Chelsea Handler Reveals All! How to Be a Girls’ Girl, Release Negativity, and Experience More Joy!

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• 0:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  Today in this episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show Podcast, if you're ready to feel the freedom of being the real you, finally. If you're ready to build better friendships or strengthen the ones you have and truly learn how to be a girl's girl. If you'd like to release negativity and experience more joy in your life today, then this episode with the incredible Chelsea Handler, who shares things she's never shared before, is for you. Get ready to laugh, cry, and raise your vibration in more ways than one.

• 0:38Speaker 01

  I felt proud, like, that I was able to face that moment. I felt proud that I was able to be an adult. I mean, I'm getting emotional just talking about it because it is so meaningful. Because all you really want in life is to have an impact on people, you know? That's what I want. I want people to feel impacted by me. I want people to feel better and to know that, like, I'm your sister, you know?

• 1:03Jamie Kern Lima?

  Chelsea, in a lot of the research I've done for today and talking to lots of people, I felt like the through line I heard from people is that you're a kick-ass girlfriend.

• 1:14Speaker 01

  That's the biggest compliment you could ever give me, is telling me that I'm a great sister and a great friend. That's what I wanted to be, and that's who I want to be. I want to show up, you know? And I would do it for a stranger. You don't have to know me. Like, you know, if you're in need and I know you and I see you and I come across you, I will help you. You can fucking bet your bottom dollar, I will help you. You know, pick you up and patch you back together and do whatever I can because, you know, we have to stick together as women. All of the blockades that I experienced in my beginning of my career were by women, not by men. They were trying to block my success and tell me I didn't have the value that I believed I had. Yeah, that's success.

• 1:57Speaker 01

  One more woman succeeding means more success for all of us. And it's so much more infectious to be optimistic and to be hopeful and to be happy about people rather than talking shit behind people's back and gossiping and all of the, like, small vibrational qualities. I've done that in my life and it has yielded the results that weren't beneficial to me.

• 2:21Jamie Kern Lima?

  That is so good. That like right there. No, I feel like that is the greatest life advice. To get the thing you want, you have to vibrate at the level of the thing to get it. And, and, and what you're just describing is so poignant and so powerful. Because you're saying like, once you want more things for other people, once you say, "We all rise higher," all of a sudden you get more of that in your own life and you also feel more joyful. Today with you, Chelsea, because this is our first day meeting in person. And, and I was like, all right, I know Chelsea said her book, "She's Always on Time," so I think she's gonna for sure show up.

• 2:55Speaker 01

  Oh, I'm early. I'm early.

• 2:57Jamie Kern Lima?

  I love it. I love it.

• 2:59Speaker 01

  I can't be on time even. I'm such a loser. My parents never picked me up from school on time, so I have never been late to anything as an adult because I just hate the idea of being abandoned and anyone waiting for me. I hate that. I find it to be... I'm always early, so yeah, sorry. I was way early.

• 3:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  Do you feel like you have abandonment issues?

• 3:17Speaker 01

  Yes, of course.

• 3:19Jamie Kern Lima?

  At 10 years old, you saved all your money, you bought yourself a first-class ticket, and then the rest of your family was in coach. So you're 10, you're walking on a plane, and you're like, "Oh, no, Mom, I'm gonna fly first class." And you figure it out. Where did that knowing come from that seems to be maybe different from some of the people that you were raised around?

• 3:43Speaker 01

  I always had this feeling like that I was gonna have a big, loud life. I said, "I'm gonna become famous." And I said, "I don't know how I'm gonna do it, but I have a lot to say and I'm gonna help a lot of people." And my aunt looked at me and said, "Well, you better lose some weight."

• 4:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  You're declaring it out loud. Like, "I'm gonna be famous. I'm gonna impact a lot of people." And then you did something about it, like you went for it.

• 4:11Speaker 01

  It was like so meaningful, right? And my cousin...

• 4:17Speaker 01

  I had the video, actual video of her telling me that I was gonna be, that if I wanted to make it in Hollywood, I was gonna have to lose weight, which she had been denying. Confidence isn't a gift that everyone receives, right? Everyone doesn't feel confident all the time. So I've, I've realized that my confidence is a power tool.

• 4:38Jamie Kern Lima?

  I felt injected. I felt injected. I felt injected. You can't buy that. You can't fake that.

• 4:46Speaker 01

  When I was younger, I would make rash decisions and I would be reactive and I would be angry and I no longer operate that way. And I'm a happier person because of it. I like to play hard and I like to work hard and I want all of the experiences.

• 5:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  I'm gonna ask you about your ski instructors in a few minutes. Cause I also, I also love living vicariously through you.

• 5:12Speaker 01

  I wanna be good. I wanna be a good girl. You know what I mean? And not the way that like, I don't wanna be submissive. I wanna be a good girl because I wanna be a good person and I wanna help other people be good women. Being present is the biggest gift you can give yourself. To not be consumed with worry about the past or something that happened. To kind of look at everything and know it's going to be okay either way.

• 5:38Speaker 02

  Jamie Kern Lima is her name.

• 5:40Speaker 01

  Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life.

• 5:42Speaker 03

  Jamie Kern Lima.

• 5:47Speaker 02

  Jamie, you're so inspiring.

• 5:49Speaker 03

  Jamie Kern Lima.

• 5:53Jamie Kern Lima?

  I am so excited for this episode today with the amazing Chelsea Handler. You guys get ready to laugh, cry and raise your vibration in more ways than one. If you are ready to release and free yourself of negativity, stop taking yourself so seriously and feel more joy. Chelsea is sharing the raw and honest ways she did that she's never shared before and how you can too. If you're ready to live life on your own terms and feel that freedom of finally being who you truly are, confidently and unapologetically, then today's episode is truly going to change your life.

• 6:39Jamie Kern Lima?

