Ep. 374: This is Your Brain on Phones

It’s hard to cultivate a deep life when you cannot go more than a few minutes without checking your phone. In this episode, Cal looks closer at the precise neural mechanisms at play that make the physical act of looking at your phone irresistible. Then armed with this knowledge, he explains why many popular remedies fail, and which specific responses are most likely to succeed. He then answers listener questions and discusses the five old-fashioned analog books (!) that he read last month. Below are the questions covered in today's episode (with their timestamps). Get your questions answered by Cal! Here’s the link: bit.ly/3U3sTvo Video from today’s episode: youtube.com/calnewportmedia Deep Dive: This is your brain on phones [0:02] My 11 year-old is bullied for not having a smartphone. What should I do? [47:00] How can I overcome my irrational urge to show off on social media? [55:39] How is video game addiction different than phone addiction? [59:12] Can I become addicted to messaging? [1:03:23] Is it ok to use newspaper apps on my phone? [1:06:42] CASE STUDY: A 5th grader drops her Apple Watch [1:13:51] CALL: An aspiring photographer and Instagram [1:18:11] SEPTEMBER BOOKS: The 5 Books Cal in September 2025 [1:22:51] The Ice Limit (Lincoln Child and Douglas Preston)The Burnout Society (Byung-Chul Han)Down and Out in the Magic Kingdom (Cory Doctorow)As a Jew (Sarah Hurwitz)The Searcher (Tana French) Links: Buy Cal’s latest book, “Slow Productivity” at calnewport.com/slowGet a signed copy of Cal’s “Slow Productivity” at peoplesbooktakoma.com/event/cal-newport/Cal’s monthly book directory: bramses.notion.site/059db2641def4a88988b4d2cee4657ba? Thanks to our Sponsors: rag-bone.com (Use code “DEEP”)grammarly.com/podcastmybodytutor.comindeed.com/deep Thanks to Jesse Miller for production, Jay Kerstens for the intro music, and Mark Miles for mastering. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:02Cal Newport?

  I've been talking recently about the idea that making your life deeper will make your devices less appealing, and this is true, but it's not always enough. For some people, the constant allure of their phone is so strong, it's so inescapable, that it can seem impossible to find any sort of freedom. This is what I want to talk about today. How to create relief from your phone overuse to gain enough breathing room that you can actually pay attention to making the other parts of your life more meaningful. Now, I have a very particular approach that I want to take here. I'm going to start inside your skull, deep within the folds of your brain.

• 0:44Cal Newport?

  Because I think by identifying exactly what is happening among your neurons when you find yourself picking up that device more than you want to, will help us come up with specific responses that are more likely to actually work. I understand how the brain works when you look at your phone. We're also going to discover why so much of the common advice you hear about phone overload doesn't help. So we'll figure out what does work and what doesn't work. So if you're sick and tired of being distracted from everything that matters, looking at your phone more than you want to, trying again and again to stop this and not having any success, then this is an episode you need to hear.

• 1:22Cal Newport?

  As always, I'm Cal Newport, and this is Deep Questions. Today's episode, the real reason you can't put down your phone, and what to do about it. All right, so here's what I want to do. I want to summarize the neuroscience of why you feel the urge to pick up your phone. But I'm going to do this in a way that is going to avoid naming specific brain regions or going down long list of neurotransmitters. In fact, I guarantee I'm only going to mention one neurotransmitter and no brain regions

• 2:06Cal Newport?

  because I want to get to the core of this without having to get bogged down with too much of the details of the science. All right, so this is going to be a sort of high level view of what's happening low down deep within your brain. So here's the basic way I want you to think about what's going on in your head, sort of moment to moment. There are numerous groups of neurons in what we can call the short-term motivation system. These are neurons that have learned over time to recognize different situations as cues to take certain actions. We have situations that are acting as cues for taking certain actions. I'm going to draw you a picture here, God help us all, but I want to try to illustrate what I'm talking about, right?

• 2:47Cal Newport?

  So let's start with, I have this on the screen here for people who are watching instead of just listening. I'm going to draw a person here, it's going to be very clear exactly what they're doing. Is it clear what this person is doing here, Jesse? Yeah. Baseball player, right? Perfectly drawn baseball. Alright, so let's say it's a baseball player, it's a baseball game, you're playing baseball, it's a hot day, the inning break is over. This is based off of recent experience, I was coaching a little league game down in Anacostia and there was a, the field Jesse was all artificial turf, but it was just baking in the sun, there didn't happen to be any shade. Yeah. Oh my God, so this is coming from recent experience, but basically, let's say this,

• 3:29Cal Newport?

  you're the baseball player, alright, you are coming off the field, you're really thirsty, and there's the water cooler. Okay, so what is happening in your head? You see that cold water cooler, you're really thirsty. Well, there's a group of neurons that are going to fire in response to this situation. It's a group of neurons that are pattern recognizers and they're going to recognize this situation, both the internal state, part of the state, which is that you're feeling very thirsty, and some external cues, like I see a water cooler that, you know, is nearby and it's in my dugout. So they're going to fire in response to that situation, because they have learned through experience that drinking water in this situation is going to give you a big reward, the satisfaction you feel when you drink when you're thirsty.

• 4:09Cal Newport?

  You can imagine that group of neurons is essentially creating a vote, like, okay, we're making a vote for you, the person, to take the action of going to drink the water from that water cooler. Here's the only technical term I'll throw into this neuroscience discussion, this is where the neurotransmitter dopamine enters the scene. Dopamine is often misunderstood when people talk about it. It plays many roles in the brain, but it's often simplified to some notion of the pleasure chemical. Like you do something because you want the dopamine, it will release, it'll make you feel good. That's not quite right. No, actually, the role of dopamine in this situation is that that that particular group of neurons that recognize this situation, the water cooler, and you're thirsty, include dopamine neurons.

• 4:54Cal Newport?

  So when that pattern fires, it activates those neurons and those neurons release dopamine. That dopamine is going to go down a pathway connected to that situation, a pathway that is going to connect to the action of going to get the water. You will experience the cascade of dopamine down that particular pathway as a sense of motivation. I feel motivated, like that is something I want to do. Now here's what's interesting about the brain is that there's often many different situations going on that are queuing potential actions. So if we go back to this picture again, this beautifully drawn picture, and no, it's not Norman Rockwell, Jesse, I just drew that myself. I know you were, you were thinking about it.

• 5:35Cal Newport?

  In the same picture, maybe over on, you know, the dugout wall over here, you have like your bat and your helmet are over there perfectly drawn, right? So like another possible action that you could take is maybe also you know that you are up the bat soon, you're coming in off of the field. And so you also have neurons, a group of neurons that might recognize that situation is it recognizes the internal knowledge of I'm first up, you know, at the, at the bottom of the inning and we're heading back to the dugout and I see my batting equipment, you know, that's down here. And so the relevant action that cues is, well, maybe I should go get my helmet on and get my bat ready, right? But now we have competing things you could do next.

• 6:20Cal Newport?

  But what's going to happen is the bundle of neurons is associated with getting the bat and the helmet and getting ready to play, they're going to make their own vote. And they'll, they'll flood some dopamine, the dopamine neurons will activate, they'll flood some dopamine down the relevant action pathway to try to make you motivated to like, oh, maybe I should go get my equipment ready to bat. So you have different votes going on for different possible actions. In general, the vote's going to win is going to be the vote that's associated with the largest expected reward. And it knows this through experience. So the expected reward for drinking the water has been built up in that circuit through learning by drinking water in the past and what was the reward like? There's a whole mechanism that dopamine is also involved in. I won't go into the details where it adjusts that reward.

• 7:05Cal Newport?

  So if you think like, oh, it'll be kind of nice to drink water when I'm thirsty and then you do and it's great. There's a gap between what happened expectation. You'll actually use dopamine to mediate a change to that circuit so that next time it'll fire even stronger when it sees the water there. See, these circuits have learned through experience what reward to imagine. Very roughly speaking, the loudest vote in the situation wins. And in this situation, if you're really thirsty, that's going to win and you're going to, you're probably going to drink the water and then you can, then you can vote, the vote for say now get ready to bet might be stronger. All right. So something like that is sort of happening. Now, neuroscientists, I know already you're really upset. You're saying I'm simplifying too much. So I'm not talking about things like the ventral tegmental area or the nucleus accubinis

• 7:48Cal Newport?

  or the incentive salience that dopamine types increases. But I think we get too bogged down in that. I don't want to hubermin this all. Let's just say this is what's happening here. Different parts of your brain, the short-term motivation system, recognize situations, they cue actions, their cue is like a vote, the strongest vote based on the strongest expected reward tends to win and that's the action you do. All right. Brain lecture over. Now let's talk about what happens then with our phones. So if you want to be precise, a big part of the problem we face when we look at our phones too much is that they overwhelm this particular short-term motivation system. There's three things at play here that lead phones to so effectively overwhelm this system.

• 8:31Cal Newport?

  First, many of the things we do on our phones generate very clean and effective reward experiences. So when we're learning about the reward from different activities, the reward of many of the apps we look at our phone are designed to be very pure and to generate like a very strong association in our head and really make that, that circuit associated with the action of looking at your phone generate a very strong reward. And we know why this happens, right? We talked about this a few episodes ago on apps like TikTok. For example, you have these machine learning algorithms and they're, what do machine learning algorithms do? They try to estimate, build an approximation of some sort of unknown process that generates rewards in response to different types of inputs.

• 9:16Cal Newport?

  And it might not know in advance how that process works, but it learns by observing how to approximate that so it can get the biggest reward. So what's really happening here with one of these machine learning algorithms is that it's basically building an approximation of the reward generating circuits in your head. And then it's selecting things to show you that are going to generate the strongest, cleanest rewards from that system. So we're getting these really pure reward signals when we're looking at our phones, because if we're looking at algorithm that curated content, they are devised to give you much stronger, sort of like artificially stronger, consistent rewards in a way that you might not actually encounter in the real world. Now, there's a couple of different types of reward signals you get from social media style apps on your phone.

• 10:00Cal Newport?

