Turn Distraction into Success! - with Ed Mylett

Are you a willing participant in your own distraction? YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE! If you are LASER FOCUSED on your dreams, you can become an EXPERT at anything… Even accomplishing your dreams! The reason so many people NEVER reach their full potential is that they never become fully FOCUSED on their goals. They keep allowing DISTRACTIONS to get in the way! There are ALL KINDS OF DISTRACTIONS in the world. They live in your televisions, on your phone, on your computers and become a CONVENIENT ESCAPE from the WORK you must put in to WIN! Are you letting DISTRACTIONS get in the way of your FOCUS??? Your DREAMS? Your FAMILY? Have you been able to stay LASER FOCUSED and obsessive about your dreams or an EXTENDED period of time? A year? 2 years? 5 years? THAT is the difference that sets apart elite performers. Your obsession with these DISTRACTIONS is a CONVENIENT ESCAPE that allows you to focus on things that DON’T MATTER! Are you obsessed with a tv show or a reality star? Are you obsessed with politics or a sports team? NONE of these things affect you and do NOT contribute to you WINNING! I promise you this, the price you will pay, the suffering you will go through to make your dream come true is INFINITELY smaller than the price you will pay if you never do! YOU WILL PAY FOR THAT YOUR WHOLE LIFE! This episode will teach you how to IDENTIFY the distractions in your life, ELIMINATE them and REPROGRAM your MIND with my LONG-TERM RECIPE FOR WINNING! Your OBSESSIONS become your POSSESSIONS! Get OBSESSED with WINNING and FORGET your DISTRACTIONS! #MAXOUT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time, too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it. Waiting weeks on a big bank for capital? Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

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  This is The Ed Mylett Show.

• 1:46Ed Mylett?

  Welcome back to Max Out, everybody. Ed Mylett. Today, we're going to talk specifically about distractions and paying the price to win. Both sides of the coin. You know, one of the things that human beings underestimate dramatically is their capacity to get great at something if they're totally immersed in it, totally laser-focused on something. But as I've coached the very high-end athletes in my life, the top business people. and entertainers I can tell you that most people underestimate what total obsessive laser focused really is and what it looks like because you are way more powerful than you know you are if you went crazy psycho obsessed laser focused on anything even something

• 2:27Ed Mylett?

  you're totally ill-prepared for humans have an unreal capacity to get great at things even if they don't have a natural talent for it if they're immersed in it and to learn something and acquire a ton of knowledge in a short period of time as well I'll give you an example of that unfortunately right now many of you know that my dad has cancer he has a type of cancer called liposarcoma three years ago I had no idea what that word even meant I had never heard that word uttered in my life liposarcoma and maybe you've had this experience before too if a family members come up with diabetes or a heart issue or any type of health issue even for yourself you're not a doctor probably most of you listening to this but you've become pretty knowledgeable haven't you about some area of your life whether that's something you've studied in school or a career you've chosen

• 3:10Ed Mylett?

  you think you'd choose or like in my case there was an illness for my dad I consider myself pretty damn close to an expert on that topic now I've read so many books I've studied I've Googled I've read research I've read about the different chemo's alternative treatments I've read about eating green I mean you name it right like I've gone crazy on that topic and again I'm not an oncologist but I went from knowing absolutely nothing to three years later having an immense amount of knowledge is probably one of the ten things I know most about in my life right now and so that's because I got obsessed with it can you do that with where your goals and dreams are like really can you do it because the truth of the matter is in society today society is conspiring all the time in our culture to completely distract you so you never win to just divert your focus and attention

• 3:55Ed Mylett?

  look over here look at this shiny thing look at this TV show look at this sports team worry about what's going on here in this war and they get these different things on television in our phones and in our lives and just get us distracted so we never get obsessed we never get laser focused For an extended period of time. Ask yourself truthfully, your big goals and dreams, are you really clear on what they are? Because if you don't have that, we can't even get started. But assuming you've listened to all of my previous content before, you know how mandatory it is to be clear and specific for what you want, right? But then the next layer is this. Can you get laser obsessively focused, almost to its exclusivity, almost, but for an extended period of time? Can you honestly say you've done that?

• 4:39Ed Mylett?