  Chelsea Handler is a multiple award-winning writer, comedian, producer, TV host, activist, and the author of six consecutive New York Times bestselling books. And her brand-new book, I'll Have What She's Having, is going to be her seventh. And as you're listening to this podcast right now, take a moment and follow Chelsea's ultra-popular podcast, too. It's called Dear Chelsea, and it's in its fifth season. She's on tour right now. She has a Las Vegas residency at the Cosmopolitan. You can get tickets right now to see her. And we are so fortunate that she has taken a moment, right in the middle of her tour,

• 7:21Jamie Kern Lima?

  to be here in person in Southern California, in the Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast studios, to share this powerful conversation together with you and me today. Chelsea Handler, welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show.

• 7:37Speaker 01

  Oh, my gosh. I'm so grateful to be here. You're just an absolute delight. Thank you.

• 7:43Jamie Kern Lima?

  Have you ever arrived with multiple types of ice?

• 7:45Speaker 01

  No, but whoever my next lover is, needs to pay close attention to this, because if they have my diet ginger ale that I love, and multiple options for ice, also another love and passion of mine, yeah, that gets you in, that really hits all the right notes for me.

• 8:01Jamie Kern Lima?

  I do my homework.

• 8:02Speaker 01

  Thank you.

• 8:03Jamie Kern Lima?

  I do my homework.

• 8:04Speaker 01

  Thank you so much.

• 8:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  Your book is amazing. Like, your book is amazing. I read it cover to cover, and I feel like the sign of a great book, like, a real great book, isn't just when it sort of entertains you or takes you, but also really shifts you. And I felt like your book, I left reading your book feeling shifted.

• 8:23Speaker 01

  Oh.

• 8:24Jamie Kern Lima?

  I felt shifted. I felt more empowered. I almost felt like I was able to borrow your courage to be more bold, is how I felt. And I think that's really powerful. So, I just want to say, for every person who wants to learn to use and discover their own voice, or maybe for every person who is on a healing journey, every person who wants...

• 8:49Jamie Kern Lima?

  You know, is about to leave a relationship and say, I'm not going to trade myself for being in this relationship. I'm not going to settle for that or for anyone who really wants to, you know, embrace the power and freedom of like being who they truly are and to kind of stop apologizing for it. I feel like there's so much in this book that I took away. So I just want to say congratulations and it's gonna, it's gonna impact a lot of people.

• 9:15Speaker 01

  Thank you so much. My hope has been, especially with this book, is to inject optimism, female empowerment, any empowerment really, to anyone who doesn't, who feels disempowered, and to highlight that it is always possible to capture light in darkness.

• 9:34Jamie Kern Lima?

  Hmm. You dedicated the book to flight attendants and said, you've been on so many flights, and if anyone is being an asshole, that they can just tap your shoulder, you're going to step up and have their back. Have you always had the confidence to speak your mind and say how you feel?

• 9:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, misplaced confidence, you know, in the beginning, because I was like this as a very young girl, which I also talk a lot about in the book. I've always had been a, I've always been resistant to injustice and, and authority figures, quite frankly. But injustice very much as I've grown older and realized that confidence isn't a gift that everyone receives, right? Everyone doesn't feel confident all the time. So I've, I've realized that my confidence is a power tool, you know, like, and I have to use that judiciously. And, and I feel when people are being treated badly or unfairly, like, that is the best

• 10:36Speaker 01

  use of my voice. And I've never seen anything happen more consistently, or more terrible treatment happen consistently than I, than I have on planes. And, and the way that our flight attendants, who are our sisters in the sky. Are treated during COVID, during post-COVID. You know, we haven't really ever recovered from COVID socially. And you know, what people think is appropriate to do on planes or the license they take. And I find that to be completely disrespectful to flight attendants. They are stuck with us in a tube of air for however long your flight is. And they deserve to be respected.

• 11:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 11:17Speaker 01

  And they deserve to be, it's more than respect. They, you know, they can really, they're taking care of us and they're like our nannies. So like, we really need to value them and treat them well.

• 11:28Jamie Kern Lima?

  When you look at the studies, it's shocking that the majority of women are people pleasers and, and, and we're scared to speak our mind or to say the truth or, oh, offend somebody. Do you, are you able, and you know, you talk about doing it for injustice, which is such a great, by the way, for anyone listening, this is such a great hack. If you're like, I don't know how to speak my mind.

• 11:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  When you make it about someone else, it's almost easier to do it like, oh, I'm actually helping this person. Then it's easier to stand up for yourself and say how you feel. Are you able, Chelsea, to do that as fearlessly when it's for yourself?

• 12:03Speaker 01

  Uh, that's a great question. No, not always. Sometimes I suck it up because I know I can. Like, I can be like, okay, well, that's not about me. That's not going to impact me in a deleterious way that it might impact another person. So I would say I'm, I'm, I'm more protective of others. You know what I mean? Because I want, I want to make sure that if people don't feel empowered, I've got your back. You know, I have that attitude.

• 12:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 12:28Speaker 01

  Uh, but you know, I, I'm not shy about standing up for myself. Sometimes I just feel like it's not worth it. I don't need that. I don't need to do that. But, um, you know, very recently I did stand up myself, for myself in a big way. And I had to make a move in my life that kind of was a bummer, but also I needed to take care of myself and you know, and I was. I'm proud of the way that I am able to make decisions at this point in my life. I'm proud of the woman that I've become. I'm proud of all the work that I've put in to become this more self-aware, kinder, still bold and still brave person. But, and all I want to do is inject that into other people. Like, I want everyone to feel this way.

• 13:11Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, yeah. Yeah, when you walked in today, that's what I was saying, that I was very not, and I never try to have any expectations when I read a book and I just think, oh, this is someone's offering to the world. What a gift it is for me to read it, is how I kind of approach it. And I felt injected. I felt injected. I felt injected from your book. And so it does that. And that's why I think I'm so passionate about it right now and fired up about it. Because that is, you can't buy that, you can't fake that. I really felt that. When you say you did that recently in your life, are you referring to ending a relationship? And choosing yourself over your relationship?

