Your Intuition Isn’t Yours. It’s Spirit Talking. Psychic Explains | Barbra Banner

What if your intuition isn't just a gut feeling, but a message from Spirit? What if the challenges you're facing today were lessons your soul chose before you were even born? And what if anyone could learn to connect with loved ones who have passed? In this episode of Mayim Bialik's Breakdown, Barbra Banner (Certified Psychic, Trance & Evidential Medium) shares the extraordinary story of how she unexpectedly became a medium during the pandemic, despite having no previous interest in psychic abilities or mediumship. After experiencing intense paranormal activity in her own home, her life changed forever. Barbra reveals how she discovered that her gifts run in her family, how her loved ones reacted to her transformation, and how she learned to raise her vibration to connect with Spirit and deliver healing messages from deceased loved ones to help clients find comfort and peace after loss. She also explains why she believes intuition may actually be Spirit communicating with us, why Spirit often speaks through symbolism instead of words, and how anyone can strengthen their own connection with loved ones on the other side. You'll also hear her powerful perspective on "Earth School" - the belief that our souls choose certain life lessons and challenges before coming into this lifetime - and why understanding your soul contract can completely change how you view suffering, purpose, and personal growth. Barbra discusses what it's really like to channel someone you had a difficult or contentious relationship with during life, why she believes there are only 3 emotions experienced on the other side—love, gratitude, and joy—and why mediumship and after-death communication are becoming more accepted around the world. She also shares how years of volunteering on crisis hotlines unknowingly prepared her to develop her mediumship, why belief often precedes spiritual experiences, and offers thoughtful advice for skeptics who are curious but unsure what to believe. Whether you're interested in mediumship, psychic phenomena, intuition, spirituality, life after death, near death experiences, consciousness, or connecting with deceased loved ones, this conversation offers a thought-provoking look at one woman's remarkable journey! They can't harm you, if they can't find you! Use code MAYIM at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan: https://incogni.com/mayimReal movement. Real muscle activation. Get $20 OFF the Waver Vibration Plate and Free Shipping at http://Lifeprofitness.com with code BREAKER at checkout. Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at https://www.tumbleliving.com/BREAK#Tumble #adUse code BREAKER at https://jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #adGo to https://helixsleep.com/breakdown to receive up to 30% off your Helix mattress. Visithttps://drinkag1.com/BREAKDOWN http://drinkag1.com/BREAKDOWN and get a FREE AG1 Flavor Sampler and a FREE bottle of Vitamin D3 + K2 in your Welcome Kit with your first AG1 subscription order. Go to https://tidd.ly/4uVltMe and use the code MAYIM15 to get 15% off orders of $200 or more. Learn more about Barbra Banner: https://bannermedium.com/ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.bialikbreakdown.com/• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/mayimbialik%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  I communicate with the other side. Something happened to me. My house went into a paranormal whole thing. Things were flying around and lights flashing. And I said, I think spirit wants to talk to me. I was never afraid of it. Are you an empath? I'm a normal person who does something a little abnormal.

• 0:21Mayim Bialik?

  Barbara Banner is a psychic and medium who believes she has figured out how to increase intuitive abilities.

• 0:27Speaker 00

  We grew up seeing is believing. That doesn't happen in my arena. It's believing is seeing.

• 0:34Jonathan Cohen?

  You get information from people who are no longer alive?

• 0:37Speaker 00

  They are a different kind of alive. Their consciousness is alive and lives on forever. I can help to lighten their grief, communicating or connecting with someone that was just everything in their life. We make a soul contract before we come out. There's your guides, there's your angels. We have a whole group that works for us and with us. I feel like intuition is really a message from spirit. Opening up to the possibility. I think everybody should have access to this gift.

• 1:16Mayim Bialik?

  Hey, everyone, it's Mayim.

• 1:17Jonathan Cohen?

  And Jonathan.

• 1:17Mayim Bialik?

  We have a very special treat today. Some of you may be familiar with Suzanne Geismann, who we have spoken to several times on the podcast. Today, we're going to speak to someone who is a evidential medium. She also does trance work, and she studied the techniques that Suzanne Geismann has talked about on our podcast. And we thought this would be a really, really awesome surprise to bring to our Substack community. We have a conversation with Barbara Banner. In our conversation with Barbara, we have her explain some of the incredible readings she's done, some of the things that she's been brought to believe, and some of the things that she knows about spirit, guides,

• 1:58Mayim Bialik?

  and the power that mediums have to communicate, especially to people who are grieving.

• 2:03Jonathan Cohen?

  She talks about the power of connecting with our loved ones to get over grief, how we can all increase our intuitive abilities, and that, you know, something that resonated with me, that we're all capable of being mediums, that that information is out there. And something that I've said and I've told you, that we can tune to the frequency of this information, that it's all out there. Mayim also tackles skepticism. What does it mean to be skeptical and to approach interacting with this world in a skeptical way?

• 2:36Mayim Bialik?

  We're so excited to share this. We know so many of you on Substack are interested in spirit guides and the other realm and what that kind of communication would look like. So we're so excited to present this very special conversation with Barbara Banner.

• 2:52Mayim Bialik?

  Barbara Banner, welcome to the Breakdown.