  One is the pleasant surprise signal. This is why like funny things or unexpected things happening in TikTok videos are popular. That's pleasant surprise. These machine learning algorithms curating the content learn is something that generates like a very strong reward signal for humans. Sometimes it's negative. There's a negative reward. So what you're getting, what I mean by negative is you're escaping the negative state of boredom. Of course, this is another like really positive, consistent reward you get from a phone is because you're often able to use it in a situation where you're otherwise bored. This is not the case with a lot of other rewards. Like, I like watching movies, but by the time I'm sitting down in the movie theater

• 10:43Cal Newport?

  and I'm there with like my wife and we got some popcorn, I'm excited about the movie. I'm not bored when that movie starts, but our phone is something we can pull out at moments of boredom. The alleviation of boredom is a very strong positive signal. You take a negative state and get rid of it, your mind feels very strongly about it. So this is why, you know, interesting tidbits or things that give you like emotional arousal, like really outraging stuff, this frees you from the negative state of boredom in a really strong way. And that's a very positive signal for our brain as well. The other piece of this, okay, so I'll leave that there for now. That's the first thing I want to say. Okay, so we get very clean, consistent reward signals. They're almost artificially good.

• 11:23Cal Newport?

  Our brain is like, my God, we get messy rewards in the real world. Sometimes things are good, sometimes they're bad. Not looking at this little screen here. Good, good, good, good. And we're adjusting that circuitry every time. Oh, this is, we should expect a reward almost always. We're getting like a very strong expected reward associated with looking at the phone. All right. The second reason why phones overwhelm the system in our brain is that they, in addition to having a very clean and consistent positive reward, they expect a reward is good. They occasionally deliver big rewards, especially again, when we're using things like social apps.

• 12:04Cal Newport?

  Really, really positive rewards, which they can't, the really big rewards, they can't offer all the time, but they can offer them occasionally. And what do I mean by that? Well, you know, this would be like social approval indicators is one.

• 12:16Cal Newport?

  This was part of the power of like Facebook's early rise after they switched to mobile and added the like button. The idea that sometimes when I go on and check and I click that, that's the cue. When I, when I click that F app, I could see unexpectedly that a post of mine got a lot of likes. That's a big reward because we care a lot about social approval. TikTok has this as well with like views or favors. You're posting videos with your friends, you're doing dances and you're like, you know, most of the time no one cares, but every once in a while, 10,000 views. That's a big reward. In fact, TikTok knows that and will just artificially sometimes pump up those numbers to give you that experience from, from, from every once in a while.

• 12:55Cal Newport?

  Or like if you're someone like me, forget even social media, like me during baseball trade season. The closest I get to what like a gambler addiction feels like is the MLB trade rumor site. You know this one, Jesse?

• 13:11Speaker 01

  Well, just from you.

• 13:12Cal Newport?

  Yeah, right. I mean, so they track trade rumors coming up to the trade deadline in MLB. Most of the time you go to that website, it's, nothing's there for you, but occasionally it's, we just traded for Max Scherzer and it's a huge reward if you're a baseball fan. Okay, here's a problem. Those really big rewards are delivered intermittently.

• 13:33Cal Newport?

  That also really messes with this type of system. Intermittent rewards, we know this, of course, it's why slot machines are so effective and they're all over Las Vegas casinos. Big rewards that might come but might not. That plays into our expected reward system in a way where we're like, well, we might, we gotta check because it could be this time, it could be next time, it could be next time. The hunting for the big reward, the way that generates an expected reward calculation, that really gets us wanting to check things a lot. The third reason why phones overwhelm these brain systems is that the cue, unlike many other things we encounter in life, is ubiquitous. Right? There are certain things that I have very strong expected rewards with, and I'm

• 14:15Cal Newport?

  going to get a really strong incentive salience, use the technical term with dopamine cascading down the action pathway. There are certain things where that's really going to be the case, right? Like if I'm super hungry and I come home and there's like a big pizza out there that like my kids just started eating, it would be very hard for me not to grab, you know, a piece of that pizza, right? But it's pretty rare that I'm hungry and there like someone's putting a pizza in front of me. It would be a problem, right? If there's someone like an Italian pizza chef who followed me and he kind of just waited until I was hungry and then was like, hey, here you go, pizza. I imagine it was Mario. You know, that would be, I would eat too much pizza, right? That'd be a problem, but yeah, how often does it come up? It's okay. The problem with phones, the cue is ubiquitous because it's in your pocket.

• 14:59Cal Newport?

  So that means that circuit that's looking at the situation and saying, is there a pattern in this situation that matches my circuit that means I have to calculate reward and maybe incentivize action? It's always firing off because the phone is always with you. And it has a nice, good expected reward signal because you get this clean reward and intermittent big rewards. So it's always voting. That brain, those brain clusters that are associated with picking up your phone, this is like the neuronal equivalent of like Obama's campaign infrastructure. It's really well organized, they get the vote out. And so you got a good, clean, solid vote from the pick up your phone circuit all the time.

• 15:42Cal Newport?

  Now, other things outweigh it all the time. There's many things that'll outweigh it throughout the day, but if it's there voting all the time, it's going to win so often. Basically, yeah, it's not winning every election. It's like, no, I have a bigger thing I want to do here. I want to go talk to this person. This is urgent or this or that. But man, it's every moment it's voting. And a lot of these elections, if we're going to keep this metaphor going, there's not much else, not many other good candidates running, if you know what I mean. And so it's there and it's winning. But you think about, this is the way I think about the short-term motivation system being overwhelmed, is that we're not used to getting such a clean, consistent reward from an action, but machine learning algorithms on algorithmic curation ensure that's the case. Intermittent

• 16:25Cal Newport?

  big rewards is incredibly compelling. It's so powerful that like the few places we used to see this in our world before we had smartphones really was just casinos. Now we have that effect and a watered down effect. And then we have the cube being ubiquitous. This is why we look at our phone all the time. It's not really a fair fight, once we recognize how things have been rewired. All right. So now the question is, once we understand this, what should we do about it? In other words, if we know what's happening in our brain, which we do now, how does that help us better understand why certain types of responses about phone overuse work? And why certain other things that people talk about

• 17:05Cal Newport?

  a lot, don't work? So I think what I'm going to do here is I want to start with things that don't work. All right. I want to go through common advice that people give the stop looking at your phone so much. And then using this frame of understanding about what happens in your brain, we can go through each and understand why that rarely actually works. All right. So let's start with the idea of adding friction. So I have this on the screen here. So if you're watching, instead of just listening, you can see this on the screen here. Okay. So let's start with the idea of adding friction. This is this notion of, for example, I'm going to move my TikTok or Instagram apps to a folder within a folder

• 17:49Cal Newport?

  on the third screen of my phone. So it's harder to get at. This might mean using one of these tools where you have to look at a picture of a tree before you click on it, or maybe even one of these things where you have to have a physical fob, you have to hold to your phone to unlock it, or maybe you've taken the apps off for some of these social media so to access them, you have to go through your browser, and that's that's less convenient. So we think like, yeah, adding friction, maybe then I'm less likely to do it. This doesn't make much of a difference. And why does it not make much of a difference? Because again, those brain bundles that are voting, they're making an expected value calculation, and they have a really big value they think is going to

• 18:30Cal Newport?

  happen. If you add friction, they weigh that friction that's integrated into the expected value. So it reduces the value sum. The value of picking up this phone is a little bit lower because there's some extra action I have to do. But that friction, the cost of that friction is minor from the brain's perspective compared to that like massive neurochemical change to your subjective state that you're going to get by seeing the good content and potentially getting the big reward. So the difference it makes is minor. In order for friction to be powerful enough to actually outweigh that reward to the place where you don't even want to pick up your phone, it would have to be way more severe, way more severe friction than like I have to click through a few screens, or I have to touch a fob to my phone before I can unlock it. It would literally have to be something like,

• 19:15Cal Newport?

  if I look at Instagram, you know, someone's going to kick me in the groin. That would be a case where you're like, you know what, I'm not going to look at Instagram. But you really have to have something kind of that powerful. Actually, there's a, you know, my friend Ramit Sethi, his brother, who I also know, Manish Sethi, had a viral video once years ago, and it was a stunt, but he hired someone to sit next to him and slap him every time he loaded Facebook. It became like this big thing. I mean, he was kind of making a point about it. But honestly, that is the level of net costs you would need before the that you're going to outweigh the reward that your brain has learned from these phones to actually have a major change to your behavior. All right, let's look back at this list of things that people suggest.

• 20:00Cal Newport?

  Another one is mindset change. Change the way you think about these devices, right? Like, let's think about social media, and I'll tell you why it's bad from like a societal point of view. Let me tell you why it's bad because of the people who run it. And these are like fair arguments. Like, is it really that important to you that you're donating a lot of your time, to quote like one of my recent newsletters, toiling for free in an attention factory so that like Mark Zuckerberg can buy the second half of Kawhi? But those mindset shifts aren't likely on their own, again, to make a major change to your behavior, because we go within your skull, we look at your brain, there's the bundle of neurons that are recognizing the situation, that here's the phone, and I could pick it up, and they have a high expected value, I'm going to get this reward if I

• 20:44Cal Newport?

  do it. Let's do it, right? That mindset shift does not have a major disinhibiting effect on this much more simpler short-term motivation circuit, which says, we have a good chance of getting a good expected reward in terms of how we feel, believing in the negative state of boredom or pleasant surprise, if we pick this thing up. So again, this makes sense on paper, but not once we understand your brain. All right, what about moderation? Telling yourself, okay, what I just need to do is have better rules. I'm only going to use Instagram for 30 minutes a day. TikTok, I'll have a limit of like 30 minutes of TikTok total, or whatever. You're, again, those brain bundles don't know about your time limits, they don't care about your time limits, what they care about is your phone is here, and if I pick it up and I touch on that icon, that's a clear cue, it's like pulling the

• 21:28Cal Newport?

  lever on the slot machine handle, my expected reward in terms of like the positive impact on my subjective affect is high. So let's do that, right? It's like going to someone who's addicted to a slot machine and be like, okay, here's the thing. You should have a rule about how much you play it, and say, I'm not going to play it more than that. That's that's no match for what's happening in short-term motivation systems. Same thing with uglification. Yeah, you can make your phone black and white. That reduces the expected value of looking at one of these services a teeny bit. That's not nearly enough to make a difference. Let me cross that one off as well. Detoxing, by far the most common. I got to break. You know what I'm gonna do? I'm going to, you know, my internet Shabbat.

• 22:12Cal Newport?

  I don't, I'm gonna follow the Jewish tradition and I'm not going to, on Saturdays, I'm not gonna use technology and I'm not gonna use my phone. And that has benefits for sure, right? Like, it feels good that day. You have a better day that day not being on your phone. But one day without your phone is not nearly enough to change anything about those circuits. Now, maybe if you detoxed for eight months without your phone, the lack of use on those circuits, eventually the expected reward would come down and your phone would seem less appealing. But taking a day off or going on a week-long meditation retreat once a year, lots of benefits, but one benefit, you're not gonna get out of there, once we understand the neuroscience of phone use, you're not gonna get a notable reduction in your urge to check your phone.

