jay. I don't know what your day's been like, but I was just thinking about you for a minute. And I hope you're being a little patient with yourself, because you deserve it. And yeah, I'll talk to you soon.

• 1:39Jay Shetty?

  Today, we're talking about health. So much of our lives are built around the feeling of control, but when physical or mental health challenges show up, that control can vanish overnight. It can feel terrifying, isolating and utterly exhausting to navigate a body or a mind that feels like it is working against you. I'm ready to dive into these messages with you today. Let's get into it.

• 2:04Speaker 01

  Hi, Jay. I just had my third baby. I am in the thick of the postpartum period. I have postpartum anxiety pretty bad with him, like I did with my first baby. Was diagnosed with preeclampsia and had to be readmitted. That threw my anxiety into a whirlwind. I'm also a mom baby nurse, so I know too much, but postpartum preeclampsia is just not talked about enough. Being in this situation, going through one of these scariest things that a postpartum mom can go through, how do we move past trauma when we're currently living what we most feared would happen?

• 2:41Jay Shetty?

  Congratulations on your third baby. As exciting as that is, I'm also so sorry you're dealing with postpartum anxiety for a second time. I obviously have no idea what that must be like, and I commend you for working through it. You mentioned that postpartum preeclampsia isn't talked about enough, and I agree. So let me explain it for anyone listening who might not be familiar with it. Not for you, because you're a mom baby nurse and you know this better than I do. So you can correct me if I get it wrong. But postpartum preeclampsia is a condition involving dangerously high blood pressure after giving birth, and it is really hard to predict. Left untreated, it can cause seizures and strokes. And what makes it super dangerous is that in general,

• 3:25Jay Shetty?

  the blood pressure peaks tend to happen somewhere between day three and day six after delivery. That's important because most patients are discharged from the hospital around 48 hours after delivery, which means that the highest risk period lands after you've gone home. You're on your own with a newborn, running on no sleep, and then something life threatening happens. And I'll bet that when people find out you're a nurse, they say something like, "Well, Elise, you know what's happening." But you don't just know what's happening, you know every way it can go. You have seen the bad outcomes, not as statistics, but with real people. So to your actual question, how do we move past trauma

• 4:07Jay Shetty?

  when we're currently living the thing we were most afraid of? Moving past something is work you do after that thing is over. And it does not sound like it is over for you yet. Maybe part of what's exhausting you is trying to recover from something you're not done experiencing yet, which is a bit like trying to review a movie you're currently watching right now. But there is real work you can do right now. But to be clear, I would never pretend to know how you should manage your postpartum anxiety or preeclampsia. But I want to do my best to answer your question about navigating trauma in the midst of living a major fear. There's a well-known piece of research by psychologist Chris Bruin and his colleagues studying what predicts

• 4:52Jay Shetty?

  whether someone develops lasting trauma. What they found is that some of the strongest factors were the circumstances surrounding the event, including whether the person had support around them. Now, that's a correlation rather than a guarantee, and I'm not telling you that if you have enough people around you, nothing can hurt you. But if leaning on a support system is an option for you right now, this is the moment to use it. I think one of the most difficult things about going through a traumatic experience is that you feel extremely alone and you feel misunderstood. We feel alone because when we're going through a difficult moment, it can feel like we're the only ones going through it. And that's a legitimate feeling, I want to validate that.

• 5:37Jay Shetty?

  But in reality, there are other people going through it in their own way. And there may be times when you want to stay away from other people, but there are times when actually knowing that you're going through the same thing as someone else, hearing their story, them hearing yours, is the greatest source of comfort. I encourage you to find other mothers who've been through this before or are going through it right now, not for advice, not for a quick fix or a solution, because we know that is impossible, but just to be able to share your heart with, for them to share theirs with you, and for you to create that bond and that connection of being surrounded by people who truly understand your pain and so that you don't feel alone. The other part about being understood actually comes from us being able to explain what we're going through.

• 6:21Jay Shetty?

