The Future of Fatherhood: Raising Boys and Ourselves

Explore how shifting gender roles are reshaping how we raise boys and redefine modern fatherhood in today's evolving world.

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• 0:00Dr. Becky Kennedy?

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• 0:43Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  We all say we want to raise emotionally intelligent men, but how do we actually do that? What if the way we raise boys and support dads could reshape our entire culture? I recently had the honor of closing out the Future of Fatherhood Summit hosted by Moms First and Equamundo. It was a really powerful gathering of policymakers, researchers, dads, moms, business leaders, and cultural voices. And everyone was asking deep questions about modern fatherhood at work, at home, in our policies, and in ourselves. My session was called "Raising Boys and Ourselves." It was one of my favorite conversations I've ever had.

• 1:27Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Moderated by Maggie McGrath, editor of Forbes Women, we talked about the early signs of toxic masculinity, why repair matters so much for dads, and what it means to approach parenting, the way you might approach coaching a kid in basketball with presence, patience, and skill building that only happens over time. Since we've been talking a lot about fatherhood here on the podcast, I wanted to keep that conversation going. And so here it is, my live session from the summit just for you. I hope you hear something that shifts the way you think about parenting, fatherhood, or even yourself. With that in mind, let's jump in. I'm Dr. Becky, and this is Good Inside. We'll be back right after this.

• 2:19Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  I don't know about you, but by the time September rolls around, I am ready for cozy season. That's when I start thinking about Thanksgiving plans and travel that allows me to spend quality time with my family. I'm thinking board games, changing leaves, maybe even a living room with a fireplace where we can read our books together. Maybe you're the kind of family that loves an adventure and wants a cabin in the mountains somewhere. Or maybe you're dreading the end of summer and need to look forward to staying at a home on the beach with a view of the ocean. Or maybe you love to cook, so you want to stay in a home with your dream kitchen. Wherever your travel plans take you, it's the perfect time to get a little reset together as a family before the holiday season and craziness begins. But here's something you may not have considered. If you're planning to go

• 3:01Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  away this year, leaving your own space empty, you can list it on Airbnb while you're away to give another family some quality time in a home away from home. You get to make use of your space and you can earn some extra income to put toward your family's future travel plans. Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at Airbnb.com/host. Here's a question parents ask me all the time. How can I help my kid take ownership of their routine? I love this question because owning a routine is such a good way for kids to build independence and confidence. It's why I'm excited to tell you about Yodo, the screen-free audio player for kids. In the mornings, your kid can wake up with Yodo's alarm clock. When your kid gets home from school, Yodo has focus tracks, audiobooks,

• 3:45Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  music, and learning content. One of my kids really likes to write and record their own stories with the make your own cards. Then at night, your kid can build a wind down routine with Yodo's toothbrush timer, white noise, and nightlight. With the right sounds, stories, and a bit of structure, thanks to Yodo, mornings feel more manageable. Homework time feels calmer, and winding down before bed becomes something kids can run themselves, making the whole school year feel a little easier for everyone. Use the code DRBECKY15 for 15% off your order at Yodoplay.com. New customers only, ends October 31st. Terms apply. Offer valid on select products only.

• 4:27Speaker 01

  Please welcome Dr. Becky Kennedy and Maggie McGrath.

• 4:37Speaker 02

  It is so important to talk about raising emotionally healthy children and to talk about it tactically and practically, and there is no better person to do that with than Dr. Becky, so. Please. Yes, please. So, your work really focuses on raising emotionally healthy children. What unique challenges do you see parents facing specifically when it comes to raising boys?

• 5:01Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  So, first of all, thank you all for being here. This topic has really been on my heart for a while. So, you know, I think, I've been thinking a lot about these phrases we say all the time and how different they are for boys and girls. Be a good girl. Don't be a bad boy. They're like so in our cultural ether. So, if we focus on the boy, I think there's problems with kind of both phrases that we lock our kids into. But I think about how often boys can get labeled bad boys. Like, there's, "Oh, did you hear Bobby's in our preschool class this year? Like, he's such a bad boy, always getting sent out of class," right? And, big picture, right?

