Change What You See, Change What You Get

What if you started living like life was rigged in your favor? That’s the question I want you to wrestle with today. Because the lens you look through is shaping everything — your decisions, your joy, your results. In this Solo episode, I’m walking you through the truth that most people miss: Your life isn't defined by what happens to you — it's defined by how you see it. Your filter, your expectations, and your energy are creating your reality, whether you know it or not. We talk a lot about faith, hustle, and discipline — but today, I want you to start scanning your life for favor, not fear. I share the four life lenses that are quietly running your perspective — from living through history and memory to seeing life through dreams and imagination. I’ve lived on both sides of this. I’ve filtered for pain, for setbacks, for loneliness. But when I changed the lens — when I started walking through life expecting good things to happen — things began to shift. You’ll hear me share some of the most personal insights I’ve ever dropped on this show, from how confidence bends reality, to the way your energy becomes a magnet for the people and opportunities in your life. This isn’t just about mindset. It’s about becoming the person who runs toward pressure, who trains like an underdog, and lives with the heart of a champion. You’ve already come farther than you give yourself credit for. Now it’s time to move like someone who’s meant to win. And here’s the truth — you don’t need to fit in. You’re not one of the crowd. You were made to be different. You were born to stand out. So stop waiting to be seen. See yourself. Don’t underestimate your own power another day. This episode is a reminder of who you really are and what you’re really capable of. Key Takeaways: Your expectations shape your reality more than your circumstances. There are four lenses that shape how you experience life — most of us operate unconsciously. Confidence can actually bend reality — but so can self-doubt. Energy is magnetic — you draw in what you put out. The life you want begins when you stop underestimating yourself and start believing that great things are meant for you. Focus equals expansion: what you’re looking for is what you’ll find. Train like an underdog, but think like you’re world class. You don’t need to be understood — you need to be relentless about your purpose. Max out your lens. Max out your life. 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈 → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ← ➡️ INSTAGRAM ➡️FACEBOOK ➡️ LINKEDIN ➡️ X ➡️ WEBSITE Get my exclusive Monday Motivation training in GrowthDay, the world’s #1 app for advanced mindset and personal development. Visit https://growthday.com/ed. This show is sponsored by GrowthDay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So excited to get a chance to spend some time with you again this week. And just to start, I just want to thank so many of you that are sharing the episodes every single week. We're really going viral almost every week, particularly solos episodes where I spend time with you together. Just you and I, where I share ideas and content with you. And so, thank you in advance for doing that today. Today's gonna be a really important one. I want to talk to you about perspective today, and I think one of the most critical components in life to bring you more fulfillment and more success, more bliss, more happiness, more of the things you want. And that is to start to become aware of the lens through which you see the world, through how you experience your life. Most of us do this unconsciously.

• 0:43Ed Mylett?

  And because we do it unconsciously, oftentimes we default to a mode that we really don't want. One of the critical things in life is to be able to see the world through the lens, through the filter, through the prism that serves us the most, serves our bliss, serves our success, serves our productivity, our joy, our peace. And in the I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 P.M. And my third day, 6:00 P.M. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise.

• 1:27Ed Mylett?

  And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it waiting weeks on a big bank for capital. Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason. Over 20 years in business, over 12 billion deployed to small business across America. Stop letting bank delays slow down your momentum. Head to cardiff.co/ed. That's cardiff.co/ed. Cardiff.co. Real growth, fast funding. Cardiff, borrow better. Power of one more in my book. I write about two lenses. I'm gonna give you two more today. But the two lenses I write about in the books, I say there's two types of people.

• 2:10Ed Mylett?

  One type of person views the world through history and memory. And they basically walk through life, kind of living in the past. When they reference something new, it's usually connected to something of the old. And by the way, people do this on positive and negative things. Some people live through past successes. Some continue to live through history and memory and the past of failures, setbacks, things that have gone wrong, traumas. But the bottom line is, most of their filter is the rearview mirror of their life. The second type of person, which is more rare, they see things through dreams and imagination. They're in the present, but they're looking forward. They've got, they use their imagination, they use their dreams. They don't spend a lot of time in the rearview mirror. They're looking more through the windshield of life and looking forward.