  I think one of the biggest problems about going through a difficult time is that we're scared that other people are going to think we've changed. We're scared about who we're becoming. We're scared about our identity, our perception. We're worried that we're not as fun as we used to be. We're worried that we're not as bright as we used to be. You might be emotionally heavier than usual. You might be carrying more than you're used to, and you could tell the other people around you notice it as well. When I'm going through a difficult time, I believe it's so important to communicate and articulate and explain what you're experiencing and how it's something you don't want, and how you're not sure when you're going to be out of it or what it takes. But being able to share that with the people around you, the people you spend the most time with, allows not only them to understand you better,

• 7:06Jay Shetty?

  but for you to feel understood, for you to feel seen. When you're going through moments of great change and great transition, the biggest pain you experience is people not seeing you. Help the people who love you and who are around you see you and share with them the experience that you're currently going through so that they can also meet you with empathy, context and compassion. If you had ended your message at, "I've just had my third baby", I would have told you that was plenty to be dealing with. You're taking care of a lot of people right now, in your house and at your job. Just make sure one of them is you. Again, congratulations on your third baby. You've been through this before.

• 7:50Jay Shetty?

  You have the skills, you have the tools, more than anyone does. And I know while that scares you, that is also your greatest strength. I really hope that this can be as smooth and as painless as possible, and I'm wishing you all the best. This episode of On Purpose is presented to you by Mazda. Peace of mind doesn't happen by chance. It's created through the habits we build before we ever need them. That's the philosophy behind every Mazda. With proactive safety features that help keep you more aware, more connected and more engaged, Mazda helps you feel ready for whatever the road brings. It's why Mazda has been named Consumer Reports' safest new car brand. And as of July 2026,

• 8:32Jay Shetty?

  Mazda has won more 2026 IIHS Top Safety Pick Plus awards than any other car brand. Visit www.iihs.org to learn more. A lot can happen when an accident doesn't. Visit MazdaUSA.com to learn more. Consumer Reports does not endorse products or services.

• 8:56Speaker 02

  Hi Jay, I'm a wife, mom of two boys and until recently I was the CFO and co-owner of our family business. Like so many entrepreneurs, I spent years believing that working harder was always the answer. Earlier this year, I decided to get an elective PRONova scan. I almost didn't do it because I felt healthy enough. The scan found a brain tumor that I never knew I had. Overnight, everything I thought mattered changed. During recovery, I wasn't thinking about revenue, meetings, or growth paths. I was thinking about whether I'd get to watch my boys grow up, be able to run again, hug my husband, or simply have another normal day. Thankfully, my surgery was successful, but I've come back with a

• 9:40Speaker 02

  completely different perspective. I've stepped away from the day-to-day grind. I realized success means very little if you sacrifice your health, your relationships, and your peace to achieve it. My question is, how do you know when it's time to stop chasing more and trust that you've already built enough so you can fully embrace a life you've worked so hard to create?

• 10:04Jay Shetty?

  First of all, that is an enormous thing to have happened to you, and I imagine it was terrifying. A scan you almost skipped finds a brain tumor you had no idea was there. Thank you for telling us about it, and I'm so glad that the surgery went well and that you're okay. I want to start to answer your question about how to know when you've built enough by talking about one of my favorite speeches ever given. In 2005, Steve Jobs gave a commencement speech about a year after his own cancer diagnosis and surgery. In it, he doesn't say that facing death gave him new information, but rather that it allowed

• 10:44Jay Shetty?

  him to see things that he already knew more clearly. It sounded like that's what happened to you in recovery. You weren't thinking about revenue meetings, you were thinking about your boys, your husband, and having a normal day. The things that you already knew were the most important rose to the surface, which is a cruel arrangement if you think about it. Some of the most valuable things we ever work out about our lives arrive attached to the worst weeks we ever have. Health scares do this to people constantly. It shouldn't take that. It very often does. So here's how I'd answer your question about knowing when it's time to stop or when you've built enough. I don't think enough is a milestone

• 11:28Jay Shetty?

  you eventually reach. If it were, someone would have hit it by now and given the rest of us the exact number. Look at what happened with your health. You felt healthy enough that you almost skipped the brain scan entirely, which shows how deceptive that baseline can be. Whether we're talking about your body or your workload, enough is a moving target. It is time to drop it as the bar. It's not measurable. So I don't actually think your question is how do I know? I think you know. I think the harder question is, how do you execute it? And that probably sounds simple, but as someone who has worked in the corporate world like you, it's a whole lot easier said than done to step away from the grind. You

