Reinventing Yourself: Turning Life’s Transitions into Moments of Renewal | Silfath Pinto

Unlock the power of embodiment with Silfath Pinto, a trailblazer who left the corporate world to guide others in reclaiming their feminine energy and sacred union with the masculine. In this captivating conversation, Silfath shares her transformative journey, blending somatic practices, energy healing, and mindset work to help people shed conditioning, heal trauma, and live as their most actualized selves. Discover daily rituals to anchor in wonder, play with possibilities during life transitions, and harmonize the profound feminine and masculine intelligence that exists within us all. You can find Silfath at: Website https://silfathpinto.com/ | Instagram https://www.instagram.com/silfath.sophia/ | Episode Transcript https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/reclaiming-your-embodied-truth-silfath-pinto If you LOVED this episode you’ll also love the conversations we had with Liz Gilbert https://episodes.fm/647826736/episode/NjYyMjkwNzA1NTk0MjAwMDEzNGY5MDAw about waking up to what’s real. Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel https://jonathanfields.substack.com/aboutVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy https://acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  Through embodiment, you come into your wholeness, your truth and your voice, and you remove layers of conditioning and fear and wounds and trauma. And then you start re-stepping into your power. When you are aligned, when you are really anchored, you meet little resistance because you're centered and you are not in conflict yourself.

• 0:23Jonathan Fields?

  So have you ever had one of those experiences that just cracked something wide open inside you? Where you stumble into a new way of being or perceiving the world and suddenly everything looks different? For me, it was melting into this transcendent experience in Kirtan or devotional chanting. I was on the beach in Mexico, this was over two decades ago with a hundred others, and legendary Kirtan leader and musician Krishnadas. It was like I was floating and seeing and feeling everything different after that experience, even though I had no idea what I was even chanting. There was just this deep knowing that I had just reconnected with an essential part of myself and those around me. So maybe you've had a similar experience, an awakening moment, where you realize there

• 1:07Jonathan Fields?

  was a whole dimension of you, of your truth, your vitality, that had been lying dormant, unexpressed. That breakthrough is often just the first glimpse of a deeper inner journey waiting to unfold. And my guest today, Sylphat Pinto, has dedicated over 13 years to helping people reclaim and inhabit that dimension of what she describes as embodied wisdom and power. Through her luminescence process, an integrative approach fusing body, energetics, mindfulness and neuroscience, she guides people in shedding the layers that obscure their brilliance so they can step fully into their authentic power and a bigger, more robust, abundant life.

• 1:48Jonathan Fields?

  And her own personal transformation is pretty powerful, building from an early career in, of all things, finance, moving rapidly up the ladder and then dismantling her career and life after one single experience of awakening, to reimagine a path that aligned with movement and healing arts that had been calling her. And over a decade later, still immersed in deep study. Sufi has led hundreds of transformational journeys worldwide, now from New York to Bali. Her passionate quest to empower both men and women has seen her train extensively in somatic therapy, shamanic wisdom, sound healing, and so many other modalities. Luminaries call her an energy shifter, a soul whisperer, a magic maker.

• 2:31Jonathan Fields?

  In our conversation, she shares her own inner journey of reclamation from the pivotal movement class that sparked her awakening, to navigating the uncertainty of life transitions, to the daily practices that can help us integrate profound openings and sustain and expand them. We explore the quintessential relationship between the feminine and masculine energies, and how reuniting with the wisdom of the body opens the path to wholeness, to intimacy, and living a truly good life. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project.

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• 3:48Jonathan Fields?

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• 5:13Jonathan Fields?

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• 5:51Jonathan Fields?

  five samples for only $10 and you'll get $50 toward any rug of your choice. That's E R N E S T A dot com. Kind of a fun and interesting starting point is just you, the personal journey that you have been on. I mean, looking back, I'm deeply fascinated by personal stories, stories of transformation and liberation. And you started into sort of the world of your professional life in the corporate world, the KPMG, L'Oreal, really in sort of like the finance, the accounting side of things. And then made this powerful transition into a life devoted to healing arts and to serving people in a profoundly different way, which makes me deeply curious.

• 6:36Jonathan Fields?

  What happens in those early days? Like, how does this journey get set in motion for you?

• 6:40Speaker 00

  Hmm, went to business school, majored in finance. Like, a little bit of context, I'm an African younger. My mom sent me to France. It's either I'm a doctor, I'm a banker, I'm a lawyer, or in finance. In that case, like, you know.

• 6:56Jonathan Fields?

  It's like you've got your four options.

• 6:57Speaker 00

  Yeah, yeah, that's it, that's it. So I went for finance because I was good in math, right? I was like, I'm good in math, I go in finance. There was not really a deep thought process around who am I? What do I want to do with my life? What kind of legacy I want to leave in the world? It was more like a logical, that's the next step. Then I, in New York, I'm working in banking and I'm miserable. And I feel like something is wrong because I'm supposed to be happy. I did everything by the book. I have the amazing job, I have the husband, I have the view on Central Park. What's the problem? And then my boss in finance tells us one day, I saw this class ladies on Oprah.

• 7:41Speaker 00

  It was on Oprah, so it must be good, we have to go. It's a sensual dancing class. And I'm like, how did we get into this conversation? First, we had to work and, you know, I was like African lady, Muslim background. So I was like, how, Regina, are you coming up with this idea? I'm not doing it. And then everyone was teasing me like, come on, you're in New York. If you don't try it now, why not you're going to try? And I went to this class and that was the beginning of my awakening. I found myself in a place where I was looking at women and all the stories I have around being a woman, being sensual, being free, like a lot of the constructions I had.

• 8:22Speaker 00

  We're falling down. I was very confused. So I actually didn't sign up for this class right away. I left, I went home. My boss signed up, so she kept talking about it. So four months after I signed up. And that's how I dropped in my body. I reconnected with myself. And one day I was like, I want to quit banking. I want to do something that feels aligned to my soul.

• 8:43Jonathan Fields?

  I'm curious, when you go to that first class,

• 8:46Speaker 00

  Hmm.

• 8:46Jonathan Fields?

  you experience the class and then you walk out and and you know something has happened. But you're also, there's a voice inside of you that sounds like it's saying, but I can't actually do something with this right now.

• 8:58Speaker 00

  Exactly.

• 8:59Jonathan Fields?

  What happens between then and the time that you finally say, I actually can't ignore this, that makes you, you sort of say like, something actually does have to change here.

