Why You Keep Manifesting the Wrong Things (And How to Fix It)

Dr. James Doty achieved every material goal he set as a 12-year-old kid in poverty—the Rolex, the Porsche, the mansion overlooking the ocean—only to realize he'd built a prison of his own insecurity. Most people stumble through manifestation inefficiently because they're operating from fear, shame, and limiting beliefs that were wired into them before they were ten years old. The real power of manifestation isn't about attracting more stuff—it's about understanding the neuroscience of how your brain networks work together when you shift from sympathetic nervous system activation (fear and survival) to parasympathetic engagement (openness and creativity). When you stop chasing hedonic happiness and start living with purpose that serves others, your brain's executive control network, attention network, and salience network align to create synchronicities that feel like magic. The key is learning to manifest from love instead of fear, from service instead of selfishness, and from compassion for yourself instead of that relentless inner critic telling you you're not enough. Dr. Doty’s books:Into the Magic ShopMind MagicIn this episode you will:Break through the myth that external achievements will heal internal shame and finally feel worthyMaster the difference between hedonic happiness (pleasure-seeking that leaves you empty) and eudaimonic happiness (purpose-driven fulfillment that lasts)Transform your relationship with failure by understanding how childhood baggage controls every decision and relationship you have as an adultDiscover why manifesting from fear and insecurity limits your brain's ability to create what you actually needUncover the neuroscience of why your sympathetic nervous system blocks manifestation and how to shift to parasympathetic engagementFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1868For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Jim CurtisDr. Daniel AmenRhonda Byrne Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring James Doty in the house.

• 0:05James Doty?

  Hey dude.

• 0:06Lewis Howes?

  Good to see you. Thanks for being here.

• 0:08James Doty?

  Yeah, sure.

• 0:08Lewis Howes?

  I am fascinated by this topic of manifestation and I'm even more fascinated when you bring neuroscience, research and studies that back the power of manifestation. Your new book, Mind Magic, The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How It Changes Everything. I'm very excited about because you kind of walk us through these different steps on the process of manifestation. So first I wanted to ask you a question about the difference between the law of attraction and manifestation. Are they the same thing or are they different?

• 0:41James Doty?

  Well, if you look historically at the law of attraction, it goes back to Hermetics, which is this group in the first or second century AD. And there was this belief in the mind and they used the terminology, the law of attraction. And of course, then there's a guy, I think his name was Phineas Quimby, who then promoted this further. And this was in the 18th century or so. And then of course, or 19th century. And then we had, who was it? Thinking Grow Rich?

• 1:11Lewis Howes?

  Napoleon Hill?

• 1:11James Doty?

  Yes, and sort of continued on that path. So it is this narrative that there is this universal power that when you want something, if you whatever, use the right methods, you will get it. And it's of course been embraced by the

• 1:35James Doty?

  group who sort of promotes woo-woo and pseudoscience. And that's not to say there's not a kernel of truth, but it's been surrounded by all sorts of other aspects that I think diminish the actual power of it.

• 1:52Lewis Howes?

  So there is power in the law of attraction.

• 1:56James Doty?

  Well, you could say it's synonymous. The manner in which it is used is synonymous with manifestation. The question is, I think more importantly, all of us are manifesting every day, right? Most of us do it very unofficially.

• 2:12Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 2:13James Doty?

  You know, because everybody sits and says, "I want X, Y, or Z," or "I wish for this to happen." I think there are techniques you can use that can maximize the potential for you manifesting your intentions. So, learning how the brain works and how those techniques work maximize that. So, you go, it's like an athlete, as you well know. You know, if you've never been taught something, you try it for the first time, you sort of stumble through it.

• 2:41Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 2:42James Doty?

  Frankly, most people stumble through life, right? And then, as you practice it, or you learn from people who, you know, have the knowledge, then you perfect it. And then you understand the, if you want to say, the neuroscience underpinnings of it, and how you make these, what we call cognitive brain networks, interact. And then, you've taken it from sort of, "Well, it might happen, I thought about it," to, "There's a high likelihood it will happen."

• 3:14Lewis Howes?

  How, I mean, how, people talk about the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. What is at play when we start to think about things we want to manifest and actually actualizing them in the physical, material world? Is it the conscious mind or the subconscious mind that is driving this manifestation process?

• 3:35James Doty?

  Well, that's an excellent question. So, the key is, how do you get information which sticks into your subconscious? So, just saying, "I want this," it may or may not work, because again, we're also distracted by all sorts of stuff. You know, as an example, we have about 10 million bits of information coming in through our sensory organs every second.

• 3:59Lewis Howes?

  10 million?

• 4:00James Doty?

  Million, yes. And we're only able to process on a conscious level 50 to 100. Okay, so now, most of that goes to maintaining homeostasis or functioning of our body systems on an unconscious level. But we have actually access to our subconscious level, and you can learn that through different techniques, and then utilize those to maximize the input. And so, when I say you have fifty to a hundred bits, you can use part of that to consciously embed your intention, if you know how to do that.

• 4:34Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. Wow. Okay. And as a, you know, as a brain surgeon and a neuroscientist yourself, what did you learn through working on physical brains, the matter, as well as neuroscience in terms of, I guess, creating this for your life, a more harmonious, abundant life? Studying both, the brain and the mind?

• 4:57James Doty?

  Well, in some ways, I mean, being a neurosurgeon's a physical task, and it's not as if there are little signs on the brain that tell you where everything is. Now, certainly, we know from anatomy, generally, where things are. But you have to remember, I mean, there's a subset of people who, you know, we talk about our speech center being on the left side, but there's a subset of people that's on the right side.

• 5:25Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 5:25James Doty?

  Yes.

• 5:26Lewis Howes?

  How do you know that?

• 5:27James Doty?

  You don't, unless there's something that interferes with it, or you specifically test for it. So, in general, the anatomy is pretty consistent. But, you know, it's like looking at somebody, you know, you're tall, there's a short person, and that's the way the brain works. Not everyone is wired the same way or has everything in the exact spot. And in fact, as an example, let's say you play the violin. The homunculus, which is both the sensory and motor area, that has different representations of body parts. If you're a violinist, the area associated with your hand or hands get dramatically increased in size

• 6:11James Doty?

  compared to other parts of your brain.

• 6:14Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 6:15James Doty?

  And in fact, the same is true with certain types of meditation practices, right? So, you can have a profound effect on your brain.

• 6:25James Doty?

  Physical brain and certainly you have power over your mind. And in some ways, that's what we're talking about is, and this goes back, you mentioned the law of attraction. You know, all is in the mind. And I think, in fact, some of the things you talk about, you understand that when you are disciplined and can get access, you can make things happen.

• 6:50Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 6:51James Doty?

  And whether it's a physical challenge or a mental challenge, but you have to understand how to get access.

• 6:57Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, so how do we get access?

• 6:59James Doty?

  I'm not going to tell you until you buy the book.

• 7:01Lewis Howes?

  Exactly. Well, one of the things you talk about in the book is this phenomenon of vibration. And, you know, it's interesting because there's brainwaves, but there's also heart energy or vibration as well. And I think you mentioned about how the heart vibration is actually, I don't know, 10 or 50 times more powerful than the brainwaves. I think, correct?

• 7:24James Doty?

  Yeah, actually, you can measure the vibrational energy from the heart at five or six feet away. And, you know, this is where it gets confusing between the woo woo and the reality. Because a lot of people will wrap all sorts of other baggage onto that. But it's true. And the interesting thing about that, though, is, and I'm sure you appreciated it. You can meet people who have an energy about them and a presence about them. And it makes you feel good.

• 7:54Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 7:55James Doty?

  And typically, these are people who are nonjudgmental, accepting, open. And respect who you are as a person. They don't look down at you. And you want to be around those people. And those people emit this very positive energy.

• 8:11Lewis Howes?

  That's interesting, yeah.

• 8:13James Doty?

  And so it's interesting also because, as an example, if you have a group of women who live together, over a period of months, their menstrual cycles will match.

• 8:24Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 8:25James Doty?

  Yes.

• 8:25Lewis Howes?

  Why is that?

• 8:26James Doty?

  Well, it's the nature of this vibrational energy. And I talk about it in the book. And in fact, if you took a metronome, like had five or six metronomes lined up. And watch them and they're on the same table vibrating. Uh, they will all get in sync over a period of time. And so this idea of vibration has actually an influence on things.

• 8:47Lewis Howes?

  On other things.

• 8:48James Doty?

  On, yeah.

• 8:49Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh. So if I'm acting chaotic and I'm constantly in the state of chaos from around someone else, I may influence them to create that type of vibration as well, or vice versa. They might influence me if they're calmer for me to get calm.

• 9:03James Doty?

  Yes, yes, absolutely. And in fact.

• 9:06Lewis Howes?

  Which one wins?

• 9:08James Doty?

  Uh, that's a good question. I mean, it, uh, it depends on how powerful that energy is. And that energy can be very powerful, negative or, or positive.

• 9:16Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 9:17James Doty?

  And, and of course, I think you would agree, most people try to avoid being around negative people.

• 9:22Lewis Howes?

  Of course.

• 9:22James Doty?

  You know, uh, there's a saying that, what do they call them? Energy eaters, I think.

• 9:26Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 9:27James Doty?

  You're around them, it's like, uh, in fact, I got called by, uh, a woman the other day. And I just dread getting a call from her ever because it always turns into a drama about her. And you sit there and it's just over and over again. And it's sad because, um, and we can talk about this more. All of us carry baggage from our childhoods, right?

• 9:50Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 9:51James Doty?

  And until you are aware that the baggage you carry has an influence on every decision you make, every relationship you have, uh, you can't change. As an example, I'm sure you've seen situations, uh, where individuals repeatedly pick an abusive partner.

• 10:11Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 10:12James Doty?

  Over and over again, and I think, I don't understand why this happens to me. Because you have created that energy that allows that to happen. And I'm not blaming, I'm just saying that, uh, this is truth. So if you never understood, as an example, that while when I was a kid, I had an abusive father. And, uh, you know, he would be mean to me or hurt me. The problem is, you know, that becomes familiar to you. And even though it's painful and hurts you, it is something that's associated with a love figure.

• 10:44Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 10:45James Doty?

  And, and it's, it's really very, uh, sad, actually.

• 10:48Lewis Howes?

  I mean, how, I mean, a lot of our programming and conditioning sounds like it is wired in us at a very young age. And we have been conditioned by seven, eight, nine, 10 to have a set of beliefs. Way of thinking and a way of feeling around our environments and relationships. And then we live with it for ten, twenty, thirty years until we start to become aware of it. Hopefully sooner, but we kind of repeat these patterns until there's a breakdown or there's a sadness or a breakup or something that gets us to wake up. How hard is it to change our belief systems that have been wired in us for decades?