• 12:11Jay Shetty?

  always have time to answer one last email or take a quick call on your day off. Start with actually taking your vacation days this year, or figuring out what full or partial retirement might look like financially. Create a no-meetings day for yourself. Work remotely on Fridays. Slowly but surely, make more room in your life for your life. And isn't this the whole point? We work so that we can live. That's the arrangement. And somewhere along the way, most of us get it backwards and end up with work taking over our lives. It sounds like you've just flipped it back the right way around, and I think that's brilliant. So go easy on yourself while you make the switch. It's a big one. You spent

• 12:55Jay Shetty?

  years building one way of living and you're only months into a different one, and that takes a while to settle. But it's an exciting thing to be in the middle of. I want to point something else out again. Because you worked hard for so many years, you were able to afford this scan, and I'm assuming you have a bit more flexibility with what the world looks like moving forward, with what your life looks like moving forward. I think it's really easy to make certain parts of our life look worthless when we already have achieved them, and then realize that we should have focused on more worthwhile things. But the reality is that if you were financially insecure, if you were not safe, you would

• 13:39Jay Shetty?

  still feel that pressure in your life as much as wanting to spend time with your family. I think as humans, we're very good at demonizing something and saying, I don't need that anymore. I've done that. Now I'm going to focus on this. And the reality is that a life lived in harmony and alignment is more important than this binary switch that the mind usually likes to take. We like to say to ourselves, I've worked so hard, I need to stop working, I just need to be with family. Or, I'm spending too much time with family, I'm not making enough money, I just need to go and make some money. And the truth is, those are binary trades that end up making us feel unsafe in one way or the other. You could spend lots of time with your family and feel financially insecure and unsafe, or you could make lots of money and feel like you don't have depth and quality

• 14:24Jay Shetty?

  of time with the people you love. Now, we usually turn to the word balance. And when we think of balance, we think of the same amount of time. And that never happens. We all work longer than we spend socially or in leisure or spending time with our friends and family, just with the nature of work. So balance is a poor idea in our mind, but alignment and harmony are much healthier. Who do you want to be present with? Who do you want to spend a Friday night with? What's your ideal Sunday morning? What's your ideal vacation? What's the best way you want to be with your family on a Saturday? Making memories and making moments is less about the amount of time you have and more about

• 15:05Jay Shetty?

  the amount of presence you have. And working hard is making sure that you're not working so hard that you're hurting your body and mind. You can work hard and be successful and achieve a lot of things without causing damage to your mind and body. Again, it goes back to alignment and harmony and less about balance. Now that you've become aware of how much health is a priority, and how much your family's a priority, but also how your business has allowed you this foundation to be able to have choices and options, you actually have the opportunity to live in alignment and harmony. Don't ignore your health for family or work. Don't over-prioritize work that you don't make memories with your

• 15:49Jay Shetty?

  family. And don't get so lost just in spending family that you lose a sense of meaning and purpose and personal achievement, which are all parts of living a full, rich life. I don't believe balance exists, because I believe life is more about seasons. If you think about the way nature operates, it informs a lot about how we can live. You don't experience rain, snow, sunshine, and wind all in the same day. Generally, we experience the seasons as they are. There are seasons for growth, seasons for pleasure, seasons for warmth and posiness, and seasons for letting go. Figure out what season you're in in life

• 16:31Jay Shetty?

  right now. And when you align with that season of life, you get to move from one to the next without making one feel wrong and one feel right. Your last season served you. You became aware of something at the right time. You made the necessary changes, and now move into the next. Thanks again for your message. I'm wishing you so well in your career, family life.

• 16:57Jay Shetty?

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• 17:37Jay Shetty?

  credit at indeed.com/podcast. That's indeed.com/podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? This is a job for Indeed sponsored jobs. This episode is brought to you by Vinted. Value can be found anywhere, even in the clothes sitting untouched in our closets. That's where Vinted comes in. Vinted is a secondhand marketplace app where you can sell clothes you no longer want and get more value out of them. Whether you're running out of space, moving, or simply updating your wardrobe. Listing items is a quick and simple process, and once something sells, Vinted creates a prepaid shipping label for you. And the best part, there are no seller fees, so you keep what you earn. It's a simple way to clear out your closet, be less wasteful, and maybe make some extra

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• 19:06Jay Shetty?

