Life Hacks: A Christmas Special (2025)

I'm back on my old couch in Newcastle Upon Tyne, with Jonny, a virtual Yusef & George to catch up on what they've learned this year, what their best hacks were, and their reflections on 2025. - 0:00 Why Meditation Can Change Your Life in 2026 11:01 Uber is Revolutionising How We Book Flights 17:49 The Chess Clock Procrastination Buster 22:32 Brick Your Phone to Boost Productivity 29:59 Don’t Overestimate the Attribution Error 34:48 Everyone Needs an Owala Bottle 40:03 The Beauty of Documenting Everyday Life 50:21 Chasing the Difficult Things in Life 01:01:17 Unteachable Lessons are Unteachable 01:09:56 Call of Duty vs War 01:14:17 Focusing on Feelings in 2025 01:22:11 The Journey from Head to Heart 01:32:23 How to Find New Goals That Challenge You 01:36:03 Just Because You Can Lift Heavy Doesn’t Mean You Should 01:41:13 Has Deep Work Become Overhyped? 01:48:00 Is Life the Best It’s Ever Been? 01:54:35 Yusef’s Quick Fire Hacks 01:57:57 Chris’ Quick Fire Hacks 01:59:57 George’s Quick Fire Hacks - Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get a free bottle of D3K2, an AG1 Welcome Kit, and more when you first subscribe at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom New pricing since recording: Function is now just $365, plus get $25 off at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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• 0:00Chris Williamson?

  Merry Christmas, everybody. For the people who joined the podcast within the last five years, the last few million, three million subscribers. This is my living room in Newcastle and this is Johnny and this is George. And that's Youssef and he's in Malaysia. And this is a Christmas episode. We've got one day to turn this around. So Merry Christmas. It's Christmas Day. Enjoy the turkey and the pigs in blankets. And we are going to do some lessons and life hacks and fails from the last 12 months. It's kind of a Christmas tradition, I suppose. And also another part of the tradition is that you go first, Johnny. So give us a life hack.

• 0:42Jonny?

  Yeah. All right. My life hack, which might not be allowed, we'll see if it gets past the the Chris rule, has already been a life hack.

• 0:51Chris Williamson?

  Okay.

• 0:51Jonny?

  Is that all right? One of the best ones.

• 0:52Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 0:53Jonny?

  It's the reason it's a life hack is I was speaking to a few friends about this and neither of them had heard of it. And I was like, you know, I thought Chris's podcast.

• 1:02Chris Williamson?

  Really building the tension here.

• 1:03Jonny?

  I know. Well, it's it's the Waking Up app by Sam Harris.

• 1:09Chris Williamson?

  Okay.

• 1:09Jonny?

  Why is that bad?

• 1:10Chris Williamson?

  He's been sponsored. It's not. Have you been paid off by Big Sam?

• 1:15Chris Williamson?

  Big meditate, big meditations come to gate.

• 1:17Jonny?

  I think, well, do you guys meditate?

• 1:20Chris Williamson?

  Yes.

• 1:20Jonny?

  No? Yes. I think it is the, well, so the hack specifically is download the app using the, no, download the app and listen to the fundamentals, like theory series. And it's like five audios with Sam explaining why you should meditate. And I think that is the thing. So I've meditated every day this year, which is the first time it's ever happened. And it was that audio series.

• 1:48Chris Williamson?

  But that's not a meditation. That's just buy-in.

• 1:51Jonny?

  Yeah. So the app is also, I think it makes it, it's just like a daily audio. You can follow the different every day.

• 1:56Chris Williamson?

  Okay.

• 1:56Jonny?

  It's like daily programming, cross programming for meditation.

• 1:59Chris Williamson?

  But this was important because it got you to buy into doing.

• 2:02Jonny?

  Yeah. So there's like an analogy he uses in it, which is, This this isn't word for word, but something like everyone's in a in a dream about being a human being. And it's like the dream is you're in a prison cell. And everyone's trying to make the prison cell nicer by like buying things, moving around and changing where the windows are. And that's life. And meditating allows you to just wake it from the dream. And it's a completely different way of viewing, kind of everybody's absorbed in their thoughts and their feelings and just being run by their mind. And meditating is just waking up from the dream. But that series completely changed how I feel about meditating.

• 2:40Chris Williamson?

  But this, you're not saying this is someone who hadn't meditated a lot before.

• 2:44Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 2:45Chris Williamson?

  You've done thousands of sessions of meditation previously.

• 2:47Jonny?

  Yeah, but I think the the difference is it's kind of like

• 2:52Jonny?

  the switch where you go from like going to the gym because like you think you should to it just becomes like part of your personality, part of what you do. And that identity change for me was that series.

• 3:04Chris Williamson?

  Do you feel that, Youssef?

• 3:07Speaker 02

  Yeah, the identity shift is is big as well. The the quote of what's your thoughts because they become your words, what's your words because they become your actions? What's your actions because they become your habits, become your beliefs, your perception, your identity? So like, starting at that means that the downstream habits are much easier to stick to. I also love the rearranging the furniture in the prison cell analogy.

• 3:37Chris Williamson?

  So how long are you doing these sessions for?

• 3:40Jonny?

  I'll do like, so the standard one is like 10 minutes long. But I'll do I'll do that as the minimum. And then if it's going well, I'll keep going. If it's like, you know, those days, especially ones where like makes you have your eyes open.

• 3:54Chris Williamson?

  They're hard.

• 3:55Jonny?

  They're particularly difficult.

• 3:56Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 3:58Jonny?

  Those are difficult to do, but if it's, I think the easiest way to make it a an effortless habit is not trying to do thirty minutes or forty minutes, just have a minimum and then.

• 4:08Chris Williamson?

  So how is getting out of the prison cell going?

• 4:11Jonny?

  I, good question. I, I have glimpses where I'm like, oh, this is just a dream of being in a prison cell. What does that mean? The difficult, well, what does it mean? It's the identifying with your thoughts versus, it's the experience of, of a self. I feel like this is, for the first life act, this is going, I also don't feel like I'm qualified to talk about this. That's what this.

• 4:34Chris Williamson?

  That's why I referred to the, um, referred to the, the app, because I think Sam is qualified to talk about it. But it's a, it changes your perspective and your relationship with yourself and with now, with the present moment.

• 4:49Speaker 02

  The happiness trap doesn't even need to be that metaphysical. It's just like, usually we, we are motivated to do something to close a gap between desire and outcome. And we do that and our brain goes, and just releases a bit of like some neurochemical that makes us happy for a moment. And then that neurochemical depletes and then we think that we have to go and achieve the thing in order to give ourselves permission to release the little bit again into our brains. And it's just that cycle. Whereas if you realize that it's your brain that's releasing that stuff and you can just do it on tap, then you've short circuited the whole process and you're not having to chase some, something out there.

• 5:27Chris Williamson?

  Such a good point. There was a resurfaced clip of the first Huberman episode that I did from mid twenty twenty two that I saw the other day and he's got this line in it where he says, it's all internal. Everything in life is all internal. You finish a marathon in first place and you've been working your entire life to do it. And you run across the finish line and that sensation, no one else comes along and drips dopamine down the back of your brain stem. Like this is just you generating all of this. Now, obviously.

• 6:00Chris Williamson?

  Were designed to respond to what happens in the real world. Like, that's the entire way that we're sort of adaptively evolved. But it does suggest that, well, if you can get closer to the root of where all of this stuff's coming from, which is just internally, you can probably at least make it easier to achieve what it is that you want without having to fight into a headwind all the time.

• 6:24Speaker 03

  Even the real world's a farce because you have 10 times the number of neurons going from your brain to your eye than you do from your eye to your brain. So your eye is actually taking more information from your brain than the other way around. So it's constant, your brain's constantly creating a prediction of reality. So the best example is, you know, when you're kind of walking downstairs, and this happens to me way too often, where you think there's another stair and you're at the end and you kind of feel the stair. And then your foot goes down and you, for a second, you feel it's there and then you go, oh shit, and then you fall. But your brain kind of simulated the reality. So your brain's constantly making these prediction models that don't actually exist.

• 7:06Speaker 03

  And then when you have an error or you have a failure, that's when it constantly corrects. It's not like when you think something's lemonade, but actually it's water.

• 7:13Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 7:14Speaker 03

  Exactly.

• 7:15Chris Williamson?

  Does that happen a lot to you?

• 7:17Speaker 03

  Once a week.

• 7:20Speaker 03

  But you know, there's that moment, the moment of like, something horrible's happened.

• 7:25Chris Williamson?

  Something horrible's happened.

• 7:26Speaker 03

  Something horrible's happening. Yeah, I know, it's fine.

• 7:29Chris Williamson?

  It's just water.

• 7:29Speaker 03

  It's just water.

• 7:30Chris Williamson?

  All right, that's a good one. Waking up at.

• 7:32Speaker 03

  It's a meta hack, isn't it? It's the thing that like changed your relationship with now and everything happens.

• 7:37Chris Williamson?

  What was the call, what's the intro course thing called again?

• 7:40Speaker 03

  It's called the fundamentals. So in waking up, there's theory, practice, there's like lectures to listen to, there's all the Alan Watts series. But there's an initial intro series called the fundamentals by Sam, where he's basically trying to convince you to meditate. And it's like five audios, they're all about 10 minutes long. Awesome.

• 7:56Chris Williamson?

  Wow.

• 7:57Speaker 03

  It's like that time when you.

• 7:59Jonny?

  Made me read the beginning, all of the beginning of the six minute diary.

• 8:04Speaker 03

  Yes, yes.

• 8:05Jonny?

  Then you insisted and I was like, okay, I'm reading it. But reading it is what got me to use it every day.

• 8:10Speaker 03

  Of course.

• 8:11Jonny?

  Reading that intro.

• 8:12Speaker 03

  Have you heard of Jhana meditation? Here we go. Here we go. This is a fun one of, um, cause I think what happens to a lot of people is they go via the mindfulness route, which is what a lot of people get on boarded to. But you realize, oh, that's just a way. So there's lots of different ways. It's like thinking about exercise and only looking at running. Exactly. Um, which is basically what's kind of happened in that space. But the Jhana meditation idea is when you essentially keep, rather than focus on your breath, you focus on something that brings you great joy. And it goes, the best description I've heard of it is it's like a panic attack, but for joy. And then you pulse and pulse and pulse. You think of your child, for example, think about that, think about that, think about that. And it's a much, sometimes a quicker way than trying to delete all thoughts. What's your thoughts on Jhana, Seth?

• 8:57Speaker 02

  The, the two things that George is talking about there. So at the Vipassana retreat that I did, it's 10 days of floodlight meditation, where you're, you're scanning with as open focus as possible and trying to dial up the fidelity of your sensations so that you can like start picking up like 10 micro sensations per second. That's used in a retreat setting because I've heard it described as like rubbing bits of flint together. It's like, it needs a lot of time and momentum to get going and then it builds the fire. Whereas Jhana meditation is a lot more like hyper focused. It's kind of like the laser beam versus the floodlight.

• 9:35Speaker 02

  I've not achieved Jhana. Um, I know George is, is just chilling in Jhana right now, but, um, yeah, it's, it's super compelling. There's a, there's a movement. Can you remember the name of it, George? I think it's the guy who said it's a panic attack for joy. He's like a tech founder who was really stressed and now runs Jhana retreats in the States.

• 9:56Speaker 03

  Yeah, I know who it is, but I've forgotten the chap's name off the top of my head. There's a few.

• 10:00Speaker 02

  He's, he's got a good, he's got a good description of it. And then Michael Burby as well, um, has all of his retreats on YouTube. Um, so you can follow along.

• 10:10Speaker 03

  All right, Seth, you're up. What have you got?

• 10:13Speaker 02

  So I have a life hack. However, I think I need your guys' help. Because I I'm struggling to have some kind of categorization system in order to place the life hack in. Does that make sense?

• 10:28Chris Williamson?

  Go on.

• 10:30Speaker 02

  So so if you have any suggestions on how I might categorize the aforementioned life hacks, that would be really helpful.

• 10:39Chris Williamson?

  Do you feel like some of them are like physical and some are digital?

• 10:44Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah.

• 10:50Chris Williamson?

  This is a joke. This is a joke. For the people who are in the last ninety five percent of subscribers, this is a joke that has been done thirty or forty times.

• 10:58Jonny?

  Probably a decade old.

• 11:00Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, yeah, it's getting there. Okay, first one. Here we go.

• 11:04Speaker 02

  This is like you mentioned, Chris, about the curve of the large proportion of people who are actually just tuned in now. And I'm just like, what? These guys are mental. So my hack is use Uber for flights.

• 11:18Chris Williamson?

  Use Uber for flights.

• 11:20Speaker 02

  Honestly, I cannot believe how easy it is. So in the five minutes between landing the plane, getting reception and standing up and leaving, I booked my next flight to Vietnam on Uber on mobile. It's like it already has your details and you just go, booked, done. And it gives you Uber credits, like ten percent for every flight booked. So the benefit of this hack is that you're not having to go through like random airlines and Skyscanner or Google Flights or any of that stuff. It just gives you the best price with the easiest booking experience. And they don't charge a markup. I don't know what the business model is for that

• 12:03Speaker 02

  part of Uber, unless it's just like lost leader, but brilliant. So I'm never going back to booking flights any other way.

• 12:11Chris Williamson?

  I'm just doing it now. I'm doing it now on my phone. Uber Travel. I mean, Uber, when you actually look at it, the number of different things that Uber can do is pretty insane. You can get them to collect parcels for you. You can get them to drop off, drop off different stuff.

• 12:28Chris Williamson?

  I didn't know that. I did not know that they did flights. What's the difference between this and Skyscanner? Because I'm a big Skyscanner stan.

• 12:36Speaker 02

  As far as I understand, Sky Scanner, you still have to get redirected to the airline. And then you have to fill in all your details like four times and your passport number and all this stuff. So like currently, I'm in Malaysia, but I've gone via like Singapore and then going Brisbane, Sydney, Vietnam, Bali, like through lots of little airports and stuff. And these shitty little airlines that have websites that barely work. And you're just like trying multiple times to book it. Like I spent 40 minutes trying to book something on like Batic Airlines, couldn't get it working. Uber, 37 quid, like took five minutes.

• 13:14Chris Williamson?

  Wow, free, price freeze.

• 13:18Speaker 02

  Oh, yeah. So they, they freeze the price and they let you change the dates flexibly as well for like an extra £3.

• 13:26Chris Williamson?

  So the cost of the prices, the cost of freezing is just 18 pounds. Stay safe from price increases while you plan your trip.

• 13:33Speaker 02

  Oh, they also have.

• 13:34Chris Williamson?

  This is really good. This is really, really, really fucking good.

• 13:38Speaker 02

  Top tier, I've hacked it. They also have a thing where if you book, if you book a flight now and the price drops in between now and the flight happening, you get the difference.

• 13:51Chris Williamson?

  Wow, big hack. This is, this, this is, you've really come out of the gate swinging here. Jesus Christ.

• 13:59Speaker 02

  Well, this is proof it has worked.

• 14:02Chris Williamson?

  Well, yeah, unfortunately Sam Harris isn't involved in this one. Okay, um, I'm going to go off the back of this one, um, just because it, it makes the most sense. Flighty, have you heard of Flighty?

• 14:16Speaker 02

  No.

• 14:17Chris Williamson?

  Oh my days. Okay. So I learned this.

• 14:19Speaker 02

  Can you use Flighty Premium for this?

• 14:21Chris Williamson?

  Of course, you have fucking Flighty Premium. Talking to a Flighty veteran here. So Flighty is a flight tracking app. And what it does is it automatically links in with your calendar, your email inbox. When you book a flight and the confirmation comes through, it automatically loads everything in. And it tells you gate changes, delays, where you're.