• 13:50Speaker 01

  It was a professional relationship, so it wasn't a personal relationship. But, yeah, it was a professional relationship. You know, I left my agency recently and I had been there for a really long time. And that was a difficult decision to make, one that I thought about long and hard, because there were a few people at that agency who, you know, really were working so hard for me. But at the end of the day, I have, I had to step up and decide what I want my future to look like. And, and I know I made the right decision. So, it was, yeah, it was, it was difficult, but I faced it. You know, and I didn't cower away from an uncomfortable conversation. I didn't do anything, I'm never craven. You know, I never like take the easy way out or let someone else make the call.

• 14:33Speaker 01

  Like, I'm very intentional about, I'm gonna tell you that our relationship's over. I'm not gonna have someone else do it. I'm not going to take the easy road out because I'm a conflict avoidant or any of that. I'm not any of those things. And while many conversations are uncomfortable, there's a lot to be said about being face-to-face with someone and giving them that kind of news in a careful, delicate way and an honest way. And so I'm proud of that also.

• 15:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  How did your agency, your old agency, handle it?

• 15:03Speaker 01

  They were so gracious. They were so gracious to me because we've been in a relationship for many years and they know me well and they know the type of person that I am and how hard I work. And, you know, some other parts of the agency weren't really working in concert. So they understood. And that was another example of the way that my relationships have been built. You know, like the fact that there wasn't anger or resentment and there's, you know, you're always welcome here. If you ever want to come back, please come back. And like, that's exactly how I want things to end. You know, when I was younger, I would make rash decisions and I would be reactive and

• 15:48Speaker 01

  I would be angry. And I no longer operate that way and I'm a happier person because of it.

• 15:53Jamie Kern Lima?

  Well, they should say you're always welcome back because I, before today, I always knew you as somebody blessed by your talent, but as someone that watched it, right? Watched you on television, like was blessed by your talent. Doing the research for the past few weeks for today. And tell me if I'm, if this is right. You have to be a crazy hard worker because the number of shows you have produced, executive produced, launched out into the world that are in partnership with other people, ones that you've done. I mean, I'm talking about the things that you have done in your career so far. I mean, and you're on tour right now. You have a residency.

• 16:38Jamie Kern Lima?

  You're about to film another Netflix special. And in the middle of it, you're driving up here to see me in Montecito to do this show. And I'm looking at all that. Are you, have you always been and are you now, just a really, really, really hard worker?

• 16:52Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 16:52Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 16:53Speaker 01

  I want to be a hard worker, you know? I'm a hustler.

• 16:56Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 16:56Speaker 01

  That's what this business is, hustling. I'm, I've been doing this since I was, I mean, when I became very successful, probably 30, 32 was when Chelsea Lately began, but I had, you know, I had a lot of success before that that wasn't as big, right? So my career started kind of taking off. I published my first book when I was 27. I was on a kind of, a show called Girls Behaving Badly. I had a few development deals. So I had little pockets of success and I was kind of, the drumbeat was going in the right direction.

• 17:26Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 17:28Speaker 01

  But since I can remember, like even when I was on Chelsea Lately for seven years, I did that show five days a week or four days a week. And then I would be on a book tour every single weekend. I would fly to three different cities or two different cities and do anywhere from three to six shows a weekend, fly back on a Monday morning, do all of that again. And I've always been able to really hit it hard, you know? I take long breaks when I have time. I'll take a month off and go to my house in Spain. I'm about to leave for Whistler for a month because I like to play hard and I like to work hard and I want all of the experiences.

• 18:10Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, I'm going to ask you about your ski instructors in a few minutes.

• 18:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  Because I also, I also love living vicariously through you as well, as everyone who reads this book is going to. It's going to be quite an adventure. With you, I wanted, I wanted to just hit on something you just said because it's really powerful. You said, when you left your agency, because here's the thing, there's, I think about everyone listening and watching us right now who's in a friendship that they know is like not serving them, but they don't want to hurt that person. And so they don't tell the truth or they're in a relationship or they're, you know, whatever it might be. And, and, you know, you being in an agency for a long time, probably working a partnership

• 18:58Jamie Kern Lima?

  with a lot of people there, you're saying, no, I'm actually going to do the best thing for me, even if it maybe lets other people down. What's your advice for doing that for someone listening who's like, I don't want to disappoint everyone else or I don't want to, or they've been there for me in the past and they're okay now, but I know that I deserve so much better?

• 19:22Speaker 01

  I think that in life, like, it is a measure of your character to be able to meet the moments that you are in, and especially difficult conversations and handling difficult emotions is character growth. And we are tested so many times throughout our life to be that, to step up to the plate, to be an honorable person. I want to be moral, I want to be ethical, I don't want to lie. You know, I sometimes we have to lie, but, you know, or it's the best thing to do too. But when you are coming from a place of integrity, which is not a word that can ever be underused or undervalued, because really integrity is

• 20:04Speaker 01

  just the most important thing. So many parts of the world are lacking, or so many areas are lacking, you know, like, so it's so important to, when you're making a decision or you're breaking up a relationship, and you're doing it because of your best interest, there is a very gentle way to do those things, and the other person can receive that, you know, like, when you are mindful and intentional about how you are relaying that information, it's not really your problem how the other person receives that. All you have to do is honor both of you in that conversation. You can't take care of someone else's emotional reaction to what you've said when you're coming from a place of self, not preservation

• 20:49Speaker 01

  even, but self, like, integrity, like, this no longer works for me, I'm so sorry, but I respect you and I appreciate everything we've been together, been through together thus far. You have been a huge addition to my life, and right now, this doesn't make any sense for me. It doesn't make sense for me to move forward, and I really have to think about myself, because who else is going to think about me if I don't think about myself? You know, so, you know, while the nuances may differ, depending on what relationship you're ending... I think there's always a loving, gentle way to let someone know that this is, we're gonna put this on pause, you know, nothing is final. I don't think that is good language to use. Slamming doors and keeping them closed forever is, isn't loving.

• 21:34Speaker 01

  You know, there's always possibility that we could circle back around. And I think that's also a nice kind of way to let people, you know, know, like, maybe we will come back together at some point, but this isn't the right time right now for me. And I need you to respect that. And while people's reactions may vary and, you know, some people be angry or hurt or feel rejected, there's nothing bad that can come from acting with integrity.

