10 Steps To Fulfillment

Are you chasing HAPPINESS or FULFILLMENT? (There IS a difference!) The things that make you feel HAPPY are not always the same things that make you FULFILLED! HAPPINESS is that feeling you get when you finally buy that new car or move into your new home, or close a new deal. As blissful as it is... Happiness is also TEMPORARY! FULFILLMENT is what you experience when you use your unique and natural gifts, like your intelligence, compassion, creativity, determination, athleticism or sense of humor, to make an impact on the lives of others! FULFILLMENT is DEEP and it's INFINITE! It's OK to want both! We ALL want more happiness AND fulfillment! In this episode, I'm going to reveal exactly how you can acquire and experience more of BOTH in every area of your life! I'm breaking down my entire process into 10 PRACTICAL STEPS you can take to open the gateway to more Happiness and Fulfillment. I'm going to teach you how you can enhance the caliber of your entire life simply based on your own emotions and experiences. It is time to fulfill your purpose, increase your happiness, and TRANSFORM YOUR ENTIRE LIFE The pathway to fulfillment is right here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  So hey guys, are you frustrated with where you're at right now? Maybe stunted in your progress? Well, if you are, I want to recommend a place for you to go called Growth Day. GrowthDay.com/Ed. It is the number one personal development app on the planet. It's got all kinds of high-performance techniques in there. Courses, accountability, journaling, live speeches from some of the top influencers in the world, including me. It's an overall environment to change your life. GrowthDay.com/Ed. I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

  I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it waiting weeks on a big bank for capital. Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason. Over 20 years in business, over 12 billion deployed to small business across America. Stop letting bank delays slow down your momentum. Head to Cardiff.co/Ed. That's Cardiff.co/Ed. Cardiff.co. Real growth, fast funding. Cardiff.

• 1:28Ed Mylett?

  Borrow better.

• 1:35Speaker 01

  This is the Ed Mylett Show.

• 1:38Ed Mylett?

  I'm Ed Mylett, and today's conversation is going to be fun. We're going to talk today about just being happier. I was in a conversation a little while ago on another interview show, and there was a debate between me and this other person about whether money makes you fulfilled, or whether you can be fulfilled without money. And my position was that absolutely you can become fulfilled without having money, and that money is not the key to fulfillment. This other person's contention was if you don't have money, you can't be happy. And I want you to know that I just don't believe that that's true. I know plenty of people who have money who are not happy and are not fulfilled. Having said that... I've been happy when I was poor, and I've been happy rich. Happy rich is far better, I can promise you that. But it is not the gateway to happiness. I'll give you an example.

• 2:20Ed Mylett?

  Show me a father, or a mother, with a hundred million dollars in the bank, but no purpose, no calling, no contribution in their life. They've got a child at home that's, God forbid, dying of leukemia. Do you think that that's a happy and fulfilled person, just because they have money? You have another parent, and they have no money. They make sixty, seventy thousand dollars a year. But they're a schoolteacher, let's say, or a nurse, and they're fulfilling their purpose. They're making a difference in the world, they're making a contribution. And they have healthy children. Who do you think is more happy and fulfilled? And so clearly, there are elements of our life that are far more important to creating happiness and fulfillment than just money. And so, now, having said that, people say all the time, "Material things won't make you happy."

• 3:05Ed Mylett?

  I can't disagree with that more. In fact, we have all the evidence in the world of knowing that. I'm living here oceanfront now. Living by this ocean makes me happy, right? Ladies, if you've ever bought an outfit, or a pair of shoes, or a car, or any material thing you've wanted in your life, you're happy when you buy them. Guys, you ever got that suit you want, or that shirt, or whatever it might be material-wise, or that watch you wanted? Of course it made you happy. The question is not whether it makes you happy, the question is whether it fulfills you. See, you need to begin to make a distinction in your life between happiness and fulfillment. Happiness is fleeting, it's short-term. I'm not happy every day I live here oceanfront. I've had many unhappy days in this magnificent place. Happiness is conditional.

• 3:49Ed Mylett?

  Happiness is fleeting, it comes and goes, and by the way, you want it to. If you were happy every single second of your life, the bliss of it wouldn't affect you like it does. We want the ebbs and flows of life, the downs in our life make the highs so much sweeter. I can promise you that you don't want to be happy every single second. What you do want to seek, though, is fulfillment. Material things, living oceanfront, having jets, having Ferraris or Rolls Royces, they can make you happy short-term, but they will not fulfill you. And so, what we're going to talk about today is both getting happiness and fulfillment. Let me be very Very clear with you. If your desire is to become wealthy, is to become rich, is to have all the material things in life, because it was one of mine, I can tell you, I wanted to live here oceanfront. I wanted to have a lakefront home. I wanted to take care of my parents. I wanted to fly private. Then I wanted my own jet.

