Sex Expert on the Surprising Power of Sex & How You Can Build Unbelievable Confidence in Bed

Ready to transform your sex life & overcome performance anxiety? Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions", reveals the secret to unlocking 20 different types of orgasms—plus, how to achieve mind-blowing multiple orgasms and spice up your relationship! She also uncovers the powerful ways sex can heal emotional wounds and help you feel safe and secure with your partner. Plus, get her top tips for increasing sexual desire & sensitivity, building your confidence in bed, creating a "lover’s space," and fostering open dialogue around sex. It's time to revitalize your intimacy, boost your libido, and embrace the “ageless sexuality” you deserve—your best healthy and pleasurable sex life starts here! Learn more about Susan Bratton and all of her awesome work: https://susanbratton.com/ BialikBreakdown.com https://www.bialikbreakdown.com/ YouTube.com/mayimbialik https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTOocPnDh2YQZZwh86K2OxA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices https://megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  Studies have shown that people who fight for and have a long intimate life full of pleasure, they live a longer, healthier, happier life. There's so many benefits to having satisfying orgasmic intimacy. People who put attention on their sexuality and extend their sex span, that actually extends their health span. Good orgasmic intimacy gives you a burst of oxytocin, a hormone cascade, it reboots your nervous system, it generates more immune function, it produces more natural killer cells, which get rid of the cancer cells in your body. The more you have sex, the better you get.

• 0:46Speaker 00

  The better you get, the more confidence you have. The more that you have sex, the more pleasure you create, the more you have new neural pathways. For me, at 63, I am having by far the best sex of my life.

• 1:04Mayim Bialik?

  Hi, I'm Iyan Bialik.

• 1:06Jonathan Cohen?

  I'm Jonathan Cohen.

• 1:07Mayim Bialik?

  And welcome to our Breakdown. This is the place where we break things down so you don't have to. Today, we're going to be helping you enter an aspect of your experience as a human that you literally may never have considered before. No, we're not talking about extraterrestrials. We're not talking about walking on the Soul Plane. We are talking about learning to listen to your sexual body.

• 1:33Jonathan Cohen?

  We're speaking to a guest who starts to change our understanding of what's physically possible. So many of us have been having sex, maybe in the same way. And this episode blows apart our understanding of what connecting with another person can be like.

• 1:56Mayim Bialik?

  Yes, we're going to talk about the fact that there are 20 different types of orgasms, and we're going to learn about at least a dozen of them. We're also going to talk about the science of why being sexual has the ability to make us feel connected, but also has the ability to heal places where we don't feel safe.

• 2:17Jonathan Cohen?

  We're going to explore increasing sexual sensitivity and the idea that people can have an orgasm without being touched, not even in the same room as the person who is causing them to orgasm.

• 2:34Mayim Bialik?

  I could be having one right now and no one would know. We're also going to talk about some really, really good practical tips. How to create a space where we can communicate with our partner about what we're feeling sexually. How to create a lover's space and why it's important what is in your room when you're having sex. In addition, we're going to learn about what an erotic playdate is. And no, it's not about all the toys and the things that you buy on the internet that you can bring into your room. It's about understanding that there is a framework for you to feel safe, to feel sexual, and for you to be able to have the kind of sex in your 60s that you thought you could only have in your 20s.

• 3:19Jonathan Cohen?

  We're also going to be giving very practical advice to men and women on what their partner needs that they are not getting, how to increase sexual desire, how to increase your partner's interest in having sex.

• 3:37Mayim Bialik?

  Our guest is also going to explain how everyone is capable of having multiple orgasms in one session and also many different kinds of orgasms, and why saying please when trying to get your sexual needs met is actually undercutting your ability to get what you want. We're talking to Susan Bratton. She's a sexpert, an intimacy expert to millions. She's a champion and advocate for all those who desire lifelong intimacy and passion. She's the publisher of 44 books and programs on lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills. Sexual Soulmates: Six Essentials for Connected Sex is the one. That we're going to be talking about today, but there are so many. Her website is betterlover.com as well as personallifemedia.com.

• 4:22Mayim Bialik?

  She has a newsletter that reaches over 300,000 readers, or I should say 301,000 after today. It's such a pleasure to welcome Susan Bratton to The Breakdown.

• 4:36Speaker 00

  Hi, Mayim. Good morning. How you doing?

• 4:39Mayim Bialik?

  Welcome to The Breakdown. We're very excited to get to talk to you. Does everyone say that to you? Do you ever go somewhere and people are like, I don't want to talk about this with you, Susan?

• 4:49Speaker 00

  Um, I try not to trigger people. I try to get a set, like an intuitive sense of where they are and what their level of comfort is. Because one of the things that I've found is that when I speak about sex, at first people, they have this, you know, reaction like, ooh, this is, this is a lot. And then they go, oh, I didn't die. I can handle this. Look at me. I'm an actual grown ass person. And I kind of liked it. What else is there? So having the courage to speak about it, which took me a few years when I became a sexpert, to actually not have a lump in my own throat

• 5:33Speaker 00

  about the things I felt I needed to say. Now it's like water off a duck's back. I mean, easy peasy for me. I can say anything and I feel so comfortable. And I actually think that that empowers people to realize that sex is really helpful when you talk about it.

• 5:50Mayim Bialik?

  So maybe you can take us a little bit through your journey. What is your mission and how did you get here?

• 5:59Speaker 00

  Yeah, I'm very lucky that I get to say, my passion is passion.

• 6:06Speaker 00

  It just feels like such a good little cheat to me.

• 6:10Speaker 00

  I was forty-two, almost divorcing my husband because we had lost our way sexually.

• 6:19Speaker 00

  Hindsight 2020, we look back, it was the blind leading the blind, like everybody. I mean, pretty much everybody's at a, you know, kindergarten or first grade level in their sexuality, or even worse, not highly evolved because sexuality is so censored, and really has been until the era of the podcast and the growth of the ability to, for podcasters to want to invite people like myself in to have these Real Talk discussions about sexuality. Because there's no place we can go to learn about it that isn't male-oriented kind of sex. Everything we see in film, everything we see in porn, it's all for the male gaze.

• 7:02Speaker 00

  And so, we've been having sex like we think we're supposed to, and it's not working for a lot of people. A lot of partners are struggling. And so, being able to write it is really helpful, and that's what happened to Tim and I. We've now been married thirty-three years. We, we saw some therapy, we started telling the truth to each other, we started having an expanded orgasm practice, we started going to sex workshops. And we realized, my god, sex is really easy to learn. Someone just needs to tell you the right things to do. And that's a combination of understanding our own anatomy, which we are not taught, the pleasure of anatomy.

• 7:46Speaker 00

  We are only taught about contraception and, you know, how to keep yourself safe and, and things like that, how a baby is made, but that's, that's not sex. That's, that's procreation, not lovemaking. And so, Tim and I learned, and we quickly became really good in bed together. We rekindled our marriage. And twenty years later, I've written hundreds of passionate lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills. I teach people about intimate wellness, because if your parts aren't working, the sex isn't gonna be great. And...

• 8:23Speaker 00

  Really expanded what people think about sex. The paradigm is there's foreplay and intercourse. Sex is intercourse. That's what it is. It's not at all. Intercourse is a great, great part of lovemaking. But you really need to learn what you're doing because what you see out there is not what you want to do. When you start getting intercourse techniques, you get really good and better in bed together. And then the intercourse becomes very orgasmic and very pleasurable and very soul connecting. But it's not the only thing. So that's kind of how I got started, what got me into it. Your greatest wound becomes your greatest gift. Learning how easy it is and then wanting to teach people how to do it through online books and programs.

• 9:07Speaker 00

  I'm a publisher of passionate lovemaking techniques and I've published the work of my mentors as well as 34 of my own books and programs.

• 9:16Mayim Bialik?

  That's such a great, great place to start. One of the things that I wonder if you can kind of clarify is how important should sex be and why?

• 9:27Speaker 00

  I think sex is in the pantheon of things that are vital to a long, healthy, happy life, such as the love of family and friends, good, healthy nutrition, moving our bodies, dance, music, art, love. It's, it's a big part of it. And if you look at the data from all around the world, many, many studies have shown that people who fight for and have a long intimate life full of pleasure, they live a longer, healthier, happier life.

• 10:07Speaker 00

  So it's interesting that when I get booked for speaking engagements, I most, I never get booked. For someone to say, for me to go on a stage and tell you how to make love, how to transform having sex into making love, how to have heart connected, passionate, conscious lovemaking. People aren't ready for that. What I get booked on is health span, sex span, sexual biohacking, intimate wellness, sexual regenerative therapies. The health angle for sex is kind of a Trojan horse into the conversation because people are like, oh, okay. So it's as good for me as working out and eating my leafy greens. Interesting.

• 10:51Speaker 00

  But that's not even enough. A lot of times when people say, what are the benefits of sex? Why should we be having sex? I say, if I tell you that, you're going to be, you're going to put it in the same category as whatever you've decided to do about exercise and food. So let's talk about how do you actually have good sex? Instead of why is it good for you? Because if you don't think it's possible for you, you're not going to bother doing it anyway. You're going to be like, yeah, yeah. But I, but my situation's different. I can't do it because of the following, you know?

