166: Life Updates, Parenting, and Social Media Detox with Stef Bare

In this episode, Stef and I sit down for a real conversation about our family, faith, routine, and the season we’re currently in right now. We reflect on the chaos and gift of parenting, why we’ve chosen to disconnect from social media on weekends, and how that decision is reshaping our presence, priorities, and creativity. It’s as honest of a look that we can give at what we’re building behind the scenes and the values guiding where we go next. CHAPTERS: 00:00 Intro 01:00 The Catch Up 02:06 Weekend Social Media Fast 07:42 Creativity and AI Fears 15:20 Homeschooling and Time Back 22:54 Morning Routine Overview 25:03 Night Before Prep 30:32 Early Wake and Workouts 37:24 Baby Three? 45:36 Fitness Reset 54:11 Our Current Faith/Life Direction 01:03:42 Vision for Stef's Studio 01:16:36 Parenting Season Reflections ORDER MY BOOK HERE: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Go-One-More-Intentional-Life-Changing/dp/1637746210 FOLLOW: Become a BPN member FOR FREE - Unlock 25% off FOR LIFE ⁠ https://www.bareperformancenutrition.com/collections/performance-nutrition IG: ⁠instagram.com/nickbarefitness/⁠ YT: ⁠youtube.com/@nickbarefitness This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal [health or profession] advice. Bare Performance Nutrition (BPN) is not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice. This podcast may not be republished without the written consent of Bare Performance Nutrition (BPN)

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• 0:00Nick Bare?

  We're not sharing this stuff to say that we haven't figured out.

• 0:03Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 0:04Nick Bare?

  And that life is all like rainbows and butterflies and peaceful and calm. No, our house is chaos.

• 0:13Speaker 01

  Oh, there was tears at six fifty two this morning.

• 0:16Nick Bare?

  And like this past weekend, we had the most epic meltdown ever trying to go into Home Depot. Like, we didn't even make it through the parking lot into Home Depot. We had to turn around.

• 0:27Speaker 01

  Go home.

• 0:28Nick Bare?

  There's a meltdown over which shopping cart we are taking. So Charlie was losing it and then Nico was losing it.

• 0:35Speaker 01

  He was scared of his sister.

• 0:37Nick Bare?

  So we threw everyone in their car seats and we drove home.

• 0:39Speaker 01

  Yeah, so by no means, but we make it. I think the important thing is that we make the effort to try to get it as peaceful and fulfilling as possible. But is that always the case? I would say it's fifty fifty.

• 0:59Nick Bare?

  Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to another episode of the podcast. Today we have my wife, Steph Bear.

• 1:06Speaker 01

  I'm back.

• 1:07Nick Bare?

  Welcome back.

• 1:08Speaker 01

  I checked the last one. It was November. So.

• 1:12Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 1:12Speaker 01

  A while.

• 1:13Nick Bare?

  It was probably during Iron Man prep. It wasn't after Iron Man prep.

• 1:20Speaker 01

  You are right. Yep.

• 1:21Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 1:22Speaker 01

  Lots has happened.

• 1:23Nick Bare?

  It's crazy. I mean, I was just thinking about this on my run this morning. That was, the Iron Man was four months ago.

• 1:32Speaker 01

  Feels like it's been longer, honestly.

• 1:34Nick Bare?

  But when you're in it, like when I was in the prep, those eighteen weeks felt like a long time.

• 1:41Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:42Nick Bare?

  And then it's over and then life just happens so quickly.

• 1:46Speaker 01

  Yeah. I mean, I was thinking about it. The school year for Charlie is done in a month and a half. That's weird.

• 1:54Nick Bare?

  This is year one of her going to school?

• 1:55Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:57Nick Bare?

  I almost would have said it was year two.

• 1:59Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 2:01Nick Bare?

  All right. So lots of things we want to discuss and cover today. The first thing. I put up a poll on my Instagram a few days ago.

• 2:13Speaker 01

  Mm hmm.

• 2:14Nick Bare?

  We had a rough outline of what we wanted to talk about in this conversation today. But I was just curious what other people wanted to hear about. And there was a lot of the same questions and responses. People have been really interested in this social media weekend fast that we've been doing probably for a month now.

• 2:38Speaker 01

  Yeah, about a month. I would say over a month.

• 2:41Nick Bare?

  Maybe six weeks.

• 2:42Speaker 01

  I think I would have been doing it a little bit longer than you because I'm the one that crashed out about it. And then you joined me about a month ago.

• 2:47Nick Bare?

  So people are really curious.

• 2:49Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 2:50Nick Bare?

  I would say that this has been one of the greatest things.

• 2:55Speaker 01

  Well, let's talk about what is it? What do we do?

• 2:56Nick Bare?

  That at least I, maybe we have done.

• 2:58Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 2:59Nick Bare?

  So essentially, the way my phone is set up, and you take a different approach to it.

• 3:05Speaker 01

  I do. I take the addict approach.

• 3:09Nick Bare?

  I have an app on my phone called App Block.

• 3:13Speaker 01

  I have that too for weekday stuff.

• 3:15Nick Bare?

  And you can set schedules of when certain apps are able to be accessed and certain apps aren't able to be accessed. And there's also a strict mode on it, which is another layer of security.

• 3:28Speaker 01

  Never tapped into that.

• 3:29Nick Bare?

  I use the strict mode. I have to use a strict mode.

• 3:31Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 3:31Nick Bare?

  So I can't get into these apps. So mine turns on every Friday night.

• 3:39Speaker 01

  Turns, oh, your strict mode turns on.

• 3:40Nick Bare?

  My strict mode turns on Friday night and then it turns off Monday morning. So I can't access any of my social media apps. YouTube, Instagram, TikTok, which I really never get on or use, Facebook, my podcast analytics, any social media platforms I can't access. I will say, not having access to YouTube.

• 4:06Speaker 01

  Oh, I was gonna say recipes is hard sometimes.

• 4:10Nick Bare?

  It is hard.

• 4:10Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 4:10Nick Bare?

  But not having access to YouTube on the weekends is tough if I'm trying to fix something.

• 4:15Speaker 01

  Okay, yeah.

• 4:16Nick Bare?

  Like this weekend, I was trying to fix the blinds, our outdoor shades, and I could not watch these tutorial videos. So I was reading articles, but with that being said, can't access my social media from Friday night until Monday morning. No access, nothing. And I love it. What's your approach?

• 4:38Speaker 01

  Well, I really only, I'm only on Instagram. I don't have a Facebook anymore that I operate. Never had TikTok.

• 4:46Nick Bare?

  I don't know if anyone uses Facebook that's under the age of forty five.

• 4:49Speaker 01

  Yeah, but you have one and it's still annoying, whatever.

• 4:52Nick Bare?

  Yeah, true.

• 4:54Speaker 01

  And YouTube, I feel like I don't really use that much. So I, I only block Instagram, but I delete the app off my phone. Because I didn't know about the strict mode, though. That probably would be enough for me. But, I mean, that's how, I mean, we've been using Instagram for work and for life for over a decade. So it just becomes a part of your life. And we just had a lot of conversations lately, how we don't like that it's such a part of our life. So I have to delete it off my phone. So like out of sight, out of mind. And it has been so great.

• 5:29Nick Bare?

  It's been great.

• 5:29Speaker 01

  Yeah. I, yeah, I feel like I've learned a lot. And you really get a look at how much you reach for it.

• 5:39Nick Bare?

  Mm hmm.

• 5:40Speaker 01

  Naturally, for things that you don't need to.

• 5:43Nick Bare?

  The first like two weekends that we started incorporating this, I was still going towards my phone out of just habit.

• 5:51Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 5:52Nick Bare?

  Picking it up, trying to open the app.

• 5:54Speaker 01

  Your fingers know where it is.

• 5:55Nick Bare?

  Yeah, it's, it's scary.

• 5:56Speaker 01

  It's sad, yeah.

• 5:57Nick Bare?

  First two weekends, I was still trying to break these old habits. Now, I don't even think about it on the weekends.

• 6:04Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 6:04Nick Bare?

  I look forward to Friday night when all those apps get shut off.

• 6:09Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 6:09Nick Bare?

  And I don't think about it until Monday morning.

• 6:13Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 6:13Nick Bare?

  And really, the only reason I'm going into these apps is for work.

• 6:17Speaker 01

  Mm hmm.

• 6:18Nick Bare?

  It's a big part of my job.

• 6:19Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 6:20Nick Bare?

  If it wasn't a big part of my job, I would delete these apps and platforms forever, for eternity.

• 6:26Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah, like we've said, I think you, I don't know if you even need the fast because I feel like you just do that naturally. You don't want to be on it. I, and we'll admit this, it's not a pretty thing. Like, I want to be on it. Like, I like being connected to people. I like checking in on, you know, the few influencers that I am inspired by and stuff like that. Um, like, I, I like it, but I have realized that it can be a poison to your life. So I feel like you don't have really an unhealthy relationship with consuming especially. You have to create. That's a huge part of your job. For me, I've been in and out of seasons where creating is my job, so to speak. But I, um, I, I, I do enjoy it, but I have found myself, because I don't block interest.

• 7:11Speaker 01

  And I'm like, okay, I need a fun activity for Charlie. Um, garden inspiration, like, I'll still go for inspiration. And I know you and I have talked, we've had a lot, I had a crash out a couple of weeks ago about social media. And we could talk more about that later. Just a lot of conviction has been placed on my heart about social media. Um, in the lane of my creativity and authenticity to who I am. So the weekend break has been very refreshing. And yeah, by Sunday, you kind of forget about it.

• 7:42Nick Bare?

  Let's actually talk about that now.

• 7:44Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 7:46Nick Bare?

  Because I think with social media and especially the developments in AI, we as a population, as people, are becoming less creative.

• 8:00Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 8:01Nick Bare?

  And we're constantly needing inspiration to do things. We're not as resourceful as we used to be. We're not learning on our own. We're going to chat GPT.

• 8:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 8:17Nick Bare?

  Or going to social media, Instagram, for like all the answers. Let's see what this person did, and then I'll do what to solve this one problem.

• 8:24Nick Bare?