• 5:44Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  We are our kids' mirrors. Our kids form their identity. By the version of themselves we reflect back to them. So, think about that. A kid is growing up, they're always asking essentially to their parent without asking, "Who am I? How should I think about myself?" That phrase, "bad boy," we should never be surprised that when we give a kid a bad kid identity, that they only act out more. One of the things that I think is just critical to know about boys and girls, right? But it's really important, I think, when we think about this, for boys and that bad boy label.

• 6:22Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Kids are born with all the feelings and none of the skills to manage feelings. All bad behavior is, is a situation where feelings overpower skills. I mean, we can all be honest about our own latest bad moment. Like, why did I yell at my husband yesterday? Why did I act in a way that I'm not proud of at a restaurant when they told me they were out of some special and, you know? Well, my feelings, even as an adult, in that moment were bigger than my skills. When we respond to all of our boys acting out by telling they're a bad kid, sending them to their room, just punishing them, I don't know, any area of life we're punishing has ever built skills.

• 7:05Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  I just don't think any of us in our workplaces are like, "Oh, I'm gonna teach, you know, this associate what to do by sending them to their room and taking away their phone for a week." Like, that doesn't do anything. So if you think about that gap, the problem isn't the feelings. The problem isn't even the behaviors, because all the behaviors are, are a manifestation of feelings without skills. The problem is that kids are born without the emotion regulation skills they need to match the feelings and then have better behavior. Which is why at Good Inside, we're very big on skill-based parenting. Parenting is a skill, kids need skills, and the best news about skills is it's never too late to learn them.

• 7:45Speaker 02

  You and I were talking about how blame culture and anger culture can show up in young boys a lot sooner than any of us might actually predict or realize. What are the signs parents should be looking for and also are there ways to counteract?

• 8:01Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Yeah. Thank you for that question, such a good one. Toxic masculinity is a phrase I just hear a lot. Like, it's in the media, it's in the news, right? And I was like, any of us like want that? None of us are like, "I want my boys to be toxically male," whatever that even means, right? We're not, we're not trying for that. And, and I think too often, we talk about things as if they just pop up or like you catch them on the subway when you're like 18, right? And to me, it's very empowering to think, well, are there signs of that pattern early on? Or are there opportunities to kind of avoid that outcome? When I think about that phrase, toxic masculinity, it is kind of like, the only feelings as a young man I'm allowed to express are anger and blame at others. Right?

• 8:45Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  And where I see this very early, and again, where I think I'm so heartened by the opportunity to intervene. Is in sports culture with young boys. I don't know if any of you have kids who live in the city, I do. I go to Basketball City, where it's like, you know, I don't know, 12 basketball games going on at once, boys and girls. And it just was interesting, this last winter season, I kept hearing, "These boys would lose their games." And often I didn't hear this from the girls' teams. "That ref was awful. That ref was awful. That other team fouled so much. Oh, if only my team had passed me the ball. It was a layup. I would have made it." And here's what I think is really happening. A boy is actually trying to say,

• 9:26Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  "I feel disappointed that we lost." And instead of feeling that feeling in my body, "I'm just gonna vomit it out and look for someone to point my finger at and blame." That is toxic masculinity. That's what it is. "I don't want to feel uncomfortable. Who did this discomfort to me? Whose fault is it that I'm frustrated? Whose fault is it that I'm sad? Who put this feeling in my body because it can't be mine? Because I was raised in a way to think I shouldn't have feelings, so someone must have poisoned me."

• 9:59Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  And so, the part of this I find remarkably optimistic, because I really am like an optimist about this, is how amazing at the end of a basketball game, when a kid says this. A mom, or really, my heart beats fast when I think about a dad, looking at Bobby and just saying, "Oh, it stinks when you lose a game." Or, "Oh, you wish you had the ball at the end of the game." And they say back, "Yeah, because the ref, oh." When I was seven and lost games, I also felt really disappointed. Instead of taking a feeling and reiterating that it lives outside you as something someone put into you,

• 10:41Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  you're lightly orienting them back to, "This is actually your feeling." And it's safe to live in your body, because if I can see it... As something that's real inside you, over time, you will learn to have that capacity as well.