• 11:29James Doty?

  Well, it's very hard. I mean, you see it every day. You see people who become addicted to alcohol and drugs. And, you know, it's not because they want to live that life. It's because they're in such pain from the baggage they carry and they have no way out.

• 11:44Lewis Howes?

  That's the coping mechanism.

• 11:45James Doty?

  Yes.

• 11:45Lewis Howes?

  The relief.

• 11:46James Doty?

  Yes, and so it's very sad. And as you pointed out, until there is a profound painful event that gets their attention, many of them won't change.

• 11:59Lewis Howes?

  Is it possible for people to change if they don't go through some type of painful, dramatic event?

• 12:05James Doty?

  Well, you know, there's a saying, "The teacher comes when the student's ready." If the student's not ready, it's hard to change. Now, don't get me wrong, you know, there's certainly instances where somebody like wakes up one day and they go, "I don't like this. I feel horrible. You know, I've just ruined this relationship. I need to have an internal assessment of myself and talk to some people and to give me insight." Yes, you can do that, but it's hard. And even for me, as an example, as a child, I learned a sort of a manifestation technique from a woman in a magic shop. And this is actually about my first book, which is called Into the Magic Shop:

• 12:48James Doty?

  A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart. And that story is about my own childhood, growing up in poverty with an alcoholic father and a mother who had had a stroke when I was a child, was partially paralyzed, had a seizure disorder and chronically depressed and attempted suicide multiple times. And we were on public assistance. Well, you know, you can imagine overcoming that baggage.

• 13:17James Doty?

  is very, very hard. And, uh, uh, but this is also an example of how one person can intervene and change somebody's life. And so what happened was I had an interest in magic and, uh, and thus, actually, the name of this book is My Magic. Uh, and it ended up, when my parents would, some event would happen, which was traumatic, I would get on my bicycle and ride as far and as fast away as I could. And, uh, I ended up at a strip mall and there was a magic shop there. And I walked in and there was a woman there who was, as I described, this radiant person with this incredible smile, whose very presence embraced her. And I was 12. Wow. And I was filled with despair, hopelessness.

• 14:02James Doty?

  And, uh, it turned out she was the owner's mother. She knew nothing about magic. Really? Yes. But we began a conversation and, uh, and she was giving me chocolate chip cookies. Which was great. Exactly what you needed at that time. But the thing is, she asked me actually some personal questions, which frankly, you know, who wants to tell somebody you're poor, your father's an alcoholic? But I answered her questions and after a while, she said to me, she said, you know, I really like you. I think I can teach you something that could really help you. And what she taught me was what we would now call a mindfulness practice.

• 14:43James Doty?

  Because as you know, uh, talking about baggage, when you grow up in a unpredictable, chaotic environment, you're essentially in a war zone every day. Yes. As a result, it chronically stimulates your sympathetic nervous system or your flight, fight, or fear response. And what happens is that affects your brain in the sense that it cuts down options because you're looking at the shortest distance you have to go to survive. As a result, you can never relax. You're always fidgety, you're always looking around because you never know what's going to happen next. So she taught me a technique, what we'd call a body survey now, how to relax your body.

• 15:23James Doty?

  And then she taught me how to concentrate, in this case, by looking at a candle and doing a breathing exercise. And these are the fundamental techniques associated with the mindfulness practice. Because then it shifts you from engagement of your sympathetic nervous system. To engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system, which is really where we should live. You're open, you're thoughtful, you have access to your executive control areas in the brain in terms of memory and experience, and you're much more creative. And so, when you're able to make that shift, that changes how you look at the world. The other problem is from these types of backgrounds, but I would say essentially everyone, we have a negative dialogue going on in our head. An inner critic.

• 16:07James Doty?

  Yes, and as much as, you know, people say, you know, I always ask this question when I give a talk, and you know, almost everybody raises their hand and then this, I'm done, and you go, "Look dude, you're lying, man." Everybody has an inner critic, it's just some are much more powerful than others. And so she also taught me to recognize that that wasn't truth. The inner critic. Yes, because if you, and being an athlete, I'm sure you know, if you tell yourself it's not possible, by definition, it is not possible, it cannot happen. And so, when people listen to that, they're giving their self-agency away. And in some ways, this is the nature of how we take control of our manifestation.

• 16:51James Doty?

  And as you know from the first sentence in the book, it says, "The universe doesn't give a [bleep] about you," because it has no [bleep] to give. There is not some external entity deciding your fate because you're a good or a bad guy. But we have immense power within us to control our destiny. And when you give it away and listen to that critic, then you're limiting your beliefs. So the key is how do you unlimit your beliefs, if you will? And that is understanding the incredible power you have within yourself. When you sit there and say every day, "I'm not worthy, I don't deserve love, it's not

• 17:32James Doty?

  possible, I'm an imposter, I can't do it," it's as if you're building a prison for yourself with bricks. Wow. And the wall gets higher, and it gets darker, and you feel more and more powerless, and you feel like there's some external force controlling your life. When you understand within you is an incredible power to change your destiny. And you have that power, and finally you recognize it, then extraordinary things can happen. And this is how you go from you being in charge, or let's say a belief that others are in charge, to actually you being in charge.

• 18:08Lewis Howes?

  But how did, I mean, how did you learn to break free of the limiting beliefs that you had? The fight or flight symptoms that you were constantly in, which I felt as a kid as well, involved very insecure, stupid, and unlovable for many different reasons. And I was able to back it with beliefs and evidence throughout my childhood. How did you learn to break the limiting beliefs? And create more empowering beliefs to support you to feel emotionally free? And start to attract more of what you wanted in your life?

• 18:41James Doty?

  Well, first of all, I don't want to imply that that journey's done.

• 18:47James Doty?

  You know, sometimes people look at you and they go, "Man, you have it all together now." None of us have it all together, right? Every one of us is still a frail, fragile human being who is struggling. And some of us are a little further on that journey, others are, continue to have difficulty. But interacting with this woman made me see the world through a different lens. Because when you have negative statements that you tell yourself repeatedly, as I said, that takes away your agency.

• 19:20Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 19:21James Doty?

  Your own power.

• 19:22Lewis Howes?

  You feel powerless.

• 19:23James Doty?

  Yes, and, but the thing is, then, when you're beating up yourself, and you're typically the most critical person of yourself than anyone you know, then you look through the lens of being critical to everyone else.

• 19:36Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. So when we are critical of ourselves, does that support us in creating great relationships with others?

• 19:43James Doty?

  No, oftentimes it's very damaging, because you're always thinking of, "Oh, well, they're gonna cheat on me, they're going to lie," because you're telling yourself these types of narratives. And so it's hard to be authentic.

• 19:56Lewis Howes?

  When you're critical of self.

• 19:57James Doty?

  Yes, yes, and, and this goes back to a whole nother discussion, if you will, about... If you look at the blue zones as an example, obviously, we're jumping around all over the place here. Sure, sure, sure. Loma Linda's right down the street and an hour away, one of the blue zones. Yes, of course. But if you look at the blue zones, or you look at the work of the Harvard Longevity or Adult Development Study, it's called. But this is the work of Robert Waldinger. Centuries ago, when we lived in villages,

• 20:29James Doty?

  we were born there.

• 20:32James Doty?

  We had a community that even with our flaws, still loved us and watched out for us and taught us lessons. We had our parents, our siblings, our grandparents in proximity to us. And the very nature of that, actually,

• 20:49James Doty?

  you don't have that negative dialogue going on, okay? It is the negative dialogue that's extraordinarily unhealthy. Because you see, when you're always stressed and anxious and negative towards yourself, well, what does this do? This stimulates your sympathetic nervous system, which then does what? It results in the production of inflammatory proteins, which of course are associated with chronic disease states. It depresses your immune system. It increases the levels of stress hormones like cortisol, which on a chronic basis are very bad for you. Your cardiac function's impaired, your blood pressure's increased. So all these negative aspects are activated when you're constantly hypercritical. Wow.

• 21:34James Doty?

  Right? And then you don't feel that good. Right. You felt tired, you feel exhausted, drained. And the other aspect is, as an example with my own parents, I used to have a sense that it wasn't that I wasn't loved, but I was ignored.

• 21:49James Doty?

  I couldn't understand why they would do these actions. And I was angry all the time. And when I changed how I looked at the world, it made me much more sympathetic and kind because I realized everyone is suffering on some level. And the issue wasn't that they didn't care. The issue was they had not had tools to help themselves. To heal, to process, to regulate. Exactly, and so, you know, I'm sure you've known people. You watch them go through their lives and they constantly struggle because no one has ever shown them a different way. And that's the only way. And sometimes, I think you're probably thinking, yes, I've showed them a thousand times and they don't listen. They're not willing, yeah.

• 22:33James Doty?

  They've gotta be willing to apply, right? Back to the question of the teacher. If they're, if they're ready to, yeah. Yes, yes, yes. But the reason I was saying that, though, is that in many ways sets the stage for how you're gonna respond. So this interaction with this woman, I was able to self-regulate. She taught you skills. Yes, she taught me a mindfulness practice. And you were ready for it. Exactly, and so I realized, once I was able to relax, once I was able to be present and attend. Because you can't learn anything or change if your mind's always somewhere, right? In my example of growing up, you know, I never knew what was gonna happen. So I'm always worried about something happening to me. But the action is here between you and I. It's not about possibilities.

• 23:16James Doty?

  And this also limits people's power, right? Because if you can't focus and attend, you can't accomplish, right? And if you're always distracted, it's, it's not possible. So she taught me to relax, she taught me to be present. And, and then strange things happen because you're feeling a different type of energy coming from others and yourself. And that energy has an influence. As an example, I'm sure that you've seen the situation and where you get a bad vibe from somebody on the street and you cross the street. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, and, and you are picking up something on an intuitive level.

• 24:01James Doty?

  But the thing is, if you have anger and hostility yourself, you are imitating that to other people. And what I tell people is when I changed how I looked at myself, it changed how I looked at the world. And it, that changed how the world reacted to me. How the, how the world looked at you as well. Exactly, so after this period of time with this woman. I was much more open, I was thoughtful, I was generous, I was kind. And I, because I understood I had been in pain and was in pain, but so were other people. So it changed how I looked at them.

• 24:37Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 24:37James Doty?

  And I think that's a very critical aspect of sort of maturing and sort of

• 24:45Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 24:46James Doty?

  being on a path of self-development.

