12 Life Lessons That Will Change Everything for You

Are you carrying weights that are holding you back? Most people think success is about adding more—more habits, more strategies, more effort. But what if the real secret is dropping what no longer serves you? The truth is, your ability to rise is directly connected to what you’re willing to let go of. Whether it’s toxic relationships, limiting beliefs, or bad habits, the weights in your life are keeping you from elevating to the next level. In this episode, I’m sharing 12 life lessons that have shaped my journey—truths that will help you break free and move forward. These aren’t just theories; they come from personal experience, the mistakes I’ve made, and the lessons I’ve learned. From understanding the power of forgiveness to realizing that waiting for the “perfect time” is a trap, these lessons will help you create real momentum in your life. One of the biggest wake-up calls? You will lose 60-80% of your friends when you upgrade your life. Not everyone is meant to go with you on your journey. And that’s okay. Growth demands change, and part of that means letting go of relationships that no longer align with your future. As you evolve, your circle will get smaller, but it will also get stronger. So ask yourself—who do you want to be? Because in life, we don’t just get what we want, we get who we are. And the best part? You’re just one decision away from changing your life. Key Takeaways: The fastest way to elevate your life is to drop the weights holding you down. Stop blaming others—forgive, let go, and move forward. Waiting for the “right time” is a lie—take action now. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life—embrace the growth. You’re always one decision away from a new direction. Your past does not equal your future. Your life is in your hands. Now is the time to step into the next version of you. Max out.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  So hey guys, listen, we're all trying to get more productive. And the question is, how do you find a way to get an edge? I'm a big believer that if you're getting mentoring, or you're in an environment that causes growth, a growth-based environment, that you're much more likely to grow, and you're going to grow faster. And that's why I love Growth Day. Growth Day is an app that my friend Brendan Burchard has created that I'm a big fan of. Write this down, growthday.com/ed. So if you want to be more productive, by the way, he's asked me, I post videos in there every single Monday that gets your day off to the right start. He's got about $5,000, $10,000 worth of courses that are in there that come with the app. Also, some of the top influencers in the world are all posting content in there on a regular basis, like having the Avengers of personal development and business in one app. And I'm honored that he asked me to be a part of it as well and contribute on a weekly basis, and I do.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

  So go over there and get signed up. You're going to get a free, tuition-free voucher to go to an event with Brendan and myself and a bunch of other influencers as well. So you get a free event out of it also. So go to growthday.com/ed. That's growthday.com/ed. I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too.

• 1:30Ed Mylett?

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• 2:08Speaker 01

  This is the Ed Meyer Show.

• 2:13Ed Mylett?

  All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So grateful you decided to join me again this week. And what we're going to talk about this week is 12 lessons of truth from my life. And what I'm going to do every so often on the show now is I'm just going to do random life lessons that I've learned in no particular order, and not even any particular category, but just things in my life that I believe are truths or lessons that I've learned that I would just share with you. You know, the more and more I get messages from so many of you that say that you, you know, enjoy me as sort of a father figure in your life. Now, it's a little bit strange when it's somebody that's 45 or 50 years old, and I'm barely older than you that I'm a father figure. But having said that, I do enjoy sharing life lessons with you. And sometimes I feel obligated on the show that they all have to be in a particular order on a

• 2:58Ed Mylett?

  particular topic. And the more we've done surveys with the audience, they tell us, listen, we just want the lessons. These lessons I share with you are not because I'm some guru, or I've got everything figured out. They're usually from mistakes I've made. I think there's nothing wrong with making mistakes in your life, as long as you don't make the same ones twice. And so these are just lessons from my own life of things I've done well and things I haven't done well, that can save you a bunch of heartache, stress, worry, and frankly, time if you'll listen to these lessons. And so, lesson number one for this week is drop the weights of your life. That one of the ways in life to get ahead is not always adding or doing something different or more, but it's dropping things that don't serve you, or dropping people that don't serve you, behaviors and thoughts that don't serve you. So many people, frankly, in relationships

• 3:43Ed Mylett?

  are stuck in useless or toxic relationships because they're afraid to be alone. And they stay in a relationship because it's the known. And being without anybody is so scary for most people that they keep the weight of that relationship. And so there's these weights in our lives that hold us down. And I've learned in my life, all of the different keys and tactics to becoming more successful, or happier, or wealthier, or building a bigger company, or a bigger brand, often are about dropping the weights. You know, I have a very good friend who's an influencer, who was stuck in an elevator, very well-known influencer. And she was stuck in an elevator several weeks ago. And I ended up talking to her after she got out. But she was in this elevator evidently for hours. And when she got out, we were talking about, you know, it was closed environment and these other things.