• 10:55Speaker 02

  That's a really good tactic to employ. Yes, you can clap for that.

• 11:05Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  I don't know about you, but by the time September rolls around, I am ready for cozy season. That's when I start thinking about Thanksgiving plans and travel that allows me to spend quality time with my family. I'm thinking board games, changing leaves, maybe even a living room with a fireplace where we can read our books together. Maybe you're the kind of family that loves an adventure and wants a cabin in the mountains somewhere. Or maybe you're dreading the end of summer and need to look forward to staying at a home on the beach with a view of the ocean. Or maybe you love to cook, so you want to stay in a home with your dream kitchen. Wherever your travel plans take you, it's the perfect time to get a little reset, together as a family, before the holiday season and craziness begins. But here's something you may not have considered. If you're planning to go away this year, leaving your own space empty,

• 11:49Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  you can list it on Airbnb while you're away to give another family some quality time in a home away from home. You get to make use of your space and you can earn some extra income to put toward your family's future travel plans. Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at Airbnb.com/host. Here's a question parents ask me all the time. How can I help my kid take ownership of their routine? I love this question because owning a routine is such a good way for kids to build independence and confidence. It's why I'm excited to tell you about Yodot, the screen-free audio player for kids. In the mornings, your kid can wake up with Yodot's alarm clock. When your kid gets home from school, Yodot has focus tracks, audiobooks, music, and learning content. One of my kids really likes to write

• 12:34Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  and record their own stories with the "Make Your Own" cards. Then at night, your kid can build a wind-down routine with Yodot's toothbrush timer, white noise, and nightlight. With the right sounds, stories, and a bit of structure, thanks to Yodot, mornings feel more manageable. Homework time feels calmer, and winding down before bed becomes something kids can run themselves, making the whole school year feel a little easier for everyone. Use the code DRBECKY15 for 15% off your order at YodotPlay.com. New customers only, ends October 31st. Terms apply. Offer valid on select products only.

• 13:13Speaker 02

  I think over the course of this afternoon, we've heard the phrase "cycle breaking" quite a bit. But I want to lean into this even more because I hear this come up with my friends who are parents, about the models that they had. And so, Dr. Becky, what patterns have you observed in how parents and dads' own upbringings can affect their approach to raising children, and especially sons?

• 13:36Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  The first thing that comes to mind. Good inside, like our whole company, like everything we do is based on the idea that parenting doesn't come naturally. Parenting is a skill, right? I think especially women, we're told there's a maternal instinct. No wonder, no children in the room, no wonder we feel like shit when it's hard because if something's instinct and it's hard, the only answer is that we're broken, right? And in general, the only thing that comes naturally when it comes to parenting is how you were parented. It's like being raised in English and wanting to teach your kids Mandarin and speak to them in Mandarin. I don't think anyone in this room would be like, Mandarin's going to come naturally. No, you would have to learn it and practice it. And in your hardest stressful moments, guess what language you would speak? English.

• 14:21Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  That doesn't mean the Mandarin's not working. You'd recover and go back to Mandarin. If you want to be a father who sits by your son and says, "I'd be disappointed too," it makes sense you feel sad about that. And if in your head you're clocking, "My dad literally would have never said that to me. That would be actually laughable," right? Then that moment is not going to come naturally. What's going to come naturally, even if you don't want it to, is some version of, "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about if that's what your dad said to you." And that doesn't make you a monster. It actually makes you an amazing, cycle-breaking dad that you want to learn a new language so that new language comes naturally

• 15:05Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  for your son one day. That's an incredible thing.

• 15:10Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  And I think if we think about parenting as a language and as a skill, then the cycle-breaking aspect of it, I want to be there emotionally. I want to play with my kid. Right? I want to be involved in conversations like who my son has a crush on. I want to talk to my kid about porn because if I don't, he's only gonna find out about it from the random 17-year-old on the bus, and he's gonna explore it online, which is more ubiquitous than ever in a totally different way than when I was growing up. And if I want to do that, and I would say in my head, "Yeah, that is so not what happened from my dad." Being a cycle-breaker involves learning and practice and tolerating a ton of awkwardness

• 15:55Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  because that awkwardness is actually not a sign you're doing something wrong. It's a sign you're doing something totally new.