• 14:45Chris Williamson?

  Luggage is going to what terminal you leave from, what time you're boarding. It can give you a history of the last time that the flight, all of the the last thirty days of the flight. How much it's been delayed, for what reason? If there's any adjustments that get made, it'll tell you immediately as well. While you're in the air, it'll track your journey and then bring you back into land. It tracks all of your previous stuff. It is, it's outside, so you never need to. Once you start using Flighty, you will never check another airport board again, because it's all there and it gets updated before the board. Because the board usually takes a little bit of time, but this just comes through from whatever the central hub that's giving all this information out is. And it's just, it's seamless. The number of times that I have not missed flights,

• 15:30Chris Williamson?

  especially when you've got connections and it's outstanding. So Flighty, I think premiums, maybe thirty bucks a year, ten bucks?

• 15:39Chris Williamson?

  Super cheap. You can also add friends, so you can see when your friends are flying, where they're flying, if they're delayed as well. So you can track all of your friends' flights also. And it automatically links in and then it gives you reports at the end of the year, how long you've spent being delayed and stuff. There's some like cool additional things. But largely, never check another airport board for what gate am I leaving from, where's my luggage gone to, what time do I need to get there? It's got a little island, a tracking island, and it also pops up on your home screen. So it's fantastically designed. Everybody that's started using it, I just can't believe it. So you get the gate information before anyone else does? Basically. That's the big, the big thing is gate information plus a live island that sort of tracks everything.

• 16:24Chris Williamson?

  But you just never have to think again, and it's all automatically linked in with your emails. Has it changed how early you get to the airport?

• 16:35Chris Williamson?

  Not particularly. My, even for international now, I'm typically getting to an airport about an hour before I leave. That has been a high-risk strategy, but in America, you've got TSA and Clear and things that can fast-track you through security. What's the spread of airport arrival times in this room? I usually arrive about an hour before I'm going to depart, so usually about half an hour before boarding. What about you?

• 17:00Speaker 03

  Mine's like ninety minutes.

• 17:01Chris Williamson?

  Okay.

• 17:03Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 17:03Speaker 03

  For me, it depends where I am. If I'm in the US, a lot earlier. If I'm in the UK, a lot later.

• 17:09Chris Williamson?

  Hmm.

• 17:09Speaker 03

  I feel like if you were at Castle Airport, you could arrive fifteen minutes before.

• 17:13Chris Williamson?

  Go straight through.

• 17:14Speaker 03

  If it's Heathrow, you need to go a bit more time.

• 17:17Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 17:18Speaker 02

  I definitely always love, because everyone's got like one YOLO mate who just turns up like fifteen minutes before and chances it.

• 17:26Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, unfortunately, America has much more flux between the size of the queues. The UK is usually pretty consistent unless you're at Heathrow, whereas in Austin, sometimes the entire terminal has just been filled with people, hundreds of yards of people, and then other times there's no one. So I don't know whether that's because the airport needs a bit of work. George, what have you got for us?

• 17:51Speaker 03

  I don't think we've spoken about airlines enough.

• 17:58Speaker 03

  My one, I'll go in with something different, which is chess clocks.

• 18:05Chris Williamson?

  Oh, God.

• 18:07Speaker 03

  Oh, God.

• 18:08Chris Williamson?

  Uh, no, no, no, no. I, yeah, I know where he's gonna go with it.

• 18:11Speaker 03

  So it's one of the ideas I got from the writer Tim Urban, who obviously did the amazing TED Talk on procrastination. And then ironically, spent like six years procrastinating on his book. And he said the biggest lesson from it was when it comes to deep work, which I've got another point I'll come on to in a second. But particularly when it comes to deep work, if you can get four hours done in a day, I think you're in the top one percent.

• 18:40Speaker 03

  But a lot of people think, oh, I work eight hours a day, I work ten hours a day. And he found that when it came to writing the book, he would go to write it. And then other little bits of work would come up. There'd be a Slack message here, there'd be an internet scroll here. So the chess clock methodology. Is you've essentially set it up where you have sixteen hours in the day. Okay. And your goal is to get four hours on one side of the chess clock. And whenever you're doing anything that isn't the thing, you have to hit it over. So if you go to go to the bathroom, hit it over, go for a walk, hit it over. Somebody comes in, hit it over. So there's always an immediate price to bullshit or to distraction.

• 19:22Speaker 03

  Um, and you realize, oh, wow. First off, when you do four hours, like properly four hours, you're, that is a lot of time. And then a lot of the time you'll be there at twelve P M. Going, wow, like, there's just all this kind of free time for the rest of the day. If you don't have a chess clock, like the other simple approach is to just literally set an alarm for four hours. And then anytime you stop, you have to pause it. So there's just always, it hacks the uh, the kind of brains circuitry. That there's always some form of punishment for distraction, whereas previously there isn't. And the amount of times you can convince yourself you're doing something that isn't the actual thing is um, is significant.

• 20:00Jonny?

  That some, I can see that working for like an external problem, like someone comes in, someone rings you email, whatever. But I think the main barrier to deep work is like an internal. So you're doing something and then you'll think, oh, I just need to do this. And then you open, open a different window, pause the clock. But it's the pro, the problem for most people, I don't think is like, I'm aware I'm distracted now, but I'll just be distracted.

• 20:24Speaker 03

  Hmm.

• 20:25Jonny?

  I don't think people are aware that they're being distracted.

• 20:26Speaker 03

  Do you not? I think, well, this is the thing about the clock is that it's kind of there ticking and you have to be a little bit more honest. And even then I'll be aware of, is this a clock worthy pause? Or is this, is this actually a justifiable use of time? And so just having that there and that punishment there um, is pretty significant.

• 20:45Jonny?

  What are your most common debates about whether it is or is not a clock worthy pause?

• 20:50Speaker 03

  Um, you filling up a glass of water can be on there. Um, just like, or girlfriends come in. You know what I mean? It's like little things like that, but I'll tend to, I'll tend to pause the clock. Yeah.

• 21:00Jonny?

  Hmm.

• 21:01Speaker 03

  So if you're like, if you're writing and you're like, oh, I need to like go somewhere to get this reference for this thing.

• 21:07Jonny?

  And yeah, that would be fine. But then if I, let's say, for example, I need to go to, to a tweet to find the specific thing. That's fine. But if I then go on the news feed and start scrolling, clock has to change.

• 21:18Speaker 03

  So that's where it works. This is why the clock works really effectively, whereas other techniques, it wouldn't work.

• 21:25Chris Williamson?

  Because.

• 21:26Speaker 02

  This is great, George.

• 21:28Chris Williamson?

  It is.

• 21:28Speaker 02

  The, the other thing that it separates out is if people think, oh, it's a, it's a speed thing or it's an efficiency thing, I need to be able to like work faster or write faster, whatever versus it's just a not spending enough time on task thing.

• 21:47Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, that's a big point that you don't need to probably be more efficient or more effective or better or whatever. You just haven't realized how little time you're spending doing the thing you're supposed to be doing.

• 22:00Jonny?

  I, yeah, this isn't a hack, but it's related to this. I have an app on my laptop that is like a blocker that every time I go to like open email, it goes.

• 22:10Chris Williamson?

  Call Turkey.

• 22:11Jonny?

  It's not called Turkey. It's similar to that, but it, especially if there's someone else in the room and they hear how often it goes. And then you tell them why it's going, uh, uh, you just seem like a baby.

• 22:25Jonny?

  It's like anytime I try to open email, iMessage, WhatsApp. And you just, just make it feel so stupid.

• 22:32Chris Williamson?

  All right, Johnny.

• 22:33Jonny?

  Are we on lessons?

• 22:34Chris Williamson?

  Yep.

• 22:35Jonny?

  Or whatever you want.

• 22:36Chris Williamson?

  Whatever I want.

• 22:36Jonny?

  Take, take whatever you want.

• 22:37Chris Williamson?

  All right. Well, I'll give it, I'll, I'll do a hack that's similar to what we've just been speaking about, which is brick for iPhone. You guys seen that? It's a near field communication thing that you got to tap to unlock your phone.

• 22:50Jonny?

  Tried it.

• 22:51Speaker 02

  I never knew what NFC stands for, Chris. That's a lovely little.

• 22:58Jonny?

  I didn't expect you to like describe it like that. It's a very, but it's accurate.

• 23:02Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 23:02Jonny?

  It's very detailed.

• 23:03Chris Williamson?

  You gotta tap, tap a thing to get your phone to work.

• 23:05Jonny?

  Yeah. So you, you, you set, you set like a schedule on your phone. Like we've all tried all these like app blocking things that you can just ultimately delete the app. You have to like go to where the thing is in the house.

• 23:17Speaker 03

  Press unbrick and then tap the NFC device. It's just been the most effective thing. So as you can, I've had a year of like block it, trying to block myself from having to press the chest cloth. And it's been the most effective thing because having to like stand up, go into another room, press unbrick, go

• 23:42Speaker 03

  and then look at Instagram, just not gonna happen.

• 23:45Chris Williamson?

  Cause I'm still using Opal from two years ago.

• 23:48Speaker 03

  I'm on a constant wrestle. I just, it's just not quite as like, cause you can get around that, right?

• 23:54Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 23:54Speaker 03

  There's nothing more, I think humiliating than getting around. Oh, I've seen people do that.

• 24:00Chris Williamson?

  In front of others.

• 24:01Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 24:01Chris Williamson?

  Let me just show you this thing on YouTube. Oh, wait, no, hang on. Can you wait for 27 seconds, please?

• 24:08Chris Williamson?

  Pause session.

• 24:09Speaker 02

  Did you ever get the, the box, Johnny?

• 24:11Speaker 03

  No.

• 24:12Speaker 02

  I think it was a Jordan, Jordan original, wasn't it?

• 24:14Speaker 03

  That's putting your phone in a box.

• 24:15Chris Williamson?

  George and Kimberly have got a timed box.

• 24:18Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 24:19Chris Williamson?

  That you locked both your phones in for a weekend.

• 24:22Speaker 03

  Yeah, we did it on a, um, a Saturday, put the phones away in the box for the entire day. It was, it was fun. You get incredibly bored. Um, and I just replaced it with a Moleskine notepad.

• 24:35Chris Williamson?

  Right. He walks around, he walks around with a fucking notepad.

• 24:39Speaker 03

  Um, not to like.

• 24:40Chris Williamson?

  He thinks he's, he thinks he's Ernest Hemingway.

• 24:42Speaker 03

  But that is a, one of the best hacks. I didn't even have this one written down, which is on the phone topic. Getting a Moleskine pocket notepad so it can go in your pocket. Cause what's interesting is this thing here. This thing right here, this device, it's always whispering to you. Even now, it's saying scroll, go on this, go on that.

• 25:01Chris Williamson?

  It's yeah, go, go on the, the Gmail and make the sound, right?

• 25:04Speaker 03

  Not, not George, not if it's bricked.

• 25:06Chris Williamson?

  Not if it's bricked.

• 25:07Speaker 03

  But even, even then it whispers. You can't access it, but it's still whispering. It's still telling you to do it. Cause you have the association, you have the Pavlovian conditioning with this device. What's interesting, as soon as you have the Moleskine notepad that you walk around with is that you then, that, that then begins to whisper to you. So when you take it out and you go for a walk, it's whispering, oh, check page three, that thing that you wrote down the other day. So having a, a Moleskine notepad is, um.

• 25:30Chris Williamson?

  Can you sit with your thoughts?

• 25:32Speaker 03

  You could do, but I'm going for a walk and then I can capture my thoughts. So I can sit with my thoughts and then I can capture the best ones.

• 25:37Chris Williamson?

  Can you think about a potential, just top of your head? Potential problem with going from digital to analog.

• 25:48Chris Williamson?

  You could have written this down on your phone. Obviously, lots of issues. Phone's very distracting, all the rest of it. Can you think of perhaps an issue of having a single hard copy of your most important thoughts?

• 26:00Jonny?

  I suppose losing it.

• 26:02Chris Williamson?

  Well, yeah, I mean, because it's interesting you say that. That's a very, that's a very sort of fortuitous prediction. Because we went to Dean's Italian and as you were extolling the virtues of your Moleskine notepad, you left it at Dean's Italian and they binned it. So he lost all of his biggest thoughts.

• 26:23Jonny?

  Hold on. So how does that feel? I saw Chrissie's counter move coming about two minutes.

• 26:31Jonny?

  I purposely held off and I'll explain why. That wasn't a Moleskine notepad. That was like a, like a real shit notepad. So I think the waiter's just binned it because it was nothing. That's why I upgraded now to a Moleskine notepad. Because if you see a Moleskine notepad, nobody's going.

• 26:46Chris Williamson?

  Moleskine notepad?

• 26:47Jonny?

  Because, because of this reason.

• 26:48Chris Williamson?

  Is it made of moleskin?

• 26:50Jonny?

  Actually, I don't know.

• 26:51Chris Williamson?

  It's a brand, isn't it?

• 26:51Jonny?

  Yeah, I don't know. It's a brand.

• 26:52Chris Williamson?

  Right. So your, your argument.

• 26:54Speaker 02

  I'm really hoping that George is bringing out like a, this is why I have a carbon copy.

• 26:59Chris Williamson?

  This is James Smith taking down the creatine industry, isn't it?

• 27:01Jonny?

  Yeah. So you're hoping that waiters understand the value of a Moleskine notebook.

• 27:08Chris Williamson?

  I'm afraid to tell you, I don't think that.

• 27:10Jonny?

  I don't think they do either. Okay. But the point, I think the point of these sorts of things is, I remember like you bought a light phone, didn't you? Years ago, there was like that movement of buy like a Nokia 3210 and live your life off that. But then you need Google Maps and you need Uber and you need, you need to send someone a message or you need to ring someone. Having those features is useful. If your phone's in a box, you can't use your notepad to book an Uber. But if you just remove the things that whisper to you and to get them active again, you have to get up and go into the other room.

• 27:43Chris Williamson?

  It's friction. It's just increasing friction.

• 27:45Jonny?

  Foods in the, in the house that, to prevent you from.

• 27:47Chris Williamson?

  I do, I do remember I had a lockbox thing, timed lockbox, not too dissimilar to yours, but it had a plastic see-through cover and there was little holes cut out of it. So you could actually use the phone. You could swipe through different things on the phone and kind of use it.

• 28:04Jonny?

  Right.

• 28:05Chris Williamson?

  But yeah, didn't you tell me that? If you lock your phone in the box, you have to ring customer service.

• 28:12Speaker 03

  If you can't get it out, you basically.

• 28:14Chris Williamson?

  Smash it with a hammer or ring customer service.

• 28:16Speaker 03

  Or ring customer service because you can accidentally put it on for 30 days rather than 30 hours. I'm sure, I'm sure somebody's done.

• 28:23Speaker 02

  Yeah, Mike smashed his with a hammer. So, yeah, it's just in his, in his room with.

• 28:30Jonny?

  Thing, isn't it? There's like a family and they will put their phones in the box and the kid ends up like smashing the box. That I haven't seen. Like coded bias or something.

• 28:36Chris Williamson?

  All right. So brick, brick.

• 28:38Speaker 03

  All right.

• 28:39Chris Williamson?

  An NFC device.

• 28:41Jonny?

  For, it's Opal with a, Opal with a physical thing in it.

• 28:44Speaker 03

  All right.

• 28:45Chris Williamson?

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• 29:28Chris Williamson?

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• 30:01Speaker 02

  Back around to me. I really underestimated the potency of the attribution error and cognitive dissonance. So what I mean by that is, can you write on this, Chris? Cause I feel like this is your absolute wheelhouse, that we over attribute other people's behavior to their character, but we under attribute it to situational factors. But then for ourselves, we over attribute situational factors and we under attribute our character because it's too painful for us to just be like, oh, just because I'm a shit person rather than like, oh, it was because the bus was late and because whatever. But easy to be like, oh, they were just a dick and it can't have been that they were

• 30:45Speaker 02

  sleep deprived or looking after their toddler or whatever else.