• 22:55Cal Newport?

  All right, the final thing that people think about is escape. What if I just get rid of my phone altogether? Well, that does work, in the sense that if you get rid of your phone altogether and you replace it with something like a dumb phone, the cue is not there. And you will, people talk about this, because I meet these people all the time because of what I write and talk about. People talk about this, this feeling of freedom when their smartphone goes away. Well, what that really is neurologically, is that circuit that is voting all the time, phone, phone, phone, and placards up to put them in the sky, "Vote for phone, vote for phone." They quiet. And you're like, oh, everything else seems more interesting to me. My brain seems clear. I'm not constantly fighting that.

• 23:39Cal Newport?

  So it can work, but the problem is, as a long-term general solution, is it's not sustainable for a lot of people. There's just too many things that you need the smartphone to do that are logistical. So, escape gets you away from those circuits, but escape is hard to maintain. So by itself, doesn't end up being a general solution. All right, so we struggle.

• 24:00Cal Newport?

  But now we know why we struggle is because we're doing the wrong thing for the brain. So given that, let's do the flip side. This is what becomes interesting. If we know how the brain works and we know why those other things aren't helping us out, because it's not going to solve the way our brain activates. What will work? So how can this knowledge of the brain help point us towards fixes that will help us use our phone less often? That is what I want to get to next. The advice that actually will work. But first, we need to take a quick break to talk about some of our sponsors.

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• 25:05Cal Newport?

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• 27:15Cal Newport?

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• 27:59Cal Newport?

  You really should care about how you communicate, but most people struggle because writing is hard and it's not obvious how to get better at it. This is where Grammarly enters the scene. Grammarly is the essential AI communication assistant that boosts both the productivity and the quality of your writing. I don't think people fully realize how powerful Grammarly has gotten. Let me tell you about a particular feature I've been enjoying. The proofreading agent. I'll give you a real example. I had to write an email that was going to go out to a large group of people. So I typed out a quick draft, but before sending it, I had the proofreading agent and Grammarly take a look. It found a straightforward mistake. You know, Grammarly is very good at that. That's great. But it can do a lot more. There's a whole list of different functions. So I clicked, for example, sharpen opening point,

• 28:44Cal Newport?

  and it suggested ways to be less wishy washy and more precise in explaining upfront like what this email was about. It actually gave me ideas that made the email better. And this was without me having to sit there and give this email, which I didn't care that much about, the same type of thought I would give if I was writing like, you know, a New Yorker article or something. So it just, in places where I'm not even like thinking much about writing or my brain is tired, it can still help you write better. But here's what I would suggest. If you're a knowledge worker, have Grammarly be like an editor who sits behind you and looks over your shoulder. Have it take a look at any communication that's going out to people that you care about, how they think about you. Let it fix mistakes. Let it comment on your precision. Let it detect or adjust your tone.

• 29:26Cal Newport?

  It can help you brainstorm titles or ideas if you get stuck. This will all make you a better writer, and that's what makes the difference in our current economy. You use a keyboard, you need Grammarly. You can download Grammarly for free at grammarly.com/podcast. That's grammarly.com/podcast. All right, Jesse, let's get back to our deep dive. All right, so before we took a quick break, we talked about the common advice for using your phone unless it doesn't work. And we use our new understanding of the short-term motivation system to explain why it doesn't work. Now I want to do the opposite, and I want to look at a few ideas that do work. And now we can understand why they work based on our understanding of the brain.

• 30:11Cal Newport?

  All right, the first idea I want to mention here that I think actually does work is eliminate the strongest reward signals.

• 30:21Cal Newport?

  So one of the things you can do is prevent the brain circuit that recognizes the pattern of your phone being nearby from being exposed to such a constant stream of highly purified reward signals. We want to reduce the expected reward that that brain circuit associates with looking at your phone. The easiest way to do that is basically stop using on your phone algorithmically curated content. The best rewards come from content that is selected using a machine learning algorithm that uses your engagement as input. They're building an approximation of your reward estimator in your brain and they're going to give you a very clear signal. So just stop using, I know this sounds both simple and impossible,

• 31:03Cal Newport?

  but it's what I'm telling you. Stop using on your phone things like TikTok or Instagram or X or anything that you have an algorithm trying to choose things that's going to free you from boredom real easily or give you pleasant surprise. When you reduce that reward signal over time, the power of the vote of the pick up the phone circuit is reduced. And it goes from being like a really well organized campaign to a sort of haphazard campaign. And that's good. And now the urge is lower. You still need to use these apps for like work or this or that. Great. You do it on a computer or whatever. And that's not like, what's the difference? It's all the difference. Because now you're getting those reward signals over on your computer. It's not being associated with the pick up

• 31:48Cal Newport?

  your phone circuit. And the phone is the thing you have with you all the time. So that matters. All right. Speaking of having it with you all the time, we understand the brain, the second category of advice that we think will actually work is reduce the ubiquity of the cues. So if you don't have your phone right with you all the time, then the amount of time during your day where the pick up the phone pattern fires is reduced because the phone actually has to be accessible for that pattern to fire. So even if the expected reward is really high for looking at your phone, if the phone is not there, the pattern that's going to generate that vote is not going to fire. Now, the easiest way to do this, I've been now saying this for a while now, people don't like this advice,

• 32:31Cal Newport?

  but I'm telling you, you need to do this. When you're at home, your phone is plugged in in your kitchen.

• 32:38Cal Newport?

  Plug in your charger, whatever. That is where your phone lives. If you need to check on like a text message conversation, you go to the kitchen and you check on it. If there's a call you're expecting, you put on the ringer like an old fashioned phone. And if it rings, you go in there and you check on it. If you want to listen to a podcast while you do the dishes, you use air but you use wireless earphones so that the phone can stay where it is plugged in. So importantly, if you're reading, if you're at the dinner table, if you're watching TV, you're brushing your teeth, like whatever it is, the phone isn't actually there for you to grab. So it makes it the easiest thing you can do to make the queue non ubiquitous. And if the queue is not there,

• 33:20Cal Newport?

  the pattern won't fire and you don't have to fight that vote. All right, the third thing that actually works on to understand the brain is strengthening competing systems. So the short term motivation system is really good. It like, yeah, go get that water. Go pick up this phone because that's like most of what we do during the day. But there are other brain systems that can overwhelm or overwrite the short term reward system. Because like, of course there are. If there weren't, things would get pretty primal pretty quickly. So one of the systems that can overwhelm the vote from the short term system is our long term motivation system. The system that does a better job of simulating

• 34:03Cal Newport?

  the long term future of certain activities, right? So we don't just have a direct connection. The short term system is like, I can associate the immediate reward we'll get by doing this. When I eat the cookie, it will feel like this. When I pick up the phone, almost immediately we'll get something like this type of reward. The long term system is thinking about, for example, when you're picking up a weight, it's looking down the line for you being in shape. Or when you're, you know, working on a book chapter, it's looking down the line towards the book being done.

• 34:35Cal Newport?

  And it's doing more of a complex simulation. So instead of it just being an association, this cue with this reward, it actually does a whole simulation. There's, there's a fascinating literature about how these simulations work. I've talked about them before on previous episodes, but it uses like stored memories about experiences from the past. It has like a logical simulator that then takes those memories. They try to figure out possible futures and based on those memories, what can it expect? Anyway, the reward signals from that system can easily overwhelm those from the short term system. This is why like we do boring, hard stuff at our jobs, even though there's like more fun things nearby we could be doing because like the long-term reward of like keeping our job

• 35:20Cal Newport?

  and like having this thing that my boss is asking me for is like swamping the short-term reward of like, well, don't we want to go to like the snack machine right now? Wouldn't that be fun? So you can strengthen this long-term reward system by practicing and introducing discipline into your life. And by discipline, I mean getting used to the long-term pursuit of goals that require consistent action over time and then have really good rewarding outcomes on the other end. The more of these you have, the more power you're giving to your long-term reward system. And the more comfortable it is saying, hey, short-term system, I don't care about your vote. The reward that really feels good is when these big, long-term projects succeed. Let's go work on that type of thing.

• 36:02Cal Newport?

  And so the more your brain gets used to discipline, it gets used to working on long-term projects and reaping big rewards down the line, the easier time you'll have basically pushing aside the incentive salience that you're getting from the short-term system and turn your attention to efforts that maybe in the moment, aren't as pleasurable, but your brain's like, I know where this story ends and that's the real stuff. And the long-term reward system, of course, is like how the human species has really differentiated itself as part of at least how we really differentiate ourselves from other animals. As we can overcome these sort of short-term impulses to work on, you know, building fire, inventing language, or mathematics, or building like massive structures. And there's so many things we do that differentiate us from other animals because our long-term reward

• 36:47Cal Newport?

  systems got hyperdrive. So you practice strengthening your competing systems, practicing disciplined pursuit of long-term important goals really begins to shift the balance of power within your brain and the short-term reward system gets much less, much less play.

• 37:05Cal Newport?

  All right. So there we go. Those are, once we understand the brain, the things that we know don't work and the things that I think actually will work. They're not as sexy, by the way, right? They're annoying, the things that do work. It's like, take the fun stuff off your phone. Keep your phone plugged in when you're in the kitchen and be disciplined. That's not fun. I want to have like a fun detox every week and make my, my phone grayscale and rail against like Mark Zuckerberg being bad. Like all that stuff's more fun. This stuff is not fun, but it works because it's actually compatible with our brain. All right. So Jesse, let's do some takeaways. We have some takeaway music.

• 37:50Cal Newport?

  All right. So here's what I feel about this. There was a time when talking about spending too much time on your phone sort of sounded like a kids these days type of old man yelling from his porch type of advice, but we're past that time. No one is happy about how much of their life is punctuated by that little glowing piece of glass, nor are they happy about the impact this is having, not just on their ability to live deeply, but on our society and our ability for like our political system to function, the mental health of our kids, the freedom from random nihilistic violence.

• 38:23Cal Newport?

  So eliminating that sense of needing to constantly look at your phone, that addictive sense to look at your phone, has never been something that people care more about. And the message I'm hoping to deliver today is that not all advice about this goal is made equal. It's not enough to just say, let me go try some stuff. Different advice works better than others. And if you study how the brain actually works, and how it actually creates the sense of motivation, and what circuits are firing and why to get you to keep looking back at that, that device again and again. When you understand that, it becomes much clearer that most things that you might try to fix that problem are ineffective. But there are a few things that we can expect to work really well. And again, as I just said, they're not sexy.