• 16:02Speaker 02

  Now, men have often been shamed for the way they show up as parents. We were talking backstage about the complaining that can happen, like, "He didn't do this," or "He did this, but not as well as I could do." My dad actually had a phrase that he taught to me and my brother. "Daddies do it differently." Because I would always complain when my dad did something differently than my mom. But how, that was in our household. How can we collectively reframe this for dads so we can create a healthier parenthood and fatherhood?

• 16:31Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Yeah. So, this is coming at a great time because I actually was just talking to my own husband about this. And, you know, we have a lot of conversations about parenting. You know, we both work full-time. You know, we talk a lot about the mental load and, you know, like, how I'm thinking about the camp schedule or the soccer schedule for October. And I know on whatever day in July, if I don't sign up in 30 seconds, like, he's not gonna make the soccer team, and that's exhausting. And he doesn't have to think about that. And maybe he took our kid to soccer, but he's not actually, like, signing up for soccer. All of that, by the way, I just want to say, is completely real and important. And he said something that I didn't expect that really hit me, that he feels like when he thinks about his dad.

• 17:14Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  He is doing so much more than his dad did. And yet, the treadmill seems to be like moving even faster. Like, he's like, "You think dads that I grew up around were at, were doing carpools? That they were cooking, that they were doing? Even if I didn't know the nap schedule, that I was putting down for nap? Like, like, there's a generation of dads that are doing so much more than their dads are doing. And I think a lot of the messages they get is, "It's still not enough." Now, a good insight, we say, "Two things are true. Those can both be true." But the insight I really had is, if the bar is over here, the way you get more out of anybody is never starting with all the things they're not doing. It always starts with recognizing what they are doing.

• 17:59Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Right, right? We can be right, or we can be effective. We can rarely be both. Yes, that is marital advice. You could take that with you. Um, I always learned that the hard way. Um, and I think what's effective, right? Is starting with, and here, here's a question, actually, if you are a dad to think about. And if you know a dad in your life, or if your partner's a dad, maybe you can think about. So for the dads here, what is something I do as a dad? That my own dad never did with me? And if you know a dad, or if you have a husband, right? Like, what is something my husband does as a dad? That I know his dad would have never done? And it doesn't mean we don't have another loud thought, but he still doesn't do this.

• 18:44Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Again, we have to, as actually a world, be better at holding multiplicity and not having singular truths. Right? But that's a really important starting point for a conversation. Rather than, "But, okay, you took all the kids to soccer and did a carpool, but you didn't know that Jimmy needed new cleats." Even if I want him to be in charge of that, it's probably going to be more effective in saying like, "You took the whole carpool to soccer. My guess is no dad in your entire lineage has spent their Saturday afternoon doing that." And I just, I want to say, "Thank you." That is, that is cycle breaking in your own right. And no one ever has gone from here in one generation to here.

• 19:28Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  And the way we move the needle a little is not starting from a place of fault, but probably starting from a place of strength and capability.

• 19:41Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Here's a question parents ask me all the time. How can I help my kid take ownership of their routine? I love this question because owning a routine is such a good way for kids to build independence and confidence. It's why I'm excited to tell you about Yodo, the screen-free audio player for kids. In the mornings, your kid can wake up with Yodo's alarm clock. When your kid gets home from school, Yodo has focus tracks, audiobooks, music, and learning content. One of my kids really likes to write and record their own stories with the "Make Your Own" cards. Then at night, your kid can build a wind-down routine with Yodo's toothbrush timer, white noise, and nightlight. With the right sounds, stories, and a bit of structure thanks to Yodo, mornings feel more manageable. Homework time feels calmer, and winding down before bed becomes something kids can run themselves,

• 20:26Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  making the whole school year feel a little easier for everyone. Use the code DRBECKY15 for 15% off your order at Yodoplay.com. New customers only, ends October 31st. Terms apply. Offer valid on select products only. I don't know about you, but by the time September rolls around, I am ready for cozy season. That's when I start thinking about Thanksgiving plans and travel that allows me to spend quality time with my family. I'm thinking board games, changing leaves, maybe even a living room with a fireplace where we can read our books together. Maybe you're the kind of family that loves an adventure and wants a cabin in the mountains somewhere. Or maybe you're dreading the end of summer and need to look forward to staying at a home on the beach with a view of the ocean.