• 4:34Ed Mylett?

  I've had a Rolls Royce and I've had a Toyota. And I can tell you upfront, I'd rather drive the Rolls Royce. So that doesn't make you shallow. That means that you have goals and you like the finer things in life. And for many of you listening to this, that's something you're going to chase. And I want you to have those things. For some of you, those things don't matter to you at all. You just want to make a difference. You want to make a contribution. And I can tell you, the material things in your life don't matter and that's perfectly fine. But for those of you that want to chase the material things, I want you to have them. But by no means am I going to let you think, because I've been there, that somehow that's going to fulfill you. Because guess what? You have to bring you with you everywhere you go the rest of your life. You have to bring you on your jet. You have to bring you to your oceanfront house.

• 5:19Ed Mylett?

  And if you don't love you, if you don't like you, if you don't believe in you, if you're not experiencing the right emotions about you, you bring all those emotions with you to these places you go. So I think learning the strategies of being happy and fulfilled prior to having all these material things will serve you. Because I have so many friends and I know so many people that have accomplished all the material things in their life. And those things made them happy short term, but they're living in unfulfilled destination here on earth.

• 5:50Ed Mylett?

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• 6:14Ed Mylett?

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• 6:57Ed Mylett?

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• 7:41Ed Mylett?

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• 8:14Speaker 02

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• 8:17Ed Mylett?

  Así que hablemos de eso por un momento. El calibre de tu vida está literalmente vinculado al calibre de emociones que experimentas en una base regular. Así que tomemos un inventario de eso por un segundo. Durante el último día, semana, mes y año, ¿cuáles son la mayoría de las emociones que experimentas? ¿Estás disfrutando las emociones? ¿Experimentas las emociones de alegría, cumplimiento, paz, contribución, estasi, pasión, certeza, fe, fuerza? ¿O estás experimentando más regularmente las emociones de miedo, ansiedad, depresión, estrés, dolor? Tomemos un inventario de esas emociones y te puedo prometer que si tienes más pasión,

• 8:58Ed Mylett?

  más fuerza, más alegría, más contribución, más paz en comparación con ansiedad y dolor y estrés, el calibre de tu vida es más alto con las personas que tienen esas emociones. Y así es ser consciente de que nuestras emociones dictan el calibre de nuestra vida. Entonces ser consciente de qué emociones estamos experimentando más regularmente. Y luego, siguiente, ¿qué emociones queremos experimentar? ¿Cuáles son las emociones que deseas que experimentes en una base regular? Y tomemos un inventario de lo que son. Haga una lista de lo que son esas emociones y comience a buscarlas, comience a perseguirlas, comience a ser intencional acerca de encontrarlas y comenzarás a verlas más y a experimentarlas más solo tomando control de la intención de tenerlas.

• 9:41Ed Mylett?

  Ese es el primer paso, es tomar un inventario, estar consciente de que mis emociones dictan el calibre de mi vida. Las emociones que quiero son estas tres, estas cinco, estas siete en una base regular y ser intencional acerca de perseguirlas. Sabes, Emerson tiene esta gran cita donde dice: "Somos lo que pensamos todo el día". Yo lo aclararía también: "Somos lo que experimentamos emocionalmente todo el día". Ahora, a menudo lo que pensamos dicta cuáles son nuestras emociones. Y así puedo decirte que creo que el camino hacia el cumplimiento, no solo felicidad, porque la destino final en la vida es el cumplimiento. Todos estamos persiguiendo eso, todos estamos perseguiendo el cumplimiento. Esa es la última emoción, es el cumplimiento, en mi opinión. Al menos la que quiero es cumplir porque es un cuerpo de todas las emociones poderosas. Y así, ¿cómo nos convertimos en más cumplidos?

• 10:24Ed Mylett?

  Te puedo decir que creo que el camino hacia el cumplimiento es... By contributing to other people, being in service to other people. Chasing your passion and your purpose and the service of other people leads to fulfillment. Let me tell you the pathway, I think, to contributing to other people and truly fulfilling your purpose. Because if you can match being happy with all the short-term things you want to achieve in your life. Achievement can be a destination, achievement can be a level, achievement can be a promotion. It could be a certain amount of money, it could be an accomplishment, it could be a home. It could be whatever it is. Achievements make us happy. Contribution matched with achievement is fulfillment. And so, I want you to take an inventory. The most fulfilled people I know use the gifts they were given in their life towards the service and contributing to other people. I want you to hear me.

• 11:09Ed Mylett?