  For an extended period, I'm talking about a year, two years, three years, four years, five years, even a decade, towards something you want so badly, you want it like oxygen, it's like you want it like you want to eat, you want it like you want to live, right? Well, are you extendedly laser focused on it, or do you get distracted easily? And then we're going to talk, secondly, on the back part of the audio and video today, about paying the price and the sacrifice for a second. But let's talk first of all about getting laser focused, and I mean this as your friend. I mean this talking to myself too, I always cover things that make me better, things that I struggle with. But I gotta tell you, I think there's a different level for you. I mean, I think there's a different level for you to get obsessed, crazy, laser focused. I say all the time, our obsessions become our possessions.

• 5:24Ed Mylett?

  But we won't possess them if we're not truly obsessed. I bet there's been a person in your life you've been obsessed with. If you're over 20 years old, listen to this, more than likely, you've had somebody you were pretty obsessed with, haven't you? That you wanted in your life, you wanted to date, you wanted as a girlfriend, or a boyfriend, or a significant other. How many times a day did you think about them?

• 5:44Ed Mylett?

  How many times a day did they distract you from what you were doing with just the thought of them? In other words, this is what I want you to understand. When you're laser obsessed focused, your obsession distracts you from what you're currently doing, not the other way around. You're not really obsessed with it if you're easily distracted from it. This is so important. You right now can test whether it's your obsession, with whether it distracts you constantly. The first thing you think of when you wake up. Last thing before you go to bed. When you have a big laugh, it comes up. When you cry, it comes up. When you're watching TV, it comes up. When you're doing your regular job, but it's your side hustle, it comes up. You can't stop thinking about it. It distracts you from the rest of your life. That's what an obsession does. When it's not really your obsession,

• 6:29Ed Mylett?

  the rest of your life distracts you from it. And so, the "it" in your life is so important. But there's all these things that distract us today. I'm gonna give you a recommendation. Turn your damn TV off. Turn the radio off. Most of the time. Turn your phone off a lot, too. So here's the deal. The TV's competing constantly to distract you with stuff that really doesn't matter. And I'm not saying, by the way, "Don't be informed, don't know what's going on in the world", because that makes you more interesting, right? You should know what's going on in the world. But let's be real. Does it really matter what's going on with the Kardashians right now? Does it really matter? They live on my street, in one of my neighborhoods, right? And they're very nice people, but I gotta be honest with you. What happens in their life doesn't dramatically impact mine. But how many people are more obsessed with the Kardashians? And I can say this as good friends.

• 7:14Ed Mylett?

  We have many good friends in reality television. They're even listening to this right now, and they would tell you this. Don't be so obsessed with them. Be obsessed with your own reality TV program called "Your Own Life", right? How about the news? All the time, they're trying to distract us. Before it was Obama, now it's Trump. You better... Trump's going crazy today. Obama was nuts about this. Healthcare, Iraq, Iran, North Korea, right? Like, all these things. And most of these things don't impact our own lives. I'm not saying don't know about them, but it's such a convenient escape from the work. It's such a convenient escape from our obsessions. The left against the right. Republicans against Democrats. Who's gonna be the next president? Who's gonna get the Democratic nomination? Can they beat Trump, right? Who cares? Who cares right now? You gotta win in your own life.

• 7:58Ed Mylett?

  It's like, when I say this to people, they say, "Well, that's not, you know, a very professional, evolved opinion." I'm just telling you what it takes to win. What it takes to win is not worrying about all that stuff. That should be the background noise. But talking about it, thinking about it, watching TV about it. Who cares what's going on in the real whatevers of anywhere? Who cares what the Kardashians are doing? Who cares who's running for office? You say, "Well, wait a minute. Aren't you socially conscious?" Here's all I know. I've been alive through many different presidents, Republican and Democrat. None of them changed my life. None of them did. And none of them are gonna change your life, if we're being real. People ask me all the time, "Why don't you run for office?" Because I think entrepreneurs change the world. I think grassroots movements of good people and communities change the world. I don't think politicians change the world. And I don't mean that negatively.

• 8:43Ed Mylett?