• 22:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  Hmm, that is so good. There's nothing bad that can come from acting with integrity. I think, just a quick call out also, what you just said in the past 90 seconds is gonna be so good for so many people to just rewind and listen to over and over. Because whether they're looking to like borrow your courage or borrow your wisdom on how to, you know, put their foot down in something, a lot of people are. I mean, you're, you know, you've, you've been in Hollywood for a long time too. It's amazing how many people I meet that on the outside are very, very accomplished, but on the inside cannot do what you just did with your agency. Like, they're too scared to stand up for themselves or to put their foot down, or they're too insecure. When you did it, because a lot of people fear,

• 22:46Jamie Kern Lima?

  oh, well, what if my, like, in this example, what if my next agency's not as good? Or what if I'm giving up on something where they really know me? Or like, any of the other things. How did it feel that, the, the, right after you gave them that news? How did that feel?

• 23:00Speaker 01

  Well, I mean, one of my conversations with one of my agents was quite emotional, actually, because she and I had had a personal experience a few years back, you know. That was very meaningful and a difficult time in her life. And, and so we were, you know, it became emotional. And, but again, I got off the phone and I spoke to my other agent who I had for many years. And I, I felt proud, like, that I was able to face that moment. I felt proud that I was able to be an adult. I felt proud that she, that we got emotional, like, that connection. You know what I mean? I'm getting emotional just talking about it because it is so meaningful. Because all you really want in life is to have an impact on people, you know?

• 23:45Speaker 01

  That's what I want. I want people to feel impacted by me. I want people to feel better and to know that, like, I'm your sister, you know? And in that conversation with her, that was really, she reminded me that I, that I was the good sister to her. And I had forgotten that, you know? So, I think with all of this, like, you know, it's hard. Conflict is hard for so many people. But it doesn't have to be conflict. You saying your piece or standing up for yourself doesn't have to be conflict.

• 24:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 24:17Speaker 01

  It can be easy, you know?

• 24:19Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah. What I love so much, um, that also happens when we do it is we're sort of like showing another woman how to do it.

• 24:29Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 24:29Jamie Kern Lima?

  You know, which is also beautiful, even though I'm sure they don't want to hear it at the time. But it's like they're seeing an example.

• 24:35Speaker 01

  Right.

• 24:36Jamie Kern Lima?

  Of how to do it. And you're, you share, you taking us through right now, um, is also, and talking about how you felt proud that you were able to do it. And then you're reminded of

• 24:48Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 24:48Jamie Kern Lima?

  of your connection with that person. I want to say, Chelsea, in, in a lot of the research I've done for today and talking to lots of people, I felt like the through line I heard from people is that you're a kick-ass girlfriend. Like, you're an amazing girlfriend to people. Like, you're an amazing family member, but also friend. Um, and so, and I know that, you know, you're doing that now for, there'll be so many people that maybe you'll never meet in person, but through your book and through the things you're sharing, you're gonna impact them.

• 25:20Speaker 01

  Yeah. I hope so. I hope so, because, listen, that's the biggest compliment you could ever give me, is telling me that I'm a great sister and a great friend. That's what I wanted to be. And I, that's who I want to be. I want to show up, you know? And I would do it for a stranger. You don't have to know me. Like, you know, if you're in need and I know you and I see you and I come across you, I will help you. You can fucking bet your bottom dollar, I will help you. You know, pick you up and patch you back together and do whatever I can because, you know, we have to stick together as women. There's just, I remember coming up in this industry and it being, there's, it was just like, we've been ingrained in women, like, that we have to compete with each other. And, and all of

• 26:01Speaker 01

  the, the blockades that I experienced in my beginning of my career were, were by women, not by men. And I was like, what's going on? Like, I was threatening to them. And, and in turn, they were trying to block my success. And, and tell me I didn't have the value that I believed I had. And, and I, I, I found that so confounding. And so when I started doing my show on Chelsea Lately, you know, I had my own, you know, issues with, with people I've worked with before, you know, where I wasn't gracious, you know, maybe, or we had friction between us, or we were competitive. But once I felt that directed at me, I made sure that I was never going to move forward professionally in that way.

• 26:46Speaker 01

  Like, once I felt it, once I got Chelsea Lately, I was like, I'm going to share this spotlight with as many women, gay men, you know, marginalized communities, like, I want people of color. Everyone was going to be a part of my playground because I, I, I didn't want anyone to ever experience what I experienced. Like, I'm going to come welcome you here on this show and share this, you know, with everyone. And, and that became that show. And that's why that show was successful, because it was inclusive, not exclusive.

• 27:24Jamie Kern Lima?

  It is, it's shocking when you're a woman and you, and there's enough things to worry about, but then, then we see that happening. And like, I'm 47, I have done plenty of things in my career, and I just had that happen to me recently.

• 27:38Speaker 01

  Oh.

• 27:38Jamie Kern Lima?

  And I was like shocked with something I did in Hollywood. I'll tell you off camera, tell you another time. But I was just, I couldn't even believe it. By another woman who had so much success, like, they, I, and I like, you know, I've come to believe in my life that, that our own, you know, whether someone believes in God, the universe, I believe our path is divinely orchestrated. I, I don't think anyone else's success has anything to do with ours, or can take ours down, or, or impact ours. Like, I really think we're on our own. I think we're the only ones that can lower our vibration, think we're not worthy of something and mess it up, you know? So I feel like when people are that way, it's such a bummer, but especially women.

• 28:23Jamie Kern Lima?

  And so have you, have you had that happen since?

• 28:26Speaker 01

  Sure, I have, but like, I, I mean, I love what you just said.

• 28:30Jamie Kern Lima?

  There's so much more coming up in this episode. You are not going to want to miss it. But first, I wanted to share this with you. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy. How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You. If you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, Worthy is for you. In Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps that bring life-changing results.

• 29:12Jamie Kern Lima?