• 11:22Mayim Bialik?

  Well, Susan, I'm here to tell you something. Jonathan and I are not afraid to have those conversations.

• 11:27Speaker 00

  That's why I got invited, mama.

• 11:28Mayim Bialik?

  Yeah, we're not afraid. We don't want to, I mean, the, the health stuff is interesting, blah, blah, blah. No, we, we really want to talk to you about the things that we would book you for a speaking engagement to talk about, which is really why we wanted to have you here. So, um, one of the things that I really loved, and I didn't get to read all of your books. There are many, um, but I did get to go through a few of them. And, um, yeah, I, I really liked Sexual Soulmates. That was kind of the one that I locked into. But, you know, vaginal restoration revealed was also a good one. But one of the things that I wonder if you can kind of start us out with,

• 12:05Mayim Bialik?

  there's There's so little understanding for both men and women about, in particular, women's anatomy and how to actually seduce the female body, right? And I think what's interesting is when women don't know and men don't know, it's just a black hole. It's a black hole of trying to interact. So I think what I love about the way you frame everything is it doesn't fall on one particular person. It's not like, women, you don't know how to please yourselves, so it's your fault. Or, men, you don't know what you're doing, so it's your fault. This is about information that none of us are given access to.

• 12:50Mayim Bialik?

  So maybe we can start there. What are the things about the female body that both men and women need to know in order for us to have better intimacy?

• 13:02Speaker 00

  Yeah. There are three things that people often conflate: libido, desire, and arousal. Libido is your body, and it's your health. It's how healthy are you? If you have a low libido, it's often tied to emotional and physical,

• 13:18Speaker 00

  lack of robustness, lack of resources. The desire is how do you feel about yourself? I mean, you guys know the core wounds that people are walking around with. I'm not enough, I'm unlovable, you know? All of those really deep wounds. And then struggles with your partner. You know, if you're pissed off at them outside the bedroom, you're not going to be happy with them inside the bedroom, right? There's going to be resentment. So that's desire. The desire is the relationship, the emotional body. How do you feel about yourself? Are you like so caught up in, you know, making yourself feel horrible about some belly fat

• 14:00Speaker 00

  or your boobs being saggy or whatever, that you can't even relax and just enjoy your body? How do you get through those kinds of things? And then arousal is that what nobody told us about the difference between the innies and the outies that's holding us back from having super-hot orgasmic sex. And that's the arousal patterns, the difference between the male and female body. And what I love about sex, I have a really easy job, in all honesty. My job is that once I tell you something, you're like, oh. Okay, I can just totally change what I've been doing. My approach was wrong. Now I get it and I can do it. The body is an operating system. Everybody is massively multi-orgasmic. It's all inside us. We can have over 20 kinds of orgasms.

• 14:43Speaker 00

  And I, as a sexpert, focus on orgasmic pleasure because why would you have sex if you don't have orgasms? Like, all those sexperts out there saying, "Hey, don't focus on the orgasm. Don't put the pressure on yourself." I'm like, "Jesus, it's so easy. If somebody just gives you the recipe, you're gonna have them. You just gotta remove the roadblocks, figure out what they are, and you'll start coming really well." So, don't shy away from learning how to have them. Have them! That's what it's there for. That's what the benefits of sex are. Yeah, it's nice to be close. I love the oxytocin, but I want the orgasmic ecstasy, for God's sakes. That's why I'm here.

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• 18:11Speaker 00

  The difference between the male and female is basically timing, if you think about it.

• 18:18Speaker 00

  Men have very fast-acting hemodynamics, very quick blood flow. They're testosterone dominant. They, if they're healthy, they have nighttime erections. If they're, if they're healthy, they wake up with a boner in the morning. They get, you know, they get an erection and they're able to maintain it and it's firm. And we can talk about regenerative therapies to reverse atrophy, reverse erectile dysfunction for both the male and female genitals. But generally, if a guy is healthy, he's kind of ready to go, horny, turned on. He's masturbating frequently, often once a day, a few times a week. You know, this is just-

• 19:02Speaker 00

  Your basic dude and how he works. He's let's go mama, I'm ready.

• 19:06Speaker 03

  How old is this dude? How old is this dude?

• 19:09Speaker 00

  Any age you want. I mean, men in their seventies and eighties can have incredible sexual function. So it lasts as long as you want. Don't worry. You can keep it and you can reverse the atrophy to continue to have sex that keeps getting better your whole life long. Because your sexual maturation and your personal development are the they they come together. The more you have sex, the better you get, the better you get, the more confidence you have. The more that you have sex, the more pleasure you create, the more you have new neural pathways to your biggest sex organ to make you feel more play. It just grows and gets better and better and better.

• 19:51Speaker 00

  For me at sixty three, I am having by far, by orders of magnitude, the best sex of my life. I'm the juiciest I've been, the most orgasmic I've been, the most comfortable I am with my body, the most everything, the most fun and sassy and sexy and everything. So it doesn't stop. It's not for the youth. It's not for eighteen or thirty. That's not your peak. Your peak never ends. There is no peak. It's asymptotic. It just keeps getting better when you keep working on it. But the thing is for women, we have, if you think about, I've got a banana around here somewhere, I'm sure.

• 20:33Speaker 03

  Of course you do.

• 20:35Speaker 00

  If you think about a penis, and I've got a big one right here. If you think about a big banana, about half of it sticks out of a guy's body and about half of it goes in and down towards his testicles. And the whole fruit of that banana, double what you see is erectile tissue. So Jonathan, you'll be happy to know your dick's twice as big as you thought it was.

• 20:57Jonathan Cohen?

  Look at that blessings every day.

• 20:58Speaker 03

  Look, she just, she just created the cold.

• 21:01Mayim Bialik?

  Open for us.

• 21:02Speaker 00

  Exactly. And what's nice about it is that when you take out the erectile tissue that is inside the banana, that is the same amount of erectile tissue that is in a vulva. And I like to call the female genital systems, the yoni, Y-O-N-I. It's a tantric lovemaking word. It means the portal in Sanskrit, and it's really inclusive of the spirituality, the sexuality, and the anatomy. It's all the things. So yoni, Y-O-N-I.

• 21:40Speaker 00

  And if I took that erectile tissue out of his penis, or lingam is the analogous word for penis, and turned it into a little teardrop like this, then that teardrop is right inside our vulva, our vagina, and our G-spot poke out from the center of that teardrop, then this is all of it. So people are so focused on the tip of the clitoris, but the clitoris is all this buried treasure in here. And the thing is that it's three different... Let me show you a picture.

• 22:16Mayim Bialik?

  I mean, if the Play-Doh demo was not enough, she's gonna draw us a picture.

• 22:21Speaker 00

  I'm gonna show you a picture of a yoni. First, let me show you a lingam. So this erectile tissue in the penis, all the way in and out, half of it sticks out, half of it's in and down. All of that is these three big tissue structures. If you look at a vulva, here's what it looks like. Same big three tissue structures. So if here's the vulva, and I peeled away the top level,

• 22:50Mayim Bialik?

  Yes.

• 22:50Speaker 00

  the three tissue structures are here. Here's the clitoral tip, shaft, that's our little penis, the little arms, cora, the little legs, the stibular bulbs, the G-spot, which is actually the urethral sponge. It's a big tube, a noodley tube, and the perineal sponge down below the vagina, between the vagina and the rectum. All of this is surrounding us, but it's like an English muffin.

• 23:17Speaker 00

  You take the English muffin out of the fridge, you slice it in half, you throw it in the toaster, you press it down, it pops up, the damn thing's not toasted, you gotta press it down again, it pops up, ooh, now it's all brown and crusty and perfect. You take the butter, it's hard from the fridge, you cut it, you stick it in there, you smash the English muffin pieces together and you wait until all that butter melts into all those nooks and crannies. That's female anatomy blood flow right there. It takes us 20 minutes to get the blood flow that our male body partners are like, boink, they see our boobs and they're like, let's go.

• 24:01Speaker 00

  And then you add to that the fact that the world thinks in the paradigm of foreplay and sex and sex means intercourse, so we gotta get through this to have this thing we're supposed to do. No one ever told us how to have intercourse, so we're having it like men have imagined in television and media and pornography, instead of ever seeing any visual images of what women need for our physiology. And men are like, damn, I'd do that if you show me what it is. Like it's the blind leading the blind behind closed doors, this is what it is. And so you rush to this thing, he has an ejaculatory experience, maybe she ekes out

• 24:46Speaker 00

  an orgasm if she's lucky, she squeaks one out and that's sex. And she's literally never even gotten a lady boner because they're already done and he's having a sandwich and she's like, oh, okay. Hmm, I don't think I really want to have any more sex after a while because if this is what it is, it's not good enough for me. And that's kind of where we go off piste.

• 25:11Mayim Bialik?

  There's 8,000 things that you just said that I need, I need so much more information.

• 25:16Speaker 00

  Welcome to my ADHD, apparently.

• 25:18Mayim Bialik?

  Um, I, first of all, I, I wanna, I wanna just, you know, um,

• 25:25Mayim Bialik?