• 21:08Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Or maybe you love to cook, so you want to stay in a home with your dream kitchen. Wherever your travel plans take you, it's the perfect time to get a little reset, together as a family, before the holiday season and craziness begins. But here's something you may not have considered. If you're planning to go away this year, leaving your own space empty, you can list it on Airbnb while you're away to give another family some quality time in a home away from home. You get to make use of your space, and you can earn some extra income to put toward your family's future travel plans. Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at Airbnb.com/host.

• 21:49Speaker 02

  So what I heard in that example was doing that on a case by case, incident by incident basis, right? Like every time there is a carpool or every time the dad does something. Or is it like a monthly check-in or a weekly check-in? What's the cadence?

• 22:02Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Yeah, I mean, I know for me, I just think this is true in all relationships. I think we are. We're wired to notice what's not done. And so I have been back in the day when you're like, I think I failed that math test. And like, you didn't. You just remember the questions that were hard in a different way than the questions you got, right? So we're all wired to think about the things that people in our life aren't doing. And anything that is done, we just don't register in our body the same way. And again, I think this is another thing that we can think of as a skill. It doesn't come naturally always to like, say nice, appreciative things to your partner. I'm sorry, I'm like laughing. I just don't think it does. Like especially when you're raising kids together. It's just easy to be like, you didn't do this, you didn't do this. Oh, and then all of a sudden you're like keeping score. Like you did soccer four times, but I did lacrosse.

• 22:46Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  But you like lacrosse, so it doesn't count that you did lacrosse. You know, and I, people are often like, Becky, you're so good at acting. I'm like, these are just my thoughts, obviously. And so none of us have this down. But yeah, I just think a check-in, right? I mean, a kind of daily, I appreciate this thing you did. Hey, I think I often talk to you about all the things you're not doing right as a dad. And like, I did take a moment. I want to tell you, like, here's the things I see you doing that I think are probably new and different. And I just forget the other side of it. I just appreciate that. And that's just, that's helpful for fatherhood. That's helpful for motherhood. That's helpful for your marriage. Like what an amazing thing for your kids to see. Oh, a partnership can look like once in a while, people saying nice things to each other. Like, nice, right? So yeah, I think it could do in whatever language. And some people like it over text.

• 23:31Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  They're like, I feel awkward doing it. Great, like, if like a little bit of distance and text, I was just thinking about this is an easier way to do it. Like, let's lower the barrier to kind of leading with appreciation. And again, like kind of bringing out the good inside each other in that way.

• 23:46Speaker 02

  I love that. The words, I appreciate you are so powerful. There've been a lot of practical takeaways in what you've said. But if there's one overarching, big

• 23:57Speaker 02

  Takeaway for the audience for how they can start the work of raising emotionally healthy boys and also supporting the dads in their home.

• 24:03Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Yeah.

• 24:04Speaker 02

  What is it?

• 24:04Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  I often get very nuanced, I don't like to be boxed in, kind of answers to questions. But when I think about like the one thing, when everyone's like, is there a one takeaway or one thing I could do today? I actually have like, I feel crystal clear in like what that could be. To me, there's no more important relationship strategy in the world than repair. And what repair is, is the act of going back to a moment that didn't feel good, naming what happened, taking ownership for your part, we can come back to that, that's a tricky one, and maybe stating what you would do differently. And repair, to get good at it, to really get good at repair, you actually have to