• 2:53Speaker 00

  I'm so happy to be here.

• 2:55Jonathan Cohen?

  I think there's a divide in our audience between those people who are all bought in and are like, yes, I get it, and those people who are still kind of unsure.

• 3:06Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 3:07Jonathan Cohen?

  Tell people what you do. What is a medium?

• 3:10Speaker 00

  Well, I'm a normal person who does something a little abnormal. But it's getting more normal than you'd think. I, during the pandemic, something happened to me. I feel like I must have had all this stuff in me, but they put me on ice for like, you know, 50, 60 years. And then they reactivated me. I started to, well, my house went into a paranormal whole thing. I mean, I just, things were flying around and, and lights flashing and everything. And I said, I think spirit wants to talk to me. And I was never afraid of it. You know, orbs and tapes and it was crazy.

• 3:54Speaker 00

  And my husband witnessed the whole thing. So he can't tell me that, you know, I must have taken a gummy or something. So I just said, I have to find out about this. And I realized, I took a class with the magnificent Suzanne Geismann.

• 4:11Mayim Bialik?

  A friend of the podcast.

• 4:12Speaker 00

  A friend, I saw that. I had never even meditated before. That's what I like, that's what a rookie I was, okay? And on the first try, you know, that night, I went home and I locked myself in a closet. I didn't really want my husband knowing what was going on. And one, two, three, I saw my dad.

• 4:31Mayim Bialik?

  Okay.

• 4:31Speaker 00

  Peeking over like, oh, look, guys, we're going to have a medium in the family, you know? In this world, if you've got a doctor, you've got bragging rights. On the other side, if you've got a medium, you're king.

• 4:43Jonathan Cohen?

  You meet someone on the street, they say, what do you do? What's your answer?

• 4:46Speaker 00

  I communicate with the other side. I, I learned to raise my vibration and they lower theirs because the spirit is in a higher vibration. And we meet in the middle and I get information from them.

• 5:02Jonathan Cohen?

  You get information from people who are no longer alive?

• 5:05Speaker 00

  They are a different kind of alive. Their consciousness is alive and lives on forever. Their physical body, just think of it as I'm unzipping my human suit today and I'm going over. And I'm still me. I've got everything I have except a body. I've got my brains and, you know, everything.

• 5:24Jonathan Cohen?

  For work, you spend your days getting messages from people who are no longer in physical incarnation and translating that to people who are here?

• 5:34Speaker 00

  Who are in grief and who I can help and who I can try to lighten, lighten their grief. And, and I, what makes me different is that I bring humor into it because humor is such a high vibration.

• 5:53Jonathan Cohen?

  Is it always people who are in grief?

• 5:54Speaker 00

  Or people that are just wondering what, you know, Aunt Philomena's doing right now because she was your favorite aunt. But usually people, I believe people go to a mediumship class or a medium because they're missing somebody, somebody passed. And I can change how they think about it. I can't bring them back, but I can bring them closer.

• 6:19Jonathan Cohen?

  Do people ever contact the other side because like they've lost something or they don't know where they buried the gold?

• 6:27Speaker 00

  I send them out a little, a little preamble so that they don't come and ask me what the, you know, Lotto numbers are. They never lead with that, okay? But they, it's on their list of questions that I say list. And I actually have helped people find some things. Me, myself, I can't even tell you how much jewelry is missing and I cannot, they will not tell me. So I am not meant to be, have jewelry. They just won't, won't show me anything. So, but other people I have helped.

• 6:57Jonathan Cohen?

  What do you think is actually happening? When you talk about raising your vibration and lowering, them lowering theirs, what do you think is actually happening that allows you to receive messages from the other side?

• 7:12Speaker 00

  First of all, you could be a medium and you could be a medium. Every person on this earth has the tools. You just need a soul and you need a heart. And you, you need to meditate, you need to clear, the messages, everything, they're all out there. They're all out there. Intuition is part of what we do. But most people believe, I don't think I really heard my father. I think it's just my imagination. Everyone passes over little signs that they're giving you because if they're not a true believer, you know, we grew up seeing is believing. That's, that doesn't happen in my arena. It's believing is seeing.

• 7:56Speaker 00

  If you don't believe it, you're going to miss out on some amazing, wonderful things and messages that can just change your life. And, and the ones who end up believing, they have relationships with their loved ones. It doesn't have to end.

• 8:15Jonathan Cohen?

  You always say you're not a medium, you have no intuition.

• 8:18Mayim Bialik?

  My radio doesn't tune to that frequency. That's what it feels like.

• 8:21Speaker 00

  Well, first of all, that kind of negativity is not allowed in the spirit world, okay? Because you, you're going to manifest that you can't do it. You got to say, I know I can do it, I can do anything.

• 8:32Mayim Bialik?

  I think that's where a lot of people do have a problem, though.

• 8:35Speaker 00

  I feel like intuition is really a message from spirit that's putting it into your head. I believe if you're asking a question, I always tell people, you already know the answer. I really feel you do. What is your intuition telling you? And they'll tell me and I'll say, that's what I'm getting to. So it's, it's really just opening up to the possibility. I mean, what happens if you're wrong? What if they tell you the wrong thing to do or you think it's not good? What you don't know is you've learned a lesson from making that decision. And that's why we're here, to learn lessons and experience things. So all the bad things that happen to us or the things that really challenge us,

• 9:19Speaker 00

  those are the things we learn the most from.