• 4:27Ed Mylett?

  And it got me to thinking about elevators and the weights. And you know, when you get into an elevator, you don't even think about it. You just walk into it, don't you? And you press a button and you go up 30 floors like a rocket ship. Right? It's just, it's seamless. It's easy. It almost doesn't require any thought. You walk in, you hit the button. There could be five, six, seven of you in there. Doesn't matter if there's 1,000 pounds or 2,000 pounds of people in there. That thing takes off like a rocket ship to the 30th floor, wherever you're going, 35th floor. How does an elevator actually work? What actually happens in an elevator is there's a counterweight at the top that actually weights the elevator. And when you hit that button, that weight begins to drop and you go up. So as that counterweight drops, it's sufficient weight

• 5:10Ed Mylett?

  that when you drop it, you increase and go up much higher. And the truth of the matter is that's a lot of times how life works. That when we drop these weights, there's these, in the elevators, there's these big weights at the top, like plates of weights. And when you hit the button, they drop and you go up. And in life, it's that way most of the time as well. That if you'll drop the weights of your life, it's almost effortless that you begin to climb and go higher. It won't even require all that much thought. So you've got to evaluate in your life from time to time, what's the weight holding me down? What's the thought? What's the emotion? What's the loop I'm in? What's the habit I have? Or what's the person? Is it this friend that's waiting me down? Is it this significant other?

• 5:55Ed Mylett?

  It's just time to evaluate whether this is one of those plates and can I ever go up if they're constantly waiting me on the other end? And the answer is probably not. You probably can't. That thing is not going to go up until that weight is dropped. And so that's lesson number one. Lesson number two, you will be much happier when you forgive and stop blaming other people for your issues. Yep, too many people. People in your life are being blamed for the results you're getting and it's none of their fault. Particularly your parents. Let go of that. Let go of the blame. Let go of the criticism. Let go of using them as an excuse for where you're not. And you'll be a lot happier human being when you forgive. And you stop blaming other people for your issues.

• 6:38Ed Mylett?

  I say this to you as a friend, but maybe you're not even blaming other people for your issues. But you just haven't forgiven somebody. When you don't forgive somebody, it is you drinking the poison of that lack of forgiveness, not them. And when you forgive, truly forgive, you don't have to forget. But when you forgive in your life, it's like dropping one of those weights from lesson number one. Sometimes the grudge we hold, the debt we hold against somebody. The acts we have to grind, the blaming we have is or are those weights in our life. And I've just learned in my life that I've had a lot of people do wrong to me. You live long enough, you're going to. A lot of people have let me down or hurt me or taken from me, just like you have. And I've learned that that is part of the process of life and the more you hold on to this stuff.

• 7:22Ed Mylett?

  The more it's one of these weights in your life. And so you're giving yourself the gift of increase by climbing, the more you drop the weight of holding on to that. Forgive people. And on top of that, you better stop blaming anybody else for where you are in your life. Because I could tell you, it's not their fault. Where you are, you've got your own choices, your own life, your own decisions to make. And it is your life. It's an internal game, not an external game. That's number two. Number three, if you continue to wait for the right time, you're going to wait forever. And you're going to waste your entire life. Stop waiting for the right time. Stop waiting for timing to be perfect. It's never going to be the right time. You're never going to be completely ready. In my life, when I waited too long to make decisions to buy something, to invest in something.

• 8:05Ed Mylett?