• 30:50Chris Williamson?

  The classic, the classic one is I cut that guy off because I'm late for work. He cut me off because he's a bad driver.

• 30:56Speaker 02

  Oh, yeah. Great example. So the broader lesson that I'm seeing here is that people are a lot more emotionally driven than, than I think I've really given it credit for. Like outside of our extremely autistic bubble, there is, there's so much more cognitive dissonance that drives people's behavior and thoughts and actions. And so you know, this thing of like, people buy with emotion and they justify with logic. It's, it's not just buying behavior, it's, it's everything. And the moment you start spotting this, you see it everywhere. So everyone listening must have had an experience where you're speaking to someone who has a

• 31:41Speaker 02

  particular stance or gripe or position or something. Could be on politics, could be on a relationship issue, whatever. And the more you start to kind of get into it, you realize that they're just rotating their complaints or like they're moving goalposts, but still being pissed off about something. Until you're like, ah, actually like the pissed off comes first and then the justification comes later.

• 32:09Speaker 02

  So it's that people don't actually want to get to this kind of rational, objective truth. They just want to feel safe and they just want a hug and just want to be heard.

• 32:22Speaker 02

  And so I don't know who said this, but it's a quote of we only see what we want to see. We only hear what we want to hear. And our belief system is like a mirror that only shows us what we believe. So the lens or the glasses that we see the world through tell us more about the color of the lens than they do about the world out there.

• 32:42Chris Williamson?

  I certainly this year, since trying to do more emotions work, have sort of come to the realize or the belief that most of the thoughts that we have are bottom up, not top down. You feel a thing and then you come up with a story that explains why you feel the thing as opposed to and you're accurately determining that that story from from your brain downward.

• 33:04Speaker 02

  It's very convincing as well because that it's what the brain does. Like it's a sense making machine, isn't it? So the body goes, oh, I'm anxious. All my parts going, whatever. And then it the brain has to quickly be like, oh, well, that's because this. And it just like pulls together random things and thoughts to create this, like to weave this narrative. And then it holds on to that and it becomes it identifies with it. It's such a like such a weird process, but it just is happening in the background all the time.

• 33:27Chris Williamson?

  How have you changed the way that you operate or have you applied this in any way? Is it just an insight that's interesting philosophically?

• 33:36Speaker 02

  Just realizing that there's there's no point trying to argue with what someone's saying or trying to like convince someone on the head level. And instead, just like, just give them a hug and or like metaphorically and speak to the heart and realize that it's the that that's the stuff to address first before you get into any of the what someone so rather rather than listening to what someone is saying, listen to what they're feeling.

• 34:04Chris Williamson?

  There's also this like side argument that people can go down when they touch that, which is that

• 34:11Chris Williamson?

  people are irrational, they they're not logical, they're driven by emotions. And there's this great account, Chris Larkin, and he has this great line, which is emotions are logical. You're just bad at logic.

• 34:24Speaker 03

  And when you actually get deeper to a layer, well, why is that anger there? Or why is that anxiety there? We almost, we start with logic and then people kind of deny the emotional level. But then even beneath that, there's this kind of logic for all of those emotions that exist that we, we don't even get down to the basement and then don't even get to the point where you realise there's a basement in the basement.

• 34:46Chris Williamson?

  Hmm. Hmm. All right, my next one.

• 34:49Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 34:50Chris Williamson?

  My next one, Seth, that's good. Awala bottles.

• 34:56Chris Williamson?

  Seen one of these?

• 34:56Speaker 03

  Awala bottles, no.

• 34:57Chris Williamson?

  Seen one of these before?

• 34:58Speaker 03

  You've seen one of these, around the house.

• 35:00Chris Williamson?

  Of this, so, um, everybody needs some form of water receptacle.

• 35:07Chris Williamson?

  And I've cycled through quite a bit, I've cycled through Yeti.

• 35:10Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 35:10Chris Williamson?

  Uh, I've used steel protein shakers, which are good for the protein thing. The reason that I like these Awala bottles, this is, that's Mark Zuckerberg's ranch's logo for you there. The reason that I like these ones, they're insulated.

• 35:26Chris Williamson?

  They have got this size in particular, it's got a good capacity, it's nearly seven hundred, seven hundred ml.

• 35:32Chris Williamson?

  This spout thing here allows you to sip it like a straw, but also

• 35:42Chris Williamson?

  drink from it. This can hook through something and hold on and it'll keep stuff cold for a few hours. It doesn't look too, it comes in every different colour that you can imagine, you can customise the whole thing. And if you want to get something printed on for yourself or for somebody else, that's a logo or a word or something etched in it, you can, and it's 20 bucks for one of these. They're really cheap. They're fantastic and I adore mine and I use it all the time. And I think everyone, yeah, pretty much everybody from the team's got one and it's very satisfying. It's very satisfying.

• 36:16Speaker 03

  It looks nice, is it metal?

• 36:18Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 36:20Jonny?

  Yeah, it feels nice.

• 36:21Speaker 03

  Johnny, if you, if you watch The Office, you know, the Christmas special where David Brent's like a salesman and he's going around on the road and he's, he's like doing the water off and he's giving them the whole pitch. It was literally like that. And I was just expecting you to go at the end. So who does your tampons?

• 36:38Chris Williamson?

  Well,

• 36:39Speaker 03

  Nice.

• 36:39Chris Williamson?

  You know, who does your hydration?

• 36:40Speaker 03

  Let me go.

• 36:41Jonny?

  I thought you were, I thought everything was Yeti. You moved away from that. What, why are they better than Yeti?

• 36:47Chris Williamson?

  The sip spout, the magic straw, or whatever they call it, is really satisfying. It does make me feel a bit like a baby, um, which,

• 36:56Jonny?

  That's okay.

• 36:57Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, it's okay. Uh, Yeti's good. They probably have better insulation. It'll keep stuff colder for longer, maybe. But the sizes of Yeti are a little bit more cumbersome. Can either go from one that's definitely not big enough to one that's almost certainly too big. And the smallest of all the size, which is this one, is really good and fits in the side of most backpacks and.

• 37:22Jonny?

  Is that a litre?

• 37:23Chris Williamson?

  No, I think it's seven, just over 700, which is for a single seven. If you get over a litre, even over, close to one litre, it, it, you probably don't want to drink the same thing for that long. Maybe you want to cycle it out. It gets heavy, but 500 ml is nowhere near enough. So it's the optimal size. This is currently, come back next year when I disagree with myself.

• 37:44Jonny?

  When I have a different phone blocking method and you have a different.

• 37:50Jonny?

  But I'll still be recommending.

• 37:51Chris Williamson?

  Oh, yeah. Okay. Well, anyway.

• 37:54Speaker 02

  This was Johnny's razor that we left last year's with, which was, um, come back to me in six months after you've been using this hack.

• 38:01Jonny?

  It's the 90 day.

• 38:02Speaker 02

  And then I'll.

• 38:02Jonny?

  Night day.

• 38:03Speaker 02

  Believe you.

• 38:03Chris Williamson?

  Yeah. Well, I guess people won't even know about that. We did 20, 30 episodes of life hacks back in the day, which is still like a non insignificant amount of this entire podcast inventory. And one of the most important ones was that after a while, we realized someone would come in all full of beans because this brand new life hack that they were in love with. It's like, oh, I, I, I must, I must tell you about a way to get YouTube premium for free by getting it through the Argentinian VPN service.

• 38:32Chris Williamson?

  And then you have to wait 90 days to find out that you get charged back for fraud online or whatever it might be. I'd never forget, Eric Jorgensen taught us about that one where if you try and cancel your Zoom subscription, they immediately offer you a 30% discount, stuff like that. But there's some second order consequence. Oh yeah, but it's downgraded you. You get ads on your own Zoom calls now or something. But yeah, anyway, 90 days. If a friend comes to you, this is a meta life hack. Friend comes to you and says, "Meh, you've got to try this new, this fun blocking method." And you say, "Okay, how long, how long have you been doing it? You are two weeks?" You go, "Okay, come back to me in another two months and we'll see if you're still using it or if it's broken your life."

• 39:16Jonny?

  I've had people complain about the Life Hacks episodes because they watched them in order and they would get like four or five episodes in and the thing that they'd been doing.

• 39:25Chris Williamson?

  You've contradicted yourself.

• 39:26Jonny?

  We were like, "No, no, never ever do that. Do this instead." And that's just the cycle.

• 39:29Chris Williamson?

  Well, the issue is that the pace at which we drip fed Life Hacks episodes when we started was appropriate. It was every couple of months, every three months or so for four years. If you just watch them like binge finishing Game of Thrones, you do speed run through our development.

• 39:48Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 39:49Chris Williamson?

  Which is probably quite a dangerous.

• 39:51Speaker 02

  Just don't listen in reverse chronological order because you'll mess yourself up.

• 39:54Chris Williamson?

  Oh, God.

• 39:55Jonny?

  Maybe that's the right way to do it, though.

• 39:56Chris Williamson?

  Start at the end.

• 39:58Jonny?

  It'll be the stuff at the bit in the first episode is probably the things we're all still doing.

• 40:01Chris Williamson?

  It is. Sleep with your phone outside your bedroom. All right, George.

• 40:05Speaker 03

  Mine's more of a lesson or a two-part lesson. So one of the lessons this year was, so when I originally wrote the essay on high agency, one of the bits of feedback that I got and other people gave me as well is that the concept's not necessarily new, but it gives you, gives you a bit of language to refer to a thing. And I've had that for a while with that term. And I was like, I then went one level above that. I was like, hold on, I don't have a bit of language to refer to when I need a bit of language to refer to something. So I told a friend Henrik that, and he gave me from Scott Alexander, this, he calls it an idea handle, which is when you create a term or a name for a thing, and then you can kind of pick it up in the world. And a big thing for me this year

• 40:49Speaker 03

  has been around language, which even where Yusef is right now, which is beautiful, like side tangent here, in Malaysia, they don't use plural. So rather than say tables, they say table, table. So you just realize when you study language, so much comes back to you. But one bit of language I've been kind of playing around with is we've spoken about this before around forgetting things and how much we forget. And I found this story about a seven year old boy called Henry. And one day, he's out and about playing in his drive in Connecticut, and a cyclist doesn't see him and clatters into him, knocks him unconscious. And he wakes up,

• 41:30Speaker 03

  and the next few days, he starts having a few seizures. And by the age of 25, he's having 25 seizures per day. And this is in the 50s. So he's trying everything to get rid of this condition. So he goes and signs up for experimental brain lobotomy surgery. And he wakes up from the operation, and he has some good news, some bad news, and some awful news. So the good news is that the brain surgery has basically cured his condition entirely. So he has no more epileptic fits. The bad news is that he won't remember the good news. Because the awful news is, it's destroyed his ability to form new memories. So he lives from the age of about

• 42:09Speaker 03

  25 to 85, not forming any new memories. So every day, his psychiatrist would meet him and get to know Henry well over the years. And each day, he would meet his psychiatrist for the first time. But there was this specific bit of detail about Henry, which I call Henry's mirror, which is every morning, he would wake up, he would look at himself in the mirror, and he'd be shocked and perplexed at how old he was. Because in his head, he was always 25. And I kind of call this idea Henry's mirror, which is the problem with amnesia is not only do you forget, it's that you have amnesia of your amnesia. And it's this idea that all of us right now have some bit of Henry's mirror in us. You don't even realise it because by definition you've forgotten it.

• 42:52Speaker 03

  So the classic example I use is, okay, Johnny, can you think of a clear sentence of thought from yesterday? Bear in mind, you had 10 to 70,000 on average. Can you think of one?

• 43:02Chris Williamson?

  No.

• 43:03Speaker 03

  But when you're in these overthinking spirals, it feels, it feels so real, feels so tangible. And then it just fades away and all you have is a face that's getting older in the mirror each day.

• 43:17Chris Williamson?

  It's very apocalyptic.

• 43:20Chris Williamson?

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• 44:04Chris Williamson?

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• 44:41Speaker 03

  I think the the big thing I've tried to change more, first off, when it comes to overthinking, trying to realize that as a thought loop's happening, trying to stare in that mirror for a second and go, well, hold on, how long, how many times has this happened? Cause this could be the 60,000th time this thought has happened, but I can't remember anything from yesterday is one thing. The second thing is just very basic level, just trying to document more, take more photos, take more videos, journal more, and without realizing it's such a, an asset that's going to compound further and further in the future, even like today, to be honest with you, it's fun that we get this for like 20 years from now, we can go, oh, what we was doing that day. But otherwise, like the, the average person, the, the memory just

• 45:25Speaker 03

  goes and then your life just goes.

• 45:29Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 45:31Speaker 03

  If you use

• 45:31Chris Williamson?

  Merry Christmas.

• 45:31Speaker 03

  Merry Christmas. If you use day one for journaling, do you guys use journal?

• 45:34Chris Williamson?

  No. You're such a day one. I, I do use day one and I've used it more this year than any other year.

• 45:39Speaker 03

  It just gives you every time you go to make a journal entry, it's like on this day, a year ago, two years ago, eight years ago.

• 45:45Chris Williamson?

  How many entries have you got on day one now?

• 45:47Speaker 03

  I've been using it for like, I think 15 years.

• 45:49Chris Williamson?

  Wow. But how frequently are you doing it?

• 45:51Speaker 03

  I try and do it every day.

• 45:52Chris Williamson?

  Really?

• 45:52Speaker 03

  Yeah, just like contents of mind and a picture every day.

• 45:55Chris Williamson?

  What's been Really? So you've got thousands of entries?

• 45:58Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 45:58Chris Williamson?

  Holy

• 45:58Speaker 03

  But the thing, the main takeaway from all of it is like, it's just the same stuff. It's just the same, the same worries, the same things you're excited about, the same feelings.

• 46:07Chris Williamson?

  Well, I think

• 46:08Speaker 03

  10 years ago, you're like, what's the point?

• 46:10Chris Williamson?

  Well, we assume that the Henry's mirror thing is, is true in as much as all of the problems that we're dealing with now feel fresh to us. But when you look across the expanse of time,

• 46:26Chris Williamson?

  in the same ways, you've got the same feat that you did 10 years ago, your psychological construction is made up of the same biases and fundamental fears, which I think you said to yours sort of emotions point is why that's such a powerful way to communicate with people. And also the, it's why I've been trying to dig deeper, sort of even deeper than just talk therapy gets you to by unpacking, okay, and where are these patterns coming from? And what, what is this, what are the emotions I'm unprepared to feel? Because I think that is really the only way to get to the bottom of the Etch A Sketch and to fully, fully shake it loose.

• 47:01Speaker 02

  You're right that you're the same, you're obviously the same person that you were 15, 20 years ago, but last year we talked about this where you you think that your journal, especially in Johnny's case, we've got 15 years of day one journals, is going to be useless in like the very early stages. You're like, what does my 19 year old idiot self know about how I should be conducting my life now? And then you look back on it and it's just exactly the same stuff that you're like, oh God. And it's like, life is a spiral curriculum and it'll keep spanking you with the same lessons until you finally absorb it, change what you're doing. And then the world around you will stop like hitting you with that same lesson.

• 47:45Chris Williamson?

  What's that? Is it, uh, young, uh, until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate?

• 47:54Speaker 02

  And we we see that often with other people more clearly. You know, when you see someone who's always running into the same like style of problem and you like, oh yeah, it's because they're creating it.