  I coached many of them. I coached several of them. I want there to be good ones. I want them to make good decisions. But I don't obsess about it because it doesn't dramatically impact my own life. In fact, if you think about it, the majority of people obsessed with politics have... I'm just being this nicely. They don't have much going on in their own life. So it's a convenient distraction to be mad at a politician because you're losing. It's a convenient distraction to get caught up in some issue outside of yourself. So you don't have to focus on your own life. If you can spend enough time obsessing about what these politicians or reality stars do, no one will look at you. But eventually in your life, you're faced with you. Eventually in your life, it's you. Eventually, it's your life.

• 9:27Ed Mylett?

  Eventually, they won't be on TV. Eventually, it'll all be gone. Remember how obsessed you were with President Obama? Whether you loved him or hated him? He's gone now. It's a new guy. And in either two more years or six more years, it'll be a new woman, hopefully, right? So getting obsessed with these things doesn't matter. Men, so many of you obsessed with sports. You're fans of these teams. Did it really change your life when the Patriots won the Super Bowl? Like, if you're a Patriot fan, on Saturday, they hadn't yet won. On Sunday night, they won. How different was your life? Tom Brady's life was different. Yours wasn't. You Laker fans or basketball fans, does it really matter? Like, if your team wins, does it really matter? I got news for you, guys. You don't play for the team. You don't. I know you think you do. I know you wear their jerseys.

• 10:12Ed Mylett?

  I think it's one of the funniest things in life. And I don't mean this critically. Please, I mean this as a brother, guys. But you running around wearing a jersey... With another grown man's name on the back of it. Isn't that a little bit ridiculous? I mean, I really, some of you ladies are nodding, and my husband needs to hear this. Hey dude, I don't mean this critically, but really, a grown ass man, you're wearing the name of another man on the back of your jersey every single day. Literally, your name isn't Bryant, or James, or Trout, or Brady, but you wear their name on the back of you? Isn't that a little bit odd? We won Sunday. No, um, we didn't win. They won, you gotta go back to work on Monday. You don't play for that team. And it's time you wake up and start getting focused on your own life.

• 10:56Ed Mylett?

  I'm not saying don't watch the game, but being obsessed with it throughout the week, who's injured? Who's hurt? Are we gonna win? We aren't doing anything because you don't play for them. In fact, players trade teams so much, what you really are rooting for is like laundry. You root for the team that has like this jersey that's your color, but the players change all the time. Yet you keep rooting for these teams. What a catastrophic, and I mean this as love, because I'm a sports fan. I love the Red Sox, the Patriots, I'm a New England area sports fan. But I don't really get real caught up in it. I go to enjoy the game once in a while and how great they are as athletes, but what a catastrophic waste of your own life to be worrying about what professional athletes do and pretending to be on their team. You're not on the team. You don't win or lose, they do. Right? They do.

• 11:40Ed Mylett?

  So wake up and get focused on your own goals. I can hear all the women going, amen, tell him, preach, right? Ladies, in your cases, it might be your sports team. It might be your politics. It might be the television star. It might be some author you love. It might be something like that, for men or women. For women, some of you, it's sports as well, but the fact of the matter is, all of these things are a distraction from our own lives. You don't play for these teams. You're not on these shows and you don't know these people. And whoever wins a Grammy or an Oscar doesn't change your life. You winning in your life is what changes it. So tune out the distractions, will you please? Turn your TV off, get focused in your own life, invest those hours on podcasts like this that actually impact your life.

• 12:23Ed Mylett?

  Invest it on someone's social media like mine who's actually putting out messages about your life. And by the way, I say this as somebody who has many of these people on my show. Many of these people that you admire are friends of mine, as many of you know. There are things to learn from them. Absolutely, they're at the top of their craft. But I'm not deluded into thinking a top NBA player is any better a person than a top school teacher or a top nurse. I don't think a top politician is a superior human being over a top landscaper or a top banker or a top entrepreneur. I think the people at the top of everything, there's things to learn from. And guess what the people at the top of everything have in common? They're obsessed on their own lives, not other people's.

• 13:09Ed Mylett?