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• 19:15Speaker 03

  Aloha Jay, eu era a cuidadora para minha mãe de 93 anos de demência por 18 meses. Meu marido e eu tivemos todo o apoio que pudemos e mesmo então eu sofri de vários doenças. Eu acho que a parte mais difícil foi trabalhar tão duro na sua vida para definir limites e ser autêntico e ser cuidadoso com a sua energia quando você tem responsabilidades de cuidar de uma pessoa com demência. Tudo isso sai da janela. Todos os especialistas te dizem que você precisa entrar no mundo deles.

• 19:55Speaker 03

  Você precisa aprender a improvisar, você precisa aprender a mentir. E tudo isso foi muito difícil para mim fazer, mantendo ela calma e não se derramando. Eu gostaria de que você tivesse tempo para compartilhar o que as cuidadoras podem fazer para ajudá-las a passar por este tempo.

• 20:18Jay Shetty?

  Obrigado por isso e obrigado por tudo o que você fez por sua mãe. Não todos têm alguém como você no sistema de suporte deles. E mesmo que eu saiba que a demência é uma doença devastadora, ela tem sido feliz por ter você. E eu realmente sinto muito que o seu apoio inconstante também veio com um custo. Desde que a demência prejudica a capacidade do cérebro de tomar novas informações, corrigir alguém sobre o que eles pensam ser verdade pode ser super distressante. Mas a pesquisa sugere que encontrar um paciente onde eles estão pode ajudar a aliviar isso. Mas às vezes onde eles estão não é na realidade. E eu posso totalmente ouvir como fazer isso com a sua mãe, provavelmente uma das primeiras pessoas que te disse não mentir, que ajudou a moldar a visão global que te fez a pessoa ciente que você é,

• 21:04Jay Shetty?

  pode se sentir realmente, realmente difícil. Há pesquisa da Universidade de Nova York que ecoa seu sentimento. As cuidadoras familiares lidam com um custo emocional para overriding um reflexo inato como não querer mentir aos seus pais. Então, de volta à sua pergunta, que é como as cuidadoras podem manter-se de perderem-se. O que eu quero para você é um lugar onde você pode parar de ser a cuidadora. Não é apenas você, muitas cuidadoras encontram que começam a perder contato com si mesmas quando seus rótulos se tornam consumidores de energia. Você passou 18 meses improvisando, monitorando, mantendo calma, escolhendo suas palavras, não se derramando.

• 21:46Jay Shetty?

  E cada um desses é um desempenho, não um fake, um gesto real e amoroso. Mas um desempenho porque você estava regulando você mesmo continuamente para o benefício de alguém. Faça isso sem intervalo e parece bastante natural que você começar a perder o controle de si mesmo. Adicione o rol reverso de ter que ser a pessoa ciente pelos seus pais. Então, espero que você possa encontrar um lugar onde você não está no rol. Uma hora por semana onde você não está gerenciando outro ser humano. E pelo menos uma pessoa que você pode ser a filha que está lutando. Eu vou deixar você com isso. Há um paper de 2009 de Henry Brodati e Marika Donkin,

• 22:28Jay Shetty?

  onde eles descrevem as cuidadoras familiares como os pacientes invisíveis segundo. E eu não sei se você vai se relacionar com isso, mas pelo que eu posso ouvir, parece que você merece algum cuidado também. Você não é apenas uma cuidadora, você é mais do que isso. Espero que você e todos os outros incríveis cuidadores lá fora possam conseguir. E espero que isso faça você se sentir mais como você mesmo. Eu acho que esta é a essência de tudo o que eu quero compartilhar com você. Se você não se importa com você mesmo, a pessoa que você está cuidando não recebe o melhor de você. Eles estão recebendo o que resta de você. Mas se você se importa com você mesmo e põe você primeiro, mesmo por uma hora por semana,

• 23:08Jay Shetty?