  I have a lot of respect for the way that you present information because you're speaking about the anatomy, you're speaking about, you know, what, what those of us who had to study embryology learned was that these tissues are the same and they differentiate depending on the hormones that are secreted, you know, when, when the embryo is forming. But that the tissues themselves are the same, that means they have the same capacity. They obviously operate differently and mechanistically they're different and culturally they're different and depending on the species, they're different. But these tissues have the same capabilities. And when you have, you know, homo sapiens sapiens making love

• 26:05Mayim Bialik?

  and forming bonds. But I really, I appreciate the introduction of the anatomy. And, and also there's a tremendous level of avoidance that our culture has, in particular about talking about female anatomy. And also like they gave us weird words for certain parts. Like the, like the letter V is not a friendly letter, right? Vagina doesn't sound nice like yoni does. Volva, like these are words. I mean, I've heard certain comedians talk about this, that even the names of the female anatomy, you know, it's like, it, it involves a little kind of linguistic, you know, mind bending.

• 26:44Speaker 00

  Yeah, good old Seinfeld with his mulva.

• 26:46Mayim Bialik?

  That's right. Mulva, Mulva and Dolores. You, you said that there's 20 different types of orgasms.

• 26:54Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 26:54Mayim Bialik?

  Now, I think most people just think of like, there's a good orgasm and then there's one that's like, that wasn't exactly what I thought. Or there's the fake orgasm. Those could be the three kinds, I think, that most people know about. What are these 20 different kinds of orgasms?

• 27:10Speaker 00

  Yeah. And I loved that you said homo sapiens sapiens. Because when we start thinking about ourselves on the tree of life.

• 27:23Speaker 00

  We're on the branch with the orangutans and the bonobos and the chimpanzees. We are a great ape. And when we begin to get back to the reality of Homo sapiens sapiens, we start to think about ourselves more in our animal body. And our animal body must be tamed, loved, calmed. One of the techniques in the Sexual Soulmates book that you got is the soulmate embrace. And it's a way of being held that we need, as women especially, to get out of our estrogen monkey minds that are reticular activation system is on high. We don't walk in the world safely.

• 28:07Speaker 00

  We are the prey, not the predator. We have to multitask. We're judgmental about things, including our own body image. These are hormones of protection and safety in many ways that support us in keeping us safe. But they make it harder for us to begin to climb that arousal ladder, to be able to let the blood begin to flow into our pelvic bowl, to seep into the English muffin in our pants, to get us turned on. You know, biohackers, I go on a lot of biohacking shows. They're really interested in talking about sex.

• 28:52Speaker 00

  And I say, I say to them sometimes, "You're willing to put 20 minutes in to let your sauna warm up, but not your pussy."

• 29:02Speaker 00

  Something's messed up here. I hope I could say the P word on your show. Okay, good. I usually don't, but it just seemed like the right word for that moment. So I talk a lot about orgasmic cross-training. And one of my girlfriends, Dr. Nan Y, she's a neuroscientist, sexologist, therapist, and she stuck women in an MRI and had their partners touch different parts of their genital structures and watch what parts of their brain lit up. And when I touch your outer labia, your labia majora,

• 29:37Speaker 00

  Lights up a different part than when I touch inside your vagina on your cervix, or your G-spot, or your perineum, or your clitoral shaft, or your Mons Venus, you know? And what's interesting about that is, when you start to think about, "Oh, okay, all of these are different areas of my brain, my biggest sex organ's processing sensation, it's what's telling me that feel good," or, "Ouch, that I feel shame when you touch me there," or "I feel pain when you touch me there," or "I feel numb, I don't feel a damn thing when you touch me there." Know that you can transform shame, pain, and numbness into pleasure by loving, consistent

• 30:17Speaker 00

  touch that activates and awakens not only the blood flow to the tissue and the engorgement, but the signals to your biggest sex organ, so pretty soon you're feeling all these great sensations. So, 20 kinds of orgasms really net out into three kinds of orgasms. The first is, and by the way, homo sapiens sapiens can have all of these, not just the lady monkeys. So, very important that women are actually ahead of the game with regard to understanding that they can have many different kinds of orgasms. Men are just waking up to that, and they're waking up to it through two pathways of interest to them the most.

• 31:02Speaker 00

  One is P-spot, the prostate, P-spot orgasms, or blended penile and prostate pleasuring orgasms. And what I would call full-body male multiple orgasm, or energy orgasms, male multiple orgasms. They're aware of that through the work of the Taoists, like Montag Chia's lineage. And so, men are starting to think, "Oh, you mean, maybe there's more than one way?" Like, they've conflated ejaculation with orgasm, and they think that's what coming is. It's not. It's like, now, women think, "You have to touch the tip of my clitoris to give me an orgasm." Oh, no, you do not. You are, you can have nipple gasms, foot gasms, belly gasms, or core gasms.

• 31:43Speaker 00

  You can have all kinds of locations in the vulva-vaginal-ioni complex. So can our male body partners. So, there's locations to touch, which is this activation, and I like to use a lot of sex tools for this, for orgasmic cross-training, for awakening and stimulating that tissue.

• 32:04Speaker 00

  There are techniques to use, like, maybe I could give you an orgasm through my erotic hypnosis, which is called a think-off by some people, long-distance orgasms. I don't even have to be in the same room with you, and I can make you come, right? So erotic hypnosis. Female ejaculation, it's not just what you see in porn, which is this kind of like brutal stimulation of the urethral sponge to get a fluid result, but instead, it's like orgasmic G-spot de-arming, activation, awakening, and then allowing your feminine waters to run. All women can ejaculate, some do it naturally, other women need to just

• 32:49Speaker 00

  learn the pathway to it. Really nice, beautiful kind of orgasm, takes technique. Expanded orgasm practice is a technique. I'd love to tell you more about that. And then there are, so there's locations to touch, there's techniques to use, and there's objects of desire. Some of us have kinks, you know, latex, flogging, candle wax, but it's also tools, like vulva massagers, prostate massagers, air stimulators, thrusters. Now we're moving into, I was just, I was literally just in Hollywood, I just got back moderating a panel

• 33:34Speaker 00

  on sex tech, and where we're going with haptics and teladildonics and the quantified orgasm. This vibrator from Lioness literally will tell you, it's like the Oura ring for your clitoris, or the Oura ring for your yoni, where it'll tell you how long, how many contractions, did you have an avalanche, a volcano, there's different styles of orgasms you can have, and if you can have a volcano, you can have an avalanche. Like, you just need to learn how to have them all. And so you can literally use orgasmic quantification now to know how you're doing with your orgasmic expansion.

• 34:17Mayim Bialik?

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• 35:44Mayim Bialik?

  Starting my day with this easy, health-focused task reminds me to continue to make healthy choices the rest of the day. For a limited time, visit drinkag1.com/breakdown and get a free immune support bundle, including omega-3 fish oil and vitamin D3 plus K2 with your first subscription of AG1 Next Gen or AG1 Pro. That's drinkag1.com/breakdown. And after checkout, be sure to let them know that Myambea Alex Breakdown sent you. I'd also like you to speak about Why being able to receive pleasure from your partner makes us feel more connected? Meaning, you can just sort of like have sex, or you know, as you see depicted in a lot of,

• 36:28Mayim Bialik?

  you know, popular media, like, oh, they just want to have sex and I'm just gonna like, get it over with, you know? But why is the work that you are suggesting that people put into getting to know each other, getting comfortable with each other and achieving maximal pleasure? Why does that change a relationship?

• 36:48Speaker 00

  Yeah. Well, there's so many benefits to having satisfying orgasmic intimacy, physical benefits. And if you look at the data, and there's data that's been collected around the world, that shows that people who put attention on their sexuality and extend their sex span, the amount of time throughout their life that they're having, pleasurable intimacy, that that actually extends their health span. So it's a longevity answer in some ways. It's also just a physiologic answer in other ways,

• 37:28Speaker 00

  where good orgasmic intimacy gives you, I want to return to this one, I'm gonna say it first, I'm gonna come back to it because it's so important. It gives you a burst of oxytocin. It gives you a neurotransmitter cascade, a hormone cascade. It reboots your nervous system. It generates more IGF for immune function. It produces more natural killer cells, which get rid of the senolytic, or zombie cells and the cancer cells in your body. It, and even things like, it oxygenates your brain. So if you have orgasms before you go to bed, especially, it's really good for nighttime, you know, detoxification of your brain.

• 38:12Speaker 00

  Some ancient Daoists used to do semen retention for longevity. So there's just this, there's like thing after thing after thing after thing after thing that are good for you when you have. Pleasurable orgasmic intimacy. And I don't feel bad about really focusing on orgasm because that's where the juice is. You can have intimacy, but I mean, how long you gonna wanna lie there? And be a masturbatory sock if you're not having an orgasm from it? You're not gonna want to. So I focus on it because it's learnable.

• 38:44Mayim Bialik?

  Many women, and I would say many people, but many women in particular, I think, have kind of given up on this notion that there is something to achieve in terms of if I'm not having orgasms. Like, there, there is benefit, not just for longevity, but it, it potentially can make you feel more desire, more desire for, if not your partner, then a partner. It's an awakening of what you're actually capable of in terms of your sexuality, which I think a lot of women in particular have been told to kind of put on the back burner.