• 9:08Speaker 00

  When I left the class, I was very intrigued. And it's like, a part of me was saying, yes.

• 9:15Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm.

• 9:16Speaker 00

  A part of me was like, yes, this is it. But then a part of me that was conditioned was like, but this is not right. My gift was that because my boss signed up for the class, every Thursday morning, she would come and she would talk about her experience. She would talk about what they did and how she felt and the music and the excitement and the sisterhood. And every time I'll be looking at her and I'll be like, oh, my God, this sounds amazing. So I think I needed this four months to come to peace with that yes, to shut down the conditioning and the but but but but this is not right. But but this is not really what a woman do, but this sounds so beautiful.

• 9:59Speaker 00

  But is this appropriate? Yeah, but look at the power that she's feeling. So there was, you know, this conversation. After four months, I was like, you know what? I like to negotiate. So I negotiated with myself and I said, okay, I'll just do one session, which is two months, eight class. At least I would say that I've done it. And then I started and of course I couldn't stop.

• 10:19Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, that's such a great insight though, right? Because so often I feel like we look at something that's presented to us and the bigness of it scares us away from it.

• 10:28Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 10:28Jonathan Fields?

  And you sort of chunked it down and said, well, okay, I'm just committing to this little, this little thing, that's it. Like, I'm not doing anything more. And it let your, it like it let your brain say yes. And then it sounds like maybe over that two month experience that everything else started to say yes along with it.

• 10:45Speaker 00

  Oh, my God. Oh, yeah.

• 10:48Speaker 00

  By class three, I was like, this is amazing. I was, I was sitting home. It was like a landing. It was a sense of wonder. It was like meeting, you know, when you meet someone, a friend that you haven't seen for a long time and you knew they're kind of there, but you didn't talk to them. So I knew that there was a part of me that I was not accessing, but I didn't know how to access her, but I always felt like something was missing. And so it's like a piece of me was coming back. And then the sisterhood, because there is big sisterhood wound and we talk a lot about it in the work I do.

• 11:28Speaker 00

  We met women, men have like a better brother code, like in terms of how they hold each other, that sometimes women, we can be a bit competitive and you know, there are many wounds there. And then we are in this space where we are facing our deepest pain, where we rage, where we cry, when we howl. And then the next minute we are swirling on the pole and we're laughing and we are sexy, we are sensual. And we, we are, we were connecting at such a level of beauty and intimacy. It was just like poetry, like for me, I remember sitting in the studio, watching the other women dance and be like, wow, this is poetry.

• 12:09Speaker 00

  So it was just in so many ways, different aspects of me were coming together in this experience.

• 12:16Jonathan Fields?

  That sounds beautiful. So when you experience this, I mean, I could see how you could start to feel that and it's hard to back away from that. It's hard to ignore what you're feeling. But what I'm really curious about is instead of you just saying, oh, I have to keep going back to this class, you know, like this now just needs to be a part of my life. And just sort of folding it into the other things that you're doing, your job and, and everything like this. It sounds like this also is a bit of an inciting incident to shake up everything, to basically say like, okay, I need to read, there's something happening here that's, that's leading me to want to reexamine everything.

• 12:53Speaker 00

  Here's the thing, I didn't realize when I said I'm going to continue. I didn't realize how much it was going to shift me.

• 13:03Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm.

• 13:04Speaker 00

  I didn't realize. I was quite young and it was the beginning of me doing this kind of work. So I was just like, like with a sense of wonder, like, huh, right? I was not really thinking, oh, this, because now I see with my client, they're like, but what if I change radically, like they're trying not forcing that and they're like, I don't know if I wanna go there. I, but me, I was like a little girl in a candy store and be like, wow. And then I was like, oh, the styling is beautiful, but I want more than that. What is it? I wanna go deeper with women. What is it? Because when I quit, quit my ba-, so when I started that, I quit banking, I became a personal stylist. That was the first transition, but maybe one year into the program.

• 13:49Speaker 00

  And then I was a personal stylist, two year into it, two years into it, I was like, hmm, there is more to working with women than the wardrobe. I love it, but there's something deeper. So I was changing progressively and my friend was starting to be like, it's like you're different, you talk different, you walk different, you're more confident. So it was happening. It's only when I did the teacher training that I understood how through embodiment, you come into your wholeness, your truth and your voice, and you remove layers of conditioning and fear and wounds and trauma. And then you start really stepping into your power. But when I signed over, I didn't know that. Alright, so I ended up completely shifting my career.

• 14:30Speaker 00

  I ended up having a divorce. I left New York, went to Dubai, first London, then Dubai. So it created so many ripples of change in my life, but at first I was not aware of it.

• 14:41Jonathan Fields?

  Those are big ripples of change.

• 14:44Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 14:44Jonathan Fields?

  One of my curiosities here is, you know, as you described, the way you grew up, your parents had this ideal of like who you would be, what was an appropriate career path for you, like the four things you described earlier. Then you go and do it. You're like, I checked the boxes. Yes, yes, yes, yes. I'm in New York, I've got the job, I'm doing all the things. Did you feel like to make this transition, that there was, you had to almost renegotiate the expectations and the relationships in your family to sort of like, feel like you could actually move into this season of who you want to be?

• 15:18Speaker 00

  Yeah, I feel like. Because it felt so right and because I felt so aligned, I was very clear. It was more, again, talking about my negotiation was more, how do I present it? How do I make it appealing to my family? And so when I quit my banking job to go to styling, I talked to my mother and she was like, okay. I had like a whole, you know.

• 15:47Jonathan Fields?

  Slide deck.

• 15:48Speaker 00

  Yeah. It was really well organized and I convinced her. When I started, the, the coaching and the healing, the coaching part was fine, but all the aspect of the work that is working with women and sensuality and trauma, like the more intense, cause coaching is like, in our culture, okay, we don't really, but we get it. But I went further than coaching. I went into energy healing, sacred sexuality work, restoring women, trauma. It was a lot. So I just explained to my family, you know, in, my mother, my brothers, I explained and they got it, which was a surprise too, to me. And they really surprised me positively. And my mom, I explained to her in very simple time and she was like, okay.

• 16:31Speaker 00

  You know, so what I realized and what I do a lot with my clients is when you are aligned, when you are really anchored, you meet little resistance because you're centered and you are not in conflict yourself. Often what I've seen with myself and with the people that I coach is that the tension comes from a conflict that they haven't resolved themselves. So people outside just amplify that conflict that they haven't resolved. So the transition was, for me, the most difficult part was, was not my family, actually.