• 9:21Mayim Bialik?

  It's interesting that you mentioned Suzanne Geismann because, you know, part of what's interesting about Suzanne's story is that she was not raised with this sort of awareness of like the spirit world, you know? She, you know, lived a very kind of-

• 9:35Speaker 00

  Right, naval commander.

• 9:36Mayim Bialik?

  Right. But one of the things that Suzanne talks about is that, you know, it's a skill that you learn to drop into some other place where for those of us who don't really drop in there, it seems like very foreign, you know, to think that there's information there. But that once you learn that skill set, the way you talk about it, it's not even like it's a big effort.

• 10:00Speaker 00

  Yes, once you learn it, you can do it. And it's how fast you want to do it and how much you want to put into it.

• 10:08Mayim Bialik?

  Did you have any inclination, you know, before, let's say, before the pandemic, that you had intuitive abilities or that you were special?

• 10:17Speaker 00

  Okay, when I was about maybe 13, you know, a lot of weird things happened at 13. I felt like I was a little psychic and it was more of a joke to myself. You know, I knew that, you know, she's going to get busted for that short skirt at school. I just, I knew things and I would tell my friends, I think I'm a witch because I didn't even know what a psychic was. But then that was it, just having, you know, but it wasn't doing anything for me. I mean, I was a hit at the Oscar parties when I told them who's going to win, but that, it wasn't my life.

• 10:52Mayim Bialik?

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• 15:01Mayim Bialik?

  So you go through your whole life, you're in marketing. This is not like a world that you're engaged in for the majority of your life.

• 15:11Speaker 00

  I was interested in it. I remember, I remember watching like the medium Sylvia Brown when I was a teenager. Okay. And John Edwards. I was interested in it. I thought paranormal stuff and sci-fi was cool. It's not like I was afraid of it or it was spooky. I mean, you know, I went and saw Poltergeist. It was not on my radar. But what was interesting is I always liked to do volunteer things, but I didn't want to just write a check. So I did things that I could be involved one-on-one. And it turns out, the three main volunteer activities that I did until I came out, okay,

• 15:57Speaker 00

  were divinely planned for me. I only understood it after I became a medium and people were reading my bio and said, well, you're supposed to do this. Can't you see this? 14 years on a woman's hotline, crisis hotline, and you know, the training that goes into that. And Cedars Emergency Room, you know, that was for my adrenaline rush. And then I spent years on the city's crisis response team where I would be a team, two people would go out and on a scene where there was a dead body and the police were there. And we were brought in when the family or a witness came on the scene and needed help

• 16:42Speaker 00

  because the police are measuring, the coroner's doing that thing. It didn't bother me. It just seemed like, oh my God, I could really help those people.

• 16:50Mayim Bialik?

  So you've always been sort of a helper and also the kind of work that you're describing, even as your volunteer work, you know, working crisis hotlines, that is incredibly emotionally taxing to bear the weight, you know, of someone else's suffering and be able to be supportive or being on the front lines of a critical emotional emergency. You're, you're indicating that you have a tolerance for a very high level of emotional intensity without it disrupting your own kind of person.

• 17:25Speaker 00

  It never really disrupted me. It's like I can compartmentalize. I just, I, there's, it's not about me when I go on and there's a child, you know, there and the parents are inconsolable. It's not about how I feel. I am there for a reason to help them and support them.

• 17:45Mayim Bialik?

  Are you an empath?

• 17:46Speaker 00

  I'd like to say yes, but because I can, I could shut things off with a blinder, I don't feel, my daughter's an empath, but she feels everything. And I don't feel like it, it affects me. People say, how could you go on a scene where there's, you know, deceased people and everything? What, why are you doing this? And I would say, because I can. I think it takes a special person who's, who could just shut out what they feel and, and just be in the moment.

• 18:23Mayim Bialik?

  Okay. So you live your life as this person. You have one daughter?

• 18:28Speaker 00

  One daughter.

• 18:29Mayim Bialik?

  Tell us what happened during COVID.

• 18:32Speaker 00

  I like to describe it if I have to, of what, what happened to me. It's like three movies converging. It's like Poltergeist, Freaky Friday, and Alice in Wonderland. If you can just imagine those three, that's sort of what happened to me. I was sending in and I, I did some commercials and stuff, you know, that's not acting. And I had to, during the pandemic, you had to send in your own tapes. And I just thought, oh, I'll take one look at it for the audition tape. And I look at it and there are like, you know, dozens of orbs, white balls, flying willy-nilly in the tape. Now, they were not there when I was shooting myself, you know? And that was the beginning.

• 19:16Speaker 00

  And then things were flying off, a clock flew off the wall in the den and my, my mother-in-law's picture was on the mantle. She threw herself off, broke the picture, and I loved her, so I had nothing to do with that. And. I'm in the bedroom and the fan starts going like 50 miles an hour. I'm not anywhere near it. Okay. I didn't turn it on. And the light in it was flashing. Now, mind you, it didn't have a light bulb in it. Okay. Because I had taken it out to use it in another fan. And I said, John, come here right now. You gotta see this. He goes, no, you come in the den. The same fan was going 50 miles an hour and flashing in the den. So I just, it was crazy.