• 39:21Speaker 00

  Yeah, well, we've been told a lot of things. We've been repressed, slut shamed, uh, never given the information about our anatomy. We've never been, and, and our male body partners, men suffer this equally with us. It's not, it's unfair to all of us that sexuality and sex education are pleasure-based, female-forward sex education is suppressed, like, women are suppressed generally. So it all goes into it. And the thing is that when you start having really good orgasms, it grounds you to your partner, to earth. It reboots your nervous system. It makes you more confident.

• 40:04Speaker 00

  It increases your passion, your vitality, your creativity. You, it, it, it is a confidence builder for women. And I think that That's why it's suppressed. So knowing that your best job is to be a sexual anarchist and take all the pleasure you can that you've been denied all these years, so you can get the benefits of it that have been kept from you.

• 40:34Jonathan Cohen?

  I have a lot of married friends. They've been with their partners for many years. They have young kids. They have busy lives. They tell me about their sex life and, you know, not in detail, but they share how things are going in their marriages.

• 40:49Mayim Bialik?

  New podcast.

• 40:51Jonathan Cohen?

  And one of the things that strikes me are the difference in time allotted to connection and sexual connection. And I've heard them describe, we're like, yeah, you know, more than 15 minutes. That seems excessive, right? Who has time for that? So tell us practically, in order to achieve this type of connection, how long should people be scheduling, blocking off on their calendar in order to have this type of connection?

• 41:21Speaker 00

  Yeah. Well, nobody likes to schedule sex, Jonathan, because then it's another chore to do. And so I like to reframe it into how long should we allocate to have a super hot erotic playdate together? And what are we going to learn when we decide to practice something new on each other to expand our sexual experiences and knowledge and pleasure? And when you reframe it like that, I recommend that, I have a little, I have a little PDF and it's, it's called my Sex Life Bucket List. And you can download this at sexlifebucketlist.com. It comes with a video that I did. It's about 40 minutes long. It's your first erotic playdate together.

• 42:06Speaker 00

  And you can watch it in bed on your phone or your laptop. And it's good if you print this out at home and make a copy for each of you if you can. And each one of these is 48 erotic playdate ideas of new things you can learn together so that you have this sex Five bucket lists that you've created together and you mark them as I walk you through all forty eight. And they're really, I try to do it as sexy as I can because I want you to get really turned on. And when you walk through them, you mark them an A, a B, or a C. A is, oh, this is definitely on my bucket list. We talked about it or we tried it once and I really want to find my G spot or whatever it might be. Bs are, it's not for me, but if you want to do it, I will totally do it.

• 42:51Speaker 00

  If you want to film us making love and we can watch it later and talk about the sexy parts. I'll get over myself and do that with you. All right, I'm willing. And Cs are, it's not for me right now. Never say never, because the thing that you used to go, why would anybody want to get spanked? That seems so demeaning. Now you're like masturbating to the idea of getting spanked while you do it, you know? It's just, that's how we are. There's always, as we grow, we want to try new things. And so it gets the monotony of monogamy out of there. Because you're bringing in the variety and the novelty and the new ideas and the experimentation and the beginning like, beginning as beginners together, the Buddhist way of, you know,

• 43:32Speaker 00

  of excitement, right? Beginning as beginners with a fresh mind and open eyes.

• 43:37Mayim Bialik?

  This is literally something that you suggest is instead of focusing so much on what is sex going to be like? Let's schedule our sex, that if you're trying to rekindle a relationship, setting up these play dates where the goal is not, and in the end, we're going to have sex. But the goal is, we have an activity that either you're interested in, I'm interested in, or we're interested together. And that is the purpose of the event that we are about to partake in.

• 44:07Speaker 00

  Yeah, you'll feel like you've had a relationship renaissance. And one of the orgasmic, one of the erotic play dates is orgasmic intercourse techniques. I've created ten, a ten step, different intercourse things you can do and try. So that both of you, you know, my friend, Dr. Lori Mintz, she, she wrote the book, The Orgasm Gap, right? The difference between how easy it is for men and how hard it is for women. That's just because the woman hasn't gotten enough. Pre intercourse arousal, and then she thinks there's something wrong with her because she doesn't react like a man to pornographic styles of intercourse, which is all we've ever seen.

• 44:50Speaker 00

  And so when you start doing the kind of very female friendly vagina melting intercourse techniques, you start having incredible intercourse. And so then you start wanting it a lot more. And so one of the playdates is let's try thrust in time, glissando, the heart tongue method, the feline grind. All of these are learnable intercourse techniques. That could be one of the things on your bucket list is let's learn how to give me orgasms from intercourse.

• 45:25Mayim Bialik?

  This is so this is, first of all, I love this. This is really, it's fascinating. It's very helpful. One of the things you talked about in Sexual Soulmates, which is the six essentials for connected sex, highly recommend. It's a very sweet little book. Like this is not like it's going to take you years to read. Like it's important and it's a good kind of handbook. But one of the things you talk about is feedback. And this is a really difficult thing. I know just from a lot of the women that I know that even asking for what you want in the first place is so freaking hard. And even women I know who are high powered, confident, successful, like run a business.

• 46:07Mayim Bialik?

  I don't, I mean, I'm sure it has to do with personality, it may have to do with trauma. A lot of it is our culture, I know. But just even being able to say like, that's not working for me. I'm not feeling anything. The notion of feeling you need to fake an orgasm, this is part of a lack of feedback. So you talk about a need for feedback that comes kind of from an animalistic place. Can you explain what is needed for both partners to be able to actually constructively understand what the other needs? What is this sort of space that you're supposed to learn to speak out from?

• 46:45Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 46:47Speaker 00

  I don't know what I want. I just know what I'm getting, isn't it? If I tell my partner, if I make a request to my partner, they'll take it as they're doing something wrong. They'll shut down, they'll emotionally check out, or they'll argue with me. I know what I'm doing. So I don't feel welcome to speak my truth. So I just put up with and take what I can get because it is my duty. This is the standard.

• 47:15Speaker 00

  And one of the... It's interesting, when you talked about Sexual Soulmates, the book,

• 47:23Speaker 00

  it seems like a very easy, breezy read. But those six essentials, they are...

• 47:33Speaker 00

  They're the ones. They're the little hinges that swing the big doors. They're easy to learn. You look at it and you're like, oh, I could do that. But it takes practice to do these things. And the communication technique with the feedback loops that you mentioned, the sexual soulmate act, the agreement between you and your lover, that you're just going to start speaking from your animal bodies.

• 47:56Mayim Bialik?

  I'm terrified. I'm just like shaking my head. I'm so nervous. Keep going.

• 48:01Speaker 00

  So the reason that you're nervous is that you feel that if you speak up, first thing, you don't know what you're going to say because you're not sure what you're going for. And so that's one thing. But the thing is that you have, you know, we have many senses in our body.

• 48:19Speaker 00

  Smell and sight and hearing and all of those things. But we also have another one called interoception. You know how when you're sitting in a crowded car and you have to fart?

• 48:32Speaker 00

  You know you have to fart. And you're like, oh, shit, I have to fart. I don't want to fart in here because everyone's going to smell it. That is interoception. You can feel the fart. And so you can feel everything that's happening to you if you tune into her, if you tune into your body. And if you think about your body. You have two sets of lips. You have the ones on your mouth and you have the ones in your yoni. And she's talking to you the whole time. If you listen to her, she's saying, oh, that's scratchy. Oh, I want more of that. Oh, I don't like that. Oh, God, am I going to be able to feel anything? Oh, God, get out of your head and get back in.

• 49:16Speaker 00

  You know, because you're having this running dialogue all the time. Is he getting impatient with me? You know, all of these things. Oh, I don't like that. Ooh, that feels really good. I hope he keeps doing that. That I like. It's all going on. And when you begin to feel safe, just simply communicating what you're feeling. That's step one. And starting with the parts where it feels good is really great. Oh, I like that. Yeah, keep doing that. That feels good. Oh, gosh, I'm, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh. Could you move down just a little bit? Ooh, stay right there. Don't stop. When you start doing that, when you start moaning, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, that feels good. Oh, and not forcing it.

• 49:59Mayim Bialik?

  I was just gonna say, like, if you, you cannot be the person who cries wolf. If you moan when it doesn't feel good, they're gonna keep doing that.

• 50:08Speaker 00

  You're, you're, and that's, I'm gonna get to what I need male-bodied people, testosterone-dominated humans to understand as well. But when, the moaning will come as the pleasure builds. Let it out, but don't force it. When you start with the positive, but you create a safe environment for your partner. When your partner enters into the soulmate pact with you and says, okay, I'm not gonna take this as anything I'm doing wrong. I'm reframing that we are now doing positive communication and that everything you tell me is just gonna help me pleasure you better, which is my ultimate goal. And that you, my woman, run on a 28-day moon cycle.

• 50:52Speaker 00

  And not only every day are you different, sometimes you are...

• 50:59Speaker 00

  A little kitty cat and you need to be held and stroked from the top to the bottom, not against the fur. And you need to be loved and calmed and hugged and squeezed. And you need to be kissed and you need your eyelids kissed and your neck kissed. And you need your sternum touched, not just your boobs grabbed. And you need all of that. And other days, you're a lioness and you want to be pounced on and pounced. And you want to roll around and you're physically activated and you're, you know, you want to try a crazy sex position. You've got energy. We run that gamut, not just over a 28 day cycle, but literally within the same date.

