How to Change Your Life in 24 Hours

This is the day to change your life. A new day is in front of us. As Marcus Aurelius reminds us, it’s a tragedy to cling to being the person you’ve always been.🎥 Watch this episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W7EE-bjD_pM🎟️ DAILY STOIC LIVE | Ryan Holiday is coming to a city near you! Grab tickets here | https://www.dailystoiclive.com/✉️ FREE STOIC WISDOM | Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail

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• 0:00Ryan Holiday?

  Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, designed to help bring those four key Stoic virtues: courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom into the real world.

• 0:14Ryan Holiday?

  This is the day to change your life. We have a new day in front of us. A new sun has risen. We can be anyone. We can be anything. We can do it a new way. We don't have to do it the way we've always done it. It's a tragedy, Marcus Aurelius says, to cling to being the person you've always been. He says, "We're like those gladiators at the games, torn to pieces, begging to be held over till tomorrow to do it the same way. It hasn't been working, so let's do it differently." And that's what we're going to talk about in today's episode: how to have a great day, how to be a great person, how to be a new person, and what the Stoics can tell us about doing precisely that.

• 1:04Ryan Holiday?

  Nobody likes getting up early, not even Marcus Aurelius. In Meditations, he talks about trying to get up early, and he has this fantastic conversation with himself. He goes, "But it's warmer under the covers." And he says, "Is that what you were put here to do? To huddle under the blankets and be warm?" He says, "But it's nicer here." He says, "Is that what you were meant for? To feel nice?" He says, "No, you have a nature. You have a job. You have obligations." He says, "We're all put here for a purpose. We have a nature. We have a duty, and we have to go, and we have to do that. And the morning is the best time to do stuff, to get stuff done." So that's why the Stoics tried to get up early. I say "tried" because they didn't always do it, and it wasn't always easy, and they didn't always like it. They tried to do it anyway.

• 1:46Ryan Holiday?

  Doing hard things is good for you. Cold plunges, long hikes, long runs, challenging yourself, pushing your limits. Seneca says, "We treat the body rigorously so that it's not disobedience to the mind." Doing the things you don't want to do, but that you're glad you did after. That's the skill that life demands, more than any other skill: the ability to push yourself a little bit further, to hold on a little bit longer. Longer to go a little bit further than you thought, to put up with a little bit more than you thought. That's what it's about. And so we find practices, we find places, we find experiences that allow us to practice that. They're also beautiful and enjoyable, but they allow us to build that muscle, the muscle that says, hey, I'm in charge. Hey, I push myself.

• 2:30Ryan Holiday?

  Hey, I'm comfortable being uncomfortable. I'm comfortable being challenged. In fact, I like those challenges. I seek them out. I do hard things. Not just that I can do hard things, but I do hard things on a regular, consistent basis. That's what it's about.

• 2:52Ryan Holiday?

  The purpose of philosophy is not about getting to some magical place of enlightenment. It's not about these epiphanies, these life-changing transformative moments. That's not how it works. Seneca writing to his friend Lucilius talks about how, look, if you can just acquire one thing a day, he says, something that makes you a little stronger, makes you a little wiser, less focused on things that are outside your control. As long as you can inch your way towards truth, he says, that's what it's about. So today, let's think about what have we acquired? What's something we've learned? What's something we've added to our quiver or our toolkit? That's what the path to wisdom is. It's step by step. In fact, Zeno, the founder of Stoicism, says exactly that. He says, well-being is realized by small steps, but it is no small thing.

• 3:41Ryan Holiday?

  The Stoics say you have to stop being a slave today. There's a story I tell in Discipline is Destiny about Richard Feynman. One day, it's like 10 o'clock in the morning. He's out for a walk and he feels this pull. Wants to have a drink. He never saw himself as an alcoholic, never had this problem with alcoholism, but he was deeply uncomfortable with this drive, this pull to do something. It was coming from a part of him that he didn't control. And the Stoics say that's something you have to be really suspicious of. Seneca says slavery isn't just this legal status. He says, everyone's a slave. He says, someone's a slave to their mistress. Somebody's a slave to money. Someone's a slave to power and attention. And he said, those people might be literally free. They might be powerful. They might be important. But they're not in control. In Disappointing Destiny, I also tell the story of Eisenhower.

• 4:26Ryan Holiday?

  He's told by his doctor that is smoking, and he'd smoke like four packs a day for 40 years. It was substantially hurting his health. He says, okay, and I love this. He says, I gave myself an order to stop smoking. And he stopped smoking cold turkey like that. It's going to be harder for some people, easier for some people. But the point is, you've got to give yourself that order. You have to say, who's in charge? This habit, this addiction, this vice that I have, this thing that I want? Or am I in charge? I the boss, or is it the boss? And that's what Feynman was reacting to. That's what Seneca was reacting to. That's what Eisenhower is reacting to. And ultimately, that's what Epictetus is reacting to in the same court as Seneca. He looks around and he goes, I'm a slave, but I'm freer than these people because I'm in

• 5:11Ryan Holiday?

  control of my habits. I decide what I do and what I don't do. And we have to give ourselves that power.

• 5:22Ryan Holiday?