• 20:01Mayim Bialik?

  Did you feel like you were going crazy?

• 20:03Speaker 00

  No, I thought it was so cool. Even my husband, you know, who was a non believer said, okay, something's going on here.

• 20:11Mayim Bialik?

  So what did you do once things started happening like that? Was your inclination to find an outlet for understanding more what was going on?

• 20:22Speaker 00

  I just said, I gotta find out more. This kind of stuff can't happen, you know? Your house can't go all poltergeist and you do nothing about it. So I went to, I checked out and Suzanne looked good. And I, and somebody told me she was terrific. And it was, it was a soul to soul communication class. It was called, it was like for beginners.

• 20:45Mayim Bialik?

  So what are some of the skills that you learned and what did you discover?

• 20:49Speaker 00

  Well, what I learned is we're all the same. This whole, the world is like, we're all in a collective. We're all one, that we're all here for the same reason, to work off some karma, to enrich our soul, to, to help others. Being of service to others is mandatory. Or you're going to be coming back way more than you were going to want to. Okay. Because we make a soul contract before we come out. Okay. And we work it with masters and, you know, this, that, and the other, and guides. And we figure out what will this life be? And what are the things you're missing? Okay?

• 21:31Speaker 00

  So if you're somebody who never helped another person, you know, you could be a beggar on the street, you know, with a little tin cup and know what it's like to need something and have people just look at you like you don't exist. We pick lessons that will help us. People pick having an abusive spouse and, and losing a child. When people say, how can God let a little six year old boy die of cancer? You are gaining a lesson from this and you don't know what it is now. And I can't tell you what it is now. This little boy chose to pass so that you could learn something.

• 22:14Speaker 00

  And I always say, I'll tell you, you're going to know everything when you cross over. I say, there's a whiteboard and it's going to say child passing, what the lesson was. You're going to know everything. But they, they clear our mind before we come because as Dolores Cannon says, it's not a test if you know what the questions are. So we have to come down here, you know, erased and take each challenge as it comes.

• 22:42Mayim Bialik?

  I wonder if you can talk a little bit more about what this choosing looks like. You know, the notion that people would choose suffering or choose sadness. What does that mean? Like, is there some like conference?

• 22:56Speaker 00

  There is a council, there's your guides, there's your angels, there's, there's, we have a whole group that, that works for us and with us. It's a collective that they figure out what can you handle? What will this do if, if, you know, you dig ditches in 150 degree weather? It's, it's, you're going to learn such and such and it'll be very good. The thing is, I think most people don't want to, even though we're eternal, they'd like to think that they can get off the merry go round at some point where they're cooked. You know, where they, they've learned lessons, they, they've done what they need to do.

• 23:40Speaker 00

  And they're ready to, you know, ascend, spend a little more time on a hammock in the Bahamas kind of thing. So people, yeah. But listen, a lot of spirit want to come right back. Forever's a long time. I mean, you, you want experiences.

• 23:57Mayim Bialik?

  What was it like, you know, to sort of start learning these skills later in life? You know, did you feel like you were catching up on a lot of lost time?

• 24:09Speaker 00

  No, it was like, it was a gift, you know? I'm no spring chicken. So I thought, wow, I can do this. My mother died at 104, so I knew I was going to be around a long time. I said, I can do this forever, you know? As long as I'm here, I can do this. And I'm only going to get better and better and better and more knowledgeable. So I thought, this is so cool that I found this purpose in life at this time.

• 24:39Mayim Bialik?

  So did you find that you were accurate as soon as you started? What was that like?

• 24:43Speaker 00

  The first time I, I changed readings with another person as opposed to just trying on my own. I said to her, I said, do you know a guy named Thomas with a white dog? And she said, yeah. You know, for years, when I got something really amazing, I would be as surprised as they were. It was so exciting for me and I still feel that way.

• 25:06Mayim Bialik?

  What would you say was one of the early experiences you had where you felt like, oh my gosh, this is resonating so much with someone?

• 25:14Speaker 00

  I had a woman who had this six year old son who passed. And so I, I gave her this reading and in all my readings, I do a Q and A time because people have questions in the back of their head that are, you know, making them crazy. And so I, the first question I said, I hijack it. I don't want to know what the question is. I want you to just, here's a, you know, a boundary. So you're not asking me, you know, the height of the Empire State Building. And, and just ask a question to your loved one because they're with you. They all know everything that's going on in your life and they just want to be of help.

• 25:55Speaker 00

  And, and I say, ask, ask your, you know, a question. And so she goes, okay, I've asked him. I said, well, I see your son riding on the back of a giant butterfly in heaven. And he's having the best time. He's dive bombing. And she's like, you know, water or crying. I said, did that have anything to do with the question? She said, oh my God, she said, yes. She said, I asked my son, what are you doing in heaven? Now, normally you, you would just say, oh, that sounds great. But this woman, she said, I bought a book because he had a young sister.

