Demps: Breakups Suck

Our girl Demps is back to talk about what went down with her recent breakup, the freedom of moving on to focus on herself, and...um...being a size queen? She also spills on the red flags she missed, how heartbreak’s fueling her new music, and Bunnie reads her birth chart to help manifest her next true love. Demps: TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@d_demps93?lang=en|Spotify https://open.spotify.com/artist/5Gx523vSXLobJkopSyany4 Watch Full Episodes & More http://www.dumbblondeunrated.com

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• 0:44Bunnie XO?

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• 1:20Speaker 03

  Bunny XO. Talk to me about Bunny XO. I'm Bunny.

• 1:35Bunnie XO?

  Is this thing on? What's up, you sexy motherfuckers? Today... You know my girl's going through a breakup, so of course, who am I gonna bring on the podcast to spill all the tea? For my girl, Dimpse, baby?

• 1:49Speaker 04

  What's up, babe?

• 1:50Bunnie XO?

  What is happening?

• 1:52Speaker 04

  Man, as I was walking in here, I was like, why does it seem like every fucking time I'm on this couch? Or anything, I got like, I'm just going through something, dude.

• 2:01Bunnie XO?

  Going through some sort of breakup. Last time you were here, it was you and Cat Daddy were going through it. And then I think you guys kinda like, didn't you guys reunite a little bit after? The podcast?

• 2:10Speaker 04

  Yeah, after the podcast, we kinda like we were mutuals, but then we weren't mutuals. I mean, there was like a whole thing to where his friends tried to jump me out of fucking bar. That was all over the fucking internet. Demp gets kicked out of a bar and all of that. But yeah, I think I um, I left him blocked after that.

• 2:31Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, so you guys aren't cool. Nobody from that side is cool. You guys are just not cool.

• 2:35Speaker 04

  I haven't talked to him. I hope all is well, though.

• 2:37Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 2:38Speaker 04

  Hope he's taking care of that kitten I bought him.

• 2:40Bunnie XO?

  Now that you're going through another breakup, do you think that you would rekindle anything with cat daddy?

• 2:46Speaker 04

  No.

• 2:46Bunnie XO?

  No.

• 2:47Speaker 04

  And you know, it's funny because in some of the comments, people, my followers were like, we need cat daddy. And he commented, he was like, I've been summoned. I was like, oh, hell no. Hell no.

• 3:00Bunnie XO?

  He's like, you know who he is? You know what he is? You know those guys that go and clean up roadkill on the road? It's like, it's like he knows that you're vulnerable right now. So he's like, hello.

• 3:11Speaker 04

  I'm just like, hell no. And I'm so happy I have him blocked because you know, uh, the past two weeks, I've been in a very vulnerable state. And I can honestly say, I mean, I've never seen myself like this. I mean, I had to check myself, girl. I looked at myself in the mirror. I was like, you need to get your fucking shit together. Um, so I knew I was in a vulnerable, vulnerable place. I probably would have felt for his shit.

• 3:35Bunnie XO?

  Oh, son of a bitch.

• 3:36Speaker 04

  Just like recycled, girl.

• 3:38Bunnie XO?

  Do not fucking do it.

• 3:40Speaker 04

  We would have just like been back here in like three more weeks talking about this.

• 3:43Bunnie XO?

  No. What about the shit with, with, we'll block her name out, but are you cool with? No, you guys are just.

• 3:50Speaker 04

  No, but it's so crazy because after all that happened, you know, Todd was there and all his friends were there. And after all that, the dust settled. I mean, you guys saw somebody vandalized my home, right? They wrote plow chaser on the back of my home.

• 4:06Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, we're gonna talk about all that because now you can actually talk about it, right?

• 4:08Speaker 04

  Yeah, now I can talk about it.

• 4:10Bunnie XO?

  Okay, perfect. Yeah.

• 4:11Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 4:11Bunnie XO?

  Cause I know before when you had come on the podcast, we were tiptoeing around it because you had a court case going on.

• 4:15Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm, and I won.

• 4:17Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, baby.

• 4:18Speaker 04

  Fucking nuts.

• 4:19Bunnie XO?

  Light always wins over darkness, man.

• 4:22Speaker 04

  Oh my god, buddy, it's been a minute since I've had like, I mean, obviously I text you and everything, but to like really get it out.

• 4:29Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 4:30Speaker 04

  Yeah, so after the whole my home getting vandalized and all of that, I um just took a step back and I didn't reach out to anybody, but it's so funny because I saw some of them singing my songs and I ignored it. I thought they were like kind of being petty about it, but they were like, no, this is actually a great song bitch on wine and all of that. I was like, y'all are just see, I'm a good fucking Tom and a good person. If you guys weren't such fucking dicks to me, okay?

• 4:57Bunnie XO?

  Well, I also think that I don't want to use the word jealousy, but sometimes when there's men involved too, it just makes a whole fucking, you know, one of them had the audacity to show up to one of my husband's shows. I was actually quite remember I text you, I was like, you want me to kick her out? Cause I will. And you're so sweet. You were like, no. And I was like, all right, she lives to see another day.

• 5:17Speaker 04

  I was like, no.

• 5:18Bunnie XO?

  But you know who you are showing up at my husband's uh fucking concert was very ballsy of you, especially knowing that I ride for Demps's all day long.

• 5:25Speaker 04

  My girl, but other than like that whole thing, I just um, it was like new years of last year. I literally started to um, just kind of heal a little bit.

• 5:37Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 5:37Speaker 04

  But then for some reason, some fucking reason, I run into somebody who's friends with my ex and I, mind you, I haven't blocked, but I started snap chiding him.

• 5:49Bunnie XO?

  Which ex is this? Most current one, okay.

• 5:52Speaker 04

  I don't want to like give him so much clout or whatever. Um.

• 5:55Bunnie XO?

  Okay, well, let's change his name. What are we going to call him? Let's call him Bill.

• 5:59Speaker 04

  Bill. A dated Bill.

• 6:01Bunnie XO?

  All right, not Bill. Okay, let's think of something else. Yeah, we don't want to call him because my dad's name is Bill. Let's call him Ron.

• 6:08Speaker 04

  Ron. Love it. Fucking Ron.

• 6:10Bunnie XO?

  So was this Ron we're talking about?

• 6:12Speaker 04

  Yeah. So right after cat daddy and all that, New Year's is um around and I was like, man, I don't, I just need to keep doing me and just keep pushing forward because you know, Todd, I mean, that fucker like, yeah, he broke my heart, but screw him.

• 6:28Bunnie XO?

  Did he really break your heart though?

• 6:29Speaker 04

  No, he actually did.

• 6:30Bunnie XO?

  I'm like, Demps's, come on. I'm like, I know you way better than that.

• 6:34Speaker 04

  Long story short, um, obviously I love attention. I mean, I'm a Leo.

• 6:39Bunnie XO?

  You're a Leo, yeah.

• 6:40Speaker 04

  Yeah, I'm a Leo.

• 6:41Bunnie XO?

  You know, we're going to do your birth chart today because I need to figure out what the fuck's wrong with you.

• 6:45Speaker 04

  Yeah, I know. I know.

• 6:48Bunnie XO?

  We're getting to the bottom of it today, everybody. I need to figure out what the fuck is going on with Demps's inside her fucking body and mind and heart. And then we're gonna figure out who will be, we're gonna figure out who will be a soulmate for you. Once I get all your deets. So we'll figure it out.

• 7:02Speaker 04

  Good. Maybe I can get some fucking answers and some sleep tonight, girl.

• 7:06Bunnie XO?

  We're manifesting.

• 7:07Speaker 04

  So, long story short, Bill, Ron.

• 7:10Bunnie XO?

  Nope, Ron.

• 7:10Speaker 04

  Ron. Ron and I rekindled things and it was very simple in the beginning. It was just like,

• 7:15Bunnie XO?

  So you started snap chatting him. Okay. And like, what made you even wanna reopen that door? Because if I can remember correctly, and this is why I never came around, because I didn't like the dude, is, didn't he do some fuckboy shit the first time around? What did he do?

• 7:30Speaker 04

  And you know what's crazy? I always kept my mouth shut. I never aired my laundry. I'd let you talk your shit on, I let you just take in all the energy that you want to, and then I'm just gonna go over here and do my thing. I'm not one to, even with Todd, I was like, fuck you, dude.

• 7:45Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 7:46Speaker 04

  Um, yeah. So he was just in a fuckboy stage. And I, I, I'm the type of person, I think that somebody's gonna change. You know what I mean?