  Like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back, build unshakable self-love, unlearn the lies that lead to self-doubt, and embrace the truths that wake up worthiness. Overcome limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome. Achieve your hopes and dreams by believing you are worthy of them, and so much more. Are you ready to unleash your greatness and step into the person you were born to be? Imagine a life with zero self doubt and unshakable self-worth. Get your copy of Worthy, plus some amazing thank you bonus gifts for you at worthybook.com

• 29:56Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 30:40Jamie Kern Lima?

  Plus, when you're a part of my free inspirational newsletter community, you'll be the first to get behind the scenes content, inspirational messages, and be the first to learn about upcoming events and more. It's the place to be and I sure hope you'll join me there. So if you're not on the list yet, you can sign up for free at jamiekernlima.com or click the link in the show notes below. And here's to becoming unstoppable together. And now more of this incredible conversation together. When people are that way, it's such a bummer, but especially women. And so have you, have you had that happen since?

• 31:19Speaker 01

  Sure, I have, but like, I mean, I love what you just said. You know, blowing out someone else's candle doesn't make yours brighter. That's not a real thing. And it's hard in the world we live in. I am a victim of this too, where I look at someone else's success who's succeeded beyond mine and been like, oh, I wish I had done that. Or, oh, and it's a constant reminder to be, to remember what you just said. That is not your path. You're on your path.

• 31:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 31:51Speaker 01

  Like, if anything, use that as a motivator. Be, change that like drumbeat in your head that, ooh, I don't like that. They got that or they got that. Change that drumbeat like, yeah, that's success. One more woman succeeding means more success for all of us.

• 32:08Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yes.

• 32:09Speaker 01

  You know, you have to always change those kind of negative thought patterns around to be optimistic and to be hopeful. And it's so much more infectious to be optimistic and to be hopeful and to be happy about people rather than talking shit behind people's back and gossiping and all of the like small vibrational qualities. I've done that in my life and it has yielded the results that weren't beneficial to me.

• 32:33Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 32:33Speaker 01

  You know, when you change your attitude and you change the way you look at things and that you want success for everyone. I want success for, for women and for people who are not, don't feel seen. I want everyone to feel successful in life.

• 32:49Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 32:49Speaker 01

  And when you spread that around, you, first of all, you see more of it.

• 32:53Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 32:53Speaker 01

  And you realize that it starts to infuse you with joy and happiness for others in a way which you were maybe unfamiliar with feeling in the past.

• 33:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  Woo, that is so good. That like right there, no, I feel like that is the greatest life advice. That is the, that is, people spend so much time trying to figure out how to get what they want. Oh, yeah, you say however you want. People try to like figure out how to get what they want and then this and then that. And they think, oh, if I tear someone else down or, oh, if I this, that. The other thing, I'll never forget Chelsea, Oprah once saying that to get the thing you want, you have to vibrate at the level of the thing to get it. And, and, and what you're just describing is so poignant and so powerful. Because you're saying like, once you want more things for their people, once you say we all rise higher, all of a sudden you get more of that in your own life and you also feel more joyful.

• 33:47Jamie Kern Lima?

  And you know, when, when I launched this podcast and every second I was doubting is Oprah gonna show up? As my, I was like, I have to vibrate at the level of truly, today with you, Chelsea, because this is our first day meeting in person. And, and I was like, all right, I know Chelsea said in her book, she's always on time. So I think she's gonna for sure.

• 34:06Speaker 01

  Oh, I'm early. I'm early.

• 34:08Jamie Kern Lima?

  I love it.

• 34:09Speaker 01

  I can't be on time even. I'm such a loser. My parents never picked me up from school on time. So I've never been late to anything as an adult because I just hate the idea of being abandoned. And anyone waiting for me. I hate that. I find it to be, I'm always early. So yeah, sorry. I was way early.

• 34:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  Do you feel like you have abandonment issues?

• 34:28Speaker 01

  Yes, of course. I mean, I've worked through a lot of them. And I, I don't have, I mean, I've had them. I would say now, no, I don't feel, I don't have a fear of abandonment. I don't have the same needs that I used to as a younger, like say in a relationship, a romantic relationship. I don't have the, the constant need for reinforcement or re-validation or reassuring. Are they coming? Are they coming? Are they, are they gonna call when they say they're gonna call? Are they gonna da, da, da? I don't longer attract people like that in my life. So it's not an issue. And I don't feel worried about whether or not someone is gonna follow through with something with me because I don't have people like that in my life anymore.

• 35:13Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 35:14Speaker 01

  And like, and it just like, if I say I'm gonna do something, I will do it.

• 35:18Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, yeah. So I want to ask you about this. This is, um, you know, I love that, that quote, success leaves clues. And when I learned, and you, and you guys will all learn about this, uh, when you get Chelsea's book, I'll have what she's having, um, I was, I'm always fascinated by these things that you can like tap into and be like, huh, and think back to your own childhood. But when you were a kid, that I want to ask you about the first time you were on a flight with your family, the first time you were on a. And you guys walked past the first class, went into coach. And you asked your mom, like, why aren't we sitting there? And and she kind of explained like, oh, we have a family. We couldn't, we couldn't ever sit there. And and I want to read something.

• 36:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  Well, first of all, you said you thought to yourself, speak for yourself. Right? Like, speak for yourself. And and you had this, this kind of knowing. You said, in my family, or if my family were content flying coach the rest of their lives, we weren't on the same page. And at some point, I'd have to split ties with them. And at 10 years old, sold lemonade and sold spiked lemonade. And then you were, you called all the hotels, I think, one summer and said you were 15, not 10, so you could babysit for anyone who needed it. You saved all your money. And then I think it was on the trip to your grandpa's funeral, you bought yourself a first class ticket. And then the rest of your family was in coach.