• 2:52Ed Mylett?

  And I find those to be the people that create, that innovate, that are more happy, that grow, that expand. But there are a couple other filters that I want to talk to you about this week. And there's really two lenses that I want to go through with you. And one type of person scans for God and favor, protection, safety, increase, light, love. They see all these things. When they scan the world, when they experience the world, they see more God, they see more favor, they see more protection, they feel more safety, they feel more increase and light and love. The other types of people scan for things they're afraid of. They see the negative, they filter into their lens, evil, loneliness, darkness, despair.

• 3:35Ed Mylett?

  And these two people are in the exact same world, yet they experience two totally different lives. And really, the life you experience is seen through the lens that you feed yourself. And so which of those lenses, are you history and memory? Or are you imagination and dreams? Are you someone who sees light, love, favor, protection, increase, growth, beauty? Or do you scan and see a lot of things you're afraid of? The negative, the people taking advantage of, the evil, the loneliness in your life? These two lenses will feed you the life that you see. And it's really important because if you're not aware you're doing it, you can begin to think your reality is the only truth. When in fact, the same people going through the same type of life are having a totally different life experience than you, simply because of the lens.

• 4:17Ed Mylett?

  And most of us do it unconsciously, but we can become conscious of this lens and start to scan for the things we want. Listen to me. It's a mental act of ignorance to scan for the things you're afraid of, for the negative, for evil, for loneliness, for darkness, for despair, for lack, for what you don't have. That's a mental act of ignorance. And after today, you will be doing it consciously because I've pointed it out to you. And the reason that I pointed out to you is because I've done both and I do both. But I've probably lived at least half my life as somebody who scanned for, you know, how lonely I was, or how I was being taken advantage of, or the past, or trauma, or darkness.

• 5:00Ed Mylett?

  I'd see the, I'd be on an airplane and I'd scan for the loudest, most obnoxious person, rather than the kindest and most gentle and the person who's helping everybody put their bags away, you know, and the most polite person. You know what I'm saying? Those are two same exact flight, two totally different experiences. So what if you became somebody? What if you were one of those people who began to believe that good things are going to happen to them? Because the people who believe that good things are going to happen to them, they're usually right. And the people who believe that average and ordinary or negative things, or maybe just the same things are going to happen for them, they are also usually right. The world reveals to us that which we're most certain of. And if we're not cognizant of our lens, because you do have one,

• 5:46Ed Mylett?

  and maybe it changes from time to time, maybe a certain trigger triggers a different lens for you. When you're slighted by somebody in your personal life, your spouse, or a boyfriend or girlfriend, or they're passive aggressive with you, or whatever it might be, or maybe you miss a sale. It switches the lens and now you're scanning for all the other negative things. But I'm telling you, this lens is your life. And I think when you get to the end of your life, it's going to be revealed to you through a different lens. And I think at the end, we want it to be revealed through the ones that we most hopefully want to see through. So remember this, people who believe that good things are going to happen to them, they are usually right. Not every time, but far more of the time than if they believe things aren't going to work out for them. What if you started to move through your life like you think it's rigged in your favor?

• 6:31Ed Mylett?

  You always say, hey, the system is rigged. Okay, well, it's rigged for somebody and that somebody doesn't necessarily have to be different than you. And I'm not suggesting that there aren't lots of people in life where they didn't start on third base. Heck, they didn't even start at home plate. They started, and they weren't even in the stadium. They were born on the wrong side of the tracks, or their parents weren't even married, or they grew up incredibly poor, and that there are disadvantages to that life, because there are. But if you're scanning for proof of that all of your life, you'll prove it to be true. But if you begin to scan like, well, however, there are certain things that are scanned in my favor, and I'm favored, because God's gonna give you the life that He most wants to give you,

• 7:16Ed Mylett?