• 17:13Speaker 00

  The most difficult part is who I had to become and all the layers that I had to shed to make this transition and to keep evolving this path that I chose.

• 17:25Jonathan Fields?

  What did you find that you really felt the need to let go of along the way?

• 17:31Speaker 00

  When you have your own business, as much as you you plan and you structure and you project, there is an element of uncertainty that is a little bit more than when you have a corporate job. And for me, it's it's a creative experience. It's like entrepreneurship is a creative experience, basically. You you're being stretched constantly. So my, there was a bit of a tension between my need of stability and the cool to expand, to transform. And as I expand and transform, what I offer expand and transform. That was an adjustment for me because I was coming from a background where I didn't like surprises.

• 18:16Speaker 00

  It's like I have plan A, plan B, plan C, plan D, everything is organized. And I learned to be more creative, to go more with the flow, to surrender more. That was an adjustment for me.

• 18:28Jonathan Fields?

  And the way you're describing it also, and the way you described when you started actually do this work and experience it yourself, coming home to yourself. It's almost like you have to somehow find a way to be okay stepping into the void to create the space to come home to yourself. But also probably learn and develop the skills and the practices to not just completely freak out and melt down when you're out in that space.

• 18:53Speaker 00

  Exactly, exactly. It was, yeah, they, I'm not going to lie, they were moment. And you know, the thing is, I don't always go for the easy strategy.

• 19:01Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm.

• 19:02Speaker 00

  So when I left New York, I was like, listen, you have all these women doing this work in New York. What about Africa? What about Middle East? So I decided to go to London to stay with my brother, to digest my divorce and to think about the next step. A friend of mine is like, why don't you come to Dubai? My first answer is like, the work I do in Dubai, that will get me trouble. No thanks. And he's like, I think you should think about it. I'm like, no. But after a few times, I was like, hmm. So here I am going to Dubai. I do not have a network there. There is barely a Yoka studio there and I'm going to go teach advanced sacred feminine work in Dubai.

• 19:44Speaker 00

  When I did it, it was, it's like when I started the class, I was like, yeah. And then I got there and I realized what I got myself into. I was like, oh, this is going to be groundwork. And whatever I learn in New York, I cannot teach it in Dubai. Way too much. I have to backtrack, go back to basic and shift a little bit the approach. So it was challenging, but it made me grow so much as a practitioner, as a woman, as a teacher, because I really had to expand in the way I hold space, basically. I really had to understand, develop my capacity to understand where people are.

• 20:28Speaker 00

  And how do I translate the activation of the wisdom in a way that they can receive? So it was very intense. Again, when I moved to Dubai, at the beginning, everything flowed. Like I had people sign up right away for my session. First time arriving, like two women sign up for two months program with me. I was like, and then who was I settle here? I was like, no, it's going to be a little bit more harder than you think. And that's where the creative aspect come because you have to kind of look and be like, okay, reassess, redirect, adjust.

• 21:05Jonathan Fields?

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• 23:46Jonathan Fields?

  Part of this also, it sounds like, and I know I've experienced this also, and I imagine a lot of people have, it's like when you discover something new that is so powerful to you, and then you immerse yourself in it, and you just become a learning machine, and you're like a sponge. Like, it's almost like the knowledge is building up pressure in your heart and your head. Yeah, yeah. And you just want to let it out. And you're in a place where the culture allows you to do that. You know, like, it's New York. It's like people are ready, they're at it. Like, so you can just bring it all. And then it's so interesting that you move somewhere else where you don't have that same release valve, and you have to sort of like dial it back. That must have been such an interesting, I mean, challenge for you.

• 24:23Speaker 00

  I'm telling you, you know what I realized? I was having a discussion with someone recently. I'm going to say something. I realized that I went through a little bit of a dark hole, a depression.

• 24:35Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm.

• 24:36Speaker 00

  Because it's like you are going full force, right? And you're like, yeah, you saw all these women and you know what's possible. And then you get somewhere, it's like hold your horses. And it's beautiful. It's beautiful. Like I, I, I have seen women shined and healed. But it's like, there is a frequency of possibility that you have experienced and it's not there yet. So there was a part of me that had to grieve that, that had to grieve what I experienced, what I thought it was going to be. And the reality, and it doesn't mean that the reality was less beautiful. But there was a grieving process because this experience, as you said, was so precious to me.

• 25:18Speaker 00

  And so deeply transformational to me that it was, and that's why it took me some time to realize, in fact, you have to readjust. Because there was a, there for a while, I hold on, I was like, no, this is what I want to teach. And then, then the conversation with myself was like, what are you trying to do? Are you trying to help and have impact? Or are you trying to get stuck in your ways? And, and so I adjusted.

• 25:41Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, I mean, I think it's one of those moments, right, where we love to show up and do what we want to do in the way that we want to do it. And when we've tasted experiences where we can do that, it, it's kind of transcendent.

• 25:53Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 25:54Jonathan Fields?

  And then when we have to sort of like reimagine it, and then this new idea comes in that says, oh, part of this work is actually understanding where people are. And part of my job is actually to meet them where they are and not just tell them to come to where I am.

• 26:10Speaker 00

  Yep.

• 26:10Jonathan Fields?

  That's not easy. And I've been through that multiple times. And especially when you're, when you've left a, like a meaningful, stable career behind. And part of this is like, you're earning a living, doing this thing. So, part of this, I want to be of service. I want to share what I wanted, what I know. And part of it is also is, and I also need to fake, like do this dance of meeting people where they are in part because that's. How I love service to them, but also that's how I sustain myself financially along the way. Like, it's all part of the mix.

• 26:38Speaker 00

  Yeah, it's all part of the mix. And that was a big conversation for me because one of uh my friend last year, I was I was chatting with him and he's like a very successful businessman. And we were talking and he was like, Sifak, you need to to start being a little bit more business savvy. Like, your whole thing about saving the world is good, but girl, you are over forty, like, you need to start really building wealth. And I was like, yeah, you're right. So it's always has been my big of my. I remember when I was a stylist in New York, we had a group of women entrepreneurs, we're meeting once a month. And every month we had a topic. And I think we were six months into the program, like the organization or the the group.