• 39:06Cal Newport?

  It's taking apps like TikTok off your phone. Just get rid of that super clean reward signal associated with your phone. It's about putting your phone in the kitchen when you're at home, or going for a walk without it. Get rid of the cue, the pattern doesn't fire. And if it doesn't fire, it begins to weaken. And finally, strengthening the other systems. The systems that really make us human, and that can overwhelm the short-term motivation system. The systems like long-term motivation based on the discipline pursuit of stuff that you care about. Focus on those, that the balance of power shifts in your brain and the short-term motivation system doesn't have so much say. None of that is easy. None of it is fun. But once we understand how strong those reward loops are in our brain, we see how far we really have to push ourselves if we want to get free. The little stuff isn't going to matter. It's the big uncool,

• 39:53Cal Newport?

  but effective stuff that we have to focus on and we have to push on that hard. So we can tame our phones. It just requires understanding what really we're trying to do. We set out to accomplish that goal. There we go. That's my, this is your phone? On, your brains on phone? Is that the way we go? This is your brains? Yeah. On phones? That's my, that's my analysis, Jesse. Have you seen those fob things?

• 40:19Speaker 01

  No.

• 40:19Cal Newport?

  I saw them. I was doing a doc, filming a documentary. They're filming at my house and some of the crew was showing them to me. They were using them. You, you have to touch it to your phone to unlock it. So the idea is you put that, you know, you're like, oh, there's this like friction step. Yeah. And the reason, like, it seems like kind of a weird thing, but like, the reason why that became a big product is that Apple, they make it hard. They really don't want third-party apps to have control over other apps on their phone. They changed this. There used to be apps, a lot of apps you could buy on your phone that restrict your phone use. But those are hard to make now because their new terms of service say, your app can't affect someone else's app. You want to control your phone time, you have to use screen time. But as we talked about on the show over the summer,

• 41:04Cal Newport?

  screen time is great if you're trying to control your kid's phone, but if you're in control of the screen time, you can just turn it off.

• 41:09Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 41:10Cal Newport?

  So, but one thing you can do is have an unlock, is just locking and unlocking can be very strong. But that's what the fob thing is, is it's just like an unlock mechanism. Your phone is, anything goes when you turn it on. So I thought those were cool, but you know, they're not going to be enough because that is not enough, that friction is not enough to change the expected rewards. So there we go. All right. We got a lot of good show coming up on this topic. We have questions from listeners about their own struggles with both them and their kids trying to deal with their phones, including a mom of an 11-year-old, who I think really is looking for permission from me to say, get that 11-year-old your phone. Going to go the way she thinks, I think. We also have, coming up a little

• 41:55Cal Newport?

  bit later, my reading list from last month, where I talked about the five books I read in September. I think that's really well-suited for today's episode. Because what could be more contrary to looking at your phone all the time than reading? I kind of like that. I mean, I try to do this early each month, but I think it, going over the books I read is like a really good sort of in cap to discussion we're having today. But before we get into all of that, let's do a little housekeeping. Jesse, do we have any housekeeping about the show we need to get to this week?

• 42:25Speaker 01

  Yes, we do. We need some more calls specifically about. Phone usage, social media, that sort of thing.

• 42:33Cal Newport?

  How do people call into the show and leave calls to be featured on the show?

• 42:38Speaker 01

  They just go to the deeplife.com/listen and there's a link right there at the top.

• 42:42Cal Newport?

  Right. So you could do this right from your phone or your computer, from your web browser. We need more calls. The calls we have are all pretty deep worky, pretty productivity-y. So what we really need is calls about other types of struggles you have with technology in your life and questions about technology, questions about technology in life, questions about creating a life that is more internet proof. We're really looking for that. So you have a good chance of getting featured. What else do we got?

• 43:10Speaker 01

  If you're interested in the newsletter, which is revamped and awesome, it comes out every Monday morning. They can go to calnewport.com and sign up, and they can also go to the deeplife.com and sign up.

• 43:19Cal Newport?

  Yeah, you gotta sign up for that. Basically, I guess the way I would say it recently, Jesse, is really like the newsletter's been in conversation with the podcast. So like often, like the newsletter that came out, that came out today, the day this episode's coming out, is taking one of the ideas from the podcast and actually running with it. So there's a lot of that going on, or I'll get a reaction to the podcast for our newsletter. So really like the newsletter plus the podcast together really gets you into these ideas a lot better than one on their own. All right, anything else?

• 43:50Speaker 01

  Did you see that Paramount's buying the Free Press for 150 million?

• 43:55Cal Newport?

  I did see that. Yeah. I think that's a good sign, I guess, for those of us doing independent media.

• 44:02Cal Newport?

  Here's what I want you to put on your list. Call NBC and tell them, hey, look, we're reasonable. They can have deep questions for like 100, right? Because they don't need... Because I guess that's what they're doing now. Does that mean I get a host of this day show? Like, how's this work if they buy us?

• 44:20Cal Newport?

  We could do four hours in the morning.

• 44:21Speaker 01

  I think it's politically oriented as well, based on, you know, the politics of the current.

• 44:27Cal Newport?

  The one thing, because it seems to be like a lot of people reacting, who are like online, who are... Upset or very jealous about the money? I do want to just make a like, here's my business PSA. Barry Weiss did not just get handed $150 million. I think people read that and they're like, oh, someone just gave $150 million to Barry Weiss. No, no, no, there's a, an agreement to buy the Free Press, which unfolds over many years. And much of that has to do with stocks and stock swaps. So there's like a certain amount of stock the Free Press is going to get every year. So the actual amount that in the end, the purchase will depend on what the Paramount stock does. Barry Weiss doesn't own 100% of the Free Press. They've taken on, I mean, they have many partners when they started.

• 45:12Cal Newport?

  They've taken on a lot of venture capital. So, you know, yeah, she made a lot of money. I don't want to downplay it, but she didn't just get $150 million. I think people don't always.

• 45:23Speaker 01

  Speaking of the Free Press, you need to have Neil Ferguson on the show.

• 45:27Cal Newport?

  That's a smart guy. Niall, Niall Ferguson. Did you read something of his recently?

• 45:33Speaker 01

  Um, yeah, but, and then I signed up for the Free Press and I get alerts when he writes stuff.

• 45:38Cal Newport?

  He's a cool guy. Neil, Neil Ferguson. People say Neil, but it's N I A L L.

• 45:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 45:46Cal Newport?

  He was a historic, he was at Harvard before he went to the Hoover. And he was a historical economist or an econo, economic historian, I guess. Like the, the thing is like, he was a historian, but would use the tools of economics to do his history, right? So it'd be like, one of these things where like, oh, we're, we want to learn more about like the medieval Florence in like the early Renaissance period. And that type of historian, like, hey, we're going to go read all the, the, like the ledgers. And we're going to like reconstruct, like how the money was moving through the economy. And it was really cool. I think that type of, he's a, he's a really smart guy. He writes a lot of books. Yeah. But then he left, he's conservative ish.

• 46:30Cal Newport?

  I mean, it's all relative, but then he went to the Hoover Institution at Stanford. Yeah, I think he's a smart guy. We should have him on. And he has a, he has an accent, right?

• 46:36Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 46:37Cal Newport?

  And he's going to sound so much smarter. Here's what we're going to do. All right. Here's how we're going to count, we're going to have Neil Ferguson on. I'm afraid his English accent is going to make him seem smarter than me.

• 46:43Speaker 01

  So you can speak in your French accent.

• 46:45Cal Newport?

  Well, no, here's a solution from last week's episode. It's even better. When I speak, we put the Jordan Peterson violin music behind me.

• 46:54Cal Newport?

  Just like, like just really, so then I'm gonna sound more profound than I can counteract his, his English accent. And when he speaks, I'm thinking like, someone playing the spoons, or like, you know, you can play the jug, where you blow into the, the moonshine jug with the triple X's on it, as part of like, an old time band from the depression. We're gonna play that behind him to kind of reduce the impact of his English accent. And then for me, it's going to be like, really emotional violin music. I'm gonna talk real slowly. Alright, that's housekeeping for today. Let's move on to some questions. Who do we got first, Jesse?

• 47:30Speaker 01

  First question's from Andy. My 11 year old son is the only one in his class without a smartphone. He gets bullied and he feels left out of trends. Smartphones aren't allowed at the school, but that doesn't change the fact that he's clearly missing out.

• 47:43Cal Newport?

  Well, I mean, first of all, I'll say, I recognize the, the issues here. And I recognize that's really hard. And it's also not really fair for my generation of parents, and especially the people in my generation who are a little bit older, like whose kids are in high school or just going into college now, because we didn't sign up to have to be part of this experiment of let's take this incredibly powerful new technology, let's give it to our kids, and be like, let's see what happens. Like, let's just make it socially ubiquitous, and then leave it on individual parents to like, okay, you gotta go read like John Height's 700 page, you know, annotated bibliography online about mental health impacts of smartphones, and make a decision that's gonna make you like, a complete outlier in your community.

• 48:24Cal Newport?

  It is really, uh, we really put a really big burden on parents. So I have a lot of empathy. This is a really hard time. Couple of things I want to say here. It's probably not true that your 11 year old's the only kid in your class, not with, without a smartphone, but it can really feel that way. And at some schools, that is more true than others. That's changing now, which I think is good, but that hasn't completely changed yet. I will also say if he's being bullied, the phone's not gonna help. But one of the big concerns, and, and I did a, a talk recently at my kid's school, where I went through and said, why are the experts actually concerned about these things? And I broke those concerns into four categories, and I talked about the, the four categories. And one of the, the

• 49:06Cal Newport?

  categories was the, the sort of negative externality of, externalities of digital sociality. Which by the way, Jesse, is exactly the way to talk when you're trying to impress a bunch of seventh graders. They really like that. It was funny because we were doing it for the students and their parents. But there's these negative externalities of digital sociality. And one of them is there's whole parts of our brain that give us sort of like interpersonal guardrails that, you know, prevents me from like trying to club Jesse when I'm upset about, you know, an ad transition or something. We have all these interpersonal guardrails that makes us more reasonable people. We need that to survive as like a community oriented species. A lot of them turn off when social interactions become purely linguistic.

• 49:50Cal Newport?