• 24:49Lewis Howes?

  That's beautiful. What would you say then is the, what is the, the number one thought and number one emotion that blocks us from the ability to manifest greater?

• 25:01James Doty?

  Fear.

• 25:04Lewis Howes?

  What type of fear?

• 25:05James Doty?

  Well, it's insecurity, it's shame. And it's, this results in you limiting your beliefs. And so, in some ways, what we're talking about here actually is a decision between fear and love.

• 25:22Lewis Howes?

  Mm-hmm.

• 25:23James Doty?

  Right? And when you're fearful, this stimulates your sympathetic nervous system with all the negative aspects of it. When you love, you're open, you're generous, you're thoughtful, you're kind, because you've engaged the parasympathetic nervous system. And you have a choice. This is like, if you look at Stoic philosophers, like somebody like Epictetus, who was a slave. He says, "I cannot control my external environment. What I can control is how I react to my environment." Right? So, you meet people, I'm sure, who say, "My life's miserable, my life's horrible." While you meet other people who go, "Well, it's tough right now, but I'm, you know, optimistic it's gonna get better." Or, "I know if I do this, it's gonna get better."

• 26:08James Doty?

  These are completely oppositional attitudes that have a profound, profound effect, depending on what you're believing.

• 26:16Lewis Howes?

  Yes. But how does someone shift their attitude into positive when they're in a suffering state? And they feel like they're a victim to so many different things happening to them?

• 26:26James Doty?

  Sure. Well, I can't sit here and say, "You do this and your life's gonna be perfect." There's some situations, either because of, as an example, structural racism that's built into the system. Or chronic poverty, because throughout the world, and even in America, the ability to overcome poverty

• 26:48James Doty?

  For most, it's highly unlikely that's going to happen. So, yes, you do have power, but it's not necessarily, "I'm gonna change it and everything's gonna be perfect for me." And I'm sure things are not perfect for you, right?

• 27:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 27:04James Doty?

  And no matter how much you try or want, well, externally, things may look fantastic. It's not perfect.

• 27:11Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 27:11James Doty?

  And it's not the way you necessarily want. And I have to say the same thing. But there are people who, yeah, no matter how hard they're gonna work, it's gonna be very challenging. That being said, what we do know is, there's certain practices and rules. And if you are going to get out of something, or if you are going to change things, then the best way to do that, which has the highest likelihood of success, is to go through some of the things that we're talking about here. And one of those is that, as an example, there is a tendency for

• 27:52James Doty?

  us to want to achieve, right? And if you're an athlete, you have a goal you set there. Well, goals are fine, but if you focus only on the goal and have no concern about any of the other things that are going on.

• 28:11Lewis Howes?

  The process.

• 28:12James Doty?

  Yeah, then you reach the goal and there's nothing there.

• 28:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:16James Doty?

  Yet, what we do know, the greatest cause of suffering is what? It's attachment and craving.

• 28:23Lewis Howes?

  Desires.

• 28:24James Doty?

  Yeah, yeah. And the thing is, when that is your absolute focus, and we can't all get these things, you're gonna be highly disappointed, and you've ignored all the people in your life as you focus solely on that. And unfortunately, many people learn that lesson far along after they've destroyed their families, they've been through multiple marriages, their kids don't like them. Right?

• 28:50Lewis Howes?

  Because they've been chasing a result or a goal or a dream, but neglecting everything else.

• 28:54James Doty?

  Yeah, because again, as I was saying even about myself, I thought, well, if I just do this, you know, my shame and insecurity will go away. I'll be loved by everybody and my life will be perfect. Yet at every one of those peaks, all I had was disappointment. And while everyone told me life was great, I did not feel that inside because I had not understood that I was the only one who had the key to the self-created prison. And until you realize that, you're on a very difficult path.

• 29:26Lewis Howes?

  So if we're coming from a place of insecurity, fear, or lack, and we're saying, you know what? I want to manifest. I want to create more for myself. I want to have more money. I want to have more opportunities, accomplishments, success. And that's what I want. I desire these things. And I start to apply some of the practices of manifesting and creating more abundance in my life. But if I create those external results and I haven't shifted the insecurities or the shame, what happens next?

• 30:00James Doty?

  Well, you end up the way I did, which is you have everything and you're incredibly unhappy.

• 30:05Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, so you can still manifest and attract what you want and create what you want and accomplish goals, but it's not going to make you feel different about yourself. It actually makes you feel worse.

• 30:15James Doty?

  Exactly. And this is why I was telling you about the story about the woman, because I was 12. And she taught me a visualization technique or manifestation technique, which is actually the origin of where this book came from. So at 12, she said, I want you to write down 10 things that you want. Well, again, unfortunately, in Western capitalist society, and a 12-year-old, you sit there and think of what people want.

• 30:40Lewis Howes?

  I want money, I want cars, I want girls.

• 30:42James Doty?

  Well, yeah, I wanted a Rolex watch.

• 30:45Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 30:46James Doty?

  Because Fred Abid's father had one and it looked so amazing to me, right? I wanted a silver Porsche Targa. I wanted a mansion overlooking the ocean, et cetera, et cetera.

• 30:57Lewis Howes?

  At 12?

• 30:58James Doty?

  Yes.

• 30:58Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 30:59James Doty?

  And I wanted a million dollars, which nowadays are probably about 100 million. But anyway, and I got absolutely every one of those things. And I was more miserable than I had ever been.

• 31:10Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 31:10James Doty?

  And the interesting thing about that is that, and this is in some ways the point of this book, because... Again, the average person thinks they know what they want. They don't understand what they need. And that's the critical aspect here.

• 31:26Lewis Howes?

  What's the difference between knowing what we want and having what we need?

• 31:31James Doty?

  So, as you know, there's what we call hedonic happiness. So, the list I just gave you relates to pleasure and hedonic happiness. I want, it will make me feel good about myself, I, I, I. That is the worst thing you can do if you want to manifest the best.

• 31:52Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 31:53James Doty?

  Yes.

• 31:53Lewis Howes?

  When you make it about self?

• 31:54James Doty?

  Yes, because in some ways, you're talking about insecurity. The driver of that is insecurity, fear, right?

• 32:01Lewis Howes?

  And not enough.

• 32:02James Doty?

  And not enough. And especially, poor people look through the lens of not enough. And so, when you're acting by a belief and based on fear, that has a negative effect on these cognitive brain networks. Now, it doesn't mean it's not possible. It just means that you're limiting yourself. And so, we talked about this idea of hedonic or selfish happiness. And this is transitory, it's shallow, doesn't last long, right? Oudemonic happiness is a sense of purpose.

• 32:41James Doty?

  And that actually is, in terms of benefiting others, it's not about yourself. And the key to that, though, is that when you look through the lens, and we're talking about looking through the lens of compassion, what happens is that you then change how you see the world and what you need, not what you want.

• 33:05Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 33:06James Doty?

  Right. You see, and that changes everything because you realize, when you're of service, when you're caring for others, you don't necessarily need, having that big house or the Porsche isn't going to make you whole. And so, you probably don't chase that anymore because it's a chimera that you're focused on because you think it's going to help get rid of the shame and the emptiness.

• 33:28Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 33:29James Doty?

  You see, so it's a different mindset. So, when you shift to the parasympathetic nervous system, that activates all of your brain networks. And allows them to sync together, if you will, and then has the highest likelihood of manifesting.

• 33:44Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. So what I'm hearing you say, and correct me if I'm wrong, when we come from a place of lack and wanting more for personal gain by itself, it's not going to bring us the ultimate level of happiness versus when we come from a place of wanting to create more to serve or impact others in some way that is connected to a purpose, a greater purpose, we will have more fulfillment and hopefully manifest exactly what we need.

• 34:15James Doty?

  Exactly. That's exactly right. And that summarizes it. That is the fundamental key here.

• 34:20Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 34:20James Doty?

  And I can tell you, you know, for myself, as I said, I did get everything I wanted and I was miserable. And then I went through this period where I'd been very successful in business and during the dot com period and I had 80 million dollars or so. And then the crash came. I was 3 million dollars in debt. But I had been miserably unhappy anyway.

• 34:47Lewis Howes?

  With 80 million or negative 3 billion?

• 34:49James Doty?

  Well, there was not much difference, actually.

• 34:52Lewis Howes?

  When you had 80 million of, I guess, net worth in the bank or on paper, how did that make you feel? Did you feel any better about your self-worth?

• 35:00James Doty?

  No.

• 35:01Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 35:01James Doty?

  No, not a bit.

• 35:02Lewis Howes?

  Not even for like a moment like, oh, I've got money now. I did this thing. I proved all you wrong and?

• 35:08James Doty?

  Yeah, but I, yes, I proved them all wrong, but it did nothing for me. And that's my point is, you know, I, well, let me back up a little bit. Did I enjoy driving Ferraris? Yes. Did I enjoy Porsches? Yes. Did I enjoy having a villa in Florence? Yes. But that being said, I was missing so much that it limited how good I felt about any of it. Because, you know, having friends who tell you how great you are, unless you believe it, it doesn't mean anything.

• 35:45Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 35:46James Doty?

  And, you know, I didn't believe it. And so when the dot com period came, I lost all this money and I had to sell everything. And so I went through this period of deep reflection. And the part of it was, what had I missed in what this woman was trying to teach me? And obviously, I was 12 and I had no self-awareness.

• 36:07James Doty?

  But the other thing that happened is, even though I was a doctor helping people, my actions though were based on, I want people to see I'm a doctor, right?

• 36:18Lewis Howes?

  Status.

• 36:19James Doty?

  Yes.

• 36:19Lewis Howes?

  Acknowledgement.

• 36:20James Doty?

  Yes.

• 36:20Lewis Howes?

  Look at me.

• 36:20James Doty?

  Yeah, like, yeah, I'm the doctor. I live in this mansion overlooking the ocean. I have all of these cars. I come into the hospital and everyone praises me, right? And that was out of my own insecurity and anxiety and fear. When I went through this period of self-reflection, I really understood that. And then it changed, right? Because it was no longer about me, it was about other people. And as an example, there's, I mentioned Jim Carrey.

• 36:54Lewis Howes?

  I love that part about this, yeah.

• 36:55James Doty?

  Yeah.

• 36:55Lewis Howes?

  I love the story of the $10 million check and the whole thing.

• 36:58James Doty?

  Right. But what he said with his audience was, you know, when he started, it was all about his own ego being involved.

• 37:04Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 37:04James Doty?

  And then he realized, though, he was there for a purpose, to be of service to the people.