• 36:43Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 36:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  How, OK, this is what I want to understand because I find this fascinating. Because you look at how successful you are in your life right now. You look at all the things that you've done, all the things you continue to do, everything happening this coming year, right? At that age, at 10 years old. Because Oprah has this in common where she was a little girl and her grandma was like, you know, you're going to have to learn how to hang clothes and the clothespins, you know, work for a nice white family. And she says at this little, young age, she had that knowing, like, no, grandma, I'm not. So you're 10, you're walking on a plane and you're like, oh, no, mom, I'm gonna fly first class. And you figure it out. But I, I want to ask you, like, where did that knowing come from?

• 37:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  That seems to be maybe different from so many of the people that that you were raised around.

• 37:32Speaker 01

  I always had this feeling like that I was gonna have a big, loud life. And I just felt like, you know, the instinct and the knowing are two different things. Like, you have a feeling, but you don't really know what it's going, how it's going to materialize, right? Like, but I had never heard that about Oprah, which I love.

• 37:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 37:51Speaker 01

  And which makes total sense because I feel like she's our mother. You know, in this earth. On this earth, she's someone I, you know, obviously look up to immensely. And I've always, I mean, almost every book, you know, I owe to her like because of all of her inspiration. So I love that you're talking about her right now. She's such a force of nature. And when I was little, I just thought, this isn't gonna do it. Like, I looked around at my family and our house and I'm just like, mm-mm, this isn't enough for me. Like, I'm gonna need some, like, a more consistent, a housekeeper. We're gonna need, I'm gonna need a housekeeper. I don't know what my parents were thinking. They had six children.

• 38:33Speaker 01

  I was watching The Brady Bunch, you know, with the six kids and the mother and the father. And they had Alice. I was like, where's our fucking Alice?

• 38:41Speaker 01

  And I just, you know, in a, there was a materialistic sense when I was young because my parents, we lived in this kind of middle-class, upper-middle-class neighborhood. And we were not on the same level as our neighbors financially, and that stuck out. So there was a materialistic aspect, which is, you know, not the only driving force, nor should it ever be. And then there was a feeling of, I have so much to say. And it was filled, I had so much angst as a child, especially after my brother died. I was so angry and no mechanism to understand how to digest that anger until much later in life.

• 39:19Speaker 01

  So it was a lot of delayed grief, but in that, in those moments, I was, I was motivated by, by my discontent. You know what I mean? I was like, this is, I am going, like, my childhood was a placeholder. And even though it was filled with all these vivid, beautiful memories and my family, I have this big, huge family that we're all so close. And we have these great relationships, except for a couple right now because of the election. But, you know, most of them, I, I just had a motivating, like, anger. You know, there's this book that I, I love called Letting Go by David Hawkins. Have you read that? Not. Okay, it's very powerful and it's metaphysical and it's really about your energy.

• 40:03Speaker 01

  But he talks about the levels of like kinesiology when you're in your most, you had your highest vibration, you know? And this is measurable, scientific stuff, but obviously it's not as talked about all the time as other things.

• 40:17Speaker 01

  So when you're in anger, you are actually accomplishing a lot because you're motivated by your anger. It's not the highest vibration to be in, but the vibration right above anger is courage. So, once you can get rid of your anger and turn your anger into action, it becomes courage. And I think that was very true for most of my adolescence. I was so torn. I was emotionally stuck at that nine-year-old little girl level because I didn't really compute my brother's death in a real way. I didn't have therapy. I didn't talk to anyone. And that drove me, that like combined with my family life. And just, I just thought like,

• 41:01Speaker 01

  I'm gonna be a woman who stands out and stands up. You know, and I'm gonna figure out how I'm gonna do it. And when I moved to LA when I was 19 years old, I didn't, my aunt and uncle lived there. They had nine children. And they lived in, on Beverly Glen Boulevard. And I moved in with them. I had no money. I drove across country by myself. And I hustled. I didn't have any connections in this industry. I didn't know anyone, except for my aunt and uncle. And they were not in this business. And I remember my aunt sitting down at the kitchen table. And I said, "I'm gonna become famous." And I said, "I don't know how I'm gonna do it, but I have a lot to say, and I'm gonna help a lot of people."

• 41:46Speaker 01

  And my aunt looked at me and said, "Well, you better lose some weight." And I looked at her and I said, "Okay." I just like, you know, "Okay, not, okay, I have to lose some weight." Just like, "Okay, that's how you're reacting to my desire to say something that's kind of embarrassing to say, 'I wanna be famous.'" You know, what does that mean? You're just an idiot. That doesn't mean anything. But I didn't understand then what my purpose was. Something was driving me towards the public eye that could have been thought of as shallow. And sometimes when I think back, I go, "God, all you wanna do is be..." Now I know why I wanted to do that. You know what I mean? Now I know why. Now I know why when I go on stage and I get to perform in front of three to 5,000 people

• 42:31Speaker 01

  and people have paid their money to be to see me and I get to watch strangers sit next to each other in an audience and laugh together next to a stranger, that I get to provide that, that I get to go out on that stage and provide joy and sunshine and healing and let people forget about this craziness, you know, that we live in every day. Like, that is a gift. That is my purpose, being able to write my stories and share my like, my love and my success with all of these people, people I've never met get to share in my success, you know? That is really what it was about, but I was too young to understand that. Now I understand that that was the purpose all along. That was what that like, drive and that

• 43:13Speaker 01

  motivation was. I was going towards something, but I just, I, I had kind of, you know, I didn't really understand the magnitude of why I wanted it to be successful and why I wanted to be in the public.

• 43:25Jamie Kern Lima?