• 26:38Speaker 00

  She said, and in this book was a page with a little boy riding on the back of a butterfly in heaven. I even have a picture of it. And she said, you don't know what you've done for me. I know he's with me. He made me ask that question.

• 27:00Mayim Bialik?

  So this is what I'm hoping you can help us understand. When you have someone ask a question silently.

• 27:07Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 27:08Mayim Bialik?

  I want you to walk us through in as clinical a way as you can. What is going on? Are you getting quiet? Are you hearing the question? Are you feeling the question? And then where does this image of a boy on a butterfly live? Meaning, does it come to you in a flash? Are you breathing into options? What's going on that leads from her silence to a boy on a butterfly in heaven?

• 27:34Speaker 00

  Well, first of all, the reason I do it silently is because our critical mind is the enemy of a medium or a psychic. Because if, and, and it can come in and, and you can think, okay, that's what, that's what I'm seeing. But when you don't know the question, it's a blank slate. So what, every medium can see or do whatever. They, some of them don't see anything visual. They just feel it. They, it's a knowing. Some of them can hear.

• 28:06Mayim Bialik?

  Right. We've learned about clairaudience.

• 28:08Speaker 00

  Yes, all of that.

• 28:09Mayim Bialik?

  Yeah.

• 28:10Speaker 00

  I can see, I can hear, I can feel, they even move my body. Okay? And I, and I just start mimicking what they're showing me. I, in my mind's eye, saw the picture that was in their book.

• 28:29Mayim Bialik?

  Oh.

• 28:29Speaker 00

  In, I mean, it was so accurate. And, but it came into, the spirit of the little boy put it in my, you know, the awareness. I just pulled it out of a little boy on the back of a giant butterfly. And it just came there. It just, it just was in my head. And one of the hardest things I feel for a medium to overcome is trust. Sometimes you just cannot believe that they said that and that you're going to say that to them. And I just learned, no matter how wacky it is or crazy or, you know, I'll do anything except, you know.

• 29:13Speaker 00

  I said, I don't do X-rated things and some spirits really want to.

• 29:18Jonathan Cohen?

  Hold on.

• 29:21Speaker 00

  Why don't you just make a note of that and bring that later?

• 29:23Jonathan Cohen?

  We've spoken to a lot of intuitives and we've never heard that the spirits have a little bit of a freak side.

• 29:30Speaker 00

  Not with me. Nobody's, you know, trying to jump on me, but they would like to, you know, they go and start nuzzling and, you know, they come in naked with just chaps on and a cowboy hat.

• 29:44Jonathan Cohen?

  That's how Mayim comes in.

• 29:47Speaker 00

  So I've seen those things and then I just sort of put a stop to it. They pick somebody and our guides direct them to us who they can relate to or who can handle the issues that they have. So they're sent to me and, you know, I think the other side is getting it that, don't, don't, don't do that. It's not happening.

• 30:09Jonathan Cohen?

  The other side knows who's going to receive what type of information.

• 30:13Speaker 00

  They know everything. They're intelligent beings and they don't make mistakes.

• 30:18Jonathan Cohen?

  I want to go back to something you said earlier, which is the idea of there being lessons to our life experience and that we have some form of choice in it. Pre-birth often, and we've heard this from people who have had near-death experiences, talking about selecting some very difficult life lessons.

• 30:38Speaker 00

  Absolutely.

• 30:39Jonathan Cohen?

  Can you share from your experience how it changes someone to know that there is either a choice or some participation and a lesson in it versus what I assume is them fighting the universe for having to go through it?

• 30:55Speaker 00

  And yes, and the more you fight the universe, the longer it drags out. So this is just something I say, go with the flow. Don't try to figure it out. Just, just take the lesson at hand. I like to bring humor in, okay?

• 31:12Speaker 00

  Because the endorphins are like nature's painkiller, you know? Here's one thing I do. I show them, I said, I promise you that the photo that, you know, you look at every morning and cry with you and your son and your daughter, that makes you cry, I promise you that one day you're going to look at that photo again and you're going to laugh your ass off because he's doing that crazy grin that used to just crack you up. I said, it's the same picture, but it's how you're perceiving it. So when people know that,

• 31:53Speaker 00

  oh, this is a lesson and I will know why it happened if I can just be patient and understand that the universe is not making a mistake and this is happening to me for a reason. I feel like it's a little easier. It's how, you know, it's how you look at it. And listen, grief, you have to go through grief, all the stages. Nobody can make it go away. But I feel, did you know that 15 minutes of laughter equals two hours of restorative sleep? It releases, you know, serotonin, all the good stuff. It's an interrupter of the horrible feelings that you're feeling, even if it's for just a few moments.

• 32:39Jonathan Cohen?

  How common is it that people think that there was a mistake made?

• 32:42Speaker 00

  Part of grief is being, finding someone to blame. And they'll blame anybody that's, that's around or they'll blame God and they're just, they're just in a bad place. And it takes time. There is no set time to grieve. Some people, some women are out in six months looking for the next husband, okay? And some people are, you know, 10 years later, haven't left the house, you know, and have gray hair now. Everybody's different.

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• 34:43Mayim Bialik?