  And my fear is that younger generations, our children, are not going to be resourceful, adaptable. They're gonna lose that learning ability and edge.

• 8:39Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 8:39Nick Bare?

  Because all the answers are at our fingertips.

• 8:42Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 8:43Nick Bare?

  So what was your conviction?

• 8:45Speaker 01

  I, it's been this like dull conviction for years, really, since we've had kids. That's when it really started. I had no conviction about social media or really bad thoughts about it until we had kids, which I think is a very natural thing.

• 9:00Speaker 01

  Your life is completely different. Your priorities, your focus is totally different when you have kids. So social media just really becomes this thing that you're like, I can't believe I'm spending actual time on this that I could be spending with my kids. And I've just had this dull conviction. And then, I don't know, about a month ago, I've just been thinking a lot and maybe it's the Lord just trying to redirect me. But um, it's a mix of being a mother

• 9:29Speaker 01

  and giving social media any time at all. It just feels wrong right now to me. Like, I feel like every opportunity I get to with my kids when they're this little, I told you I saw something, or read something, I can't remember. They call these years the two percent. This is only two percent of your, of your life and your kids' life when they're this little and they constantly need you and want to snuggle you. And it goes by so quick. I don't want to waste the two percent on social media. But more so with creativity, I really had a lot of deep thought and reflection. I feel like growing up, if you ask my parents or a lot of my friends, like, how did you describe me? One of the same words everybody used was creative. I was just a very creative mind.

• 10:12Speaker 01

  I loved to write. I was a writer. I loved to create. I was always in like leadership positions in school and in my sorority. And back then, you know, I graduated college in 2014. I think Instagram just came out right around like my senior year or something. So there was Facebook, yeah, but we didn't use it the way people use it now. But

• 10:34Nick Bare?

  Thank God.

• 10:34Speaker 01

  I know. But I was, looking back at those years, I was so sharp and creative and I would put on events and

• 10:47Speaker 01

  Just in these roles that I was in, I feel like I was just so idea driven. And looking back, I didn't have social media to give me any ideas or any inspiration. Like, it's cool because back then I look and I'm like, that was just the way I was made. That was coming from me, the depths of my soul, or what God gave me.

• 11:04Nick Bare?

  Authentic, real, genuine.

• 11:06Speaker 01

  Couldn't be duplicated, original. And I feel like as the years have gone by and I've been, you know,

• 11:14Speaker 01

  filling my mind and my heart with podcasts and books and people's Instagram stories. I don't even really know who they are. I feel like, I think I described it to you, is I feel like my creativity muscles have been paralyzed. And what's been replaced by that muscle is social media. And I just had this moment a few weeks ago where I was like, I was very, very deep. I was like, when I talk, are these even my own thoughts? Or is this just a curation of everything I listen to and read? And that scared me a little bit because I'm like, well, who am I? Like, what do I think? What do I believe? What do I want to create? What ideas are mine? And that's when I was just like, okay, I have to change some things.

• 11:58Speaker 01

  Because I don't want to be like everybody else. And I've had my ups and downs with social in my career, you know? I've been in so many lanes of influencer and social. And I sometimes just feel like I'm contributing to the noise. Like, am I just doing what everybody else is doing because I think it's working? And, um, I don't know, I've just had some really deep thoughts about it. And I remember the week after I kind of really dug into this. It was my garden week where I just got to be outside and I like took a trip to Michael's with Charlie. And I'm like, okay, no outside ideas or inspiration. I just want to like be and try to tap into that part of me that used to be so strong.

• 12:42Speaker 01

  Um, so I'm still on a journey with that. But again, like it's deep that all of that can come from just thinking about social media. But that's where my head's been at with it lately.

• 12:52Nick Bare?

  There's definitely pros and benefits of being on social media.

• 12:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 12:57Nick Bare?

  But I think it's really easy to

• 13:01Nick Bare?

  glance over all the negatives.

• 13:06Nick Bare?

  And justify being on these platforms.

• 13:09Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 13:10Nick Bare?

  For the small amount of pros and benefits.

• 13:12Speaker 01

  Yeah, I just sorry to interrupt, but I just fear like what you said about AI and I feel like I'm not even really in that world because I don't really have a use to use AI other than like looking up an illness I think I have.

• 13:25Nick Bare?

  Oh, that's that's real.

• 13:27Speaker 01

  Or

• 13:28Nick Bare?

  That's real.

• 13:29Speaker 01

  Or like how to arrange my garden like that necessarily isn't creative, right? It's like it's a use a resource for me, but I do fear that like we aren't going to have brilliant people anymore in the world. Because everyone's just using this crutch. That social media and AI is and that scares me. It's like I want our kids to be original and have that I just feel like it's changing our brain chemistry.

• 13:53Nick Bare?

  We have to rage against the machine.

• 13:57Nick Bare?

  I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

• 13:59Speaker 01

  The band?

• 14:00Nick Bare?

  No, but like the whole concept of

• 14:04Speaker 01

  I know.

• 14:05Nick Bare?

  There's this machine in this system.

• 14:07Speaker 01

  Oh, I've never thought about the band name that way.

• 14:09Nick Bare?

  Yep. Pioneers.

• 14:11Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 14:12Nick Bare?

  There's this machine, there's this system that is building.

• 14:15Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 14:17Nick Bare?

  Do not conform to the patterns of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

• 14:24Speaker 01

  Put that on the homepage of chat GPT.

• 14:27Nick Bare?

  Amen. So I was listening to a podcast this week.

• 14:32Speaker 01

  Which one?

• 14:34Nick Bare?

  So when I when I come back from my run in the morning.

• 14:38Nick Bare?

  If I'm listening to a podcast like this morning, my run, I just listened to worship music, the whole run. It was great.

• 14:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 14:45Nick Bare?

  But if I'm listening to a podcast, I'll typically come back from my run. You're getting up, coming into the kitchen and I'm brain dumping.

• 14:53Nick Bare?

  How I'm going to save the world.

• 14:55Speaker 01

  When I've been awake for four minutes.

• 14:57Nick Bare?

  And change our life based off this one episode.

• 14:59Speaker 01

  Yeah, I love it.

• 15:00Nick Bare?

  But the episode I was listening to this past week, I've been really.

• 15:05Nick Bare?

  Interested in Sean Ryan's podcast the last couple of weeks.

• 15:10Speaker 01

  Which do you remember when we saw him? That was who we saw, right?

• 15:13Nick Bare?

  Yeah, we did see him.

• 15:13Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 15:14Nick Bare?

  In Franklin, Tennessee.

• 15:16Speaker 01

  Yeah, we did, yeah. I didn't know who that was, but now, yeah, it's my world.

• 15:20Nick Bare?

  So it was episode 188 titled, Why Parents Are Ditching Public Schools For Homeschooling. Now, this is kind of a small pivot off of the social media fast that we're talking about, but similar to, uh, this is all about this business and education system platform called Classical Conversations, which is a global homeschooling program rooted in classical Christian education. It was a great episode. But one of the things that the founders, the co-founders of Classical Conversation said, two interesting facts.

• 15:59Nick Bare?

  One, homeschooling gives you 16,000 hours back with your kids.

• 16:08Speaker 01

  K through 12, I'm assuming.

• 16:09Nick Bare?

  Yes, 16,000 hours. If you homeschool your kids, you get 16,000 hours back with your kids because they're not in school.

• 16:17Speaker 01

  Crazy.

• 16:18Nick Bare?

  Now, we go back and forth, at least I go back and forth. Do we send our kids to private school or do we homeschool?

• 16:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 16:27Nick Bare?

  I'm like still on the fence. I'm still trying to figure it out.

• 16:30Speaker 01

  Yeah, I don't want to homeschool.

• 16:32Nick Bare?

  I know, I know how you feel about it. But this was a quote from this episode.

• 16:36Speaker 01

  But the 16,000 hours, that's eye opening.

• 16:38Nick Bare?

  Yeah, it is. This was a quote from that episode. You're never going to look back on your life on your deathbed and be like, God, I wish I could just check Instagram one more time. But a lot of people are gonna be on their deathbed looking back on their life saying, man, I wish that I would have spent a little bit more time with my kids and a little bit less time at the office, on social media, on distractions. That's what social media. If used incorrectly and unresponsibly is a distraction. A distraction rooted and created by the enemy to pull us away from the most meaningful relationships and experiences and memories of life.

• 17:22Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah, I think it's created by the enemy.

• 17:27Nick Bare?

  For sure.

• 17:30Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm still navigating it. I definitely am changing the way I use it. And for me, I have developed a lot of anxiousness around being consistent on that platform in a career sense, you know, or creator sense. I feel this guilt and not shame, but no one's putting pressure on me. Like, no one probably knows that I haven't even been on it and I'm not posting or creating anything. You know, that's the thing. But when you were doing it for so long, and this is the grip that it has on our lives, like I've heard you say this too. Like, you feel like you have to pop in every now and then to just like show up and be like,

• 18:13Speaker 01

  hey, still here, still relevant, still creating, I'm still good at this, all the things. I have no need to do that. I have no need to do that. I'm a mom and a wife first. That's what I'm really trying to focus on right now in this season. And it's just given me this anxiousness about you're not being consistent enough. Like, you go hard for a year and then you disappear. You go hard for two months with recipes and then you disappear. Like, that makes you just a flake. And that really gets in my head. So I think I'm just better off without it, honestly. I've talked with you and a mentor I have, and we've talked about doing just to start like a full 30 day, totally off fast, which I still want to do. I do. I don't know what it looks like for me in the future, but right now it just doesn't feel important to me.

• 18:59Nick Bare?

  One of the biggest realizations I have come Monday morning, after we haven't been on social media the last couple of days, is that we haven't missed anything.

• 19:08Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 19:09Nick Bare?

  You don't miss.

• 19:09Speaker 01

  Although I did miss someone that I really, really love, their baby's birth. But she did text me, but still.

• 19:18Nick Bare?

  But guess what?

• 19:18Speaker 01

  I know.

• 19:19Nick Bare?

  You can text her Monday.

• 19:20Speaker 01

  I know, you're right, you're right.