• 27:21Speaker 00

  And we had a session on finance and money and how we price ourselves. And I was pricing myself at seventy five dollars an hour. And I just want all of them, I don't makeover with me. So when it came to my turn, they were like, girl, you're cheap. And I was like, what? They were like, yeah, you kill seventy five dollars an hour, like for the work you do, it's cheap. And I was like, how much should I charge? And they were like, at least one fifty. Took me a year to get to one twenty five. They were like, good job, Mal, go a little bit higher. And then I was like, okay, one seventy five. And so there were two conversations that carried with me for a while and and I have resolved now.

• 28:03Speaker 00

  One aspect of the conversation was, but I want this to be accessible to women. I've never been that person who wants to be like elitist in the sense that I want to work with people who have money. I want what I do to be accessible to regular women. And then there was also a whole conversation and healing around abundance and self-worth. There was two conversations here. And I went, when I went to Dubai, like the conversation started when I was stylist in New York. But then I went to Dubai and went to the next level. It was this constant dance between how do I make my service accessible and still sustain myself?

• 28:43Speaker 00

  Do I value the work that I do and the time that I put and the effort that it took me to be where I am now? It's something that I really worked with over, let's say, at least six, seven years. To come to a place now where I'm like comfortable with what I offer. I figure out a formula where, okay, different price points can receive the medicine. And honoring my time, my expertise, and I'm taking care of myself. At the end of the day, why do we what I love? So it has been a dance, for sure.

• 29:18Jonathan Fields?

  It's so interesting also, right? Because I would imagine a lot of the women that you work with look to you as an example to a certain extent.

• 29:27Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 29:27Jonathan Fields?

  And if part of what you're working with them on is this notion of self-reclamation, which is one of the things that I want to dive into a little bit with you, and like really honoring who you are and the value that you bring

• 29:38Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 29:39Jonathan Fields?

  to relationships, to your life, to everyone. Then part of what the challenge is for you is you also need to show up and model that behavior in your relationships, in your work, and also stand proud in the value that you know you offer. And that is a hard thing to do. But if you don't do it, it's almost like you're saying one thing and then modeling the opposite. And there's this disconnect that I would imagine people would feel.

• 30:03Speaker 00

  Yeah. And you know, what I realized is that I was coming from a place, even when I came to a place where I was like, I get the value. Like very early in my journey, I got the value of the work I do because I see how powerful it is. But there's one point where I was having this conversation with a friend and she said, where did you learn that other people's needs are more important than your needs? Because as I was talking to her, the thought process was, let me be the bigger person. But where it was coming from, I was the elder sister. So I was told all the time, you're the one who knows better. You're the one who is more resourceful.

• 30:48Speaker 00

  Just allow your sister, just give to your sister, just enable her. And that moment was a turning point for me because I was like, first, I'm not putting like really taking care of myself properly. Number one, number two, I am unlevering people in a victimhood mindset. Also, by being like, oh, they cannot help themselves. I have to be the bigger person. Like, who am I? Like, what is that, right? And so it was like this big ah moment where I was like, okay, course correct. Those are my services. Those are the different price points. I still really want what I do to be available.

• 31:28Speaker 00

  Here is my strategy, but certain type of service with the amount of energy, work and the value that people get. It has to be at that pricing. But there was so many, there were so many layers in this conversation. That's why it took me seven years because I'm a little layer and I'll be like, yeah, I've got this. And then another layer will start to sound like, what? And I will go into it. And so really, oh, it was seven years of just dancing with that conversation again and again. What I say to the women I work with, I say to them, listen ladies, I'm not here saying that I have figured out everything. I am a woman on a journey. I am learning. What I have understood and integrated, I share it.

• 32:11Speaker 00

  That's where I am. Like, I don't pretend to be like I have all my stuff together. No, I have figured out certain things. I'm happy to create a space to share these things. That's what I do. Because in all humility, every year, there is something that hit me and I'm like, oh, okay, I thought I understood that. This is another layer I didn't think about.

• 32:33Jonathan Fields?

  It's a level of humility that I think we have to bring to the work. It's so interesting, the way you described it, also this notion of how we sometimes say that we're being the bigger person, but in doing that, we actually make ourselves small. And we don't realize it. We think we're like making ourselves bigger, but we're actually making ourselves and our world smaller.

• 32:53Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 32:54Jonathan Fields?

  It's so interesting. So you spend years as You sort of like you move out of, you know, first it was finance and it was your own business and styling, then really into just a deep mix of healing arts. And you spend years studying so many different things. It starts with that one modality that you described, but then, you know, like body energetics, energy healing, cellular reprogramming, somatics, all these different things. And it's, it seems like over the years, you weave these into your own modality, approach, philosophy that you offer as luminescence. Take me into how this synthesis kind of evolves, how this comes together.

• 33:35Speaker 00

  It's funny because I just had a really long session with a client today. The way I work, I like to say that I am a bridge between somatic and tantric, shamanic and mindset. Somatic and tantric is the intelligence of the body. It's all the layers of the conversation that have to do with emotional body, nervous system, cellular reprogramming, how to change the behaviors, all that. The shamanic is more working at a more subtle level. For me, I would say to simplify, the somatic and the tantric is the physical and the emotional body. And the mental and spiritual body will be like mindset and shamanic. It's really teaching people how to think differently,

• 34:20Speaker 00

  but also helping people understand the different level of subconscious programming, how to access them and how to shift them. So typically when I work with someone, they come to me and they say, usually there's a problem. Like I was struggling with this, finance, love, career, whatever. I do what I call a diagnosis, energetic map, like what's going on? And my approach is actually very simple. I'm like, okay, this is what we have today. What we have today, which is the present, is the result of what happened in the past. So I have a past, present, future approach. Present is here's a behavior that we have today that is not aligned to your highest expression. And this is where it's coming from.

• 35:03Speaker 00

  So we are going in the present to change your thought patterns. Your behavior. But we're also going to address what happened in the past, where this energy started. Through inner child work, shadow work, ancestral healing, sometime past life. So really looking at like where this energy originated. So it's a work present and past is a work of deconstruction in all the bodies. And we use movement, breath, voice activation, shamanic journeys, acupuncture, somatic release, massage, all the different tools. Then, when the energy started shifting, that's what I call releasing the old software.

• 35:46Speaker 00

  Like, we are putting all the pieces of the, like, today was amazing because she was putting all the pieces together. The stories, how they were creating, they creating a reality, where it's coming from. She has the full picture now. Now, in the next couple of days, I'm just going to be doing emotional release, trauma release with her. But also awareness, how do you change differently? How do you change the way you think here? How do you act differently? So, training. That's the first part. Then, the next part, which is, what do you want? What is it that you desire? So, we have shifted the energy, we have come back to a more neutral. I would say an energy more anchored in truth and love.