  but your lens is going to process it. A lot of times in life, your expectations are the most important thing. If you expect things to go well, if you have an expectation that you're gonna get a hit when you're up to the plate, or make the putt when you're putting, or close the sale, or get the date, or have a good time, or that people are gonna think you're interesting and funny, most of the time, your expectations are accurate in life, more times than not. Remember this, confidence bends reality. It does. When you walk into a room confident that something's gonna work out in your favor, or you walk into your day, it begins to bend reality. And the truth of the matter is, reality is reality, but what it does is it begins to change your filter,

• 7:58Ed Mylett?

  and that filter is your life experience. What if you started to walk like, you just got the best news of your life? What if you talked like, "Man, the universe is listening to me. In my case, God is listening to me. He's hearing my prayers." You have to remember that this is important stuff, and if we don't start to be conscious of it, we're going to continue to produce the same life because we're seeing life through the same lens and the same filter. And so you can have 10 people treat you great, but if you believe you're a victim to something, that 11th person is all you're going to see and experience and feel. If you believe you're not gonna close sales, you're not gonna close the majority of the sales. So what if you started to walk through your life like it was rigged in your favor, and you go, "Well, it isn't though."

• 8:43Ed Mylett?

  But what if you worked so hard that you made it so? People just like you with the same disadvantages, the same hardships, the same setbacks. Look, I grew up on welfare. I had a drug addict and alcoholic father. I could easily see the world through, man, I didn't even get a Good hand when I was born. We didn't have any damn money. Nobody in my family was ever financially successful. So I'm not going to be, or I can go, I'm going to be first. I'm going to change this family curse of this addiction stuff. And so that confidence began to bend reality. So the same people would have entered my life probably either way. But I filtered for the ones who could support what I was seeing as opposed to filtering for the ones that would support the negative things I was seeing.

• 9:23Ed Mylett?

  There's going to be enough people, enough circumstances, enough situations in your life to deliver either reality to you. But your reticular activating system is going to scan to prove you right. And so you're starting to wrestle this. I'm going to be someone who operates out of imagination and dreams. I'm going to operate as somebody who walks through life like it's rigged in my favor. My confidence will bend reality. I'm going to get the world to conspire to my dreams. God made me in his image and likeness. He holds me in the palm of his hand. And he will never leave me nor forsake me. I'm not alone, even when I filter through life and feel alone. I think when we get to the end of your life, all those moments you felt lonely, all those moments you felt alone. I think God's going to whisper to you and go, I was with you the whole time. You were never alone.

• 10:06Ed Mylett?

  You were never alone. What if you never felt that way again? What if you gave yourself the gift of saying, there's a loving God who's got my back, who made me in his image and likeness? Whose DNA runs through me?

• 10:21Ed Mylett?

  Man, this is rigged in my favor. I woke up today with another breath. Maybe you woke up today and you don't have a disease that millions of other people have. Maybe today, no one that you love passed away. And so many other people woke up today and lost a loved one. Maybe you woke up today with food in your refrigerator and water and two thirds of the world doesn't have it. So what if you started to walk like you just got the best news of your life? Talk like the world is listening. Remember this, energy is magnetic. The energy you put out is like a magnet. It draws to you that which you're putting out. That's what you see. You know, here's the truth about you. You've come a whole lot further than you realize.

• 11:04Ed Mylett?

  And you've overcome a lot more than you give yourself credit for, haven't you? Just for a second, right as you sit there today. Think about how far you've come. Now, I know some of you are listening to this or watching this today, and it's not an uptime in your life. It's a downtime. But just stay with me for a second. Look how far you've come even to have this downtime. The way you grew up, the situations you've had, the people who have hurt you, taken advantage of you, abandoned you, lied to you, talked bad about you. The opportunities you should have been given, but you weren't. Maybe because you weren't born on third base, maybe because you weren't even born in the stadium.

• 11:48Ed Mylett?

  Maybe people have always overlooked you, always underestimated you.

• 11:54Ed Mylett?

  Man, you've come pretty darn far, haven't you?

• 11:58Ed Mylett?