• 19:22Nick Bare?

  It's like, we had this fear that we're missing out.

• 19:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 19:27Nick Bare?

  But the reality is, when we're, we're spending all this time on social media.

• 19:30Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 19:31Nick Bare?

  We're missing out on what actually matters. It's like living our life. When I'm on social media, it is because I'm creating and I have a responsibility and obligation to keep a pulse.

• 19:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 19:43Nick Bare?

  On certain things.

• 19:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 19:44Nick Bare?

  In the industry, in my business, within the community. If I wasn't a creator, I would delete all my social media tomorrow.

• 19:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, I believe, yeah, I believe you. Yeah.

• 19:55Nick Bare?

  It would be so freeing.

• 19:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 19:57Nick Bare?

  And I would go back to a dumb phone and I'd move us somewhere where we could buy a farm and live on the land. And I would teach our kids.

• 20:10Speaker 01

  How to milk a cow.

• 20:11Nick Bare?

  How to be like, all these life skills.

• 20:14Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's a real thing.

• 20:19Nick Bare?

  I'll get there one day.

• 20:20Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 20:21Nick Bare?

  For sure.

• 20:22Speaker 01

  I think, I, I feel like, and then we can wrap the subject up because, you know, it is what it is. But I do feel like in the last couple of months, I don't know if God's given me this new lens of how to look at it. But, and this is nothing, I know that, here's the thing, social media has given so many families and people lives that they could never imagine or achieve otherwise, right? Just with being a creator and, and being in that space. I, I think it's amazing. It's changed people's lives. And some people are just so good at it and being authentic, but I feel like I have a hard time being authentic on it. But I feel authentic because I just, I know how curated it is. And I feel like God has given me this lens where everyone was sitting here, like, if you scroll through your phone, let's say like you're a

• 21:07Speaker 01

  33 year old mom like me, I follow a lot of other moms just for inspiration to feel, you know, not alone, all the things, just in camaraderie with other moms. And I'll see, you know, certain influencers and I'll see these videos and it's like, I used to see it. I was like, oh, this is so sweet. She's filming her morning, you know, like stay at home mom with timestamps, 5 a.m. to 10 a.m. And it's like, I watch it and I'm like, this is amazing. Like, how sweet. How real. But over the last couple of months, and this is not to dog anybody, but now what I see, because I've been on that side of it, is, okay, so this mom woke up, she had to get out of bed, set up a tripod, get back into bed to fake waking up, then get back, take the phone off the tripod, move the tripod,

• 21:52Speaker 01

  get the lighting right, fix her hair so she looks acceptable for social media, uh, wake up her kids, set up a tripod. Like, that's what I see now. But I watch those. And I don't, I don't think people realize that's what goes into it.

• 22:05Nick Bare?

  Mm-hmm.

• 22:06Speaker 01

  And again, that's given some people some amazing lives in financial situations, but it's just not a life that I feel drawn to. I don't want my kids to think of their mom and think of their mom with a tripod or, you know, asking them to repeat something cute they did because it would be good for the video. Because I've been there and it feels icky to me. And I think it feels icky to me personally because that's not what God has for me. I think a lot of people can handle it a lot better than I could, but I can't.

• 22:35Nick Bare?

  I mean, it's, it's a great self-awareness and realization.

• 22:39Speaker 01

  I'm trying.

• 22:39Nick Bare?

  Yeah, I mean, it's like, super powerful and, uh, the conviction is probably put on your heart for

• 22:45Speaker 01

  For a reason.

• 22:45Nick Bare?

  For a reason.

• 22:46Speaker 01

  Yeah, and everybody will feel that.

• 22:47Nick Bare?

  Mm-hmm.

• 22:48Speaker 01

  But I do, so I'm just leaning into that.

• 22:50Nick Bare?

  Yeah, I think that's, that's awesome. That's great. Next thing I want to talk about, our morning routine.

• 22:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 22:58Nick Bare?

  Again, a lot of the questions that came in through this Instagram question box was how we balance our own personal fitness and health and raising children and work and just all these things in life. Like, right now, we have a pretty dialed morning routine.

• 23:19Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:19Nick Bare?

  So I think we should, we should share that because our goal with our morning routine is that we both get our workouts in.

• 23:26Speaker 01

  Most days for me, yeah.

• 23:27Nick Bare?

  Most days, we, you know, get a good meal in.

• 23:32Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:33Nick Bare?

  We spend time with our kids.

• 23:34Speaker 01

  Bible time.

• 23:35Nick Bare?

  Bible time. It's not rushed. Ideally, it's still chaotic.

• 23:41Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:41Nick Bare?

  The mornings are still absolute chaos. And I want to preface the rest of this conversation and episode with like, we're not sharing this stuff to say that we have it figured out.

• 23:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:53Nick Bare?

  And that life is all like rainbows and butterflies and peaceful and calm. No, our house is chaos.

• 24:02Speaker 01

  Oh, there was tears at six fifty two this morning.

• 24:06Nick Bare?

  And like this past weekend, we had the most epic meltdown ever trying to go into Home Depot. Like, we didn't even make it through the parking lot into Home Depot. We had to turn around.

• 24:17Speaker 01

  Go home.

• 24:17Nick Bare?

  There's a meltdown over which shopping cart we are taking. So Charlie was losing it and then Nico was losing it.

• 24:25Speaker 01

  He was scared of his sister.

• 24:26Nick Bare?

  So we threw everyone in their car seats and we drove home.

• 24:29Speaker 01

  Yeah, so by no means, but we make it. I think the important thing is that we make the effort to try to get it as peaceful and fulfilling as possible. But is that always the case? I would say it's fifty fifty.

• 24:43Nick Bare?

  Yeah, there's a lot of meltdowns.

• 24:44Speaker 01

  Yeah, but when it goes right, it's a great morning. So you start because you wake up before us.

• 24:50Nick Bare?

  All right, so my alarm goes off between four thirty and five AM.

• 24:58Nick Bare?

  There's really not much rhyme or rhythm. It's like, how rested do I feel the day before?

• 25:02Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 25:02Nick Bare?

  If I feel rested.

• 25:04Speaker 01

  We've been, well, let's start the night before, though, truly. I feel that's kind of really important about the morning because we've been going to bed earlier.

• 25:09Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 25:10Speaker 01

  And cut out a lot of stuff.

• 25:12Nick Bare?

  I mean, I would love to go to bed even earlier, but.

• 25:15Speaker 01

  When I come in that room at eight forty five and you already have your sleep mask on, I'm like, you slap that thing back on your face? And I'm like, we are talking.

• 25:23Nick Bare?

  Yeah, so evening thirteen, after we get both kids down, which is anywhere from.

• 25:31Nick Bare?

  Seven forty-five to

• 25:32Speaker 01

  Eight thirty.

• 25:33Nick Bare?

  Eight thirty, getting both kids down asleep. We rotate.

• 25:38Speaker 01

  We do, yeah.

• 25:38Nick Bare?

  So like Monday, for example, which was yesterday, I put Charlie down, you put Nico down.

• 25:44Speaker 01

  Every other night, yeah.

• 25:45Nick Bare?

  And then tonight you'll put Charlie down, I'll put Nico down.

• 25:47Speaker 01

  Because it's more, it's long-winded, putting our toddler down, or I guess they're both toddlers now, but our three and a half year old, that's a longer process. So we give each other breaks every other night.

• 25:57Nick Bare?

  Yeah, Nico gets thrown in this crib and it's like,

• 25:59Speaker 01

  You do that.

• 26:00Nick Bare?

  You're gonna put yourself down.

• 26:01Speaker 01

  I do not do that, but you do, but whatever. He's resilient.

• 26:05Nick Bare?

  Yeah, making the boy resilient. So once we get the kids down,

• 26:11Nick Bare?

  we, we had, we preheat the sauna after dinner. So after the kids go down, we both go out in the backyard and we sauna for fifteen to twenty minutes. And then come in the house, shower.

• 26:26Speaker 01

  Make lunches.

• 26:27Nick Bare?

  Make lunches for the next day.

• 26:28Speaker 01

  Have snack.

• 26:29Nick Bare?

  I prep my food, we prep Charlie's lunch if she's going to school the next day. And then we both typically have a snack. Like my go-to snack right now before bed is I do one of those two percent Foye Greek yogurts, the individual cups.

• 26:45Speaker 01

  Oh, I know.

• 26:47Nick Bare?

  I go through, it's like crazy. Then I add cacao nibs, organic cacao nibs on top, maple syrup, honey. Sometimes if my fat was low for the day, I'll add some peanut butter on there. And then sometimes on top of it, I'll either have an avocado with

• 27:04Speaker 01

  Everything but the bagel.

• 27:05Nick Bare?

  Sea salt or everything but the bagel seasoning.

• 27:08Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 27:09Nick Bare?

  I've been transitioning away from everything but the bagel seasoning because of what it does to my breath before going to bed.

• 27:14Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yep, thank you for that.

• 27:16Nick Bare?

  Or if I, you know, ran more that day or I had a bigger on the next day, I'll have a piece of sourdough.

• 27:22Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 27:23Nick Bare?

  With some butter and flaky sea salt on top. I look forward to that meal, that snack every night. What's your go-to?

• 27:33Speaker 01

  I don't always have a snack.

• 27:35Nick Bare?

  Oh, you should share the, um, the cookie dough.

• 27:37Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah, that's, that's this gal that I love. Her name's Alex Truffers. It's her recipe. Protein cookie dough. It's just oat flour. It's, it's equal ratios. It's very easy to remember. Two tablespoons oat flour, two tablespoons PB2, two tablespoons monk fruit sweetener, which is like a powdery, like stevia type thing. Skip a protein powder, sea salt, and then you just add water until it gets to like a thick cookie dough. You know, consistency and then you add some chocolate chips. Put it in the fridge or freezer for like thirty minutes and that is like, I mean, you've tried it.

• 28:12Nick Bare?

  It's good.

• 28:13Speaker 01

  It is so good and it's got like thirty grams of protein. So I always, if I am having a snack, it's like a high protein sweet treat. I don't crave, you know, the savory stuff you do at night, but.