• 48:04Speaker 03

  So one, um, one hack for this, it was actually one of mine for today, but whilst it's on the topic, is kind of what I call like this, uh, time technique. So let's say, for example, you're going through, insert, difficult, uh, moment. So let's say, I don't know, you're going through a breakup or you're having, in your case, Johnny, maybe a difficult issue with a member of staff or, um,

• 48:27Chris Williamson?

  What are you trying to say about my members of staff?

• 48:29Speaker 03

  No, you know what I mean? Like running a business, you're gonna, you're gonna have those, don't sue me. Um, you're gonna have those issues. So what I kind of recommend, or I've been doing this for about three or four years, which is I'll think of, okay, so let's say it's a, uh, a work conflict, right? I will then go, okay, can I think of two or three times that are the most similar throughout my entire career like this? So I kind of write down those events and write down the date. And then I ask, okay, if I could go back in time now with all the knowledge that I have now. And if I could turn this event into like one of the best things that ever happened to me, what would be the three actions that I would take?

• 49:08Speaker 03

  Okay. And then next to the day, I write, okay, well, what would be the worst three things that I could do with all the knowledge that I have now? Cause you, you have this detachment from the event and you have like an extra 20 IQ points. And then, once you've done that, just scribble out the date and replace it with today's date and pretend it's you from the future that's, that's come back. And that's such a, an effective way. Cause when you do, even though we do forget so much of the past, the real stuff that you do remember are the most emotional events. And even now you can look back at things five to 10 years ago and have such detachment.

• 49:42Chris Williamson?

  Well, the patterns are the same, which means that the solutions will probably still work. If you can think of what you would have done previously in a situation that's analogous. And now you in the present are facing something similar. Yeah, it is.

• 49:57Speaker 02

  Love you, Jordan. Cause that, that's what emotions are supposed to do, aren't they? It's supposed to be a navigation tool as feedback for, oh, you took a wrong step there. Like here's how to change in future, but we often don't, and then keep experiencing the emotion.

• 50:11Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, the, the universe just continues to shout louder until you hear the lesson. And the goal is to get before it's screaming in your face. The goal is to try and jump, jump that a little bit sooner. All right, Johnny, what you got?

• 50:22Speaker 03

  Johnny.

• 50:23Jonny?

  Johnny. I have a lesson which ties in beautifully with this.

• 50:27Chris Williamson?

  Wonderful.

• 50:28Jonny?

  Because one of the problems with having 15 years of journals is I can, I watch, I can see this like journey of me chasing all these little things. So like, I wanted to bench a hundred kilos. And then I wanted abs and then I wanted a two, one degree and I wanted a job. And then I wanted propane to do well and I wanted certain revenue levels. And it's always just this next thing. You can see it happening through the journal entries and you realise. It changes nothing. Like this, in those same entries, there's still worries, problems, the same worries, the same problems. And you watch you through time achieve these things,

• 51:13Jonny?

  and you're still worried about the same stuff. And that creates this feeling of like, what is the point of doing anything? But the, the thing that you realize woven into all of it is the thing that's changing the whole time is the, like, the traits that are, that are you and how your character is changing because chasing those things that are difficult require like delayed gratification, they require like dealing with difficult, difficult emotions, they require like

• 51:42Jonny?

  all of the skills that you have to build and all of the traits you have to build to build a business to a certain level or to diet for the leanest you ever been, whatever it might be, you, you change. So it's this idea that like the goals, I don't think they really compound, they kind of do, but they, like the dopamine you get from that doesn't compound, but the traits that you get from chasing the hard things is the compounding. And that immediate, that realization immediately flipped back to like, it's absolutely worth like listing out loads of really big, difficult goals and chasing them. Because the, I don't think there's any faster way to change who you are, to improve your, and it's something that like, being a, my daughter's now of an age where like she's, she's gone from

• 52:24Jonny?

  being a baby to being like a little person. And I'm like, oh God, like there's a proper like responsibility here to be the example. And I think the best way to become the example is chase the difficult things that require the traits to, to come as part of the journey.

• 52:43Speaker 02

  I love the, um, what your takeaway from that, Johnny? Cause some people would be really nihilistic about that. They'd be like, oh, well, there's no point chasing anything.

• 52:52Jonny?

  That's the first feeling. The first feeling is like, oh, what's the point?

• 52:57Jonny?

  Yeah, whereas you're like, actually, this is a way to play the game without having to be fully sucked into the game.

• 53:05Chris Williamson?

  Well, you still need to be conned by the game into believing that the game is what you want to play. Like, this wouldn't work. You would not be able to get yourself to do the hard thing if you didn't think that the other side of the goal of the hard thing was completion, satisfaction, self-actualization, rest.

• 53:22Jonny?

  But I think people think, oh, when I get a million turnover, I'll be happy. That's not true. But when you get a million turnover, the person-

• 53:31Chris Williamson?

  The person that you've become.

• 53:31Jonny?

  Yeah. And so you just change the thing. The goal is kind of like the side quest to the thing.

• 53:37Chris Williamson?

  But that's the goal is the thin end of the wedge. The goal is what gets you through the door.

• 53:40Jonny?

  Yep.

• 53:41Chris Williamson?

  Because you're not thinking, I can't wait to feel dissatisfied in this goal, but happy about the person I've become.

• 53:47Jonny?

  Yeah, like you achieve the goal, you get the little, like, it's the James Smith thing, like all wins feel, it feels exactly the same.

• 53:52Chris Williamson?

  Yep. Then you're dissatisfied.

• 53:53Jonny?

  But you've changed. The thing is, you can't, you don't know that at the time. And the only way you can know that is those, is like being able to see what you two years ago, how you two years ago dealt with a challenge or dealt with-

• 54:05Chris Williamson?

  I think this is why progress feels so good and losing ground feels so bad. Then this, this is great for you, somebody who's been on a relatively linear journey of getting better, more mindful, more peaceful, more successful, more capable, more resilient, whatever. But if the thing happens in the opposite direction, whether you've achieved your goals or not, even maybe worse if you've achieved your goals, you say, I got the thing I thought I wanted. It turns out that just as you, I was a bit disappointed with how much that didn't satisfy me. Oh, fuck. And I'm now a worse person in some sort of a

• 54:46Chris Williamson?

  whoopie. You know, you're a boxer who gets the Olympic gold medal, gold medal, gets fucking head injury and now has to deal with that. Also, I'm unhappy about the fact that the gold medal didn't make me as happy as I thought it would. And I'm now worse off.

• 55:05Jonny?

  Well, and Henry's mirror, like you've wasted time in the process.

• 55:10Jonny?

  Hmm. Is that

• 55:11Chris Williamson?

  Like you're now eighty five.

• 55:13Jonny?

  Just because of the brain injury in that.

• 55:14Chris Williamson?

  Yes. Yeah. The point being that the saving grace you have around goals being more unsatisfying than people think they're going to be. Is that you have transformed yourself into something which is more evergreen than the goal and the brief drip of dopamine, which is all internal anyway. Then then that is you've got something more than that and hooray. But imagine if you didn't get the progress.

• 55:37Jonny?

  So I'd argue that aside from becoming like severely injured or disabled or something in the process. Dealing with the hard things is where the trait changes happen. So you can go through the thing that feels like I'm going backwards. And at the time, yes, you're like objectively going backwards by the measure, by the revenue level, the body fat, whatever, the strength level. But the traits are still improving. Because I think anything extremely.

• 56:02Chris Williamson?

  What about if you run out of motivation? What about if you dumped all of your enthusiasm into something that it turned out wasn't wasn't right?

• 56:10Jonny?

  That's assuming that that's the endpoint. That might just be halfway.

• 56:14Chris Williamson?

  Your your position here is that given a long enough time horizon, you're going to track and trend up and to the right.

• 56:20Jonny?

  Yeah, like if you look at, look at your journey to here as an example, like you sat on this sofa. How many, five years ago, six?

• 56:29Chris Williamson?

  Eight.

• 56:30Jonny?

  Eight years ago.

• 56:31Chris Williamson?

  Eight years ago.

• 56:32Jonny?

  Like if you watch the recordings back.

• 56:35Chris Williamson?

  I do.

• 56:35Jonny?

  You seem completely different. And everybody would be like, oh, Chris is, you know, what a what a fantastic existence Chris must have, like being this famous podcaster. But that's really the side quest to the the development as a as a result of it.

• 56:50Chris Williamson?

  It's a good point. I mean, what was the first one that we filmed? Love Island. Love Island. What's it really like to live on Love Island?

• 56:55Jonny?

  Episode seventeen?

• 56:58Chris Williamson?

  Fourteen. Episode fourteen. So, uh, yeah, we were sat on a different couch, but the same living room.

• 57:06Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 57:06Chris Williamson?

  In.

• 57:08Chris Williamson?

  May, April or May of 2018, uh, different couch, definitely a different.

• 57:13Speaker 03

  Yeah, I remember getting this.

• 57:15Chris Williamson?

  Leather couch.

• 57:15Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 57:16Chris Williamson?

  Um, and yeah, you're right. You're right. That, that it's, I want to be in a different country. I want to not have to stay awake till three in the morning running nightclubs. I want people that I respect to know me and respect my work. I want da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, and then you go, okay. At each of those junctures, they were satisfying, but the satisfaction was short-lived. What was longer lived, what the person that you became.

• 57:39Speaker 03

  So do you think if you'd picked, so the goal you had was, I know it wasn't like explicitly the goal at the time, but the goal was like, I'm going to build a top 10 podcasts in the world.

• 57:46Chris Williamson?

  No, it was not that.

• 57:47Speaker 03

  No, yeah, just to give a big asterisk there. We, we was on a beach during COVID, um.

• 57:55Chris Williamson?

  And it's sort of been two and a half years into the podcast.

• 57:57Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 57:57Chris Williamson?

  Not, not an insignificant amount of time.

• 57:59Speaker 03

  Yeah. And Chris just said, if, we're talking about goals and where he wants to take things. He goes, kind of pauses for a second. He goes, I think, I think a hundred thousand subscribers. I think as soon as I get that, I'll just chill out.

• 58:11Chris Williamson?

  I'll be happy then. I remember, okay, this whole production staff's enjoying.

• 58:15Speaker 03

  You've got a hundred thousand now.

• 58:16Chris Williamson?

  I, I remember when I was.

• 58:19Speaker 03

  Remind me of that one.

• 58:20Chris Williamson?

  First year of university and I remember buying a tub of protein and looking at it and thinking, after this one, I think I'll be done.

• 58:34Chris Williamson?

  I was 18 and weighed about 76 kilos.

• 58:38Speaker 03

  But it was that, it was.

• 58:39Chris Williamson?

  No, sorry. 69, I was 69 kilos. Fucking hell.

• 58:42Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 58:42Chris Williamson?

  I remember when I hit 70 kilos and I was 20 years old and I was like, I am fucking huge.

• 58:47Speaker 03

  I, I think if you'd picked an easier goal, your development would have been totally different.

• 58:53Chris Williamson?

  But this is a big, this is a big hormosyism where he says, um, uh, the person that you become along the way. Like, how can you say that you're a man who can do hard things if you never did hard things? And then Jimmy Carr repurposed it even better. And it's, yeah, this insight, I think is, it is a saving grace to a lot of people who feel that their goals are hollow.

• 59:12Speaker 03

  Mm hmm.

• 59:12Chris Williamson?

  Um, so I think that's a wonderful lesson, like a really, really lovely lesson. All right, Youssef, what you got?

• 59:18Speaker 02

  Yeah. Think of how many bags of protein you've eaten since then, Chris. Um, so you, you did the same with balloons as well, didn't you? Where like thousand subscribers, you and Dean had a like. Cake and balloons and a party.

• 59:31Chris Williamson?

  Each subscriber level has got bigger and less grand in its celebration. Yeah. Did we even do anything for four million?

• 59:40Speaker 02

  Less.

• 59:40Chris Williamson?

  For four million subs, we didn't do.

• 59:44Chris Williamson?

  We did. We did something for a billion plays, but yeah, for four million subs, I don't think it even registered. Well, it did. We like, ah, well, we, we need to get a piece of artwork and do that. We did for the eighth in the world. Eighth in the world, I had a, what was supposed to be a red velvet cake, but it wasn't. It was a carrot cake masquerading as red velvet cake. And it was awful. It was horrible. And I tried, I tried to eat it in Utah. It didn't go well.

• 1:00:04Speaker 03

  It's crazy to think.

• 1:00:07Speaker 03

  It's crazy to think for like a hundred thousand, you did this mega party and then for four million, you probably just sent a bicep emoji on Slack.

• 1:00:15Chris Williamson?

  That's it. Yeah, probably the Pornhub, the Pornhub emoji on Slack.

• 1:00:20Chris Williamson?

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• 1:01:02Chris Williamson?

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• 1:01:19Speaker 02

  So just to piggyback off Johnny's there, because I really like the takeaway of like the person that you become. Um, I think there's another thing that you can draw from that too. So I fully agree, but um, you were talking about like chewing on the menu. So mistaking the menu for the meal and ascribing that as the, to, to, to your happiness.

• 1:01:42Speaker 02

  And we're the ones that always move the goalposts for our happiness every time we hit a particular milestone and we renegotiate the contract with our brain so that we end up in this trap where, you know, your brain releasing a little bips of some neurotransmitter, but you raise the bar of, oh, but it has to be, I have to achieve an even higher bar to get the same little blurt of dopamine. And a lot of it's because we almost feel like it's too simple to just enjoy the basic pleasures of life that are immediately available of health and relationships and nature and the sun and friends and things that you would act like, if they were taken away from you, you would actually want to exchange everything for that.

• 1:02:27Speaker 02

  So there's a, there's a book by a media giant who wrote, and he came up, he was like the head of PC World magazine and a bunch of conglomerates called, it's called Felix Dennis, How to Get Rich. And it's like a tongue in cheek book about like, you know, I'm sat here at the age of 84, writing this book to you, dear reader, who's, you know, probably in your twenties or thirties. And despite the billions that I've amassed, I would swap places with you in an instant, because you have the one thing that I don't, which is time. And I would still have the better end of the deal. So it's almost like the things that we're chasing, like, most people listening

• 1:03:11Speaker 02

  to this podcast are probably in the top, like, 20% of global wealth anyway. And yet, we think that if we get to the top 19% or the top 18% or whatever, that something's going to change. I saw Ferris shared this quote from Marian Saldes the other day. "The hardest thing to teach a student and to believe consistently is that there is nothing out there to go and get. There is no part, career, opportunity for which you should be searching and scrounging and coveting. All of the preparation is within. And if you keep yourself mentally and physically fit, and you remain generous with yourself and others, and stay deeply in your study about your craft, whatever is yours will then arrive." So.

• 1:03:53Speaker 02

  With that in mind, it's like, there are basic pleasures that are always available. And when they're gone, like health, for example, when that challenge, we've all, I think all of us have gone through some health challenge in the last like 10 years where we've suddenly been like, oh, wow. Actually, I could really do with a bit more of that again. So instead, it's like, enjoy those pleasures and then organize your life such that you can enjoy the passage of time. As you move towards your goal and then you've got the best of both worlds.

• 1:04:24Chris Williamson?

  I think this is, it might sound to, it's probably almost certainly would have sounded to us eight years ago when we started the pod.

• 1:04:34Chris Williamson?

  Opulent, maybe entitled, detached from reality in some sort. Why, why just get stronger, bigger, more rich, more popular, whatever.

• 1:04:47Chris Williamson?

  Why needing to make everything so abstract? But this leads into my favorite, my favorite lesson from the entire year, which is that unteachable lessons are unteachable. And this has been the best essay. I wrote it in January and then dropped it on Rogan a couple of weeks after that. And it's still just, it's a fundamental truism that there are a particular category of insights about life that you cannot learn without experiencing. And money won't make you happy. Fame won't fix your self-worth. You don't love that pretty girl. She's just hot and difficult to get. You should see your parents more. You should work less. You should spend more time in a hammock.