• 36:29Speaker 00

  But then it's like specifically based on what you want. How do we now start embodying the frequency of the thing you desire now? So let's say we take the example of a woman who's like, she said, I'm ready to meet the man of my dream, I'm ready for love. There is no man out there. Hmm, okay, we start deconstructing the idea. We realize that there is a fear of intimacy and a fear of commitment and not trusting the masculine. What are all the behavior that you have today regarding all these stories? What are the thought patterns? Okay, where is this coming from? Healing the dad wound, ancestral healing, this date you're going to this date, okay. How are you going to act differently now? So we're doing all that, we're starting the energy.

• 37:11Speaker 00

  And then when I feel like she's back to neutral, I'll be like, okay, now, what kind of love do you really want? Describe to me the. Ideal day with your man. Describe to me the frequency of this love. Describe to me how you feel around you. So now we understand, okay, this is the paradigm, the frequency we want to embody more. How do you embody it more? So my work is very pragmatic. Because there is the whole aspect of the work that is energy healing. But the coaching aspect of my work is decisions, actions, behaviors today. How do we shift them to embody where you want to be? So that's a little bit my approach. It's like deconstruction, death, then rebirth.

• 37:56Speaker 00

  And then aligning to our highest expression.

• 37:59Jonathan Fields?

  It's so interesting hearing you describe sort of like how it all comes together. And part of my brain is sitting here saying, I wonder how much of this also is similar, but in a radically different way in domain and client base and type of service to the work you're doing with numbers, because you're thinking about this in a very systematic way. You know, like when you're working with numbers and finance, it's like, let's look at like, what is the outcome that we want? Like, where are we right now? Like, let me look at all of the data here and really deconstruct it and understand the story that it's telling. And how can we use this to then understand where we're at, understand how we got here? And then figure out like, where do we want to go from here to get to that place that we have in our mind?

• 38:41Jonathan Fields?

  So it's funny because you, it feels like you operate in this very deeply energetic and ethereal space. But underneath it, it feels like there is this mathematical intelligence that informs it all.

• 38:52Speaker 00

  There is. I said to the women I work with, there is a method to the madness. You know, I was talking to a client days ago and she was like, you know, the thing with you is like you calm, you laugh, you light. And everyone feel like, oh, I'm sitting with a friend and all of a sudden, bam, you have this realization and then you're crying and you have this. I'm like, yep. I always say my, my time in public accounting at KPMG really served me. Because I have a thing for system, even when I was a personal stylist, I created a system. So I do have a thing for a system. And then there is the part of me that is also very organic, like this plant that just arrived today for one week of work. I understand the system, I have the key element I wanna work with. But I also work with, that's where the feminine aspect coming.

• 39:37Speaker 00

  I leave flow, space for flow. I leave space for listening to where, how yourself, a body wants to guide us. So it's constantly this dance, like when I organize a retreat. I have themes I want to cover, but the first retreat I organized, I was so organized. And then day three, I woke up and I was looking at the group and I was like, this program today is not going to fly. And I'm not feeling it. And so I learned to find the right balance of having my system and my methodology. And then flowing with the energy. So like my, my new retreat that I'm doing in, in Bali. It's all about bringing transformation for beauty, for pleasure, for art.

• 40:22Speaker 00

  And so again, there's going to be a system to it. But there's always going to have some time to just be, to allow the creative years to come, to connect with nature. To connect with each other and see what comes together. So I really try to find the, the balance between masculine and feminine, really. That's what it is.

• 40:43Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, that makes so much sense. It's like you've got to allow that space for serendipity. As you're describing that, it's having a flashback. I was in the early two thousands, I actually owned a yoga studio in New York City. And I taught for seven years also. And you get to a place where you feel like you have a pretty solid command over the basics, the fundamentals, the tools, the postures, the breath, all the different stuff. You feel pretty confident that you can put them together in an intelligent way. And I would show up to teach a class and I would have an intention. And it would have a class in mind and a sequence and a flow. Like I'm ready to go. Like I, I know how to create an, an intelligent, well-formed, you know, like. Experience that's gonna take people like from where they Start and ninety minutes later, they'll feel a different way. And I did that in the early days. I would just kind of like do my thing. I would like, you know, I'd follow my plan.

• 41:27Jonathan Fields?

  And it's probably a couple of years in where I started to just pay more attention to what was happening in the room. And you've got fifty bodies there and they've just had a hard day's work in New York and they're taking ninety minutes out of their day. And there's, there's a sense of responsibility there, right? I'm sure you feel it in your work as well. It's like, I want to honor this person and the time that they're giving me. And I start to realize that when I was paying attention, instead of walking into the room and just doing the thing I had in my mind, but walking into the room saying, I have a plan, but I'm going to really just pay exquisite attention to what I'm seeing. And see if I can feel the vibe and the needs of what, what's unfolding and then just respond to that in the moment.

• 42:07Jonathan Fields?

  And it was mildly terrifying in the beginning because I had to let go, you know, like the, all of a sudden the plan is out the window. But then you start realizing like, that's where the magic happens. That's where you're like, you have those, those sessions and I literally remember walking out of some of those evenings and the students walking out of the room, drenched in sweat, just looking at me saying, I don't know what just happened in there, but can we do it again? And me basically saying to them, I don't either. Because if you ask me what I had taught and what sequences I'd had and what asanas I was offering, I had literally no recall. I couldn't tell you what just happened, but somehow when I allowed myself to let go of the rigidity of the plan,

• 42:49Jonathan Fields?

  trust my training and my knowledge and my experience and drop into the moment and just offer what I was feeling was needed. That's where the magic happens. I feel like so many of us have that impulse, but we're terrified to let go and just go there.

• 43:02Speaker 00

  And yeah, those moments are so beautiful. And the most challenging for me is when I do a retreat because it's a whole week. People are taking a whole week of their time there. It's a considerable investment. And I tell them, okay, here are the themes, but I'm not going to give you like, to tell you exactly this is what's going to happen. Because when you all come together, I might realize that out of the seven themes, three. Are really relevant for this group and just covered us. And there is an element of surrender on my side. There's an element of surrender on the women's side. And when the women and we truly surrender and we enter this dance. That's what you said. It's like something is happening.