• 7:55Bunnie XO?

  Or that you can change them.

• 7:56Speaker 04

  Or I can change them. I said this recently. I was like, I don't know what it is when I date these men, that they just need love so bad. And I have so much love to give, because I'm, I'm a mom myself. And I, I wanna be loved. You know what I mean? But why is it every time I date someone, I'm the masculine one in the relationship?

• 8:17Bunnie XO?

  Because you're in your masculine energy, baby. And your masculine energy attracts feminine men.

• 8:22Speaker 04

  Oh my god.

• 8:23Bunnie XO?

  And until you change that, you're gonna keep attracting feminine men.

• 8:28Speaker 04

  But Bunny, it's literally a recurrence. And I had a wake up call. I literally, when I was, two weeks ago, I was like, bitch, you need to pull yourself fucking together. I was like, what is it that? I'm attracting these men because I know what I want and I know what my daughter deserves and I know what I deserve.

• 8:47Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 8:48Speaker 04

  And it's, it's a shame because you know, if anything, I know I'm being played as a victim and I know he's saying some things that like, oh, Demp's just loves to be a victim. If I'm a victim of anything, it's for me to just over communicating because I set this guy down in my kitchen.

• 9:06Bunnie XO?

  Well, let's, let's circle back to when you guys first broke up. Why did you guys first break up? What did he do?

• 9:12Speaker 04

  Who's a folk boy?

• 9:12Bunnie XO?

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• 10:52Speaker 04

  Uh, he just wasn't giving me the attention that I needed and I remember being at a show. I remember being at a show with him. Mind you, I went and got a babysitter, got all dolled up.

• 11:02Bunnie XO?

  This is the first time you guys broke up.

• 11:03Speaker 04

  First time. It takes a lot for me to.

• 11:06Bunnie XO?

  Demps, silence your damn phone.

• 11:07Speaker 04

  I'm trying, but thank.

• 11:11Speaker 04

  It takes a lot for me to go out of my way and go on a date with a guy. Okay, let me just start there. Okay, I'm finding the babysitter. It's my time, my energy to go out with you. I remember going out with this guy that night. He didn't acknowledge me once and talk to a girl the whole time that I was out with him. And I was like, you know what? I don't fucking need this. I need, I'm just gonna go the fuck home. And I remember him calling me at 3 a.m. or 2 a.m. or something like that. And I remember being so excited. Oh, my God, he called me. What does he want? Like, he wants to talk to me. Oh, he's missing me. No, girl. He, there was somebody that wanted to talk to me that he was with because he was dating Demps's, whatever.

• 11:55Bunnie XO?

  So he let you go home? So that right there didn't show you that he was in it for clout?

• 12:01Speaker 04

  No, girl.

• 12:03Bunnie XO?

  How did that? I would have been like, click and never answered the fucking phone for that man ever again, girl.

• 12:09Speaker 04

  I think I am so gullible that like, I'll just believe, like, if you say I'm beautiful and all this, I'm gonna fucking believe you. I'm gonna fall at my knees and be like, oh my gosh.

• 12:22Bunnie XO?

  That is a major ick. The man let you leave, you went home because you felt like you were being ignored, and then he calls you and is like, hey, can you talk to this person because I'm telling them that I'm dating you, but I'm not treating you like I'm dating you. That's like a fucking ew.

• 12:36Speaker 04

  So I blocked him for two years.

• 12:38Bunnie XO?

  Brother ew.

• 12:39Speaker 04

  And then I unblocked him after the whole Todd thing.

• 12:43Bunnie XO?

  Because you were in a vulnerable state.

• 12:45Speaker 04

  But can I be honest with you, Bunny?

• 12:46Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 12:47Speaker 04

  I think the reason why I was so upset with myself is because I never gave grace after the Todd, how he treated me in this.

• 12:57Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 12:57Speaker 04

  With him, Ron. So I was just so mad at myself, all this anger. And I'm like, I'm a fucking great person.

• 13:05Bunnie XO?

  Ron, when you say, I thought you.

• 13:07Speaker 04

  How can you silence this shit, Ron?

• 13:10Bunnie XO?

  I crack up when I hear that.

• 13:12Speaker 04

  So I'm a great fucking person. So it's just like, why the fuck does this keep fucking happening to me?

• 13:19Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 13:20Speaker 04

  I don't get it. Seriously, do you see the, between the lines?

• 13:24Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, because Demp, you have something that is some sort of trauma in you that needs to be addressed before you can even get into the type of relationship that you yearn for. Yes, your heart and your mind want a certain type of relationship, but because there's something that happened, maybe in your childhood or in a, in a relationship that triggered some sort of trauma in you, you're going to keep seeking out that same type of man until you can figure out what's going on inside of you, you know?

• 13:52Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 13:52Bunnie XO?

  That's what I tried to tell you last time.

• 13:54Speaker 04

  I just, it was a shame that things ended the way it did. And um, I'm not gonna ba, I'm not gonna sit here on your podcast and bash someone because...

• 14:04Bunnie XO?

  So let's get into your guys' relationship. You guys re cer, you guys will circle back around. You guys start dating again. How does that even happen? You start Snapchatting and then you guys just see each other and you're like, we decided we want to be together. Because didn't he start dating somebody too that like worked at a bar the first time too? Yeah, I remember, girl. Trust me.

• 14:23Speaker 04

  She was on, damn, girl. You don't forget nothing.

• 14:27Bunnie XO?

  No, because I don't, I don't forget people who are rude to my friends, you know, like that. Like people can be rude to me all day, but if you're fucking rude to my friends, I'm, I'm gonna remember that. I just immediately saw, and I think that girl has me blocked and it's like, bitch, I don't even know you. Like remember, I think I went to go like lurk one day and fucking, I was like, how am I blocked? I didn't even know who you were until today.

• 14:48Speaker 04

  Yeah, there was a time, well, they were running with all that crew with my ex and Tom.

• 14:52Bunnie XO?

  Which I don't care, bitches, block me, please. Cause the only thing you're gonna see is success and thriving over here, so.

• 14:57Speaker 04

  I think after we started hanging out the second time around, um, he started coming over. Um, again, mind you, I was paying for babysitters to go out on dates with him. Mind you, you know, taking time away from my daughter because I wanted to spend time with him. You know what I mean? And I, we just grew to like each other's company, if I might say. And we grew like fond of each other. And I remember like, wow, I think he really changed and I really love this man. I mean, and then slowly after like five months of us dating, I finally brought him around Lily. And that was like, it made my heart so full to see Lily, um, because mind you,

• 15:42Speaker 04

  this is the first guy Lily's ever seen me affectionate with.

• 15:46Bunnie XO?

  She didn't see affectionate with Todd though?

• 15:47Speaker 04

  No.

• 15:48Bunnie XO?

  Okay.

• 15:49Speaker 04

  Mm-mm. No. So, you know, I mean, laying on the couch, you know, kissing and loving on. So Lily sees that and she knows like, oh, mommy loves this person.

• 15:58Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 15:59Speaker 04

  And everything. So it was just a, a special moment for me to share that with my daughter and everything. And I was like, wow.

• 16:06Bunnie XO?

  Did Lily like him?

• 16:07Speaker 04

  Yeah, Lily did like him. And, um, it was really sad to her to like tell me, you know, mommy, I'm really gonna miss him. You know, he was fun and everything. But one day, I think it's for the better, the things that worked out because I opened up my eyes. Like, I don't need someone like that in my life because of my needs. If I'm being too much because I'm over communicating with you because, hey, I need this. I need to be told that I'm this because the way I perceive love is I'm words of affirmation. I need to be told I'm doing a good job. I need to be told that, you know, hey, you look beautiful today. You know what I mean?

• 16:48Speaker 04

  And that comes with past trauma with domestic violence. I mean, getting called a cunt and a bitch every day for almost fucking four years, you know, with my Lily's father. So, uh, and I expressed this to him and I think it just became too much.

• 17:06Bunnie XO?

  So you guys were, you guys got back together for how long?

• 17:10Speaker 06

  Sorry, can we hold on real quick? Someone's opening the garage.

• 17:13Bunnie XO?

  Hold on, sorry, Dumps.

• 17:14Speaker 04

  No, you're fine.

• 17:17Speaker 04

  I'm not gonna get emotional on this. I'm not trying to give him anything.

• 17:21Speaker 06

  Uh-uh. You can get emotional.

• 17:22Bunnie XO?