• 51:43Speaker 00

  We might go from needing to be completely calmed down. And then the lioness comes out and she's like, I want to do something really dirty today. I feel dirty all of a sudden. And when your partner's like, got it, babe, let's go. Thank you. Tell me more. When they start being hungry for your feedback and they're winning, all of a sudden you're respecting them and they're winning and they're doing a better job than they've ever done because they're finally getting the information. They need to do a good job. And they're like, oh, it wasn't me. It was just, I just don't know. How could I know? I can't know. My God, she's a tiger. She's a pussycat. What the hell? I have no idea.

• 52:24Speaker 00

  And so when you start letting your partner know what's going on with you and they start winning, and then they start telling you, babe, you know what I really like? I like if you grip it really tight right there, but then you do really light there and you kind of tickle my balls a little bit. And then you're like, oh, okay, I can do that. That was really easy. And then you do it and they're like, oh, that's exactly what I want. I love that so much. And so I think those are really important things to know about the communication is that it's a practice. You've got to enter into an agreement to not get a charge over it. You've got to do it together. It takes the appreciation.

• 53:02Speaker 00

  If you say something and your partner doesn't say, "Got it. Thank you." If they don't acknowledge, then you're like, "Oh, God, maybe I upset him." And then you start to spin out. And so it's really, really important to do the thanking. And it's kind of this weird thing where when you're in your sexual theta trance state of pleasure and you're getting a yoni massage and your partner's stroking you and they're just on the very perfect spot and you're like, "Oh, shit, do that till I say stop." And they go, "Thank you." All of a sudden, you're like, "Oh, he wants me to tell him." And why shouldn't you say, "Please"?

• 53:45Speaker 00

  Why shouldn't you be like, "Could you please stay right there"? Because it takes you out of your theta state and into your beta state. And you can't surrender to your pleasure if you're trying to be a perfect, mannerly, good girl. Screw that. Just shout it out, mama. Shout it out. And I got you. Yeah, baby. Tell me. Tell me more. Give in to me. Good girl. Thank you. I love this. Everything. Tell me everything you want. I'm gonna give it all to you. When you get that, oh, my God, shit's gonna light up, you know? It's just so nice.

• 54:17Mayim Bialik?

  You were gonna say something about something men need to know.

• 54:21Speaker 00

  It's acknowledge her and don't take it personally. How can you know? She doesn't even know till it's happening.

• 54:29Mayim Bialik?

  You know, sometimes when we share things, let's say, in the erotic playdate scenario or even in this kind of state you're talking about where you just sort of get to give feedback, what do you do if your partner wants to do something that you find problematic?

• 54:48Speaker 00

  Yeah. Say, if it's during a lovemaking date and it's something you don't want to do, say, "Oh, I hear you requesting that and let's talk about that later. I've got some concerns about it and I just need to hear more about what it is you're going for and what the expectations are or want to tell you, you know, kind of where my edge is on that." And so you just parking lot, come back to it, talk it out. Fear is generated through lack of knowledge, lack of understanding. So the more that you can kind of lay out what it is, the better off you are. Another thing that I was thinking that might be really helpful is if I, if I tell you about kind of some of the ways that I have sex, it's just like a model to follow. Would that be helpful for you?

• 55:33Mayim Bialik?

  I mean, you and I are already, we made a sexual pact in, in the last few minutes. So sure.

• 55:39Speaker 00

  I love that I have a sexual pact with you. Tell me everything, all the time, both of you. I want to hear it. That's so cute. Yeah. So a lot of times for, and, and, and the reason that I'm telling you what my sex life is like, isn't because it's mine, it's because my body works the same way your body does.

• 56:00Speaker 00

  And it's just a female human body. It's just an estrogen dominant vulva owning body. Right? It's, I ain't special. And I need, even though I have well-worn pathways to orgasm and all that stuff, I need my 20 or 30 minutes to get out of my head and into my body and calm my body down. And so very often in the beginning of a lovemaking date, my partner and I lie down in our bedroom with our fireplace on, we've made the nest. We've, one of the sexual soulmate pact, or the sexual soulmate's six essentials is set the lover's space.

• 56:39Speaker 00

  Get your vape or your glass of wine, your pitcher of water, your lubes, your toys, your playlist, the lighting, the stack of towels, the waterproof bed cover. And set it all in, get it all down so you can relax, right? You're not worried about squirting on the bed or whatever it might be. And then you lay down together and you have to let down. You have to connect. You talk for a little while. How you doing? What's going on? How you feeling?

• 57:15Speaker 00

  And, and then hold each other in the soulmate embrace for a while, get petted and stroked, get your hearts synchronized.

• 57:26Speaker 00

  Let your spit run, let your, your blood flow down to your genitals, feel yourself beginning to get a little wet.

• 57:34Mayim Bialik?

  Because a lot of, a lot of people are gonna like start like, oh, this is foreplay, we do this, and then we're gonna have sex, and then you're wondering why it's not good. And part of it is there's no limbic connection, there's no emotional connection, there's no physiological connection or notion of safety, which is what that limbic system and what holding, in many cases, is securing, which tends to be something that women do want, need, crave more, not always.

• 58:00Speaker 00

  Men need it too.

• 58:01Mayim Bialik?

  Right, this notion of creating a separate space from the workspace, the life space, that's sort of this creating this nest, that's what it's sort of doing.

• 58:11Speaker 00

  Plus, he gets to hold you and feel so masculine, and that makes him feel good too, you know, that energy's so nice. And even if you're in a, you know, same-sex or gender non-binary pair bond, this is what we do for each other, this is what generates the oxytocin, that's the antidote to cortisol that allows us to let everything flow. You need to get that let down. And then, sometimes we'll go for a yoni massage, and sometimes we'll make out, and I'll stroke him while he plays with my breasts. Your mouth and your breasts and your yoni are in a lock system of arousal, and when your breasts are

• 58:54Speaker 00

  tou- and if you say, oh, I don't like my breasts touched, I don't like my breasts touched yet. I'm gonna transform the pain, the shame, and the numbness to pleasure through consistent, loving touch and an open mind. Because when you get all three of those systems contributing to the turn-on, you get on that arousal ladder and the steps are a lot easier to climb than when you're not using all available assets.

• 59:28Mayim Bialik?

  When you say that the lips and the breasts and the genitals are connected, yeah, but, but also it works for- For for men as well. These are erogenous zones. And what that means is there's there's very special and important tissue that especially for Homo sapiens are disproportionately represented in the somatosensory cortex, which is the part of the brain that represents all of the sensation that we feel. So lips are really important because we speak, right? As Homo sapiens sapiens, we also use lips to communicate. So lips are super important. Genitals are important because these are the things that help us perpetuate the species, procreate and receive pleasure. So the fact is, for a lot of people, and I'm just going to be really explicit, for

• 1:00:12Mayim Bialik?

  some women and men also, being touched on the nipples can bring really uncomfortable and unpleasant sensations. That oxytocin stimulation is simply not working for them. So as you said, we need to figure out why that is. But ultimately, that is a place that is primed for you to receive pleasure. It's also, you know, connected to how we feed our children. It's not supposed to be painful and unpleasant and shame-filled. So this is a place where also you're saying, this is a learned experience. This isn't like one night stand, you met someone at a bar, let's see if this works. This is when you're in a relationship with someone with whom you want to continue building, correct?

• 1:00:55Speaker 00

  Yeah, well said. I love a sciency girl, that's hot. Yes, and sometimes it's stroking and sometimes it's yoni massage. And there are two tools that I like for yoni massage. So manual pleasuring where your partner is just giving you a vulva massage is very, very nice. And there are two items I like. This is called the queen. And it uses a pulse plate technology that penetrates the tissue to get that blood into all that erectile tissue I showed you earlier.

• 1:01:40Speaker 00

  This one, it has a dumb name, this is called vibe. But it it's a little bit lighter sensation, but it's extremely quiet. So for people who are highly sensitive people, this is not loud, but this is, you can't even hear it. It's For more sensitive people and for people who maybe have kids in the house and they're like, they're in the next room, we just don't want anything to make any sense. This is a very good one, but adding a tool, a vulval massage tool to the experience really gets that blood flowing in and it plumps all that tissue up. So then you've got all this plumpness. So everything that gets touched just feels a million times better because

• 1:02:24Speaker 00

  your brain's like, getting input, getting input, input is good. I feel good. Oh, this is the best I've ever had. So really spending time, not just focused on grabbing a boob and sticking it in, but on fluffing. You want to be fluffers for each other because when you're touching the lingam and you're stroking it pleasurably, he's calmed down. It calms him. And when he gets that, he's able to get that whole varied shaft erect. So he gets a better erection set into the structure, the penile structure.

• 1:03:03Mayim Bialik?

  I think a lot of people wouldn't even think about that there's a way to have a different kind of erection, meaning like, I don't know, it's hard, it's okay. You're saying there's even different levels to that kind of stimulation?