  So when I am just sending texts to you on Snapchat or on WhatsApp, yes, if you ask my prefrontal cortex, is there a person like, am I talking to Jesse over WhatsApp? It knows it, right? It's not confused about it. But many of these other deeper social circuits aren't seeing a person, they're not hearing a person, so they are turned off. The guardrails get turned off, which means in purely linguistic interaction, we're basically like worse people. We're much more likely to be mean or to bully. I mean, obviously, we see this among adults on social media all the time, just like the stuff they say on X, you know, it's crazy, right? Like how enraged or outraged or how mean or how terrible they get.

• 50:32Cal Newport?

  It's because the stuff that stops us from saying that in person is turned off when it's linguistic. So anyways, bullying goes up when you move more conversation digital. And then if you're in a compromised social situation in school, and by the way, tell your 11 year old that it does get, you know, it will get better. Middle school is not great necessarily, but like keep doing what you're doing, you know, you have interests, develop skills, develop disciplines, start doing stuff that's like really hard and following through it will get better. But if you're having a struggle socially, then the other thing that happens when I have a smartphone, again, man, such a burden, is your relief goes away. So those interactions are happening all the time, not just at school, at home.

• 51:16Cal Newport?

  You're doing your homework, when you're at dinner, you're going upstairs to bed. It's right there on your phone all the time. So you get no cognitive relief from high-stakes social interaction, which is exhausting. And if, and if you're in a socially compromised situation, they're also really negative potentially. And so that's like even worse. So this is not a solution. If you're upset about your social situation in middle school, like in a classic social middle school, like I'm not fitting in, it was bullying situation. Hey, here's a phone that people can be like bigger jerks and you have to be in touch with them all the time. That's not necessarily going to make that better. There's a couple of things that can help with this collective action problem. I'm a fan of things like the wait for eighth pledge, where you get parents in your grade to sign up and you use the wait for eight website onto this pledge.

• 52:01Cal Newport?

  If I'm not going to give a phone to my kid until after eighth grade, which is like roughly when like John Height recommends, when the surgeon general recommends, the last surgeon general, it's sort of like an emergent consensus, wait till high school to have your first smartphone. And it gives you statistics and that's where it's powerful. And then you can say, you know what? You're not the only kid not to have a phone. Thirty-three percent of your grade has signed on to a pledge, saying that their kids aren't going to get a phone until high school anyways. So that, that social evidence of you're not the only one is very effective because you do not need 99% of your class to not have a phone before you feel comfortable with that. You need roughly like 15 to 20% before that becomes a socially acceptable option. So I'm a big fan of those. You can help organize one of those pledges. The way this works is it's really parents in grades at individual schools say, I want

• 52:46Cal Newport?

  to pledge for our grade. And they get together with a couple of parents and you put together an email and you tell the school and the school gives you the email addresses and you send it out. That's all it is. And grade by grade, you begin to create these pledges, which I think are very powerful. We should start those as early as third or fourth grade. So you have different options there. Okay. And then you have lots of logistical things like, you know, if there's group chats you want to be a part of, you can have, set up group chat on a family iPad and you have certain times set aside where he can, he can look at the iPad and do the group text and stuff like that. But I really want to add friction to the idea of like, wouldn't it all just be easier if I just gave him the phone? I wouldn't have to be dealing with this. It's really so bad. And I really want to emphasize it is.

• 53:28Cal Newport?

  That is not going to be the solution to these things, the social things you worry about, his social things. There's so much bad that comes with it. What I want to do here, I don't know if we have this, Jesse. Do we have that clip?

• 53:37Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 53:38Cal Newport?

  I want to play. Here's an ad that's been going around the internet. It's from a smartphone-free childhood. It's a nonprofit organization. They did an ad. We only have the audio here, but you can kind of imagine the visuals here, which I think does a good job of making you confront the reality of what happens if you give, you know, your 11-year-old a smartphone. So we're going to hear the audio that so just to set the visual of this ad. There's like 11-year-old kid. I think it's like a 10 or 11-year-old looking kid, like a young-looking kid that age and a dad is in bed and that his dad is like at the doorway, like saying goodnight to him. All right, let's hear this audio, Jesse.

• 54:13Speaker 06

  Hey kiddo, it's about time for bed, okay? Okay. Well, remember, there's a box in the corner over there with all the pornographic material that's ever been made in the world, even the really weird stuff that could scar you for life. I'm trusting you not to look in there, okay? Okay. Feelings are for losers. Oh, and this guy's going to be in your corner all night, just randomly spewing out hateful things. Just ignore him, okay? Well, I'm thinking of it. There's an order form on your desk where you can purchase illegal drugs. The mean girls from your school are going to be standing there talking about you all night.

• 54:47Speaker 06

  And this Russian hacker is going to keep asking for your password. I'm not hacker. Amazon customer service. Just need you to ignore him, okay? Love you, buddy. We ask too much of our kids when we give them a smartphone. Let's change the norm together. Maybe we go around Rome and share social security numbers. Join the movement at smartphonefreechildhoodus.com.

• 55:08Cal Newport?

  Yeah, I'll get it anyway.

• 55:12Cal Newport?

  Like, we try to hide that reality, but it's the truth. Like, would you ever, with like your 11-year-old, be like, look, I am gonna put? Pornography and bullies and sort of like weird interest group like these influencers that have these like really weird agendas. There's gonna be a bunch of hackers. Let's put in there like catfishers too that are gonna try to pretend that they're like young women on text messages then try to like exploit you out of money, which has been causing like a very large like trend and self harm. Like all this stuff. Oh, and like a lot of addictions. Like let me just put in like constant video games and TVs are always on and like addictive stuff in here. And just like, I trust you and just like handle it, you know? It's an incredible

• 55:54Cal Newport?

  thing to ask of a kid and that's what happens to give him the smartphone. So it's hard, but stand strong is what I would say. I think norms are changing and your kid will thank you not to have to deal with all that at their current age. All right. Who do we got next?

• 56:09Speaker 01

  Next up is Natasha. I want to quit social media. However, I sometimes get an irrational urge to show off. I think everybody feels this to some extent. They want to brag about their looks, their lifestyle, body, wealth, job, intelligence, whatever. I was often the weird loner at school and as an adult, I still have that chip on my shoulder. How should I overcome this?

• 56:29Cal Newport?

  All right. Well, the main thing I want to say is the urge is not irrational. So like the, the, deep down, the urge you're feeling is just like a very human urge. The thing that is abnormal here is the technology medium in which that urge is being expressed. That is what sort of perverts things and creates the negative outcomes. So what is the natural, so to speak, outlet for this urge to like want to show off? Well, the real natural outlet for that is that like, I want to have respect and be in a position of leadership in my communities. That is where that's going. I want, in the communities I'm involved in, real world communities where I know what the people look like and I see them in person. In those communities, I want to over time, through sacrifice service and demonstration of competency, build up like

• 57:14Cal Newport?

  increasing levels of respect and leadership. The people look to me, they're impressed by me, and they want me to like be in charge of thing or be involved or someone they can count on. That is actually what we crave. The social media just takes that craving and perverts it. This is like what happens with a lot of the attention economy based engagement technology is they take completely normal human impulses or urges that actually can lead to very positive outcomes. That's why we evolved to have them and they hijack them. You know, they hijack them, right? It's just like boredom is like a very strong urge that is meant to try to push humans to not just lay in the sun like cats can do and are perfectly happy to do. But to get up and actually go try to see intentions made manifest concretely in the

• 57:58Cal Newport?

  world in positive ways, that leads to invention. That leads to innovation. That leads to protection. I'm going to go build fences around our like paleo that camp. I'm going to try to build a better Flint axe that's going to help us like better do whatever. It's a very human thing. But social media hijacks that. It's like, oh, boredom is bad. It feels good when it goes away. Scroll endlessly on Tik Tok. You know, it's hijacking, right? Just like procreation is good. Pornography hijacks that like, oh, that's there. We can hijack that over here. Like junk food hijacks like our hunger urge. But that's what's being hijacked here by the social validation that's built into as an engagement mechanism in the social media.

• 58:38Cal Newport?

  So take that urge, don't push it away, but find a natural, healthy outlet for it, which is becoming a leader and someone who is respected within actual real world communities. And I'll tell you what, when you match these urges, people feel this all the time, to what they're really meant to drive you towards, it's a completely different feeling. It is a completely different feeling, knowing like, hey, I was here for my community. I stood up and people look up to me. That gives you a sense of satisfaction that lasts so much more than I did like an Instagram filter on my face when I was taking a picture at the beach and you know, it got 50 of those hearts. I don't know what that means. And someone, you know, in broken English was like, you hot.

• 59:22Cal Newport?

  That's like a short term, like, oh, it's a little simulacrum of what that urge is actually driving you towards. So nothing you're doing is irrational, but the technology is screwing with a very healthy, natural urge. Go be a leader, go earn respect among real people. It is, it's the real deal is 10x better than what you get on those screens.

• 59:41Cal Newport?

  All right. Who do we got next?

• 59:42Speaker 01

  Next up is Carl. You talk a lot about phones and social media. I don't actually spend that much time on my phone. My issue is video games. How do I stop playing these so much?

• 59:52Cal Newport?

  Well, if we go through our model of how the brain works, there's a lot of these same brain mechanisms at play. Like games are designed to give you, it's going to be a pretty consistent reward because it's such an artificial environment and it's calibrated to be difficult, but not too difficult. So the reward you get is one of both novelty of your scene stuff. You get a little bit of adrenaline if it's like an action game. And most importantly, you get sort of progress. And so it fits roughly in that model like, oh, I see my video game is here. I'm at home. I could go to the gym. I could read a book or I could pick up the controller. The queue is right there. The controller is right there. And because it's this artificial environment, it can give me like a really clean reward. So it does build up like a strong association. There's a certain type of game that really

• 1:00:35Cal Newport?

  messes with the system even more than our phones do, and that is massive online games. If you talk to people within like technology overuse type related fields and research, the real things they fear are massively online games because they add in some extra elements to make their attraction even more powerful. They have like an endless increase in score. So if you're playing, you know, World of Warcraft or something like this, you're going to get this steady leveling. They do a little bit of effort in level. That's simulating like in real world, building up competency and getting more respect for it, which is a very powerful driver. They simulate it in those games. Now, of course, you get this when you're just playing like Mario a little bit because you're making

• 1:01:16Cal Newport?

  progress. But in the online multiplayer games, your mind is like, no, no, no, other people know what level I'm at and they see it. So that's much more powerful. It's simulating like I am in a real community of people and I am earning their respect. I just talked about that in my answer to Natasha, that that's a strong urge. This thing grabs it way stronger than like getting hearts on Instagram and like really twist it. So that is super compelling. Also, the sense of it hijacks this sense of like, I have, this is my tribe. Because I hear them in my headset, we're on like a Discord server while we play or whatever. And I'm with them all the time and we're doing stuff that kind of pushes the buttons of like adventures and trials.