  mesmo por 30 minutos por dia, você agora pode trazer sua melhor energia e cuidado para a outra pessoa. Para aqueles de nós que querem nos dar a nós mesmos a outros, que amam outros, que querem servir outros, muitas vezes nos abandonamos ou sacrifiamos, acreditando que esse é o princípio mais alto. Não percebendo que estamos dando menos de nossa energia, menos de nossa atenção, menos de nossa presença para alguém quando nos esforçamos. Se você está cansado, você está dando a alguém o seu amor com a cansaço. Se você está desaparecido, você está dando a alguém o seu cuidado que está desaparecido. Tomar tempo todos os dias e todas as semanas para reanimar e reenergizar e renovar

• 23:53Jay Shetty?

  só vai fazer você uma melhor cuidadora. O descanso não é o oposto de cuidar de alguém. É na verdade o combustível que é necessário para que você possa cuidar de alguém mais profundamente. Muitas vezes pensamos que se eu estou descansando, se estou tomando uma pausa, então isso significa que eu não me importo. Isso pode na verdade significar que você quer mais cuidar porque você quer trazer um nível mais alto de cuidado para a pessoa que você ama. Tomar cuidado com você mesmo não está em conflito com tomar cuidado com alguém. É na verdade uma parte da mesma coisa. Este episódio foi trazido para você por Mazda. Alguns dos melhores momentos da vida acontecem porque nada foi errado.

• 24:34Jay Shetty?

  O caminho de casa, a conversa que continua, os planos que ficam exatamente como planejados. Esse é o sentimento de segurança. Cada Mazda é criado com características de segurança proativa que ajudam a mantê-lo mais consciente, mais conectado e mais engajado com seu caminho, para que você possa se sentir confiante na estrada. Por isso Mazda foi nomeado o melhor marcação de carro do Consumer Reports. E a partir de julho de 2026, eles ganharam mais 2026 I I H S Top Safety Pick Plus Awards do que qualquer outra marcação de carro. Visite www.iihs.org para aprender mais. Muito pode acontecer quando um acidente não acontece. Visite MazdaUSA.com para aprender mais. Consumer Reports não apoia produtos ou serviços.

• 25:21Speaker 04

  Algumas pessoas começam com nada e construíram tudo. Eu comecei com tudo e tive que reconstruir minha vida de nada. Eu cresci em uma família privilegiada. Meu pai serviu como secretário principal para o presidente Julius Nyerri. E eu pensei que a vida sempre ficaria a mesma. Então, um dia minha mãe desapareceu sem uma trace. Ela nunca foi encontrada, não houve desculpa, não houve explicação. Anos depois, eu me encontrei na Dinamarca, incapaz de falar o idioma, começando novamente do zero. Eu limpei as salas de hotel enquanto estudava e criando meus filhos. Cuidando de uma perda que nunca tinha um fim. Por anos eu pensei que minha história era sobre sobreviver. Hoje eu sei que isso estava preparando-me para meu propósito.

• 26:05Speaker 04

  Eu agora dedico minha vida ao compartilhar histórias autênticas que ajudam as pessoas a ficar fortes durante as mais difíceis temporadas da vida. Então minha pergunta para você é esta. Como você transforma uma ferida que nunca realmente se curou em uma vida que ajuda outras pessoas a curar?

• 26:25Jay Shetty?

  Que história. De sua mãe desaparecendo até encontrar você na Dinamarca. Eu quero tomar um segundo para reconhecer o peso excessivo de tudo o que você sofreu. Reconstruir de nada em um país estrangeiro, aprender um idioma que você não fala, limpar salas de hotel enquanto criando filhos e estudando. Até mesmo com o apoio, estar em um lugar onde você não conhece os codes culturais ou o idioma é cansativo. Você está trabalhando duas vezes mais duro apenas para chegar à linha de partida. E você está fazendo tudo isso enquanto carrega a pesada tristeza da desaparência da sua mãe, sem respostas claras ou encerramento. Esse tipo de estresse prolongado alto risco toma um enorme custo no corpo e na mente.

• 27:05Jay Shetty?