• 1:03:14Speaker 00

  Yes, it calms him. It allows the blood flow completely in. It helps with a firmer, harder erection. It's very, very good for his penis. He needs the nurturing and the healing and the sensual touch in addition to the sexual touch. We all need those. Another thing about oxytocin, oxytocin is that I make my own yogurt with lactobacillus ruteri and the ruteri is the bacteria in your gut that produces oxytocin and it's very sensitive to antibiotics. So if you've ever had any antibiotics in your lifetime, chances are you're a very low oxytocin, low to no oxytocin producer. And so it's really good to reestablish

• 1:03:59Speaker 00

  the colonies of the lactobacillus ruteri. You can take capsules. You can also put it, you know, cultivate yogurt and make it in your Morning smoothies or in your breakfast bowl or whatever you whatever you're having. Um, and so that's the thing to look at is that once you start to reestablish your oxytocin, the your heart muscle will actually work better. You'll feel more love. You'll feel more in love. You'll feel more loved by your partner and all that skin to skin contact will just generate a lot more oxytocin. It's almost, I have so much oxytocin in my system now because I do the the yogurt that I I get drunk on it. I literally just get like drunk with love from my oxytocin.

• 1:04:43Speaker 00

  When I go away for four days without touch, I feel a little low. I feel a little depressed from it. And I go, oh, yeah, I just need to get my friends to hug me some more while I'm on this trip because I don't have my partner with me and I'm feeling disconnected. I touch my people a lot. I need a lot of touch now because I'm kind of like addicted to the oxytocin, uh, pleasure.

• 1:05:09Mayim Bialik?

  I have a practical question. When should the female orgasm happen? Meaning, a lot of people like, sometimes it's like, oh, it's the thing we do before and then you have intercourse. And other people's like, oh, if it doesn't happen, do it after. Is there an optimal time? Because it also seems like there's a lot of preparation and things that can happen. Like, I don't even know how you know when to have intercourse. I'm sure it becomes obvious to you in your life. It's not my business.

• 1:05:38Speaker 00

  You're ready. Your your yoni wants it. Your yoni's like, get in here.

• 1:05:42Mayim Bialik?

  No, but so is that an orgasm before? Does it depend? Is it orgasm after? In terms of maximizing a woman's pleasure, is there a formula for when her orgasm should happen relative to her partners?

• 1:05:55Speaker 00

  Yes. Um, sometimes I will have an orgasm, a full body energy orgasm before my partner hits the bed. And that's just because I've primed my pump and I'm very, very good at coming because I've practiced it. I've practiced and have all but one of the kinds of orgasms that the body can have. And that's just because it's a little gross to me. It's a yuck for me and I don't want it. And that is a urethral orgasm where you put a sounding device up into your urethral tube and that can stimulate orgasm. And I'm just not into that. I don't want to mess with that. I already have incontinence issues I'm constantly working on.

• 1:06:32Mayim Bialik?

  We all have our limits, Susan. We all have our limits.

• 1:06:34Speaker 00

  We all have our limits, exactly. But having orgasms, once you start priming the pump and you start having them and you start cross-training and having different kinds, they're very easy to have. And they start off kind of small. And for me, now that I also have throat gasms and kissing gasms and lip gasms and things like that, often I'll find that I, my orgasmic response starts in my, in the top half of my body rather than the bottom. I start getting some contractions around my yoni as well. And then I, over time, I can have orgasms from the lightest of touch, just nipple stimulation, just kissing, yoni pleasuring, any of those kinds of things. So it's just, you know, just

• 1:07:18Speaker 00

  put in a little time and you can activate all these things yourself. You have the ability to have, everyone has, they're all in there. They just want you to come out. They just won't, you know, it's just, you just need to get the right inputs and the right, remove the limiting beliefs and all those things. So in any particular lovemaking session, when we fir-, when I first started having multiple orgasms, I would tell my partner when I was having one, I'd go, "One." And I'd go, "Two, three, four," just so he knew. And then I stopped the numbering because they were getting 10, 20. And then I just started going, "That was one, that was one, that was one, that was one, that was one," you know, over and over. And they got bigger and they expanded and they covered more of my body and they were easier to have. And I could get them from different ways. And I just, you know, kind of grew all that out. And

• 1:08:01Speaker 00

  So I think the idea is that the best time to have an orgasm is all the time. Just come the whole time, come the whole time. And then your male body partner is going to be like, oh, maybe I should start separating my orgasm from my ejaculation and working on having full body male multiple orgasms. Then he starts coming lots and lots and lots without ejaculating. And then you guys are just coming like crazy and it's, and your neighbors are calling the cops.

• 1:08:28Mayim Bialik?

  I think we need a little, a little framework here just so we can understand. So you're not, when people think of like the classic lady orgasm that like you see, you know, when you think of like, there's the increase and there's like a scream and like, ah, you know, like if anyone's seen the vagina monologues, there's different kinds of orgasms, but you're not talking about 20 of those. They're, they're different in variety, correct?

• 1:08:49Speaker 00

  Oh, I can have 20, you can stroke my clitoris and I'll have 20 orgasms in a row and they are all, and I'm turned on and I'm moaning and I'm coming and it's, you know, over and over and over.

• 1:09:00Mayim Bialik?

  Is there no refractory period for women?

• 1:09:03Speaker 00

  No, you don't need that. If you don't drive your clitoris too hard, if you don't over stimulate it, you, the lighter you go, the better you come over time. You don't need a ton of stimulation because you've activated the neural pathways. So even the, a wisp of a touch. The expanded orgasm practice is actually a very, very, very light clitoral stroking. Often when we're teaching the doer, the giver of this stroke to do the stroke, we say, you know how when you get an eyelash on your eyeball and you touch it super lightly with the pad of your finger and then you could get that eyelash out of your eye? People can really relate to that level of light touch.

• 1:09:46Speaker 00

  That's what we're talking about with an expanded orgasm clitoral stroke on the clitoral shaft and the clitoral head where it's so light that you can kind of get into that orgasm and stretch that moment of orgasm. So it's not that, that, that Masters and Johnson, you know, go up, up, up and then fall off.

• 1:10:10Mayim Bialik?

  Got it.

• 1:10:10Speaker 00

  You're going up and then you're riding it and, and staying in it. You learn how to stay in sensation. You learn how to be there mentally. You don't check out, you stay in it. Physically, you learn to stay in it. And then you're riding that moment of climax and stretching that out. Like, time is taffy and you're going into this orgasmic time warp. Where you're just sort of like,

• 1:10:50Speaker 00

  you know, you do that. And, and that's just learned. You just, you just learn how to do it. Your body can do it, it's easy. And so you can do a whole bunch of those and they can keep getting bigger, better, and better, and better. I jokingly call that the quantum gasm because they're, they're not only getting more intense, but they're lasting longer, they're bigger and bigger and bigger. They're like just raiding at, radiating out like crazy. That's just one clitoral stroking technique. That's just one kind of orgasm. It's a technique, style of orgasm. There's one. And you can do them over and over and over and over. You can come the whole time and you can come from intercourse and you can come from oral. You can come from playing with your breasts. You come from kissing, you can come from giving oral. You can come from body, you can come from core gasm. You can come from your feet getting massaged.

• 1:11:32Speaker 00

  I mean, there's this like, we are massively orgasmic beings.

• 1:11:37Mayim Bialik?

  Before we lose you, I wonder if you can talk a little bit about, you know, for a lot of the conversation for women is about perimenopause. It's about being menopausal. It's, you know, all these conversations about the, the natural changes in the body that come from a depletion of hormones and an increase in other hormones. Can you talk a little bit about vaginal atrophy? And talk about sort of your perspective that might be helpful for people who are experiencing, you know, all the things that you experience when you don't have estrogen or progesterone or testosterone flowing through your body?

• 1:12:12Speaker 00

  Yeah, well, number one, I love hormone replacement therapy for all homo sapiens sapiens. It's neuroprotective, heart protective, helps you build muscle, helps with cognitive function. It's great for your skin, for your hair. It's great for your confidence. It's great for your sex drive. It's great for everything. So I'm, personally, I've been doing hormone replacement for the last two decades, successfully, happily, and et cetera. So I think that certainly that's part of the stack is considering hormone replacement. The second part is adding to your nitric oxide stores. So now we're in the sexual regenerative world here. You need to up your leafy green vegetables and your beetroot, but you also need to up

• 1:12:57Speaker 00

  your nitric oxide supplementation. Citrulline is the best. And then the atrophy that you experience, the penile and vaginal or vulva vaginal atrophy that we experience is, you know how your grandma and grandpa are little and they shrunk? Grandma and grandpa's genitals shrunk too, and that's what's happening to us. And so as they shrink, they don't work as well. The vascular system retracts, the nerves retract, you lose sensation, you lose erectile function, you can't get the blood flow in. And that means the pleasure goes down. So you have to, you have to work against that. And the way that you do that is through a couple of different things, that different modalities that you can use for both.

• 1:13:42Speaker 00

  To me, okay, if I want to fix my problems, I'm all like, let's call the guy or the woman. Let's call the person and like, get the best thing and get this done with. I don't want to fuck around with it. You just want to get it taken care of. And so the very best thing you can do is get GainsWave treatments. GainsWave is a branded treatment that uses a device called an acoustic wave machine. I prefer it and recommend it over RF and lasering because that's only intravaginal. It doesn't do anything to help your clitoral atrophy. And why would you not be fixing your pleasure center?