  It's okay if you can't, if you do get emotional, though. You're going through a fucking breakup. You're human.

• 17:27Speaker 04

  But he's on fucking TikTok saying Dumps likes to play the victim. Like, you motherfucking narcissist.

• 17:34Speaker 04

  How dare you sit there two weeks ago and tell me you love me back home in Indiana for you to leave me on red? For days and you break up with me over text?

• 17:47Speaker 04

  That's really fucked up.

• 17:49Bunnie XO?

  No.

• 17:52Bunnie XO?

  It is.

• 17:52Speaker 04

  Bunny, when I say I, it was bad bitch. It was really bad. I was over at Priscilla's house. I had no makeup on. She called me. She was like, just come over for coffee. And I remember just in Priscilla's kitchen. I was like, I don't know what's wrong with me. That, this one fucking hurt. And I know, fuck Todd. I wasn't even upset with Todd, but this, this, I felt pain like leaving Lily's father and it fucking fucked with my head.

• 18:25Bunnie XO?

  I think it's because you really genuinely loved him though Dempsey. I think, and it's okay to love people and it's okay to be sad about it. You don't have to be hard just because of what he's saying on the internet right now, or he's trying to gaslight you, you know? And we know how guys are. There's, and there's always three sides to every story. There's your side, his side and the truth, you know? But the truth is you're hurt right now and that's okay. That doesn't give him more power because you're showing emotion. It's, you're fucking human dude.

• 18:53Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 18:54Bunnie XO?

  You know? And breaking up with anybody fucking sucks. And I think that you deserved more than a text message.

• 19:00Speaker 04

  Yeah, for real girl. Because my daughter was involved and we were together for a year. And there was, it would, it would have been different if it was just like a month fling, like the first time we dated. You know, like, okay, bye. You know, okay, have a great life. But there was so much connection. You know, a little girl was involved and I remember, um, before all this, sitting in my kitchen, expressing to him, crying to him, like, I don't, this is what I need and I don't know what's going on with you. And he told me that, you know, he has issues himself,

• 19:40Speaker 04

  that he misses his parents and he, and all that. I think he just has some trauma that he has never dealt with. And I don't think he's ever had a woman love him other than his mother. I mean, I'm grateful that I got to show him how a woman should love a man because he got to experience that. But I don't think maybe it was just too much and my life is was just too much. Because it is a lot. My life is a lot. I mean, hello, I just started releasing music and everything, so.

• 20:14Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, we're gonna talk about that. You guys had gotten back together. You had introduced him to Lily. How long did this stint together last? About five months, six months?

• 20:24Speaker 04

  What do you mean?

• 20:25Bunnie XO?

  Like how you guys got back together a second time? About a year. About a year. Okay, okay, gotcha. And so.

• 20:32Speaker 04

  And he didn't meet Lily until almost about four to five months into the relationship. So mind you, I was going out of my way to pay for babysitters to make that make that time for him.

• 20:43Bunnie XO?

  Right.

• 20:44Speaker 04

  You know what I mean?

• 20:45Bunnie XO?

  So you guys, when do you guys start having problems? Like.

• 20:49Speaker 04

  Can I be honest with you? Blond sided.

• 20:52Bunnie XO?

  Oh, so this was just completely out of the blue?

• 20:54Speaker 04

  Out of the blue.

• 20:55Bunnie XO?

  Okay.

• 20:56Speaker 04

  Um, because I told him that I feel like every time I was kid free, it always felt like something was about. And my time was never appreciated when I was kid free.

• 21:09Bunnie XO?

  Right.

• 21:10Speaker 04

  Mind you, as a single mom, we go to the lengths to be kid free as moms here. So just like you, when you dated Jelly and all that, like you were fully committed to Jelly when he had Bailey and all that, right?

• 21:21Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, absolutely.

• 21:22Speaker 04

  You were there. So I feel like and you valued your time with Jelly when you guys didn't have a kid and everything, right? So all I wanted to feel like was I was appreciated when I didn't have that a kid with me. I just wanted to feel alone with him, to bond with him even more.

• 21:42Bunnie XO?

  Right.

• 21:42Speaker 04

  He just could care less. He didn't, he would rather go home and be alone.

• 21:47Bunnie XO?

  So you expressed to him like, and because I'm just trying to figure out why where the text came from. Like you expressed to him like, hey, I need you to pay more attention to me. This is how I'm feeling. And you only did that one time or multiple times?

• 22:01Speaker 04

  Multiple times.

• 22:01Bunnie XO?

  Okay.

• 22:02Speaker 04

  It was multiple times that I expressed my feelings to him. But it was almost like.

• 22:08Bunnie XO?

  Was it because there was no change, though?

• 22:10Speaker 04

  There was no change.

• 22:11Bunnie XO?

  So the first couple.

• 22:13Speaker 04

  All it was like a broken record.

• 22:15Bunnie XO?

  Okay.

• 22:15Speaker 04

  And I I said this to him. I was like, I feel exhausted and I feel like a broken record. Trying to communicate with you and what I need for this to work because I want it to work. I love you and my daughter loves you. So. And here we are.

• 22:33Speaker 04

  The first text happened and then we decided to-

• 22:35Bunnie XO?

  What did he say in the text message?

• 22:38Bunnie XO?

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• 23:22Bunnie XO?

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• 23:27Speaker 07

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• 23:39Bunnie XO?

  You guys know I've always got a million things going on. And sometimes I wonder where my day even went. I was listening to Cal Newport talk about something called shallow work in his class on the MasterClass platform. Basically, constantly jumping from one thing to another makes it harder to focus, even when you think you're being productive. And let me tell you, that really hit home. It made me realize I need to be more intentional with my time. Plus, they have over 200 classes led by the world's best instructors. From Michael Lewis on storytelling to James Clear on building better habits. If you're looking to invest yourself or give a gift to that friend who's always eager to learn, this is something they'll use. Audio mode lets you listen during workouts or commutes, and lessons are easily downloadable right now. Plans start at just $10 a month billed annually.

• 24:23Bunnie XO?

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• 24:46Bunnie XO?

  Cause I would like, I mean, worse that were grown. I couldn't imagine if my husband texts me and said, hey, we're gonna get a divorce. I'd be like, hello. First of all, no, we're not. And secondly, what the fuck is going on? You don't text somebody that, you know? I think breaking up over text is a real pussy move.

• 25:02Speaker 04

  Coward shit.

• 25:02Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, that's like, yeah, it's like, I can't face my fucking fears or responsibilities.

• 25:11Bunnie XO?

  Especially because you guys are a year in, you know, like that's.

• 25:14Speaker 04

  Exactly. So you have to understand the manic state that I was in.

• 25:23Speaker 04

  I hope you don't think really that I would do something like this on purpose. That's pretty low. God bless it. The fucking paragraphs.

• 25:32Bunnie XO?

  Is he one of those paragraph texters? I can't do it. I have to leave voice messages. I can't read the paragraph.

• 25:37Speaker 04

  Pick up the phone and call me.

• 25:40Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 25:41Speaker 04

  Pretty much.

• 25:44Speaker 04

  If I had it all together, this wouldn't have happened. I would have just, I wouldn't just do this to you. I wouldn't just do this to you guys for no reason. And there was no way I would have been able to say this in person. Because you would have been hysterical the whole time and I wouldn't be able to compose myself doing that to you. So say what you want about not saying things in person, but easy said than done. So he would, my life is just pretty much just, it's too much. It's too much for me communicating my feelings. And my expectations because I told him, I was like, you know, you're the first like father figure my daughter has. And that it's a lot to me.

• 26:24Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 26:25Speaker 04

  And I think. Versus him telling, sitting me down like a grown adult for dating for a year. He'd rather just send that.

• 26:33Bunnie XO?

  Well, men run from any sort of emotional confrontation also. And I'm not giving him an out. It's not cool what he did at all. I'm just saying, most men just don't know how to face shit head on. That's just how they are.

• 26:44Speaker 04

  And then you have his mother and, and I think I saw the silver lining is that.

• 26:51Speaker 04

  His mother, it's one thing for your mom to like go in your comments and like back you up on some things. But for your mom to be in your comments, making false allegations, saying I was physically abusive and all of this and mentally abusive.

• 27:06Bunnie XO?

  Well, here's the problem, you don't know what he's telling her.

• 27:09Speaker 04

  Exactly. That's what my friends say. And you just said it. And he went on and made a public statement like, Demps's never did this. She has a huge heart. Well, thank you. Why the hell would you even let your mother do that?