  Those athletes you admire didn't get there by worrying about your life, did they? And so tune out the distractions in our lives. Turn the TV off, get some perspective, get obsessed. Because we do it because it's an escape, because we don't have to look at ourselves. I'm challenging you to look at yourself. Even in the podcast space, narrow it down to the three, four, or five of us that make the biggest difference for you. And then when you're done listening to us, go to work and execute, right? You can get overtrained. You can listen to too many different shows. I happen to think you should be listening to mine because I think it's the best content. But pick a few, right? Don't be listening to 40 of them because there's time that you could be executing in your life. If you listen to it in the car or at the gym, listen to as many as you want. But in off of those times, pick three or four and the rest of the time be executing on your dream.

• 13:52Ed Mylett?

  So what I'm telling you is CNN, ESPN, Fox News, right? The E-Channel, I have friends on all those channels. They're out to take you from your dreams. They're part of the enemy of stealing your dreams because they just, not consciously, but they take your time, they divert your focus. Can you get obsessed on one thing? What other things divert our focus? The things in life that don't matter, our own negative thoughts, our own insecurities, our own weaknesses, these distract us. Failure distracts us. Gossiping of other people distracts us, talking about other people, worrying about haters, getting caught up in things that don't matter in our life. Drugs and alcohol distract us. There's all these things, when you start to pile them into life, what's your distraction? Just be honest.

• 14:37Ed Mylett?

  Is it living vicariously through your children? Is it living through them and their soccer team and their little league and their grades? Are you distracted by living through your children? Are you distracted by ESPN? Are you distracted by movies, Netflix, video games, gossip, haters, Fox News, CNN? Right? Your problems. Are you distracted with things that don't matter in your life? There's all these things competing to get you to not be focused. How about your insecurities? How about your fears? How about your worries? Or your problems? Are you using all of these? Do you kinda? Your relationship issues, does it distract you from your big goals? Do you let these things? Do you almost willingly do it? Here's what I think.

• 15:19Ed Mylett?

  Most of us are willing participants in our own distraction. And we need to be willing participants in our own focus, in our own obsessions, and getting ourselves back on plan. Because remember what I told you. If you're really obsessed, the obsession will distract you from these things. But if you're not obsessed, these things will distract you from that thing. And this requires self auditing on your part. And so that's the part one that I think steals more dreams than almost anything in life. Right now, is this obsession with distractions. It's the obsession with other people think about us. It's all of these things competing, except the one thing that matters. The one thing. But the best of the best, listen to me. The one thing dominates their life. The reason some of the athletes I work with have a hard time when they retire.

• 16:04Ed Mylett?

  Can I be honest with you? Because they were so great at what they did because they were so obsessed on that one thing. When that one thing is gone, they don't know what to do with themselves with all these distractions now. Because the best in everything don't live with distraction. They live with obsession and focus. I'm not saying don't be a complete person. But I'm saying for you to complete your journey towards maxing out, for you to completely max out your life, you must eliminate all of these things that take you by the wayside. And so now the second part of the coin, if we're gonna win, right? Is the sacrifice. I want you to write this down. I need to embrace the suffering. You know, there's something powerful that once you just sort of embrace the fact that in order to achieve something big, you've got to get rid of these distractions. And then the other layer of it is,

• 16:47Ed Mylett?

  you're probably gonna have to have some suffering to get there, or some sacrifice to get there. And so once you've embraced and decided that this suffering, this sacrifice you're making is an indicator of progress. It's an indicator of obsession. Suffering and sacrifice and hard work. Is an indication of progress towards our dreams. The lack of sacrifice, the lack of suffering in our lives, its removal, its non-existence, also equates to a non-existence of a great life, a non-existence of a dream happening, a big one anyway. And so embrace the fact that you're gonna have to sacrifice and suffer to some extent. Once you've embraced that it's going to happen, it's almost not that bad. It's kinda like those of you that are fit.

• 17:30Ed Mylett?

  We already know, and you already know even if you're not. You've sort of accepted that before you go to the gym and get there, you're gonna have to suffer. And we go anyway, it becomes a habit. No one goes into a gym thinking, "I'm not gonna have to sacrifice or suffer. There'll be no discomfort or no pain." But millions of people go anyway, don't they, to the gym? On some level, they're suffering in the gym, whether it's breathing heavy, or sweating, or aches, or pains, or stress, you know, everything in the gym is a sacrifice. And to some extent, you're suffering, going through some pain. You know it before you go, don't you? Yet, most of us go all the time. Yet in life, outside of that one area, most of us worried about suffering, we're afraid of it. When we're suffering and sacrificing, we wonder whether it's worth it. We wonder whether we're supposed to.