  And you've overcome a lot more than you give yourself credit for. In fact, those of you that had the most disadvantages, the most negative things happen.

• 12:08Ed Mylett?

  You've overcome a lot more. If you could overcome all that, this next 10 yards isn't such a big deal. Oftentimes, people ask me, what's it like to have been so blessed and have had, you know, a measure of success, hundreds of millions of dollars, beautiful homes, influence, great friends, beautiful family. Overall, until the last year or two, good health.

• 12:30Ed Mylett?

  I'm very grateful for all of that.

• 12:34Ed Mylett?

  But every once in a while, I go, man, I've overcome a lot. I've overcome a lot. Thank God I had this filter and scan for the world most of the time that found the light, that found the person who could help me, not hurt me. If you keep drawing people into your life that are hurting you, that's a you issue. You're filtering for them. You are finding them and you are bringing them into your life. If most of the people in your life are just kind of a neutral charge, they're not so great, they don't lift me up, and they're not so bad, that's what you're scanning for. That's your lens. But when you have a lot of people around you who love you, who believe in you, who support you, who do even more than support you, they go to work on helping you make your dreams come true.

• 13:18Ed Mylett?

  They go to work on trying to help you be happier and more at peace and more faithful. You're scanning for that. If you look at the current conditions of your life, it's what you've been filtering in. It's a hard thing to accept. I just started to accept that in my late twenties, that I'm responsible for my life. In some way, I've actually created this because I filtered through my lens, these people into my world, these circumstances into my world. And if I don't change this lens, they're gonna show up in a different body with a different name, but it'll be the same person. They'll show up in a different situation, a different business, a different product, but I'm gonna get the same business results. Gotta change that lens. You are so much more than you think you are, my precious friend.

• 14:03Ed Mylett?

  You've done so much more than you realize. You've helped so many more people that you don't even know about. What a thing that is, huh? You know, you've helped more people than you realize. You're not, not me, I've not really accomplished anything. You'd be surprised how someone's quietly watched you and your kindness has been an example to them to be more kind. Or they've watched how you treat your spouse or your significant other and just for that day, they went home and were a little bit more gentle and generous and kind with theirs. Simple things like manners and holding a door open and saying thank you for somebody helps humanity. Never mind the big things you've done, things people will never know about, things you probably don't even realize you've done

• 14:48Ed Mylett?

  because you filter them out. You take it for granted because it's just everybody's as kind as you. Everybody's as giving as you. No, they're not. Everybody has beautiful intentions like you do. Everybody's rooting for their friends to succeed like you do. You know, just your rooting and supporting and believing in your friends makes you very rare. This episode is sponsored by Ro. A lot of people assume GLP-1's cost a fortune and that assumption keeps them from even looking into treatment. Ro helps people find a more affordable path to FDA-approved GLP-1 treatment. Ro wants to help people lose weight. That's why they have more affordable GLP-1 options, whether you're paying with insurance or cash.

• 15:29Ed Mylett?

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• 16:10Ed Mylett?

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• 16:53Ed Mylett?

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• 17:13Ed Mylett?

  But you don't have this filter that believes that if they win, you're losing. You'd be surprised how many people quietly root against one another, pretending to support one another. So you're so much more than you think you are. You've done so much more than you realize. You've come so much further and helped more people than you realize. What a beautiful thing. What a, what a good life. Now I know as I say that, some of you, but you don't know about this mistake. You don't know about this thing I'm ashamed of. God does. He knew it before you were going to do it. You're human. You've made some mistakes. Okay. Made some bad decisions.

• 17:52Ed Mylett?

  So have I. Join the club. Join the club. Now, does that mean what you're gonna do is filter for that the rest of your life and repeat it over and over again and live those same emotions? Or can you believe you can grow and expand? Can you believe you can move from here to the next place, just like you have in the past? You've already proven you can move from certain circumstances to other ones. You've already proven you can grow and change. Maybe you've changed in a way you're not proud of. What that does prove is you can change. You can change again. What you focus on, and if you can somehow begin to look at light and gratitude, you can begin to look at that. What you focus on expands. You're gonna get more of it.