• 27:23Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 27:23Speaker 04

  Say those things about me.

• 27:24Bunnie XO?

  Well, nothing screams, I'm trying to get clout off of a breakup between, by making fucking multiple videos about it. I don't even follow the dude.

• 27:32Speaker 04

  Did you see?

• 27:33Bunnie XO?

  And they've popped up in my FYP. The most hilarious one was about his hairline, though. I was like, tell me that you got your feelings hurt without telling me. I was like, holy.

• 27:43Speaker 06

  He is so upset about that hairline.

• 27:45Bunnie XO?

  And his hairline's not bra, and your hairline's not bad, dude. It's a little weird, but it's not bad. Yeah, it's very, yeah, it's very crisp. But I mean, hey, at least he's got a hairline. Some of these dudes out here fucking look like they got the donuts starting, you know?

• 27:57Speaker 04

  As I'm just growing and evolving and getting prettier, I'm, his hairline is just receiving, so.

• 28:05Bunnie XO?

  But yeah, I just, nothing screams, I'm trying to milk this breakup for views. And which it'll, by next week, people will be moved on to something else and I think, Demps's, this is your time to just be alone and fucking kind of figure some shit out. I think you want to have a little family so badly that you're willing to overlook like the red flags that are literally there when you first meet these guys. And it's like, you gotta stop doing that.

• 28:31Speaker 04

  Isn't that awful?

• 28:32Bunnie XO?

  No, it's not awful. You're, it's your human.

• 28:35Speaker 04

  It's toxic, bitch.

• 28:36Speaker 06

  Tell me why you unblocked him to begin with. Were you seeking him out?

• 28:40Speaker 04

  Here's the thing, he was never blocked on Snapchat. And I remember with, you know, back with my old job.

• 28:46Bunnie XO?

  First of all, he has Snapchat, okay?

• 28:47Speaker 04

  Yeah, I know, girl.

• 28:48Bunnie XO?

  Don't fucking date any more dudes that have Snapchat. I only have Snapchat because I get paid like a motherfucker on there and I'm barely even on there. Yeah, but other than that, fucking any man, grown man that has Snapchat, has no fucking business even being in a relationship.

• 29:04Speaker 04

  Moral of the story of this whole breakup, and it obviously, a public breakup, I don't wish this upon fucking anybody. This shit is just.

• 29:12Bunnie XO?

  No.

• 29:13Speaker 04

  Awful. Everybody has to put their fucking two cents in. Um, at the end of the day, I am a regular fucking person and this shit hurts. The only difference is, is that I choose to put myself out there on the internet and show people, millions of people, my love life with my daughter as a single mom. Um, at the end of the day, um, I was fucking heartbroken and I deserved a lot more than what I got.

• 29:41Bunnie XO?

  Absolutely.

• 29:42Speaker 04

  For me, my daughter.

• 29:43Bunnie XO?

  Now, you need to remember that, okay? The next time, the next fuck boy tries to re-enter or be summoned, remember that statement right there that you deserve a lot more and you need to tell yourself that because I think the problem is, is you just, there's something in you that is broken and you find men that trigger your own childhood trauma. So it's like you find dudes who are broken also and you guys both trigger each other's childhood trauma. That's what Jay and I did. And, and I'm not saying that it can't work because like Jay and I were almost a decade in and we've somehow managed to make it work. He's still a dick and pisses me off half the time, but I love that man. You know what I'm saying? And it's, it can work, but you guys have to both be, be willing to fucking stick it out, you know?

• 30:26Bunnie XO?

  Like you can't break up over every little thing and you can't walk, and people aren't gonna be perfect either, Demps.

• 30:31Speaker 04

  And I get that and I was willing to work it out.

• 30:34Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 30:34Speaker 04

  But then again, I'm not the one to beg for a man's love or attention. If you wanna go, go.

• 30:41Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 30:42Speaker 04

  I'm not gonna, I've already said what I needed to see, say to you. You've seen me in my most vulnerable state crying to you in my house, like expressing this to your face. You know, we're not doing the long paragraphs. Like I'm, I'm physically in front of you.

• 30:58Bunnie XO?

  Telling you what I need.

• 30:59Speaker 04

  Telling you what I need to make this work. So if you wanna not take that and you don't wanna fight or work this out, good riddance.

• 31:09Bunnie XO?

  Well, if he has that close attachment to his mom too, that might be hindering him being able to have a relationship with another woman, you know? When they don't cut that umbilical cord, dude.

• 31:18Speaker 04

  I'll have to tell you something.

• 31:20Bunnie XO?

  Are they really close?

• 31:22Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 31:25Speaker 04

  I am so happy that things ended up the way they did.

• 31:30Bunnie XO?

  She sounds like she would be a momster in law.

• 31:32Speaker 04

  Yeah, for real. But I am so blessed that he ended things the way he did because I saw the bigger picture outside. Because let's be honest here, Bunny, I would have never broken up with him.

• 31:45Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 31:45Speaker 04

  I would have fought. And here we are, back in the same toxic cycle, you know, that I put myself through. I have nobody else to blame but myself. I put myself through this, the heartbreak and all that. For like, who knows, maybe seventh time of trying to work things out. So at the end of the day, there was love there. I did love him. Did I deserve better? Absolutely. Did my daughter? Absolutely. But I never want to see that girl ever again, how that man made me feel. It was bad.

• 32:18Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 32:19Speaker 04

  It was very bad.

• 32:20Bunnie XO?

  Hmm. Your little heart was hurt. But you know what? This is your time to shine, baby. Twenty twenty five, it's a new year.

• 32:27Speaker 04

  That's fucking right.

• 32:27Bunnie XO?

  You're going into twenty twenty five. You've got your music that you've been dropping, which by the way, is not bad.

• 32:34Speaker 04

  It's not bad?

• 32:35Bunnie XO?

  It's not bad at all. I was, the first time I heard.

• 32:39Speaker 04

  Not bad.

• 32:40Speaker 06

  She said that about me, so you know that's good.

• 32:43Bunnie XO?

  No, no, no.

• 32:44Speaker 06

  You don't suck. I said, oh, thanks.

• 32:46Bunnie XO?

  Yeah. No, like, when I first heard it, I was like, I was really impressed and I was so proud of you.

• 32:52Speaker 04

  It was like bitch online, because I sent it to Mimi and Haley first.

• 32:56Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 32:57Speaker 04

  I was like, you want to hear something with the little emoji?

• 33:00Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, no, it's so good. And I'm so proud of you for doing it because you have promoted everybody else's music for years and it's time that you invest in yourself.

• 33:09Speaker 04

  Yeah, I'm excited about this new chapter. And I think with all this heartbreak that I've been going through and life experiences, I've been working with other writers and everything and just channel in, like, putting it through music. Because music is such a big part of me, like promoting it was and all that. And I was like, well, instead of fucking going. Going online and making like a fucking fuck you video. Let's make a fuck you song about it.

• 33:35Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, or even a heartbreak song. Heartbreak songs are always needed.

• 33:39Speaker 04

  Love a heartbreak.

• 33:40Bunnie XO?

  You know how many motherfuckers we need a, we need a song that we can sit in our car and cry to, you know?

• 33:45Speaker 04

  You just stay tuned, girl. You just stay fucking tuned. But no, I'm excited. I'm just.

• 33:50Bunnie XO?

  You've dropped what, like three songs now?

• 33:52Speaker 04

  Yeah, four.

• 33:53Bunnie XO?

  Four. What are the names of them?

• 33:55Speaker 04

  So if you were a country girl, bitch on one is my favorite. I made the DJ earlier at brunch, play that for me.

• 34:03Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 34:03Speaker 04

  I was like, play my song. Um, who's who has to be my absolutely favorite.

• 34:10Bunnie XO?

  I actually like that one. That one's really cute.

• 34:11Speaker 04

  Yeah, who's who. Um, and then rough cut diamond, which rough cut diamond is speaking a lot to me right now because these flaws are making me flawless. I'm a rough cut diamond.

• 34:22Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 34:23Speaker 04

  I wasn't mine for you. And it's a shame because I'm a badass fucking person.

• 34:29Bunnie XO?

  Yeah. And you're just working on yourself, baby, and you're getting better. Who's writing these songs? Are you writing?

• 34:34Speaker 04

  Oh, my God. I've had like the pleasure, pleasure for who's who. Um, Kelsea Ballerini absolutely, uh, wrote that. And she commented on one of my videos saying, I always fucking love this song.