• 28:26Nick Bare?

  Alacado and Greek yogurt. It's my go to. So then after that snack, I make my way into bed.

• 28:35Nick Bare?

  Which is typically, I'm typically in bed before you and we have an eight sleep on our bed, which cools our mattress down to a certain temperature. And then I'll, I'll read until I get tired, typically read my Bible. And then I'll throw my eye mask on.

• 28:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 28:54Nick Bare?

  And I rack out.

• 28:55Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 28:56Nick Bare?

  What about you?

• 28:57Speaker 01

  Oh, I shower, sauna, I shower.

• 29:01Nick Bare?

  Sometimes I don't shower after the sauna. I'll jump in the pool, I'll rinse off and then get into bed.

• 29:05Speaker 01

  I did not know that. So now I'll be a stickler on that with you. It's disgusting. Um, I, yeah, I just shower and then I do my skincare routine. And then I come in and you have your sleep mask on. That's when I'll still try to talk to you through the sleep mask.

• 29:23Nick Bare?

  That's my biggest pet peeve. So I'm trying to sleep and you're, I don't even take my sleep mask off.

• 29:28Speaker 01

  I know. It's quite annoying. There's been a couple of times where I'm like, give me your eyes. Um, and then I, what do I do? I keep my phone in the bathroom overnight, which is great. I love that. I haven't, so I don't scroll at night in bed. I've been doing that for a while. And then I, what else do I do? Oh, I have these, I've been doing this since Charlie's been born. It was a gift that was given to me and I got it for myself again with Nico. I have these two little books. They're called one, one line a day books. We're getting, really getting into the details here.

• 29:52Nick Bare?

  It's okay.

• 29:54Speaker 01

  I have these two little books for each kid, one for each kid, that I write just one line a day about that kid. Um, just like a funny thing they did and it's really fun too, cause like I'll read to you like, oh, three years ago Charlie did this and like brings you right back to that moment. And I've done it every single day for each kid, which is really cool. So I do that and then I sometimes put on my red light mask and then I go to bed.

• 30:15Nick Bare?

  Alright, so we, we set the conditions. We try to be asleep.

• 30:20Speaker 01

  I like nine thirty.

• 30:21Nick Bare?

  By nine thirty.

• 30:22Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 30:23Nick Bare?

  The other night I was absolutely tanked. I was in bed by like eight forty-five.

• 30:26Speaker 01

  Well, we've had some rough sleep nights with the kids, but yeah.

• 30:29Nick Bare?

  Yeah, it's past week, we didn't, past weekend, we didn't sleep much with the kids. So ideally in bed by nine thirty. Next morning, my alarm goes off between four thirty, five AM. I go out in the kitchen, I slug a skeeple G one M sport, a skeeple G one M sport plus. And then I go and sit in front of the red light in our closet for fifteen minutes, butt naked. I'm just standing there naked in front of the red light.

• 30:55Speaker 01

  Unnecessary detail.

• 30:57Nick Bare?

  Guy get that red light all over me. And then from there, I go out in the garage, throw my running shoes on, go for my run. And then as I'm coming back, it's typically between six fifteen and six thirty, you're waking up.

• 31:11Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yep, so I, I would say it's changed a little bit. Since I've changed my workouts a little bit, they're a little bit longer than they used to be. So I would say like three days a week, I try to work out first thing in the morning in our garage. And I try to make those days, days Charlie does not have school because getting in a workout on a school morning can be rushed and no one does well with a rushed morning. Um, so if I'm working out in the morning, my alarm goes off at six and then I'll get up, get ready, go get, no, not get ready, but I'll get electrolytes in, all of that good stuff. Cup of decaf coffee, I've been holding caffeine until the afternoons for the last four months. It's been great. Sit in front of the red light, read my Bible.

• 31:56Speaker 01

  That's when you are either chilling or most days the kids are getting up and you get the kids up. And then I'll come out. Um, and that's when I, if I'm working out, I'll work out from like seven fifteen to eight.

• 32:09Speaker 01

  And then come in and then it's off to the races with getting Charlie ready for school, breakfast, all the things. But like today, I'm, you know, working out later today. Um, so I slept in a little bit and just had a slow morning with the kids. But I think for me, yeah, I, I like working out first thing in the morning, but I know it's not what's best for our family all the time. Um, so that's when I'll hold it, you know, like today I'm holding it. It was just a better morning because of that. But the only way I can do that though is we have a nanny that comes in at, she comes in at different times, but she helps us and she watches Nico while I'm working out here. Um, so, and I pick up Charlie from school. So that's a blessing to have. And we have help. We don't have family around

• 32:53Speaker 01

  to help us off the cuff. So we, you know, realize we were going to be out of state with kids. Like we gotta hire some good help and we have awesome help that's given us a lot of free time. But I feel like that's very important to be transparent about that. Um, that, you know, I'm able to sometimes push my workouts because I have help.

• 33:12Nick Bare?

  Yeah. So when I come back from my run and you are, you know, you've made your coffee, you're going back in the closet, the bedroom to red light.

• 33:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 33:24Nick Bare?

  Read your Bible. I'm making my breakfast, which I'm a creature of habit. So it's the same thing every day. Right now it's four dried figs, uh, 150 grams of blueberries, two duck eggs, three chicken eggs. Throw some flaky sea salt on top of there with some freshly shaved Parmesan cheese. Take my supplements, which is creatine, strong multi, strong omega, strong joints, endurance essentials, a probiotic. And then typically, I mean, this is like 90% of the time, the kids are then waking up at that point.

• 34:07Nick Bare?

  So I get Charlie up, get Nico up. As they're getting up and you're kind of just like running all over the house, you go out and hit your workout.

• 34:15Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 34:16Nick Bare?

  Come back and then we're all together.

• 34:17Speaker 01

  It's like a high five, switch.

• 34:19Nick Bare?

  Yep. For like the next part of the morning. I'm getting ready to go to work and then you take over with the kids.

• 34:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 34:25Nick Bare?

  So our morning routine right now is pretty dialed. There's definitely the rare occasion, like this past weekend, when Charlie woke up at like midnight.

• 34:38Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's when you know it's bad.

• 34:41Nick Bare?

  He woke up at midnight. I ended up going into her room, sleeping in her bed the whole night. I tried sneaking out.

• 34:48Speaker 01

  Because I went, you were out of town and I had a rough night the night before.

• 34:51Nick Bare?

  Yeah, so I, I, I tried sneaking out of the room in the early, uh, of the room earlier on. And like, she is such a light sleeper that I just cannot get out of the room. So that, that morning, like,

• 35:03Speaker 01

  What are you doing?

• 35:04Nick Bare?

  Went to crap. So it, it happens, but like, pretty consistently, that is our morning routine.

• 35:11Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 35:12Nick Bare?

  Monday through almost like Saturday or Sunday.

• 35:16Speaker 01

  Yeah, and I think it's, I think it's really important to note too, because I will, I'll get DMs or, I don't know, you know, people ask you, how do you guys both work out? Like, we can't fit it both in. Like, a lot of you moms have been like, how am I ever gonna work out? And a huge part of what works for us, and I'm super grateful for you in this sense, is you sacrifice sleep. And it's like, we had to kind of like take a look at who you and I are, and you operate a lot better.

• 35:47Speaker 01

  Or at least you just, you know, put on that way with littler sleep than I do.

• 35:50Nick Bare?

  I'm willing to consume more caffeine.

• 35:51Speaker 01

  Yeah, exactly. So you wake up at four thirty, which sucks. Like, I wouldn't want to do that. And that is a huge sacrifice that you make to make our mornings peaceful, and I'm really grateful for that. Um, so I, that's like my biggest pieces like of the device is, someone has to sacrifice something. Or you can switch, you know, but it's, that, that's why our mornings are, we're able to do those things. Because you wake up so early. If we were both waking up at six, we couldn't get our workouts in.

• 36:24Nick Bare?

  No.

• 36:24Speaker 01

  You're waking up an hour and a half before me.

• 36:27Nick Bare?

  I mean, I see that as a responsibility of.

• 36:33Nick Bare?

  The man of a household, though. Same about this on my run this past week. Like what it means to be a man. And certain characteristics and traits. Leader, warrior, and servant. And it's my job as the man of the house to serve our family.

• 36:52Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:52Nick Bare?

  And to sacrifice. And I don't say I had to to get like a pat on the back, but that's that's a man's job.

• 36:58Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:59Nick Bare?

  Is to be a servant to his wife and family and children. So it's just it's part of the responsibility.

• 37:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, you waking up at four thirty is absolutely serving me. Thanks, honey.

• 37:12Nick Bare?

  You're welcome. I look forward to the day, though, that.

• 37:15Speaker 01

  And that's the thing, too. It's a season, you know?

• 37:17Nick Bare?

  It's a season.

• 37:18Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's a season.

• 37:19Nick Bare?

  Yeah, but like, that routine sets us up for success.

• 37:23Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:24Nick Bare?

  And I think it's it's great that you did mention, like, we do have help.

• 37:27Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:27Nick Bare?

  We have a nanny who is extremely helpful. The the dream is that one day your mom and dad are living close to us.

• 37:37Speaker 01

  The dream, yeah.

• 37:38Nick Bare?

  And we have more support from family.

• 37:40Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:40Nick Bare?

  We both grew up really close to grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins. And like, we just don't have that.

• 37:49Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, and I we have so many friends here locally that have that. And I forget sometimes how big of a blessing and convenience that can be. You can go on a last minute date night. You can say yes to the last minute concert tickets because you have somebody that you can just be like, hey, grandma. And while we have, you know, awesome relationship with our nanny and we could do that, I don't like to do that to her because, you know, it's her job and there's boundaries and, you know, all that. So we know, we knew that we needed somebody to help us out with with no hands here at all. Because besides her, there's no hands. Other than other than us, truly. No one's ever watched our kids besides my mom or or her, so.

• 38:31Speaker 01

  I think that's really important to not hide that or give anybody false expectations. Like, we have help and it is used and appreciated.

• 38:41Nick Bare?

  Yeah, we're very fortunate and grateful.