• 37:09Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 37:10James Doty?

  And in fact, Jimmy Page with Led Zeppelin, I don't know if you ever heard this story? You know, he used to get really angry because he'd always be asked to play "Stairway to Heaven." And he said, "It used to make me boil over because I had new music. I did all of this, but everyone wanted to listen to "Stairway to Heaven." And he said, "Then I realized, it's not about me." Right?

• 37:35Lewis Howes?

  It's about serving others.

• 37:36James Doty?

  Yes.

• 37:36Lewis Howes?

  And what they want.

• 37:37James Doty?

  Yes. And they had grown up with this. They had an emotional attachment to it because it represented events in their lives that were positive, and they just wanted to experience that. And so, he was being very selfish by looking through that same lens. And again, this is what we get into. So when you change how you look at the world, it changes everything. And again, this is a choice that each of us can make.

• 38:04Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, wow. As a, you know, as someone who's been a doctor and a neuroscientist, neurosurgeon for many years, researching this work for a long time, what is the biggest challenge you face at this season of your life when it comes to manifesting that you still have yet to overcome or are overcoming?

• 38:24James Doty?

  Well, one of the things I learned is not to have attachment.

• 38:29Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 38:29James Doty?

  To what? To anything. And I, and look, it's not perfect, but my point is, and yes, if you'd say, well, what about your child or your wife and something, yes, but that being said, the nature of life is disappointments oftentimes, and we cause our own suffering by having these attachments, right? And so, do I like nice cars? And yeah, I drive a Porsche.

• 39:01Lewis Howes?

  Luxuries and yeah, yeah.

• 39:03James Doty?

  And I've worked very hard. I've given immense amounts to other people. I have no bad feeling about those things, but what I can tell you is if all of it goes away tomorrow, it will have no impact on my mental state.

• 39:17Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 39:18James Doty?

  And that is the key because you see.

• 39:20Lewis Howes?

  That's freedom.

• 39:21James Doty?

  Yes, and that's exactly right, because if you grow up in poverty, what is the thing that binds you or holds you or imprisons you? Money. Okay? So, when I lost everything, and then I had this choice of this stock that I could give away to charity or not, I chose to give it away, which was thirty million dollars, but giving it away liberated me.

• 39:49Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 39:50James Doty?

  I just didn't care anymore.

• 39:51Lewis Howes?

  Why?

• 39:52James Doty?

  It no longer imprisoned me, you see? And that is a level, you know, it takes time and work to get to.

• 39:59Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 40:00James Doty?

  And, you know, many people, my wife said when I gave all that money, she said, I don't, there was an article in Wall Street Journal, she goes, I don't mind him giving money away, I just wish he had given it all away.

• 40:11Lewis Howes?

  Now, I'm curious, you know, is it a bad thing for people to want to have material possessions, a nice car, a nice home, you know, a million dollars in their bank account or nice clothes? Is that a bad thing when they're thinking of manifesting because it's about them?

• 40:32James Doty?

  Well, if that, if everything is about you and your narrative is always about you, I think you're gonna live an unhappy life.

• 40:41Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 40:42James Doty?

  Because you have no purpose or meaning.

• 40:44Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 40:45James Doty?

  Right? I mean, uh, yes, is it cool to walk around in designer clothes and go to parties and hang out with the whatever? Yeah, sure. There's nothing wrong with that. But when every action in your life is a selfish action towards your needs, then it's a hollow existence. As an example, I, I know people, of course, they can't attach to a woman. They have to have the next beautiful woman, right? And they, you know, and their whole thing is be seen with the beautiful woman. It's not about, I care about this person. I really like her. She's really special. It's, you know, does she have the attributes that make me look good?

• 41:24Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 41:26James Doty?

  Or it's, you know, God, I can't go to this event in that car of mine. I need to be in a Ferrari so people look at me, right? And that is a hollow, very selfish existence. Now, I'm sure there are people who are listening going, I'm not that way. Well, you are that way.

• 41:44Lewis Howes?

  Sure. So you're saying you can have it though, but as long as you're also in, have meaning or purpose surrounding your life as well. Otherwise it'll be hollow. If you just want the material home or the bigger, bigger, bigger thing.

• 41:57James Doty?

  Yeah.

• 41:58Lewis Howes?

  But you can still have it.

• 41:59James Doty?

  Of course, absolutely. I have it. I have no complaints and I work hard. And I have no guilt about that whatsoever. But I still do tons of actions that are benefit to a larger uh, goal or mission or to a larger purpose outside of myself.

• 42:17Lewis Howes?

  You talk, you talk about these networks and vibrations. You, you mentioned this, the, the physiology of manifesting. I'm curious, is it more important to be thinking a certain intention or certain ideas or beliefs, feeling a certain emotions or physically in a vibration total body to help you manifest?

• 42:39James Doty?

  Well, certainly if you can bring it all together, I mean, that's the ideal. But, uh, I think one is, again, we've talked about limited beliefs.

• 42:49Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 42:49James Doty?

  You have to, uh, understand what causes you to limit your belief. And in some ways it comes down to self-compassion. When you're kind to yourself, then that changes your own physiology. It shifts you from the fear network.

• 43:06Lewis Howes?

  And critical network into compassion, right?

• 43:09James Doty?

  Yes, exactly. And so I think that's an important aspect. And again, as an example, I talk about these different networks. There's the default mode network. There's the salience network, the attention network, and the executive control network. Now, the reason I mention these is the executive control network actually gets things done, if you want to put it that way. But if you're driven by fear and anxiety and insecurity, then that limits its ability to do so because you don't have full access, because that's where you have productivity and creativity.

• 43:47Lewis Howes?

  Full access to what?

• 43:48James Doty?

  Your entire, your memories and past experiences. This is what the executive control network contains, and it's shut down when you're fearful or anxious. And so that's one aspect. And then, you know, the other aspect, we talk about embedding your intentions. You know, you have to make that thing you want salient.

• 44:11Lewis Howes?

  What does that mean?

• 44:12James Doty?

  It means it has to be something that touches you, that you really feel like it's there with you and you want it. And the reason I bring that up is because salience is, it activates, if you want to call it, a bloodhound within your head, where it looks around for opportunities for you to manifest. I'll give you an example.

• 44:39Lewis Howes?

  Talk about bloodhound or you're talking about something else?

• 44:41James Doty?

  Uh, not, it's search for things, right? It's a scent, right? You know, that's what they do for rescue missions, right?

• 44:50Lewis Howes?

  Yes, yes.

• 44:50James Doty?

  Exactly. So what I mean by that is that if you're able to embed your intention. That activates the salience network, which is the bloodhound. And the analogy is as follows. I'm sure you have been to parties and they're loud. And your name will be mentioned and you'll immediately turn, even though it's not loud.

• 45:11Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you're like, where is this?

• 45:12James Doty?

  Yeah, but that's because your identity is deeply embedded within you.

• 45:17Lewis Howes?

  Interesting, yes.

• 45:18James Doty?

  So when you do this in terms of an intention, and I'll give a recent example. I'm working on a new project and I was at a coffee shop. Again, loud, everybody talking. But I heard somebody specifically talk about the project type of the thing I'm doing. So I got up and introduced myself. We connected and that's how it works because it creates these synchronicities. Because it's always turned on, listening for opportunities, how it can make your intention happen. And another example is as a neurosurgeon, you know, I would see patients. As an example, let's say somebody with hydrocephalus, right? And most people don't know about that.

• 46:01James Doty?

  And they'd go, oh my God, I've never heard of that before. Is that rare? Well, it's not that rare. And obviously, if you've seen a neurosurgeon, it's not rare to us. But, but what will happen is I'll see them in a few months and they'll come in. The most amazing thing happened. I've run into five people with the exact same thing, right?

• 46:17Lewis Howes?

  Right, right, right.

• 46:18James Doty?

  Because they have embedded that.

• 46:20Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 46:21James Doty?

  And so they're attuned to it. And suddenly it's like it's everywhere set up.

• 46:26Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you talk about synchronicities in the book. How important is finding and looking for synchronicities when it comes to manifesting?

• 46:38James Doty?

  Well, I think if you do it correctly, they naturally occur over and over again. And you may think they're shocking and how did that happen? But that's because you have made your intention salient.

• 46:52James Doty?

  It has grasped your tension network and it is solely focused on having that happen. And once that process occurs, then you engage your executive control network to actually then respond to it.

• 47:05Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. So you set your intention for what you want to create or desire. And then your attention starts to focus on that in the world and your environment. And you start to see where the synchronicities line up. And I think you mentioned this thing called the filing clerk, right?

• 47:20James Doty?

  Yes, yes, exactly. And that relates in some ways, first of all, one of the process which we talked about, you know, having the ability on a conscious level to embed your intention. That is to, we call it value tag, right? Which makes it important.

• 47:38Lewis Howes?

  Rather than intention.

• 47:39James Doty?

  Yes, yes. And so, once you value tag that, that becomes important in your subconscious. And then the networks start working together.

• 47:47Lewis Howes?

  To look for it.

• 47:48James Doty?

  Yes. Now, what I will emphasize, and I don't want to, you know, completely poo poo every article that's been written about manifesting. You know, I mentioned the issues I have with the secret or other, these self-serving narratives. But the reality is, we know that what fire, what wires together fires together. And my point about that is, number one, you have to work. This isn't like, oh, I thought of it, therefore it should happen. It's like anything, and we talked about it earlier. You know, there's, everybody's manifesting every day, they just do it very inefficiently, right? So, when you do it efficiently,

• 48:30James Doty?

  all of these things, you know, come together to have it happen. This is why, as an example, what this woman in the magic shop did, and this was before, you know, these ideas sort of were out there. She made me write my list of things I wanted to manifest down. Because again, when you use every sensory organ, then again, you're engaging all of these different things that go into your subconscious. So you write it down, you read it silently, you read it aloud, you look at it, you visualize, and this is what athletes do, they visualize how it's going to play out. They see themselves in that role.

• 49:15James Doty?

  And the more and more you do that, the stronger that wiring gets in your brain. And therefore that increases the chance of it happening.

• 49:26Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. So she taught you this, you wrote it down, and you started doing these processes?

• 49:31James Doty?

  Oh, I would really do this like tens of, maybe hundreds of times a day. Over and over and over again.

• 49:40Lewis Howes?

  But it took you a while until you were able, from 12 until you were able to get, you know, a million dollars in the bank, and the mansion, the Ferrari. It didn't happen in four years, I'm assuming. It probably took 15 or 20 years.

• 49:51James Doty?