• 34:48Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 34:48Speaker 04

  And she said, um, it was like meant for me. And I was like, really? Because when I sing it, I feel like it was meant for me.

• 34:55Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 34:56Speaker 04

  So it's just been like amazing, um, artists like Hardy, Mary Morris, Kelsea Ballerini.

• 35:01Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 35:02Speaker 04

  But I'm taking a dive into writing my own music.

• 35:04Bunnie XO?

  Good. We just wrapped my Christmas song. We did an original Christmas song.

• 35:09Speaker 04

  Oh, yeah, girl.

• 35:10Bunnie XO?

  Oh, God, it's so good. I got to write with Jesse Joe, Joe Dillon and Alicia Vanderheim, who are all Kelsea Ballerini's writers. And Nicolette. I do not know Nicolette's fucking last name, but her name's Pillbox Patty. You guys go listen to her music. She's fucking amazing. But we, we literally started the, the song with just a harmony that, that, uh, Nicolette came up with. And then Alicia put the guitars and the beat to it. So it's like.

• 35:36Speaker 04

  Isn't it wild?

• 35:37Bunnie XO?

  It's, it's crazy to watch a song come to life. Life like that.

• 35:40Speaker 04

  I love it.

• 35:41Bunnie XO?

  It's a beautiful process.

• 35:43Speaker 04

  And I think it's just like a new passion of mine. Like when I stepped into that booth and to record my first song, I was like, oh my God, no wonder I have friends who do this for a living. This is so much fucking fun.

• 35:54Speaker 06

  What got you to that point though? Like, I know you always like sang on lives and things like that, but like, how did you get to the point of the booth?

• 36:02Speaker 04

  So what, uh, obviously I was a music promoter and I'm still a music promoter. Um, somebody reached out to me and they were like, Dumps, we have these songs and we want you to sing them. We're like Jimmy, uh, Robbins, who's an amazing writer, like number one hits. And he had these songs that he co-wrote with Kelsey, Mary Morris, Hardy and all that. And they thought it would just be fun to do a project, just like a simple project. I didn't think it was gonna do anything or anything. And here I am getting booked shows. Y'all buy tickets for my show.

• 36:34Bunnie XO?

  Let's go, baby.

• 36:34Speaker 04

  November 15th.

• 36:35Bunnie XO?

  Oh, we'll be home. We could probably go to it.

• 36:39Speaker 04

  Oh, girl, you gotta dress incognito and come out there. Put on a wig.

• 36:43Bunnie XO?

  Shit, just bring me on stage. I'll show my titties.

• 36:47Bunnie XO?

  I'll only do that for you.

• 36:48Speaker 04

  Oh my God, stop. We'll talk after this. Oh my God, my little heart.

• 36:52Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, it will come. I mean, I don't see why not. We're, are we filming with CBS that day? 15th and 16th or is it 17th and 18th?

• 36:58Speaker 06

  15th is your hair.

• 37:00Bunnie XO?

  15th is my hair. Okay, we'll figure it out. Yeah, yeah.

• 37:02Speaker 04

  No, I'll call me.

• 37:04Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, I'll have my people call you.

• 37:05Speaker 04

  Yeah, okay. Good, good, good.

• 37:07Bunnie XO?

  No, no, no.

• 37:07Speaker 04

  Yeah, so, but I will.

• 37:08Bunnie XO?

  Where's it at?

• 37:09Speaker 04

  Kahoots in Lebanon.

• 37:11Bunnie XO?

  Okay, okay.

• 37:11Speaker 04

  Yeah, girl. We're fucking just. I'm super excited.

• 37:16Bunnie XO?

  I'll bring security.

• 37:18Speaker 04

  So that's how it all came about. And then I can honestly say the first time hearing myself come out the speakers and seeing my daughter's eyes light up, I was just like, yeah, girl, you can do anything you set your mind to.

• 37:33Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 37:33Speaker 04

  Yeah. Who cares what anybody else says or all these back noises? If you want to do something, go do it.

• 37:39Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 37:40Speaker 04

  Go do it.

• 37:41Bunnie XO?

  Absolutely.

• 37:41Speaker 04

  But I will say my first show that I did, Bunny, I want to tell you. I didn't think you could throw up from nerves, girl. I was in the bathroom. I went through the fuck up.

• 37:52Bunnie XO?

  Aww.

• 37:53Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm. But when I got on that stage, it felt like I was just doing it for years.

• 37:57Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 37:58Speaker 04

  So I'm enjoying life right now and I think I'm gonna take, you know, what you said and just enjoy myself. Life's putting out music.

• 38:05Bunnie XO?

  Dude, life's so good right now.

• 38:07Speaker 06

  Date music.

• 38:07Speaker 04

  Yeah, date music.

• 38:09Bunnie XO?

  But you already have a family. You have you and Lily. And if you just pour your love into both of you and stop looking, I promise you that love is gonna fall out of the sky.

• 38:18Speaker 04

  My three cats and my dog.

• 38:19Bunnie XO?

  Literally. You got, well, yeah, Kolsa, fucking, what's the other one's name?

• 38:23Speaker 04

  We have Kolsa, sauerkraut, and Zeus.

• 38:26Bunnie XO?

  I don't know if I ever even seen Zeus, but yeah.

• 38:28Speaker 04

  He's an old man. He doesn't like to be.

• 38:30Bunnie XO?

  Gotcha, gotcha. I feel like Kolsa's like the star of the show. He's your Chachi.

• 38:35Speaker 04

  He, he, he really is. One of these days, I'm gonna bring him over here.

• 38:38Bunnie XO?

  Oh, God. I don't know, I don't know how Chachi will act towards a cat. We're gonna see how he's gonna act with a possum tomorrow.

• 38:44Speaker 06

  He doesn't even like his cousin, so I don't know about cats.

• 38:46Bunnie XO?

  Only one way to find out here, okay?

• 38:48Speaker 04

  Cat book bag, well, you know.

• 38:50Bunnie XO?

  But like, all that love and that pizzazz for life that you have, just harness that for all of 2025 and literally pour into you. Whether that's going and fucking getting a little bit of therapy, or going and fucking, you know, feeding the homeless, or going and just doing something that is like chicken soup for your soul. Writing music, writing a heartbreak song, doing a fucking rap song, whatever you wanna fucking do. Put all that energy into you because these men, man.

• 39:16Speaker 04

  Girl, I learned a big lesson with this one.

• 39:18Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 39:19Speaker 04

  Oh, my goodness. I would've, I would've gave that man like the moon.

• 39:23Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 39:24Speaker 04

  And all I wanted was, um, to start this new journey and share it with someone, but I was like, well, I'm already sharing it with someone, my daughter.

• 39:32Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 39:33Speaker 04

  Who watches me, you know? So why am I trying so hard for something when it's already there with my daughter?

• 39:41Bunnie XO?

  And you can give the man the moon and he's still gonna want the stars. You know what I'm talking about?

• 39:45Speaker 04

  Maybe a planet.

• 39:46Bunnie XO?

  That's right, baby. That's right. Mm-hmm. Remember that. Ladies, write that down.

• 39:49Speaker 06

  That was good.

• 39:50Bunnie XO?

  Ladies, I'm a Van Wilder of fucking quotes over here. Okay, I'm fucking Oscar, Oscar Wilde. Um, but no, it's for real. And until that real love comes along for you, baby, just focus on yourself.

• 40:03Speaker 04

  I think, um, 2025, people are gonna see a different, I mean, we've seen Demp's like, be the funny comedian, you know, go through, fuck with the internet with my love life. That's like my favorite thing to do. I will admit, it's my favorite thing to do.

• 40:17Speaker 06

  That is my favorite thing to watch.

• 40:19Bunnie XO?

  Say it, everybody goes in. One thing you know how to do is play your crowd and they go into a fucking frenzy anytime you date somebody.

• 40:27Speaker 04

  Oh no, but I think.

• 40:28Bunnie XO?

  I'm so thankful I'm married. Like I just, there's no way I could deal with all the shit you have to deal with.

• 40:34Speaker 04

  Dating in this day and age sucks.

• 40:36Bunnie XO?

  Oh, I, yeah. I see what Haley has to go through. Me and me.

• 40:39Speaker 06

  Haley don't even date.

• 40:41Bunnie XO?

  We, listen, I'm trying to force her to, you know, but it's, it's rough. It's rough out there.

• 40:45Speaker 06

  We need a dating show for Demp's and Haley.

• 40:48Bunnie XO?

  Oh my God, that would be great. I'll do it. Let's do it. We can make one.