• 38:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 38:44Nick Bare?

  To be able to hire help.

• 38:46Speaker 01

  Mm hmm.

• 38:47Nick Bare?

  Cause I know that a lot of people don't have that ability.

• 38:49Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. And she, it's great too. Like, it's flexible help too. Like, all the weeks where I'm like, I just wanna spend every morning with the kids. Like, you know, and sometimes weeks are busier, sometimes there's more projects or stuff going on. So we needed that trustworthy person, so.

• 39:07Nick Bare?

  All right, so I wanna get into your, your new current fitness routine.

• 39:11Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 39:11Nick Bare?

  But before we do, I think this will tee up that, um, approach. Baby number three. What's the plan for baby number three? We got two right now. We got.

• 39:24Speaker 01

  We do, yeah.

• 39:24Nick Bare?

  A three and a half year old daughter, one and a half year old son.

• 39:28Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 39:29Nick Bare?

  Which the, the dynamic between, or the contrasting difference between a boy and a girl, it's wild.

• 39:37Speaker 01

  I know.

• 39:37Nick Bare?

  Our son is crazy. I, I was thinking about this last night as I was changing him after the bath.

• 39:44Speaker 01

  When you were looking at his chipped tooth?

• 39:47Nick Bare?

  Boys, little boys.

• 39:49Speaker 01

  That tells you anything?

• 39:50Nick Bare?

  Are, and it's a raising of an animal.

• 39:53Speaker 01

  It is. A feral animal. And, but I, but here's the thing, we, I think we have it like double, we feel it double. Because I talk to people with firstborn sons and some are wild, but they're not that wild. We have a second born, which tends to be more wild, son, which tends to be more wild. So we're just double dipping in the chaos of a little boy.

• 40:17Nick Bare?

  Like Nico is currently trying to burn our house down. He's playing with the, the stove gas burners constantly.

• 40:28Nick Bare?

  The other day, we, we found him in the back of a cabinet in the laundry room.

• 40:34Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 40:34Nick Bare?

  He is, he's sprinting everywhere.

• 40:36Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 40:38Speaker 01

  He wants to go everywhere he can go.

• 40:43Nick Bare?

  He's, he's pure boy.

• 40:45Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 40:45Nick Bare?

  He gets jacked up over lawn mowers, trucks, tractors.

• 40:50Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's so cute. It's so sweet.

• 40:55Nick Bare?

  I was putting him down or getting him like dressed last night as you were getting Charlie dressed post-bath and after the bath, he gets all jacked up with energy. So I'm like putting his diaper on, putting his jammies on and I lift him up and he's all jacked up with energy and he just takes a bite out of my neck, like gripping my knee.

• 41:18Speaker 01

  Like Mike Tyson do.

• 41:19Nick Bare?

  He is so strong and aggressive at times.

• 41:23Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. He's, he's wild. He's just like constantly like.

• 41:29Nick Bare?

  So that being said, baby number three, I'm indifferent if we have a boy or girl. I've been like that with every kid so far. I'd be fine with all girls. I'd be fine with all boys. I really don't care what gender we have.

• 41:42Nick Bare?

  But the plan is that we're going to start trying for baby number three this spring.

• 41:48Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 41:48Nick Bare?

  Because you're trying to time it up with the.

• 41:52Speaker 01

  The time of year?

• 41:53Nick Bare?

  The time of year of giving birth.

• 41:54Speaker 01

  Yeah, but it also feels naive to say because it's like we've had two totally different journeys. We had a year-long situation trying for Charlie that ended in an I U I and then we got pregnant with Nico on the first try. So I have no idea what we're getting ourselves into as far as the journey goes. I've been trying to, you know, blood work, get all the things, make sure I'm healthy and ready. But yeah, I wanted a little bit bigger of an age gap this time because our kids are exactly two years apart and that's a, it's been a lot for sure. But yeah, we know we want a third, God willing. We have no idea what that's going to look like at all, but we're, we're ready for it to be a possibility

• 42:37Speaker 01

  soon. I'm excited. Although I keep telling you, whenever I like pray about our family, the Lord gives me the number four. So I don't know what that means, but I'm done with pregnancies after this one. I will tell you that because I don't enjoy it.

• 42:50Nick Bare?

  We've been told.

• 42:52Speaker 01

  It's hard.

• 42:52Nick Bare?

  Uh, by many people that we're going to have twins.

• 42:57Speaker 01

  Don't say it.

• 42:58Nick Bare?

  With this next birth.

• 42:59Speaker 01

  Yeah, we've had some weird, weird, like, I don't want to call it a prophecy, but like lots of different people tell us, oh, this next will, will, they'll be twins. I mean, hey, that would be four. That would, I can't even think about that.

• 43:16Nick Bare?

  I was initially.

• 43:20Nick Bare?

  Not necessarily against having a third, but I wasn't like, super excited about having a third.

• 43:25Speaker 01

  I don't think anybody is when you're in the trenches of a newborn. It's hard. Even I, right? Remember, I think in the delivery room, I was like, we're done. Family of four, bear party four.

• 43:35Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 43:35Speaker 01

  And then it just shifts. But then I got home and I immediately looking at Nico was like, we're not complete. But I needed you to come to that term on your own. I didn't want to push it on you or force it on you.

• 43:45Nick Bare?

  Yeah, I now want a huge family. I just want a chaotic, busy, messy, loud home.

• 43:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 43:53Nick Bare?

  And I think initially what held me back from that was that I thought, because everyone described to me, when you have two, it's man on man. When you go beyond two, now you're playing zone. Trying to manage all these kids running around the house.

• 44:12Nick Bare?

  But in reflection, I think what was holding me back from wanting a third selfishly is that I thought it would take away from my own personal and professional wants, desires, ambitions.

• 44:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 44:25Nick Bare?

  And that was such a selfish way to think about it.

• 44:28Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 44:29Nick Bare?

  And I just want an abundance of blessings.

• 44:33Speaker 01

  I know, I know.

• 44:36Speaker 01

  I think, I think I'm done with pregnancies after this one. I'm getting old. We'll see, we'll see. But yeah, we're on the same page. I'm excited. Charlie has been very vocal about it having to be a girl. And I think we will have one of those like viral video situations at a gender reveal. If it is a boy, she will melt down.

• 44:56Nick Bare?

  Yeah, you're probably right.

• 44:58Speaker 01

  She wants, she's telling it. I mean, yesterday at dance, her dance teacher's like, she's talking about her baby sister. I'm like, I'm not pregnant. I'm like, but she's just out there telling everybody.

• 45:08Nick Bare?

  Charlie lives the most imaginary life, which I love.

• 45:12Speaker 01

  Yeah, she doesn't exist in reality much, but it's really sweet and cute to watch.

• 45:19Nick Bare?

  So baby three, baby number three, potentially coming.

• 45:23Speaker 01

  Okay, this is like so weird, like you're announcing it and it hasn't happened.

• 45:29Nick Bare?

  We're gonna start trying.

• 45:30Speaker 01

  Just so everybody knows.

• 45:32Nick Bare?

  In the spring of 2026.

• 45:34Speaker 01

  Oh my gosh.

• 45:36Nick Bare?

  Which leads into your current fitness routine.

• 45:39Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 45:40Nick Bare?

  You've made some big changes to.

• 45:41Speaker 01

  This year.

• 45:42Nick Bare?

  Your training, your diet, you're tracking macros the first time in forever.

• 45:46Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 45:47Nick Bare?

  So what sparked this change? What have you been seeing? What are you hoping to achieve through all of this?

• 45:54Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 45:54Nick Bare?

  Before you get pregnant again?

• 45:56Speaker 01

  Yeah, before you're pregnant me again and make me large. Um, yeah, I, I don't know. I spent the last year, it was after, was it after Nico? Yeah, after Nico, I kind of just, once I, you know, was feeling stronger and ready to jump back into workouts. I just fell back into all my old type of workouts, you know, a mix of strength, HIIT, some like Metcony, high Roxy stuff, and it just did not feel good on my body. This was like a year, year and a half ago. So I spent all last year, like all of 2025, I totally shifted how I worked out and I incorporated a lot more Pilates, um, lower weight, higher reps, kind of like a three, two, one method, three strength days, two Pilates, one cardio. And I really liked it.

• 46:40Speaker 01

  It was quicker workouts. It was just, it was very mom doable. Um, but then, so I did that for about a year. And then, so that year was up pretty much at the beginning of this year, you know, a few months ago. And it kind of was like, you know, I just feel like I, I don't feel as strong as I used to. And I don't know, I just, I felt like, I felt like I lost some muscle. And, um, but I got a DEXA scan. It turns out I really didn't, but I don't know. I just, I was ready for something new and I really hadn't taken fitness and nutrition. I always take it seriously because it's just part of who we are, but I never really.

• 47:23Nick Bare?

  It's the foundation of our life.

• 47:24Speaker 01

  Yeah, but I don't think I would say I was like.

• 47:26Nick Bare?

  One of the foundations.

• 47:27Speaker 01

  Dialed and goal chasing.

• 47:30Speaker 01

  In such a long time, like really, I've never really been like a goal chaser with fitness and health. I just always wanted to feel good, look good, be healthy. So I thought, okay, well, we're gonna get pregnant, you know, later this year, God willing. Why don't I just try to really get in like the best shape of my life before this next pregnancy, you know, head into it strong. So, who I mentioned earlier, Alex Truffers, she's this like amazing, just fierce, strong mom. She's out in California and we just have kids the same age. I saw she hired a coach and I was like super inspired by her. So I literally stole her coach and I'm like, hey, I think, I've never hired a coach, I've never hired a coach for anything.

• 48:15Speaker 01

  And I know that whenever you are in a serious goal setting season of your life, you, most of the time, like you hire a coach or you have someone helping you, or at least in your earlier years, like, you know, in endurance. So I hired a coach to help me with macros and programming my workouts. So it's just back to strictly strength. And while, all the workouts feel very familiar, because it's all movements and exercises I've done, it's very different. Like he has me, they're a lot longer and they're very repetitive and it's progressive overload. And I definitely see changes when I apply that to my workouts and it's really exciting. And then as far as macros go, I haven't counted macros in probably eight years. I honestly have had a bad relationship with it. So I've totally

• 49:00Speaker 01

  gotten past that and just had a great relationship with food for the past decade. But I was like, okay, this might be a good tool to see where I'm at. And it taught me a lot. Like I remember the first couple of days I was doing it, I was like, dang, I was probably way overeating fat and

• 49:18Nick Bare?

