Develop Unbreakable Self-Discipline

Get ready for an epic episode of Ed Mylett 2.0 of JUST ME speaking to YOU! This week, I’m giving you a masterclass in the ultimate secret to DOMINATING in any endeavor: mastering SELF-DISCIPLINE. In my journey, I've encountered and coached countless individuals who possess incredible talent and natural abilities. And the individuals I admire most are the ones who have harnessed the power of self-discipline. They possess an innate drive to MAXIMIZE their potential and an unwavering commitment to continual improvement. You’re not alone if you struggle with self-discipline. We live in a world filled with constant distractions (Netflix, SportsCenter, social media, etc.) that divert our attention from activities that could make a monumental difference in our lives and creating HABITS that EXPAND our CAPACITY. This week, I’m sharing the ACTIONABLE STEPS on how to overcome these distractions, and master the art of SELF-Discipline. Plus, I'm excited to share one of the most impactful articles I've ever read—something I've carried with me for 25 years. LEARN THE HABITS that will enrich your life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it. Waiting weeks on a big bank for capital? Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

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• 1:36Ed Mylett?

  Today's topic is going to be about self-discipline, which I think is at the top of the list of everything you have to have in life if you're going to achieve anything great. It's what allows you to do something that average, ordinary people can't do. You know, I look at when I evaluate people and talent in my businesses, when I hire people or any sports team that I've had. Yeah, it'd be great if someone's got an amazing ability or some, you know, crazy proclivity. But what I really look for when I'm evaluating talent and people I want on my team is their self-discipline levels. Because I know those people are going to max out their own capacity. And if you remember this, extremity- Extends capacity. Please remember that statement. Extremity expands capacity.

• 2:15Ed Mylett?

  So what that means is when you're self-disciplined and you can get yourself to do all the way to the extreme of what you're capable of on a regular basis. Not only you what you're capable of, but you actually stretch out and expand your capacity to grow and to do more. So that over time, those levels of maxing out actually increase. That's why, for example, like on a bench press in the gym. When someone maxes out, one of the reasons we do that is because we've pushed to a new level, but that extremity expands your capacity to know. Bench press even more at a higher level. And the way we extend our capacity in life is to have the highest levels of self-discipline.

• 2:53Ed Mylett?

  And it's something all of us struggle with, including me. I love Netflix. I love Cheetos. I love sleep. I love laying around. The challenge with that is those aren't the things that produce bliss in our life, that give us memories, that give us joy. Nor do they produce maximum results in our businesses and our bodies, relationships, and even our emotions, as I've said. So let's take a look at how do we expand our capacity? How do we increase our self-discipline? For me, and what I would recommend for you, is that it starts out by taking an honest look and audit. At the things that take away from our self-disciplines. What are the things that rob you, that steal you from your disciplines?

• 3:36Ed Mylett?

  So in my case, for example, I'll give you some things that rob me of my disciplines, that take my focus away, take my attention away. That make it more easy to do than the things I need to do. For me, some of it's television. And in my own case, it is that, like, I really do enjoy Netflix. I'll get captivated. When I wake up in the morning. One of the things I used to do is I would do a little bit of a morning routine. But then I'd find myself flipping SportsCenter on. A lot of the guys can probably relate to that, or you flip on one of the morning TV shows. All of a sudden, I've lost thirty, forty minutes into this abyss of things that really don't matter at that time. It's funny, my wife would say, haven't you already watched these highlights last night? You're watching the same exact highlights again the next morning. And I'm like, she's totally right.

• 4:20Ed Mylett?

  So for me, it's been sports. It's been Netflix. It's been watching sports on television. This, this robs me of my self-disciplines. Another thing for me is worry.

• 4:33Ed Mylett?

  Believe it or not, the emotion of worry or the emotion of fear steals my self-discipline because I'm captivated in a problem that really hasn't even existed yet, probably won't exist, but I've given my attention and my energy off the task at hand. See, there's this fallacy. I've had people on my show that have taught this, that you can multitask. The truth is, there's really no such thing as multitasking. Your brain can only hold one process and one thought at one time. And so this idea that you can do three things at once, like I'll have the TV on in the background, but I'm going to write an effective chapter of my book. That is not true. That TV on in the background steals some of your self-discipline from you. For you, some of you, it might be that it's a worry addiction.

• 5:16Ed Mylett?