• 40:52Bunnie XO?

  We could do, we could make anything come to life.

• 40:54Speaker 04

  Oh my God, get the buzzers.

• 40:57Speaker 04

  Not it.

• 40:58Bunnie XO?

  That would be fucking awesome. Yeah, let's, we'll throw it around and see what we can do.

• 41:02Speaker 04

  How much are you packing down there?

• 41:04Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, they all have, they all have to wear banana hammocks and if they aren't, and if they get measured with a ruler, if they're not a certain size, they're off the show. Cause we know you're a fucking.

• 41:14Speaker 06

  You're a size queen. She's a size queen.

• 41:16Bunnie XO?

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• 42:00Bunnie XO?

  Are the currency will the most powerful reality contestant in TV history be able to keep the family happy and if they're overthrown by the mob who's gonna step up and become the new dawn let the games begin watch the mob now streaming on Hulu and Hulu on Disney plus for bundle subscribers terms apply I'll be tuning in like you love a good stealthy healthy weiner

• 42:22Speaker 04

  I do is your chef still with you

• 42:26Bunnie XO?

  oh he's here actually

• 42:28Speaker 04

  oh my god

• 42:30Bunnie XO?

  very happy

• 42:32Speaker 04

  is he downstairs

• 42:33Bunnie XO?

  wait is Larios hanging I never knew that yeah Larios has a ding

• 42:39Bunnie XO?

  I don't remember

• 42:40Speaker 06

  you don't remember that thing you made him try on

• 42:43Bunnie XO?

  oh god the banana I don't look at Larios like that though so I just so I could never even pay attention to his weiner

• 42:49Speaker 04

  oh is he downstairs

• 42:51Bunnie XO?

  he's he's in Hawaii with his girlfriend right now but he is here he's back on but he's back

• 42:56Speaker 06

  sorry girlfriend sorry

• 42:58Bunnie XO?

  but he's back on tour with us oh well good to know ladies chef Larios is packing a fucking big one yeah if he wasn't with his girlfriend right now I would call him I'd be like dude Dumps just said you got a big one live on air he's in he gets so shy

• 43:13Speaker 04

  he's a sweetheart but I'm excited for 2025 with just people get to see just like really focus on myself you know where obviously I'll still fuck with the internet and I'm super excited to tell people about my dating life I'm not gonna go on a date with my Uber driver I will never do that again

• 43:34Bunnie XO?

  did you go on a date with your Uber driver again

• 43:37Speaker 04

  he took me to Thai on our first date and it was

• 43:41Bunnie XO?

  wait hold on

• 43:42Speaker 04

  he was weird

• 43:42Bunnie XO?

  wait a second rewind take me on this journey of going on a date why did I see I miss everything what happened

• 43:51Speaker 04

  so my Uber driver takes me home

• 43:53Bunnie XO?

  did you talk about this online

• 43:54Speaker 04

  no

• 43:55Bunnie XO?

  okay okay

• 43:55Speaker 04

  my Uber driver takes me home and then it was like one of those huh

• 43:59Bunnie XO?

  was he hot

• 44:00Speaker 04

  at nighttime I was leaving a concert

• 44:02Bunnie XO?

  oh you were lit baby

• 44:04Speaker 04

  yeah I was cool

• 44:04Bunnie XO?

  okay you had beer goggles on

• 44:07Speaker 04

  anyway he did like lost item so he can contact me and get my phone number and all that so long story short we started texting

• 44:15Bunnie XO?

  was he young

• 44:16Speaker 04

  He was like twenty four.

• 44:18Bunnie XO?

  Okay.

• 44:18Speaker 04

  Yeah, he was a baby. But I think what stirred me the wrong way is as I go on a date with him, he kept asking questions about my daughter. And seeing like, well, will I ever meet her? And I'm just like, the fuck? I was like, eek, eek, eek. And I couldn't get out of that Thai restaurant so fucking fast.

• 44:36Bunnie XO?

  Oh, that's weird.

• 44:37Speaker 06

  I gotta go to the bathroom.

• 44:38Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 44:38Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 44:38Speaker 04

  I pulled a Polly Shore, like, pretty much just like, we gotta go.

• 44:43Bunnie XO?

  Oh, my god.

• 44:45Speaker 04

  Oh, my god. Thai food upset my stomach.

• 44:47Bunnie XO?

  That's a little strange. Yeah, grown men should not be asking about a woman's child.

• 44:51Speaker 04

  No, it fucking freaked me the fuck out. But I'm excited for twenty twenty five. Listen, if you set me up with a dating game show, I'm on it.

• 44:58Bunnie XO?

  Should we do a dating game show for Dems? I'll do it. I'll do a season of it and see how it goes. I think it would be fucking hilarious. Yeah.

• 45:05Speaker 04

  Who's gonna pick these people?

• 45:07Speaker 06

  We are gonna vet.

• 45:08Speaker 04

  Mimi's gonna be laying in bed at night looking at portfolios.

• 45:11Speaker 06

  Surveys and resumes.

• 45:13Bunnie XO?

  I would love to do it. I think it would be fucking awesome, dude. They'll have to give blood samples and testosterone counts. Oh, god.

• 45:22Speaker 04

  Are you circumcised? Not circumcised?

• 45:24Bunnie XO?

  Get, just put Dems in a house with like fucking twelve dudes.

• 45:28Speaker 04

  Remember your, when we went to Vegas for your wedding, she goes, I cannot wait to see Dems in full action with all the men.

• 45:36Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, no, you know how Dems is. She's got raging hormones, dude. Put her in a room with a bunch of dudes and she's gonna find one.

• 45:42Speaker 04

  Hello?

• 45:44Bunnie XO?

  So moving on from that, let's talk about this court case that you won, because you've never really gotten to talk.

• 45:50Speaker 04

  I didn't know we were talking about this.

• 45:52Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, I know you've never really gotten to talk about it publicly. And I really think that it's something that, um, people need to talk about. Because, you know, there's a website that I absolutely despise. And I've seen, and the reason I despise this website is, one, you have to be a certain type of person who sits on here all day and just talks shit about people. But two, I have seen it tear people's lives apart. And like what you had to go through, you're not the only one. There's a lot of content creators who did not put their foots down with these, with this website. And these people. Literally become obsessed in the sickest way and like start doing the weirdest shit like what they did to you vandalizing your house fucking calling CPS calling your daughter's schools.

• 46:37Speaker 04

  I'm an active poster, right? So I would post that I'm at this restaurant, you know, having a dinner or a meal with my daughter. They would know where I'm posting from, call that restaurant and say, oh, you have a drunk woman there, blah, blah. Like literally it was full on fucking harassment. And I didn't really, I slowly started talking about it, but it was like a Lifetime movie that I lived where a person can see somebody on the internet and get so fatuated with someone and want their life and become obsessed. And mind you, I don't know this person at all.

• 47:13Bunnie XO?

  People don't realize that there's a thin line between love and hate and to hate somebody as much as you say you hate them, you have to have some sort of love for them also and some sort of obsession and that's where it gets scary.

• 47:25Speaker 04

  Mm hmm. So, yeah, I had to finally I found out my stalker's identity and mind you, I had to-

• 47:32Bunnie XO?

  This is after years of-

• 47:34Speaker 04

  Years!

• 47:35Bunnie XO?

  Somebody calling your landlord. I mean, like, let's go down the list of what happened.

• 47:40Speaker 04

  Yeah, so CPS at my house, DHS at my daughter's school, calling my daughter's school, calling my daughter's dance place where she went to dance, calling my landlord. So I had my landlord sneaking in my house while I wasn't there because, you know, these people were calling them saying, oh, Demp's has drugs in there. She has these animals, blah, blah, just making up any false allegations they can, right? So literally fucking with my real life and let alone reaching out to my, I think the most fucked up thing that I cannot get my head wrapped around is that this person who I've never met became friends with my baby daddy's wife.

• 48:23Speaker 04

  Best friends, best fucking friends. Mind you, I've never met her and I haven't seen my baby daddy in years.

• 48:30Bunnie XO?

  Hate brings people together.