• 24:48Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  mess up, right? Like if you think about that, you can only repair for something you messed up. And too often, I think, I'm gonna learn and I'm gonna figure this out and then I'm gonna be, there's some fantasy, like I'm gonna be some perfect dad, I'm gonna be some perfect mom, like, that's not a thing, that's not why we ever learn things. It's interesting, whenever someone calls me a parenting expert, I cringe, like, expert feels like you know everything, it's like such a sad state, like, why would we want to be an expert at anything or be perfect at anything? Plus, when it comes to parenting, the relationship you form with your kid is the foundation they will take in of every future relationship in their teenage and adult years. Not only that, if we really want to get a little heavy, the nature of your relationship

• 25:30Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  with your kid will dictate who they're attracted to, because attraction is just what feels like home. And I know, even if I could be perfect, I would say, my kids don't have Dr. Becky as a mom, that would be creepy, first of all, it really would. And, do you, any of you think it would be a good idea, Dr. Becky's kids are going to adulthood thinking like, where is my partner who is perfectly attuned to my needs all the time and always gets it right and says the right thing? That person does not exist. But I think we do want our kids to go into the world with, is I am naturally attracted to someone who in general listens and wants to get to know me, and we connect, and they respect me, and when they do something from a place of their own trigger and their own

• 26:13Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  story and kind of their own stuff, I can expect them to come to me and take responsibility, going back to the beginning, versus blame me for their discomfort.

• 26:25Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  And that only will happen if we have a habit of repair. Now, just to be clear, the responsibility part, repair does not mean, I've said these words myself, "I'm sorry I yelled if you got your shoes on the first time, I wouldn't have happened." You know, that is not a repair. Okay, that is only a repair if you will be very proud of hearing your son say one day to his partner, "I'm sorry I yelled, but I wouldn't have done it if you remembered toilet paper." Like, that is so creepy and toxic, and we do not want to set that example. Right? And so, repair is taking ownership for your part because that's how kids learn how to take ownership for their part. Okay, quick poll.

• 27:07Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Not the bad repair, not "I'm sorry you feel that way," and not "I'm sorry, but if you didn't do XYZ, it wouldn't have happened." I want you to raise your hand if your dad repaired with you when you were a kid. So, look around. This is a remarkably high percentage. I'm very proud of this. Like, this is amazing. Okay. I want you to picture your kids in this room, however many decades from now. Like, in this room, I mean this, like, we don't have the power to figure it out and be perfect. Again, that wouldn't be good for kids, anyway. But you do have the power for when your kid is asked, like, "Did your dad, did your mom repair with you?" For 100% of the kids who have parents in this room to go up. 100%.

• 27:53Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  And so, the thing I would ask of you when you leave is to remember, parenting doesn't come naturally. The only thing that comes naturally is how I was parented. If I want to do things differently, I should probably approach that, and I love a good Instagram reel, but none of us see doctors who skip medical school and just get their advice on Instagram. Okay? Let's call a spade a spade. Like, you know, like, there are ways, we teach this at Good Inside. We teach skills to parents so they can teach them to kids, so I want everyone to, like, know that. And then last, like, maybe we can promise each other, like, "We're all gonna repair with our kid today." And even if it happened a while ago, "Hey, I'm thinking about something last week. I'm sorry I yelled. That wasn't your fault.

• 28:36Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  I'm working, I'm staying calmer, even when I'm frustrated. I love you." They might give you a hug. They might ask you for pretzels. Okay. Either way, I promise you it will have a profound impact on your relationship with them, your connection, their self-worth, and how they think about what love really looks like. And so that would be the one takeaway.

• 29:04Speaker 02

  And with that, we are out of time. Dr. Becky, thank you so much for your insight.

• 29:12Dr. Becky Kennedy?

  Thank you so much for listening. I really hope something in this conversation stayed with you, something that made you think, reflect, or just feel a little more seen. If it did, I would be so grateful if you subscribed, left a review, or shared this episode with a dad in your life who could use a moment of support. These are the kinds of conversations that help all of us show up more intentionally for our kids and for ourselves. I can't wait to see you next time.

• 29:47Dr. Becky Kennedy?

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• 30:31Dr. Becky Kennedy?

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