  It might be addiction to a relationship, but these are the things, you have to make a list of the things. For me, in a given day, what takes my self-discipline from me is worry, fear, and the process of watching screens, watching screens, scrolling through Instagram, scrolling through TikTok, watching YouTube, watching sports on television. So I've made lists of things that are my self-discipline stealers. And I haven't eliminated them, but I've reduced them and I schedule them in non-productive times. So it's not that I can't watch SportsCenter. It's not that I can't scroll TikTok or Instagram. I can do that. But I have to schedule it in times that don't take away from moving the needle. You've got to do moving the needle activities in your life.

• 6:01Ed Mylett?

  The most successful people do the highest impact things possible at any given moment or any given day. And the people that lose or that produce subpar results or average results, they still work very hard, but they don't do the needle-moving things. So in my fitness, for example, one of the needle-moving things is drinking water. That's a self-discipline that is required of me to stay in my peak physical state in every given day. And I'm going to show you in a minute how I make sure I do that. And then I eliminate and I make a list of the things that take that away from me. One of the other things is I have to do breath work. I have to control my breathing. I love yoga now. I'm doing a lot of yoga. And I have had to, what is it that eliminates that for me? One, it's getting up too late.

• 6:43Ed Mylett?

  It's turning on that television and watching sports. So I've made lists of the things that rob me of my disciplines. The second thing in self-discipline is this, show me your schedule, show me your day timer and I will show you your life. If you show me your schedule today and what you do consistently and again, what you have scheduled, because what you schedule is a priority. Okay. So if you show me your schedule, I will show you your life a year to three years from now. Based on today's schedule. So second thing in self-discipline is scheduling the things that matter, literally putting them in. And having a time for them scheduled on a regular basis. This may seem trivial, but it's not because. There are things I need self-discipline for me. One of the areas is like my personal friendships.

• 7:28Ed Mylett?

  And relationships, even with my own family. And so for me, if I'm not careful. I won't have the self-discipline to make sure those aren't just maintained, but that they're growing and evolving in a way. That's beautiful that those people deserve in my life. And although this may sound orchestrated. I schedule those things that that that schedule makes me look like I've got self-discipline. Okay. But truthfully, it's just scheduled. So I have things in my calendar that says, text Bella. Call Max, call mom. I have scheduled these things in my calendar. When I'm in my schedule, I will do the things that are in there. So a lot of times we just schedule our appointments, don't we?

• 8:09Ed Mylett?

  We just have appointments and that's all we have in a calendar. At the end of the day, I didn't make my contacts. I didn't tell the people that I love that I love them. I didn't do the amount of emails I was supposed to do. I didn't take the time to write the chapter of my book. I didn't craft my social media captions. Things need to be scheduled. That's where self-discipline comes from. And then the third thing is I've built the habit of keeping the promises that I make to myself. The process of self-discipline is like a muscle that you can grow. And so I think the mistake many people make is they start with these huge things that they think require self-discipline. And unless they do these huge things, they lack it. Whereas I believe you start in the micro.

• 8:50Ed Mylett?

  You start small in life and that's what builds the real discipline. So this may sound crazy. But I have eliminated and written down the things that take my my self-discipline away. I have scheduled the things that make me look like I have self-discipline. And then third, I start with the small promises I can keep to myself. And that's to this day, 25 years later on this journey, 35 years later on this journey, I still schedule things. I still do little things that create momentum. Because momentum, as I've said before, is a magnifier. Momentum can make an average, ordinary person like me produce superhuman results. So I create what might be considered artificial momentum every single day.

• 9:32Ed Mylett?

  So let me give you an example of that. I make my bed every single day. I've been doing that for many, many years. That seems insignificant, right? Because I could pay somebody to make my bed every single day. That's not why I do it. I do it because it starts my day with discipline, and it's something that I can control and I can maintain. I have a routine that I do, whatever your routine might be. For me, it could be the cold plunge, or my prayer time, or my meditation time, my stretching, my scripture reading. I do these things early in my day. These are promises that I can make to myself that create this identity of a self-disciplined person, when the truth is, I am not one. I have not been one, but I have created an identity of a self-disciplined person. Let me give you another one.

• 10:15Ed Mylett?