• 18:35Ed Mylett?

  I'm serious. If you can begin to find things that you're grateful for in your life, okay? It will expand. It begins to expand. That lens starts to look for it. Focus equals expansion. What you focus on will be expanding. Let me ask you a powerful question. Just stay with me. Like, I don't know what to be grateful for right now. Who or what do you take for granted? Let's do the who. Is there anybody in your life that you take a little bit for granted? Maybe you take for granted that, I don't know, I'm making this up, that you, your mom's still alive and you can talk to her anytime you want, if she is. Maybe you take for granted how much the little things your significant other does for you. Maybe you take for granted that your girlfriends or boyfriends, your friends that love and support you in their quiet way.

• 19:20Ed Mylett?

  Maybe you take for granted the fact that there are people around you fighting battles you know nothing about, and they're doing it with grace. They're doing it with strength. Maybe you take for granted that there's someone that you love and care about that's hanging on by a thread right now, but they're hanging on, and that's admirable. What do you take for granted? That was the who. Now, what do you take for granted? You know, I've had real big health issues the last couple of years. Well, for about 50 years of my life, I took my health really for granted. I woke up every day and my chest didn't have any pains. I woke up every day, there was no cancer in my body. I woke up every day and my back wasn't hurting me, or my jaw. I had high energy. I just took that for granted.

• 20:04Ed Mylett?

  I've had a beautiful family, but they were there every day. I have some really good friends.

• 20:11Ed Mylett?

  I've had some good financial success. I make an impact in my life. I do work that I enjoy. I took a lot of that for granted. So when you begin to go, I don't know what to be grateful for, flip it. What am I taking for granted?

• 20:24Ed Mylett?

  What am I taking for granted? You know that right now you could probably walk to your refrigerator and there's some food in it. The more you begin to ask yourself, who or what am I taking for granted? Your mind flips into the antithesis of that and it changes the lens. And you begin to be grateful. Maybe today, if you're married and you just walk in a room, just before you say anything, just take a look at your spouse. Or your girlfriend or your boyfriend, or your children, or your parents, or your siblings, or a friend. Just take them in for a second. Just see their soul. Don't see all the bad things you know about them, all the things they've done that you don't like. Just see their soul for a second. Just see their soul. How precious they are. Thank God they're still here, right?

• 21:10Ed Mylett?

  Make up. They've also come a long way. They're also overcoming things. They also may not be aware of their filter or their lens, which causes them to behave in a way that doesn't serve them. So focus equals expansion. Who are you taking for granted? What are you taking for granted? And when you begin to understand that the little things become the big things and that focus equals expansion. And now you're starting to change your lens. You know the thing about you? You're probably being underestimated right now. In fact, you've probably always been underestimated. But here's the hook, and I have too. No one would have picked me in high school to become successful or anybody anyone would listen to. There was nothing exceptional about, anything about me, my grades, my abilities, my personality, my background, my track record.

• 21:55Ed Mylett?

  So I've always been underestimated and probably you have too. Maybe you are right now, but here's the hook. You can't underestimate yourself. That's a killer. And too many of you have walked through your whole life underestimating you because you're waiting for someone else to see you a particular way. And if they see you, then you'll believe in you. Well, you'll be waiting a long time because that lens rarely comes back. You gotta see you. You gotta not underestimate yourself. You gotta believe that confidence bends reality, but the lack of confidence bends it in an equivalent way, the other direction. You gotta start to walk through your damn life like something great's about to happen,

• 22:37Ed Mylett?

  like you expect it. By and large, we get what we expect in our lives. Ask yourself, stop listening. I know you're going, whoa, this is, okay, I got it. Okay, this is great stuff. Now stop. What have you really expected the last year of your life? What have your expectations been? Expectations financially, expectations in your emotions, in your faith, in your relationships, in the way other people respond to you because you're getting what you expect. And when you begin to shift those expectations, reality begins to bend over time to some extent. You know how we know that? You're already proving it. It may take a while, but your life will eventually come back to the filter and the lens that you see it through. Be the one they never saw coming. Train in your life like you're a big underdog,