• 1:01:58Cal Newport?

  It's not the real things. It's not nearly as strong as like, I'm actually in battle with people. But it simulates that sort of Band of Brothers type connection. This is super, super addictive on top of all the other just standard, like we have nice positive reward signals to get associated with it. That's where we have the most problems. It's where like, if you look to South Korea where they're, they're sort of, they 5X all the problems we have with technology here because it's like a much more technology focused culture. They have detox centers there for these video games. Not for phones, but for massively online video games. They have cases over there of people dying because they played the game so long that it was like dehydration and they had heart issues. So you gotta be worried.

• 1:02:39Cal Newport?

  Probably the most addictive consumer facing technology we have are some of these massively online player games. I'd be really worried about it. Like my advice about those games is like a game where a lot of people are playing at the same time. Just don't play them. Just don't use it. Just, I would just stay away from it. Right? It's like, don't get, you know, you might be like a marijuana user. Don't get near the stuff that might have fentanyl in it. Like, why even like play with that? Okay? So I am very wary, I am very wary of those games. What would I would recommend if you're playing video games? AAA games are usually the best that are non multiplayer. A AAA game, it costs 60 bucks. It has about 50 hours of gameplay programmed into it. It's supposed to be stretched out. It's challenging. I'm going to want to take breaks because it's hard. I'm not leveling up in a way that like someone's watching me and like, yeah, that's like,

• 1:03:24Cal Newport?

  your, your equivalent of like me watching a lot of movies. I'm not so worried about that. But I worry about the massively online, online player games. So to give you actual advice, Carl, don't play those. Just stop playing those. You know, just grownups shouldn't play those games. Stop playing those games. If you like other video games like Work of Art that are single player and AAA, then like, yeah, you could treat it like TV. You know, like, yeah, instead of watching a movie on, on, when I get home on Friday night, I'm going to play the video game for two or three hours. I guess that's okay. I'm not as worried about that. All right. Who do we got next?

• 1:03:53Speaker 01

  Next up is Carissa. I spend most of my time on my phone text messaging. I don't really think I'm addicted, but feel there's a ton of stuff to figure out and people's questions to answer. What do I do about this?

• 1:04:05Cal Newport?

  Yeah, that's a complicated question. We did an episode about this earlier in the summer about text messaging actually being a major driver of phone use, especially when you get a little bit older and you have more responsibilities and maybe you're doing logistics for kids or you just have like a complicated social life or work slash social life you're trying to navigate. And this really complicates the picture because when we're talking about something like TikTok, that's purely optional. Like it gives you a nice reward signal, but you do not need that particular reward signal to function in any way. And no one notices or cares if you stop using TikTok. People do notice if you stop becoming available on the messaging services. So the hard thing with these is trying to differentiate between

• 1:04:48Cal Newport?

  logistical necessity and social driven addiction cues. And so here's the issue. You might be using this a lot mainly because I'm just involved in six threads that are all relevant because they're all logistics and timing and I have to figure it out. But there's also a really strong cue here that our short-term reward center is going to really care about, which is there might be people waiting for me to respond. And the, the negative affect they have towards me will increase the longer I'm not responding. That catches our attention. People are getting madder every minute I don't look at my phone, potentially makes

• 1:05:30Cal Newport?

  you really want to look at your phone and for obvious reasons, right? So these two things together can make this really powerful. The best solutions here, as we talked about in the episode of the summer, is not just to abstain, I just don't use my phone anymore, but to try to reroute the actual necessary communication more out of these text messages and/or to reprogram over time, the expectations of people who communicate to you through these apps. So that your mind is not so worried that people are upset like, you know, we, we have different ways of organizing, different logistics, ways we check in, I'll call someone once a day, or we figure out a plan in advance. So there's like less stuff

• 1:06:13Cal Newport?

  that's probably coming in urgent. And also people have learned in my circles, my phone's in my kitchen. And so I come and I check it, but if maybe once an hour, but there might be a two hour break and they can call if there's something really time urgent. That tells your brain like they're not just sitting there upset and stewing. They know and understand the way you use your phone. You basically have to change your relationship to communication. So that frequent time sensitive communication coming through text messages is not that common anymore that people understand you're not always checking it. And because of that, you have the backup phone calls and other types of logistical types of things you do. That's all a pain. What I'm saying is do that pain. It's worth the pain. Because the cost, on the other hand, is the almost addictively have to check that phone

• 1:06:57Cal Newport?

  all the time. And that has so many negative impacts. It's worth the pain of like, I have a kind of janky way I deal with like logistics and communication. It's worth, it's worth the effort. All right, let's see. Do we have one more question?

• 1:07:12Speaker 01

  Yep. Next up is Robert. I have newspaper apps on my phone, like the Washington Post, the New York Times, and New York Post. I also have these on my iPad where I normally read my news. Is it fine that I occasionally read these apps on my phone? I don't go on social media sites when doing so.

• 1:07:29Cal Newport?

  It's not the worst thing in the world. What I would recommend, if you're going to look at like the New York Times app, is treat it like a newspaper and just say like, yeah, this is when I sit down like with my morning coffee or something and I go through because it's, it's not super dynamic. They kind of set it for each day and then have some minor changes throughout the day based on what's happening. Let me go through and like see which articles I read and maybe one of the opinion pieces I read. And then you're kind of like done with the New York Times for the day.

• 1:07:59Cal Newport?

  Just like you would have done in a day where you had the newspaper and you would read it over breakfast and that's it. And now you're done reading the newspaper. If you treat it that way, it doesn't really matter what medium you're reading it on. An interesting thing about the New York Times in particular is in their app design and in the way that they're now thinking about news stories, they're highly influenced by the success of other news bearing social media, which they see as their competitors. And it's reflected in the way they actually cover news now. So you'll notice two things they do to try to prevent you from bypassing them and going straight to something like Twitter when there's breaking news. The first thing they do is the live updates. That is a direct response to social media. So they want to give you a sense if there's some sort of breaking thing happening, that

• 1:08:42Cal Newport?

  if you're on the app, there will be updates. It'll keep updating and you can click the thing, show me the new updates or whatever, because they know people have now learned through social media. It's not enough of like something happened, I'm going to wait till we know more about it, then I'll read an article that summarizes what we know. And then maybe later that day or the next day, I'll get like this, okay, a day later, now what do we know? I need to be like collecting information, right? That's what social media taught us. I have to be like Woodstein and Woodward and Bernstein and all the president's men, like trying to put together all the pieces. Like you want to have just like information coming at you. So they try to simulate this, but like, oh, we'll do these like breaking like reports. The other thing they do, which is very conscious reaction to social media,

• 1:09:25Cal Newport?

  is they'll do five articles on an issue. Like instead of just like, okay, here's what happened. Here's what's going on, right? And here's our article where we explain what's going on. Like we'll do five articles on it. Here's what's happening. Here's another take on it. Here's a news analysis on it. Here's looking at the other side of it. Cause they want you to feel like we're flooding the box. I have lots of things I can read about this thing I care about. Again, 15 years ago, this would be weird. Just have a good article on it that you put in what you know. But social media train people, again, they want to be reading lots of stuff. I want to read this and that and this. And I kind of want to like immerse myself in what's happening. So they do that now. So they'll generate five articles on something right away as opposed to one. So it's interesting. So they've

• 1:10:06Cal Newport?

  had to respond. They've had to respond to social media that tried to be attractive. But it's fine. You can read it on your phone. Just do it once a day. I mean, again, they don't update those apps that much because it's a newspaper model. So there's not that much for you to see there, even if you check it all the time. All right. We still have a lot of more cool stuff on this topic to come, including a case study from one of my listeners where they talk about what happened when they, as a parent, I'm gonna have to gasp here, changed their mind and took a piece of technology they had given their kid back again. Turns out you can do that. So we'll see what actually happened there. Hint, it involves a double murder. Not really. That would be funny if that's how it ended up. Like, and she killed, he killed me and my wife. No. All right.

• 1:10:51Cal Newport?

  And we also have a phone call about Instagram. What's our phone call about something like that? Yeah, we got a phone call from a listener about Instagram. And of course, I get to reveal the five books I read in September. So we got a lot of cool content coming forward on this topic. But first, stay tuned, because we just have to take a quick break to hear from our sponsors.

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• 1:12:15Cal Newport?

  And you kind of explain what's going on if something unusual is happening and they give you feedback and you know you're checking with this coach every day, it keeps you on track. The coach helps you figure out your plan. What are we doing with your diet? What are we doing with your fitness? You can use, the coach can help you when you're like, hey, I'm going on a trip. How do I adjust this? So having like this coach that's working with you, holding you accountable, but also giving you information and helping you adjust, it really makes this work way better than if you just try to do this on your own. So if you're trying to get healthier, whatever that means to you, and you're worried about trying to do this on your own, you've tried before and it's failed. MyBodyTutor is a fantastic model for getting this done. I have good news. Adam will give Deep Question listeners $50 off their first

• 1:13:00Cal Newport?

  month if you mention you came from this podcast when you sign up. So definitely do that. So head over to MyBodyTutor.com, T-U-T-O-R, MyBodyTutor.com. Tell them you came from Deep Questions, get $50 off and begin your quest towards becoming healthier. I just want to talk about our friends at Indeed. Jesse, let me tell you something I'm not very good at, which is hiring. We recently hired a creative director to help run the newsletter, among other things. And you know what my process was for trying to hire this person? I took a receipt I found in my pocket and I wrote on the back, me, need newsletter guy, money, maybe, non-juggler preferred. I just nailed that to a telephone pole. Long story short, the juggler we hired did not seem pretty good, actually. So that was okay. But there

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• 1:14:13Cal Newport?

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• 1:14:51Cal Newport?

  I want to do a case study here. This is where listeners write in to talk about how the ideas we talk about on the show have actually impacted their lives. We got a good one today, but we can't do a case study till we get our mind in the right situation, the right context. And the best way to do that, Jesse, is playing our case study theme music.

• 1:15:18Cal Newport?