  Porque a sua saúde não é apenas sobre a fitness física, é sobre o peso que o sistema nervoso está forçado a carregar. Então, olhe, antes de qualquer outra coisa, o que você fez tomou extraordinária resiliência. Você está mostrando um tipo diferente de saúde. A resistência mental e emocional que é necessário carregar uma ferida ativa e continuar construindo uma vida de qualquer maneira. Eu sou tão impressionado com o quanto cuidadoso você está falando sobre usar o que você passou por trás para ajudar outros. E como tudo o que levou a sobreviver trouxe você mais próximo de seu propósito. Me lembra de algo que Epictetus, o filósofo estoico, usava para ensinar. Ele basicamente disse que a vida nos conta as circunstâncias que não controlamos, mas sempre mantemos a responsabilidade completa sobre nossa resposta.

• 27:49Jay Shetty?

  O que a ciência nos mostra hoje é que ter esse tipo de agência é basicamente uma guarda. Quando você percebe que ainda controla sua resposta, mantém sua mente e seu corpo de não dar o impacto total prejudicial de estresse crônico. E é exatamente o que você está fazendo. Você está tendo a sua resposta à mão que você estava enfrentado e perguntando como colocar o que você passou no serviço de outros enquanto o dor ainda é ativa. A pergunta não é como você elimina o dor. E eu sinto muito que isso não é o que você está perguntando. Você está perguntando como compartilhar seu caminho enquanto você ainda está nele. E honestamente, você já está fazendo isso. Eu não acho que a cura completa precisa ser um pré-requisito antes de você começar a ajudar outros.

• 28:33Jay Shetty?

  Você não está oferecendo às pessoas uma história polida e agradável com um fim perfeito. Você está oferecendo a eles prova real que uma pessoa pode reconstruir de nada, carregar uma perda aberta e continuar indo de qualquer maneira. Quando as pessoas estão no meio da sua temporada mais difícil, elas não precisam de uma história sobre chegar. Elas precisam de uma história sobre resistir. Curar sua mente e o corpo não é um processo linear com uma linha de final limpa. Então acho que é wise não esperar até que você se sinta completamente desanimado. A cada vez que você compartilha sua história, você está tomando algo que foi destinado a te ferir e o transformando em algo útil. Espero que a dizer não seja apenas poderoso para as pessoas que estão ouvindo,

• 29:16Jay Shetty?

  mas uma parte vital da sua saúde ongoing e da cura também. Muitos de nós esperam para chegar ao outro lado para compartilhar nossa história. Há dois erros com isso. O primeiro é que você nunca realmente chega ao outro lado. E o segundo é que apenas ajuda quando você compartilha sua história quando você está no meio. Quando você está no meio da crescimento, quando você está no meio da cura e você compartilha essa história com outros, as pessoas podem se relacionar com isso, elas podem resonar com isso. Elas podem se sentir entendidas e vistas porque elas podem compartilhar o seu dor. Se você espera até que você esteja no outro lado, que é uma destino fictício, não apenas se sente como se você estivesse falando de um lugar que as pessoas sentem que nunca poderiam chegar

• 29:58Jay Shetty?

  ou se relacionar, se sente tão longe que elas precisam de alguém um pouco mais próximo. É melhor ter alguém guiando você que está três passos atrás, em vez de três décadas atrás. Porque se sente como se você pudesse alcançar aquele passo seguinte aqui, agora. Eu acredito que compartilhar sua história é menos sobre a linha de tempo, menos sobre a cura como uma destino e mais sobre a genuína transformação que você teve que passar, as perguntas que você teve que responder, os momentos que você teve que viver, as conversas que têm sido difíceis. Compartilhe o que você está aprendendo, não o que você conquistou. Compartilhe o que você está ganhando, não o que você descobriu.

• 30:43Jay Shetty?

  Porque é isso que realmente vai ajudar as pessoas. E enquanto eu ouvido você, eu acredito que é isso que você realmente quer fazer. Obrigado por me confiar com essas histórias profundamente pessoais hoje. Tomar cuidado com sua mente e o seu corpo é uma prática contínua. E eu sou tão grato que eu consigo caminhar junto com você. Continue enviando seus notas de voz.

• 31:31Jay Shetty?

  Eu vou continuar ouvindo.