• 48:32Speaker 04

  So the fact that I felt like I just had like these group, she got close to me, mind you, my stalker. She knew how to get close to me and my God, she did by reaching out to him and becoming friends with all them. The stuff that I've seen, the text messages of how they were gonna ruin my life and put me in jail for whatever reason. What the fuck am I doing that I need to go to jail? You know, it was sick in the head and I had to deal with that all on my own. I mean, I remember texting you like, bitch, I'm going fucking through it. But finally I found out her identity and I took her to court. You know how exhausting it is to look in front of a judge to explain to them, hey,

• 49:14Speaker 04

  I'm a social media content creator, you know, this is what's happening. I don't know this woman and this is what she's doing to me. They look at you like you're a joke, like, well, this is social media, you know what I mean? Like how, you know, they could say whatever you want, freedom of speech, first amendment. You know how exhausting it was to look at this judge, like, you don't understand this person. I don't know her and it's full on fucking harassment that I had to endure for almost fucking three years. And I never let it show that it got to me on the internet, whatever. But my fucking God, I hope she found fucking Jesus.

• 49:54Bunnie XO?

  So how did you sway the judge? How did you sway the judge in your favor? Because you ended up winning the court case.

• 49:59Speaker 04

  I did. I had to show proof and catch her in all her lies. Screenshots, Bunny, we're talking a binder this fucking big of just documentation of what this woman did to me and my daughter. It was so disturbing and I hope one day, maybe it will turn into like a Netflix series or a Lifetime movie. Because in this reality, we live in such a digital world that there's no new laws placed for this type of shit. And some things need to be happening and if I can be an advocate. for this

• 50:33Bunnie XO?

  yeah

• 50:33Speaker 04

  then so be it

• 50:34Bunnie XO?

  me too I will totally be an advocate for internet bullies I I have zero tolerance for it you're literally lying on people's lives and making shit up just the grossest lies that you could even imagine and then it's like the game of telephone so it's like you tell one person then I mean there's so many there's so many lies that go around about Jay and I on that website that Jay and I bring underage drunk underage girls home we've never done that in our entire lives never once have we fucking done that but go to on that website and they will you'll you'll literally have fucking 50 people who say that every time and it's like it's not true and you guys it's just disgusting and what you went through is not okay

• 51:15Bunnie XO?

  what a lot of these social media content creators have had to go to go through is not okay and just because we are open with our lives on the internet does not give you the freedom to try to destroy what we've built with lies now if we're out doing things fucking crazy and we're really fucking you know doing weird shit okay cool yeah call us out and you know we'll own it and we'll change our behavior but that's not the case with these people you know it's like you guys are you're just living your life

• 51:43Speaker 04

  they just wanted to paint me like I'm a fucking just horrible mother they tried so hard to get my daughter taken away from me

• 51:49Bunnie XO?

  no

• 51:51Speaker 04

  fuck you I don't know you I'll be damned if you take my get away from me I fought so hard for the little life that I have because I have a little life I'm not this big person I'm just like over here just doing my thing sharing my life on the internet

• 52:05Bunnie XO?

  yeah

• 52:05Speaker 04

  so I'll be damned if I have a stranger who fucking doesn't like what I do take it away from me just because she thinks you know she's jealous of me

• 52:15Bunnie XO?

  well I'm glad more people are starting to fight back Meg Thee Stallion just filed a lawsuit against a YouTuber who was coming up with fake shit Cardi B filed a lawsuit against a YouTuber who fucking defamed her and she won you know so it's like people are starting to fight back and I think that the rules definitely need to change and I too will be an advocate right along with you and whatever I can do to help and use my voice on my platform yeah but I would love to make I've always wanted to make a documentary about everything

• 52:41Speaker 04

  a little bit more peace it's been um it's been like um like since last March and I've had like

• 52:50Speaker 04

  Good sleep at night, not worrying about like, oh my god, is somebody gonna show up at my fucking house? Cause in my old house, girl, the stuff that I saw in court, there was somebody watching me. Photos of me getting in and out of my car. And I told my mom one day, I was like, I feel like somebody is watching me all the way out at my old house.

• 53:10Bunnie XO?

  That's so gross.

• 53:11Speaker 04

  Girl.

• 53:12Bunnie XO?

  What were, it was the girl just sitting there watching you?

• 53:14Speaker 04

  I guess it was some, but there was photos of like just me living my life, like paparazzi photos. Like I didn't know these people are taking photos of me.

• 53:25Bunnie XO?

  That's so invasive.

• 53:26Speaker 06

  How did they get these photos?

• 53:27Speaker 04

  Well, my lawyer did, got them and he, I asked him, I was like, what the fuck are those? And he was like, don't worry about them. I was like, the fuck I am worrying about them. Obviously I'm in a new house and all that now.

• 53:37Bunnie XO?

  Did you ever find out who, who fucking spray painted clout chaser on the outside of your house?

• 53:42Speaker 04

  I don't know, but it's a little ironic that all that happened at the bar and I go on vacation to Florida and then I come home with clout chaser on my windows.

• 53:52Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 53:53Speaker 04

  And nobody's gonna admit it. I never, uh, got the full evidence. I have a great idea of who it is, but.

• 54:02Bunnie XO?

  I hope your house is camered up now. My, our houses are camered up.

• 54:05Speaker 04

  Oh, I got fucking cameras.

• 54:07Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 54:07Speaker 04

  And it's so funny, cause the one time the camera was, I didn't put it on the back of my house and I just left the fucking one time.

• 54:16Bunnie XO?

  Well, somebody looked for that. They looked to see if there was a camera and probably went in the space that there wasn't a camera on. Yeah, people are fucking weird, man. I'm just glad you're over that and got through that and you're just, you know, besides these men, everything else in your life is really good, Dems. You got a good life.

• 54:33Speaker 04

  And I just, I, I know, um, I'm a great person and I know one day that somebody's gonna be able to see it.

• 54:41Bunnie XO?

  Well, let's find out who that person is. I'm gonna do your birth chart really quick. All right, Dems, I need to know.

• 54:47Speaker 06

  I'm so excited for this birth chart. You have no idea.

• 54:50Speaker 04

  First off, I have not complimented you on your hair. Fucking love it.

• 54:55Speaker 06

  Way better than the green, huh?

• 54:57Speaker 04

  No, I loved the green.

• 54:58Speaker 06

  I don't know. I felt like I, I thought I loved the green till I saw the orange. And then I was like, I like the orange way better.

• 55:04Speaker 04

  Pull it all off.

• 55:05Speaker 06

  You're sweet.

• 55:05Speaker 04

  I, I love it.

• 55:07Speaker 06

  Sweet girl.

• 55:08Speaker 04

  Man, I was at mother. Have you ever been to Mother's Ruin in Germantown?

• 55:11Speaker 06

  No. I don't go to Nashville, Dems.

• 55:14Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 55:14Speaker 06

  I don't go to Nashville.

• 55:15Bunnie XO?

  We don't go to Nashville unless we have to.

• 55:17Speaker 06

  Ever.

• 55:18Bunnie XO?

  Alright, I need the, what's your birth date? Uh, what's your birthplace?

• 55:23Speaker 04

  Hopefully up to this podcast, I don't want anything to do with that man ever again.

• 55:28Speaker 06

  Good.

• 55:29Speaker 04

  And I'm just gonna-

• 55:29Speaker 06

  Been blocked this time.

• 55:32Speaker 04

  Anna's mom blocked, dude.

• 55:34Speaker 06

  Oh, I was in the comments reading.

• 55:38Speaker 06

  What a fucking psycho bitch.

• 55:40Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, that's weird. Like when you're-

• 55:41Speaker 06

  Psycho bitch.

• 55:41Bunnie XO?

  When you're old.

• 55:42Speaker 06

  She's in love with her son and I don't mean like a love for her son.

• 55:48Speaker 04

  It's her screensaver.

• 55:50Speaker 06

  Yeah, well, yeah, it's, it's like-

• 55:52Speaker 04

  It's one thing to have your kid.

• 55:53Speaker 06

  No, I feel like it's one of those like, um, mommy dearest type weird.

• 55:58Bunnie XO?

  Alright, I got Dems' birth chart pulled up here.

• 56:01Speaker 04

  I'm so fucking nervous.

• 56:02Bunnie XO?

  Don't be nervous.

• 56:03Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm.

• 56:05Bunnie XO?

  Alright, so your sun is a Leo, your moon is a Libra, your mercury is a Leo, your Venus is a Cancer. Mars is a Libra, so you have a Libra stellium. This is crazy. One, two, three. Yeah, you have a Libra stellium. Aww. No wonder you're a little just lover. Le- Libras really like balance. It's so crazy because Libras usually really like balance, but they're the most unbalanced people of the zodiac. Until you heal and learn how to, to channel that.

• 56:36Speaker 04

  Hmm.