  I lay my clothes out the night before for the following day. I do this whether I'm staying in a hotel room, or whether I'm staying at my own house. I know that sounds insignificant. It is extremely significant, because now I've done something that I told myself I was going to do, and it's done. And when I wake up in the morning, I'm in autopilot mode. So these small things, the second thing I do, excuse me, the third thing I do, I have a big gallon of water that I pour the night before. And when I get up, I drink half of that water. It doesn't matter if you drink 10% of it, but it's something to start my day. Whoops, self-discipline, I've done it. When I point my mind as a weapon at the small things in my life, and I start stacking those up that I do over and over and over again,

• 10:59Ed Mylett?

  now the medium-sized tasks are disciplined, and the big ones are disciplined. And so, I'm going to tell you that I don't think anyone has natural discipline. They build structures around them, they build systems around them, they schedule them, and they eliminate the things that take from it. And over time, they build this identity where they seem like they're incredibly disciplined people. Remember this for a second. Your brain is always trying to conserve energy. It's always trying to conserve energy. It's trying to build a habit. It is trying to do this so that it doesn't have to work to think. And so the more you do these little things, your brain wants to continue to do them. It's not just a muscle. It's how the brain functions because now that it's just stuff that you do every single day,

• 11:44Ed Mylett?

  it doesn't have to think about it anymore. And under pressure in life, we act reflexively. Under pressure, we act reflexively. So if your reflex is to have these habits that serve you, your life becomes very easy. It also frees your brain up to be much more creative and innovative and energized and aware than people who don't have discipline. See, the benefit of discipline and self-discipline is not just that you get these things done. It's that your brain's not having to work so darn hard. See, when you don't have self-discipline, when you don't have things you do early in your day, when you don't keep promises to yourself, when you don't schedule the things, right? When you don't do those things, when you don't eliminate the things that rob you of your self-discipline,

• 12:29Ed Mylett?

  not only are you not getting stuff done, you're more tired. You're more physically exhausted. Here's the fallacy. People think self-discipline, people that get up, that work out, that do their stuff, that make their calls, that have these relationships, that are sending out a bunch of emails, that are making a bunch of contacts, they're tired. That's not the case because after a while, this is automatic. Their brain's not having to think about it. It's just what they do. It's their routine. Your brain, on the other hand, if you're not disciplined, isn't nearly as organized. So it's having to work to think through, to get back up, to start over, to restart, to get going again. It's constantly having to work. And what you're doing is you're depleting yourself of the energies that could have gone towards creativity, focus, awareness, and intentional activities. Does that make sense?

• 13:12Ed Mylett?

  So actually, undisciplined people are more tired at the end of a day than disciplined people. And that's what I found. They say, you're 52, you're working harder than you've ever worked in your dadgum life. Why? Because I have built all these structures around me and eliminated most of the things that take my focus and discipline away so that I am wired. Man with a ton of energy to create and innovate and think and be present in the moment. Because I have self-discipline. And self-discipline is a process, is a habit. It is not something someone's born with, and it's not very complicated. What has to happen is you got to do it for a while, but now the idea of not working out in a given day. Makes me sick to my stomach.

• 13:56Ed Mylett?

  I can't even imagine not working out. But way back in the day, I had to schedule it. I had to eliminate the sports center. I had to have the glass of water next to me. I had to have my workout clothes laid out the night before. I had to make my bed. Then I had to do my, do you follow what I'm saying? These things make the discipline part look much harder than it is. It's actually autopilot for me now. I don't have to think about it. So there's all these benefits to having self-discipline. And I want to share with you like almost my manifesto. For self-discipline. And it's, it's quite old. So if you're watching this, you'll see this magazine. And if you're not, I'm going to give you a gift that you hear it on the audio anyway. But here we go. This is from Newsweek Magazine. A little while ago.

• 14:41Ed Mylett?

  June 18th, 2001. So at the time that we're recording this. And by the way, stay focused in Growth Day all the time. This is one of the best things you can do is being in an environment that's conducive to self-discipline, that fosters it. That's what we're doing here, right? This right here, what we're doing, this place you're doing this at. Creates self-discipline because the environment is constantly feeding you things that create the habits and rituals that make your life easier. But here we go. June 18th, 2001, Newsweek cover. Tiger Rules. I have carried this magazine, two of them. I have two copies of them. With me everywhere I have gone on business trips.

• 15:23Ed Mylett?