• 18:15Ed Mylett?

  We wonder whether sacrifice, or setbacks, or suffering is a sign it's not our real dream. Don't we? See, at the gym, you never think, "Oh, I'm going through some pain and discomfort. This must be a sign I shouldn't be at the gym." You'd never think that. It goes with the territory. Everyone knows this, build a bicep, or a tricep, or a chest, or legs. You have to break it down, suffer and sacrifice for it to grow. So while it's happening, there's no part of you that says, "This isn't right." In fact, the indication of the pain and sacrifice and sweat, don't you feel better at the gym? You're like, "Wow, I really sacrificed today, I really suffered." So in that area, we all know to the extent we suffer and sacrifice is to the extent we grow. And your body is a metaphor for the rest of your life.

• 18:56Ed Mylett?

  But the rest of our life, every time we sweat, every time we sacrifice, every time we suffer, we don't do what we do at the gym. We start saying, "Well, wait a minute, maybe I'm not supposed to be doing this. Maybe I'm not cut out, maybe it's not my destiny, maybe I just can't do it." It's the most unbelievable, ridiculous conclusion we draw, but it's what everybody does, which is another form of distraction, is doubt. The coins flip on each other all the time, don't they? Another form of distraction is just doubt, and doubt comes from the suffer. It comes from a loss, it comes from fear, it comes from the sacrifice. And so just remember this, you're supposed to suffer and sacrifice. So let me ask you a question. What are you willing to risk in order to make your dream come true? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You're gonna take a risk, maybe it's financial.

• 19:41Ed Mylett?

  Maybe it's a risk of time, maybe it's a risk at your job. Maybe it's a risk of looking bad, maybe it's a risk of failing, of falling on your face, of going broke, of going through pain, of going through anxiety. Maybe it's even a risk in a relationship that's just gonna be difficult while you do this. What are you willing to risk in order to win? And you have to accept that, because remember what I'm gonna tell you. The price you will pay for not making your dream come true is far greater than the one that you will pay to make it come true. Want me to say it again? The price you will pay, the suffering you will go through to make your dream come true is incredibly small, infinitely smaller, than the price you will pay if you never do. You'll pay that one the rest of your life.

• 20:25Ed Mylett?

  And so ask yourself what you're willing to risk. What's the price you're willing to pay? Because what most people do when they're trying to chase their dream or their big outcome, the whole time they're negotiating the price in their head. They're negotiating it. Should I continue to do it? Is it worth it? I don't know if I can continue anymore. It's getting higher, and that price is failure. That price is setback, that price is looking back. That price can be financial, literally a physical price. And what happens is, if you don't negotiate that price in advance, it's going to steal your focus and energy and become another distraction. One of the great distractions of chasing our dreams is this thing that goes off in our head as we're negotiating the price we're paying. Should I keep paying it? Is it getting too high? Is it too much?

• 21:07Ed Mylett?

  And you'll have people in your ear, "It's too big a sacrifice, you're going through too much." And you begin to negotiate it in your mind, it distracts all your focus. You can't be executing and negotiating simultaneously. If you're in your head, negotiating and negotiating and negotiating, you can't execute. So negotiate it now. Negotiate it with me now. What are you willing to pay for me? When I'm after something big, as long as it's legal, ethical, and moral, I'll sacrifice everything else. But I will not sacrifice anything legal, anything unethical, or anything immoral. But beyond that, I'm gonna get it. And I know that negotiation comes up front. I accept the suffering, I accept the sacrifice. I know the sacrifice is far smaller than the one I'll pay if I don't do it. And I eliminate distractions, and I go freaking get what I want in my life,

• 21:51Ed Mylett?

  just like you can, and this needs to be your recipe as well. If you're one of these people who's still negotiating whether it's worth it, and maybe you've got someone in your head making you question it, that is a poverty and scarcity mentality. Let me prove it to you. When I didn't have money, and I spent most of my life with none, just like you, what do we do when we go into a store? We don't go get what we want, we go get what we think we can afford. And so I spent the majority of my life flipping price tags over. I didn't buy the shirt I wanted, I bought the one that I could afford. I bought things based on price, not worth. And so I'm sure you do. I didn't buy the car I wanted, I bought the car I could afford. So when I was broke and I had scarcity, what do you do when you're in that position? You negotiate price, you flip price tags. What's the cost, what's the cost, what's the cost, what's the cost?