  As most people are.

• 49:19Speaker 01

  under eating protein. Protein was always a priority, but I think I kind of just like thought, oh, if I hit 30 grams of protein every meal, it's good, but not really. That's 90 grams of protein, you know, on a good day. And probably always watching carbs a little bit, but. He kinda had me in this like reverse diet. So we started low, which sucked, but now I'm eating over 2,000 calories a day. I'm not gaining weight. I feel great in the gym. I have energy. I can tell I'm gaining muscle, lean mass. So it's been really fun to see. Now I'm counting, you know, looser and I still, you know, when we're out to eat, I still enjoy a cocktail and indulge, you know, once a week or so. But I think it's been good for me to have a goal and take it a little bit more seriously. Uh, it's definitely not sustainable at all, but it's made me feel good.

• 50:04Nick Bare?

  I mean, can be sustainable with, cause you're pretty flexible with it.

• 50:08Speaker 01

  I mean, not the, I, yeah, I think, I don't wanna be tracking. That part's not sustainable for me. And like a slave to MyFitnessPal. Like I don't, it was just a really good tool in the beginning.

• 50:19Nick Bare?

  Yeah. It builds a, a level of awareness. Like even me, every once in a while, I still go back and track my current diet in MyFitnessPal just to, to know. I, I know how much protein I'm consuming.

• 50:34Speaker 01

  That was, that was the shocker for me.

• 50:36Nick Bare?

  But sometimes I'm like, am I consuming enough carbs? Am I consuming enough or too much fat?

• 50:42Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 50:42Nick Bare?

  So I'll go back every once in a while as I change my diet up.

• 50:46Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 50:46Nick Bare?

  Just to track, to have that level of awareness. But it's not more than once every couple of months.

• 50:53Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm. It's taught me that it just takes so much intention and you have to be so detail oriented if you wanna see true change in your body. Because I've been happy with the way I've looked since we've had kids. I've, I've worked hard. You could look at me and say, oh, she's, she's fit. But if I really wanna see like muscle gain and composition changes, that, that's in the details. Like that's from, that, like, I'll give you an example. Like I would for breakfast have oats with a scoop of protein powder in it, right? 25 grams of protein, call it. But now I'm like, okay, like, well, I realized at the end of the day when I was short protein, now I'm adding. Hundred grams of egg whites to my oatmeal.

• 51:38Speaker 01

  And like those little changes, like I just, it's just those little things that those things will stick with me for sure.

• 51:44Nick Bare?

  Hundred grams of egg whites on top of the protein.

• 51:47Speaker 01

  I put it in my oatmeal.

• 51:48Nick Bare?

  Yeah, with the protein.

• 51:49Speaker 01

  With the protein, yeah. So then it turns into like, so now for breakfast, if I'm under fifty grams for breakfast, I feel like I'm behind.

• 51:55Nick Bare?

  Right.

• 51:55Speaker 01

  But I never, like I'm having double the amount and I'm seeing change. So that is, um, it's just an eye opener. And that's why I feel like macro tracking can be a really resourceful tool, if you want to take it seriously and see change.

• 52:10Nick Bare?

  What changes are you seeing, like body composition and workouts wise?

• 52:14Speaker 01

  Uh, I just more muscle and I just feel better, honestly. I feel a lot better. My muscles feel better, my joints feel better. We talk about it all the time, like muscle gain and protein intake is the key to longevity and health.

• 52:29Nick Bare?

  Absolutely.

• 52:30Speaker 01

  I think especially if you are a female over the age of thirty, um, Dr. Gabrielle Lyon, right? She's like the protein gal that I always, she's great, a great resource. I love listening to her, but she's really stressed the importance to me of like, how important it is to strength train and be mindful with your protein as you get older. Even my mom, like my mom's consuming over a hundred grams now a day and she's like, I feel great. She's like, my hair, my skin, everything, everything's better. Cause I'm having, I'm being conscious of how much protein I'm getting.

• 53:02Nick Bare?

  It's really cool to see your mom adopt some of these.

• 53:06Speaker 01

  Oh, my gosh, yeah.

• 53:07Nick Bare?

  Practices and principles that we incorporate into our life.

• 53:09Speaker 01

  All of them.

• 53:10Nick Bare?

  Like creatine.

• 53:11Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 53:11Nick Bare?

  My mom's taking creatine now.

• 53:12Speaker 01

  She's working out. She's like living her best life.

• 53:15Nick Bare?

  Yeah, it's cool to see, especially like post-retirement.

• 53:18Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 53:18Nick Bare?

  The changes she's making to her life.

• 53:20Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's awesome.

• 53:23Nick Bare?

  People might ask the question, well, why doesn't Nick just program your workouts and macros? What's your response to that?

• 53:31Speaker 01

  Um, I don't know. I, I think it's just sometimes better if you just don't hire your husband. The guy I'm working with, his name is Andrew Taylor. He's awesome. It's all virtual. He specializes in females. You could absolutely do it, but I just think, I don't know.

• 53:46Nick Bare?

  I think that separation is like based off our relationship.

• 53:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 53:51Nick Bare?

  It's healthier that I don't program your nutrition and your training.

• 53:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 53:57Nick Bare?

  Like that is your thing on your own. I just think for us, knowing each other in our relationship,

• 54:04Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 54:05Nick Bare?

  It's a healthy boundary.

• 54:06Speaker 01

  It is.

• 54:07Nick Bare?

  That we in place.

• 54:08Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's, that's exactly it.

• 54:11Nick Bare?

  All right, so moving on to some different things, we've kind of touched on this a little bit. But how is God leading us individually and collectively in this current season of life?

• 54:28Speaker 01

  Where do you want to start?

• 54:30Nick Bare?

  I'll kind of start.

• 54:31Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 54:31Nick Bare?

  From.

• 54:31Speaker 01

  From you.

• 54:32Nick Bare?

  From my end.

• 54:32Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 54:34Nick Bare?

  And you were briefly discussing this last night before I put my eye mask on to go to sleep.

• 54:39Speaker 01

  Before you shut me out.

• 54:40Nick Bare?

  Yes. Collectively, I think God is leading us to be servants.

• 54:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 54:52Nick Bare?

  To steward our, our bodies, our minds, our money to serve. Others.

• 54:58Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 54:59Nick Bare?

  And it's extremely rewarding and fulfilling. You know, we spend a lot of time in prayer and

• 55:07Nick Bare?

  asking and listening to God and and really trying to be obedient to where he is calling us to. And not try to white knuckle and control and manipulate our lives to where we want to go.

• 55:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 55:25Nick Bare?

  But to listen to him, to serve him, to serve others.

• 55:30Nick Bare?

  And we've talked about this before, but that puts you on a very adventurous path of life.

• 55:34Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 55:35Nick Bare?

  So I feel like we are both being called collectively to serve one another, serve our family, but then serve others as well.

• 55:42Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 55:44Nick Bare?

  For me individually, I really feel like

• 55:50Nick Bare?

  and I'm still, I'm still praying and listening to God about this. And one of the things I'm, I'm learning and I've learned these, these past couple of months is it's really easy to think you hear from God and there are signs that pop up, direct you in, in one way or the other.

• 56:12Nick Bare?

  But oftentimes you're, you're creating those signs yourself.

• 56:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:16Nick Bare?

  You're looking for things outside of God's will to direct you to where you want to go.

• 56:23Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:23Nick Bare?

  Not where God wants you to go.

• 56:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:26Nick Bare?

  So I'm trying to be really patient.

• 56:29Nick Bare?

  In my prayer and listening and talking and building a relationship with God, for him to lead me to where he wants me to go next.

• 56:37Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:38Nick Bare?

  But what keeps coming to me time and time again in prayer and just like other aspects of my life is

• 56:47Nick Bare?

  leading men.

• 56:48Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:49Nick Bare?

  I think the world is trying to deconstruct men.

• 56:54Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:54Nick Bare?

  The enemy is trying to deconstruct the man. And I feel like I'm being called to build men back up physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. So I'm just, I'm sitting in that in my prayer time recently. But I feel like that's where I'm being called to. And God is leading me to. But I'm not making any attempt or action right now. I'm waiting for the right time and I'll know when it's the right time.

• 57:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 57:24Nick Bare?

  But I feel like God is just, he's working on me and building me right now in preparation for this next chapter of my life.

• 57:32Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. And I see the obedience through you all so much lately in servanthood, whether it's being a servant, being a husband, to your employees, to our kids. That's a huge change I've seen with you.

• 57:51Speaker 01

  Absolutely. But I think you're doing it right. That's awesome.

• 57:55Nick Bare?

  Where do you think God is leading you individually right now?

• 57:58Speaker 01

  Kind of just what I talked about earlier, just with all the conviction placed in my heart with social media and how I've been living my life and how I've viewed the balance of motherhood and wanting to still have your own identity and work and do that. I feel like right now God is just kind of, he's, he's given me a lot over the past few months. But he's given me a lot for the future, I feel like. But what he's, I think in him doing that right now, he's giving me rest. Disciple your children. Spend your energy on your children, the people you love, serve.

• 58:40Speaker 01

  Be still, be slow. You don't need to be grinding right now in these years. That's what I feel. And while that sounds like a piece of cake, it sounds great. It's difficult when you have a personality type like mine because I tend to like to achieve and strive and perform. So I'm really trying to lean into that and just live a quieter, simpler life. And I feel like, he's brought me a lot of questions for myself during this time on that whole subject. Like when I really had like some deep dive in prayer with social media and creating and working and all the things, I heard him, you know, kind of,

• 59:25Speaker 01

  one question that came to me was,

• 59:30Speaker 01

  but if you poured everything that you've poured into social media into your kids? And I was like, oh. And not even just like the time I spend curating recipes and filming, like consuming and watching other people live their lives. Like what if all that time I spent? Kind of like the homeschool thing, like what hours would you get back? That question was laid on my heart. And then another one was, what if every time? Cause one thing that I find over the weekends when we fast is I actually, since we've been fasting, I take less photos, which I don't like because I do like taking photos because I love to have them for our family out of town. For us, like photos are beautiful. But I've been taking less photos because we've been so much more present, which is a beautiful thing.