  Well, sure, but there was a whole process, right? Because first of all, I had decided to be a doctor in fourth grade.

• 49:57Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 49:57James Doty?

  And this was based on a professions day where a doctor came to our class. And I was so impressed by this person that that second I decided to be a doctor, because he was kind, he was thoughtful, he answered my question. He appeared interested in what I had to say. And so saying, if you're poor and you don't have resources, saying, I'm going to be a doctor is easier said than done.

• 50:22Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 50:23James Doty?

  And in fact, I did have challenges, but I'll tell you a couple of stories though that tells you how the system works, even though you haven't done all the typical things to make it work.

• 50:37Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 50:38James Doty?

  And so I'll tell you how I got into medical school and how I got into college. I was so clueless about college, even though I said I was gonna go to college. I was in a science class and there was a girl sitting next to me and she was filling out her college application. I had no clue about that.

• 50:58Lewis Howes?

  You had to apply or?

• 50:59James Doty?

  Yeah, I was sort of waiting till it was supposed to happen.

• 51:02Lewis Howes?

  Sure, sure.

• 51:03James Doty?

  So, I looked at this girl, I asked her what she was doing, she says, "Well, I'm applying to college." And this is the application, I said, "Really?" And she looks at me, she said, "Yeah." And I said, "Well, where are you applying to?" And she said, "UC Irvine." And she looked at me and she said, "Where are you applied?" I said, "UC Irvine."

• 51:21Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 51:23James Doty?

  And I said, "I haven't cut my application yet." She said, "I have an extra one."

• 51:28Lewis Howes?

  Wow, there you go.

• 51:29James Doty?

  Yeah, and I filled that out and, you know, I got in.

• 51:33Lewis Howes?

  Isn't that interesting, before you go on there, because, you know, you were given the opportunity that you saw that was in front of you. You didn't think beyond other schools, you saw something, you didn't know another process, said, "Yeah, I'm gonna go there as well." And she said, "Here's the application." You filled it out, you got in, and you went there. Right?

• 51:52James Doty?

  Yeah, no, and that's my point is, it was in there, I didn't know how it was gonna play out, but it played out. And it certainly wasn't the typical way.

• 52:01Lewis Howes?

  Process, yeah, yeah, exactly.

• 52:03James Doty?

  So then what happened is, you know, I had a lot of struggles. I had to leave college multiple times, as an example, get my father out of jail, or to deal with my mother who attempted suicide, which are not pleasant things to go through. And so, when I applied to medical school, the average GPA to get into medical school was 3.79 at that time, which, as you know, out of four, that's like an A minus.

• 52:27Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, sure.

• 52:28James Doty?

  My GPA then was 2.53.

• 52:30Lewis Howes?

  You and me both, let's go.

• 52:32James Doty?

  Yeah, and I was not gonna graduate from college.

• 52:35Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 52:36James Doty?

  And so, I went to the pre-med, and of course, as you know, when you have all these quote-unquote friends, and you say, "I wanna be a doctor," and, you know, many of my friends were pre-med, and they were the type of pre-meds who had 3.79.

• 52:49Lewis Howes?

  Sure, sure.

• 52:50James Doty?

  And, you know, it was very hurtful because they say, "You're never gonna be a doctor. That GPA, what a joke, right?" Which, you know, this is your dream, right?

• 53:00Lewis Howes?

  It's painful.

• 53:01James Doty?

  So anyway, I went to, we used to have to, or you used to have to have an interview with the pre-med committee. So you had to go get an appointment. And then they would write a letter of recommendation for you. So I went to the office. I asked the secretary, I said, I want to make an appointment for my pre-med letter. Yes. She looked at me, she said, I'm not going to give you an appointment. I said, well, why? You know, she had pulled out my file. She said, because it's a waste of everyone's time. Oh, man. Now, can you imagine a human being telling you that you're a waste of their time? I mean, how hurtful. Very. But I looked at the woman. And I said, you know, I appreciate what you're saying. But I said, I am not leaving here until you get me that appointment.

• 53:46James Doty?

  Wow. I said, if you want to call security, that's fine, but I am not leaving. So she did. But imagine, so it comes time for my appointment. Now, do you remember these photos we've seen of Putin sitting at one end of a table? He's by himself with it. Yes, yes. So I go into this room, and I'm at one end of this long table, and I'm what, 20 years old, maybe? And then there are these three people at the other end of the table. And the guy in the middle, he has my file. And he looks at me, he says, he takes the file, lifts it, throws it on the table, and he says, say what you have to say so we can get this over with. Really? Oh, yeah. Oh, my goodness. And you sit there, and, you know, how intimidating. And what a jerk, right?

• 54:31James Doty?

  So what happened is, I looked at the guy, and I said, I am not going to let you turn me into a grade point average. I'm a human being. Wow. So I proceeded to lecture them for about 20 minutes. Oh, my goodness. They were all crying at the end. Because once you show your humanity, they can't turn away from you. They can't objectify you if you're right there in front of them and force them to look at you. Wow. And so what happened is, they ended up actually giving me the highest letter of recommendation. Wow. And as I was leaving, that secretary actually was in the room. She said, listen, I want you to take this.

• 55:13James Doty?

  And it was a trifold brochure for a summer enrichment program at Tulane University in New Orleans for socio-economically disadvantaged students and minority students. And she looked at me and she said, you know, I have to tell you something, though. The deadline has passed, but I don't think that will impact you. Wow, right, right, right. So I called the lady and she let me into the program. And I applied to one medical school and got into one medical school. Wow. And I didn't have a degree. Wow. Now, to show you, though, the importance of this is that

• 55:54James Doty?

  after Hurricane Katrina, the dean of the medical school went into depression and resigned. Okay. And so they were looking for a new dean. At Tulane. At Tulane. And they had a guy from Harvard, but he wanted an endowed chair. And I don't know if you're familiar with an endowed chair. So an endowed chair is a private donor, donates a lot of money. And it is a chair named after that person. It's one of the highest honors in academic medicine. Okay. Or in the university. And the, that money is, is made into an endowment. So then the professor then gets to use it for whatever they want. Absolutely. So it's a very prestigious thing. So I actually ended up endowing the dean's chair.

• 56:39James Doty?

  You know, fast forward many years. Sure, sure. Right? Wow. Yeah, which was several million dollars. Interesting. So still at Tulane, the dean of the medical school is the doting professor. Wow. I rebuilt the library after Hurricane Katrina. And so the point of the story is no one has the ability to tell you. What you can and cannot do. And in theory, by every quote criteria, I should never have gotten into medical school. Right? Yet, I'm one of the largest donors to the medical school. And in fact, they're actually building a DODI Center for Compassion and Medicine at Tulak.

• 57:20Lewis Howes?

  That's cool.

• 57:21James Doty?

  Yeah. So when we think that things are impossible, when we think that it can't happen, or I don't have the criteria that is usually, don't ever believe anything anyone tells you. If I believed what so many people told me was not possible for me to do, I would never have accomplished anything. And again, it gets back to this limiting your beliefs. Once you unleash this understanding of the power you have, then you can do almost anything.

• 57:55Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 57:56James Doty?

  You just have to believe.

• 57:58Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely. I love this story because, you know, you mentioned, don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do. I guess the challenge is so many people do believe what others say about them. You know, they do receive the criticism or the limits that others talk about. And a lot of people hold on to those conversations and believe them as truth. And I, the thing is, I feel like there's only one person, like you said, that can agree with the limits or disagree with those limits, and that is ourselves. And at the same time, you know,

• 58:41Lewis Howes?

  everyone can tell you, you have all the skills, all the tools, all the potential, all the ability to do something great. But if you don't believe it, it's not going to matter as much. Even if everyone in the world has said, we believe in you, you're incredible. If we are limiting ourselves from receiving those words, and receiving that understanding and identity, we won't accomplish what we want, or we won't create the lives we want. So how do we overcome ourselves? From the conversations and the critics in our own mind, and also the conversations from others, whether they're positive or negative, how do we overcome it and believe we are capable?

• 59:20James Doty?

  Well, first off, I would say that a lot of people, you'll hear, let's say, a statement I made, and they'll sit there and go, "Okay, I'm gonna do this tomorrow. I'm gonna do everything. Okay, I'm gonna get into shape, and I'm gonna run 10 miles, and then I'm going to study for this." And the problem is, that's the worst thing you can do. And in fact, I'm sure you probably know B.J. Fogg. He wrote this book, Tiny Happens. But he and I were having a conversation recently. You have to start slow, okay? Pick one simple thing to show that you have the power, right? And it could be something as simple as, "I'm gonna get up at 6:00 in the morning and walk around the block." And you just do that. Because what happens is, now you're changing your belief system. You're saying,

• 1:00:04James Doty?

  "I set this goal, and I was able to do it, and I do it every day now." Right. Then it can be a little longer, and etc., etc., etc., until suddenly you're running a marathon, when before, you could barely get up and walk around the block. And I think that's really the key, is start small, congratulate yourself for small wins, and accept that, and then let that sink in, and then just do another thing. And it's a slow process. Nothing happens overnight. And again, if you think, "Well, it's gonna happen, and it's all gonna be perfect tomorrow", that's not how it works. And, you know, obviously, in my own life, you know, this has taken decades.

• 1:00:47James Doty?

  And, you know, I think, hopefully, what this book does, though, it allows you to see the world in a different way, to use the techniques that are outlined there, to not have to go through the pain and suffering Right. that I and others have gone through. And it gives you some insights, some tools. And again, and I'm sure you've experienced, you'll get, like, a book sometimes go, "That is what I was missing here." Yes. "This is what, you know, I need." And what I've tried to do is, both by showing you the science behind it, but also intertwining stories, like I mentioned the one about Jim Carrey. And I've also included, actually, individuals who I have interacted with in my own life,

• 1:01:31James Doty?

  who've had these profound changes, based on having a different perception of who they are and the power they have. Yes.

• 1:01:41Lewis Howes?

  There's a part in the book where you talked about tapping into flow states. I think you even said like the placebo.

• 1:01:49James Doty?

  Yes.

• 1:01:49Lewis Howes?

  And something in hypnosis. So how do we tap into flow states? Placebo effect and hypnosis to start to manifest better?

• 1:01:59James Doty?

  So one of the points of those examples is to show that actually very simply you can get there without anything, right? I mean, hypnosis, you can, and you can do self-hypnosis, of course, but I'm sure most of the listeners are thinking of the guy who comes and he goes like this.

• 1:02:18Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:02:18James Doty?

  Right? But that is how fast, if you train yourself to get access, and I talk about monks, and I talk about Wim Hof, you know, these people access the power they have within, and it takes practice and diligence.