  For 22 going on 23 years, I have read what I'm going to share with you thousands of times. Because it's about discipline, self-discipline, and the mindset that comes with being self-disciplined. Tiger rules. This was the prime of Tiger Woods' career. One of the most disciplined people of all time. Now, when I say discipline in his sports life, anybody who knows anything about sports, know the sports part of his life. In his prime, there was no more disciplined athlete in the history of sports. Would you agree with me on that? In his prime, in his sports life, there's never been an athlete more disciplined than Tiger Woods. And I wanted to be what he did in golf. I wanted to do in the business part of my life.

• 16:05Ed Mylett?

  And so there was this article, and I've carried it now for almost 23 years. Okay? Here's what it's called. The Dominator. The Dominator, and it's five rules for Tiger Woods domination and self-discipline. Would you like to know what they are? Because this article, the dude who read this article 22, 23 years ago, didn't have the mindset of self-discipline. I had the desire for self-discipline. I had some of the habits. But I didn't want to just do well in business, do well in life. I wanted to dominate. How many of you would like to dominate? I mean, go from average, ordinary, not just to win it, but dominance, dominate in your life, whatever that area is, dominating the love parts of your,

• 16:47Ed Mylett?

  dominate in your emotions, dominate in business, dominate in the financial part of your life. Maybe dominate your former self, but be dominant in your life. At the end of this life now is dominant, right? I wanted to do that. And I don't think that that's a male or female thing. I'm talking about being great, becoming a goat, doing something awesome. And here's what happens 22, 23 years later. Stay with me on this. It's so awesome. I'm totally, the guy that started 22, 23 years ago, is totally unrecognizable to me to the man that I am today. Would you like in 22 or 23 years, 25 years from now to look back and go, Kenny, I don't even recognize that person. It's the same, it's the same integrity, it's the same

• 17:32Ed Mylett?

  character, it's the same loving being, but I've become something so dominant. I've become almost like a machine. I, people look at me, you know, you heard audios I've done in the past where I say there's unaware people, that's one type of person, you don't want to be them. There's motivational people who can motivate you. They play on your motives. If you do this, you get a Lamborghini. If you do this, you'll get a house. If you do this, you'll get a relationship. They play on your motives, which is a very, it's a good thing. A lot of motivational speakers out there, motivational friends of yours. The third level is inspirational. Inspirational people take it to a different place. They can motivate you. They make you become aware, but they talk, they speak to your spirit. The root of inspirational is to be in spirit. These people are special. These

• 18:15Ed Mylett?

  people, you feel something when you're with them and you're around them or you hear them communicate. And then even from there, there's another level. That fourth level is aspirational. Aspirational is not only did you motivate, you made me aware, you motivated me, I'm inspired, but I want to be more like you. I want to be more like you. To me, in the sports world, Tiger Woods was not only motivational, and he was incredibly motivational, he was inspiring, you would feel things when he would win, but he was aspirational. I'd like to be more like him in my business life. I'd like to be more like him. I want to be a dominator. So I aspired to be a dominator, and I know you do too. Wonder what the five rules are? I'm gonna give them to you.

• 18:57Ed Mylett?

  These are the mindsets, not just the behaviors. These are the mindsets of a self-disciplined person. So, here we go. Here's what he says. Here's the article, by the way. You believe I still carry this thing? Here we go. Number one, genius is 99% perspiration.

• 19:17Ed Mylett?

  Perspiration. I had to hear that. I had to have someone give me permission to work really, really hard. And what they do in this article, by the way, is they interviewed other dominators. So they interviewed Martina Navratilova, the great tennis player. They interviewed Joe Montana, the incredible quarterback, football player. They interviewed Wayne Gretzky, the greatest hockey player of all time, all talking about Tiger and their similar mindsets. So this isn't just Tigers. This is the Dominator mindset. 99% perspiration. It begins, all the dominators agree, with good old fashioned, hard work. There's no magic pill, no such thing as effortless grace. At this level, talent is a given. But Tiger works harder than anyone out there, and that's why he's kicking butt,

• 19:58Ed Mylett?

  says tennis great Martina Navratilova, winner of 167 women's titles, including a record nine Wimbledon's. Every great shot you hit, you've already hit a bunch of times in practice. The vast majority of athletes have a much lower tolerance for preparation. It's not the pain, it's simpler than that. Listen to this. It's not the pain, it's simpler than that. Practice can be boring, says Joe Montana, who led the San Francisco 49ers to four Super Bowl wins in the 80s. A lot of guys say, yeah, I watched two hours of game film last night, and that's enough. But they're not really studying what's going on. They may as well have been watching television. Tiger's habit of pounding golf ball after golf ball long into the twilight, often during tournament play,

• 20:42Ed Mylett?

  has already become part of his legend. It's just 23 years ago. During his so-called slump earlier this year, Woods claimed to be working on something special for his new swing in the Masters. People rolled their eyes until he won the Masters. Montana, like Woods, understands that such preparation pays off biggest and critical situations, moments when a bout of nerves could disrupt even the most basic play. Dominators can be wondrously creative when they have to be, but they're also geniuses of simplicity.