  All right, our case study today comes from John. John says, "Our daughter is currently finishing fifth grade. At the end of fourth grade, she began walking home from school, so we got her an Apple Watch for calls and location tracking. However, at the end of fifth grade, she began focusing on the watch to the exclusion of people around her, at times becoming visibly upset by some of the group texts she was on. Then her grades began suffering. So after a few attempts to work around the tech, we took the watch away permanently, locked up the TV remotes until 5:00 PM during the week, and allowed unlimited books. Last month, she tested into eighth grade math and achieved the highest score in her grade on an end of year literature exam. Her social life certainly hasn't suffered either. She

• 1:16:02Cal Newport?

  now has a flip phone for calls and emergencies, but the novelty wore off quickly, and it lacks the intense stimulus of the watch. We otherwise do our best to favor in-person interaction through hangouts, sports, and scouting." So, surprise, surprise, Jesse. You give these technologies that completely overwhelm the short-term motivation centers in our brain, and you give it to a fourth grader, and their brain goes haywire. And, you know, I feel like we, we pretend like this is not true, but it is, it's like that commercial that we just played for. You're giving all these capabilities to someone who's, you know, nine.

• 1:16:35Cal Newport?

  And you're like, okay, we just like, trust you to use this well. So well done, John, realizing that like, yeah, you can change your mind. I get this all the time at talks where people are like, man, I wish I hadn't. I wish I hadn't given like this phone to like my kid, like what can I do, you know? And I was like, well, you are the parent. Like you can change your mind. And if you're not willing to fully change your mind, the thing I've been recommending that people do say, okay. Yeah, you have a phone, it's not yours, it's ours, we pay for it, it's not your property, you have no right to it. I always joke in my talks that these kids who, you know, talk monosyllabically when it comes to like, you try to take their phone away, become like Burkey and private property scholars, like this is liberty is built on the, the private possession of property. And you may not trod on my freedom, what is, it's your phone.

• 1:17:19Cal Newport?

  And so you just say like, okay, at home, my phone lives in the kitchen. So when you're home, we plug it in there and you can go there if you need to text your friends. Or you need to check in on things, but you don't have it at the dinner table and you don't have it at the couch. And you certainly don't have it upstairs in your room with the sheets over your head. The phone lives here. None of this, I really don't like when I hear the parents like, I wish, please, please stop using your, we're trying to eat dinner. Oh, please stop using your phone. What can you do, kids these days? I don't know. It's your phone, you're paying for it, lives in the kitchen, so you can go back. All right. What I do with my kids, um, so people do ask what we do. None of my kids have phones. We, we own a couple of family flip phones. Not a kid's phones, family phones.

• 1:18:02Cal Newport?

  It's like the phone we leave, if one of our kids is at home and we're out going for a walk, like that's our equivalent of the, the old fashioned phone. If you need to like, there's an emergency or whatever. And if you're going somewhere, like taking the public bus to baseball practice, where it would be good to have a backup or you could tell us something went wrong. You can basically like check out one of the family flip phones, which are terrible to use. And it's like really bad technology. You can check one out to bring with you. To have in case there's a problem when you get back, we take it back. And just like John was talking about, there's something interesting on these phones. They don't actually want to use them. That's what we do. What I was worried about location tracking for my second grader, what I, what I innovated instead, I think this is a really good idea, is that I actually integrated into his backpack,

• 1:18:44Cal Newport?

  a 150 decibel fire siren. And what I have it do is just at random intervals, it just wails for 30 seconds at a time. So I can kind of just see where he is around town. It's like, oh, I hear. I hear the fire siren over by the library. So that's, you know, that works. You gotta innovate. That's the idea. All right. So good. Way to go, John. And don't give her a smartphone until high school and have it super locked down. And don't give her a less locked down smartphone with social media till she's 16. That's my advice. All right. Do we have a call this week?

• 1:19:12Speaker 01

  We do.

• 1:19:13Cal Newport?

  All right, let's hear this.

• 1:19:14Speaker 07

  Hi, Cal. Thank you so much for your content and writing. It's been a great help for me and countless others. A question today is around Instagram. As an aspiring photographer, I'm wondering what your thoughts on if I need a growing presence on Instagram to make a success in the photography? Or do you think I can do it without it? It feels like in today's world, it'd be difficult to be successful in fields like this without a social media presence. I appreciate you, mate. Thank you.

• 1:19:48Cal Newport?

  All right. It's a good question. I don't know that it's vital for you to be successful, but let's say you're worried about it and we want to alleviate this worry. Understanding what we now know about how the brain works and creating that urge, look at your phone that we talked about in the beginning of the show, this gives us some options here that can give us a little bit more confidence. And the clear option that comes to mind for your situation

• 1:20:09Cal Newport?

  is if you need an Instagram presence for your photography, it should have nothing to do with your phone. Do it from your laptop. Now, this is going to be easier for you, by the way, because if you're a professional photographer, your photos are not being taken on your phone. So you're going to have to be like uploading them onto your computer anyways before you post them. One of the reasons why Instagram is so successful is you had to, it was mobile native. Because for most people, the photos they were posting were taken on their phone. And so it was mobile native. And the reason why it took off ahead of Facebook at the time when it really began to take off in the second, the 2010s, is because Facebook was just moving on the mobile, but people didn't yet have that ingrained habit of like, oh, I want to go to Facebook on my phone. They were used to

• 1:20:53Cal Newport?

  this like something they did at work when they were bored. It was like a website they went to. But Instagram was mobile native because the whole idea was I took a picture on my phone and now I can go over into Instagram and post it. And so it got this really big user growth. It wasn't just the user growth, it was the engagement that really made Facebook perk up. Oh, wow. Instagram users use it a lot because it, the camera was on your phone. And so it was the first real social app where people associated it with like, oh, I do this on my phone. And then they built up that. The, the reward signal got really strong and they built up that pattern recognizer in their short-term motivation system and they started picking up their phone all the time. So Instagram more than Facebook actually got people looking, looking at their phone more

• 1:21:34Cal Newport?

  than they planned. Okay. So do your photography Instagram on your computer. Don't have it on your phone. Don't log into Instagram on Safari on your phone. Have a bad password and never type it in on your phone. So it's not something you can do impulsively. By bad, I mean good, like in the sense of it would be complicated to remember. It kind of confused me here. Bad, like cool, you know what I'm talking about. Right. And so now, and then this could be like, you know, have a plan. Think about your Instagram for photography as like one of the boring things that you have to do. It's like sending out your stupid invoices and like the invoice reminders. Like I gotta go into like QuickBooks and like click these buttons and I hate it and no one ever really knows what's happening in QuickBooks and you just press these buttons. You're like, I think this kind of worked,

• 1:22:18Cal Newport?

  right? Like it, treat it like that. I got to log it on my computer. I gotta import the photos and I'm gonna change the format and make it more of this. I go to my Instagram account. I load it in and I have this copy and I post that and then I log out again and you do it three times a week and that's how your stuff gets up there. Your brain never builds up the cue of your phone being involved. You're not really, without your phone, you're not going to consume a lot of Instagram. So you're not going to have that strong reward signal associated with it. And so you're not going to get that like strong vote being fired up in your brain all the time and it's not going to lead the technology over you. It's unless like you work at your computer all the time and maybe you could learn that cue if I want to go over the Instagram website. So do it that way.

• 1:23:03Cal Newport?

  But the other thing I would recommend, this is an idea from my book, Deep Work, at some point, either before you do this or after you've done it for a while, take a 30-day break where you don't do anything on social media and see, does anyone matter? Does anyone notice and does it make any difference? There's a lot of times you might realize like, okay, my 75 subscribers on Instagram and that one photo that went viral is like not making a big difference. That's not where the action is. Where I really need to be is like on Thumbtack as a preferred contractor, on LinkedIn, or it says nothing to do with the internet. It has to do with like shows at whatever. So, you know, test it out. Don't just assume it's vital, but do it on your computer and it won't be that addictive. All right. Final part of our show. Do we get a sound effect for this one?

• 1:23:44Speaker 01

  Yeah, well, we have a transition.

• 1:23:46Cal Newport?

  Oh, do we have a, yeah, let's do a transition. Okay. Part three, let's hear a sound here. Final part of the show. It's the early in the new month, so I'm going to talk about the books I read in the last month. So I, my goal is always to read five books a month. Reading, reading, reading is the best way to internet proof your brain, the best way to become smarter, the best way to be able to think better, the best way to, like, everything good in a cognitive society comes from reading. It's like saying you should be like walking in your physical health. All right. So I try to read five books a month. I want to talk about the five books I read in September 2025. A quick shout out. I like to shout out the friends of the show that have new books out. A friend of the show, Robert Glazer, been on his podcast several times. He Elevate Podcast.

• 1:24:29Cal Newport?

  Cool new book out this week called The Compass Within, a little stories about the value that guide us. It's about how do we find authenticity and fulfillment in every areas of our lives. It's built around a parable. Check that out. The compass within. All right. So one of the books I actually read, three novels. Let me look here. Three novels this month. Unusual for me. First novel was a novel from my childhood that I saw in a little free library around Tacoma Park and I grabbed it and read it. The Ice Limit by Lincoln Child and Douglas Preston. Classic early 2000 techno thriller.

• 1:25:06Cal Newport?

  The premise is basically there's like a giant meteorite down on an island off the southern tip of South America. And this billionaire has hired Eli Gin, Eli Gin and Effective Engineering Solutions, this sort of

• 1:25:22Cal Newport?

  mysterious engineering company that is under the radar, but does like the impossible things they can do, right? And their whole plan is how are we going to extract this meteorite and get it back to this guy's museum in upstate New York. It's good and would be the heaviest object ever moved by man. Cause it's like super dense. And then like it's weird things. They're a great techno thrill. There's weird things happening with the meteorite, but also the Chilean Navy, this one sort of commander in the Chilean Navy who has this like really weird, like interesting backstory is like really bitter is like, I don't, I'm suspicious of this. So he's around bothering them and eventually he has reasons to want to kill them. And so there's like a good techno thriller.

• 1:26:07Cal Newport?

  You have all these things coming together for like the final sequence. I love classic techno thrillers. There's not as much of a market for it anymore. Like a lot of the genre fiction market right now is outside of fantasy, like the Brandon Sanderson types. It's like really, it's not techno thrillers. It's like people falling in love with dragons and romances with fairies and dark academia,

• 1:26:30Cal Newport?

  which I read one of those a couple of summers ago. Anyways, fiction's a big market, but the techno thrillers, they were the thing in the eighties and nineties. They're not anymore. Which I think's too sad until I write my techno thriller, which is going to be about Jesse Skeleton going back in time. Maybe to fight Vikings. I don't know. I gotta figure that out. All right. Second book I read, a Byung Chul Han book, The Burnout Society. So over the summer, early in the summer, I did a podcast about his book about the swarm, the something, his book about, I forgot the exact name, the connected swarm, I think. Anyways, he's a, he's a, he's in Germany. He's a philosopher in Germany. I believe he's South Korean, a South Korean philosopher. He's a German institution.