  I waited too long to call a shot. I wasn't decisive enough. I was waiting for all the things to be in place, or the kids to get this, or the family to get that, or this or that. And the truth of the matter is, if you continue to wait for the right time, you will wait forever and you will waste your entire life. It's never the right time. In fact, almost always, the best time is now. Not in everything, but in most things, I have learned, now is better than later. And so stop waiting for the right time. It's not going to come around. Conditions aren't going to be perfect. And everyone goes, well, the timing was just right. Usually, when you look back, it's because you took a decision, took an action immediately, immediate massive action. Even, by the way, a flawed action, an action that's not perfect is usually better executed now

• 8:50Ed Mylett?

  than perfectly executed later. And so stop waiting around. Stop delaying. I say all the time that the adversary in our life, the devil, uses four Ds to get us off of our dream, off of happiness, not who we're capable of becoming, to shrink our expansion as a person. And one of those four Ds is delay, getting you to delay. Most people in their life, you know, the Bible says where there's no vision, the people will perish. As I've looked at it more closely, and I've lived now almost 54 years, I think most people do have some type of vision for their life. They'd rather be happy than they would be sad. They've got a vision to be rich instead of poor. They've got a vision to give instead of not be able to give. They want a vision of having memories and great emotions

• 9:33Ed Mylett?

  as opposed to a life with no memories and no emotions. So it's not the lack of vision, but it is a vision issue. And the issue is depth perception. We think our dreams are further away than they are. And because we believe that, we've created thoughts, patterns, habits, and behaviors that perpetually will always keep it that far away. It's a depth perception issue. Stop waiting around for the right time. Lesson number four I've learned in my life. Apologize more often. And then don't repeat the same mistake. Not enough people just say, I'm sorry. One of the things I admire in a leader is when they acknowledge they've made a mistake. I apologize, I got that wrong, but I had the right intention. I'm going to get it right the next time.

• 10:17Ed Mylett?

  In politics, wouldn't you love to see more politicians go, hey, I'm sorry, I messed that up. You know what, but my intent was right, but I got this decision wrong. I'm going to fix it and get it right the next time. In my life, when somebody sincerely apologized to me. It almost always drops the weight. Now, by the way, the most sincere apology is to not repeat the same behavior again. That's a real apology, not just the words of I'm sorry. But I have to tell you, in my life, the times, the very few times where someone has hurt me or done me wrong, or made a mistake, or even in my business messed up and said, hey, can I talk to you for a minute? I'm so sorry. This is my fault. I apologize. And I won't do it again.

• 11:01Ed Mylett?

  And then they don't do it again. We're so much closer than we were before they even made the mistake in the first place. I love them and respect them more. If they were my leader, I would follow them more. And so, build the habit when you make a mistake of owning it, and telling somebody that you're sorry. Several weeks ago, a friend of mine and I were doing something, and I teased him in front of the group. I made a joke. And I do that with my friends often. You do that when you kind of rib one another. And anyway, I could tell that it bothered him. And I asked him about it. I said, hey, did this bother you? When I tease, he goes, oh, no. And I said, yes, it did. No, no, no, no, no, no. And it probably was something, maybe it shouldn't have bothered him, but it did. And so finally, the next time we talk,

• 11:45Ed Mylett?

  which was that evening, I said, hey, I want to go back to something. Did that bother you when I was teasing you in front of the group? And he's a dear friend, and he goes, you know, it shouldn't have, but yeah, I think it did. And it's my fault. I said, no, no, no, let's just stop right now. I'm so sorry. You know, I love you. I would never intentionally want to hurt you. And I'm very sorry. And I could see how that would hurt your feelings. And I will not do that again. And I love you. I'm very, very sorry. And do you know that he called me back the next morning and said, you know, no one's ever apologized to me that sincerely. It wasn't even that big of a deal. But we're closer now because of it. And I sincerely meant the apology. And I sincerely won't do that again. I sure will do my best to not, you know, some friends you can tease, right? And some friends you can't. Some friends you can

• 12:29Ed Mylett?

  give a hard time to and joke about stuff, and some you can't. And then, you know, to know the person. And in that case, he just doesn't like it. And it hurt him. And I don't want to hurt people. And so I feel like we're closer because I apologized. Think of the people in your life who have sincerely apologized to you, if they ever have, and then didn't repeat that thing again. How much you love them and how much closer you are to them? Apologize more and don't repeat the mistake.

• 12:55Ed Mylett?

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• 13:38Ed Mylett?

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• 14:59Ed Mylett?