  What I love too, that I just want to call out, especially for everyone listening, is like, so you had this, this, this knowing, I guess, that, that this isn't going to cut it from my life. I want to have a big life. I wanted this, that. You, you are now at your aunt's, your aunt and uncle's and you're telling your aunt, you're declaring it out loud. Like, I'm going to be famous. I'm going to impact a lot of people. And then you did something about it, like you went for it. And I think that's so important, even back to when you were 10. You didn't just think, oh, one day I'm going to have a first-class ticket. You, you, you declared it, like you said to your mom, you know, you, and then you did something about it, like you took action and through a lemonade stand that was, you know,

• 44:10Jamie Kern Lima?

  lemonade and hard lemonade. I think your sister, right, your sister had like 50%. It was like a 50/50 split and you thought that was too much. You fired her, you hired Nelson. He got 10%, right? So then you got 90%. You, all the things you hustled from that age and you made it happen. And I want to call that out because I think like, part of your impact, I think part of what's so beautiful is that, is that, you know, sometimes we can go through experiences and, and people can take shortcuts in their own life because of them. And I'll never forget, Chelsea, you just reminded me of something. I was like eight years old, sitting in my living room, watching this interview where Barbara Walters interviewed Oprah. And Oprah said on this program, and she was early in her career,

• 44:54Jamie Kern Lima?

  but she said, "I always knew I was destined for greatness." And I remember sitting in my living room as a little kid, feeling like, "Me too, like, me too, like, I have this feeling." And then she got so much, oh, my gosh, she got just horrible, horribly attacked in the press for saying that. I think people weren't used to a woman

• 45:14Speaker 01

  No, of course not.

• 45:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  speaking so confidently at the time. But I remember having that whisper. And I remember, you know, when I launched Beauty Company in my living room, same thing, I didn't know anyone in the industry. I didn't know how I was gonna do it. But I just kind of was like, you know what? I feel like I'm supposed to do it. And then it was like taking action. And so I just want to call that out because if you, if you, if you think about the circumstances you were in at 10 that you described, and then you're, you're with your aunt and uncle and all their kids and all the things that you're doing, your circumstances don't have to define whether or not you can go for the thing. And I think a lot of people right now have a whisper like, "Oh, maybe I'm supposed to impact people too." Or maybe I'm supposed to, you know, but they're not declaring it.

• 45:59Jamie Kern Lima?

  They're not, you know, and then they're not doing anything about it. And so I just want to call that out that I think that that's like a recipe you just shared. That's really powerful because it happened when you were younger. It happened before you were famous. Look at you now, look at all the things that you're doing.

• 46:13Speaker 01

  And a great, I'm sorry, I don't mean to interrupt you. I mean, I guess I do because I just. But anyway, I, I wanted to cap off the story before I forget with regard to my aunt. So my aunt, for many years after that, when I started to become successful, you know, and, and she, we would always tell that story, like, all of the kids, my cousins are very close to me. My, my cousin is on the road with me every weekend. I, I grew up with those kids, right? And they're still my, obviously, they're very close to me today. So when, whenever we would tell that story, I remember my aunt's name is Gabby. We'd be like, "Remember, Gabby, when you told Chelsea she was fat and she couldn't, she wasn't gonna be successful?" And she would be like, "I never said that. I never said that. I never said that." So about 10 years ago, she was in a tough spot.

• 46:58Speaker 01

  And I was able to buy her a house. And we surprised her. I went with my two cousins. And she had just come out of a divorce and we bought a house for her in the valley. We brought her to the house to look at it. And as we were looking through, you know, at it, we were like, this is your house. You know, and had a pool and she loves her grandchildren. So it was like so meaningful, right? And my cousin had the video, actual video of her telling me that I was gonna be, that if I wanted to make it in Hollywood, I was gonna have to lose weight, which she had been denying. And this is so our family. We're, we're rough on each other. You know what I mean? We really give it to each other hard.

• 47:38Speaker 01

  And so we go back into the house and my cousin puts the tape in the VCR at the time when they still had VCRs and said, by the way, mom, this is what you said never happened.

• 47:50Speaker 01

  So on the day that I was able to gift her this house, we were able, we had that footage and they played it for my aunt and it was just so funny. You know, because it was such an emotional day and we obviously, our family's not, not that great at emotion. You know, we try to make each other laugh more than we try to make each other cry. So it was a really funny, full circle, gorgeous, gorgeous moment in my life.

• 48:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  That must have felt incredible, gifting her a house.

• 48:18Speaker 01

  Yeah, of course.

• 48:20Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 48:21Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:23Jamie Kern Lima?

  You know what I think is so beautiful? In your book, is so many people know your humor and your power and your advocacy. And

• 48:36Jamie Kern Lima?

  and how tough you are. And you also have so much empathy.

• 48:42Speaker 01

  Yeah, well, I had to pick that up in therapy. Apparently I didn't have empathy for a long time.

• 48:46Jamie Kern Lima?

  I've heard you say that before.

• 48:48Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:48Jamie Kern Lima?

  Watching you cry about gifting your aunt a house, which is such a generous, empathetic thing to do. Like it's just Yeah.

• 48:58Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:58Jamie Kern Lima?

  So can you learn empathy?

• 49:00Speaker 01

  Yes, you can. You can totally learn empathy. That's the greatest update ever.

• 49:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 49:06Speaker 01

  The two things I was so scared about when I went into therapy was, A, first of all, I didn't know I had empathy. I lacked empathy. I did not have it. I just lacked it. I had sympathy and I had generosity, but they're not the same thing. I wasn't thinking about what it would be like to be a different person. I would only go, oh, that person's in trouble. Let me help them. I never thought, what is it like to be them? What is it like to be that person? So the good news is you can gain empathy because it's just like turning a light on that's not on. Thinking about walking in another person's shoes is now something that happens to me daily, you know, regularly, all day long. I think, oh, that person, what they must be going through. Or is that person OK? And don't take this personally. That person could be going through something like, and thinking about what they might be going through.

• 49:50Speaker 01

  And the biggest fear I had about entering into therapy when I did and was that I was a narcissist, you know? And so I asked my therapist, this guy Dan Siegel, who's incredible and just changed my life forever. I said, am I a narcissist? Like, I need you to really be honest with me.

• 50:09Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 50:09Speaker 01

  And he was like, typically narcissists aren't looking for feedback.

• 50:14Speaker 01

  And I was like, oh, hallelujah, you know? Like, I was so paranoid that I was this bad person. And I was never a bad person. I have been angry and I've been confused and I've been hurt. But I've not ever been a bad person. And I think so many people can get confused in thinking that we're bad because we have negative thoughts or we have human thoughts. Like, your humanity is going to create dark thoughts. We all have a shadow self. We all have a self that's not our best self, that is like, kind of always like trying to get us to lower our vibe.