• 1:00:14Speaker 01

  But what the first few weekends we, you know, did this? If the, if our, one of our kids was doing something cute? Or I made something really good to eat? Or I got something from Amazon that the kids love? It's like I have this like

• 1:00:31Speaker 01

  knee jerk reaction to take out my phone and capture it and share it. And I don't like that. So another question that was laid on my heart was, what if every time you felt the urge to share? You just sat

• 1:00:45Speaker 01

  in gratitude and like thanked me for it? And I was like, oh, man. Okay. So lots of really deep, convicting, hard questions laid on my heart, but they're leading to good places.

• 1:00:55Nick Bare?

  That's great.

• 1:00:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:00:58Nick Bare?

  You know, I was in, uh, in Georgia this past week. Visiting Chad Wright and I was on Chad's podcast, which I love Chad. Chad's one of my favorite people. He, uh, every time I spend time with Chad, he truly fills my cup.

• 1:01:13Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's why this trip was like you needed to go.

• 1:01:15Nick Bare?

  I needed it for sure. I don't travel much at all for work or podcasts or anything.

• 1:01:21Speaker 01

  And that's probably very surprising to a lot of people too. You were home 99% of your life.

• 1:01:27Nick Bare?

  Yeah, I don't, I don't travel much.

• 1:01:29Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:01:30Nick Bare?

  At all. Um, but I knew when Chad asked me to come on the podcast, I know this will fill my cup and I'll just, I'll learn a lot.

• 1:01:38Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:01:38Nick Bare?

  Uh, from Chad. And one of the things I was sharing on the podcast with him was a few months ago, you know, after I was radically saved.

• 1:01:49Nick Bare?

  Being a follower of Christ took over every part of me, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. And I, I couldn't talk about anything without, uh, sharing the gospel.

• 1:02:01Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:02:01Nick Bare?

  And how the Lord transformed me.

• 1:02:06Nick Bare?

  But in my prayer, over these last couple of months, I mean, I heard God tell me, you know, for your, your entire life, or at least the last decade plus of your life, you've shared every part of your life with the world.

• 1:02:24Nick Bare?

  Building a business, these fitness preps, getting married, being a dad, children, being a leader, all of these things. You've shared everything with everyone.

• 1:02:34Nick Bare?

  I want you to focus on our relationship right now. Me and, me and God's. And that's why like, I haven't been, I haven't been sharing as much of anything on social recently.

• 1:02:48Speaker 01

  I would say nothing.

• 1:02:50Nick Bare?

  But even.

• 1:02:51Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:02:52Nick Bare?

  You know, my, my relationship with, with Christ.

• 1:02:56Nick Bare?

  I'm focused now on building that intimate, personal relationship with him. As opposed to feeling like I have to share what I'm experiencing online on these platforms that I've built.

• 1:03:12Nick Bare?

  That was like a really powerful realization these last couple of months.

• 1:03:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:03:16Nick Bare?

  It was very clear in my paradigm.

• 1:03:19Speaker 01

  Yeah, similar. It seems like he's kind of working on us both in similar ways, but definitely catered to each person because we have different challenges and obligations and all that.

• 1:03:31Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:33Speaker 01

  Share less, just be present, be grateful.

• 1:03:36Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:03:38Nick Bare?

  Be as present as possible.

• 1:03:42Nick Bare?

  All right, let's talk about.

• 1:03:45Nick Bare?

  This is, you know, coming off of what God has put on your heart.

• 1:03:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:03:51Nick Bare?

  But your, your spin studio. Now, don't say the name of it.

• 1:03:56Speaker 01

  I won't.

• 1:03:56Nick Bare?

  Because we haven't.

• 1:03:58Speaker 01

  I won't.

• 1:03:59Nick Bare?

  Filed the appropriate paperwork and trademarked this.

• 1:04:01Speaker 01

  I won't.

• 1:04:01Nick Bare?

  So don't say the name of it, but. What's going on with this spin studio?

• 1:04:08Speaker 01

  Crazy. How crazy has this all been?

• 1:04:10Nick Bare?

  It's been wild.

• 1:04:11Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:04:12Nick Bare?

  I think the craziest part for me has been the fact that you have these notes in your phone. And you had a name of an instructor and you can get to that eventually, but that's been for me was like, oh, wow.

• 1:04:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:04:25Nick Bare?

  This is real.

• 1:04:26Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. So background on spin and I, I, after college, before I met you, right as I was meeting you, I was a spin instructor in Nashville. Spin was never my first love in fitness. I wanted to be like a bootcamp instructor. Kind of got thrown into spin because the studio that I was teaching at needed an instructor. But the way I was trained, it was not the spin that I love now. It was totally different. But when I moved here to be with you, I went to a SoulCycle class and this is when I was like, I'm done teaching. I just want to be a rider. And that was my first experience with that type of spin. So I was used to like RPMs, watts.

• 1:05:10Speaker 01

  If you're a Peloton rider or a cycle bar rider, it's more like that, numbers based, performance based. SoulCycle is this.

• 1:05:18Speaker 01

  I don't even know how to describe it. It is a immersive experience, a musical experience. You ride to the beat. There are no numbers. It is just about you and the music and the people riding with you. And you ride in sync with each other. I was a previous dancer. I feel like a lot of previous dancers and people with musical backgrounds really get it. Because it's like you either get this type of riding or you don't. Because you have to really be in sync with the rhythm. It's a beautiful thing. Like if you love music, chances are you love SoulCycle.

• 1:05:48Nick Bare?

  I've been to a SoulCycle class with you before.

• 1:05:50Speaker 01

  Chris Chandler's, yeah, it was amazing.

• 1:05:52Nick Bare?

  Kicked my butt.

• 1:05:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, I love it. So I've been riding that way for 10 years. Haven't taught. There was a little blip in Nashville when we lived there. Remember? When I was like, is God calling me to be an instructor again? And then I got pregnant with Nico and I'm like, guess not. Okay. So it's been on and off my heart, but never. My shoes are hung up. I don't, I don't want to teach and I don't feel the Lord calling me to do that. But I've just, something, Spin has always done something to me. And that musical experience has just given me a feeling. I feel close to God. I feel the most like myself. It is just like, probably how you feel when you're running.

• 1:06:29Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 1:06:30Speaker 01

  That's how I would probably try to describe it. But no plans of studio. Like, we haven't talked about Spin at all. It's just like a part, I ride on Saturdays in our garage, that's it. But if I'm in New York, we'll take a class. So this was in October and it was, I don't know, almost a little over a year postpartum. I was just in one of those motherhood ruts where I was like, what am I doing? I don't feel like myself. Should I be working? What should I be doing? And that morning in prayer, I've never prayed this prayer before. I don't know why I did. I prayed that morning on this random day in October. Lord, can you just give me something creative? I don't, I don't even know what I'm asking for, but I want to feel creative. I want to work towards something. I want you to use me.

• 1:07:17Speaker 01

  And that was my specific prayer. Few hours later, I was on a walk with both kids. And walks are usually, ironically, very peaceful. Like, they both like walks.

• 1:07:27Nick Bare?

  If they have snacks.

• 1:07:28Speaker 01

  If they have snacks. And I'm walking both of them. I remember the street that I was on. This has never happened to me before. I've heard from God. I feel like I can be in tune with his voice, but I've never gotten a vision before. And I was not in prayer. I was not asking for this. I was just walking the kids. And it's like a, it was like an eight-minute movie that played in my head. And I literally feel like I was walking. I'm like, well, I don't even know what I was, if I was, the kids were asking me something. I don't even know where I was. It was just this vision in my head. There was a spin studio. He told me where it was. He told me the name of it. He gave me the logo. He gave me what it looked like. He said, he told me that this is a worship-based spin studio.

• 1:08:12Speaker 01

  And there was this vision of these, it's just like this beautiful studio. And I had this vision of these two girls sitting on a bench outside of the studio, and this girl was getting saved on the bench. Like, it was just this, it was beautiful, so detailed. Like, God was, that's how cool God is. It was so detailed. It was so detailed. And what I struggle with, and you know this, when I have an idea, I can never name anything. It takes me eight years to come up with a children's book name. I can't name anything for the life of me. And the fact that he, like, the first thing he did was give me the name. So I got home, and I remember I pulled into our driveway, and I called you, and I told you about it. And you're like, wow, cool, okay. And I came in, and I just, like, put everything down in the notes app in my phone, because I didn't want to forget anything.

• 1:08:56Speaker 01

  And, yeah, he gave me this, like, he gave me the name, a female name. I don't know what that meant. And, long story short, whatever, that name, like, did tap into this whole process, which is through a person, which is crazy.

• 1:09:10Nick Bare?

  As, like, a potential instructor.

• 1:09:11Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah. Um, so, but that was it, though. I'm like, okay, cool. And I'm like, what do I do with this? Like, I am not in a season right now, like, and I don't know how to start a business. Like, this is, this is hard. I don't know anything about this. So we, we talked, and I'm like, okay, this, maybe, well, this is when our kids are in school, and I'm in my 40s and whatever. This doesn't seem like the right time. So we kind of just tabled it. And then it's just been on my heart so much. And as I've had this conviction with this like virtual life that we've, you know, lived on social media, I've just felt God being like, giving me like a local, like in-person ministry.

• 1:09:55Speaker 01

  And that to me, sounds like heaven. Like that's all I want. Like I don't want to be on my phone talking to people. I want to be like hugging people and touching people in person.

• 1:10:06Speaker 01

  So we kind of just like left it, but one thing you did recommend, and you connected me with Michael.

• 1:10:12Nick Bare?

  Yeah, Michael Malley, Brute Creative.