• 1:05:26Chris Williamson?

  You should enjoy a holiday without having your phone. You'll never care about anything that you're thinking of, apart from when you're thinking about it. Like all of these lessons over and over, the next follower count won't matter. The reason that people proclaim them with such like grandiose ceremony when they get there is that they can't believe that that was the case, despite the fact that generations of parents and media and literature and archetype and myth and songs and art have told us. Here are the pitfalls to look out for. And it's this weird kind Kind of like cute narcissism that we all have where we think that that might be true for them, but not for me, my particular.

• 1:06:11Speaker 02

  It's the classic like, oh, shut up, granddad. Like, I'll figure it out myself.

• 1:06:15Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 1:06:16Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 1:06:16Chris Williamson?

  My unique constitution would allow me to dance through this minefield of very well laden, very well described tripwires, and I won't trip on any of them. So I'm working on the next build of this unteachable lessons thing. So I think it's so good. Um, one of the, so first off, I guess, you are, if you chase something that you were warned was hollow, to arrive there and find out that the warning was correct, you were in good company. That's the first lesson of the unteachable lessons thing. But the second one is that they are unteachable. So the self castigation of I should

• 1:06:54Chris Williamson?

  have known what I didn't know before I knew it. Like, I should have seen this thing coming or whatever. I, that is simply not the way, the unteachable lessons are self reinforcing. They are unteachable, which means you have to do them in order to be able to understand them. And I think this is what maybe a good bit of us are reckoning with now, that unteachable lessons don't really matter all that much until you're at the stage where you've learned that the lesson should have been realized in advance and you knew about it. And then you get this guilt and you get the shame around, oh, fucking hell, how could I not have seen, did the guys not tell me? Did they not say

• 1:07:39Chris Williamson?

  that the four million subs wasn't the answer, that the so on and da, da, da, da. And, um, I think what I realized was unteachable lessons is is cool to point at, but doesn't actually give anybody any sense of, all it does is mark the way to the edge of the cliff that they are going to jump off of. And on your way down, you'll realize that you're in okay company. So maybe you feel a bit less lonely. But the next one is you can't realize this stuff before you've experienced it. And because of that, you shouldn't be whipping yourself into like pain and and saying, what an idiot, I shouldn't

• 1:08:19Chris Williamson?

  have done this. It's a justification for self compassion that way smarter, way richer, way more accomplished, more worldly people who had more advantages than you. Knew more and did the exact same thing, bigger for longer till the end of their life. They died trying to do it. And okay, like you dedicated however many weeks, months, years, decades to this career, relationship, pursuit, goal, dream, whatever it might be, to find out that what was at the end of the rainbow wasn't a pot of gold.

• 1:08:54Jonny?

  What's up programming? Like you can't just take it on faith. Otherwise you'll be sat there with FOMO.

• 1:09:00Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, it's the Naval thing. It's far easier to achieve your material desires than to renounce them.

• 1:09:04Jonny?

  I think it's like the best reason to achieve them.

• 1:09:06Chris Williamson?

  To clear them off 100%. It's way easier, and this sounds like a thing to say, but

• 1:09:13Chris Williamson?

  demonetized.

• 1:09:16Chris Williamson?

  It's, it's literally easier to buy a Ferrari than it is to rid yourself of the desire to get a Ferrari.

• 1:09:22Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 1:09:23Chris Williamson?

  That, that doesn't speak to how easy it is to get a Ferrari. It speaks to how difficult it is to be able to rid yourself of the desire for Ferrari.

• 1:09:30Jonny?

  It's who you become in, in being able to get the Ferrari in the first place, isn't it? But yeah, I think like a really bad credit rating.

• 1:09:39Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, true.

• 1:09:40Jonny?

  Bitches. The, um, I, I think like if, if by

• 1:09:44Chris Williamson?

  Big naturals.

• 1:09:45Jonny?

  gaining a certain amount of money, you remove your desire to get more money. Fantastic.

• 1:09:50Chris Williamson?

  The quickest route, the quickest route to getting rid of the desires to achieve it.

• 1:09:53Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 1:09:54Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, 100%.

• 1:09:56Speaker 03

  What if I got next? You know, one we've discussed before, actually, um, not on the show. So you spoke then about giving up desires. Another problem is, is envy or jealousy. And I've, one of the things I've tried to do rather than give up envy or jealousy is have a bit more of a stricter criteria of when I'm willing to be envy or jealous. So what I kind of developed is this idea I call Call of Duty versus war. So Call of Duty is kind of what I project Johnny's life to be, be like, right? Like maybe some of the highlights that I hear and the winds and all of that stuff. And then the war is, okay, when I've actually been with you for a week and lived your life. If I'm envious of the

• 1:10:39Speaker 03

  war, then that's fine. But if I'm envious of this Call of Duty 1% highlight reel that doesn't exist, then that's a problem. So I use, I mean, I use two examples. I mean, one of them is, um,

• 1:10:53Speaker 03

  Is a business guy we both know, super, super, super successful. And he's got everything, beautiful family, amazing business, crushing it year on year. And he's got to the scale now where we're talking, it's a huge mega business, as with him, you could easily feel envious. He goes, yeah, I've got, I think it was 2,000 lawsuits this month. Because when your business gets to that scale, you're constantly dealing with litigation from so many different.

• 1:11:19Jonny?

  Wasn't he dealing with this personally as well?

• 1:11:21Speaker 03

  I don't, yeah, there was like.

• 1:11:22Jonny?

  He jumped in on some email while you were.

• 1:11:24Speaker 03

  Yeah, and he's, I mean, he's one of my favorite people in the world, but I go, oh, wow. Like, if I want to be envious, I've got to go to the war, I've got to be, oh, I also want the 2,000 emails a month. And likewise, I mean, me and you were on the road trip, and I think it's probably good for the viewers, because I think a lot of people could look at you and go, good looking guy, super successful, rich, knows loads of people. And that's the kind of Call of Duty model. Me and Chris are on a road trip in America and we're going to put the tunes on and blare through the roads. And then Sky, your podcast ads manager calls up and I think the way people assume the ads work for the show is probably, oh, Chris just gets a load of free stuff and money, right? That's what I think they think.

• 1:12:07Speaker 03

  Whereas you kind of then get to sit there with the war and it's Sky going, yeah, they're just not happy with that Instagram story. It's Chris going, I filmed that one four times now, why are they not happy with it? And I go, oh, okay, my model before was the Call of Duty and now I'm seeing the war. So unless I've seen the war, I'm not envious. And if I see the war and I like it, I'm willing to be Napoleon.

• 1:12:27Jonny?

  I think when Mark Zuckerberg was on Joe Rogan, he describes like his morning. And it's like he wakes up and he doesn't look at his phone because when he looks at his phone, there's just loads of.

• 1:12:35Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah.

• 1:12:36Jonny?

  Government's been overthrown. Oh, God, like that never goes away. Like, it doesn't matter how big the business is.

• 1:12:41Speaker 03

  Just gets more.

• 1:12:42Jonny?

  Well, the emails are just worse. It's the emails that like 15 people below you didn't have the answer to.

• 1:12:46Speaker 03

  Well, that's another Sam Harrisism where.

• 1:12:49Chris Williamson?

  There will never come a day when you don't have any problems. What did you think that you were gonna wake up one day? And there be no problems like getting to a video game level where there's no more enemies to fight. No, your problems will change, but having problems will never go away. The, the line from your idea about Call of Duty versus War is nailed by James Clear here. How many people love the idea of a thing, but not the reality? It doesn't make sense to continue wanting something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result, but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.

• 1:13:23Speaker 03

  Beautiful. Beautiful.

• 1:13:25Chris Williamson?

  Nailed it.

• 1:13:27Speaker 03

  Papa has this idea, he's like one of the founding fathers of modern science. That essentially life is problem solving. And then David Deutsch builds upon his ideas, which is, he has a few things, but one. All problems, unless they defy the laws of physics, are fundamentally solvable. But, so that's the optimistic note, but there's a big caveat there, which is as soon as you solve a problem. It leads to another problem. So solutions are infinite, but problems are also infinite. So let's say we solve the problem of fire. Okay, now we have the problem of smoke. Okay, we've solved the problem of smoke. We've got a chimney. Okay, now we've got a dirty chimney. Okay, we're gonna, we solve that problem by getting some children in to clean it. Oh no, we've got the problem of child labor. And it's just da, da, da, da, da, da, da.

• 1:14:11Speaker 03

  And it's both the beginning of infinity, both for problems and solutions. So life is problem solving.

• 1:14:17Chris Williamson?

  Very good. Johnny, where you go?

• 1:14:19Jonny?

  I have another lesson. Which is. It's a dad based lesson about being a dad. Have you seen American Beauty? Seen the film American Beauty?

• 1:14:30Chris Williamson?

  No.

• 1:14:31Jonny?

  No.

• 1:14:32Chris Williamson?

  Tom Cruise?

• 1:14:34Jonny?

  No.

• 1:14:34Chris Williamson?

  Oh, shows that I haven't seen. That's my, that's me verifying that I haven't seen American Beauty.

• 1:14:40Jonny?

  Kevin Spacey. I'd recommend watching it. It's really good. There's a, there's a scene in it where. There's a guy watching, he just sat mesmerized, watching a bag. Blowing in the wind. And he ends up in tears because there's, he can't believe the amount of beauty. In the bag floating in the wind. And I've always been really jealous of that scene. Because there's a guy that's just absolutely mesmerized with something completely normal and ordinary. And everyone's like going around chasing like the new thing, the novel experience, the new like. Location, possession, whatever. The thing. The the the thing that I've noticed that I wasn't expecting about being a dad is the is watching.

• 1:15:20Jonny?

  Watching your child see something for the first time completely reintroduces you to. Life like little things before they just became part of the background, part of the scenery. It's like the first time they watch a dog bark. First time they see a bird flying, the first time they hear a noise, you're just transported for that split second into like, oh god, yeah, that is. That's crazy, that thing. And it's a complete, it it it's a, I think like you guys probably had this, like one of the challenges of like. You get older and you feel like time goes faster and faster and faster and it's just the same experiences on repeat. It's a really nice. Like pinpoint back to like, oh yeah, like.

• 1:16:01Jonny?

  That cup's colder than I was expecting it to be. Oh yeah, the moisture feels really weird. And 10 minutes goes by. So that's been a really cool, something I wasn't expecting to happen, but it's been a really cool experience this year.

• 1:16:16Speaker 02

  That is so lovely.

• 1:16:18Chris Williamson?

  You're so.

• 1:16:18Speaker 02

  It's it's been great seeing that in you as well, Johnny. Over the year, I've I've honestly, I've like seen your heart open. And like almost unlock this like aspect to your personality that um. That your daughter's brought out in you.

• 1:16:34Jonny?

  Thanks, mate.

• 1:16:35Chris Williamson?

  What is it that's going on with us?

• 1:16:38Chris Williamson?

  Right, because you've had a kid. But none of us have.

• 1:16:43Jonny?

  A Moleskine notepad.

• 1:16:44Chris Williamson?

  You were on a Moleskine notepad, but none of us are. I I just get this sense, I don't know whether anybody else that's listening feels it, but 2025 was a very feely. Generally, I think for a lot of people that were around me, it was like a big emotions. Yeah.

• 1:16:59Jonny?

  I think our lessons and realizations each time we do this on the being weirdly similar.

• 1:17:05Chris Williamson?

  There's definitely we're on a trajectory that's sort of moving at a similar kind of pace.

• 1:17:12Speaker 03

  You see that when you have a load of girls around one another, their menstruation cycles sync up. So it's

• 1:17:19Chris Williamson?

  They got hacked sync up.

• 1:17:20Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:17:21Chris Williamson?

  Even remotely. Interesting. Yeah, that's, that's, that's cool, man. I mean, like the, the opportunity to revisit something old for the first time. Is just super cool. And obviously because you're marrying this with a deep meditation practice that's consistent. You're getting at this from multiple angles.

• 1:17:45Speaker 03

  It's funny, as you started the story then about the film, I started staring at the carpet. And I was in this gaze for the carpet for like five seconds. Cause one of my favorite stories that I read this year was from Morgan Housel's book. I don't know the name of the chap, but he, um, he's blind, uh, from basically birth to about 45. And he has this experimental eye surgery and he can see for the first time. And he's after the surgery, just the opticians just staring at the carpet for like an hour. And he's just fascinated by the details of the carpet. And I realized I walk past carpet all the time and don't think about it.

• 1:18:23Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 1:18:24Speaker 03

  So.

• 1:18:25Chris Williamson?

  Wouldn't it be crazy to be alive for a long time, but experiencing something for the first time?

• 1:18:32Speaker 03

  Cause you see those

• 1:18:33Chris Williamson?

  Well, Henry's mirror. Well, you see those videos of, of babies that here for the first time, but they're usually three or four or something. And you go, well, how, you know, how much life would you have experienced up until that point? But if you're someone who has a sense of self and maybe a partner and a position in society and all the rest of it. And then you get reintroduced this, you know, cosmic dose of novelty.

• 1:19:00Chris Williamson?

  And wonder into a system that already is pretty well put together. That the, I think I told you about this ages ago, the elderly clout hypothesis. We talk about the perils of fame too young, but never the perils of fame too old. Like what happens if you're 60 and you become the most famous psychologist in the world say, well, you know, Jordan Peterson had to navigate that. You get plucked out of obscurity. You think you know who you are. You think you know your place in society. And now that you've been ripped from your moorings. And you've got to try and work out who the fuck am I in this new world?

• 1:19:32Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 1:19:32Chris Williamson?

  And that like.

• 1:19:33Speaker 02

  I think we all, we've all experienced that when we downloaded Alfred for the first time.

• 1:19:40Speaker 02

  Like everything we knew about the way we interface with technology suddenly just like, oh my God, I've been driving with the brakes on. I've been seeing in black and white all my life.

• 1:19:52Chris Williamson?

  I, there's, there is a bit of me that thinks because the growth of the show is so like fucking exponential. So many amazing low hanging fruit insights to me feel cheap to do. Because it's been done maybe multiple times before. But because of the exposure that people have had to it, even within the same stream of content, which is Modern Wisdom and me, we probably do need to go back.

• 1:20:23Jonny?

  I think this should, this should be like a required reading, like mute the show.

• 1:20:26Speaker 02

  Yeah, we've got to go through the OGs. You're right. Cause otherwise we're going to break the Alfred service.

• 1:20:30Chris Williamson?

  Headspace calm and then arrived at waking up.

• 1:20:33Jonny?

  Trackpad speed.

• 1:20:34Chris Williamson?

  Romwad, you need to sleep with your phone outside of your bedroom. Right. This is one of the problems. Some of the hacks that we believed in, the companies are defunct now. I'm pretty sure you can't get like the sponsors, the protein works, I think actually went into administration. And there's, they're in the show notes at some point.

• 1:20:51Jonny?

  Well, it was Romwad, then you were on Romwad.

• 1:20:54Chris Williamson?

  I was Romwad model.

• 1:20:55Jonny?

  Do you, did you stretch them out?

• 1:20:58Jonny?

  I did none.

• 1:20:59Chris Williamson?

  I don't do much stretching now. George does loads.

• 1:21:02Jonny?

  Do you? A little bit.

• 1:21:04Chris Williamson?

  Stretching all the time. You said, what you got?

• 1:21:07Chris Williamson?

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• 1:22:11Speaker 02

  Similar to Johnny as well, periods have synced up. I have taken a bit of a journey from head to heart over the year too. And like massive amounts of gratitude for being able to like spend your guys' birthdays together, like to travel with you all and like all of, all of that stuff. I really, just really seeing an appreciation for it. Like, almost like Johnny was saying about his daughter where if you were transported, I think Hormozzi talks about this, where it's like if you were transported from, you know, your 90s into today and you're like, oh, I've suddenly got another, I'm suddenly 30 again. I've got another x years to live. It's like you see it with a whole new, new

• 1:22:56Speaker 02

  level of gratitude. But my big one is me becoming post-truth. So.