  Life Lesson Number Five. You will lose 60 to 80% of your friends when you upgrade your life. Just take it from me. When you upgrade your life and you change and you expand, just get ready. You're gonna lose 60 to 80% of your friends. Some people will tell you you're gonna lose 99% of your friends. But I have found as I upgraded my life, that meant some people were gonna be leaving my life. And these are just some of the hard truths. You know, I always use this proverb on the show, the Chinese proverb that says, "If you want to know the road ahead, ask those coming back." And I'm fortunate in my life that I've been down a lot of different roads and had some measure of success in many different areas and some failures in some others. And I can just tell you straight up that as you upgrade your life, you're gonna lose 60 to 80% of your friends.

• 15:42Ed Mylett?

  Now, you will inherit some new ones, but part of that climb, that's going to happen. I tell you that for a few reasons. So that when you do lose them, or they do disappear, or they become further away or more distant, that you know that that's part of the process of upgrading your life. And that some people are gonna be in your life for a season. We have this thing, I was talking to the lady who cuts my hair the other day, and she's much younger than me, and she was talking about how she's not as close with some people that she had gone to high school and college with. And I said, "You know, one of the things that we naively believe when we're younger is that so many relationships are permanent in our life." But as I've watched my friends get older into their 70s and 80s, their friend circle, I'm gonna talk about this in a minute, get smaller. And so, a lot of relationships in your life,

• 16:27Ed Mylett?

  we have this romantic notion that everyone in our life, all of our friends, we're gonna be together forever. And the truth of the matter is, that's not true. And it's okay that God sends people into your life or you into their life, oftentimes for a season of their life, or several seasons. But maybe not every season, maybe not your entire life, especially as you upgrade and change and grow.

• 16:53Ed Mylett?

  Things are just going to get attracted to you that are different. And part of that process is some people aren't going to be in your life anymore. The other reason I tell you this is I think some people are afraid to grow in their life and change and really climb. Because they intuitively know it may mean they're going to lose this person or these people they love and care about. And so because of this love and caring for this other person or group of people. They subconsciously sabotage their progress and success because they don't want to leave these friends. Well, the truth is not all of them will leave and you will not leave all of them. But if they're real friends, they're going to cheer for you and support and want to grow alongside with you to some extent. And if they're not, that's just part of the journey.

• 17:36Ed Mylett?

  Do you really want to repeat the same life with the same people, the same conversations, the same vibrational frequency, the same thoughts, the same memories, the same emotions for the next 50 years? Or 60 years of your life? The answer is no. So just know you're going to lose. These are just lessons of life from a guy further down the road coming back. You're going to lose a lot of your friends as you upgrade your life. Accept it, know it, and when it happens, realize. Mylett told me that was going to happen. Ed Mylett mentioned this to me. And that's my next lesson, number six. As you age, your circle is going to get smaller. It's just true. As I've gotten older and older, my friend circle has gotten smaller and smaller. I don't know anybody frankly, who has 80 good friends at 70 years old.

• 18:22Ed Mylett?

  I know they have a few. And so as that circle may get smaller, you will get closer to people. You will get closer. But I'm telling you that as the years go on, the circle doesn't get bigger, it gets smaller. And quite honestly, it's a beautiful thing. I look at the friend circles as multiple circles. There's the ones that are really on the inner circle of your life. And then there's ones that are sort of in the middle or the outer circle. My outer circle, as I've gotten older, is much bigger. My, my distant relationships, my sort of connections, my, you know, friends that I talk to every year or two. That circle is gigantic. My middle circle is actually a lot. Bigger as well. These are people I've got a pretty, you know, surface relationship with.

• 19:07Ed Mylett?

  When I'm with them, I enjoy their company. They enjoy mine. If they ever need me, I'm there. If I need them, I believe they would probably be there. We interact in that way that's somewhat distant, but much closer than people in the outer circle. And then there's that inner circle. And that inner circle is the one that I believe that gets smaller as you get older. When you're in high school, if you're lucky, that inner circle, you can have six, 10, 15, 20 people in it. Maybe even in college, maybe even into your twenties. But by the time you're about 30 years old in life, that circle ought to include people that want to grow with you, want to climb as well, want to contribute, want to give, share your values, share your standards, right?

• 19:46Ed Mylett?

  Share a belief in you, not just a love, that are excited when you make progress, not envious or jealous. And they're like-minded. And the more you expand your mind and expand your being and expand your faith and your standards become different. It's just natural that the people closest to you, that group will shrink. And so as you age, your circle will probably get smaller. Next lesson. People matter, things don't. I'm just going to tell you, the most precious thing in this life is other people, not things. Now, I want you to have great things. I've been blessed. I've been, I've had some of the nicest homes in the world. I've been blessed to have multiple different jets. I've had a lot of money flow into my life.