• 50:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 50:53Speaker 01

  We're innately good.

• 50:55Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 50:55Speaker 01

  You know, and so that was a relief to find out all of that information.

• 51:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 51:01Speaker 01

  Because I want to be good. I want to be a good girl. You know what I mean? And not the way that, like, I don't want to be submissive. I want to be a good girl because I want to be a good person and I want to help other people be good women.

• 51:12Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, yeah. You know, what I think, one of the things too that people get confused about is most people aren't honest about who they are. They hide, you know, their shadow self, or they hide frankly, parts of them that are perfectly great, but like, other people might judge them. Or they hide all these things and then they show up on social media with their highlight reel, with a thing that as their representative, the person that they think. And a lot of people get this so wrong, I feel, Chelsea. I think that people feel all this pressure like, oh, I need to show up as my representative to, for other people to like me. When it is, like, you look at all the data, it's impossible to have a real human connection.

• 51:56Jamie Kern Lima?

  Unless you're fully who you are.

• 51:59Speaker 01

  If you're presenting.

• 52:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, if you're presenting.

• 52:01Speaker 01

  If you're presentational and you're coming, like, if I were coming here or and thinking, how am I going to impress you? I hope you like me.

• 52:11Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 52:12Speaker 01

  That's much different than me coming in and being completely present with you so that there's not even any of that. Of course, we're going to like each other. You know, like, be real.

• 52:22Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 52:23Speaker 01

  Whoever you are is fine. You don't have to impress people with your humor or your personality. That all comes naturally as long as you are present.

• 52:35Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 52:35Speaker 01

  You know, and that's something Oprah talks about all the time. You know, I remember listening to like 10 episodes between her and Eckhart Tolle about presence, about presence. And I was like, what the, what the fuck are they talking about? Like, it took me so long to click in. And they had this series and people would call in and ask the questions that I was wondering. Like, okay, how does this apply to eating? How does this apply to friendship? How does, and it's like, presence, how can you do that? How can you achieve that in the society that we're living in? Very easily. It's a minute by minute thing. Like, being present is the biggest gift you can give yourself. To not be consumed with worry about the past, or something that happened. To kind of look at everything and know, it's going to be okay either way.

• 53:22Speaker 01

  Either way, it's going to be okay. Whatever the outcome is, whether it works in my favor or doesn't, I will survive.

• 53:29Jamie Kern Lima?

  Coming up, this conversation is so incredible, so transformative, and also so inspiring, that we made it into three parts. And if you're ready to learn how to be an incredible girl's girl, choose yourself over a relationship that's asking you to abandon yourself. Build the courage to be more bold, confident, and free. Get what you want in life and step into your purpose. You are not gonna want to miss Part Two with Chelsea Handler. Coming up in the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. If you loved today's episode, my only ask is that you please click the Follow or Subscribe button for the show on your app, and give it a five-star rating or review.

• 54:14Jamie Kern Lima?

  And then share this episode with everyone you believe in. Share it with another person in your life who could benefit from it. Post it and share it with others online or in your community who just might need the words and tools and lessons in this episode today. You never know whose life you're meant to change today by sharing this episode. And thank you so much for joining me today. Before you go, I want to share some words with you that couldn't be more true. You, right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy. You're worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams, and all the unconditional love in the world. And it's an honor to welcome you to each and every episode of the Jamie Kern Lima

• 54:59Jamie Kern Lima?

  Show. Here, I hope you'll come as you are. Heal where you need. Blossom what you choose. Journey toward your calling. And stay as long as you'd like, because you belong here. You are worthy. You are loved. You are love. And I love you. And I cannot wait to join you on the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Living with a constant mental narrative that you're not good enough is exhausting. I know because I spent most of my life in that habit. The words you say to yourself about yourself are so powerful.

• 55:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  And when you learn to take control over your self-talk, it's life-changing. And I wanted to give you a free resource that I created for you if this is something that could benefit your life. It's called "Five Ways to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Love." And it's a free how-to guide to overcome that negative self-talk to build confidence and develop unshakable self-love so that you can dream big and keep going in the pursuit of your goals. Don't let self-sabotaging thoughts hinder your progress any longer. It's time to rewrite the script of your life, one filled with self-love, resilience, and unwavering belief.

• 56:28Jamie Kern Lima?

  If you're ready to take charge of your narrative, build unwavering confidence, and empower yourself to persevere on the path to your dreams, you can grab your free guide to Stop Overthinking and Learn to Trust Yourself at jamiekernlima.com/resources, or click the link in the show notes below. Who you spend time around is so important as energy is contagious. And so is self-belief. And I'd love to hang out with you even more, especially if you could use an extra dose of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter that's also a love letter to you, delivered straight to your inbox from me.

• 57:13Jamie Kern Lima?

  If you haven't signed up to make sure that you get it each week, just go to jamiekernlima.com to make sure you're on the list, and you'll get your One-on-One with Jamie weekly newsletter and get ready to believe in you. If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, some tips, tools, joy, and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes. I am so excited for this book. You know why? Because it's going to...

• 57:48Speaker 03

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• 58:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  Imagine, what would you do if you fully believed in you? I went from struggling waitress facing nonstop rejection to founder of It Cosmetics, a billion dollar company, by learning how to overcome self doubt and believe I am worthy of my hopes and dreams. And I'm sharing how you can too in my new book, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life. If you're ready to truly trust yourself and break through that barrier of self doubt and know that where you come from, or even where you are right now, doesn't determine where you're going, then Worthy is for you.

• 58:59Jamie Kern Lima?

  It's time to go from doubting you're enough to knowing you're enough. It's time to step into all of who you are and into the person you were born to be. And it's time to believe that you are worthy of it. Because in life, we don't become what we want. We become what we believe we're worthy of.

• 59:21Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 1:00:04Speaker 02

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• 1:00:14Jamie Kern Lima?

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• 1:00:24Jamie Kern Lima?

  It's such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note, I'm not a licensed therapist and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.