  The best piece of advice that Lou Gehrig ever got came when he was a young minor league player. He was struggling, was in the middle of a slump. He was losing his confidence. He was losing his passion in the game. The Yankees dispatched an old seasoned manager, a coach, up to see him in Connecticut. And they said, look, the most important thing a baseball player can understand, Lou, is that you can't be good every day, right? What matters is that you show up. What matters is that you try your best, but you're not always going to be at your best. And when you think about his streak, there's obviously a lot of terrible games in there, a lot of games where he was physically present, but the level of performance wasn't there. You learn this as a writer. What matters is you show up. If you're sitting around waiting for inspiration, if you're expecting every day to be productive and perfect, you're going to be terribly disappointed. That's why there's this writing rule, just a couple crappy pages a day. It's that there's a minimum and that there's a day that you do it every day, that you

• 6:07Ryan Holiday?

  meet this minimum. You're not expecting the maximum of yourself. You're expecting the very least, that you meet the minimum. Now, sometimes you totally exceed the maximum. Sometimes you really are feeling it. Sometimes it's amazing. But what matters is that you show up. What matters is you do it. What matters is you keep the commitment.

• 6:29Ryan Holiday?

  I'm not saying it'll solve all your problems, just most of them. I'm not saying it's the most philosophical thing you can do today. I'm just saying it's something that all the philosophers try to do every day. Look, what I am saying is that you should go for a walk. It'll make everything better. It always does. It relaxes you, it calms you down, it gets you outside, it gets you moving. It both slows the mind down and gets it moving. Seneca, the Stoic philosopher, said that we should take wandering walks. He said so the mind might be nourished and refreshed by the open air and deep breathing.

• 7:09Ryan Holiday?

  Nietzsche actually said that only ideas had by walking have any worth. So why aren't you doing it? Why are you sitting there? Why are you watching this on the couch or at your desk? You need to get moving. You need to get outside.

• 7:29Ryan Holiday?

  So in my office, I have two pictures of my kids. And in between those pictures, I have this other picture that a sports psychologist once sent me. It depicts Oliver Sacks in his office, the great doctor and writer. Sacks just had in his office, right behind him, a giant sign that said, "No." So it's capturing this great writer, this great thinker, in his element, and a reminder that he needed while he was in there that he has to say no. It's so easy to say yes, but we have to remember that everything we say yes to is a no. It's saying no to someone or something else. And I try to remind myself that when I get random emails, when I get cool invitations, when I find myself getting distracted, or whatever it is, when I'm saying yes to that, because I don't want to be rude, because I don't have enough willpower,

• 8:10Ryan Holiday?

  because I think I can squeeze it in, I'm saying no to the two most important people in my life. So saying no is hard, but it's also essential. And that's why I have that reminder. And it's a very Stoic idea. In Meditations, Marcus really says, "Ask yourself in every instance, is this essential?" He says, "Because most of what we do and say isn't essential. But when we eliminate the inessential," he says, "we get the double benefit of doing the essential things better."

• 8:42Ryan Holiday?

  Bill Belichick, greatest football coach in history, tells his players, "Do your job."

• 8:46Speaker 01

  Look, fellas, it's just about doing our job.

• 8:49Ryan Holiday?

  Marcus Rios asks himself that same question in meditation. He says, "What is my vocation?" And it says, "To be a good person." That's the job. At the end of the day, to be a good person, to do good things, to make a positive difference in the world for yourself and the people around you.

• 9:10Ryan Holiday?

  Around the 4th century B.C., there is an Athenian merchant, and he suffers a shipwreck. He loses everything in this shipwreck. No one would say that that's good. No one would say that that's positive. But Xeno would say that he made a great fortune when he suffered a shipwreck, because it drove him to philosophy. He chose for it to mark a new chapter in his life. He went through the door that life opened for him. He would create Stoicism out of this disaster. It was good because he made it good. He turned it into something. This is what the Stoics mean when they say that the obstacle is the way. They're not saying it's wonderful that you were robbed. They're not saying it's wonderful that your spouse cheated on you. It's not wonderful that there was a hurricane, or a fire, or a natural disaster.

• 9:55Ryan Holiday?

  None of this is good in that sense, but it can be good if you choose to make good out of it. That's what Stoicism is. We don't control what happens. We control how we respond to what happens. We have the ability to make this thing good with the response that we take, with the action that we take.

• 10:17Ryan Holiday?

  "Concentrate like a Roman," Marcus Rios says. "Concentrate on doing the thing in front of you as if it was the last thing you were doing in your life." I think about that pretty often. It's not that you're gonna die tomorrow for sure, but that it could be the last time you send this email. It could be the last time you have this conversation. It could be the last time that I sit down to write, or that I sit down to make a video. So am I gonna be fully present? Am I gonna concentrate? Am I gonna do my job? Am I gonna meet the standards of my people, of my profession, of my family? Whatever it is, am I gonna concentrate like a Roman? Am I gonna do it like this thing matters? Like I might not get another opportunity to do it. To me, that's the test. That's the standard to try to meet every day that you are lucky enough to be alive.

• 11:02Ryan Holiday?

  It's not that life is short, Seneca says, it's that we make it short. By acting as if we have forever, by putting things off until tomorrow, by doing things that we shouldn't do. He says, "It's insane. We protect our money, we protect our property, and then we are foolish with the one thing that can't be replaced, the one thing they're not making any more of." He says, "Don't spend your time on anything that's not giving you a return." And of course, he doesn't mean that financially. He means, "How are you going to spend this limited amount of time that you have here on earth? How are you going to protect that valuable resource? How are you going to make good choices, courageous choices, disciplined choices? Memento mori."

• 11:46Ryan Holiday?

  "Death isn't this thing that's at the end," Seneca says. "It's happening now. The time that passes belongs to death, so how will you spend your life?"