• 1:14:26Speaker 00

  So it acoustic wave penetrates into the tissue.

• 1:14:32Speaker 00

  And now with the newest device that's out, the OmniWave, it's adjustable so you can do different depths of penetration for different areas of the genital structures. If you go in, take your partner, you both need it. And you do it once every few years, you get six or seven treatments in a row, and it regenerates the tissue. It does cellular biogenesis. It generates more tissue. So you replace the atrophy, it plumps everything up, the blood vessels grow out to the capillaries, to the edges, and then the nerves follow along. You get sensation back.

• 1:15:14Speaker 00

  And for women, you're fixing incontinence, vaginal atrophy, loss of lubrication, and loss of sensation, and labial laxity, and clitoral, that like vanishing clit, it reverses what women are these days calling vanishing clit. And so, everything just gets plump and comes back, and it's young and robust. For me, at sixty-three, not only am I having the best sex of my life, but I'm also the juiciest and most orgasmic I've ever been by far. I mean, it's nothing, I'm so far beyond where I was in my twenties and thirties with grip, tone, juice, orgasm, everything from doing this kind of stuff.

• 1:15:56Speaker 00

  And for men, it regains their firmness, their blood flow, all of that. It helps stimulate all that tissue, perineal, prostate, et cetera, because they've got to worry about their prostates. And all of that is just wonderful. You can also use vacuum erection devices, they're particularly good for men, penis pumps. But you have to use the right kind with the right protocol, and so that's very important. I have written a book on that that's free, it's at pumpingguide.com. You can not only reverse the atrophy, but go on to increase the overall penisile volume. So you can improve the size of your penis, you can lengthen and thicken your penis, which

• 1:16:38Speaker 00

  is really nice, natural, and you can maintain those gains over time. It's not like you have to do it constantly, you can get to a point where you're happy, and you feel nice and thick and fat and juicy and veiny, and then you can maintain that, which is nice. And then, for women, I also like a little device, this is a vagina device that I like for at-home use, this is kind of a DIY device, that

• 1:17:02Speaker 00

  Uses red light therapy and red light is called photobiomodulation. Red light, this stimulates the vaginal mucosal,

• 1:17:16Speaker 00

  mitochondrial function, the batteries in the cells of your vagina, basically, where it stimulates new tissue growth, it'll thicken that tissue up a bit and help hold more lubrication in, especially if you combine it with estrogen, vaginal estrogen, which helps thicken that tissue back up again, so it's not thin, so it holds more of that blood flow that's coming down into your pelvic bowl. Because the vagina is not a gland, it doesn't make its own lubrication. It comes, seeps in through the blood flow from arousal. So when you rush sex, you're dry, you know? So you have to wait until she's like, ah, ah, ah, ah, ready now. So those are some of the sexual regenerative things that can be done.

• 1:17:59Speaker 00

  And then stem cells, exosomes, PRP, so O shots, P shots. I have actually harvested my own stem cells. I keep them cryogenically frozen at American Cell Tech. And I've had them injected into my genital structures so that I'm rebuilding tissue from my own biology now. That's where all this is going.

• 1:18:21Mayim Bialik?

  It's amazing. Sex tech is the next front. Can you let people know where to find all of the information that you have? I love the notion that, and maybe you can kind of, you know, close with sharing some of this. These are, these are things that people can learn. You know, having access to your sexuality, knowledge about your body. This is not something that's only for, you know, OBGYNs to know. And even they probably don't know a lot of this, but you absolutely know all of this. Where, where can people find this information? And if you can just sort of remind people why it's important to pursue this?

• 1:18:56Speaker 00

  Yeah. Well, it's important to pursue it because it keeps you healthier, happier, and you live longer. And it calms you, it grounds you, and it makes you feel human, and it's pleasure. And you need more pleasure and less stress in your life. And it's one of the gifts of our humanity. And it's yours to have. And there's nothing wrong with you. And you're not broken. And if there are little parts of you that are broken, you can fix them with sexual regenerative therapies, which is great. This can all be reversed. So it's absolutely wonderful. There's always a workaround, a compromise, to get back and go beyond anything that you ever dreamed is possible for your pleasure and connection.

• 1:19:42Speaker 00

  And you can find me at betterlover.com. I have a newsletter there that I send out twice a week with all kinds of stuff like we've talked about today. And if you get that newsletter from me and you have a question about anything, you are welcome. And I get a lot of email from people. It goes right to my inbox, not to my care team. And I will answer you. And most likely, I've heard this question hundred thousand times before, and I have a video on it, or a free ebook, or an article I've written. And I can just solve your problem pretty much instantaneously, because we are Homo sapiens sapiens. We have an operating system. Once you know how to work it, it works beautifully. And so that's what I want for you.

• 1:20:25Speaker 00

  And thank you so much, both of you, for having me. Excellent questions.

• 1:20:29Mayim Bialik?

  Thank you.

• 1:20:30Speaker 00

  Excellent interview. A++ plus plus. Great job today. Thank you so much for getting a lot of good info out of me. You did a great job, both of you.

• 1:20:44Mayim Bialik?

  I think a lot would have to change in my life for me to want to constantly be having orgasms for an entire sexual encounter.

• 1:20:53Jonathan Cohen?

  What would have to change?

• 1:20:55Mayim Bialik?

  It's, I'd have to have like, nothing else to do, go to, participate in. This is a, it's an expenditure of energy. Like, I understand that, you know, you can be Be at a point in life where like this is the activity and we're gonna do this. But like also just practically speaking, it's an expenditure of energy. Which I get it like, oh, it's so fun and it's so great, but like I also like, I need to feed the cat.

• 1:21:25Mayim Bialik?

  Deal with like getting lunch ready for tomorrow and make sure I have my protein shake before bed.

• 1:21:31Jonathan Cohen?

  What if it's actually gives you more energy?

• 1:21:34Mayim Bialik?

  It doesn't. That's not how it works.

• 1:21:37Jonathan Cohen?

  Well, if it reduces stress, you feel more alive, your oxytocin is higher. All those things would carry over and actually be energizing. But this goes, this goes to my point when I asked her about scheduling. And I felt like that was taken a little bit not how I intended it. Because the idea is like, in order to have this connection, to lie down, to have your systems regulate, to stroke, to touch, to hold, to get out of the mindset of the day and into a connection where you're outside of the busyness of the world and now focused on this.

• 1:22:18Jonathan Cohen?

  It does require a transition time, you know, that my friend who was married that I was telling you about, they go on a date, they try and book off part of their morning at least once a week where they're having this type of connection and they're working towards having a date, having a practice where they're sharing what's going on for them. And then they know that having sexual or physical connection could be a playdate. Whatever you want to call it is part of that. And so what I hear from her is actually increase the time. So that's where it goes to your point where, yeah, people are busy. They are feeding the cat and getting lunch ready. So if this is a concentrated practice, it does require people to rethink how they're fitting it into the rest of their lives.

• 1:23:03Mayim Bialik?

  Yeah. And also, I mean, I have, you know, respect for the business that, you know, that she has built. And also like, there's parts of these conversations, I think, that are like flashy and they're fun. But I think that she also talked a lot about more of the. Practical stuff about, you know, feeling safe. She has this formula that's safety plus novelty equals desire. And that it's absolutely true that having the same kind of sex with the same person over and over as you get older, it's gonna get old. You're not gonna feel that kind of desire. And so I think what I appreciate about her approach is it's not just about like, get these toys. Like, it's about learn your body. You have to learn your body.

• 1:23:46Mayim Bialik?

  Your partner has to learn your body and their body, right? It's, it's a relationship that you can't simply rely on those early sparks where you, you know, kind of feel so excited and you feel that desire all the time. You do have to put work into maintaining that. And the payoffs are many, not just for longevity, which I think is fascinating. But the payoffs are that you will see yourself more as a desirable, desired person who is worthy of attention and time. And I think that, you know, that will, will boil over. It's not just about sex. It's about, do you feel appreciated? Do you feel like someone cares about you? And I thought of that too, when she's talking about this.

• 1:24:29Mayim Bialik?

  Not every person is in a relationship where their partner wants to take the time to do this. You know, at what point then do you say, this is not a match? I need something you can't give me. It's likely part of a larger, you know, it's likely a symptom of a larger problem. But the fact is, I know a lot of people, men and women, who would be like, I'm really not interested in connecting at that level. Like, I feel aroused, I get horny, and then I'd like to have an orgasm. You know, for some people, it's not a priority. But I also know a lot of people for whom mindfulness is not a priority. They don't wanna feel what they're feeling in their body. They don't wanna think about it. They wanna like, smoke a joint, have two glasses of wine, and go to bed.

• 1:25:14Mayim Bialik?

  Which I get.

• 1:25:15Jonathan Cohen?

  Yes, I totally agree. I also think there are a lot of people, probably our audience, who are curious and believe that there is more to this experience of life than they may have achieved or come across yet. And what I like about these conversations is that they expand the realm of what's possible. When we start to think about, we've been doing sex in a certain way. We may have explored, we have.

• 1:25:47Jonathan Cohen?