• 56:37Bunnie XO?

  Um, but anyways, your Venus is a Cancer, so you're just like, let's, uh, let's get in here. And I'll be able to put it into words for you. This, uh, your Venus is how you love people.

• 56:48Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm.

• 56:49Bunnie XO?

  And like the love that you receive. So you're probably gonna want like a Taurus. You would probably want like a Taurus Venus, which Leo and Taurus, Cancer and Taurus. You would like any earth sign or any other water sign. So Scorpio, um, Cancer, Pisces. Venus would be amazing for you. Dems is looking at me all crazy.

• 57:09Speaker 04

  My ex was a Pisces.

• 57:11Bunnie XO?

  Yeah. How was the love? Passionate?

• 57:15Speaker 04

  Yeah. I was like, choke me.

• 57:17Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 57:18Speaker 04

  Let me around.

• 57:20Bunnie XO?

  Choke me, spank me, pull my hair. Hold on, I'm getting to the Venus. There's so much. I gotta send you this. Okay. So your Venus represents, your Venus represents an interest and emotions and values exchanged and sharing with others. Venus in Cancer, love for Venus in Cancer is best when it's committed and rather predictable. These people are sensitive in love, even if their sun sign is more playful and outgoing signs like Jim and I or Leo. You may even say their egos are a little under, a little underdeveloped when it comes to love, but they have a lot to give in return, namely, security, comfort, and care. Venus in Cancer people show their love by caring for you. They pay more attention to your feelings than your words and observe you rather carefully.

• 58:04Bunnie XO?

  They want a safe, solid relationship. They can be a little moody in love, and some go as far as giving silent treatments and engaging in pouting routines to get attention from their mate. Dimples do that? Never, never. I couldn't see that happening. They are turned off by anything too impersonal, and too much rationalizing leaves them cold. They are not afraid of emotional confrontations.

• 58:32Bunnie XO?

  These lovers are always worried they'll be left high and dry. If you've hurt them, they'll have a hard time forgetting. Every so often, they'll retreat into themselves, not unlike a crab, and it can be difficult to pull them out. This is why when they are using their extraordinary nursing abilities on themselves instead of you, and you simply don't want that. So, and there's so much more that we could go into.

• 58:55Speaker 04

  Yeah, go ahead and send me that.

• 58:56Bunnie XO?

  I will. Your Venus is in your ninth house, too. Yeah, there's just so much here, but that makes complete sense of why you're

• 59:03Speaker 04

  Well, sum it up.

• 59:04Bunnie XO?

  Such a lover. Well, you are, you're very sensitive and you're very

• 59:07Speaker 04

  I am sensitive, and I think that was the problem.

• 59:10Bunnie XO?

  Leo is a big boisterous personality and that's why your sun sign, the way you present to the world, you're very outgoing, you're very loud, you're very damps, you know, like that's how you are.

• 59:21Speaker 04

  I'm here.

• 59:23Bunnie XO?

  But when it comes to love, you want a soft love. You want like somebody to just kind of coddle you all the time and just tell you that they love you. You want to be babied.

• 59:33Speaker 04

  Yeah, but why is it I'm always the masculine one in fucking relationships? Even when it comes to like being sexual, I'm like, you do this, do that. This is how you do this, this is how you use this, like.

• 59:45Bunnie XO?

  Because you're in your masculine energy and you haven't, you haven't learned how to be in your feminine energy. Once you learn how to switch that, you will attract men who will start doting on you and waiting on you. You can't, it's hard, so the hardest thing for me to have ever learned was to switch into my feminine energy because I'm the same way that you are, I'm very masculine energy. But when it comes to my husband, I am so soft and so loving and so like, okay daddy, whatever you want, you know? And I mean, don't get me wrong, if he does something fucking crazy, I'll be like, what is wrong with you? Like, let's reel it back in, but I've learned to let him lead because that's how it's supposed to be. And I know we're in an era where it's like, we're independent women, we're baddies, yeah, we can do that.

• 1:00:27Bunnie XO?

  But at home, I truly feel like a woman should be submissive as long as her man is doing the things that make her feel safe and want to be submissive. I get a lot of slack for that, but I truly feel like if you can learn how to be submissive to a man and let him learn how to lead, which you can't, you're not going to know that in the first few months, but you're, you'll be able to tell if a man is going to be a man or if he's going to be fucking a titty baby sucking on his mommy's tits still.

• 1:00:56Speaker 06

  Also, it doesn't have to be submissive, it can just be bringing your walls down.

• 1:00:59Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 1:01:00Speaker 06

  I mean, it could just be you being raw and vulnerable instead of always being masculine.

• 1:01:05Speaker 04

  Mimi, I tried doing that with this past one.

• 1:01:07Bunnie XO?

  No, I think she is raw and vulnerable. I do think that, but he's not a man, baby.

• 1:01:12Speaker 04

  Yeah, I know.

• 1:01:12Bunnie XO?

  And that's what you gotta understand. And that's not me talking shit about him because I've never met the dude, but from what I hear from your side of things, it sounds. To me, like, he's still very attached to his mom and he's not ready to be a man.

• 1:01:26Speaker 04

  I know.

• 1:01:27Bunnie XO?

  You know?

• 1:01:27Speaker 04

  And I think it hurts and it's still, it's gonna hurt for a while, but I'm excited for this new chapter in my life. Releasing some music and just putting my love back into music.

• 1:01:39Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 1:01:40Speaker 04

  And who knows?

• 1:01:41Bunnie XO?

  Write us a fucking heartbreak anthem, bitch. I'm ready.

• 1:01:45Speaker 04

  I'm gonna get a number one out of this, okay? I've cried my eyes out for two weeks.

• 1:01:50Bunnie XO?

  Well, I know how to write songs now, so maybe we can all sit down and write a heartbreak song together.

• 1:01:55Speaker 04

  Bunny XL.

• 1:01:55Bunnie XO?

  I would love to do it. I would fucking love to do that.

• 1:01:59Speaker 04

  Now I'm excited for the dating in the future. Let's do a dating game and then I'm just excited to just kick ass and just keep doing what I'm doing.

• 1:02:07Bunnie XO?

  Let's do it. Just long, just fucking live, laugh, love with Lily. That's all you can do.

• 1:02:12Speaker 04

  That's all I can do.

• 1:02:13Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, and that's, dude, you don't have any man fucking stressing you out and shit, like, good.

• 1:02:18Speaker 06

  It's always when you stop looking that the one shows up.

• 1:02:21Bunnie XO?

  Yes, I swear to God.

• 1:02:22Speaker 04

  I have ones if I don't want anybody to show up.

• 1:02:24Bunnie XO?

  Good, well then don't, don't let, if you, take a year off. Alright, how about this? I challenge you.

• 1:02:30Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 1:02:31Bunnie XO?

  Twenty twenty-five, no fucking relationship. Just focus on you. Get some dick, do whatever you gotta do, don't get attached, but, you know, fucking don't jump into a relationship, like, be in a relationship with yourself. Fall in love with yourself.

• 1:02:45Speaker 04

  There's one thing I know how to do is be in a relationship with myself.

• 1:02:49Bunnie XO?

  There you go.

• 1:02:51Speaker 04

  There's no complaints there. I think it's just, you just wanted to share your life with someone, you know?

• 1:02:57Bunnie XO?

  And I mean, you've got enough time for that, dude. You're not on it, your biological clock is not ticking. You're good right now.

• 1:03:02Speaker 04

  Yeah, I don't want any more kids.

• 1:03:04Bunnie XO?

  There you go. So fucking take your time.

• 1:03:07Speaker 04

  Oh, I love you, Bunny.

• 1:03:08Bunnie XO?

  I love you too, and thank you for coming by.

• 1:03:10Speaker 04

  Of course.

• 1:03:11Bunnie XO?

  Why don't you shout out your socials where everybody can find you if they don't already follow you?

• 1:03:15Speaker 04

  Yeah, so you can just Google, uh, don't read the bad shit, but no, just go ahead and check me out on Spotify, all streaming platforms, just type in DMPS.

• 1:03:26Bunnie XO?

  D E M P S.

• 1:03:27Speaker 04

  Yeah, D E M P S, DMPS. I'm just pretty much everywhere. Just don't read the bad shit, okay?

• 1:03:34Bunnie XO?

  Do it one time for me, get you some.

• 1:03:36Speaker 04

  Get you some.

• 1:03:38Bunnie XO?

  Thank you guys for tuning into another episode of Don Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.

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