• 22:36Ed Mylett?

  Not what do you want. When I was poor, everywhere I went, flipped the price tag. What's the cost, what's the cost, what's the cost, what's the cost? I was constantly negotiating the price for everything in my life. You do that when you come from a place of scarcity, of being poor. Successful people and wealthy people have a subtle distinction. They don't look at price, they look at worth. Is this worth it? If you're constantly looking at the price tag, you'll eventually relent. You'll eventually give in. Stop negotiating the price. It's a freeing experience to totally commit. When you totally commit to a relationship, to a business, to your fitness, to your faith, it's a freeing, powerful, it's almost like removing kryptonite from your life when you totally commit.

• 23:21Ed Mylett?

  Can you do that? The people around you always say, "It's costing too much, it's costing too much." And you're going, "Maybe it's costing too much." You gotta start going, "No, it's worth it." It's not the price, it's the worth. It's a subtle distinction in your life. That same scarcity mentality we do in going after our dreams. We want to acquire our dream. You can't be in price tag mode. What's it cost? What's it cost? What's it cost? You never get what you want. Decide in advance what it's gonna cost. And then decide, here's the subtle distinction. Successful people don't negotiate the cost of something. They negotiate whether it's worth it. That's subtle. It's very subtle. If you're a person who's always thinking about what it's costing you in the sacrifice towards your dream, you're always gonna be negotiating it.

• 24:05Ed Mylett?

  But if you can decide in advance that the cost is worth it, the negotiation stops and you go execute. What I'm telling you is if you really want something bad enough, it's worth it. It's worth it. So start to feed yourself the worth question over and over and over again. Not the cost question. Cost is a distraction. Worth is a focus mechanism. This is so worth it. It's so worth it. It's so worth it. Focuses you. Cost distracts you. What I want to remind you of is on the other side of that suffering, on the other side of that sacrifice, on the other side of that laser focus, is your dream. It's one of the greatest places you'll ever be in your life. And here's what I know, by the way. The times where you've been the most laser focused in your life, listen to me on this. You've been the most happy.

• 24:49Ed Mylett?

  The times you've been the most distracted, you've been the most unhappy. Ladies, if you're listening to this, you think about the times where, maybe when you were pregnant, for example, if you've been pregnant before. And the amount of focus that went in on that beautiful baby you were going to have. The preparation for it. I mean, you're carrying that child right next to you. You can't get more focused on something than something you're carrying, right? And I'll guarantee you during labor, you weren't thinking about your... You weren't thinking about your electric bill or some email you had to return. You were damn focused in that moment. And I'll bet that baby made you almost happier than you've ever been in your life. For some of you that when you were cramming for finals in your life, right? That first time you were cramming and it was so laser focused on something. And you were happy. You know, the truth is that was a happy time in your life. For some of you that have built some businesses or...

• 25:34Ed Mylett?

  Or maybe when you were in your courtship dating who you're now married to. You were so focused, weren't you, during that time with that person? I mean, it was some of the happiest times of your life. The most focused times in our life, the less distracted times in our life, also equals the happiest times in our life. So if you really want true bliss, you want true fulfillment, it comes from eliminating the distractions and becoming obsessed. There are healthy obsessions in life. And the more obsessed we are about healthy things, the happier we are. Whether we're obsessed with the happy times of carrying that baby and having that baby, the happy times of achieving a degree we've had in life, the obsession we've had when we were dating somebody and we were so in love with them. These times when we're in the healthiest of our obsessions is when we're the happiest.

• 26:17Ed Mylett?