• 20:31Ed Mylett?

  Nice clothes and watches and great dinners and all of those kinds of things. And the way I grew up with, when I was very young, my family on welfare, you know, physical, material things are cool and there's a lot of that flash on social media. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn't matter the most to you. Those things can actually make you happy. People say material things don't make you happy. Sure, they can temporarily, but it lasts a month or so. But what fulfills you is other people. What fulfills you is that inner circle. What fulfills you is your family. You know, that inner circle that I talked about that gets smaller, more than likely, it'll come back to being your family and one or two other people. When my dad was passing away. He said, bring me my family.

• 21:16Ed Mylett?

  He wanted his children around him and his wife, his grandchildren. And so that small circle will be family. A lot of time, even the ones you get sideways with, right? And maybe one or two, three other people. People matter, they're precious. Focus on people. By the way, if you focus on people and building people up and leading people and serving people, you'll get all the things you want. But when you worship things instead of God, when you don't value God's children and you value the possessions on this earth, you have an empty hollow life and it'll never fill you up. People matter. God's children matter. Focus on people, helping people.

• 22:00Ed Mylett?

  When you feel helpless, get helpful. Serve other people and you'll have a great life. Life lesson next. You don't need a hundred mentors. Stop trying to find so many mentors. Stop looking outside of yourself so often. Look inward. Most of the answers are within you. Find one or two, maximum three mentors whose work you really follow, that you believe in them, that they're your jam and don't be listening to hundreds of different people. The thing with technology now and social media is first off, you don't know who's real or who's legit. Who's actually built a life? Who's actually wealthy? Who's actually got a business? Who's actually developed something? Who actually helps people and who doesn't? Cause it's very difficult to tell on social media to distinguish between who's who.

• 22:43Ed Mylett?

  I mean, a lot of people that give a lot of the advice that are out there have not built incredible lives on their own. They're just giving advice. So you don't need hundreds of them. Pick two or three and follow their work. I'm not saying don't listen to other people. I read 50 to 100 books a year, but mentors are different. Their philosophies, their way of doing things. You don't need hundreds of them. It gets noisy, it gets confusing. One person will tell you, you should leverage a bunch of debt. The other one will tell you over here, don't use debt at all. One over here will tell you, you got a cold plunge. The other one goes, no, don't cold plunge. Cause that messes up all your muscle growth after you work out, right? This one over here is going to tell you to eat a ton of protein. This one over here is going to tell you that, no, too much protein. You don't use it in your body anyway and animal fats and blah, blah. So there's all this noise, right?

• 23:25Ed Mylett?

  Like pick two or three, listen to their work, focus on it, focus inward on yourself. You do not need hundreds and hundreds of mentors. Your social media feed is loaded with too many people, quite frankly, that don't know what they're talking about, that talk about it very well. Pick two or three and follow them and I think you'd be much greater served in your life and much more focused and clear. Remember this clarity is focus and complexity is the enemy of execution. The more complicated something is, the more messages you have, it's much more difficult to execute. Clarity equals focus and focus equals success.

• 24:09Ed Mylett?

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• 24:52Ed Mylett?

  So find your next fall favorites at Quince. Download the Quince app for app exclusive offers or go to quince.com/ed for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK too. That's Q U I N C E dot com slash ed. Lesson number nine, never root against somebody and don't gossip about people. This energy has a way of coming back to bite you. Don't root against anybody. Root for people to be successful. Because they're winning doesn't mean you're losing. The pie is not finite, it's infinite. And so when you root against somebody, that is an energy that'll come back your way. When you gossip and talk badly about people, it feels good in the moment, doesn't it?

• 25:38Ed Mylett?

  And when you're done, you almost know you've done something you shouldn't do. It almost always makes you look small. Whenever I'm in the company of somebody who wants to share a negative to me about another person, I know ultimately, eventually, they will share a negative about me to another person. You're not in some inside exclusive club when people gossip to you, that now you're exempt from their gossip. I know it feels that way. They're telling you so much about so and so, and you're like, well, they must really think I'm special to tell me something negative about that person. And they'd never do it to me. Quite the contrary. They do this with everybody. They do this everybody. Hey, listen, this needs to stay between you and me, but no, it doesn't stay between you and me. They've told somebody else and they will do it again.