• 1:02:35Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:02:35James Doty?

  But the same processes are similar to hypnosis. And the placebo effect, and the interesting thing about the placebo effect is that you can even know it's a placebo and it will still have the same effect.

• 1:02:49Lewis Howes?

  And it still gets results.

• 1:02:50James Doty?

  Yes, yes. And so, and also, if you think about exercising a particular muscle group, you, your muscles will increase without you doing anything.

• 1:03:02Lewis Howes?

  Wow, that's crazy.

• 1:03:03James Doty?

  You see, but this is the power, because the brain doesn't know the difference between what you're thinking and reality, right? So if you embed it in there, now that's not to say your muscles are going to get as big as a, you know, an Olympic weightlifter, but they do increase in mass. And so getting access to this, access to these things within you that you don't appreciate is very, very powerful. And you talk about the flow state. You know, this is a state of being where everything aligns, right?

• 1:03:30Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:03:30James Doty?

  And that's where we want to be. We're, we're not paying attention to time. We're not paying attention to externalities. We're just doing it. Now, again, you don't want it to turn into, I've ignored everything in my life to get to that goal. But you want to live in a, in a way in which things naturally come and you're living it, and it's a process that's all working together for you to manifest your goals.

• 1:03:54Lewis Howes?

  Wow, that's beautiful. What is the most recent research about the placebo? And how can we use that? Science or data to impact our lives positively.

• 1:04:07James Doty?

  Well, again, it, and the weird thing about it is you don't even have to believe that it will happen.

• 1:04:12Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:04:13James Doty?

  Now, if you, if you believe it's the real thing, it'll probably be more powerful.

• 1:04:20Lewis Howes?

  Even better, yeah, yeah.

• 1:04:21James Doty?

  But, but again, it's embedding this belief into your head and, and that, and you know, there's a six-week program in the book, but it gives you a step-by-step way to do that. And again, it's not one and done. You have to do the work, you know, although I say the universe doesn't give a about you, I also would say God only helps those who help themselves, right? And, and you know, when I make that statement, at the end of the book, basically, my statement is you are the universe, right? You are the power that decides. And again, it's understanding how much power you have within yourself. You know, there's a, we're

• 1:05:05James Doty?

  talking about people getting stuck in things. You know, sometimes you cannot predict what's going to happen to you, but there's this attitude, it's called dispositional optimism. I don't know if you're caught reading that, but it's understanding that things don't work on our timeline and having a constant state of an optimistic view of the world. Again, that aligns you because it keeps you in this constant state of engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system. And again, if you can live in that state and look through the world through that lens, your physiology is going to be at its best.

• 1:05:47James Doty?

  Your longevity is going to be increased. You're going to be much happier in terms of, of purpose and meaning in your life. You know, nothing I, or at least I can't imagine nothing worse than, you know, being a crotchety old man still chasing 20-year-old women, having three or four Ferraris. And actually, it reminds me, I'll tell you a funny story. I was in Aspen giving a talk and one of the benefactors was an 80-year-old fellow, widower.

• 1:06:22Lewis Howes?

  Who survived the Holocaust.

• 1:06:24James Doty?

  Wow. And so he invites everyone up to his house.

• 1:06:29James Doty?

  So, you know, you pull up to this huge mansion that's, you know, twenty, thirty million. Right, in Aspen. In Aspen. Yeah, yeah. You know, one of his multiple. Sure. So, I go in there, and, you know, I've been one of the main speakers. So, he comes up to me and starts talking. And, uh, you know, he looks at my watch and he says, "See this?" He points to his watch, "Million dollars." Sheesh. And I'm like... Who cares? Yeah, yeah, who cares? And he says, "Come here." And I said, "Okay." So, he takes me out to his garage, and again... Tons of cars, and yeah, yeah. And, uh, I'm looking at him, and then he starts saying, "You know, I've, I've never been happy." And, uh, I said, "Okay."

• 1:07:14James Doty?

  And he goes, you know, he tells me about actually his tragic Holocaust experience and how he, you know, married this woman, but he was never in love or passionate, et cetera, et cetera. And he said, "You know, I'm miserable. I'd do anything to be happy." Wow. Okay, and I said, "Okay." And he says, "Can you do anything for me?" And I said, "Yeah, I can." I said, "If you spend ten hours with me, I will give you that gift." So, he says, "Really?" And I say, "Yeah." He says, "Well, how much will it cost?" And I said, "It'll cost a hundred thousand dollars an hour." Okay. He looks at me and says, "Five hundred thousand." An hour or total? No, total. Well, it was, yeah, it was half. It was a half, eh?

• 1:07:58James Doty?

  And I said, "No, it doesn't work that way." Yeah, yeah. It's a million dollars, and I'm guaranteeing you, guaranteeing you. Wow. And, and, uh, so, his, his, uh, daughter is there, and she overhears our talk. And she comes over and she says, "Papa, you know, this is like a neuroscientist. He studies this. You should do this." And, uh...

• 1:08:24James Doty?

  He looks at her and he says, foolish girl, you don't know anything about money. And he says, I, I have to save this money for you. And she looks at him, she goes, I have everything I need. I don't need anything. And she goes, do it. And he goes, no, no, no. You're, you're foolish. And my point is, here was an opportunity for him to learn something, to get what he said he absolutely wanted, yet his own selfish self-interest and drive

• 1:08:51Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:08:51James Doty?

  overpowered anything to actually give him what he wanted.

• 1:08:56Lewis Howes?

  Wow. Interesting.

• 1:08:59James Doty?

  Yeah.

• 1:08:59Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. Well, he had a belief. He had an identity around what he thought he needed to hold on to, which was more money.

• 1:09:05James Doty?

  Yeah, yeah. And, and, but that was what always was making him happy or unhappy his whole life.

• 1:09:11Lewis Howes?

  Exactly. But it gave him a sense of false security, or status, or influence, or power, or something.

• 1:09:18James Doty?

  Well, unfortunately though, uh, you know, there are people like that, but the reality is, all the people around them are laughing at them.

• 1:09:24Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. And then they're, they're making, he, they are making the people around them more miserable, probably.

• 1:09:29James Doty?

  Oh, yeah. Well, because they have to win, right? Million dollars, you know?

• 1:09:34Lewis Howes?

  That's a one up to everyone else.

• 1:09:35James Doty?

  Yeah, be, yeah. And that's a very classic thing. In fact, I'm not being critical of Warren Buffett. But, you know, I mean, you, there's a story that his wife wrote that said, you know, he was never interested in the money. He was interested in winning.

• 1:09:49Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. The game. Yeah, the game of winning. Yeah.

• 1:09:51James Doty?

  Right, right. And, you know, uh, it's not always about winning sometimes. It's about caring for others, uh, understanding people, being of service. You know, imagine somebody who has that degree of wealth, what he could have done to, let's say, uh, fund an orphanage, or, uh, help the people who can't afford food in Aspen.

• 1:10:13Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:10:14James Doty?

  Right. And, and, and it would have been a miniscule.

• 1:10:18Lewis Howes?

  So small compared to what he actually had. Yeah. Wow. This idea of identity, um, you know, we start to build our identity as children, and our teens, and our twenties. How, how do we start to identify what our identity actually is? And how it is empowering us or disempowering us in this pursuit of manifesting?

• 1:10:40James Doty?

  Well, the problem is for many people is that they have bonding and attachment issues that have been imprinted on them.

• 1:10:51Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, ancient, anxious or avoidant attached or yeah.

• 1:10:55James Doty?

  Yeah, and so they don't appreciate, you know, look, when you're growing up and, you know, seven or eight years old, you're not understanding this.

• 1:11:04Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:11:04James Doty?

  But these types of connections, you know, they get deeply embedded and, and you carry it with you. And so one is you have to make the effort to understand. As an example, I'm sure some of the listeners go, oh, well, now I have a little idea because I keep choosing this jerk to be a partner with. Well, why do I do that? And you have to sort of go backwards.

• 1:11:26Lewis Howes?

  And self-reflect and yeah.

• 1:11:27James Doty?

  Yeah, you know, I was giving a talk one time and there was a woman, she raised her hand, we were talking about this exact issue and she started crying. And she said, "My father, when I was a kid, told me I would be nothing."

• 1:11:44Lewis Howes?

  Wow, so sad.

• 1:11:47James Doty?

  Yeah, it's horrible. And, and this is what people need to understand, words matter to children. And so the woman said, you know, I, my whole life I've spent trying to be something.

• 1:12:00Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:12:01James Doty?

  You know, she said, "I became a nurse, I got a PhD." You know, she's a senior executive at a hospital chain, right? She's doing extraordinarily well. And her whole life has been trying to overcome a baggage. And imagine the difference, though, if her father said, you know, "You are amazing."

• 1:12:22James Doty?

  You can do anything you want. I am so proud of you. I envision you doing incredible things. And how the 30 years of her life, or whatever it's been, 40 years, would have been one of love and connection and feeling worthy versus every day waking up, being, repeating, I was told I would be nothing.

• 1:12:45Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:12:45James Doty?

  Yeah.

• 1:12:47Lewis Howes?

  I guess there's a, there's a question within that is if you're given all the love and empowering affirmations and words from your parents, that you can do and be what you want to be. Versus, you don't have what it takes, you're never going to amount to anything, you disappoint me, you need to do better. Which one drives the person to create bigger or better results or impact? You know, because she has lived a life of impact, but it's from a place of lack, right?

• 1:13:20James Doty?

  Sure.

• 1:13:21Lewis Howes?

  Would she be as driven to grow and expand and reach beyond what she felt she was capable of if she had all the love in the world? I guess that's the question.

• 1:13:32James Doty?

  Well, of course, in that case, we can't specifically answer that. But yeah, there's no question that, you know, I used to have a coach when I was a rower crew. Okay. And I used to have a coach who would just scream at me all day.

• 1:13:44Lewis Howes?

  That's the worst.

• 1:13:45James Doty?

  Yeah.

• 1:13:45Lewis Howes?

  It's the worst.

• 1:13:46James Doty?

  Well, and it's exactly what we're, yeah, that's exactly what we're talking. Did that make you strive and work harder? It just made you feel like the guy's a jerk, I hate the guy.

• 1:13:56Lewis Howes?

  I was living in fear too.

• 1:13:57James Doty?

  Yes, yes. And, and versus then I had a different coach. The new coach was an extraordinary human being, one you would model yourself after. He won the gold medal in the double skulls in Melbourne in 52, I think it was. And, you know, he was like, listen, you know, you need to work on this, but I know when you do this, it's, you're going to excel here. You know, you're doing an amazing job. I can just tell you're really into this. I'm so proud of you, right?