• 21:12Ed Mylett?

  In his famous fourth quarter drive to beat the Super Bowl champion Bengals, Montana threw nothing but short passes, no big strike, no fireworks, and no mistakes. No matter who you are, no matter how good an athlete you are, we're creatures of habit, says Wayne Gretzky, hockey's leading scorer and four-time Stanley Cup winner. The better your habits are, the better you'll be in pressure situations. I think I said that. I think I said that about 10 minutes ago. When I said, under pressure, you react reflexively. And so although these great people that you see have these unbelievable geniuses in creativity, what they really are, are great at the fundamentals and they grind and they hit more golf balls than everybody else. They throw more passes, they watch more game film, they make more contacts in business, they talk to more people, they see more people.

• 21:58Ed Mylett?

  And that number one rule gave me the permission and the habit of I've got to become self-disciplined if I'm going to be a dominator, and these are habits and rituals and routines. Everybody on the PGA Tour could hit golf balls. There's nothing special about that. It's who hit the most with the most intention, with the most focus. Tiger Woods did, and that's why Tiger Woods became Tiger Woods and everybody else became everybody else. So if you want to become aspirational, level four, these self-discipline mindsets and thoughts in addition to the structural things I said earlier, are the keys. How good is this? By the way, thousands of times I've read Tiger's rules on domination. Number two, let the other guy get nervous.

• 22:40Ed Mylett?

  Gretzky and Woods have one more critical thing in common, an almost creepy ability to keep their cool. Believe it or not, the bigger the game, the calmer I got, said Gretzky. The dominators let the other guys flinch, the other guys get nervous, and that becomes a weapon on their behalf. I was comfortable because other people were nervous, says Yankee great Reggie Jackson, Mr. October, a title he earned with a startling spring of playoff runs, including the 1977 World Series in which he homered a record five times. Sooner or later, you're going to rush and you're going to make a mistake, and I'm not going to do that. That helps explain why Woods playing in a gentlemanly sport where the rivals directly can't affect each other's play has nonetheless become known for rattling his opponents.

• 23:25Ed Mylett?

  Being paired with Woods is akin to when the disciples tried to save their boat during a storm, only be distracted by the sight of Jesus walking on water. You're not only aware of his superior skills, you're also dealing with a whole new set of variables, such as bigger galleries, oohs and ahs, et cetera, et cetera. So, listen, guys, what about you? Your peers in your industry? Anybody getting nervous? Anybody worrying about you? Anybody up staying late at night thinking how they're going to compete against you? Do you get people under pressure to crack and flinch? Or are they not concerned about you at all? See, in business, not only did I want to have the hardest work ethic, but I wanted people to think, man, I gotta be in my eye game to beat this dude. I wanted the people around me that were on my team to want to rise up to the standard

• 24:09Ed Mylett?

  that I was setting at any given time. I want everybody else to get nervous and flinch, and under pressure, I was cool and calm. You remember this, self-discipline, one of the things that comes with it is in a sense of emotional control. You don't get too high and you don't get too low. See, self-disciplined people maintain emotional control. That's what they're saying in number two here. And I've learned that skill. I used to get very up and very down. Well, listen, when you're very up, your disciplines crack, right? And when you're very down, it's very difficult to be disciplined. But when you can stay somewhere in the middle, up and down, maybe 20, 25%, it allows you to stay self-disciplined in those moments. Number three, don't just dominate, intimidate.

• 24:52Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, Tiger has repeatedly said that intimidation isn't a part of his game, but that's once he's on the course. He's thinking about nothing but his own shot making. Sure, once he's on the course, but what about when he's getting dressed in the morning? I love this, by the way. It's no coincidence that Tiger often pulls out a blood red sweater on his Sunday charges, just as it wasn't by coincidence that Dale Earnhardt preferred dark sunglasses and drove a black and white stock car that looked like a 200 mile an hour pirate ship. Reggie Jackson during the 77 World Series was the last Yankee every day to take batting practice, just before the dog. Rogers took the field. He claims he didn't care if they noticed, but you could tell he was watching. Before one game, Reggie crushed about forty-five out of sixty balls over the fence.