• 26:23Ed Mylett?

  And so, trust me when I tell you, rooting against people is one of the great mistakes in life. Sincerely, celebrate other people's success. And this isn't easy. Because we're competitive and comparison is normal. But when you truly, that's why I tell you, you don't need hundreds of mentors. You need to work on you. It's why I tell you, people matter. Right? I'm telling you all of this because they all link together, even though they seem like they're not. And when people really matter, right, to you, and you love people, I can tell you very clearly, you're not going to want to gossip. Tearing someone else's building down does not make yours taller. It feels good when you do it. Hey, I got some inside scoop.

• 27:03Ed Mylett?

  Or why does she say it like that? What is, he thinks he's, she's terrible vibrational frequency. Terrible. You reap what you sow. Be that person, by the way, who not only doesn't do it, but walks away from it when it's happening. And if you really want to elevate, where I've gotten most of the time in my life, now, by the way, why do I tell you this? I was somebody who would gossip. And then once I sort of said, I'm not gonna do it anymore, I was certainly somebody who was a receptacle for it. In fact, it got to the point where I thought, they think so low of me that they think it's okay to gossip to me about other people? And then I started to do this thing where I would just kind of like, and I would kind of get out of the way. And now I've gotten to the point where I go, hey, brother, can I just, can you just do me a favor? I don't want to hear anything like that about him.

• 27:48Ed Mylett?

  Right? Or anybody else. It's just not how I vibe. It's not how I get on, man. It's not my life. I don't, I don't participate in that kind of dialogue. You're a great dude, brother. I think you're probably better than this. But I'm not the dude to talk that way about other people with. And I've gotten to that point and I just keep my energy as pure as I possibly can. And it's served me. Okay, so it's gonna come back on you if you do it. Stop doing it. Life lesson number 10. You are one decision away from changing your life. I talk about that in the power of one more, but it's a fact. If you're listening to this right now or you're watching it, you're one decision away. By the way, good or bad, you could have things really rocking and rolling right now and you make that one decision and it goes the other way. Right? So this is not just for the positive, it can also be for the negative.

• 28:33Ed Mylett?

  But if things aren't going your way right now, your one choice, one decision, one new thought. Maybe it's this list I've gone through of the 10 things and you go, that's the one decision I gotta make. I gotta stop gossiping. Or you know what? That one decision is, I gotta stop waiting. Or that one decision is, I'm gonna drop that weight. I don't know what it is, but I know this, that you're always one decision away from upgrading and changing your life. One new relationship, one new thought, one new podcast away from totally changing it. So ask yourself, if I made one decision right now that would change my life, what's that one decision? Maybe it's to get back to church, or maybe it's to start going back into the gym and doing it. Maybe it's to stop gossiping. Maybe it's to start my business. Maybe it's to start my brand. Maybe it's to start my blog or my podcast or whatever it might be. You're one decision away. Maybe it's that, hey, I gotta have that conversation where I apologize.

• 29:19Ed Mylett?

  Maybe I gotta have that conversation now, or that thought where that friend is gonna go outside the inner circle into the middle circle, or the distance circle. Right? I don't know what it is, but you're one decision away from changing your life. And that's what's great about life. What's awesome about life is your past doesn't equal your future. You are not destined to have to be where you're going right now or where you currently are. You can change your life at any given time, at any given moment, in one moment, good or bad. You can make a decision and it at least sends your life in a new direction. It may not be in that second that you go, I just changed my life. It may be. But it might be that you will look back someday and go, it was that decision. It was that new relationship, or it was getting out of that relationship, or it was starting this business,

• 30:02Ed Mylett?

  or it was adding this product to our portfolio, or it was that one investment I made. Right? Or that one new friend, or that friend I'm no longer friends with. That if I look back on it, that was the catalyst, that was the decision that changed my life. But it's great to know that in our life, that although we need God's favor and blessing, that we do have some dominion over our own lives. We have some domain to call shots in our life. Okay? Life lesson number 11. This is good, isn't it?

• 30:32Ed Mylett?

  What you're feeling is okay.

• 30:35Ed Mylett?