• 1:23:04Chris Williamson?

  This is the beginning of a hard right wing pivot from Yusef here, isn't it?

• 1:23:08Speaker 02

  Here we go. The mirror only smiles when you smile has been my mantra for the year.

• 1:23:17Speaker 02

  And it's just as concrete as it sounds like you're sat staring in the mirror miserable and going, oh, and I don't like what's in the reflection. I need to try and change that thing in the reflection. And the mirror represents the world around you. Whereas actually, like, you can never change the reflection. All you can do is bring the positive energy to it, and then everything else reflects it back to you. So it's just moving from left brain overly empirical, have to get to some objective truth out there in order to give myself the permission to say that this is true, or adopt a belief, or adopt whatever. You know, actually, no, like, you, you can, you choose your beliefs. Like, we choose them anyway. So it's not as if, like, you're suddenly becoming woo woo by

• 1:24:01Speaker 02

  doing that. It's just being conscious about it and then bringing whatever energy you want to see reflected back into the world. And in doing that, it's just been, it's like opening up a different gear in my mind. So that's been a big shift in just how I'm choosing to see reality.

• 1:24:22Chris Williamson?

  Very feelsy. We're all very feelsy, which I love. I, I, I, do you know what it makes me think? It makes me think that the intuition that I had for most of the last 12 months was right. It's like, this is a big, like, my biases are being confirmed. And, uh,

• 1:24:46Speaker 02

  It's not just you.

• 1:24:47Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, it's not. It's not. And, you know, I think certainly, at least from the show's perspective, a lot of what I've talked about over the last 12 months has been less hardcore hustle and grind, Goggins mentality thing. I contributed to that, you know, the, the industry of fuck your feelings, bro, just work harder. I had, you know, I served my time contributing to that. But even fucking Hormozzi started to make the pivot this year, where he's thinking, well, maybe I should pay a little bit of attention to what's happening below the neck. Maybe I, maybe I should care a little bit more. And, uh, yeah, this, you could say, like, a good summary is that it's all vibes, ultimately. That what you're

• 1:25:28Chris Williamson?

  trying to do is construct some external situation, or life, or level of success, or belief system, or whatever externally, to make yourself feel something internally. But there is a more direct route there.

• 1:25:44Speaker 03

  Well, the post-truth idea Yusef has probably stems from, I don't know Yusef, but Derek Sivers has this book called Useful But Not True. And he has this. I haven't read it, but yeah, very much. You can read it in a couple of hours. So there's, yeah, Sivers has this Useful But Not True. And he starts off with this story of, obviously, for people who don't know, he ends up being a quite a successful entrepreneur, internet programmer, et cetera, et cetera. But what a lot of people don't know is when he was seventeen, he crashed into a lady that was driving and broke her spine, and she was paralyzed for the rest of her life. And he carries this from like seventeen to thirty

• 1:26:26Speaker 03

  four, just like ruminating on it day after day after day, like what he did, and like how all his success is meaningless because he's such an awful person. And one day, he goes, well, I'm going to take some agency over it. I'm actually going to go and see her and apologize. So he turns up at a door. She answers the door, and he immediately starts sobbing, like in tears, and goes, it's me, Derek. I'm so sorry. I crashed into your car. I paralyzed you. And she's like, hold on, hold on. She goes, come on, walk on in. And she's walking. So they both like, sit down, and he's kind of discovers that he didn't paralyze her. Like, she like broke a bit of a vertebrae, but she's been fine ever since. And what's interesting is, she's been blaming herself for the accident ever since. So they both end up crying, realizing that they both had these kind

• 1:27:09Speaker 03

  of false memories in their head the entire time.

• 1:27:13Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, it's scary to work out that your worldview is incorrect.

• 1:27:19Speaker 03

  Which it is.

• 1:27:19Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 1:27:20Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:27:20Chris Williamson?

  And it's emoji. But in how many other places do you think that you've hit a woman? How many, how many assumptions do you have about yourself, or about the world, or about the past, that weren't, that aren't that way? Well, and this is, I think, one of the problems that you have with going too deep into the therapy speak world without having action. And I'm sure, if I was to make, this would be cool. If I was to make a prediction for next year, I get the sense that we will, or at least for me, I predict that I'm probably going to keep moving through the emotions thing, but realize it's made me less effective.

• 1:28:02Chris Williamson?

  And actually try and come back out the other side into more action oriented stuff, but doing it from a more embodied place like, okay, I've looked into the abyss and I've stared at the shadow a little bit. And now I'm going to try and regain the fuck your feelings, bro, just work anyway, but while actually feeling them.

• 1:28:23Speaker 02

  Well, that's what you were saying while back, Chris, where like, it's not that we're throwing out the idea of being able to do hard work. It's just not conflating the actual pain of the work with the progress.

• 1:28:35Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 1:28:36Jonny?

  Do you think that, you know, the thing, I think we probably all had this before you like, meditate or do any kind of self improvement stuff is that will, will this sap my desire to work harder? Or do you feel like that's happened?

• 1:28:49Chris Williamson?

  You can get there. I think I can get there. Yeah. Because I can not in terms of not wanting the goals anymore. And perhaps part of this is simply just achieving a lot of the goals. But at least a good bit of it for me comes out of, well, how much of what I was doing was to hide from emotional states that I didn't want to feel like I feel lonely. So I'll work hard. Or I feel frustrated. So I'll work hard. Or I feel insufficient or inferior. So I'll work hard. And in that you hide, you artificially bolster your sense

• 1:29:30Chris Williamson?

  of self worth, because you don't feel like without that you're enough. So you're chasing enoughness and you're injecting work rate into it. And it's doing two things. It's pushing you towards something which makes you think, well, I'm moving in the right direction. It doesn't matter if I don't love myself today, because tomorrow I'll be better. And you have this sort of permanent mañana, mañana, mañana ring of that. But the other thing is by being so busy, it drowns out the fleeting thoughts that make you doubt stuff in any case. So a busy calendar is a hedge against existential loneliness. And if you just stack your day back to back, I'm moving in the right direction. So the long term, like I'm doing the thing thing gets sorted. Plus, the immediate, I've insulated myself from

• 1:30:12Chris Williamson?

  being able to hear the thing thing is also happening. So I think it can, but ultimately, if. The reason that you work so hard is so that you can finally feel good about yourself or be happy or have good vibes. And if in the process of doing that, you destroy the vibes and you don't make yourself feel good about yourself, if you can just access the vibes directly, it doesn't matter. Like you have actually managed to find a shortcut through the mountain by tunneling straight through the middle of it. And it's still wet clay for me, like all of this stuff is still really, really, really fucking wet clay. But I think it's the, I think it's the right way to go. And I think that a lot of people realize this as well. And it's, there is kind of two worlds.

• 1:30:55Chris Williamson?

  There's the, the people who are still like looking at the top of the mountain and then some people who have done a little bit of stuff, maybe got to some kind of an altitude and like, oh, don't think that I need to go any higher. I think I actually need to go down and reassess my route. And the people who are still on the climb just do not understand the perspective that the people who have gone a little bit higher up got. And that's fine because eventually they'll get there and it's the unteachable lesson and so on and so forth. But it does lead to, it sounds much more like upward aiming and, and, and supportive and noble to be on the climb. And it sounds like privileged bourgeois to say, you know, man, I'm just like working on my vibes, dude.

• 1:31:40Chris Williamson?

  But I, I get the sense that anyone who's sufficiently mindful is going to end up there in any case. So I think this is a path that everybody's on, just at different stages.

• 1:31:50Speaker 02

  The best analogy I've heard for this is that it's not about the weather, work, hard work, laziness, whatever, there's any, there's no moralizing of the thing itself. It's about if you're using feelings of insufficiency to drive your work, then it's like you're using dirty fuel, which will eventually destroy the engine. So it's not, hard work is bad. It's if the dirty fuel is the thing which is driving you to do it, then that's gonna collapse.

• 1:32:21Chris Williamson?

  Why you're working hard. Yeah.

• 1:32:23Jonny?

  I think, I had like the, it's weird that you said that because I'd like, I've been thinking about this a lot of like the feeling that you have achieved a thing you've been chasing a long time and the, like the, the drive, you kind of feel the drive going away a bit.

• 1:32:35Chris Williamson?

  Hmm.

• 1:32:36Jonny?

  The.

• 1:32:38Jonny?

  What I, what I think the next step is, is like you've just completed Call of Duty on hard. And now you need to start again at level one, but on veteran. And you kind of know like, oh, it's this level, that guy's there and that guy comes out that door and you hear me. So you're kind of going through that, you pick a different thing to chase. That's gone, Josh.

• 1:32:59Chris Williamson?

  This sounds very technical, which you shouldn't be, but do you think it's playing Call of Duty again at a hard level? Or do you think it's playing a new game?

• 1:33:07Jonny?

  I think it has to be the same game because that's then you're like navigating the new goal. But kind of knowing like, oh, this happens. Cause I think the problem with like the first goal with the, I want to bench under kilos is you, that is the beginning of the journey of. This is it. It's the type of way, I just need this type of way. I just need a hundred thousand subscribers. But when you pick like, if Chris picked 10 million subscribers, you'd be, all right, well, yeah, here we go again.

• 1:33:32Chris Williamson?

  But do you think?

• 1:33:33Jonny?

  Same journey.

• 1:33:34Chris Williamson?

  So to use the hundred kilos one, do you think it's okay now I've got to do 110, 120? Or do you think it's, oh, now I want to get my resting heart rate down to this, or I want to get. Great apologies or whatever it is.

• 1:33:45Jonny?

  It's, so I think like, that's the, it obviously it can't be the same goal. So the Call of Duty is just an analogy.

• 1:33:52Jonny?

  Do you see what I mean? Yeah. So the reason it's like, it's, it's picking a new goal that, that challenges you. In a different way, but you know that like, this is just the, this, that's how you get the fuel, that's how you get the drive back.

• 1:34:04Chris Williamson?

  So it doesn't matter if it's the same thing or a new goal, it's just a bigger thing than previous, essentially.

• 1:34:09Jonny?

  Yeah, but it's the, um. It's like, because I think when you have those feelings of like, oh, you know, I've just kind of, I've reached this goal and it was just fulfilling this thing. And I think that just means like you've arrived at the tail end of that, like you've.

• 1:34:24Chris Williamson?

  That particular arc.

• 1:34:24Jonny?

  That's the final level.

• 1:34:25Chris Williamson?

  Well, you think, you think in arcs a lot, I remember one of the insights from relationships one on one that you had, which I think is still true. Is a lot of people restart the same cycle with a new person, assuming that they're going to get some more longevity out of it. Whereas it's not.

• 1:34:39Jonny?

  This relationship will be different.

• 1:34:41Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, no, it's, it's largely the same arc from excitement to familiarity. And people think that the familiarity is an indication that they should switch to get someone who the excitement lasts with for longer.

• 1:34:55Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 1:34:55Chris Williamson?

  But it's not, that arc is pretty locked in. And I, I think that you're true. And this is certainly true for me with the live stuff. You know, it's sufficiently similar to what I do. But sufficiently different, that it's a new territory, a new video game to try and conquer. Hmm. And it feeds into the main. Kind of starting from zero. But I'm starting from zero. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, I mean, I guess the tighter and tighter spirals thing you said before is so true as well, because in the micro, or if this is done too frequently, what this looks like is a non-essentialist worldview. It looks like you're trying to do lots of things at once, which means that you're not good at anything. It can be anything you want, but not everything. But you can be lots of things, as long as you periodize when you're focusing on them. Hmm.

• 1:35:40Chris Williamson?

  I couldn't have done live tour, writing, podcasts, all the rest of the move to, I couldn't have done that all at once. But if I chunk them into sufficiently dedicated, sufficiently long durations, I'll probably get away with it. Uh, all right, we'll do, we'll do one more, one more little round. Um, and if there's any absolute slammers, just do a couple. Um.

• 1:36:03Chris Williamson?

  This is a new one from me, which I haven't written about yet. Uh, just because you can lift it, doesn't mean you should. And this is the inverse of the region beta paradox. So, um, most people, if things get sufficiently bad, it galvanizes them to get out of a situation, something that's challenging or painful or difficult. But if you have an unusually high tolerance for discomfort and are pretty resilient, then you become like the David Goggins of suffering, like fuck the boats, I'll carry the whole fleet. And what happens is you're able to put yourself into a situation where you can sustain discomfort

• 1:36:43Chris Williamson?

  or a wrong path, or a, a, a challenging position, or a job that you shouldn't stay in, or a lifestyle that you need to check, or whatever. You can continue to push yourself through that, because your capacity to hold on and to just keep going is so strong.

• 1:37:00Chris Williamson?

  That you go way, you find that the basement's got a fucking cellar with a trapdoor in it, below the bottom of the line that most people's region beta would have kicked them out the bottom of. It's like, oh, this was already bad enough and most people would have been galvanized into action. But for some reason, your capacity to like, just keep going is so great that you do, and you do, and you do, and you do, and you do. And um, it's strange because the things that you get praised for in public are often very damaging in private. The resilience that you need to get yourself through work is not the sort of thing that you're supposed to have in your friendships. For instance, you know, if a friend continues to misuse you or take advantage of you, or isn't there, or is just bad, bad influence, or whatever it is.

• 1:37:44Chris Williamson?

  Like, if that's in work and you're trying to get this particular piece of coding or website to work and fit together, fuck, the Zapier integration won't do this thing, I'm trying to get this client, I'm gonna fly across the wall and do all the rest of it, that's fine. But if it's you trying to regularly chase down a friend that's self-destructing, there is a limit, there is supposed to be a limit to that. And um, yeah, the realization, just because something's heavy doesn't mean that you should lift it. And the reverse of that is just because somebody carries a weight well doesn't mean it isn't heavy. So from the outside, um, a lot of the time, people that listen to shows like this one and read your guys' stuff and George's stuff, um, they're usually the most put-together person in the room, typically.

• 1:38:26Chris Williamson?

  They're the one that their friends turn to for advice because you listen to, you read that psychology stuff, don't you? What should I, what should I do about my relationship with my mother or whatever it might be? And what that causes is for a lot of people to never ask the question of the person who usually answers, and go, hey, how are you doing? Can we check in? They're, oh yeah, it's like, no, no, no, like, I really mean, how are you, like, what's, what's, let's turn this around. And uh, it takes a, it takes a real.

• 1:38:56Chris Williamson?

  Brave friend, it takes a real sort of impactful friend to push through the competence defence mechanism that everybody has up. And yeah, in some ways, that's another curse of competence that people don't see you as someone that needs reassurance or steps in to check on you. And I think, yeah, beware of using what you're praised for in public, your resilience in your private life. And just because someone carries the weight well doesn't mean it isn't heavy. That's a great, it's RPE. It's RPE for personal life. Yeah.

• 1:39:31Jonny?

  It is. I think the, I think this is kind of the same thing you're talking about. But like, if you're a person that is like in charge, responsible for things, you're by default the person that people come to for like advice or what do I do? How does this work? I think that straight away it makes it harder to be like, I'm struggling. Because that you, I think the feeling that that creates is like, if I admit I'm struggling, they then have no one to ask like, what do I do?

• 1:40:01Chris Williamson?

  I'm the guy. I'm supposed to be the guy or the girl.

• 1:40:03Jonny?

  So I think that I've definitely felt that feeling of like, when you're supposed to be kind of holding all of the, everything together, you sort of have to maintain that

• 1:40:13Jonny?

  like facade to a degree, even if you'd like, I don't know what to do. If you say that suddenly the whole, the whole thing falls.