• 25:35Ed Mylett?

  That night, he walked on four pitches in at first at bat and then hit three home runs. Bob Gibson, the ferocious pitcher from the St. Louis Cardinals, took intimidation a step further. He wouldn't even talk to guys on the other team, especially if they were hitters, says Gibson, who had a baffling 1.12 ERA. So here's what I'm saying here. This is what this means. You have to have the mindset that you are not going to think like everybody else, that you're going to think differently. And I'm letting you weigh on the inside here of self-discipline. This is deep, deep, deep, deep into it. But if you keep thinking like everybody else thinks, right? You're not going to be great. And I know this stuff isn't always pretty to hear, but I'm going to tell you right now, this is what winning is. These

• 26:20Ed Mylett?

  are the little subtle thoughts that when you're, hey, good to see you, good to see you. But in your mind, you're like, they ain't getting to me. They don't have to play it at this level. They don't know this game. These are all the things. You start doing all this stuff, plus what I said in the very beginning, eliminating the distractions, scheduling the right things. You gotta be kidding me. Moving needle activities next, the big stuff, starting with simple practices that build self-confidence and build momentum. How about number four? This is huge, guys. Have a sense of the historic. You hear that? Do you have a sense of the historic, that what you're doing is something great? I tell my family since we were, they were little kids, say, the Mylett are going to do something awesome. The Mylett are going to do something, we're going to do something psycho as a family. We're going to do something

• 27:04Ed Mylett?

  incredible. In business, I tell my colleagues, we're going to do something so amazing, you guys aren't going to believe when we get there. We're doing something awesome. This is a team of destiny. This is a company of destiny. The Mylett, a family of destiny. You have a sense of the historic. This gives you a context to want to be self-disciplined. Does that make sense? Why be self-disciplined if it's never going to mean anything? That's the problem. One of the reasons we're not self-disciplined, it's never going to mean anything. Who cares? No one's going to notice. It's no big deal. What I do doesn't matter. It does matter. It's just your dad gum life. It's just the story of you. It's just your family name. It's just your reputation. It's just what they're going to talk about when you're gone is doing something historic. So whether that means you're going to win a World Series or a Masters Golf Tournament,

• 27:49Ed Mylett?

  or just be the one in your family and change your family forever. You've got to have this sense that you're making history. Because by the way, you are. You're making some type of history. If you're a faith-based person, you know someday you're going to account for this. It's going to be a history of your life. And even if you're not, you've got to believe somewhere along the road, there's some record of your existence. So you're making history, so you might as well have a sense of it. And when you have a sense that that history is going to be great, instead of average and ordinary, you begin to automatically become compelled to be self-disciplined. If you lack self-discipline, it's there's nothing compelling you to have it, other than wanting it. But if you have a sense of the historic, that's totally different.

• 28:33Ed Mylett?

  So he says this. "Do you have to be, have to big, win the big ones to be a dominator? It's a subject of eternal debate amongst sports fans, but it shouldn't be. Tiger is the proof. He's at the head of a heavenly crew of athletes, not because he's won five of his past six tournaments, but because he's won five of his past six major tournaments. Every athlete says he wants to win major championships, but Tiger doesn't just want those moments of glory. Listen to this. He has an innate sense that he can't be a legend without them. In our lives, there's going to be a bunch of every single day meetings, every single day encounters with people. And they seem inconsequential. But when you have self-discipline in these meetings

• 29:15Ed Mylett?

  and in these encounters with people, in your relationships, in business, in the gym, whatever it might be, on an everyday basis, every once in a while...

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  There's gonna be a big one show up and you're ready for it when it happens because it's your habit. It's because it's your discipline. But when you aren't day to day prepared, here's the truth in life. When you're doing something historic or when it's a big meeting, most times you won't know it until years later. But if you look back at your life right now, the person you're married to is probably a chance meeting. Right? Or something you weren't even sure was going to be significant to me. The business you're in, the company you work for, probably you weren't even planning on working there or even being in that business. See, our dreams often show up in life in packages that we don't picture, that we didn't dream of. And so it's that day to day staying ready and being ready until the important meeting comes.