  Promo code Miam. It's completely risk-free with a 30-day money-back guarantee. Check the link in today's episode description to get started. Have you done a reading with someone where, let's say, someone had very recently passed?

• 34:56Speaker 00

  A lot of times they want to know if it was suicide or if it was a mistake. Okay, that's, that's a big one when somebody passes early. The spirit is delivering some information that nobody else knew or that, that they understood. It softens the blow and we're not here to prove anything to anybody, you know? If someone doesn't want to believe it, that's fine. I'm, you know, I'm just going to give you what I get.

• 35:23Mayim Bialik?

  Can you explain a little bit, when you get ready for a reading, what is it like for you to sort of tune in and try and see who's around?

• 35:34Speaker 00

  I always ask the client,

• 35:38Speaker 00

  is there somebody you're really here for? Is there, you know, because a lot of times if people say, let's just see who's out there and wants to come forward. Well, it's, I find that, you know, a lot of times it's, you know, a great aunt that they met three times and it's sort of wasting their time with somebody because in their head, they want their husband.

• 35:56Mayim Bialik?

  Sure.

• 35:57Speaker 00

  So I just say, who is it that you'd like to, who's the first person on your mind? And what is their relationship to you? I like to just cut to the chase. And, you know, that's who usually comes forward unless there's something else going on, like that, that husband is letting his, his mother go first. And I said, you have a very, your husband's a gentleman. She said, yes, he is. I said, well, he's letting this woman go first or she'll probably, you know, hit his hand with a ruler.

• 36:29Speaker 00

  But there's usually a message and sometimes it's to give to somebody who's alive. I'll get a name. I'm not great at names. I shouldn't say anything negative. I'm working on names and I'm getting better. And I'll just say, is there, is this woman whose name is Alice, is there something going on with her? Because I feel like you need to call her. It needs, and they'll always say, yes, she's in a big depression and she's so lonely and stuff. So, and then those people are just there and then they, they go. But then the husband would come.

• 36:58Jonathan Cohen?

  Are there spirits around all the time? Do they need someone to be like, hey, we're ready to hear from you? Like you walk into a room?

• 37:07Speaker 00

  I don't see that. I mean, everybody, as I said, everybody sees things differently, but

• 37:13Speaker 00

  a lot of times they'll come to me before a reading because they're raring to go. And that's usually the guy who wants the X-rated thing. But, but most of the time, they're just available. Everybody's, everybody's essence is out there, you know, out there and they're just, that we can just bring it forward. The skeptics thing is, is crazy. I want to just give you one, one thing that happened. This woman whose husband had recently committed suicide, she came, came to me through a referral. And she was like, oh, that's too broad, you know, you might have seen that on the news or the paper.

• 37:55Speaker 00

  I mean, I felt like everything I said, she was, it was like the Olympics. She was giving me a, a rating and I knew I was not going on the podium. Okay, so I, I couldn't continue that. It's just so much. And so I said, you know what? Let's just cut this off, you know? It's just, the energy just isn't right. So, a few days later.

• 38:20Speaker 00

  Like 3:00 in the morning, her husband comes. And I know I had her husband there, but she wouldn't. She was asking questions like, what were we wearing 3 days before he died?

• 38:30Mayim Bialik?

  That's testing you, right.

• 38:32Speaker 00

  We hate to be tested. That's not what we're there for.

• 38:34Mayim Bialik?

  Right. What does that mean that this woman's husband came to you at 3:00 in the morning?

• 38:38Speaker 00

  That means he's got to talk to me. And since I'm not going to read her, he had to come and like sort of wake me up and let me know he has information to give to her.

• 38:47Mayim Bialik?

  So is this a voice that you're hearing?

• 38:48Speaker 00

  This is in my head. He showed me a half of a toasted bagel that was scooped out.

• 38:54Mayim Bialik?

  Love a scooped out bagel?

• 38:56Speaker 00

  Yeah. I just said, what do I do with this? Just tell her. And I knew it was him. He looked like one of the little doctors that was on House for like 10 years. I get in touch with her and I said, listen, your husband came to me the other night and he showed me a half a toasted bagel that was scooped out. I said, does this mean anything to you? She was nasty as ever. Why are you bothering me with this? Of course not. You know, every Jewish woman scoops the bagel out. I said, okay, just remember I said it.

• 39:30Mayim Bialik?

  Only the skinny ones.

• 39:31Speaker 00

  A week later, she gets in touch with me. She goes, you're not going to believe this. She said, I went to see his parents, my daughter's in-laws. And my father-in-law says, you know what? I invented a product and I have a prototype and I'm just going to show it to you and you can tell me if you know what it is. So he shows her some contraption. And she goes, I don't know what that is. He said, it's a bagel scooper. That's like my favorite.

• 39:58Mayim Bialik?

  That's pretty specific.

• 39:59Speaker 00

  That's, yeah, that's like one of those, you can't make this shit up. So I get a lot of things that like, I can't believe it either. So when you say, you know, how do you like doing it? Oh, my gosh, it's unbelievable what we get to experience.

• 40:15Mayim Bialik?

  Do you ever do readings with people who had a contentious relationship with the person who's asking to speak with them?