• 43:48Speaker 00

  And it's beyond us. It's just an intelligence that takes over. And for me, I think it's one of my favorite thing with the work I do. It's those moment. I feel like there's grace. I remember one of my favorite, favorite moment. I did a nine month priestess initiation. The first one I did. At the end of the program, the ladies were like, Silkat, we have to meet. Like, it was just like at the end of Covid twenty twenty, where they were like, we have to meet. And I was like, okay, so here I am. Two months to prepare retreat. We organized a retreat. And the retreat, there's a lot of flow. It was last minute. The group has been together nine months.

• 44:27Speaker 00

  And in the retreat, each one of them had to teach something, to share their genius, their brilliance, their, the magic with the group. And things happen in such a way that the last session of the retreat was one of the women doing a voice activation on the beach. And even the way that voice activation idea came up was just so random. But then, that voice activation on the beach was a pure moment of grace. Like when we finished, it started raining. We felt all heart open. We were crying. And we all had like the same vision. It was such a moment. And two days ago, it was not meant to happen. It just happened in the most random way.

• 45:10Speaker 00

  Okay, let's do that. The last thing on the beach. And that was that. So for me, it's like, like you said, when we allowed that, that's where there's magic that unfolds beyond what we can imagine.

• 45:22Jonathan Fields?

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• 48:21Jonathan Fields?

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• 48:26Jonathan Fields?

  Part of the work that you do, and I mentioned this phrase earlier, I've heard you say it, this sense of self-reclamation of, but you know, underneath that, what that implies is that we've lost track of who we actually are. Talk to me more about this. Is this something that you actually see as a common experience? And how does it tend to show up in someone's life?

• 48:50Speaker 00

  I think, let me just, I don't like to simplify, but in that case, I will, because it comes down to body and femininity. I think that there are two primordial intelligence that are yin and yang, feminine and masculine. And when those two are in harmony, we live in harmony as a collective, but also individually. And when you create a society where one of this energy is default, we enter dynamics that are very unhealthy because the balance is not supported. And the way it shows up as an individual level is the overpowering connection with the mind and the body being shut down.

• 49:33Speaker 00

  And the way it shows up in our society today is the difficulty we have in relationship to kind of establish beautiful sacred relationship, stress, anxiety, depression.

• 49:48Speaker 00

  Like a lot of the women will come to me. The body is dead. There is no life force anymore in the body. They're like head walking. The life force, energy, the force of creation, aliveness, possibility, creativity turned on. It's shut down, completely disconnected. In that space, how can you be intimate with yourself? How can you be truly intimate with someone else? In that space, of course you are exhausted because the life force is not moving anymore. Of course you're stuck because your capacity to create something new is completely stifled because again, the energy is not moving. So, of course, we have fertility issues more and more.

• 50:29Speaker 00

  And so for me, the reclamation, when I started the work, was about the women, the feminine, and then restoring women. And then I move into union. Because what is, this conversation is really about the feminine without the masculine and the masculine without the feminine. Hmm. We need to be together. We need to be elevated together and then need to create together because we are complementary. And so my conversation went to women, women, women, to the sacred dance of the feminine and the masculine. And how do we restore it within ourselves? So that's the conversation we're just having when I say when I organize a retreat, to find the balance between flow and structure.

• 51:11Speaker 00

  And those two, union, are powerful, necessary, and complementary. So the reclamation, for me, is the reclamation of union. It's the reclamation of understanding those two intelligences, understanding how together they amplify each other.

• 51:31Jonathan Fields?

  I mean, it's interesting the way you describe the two intelligences. I think a lot of people hear those and they gender them. You know, they're like, oh, okay, so like the masculine is about people who identify as male and the feminine is about people who identify as women. I think traditionally, that's just the way it's been handed down. It's the way it's been taught, at least in Western culture. Maybe not so much in Eastern culture or indigenous culture, where I think there's much more fluid understanding. But in Western culture, I think that kind of is the way that we do it and it's sort of like. Like, okay, so if you identify as this gender, the work is to step more into whatever is the energy that like is publicly associated with it.

• 52:07Speaker 00

  No.

• 52:08Jonathan Fields?

  If you identify as the other gender, that's where your work is. And so what you're saying is like, no, no, no, no. This isn't even so much about gender. This is about the fact that there is this sort of like dual energy that exists in all of us. And how you like bring unity to it and navigate it, that is the work.

• 52:24Speaker 00

  We live in a society that is predominantly masculine. So men, in a sense, you know, maybe at a default setting, there would be more in a comfort zone and women are stretching themselves more. But the reality is that there is so much range in between, right? So the question really is, what is the balance that you need to thrive? And what do you do to get to that balance? So when we talk in terms of relationship, there are women who are more on the masculine spectrum and still want to be with a man, but they would like to be a man who is more in his feminine, for instance, right?

• 53:04Speaker 00

  Just like the basic reconstructing of, like some women come to me, they'll be like, oh, so I have to be in my feminine? I'm like, no, you don't have to be. What feels right to you? And if you feel right being in your masculine, are you comfortable with the intelligence of the polarity? Knowing that you will attract a man that will be more in his feminine? It's completely fine. There's nothing wrong with it. But you want to understand all the layers of the conversation and learn how to navigate them. Now, a woman who comes to me and say, I am ready to be with a man who is in his masculine, the duh, and I want to feel ahead and I want to be more in my surrender, receiving and soft all the time. Okay, great, but you're in your masculine all the time. The polarity is not going to work.

• 53:48Speaker 00

  So when we come into, we talk about relationship beyond the gender is what's the polarity? That works for you and how do you cultivate that? When we talk at an individual level, our physical, emotional, mental, spiritual well-being, it's like, what is the balance that you need to function at your most aligned and happy potential?

• 54:14Jonathan Fields?

  It expands the ideas to really be very inclusive.

• 54:17Speaker 00

  Mm hmm.

• 54:17Jonathan Fields?

  If you're in a same-sex relationship, a gender-flued relationship, whatever it may be, it's like these are all at play. So look, focus less on that and focus more on like, what is the energy that we want to bring to it? And that we want to receive from it.

• 54:29Speaker 00

  Exactly.

• 54:29Jonathan Fields?

  And then sort of like build around that. Does that make sense?

• 54:33Speaker 00

  Exactly. When we talk about relationship, that's one of the big conversations, right? It's like, what is the polarity that you desire? What's the polarity that would work for you to be happy as a couple? Okay? And then there is another part of the conversation that is less, that has less to do with polarity, but that our basic relationship skill that many people don't have, like communication, intimacy, shadow work, you know, how we deal with our shadows. So all this is part of the mix. When the polarity is not clear, and then the awareness on shadows is not clear, that's where it becomes really complicated. Because a lot of projections start happening in the couple, and they don't understand, no, we just need to do polarity.