  Navigated to the best of our ability. But what if our bodies are now actually capable? We learned that our bodies are capable of something that we didn't realize they were before. And even just the idea of that begins to change how we approach connecting with someone else. If we can start to realize we need to slow down. If we can start to realize, wait a second, I can have orgasmic experiences that are not related to an end climax for men ejaculation. All of a sudden, what else is possible? And I love that idea of exploring the realm of what's possible.

• 1:26:27Mayim Bialik?

  And I think that's a point that I think works for a lot of people, maybe to understand emotionally, right? The notion is not, can I have 19 of the 20 kinds of orgasms that exist? That may not be for you to have an orgasm from someone touching your feet. That may not be for you. But I think what we're trying to communicate with this episode is, what if what you think is possible for your body is actually not what's possible for your body?

• 1:26:56Jonathan Cohen?

  It's not limited by that.

• 1:26:57Mayim Bialik?

  What if there's a space where you feel so safe, so calm, so aware of what's going on that you are able to tap into things that you didn't think you could tap into before? That's what I think this can provide. And it's not so much about setting a goal of I need to have orgasms like the ladies in porn, or I need to have orgasms like Susan Bratton. But to be able to say, you know, I thought my body could only do one thing. What if it can do a lot more?

• 1:27:31Jonathan Cohen?

  This is actually connected to some of our episodes on consciousness and having extrasensory ability because it changes the paradigm of what we thought the limit of reality was. To think that there's only one type of sex or only a few different types of ways to have sex and then to realize What if someone could feel orgasmic? And I like that. I like that phrasing. The word orgasmic versus orgasm or climax, where we're thinking about it. And she, you know, the way she was describing it, it's like, it's like an exhaling an energy, rising up and then staying in that state. It's kind of like a meditative state, where you go into a meditative state and all of a sudden,

• 1:28:15Jonathan Cohen?

  time and space start to merge and become less linear. It seems related. And that's what the tantric practices start to teach.

• 1:28:25Mayim Bialik?

  I'm going to make a strange analogy that I've heard people talk about. I've heard people talk about like when, I think it's ayahuasca. Someone correct me if I'm wrong. You, you throw up after ayahuasca? Is that one of those drugs?

• 1:28:35Jonathan Cohen?

  Yeah, some people do.

• 1:28:37Mayim Bialik?

  Mushrooms too. Okay, some people will also throw up from mushrooms. So there's this like purging that your body will sometimes do in certain psychedelic experiences. And what I've heard people describe is like, you don't think of it in that state the way you think of it when you're not in that state. Meaning, like throwing up, yeah, it's not a pleasant thing. But when you're in that place and it's part of whatever, you're also in an altered state where throwing up, it doesn't mean the same thing. And you can't picture that now unless you are in that state, which I'm assuming you're not if you're watching or listening to this. So if I tell you that there is a time in a place where you could have an experience such as throwing up, that would not feel scary, gross, you'd find that hard to believe.

• 1:29:22Mayim Bialik?

  In the same way, if you have body image issues, if you feel like you could never be comfortable being naked in front of someone, you could never be comfortable sharing, it's because you haven't been put in that state to feel safe enough to feel what she's describing. So that's kind of what we're looking. I know it's a strange analogy with the throwing up. But what I'm saying is, you can't picture it when you're not in it. So that's what she's also talking about when it comes to feeling safe, to feeling loved. If you're not in that state and you haven't had experiences of that, you can't picture it. Susan's notion is once you experience that, you then want to keep tapping into it

• 1:30:07Mayim Bialik?

  because it's, you know, you deserve to feel good. You deserve to feel loved. And you deserve to feel safe.

• 1:30:14Jonathan Cohen?

  I was thinking about how helpful it would have been. In my early life as a sexual being to learn how to communicate with my partner.

• 1:30:27Mayim Bialik?

  I mean, I know a couple of people who who were raised in very, I'd say, kind of healthy homes where sexual communication was taught in healthy and age appropriate ways. I don't know a lot. Most people I know, like, you just like, don't say anything and hope it goes okay. And if it doesn't go okay, pretend that it did and do it again the next time they ask you out.

• 1:30:53Jonathan Cohen?

  Maybe magically they'll just intuit how to change. And if not, we'll just live like that and then we'll die.

• 1:31:00Mayim Bialik?

  It feels a little bit like we're taught to check things off a list sexually, you know, like, have your breasts touched, touch a penis, like, you know, make out, have sex, you know, and then, I don't know.

• 1:31:14Jonathan Cohen?

  Well, there's more information than ever before, but the notion of that constant communication, that feedback where one partner is leading the other and that getting into that dialogue changes everything.

• 1:31:29Mayim Bialik?

  But I don't know how, I mean, that's the part I think that, you know, reminds me of like the Gottman episode, you know, when we had John and Julie Gottman on, like, you have to be in a place where you can even say to your partner, I listened to My MB Alex Breakdown and they had this lady on and I think we should go to her website. Like, you've got to be in a place where you can just say that.

• 1:31:51Jonathan Cohen?

  Well, if you're listening to this episode and your partner or your potential partner or a person that you're about to go on a date with hasn't listened to this episode, that's a great date.

• 1:32:01Mayim Bialik?

  Great icebreaker.

• 1:32:02Jonathan Cohen?

  Let's get on the same page because people are, they're on different pages. They're, you touch someone, you don't know exactly what they're experiencing, they- Could maybe like it, maybe they're just being nice.

• 1:32:15Mayim Bialik?

  Well, I think a lot of people also feel like if you talk something to death, it takes away a lot of the allure. And I'm gonna go ahead and say, I think that's absolutely true, but what she's talking about is sort of a a different kind of structuring where it's not just like, let's talk sex to death. It's about, let's have a kind of communication that makes this more what we each deserve to have, which is a better understanding of our bodies and how they interact.

• 1:32:47Jonathan Cohen?

  The other thing that she said that really stuck out for me.

• 1:32:49Mayim Bialik?

  Hold on, I have to have an orgasm. Give me a second. Okay, back.

• 1:32:54Mayim Bialik?

  Wait, another one's coming. Hold on. Okay, done.

• 1:32:58Jonathan Cohen?

  You feel so safe in this conversation.

• 1:33:00Mayim Bialik?

  Oh, you said the word safe. I had a safegasm.

• 1:33:02Jonathan Cohen?

  Someone might touch your shoulder.

• 1:33:04Mayim Bialik?

  You said shoulder.

• 1:33:05Jonathan Cohen?

  I forget the episode, but you were wearing a low-cut shoulder.

• 1:33:10Mayim Bialik?

  Oh, that's right.

• 1:33:11Jonathan Cohen?

  A shoulder revealing outfit. I made a big deal out of it. I forget what episode that is. Valerie probably knows.

• 1:33:17Mayim Bialik?

  Valerie's busy having an orgasm. She can't come to the podcast right now.

• 1:33:22Mayim Bialik?

  Also, Valerie was the color of a beet for most of the first half of the episode.

• 1:33:27Jonathan Cohen?

  Now you're a color of a beet.

• 1:33:28Mayim Bialik?

  At first I thought she was blushing, but every time I looked over, she just maintained a kind of rosy hue.

• 1:33:36Jonathan Cohen?

  It's a good thing she has final edit of this episode. She can choose if she, if that's kept in or not. But something Susan said, she said, "Your yoni is talking to you all the time if you learn to listen." We had a segment called "What Mime Hears."

• 1:33:54Mayim Bialik?

  What does Mime's yoni hear?

• 1:33:58Jonathan Cohen?

  What does Mime's yoni say?

• 1:34:00Mayim Bialik?

  Well, you know, I know that that's.

• 1:34:02Jonathan Cohen?

  Does it talk in a Yiddish accent?

• 1:34:04Mayim Bialik?

  Okay, stop it. I know that this is something that you're clearly laughing about, but I really, actually, this was one of the things I found the most moving from, from what Susan was saying, is that.

• 1:34:17Mayim Bialik?

  Just like our body talks to us all the time, right? And we even learn, you know, if you're sensitive, you can learn when you breathe in through your nose, you can feel the air on the back of your throat. It's what we're taught in meditation, right? When we're taught mindfulness, you're taught to isolate different parts of your body. And I'm not saying that we should do that all the time with our genitalia, but the notion that we are placed on this planet with the ability to feel these sensations in the context of a safe, loving relationship, why would we not learn how to listen to that part of us? It's a lot of tissue. It's a lot of sensations. It's a lot of nerves. There is information there,

• 1:35:01Mayim Bialik?

  and a lot of that information may be what we don't like, which is as important, if not more important than what we do like.

• 1:35:08Jonathan Cohen?

  I mean, I was joking, but I do think this speaks to one of the core themes that we talk about. There's more information available to us. We can change our understanding of our physical experience, of our emotional experience by tapping into additional senses. And of course, that's a massive energy center. There's in the chakra system that is one of the base foundations for our energetic being. And it's where creativity comes from, where our drive comes from, our life force. Absolutely, there's an enormous amount of information to be gained. I still think that if you could personify... And why wouldn't it have a Yiddish accent?

• 1:35:53Mayim Bialik?

  From our breakdown to the one we hope you never have. We'll see you next time.