• 1:14:28Lewis Howes?

  It's more fun too.

• 1:14:29James Doty?

  Yeah, of course. So can you get a similar result? Yeah, but it's like, you know, somebody putting a backpack to keep stabbing you in the back your whole life, saying, get going, get going. Versus somebody who's hugging you and embracing you and telling you how much they love you. Yes, you can do incredible results from horribly mean people.

• 1:14:51James Doty?

  But that's not a long-term strategy.

• 1:14:53Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and it's not a healthy life.

• 1:14:55James Doty?

  No.

• 1:14:56Lewis Howes?

  You know, there's probably a lot of stress and anxiety and chronic pain that you're carrying with that energy, with that vibration, which you talk about in the book, the vibration. And when we can get into flow state, we're able to really create more abundance and in a harmonious way.

• 1:15:13James Doty?

  Exactly.

• 1:15:14Lewis Howes?

  Not in a hard way of grinding constantly to accomplish and then feel exhausted when we get to the top.

• 1:15:20James Doty?

  Yeah, and so then, you know, instead of having accomplished and going, "That's son of a [bleep] I showed you," you're sitting there, "God, I'm happy to have [bleep] God, it felt so good and I'm just so happy I was able to do this." It's a completely different way and I would hope that people want the other way, where it's one of positivity and encouragement, not somebody driving you. And this is one of the problems in corporate America, right? You have bosses who think that creating fear motivates, and it does on some level, to a point. You know, there's a great story about a fellow, what was his name? Carnes, I can't remember, I think it was Jeffrey Carnes. He was in Australia.

• 1:16:03James Doty?

  But he gives an example, which is quite interesting. He said, "We did a 360 review in our company." I'm sure you're familiar with that, right?

• 1:16:11Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 1:16:12James Doty?

  They checked out everybody. He said, "You know, they came to me to share the results with me." He's telling us why, because he said, "They came to share the results with me. They told me in their entire history of doing this, I was the worst CEO."

• 1:16:26Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:16:27James Doty?

  They had ever met.

• 1:16:28Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:16:31James Doty?

  And he said, "My, you know, they told me my employees fear me and that I was creating an environment that was unhealthy, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." And he says this to his, so he said to his wife and she go, he says to her, "So what do you think of that? Can you believe that? I'm thinking of firing them." And she goes, why would you do that? They're absolutely correct. And he goes, what? And she said, I have been telling you this for 20 years and you have not listened to me.

• 1:16:56Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:16:58James Doty?

  Said, you need to sit back and reflect on this. So he went through a two-year analysis with therapy and actually ended up meeting a Buddhist monk.

• 1:17:12James Doty?

  And got into a meditation practice. So they did a reevaluation a few years later. And now, you know, they had like one of the highest retention rates, one of the highest productivity rates, one of the highest shareholder value from

• 1:17:27James Doty?

  leading to compassion, thoughtfulness, kindness as a motivator versus fear as a motivator.

• 1:17:34Lewis Howes?

  Wow, that's beautiful. One of the things, you know, you give this six-step process. And one of the things in step six, it's about releasing these expectations and being open to magic, being open to the wonders, the mysteries of the world. When things will come to you, maybe it's different than what you originally wanted, all these different things. Why is it important to manifest by not being attached to the results that you desire? And being open to magic at the same time?

• 1:18:06James Doty?

  You know, one of the challenges is that, and it gets back to attachment, because once you are attached to something, you have a vision of how it has to be.

• 1:18:17Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:18:18James Doty?

  And then that creates a potential disappointment. And the nature of manifesting is it doesn't turn out exactly the way you want. Because what you may not appreciate is that there are other factors which are competing here.

• 1:18:36James Doty?

  And sometimes you may not appreciate it, but on an unconscious level, the right decision is being made. On a conscious level, it's not what you thought it was. And therefore you resist it.

• 1:18:51James Doty?

  And that creates unhappiness.

• 1:18:53Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:18:53James Doty?

  The other thing is the same as having a timeline. Like, it has to happen by this day. It doesn't work that way. As an example, I have been planning a World Compassion Festival, which is a huge event, right? For 13 years. Do I, am I disappointed? No.

• 1:19:13Lewis Howes?

  It hasn't happened yet.

• 1:19:14James Doty?

  It hasn't happened yet, but it will happen.

• 1:19:16Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:19:16James Doty?

  And this is also dispositional optimism. I have an absolute belief that that will happen. And in fact, I mentioned a little earlier, I was with Kalash Santi Yarthy, who's a Nobel Peace Laureate, yesterday. And we were talking about this World Compassion Festival just came up. He said, "Well, why don't we join forces and make this happen?"

• 1:19:44Lewis Howes?

  That's cool.

• 1:19:45James Doty?

  Right? So, you know, it's a process, and it has not worked in any way the timeline I had imagined. But I do not, I'm not disappointed or don't believe it's going to happen. Otherwise, I would sit there thinking, "I'm a failure. You know, this should have happened 10 years ago. Why didn't it happen? You know, it's just like everything else I do. I'm a loser," right? Versus saying, "It will happen. It's sitting there. The things have not all come together to allow it to happen. And even if it doesn't happen the exact way I envision it, if it happens, it's an extraordinary thing." And so I think you have to look at it that way. Otherwise, you're creating unhappiness for yourself.

• 1:20:28Lewis Howes?

  Of course.

• 1:20:29James Doty?

  And why do that? And again, life doesn't work that way. It's like, as an example, sitting there saying, "I want to manifest this beautiful woman. She has these attributes, da-da-da." Then this, and you're visualizing her as a blonde. And then this dark-haired woman comes in and says, "Every one of those things go, 'Oh, get out of here. You're not a blonde.'"

• 1:20:47Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah, right? Yeah.

• 1:20:50James Doty?

  So, it doesn't always work the way you want.

• 1:20:53Lewis Howes?

  What would you say is, you know, something that we should think about or do first thing in the morning to set us up for a daily rhythm of manifesting? Is there a mantra? Is there a process? Is there a way of thinking? A way of feeling? A way of acting? Is there something we should believe right when we wake up or in the morning?

• 1:21:16James Doty?

  Well...

• 1:21:19James Doty?

  What I do may not work for everybody. Sure. And everybody has a different biology. They have a different way of seeing the world. Now, I'll tell you what I do to center me in the morning. And, uh, uh, but it sets the stage to manifest. And what I mean by that is, I was talking about having the mental state of being of service to others. Right. So, my practice every morning is I wake up and I say every morning, that's a lie. It is not every morning, it's most mornings. Sure. You know, it's funny, I don't know if you ever saw, you know, Deepak Chopra's son did a movie about him. Uh, Gotham? Yes.

• 1:22:04James Doty?

  Gotham Chopra, I know, yeah, yeah, yeah. And it showed him like, you know, that should be meditated, goes and he's like. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I know Deepak, actually, uh, but anyway, uh, what I do is I sit up in bed and I do a breathing exercise. Because as you know, that will shift you over to engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system, which is the rest and digest mode. It makes you open, it makes you thoughtful, it makes you more creative. And then I, uh, think of the awe and joy in this world. And there's a great book about awe by Dacher Keltner. I don't know if you know Dacher. Yeah.

• 1:22:43James Doty?

  Uh, but, uh, uh, yeah, so, you know, that sets the stage of this seeing the world through this lens of this incredible awe of being in this world and the joy of being able to interact in this world. And then I go through a 10-letter mantra. And this actually, uh, developed when I was asked to, uh, which was an incredible honor to me, by my medical school, to give the white coat ceremony lecture to the incoming medical students. Oh, that's cool. Imagine the guy who should never have gone to medical school. Giving this very prestigious lecture. Wow. But what I wanted to do was I wanted to inspire these students.

• 1:23:26James Doty?

  Through something that was simple and easy to remember, but would center them in their lives going forward, not only as a doctor, but as a human being. So it was ten letters of the alphabet. It was C, compassion for self and others. D, recognizing the dignity of every person. E, practicing equanimity. And this is this idea of evenness of temperament. You know, we were talking about chasing goals and having attachment. You know, it's great to achieve a goal. It's great to have that high that you get when you achieve it. It's wonderful, it's amazing. But it's transitory. Sure. And you can't live at that state all the time.

• 1:24:09James Doty?

  Conversely, having disappointments, having things fail, losing at things, as horrible and as painful as they are, they're also transitory. So having this evenness of temperament and not getting lost on the extremes is very, very important. Plus, the other thing is, if you reflect on it, what teaches you the most? It's not the highs. It's the disappointments, the challenges, the things you've had to overcome. And that makes you who you are. Yes. And creates resilience. And so somehow thinking you're going to avoid those, number one, it's not healthy, but that's where so much teaching comes from. The other, of course, is forgiveness.

• 1:24:53James Doty?

  And we know that when you carry emotions attached to an event or to a person, every time you think of that event or that person, it negatively affects you. Interesting. So when you're able to not carry that baggage and release it, and that's not to forget what somebody did to you or that, it's just to understand that carrying those memories is not healthy for you, then you're released again. And of course, one of the most powerful things, and I think it's really important, is having gratitude. And there's an immense amount of research that demonstrates having a gratitude journal or in the evenings, writing three things that you are thankful for. Because what people forget is

• 1:25:40James Doty?

  In fact, probably everyone listening to this podcast, you don't appreciate that half of the world's population lives on less than $2.50 a day. Crazy, isn't it? It's horrible. And when you look at your life, you are actually blessed. It's funny, as a neurosurgeon, you know, I've had situations where, let's say, somebody will have an accident, become paraplegic. And of course, they say to me, "This is horrible. My life is ruined." I say, "Look, I'm gonna take you in the room next door with the guy who's a ventilator-dependent quadriplegic." Can't move anything. Yes. And is on a breathing tube and nothing. And then they say, "Oh." Right? So... It's about perspective. It's about perspective. And this is the thing, is you have the choice

• 1:26:25James Doty?

  of the perspective you look at the world through. Yes. Let's see, we were at gratitude. H, humility. Now, I will assure you, for a neurosurgeon, humility is one of the...

• 1:26:39James Doty?

  You gotta stay humble when you think you got, you know... Exactly. Well, you know, being a neurosurgeon is still one of the professions in medicine that's still nominally highly respected. But anyway, humility, understanding you're no more important than anyone else. And I is integrity and values that bound your behavior, and if you want to call them rules to live by. J is a recognition of justice, meaning that we have a responsibility for caring for those who are vulnerable.