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  The major appointment comes, the major relationship comes. I always say that you're one more meeting, one more decision, one more relationship, whatever it might be, one new emotion, one podcast away from changing your life. But the hook is you will never know when it's actually happening. Okay, you will not know when it's happening until it shows up. So you're not going to know when it's the big one. You'll only know after you've done it. Now, there are times in life you're like, this one really matters. You will not feel the pressure in this one really mattering when you've been great day to day and self disciplined all the way along the way. You've heard great athletes say it's just another game. It's not just another game, but the great ones can perform just like it's another game, just like it's another meeting, just like it's another appointment.

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  Whereas the average, ordinary, the ones that fail feel the pressure because they haven't been disciplined consistently throughout their life or their business or their fitness and they blow the big one. And in true, it's true in life, the difference between winning and losing is so small. It really is almost too scary to talk about. If I look back at my own life, the very few occasions and meetings that took the massive difference in my life. It is scary to think about had I not shown up and performed in that meeting. Or I had not done the right thing on that first date. It's amazing, even in your own life, isn't it? And so that's why day to day being ready, day to day, having self discipline, day to day, having these habits and the mindsets to go with them matter because you never know when it's coming.

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  And the fifth one, this is big. This is why a 52 year old is this fired up today talking to you. Ready? Never ever be satisfied. Never ever be satisfied. Most athletes work the hardest when they're trying to reach the top. So do most business people. Once they can get to that hundred thousand dollars, they worked hard. Once they get to that million dollars, they've worked as hard as they can work. The great ones work even harder after they get to the hundred thousand, harder after they get to the million, harder after they're famous, harder after they've got a big following, harder after they get that promotion. They work harder in their loving relationships after they've got the one that's the one. But most people work hardest to get them. And once they have them, they don't work as hard to keep them or to grow it.

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  The great ones work even harder after they get what they want, who they want. Wouldn't you love to be in a relationship with somebody who works so hard to get you? And then, once they got you, worked even harder the rest of your life to keep loving you? Wouldn't you love in business, someone who had a goal to get to a million dollars or a hundred thousand dollars? And when they got there, they worked even harder. But we all know in life, that's not true for most people. But the great ones, the dominators, the goats, the self-disciplined people, they work even harder when they get there. So, most athletes work the hardest when they're trying to reach the top. But Tiger has seemed only more committed to improving his game since leaving the competition in the dust. Woods won his first Masters by the largest margin in history in 1997.

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  But he knew that he wouldn't reach Jack Nicklaus' mark of six green jackets without a jolt of his game. So he spent the next 18 months literally retooling his thunderous swing. And it goes on to give you more and more examples about that. Talks about Michael Jordan in here and compares him to Michael Jordan. But I want you to think about that in your own life, those of you listening to it. How hard did you work when you were totally broke? And now that you're not, do you have that same hunger and work ethic? How hard did you work to lose that first 20 pounds to get in pretty good shape? But are you working even harder now to get the ultimate health and vitality in your life? How hard did you work to get your spouse or your girlfriend or your boyfriend in your life? Are you working even harder now to love them more?

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  Because that's what the dominators do. That's what self-discipline is. And so, these five steps of the Tiger rules. By the way, they wrote this article in 2001. They didn't know who Tiger Woods was going to turn out to be. Turns out that this is like, literally for me, almost like a business bible in some sense. Because all of these things prove to build the greatest golfer of all time, or at least one of the two. And I watched this man in his sports life, not in every area of his life, but in his sports life. Implement these five things over and over again. And that's how he's come back from car accidents and unbelievable situations and still won the Masters a few years ago on basically one leg, won a US Open on a broken leg. It's incredible. And these are the people we look at and go, they're so self-disciplined.

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  They're so amazing. Maybe you think that when you're listening to me sometimes. And now you know, naturally, I'm not. But I do have some steps and some strategies that I've shared with you today. Technical steps, that's the science. And then there's the art and the art is the mindset. The art is the thinking. So today I've tried to give you the best of both worlds. The science of self-discipline and the art form, which is the mindset. And I hope that it's inspired you to make some of these changes today and to share this with as many people as you can. I really feel good about what we covered today. In fact, I want people that I love, I want my kids to hear this. I want people that I know that want to win in life to hear this today because I know that it could really be transformative to so many of you. So thank you so much, everybody. God bless you. Max out. This is the Ed Mileage Show.