• 1:27:14Cal Newport?

  And he writes these series of books that are like a little bit more accessible than a lot of continental philosophy and they're sort of affirmatic and they're very popular among Gen Z or whatever. And so I had done a book about his other, a book whose topics seem most relevant, but this is the book that everyone talks about from him, The Burnout Society. So it was good. Yeah, it's interesting. I mean, he's, it's, it's interesting. He talks nomically, kind of like makes these pronouncements. It turns out there's a lot of other writers, especially from like more of like the sixties and seventies critical theory era that like write the same way. So it's not as novel as I think a lot of his Gen Z readers think, the format, but it's like interesting stuff. I think it's like.

• 1:27:57Cal Newport?

  Very Mark, a little Marxist influenced. I mean, he plays with a lot of different philosophers. So it's cool. I thought it was interesting writing. I took a lot of notes. Maybe I should do a podcast about it at some point. But he's easy to, he's, he's hard to read, but easy to read, right? Like, you know what? He's an easy to read, hard writer. That makes sense. He's a real philosopher, but he, he makes it just accessible enough that you can sort of get wisdom out of it. All right. Second novel I read, Down and Out in the Magic Kingdom by Cory Doctorow. Now, this was interesting. I didn't get this book at first, and then I did.

• 1:28:30Cal Newport?

  So the, the, the premise for this book, it, it takes place in the future. It's in the, the, we're at a future time where basically death has been solved. And money, like, you don't really, you don't have to work. And you, they can replace your body. Like, if you get killed, they can just like, you, you download your brain and they can just like recharge your brain. And either put it into your body again after fixing you or do a rapid clone of your bodies. Like, people aren't like worried about death. And there's this, this weird sort of culture going on where it's like, people are just doing projects. And you can kind of like take over a project just through, everyone has like a popularity ranking.

• 1:29:12Cal Newport?

  And if people like you, your reputation is good, you can kind of take things over. And the main character lives in Disney World. In Florida, but it's not run by Disney anymore. It's like these different coalitions kind of take over parts of the park. And they can kind of just run them unless they're, because to try to like push them out and take over the part of the park. Would make your reputation really fall. But unless their reputation falls enough and you can come in and do it. Anyways. At first, when you're reading this book, it's, you're like, what, like, this is a, this novel's not doing it for me. There's no, none of the normal stakes you need for drama. Like, nothing really matters. Like, this seems so fake. It's like weird, this world of like they're, they're trying to redo the haunted mansion so that like this other group doesn't take it over with their technology.

• 1:29:57Cal Newport?

  And everyone kind of cares about it, but it's also stupid and it's all kind of like weird and superficial. And there's no stakes. The main character gets shot early on and they just reload them. And there's, you know, like, maybe the only stakes is like his neural interface isn't really working. Like, I don't care about what they care about. I don't like empathize with this. And it's, and it's like, it doesn't make sense. It's like plastic. This is like, doesn't seem like a real world. And then you get it. Yeah, he's personifying online culture like and doing a brilliant job of it. This it's it's it's urgent and at the same time meaningless. It you have these things you really care about and you're you're like racing to get done. It doesn't matter and no one cares.

• 1:30:38Cal Newport?

  And it's like a reputation and popularity and this has having its moment and now this or whatever. And Dr. What he's really doing is he's making you so more of like a post maybe postmodern this. It's like he's like making you he's personifying like the sort of empty plastic plasticness and emptiness of online culture into the sort of like view of the future. Then, once you get that, you're like, oh, that makes it a hard read, right? Because it doesn't have the all of the normal elements you might want out of drama like empathy with characters, stakes that you care about, surprise and like caring about the resolution. You don't really care. But in doing that, you're like, oh, I see what you're saying. This is actually really smart. So it's a really good book. I actually I actually glad I read it, but it took me halfway through to really get what was going on there. Um, then I went to a nonfiction book.

• 1:31:23Cal Newport?

  Sarah Hurwitz's new book, As a Jew. Sarah Hurwitz wrote she's a speechwriter. She was a Clinton speechwriter and a Michelle Obama speechwriter. So it's a DC person. She's lives around here somewhere. And in her 30s, she wrote a book called Here All Along, which was about like rediscovering. She's Jewish, but like non practicing and then rediscovered Judaism in her 30s. And how it like really helped her in a lot of ways. And she like kind of wrote a book about it. And then this book, actually pretty interesting. This book is about her is making the argument. She's confronting her tendency when she was younger to say things like, you know, like I'm I'm a

• 1:32:07Cal Newport?

  I'm a cultural Jew or I'm a social justice Jew or this or that. And even though she didn't really know much about it. And she's basically making the argument in this book that this is just she now sees this is just part of a, you know, the last 100 years of this, like this 150 years of an ultimately fruitless effort of Jewish individuals to try to assimilate, to try to avoid. The baggage and the harm and what they've had to put up with for the last 2,000 years. And if they're like, if we just assimilate enough, then like, we won't have to, you know, people will like us or whatever. And she's basically coming to grips with like, it never works. This is, this happened in the early 20th century. This happened in the 19th century. This happened in the mid-century and it never works. And she's kind of coming to grips with like,

• 1:32:51Cal Newport?

  I have to come to grips with like, being Jewish and what that means. I can't, like she, she said, I didn't talk about Israel in my first book. And she's like, I can't not talk about it. I'm Jewish. I have to confront that in this role in my life. I didn't talk about antisemitism in my first book, but it's like the defining force for the way I was acting. So I don't know. I liked this better than her first book in the sense that it's more self-reflective. You want like to hear, I mean, so the places in the context of the show, it's very deep life relevant. So if you want a good example of like a particular case study of someone trying to understand their life and what matters and how to transform it into something deeper when it happens, something more shallow.

• 1:33:33Cal Newport?

  This is like a great, this and her last book like are a great contribution to that category. But I like the second book better because I think it's more psychologically self-reflective and searing. Like it's more interesting in that sense. It's not, it's like really people grappling with something they're really dealing with. I think is often more in a way that is like real and messy is more meaningful than maybe like a more pat. Like, you know, I was struggling, then I found this, then I'm better. So I thought that was really interesting. She does a really good history of antisemitism, which I think is really good. I mean, the best work on this, I really think is Dara Horn. People love dead Jews, I think, and some of her writing she's done on this recently for the Atlantic and Tablet is probably the best.

• 1:34:18Cal Newport?

  But her, because she's a speechwriter is very good. This is the thing I noticed was like, this is kind of dry. Some of this is history stuff, but speechwriters are very good at like, you know, moving it forward and simplifying the language. And I learned a lot about, that was good. I think her thing about where does antisemitism come from? It's a 2,000 year groove that you can trace back to. And she like goes through the history. That was very useful. So I thought, I'm thinking about the book a lot. So, you know, whether or not you care about the struggles of Jewish identity.

• 1:34:51Cal Newport?

  It was, I think, a good book if you care about someone, she's now, she's roughly my age, I think, struggling with, more generally speaking, what am I all about, why I'm all about, and what's that actually mean? Because I think a lot of us go through those same series of questions when you're trying to figure yourself out. All that really differs is like the specific details of those questions. So, you know, if you're a secular Jew from DC, it's going to be, your questions might be centered on that. But different people will have different content behind those questions. But how people tackle those questions, I think, is really important for thinking about, like, how do you build a deep life in a world where the digital is trying to make it superficial and fragmented. So it stuck with me. I think

• 1:35:35Cal Newport?

  it was, uh, it was interesting, interesting book. All right. Final book, a novel. I read The Searcher by Tana French, because everyone's talking about this novel. It was good. That was good. It's, this is now, like, it's a classic, uh, it's genre, but it's highbrow genre. So, you know, it's, um, lit genre. So she's a really good writer. Um, that, it's basically, I guess, detective mystery genre, technically. But, uh, the, it's about a police officer retired from Chicago, whose name is Cal, which I appreciate, Cal Hooper. And he moves to, I mean, I like the premise, it's very deep lifey. He moves to a small town in Ireland, to like fix up, he's just like done. You know, he's divorced, he's, uh, his, his daughter's older. The, being a police

• 1:36:20Cal Newport?

  force was hard. And he's like, I'm, I'm gonna move to this, like, small town in the middle of, like, very rural Ireland, gonna build up this, uh, fix up an old house, I have 10 acres. I, a lot of characters, I walk in the town to, like, the pub in town, like, one of these type of situations, right? And I just want to kind of get away from it all. And, um, like, that's it. But then, you know, mystery finds, uh, like, a local kid from, comes in and is like, you know, my brother's missing. And despite his best interests, Cal Hooper kind of gets into, like, uh, for various reasons, like, I have to try to figure this out. And then pushback comes from the town of, like, you shouldn't be asking those questions. So it's a, it's a great setup, right? Or, uh, but I love the setting, and I love the deep life themes of,

• 1:37:05Cal Newport?

  like, I'm escaping the city to move to Ireland and what- What what's good about that and what is like fantasy is not what I thought and Tana French is a fantastic, she's fantastic at writing these type of books. So that was a good one. There you go. Those were the books I read in September. All right. I think that's all the time we have, right, Jesse? All right. Thanks for listening. We'll be back next week with another episode of the podcast. Hopefully everyone's getting their Halloween decorations ready. I just showed Jesse my sound light synchronized controller I built from scratch, which I'm going to hopefully install this weekend. I'm looking forward to it.

• 1:37:39Speaker 01

  It's incredible.

• 1:37:39Cal Newport?

  Hopefully everyone's doing something similar. So I'll be back next week and until then, as always, stay deep.

• 1:37:50Cal Newport?

  Hi, it's Cal here. One more thing before you go. If you like the Deep Questions Podcast, you will love my email newsletter, which you can sign up for at calnewport.com. Each week I send out a new essay about the theory or practice of living deeply. I've been writing this newsletter since 2007 and over 70,000 subscribers get it sent to their inboxes each week. So if you are serious about resisting the forces of distraction and shallowness that afflict our world, you gotta sign up for my newsletter at calnewport.com and get some deep wisdom delivered to your inbox each week.