  People say, "I just don't know what my passion is, I don't know what my purpose is." Your purpose is often found through identifying what your giftedness is and then how you can use those gifts to serve other people. And so, it's hard for most people to give themselves any credit, but let me tell you something. You were born with natural gifts that were given to you that are special to you. You see the gifts of other people. See, certain gifts put you on TV. Good looks, unbelievable athletic ability, right? A great singing voice. These are the gifts that can put you on television. So, most of us think those are the most important gifts in life are only the ones we see on television. See, and then we think because we might not possess those specific gifts, we are not gifted. Let me say to you very explicitly, you were born, and I know this,

• 11:52Ed Mylett?

  with unique, special gifts that are just yours. You were born for a reason, you were born to make a difference. When you were a little boy or a little girl, there was a time in your life where there was somebody who believed in you. They looked at you like you were special. They knew you were unique. Maybe it was a parent, or a grandparent, or a schoolteacher, or a coach, or an auntie, or an uncle. But they looked at you a certain way and you just knew they knew you were special. They saw what I call the Christ in you. They saw the gifts in you. And maybe as you got a little bit older, you've forgotten what that feels like. But I can tell you, it was the greatest feeling in the world. And in fact, if you pictured that person's face right now, that made you feel that way, you'd begin to almost get emotional because they made you see the gift in you. They may not have known what the gift was,

• 12:34Ed Mylett?

  but they made you feel special. Your uniqueness, your specialness, is these gifts you were given. And by the way, be very aware of what they are. Your gifts could be your nurturing ability, your kindness, your intensity, your passion, your voice, your looks, your art skills, your ability to problem solve, your listening skills, your speaking skills, your peace, your faith, your concern, your physical strength, right? Your ability to write, your ability to think, your ability to care, your ability to be there for people, your work ethic. There are literally thousands of gifts, and I promise you, if you begin to ask yourself some deep questions, you begin to understand.

• 13:17Ed Mylett?

  Your desire to help people, your intentions, your sense of humor, your patience level. You have all kinds of gifts that you were given, but there are two or three or four that are yours. And if you identify what those two or three or four gifts are, and you begin to use those gifts in the service of other people, you will be ultimately fulfilled. In my case, you know, I feel like my gift is that I was born with the ability to articulate. I was born with the ability to learn. I was born with the ability to just deeply care and believe in people. God was good enough to give me the ability to kind of communicate those words in a way that's easy to understand. And so I've taken some of the gifts, my couple, my two or three. I don't have 50, I'm not better than you, but I've sort of identified some of the gifts

• 14:01Ed Mylett?

  I have is I love people, I care about people, I'm pretty good at speaking, right? I want to make a difference, I intend to serve. And so I've taken those skills and I've used them to serve other people in my life, and it fulfills me. It's not work to me. It makes me fulfilled. My house may make me happy short term, my jet might, but I can tell you what fulfills me is making a difference in the lives of other people, and it's what will fulfill you as well. It's dropping this notion, as I've said in other audios, you are not your possessions, you are not your accomplishments, you are not what other people say you are, good, bad, or indifferent. You are not those things. And you are not what you look like. You are your gifts. You are these two or three or four things.

• 14:45Ed Mylett?

  This is the basis of who you are, are these gifts. This is the true you. And when you begin to do this, when you begin to utilize those gifts in service of other people, you become inspirational. Yes, you, you inspire people. See, the root of the word inspire is to be in spirit. When you are in spirit and serving people with the gifts you were given. Mike, who's filming this right now, one of his great gifts is his patience, is his artful eye, is his ability to see the right setting like we did today when we're shooting here. It's his concern to make me look good. It's the pride he takes in his work. These are some of his natural gifts, and now he's found them. And we've partnered together, his gift and my gift and the gift of my team to serve you.

• 15:30Ed Mylett?

  This will begin to fulfill you in your life. All of you have those gifts. And so, when you begin to identify what they are in the service of other people, you will begin to change your life. That is who you truly are. That is when you begin to experience those emotions that serve you, that begin to transform your life. If you want to be happier, and if you want to be more fulfilled, go achieve, go accomplish, go chase those things. But do things every day that feed these emotions that you want, not the ones you don't want. Root out the emotions you don't want, pursue and chase the ones you do. And begin to use those gifts to serve other people and fulfill your purpose in being here in the world. So you know those pieces in your closet that you find yourself wearing like on repeat all the time? That sweater that kind of just goes with everything? Or these perfect pair of pants?

• 16:15Ed Mylett?

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• 16:59Ed Mylett?

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• 17:37Ed Mylett?

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• 18:09Ed Mylett?