• 23:22Ed Mylett?

  but start to think like you're world class. All my life, I've known I was supposed to be somebody. And all my life, I knew I didn't have the talent. I didn't have the size. I didn't have the strength. I didn't have the intellect. I didn't have any of those things that people might think you need to have. But I know this, there's never been a test design, nor will there ever will be that can measure the heart of a champion. You cut open anybody who's done anything great in their life. One might be six foot four, one might be five foot four, might be one part of the world, one might be another, one might be black, one might be white, one might be straight, one might be gay, one might be a Christian, one might be a Muslim. But when you cut them open, they're identical and they train like an underdog, but they got the heart of a champion.

• 24:04Ed Mylett?

  Be patient in your life, but never wait. You have to have patience, but you gotta be in a hurry. Be intense in your work, but calm in your mind. Be disciplined and be structured, but be willing to innovate. You got all this stuff. You can be the one they never saw coming. You can train like an underdog. You got the heart of a champion. Remember this. Focus on your energy. Energy is influence. Vibrational frequency is real. When you're vibrating at the highest possible frequency, you begin to draw things into your life. Circumstances, places, things, people, emotions, that were always there, but they are outside your energy's influence. They are outside your lens. You weren't seeing them, hearing them, or feeling them. By the way, the highest level of vibration is truth.

• 24:47Ed Mylett?

  And so when you actually begin to see your truth, as opposed to this lie, that everything's stacked against you, that you're average and ordinary, that people don't like you much, that there's nothing to be grateful for, that nothing ever goes your way. That's a lie. And so what happens is it reduces your vibrational frequency. You believe it because it's in your lens. But when you slits the lens to truth, which is that you are favored, you were born to do something awesome with your life. The world is going to conspire to make your dreams come true over time. God did make you in His image and likeness. He did die for your sins. You are saved if you accept that and live forever. That vibrational frequency is real. The higher the frequency, the more you draw things into your life.

• 25:31Ed Mylett?

  Highest possible frequency, truth. So you have to ask yourself, is my lens, is my filter giving me truth? Or sort of a lie and a bias that I've been carrying for a long time? That lens is essentially your life bias, your mind virus. And it's going to keep giving to you that which you filter for. You gotta become the type of person who runs towards the fire. There's two types of people. The ones that run towards the fire. These are our heroes. These are our first responders. These are our soldiers. These are the moms when they've got an injured child on a playground. These are the moms and dads who run into the fire of hard work every single day to win for their family. They're the people on 9/11 who ran into the building.

• 26:14Ed Mylett?

  You gotta be that type of person in your life metaphorically. You run towards the pressure. You don't hide from it. You run towards the difficult things. You don't cower from it. There's only two types of people. Which one are you? You run towards the stuff or you hide from it? You're someone who's favored? Who's in the light? Who's protected? Who's safe? Who's strong? Who can tap into supernatural power from God anytime you need to? Or you hide and you cower and you shrink and you limit and you stop expanding. In fact, you stop, you start shrinking. Pressure is a privilege. Pressure means this, something's gonna break. Either you or the obstacle. Being a dad, there's some pressure. Being a mom, there's some pressure. Building the business, there's some pressure. Hitting that putt to win a tournament, there's some pressure.

• 26:59Ed Mylett?

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• 27:43Ed Mylett?

  Quality basics designed to work with your wardrobe and hold up to everyday wear. I love their cotton tees. I'm wearing one now and I get a ton of compliments when I wear them on the podcast and when I speak. So find your next fall favorites at Quince. Download the Quince app for app exclusive offers or go to quince.com/ed for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK too. That's Q U I N C E dot com slash ed. Either the obstacle or you and you're the person who doesn't break. You start walking like that. It may take me a little bit longer, but I'm in a hurry. I got patience, but I'm a little bit faster than I used to be. You live for this stuff. Most people fear the grind. You crave it.