• 1:40:19Chris Williamson?

  That's an interesting one. So I remember reading Endurance by Alfred Lansing, and he's talking about Shackleton's diary entries versus what everybody else's diary entries are.

• 1:40:27Jonny?

  Right.

• 1:40:27Chris Williamson?

  And Shackleton's diary entries are just racked with self doubt and uncertainty. And the whole experience is him just swimming in melancholy and fear. But the soon as he puts the diary down, he steps outside and he just, you know, galvanizes this entire group. So I do think that in a professional context, and if you are a leader, this is a price leaders pay that nobody else gets to see. But this is the reason that you're supposed to have a fucking supportive spouse or good friends who don't work for you, or a therapist that you can talk to or whatever, whatever your, you know, outlet of choice is, but somebody who's there and with whom you can go.

• 1:41:04Chris Williamson?

  I I don't fucking know what I'm doing. I don't know how to get out of this. And I I think that's, yeah, the value of multifaceted social group.

• 1:41:13Speaker 03

  Napoleon has this line that a leader is a dealer of hope. Could be Churchillian drift, but I'm pretty sure it's Napoleon.

• 1:41:21Chris Williamson?

  Napoleon.

• 1:41:22Speaker 03

  And my, literally takes me on to mine, which is perfect. So to do very much like a Christopher Nolan reveal now, I'm going to criticize my previous one. So then you come in here. It's been a setup all along. So the reveal is, I think, right now in 2025, 2026, that deep work, which is kind of sitting there focused without any distractions, is extremely useful, but it's currently overpriced relative to the amount of people that probably listen to your show and do that. And what I call deep sparring is significantly underpriced, which is kind of what you discussed then, right? That you can't say to people, oh, I'm struggling with this, particularly people that are relying on you.

• 1:42:07Speaker 03

  But like, I've realized now, it, there's probably about three to five people in my life

• 1:42:14Speaker 03

  where we can sit down, go for dinner. And I did this on Friday with my friend Harry in London. We went for dinner, spoke everything through, had our laptops there. And he was going through issues he's facing. I was going through issues he was facing and vice versa. And there's this Nick Camartia line of,

• 1:42:34Speaker 03

  when I advise other people, I gain 20 IQ points. And when I advise myself, I lose 20 IQ points. So you essentially gain 40 IQ points because they get to come in and look at all your problems. And they're a super smart person. And then you get to go in and look at their problems. And then the next time you come back, because you've been together, you're kind of endlessly smarter. It's like what we spoke about at the start of the, just before we recorded, which is.

• 1:42:57Chris Williamson?

  The film Oppenheimer, you needed that deep sparring time in person. If Feynman was in South America and Fermi was over there, like it wouldn't happen. So there's something that yeah, that and what's beautiful about the deep sparring idea is you probably need like three to four hours a quarter and then you stack up all that deep work on top of it versus you sitting in your own little cage, ruminating, coming up with the most absurd conspiracies about yourself and then working on top of that, um, I think is a huge negative. Do you think the other people in this in the deep sparring need no, should they have no context? They have to be kind of completely separate.

• 1:43:33Speaker 03

  Um, I know, I think you probably want somebody who you don't directly work with, but you want somebody who you really, really respect. Um, like a good rule of thumb I've, I've, I've tried to take this year, which is ignore like all criticism from critics and like listen a hundred percent to all criticism from creative people or people that are doing things. Um, so I think in that regard, Daniel, I mean, you probably could think of four or five people that you could sit down with. And, and the thing is, it's kind of, they call it a live straddling poker, which is, um, when you go in, other people start going in. And I think there's some truth to that as well. Where if you go in and say, Hey, I'm struggling with this. What do you think? If you was to take over my life with a VR headset on, what would you do? They come up with gems and then they immediately go, well, I've got this thing and it's beautiful.

• 1:44:16Chris Williamson?

  It's licensed to go there. I think especially for guys. Uh, and this is one of the problems upon reflection with a lot of what's happening in the UK, I think, because you kind of have a multiplier effect of already a British allergy to earnestness and sincerity, uh, plus the male allergy to earnestness and sincerity, and they kind of stack on top of each other. But if you can find somebody who is prepared to go there and you open the door, that typically is reciprocated. The problem is when you do it with the wrong person and they go, what the fuck do you mean, man? I don't get what you're talking about.

• 1:45:01Speaker 02

  A hundred percent. I was laughing because, uh, Harry is the absolute master of that. He's the antidote because he will just drop in an absolutely wild take on something and just be like.

• 1:45:15Speaker 02

  Prove me wrong. And I don't think I can even repeat any of those takes, but yeah, it's the perfect thing. You have to have sparring partner or friends that you can drop absolutely anything with, put it on the table in front of you and everyone just goes, all right, let's, let's dissect this.

• 1:45:31Speaker 03

  What's interesting as well is if you study history, this is so common. So you had the Lunar Society in the UK during the Industrial Revolution, where all these like pioneers, so Erasmus Darwin, who was Charles Darwin's grandfather, James Watt and about 10 other leaders of the Industrial Revolution or poetry at the time, would meet during a full moon. Because this is obviously pre-electricity, James Watt's still working on what he's working on. They know during a full moon, they'd meet in somebody's garden and they would all discuss. So the, the whole foundation of the Western world was built on that. You then have Benjamin Franklin in the US, where he, he'd have these like Junto societies that he would host and he would mingle. I was literally reading the other day, the book about the start of Uber. So Uber starts because one guy is frustrated that he can't get a taxi. So he's doing what I occasionally

• 1:46:13Speaker 03

  do while I order from multiple taxi companies at once and the taxi arrives. So he's then banned from all taxi apps. And one day he's watching Casino Royale and he sees James Bond with his GPS technology and he goes, hold on, because that's an idea. And Travis, who's the, the other founder of Uber, he hosts these jam parties at his house since he sold his company. So he can just mingle and meet people and they're playing table tennis. And that's where the idea of Uber comes from. So this idea of kind of sitting by yourself, I think is just a fallacy that is a very, a modern thing, that deep sparring is so significant throughout history.

• 1:46:46Chris Williamson?

  The lone genius theory for sort of how history gets moved forward is so

• 1:46:52Speaker 03

  Bullshit.

• 1:46:53Chris Williamson?

  It's so fucking bullshit, dude. And I guess that would be another, another lesson from this year. I put it in one of the vlogs that came out recently, which was, you can go pretty fucking fast and quite far on your own. And even if it's not as trite as like, if you want to go fast, go on your own. If you want to go far, go with other people. But I don't know, you can probably, with enough resilience, if you're the David Goggins of suffering, can just fucking grit your teeth and make it to 80 and you'd have, you'd have done fine. But it'll be way less fun. Like if you want to have fun, do it with other people.

• 1:47:23Speaker 03

  So not only are you more effective, it's also, it's also more fun.

• 1:47:27Chris Williamson?

  And it's easier. So you can get, let's say that you can get it done, but you would have it be done with more discomfort, more self doubt. And yeah, you get to celebrate this fucking thing. You get to celebrate whatever it is that you're doing with other people.

• 1:47:40Speaker 03

  There's a great line of, you know, the whole Gladwell concept of 10,000 hours, which has been debated. But even in that context there, if you meet with a smart friend and discuss these issues, you've now got 20,000 hours because you've got their 10,000 hours. If you have 10 people, you have 100,000 now and you can see where this is going.

• 1:47:57Chris Williamson?

  Should be as friends with as many people as possible. Okay. You got any silences to finish off with? You got anything that you really wish that you'd said?

• 1:48:04Jonny?

  I have a, I have a little hack that I've found useful.

• 1:48:07Speaker 03

  Run it.

• 1:48:07Jonny?

  It's, so it's being more practical with gratitude, practical ways to engineer that feeling. Cause I've always struggled with that. I don't know about you guys, the whole like write three things you're grateful for. But you end up writing the same stuff. So one's a question that you can ask daily and one is a thing that you do one time. The one time is ask Chachi BT or whatever your AI choices. So, so to say, I am 35, I live in this city, this whatever. Describe a Monday 100 years ago and the level of, you just need to read it once and you're like, oh my God, like heating,

• 1:48:47Jonny?

  not having to eat like spam for dinner, not having to navigate through like a world war and all these things. And you just suddenly see like little things in your day that you can, a microwave, completely take for granted. You're like, wow.

• 1:49:03Chris Williamson?

  You sent me that passage. Is that what you've just got of?

• 1:49:05Speaker 03

  No, I was, which, which passage you can refer to?

• 1:49:07Chris Williamson?

  Uh, where water, like I had a shower, I woke up in a comfy bed and I did something else. And you compared it to a queen and emperor and.

• 1:49:16Speaker 03

  Yeah, just, I mean, I could do a six hour series on this, right? But even just study any part of history and you realize everything's so much worse than it is now. And also everybody's always complaining. So you kind of realize no matter how much better it gets, everybody's going to always be complaining. I mean, you studied World War II, it's not even that long ago. And you go, most of the people, like we would have been on the front lines. Here's a crazy stat. The average age of the Luftwaffe that were bombing the UK was 26. The average age of the RAF pilots, the reason why this isn't modern wisdom is.

• 1:49:52Jonny?

  The reason why we're not all speaking German, you'd be fine with the blonde haired, blue eyed

• 1:49:54Chris Williamson?

  I would.

• 1:49:55Jonny?

  Is the average age of an RAF pilot, 21. And you know how averages work. There's going to be a few of us blokes that are bringing that age up, like, and you just kind of go, oh my god, like, it's, it's never ending, um, how much better it's gotten, but how much people will still keep complaining.

• 1:50:12Chris Williamson?

  I have a, just a little twist on the gratitude thing, because I did, in that bedroom there, the time capsule from, you know, the last decade of my life, there is nine, 10, six minute diaries, and they're six months each. So it's a lot of daily writing. And the gratitude never got below the neck for me. And that sounds great, and I'm sure that it, you know, it's shocking. The question I would ask, that I would get you ask yourself is, does this feel like I'm feeling it? Or is it just another sort of cognitive thought experiment?

• 1:50:47Jonny?

  Well, so this is my second one.

• 1:50:49Chris Williamson?

  Beautiful.

• 1:50:49Jonny?

  So that, that's the, that's how I

• 1:50:50Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, I did go up without knowing.

• 1:50:51Jonny?

  Yeah, I did. That's like the, you know, shift the canvas. It's like, oh, all these things that I take for granted, how nice. The, the second question that you can ask yourself every day is, which I think I might have mentioned before, it's just what would, what would 80 year old me have appreciated about my day to day? And that stuff like, I got to walk to the shop and buy a drink and walk back again without nothing hurt. Or like, I'm at this part of my relationship with my partner, and we got to do this, and we've got all these plans and all these things to be excited about, and we have a holiday coming up, and I get to go with whatever. That's the stuff that I, I feel. I think that's the way that like, I really struggle with, write three things you're grateful

• 1:51:34Jonny?

  for, but I find that question, you pick, you pick the stuff you would ignore. Cause it's the stuff that, when you're 80, just won't be there anymore, that you overlook, which is, that's what 80, 80 year old you will be grateful for.

• 1:51:48Chris Williamson?

  What do you think those biggest things, 80 year old Johnny, will be thinking?

• 1:51:51Jonny?

  I think it's the, I think it's the feeling of excitement about what's still coming.

• 1:52:00Jonny?

  That like my daughter's a certain age and getting to see her grow up like friendships, watching people achieve things. There's so much to be still be excited for and not to say that doesn't that goes away when you're eighty, but I think you're facing very different, very different ten years when you're eighty years old.

• 1:52:15Speaker 02

  Have you heard that quote? The quote from A N Whitehead, civilization advances by extending the number of operations we can perform without thinking of them. So like Johnny from a hundred years ago doesn't like wouldn't Johnny from now doesn't have to go up the mountain and milk the goats and then like wash the clothes in the um the wooden pot and all this kind of stuff. And therefore can do stuff at much higher orders of operation. That that famous email from Steve Jobs. I grow little of the food I eat and of the little I do grow, I didn't breed or perfect the seeds. I didn't make any of my own clothing. I speak a language I didn't invent

• 1:52:57Speaker 02

  or refine. I did not discover the mathematics that I use. I'm protected by freedoms and laws I didn't conceive of or legislate, etc., etc. And then it's like at the end, it's sent from my iPad. Like just a little hat tip of like we're standing on the shoulders of giants.

• 1:53:13Jonny?

  Yeah. Yeah, that's good. The gratitude thing is hard to get right. Certainly.

• 1:53:18Speaker 03

  Try the Jana stuff. Give that a go.

• 1:53:21Jonny?

  The panic attack of happiness.

• 1:53:22Speaker 03

  Yeah, panic attack of joy. See what happens. It's Michael, the guy from earlier. I'll put you a touch for him.

• 1:53:25Jonny?

  What do you guys think eighty year old you will be grateful for?

• 1:53:32Speaker 03

  For me, the obvious one. I was reading this um.

• 1:53:37Jonny?

  Chess clock.

• 1:53:38Speaker 03

  It's called.

• 1:53:42Jonny?

  Alfred.

• 1:53:44Speaker 03

  The I was reading this book called Ken. It's by Ken Liu. So he does these short stories. And there's one called paper in artery. And kind of the ending is he's reading a letter from his mom after she's died. And this is a Chinese family. And they say the saddest, the saddest feeling in Chinese culture is to grow of an age where you're ready to take care of your parents and realize they're no longer there. So that's probably the one that I think I'd be like, oh, wow, my parents are still here.

• 1:54:13Jonny?

  Hmm. Oh, that's cool. That's cool.

• 1:54:17Speaker 02

  I like the song by Ken Liu as well. Like Ken Liu, can live with deep without so. Can can Liu. You know that one?

• 1:54:30Chris Williamson?

  It's gonna be Christmas number one after that rendition. Jesus Christ. Wow. Okay, Youssef, anything beyond that? I don't know how you're gonna top it.

• 1:54:40Speaker 02

  Yeah, so I've got.

• 1:54:45Speaker 02

  And sorry for derailing your hack there, Johnny.

• 1:54:50Speaker 02

  I've got some like micro ones, but obviously Johnny and my hacks are so similar that in knowing we had this episode coming up, I went through my Obsidian, which has definitely passed the Watson filter, still using it, and looked at my George folder and thought, I just need to celebrate a few of the hacks that I've stolen from George and have served me well. So the boardroom exercise,

• 1:55:17Speaker 02

  which is basically you're sat at a boardroom in your mind when your mind is too busy and you go, okay, I've got different versions of myself all around the board. So you might have like the finance accountant version of you with the green cap and the cigar, or you have like the romance version of you with the rose in the teeth and the gym version of you, whatever, all these different kind of mini personas. And you just give them all a chance to have their say. So everyone else, shut up. You, you've got five minutes, take the floor, voice what you need to say. And as you work your way around, you just

• 1:55:57Speaker 02

  clear out the pipes and it's just the quietest that your mind will ever be. So George, thank you for that one.

• 1:56:07Speaker 02

  Framing decisions as experiments, big one I've learned from from him this this year of rather than deliberating over a decision that is a two way door, you can just treat it as an experiment and then it just gets rid of any sense of like, oh, I've got to get this right.

• 1:56:30Speaker 02

  Final three.

• 1:56:35Chris Williamson?

  I'll take them.

• 1:56:37Speaker 02

  Unless there's any comments or questions on those so far.

• 1:56:40Chris Williamson?

  Keep running it, keep going.

• 1:56:43Speaker 02

  Okay, this is difficult because I've, just for people's reference, I've got no like visual feedback. So I'm just like talking to myself.

• 1:56:49Chris Williamson?

  Having a great time, we're loving it.