• 55:18Speaker 00

  That's what we need to do. Some people come to me and they have so many issues. And all we need to figure out is, when do you want to be in your masculine? When do you want to be in your feminine? Each one of you. Okay, how do you put together a dance that works for the two of you? And that's it. And so same-sex, fluid, everyone needs to sit with themselves and be like, the same way I would do my shadow work to be like, have a happy relationship, the same way I will work on my communication, the same way I want to understand my polarity.

• 55:47Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, that makes a lot of sense to me. One of the other things I'm curious about your take on is the experience of transitions, life transitions.

• 55:55Speaker 00

  Mm hmm.

• 55:55Jonathan Fields?

  You know, we are all going to go through them. I just learned, I just learned this term actually from, from social psychology called disorienting dilemmas, which is an experience in your life that is, so shatters your beliefs and to a certain extent that your, your identity that you built around those beliefs. Like you just see something, and it can be positive or negative.

• 56:17Speaker 00

  Mm hmm.

• 56:18Jonathan Fields?

  That is so obviously controverts the way that you've created beliefs, seen yourself in the world, that it kind of shatters the model of that. So it's this disorienting dilemma and like the work then becomes, how do I reassemble the pieces in this moment into a new set of beliefs and identity and beingness that feels right for like the season that I'm now stepping into, the person I'm now becoming? And you could call this more broadly, like inciting incidents, change moments, but a lot of these show up in, that moment often shows up in these, these big life transition moments that often involve loss or grief or, you know, health issues that lead to

• 57:00Jonathan Fields?

  an awakening that says like, there's a big change that has to happen here. I would imagine people come to you, sort of like in these moments on a fairly regular basis, like what are some of the early ideas around like how you might help someone process moments like this?

• 57:14Speaker 00

  First, I had a few of those moments. One of them was when I started a dance class.

• 57:19Jonathan Fields?

  Right.

• 57:20Speaker 00

  One of them was when I quit my banking job to be like, I'm going to be a personal stylist, you know, and I'm going through one right now. There are many layers. There is one layer that is, and they don't necessarily go in that order. I'm just going to share them as they come. One is grief is taking the time to grieve. Whatever we are letting go of, there is a moment, there is a time to grieve. So that's one aspect of the equation. But before we get into the grieving, we want to know what are we grieving?

• 57:58Speaker 00

  It's just helping people articulating clearly which chapter I'm closing, which story of me I'm letting, which aspect of me I'm letting go of. So just that element of clarity, let me, okay, there's a lot going on, I still have a big loss, okay. What is it that is finishing? What is it that is starting? What wants to be birthed? What is ready to let go of? Just being able to find that clarity and spread it out clearly already brings a lot of peace to people. That's number one. Number two is, okay, we will have to grieve that story that we're letting go of, that chapter that we are closing. Then there is the space in between that I call.

• 58:44Speaker 00

  And that's where everything is possible. That's where we want to connect with our sense of wonder, our curiosity, our capacity to think beyond what we think it's possible. So open the the field of possibilities, basically. That's the field of pure creativity and potentiality. And for me, in that space, it's a place of play, wonder and discovery. Before we get to that, we need to grief. What people want to do, they want to bypass those two. They don't wanna feel the grief a lot of time. And they want to have a plan right away. Why are you in a rush to have a plan?

• 59:28Speaker 00

  Be curious, explore, discover. Why? Because that period of uncertainty, we don't like it. We want to plan real fast, right? What if we could make this period fun and charge the energy around it? I have a client who comes to me recently, she goes, I have this Kundalini awakening energy still fat. I don't know what to do with it. I go through those wave emotion because when the life force energy is moving through the body, it's moving all these emotions. So she has like waves with dense emotion. Then she has ecstatic emotion, then she's turned on. Like she's like, I think I'm going mad. And then she's, she does I Kashi record reading. So she does like really more like upper chakra work.

• 1:00:11Speaker 00

  And now she's still like, all the lower chakras are being activated. And she's like, okay, she's like, okay, I feel like something is going to finish. Me as a practitioner, only the upper chakra will probably transition because I have all this energy. But I don't know where I'm going. And I'm a bit scared. And I want to compare, like, put them together, separation, no, not together, separate them. Because I feel like they're not complementary. And I said, wait, wait. Before we start thinking about what's going, what's leaving, Nana, let's play. What would it look like? What's possible to make those two energy? What kind of experience you could create as a group, as a one day retreat?

• 1:00:51Speaker 00

  And then we worked into this brainstorming, she was afraid about her husband, like, oh, maybe if I really allow this energy to become alive, I'm going to be so different, it's going to leave me. Wait, what could happen? How could it deepen your intimacy with your partner? So we went into this one hour of like, what is possible? Next week, she comes back, she's like, oh my God, my relationship with my husband has completely shifted. We went deeper into intimacy and now we start and we hurry, we didn't agree before, like, we got along, but we didn't touch. And she was like, all these layers of our relationship are coming up. So there is clarity, there is grieving, there is possibility, play curiosity. Those are the three big element that I would bring if someone is going through this transition.

• 1:01:37Speaker 00

  Another aspect is if there is a lot of trauma that is in process, the change is scary. So do trauma release and grounding in the body so that the person feel more anchored and safer to be in that period of transition and unknown and play with it instead of being scared of it.

• 1:01:57Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, those three, three different sort of phases, they, they land well. And I, I think you're right. I think we tend to skip over the earlier ones because we just wanna, we wanna know what's gonna be on the other side, really just get there, like, let's just lock it, lock that down rather than staying in that place of play and wonder, which again involves uncertainty and the unknown, which we tend to really dislike. That is where, you know, there's no possibility without uncertainty. It's like the two sides of the same coin.

• 1:02:23Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:02:23Jonathan Fields?

  But it's still uncomfortable.

• 1:02:25Speaker 00

  It is uncomfortable and there will be discomfort because we're being stretched. But you know what I do for myself and I, and I, and I do with my, my client? I tell them, think about all the times where you allowed the unknown and the magic that the universe created that you couldn't have. Sometimes I just do meditation on it. Let's just anchor that in your nervous system. Let's make a list of all the moments where you didn't plan and what the universe brought to you was beyond what you could have imagined. Okay, we describe it, then I say, let's do a journey with it. Let's anchor it in your emotional body. And when you do that, because we have a lot of emotion that we don't process consciously and we don't anchor in the body, so it's not fully integrated.