  So I want to challenge you today to make that shift of eliminating these distractions and elevating your level of focus in your life. And remember this, there's three things that I want you to be controlling. Your state, your story, and your strategy. State, story, strategy. What's your state? Are you in a state of focus? Are you pumped up? Are you breathing deeply? Are you lasered in on something? Are you completely in there? Or is your state a distracted, diverted state? Right? Hunched over, watching TV, looking at your phone, worrying about Iraq, worrying about North Korea, worrying about Trump, worrying about Obama, worrying about an election, worrying about who's in a fight on a reality show, right? All of that stuff distracts us. Are you in a state totally pumped up? Totally focused on your dreams, lasered in? Number two, what's the story you're telling yourself?

• 27:02Ed Mylett?

  Are you telling yourself the sacrifice is worth it? The suffering is worth it? That the price you're gonna pay is worth it? And that you're gonna get on the other side and great things are gonna happen and your obsessions become your possessions? And this is the happiest you've ever been before? And your life matters and you're not some fan of some team? You're a fan of your own life. That when we win, we really win. When you win the game of your own life, you really win. Not when the Patriots or Lakers win, but when I win and you're telling yourself that story. Or are you telling yourself the other story? Hey, man, I hope we get our quarterback on Sunday. I hope LeBron can drop 25, you know? And you tell this distracted story that's completely meaningless in your own life about some sports team, right? Which story are you telling yourself? The one of your own life or hiding in the story of other people's lives?

• 27:47Ed Mylett?

  Let me say that to you again. Are you telling the story of your own life? Or are you hiding in the story of other people's lives? We hide in the story of other people's lives through gossip of people that are around us, talking bad about them. We hide in reality TV, we hide in the news, we hide in politicians, and we hide pretending we play for these sports teams. Those are all stories about other people's lives. Are you in the story of your own life? And then lastly, what's your strategy? You've got to execute on your strategy. You have a very detailed plan to make that story you're telling a reality, and everything transforms in your life. Man, I hope this helps you today. It helped me, I'm pumped up right now. If you're listening to this, you could probably hear it. If you're watching it, I know you can see it. And that's a reminder, by the way. If you're watching this on YouTube, you've got to be listening to this on audio.

• 28:31Ed Mylett?

  You've got to get on Spotify, or iTunes, or edmylet.com. Have the audio version, because I'm starting to put different content on video and audio platforms. If you're listening to this on audio, on iTunes or Spotify, go subscribe to my YouTube channel. Make sure you're getting the video content as well. Only thing I ask of you is you share this. It's the number one and fastest growing life strategy, business, entrepreneurial, winning program in the world for a reason. And that's because so many of the people in the Max Out universe share it. The other thing I want to remind you of lastly is every day on Instagram, I run the Max Out two-minute drill, because I want to engage with you. I want to see your comments. I want to know what you're thinking about. I want to know what's working, what you need help on, how I create content. I just want to know better. And I'm a part of that community as well. And so what I do to incent that is every day on Instagram.

• 29:16Ed Mylett?

  So I usually post between 7:30 a.m. and 8:00 a.m. Pacific time, which is 10:30 a.m. and 11:00 a.m. Eastern time. Usually, I usually post around that time, just to give you kind of a hint. And if you make a comment within the first two minutes, every single day, if someone makes a comment in the first two minutes, every day I pick a winner. Every day, anyone who makes a comment first two minutes on Instagram, my main feed, I would pick a winner every day. And those winners get coaching calls with me, with a guest on my show sometimes, Max Out gear, my book, all kinds of cool stuff. Tickets to events I'm speaking at. And so make sure you're engaged. Turn your notifications on, follow me on Instagram. And then secondly, if you miss the first two minutes, you don't have to worry about it, because anybody who comments every day, regardless of the time, it could be 10 hours later. But if you make a comment every day on my post,

• 30:00Ed Mylett?

  at the end of the week, we pick somebody who just commented every day. And we pick a winner from that group as well. It's because I want to connect with you. I hope the program's helping you. I hope today changed your perspective, you learned things, and you feel inspired as well. If you do, I just want to thank you for your followership. Thank you for your viewership. And I hope you continue to max out your life.

• 30:24Speaker 03

  This is The Ed Meyer Show.