• 1:27:15James Doty?

  K is simply being kind to others. It has nothing to do with suffering. Compassion has, by definition, a recognition of suffering with a motivational desire to alleviate that. So kindness is simply just being a good person. And of course, what contains all of this? And that's love. Hmm, that's good. So that was my part of my lecture for my, the white coat ceremony. That's beautiful. And that's what I use every day of my own life. Now, I'll tell you an interesting story about that. I gave that lecture, and a month or two later, and I think it was put on YouTube or something, but a month or two later, a woman reached out to me, and she said...

• 1:28:02James Doty?

  I heard that lecture, I read your book, which I talk about it in my first book, Into the Magic Shop, and she said, "I'm the spiritual director of the largest homeless shelter in the United States. I'm a person of faith. My friends had sent me all of the scripture, but I was burned out at my job and I couldn't do it anymore and I resigned." She said, "I read your book, I heard that talk, it gave me the strength to return to work," which I'm like, "Oh, my God, that's beautiful," right? So then, a month later, she sends me another email and she says, "You know, I have to tell you the story. I was telling my best friend about this and she has a daughter named Ginny, and Ginny

• 1:28:40James Doty?

  is 12 and she makes beads. And Ginny made a set of 10 wooden beads that each one represents one of those letters of the alphabet, and she added a golden bead to represent the golden rule. Would you mind if we sold these to support the homeless shelter and we have a peace center there?" And I said, "Absolutely." A few months later, she sends me another. She's like this stalker. She sends me another and she says, "You know, this has been so powerful. I went ahead and I created a YouTube video. Can I post it?" And it shows this little girl making these beads with beautiful music and she's talking about this practice.

• 1:29:23James Doty?

  And she then posted that. And, long story short, her and I became friends. I ended up going down to the homeless shelter and touring it and giving a talk in the church, or a sermon, even though I'm not particularly religious. And then, she has two heroes in this world. One is the Dalai Lama, and the other is Desmond Tutu, and when he was alive. And so, as I think you know, I used to be chairman of the Dalai Lama Foundation. He's the founding benefactor of the center I run at Stanford. I said, "Listen, I'm hosting the Dalai Lama. I want to invite you to come and I want to introduce you to it." Wow. And she's going, "Oh, my God, that's incredible." She says, "But, you know, unfortunately,

• 1:30:07James Doty?

  I make very little money and I can't really afford it." I said, "Well, listen, I'm going to hire you as a consultant."

• 1:30:15James Doty?

  And bring a bunch of beads with you. And I did do that, and we had these beads blessed by His Holiness.

• 1:30:21Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:30:22James Doty?

  And she got to meet her hero. So, fast forward a few years later, I was friends with Tutu. So, I was down in Cape Town at his 80th birthday party. So, during his 85th, they invited me to come down again to his birthday. And I was in Oslo, and I called, I said, "Listen, you need to do me a favor." I said, "I want you to go to Cape Town in my place."

• 1:30:47Lewis Howes?

  Wow, wow.

• 1:30:49James Doty?

  And meet Tutu. And while, on the one hand, obviously it costs something to do that, in the big scope of my world, that was irrelevant.

• 1:31:00Lewis Howes?

  My, right.

• 1:31:01James Doty?

  But for her...

• 1:31:02Lewis Howes?

  It was the world.

• 1:31:03James Doty?

  Exactly.

• 1:31:04Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:31:05James Doty?

  And you see, that epitomizes what every one of us can do. To simply do a simple act.

• 1:31:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:31:15James Doty?

  And it can be saying hello, it can be holding a door open, it can be sitting with somebody, it can be buying a homeless person a meal. And the thing is, the benefit you get from this is so, so powerful.

• 1:31:31Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:31:32James Doty?

  His Holiness says, "If you want to make others happy, be compassionate. If you want to be happy, be compassionate."

• 1:31:42Lewis Howes?

  Wow, if you want to make others happy, be compassionate. If you want to be happy, be compassionate.

• 1:31:46James Doty?

  Yeah, because we know when you are care, when you're compassionate, it has a very positive effect on your physiology, because you get shifted over to engagement of your parasympathetic nervous system. Your cardiac functions improved, your peripheral vascular functions improved, the expression of inflammatory proteins is diminished, your immune system's boosted, your cortisol levels are decreased. And so, there's a whole cascade of events. And plus, when you're kind and compassionate, your reward and pleasure centers are stimulated.

• 1:32:20Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:32:21James Doty?

  You know, who wouldn't want to be that way? And that's what, you know, people forget sometimes.

• 1:32:26Lewis Howes?

  Wow. And most people forget to be compassionate towards themselves the most.

• 1:32:30James Doty?

  Well, and that's the key of what we're talking about.

• 1:32:32Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely. Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How It Changes Everything. This is extremely powerful. I want everyone to get a copy of this book. Get one for a friend as well. I've got a couple of final questions for you, James, before we wrap up. But before I ask them, where can we send people to? Do you have a website we should send people to, or just go on Amazon and get the book?

• 1:32:55James Doty?

  I think there are many places besides Amazon.

• 1:32:59Lewis Howes?

  Sure, sure.

• 1:33:00James Doty?

  You can get books. Certainly, I'm a proponent of supporting independent bookstores, but it is on Amazon. You can also publish or purchase it from Penguin Random House if you use my name and the book title.

• 1:33:12Lewis Howes?

  Cool.

• 1:33:13James Doty?

  But it's pretty much anywhere.

• 1:33:14Lewis Howes?

  Anywhere.

• 1:33:15James Doty?

  Books can be sold.

• 1:33:16Lewis Howes?

  And do you have a website as well where we can stay in touch with you or connect?

• 1:33:18James Doty?

  Yeah, it's jamesrdodymd.com. And all of my work is there. The other book I mentioned briefly was Into the Magic Shop, which was a New York Times bestseller. It's in 36 languages. Also, the center I run at Stanford is there, and certainly people can go there. And we offer courses on self-compassion and compassion.

• 1:33:46Lewis Howes?

  That's beautiful.

• 1:33:47James Doty?

  As well as even corporate programs and programs for first responders, police officers, and things like that.

• 1:33:53Lewis Howes?

  That's very cool.

• 1:33:54James Doty?

  And that's at ccare.stanford.edu.

• 1:33:57Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 1:33:58James Doty?

  And actually, another project that I'm actually very excited about is for the last couple of years, I've been working on Creating a Mental Health Act.

• 1:34:06Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 1:34:07James Doty?

  And because so many people are suffering from stress, anxiety, and lack of self-compassion. And the interesting thing about it is because, especially adolescents, that so many are suffering, that there are not even enough therapists to take care of all of these people.

• 1:34:26James Doty?

  But the reality is, most people are suffering from just living in the modern world. It's not, you know, drug-resistant depression. It's just the stress and anxiety of living in the modern world. Because as we're talking about with the blue zones, we're far different in the modern world. So what it does is it utilizes an emotion assessment engine to analyze facial expression, voice analysis, and context of speech, connected to a conversational AI knowledge base of compassion-focused therapy and psychology, which is then hooked up to a human avatar who talks to you.

• 1:35:02Lewis Howes?

  Wow, that's cool.

• 1:35:04James Doty?

  And what we know is that having a brief conversation, like 10 minutes, when somebody is feeling stressed and anxious, the very nature of a conversation can significantly decrease those feelings.

• 1:35:18Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:35:19James Doty?

  And what's interesting is, so many people are afraid of being judged.

• 1:35:25Lewis Howes?

  They're ashamed, yes.

• 1:35:27James Doty?

  So being able to talk actually to an avatar who is compassionate, empathetic, nonjudgmental, accepting, is very powerful. Now, this isn't to separate you from people. What it is, is to support you so that you can go forward and actually have better connections. And it's available 24/7, unlike your therapist, which, as you know, I should say, I don't know, maybe you don't have a therapist, but most people have therapists.

• 1:35:55Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 1:35:55James Doty?

  But, you know, you call after 5 o'clock and they go, "If this is a life-threatening emergency, please call 911." Well, if you're stressed and anxious, that's really not the thing you want to hear. But anyway, that company is called Hapi, H-A-P-P-I dot A-I. And I'm very excited about that.

• 1:36:12Lewis Howes?

  That's cool. When's that coming out?

• 1:36:15James Doty?

  Actually, people can sign up now for free.

• 1:36:17Lewis Howes?

  Okay, cool.

• 1:36:17James Doty?

  We're letting people use it, just to get input from them, yeah. And certainly, if people try it, please drop me a note.

• 1:36:24Lewis Howes?

  That's cool.

• 1:36:25James Doty?

  Because we're trying to, of course, improve it. But it's pretty amazing, the type of conversations you can have. Even, I mean, I've been like, wow, that's amazing.

• 1:36:33Lewis Howes?

  That's cool. Well, happy, H-A-P-P-I dot A-I. Check that out as well. Couple of final questions for you, James. One of them is called the three truths question. It's a hypothetical scenario. Imagine you get to live as long as you want. And you get to keep creating and manifesting and serving humanity the way you want to do it. And everything that you desire, you manifest until the day you die. But for whatever reason, on the last day in this world, you have to take all of your work with you. This book, we don't have access to. This conversation is no longer around. Everything you've created, it's for whatever reason, gone somewhere else. We don't have access. It's a hypothetical scenario in question.

• 1:37:18Lewis Howes?

  But if it was the last day, many years away, and you could only leave behind three lessons to the world. And this is all we have of your information, your content. What would those three truths be for you that you would share?

• 1:37:33James Doty?

  Believe in yourself.

• 1:37:36James Doty?

  Care for others. Be kind to yourself.

• 1:37:41Lewis Howes?

  Before I ask the final question, James, I want to acknowledge you for the consistent contribution you make on the world. I think this topic is extremely interesting for so many people. Because a lot of people are suffering and they want to have a better life, but they don't know how to create the life. So bringing neuroscience, research, and your own practical lessons into this work, sharing it here for people for free, creating it in a book, people can follow with the program. And everything else you're sharing with the world, I just really acknowledge you for the contribution you are making currently on humanity. And I'm grateful for the wisdom and the lessons that you share. So I wanted to share that with you.

• 1:38:19James Doty?

  Well, thank you. I appreciate that. That's very kind.

• 1:38:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you're welcome. And my final question for you, James, is what is your definition of greatness?

• 1:38:30James Doty?

  Being authentic, understanding yourself, and caring for others.

• 1:38:36Lewis Howes?

  There you go. Mind Magic. Thank you, James. Appreciate it.

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