• 40:22Speaker 00

  Absolutely. We are all here playing parts in a play. The man shows me his anger and I have, I get a lot of symbolism. The woman goes like this, and that's my symbol for abuse. Like he would physically abuse her. So I tell them and I show them what he's showing me. And I keep going until she said, that was my husband. Yes, I, you know, I had to leave him. He, you know, I was afraid for my child. The husband is always wants to say he's sorry.

• 41:06Speaker 00

  Even though he was just playing a part. He's not like that on the other side. But in order for him to make her believe that it's him, he's got to show her the way he was in that part. What do you get from being with an abusive person? Building your life back together. Taking, you know, I say, take your life back, okay? Show the strength you have. Do something for others, you know? Go to help in a shelter for abused women. There is a lesson in there. There's a reason. And our job is to navigate through these challenges and to move, expand our souls so that it evolves on the other side.

• 41:50Jonathan Cohen?

  Explain a little bit about how people can increase their ability to connect.

• 41:56Speaker 00

  Okay, and that's something I do, I try to do in every reading. At the end, I take them on an exercise and it's really simple. I tell people, I'm going to count to three and then I'm going to say, tell me the first thing that's in your head, the first item that's in your head.

• 42:15Mayim Bialik?

  Do it. Ready?

• 42:16Speaker 00

  1, 2, 3. What is it?

• 42:17Jonathan Cohen?

  Dogs.

• 42:18Speaker 00

  Dogs, okay. And I say, you're going to get a representation or see dogs where you least expect it. It could be somebody who moves out in front of you and their license plate is, I love dogs. Okay, that's your sign because your spirit, one of the spirits put that into your head because they knew where and when you would see that.

• 42:42Mayim Bialik?

  Why do spirits communicate with us through symbolism? Like, why?

• 42:47Speaker 00

  There's only 3 emotions on the other side. There's not hate, nobody's judging you. They're not going in the bathroom with you, the veil comes down. Love, only the highest vibrations. Love, gratitude, and joy. That's it. You know, when we used to say, what our parents used to say? I'd cut my arm off for you. I said, the spirit does not want any of your appendages, okay? What they want is for you to learn to laugh again, to love again. They have no jealousy. If you like this new husband more and you still want to be with both, they don't care. It's, okay, I'll take Tuesdays and Fridays.

• 43:31Speaker 00

  They don't care. They want to help. They want to be there for them, especially somebody who was an abuser or who didn't treat them right. They say, I want to make up for you now what I couldn't give to you then.

• 43:47Mayim Bialik?

  Who communicates with you from the spirit world, from your life?

• 43:50Speaker 00

  My grandmother now. She's like taken over. It's harder to do your own for me. And a lot of mediums just go call another medium friend and say, okay, tell me what my mom's doing. You know, sometimes things will come through, but mostly my grandmother's hanging around. And she's, because she had the juju too. And I didn't find out till my, till my mother was 103. I said, Mom, I have to tell you something. Because she was almost 104. I said, I'm a medium now. Okay, this was during the pandemic. And I said, I didn't know how you take it. I thought you might go right over the edge, which is actually where she wants to go, where she wanted to go at 104.

• 44:32Speaker 00

  And she goes, grandmother used to take me to fortune tellers, tea leaf readers, psychics. She said she had the juju too. People would line up to talk to her and get her in. She was so intuitive. I said, Mom, you're like 104. When were you going to tell me? She didn't have an answer. People didn't talk about it before. I mean, what, we're 300 years out of being burned at the stake for, you know, for saying, there's a bagel scooper coming.

• 45:01Jonathan Cohen?

  What do you think it is that people used to be so protective and afraid of this information?

• 45:07Speaker 00

  Religion. There's still issues with people who had very religious backgrounds. Like, you're doing the devil's work, you know? And there is no, you're going to go to hell. And if they could only just say, what if the priest wasn't right? Just what if? What if I could see my mom or get a message to her?

• 45:33Jonathan Cohen?

  I wonder if we step back and think about the evolution of human consciousness, moving from a place where we were terrified, where we couldn't get extrasensory information. You couldn't really talk about intuition or anything that was seen as witchcraft, to now where it's probably more accepted than ever, right?

• 45:53Speaker 00

  More, it's the awakening. 2025 and 26 is like the awakening. Like they woke me up. All right, you've had enough sleep, lady. Get up and help people.

• 46:03Jonathan Cohen?

  Would you get insight from spirit about the progression of earth? That things are happening? Because you talk, and we've heard you say it's a lot of one-on-one information about helping people move through grief. But there is something happening, right? There is an evolution. There's a lot more people waking up.

• 46:21Speaker 00

  There's an awakening now. Psychics have, can do projections and predictions. And I don't really get into that unless spirit shows me something that's specific or astrologers will give predictions. Tarot readers can do that. So that's not my thing. And what people do want to know, am I going to meet somebody? And I do get visions on that. I do say, yeah, he's bald and he's short. And he's in the food business and he's really lovely.