• 1:56:50Speaker 02

  Hojicha, so if you like coffee, but you're weaning yourself off, you can go decaf, but also Hojicha is roasted matcha. It's got that kind of caramelly, chocolatey type taste, but with much lower caffeine, same level of theanine as matcha tea. So becoming more popular, lovely drink, very, very wholesome, especially in the winter time. Or you can have it cold, iced. So Hojicha, using voice notes as a trigger to go outside, either listening to or recording voice notes.

• 1:57:32Speaker 02

  I've just set myself a rule where I have to be walking around to send or receive a voice note. Just stops me from being a slug at my desk and, you know, it just gets me up and out.

• 1:57:50Speaker 02

  The final one's a little bit long, so I might skip that for now.

• 1:57:55Speaker 02

  However.

• 1:57:57Chris Williamson?

  All right, I'll, I'll steamroll through my last few. Take a photo of the room key slip with your room number on it when you check into a hotel.

• 1:58:06Speaker 02

  Good one.

• 1:58:07Chris Williamson?

  Just as you get it, just have your phone out, take a photo of it. Then I've been on tour a lot. I've been through, oh God, 50 or 100 hotels, maybe in the last couple of years and. You, especially if you're going back to back to back, there is no way you can remember your room number. I've been lost. I've had to go back down to not lose my room key, but to just be reminded of what room I'm in. Um, that's a particularly embarrassing one. So just take a photo of the room key. Uber Black XL in America, they don't do it in the UK. Uber Black XL is so nice. If you're in the States, it gets a big Escalade or a Ford Explorer or something with a guy in a suit. And it's usually maybe twice the price, two and a half times the price of a normal Uber. So probably not good for

• 1:58:47Chris Williamson?

  big journeys. But if you're out with some friends, if this is a dicky one from your birthday in Miami that he used, and it's just such a nicer experience. If you've got four people, four people will go in an Uber X, but it'll be pain. Uber XL, you've still got bags of room. We use two Uber XLs as our tour van, basically for all of tour with the soundboard and everything else that we needed to take. And then the last one is a quote from Franz Kafka in 1912. And it's basically a summation of all of the life hacks that we've ever done. It's a distillation of everything that you need to do in your life. So Franz Kafka in 1912, dearest, I beg of you, sleep properly and go for walks.

• 1:59:35Chris Williamson?

  I think it's so great. It's a single sentence for how you can probably get most things better in your life.

• 1:59:43Jonny?

  Yeah. Well, everything's better with those two things. Sleep properly and go for walks.

• 1:59:47Chris Williamson?

  Double do that.

• 1:59:48Speaker 02

  That's the first entry in his, in his day one that he's looking back on 20 years later.

• 1:59:53Chris Williamson?

  Still haven't slept properly or gone for enough walk.

• 1:59:57Jonny?

  You got anything left?

• 1:59:58Chris Williamson?

  Uh, yeah, I'll speed through. We're going a little speed round then. Um, number one is I told you about my, if I become the Chancellor of the Exchequer, how I would increase the GDP by 3% overnight, I would install large whiteboards in everybody's home. So I think just having a large whiteboard always there, there's that like, it's Kedlin's law of them. If you could, if you can state a problem clearly, you've already solved it by 50%. And my kind of twist on that is when you have a whiteboard, it's actually 70% because it kind of stays there staring back at you and eats part of your subconscious. That's number one. Number two, and I want to make sure that I get a bit of context here

• 2:00:41Chris Williamson?

  because it does sound stupid, this one. But let me just test the room.

• 2:00:46Speaker 03

  One thing I discovered during Covid, I would do a lot of text messages, a lot of voice memos and a lot of scheduled Zoom calls. How often do you just randomly ring a friend?

• 2:00:56Jonny?

  I actually do that quite regularly.

• 2:00:57Speaker 03

  You do it quite a bit?

• 2:00:58Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 2:00:58Speaker 03

  Never, never. And I find myself, I think there's probably a lot of people listen to the show that do that as well, where it's like, hey mate, do you want to chat tomorrow at nine? And it's that, you know, that meme of there's two guys, one's trying to stab the other and it's like me and like one scheduled call my entire day versus I will just randomly pick up the phone. That's been my thing like this year is to just randomly ring people whenever, like a nutcase and just check in on friends. Cause you just stopped doing it. I go, I've not actually had a phone call with a friend for 18 months.

• 2:01:26Jonny?

  What's your pick up rate?

• 2:01:27Speaker 03

  Hmm?

• 2:01:27Jonny?

  What's the pick up rate on the calls?

• 2:01:29Speaker 03

  About thirty, forty percent.

• 2:01:31Jonny?

  Okay.

• 2:01:31Speaker 03

  Yeah. And then, and then when you factor in dial backs, it's like seventy to eighty percent. And you just end up having conversations that you wouldn't have. And it leads to that kind of deep.

• 2:01:38Jonny?

  This does create a deep, deep anxiety in Johnny though. It's the reason he doesn't text back too quickly.

• 2:01:45Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 2:01:45Jonny?

  Well, that's a separate conversation. The hack for the hack.

• 2:01:48Speaker 03

  Go on.

• 2:01:48Jonny?

  Double dial.

• 2:01:50Speaker 03

  What do you mean?

• 2:01:51Jonny?

  Ring them again straight away.

• 2:01:52Speaker 03

  Okay.

• 2:01:52Chris Williamson?

  Really? That, that makes it feel like emergency.

• 2:01:55Jonny?

  Yeah.

• 2:01:55Speaker 03

  So if, exactly. So I'll answer. So if I rang you once.

• 2:01:57Chris Williamson?

  Right, but it's not an emergency.

• 2:02:00Speaker 03

  But it doesn't matter.

• 2:02:00Chris Williamson?

  Right. So you've got to assume one of two things. I'm either actually not available, in which case the double dial isn't going to work, or I am available, but I'm busy, which means that the second one just pushes through a threshold to a level of severity that is inappropriate for what you're trying to do. And.

• 2:02:19Speaker 02

  Yeah. All you've done there is optimize your pick up rate on the first time you call them, but future times they're going to go, ah, that's double dial Johnny.

• 2:02:29Chris Williamson?

  Yeah. Meanwhile, his house is on fire.

• 2:02:31Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 2:02:31Jonny?

  Okay. So you're worried about boy who cried wolf because.

• 2:02:34Speaker 03

  Okay.

• 2:02:35Chris Williamson?

  And also you've, I think it's.

• 2:02:37Speaker 03

  It's more, it's more a fun conversation, right? That's the whole game there is to have more fun.

• 2:02:40Jonny?

  Don't start me off.

• 2:02:41Speaker 03

  I don't just go have fun. I don't need to like optimize my conversion rate on a chat with a friend.

• 2:02:45Jonny?

  But you want to beat more people than I surely?

• 2:02:47Speaker 03

  Then you pick, you call somebody else. Oh yeah. They'll ring back when you call somebody else. Yeah. Just go, I go on the.

• 2:02:51Jonny?

  Arian manual style.

• 2:02:52Speaker 03

  I think this has touched a nerve in you guys. I feel like if you're going to ring someone, ring them twice. If you're going to ring them, you want to speak to them.

• 2:02:59Speaker 02

  Do it properly. Yeah.

• 2:03:00Chris Williamson?

  You're sounding very entitled.

• 2:03:03Speaker 03

  Well, I think it's entitled to ring someone.

• 2:03:04Chris Williamson?

  I'm going to call you so many times after. If you double dial.

• 2:03:10Speaker 03

  Twat.

• 2:03:11Chris Williamson?

  The point, the point is, right, you ring someone because you're trying to get in touch with them. So act like you're trying to get in touch with them.

• 2:03:15Speaker 03

  But this is not like a formal conversation. It's very like, what's up? What's going on?

• 2:03:19Chris Williamson?

  Fine. You, you guys are inferring that if I ring twice, it's an emergency, but I'm just trying to speak to you. Which is the purpose of the first call.

• 2:03:27Speaker 03

  Always be closing.

• 2:03:29Chris Williamson?

  Always be calling.

• 2:03:36Speaker 03

  Anything else? Let's do, I mean, you said, mentioned it, then I can do some fun ones of just, um, creating your own language.

• 2:03:46Speaker 03

  No one else speaks. So we need subtitles on for the rest of this part, but no, um, just like changing words. So, um, you said, mentioned not using decision, using the word experiment. And you realize, oh, when you use that, you're light on yourself. But also the best part about it is you tell everybody else to run an experiment. You say, hey, I'm going to move to this place. Oh, it's a big decision. Everybody kind of reflexively.

• 2:04:06Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 2:04:06Speaker 03

  Acts like it's a big decision. It's Kapil Gutt, a stand up comedian who goes on stage. One version of him immediately apologizes after the offensive joke. The crowd picks up on it. The other version just kind of laughs it through and goes, what are you guys worried about? It's not a big thing.

• 2:04:18Chris Williamson?

  Have you considered though, that there might be some decisions that warrant you taking them seriously? And also warrant sort of a serious reception. And you're making light of it may cause your friends to be a bit more blasé than is warranted. Perhaps you shouldn't try and base jump for the first time ever off that cliff.

• 2:04:36Speaker 03

  Yeah, I mean.

• 2:04:37Chris Williamson?

  Ah, no, it's fine. So it was going to be fine. So he was having a laugh.

• 2:04:40Speaker 03

  Yeah, I mean, it's, I'll chat to that about my 20 children I've just had. No, I mean.

• 2:04:46Speaker 03

  I mean, there's a little bit of a, I always find these, these conversations a bit like, it's like somebody's so far this way. Right? Somebody sort of overthinking like what they're going to order from a dinner menu to then like, oh, maybe don't just have three kids with three different women. It's like, it's like the, you know, the classic thing of you have a female friend who says, oh, I don't want to go to the gym. I'm going to get too bulky. And it's like, I've been trying that for years and I can't do it with 10 times the testosterone. So I don't think you've got to worry about somebody going from not being able, this is specifically for people that are struggling with decisions. Like the decisions that are reversible, labeling them as experiments is useful. Other one is if I say the word problem, what's the kind of emotional reaction that you get? Constriction.

• 2:05:26Chris Williamson?

  Constriction.

• 2:05:28Speaker 03

  Pain, frustration.

• 2:05:29Chris Williamson?

  If I say the word puzzle.

• 2:05:31Speaker 03

  Excitement, pain.

• 2:05:41Chris Williamson?

  Yes.

• 2:05:42Speaker 03

  I'm working on a new one for the news. I've been thinking about, because the news is just.

• 2:05:46Chris Williamson?

  Because of all of the news that you can see.

• 2:05:47Speaker 03

  Even when we call it the gel man's, because you know gel man amnesia.

• 2:05:50Chris Williamson?

  Yeah.

• 2:05:50Speaker 03

  Or the, uh, the currents or the wrongs, because it's just.

• 2:05:54Chris Williamson?

  Do you remember when you tried, do you remember, because you've been, you've been doing this for as long as I've known. You've been doing this for nearly eight years now. Remember when you tried to rename the

• 2:06:04Chris Williamson?

  un-toilet bowl hit pee.

• 2:06:08Speaker 03

  No.

• 2:06:09Chris Williamson?

  That drops on the seat.

• 2:06:11Speaker 03

  I didn't try and rename that. I tried to give it a name because it didn't have a name.

• 2:06:14Chris Williamson?

  Okay.

• 2:06:15Speaker 03

  Because.

• 2:06:15Chris Williamson?

  What was it? Can you remember the name?

• 2:06:17Speaker 03

  Yeah, it's catchy, right? It's, uh, it's fly dripping rather than fly tipping.

• 2:06:22Speaker 03

  It didn't have a name.

• 2:06:23Chris Williamson?

  Think about, I've got a, an Amex in there with 16 digits on the front. I haven't been able to recall it. Must have used it 200 times in the last couple of years. I can recall fly dripping.

• 2:06:35Speaker 03

  Hmm.

• 2:06:37Chris Williamson?

  The fact that my brain has decided to hook itself into the name for piss on a toilet bowl, but not the 16 digit number, which is in between me and maybe getting out of a third world jail cell.

• 2:06:49Speaker 03

  It's also the name for piss on a toilet bowl that three people in the world would recognize.

• 2:06:54Chris Williamson?

  Many more now.

• 2:06:55Speaker 03

  Yeah. So there's just, I mean, probably a good one to finish on is, um, book recommendations specifically around language. So there's a book called The Etymologicon, which is where I got a lot of this stuff from. There's a bloke. Mark Forsyth, he's amazing. So he has this line in here where he's chatting about Milton and this guy invented the following words, right? This is how generative this man was. Impassive, obtrusive, jubilant, loquacious, unconvincing, satanic, persona fragrance, beleaguered, censor, undesirable disregard, damp criticize, irresponsible, lovelorn, exhilarating, sectarian, unaccountable, incidental and cocking. He created all those for his words. So fly dripping.

• 2:07:33Chris Williamson?

  You, you've got to keep churning them out there on some.

• 2:07:35Speaker 03

  Have you seen Shakespeare's equivalent?

• 2:07:36Chris Williamson?

  No. Insane.

• 2:07:38Speaker 03

  The numbers of words is great.

• 2:07:39Chris Williamson?

  The number of words that Shakespeare created, which are part of common parlance now is wild.

• 2:07:43Speaker 03

  But it's weird. We just accept language as it is. A fun one is from that book is where the word, and it's Christmas related, is where the word Turkey comes from. So we think it's basically because it's the, it came from Turkey. But interestingly, in Turkey, they call it essentially Hindu, referencing to India. So it didn't come from Turkey and it didn't come from India, but it's this whole chain that exists. So Turkey did not come from Turkey.

• 2:08:06Chris Williamson?

  I remember in that book, because I've got the paperback of that same book next to my bed after you recommended it. And shit comes from German words. Is it scheißen? But there's a couple of interesting potential explanations for it. One of them being store high in transit. So if you had manure and you were taking it on a ship, you wouldn't want it down low where people could smell it. You'd want it in one of the higher

• 2:08:33Chris Williamson?

  storage units, store high in transit. It's one of these situations where I guess you get kind of a Churchillian drift explanation that's culpable but wrong. Because posh is port out, starboard home. And it was also to do with the sides of the ship that the upper class were going to be put on. But store high in transit. Mark Forsyth on the show soon. Seth, have you got anything before we leave? Or are you going to join us in saying goodbye in Malaysia?

• 2:09:02Speaker 02

  Yeah, I wish I could be with you guys, but I'm glad to at least have a seat on the laptop.

• 2:09:08Chris Williamson?

  You've been sitting, you look really comfy. You've been on one of the cushions in the corner for the entire, the entire episode. That's it. Ladies and gentlemen, Merry Christmas from us here. This is cool to be able to do this again every, every wintertime back in Newcastle where we first started doing this podcast, coming up on eight years ago now. Have a good period. Eat everything that you can. Take some time off and do a little bit of reading and review in between now and the new year. I know it's super duper intense, but I think it's a.

• 2:09:40Chris Williamson?

  If used right, it's a really nice period. And some people get sad around this time of the year, but it's the shortest day of the year just went 21st. So it's like typical, stuff gets dark and then it gets lighter. So I hope that our touchy feely life hacks and lessons has kept you appropriately festive. And all of us, except for Yusuf, because he's selfish and in a different country. We dressed up appropriately. So anything to say? Or are we done?

• 2:10:05Speaker 03

  We're done. Merry Christmas.

• 2:10:06Chris Williamson?

  Merry Christmas. Give some love to your family members, or if you're in Malaysia, family member, family member.

• 2:10:16Speaker 03

  Excellent.

• 2:10:17Chris Williamson?

  Merry Christmas, everyone.

• 2:10:18Speaker 03

  Merry Christmas.

• 2:10:20Chris Williamson?

  Unreal. Let's go.

• 2:10:25Speaker 04

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