• 1:10:14Speaker 01

  Yep. And he's like, hey, why don't you, since you have all these details, you telling me this, why don't you just like hire a agency to kind of like lay out your branding kit? And just get it all visually down. So even if we don't do this for years, you have it. So it's fresh. Great idea. So did that. The best experience working with them. They're also Christian based. And they, it's like, almost like God put it on their hearts too. Like it was crazy. Like seeing the logo in the, in my head. And then now seeing it like on a computer and I have this whole branding kit. And the values and the mission statement and what merch could look like and the colors and it's just

• 1:10:56Speaker 01

  so, it's exactly what it was. It's exactly what it was. So now I have this branding kit and I'm like, well, what do I do with it? Like it feels weird to have this thing you sit on, but like I just am not feeling called to do it right now.

• 1:11:07Nick Bare?

  You'll, you'll know when the time is right.

• 1:11:09Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:10Nick Bare?

  And when the time is right, then you can put it into action.

• 1:11:13Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:14Nick Bare?

  But I think there's a, there's so many people get like this calling and this vision, they just sit on it. You still have to take action.

• 1:11:22Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:22Nick Bare?

  To bring it to life. And we'll start laying the foundation. Let's, let's get the branding kit done. Let's get logos. Let's, let's start looking into like, what is all this going to cost?

• 1:11:32Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:32Nick Bare?

  Let's build, let's build out a budget and a, a business plan and

• 1:11:38Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:39Nick Bare?

  You know, that's where I can lean in and support and help.

• 1:11:42Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:43Nick Bare?

  Uh, and then when the time is right, you press go.

• 1:11:46Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah. I felt these little like mini. Nudges from God, like a couple of weeks ago, I put on my Instagram story like for me, like the hardest part is like, I need to find like, I am, I'm trying to run a worship based spin studio. It's not gonna be start to finish playlist of only Christian music, like, but we just want a place where whether you're Christian or not, like, everybody's welcomed. It's a safe space. It's, it's clean music, like, the whole one of, oh, gosh, I can't say it because the name, but I just want it to give you the feeling that, you know, maybe church gives you. Like, I just want it to be this place of worship and community and just a place where people can feel really, really close to God. And honestly, like,

• 1:12:31Speaker 01

  music can do that. And it does it for me. I know it does it for you, too. Like, music is so powerful and it's such a gift from God. So, yeah, I put on my story a couple of weeks ago, because I'm like, I need to find an instructor. Like, how niche is this? Like, I can't, how am I gonna find an instructor? And I just like, put it out there and I've been connected with this amazing girl. And it's just like, the people that he's put in my life, just to even like, bounce ideas off of and just be truly, like, it sounds crazy. But people that are like, this isn't crazy, this is amazing. So that's my prayer right now. Because like, again, like, it's not happening anytime soon, but I do feel like these little nudges sometimes, to make little moves to keep it, you know, top of mind. And my prayer is just that the right people come into this, that can help me and

• 1:13:15Speaker 01

  help me build this, because I don't want to teach. I feel like I have the vision and I want to be the person that gives people the space, because God gave it to me. But it's so crazy, because of all the ideas I've had, and we've had so many conversations. And like, you are protective husband, and you're like, do you know how hard this is gonna be? Is this the right phase of life for this? Like, and I'm like, I don't know. I know how hard it is. Like, I'm, I'm not being naive. This is crazy. But there's been this peace around it. There's been no doubt, because it doesn't feel like it's mine. If that makes sense.

• 1:13:48Nick Bare?

  Makes sense.

• 1:13:49Speaker 01

  Like, I feel like I didn't come up with it.

• 1:13:52Speaker 01

  I'm just executing it. So there's a certain piece around it.

• 1:13:55Nick Bare?

  Yeah, you're definitely the visionary and I'm coming in as the integrator to make sure like.

• 1:14:01Speaker 01

  Only if it's on your heart. Cause we've talked about that. Like, I don't want you involved in this if God's not placing it on your heart too.

• 1:14:07Nick Bare?

  Yeah, I'm gonna come in and be the. Hey, this makes sense. This doesn't make sense, which I think you need that person in.

• 1:14:15Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:14:16Nick Bare?

  This type of pursuit of if and when it launches or comes to life. But I think it's needed in the world right now because so many businesses and brands and companies and fitness. Gyms and studios and clubs start with great values and beliefs.

• 1:14:36Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:14:36Nick Bare?

  And then they conform to the patterns of the world.

• 1:14:43Nick Bare?

  And it becomes a toxic, negative thing to be something for everyone.

• 1:14:49Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:14:50Nick Bare?

  And if you are trying to be something for everyone, you are nothing for anyone. And that's what makes this vision, this idea and this concept and.

• 1:15:00Nick Bare?

  This studio different is that it stands for something. It has values. It has beliefs. It's a house built on a rock as opposed to sand.

• 1:15:08Speaker 01

  Yeah, I love that.

• 1:15:09Nick Bare?

  Powerful.

• 1:15:10Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:15:12Speaker 01

  Yeah, it just feels, it feels really special. And like I kind of mentioned earlier, I feel like God gave me this in this season, like. Cause he's not like build the studio now, right? But I feel like he's given me this to be like, hey, I have this mission for you. And when the time is right, I will tell you and I will give you the resources and I'll give you the people and I'll give you the building. But right now I gave that to you. So take that as a gift and enjoy the season you're in right now.

• 1:15:38Nick Bare?

  Yeah. And it's probably also testing your patience.

• 1:15:41Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:15:42Nick Bare?

  Because historically, you know, you've had these ideas and you.

• 1:15:47Nick Bare?

  You jump on it right away.

• 1:15:48Speaker 01

  I do, yeah, I do.

• 1:15:48Nick Bare?

  We're both very impulsive people.

• 1:15:49Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah.

• 1:15:50Nick Bare?

  Naturally, we are both. I'm very impulsive. And that's something I'm learning, learning in the season two is to be patient.

• 1:15:55Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:15:56Nick Bare?

  Where I used to have ideas. And then tomorrow, it was started.

• 1:16:01Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:16:02Nick Bare?

  And we're learning now, like, you can have these visions and you can be guided in ways, but it's not necessarily meaning that you have to start right now.

• 1:16:14Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:16:14Nick Bare?

  Sit, sit in it, sit with it and, and be patient.

• 1:16:18Speaker 01

  Yeah, feels like a gift that was given to me for sure. So, thank you for giving me the space to talk about it. Hey, you never know who's listening. You want to be a part of this? Hit me up. It's gonna be awesome.

• 1:16:29Nick Bare?

  Send Steph a DM and say, you want to spin? Spin for God.

• 1:16:36Nick Bare?

  All right, well, we shared some really good stuff today.

• 1:16:38Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:16:39Nick Bare?

  There's a lot of amazing things happening in our life right now. We're learning a lot in this season.

• 1:16:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:16:47Nick Bare?

  We're growing, we're being challenged. But like of all the seasons of life that we've experienced so far, I'd say this is probably the most challenging, but the most fulfilling and rewarding. And it probably sounds cliche because most parents probably say that.

• 1:17:03Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:17:04Nick Bare?

  But it's so true.

• 1:17:04Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:17:05Nick Bare?

  Because every day is really, really hard and exhausting.

• 1:17:07Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:17:08Nick Bare?

  When, when our heads hit the pillow at night, we are done. Done. But.

• 1:17:15Speaker 01

  We're doing so much.

• 1:17:16Nick Bare?

  It's, it's so much fun.

• 1:17:17Speaker 01

  Yeah. Did you see what I sent you? That little like snippet I found? I thought that like wrapped up like our season of life right now, like so, well, maybe mine or so.

• 1:17:26Nick Bare?

  I did see it.

• 1:17:27Speaker 01

  Yeah, it was like, maybe the greatest thing that you can contribute to the kingdom is not what you can do, but who you can raise.

• 1:17:34Nick Bare?

  Yeah. You texted me that last night as I was falling asleep.

• 1:17:37Speaker 01

  I know.

• 1:17:38Nick Bare?

  Because my phone vibrated. And I had to take my, my mask off.

• 1:17:42Speaker 01

  But how amazing is that, though? It's not what you do, it's who you raise. And I feel like that, if you're a young parent right now, cling on to that because you can still do great things, right?

• 1:17:51Nick Bare?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:51Speaker 01

  Like, you're doing amazing stuff.

• 1:17:54Speaker 01

  But to just have that perspective, because we are in those like raising years right now.

• 1:17:59Nick Bare?

  Mm hmm. I was actually talking to Chad about this as well on the podcast. Because him and his wife Brooke are about to have their first child.

• 1:18:08Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:18:10Nick Bare?

  And I was sharing with him, you know, like when you become parents, your own personal ambitions and goals and passions don't have to die, but they're gonna look different. The way that you pursue them is is is gonna have to look different. And you can't be selfish with your time and your energy. That's something I'm learning in the season right now is there's a difference between time and energy. Like I can make the time to do all these things that I want to do and still show up for the family. But am I showing up with the energy that I want? Or am I a zombie?

• 1:18:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:18:48Nick Bare?

  Like, that's why I'm not doing, I'm not committed to any fitness preps or races in 2026. Is because even when I was in Ironman prep last year, yeah, I I got my runs done. Before the family woke up, I did all my other workouts throughout the day. And I was home by 4:30 PM, everything for the family, but I was a zombie. But I was still there.

• 1:19:14Speaker 01

  Yeah, there's a big difference.

• 1:19:15Nick Bare?

  There's a big difference between time and energy. And I want to show up for our family with as much energy.

• 1:19:21Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:19:22Nick Bare?

  As possible.

• 1:19:23Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's part of my prayer every morning. Lord, give me abundant energy. Because we have a shortage of it.

• 1:19:30Nick Bare?

  Then why are you drinking decaf?

• 1:19:31Speaker 01

  Because my nervous system can't take it.

• 1:19:34Nick Bare?

  Man, I'm like, I'm throwing back 150 milligrams of caffeine at 4:30 AM.

• 1:19:41Nick Bare?

  All right. Well, thank you for coming back on the podcast.

• 1:19:44Speaker 01

  Thanks for having me.

• 1:19:45Nick Bare?

  Thank you.