• 28:27Ed Mylett?

  Most people wait for the right moment. You create it. You ain't waiting around for the right time. You ain't waiting around for someone to give you permission. You're not waiting around to make opportunity. You're gonna get your own seat at the table. There's no seat there, you're picking one up. I just moved my chair over. You crave this stuff. You want to live a great life. All your life, you've known you're supposed to. You don't fit in. You're special. I gotta tell you something about, I've never been one of the boys. I mean, I like having a cigar with the guys or playing golf, but I've never fit in. I don't want to fit in. I don't want to. In fact, in college, my teammates called me not Eddie Mylett, Eddie myself, because I was alone so often. I'm not one of the guys. I don't want to be in group think. I don't want to think like everybody else. I want to think like me.

• 29:10Ed Mylett?

  I want my filter, my lens. Back in the days, most of those guys probably thought I was pretty crazy. Well, they don't think I'm crazy anymore. And I love all those guys, but most of their lives are almost all identical. Cause they were one of the guys or one of the girls. Most of their lives are all the same. I was born to have my life. You were born to have your life, not theirs. You don't need to fit in. You're special. You're different. You don't need to be accepted. You don't need to be understood. You already know this. You're gonna do anything great in your life. Most people aren't gonna understand you. You gotta become comfortable being misunderstood, being a little controversial, little criticism. Alright, whatever. That just means I'm making other people comfortable. Pardon my progress. Sorry, my progress, my expansion makes you uncomfortable.

• 29:55Ed Mylett?

  Sorry, the light I'm living in is shining a light on your small life. And I know that makes you uncomfortable, but I'm not one of the guys and I don't need your approval. And you're not one of the girls and you don't need theirs either. You're a competitor. You're constantly increasing your purpose. You're a grower. You're in a bigger hurry than most.

• 30:16Ed Mylett?

  You are, but you have the discipline to wait for what you want. C.S. Lewis once said this, it's so good. "Life with God is not immunity from difficulties, but peace within difficulties." I'm not telling you, once you change, these problems aren't gonna come your way. What I'm telling you is your perspective about what it means will change. And meaning drives reality in life. Let me ask you a question about meaning. Isn't this good today, by the way?

• 30:44Ed Mylett?

  That's the Holy Spirit. Thank you, God. If you came up to me in three years and you said to me, hey, Ed, I just had the best three years of my life. What would you be telling me three years from now? You're going to arrive somewhere three years from now. The only question is where? Do you even have a plan to get there? Do you know where you're going? Have you enrolled your partner, which I hope is God in your life to help you get there? What would you tell me? Ed, the last three years, you're not gonna believe it. Here's what happened in my life. I did this. I started that. We helped these. What is it? What would you be telling me? And by the way, what if you begin to move as if you expected it to happen? Huh?

• 31:27Ed Mylett?

  I know that's not easy, but what if you actually moved as if you expected those things over the next three years to happen? And I could tell you this, I don't know what it is that that thing is, but I know it will be connected to something that has meaning to you, that has a purpose, that makes you feel like you're making a difference. That's almost like a mission or a crusade or a cause in your life. I guarantee you, one of the things on that list will not just be money or a car or a house or an island. Although it will be some of those things for many of you. Somewhere on that list, the one that will stand out almost more than any will be some difference you made in life. Some purpose, some crusade, some mission you're on that became accomplished. That's what it'll be.

• 32:12Ed Mylett?

  I'll tell you this last, there's a great quote by D.L. Moody about purpose. Our greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding at something. It doesn't really matter. I know your life's supposed to matter. You gotta get clear on what that looks like and you need to begin to change that filter and lens to deliver to you the people, places and things that make it true, because it is. All right, I'm fired up this week. I hope you are as well. I have a feeling I don't have to ask you to share this. Anyone you love, anyone you care about, I think should hear today's show. I feel strongly about that. All right, guys, I'm honored that you listen. I really am. I can't believe you do, but I'm grateful that you do. God bless you.