• 47:04Speaker 00

  And the girl told me that she walked into Costco and the guy with food asked her out and they started dating. It was like the exact, I said, don't go out without lipstick, even if you go to the market, okay? You got to be practical. Got to always look good. I've had some funny things happen where they take over my body. I mean, I had 2 grandmothers that, and the woman said, they're so similar. I'm, you know, I said, okay, we'll go to the tiebreaker part of the show. And I said, there's a woman and she's swallowing a sword. And she's belly dancing, you know? And I'm moving around. And I said, does this make any sense to you?

• 47:48Speaker 00

  She goes, oh, yeah, that's my grandmother on my mother's side. She was a Turkish sword dancer.

• 47:53Mayim Bialik?

  What?

• 47:54Speaker 00

  And known from around the whole country.

• 47:57Mayim Bialik?

  Yeah, or what's it like when you get chills or, yeah.

• 48:00Speaker 00

  Chills are my, my sign that what I'm saying is very important to spirit. And if I give a piece of evidence and the client says, I don't understand that. And spirit brings it back again. She goes, no, I don't understand. And I bring it back again. I said, all right, we're stopping. What, this has some symbolism? They are not letting me stop. And then I get a call, you know, 20 minutes later. Now I know what it meant. The color red, the color red. He took red pills to kill himself. And he told me, you'll see red.

• 48:44Speaker 00

  So it all ends up making sense. But the chills mean they are absolutely with me on it. And even if a client says, I don't understand that. I know that they're going to come upon it. Sometimes it takes a day before they'll, when they'll, they'll listen to it again. And they'll say, oh, I can't believe I didn't get that. Sometimes they just drop a bomb in the beginning of a reading spirit. And I say, don't worry about it. It's going to come full circle. It always comes full circle.

• 49:12Mayim Bialik?

  Can you talk about things that you would suggest for people who are skeptical? If they want to think about the spirit world? If they want to think about mediumship, either being on the, the delivery side or the receptive side?

• 49:27Speaker 00

  Knowledge. There are so many books out there, but there is one, um, there is one, um, website called soulproof.com. And it's created by Dr. Mark Pitzek, who's like a pioneer. And he has 30 years of articles about everything spiritual. Listen to the NDEs. There's got to be 10,000 NDE. The more you know, the more you'll be open and you must meditate. It's free. Go on YouTube, put a guided meditation to meet your, you know, meet your loved ones. When somebody books, I send them a whole resource page of meditations they can click on and different exercises they can do.

• 50:11Speaker 00

  I think everybody should have access to this gift of, of communicating or connecting with someone that was just everything in their life.

• 50:22Mayim Bialik?

  Where can people find out more about you in case they want to learn, learn a little bit more?

• 50:27Speaker 00

  Bannermedium.com.

• 50:30Mayim Bialik?

  Barbara, thank you so much for being here.

• 50:31Speaker 00

  I've had a wonderful time and I really appreciate it.

• 50:37Mayim Bialik?

  You know, Jonathan, one of the things that I was super intrigued about was, you know, how much skepticism can block you from being open to this other frequency? And that's something this conversation really had me thinking more deeply about. And the fact that she uses humor in her readings, I think, is also really, um, it's special. It's unique and it can be very healing.

• 50:56Jonathan Cohen?

  You know what it made me think of? She said, um, that 15 minutes of laughter is the physical equivalent of two hours of sleep. I don't know how scientifically measured.

• 51:08Mayim Bialik?

  Does it have to be constant?

• 51:08Jonathan Cohen?

  Yeah, it's like constant laughter.

• 51:12Jonathan Cohen?

  It made me think about how much I laugh with you. And I must be getting an enormous amount of physical benefit.

• 51:19Mayim Bialik?

  The laughter that we have together makes up for the amount of time you have nightmares after we spend extended, extended periods of time together. It all just.

• 51:28Jonathan Cohen?

  All the stress we endure is offset by the laughter. Also, you know laughter yoga?

• 51:35Mayim Bialik?

  No.

• 51:37Jonathan Cohen?

  Okay, this is crazy. We have to do, we, Valerie, we got to get someone who does laughter yoga.

• 51:44Mayim Bialik?

  I don't want that at all.

• 51:45Jonathan Cohen?

  The way that it works is basically you're in a group and someone starts to laugh.

• 51:49Mayim Bialik?

  You lost me at group.

• 51:52Jonathan Cohen?

  It's so awkward because they're fake laughing because you're like, you have to, someone has to just start laughing.

• 51:56Mayim Bialik?

  There's a contagion factor though to laughter.

• 51:59Jonathan Cohen?

  And once you get over the fact that someone is basically fake laughing, someone else joins in and it's like almost impossible not to join in. And then everyone is laughing. You don't really know what you're laughing about.

• 52:12Mayim Bialik?

  There's a set of videos of people with unusual laughs that were all brought together.

• 52:17Jonathan Cohen?

  No, no.

• 52:18Mayim Bialik?

  They were all brought together at a talk show. I think it's like in Spain and they have all these different unusual, very unusual. And they know, people aren't laughing at them. They know they're being brought there, but they have this cacophony of awe. I mean, like it's.

• 52:36Mayim Bialik?

  There it is.

• 52:41Mayim Bialik?

  All right, I think we've done enough for today. Laughing yoga coming at you at a later time. Thanks, everyone, for being here on Substack.