• 1:03:11Speaker 00

  It's like, I remember the woman who did a voice activation on the beach, we were doing a private session a few months after. And I look at her, I said, you know what? You haven't integrated the woman that you were, the woman who created that vortex in the experience that we had. You have touched her, but you haven't integrated her. So we, there are so many things that we have experienced, but we haven't anchored it in the body fully. And so that's why we're still doubting it. So sometime also depend on the clients, because you know, you, you, each person is different, or sometime just going through that process. Really bring a sense of, oh yeah, the universe, okay, universe, show me now what you can do. And they bring more the playfulness and the, oh yeah, I know you can do something better than me, right? I trust that. So sometime that also works.

• 1:03:56Jonathan Fields?

  Do you feel like there are any sort of daily practices, simple daily practices, maybe even one that we might be able to say yes to, that would allow us to more readily be able to anchor those moments of awakening, those flashes of, oh, this is what's possible in our body, or that would make us more receptive to certainly bringing it from the ether, or from our minds, or from that just momentary experience where it was revealed to us and allow us to more easily have it integrate into our bodies?

• 1:04:29Speaker 00

  That's, that's a really good one. You know, as you're talking, I'm thinking about few things. And it will be depending on what the person is dealing with. If the person is dealing with trusting themselves and trusting life, I would be like, make a list of all the times where the universe got your back. All right? And meditate with it every day. If it's a person who is like, I'm afraid of the unknown, I'd be like, make the list of all the times where you went into the unknown and what came up was amazing. And then meditate with it on a daily basis. So depending on what the person is working with and what is the resistance that they're facing, there is an element of, ah, yes, and there's also something else here. Okay.

• 1:05:13Speaker 00

  Part of the practice will be, we have data from the past. Let's use that data. Let's integrate that. It already happened. You did it already. You touched that frequency already. Let's integrate that. And then, when we make the practice worldwide and the nervous starting to be the nervous system start being like, okay. Then we go, hmm, now, how do we do it on a daily basis? What would you do differently if you trusted more? A little practice for you. So for people who are control freak, some of my client, at this point, I'll be that. Don't plan your day for next Saturday. Just wake up and see what happens. And they'll be like, why do you need, I just get a fish night? I was like, okay, the morning. We had negotiation, right?

• 1:05:56Speaker 00

  And so, there is using the data from the past. And then, when the nervous system are slowly being like, okay, okay, then it's like, okay, now what do we do differently now? And again, small, it's like a training, right? Or like you do when you go to the gym, you don't go right with the big, the big, you know, heavy weight. You do it slowly. So that's that. And then another practice that I want to, I would say, cultivate, and not some clients, for instance, they don't know how to play. They don't see the beauty around them anymore. So I give them a practice about play and wonder. I'll be like, what makes you, you know, bring a sense of wonder? Oh, I like sparkle. Have sparkle in your car. Sparkles everywhere.

• 1:06:38Speaker 00

  When you wake up in the morning, it's sprinkles and sparkle in your car before going to work. And you know what? There is no one way, like each person I work with, I kind of feel the energy and I'm like, it's a brainstorming. And then we're like, bring more play. A client will be like, do colorful nail polish, like a fairy. And she'll be like, yeah, but I always do red. I'm like, yeah, that's the point. Like, try something more playful, you know? So it really depends on the person. I think the first part would be, identify what you're working on. Look at the track record. So either you're working on trust, either you're working on, ooh, the unknown can get very juicy. Either you're working on play and wonder, whatever you're working on, whatever the tension is for you.

• 1:07:22Speaker 00

  Then you look at the past and be like, where in the past I experienced the contrary of my fear? Where I experienced that other ways possible? Let me meditate with it more and encourage it. And so I make them go back to the event. Then when it's done, and then we honor, then the next step, we are more, we believe more. Then it's like, what do we do differently now? Meditation is good now, action.

• 1:07:46Jonathan Fields?

  No, that's beautiful. It's a lot to sort of like think about. As you're describing that, I was remembering, I have a friend of mine who was running a couple of different companies at one time. But one of the drawers in her desk was filled with confetti.

• 1:07:58Speaker 00

  Exactly.

• 1:07:59Jonathan Fields?

  She just loved confetti and she's just, she would open it up and just like, put her hand in and like play with it. And like, that was just this momentary release that she always had. She's like, I kind of always want to have a drawer filled with confetti. So I'd never lose touch with this sense of playfulness and joy. Like no matter I'm building a business, doing serious things, there's stress. But she's, you know, she had this thing that where she could just keep touching into it. And this like tangible, physical thing that was just right there.

• 1:08:24Speaker 00

  Exactly. You know, when I was in banking, I remember because I was in auditing. So we had times where like we were working late and we were tired. And those were the day we were arriving in the morning, looking fabulous and dressed up. And everyone would be like, how did you get the energy to do that? I'd be like, that's what makes me happy right now. That's my moment of joy right now. That's my art right now. That's my play. And it would be like, okay, fair enough. But it will be my way to treat myself, to make me happy, to be creative. Because we're working crazy, right? So it's like each one of us, we, we, we develop our little strategies like that.

• 1:09:03Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, no, I love that. It feels like a good place for us to come full circle in our conversation as well. So in this container of Good Life Project, if I offer up the phrase, to live a good life, what comes up?

• 1:09:14Speaker 00

  I would say the body. I say the body. I would say our roadmap to our good life, our truth, our voice, our essence, our legacy. It's all in the body. It's all in the body. The body is the vehicle, the body holds the codes. And for me to be a very actualized human being is to have developed a really good understanding of how to be in your body and to live in harmony in your body. And then a lot of things come into place.

• 1:09:50Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm, thank you.

• 1:09:53Jonathan Fields?

  Hey, before you leave, if you loved this episode, safe bet you'll also love the conversation we had with Liz Gilbert about waking up to what's real. You'll find a link to Liz's episode in the show notes. This episode of Good Life Project was produced by executive producers Lindsay Fox and me, Jonathan Fields, editing help by Alejandro Ramirez, Christopher Carter crafted our theme music, and special thanks to Shelley Dell for her research on this episode. And of course, if you haven't already done so, please go ahead and follow Good Life Project in your favorite listening app. And if you found this conversation interesting or inspiring or valuable, and chances are you did, since you're still listening here, would you do me a personal favor, a seven second favor, and share it? Maybe on social

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