  I'm gonna give you 10 things that I want you to be more of I want you to embody more of in your life I want you to take an inventory the man or woman if you could be more of these 10 things they will deliver to you more of these emotions number one I want you to be unique I want you to be special see I believe the opposite of bravery is to conform conformity is the opposite of bravery you don't need to be like anybody else stop trying to be a part of the group be unique be special be you celebrate the uniqueness that is you yeah you may take some criticism you probably taken it in the past every time you've tried to be yourself you've taken a little criticism but I can promise you one of the gateways to more of these positive emotions is to be unique be special be you number two be

• 18:54Ed Mylett?

  love yes be love I know that may sound corny especially to some of you guys that are listening to this but just be more loving I think you'll find the more love you put out into the world and I don't mean this in some fluffy way I'm serious the more you love people the more you smile the more you truly love in life the more you get it back in your life number three be truth Just honor your truth more often. And even in the difficult times, be honest and truthful with people. Number four, be kind. One of the rarest things in the world today is just a kind person. Just taking the time to be more kind to people. We need more kindness in the world. And the more kind you are to other people, the more those emotions come flooding your way. Number five, be beautiful. And I mean it. Be beautiful. Begin to celebrate your beauty.

• 19:40Ed Mylett?

  I know for some of us, that's difficult because we're aware of all the things about us that aren't beautiful. The more you just be beautiful. I can tell you, the more you begin to accept you the way you are, that you're perfect as you are. It doesn't mean we don't want to look better. Doesn't mean we don't want to improve our condition, be healthier, be stronger, look better. But the bottom line is, if we can't begin to love how we look now, we're not going to love how we look at any point. We're never going to love it. Just be more beautiful now. Number six, be moving. You must always be moving your body. See, the great emotions come from us when we're moving our body. See, emotions are physical as well. They're a physical thing. You know how you feel when you're working out, or you're in that special moment with that special someone in privacy? You're moving your body at that time, aren't you, right? Laughter is a movement, right?

• 20:24Ed Mylett?

  See, emotions are movements. It's a state of being. The more you're breathing deeper, the more you're moving your body. Moving your body creates positive emotions. Stagnation, laying down, hunched over, all these emotions, sitting at your desk too long every single day. Laying in bed, laying on the couch, not moving, driving in the cars, when all the negative emotions hit. You'll find that when you're moving, running, moving your body, exercising, just getting in a peak state, being conscious of your posture and your physiology and moving yourself, you'll find it's almost impossible to experience the negative emotions when you're moving, and the positive ones come flooding in. Number seven, be growing. As we've talked about previously, either growing or dying in your life. A growing person is experiencing the positive emotions of life. A person who's not growing, they start to experience depression and fatigue and fear and anxiety.

• 21:09Ed Mylett?

  Be growing all the time. It's a gateway to all the positive emotions in life. Number eight, be silly. Be playful. See, you were the happiest probably when you were a little, little child, when you were playful, when you didn't care what everybody thought about you. Start to have more childlike enthusiasm in your life. Be willing to look bad and look goofy. The happiest people have more childlike emotions, more childlike enthusiasm. We all get older and we get buttoned up and we want to look a certain way and present our certain selves and think there's a way we're supposed to act all the time. And we lose the inner child and from there we lose the emotions a child gets to experience. Number nine, be forgiving. Forgive people. It will set you free and open you up to all the positive emotions in your life.

• 21:53Ed Mylett?

  If there are people you need to forgive, do it. It's your lack of forgiveness that's holding you back from getting these positive emotions. It's holding on to this thing you're holding over somebody, even though you think they may deserve it. If you don't forgive them, you've blocked yourself, you've cheated yourself from all the joy, all the peace, all the passion in your life, is you're holding on and not forgiving somebody. That lack of forgiveness is giving you the anxiety and the stress and it's blunting your access to the best emotions. Be forgiving. And then number 10, be courageous. Be bold. The most courageous people in life experience the greatest emotions. They take risks. They overcome adversity. They put themselves in uncomfortable situations. They show courage.

• 22:37Ed Mylett?

  They step in when needed. They're people's heroes in their life. They do things they're afraid of on a very regular basis. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is taking action in the presence of fear. I promise you, the more courageous you are, the more you are opening yourself to the best emotions in life. These 10 things, these 10 steps, these 10 ways of being are gateways to the positive emotions in our life. And when you combine that with identifying your gifts and using them in the service of other people and being conscious of wanting these emotions, your entire life is going to transform. I hope you enjoyed today's program. My prayer is that it's helped you and made an impact in your life. If you're watching this on YouTube, I want to challenge you to share this with as many

• 23:20Ed Mylett?

  people as you can, but then go subscribe to iTunes or Spotify and make sure you get into the audio version because I'm going to put content on audio that you won't see on video and vice versa. If you're listening to this on Spotify or iTunes or an audio platform, go subscribe to the YouTube channel so you can see some of these programs and that also I'm going to put content on YouTube, you're not going to get on the audio platform. All my content is free, YouTube, iTunes, Instagram. It's all free to you just to make a difference in your life. I'm here to serve you. I hope I did that today. God bless you and max out.

• 23:53Speaker 01

  This is The Ed and Myron Show.