  What you're feeling is okay. Don't judge your feelings so often. I've allowed myself, as I've gotten older in life, to go, okay, it's okay that I'm feeling angry right now. It's okay that I'm feeling sad. It's okay that I'm a little bit depressed. Right? It's okay that I'm excited. It's okay that I'm fired up. It's okay that I'm nervous. It's okay. It's okay that I'm anxious. What you're feeling is okay. And just remind yourself of that this week when you're feeling something, or this year when you're feeling something. It's okay. You're not gonna feel it forever. And it may be sending you a signal, I'm afraid. Well, fears, false evidence appearing real. You ever heard that? Not always. Sometimes what you're afraid of is legit, and it's your body, or your heart, or your spirit,

• 31:20Ed Mylett?

  warning you to be more focused or vigilant, to be more aware, to be more discerning. What you're feeling is okay. Accept it. You're okay. It's all right. Last, well, I'm gonna give you a bonus one when we're done with the 12. Number 12. You should ask yourself more often, who do I want to be? Who do I want to be? I've learned in my life that usually you get who you are in life. And when you're regularly questioning, who do I want to be? Who do I want to be in this moment? Who do I want to be as a mother? Who do I want to be as a sister? And you can look at different angles of your life, and ask yourself who you want to be in that role. Who do I want to be as a leader?

• 32:05Ed Mylett?

  Who do I want to be as a man? Who do I want to be as a woman? Who do I want to be as an athlete? Who do I want to be as a father? Who do I want to be as a mother? Who do I want to be as a friend? Right? Who do I want to be as a child of God? Who do I want to be? And the more you focus on who you are and who you're becoming, the external results end up producing themselves, because in life, we inevitably eventually attract who we believe we are. So this identity that we have is the most powerful force in the world that draws to us that which we want. You say, well, no, my faith is, your faith should be the main part of your identity. That if you're truly a child of God, if he really holds you in the palm of his hand, right? If it's really true and you really believe that, that should be your identity,

• 32:47Ed Mylett?

  that you're favored, that his DNA runs through your veins, right? So who do I want to be is one of the most important questions of life, and it's a never-ending question. It's not just for right now, six months from now, who do I want to be as a father? Who do I want to be as a, as a mother? Who do I want to be as a leader? Who do I want to be as a person of faith? Whatever that question is, who do I want to be is a powerful question you should be asking yourself more regularly. And so those are my 12 lessons of life, and I'm going to give you a bonus one this week. You want me to do this every six or eight weeks? I can do it, right? Just different random life lessons that I'm learning or have learned, but I'll give you the bonus lesson. Get closer to God. You know that in my faith, I'm a Christian,

• 33:33Ed Mylett?

  and the closer I've gotten to God and build a relationship with God, the more peace I have, the more clarity I have, the more discernment I have. Whatever your faith is, get closer to it. It's the best thing you can do in your life. It's the ultimate question of your life. And you say, well, Ed, I don't have those questions answered. Then begin to ask them, begin to pursue it, begin to give yourself the gift of pursuing what you believe life's all about. Not just who you are, but whose you are. Who do I want to be is a really powerful question. But whose am I? Where do I come from? And where am I going? Is one of the most powerful questions you can be asking yourself on a regular basis. And so you know where I am in

• 34:18Ed Mylett?

  my faith, and I admire and respect you for pursuing yours. That's the pursuit of that relationship and finding that answer inside, not from what your friends are doing or what social media tells you, or even some church tells you. But your own personal relationship with God. And I can tell you that I believe of all of the life lessons of the 12, that that's the most important one for you to find out, to figure out, to build that relationship, to feel that level of peace in your own way. My friend, I just wish for you in your life, that relationship, that the God you see in your image and your likeness, that serves you, that cares for you, that comforts you, that you build that relationship and you work on that as you build all these other parts of your life.

• 35:02Ed Mylett?

  It'd be terrible to get through this entire life and figure out you, figure out all the ways to make money in business and get to the end of your life and never know why you were even here or where you're going when you leave. And so, keep pursuing that question. Keep asking that question. And the more those answers come to you, I believe all these other things probably fall into place. All right, everybody, it's so good to be with you this week. If this episode served you, if there's some lessons you think could serve other people, please share it. We're the number one show growing in the world right now in our category because you guys share the episodes every week. It's my honor to be in your life every week. God bless you. Max out.

• 35:41Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed Marlin Show.